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Speaker 1: One day, I was like FaceTime question Mark, and You're like,

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Speaker 1: I'm wanting to lose my nephew.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like, who wan's to Facetok, Okay, here we go.

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Speaker 3: Let's start the show.

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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with becailly An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 4: Hello, everybody, welcome back. We are scrubbing in. The gang's

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Speaker 4: all here, well, I mean once here.

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Speaker 2: I don't know where she went, but she'll be back.

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Speaker 2: She'll be back. Everyone else is here.

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Speaker 4: Roll call Tanya here here here, Mark Presentston. I was like,

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Speaker 4: you don't have a mic present, what's going on? You

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Speaker 4: just came back from.

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Speaker 2: Yea, the dead.

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Speaker 4: I'm not sure how severe it was, but from the

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Speaker 4: text and what I saw, it seems like you may

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Speaker 4: have had a strain of the deadly flu that's taking

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Speaker 4: hold of our country.

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Speaker 1: So I came to the conclusion that it was not

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Speaker 1: the flu because my temperature wasn't high enough.

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Speaker 2: I was being sarcastic, but you were acting like it was.

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Speaker 1: I felt like it was. I think took me down

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Speaker 1: for two full days.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I had the flu, Like I actually had the

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Speaker 4: flu when I was down for like ten days.

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Speaker 1: Yea, So it wasn't the flu. It was just a

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Speaker 4: And I also didn't want to talk to anyone or

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Speaker 1: I didn't for one day. For the first day, I

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Speaker 4: I would I am an excellent sick person. I act

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Speaker 5: I like in bed, I.

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Speaker 4: Binge watch TV shows, I eat junk food. Tanya is like,

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Speaker 4: it's what you would expect when you have a little

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Speaker 4: don't feel well, but they still are needy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's weird because like a lot of a lot

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Speaker 1: of my friends offered to like bring me things, like

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Speaker 1: Like people were just being so like overly nice. But

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Speaker 3: Were any guys trying to bring your stuff?

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Speaker 1: Not one male except for my dad.

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Speaker 4: Love that old dads are the best. But why, I mean,

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Speaker 3: To do that if they were interested. I'm telling you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that should prove to you that I have zero

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Speaker 4: But like we don't really have any aside from Tim Tebow.

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Speaker 4: There's not been anyone that you've hung like talked to

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Speaker 1: That's true.

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Speaker 3: I guess it hasn't talked to Tim Tebow.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, there's been some like exchange though.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, just where are we on that?

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Speaker 1: Just a brief update, Okay, brief update. We got exchange

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Speaker 1: phone numbers whatever, and very brief text messages and they're

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Speaker 3: Shine his incredible event, which was really a big hit

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Speaker 1: Yes, not very flirty.

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Speaker 2: Are you being flirty or trying to be flirty?

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Speaker 3: Bryan tried to get her to send a video. He

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Speaker 3: sent a video of highlights of Night to Shine, right,

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Speaker 1: A video back right right of what of us dancing

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Speaker 3: It could be perceived as mocking his video. She didn't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm glad that you said no to that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm still pondering my next move. It's not

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Speaker 3: Well it has to be a double text at this point.

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Speaker 1: It's fine, So what when will you just give up?

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Speaker 2: Like be over?

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Speaker 3: When walking down, I pointed out to her that he's

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Speaker 3: Uh, that'll be determined at the end of spring training.

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Speaker 3: Oh, but the point is he's not available. She wanted

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Speaker 3: to ask him to chalk prom in June. I said,

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Speaker 3: he's got a game that night. The baseball's every day.

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Speaker 4: I know baseball. Baseball players are tough. I don't know

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Speaker 2: Is right up my alley.

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Speaker 3: But unavailable from March to September.

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Speaker 2: I don't have to see it. But do I have

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Speaker 1: But this is the slow burn, like I'm in for

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Speaker 4: Day, the long Yeah, this is not this is not

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Speaker 4: what is it? Love is a marathon, It's not a sprint.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And what you were getting at before we went

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Speaker 1: Yes, I love facetiming.

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Speaker 3: But nobody else does.

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Speaker 1: I got rejected you her.

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Speaker 5: Do you agree with I'm saying no.

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Speaker 4: She's the only person I know who genuinely likes to

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Speaker 4: Like I was gonna say my nephews, I like facetiming

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Speaker 2: She facetimes you too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's like one of my only like friends that

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Speaker 1: So that night I just back to my parents. My

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Speaker 3: Yeah I could see that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what parents do. Yeah, they're there for you.

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Speaker 4: Well, my sister's birthday is Thursday, and so my parents

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Speaker 4: Well, there we just gus that there's that difference between us.

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Speaker 2: So this was the problem.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, it was really fun.

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Speaker 2: It was like mom life for a couple of days.

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Speaker 4: But he is scared of the dark, so he slept

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Speaker 4: So I got back late last night, had a long

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Speaker 4: Phoebe out like, does not miss me when I'm gone.

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Speaker 4: It's really it's hurting my feelings. She loves Caroline and Hannai.

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Speaker 4: She loves everyone so much more to me.

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Speaker 2: No, it's true.

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Speaker 4: But it's so funny to me because it's like I'm

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Speaker 4: that sucks, but I move on.

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Speaker 1: Rightly, like that didn't feel good.

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Speaker 4: I tried to be more like attentive to you last week,

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Speaker 2: So you started watching The Good Doctor and not.

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Speaker 2: Did you so you never got bored with it?

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Speaker 1: That show is so fantastic And here's why I want

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Speaker 1: Not only should I not that I watched all of

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Speaker 3: This is why you're facetiming random people because you were.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, love it.

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Speaker 2: Like what, maybe I'll keep watching it.

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Speaker 1: But I'm so bummed because we were supposed to get

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Speaker 3: You did, oh because you couldn't go because you're sick.

