1 00:00:01,480 --> 00:00:01,880 Speaker 1: Hey, y'all. 2 00:00:01,960 --> 00:00:04,800 Speaker 2: Is Laurena Rosa with the latest with Laurena Rosa on 3 00:00:04,880 --> 00:00:07,880 Speaker 2: Black Effects and I cannot wait to see you guys 4 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:11,440 Speaker 2: at the fourth Annual Black Effects Podcast Festival. Okay, we're 5 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:14,440 Speaker 2: coming back to Atlanta, Georgia on Saturday, April twenty fifth 6 00:00:14,480 --> 00:00:18,079 Speaker 2: at Palman Yards and it's hosted by me alongside DJ 7 00:00:18,239 --> 00:00:22,040 Speaker 2: MV and charlottagnea God. We got drink chances of Noriega 8 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:25,200 Speaker 2: and DJAFM. 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This is your Deli 34 00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:29,960 Speaker 2: dig on all things pop culture, entertainment, news and all 35 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 2: of the conversations that shake the room. Baby now checking 36 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 2: in behind the scenes of the Grind, which for the 37 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 2: low riders here on the podcasts that have been listening 38 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:43,240 Speaker 2: you guys know, means this is, you know, where we 39 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:46,319 Speaker 2: just find out how we're doing. Like it's the time 40 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 2: where you stop and say, hey, how are you feeling? 41 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 2: For everybody that is new here, that was the definition 42 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:54,240 Speaker 2: and I actually want you to take some time to 43 00:01:54,280 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 2: do it as I do it as well. So we 44 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 2: have branding on the podcast with us today. 45 00:01:58,000 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 1: Thank you for having me back again. 46 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:08,040 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, so checking it behind the scenes of the Grind. 47 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 2: I right now am just feeling very motivated. I go 48 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 2: through periods of times sometimes we're like I'm just like 49 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 2: head down doing the work so much that like my 50 00:02:18,880 --> 00:02:21,000 Speaker 2: I wouldn't even say it's my motivation, but like just 51 00:02:21,120 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 2: my like you know how, like there's that like spark 52 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:29,280 Speaker 2: when you're really excited about something. Sometimes it becomes under you. Yes, yes, 53 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:32,079 Speaker 2: that's it, like the fire is lit. Sometimes I feel 54 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:35,960 Speaker 2: like my fire isn't as lit as other times, and 55 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:39,640 Speaker 2: it changes the way I enjoy what I'm doing. 56 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 1: And I. 57 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:45,639 Speaker 2: But it's like I don't know how to control that. 58 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:47,520 Speaker 2: I feel like it's life and you can't control it. 59 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:47,919 Speaker 1: But I don't. 60 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:50,960 Speaker 3: I'm such a like passion person that I hate that. 61 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:52,480 Speaker 1: I don't think you need to control it because the 62 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:55,040 Speaker 1: lows will, you know, make the highest feel that much better. 63 00:02:55,080 --> 00:02:56,440 Speaker 1: So I don't think you need to be on ten 64 00:02:56,560 --> 00:03:12,919 Speaker 1: all the time. But that was before that was a crack. 65 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 3: You play the bag. 66 00:03:24,040 --> 00:03:24,400 Speaker 1: I don't know. 67 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 2: It's just because I'm so passionate about the things that 68 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:28,480 Speaker 2: I do, and I love the things I do, Like 69 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:30,840 Speaker 2: I love talking to the people, the low riders here, 70 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:32,919 Speaker 2: you know, the latest one of the roads of the podcast. 71 00:03:33,440 --> 00:03:36,520 Speaker 2: I loved just talking through everything celebrity news and I 72 00:03:36,560 --> 00:03:39,000 Speaker 2: don't even think it's just being in people's business. I 73 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:41,640 Speaker 2: think I just love conversation, Like I'm a people's person. 74 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 2: I love to talk, I love to take night conversation, 75 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:47,440 Speaker 2: I love to engage. So I'm always excited about anything 76 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:51,000 Speaker 2: creative that does that, whether it's the reporting, it's fashion 77 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:54,520 Speaker 2: like you know, So for me, whenever I don't feel 78 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:59,120 Speaker 2: that fire under me, like sometimes I'm like sitting and 79 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 2: I'm wondering, like, all right, is this burnout? Am I 80 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:06,440 Speaker 2: doing something too much? Like too much of something? Am 81 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 2: I not resting the way I should be? Like I 82 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:11,280 Speaker 2: just start going down this rabbit hole of like why 83 00:04:11,320 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 2: do I feel that way? And then I just recently realized, 84 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:15,920 Speaker 2: like no, girl, as an adult, sometimes that's just life, 85 00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:19,040 Speaker 2: where like the fire isn't lit as much sometimes as 86 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:22,080 Speaker 2: it is others. So so yeah, I've had to I've 87 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 2: had to teach myself that, you know, it's just adulting. 