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Speaker 5: Yeah? Oh well wait.

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Speaker 4: Also, though, the problem was that Phoebe was acting really

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Speaker 3: So what is the status of your mojo right now.

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Speaker 2: Mojo still still just resting.

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Speaker 5: On a low level.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm losing mine too while we're at it,

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Speaker 3: Maybe like your cycles match up, maybe your mojo also

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Speaker 5: You get your mojo back.

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Speaker 6: I'll tell you, Oh, you like someone, you get attracted

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Speaker 2: I know you can't force yourself to do that though.

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Speaker 5: No, but right of course not, because you gotta wait

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Speaker 6: I had, like, I don't know, I always have like

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Speaker 6: Like it's just like hey, and it's because I like

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Speaker 5: I'm not gonna lie what.

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Speaker 6: Yes, I love it, but it's also awful and I

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Speaker 4: That's that's that kind of we bring back to my

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Speaker 5: That's a lot of day.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if I can. I don't know if

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Speaker 5: So the one hundred out of ten is I want

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Speaker 1: Where are you at right now? Out of ten?

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Speaker 5: Dropping? What are we saying? Mojo is just like that, like.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I got my confidence.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, good, yeah, one hundred out of ten.

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Speaker 5: And it is rough every day.

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Speaker 3: You know what really helps your mojo?

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Speaker 2: Oh? I know what helps your moji?

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Speaker 3: What is it?

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Speaker 4: Having clear, good skin, having hydrated skin, having clear skin.

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Speaker 4: Lucky for us and for you, there's bioclarity. Bioclarity is

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Speaker 4: very gentle in your skin. I've noticed it's not anything

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Speaker 4: like sometimes I try products and they're very intense, and

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Speaker 4: a way where it's like, oh, it gets worse before I.

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Speaker 4: With bioclarity, it's gentle enough that you don't notice any

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Speaker 2: It's all positive.

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Speaker 1: I was just talking about this. I feel like your

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Speaker 3: We talked on the radio.

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Speaker 1: Yeah I know, and so I'm now regretting saying on

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Speaker 6: I have a question for you guys on exfoliating, you know, exfoliating.

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Speaker 6: How long do you exfoliate one spot? I've been literally

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Speaker 1: Like just one swipe one I.

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Speaker 4: I've been to like an exfoliating treatment and it's just

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Speaker 1: I love that.

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Speaker 4: So they have a cleanser, they have a treatment, they

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Speaker 3: Becca. Amy sent this over This thing in the New

453
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Speaker 3: York Times over the weekend is very controversial. It was

454
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Speaker 3: written by a woman, but she says that women over

455
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Speaker 3: the age of thirty should not wear yoga pants.

456
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Speaker 6: As I'm wearing yoga even at the gym, it says, what, yeah,

457
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Speaker 6: what was her point really?

458
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Speaker 3: Just because it's impossible to not be self conscious?

459
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Speaker 6: I guess she said, like, we don't need she says

460
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Speaker 6: in there somewhere, we don't need to see your like

461
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Speaker 6: dimply skin coming through your yoga pants. And I was

462
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Speaker 6: just like this right, because like yoga pants can make

463
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Speaker 6: you look good.

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Speaker 2: Well yeah, and everyone loves yoga pants.

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Speaker 3: Like, is there an age limit to yoga pants in

466
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Speaker 3: your opinion?

467
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Speaker 2: I don't think no.

468
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Speaker 1: There is very choice words A strongly worded letter to

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Speaker 1: her strongly worded.

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Speaker 5: Well, give it, give it, get it, go ahead as

471
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Speaker 5: you if.

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Speaker 1: You I can wear whatever the f I want to wear.

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Speaker 1: I love wearing work out I war workout pants probably

474
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Speaker 1: ninety percent of my life. Well, here's the deal is

475
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Speaker 1: they make me feel comfortable and confident.

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Speaker 2: That's I was gonna say.

477
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Speaker 4: If you feel good in them, and if you want

478
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Speaker 4: to wear them and wear like maybe a longer shirt

479
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Speaker 4: over them. If you don't feel great, like with your

480
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Speaker 4: you know, showing your butt but that's a personal thing,

481
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Speaker 4: like if you feel confident enough to wear yoga pants

482
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Speaker 4: and wear yoga pants, and I.

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Speaker 1: Like, I might have peaked at twenty, but I'm gonna

484
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Speaker 1: repeak at thirty three.

485
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Speaker 6: She says the yoga pants and other types of leggings

486
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Speaker 6: are bad for women more specifically add to a general

487
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Speaker 6: and sexist sense of pressure women feel to look hot

488
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Speaker 6: at all time.

489
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Speaker 5: I didn't understand what she's talking.

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Speaker 2: I don't get that was a dumb article for her

491
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Speaker 2: to write.

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Speaker 1: Also have issue with people saying like moms can't wear

493
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Speaker 1: bikinis and.

494
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Speaker 3: Like, well, I have a list of those things actually

495
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Speaker 3: fashion age limits.

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Speaker 1: It's just rude and unnecessary.

497
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Speaker 3: Well, her point, I guess is that it's part of

498
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Speaker 3: the self objectification of women because you are then and

499
00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:02,520
Speaker 3: stared at by all around you, and that sort of thing.

500
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Speaker 3: And I'm not agreeing with anything she says, trying to

501
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Speaker 3: explain her point of view. But is there any age

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Speaker 3: Can grandmas wear yoga pants?

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Speaker 6: Yes? But I don't wear crop tops because I feel

504
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Speaker 6: like there ain't no reason for me to be wearing.

505
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Speaker 2: A crop top.

506
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Speaker 3: Are I think some of these things you do age

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Speaker 3: out of, Like, let's talk about nose rings. What age

508
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Speaker 3: is to wear a nose ring?