88 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:26,280 Speaker 2: Now you got to deal with your real life when 89 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:28,120 Speaker 2: you're dealing with your dreams as well too. It's not 90 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:31,640 Speaker 2: all just like optimism and you know, butterflies and lies. 91 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:35,840 Speaker 1: Great advice, great advice, La, No I'm taking I'm not, 92 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:38,039 Speaker 1: I'll be said sarcastic when I say things, and I 93 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:39,840 Speaker 1: know that about myself and you wople say that, but 94 00:04:39,920 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: I'll be serious. That's that's like great to hear somebody that's, 95 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 1: you know, a few years younger than you. 96 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:48,400 Speaker 2: So I'm like, yeah, you can, you can be passionate, 97 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:49,719 Speaker 2: you could love what you do, but like, you're not 98 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 2: gonna love every day. It's what I've had to tell myself, 99 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:55,240 Speaker 2: so so yes, but there is always another day. And 100 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 2: we are about to get on the line for on 101 00:04:58,040 --> 00:05:00,360 Speaker 2: the line with Laura La Rosa and and talk about 102 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:03,240 Speaker 2: you know, something that I feel like also has a 103 00:05:03,279 --> 00:05:07,760 Speaker 2: lot of its ebbs and flows, and that's relationships with family, period. 104 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:09,680 Speaker 2: Like that's all you got to say about that. Because 105 00:05:09,720 --> 00:05:12,920 Speaker 2: Brandy is out and she's promoting her new book, Phase Is. 106 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:16,520 Speaker 2: It's a memoir. It is currently out right now, and 107 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:20,159 Speaker 2: in promoting that, she's been having conversations about her relationship 108 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:23,160 Speaker 2: with her brother ray J and where they stand. And 109 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 2: she was talking to Parade magazine. She covered their magazine 110 00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:29,200 Speaker 2: and they asked her how is ray J doing? 111 00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 3: And this is what she had to say. Right now, 112 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:32,720 Speaker 3: she's choosing to just take a. 113 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:35,600 Speaker 2: Distance from ray J because a lot of the things 114 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:38,600 Speaker 2: that he's doing right now, she just doesn't support. Look 115 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:41,159 Speaker 2: y'all know we love ray J. Here at the Latest 116 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:43,560 Speaker 2: with Laura Rosa. If you haven't checked out some of 117 00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:46,719 Speaker 2: me and ray J's exclusive interviews, please check them out. 118 00:05:46,760 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 2: You will see exactly what Brandy is talking about. All 119 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:51,160 Speaker 2: the stuff that Brandy is saying that ray J has 120 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:54,159 Speaker 2: been doing, you will see exactly what she was talking about. 121 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:57,360 Speaker 3: I'm sorry, Brandy. Maybe I was a catalyst for the BS, 122 00:05:58,040 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 3: but I think the reason why. 123 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:03,479 Speaker 2: I have so much empathy and so much patience for 124 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:06,039 Speaker 2: rey Jay is because I have a younger brother who 125 00:06:06,040 --> 00:06:08,880 Speaker 2: doesn't always get it right, and I know what it's 126 00:06:09,040 --> 00:06:11,960 Speaker 2: like to be the sister in that situation who, like 127 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:14,480 Speaker 2: everybody thinks, gets it right all the time and kind 128 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:17,640 Speaker 2: of what the opposing party goes through, Like. 129 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:19,480 Speaker 3: You're almost like my little brother. 130 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:21,400 Speaker 2: For the first time we had a conversation and he 131 00:06:21,480 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 2: was telling me, like I remember this, this sticks with 132 00:06:23,839 --> 00:06:26,039 Speaker 2: me to this day. He said, you don't know, you 133 00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:27,800 Speaker 2: don't know what it's like to be in your shadow, 134 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:30,800 Speaker 2: because you're not the shadow, you're the like. And I 135 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:35,200 Speaker 2: was like, damn, Like, as a person that loves my sibling, Like, 136 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 2: I never want him to feel like he's in like 137 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:40,960 Speaker 2: a no way out situation because there's been this shadow 138 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 2: cast over him, but he does it. There's there's no choice, 139 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:46,560 Speaker 2: like the shadow is naturally there because he's my brother 140 00:06:46,680 --> 00:06:49,480 Speaker 2: and he's younger than me. So I think sometimes, you know, 141 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 2: being that sibling makes you do things and explore things 142 00:06:53,400 --> 00:06:55,560 Speaker 2: and just kind of go like the very irrational way. 143 00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:58,280 Speaker 2: So I can understand Brandy feeling like, you know the distance. 144 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 2: I've been through that as well too, but you did. 145 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:04,039 Speaker 2: The love is so unconditional and a brother sister relationship. 146 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:06,719 Speaker 2: It was just with family sometimes, but there are people 147 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 2: who create that distance and don't ever go back. I 148 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:11,680 Speaker 2: don't know if you've had similar situations. 149 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:13,200 Speaker 3: I know your family. 150 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:19,240 Speaker 1: Is very I think we did a holiday story holiday episode, right, Yeah, 151 00:07:19,680 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm about to tell the same exactly 152 00:07:21,320 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 1: that same aunt that starts Yeah, I did not like that, 153 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:27,480 Speaker 1: like she done well. For those of you who don't 154 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 1: who had. 155 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 3: Seen it, wait, tell them. You gotta tell them you 156 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:33,119 Speaker 3: African first. You gotta tell them first. 157 00:07:34,040 --> 00:07:38,280 Speaker 2: Yes, I think it does because every time I listen 158 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 2: to you or sim talk about your families and your backgrounds. 159 00:07:41,840 --> 00:07:44,400 Speaker 2: I feel like some of the strictness and like the 160 00:07:44,680 --> 00:07:47,400 Speaker 2: like the no games, don't play. It's so different than 161 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 2: my household was because of your background. 162 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 1: And I feel like sometimes it comes out as like 163 00:07:53,640 --> 00:07:55,680 Speaker 1: like a lack of empathy. 164 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:56,560 Speaker 3: And I like, you can be like that. 165 00:07:56,640 --> 00:07:58,720 Speaker 2: Sometimes I tell him that all the time. I'm like, 166 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 2: damn Brandon like but. 167 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 1: But so, yeah, this I hadn't seen in years. 168 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 3: Wait, Africans, don't be mad at me for saying that it's. 169 00:08:09,640 --> 00:08:14,080 Speaker 1: Too late now all my ass. The African's gonna be 170 00:08:14,120 --> 00:08:18,840 Speaker 1: all your ass. Who makes it out alive? So yeah, 171 00:08:18,840 --> 00:08:21,240 Speaker 1: I didn't see her in years. And then like I 172 00:08:21,280 --> 00:08:23,040 Speaker 1: didn't know I was gonna see her this day out 173 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:26,000 Speaker 1: a function or whatever. It's like, oh, I'm not gonna 174 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: say your name. I go for a hug and she's like, no, 175 00:08:28,840 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 1: I'm not hugging you because last time I see you 176 00:08:30,600 --> 00:08:32,640 Speaker 1: ignore me. And she's talking about when I was seven 177 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:35,560 Speaker 1: years old and I was playing with toys and I 178 00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:38,959 Speaker 1: was and I ignored her. So she held that beef. 179 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:40,400 Speaker 3: So showing fool with you. So you the ray J. 180 00:08:43,080 --> 00:08:45,760 Speaker 1: That's that's that's a tough comparison because I was just 181 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:48,880 Speaker 1: playing with toys and rajie. Yeah, but yeah, I guess 182 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 1: I am, and I guess I had another cousin who 183 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:54,559 Speaker 1: I mean, these are not like serious situation because this 184 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 1: doesn't really happen to me. So maybe this story could 185 00:08:56,640 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 1: be a reached by a cousin who like every time 186 00:08:59,280 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 1: she would come back to me, like you come back 187 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:03,440 Speaker 1: to me about how somebody said something bad about me. 188 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I don't like those always. 189 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:07,720 Speaker 1: And then she would also like snitch on me too. Yeah, 190 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:09,760 Speaker 1: she always had a story like such and such said 191 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:12,560 Speaker 1: this about you. Why everybody talking about me to you? 192 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:13,880 Speaker 3: Yes, I don't like those people. 193 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:16,000 Speaker 2: If you always call me telling me what someone said 194 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:18,439 Speaker 2: about me, I don't like those people because I feel 195 00:09:18,480 --> 00:09:21,200 Speaker 2: like number one, even if it's just something that you're 196 00:09:21,240 --> 00:09:23,320 Speaker 2: seeing on the internet, why is that all that you're 197 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:26,079 Speaker 2: ever seeing when it comes to me, you know what 198 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:27,800 Speaker 2: I mean, or all you're ever calling and I try 199 00:09:27,840 --> 00:09:28,840 Speaker 2: not to be that person. 200 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:31,640 Speaker 1: Is different because they're gonna bring back Yeah. No, my friends. 201 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:34,480 Speaker 2: No, my friends like my friends for real real, they 202 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 2: don't even it got to be like it could be 203 00:09:35,960 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 2: the craziest thing. 204 00:09:36,840 --> 00:09:37,200 Speaker 3: They don't. 205 00:09:37,200 --> 00:09:39,320 Speaker 2: They don't even bring it to me Because I feel 206 00:09:39,320 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 2: like they think I'm I'm going through it in real time. 207 00:09:41,559 --> 00:09:42,920 Speaker 3: But also because they. 208 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 1: Be calling you like ball headed on Twitter and stuff 209 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:47,160 Speaker 1: like that, and it gets back to you. So I 210 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:52,640 Speaker 1: know that's tough, but what would you say? No, that 211 00:09:52,720 --> 00:09:56,240 Speaker 1: was an example you what you follow? No, I saw 212 00:09:56,280 --> 00:09:59,040 Speaker 1: one yesterday. That's why I didn't send it. 213 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:03,440 Speaker 3: I just saw it, all right, Brandon just called me 214 00:10:03,480 --> 00:10:03,920 Speaker 3: ball head. 215 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:05,200 Speaker 1: I did not the person. 216 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:09,640 Speaker 3: We'll put the tweet on the screen. 217 00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:13,120 Speaker 2: Read the tweet, Brandon, go ahead, you want people you 218 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:16,200 Speaker 2: didn't have, but know that I'm ball head, so like 219 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 2: they don't see me in. 220 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 3: My fly ass shortcut. 221 00:10:18,640 --> 00:10:23,160 Speaker 1: Okay, shout out to the big homie on Twitter. Somebody said, 222 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:25,400 Speaker 1: we go to the original tweet. 