509
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Speaker 4: I think it's all a personal preference. I don't think

510
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Speaker 4: there's any like.

511
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Speaker 2: I don't. I'm I never wanted a nose ring. I

512
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Speaker 2: just haven't, right, But.

513
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Speaker 3: It's fine, mom's, grandma's.

514
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Speaker 6: There are certain things that people can wear at a

515
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Speaker 6: certain age that you can't wear at another age.

516
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Speaker 5: But yoga pants is not one of them.

517
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Speaker 3: Have you stopped wearing anything is because that was more

518
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Speaker 3: teenager years that sort of thing.

519
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Speaker 4: I mean, well, no, I was gonna say, yeah, I

520
00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:53,399
Speaker 4: think you grow out of things just naturally. But I

521
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Speaker 4: think if there's someone who is in her forties and

522
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Speaker 4: she's like an artist and has tattoos and a nose ring,

523
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Speaker 4: and that's her dial the dude.

524
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Speaker 1: We're not like wearing like butterfly clips in our hair.

525
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Speaker 4: I wish we were, though, maybe we should bring those men.

526
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Speaker 4: Let's talk about bringing butterfly clips back.

527
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Speaker 3: What about long hair? Everybody women always chop their hair

528
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Speaker 3: at a certain point. Yeah, you know, very few moms

529
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Speaker 3: have long hair. Is there an age limit to long hair?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: Over the age thing, like, I'm over it. If you

532
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Speaker 1: want to wear crop top at forty.

533
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Speaker 3: Three, you wear.

534
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Speaker 5: No because you can.

535
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Speaker 6: I'm forty four and I wear short, short, short, but

536
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Speaker 6: this is not my good area.

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Speaker 2: You have to know, That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like if you have a if you have

539
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Speaker 4: an amazing stomach and want to show off your abs

540
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Speaker 4: at forty do it.

541
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

542
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Speaker 4: But my thing is, the thing is is that you

543
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Speaker 4: have to be prepared for opinions like this person like

544
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Speaker 4: people are going to have opinions about it, so and

545
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Speaker 4: you have to be able to say, Okay, if the

546
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Speaker 4: stereotype or the the suggestion is that I don't wear

547
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Speaker 4: this outfit at my age and people, if people are

548
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Speaker 4: gonna say something, you have to be ready for.

549
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Speaker 1: It, right, and everyone's down an opinion the let's talk.

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Speaker 2: Can we talk about Fergie for a second? Absolutely, I

551
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Speaker 2: feel okay.

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Speaker 4: Admittedly I've watched it several times and have laughed through

553
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Speaker 4: the whole thing because of the facial expressions. However, I

554
00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:26,400
Speaker 4: genuinely like it hurt me for her that her statement

555
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Speaker 4: release was an apology, like apologizing that because people were saying, like, wow,

556
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Speaker 4: that's the worst we've ever heard, and it was like

557
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Speaker 4: disrespectful to the country.

558
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Speaker 2: What do you think she should have said just maybe.

559
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Speaker 4: Like WHOA tried anew I tried a different version of

560
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Speaker 4: the song clearly didn't.

561
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Speaker 5: Go over well.

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Speaker 4: I din'd say that and oh yeah yeah, but it

563
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Speaker 4: made me sad that she was like, sorry if I

564
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Speaker 4: like offended anyone.

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Speaker 2: Basically, I was like, no, it's.

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Speaker 6: Hard to mess with that song. You know, like she

567
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Speaker 6: tweaked it a bit.

568
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Speaker 2: A bit.

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Speaker 1: You don't tweak with that.

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Speaker 4: It was literally what like how my dad would sing it,

571
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Speaker 4: like joking around totally, like with like too much emphasis

572
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Speaker 4: on things.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I feel like that's how you would sing it

575
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Speaker 4: if you were like going to sing the national anthem.

576
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I have a question.

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Speaker 6: Do we think that people were mean commenting on it?

579
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Speaker 6: Or is that the nature of the beast, like we're

580
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Speaker 6: allowed to say.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I mean the thing with with social media now,

582
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Speaker 4: it's like you can do one simple thing and you

583
00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:43,080
Speaker 4: will get destroyed for it for what like a few days,

584
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Speaker 4: and then they're on to the next thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think the thing is when you're a

586
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Speaker 1: public figure, you open yourself up to that, you know

587
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Speaker 1: what I mean. You sign up for the super Bowl,

588
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Speaker 1: you're gonna get criticism either way. You sign up to

589
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Speaker 1: sing the national anthem, you're gonna I think that's just

590
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Speaker 1: part of being a public figure.

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Speaker 3: Was she right to apologize or should she have been like, Hey,

592
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Speaker 3: that's my thing, you didn't get it, move on.

593
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Speaker 4: I think she should have been more like laughing it off.

594
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 4: I it made me sad that she felt the need

595
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Speaker 4: to appall it, Like, was anyone genuinely offended by that?

596
00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:11,440
Speaker 4: People are just being like silly making But I think.

597
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Speaker 6: People were like, oh ouch, that sucks. So I think

598
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 6: she was kind of going. I think she kind of

599
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:19,159
Speaker 6: did the right thing because she's like, look I tried something.

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Speaker 5: Sorry it blue.

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Speaker 6: Ah say duh stuff spaing. Okay, So if you're fergie,

602
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Speaker 6: do you come back again and sing the anthem somewhere

603
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Speaker 6: else and nail it or no shot.

604
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Speaker 2: No IM just saying hey, I tried, I failed.

605
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Speaker 5: I was several.

606
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Speaker 2: I made the meme world much more hilarious.

607
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Speaker 1: Put a smile on chance of Wrapper's face.

608
00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:51,399
Speaker 2: Yeah he has such a cute smile.

609
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Speaker 5: People forget in one day.