223 00:10:25,520 --> 00:10:27,760 Speaker 2: So weeds a segment at the Breakfast Club about Benda 224 00:10:27,800 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 2: Don saying that Drake changed all his music because of him, 225 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 2: and we we were talking about this. Even if Benda 226 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:35,719 Speaker 2: Done and Drake that didn't happen with them, we were 227 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:38,200 Speaker 2: talking about it because Iceman still hasn't come out and 228 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:39,400 Speaker 2: Benda Don be with. 229 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:40,200 Speaker 3: Drake all the time. 230 00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:43,320 Speaker 1: So and somebody, so somebody tweeted they seen Benda Don 231 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:45,839 Speaker 1: say on the stream, say that on the stream, and 232 00:10:45,880 --> 00:10:48,800 Speaker 1: they're using it for news, and the Don replied, whole time, 233 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:52,600 Speaker 1: I was just yapping brain switching shut up because of me, 234 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:57,079 Speaker 1: And then Big the Big always said, that's Laura Ballhead 235 00:10:57,120 --> 00:11:00,480 Speaker 1: asked anything to try to start up some drake. 236 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:06,000 Speaker 2: They be calling me a paid throat and everything. Yeah, 237 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:08,680 Speaker 2: like I only voice certain opinions for certain sides. 238 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:11,920 Speaker 1: You know what I do though, different things, different places'll 239 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:13,959 Speaker 1: be specific. I haven't heard that term before. 240 00:11:14,480 --> 00:11:17,240 Speaker 3: Oh no, no, no, no, not that you know what 241 00:11:17,320 --> 00:11:18,040 Speaker 3: I don't care about. 242 00:11:18,040 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 2: I mean what I do is once I see my 243 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 2: mentions going crazy, it's certain people we talk about. I 244 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:23,920 Speaker 2: know my mentions going go crazy when we do it, 245 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 2: I'll tweet like my podcast episodes. 246 00:11:26,600 --> 00:11:27,760 Speaker 3: Oh you know what I mean. 247 00:11:27,840 --> 00:11:29,880 Speaker 2: Like, I'm like shit, since y'all hear with my ballhead ass, 248 00:11:29,960 --> 00:11:31,400 Speaker 2: go look at something, Do they affect it? 249 00:11:31,400 --> 00:11:34,680 Speaker 1: Because I feel like you are pretty good with at 250 00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:36,040 Speaker 1: least jokes. 251 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:38,839 Speaker 2: Since then, I can't, like with the random people and 252 00:11:39,120 --> 00:11:40,400 Speaker 2: some of the stuff they be saying. I just be 253 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:42,840 Speaker 2: having to get off because it don't affect me. But 254 00:11:42,880 --> 00:11:48,080 Speaker 2: I be a lot of times like I'm like a 255 00:11:48,160 --> 00:11:53,560 Speaker 2: progressed crash out. Okay, like in real life, like I've 256 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:56,320 Speaker 2: grown a lot and I have a lot to lose, 257 00:11:56,480 --> 00:11:59,040 Speaker 2: and I've and I've been growing a lot for some years, 258 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 2: but I'm not all the way reformed yet, So I 259 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:04,200 Speaker 2: don't even look at that stuff because I'm like, I 260 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:06,600 Speaker 2: will get on here and like be going back and 261 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:08,719 Speaker 2: forth and I'm never going to see these people, you 262 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:10,400 Speaker 2: know what I mean. And then in real life I 263 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:14,520 Speaker 2: received so much love, Like I've been through so much 264 00:12:14,520 --> 00:12:17,120 Speaker 2: in real life that this phase of it, I don't 265 00:12:17,160 --> 00:12:19,560 Speaker 2: even be tripping. I'll be like, all right, I saw 266 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:21,560 Speaker 2: what you said. If I ever see you in real life, 267 00:12:21,840 --> 00:12:23,040 Speaker 2: I'll come up to you so we can have a 268 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:23,640 Speaker 2: real conversation. 269 00:12:23,720 --> 00:12:24,600 Speaker 3: We'll see how you hold it down. 270 00:12:24,640 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 1: Then yeah, I don't comment on people that feel the 271 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:29,080 Speaker 1: way about the internet slanting because I don't know what 272 00:12:29,080 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: that feels like. 273 00:12:29,720 --> 00:12:32,320 Speaker 3: So it's crazy, actually, you know it's crazy. 274 00:12:32,760 --> 00:12:35,680 Speaker 2: And we're doing this in celebration this episode and celebration 275 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:38,839 Speaker 2: of the one year of the Latest with Laurna Rosa 276 00:12:38,960 --> 00:12:41,800 Speaker 2: over nine million downloads on the audio side. Later in 277 00:12:41,840 --> 00:12:45,719 Speaker 2: the launch of our video on Laura Rosa TV on YouTube. Right, 278 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:47,960 Speaker 2: But when I first dropped the video for the podcast, 279 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:49,680 Speaker 2: it was so bad because you were like figuring it 280 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:50,600 Speaker 2: out and I was yo. 281 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 3: I used to be so burnt out. I was saying 282 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:53,800 Speaker 3: yes to every job that would. 283 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:55,920 Speaker 2: Come out with when I first got back on Breakfast Club, 284 00:12:55,920 --> 00:12:57,400 Speaker 2: because I was just trying to run it up. 285 00:12:59,040 --> 00:13:00,600 Speaker 3: And I remember people were going on like. 286 00:13:00,559 --> 00:13:03,640 Speaker 2: These whole review campaigns about how bad I was and 287 00:13:03,640 --> 00:13:07,640 Speaker 2: how bad I was as a personality, and I was tight, 288 00:13:08,040 --> 00:13:10,680 Speaker 2: but I was more mad because I'm like, I'm never 289 00:13:10,720 --> 00:13:12,680 Speaker 2: going to see these people and I want to see. 290 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:14,200 Speaker 3: No. 291 00:13:14,200 --> 00:13:14,360 Speaker 4: No. 292 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:17,560 Speaker 3: But that's another thing. It's never somebody that matters. 293 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 2: The people that matter, even if you have a bad day, 294 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:24,120 Speaker 2: they see the talent, they see the they see the work, 295 00:13:24,160 --> 00:13:25,280 Speaker 2: they see the consistency. 296 00:13:25,800 --> 00:13:27,440 Speaker 3: It's always the people who don't matter. 297 00:13:27,679 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 2: Like there is literally a section on YouTube for the 298 00:13:31,360 --> 00:13:34,080 Speaker 2: old mad ladies who don't matter, Like that's what they'd 299 00:13:34,120 --> 00:13:37,320 Speaker 2: be on there doing inter rage Bay people. So but yeah, 300 00:13:37,360 --> 00:13:39,440 Speaker 2: so let's get into it right, Speaking of things that matter, 301 00:13:39,679 --> 00:13:42,080 Speaker 2: we're on the line with Laura La Rosa talking about 302 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:45,240 Speaker 2: distancing yourself from family members, and we have a caller 303 00:13:45,280 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 2: on the line today. 304 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:54,199 Speaker 3: Okay, Sophie, where you're from New Jersey? Okay, Jersey? 305 00:13:54,760 --> 00:13:57,640 Speaker 2: So you heard the clip with Brandy and you know 306 00:13:57,720 --> 00:13:59,400 Speaker 2: she's talking about distancing herself from Reggie. 307 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:02,840 Speaker 3: Have you ever heard this? This is something remember, oh, one hundred. 308 00:14:02,520 --> 00:14:07,439 Speaker 4: Percent for sure. I feel like it's pretty normal. I 309 00:14:07,440 --> 00:14:09,920 Speaker 4: feel like there's more people who have to distance themselves 310 00:14:10,000 --> 00:14:16,240 Speaker 4: from family versus not, especially now, because I think either 311 00:14:16,280 --> 00:14:19,400 Speaker 4: you might not share the same opinions as your family, 312 00:14:19,720 --> 00:14:22,840 Speaker 4: or you know, they might be stricter and you might 313 00:14:22,880 --> 00:14:25,440 Speaker 4: want to grow up and kind of spread your wings 314 00:14:25,440 --> 00:14:27,040 Speaker 4: and do this, that and the other thing. And I 315 00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:32,760 Speaker 4: think for me, I know some members of my family 316 00:14:32,880 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 4: had made have made me feel more less than than 317 00:14:38,560 --> 00:14:41,840 Speaker 4: somebody who can do this or can do that. And 318 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:45,240 Speaker 4: it's not that we hate our family. And I think 319 00:14:46,240 --> 00:14:48,600 Speaker 4: that's what people always say, like you must hate your family, 320 00:14:48,920 --> 00:14:51,600 Speaker 4: Like why do you hate your family when your father's 321 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:53,600 Speaker 4: done this, or your mother's done this, or your aunts 322 00:14:53,640 --> 00:14:56,400 Speaker 4: and uncles do this. It's not that I don't like 323 00:14:56,480 --> 00:14:59,120 Speaker 4: my family or hate my family. It's just I need 324 00:14:59,160 --> 00:15:02,560 Speaker 4: something different right now in my life. And I'm growing 325 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:08,200 Speaker 4: and I'm changing, and I don't think where I'm at, 326 00:15:08,520 --> 00:15:11,120 Speaker 4: I need like somebody on my shoulder constantly telling me 327 00:15:11,160 --> 00:15:13,680 Speaker 4: what to do or how to be and things like that. 328 00:15:14,000 --> 00:15:17,240 Speaker 4: And I also think again, like you can have a 329 00:15:17,240 --> 00:15:19,760 Speaker 4: great relationship, let's say with your mom or your dad, 330 00:15:20,120 --> 00:15:23,400 Speaker 4: but it's not always necessarily healthy. And I feel like, 331 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 4: for me, you know, not naming any names, I was 332 00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:33,520 Speaker 4: in a very like unhealthy relationship I think with you know, 333 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:37,800 Speaker 4: my biological father, and I don't really talk to him, 334 00:15:37,840 --> 00:15:40,280 Speaker 4: and it's really hard to communicate with him, just because 335 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:43,440 Speaker 4: like as a kid, there were moments I was put 336 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:46,480 Speaker 4: in situations that I shouldn't have been put in. And 337 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:50,720 Speaker 4: now that I'm older, I see it a little differently, 338 00:15:52,320 --> 00:15:55,520 Speaker 4: and I'd like to keep my distance though, even though 339 00:15:55,720 --> 00:15:58,960 Speaker 4: I see it differently. So but I think it's best 340 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:02,240 Speaker 4: for me to kind of push that out of sight, 341 00:16:02,320 --> 00:16:05,000 Speaker 4: out of mind, because I want to continue being my 342 00:16:05,120 --> 00:16:09,400 Speaker 4: most ambitious, good good to myself, but good to other people. 343 00:16:09,440 --> 00:16:12,760 Speaker 4: Person I think I just need myself for that, and 344 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:14,520 Speaker 4: I'm hyper independent, I really think. 345 00:16:14,720 --> 00:16:17,480 Speaker 2: So, you know, it's crazy I was thinking about because 346 00:16:17,480 --> 00:16:19,760 Speaker 2: at first I was gonna ask you. You said, you know, 347 00:16:20,080 --> 00:16:23,080 Speaker 2: sometimes it's like you need to feel greater than, not 348 00:16:23,200 --> 00:16:24,680 Speaker 2: less than, And I was gonna get into that with 349 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:26,760 Speaker 2: you at first, and then you brought. 350 00:16:26,640 --> 00:16:28,600 Speaker 3: Up your dad and I was thinking, I'm like, I 351 00:16:28,600 --> 00:16:29,400 Speaker 3: mean my situation. 352 00:16:29,560 --> 00:16:31,720 Speaker 2: My dad's the same way, and he actually probably listening 353 00:16:31,760 --> 00:16:34,560 Speaker 2: to this podcast because he watches and listens to everything 354 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:35,080 Speaker 2: that I do. 355 00:16:36,280 --> 00:16:37,760 Speaker 3: So I mean, if you're listening to hey, Dad. 356 00:16:38,040 --> 00:16:40,320 Speaker 2: But me and my dad are like when we have 357 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 2: a we have it's weird because when we do talk, 358 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:46,280 Speaker 2: we have such a great relationship because we are very 359 00:16:46,360 --> 00:16:49,760 Speaker 2: like one and the same, our temperament, our anger, like everything. 