610
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Speaker 4: I was gonna say, I mean, I used to think

611
00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 4: when being on the Bachelor, it was like, oh my god,

612
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Speaker 4: if I do anything, it's gonna be like life altering.

613
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 2: And then be over the next day.

614
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Speaker 1: And then yeah, talk about something new.

615
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Speaker 2: I was gonna say.

616
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Speaker 4: Then someone else would be, you know, ready to take

617
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Speaker 4: the take the criticism.

618
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Speaker 5: Should we talk about Anniston while we're at it? Then?

619
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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay.

620
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Speaker 4: I thought something was going on because you know, I

621
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Speaker 4: have a radar on jen Aniston, and I noticed I

622
00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:25,000
Speaker 4: hadn't seen them together in a while, and they weren't

623
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Speaker 4: as like anything. Time I did seem it was like

624
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Speaker 4: a shot of them leaving somewhere or something.

625
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Speaker 2: It was just not My censors were on.

626
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:36,080
Speaker 1: High alert, so you like felt this coming.

627
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Speaker 4: I wasn't like, it wasn't like the shocking, devastating blow

628
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Speaker 4: for me.

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Speaker 1: I you know, I'm beginning to think it's her.

630
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Speaker 4: Here's the other thing. I watched an interview with her

631
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Speaker 4: on Ellen for Ellen's birthday, and they were she was

632
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Speaker 4: saying how she they all went out together all the time, whatever,

633
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Speaker 4: and a lot of her friends thought she said something like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I think people are starting to wonder if I was

635
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Speaker 4: on your team or something. Who Jennifer Aniston saying that

636
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:07,280
Speaker 4: to Ellen, and I was like, oh, I don't know,

637
00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 4: I don't know.

638
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:11,600
Speaker 6: I think who are we to judge people with failed relationships.

639
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 2: I mean, there's a zero judgment here.

640
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Speaker 4: I just I don't know. I want her to be

641
00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:21,240
Speaker 4: Like it's almost like I just want her to be happy,

642
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:22,400
Speaker 4: no matter like what it's.

643
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 5: Do you want her back with Brad?

644
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,160
Speaker 2: No, I think he's kind of strange.

645
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:31,159
Speaker 1: I mean I want her with Ross Geller. End of story.

646
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Speaker 5: That's shwimmer.

647
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:33,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, nobody.

648
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Speaker 4: I mean I love him. They were like Ross and

649
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:38,560
Speaker 4: Rachel were everything in friends. But I don't Jen and

650
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:40,359
Speaker 4: jenn and David don't do it for me.

651
00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:42,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.

652
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 3: Doesn't America want Jen and Brad back together?

653
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:49,399
Speaker 2: Yeah? America does. Yeah, I just, I mean I like it.

654
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Speaker 5: For the narrative, I was gonna.

655
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Speaker 1: Say, I love she didn't want she doesn't want kids.

656
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 1: He has six kids, So how are they going to

657
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Speaker 1: get past that?

658
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Speaker 5: That would be that would be, that would be a

659
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Speaker 5: conversation she didn't have to have.

660
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 1: Like he has one or two. He has six children

661
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Speaker 1: and she doesn't want any.

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Speaker 6: My main thing lately is that we're all so judge

663
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Speaker 6: of everybody. Just judge judge judge me too.

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Speaker 2: Judge duties.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, and now I'm reading this article, what will happen

666
00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:22,960
Speaker 6: to Jennifer Aniston's engagement ring, like it's the freaking Neil

667
00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:24,120
Speaker 6: Lane thing from The Bachelor.

668
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Speaker 1: It's like, I think she gives it or she gives

669
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Speaker 1: it back.

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Speaker 2: Did y'all look at the article they showed her house

671
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Speaker 2: like all her like interior design. It's amazing.

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Speaker 6: Well, all the armchair quarterbacks that are like architectural digests,

673
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Speaker 6: they weren't photographed together. And now they're selling the house.

674
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:45,160
Speaker 6: So maybe she did architectural digest to help sell the house.

675
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 5: Everybody's got there.

676
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Speaker 1: I love how everybody's saying that Courtney Cox is her lobster.

677
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 1: They're like, maybe her friend's just her lobster.

678
00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 4: I'm like, true, it's even friends is like he's her

679
00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:02,240
Speaker 4: lobster like every lot, Like every lobsters.

680
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 2: Mate, they stay together for life like penguins.

681
00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh I thought it was. There was like a

682
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 1: perfect lobster for every lobster had its pairs.

683
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Speaker 2: I don't know.

684
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:13,120
Speaker 4: I just made up my own story on Mark totally

685
00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:15,840
Speaker 4: bought it, just like everyone else would.

686
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Speaker 3: Is it interesting that TMZ thinks they may have never

687
00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:19,520
Speaker 3: been married in the first place?

688
00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:22,520
Speaker 5: Legally, yes, juicy tidbit, Mark.

689
00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 3: Explained TBTMZ says they cannot find any marriage certificate for

690
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 3: those two. They had the big ceremony and Malby with

691
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 3: the house and everything, but they can't find any legal

692
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 3: record of it, which is an interesting move.

693
00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 1: And I think, like, what, like, they never wanted so

694
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 1: they're not married.

695
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 3: They wanted to be married with quotes around it, so

696
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:40,719
Speaker 3: everyone thought they were married. But in the event of

697
00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 3: this happening, it's so much cleaner to not be married.

698
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 2: I just broke up.

699
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 5: Get peace out.

700
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:49,920
Speaker 6: Lobsters do not mate for life. They they mate by

701
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:53,240
Speaker 6: a weird system of serial monogamy, so they aren't cat

702
00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:56,160
Speaker 6: and around, but they do not mate for life.

703
00:29:57,000 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 5: I liked my version better.