360 00:16:50,200 --> 00:16:52,760 Speaker 2: But it's when things fly off the handle. I feel 361 00:16:52,760 --> 00:16:55,560 Speaker 2: like he takes it further than a father dealing with 362 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:58,240 Speaker 2: a daughter should take it. And I've learned to do 363 00:16:58,280 --> 00:17:00,360 Speaker 2: the same thing, like I give him distance, and now 364 00:17:00,440 --> 00:17:02,840 Speaker 2: this last go around, I've just been like, you know, 365 00:17:03,280 --> 00:17:03,800 Speaker 2: I'm good. 366 00:17:03,880 --> 00:17:07,560 Speaker 1: Like he was talking on YouTube video, Yeah he was. 367 00:17:08,200 --> 00:17:11,040 Speaker 2: The podcast listeners on the viewer side saw that. I 368 00:17:11,080 --> 00:17:14,240 Speaker 2: actually screenshot at the comment. But he does little things 369 00:17:14,280 --> 00:17:16,600 Speaker 2: like that, and I think what I've had to learn 370 00:17:16,840 --> 00:17:20,399 Speaker 2: is that because you mentioned Sophie when you were younger, 371 00:17:20,560 --> 00:17:22,760 Speaker 2: you know, with your dad, mine wasn't even about when 372 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:24,680 Speaker 2: I was younger because my dad came in my life 373 00:17:24,680 --> 00:17:26,639 Speaker 2: when I well back into my life when I was 374 00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:30,320 Speaker 2: like thirteen, So at that point you know, thirteen years 375 00:17:30,320 --> 00:17:31,959 Speaker 2: old growing up in a neighborhood I grew up in. 376 00:17:32,160 --> 00:17:35,399 Speaker 2: I'm like sixteen seventeen for real, so I didn't consider 377 00:17:35,400 --> 00:17:40,000 Speaker 2: myself younger, but I do think that, you know, I've 378 00:17:40,040 --> 00:17:45,040 Speaker 2: had to realize that there are certain things that like, 379 00:17:44,400 --> 00:17:47,040 Speaker 2: I watch other men with their daughters and it doesn't 380 00:17:47,040 --> 00:17:50,320 Speaker 2: matter how old their daughter is, that's still their baby girl. 381 00:17:50,320 --> 00:17:52,000 Speaker 2: And I feel like with my dad, there are certain 382 00:17:52,040 --> 00:17:54,960 Speaker 2: things that like, he just disregards as I'm supposed to 383 00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:56,639 Speaker 2: be your baby girl. There's certain things you should never 384 00:17:56,720 --> 00:17:58,720 Speaker 2: say to me. You should never want me to accept 385 00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:01,000 Speaker 2: that from a man, So you, as my father, shouldn't 386 00:18:01,000 --> 00:18:03,280 Speaker 2: do it either. So I've had to put boundaries on 387 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:05,120 Speaker 2: the way that I interact with him, Like every now 388 00:18:05,119 --> 00:18:08,800 Speaker 2: and then, I used to like call happy Birthday, maybe 389 00:18:08,800 --> 00:18:13,040 Speaker 2: Father's Day, whatever, But recently he can't, Like I blocked 390 00:18:13,080 --> 00:18:14,639 Speaker 2: him on my phone. He can reach out on like 391 00:18:14,680 --> 00:18:16,600 Speaker 2: social media and stuff, but I just don't. And it's 392 00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:18,680 Speaker 2: not because I don't love him. I have no hate 393 00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:20,960 Speaker 2: in my heart towards my dad, but I just don't 394 00:18:20,960 --> 00:18:22,360 Speaker 2: feel like the I don't want to have to cuss 395 00:18:22,440 --> 00:18:24,320 Speaker 2: him out because he's my dad and I don't want 396 00:18:24,359 --> 00:18:26,000 Speaker 2: to have to do that, and I don't want to 397 00:18:26,040 --> 00:18:28,159 Speaker 2: hear that from some My dad, You're supposed to be 398 00:18:28,200 --> 00:18:29,440 Speaker 2: my father, you know what I mean. 399 00:18:29,480 --> 00:18:31,439 Speaker 3: So I feel your boundary like strong. 400 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:34,159 Speaker 2: And I understand what you mean when you say you 401 00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 2: don't hate them, because my grandmother talks to me about 402 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:39,920 Speaker 2: my dad, like she always says, She'll be like, oh, 403 00:18:39,960 --> 00:18:41,600 Speaker 2: call your dad, like whenever I'm heading to the south 404 00:18:41,640 --> 00:18:44,080 Speaker 2: for an event or something. Mind you, I've called him 405 00:18:44,119 --> 00:18:46,960 Speaker 2: before when I was heading there and didn't see him. 406 00:18:47,400 --> 00:18:49,760 Speaker 2: But my grandmother always tries to remind me, like you 407 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:53,439 Speaker 2: get one parent, one set of parents, period. And I'm like, 408 00:18:53,480 --> 00:18:56,080 Speaker 2: I understand that, but at the same time, I have 409 00:18:56,160 --> 00:18:59,040 Speaker 2: to protect my like my like mental like it'd be 410 00:18:59,080 --> 00:18:59,639 Speaker 2: a lot going on. 411 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:02,000 Speaker 3: I don't have time for something. 412 00:19:01,800 --> 00:19:04,320 Speaker 2: Sending him off the handle because I'm grown enough to 413 00:19:04,320 --> 00:19:05,560 Speaker 2: tell him the truth now. 414 00:19:05,920 --> 00:19:09,960 Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly, And I mean we relate to each other. 415 00:19:10,040 --> 00:19:12,639 Speaker 4: And I think it's really unique in the sense of, 416 00:19:12,680 --> 00:19:13,920 Speaker 4: you know, I'm twenty. 417 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:17,000 Speaker 2: Three, you're thirty two, way older. Now it's like I'm 418 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:20,520 Speaker 2: thirty four. You said way old Brandon. 419 00:19:20,240 --> 00:19:24,879 Speaker 1: Went let the color finish, right, So. 420 00:19:25,560 --> 00:19:29,399 Speaker 4: But it's interesting, like where you're at in your life, 421 00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:33,320 Speaker 4: and I'm gonna say, like, that's where I will be. 422 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:37,119 Speaker 4: I think when it comes to this relationship with my father, 423 00:19:37,359 --> 00:19:41,400 Speaker 4: because right now for me, it's almost like I can't 424 00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:44,840 Speaker 4: even talk to him or dam nothing like maybe like 425 00:19:44,960 --> 00:19:47,920 Speaker 4: once or twice, like in a year, like I'll send 426 00:19:47,960 --> 00:19:50,760 Speaker 4: like a text or he'll set a text or whatever. 427 00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:56,000 Speaker 4: And I think it also, like, what's the relationship I 428 00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:58,000 Speaker 4: have with my sister. My sister is my best friend, 429 00:19:58,000 --> 00:20:02,160 Speaker 4: but we went to two field two different, completely completely 430 00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:06,000 Speaker 4: different fields. I'm in film, she's a psychologist. She's at 431 00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:09,000 Speaker 4: grad school. Yeah, you know, she does all these like 432 00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:12,720 Speaker 4: crazy things. She's always been super smart. And I think 433 00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:16,240 Speaker 4: my whole life, I felt that when I was a kid, 434 00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:19,840 Speaker 4: and I think a little bit now, I feel that 435 00:20:19,920 --> 00:20:27,320 Speaker 4: my sister was always kind of, you the good kid, 436 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:29,560 Speaker 4: the older sister that knew when she was up to 437 00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:32,199 Speaker 4: I was the one that was like flying off the walls. 438 00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:34,960 Speaker 4: And I kind of got this feeling sometimes that like 439 00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:39,879 Speaker 4: my dad had more of a relationship with my sister 440 00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:41,680 Speaker 4: because she was the one that always was in the middle. 441 00:20:41,720 --> 00:20:44,679 Speaker 4: She always had to solve things. Yeah, so it was like, okay, well, 442 00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:46,800 Speaker 4: if I have a great relationship, you know with your sister? 443 00:20:47,520 --> 00:20:50,639 Speaker 4: Do you really matter? Almost? That's how it felt for me, 444 00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:53,919 Speaker 4: and I think sometimes I have to distance myself from 445 00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:57,680 Speaker 4: my sister because I kind of even though we're that's 446 00:20:57,760 --> 00:20:59,680 Speaker 4: my best friend. I tell her everything you feel the 447 00:20:59,720 --> 00:21:02,199 Speaker 4: way I feel a way because I feel like a 448 00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:04,439 Speaker 4: little bit of the black sheep, especially in a family 449 00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:08,280 Speaker 4: where like everybody went to business and finance and this 450 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:11,000 Speaker 4: and then. So I have to remove myself and remember 451 00:21:11,000 --> 00:21:13,480 Speaker 4: that these people might not always know what I'm doing 452 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:15,959 Speaker 4: and we're up to. But that makes me happier than 453 00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:18,600 Speaker 4: going to a family event and somebody going what do 454 00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:23,040 Speaker 4: you do again? Even though we've talked about it multiple movies, right, 455 00:21:23,119 --> 00:21:25,760 Speaker 4: So those things make me want to be in my 456 00:21:25,840 --> 00:21:26,359 Speaker 4: own world. 457 00:21:26,600 --> 00:21:28,720 Speaker 3: You're you're the youngest of your siblings. Is it just 458 00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:29,359 Speaker 3: you and your sister? 459 00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:31,960 Speaker 4: So it's me and my sister. I have two older stepsisters. 460 00:21:32,040 --> 00:21:34,720 Speaker 2: Okay, got you, But she's like, you're yeah, and that's 461 00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:37,120 Speaker 2: that's that's crazy. I think this is the first year 462 00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:39,320 Speaker 2: for me as an older sister where I even begin 463 00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:42,919 Speaker 2: to take my brother's feeling like that into account. I 464 00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:44,840 Speaker 2: always used to be like, yo, suck it up. Like 465 00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:47,879 Speaker 2: you should be lucky you have older an older sister 466 00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:50,359 Speaker 2: who is able and willing to help you, and older 467 00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:53,560 Speaker 2: people in your life. And now I notice certain things 468 00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:55,840 Speaker 2: or the way people ask him questions about what he 469 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:57,640 Speaker 2: does or doesn't do, and blah blah. 470 00:21:57,440 --> 00:21:59,399 Speaker 3: Blah, and I'm like, I don't know. 471 00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:01,240 Speaker 2: I just feel like even if a person doesn't have 472 00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:03,320 Speaker 2: it all the way together, there are things that it 473 00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:06,360 Speaker 2: just doesn't help. Like everybody had to figure it out. 474 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:08,480 Speaker 2: I was just lucky enough that during my season of 475 00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:10,720 Speaker 2: having to figure it out, I was able to mask 476 00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:11,359 Speaker 2: it a little bit more. 477 00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:13,400 Speaker 3: I didn't have it. I don't have kids. 478 00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:16,359 Speaker 2: I was living all the way in LA and it 479 00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:18,119 Speaker 2: looked good, like, oh my god, you're in La. But 480 00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:21,720 Speaker 2: like Carr was being repossessed, I was struggling. I was 481 00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:24,919 Speaker 2: living on somebody's couch for a long time. But people 482 00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:27,040 Speaker 2: just thought it was so glamorous because you're trying to 483 00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:29,600 Speaker 2: figure it out. It's you know, it was, and I 484 00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:35,040 Speaker 2: try to, you know, tell people the distance sometimes that 485 00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:37,240 Speaker 2: like you might feel from a person when they choose 486 00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:40,240 Speaker 2: to choose themselves, it's not even about you, Like sometimes 487 00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:42,760 Speaker 2: that person is locking in and kind of surrounding themselves 488 00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:45,240 Speaker 2: with something that like blocks out the noise to the 489 00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:46,680 Speaker 2: point where they can focus on where they need to 490 00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:49,040 Speaker 2: get to. Cause it's tough when you're in that phase 491 00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:51,760 Speaker 2: of like figuring it out. I look at ray J, 492 00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:54,720 Speaker 2: and again, I have patience for him. Sometimes some of 493 00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:56,240 Speaker 2: the stuff, I'm like, boy, what are you talking about? 