704
00:29:59,120 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 1: I like mine better.

705
00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:01,120
Speaker 2: What was yours?

706
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:06,680
Speaker 1: That every lobster has its pair, Yeah, it's matt match,

707
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:08,719
Speaker 1: like every every lobster has a soulmate.

708
00:30:09,160 --> 00:30:12,840
Speaker 4: Basically, what it all comes down to, whether Jenn wants kids,

709
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:15,000
Speaker 4: whether she doesn't want kids, whether she's with Brad, whether

710
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:17,400
Speaker 4: she's alone, whether she's with a girl.

711
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:19,720
Speaker 2: I want her to be happy. I've been rooting for

712
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 2: her for so long.

713
00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:23,800
Speaker 1: I mean, I think she's like who I wanted to be.

714
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, she seems happy to be.

715
00:30:26,240 --> 00:30:28,480
Speaker 2: Well, she's probably if she was never legally married.

716
00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 4: Then she's probably really happy right now, she's just moving

717
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 4: on with her life.

718
00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:36,360
Speaker 1: And if she wasn't happy with justin throw, why stay

719
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:37,680
Speaker 1: in an unhappy relationship?

720
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Speaker 5: Preach? I totally agree, really agree.

721
00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 1: That doesn't sound good.

722
00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:42,520
Speaker 5: Being miserable is no good.

723
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, but you also have to remember there are ups

724
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:46,880
Speaker 4: and downs and sometimes when things aren't.

725
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Speaker 5: Great, right, they should push through. How much time do

726
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:51,320
Speaker 5: you try to figure that out?

727
00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:53,400
Speaker 2: I know that's too single to give this.

728
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:55,600
Speaker 1: I know that such an interesting question because it's like

729
00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 1: it is true, Like obviously marriage isn't I mean, I'm

730
00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 1: not married, but it's not a walk in the park.

731
00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:05,840
Speaker 1: Peaks and valleys. Sure, when there's a valley, how long

732
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:06,600
Speaker 1: do you ride that out?

733
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 3: And depends how.

734
00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:09,640
Speaker 5: Deep the valley is and how many kids you have?

735
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, what is what is the valley? How serious is

736
00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:15,840
Speaker 2: the valley? Right?

737
00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying, Like, at what point do

738
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,320
Speaker 1: you throw in the towel? And what point do you work?

739
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 3: I think you work? I think no matter what I

740
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 3: mean short of infidelity, I think you work. I mean

741
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 3: Amy and I have been married for fifteen years. There

742
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 3: have been ups and downs, but no downs so serious

743
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 3: that we ever but if.

744
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:35,480
Speaker 6: You have the downs so serious for a long time, yeah,

745
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 6: I think you really have to think about it.

746
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 5: So here's how I haven't all down for a long

747
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 5: long time.

748
00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:40,960
Speaker 6: I have a different scale, and I'd like to know

749
00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:44,360
Speaker 6: what you guys think. It is how happy are you?

750
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:46,000
Speaker 6: I call it my how happy are you?

751
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 3: Scale?

752
00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 5: So if like I'm eighty percent.

753
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 6: Happy, well that's a solid yes. If I'm twenty percent

754
00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 6: happy and eighty percent, this is not good time to

755
00:31:59,880 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 6: go out, you know what I mean?

756
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,640
Speaker 5: And not one day. I'm talking for like a duration

757
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:06,120
Speaker 5: of time.

758
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:09,840
Speaker 6: Yeah, there's no amount of work is going to get you,

759
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 6: is going to fix things.

760
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 5: That can't be fixed.

761
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:16,160
Speaker 4: I'd be interested to know whoever's listening, if you've been

762
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 4: in a relationship or marriage, if there's been valleys, or

763
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:23,040
Speaker 4: if you have advice on this, since we're you know,

764
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:25,600
Speaker 4: kind of like shrugging our shoulders.

765
00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:28,080
Speaker 1: Because I think, I mean, for me, I think I

766
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 1: only want I only want to be married once, and

767
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:37,320
Speaker 1: I wanted to last forever obviously, so I'm hoping that.

768
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 5: So what happens if you get married, Tanya?

769
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, and it's all good, right, and it's going great,

770
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:47,040
Speaker 6: and then you've got a couple of kids and things

771
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:51,120
Speaker 6: get hard and people change and you are unhappy, and

772
00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 6: you know you're unhappy for years.

773
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:57,360
Speaker 1: I mean, I think I would hope before it got

774
00:32:57,400 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 1: to the year mark, I would like really dive into it,

775
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 1: and like.

776
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:03,400
Speaker 5: You're still unhappy.

777
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:05,440
Speaker 1: I don't think I could work through it.

778
00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 3: But also it could be out of your control. Like

779
00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:09,680
Speaker 3: I've always said, Amy and I will never get divorced.

780
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:12,160
Speaker 3: But the truth is, if Amy stops loving me, we're

781
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 3: getting a divorce. Whether I want to or not. You know,

782
00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 3: if Amy decides she's out, she's out. So it's not

783
00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 3: always up to you.

784
00:33:18,360 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 5: Oh well, what about your parents? That story? Have you

785
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 5: told the story of your parents.

786
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:24,680
Speaker 1: That they got divorced and remarried.

787
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think you've told that on here, No

788
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 2: tell it.

789
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:32,680
Speaker 1: My parents got married when my mom was The years

790
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 1: are going to be a little fuzzy, but my mom was.

791
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:37,520
Speaker 1: I think she moved here when she was eighteen. They

792
00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 1: got married when she was nineteen, moved here from Serbia.