494 00:22:56,840 --> 00:22:58,960 Speaker 2: But I look at him and I'm like, he's a 495 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:00,840 Speaker 2: person that has figured it out in his own way, 496 00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:02,880 Speaker 2: and I think he's still figuring it out a bit. 497 00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:05,439 Speaker 2: He's just so old now that people are like why, 498 00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 2: But you have to look at what he comes from. 499 00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:11,199 Speaker 2: Like Brandy is literally called the vocal Bible. How do 500 00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:12,239 Speaker 2: you match up to that? 501 00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:12,720 Speaker 3: But why? 502 00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:15,359 Speaker 2: Also why should you have to? Yeah, but that's how 503 00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:18,480 Speaker 2: it goes though with siblings. And I think it's also 504 00:23:18,520 --> 00:23:21,960 Speaker 2: tough too because it's playing out in front of the world. 505 00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:25,840 Speaker 2: Like she's Brandy, he's also a celebrity. Rey J is 506 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:28,360 Speaker 2: like also a huge name celebrity wise, even though he's 507 00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:32,080 Speaker 2: not Brandy. So everything they do, whether together or separate, 508 00:23:32,119 --> 00:23:34,359 Speaker 2: is so amplified because we grew up with both of 509 00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:36,879 Speaker 2: them in our households forever, and they both. 510 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:39,800 Speaker 3: Run their own lanes of entertainment. So that that's tough. 511 00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:44,320 Speaker 1: But yeah, another thing, Sophie, I'm low key the black 512 00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: sheep too. Well. I don't think you should distance yourself 513 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:49,000 Speaker 1: from your sister, you know, I mean, don't let that 514 00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,560 Speaker 1: interfere with like the love have each other. Because me 515 00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:53,439 Speaker 1: and my siblings are like super close. They all like 516 00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:57,679 Speaker 1: are really successful in their own industries as well, but 517 00:23:57,840 --> 00:23:59,200 Speaker 1: I mean we're really close. I was on the phone 518 00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:02,119 Speaker 1: my sister yesterday. I'll talk to my brother all the time. Like, 519 00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:05,480 Speaker 1: I don't think you should let that outside energy affect that. 520 00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:09,560 Speaker 1: And like in what you were saying, like there's ways 521 00:24:09,560 --> 00:24:11,160 Speaker 1: you can make it look good, you know, I said, 522 00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,200 Speaker 1: my mom the picture. 523 00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:20,280 Speaker 2: Points or like that brought you Christmas? 524 00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:27,320 Speaker 1: Who's the Oprah's protege the doctor doctor us doctor My 525 00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:31,000 Speaker 1: mom loves doctor, I said, like the television people and 526 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:31,440 Speaker 1: stuff like that. 527 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:33,200 Speaker 3: Ain't doctor os the one that support Trump? 528 00:24:33,200 --> 00:24:36,639 Speaker 1: Now? She used to love me but so like but 529 00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:39,000 Speaker 1: like just like stuff like that, could you know, I 530 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:41,399 Speaker 1: don't know if that's good advice, But I don't know 531 00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:43,320 Speaker 1: if you way to buy you some points or like 532 00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:45,639 Speaker 1: I don't know, or like to or communicate more with 533 00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:47,760 Speaker 1: what you're doing, like you know, what I mean. I'm 534 00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:50,159 Speaker 1: sure you like film pretty cool people and like, you 535 00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:51,960 Speaker 1: know what I mean, maybe they'll understand maybe there's like 536 00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:54,600 Speaker 1: a part of it that can relate to like or 537 00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:57,440 Speaker 1: maybe you could kind of show them, you know, how 538 00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:59,000 Speaker 1: to work cameras or like, you know what I mean. 539 00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:01,200 Speaker 1: There's there's different ways you can like connect with them. 540 00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,440 Speaker 1: So I don't think you should, you know, all the way, 541 00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:07,040 Speaker 1: distance yourself from them, because they don't understand. They're just 542 00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:09,720 Speaker 1: they're they're older, they just don't they just don't get it. 543 00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,240 Speaker 1: In their time, there was nobody who could just make 544 00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:16,560 Speaker 1: a living just I mean, unless you were a Hollywood director. 545 00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:19,520 Speaker 1: There's nobody that could just on their own start thrown 546 00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:21,520 Speaker 1: business of just filming people, you know what I mean. 547 00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:23,840 Speaker 1: So and just you know, just talking in front of 548 00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:26,159 Speaker 1: a camera. So they just they're just not gonna. 549 00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:28,960 Speaker 2: Get it true true, and it's not And if you 550 00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:31,520 Speaker 2: have to distance yourself for what you need to do, 551 00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:33,560 Speaker 2: distance yourself, do it, bring. 552 00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:35,920 Speaker 1: Do this in yourself, make sure you win, just win, 553 00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:36,720 Speaker 1: you know what i mean. 554 00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:40,880 Speaker 2: And pray, yeah, and pray because you know that can 555 00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:43,199 Speaker 2: become lonely and that can become cold, and it can 556 00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:45,640 Speaker 2: be especially if you grew up differently, right, because that's 557 00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:48,560 Speaker 2: another thing too. Sometimes it's like growing apart from family 558 00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:51,040 Speaker 2: or people you're supposed to have unconditional love from. 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