793
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 1: Moved here from Serbia, so they got married young, and

794
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:46,440
Speaker 1: then they had me, my sister, and my brother's three kids,

795
00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:49,680
Speaker 1: and then they got divorced when I was five. It

796
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 1: was a very amicable divorce. I never felt like deprived

797
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:56,200
Speaker 1: as a child. I felt equally loved by both my parents,

798
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:00,000
Speaker 1: split my time two weeks with my mom my dad

799
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 1: for probably like eight years, and then ten years, at

800
00:34:03,760 --> 00:34:06,600
Speaker 1: like year nine, they started dating again, and then they

801
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 1: got remarried, and now they've been remarried for ten plus.

802
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:14,200
Speaker 5: And they'd say the second time was better than the first.

803
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:18,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's such a good story. It's a crazy story.

804
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:20,120
Speaker 1: It's such a crazy story.

805
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:22,520
Speaker 4: No, it's I don't know, you're the only person I

806
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:24,879
Speaker 4: know who has a story like that that.

807
00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:25,680
Speaker 2: But like a movie.

808
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 1: What's weird is that, like when they were divorced, I

809
00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 1: was never sad and never wanted them to be together,

810
00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:33,719
Speaker 1: like like they were both really happy parents, like very

811
00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:37,040
Speaker 1: present in my life, Like I felt like really good

812
00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 1: in both.

813
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:40,480
Speaker 2: Household oh get back together?

814
00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 1: Never once, And then when they got back together, I

815
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:44,319
Speaker 1: was like, this is so weird. I don't like you

816
00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:46,319
Speaker 1: guys together. This is like creepy. Like I was so

817
00:34:46,440 --> 00:34:49,360
Speaker 1: used to seeing them apart, you know, and now I

818
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:52,560
Speaker 1: couldn't imagine I can't even imagine them being separate, separated.

819
00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:55,359
Speaker 3: Did they like relationships when they were split? Up with

820
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:55,880
Speaker 3: other people.

821
00:34:56,200 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 1: My mom did, yes, Yeah, and I met like I

822
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 1: liked him a whole lot. I'm sure my dad did,

823
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:06,400
Speaker 1: but we never met her or met any girl. Sure, yeah,

824
00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:08,200
Speaker 1: and so I never knew if my dad did or not,

825
00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:11,279
Speaker 1: but my mom did. He was great, Like everything was

826
00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:12,839
Speaker 1: so great, you know what I mean? Like I never

827
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 1: felt how long was she with that guy? Years?

828
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:17,799
Speaker 3: And he was like a stepdad to you kind of?

829
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, like very you know, very involved.

830
00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:22,120
Speaker 3: Are you still in touch with him at all?

831
00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 2: Wow?

832
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:25,360
Speaker 5: I'm learning so much.

833
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:29,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, isn't that nuts? Yeah, it's really crazy. Because but

834
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:32,880
Speaker 1: now that they're like together, I can't even imagine them apart,

835
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 1: like to me, like they're like they've been married for

836
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 1: fifty years. Yeah wow, And like I like, I love

837
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 1: my parents so much, And the way my dad adores

838
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:45,040
Speaker 1: my mom is like nothing I've ever seen before. And

839
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Speaker 1: I think that's why I have such like a high

840
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Speaker 1: it's not high standard for my partner, because I just

841
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:53,479
Speaker 1: see how much my dad has always adored my mom.

842
00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:55,200
Speaker 1: You know. It's like so sweet to see.

843
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:56,880
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844
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845
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849
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851
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Speaker 3: work and can't help it crack up laughing. All right,

894
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:33,840
Speaker 3: I'm twenty five. I've been dating a guy for five months.

895
00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:35,480
Speaker 3: Things have been great. I really hope it works out.

896
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:37,840
Speaker 3: We don't live together yet. At what point in a

897
00:38:37,880 --> 00:38:40,840
Speaker 3: relationship should you start doing normal things around a person?

898
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:43,880
Speaker 3: And here are her examples of normal things. Pooping in

899
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:47,439
Speaker 3: their bathroom, farting in front of them, eating ice cream

900
00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 3: and sweatpants with no makeup or hair done, coming home

901
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:52,400
Speaker 3: sweaty from a workout. That's a wide range to me.

902
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, say wow, I.

903
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 3: Feel so comfortable around him, but I wanted him to

904
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:59,440
Speaker 3: be impressed by me. PS would happy Saturday work on?

905
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:05,320
Speaker 3: Ben Higgens asking for a Tony.

906
00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 2: Is dying over here? You're good, No, she just needs water.

907
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 3: Let's take these one at a time. Yeah, okay, let's

908
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:16,320
Speaker 3: go in reverse order. Coming home sweating from a workout,

909
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:18,680
Speaker 3: I say, now, I say it's fine, it's great.

910
00:39:18,760 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 2: I wouldn't even think about no issue there. Yeah.

911
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:22,399
Speaker 1: Uh, first in.

912
00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:26,320
Speaker 3: Eating ice cream and sweatpants with no makeup and state material,

913
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:31,480
Speaker 3: because that's everything. And I think, as a guy, I'm

914
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:33,680
Speaker 3: looking for that I don't want somebody who has to

915
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 3: be made up to watch Netflix with me. Let's just RelA.

916
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 3: That's a great weekend.

917
00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:41,239
Speaker 4: And ruins Netflix if you have makeup on farting in

918
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:42,400
Speaker 4: front of them?

919
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 2: Okay, this is my thing on.

920
00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 4: I grew up in a family that thinks farting is

921
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:51,879
Speaker 4: so funny, like that kind of humor. So I think

922
00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:55,160
Speaker 4: it's funny when it happens like accidentally, like when a

923
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:57,719
Speaker 4: girl accidentally does it, and that those stories are like

924
00:39:57,760 --> 00:39:58,719
Speaker 4: my favorite.

925
00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:01,560
Speaker 2: But I I'll be honest.

926
00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:04,359
Speaker 4: I burp a lot, like Belgi loudly, but I don't

927
00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:06,600
Speaker 4: fart a lot, so it's not been an issue for me.

928
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:10,520
Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't think I've ever heard you far?

929
00:40:10,719 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, I like, don't.

930
00:40:11,840 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 2: It's not like I hold it in. I just like,

931
00:40:13,719 --> 00:40:15,839
Speaker 2: don't have you ever heard me far? I don't think.

932
00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 1: So that's pretty impressive.

933
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:20,400
Speaker 2: Next week's I get into microphone.

934
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:24,920
Speaker 3: So you don't do this in front of your guys, Tanya,

935
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 3: do you ever do it in front of your guys?

936
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:29,080
Speaker 1: I used to like I was pro poop and far

937
00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:30,000
Speaker 1: in front of your partner.

938
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:31,960
Speaker 5: Door open?

939
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:37,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, because okay, you guys know and spoiler alert, I

940
00:40:37,680 --> 00:40:42,080
Speaker 1: have really have GI issues, So I like spoiler alert,

941
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:46,359
Speaker 1: I don't. I have problems going to the bathroom, and

942
00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:50,239
Speaker 1: so it takes me. It takes me a minute to go,

943
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:52,719
Speaker 1: and so I have to sit on the toilet for

944
00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 1: a long time. So I like to when I'm in

945
00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 1: a relationship, leave the door open so that I can

946
00:40:57,120 --> 00:40:59,319
Speaker 1: engage in conversations so that he knows I'm not just

947
00:40:59,360 --> 00:41:03,880
Speaker 1: like the whole time. Then I'm just what a bad idea?

948
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:05,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's the worst.

949
00:41:05,880 --> 00:41:08,040
Speaker 1: Well, this is how I used to be, and now

950
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:10,640
Speaker 1: I'm not ever going to do that anymore because it

951
00:41:10,719 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 1: led me down a terrible path.

952
00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:18,279
Speaker 3: That's thank you. That's not why. That's not why that ended, though,

953
00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:20,759
Speaker 3: you know, we'll never know. You think that could have

954
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:21,320
Speaker 3: been a factor.

955
00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I think I think I should

956
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:26,200
Speaker 1: leave the bathroom stuff to myself.

957
00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:28,440
Speaker 4: Okay, I do agree that you need to maybe not

958
00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:32,759
Speaker 4: do that, maybe keep some romance in there, But I

959
00:41:32,760 --> 00:41:34,920
Speaker 4: don't think that was a If that was a deal breaker,

960
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:36,279
Speaker 4: I feel like you would have been like, hey, can

961
00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:37,879
Speaker 4: you maybe like just shut the.

962
00:41:37,840 --> 00:41:41,319
Speaker 1: Door through the door, like I give myself. I set

963
00:41:41,320 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 1: my alarm twenty minutes earlier in the morning so that

964
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:45,799
Speaker 1: I can sit on the toilet for twenty minutes. That's

965
00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:46,200
Speaker 1: how long.

966
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:48,879
Speaker 5: Wow, And it's always in the morning decompressed.

967
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 1: I have to sit there, my feet up on the

968
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 1: squatty body and.

969
00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:54,919
Speaker 5: Just like, oh my god, like the Squatti potties. Knew

970
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:57,520
Speaker 5: though that wasn't always a new that's a new thing helps.

971
00:41:57,680 --> 00:42:00,319
Speaker 1: It helps, and I really like that's a thing for me.

972
00:42:00,400 --> 00:42:02,319
Speaker 1: So I think my partner has to be.

973
00:42:04,160 --> 00:42:07,320
Speaker 3: Like that, and we get us a squatty potty endorsement

974
00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:09,120
Speaker 3: because that just that was natural right then?

975
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:13,440
Speaker 4: Oh god, honestly, I have tried one and it was

976
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:14,360
Speaker 4: nice and it helped.

977
00:42:14,800 --> 00:42:17,160
Speaker 5: But I'm talking like problems in that area.

978
00:42:17,680 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I do.

979
00:42:18,320 --> 00:42:20,279
Speaker 3: I mean it's I think it's I mean, I don't,

980
00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:22,920
Speaker 3: you know, fifteen years to get twenty years together and

981
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 3: we don't do it in front of each other, and

982
00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:27,400
Speaker 3: it will happen accidentally and it's funny when it does. Yeah,

983
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:30,600
Speaker 3: but it feels disrespectful to me to just let her

984
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:31,360
Speaker 3: rip in front of you.

985
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 2: Yes, god, yeah, I don't.

986
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:37,759
Speaker 4: I personally don't love it, but like I know you, no,

987
00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:39,839
Speaker 4: like we didn't part like brothers, I like.

988
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 2: Did not do any of that. According to Roberts, like brothers.

989
00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:43,840
Speaker 5: Are way different.

990
00:42:43,880 --> 00:42:45,239
Speaker 6: Beca like the fact that you can do it in

991
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:47,680
Speaker 6: front of your sisters and brother that's fine, No, I

992
00:42:47,680 --> 00:42:49,440
Speaker 6: said Robert, No, no, no, I know, but she was

993
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:51,360
Speaker 6: saying she grew up in a family. Everybody.

994
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:53,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, yea, yeah, like that is.

995
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:57,120
Speaker 6: Fine, but I draw the line on the like my

996
00:42:57,280 --> 00:43:00,480
Speaker 6: guy will not know. That's why whenever we a hotel,

997
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:05,200
Speaker 6: I'm always looking like I'm looking for two bathrooms.

998
00:43:05,520 --> 00:43:07,560
Speaker 3: Or yeah, or visit the lobby when you need well

999
00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:09,840
Speaker 3: I can't.

1000
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 5: Some hotel rooms have a powder room.

1001
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:14,240
Speaker 6: If you get like we yeah, and I will spare

1002
00:43:14,320 --> 00:43:16,200
Speaker 6: no expense because it's.

1003
00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:20,400
Speaker 4: Like, no, really, the key is get a good spray

1004
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:24,640
Speaker 4: that you can spray and just like poopery, Yeah, get

1005
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:30,480
Speaker 4: us another spawny on amy pooper and a squatty body conversation.

1006
00:43:30,840 --> 00:43:32,960
Speaker 2: Wait, so basically, what do we say.

1007
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:33,640
Speaker 1: No parting?

1008
00:43:33,680 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 3: No, I say hold that as long as.

1009
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:39,080
Speaker 4: You can and if you if it comes out on accident,

1010
00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 4: like laugh about it.

1011
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:40,879
Speaker 2: Everyone does it.

1012
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:42,640
Speaker 1: It's just don't like dut juve in.

1013
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:46,719
Speaker 2: What are we about to say, don't do it and

1014
00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:51,080
Speaker 2: hide him under the blanket. That's rude. But some people

1015
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:51,880
Speaker 2: like that stuff.

1016
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:53,600
Speaker 5: So if that's yeah.

1017
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:56,120
Speaker 3: But the other stuff, I'll do it come home sweaty

1018
00:43:56,120 --> 00:43:56,600
Speaker 3: from working out.

1019
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:58,880
Speaker 4: He wants to see you sweaty, and he wants to

1020
00:43:58,880 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 4: see without map really does and Netflix is not cozy

1021
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:03,960
Speaker 4: with makeup.

1022
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 3: On anonymous, six months ago, something happened with this guy

1023
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:11,120
Speaker 3: I liked and his best friend. Okay, so here's the deal.

1024
00:44:11,120 --> 00:44:12,600
Speaker 3: So she and this guy have been talking on and

1025
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:15,759
Speaker 3: off for three years. She wanted a relationship with him,

1026
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 3: she said. She told him that she wanted that, but

1027
00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:20,760
Speaker 3: he never made a move. Six months ago, she flirted

1028
00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:23,799
Speaker 3: with his best friend. They all went out. Long story short,

1029
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:26,839
Speaker 3: the best friend was making moves and the first guy

1030
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:29,440
Speaker 3: ended up catching her and the friend messing around together.

1031
00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:32,359
Speaker 3: She says, I did not know he would care, since

1032
00:44:32,360 --> 00:44:34,279
Speaker 3: he never wanted to date me and he'd always be

1033
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:36,319
Speaker 3: with other girls. So what's wrong with me making out

1034
00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:39,359
Speaker 3: with his best friend? We've never crossed that line each other.

1035
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:41,719
Speaker 3: After that, we didn't talk much, though I did try

1036
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:44,479
Speaker 3: to apologize several times. He never let me explain my side.

1037
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:45,920
Speaker 3: The few times we did talk, he would make me

1038
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:48,479
Speaker 3: feel as though I was worthless to him now because

1039
00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:50,360
Speaker 3: I made out with his best friend and I just

1040
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:52,799
Speaker 3: couldn't handle that anymore, so I caught off all communication

1041
00:44:52,880 --> 00:44:55,200
Speaker 3: for my own mental health so I could finally move on.

1042
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:57,520
Speaker 3: My question is, how do you move past something like this,

1043
00:44:57,600 --> 00:44:59,600
Speaker 3: fully move on from a person you never really dated,

1044
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:02,399
Speaker 3: but you let them go without any closure. I hate

1045
00:45:02,400 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 3: burning bridges, I hate leaving things on bad terms with

1046
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 3: loose ends, So this is new to me. I'm twenty five,

1047
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:11,080
Speaker 3: thanks anonymous hashtag. Hope they're not listening, y'all.

1048
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:13,359
Speaker 2: I've actually been through something so similar to this.

1049
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:16,360
Speaker 4: I was hanging out with the guy and we weren't dating,

1050
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 4: but we had we had kiss, but that was like it,

1051
00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:22,759
Speaker 4: but it was very like you know, rare farm few

1052
00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 4: in between. But I ended up making out with his

1053
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:28,560
Speaker 4: little brother, which is similar to a best friend but

1054
00:45:29,200 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 4: maybe worse. And he wouldn't even talk to me or

1055
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:36,160
Speaker 4: let me like explain my side. There was I so

1056
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:38,960
Speaker 4: there was. I still to this day have no closure.

1057
00:45:39,000 --> 00:45:42,520
Speaker 4: He blocked me on social media. I still I'm still blocked,

1058
00:45:42,520 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 4: which is weird because I haven't even like I don't

1059
00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:46,839
Speaker 4: think about him often, but.

1060
00:45:48,440 --> 00:45:50,839
Speaker 2: Like it was the the hardest part for.

1061
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:54,759
Speaker 4: Me was that I couldn't just say, like, I'm I'm sorry,

1062
00:45:54,840 --> 00:45:57,360
Speaker 4: or like I don't know what happened or explain my

1063
00:45:57,440 --> 00:46:00,680
Speaker 4: situation or like my point because I think his brother

1064
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 4: he obviously his brother got to explain his side of things,

1065
00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:05,880
Speaker 4: and I'm like, well what did he tell you? Like

1066
00:46:05,960 --> 00:46:07,839
Speaker 4: I don't know what his side of the story was.

1067
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:10,800
Speaker 4: I mean, what happened happened, and it wasn't like anything

1068
00:46:10,840 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 4: could be fixed at that point. But I was I

1069
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:15,239
Speaker 4: was frustrated because I didn't even get a chance to

1070
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:17,560
Speaker 4: like explain or be able to even just say like

1071
00:46:17,600 --> 00:46:20,640
Speaker 4: I'm sorry that I hurt you or that made this uncomfortable.

1072
00:46:21,080 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 2: So my advice is.

1073
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:26,879
Speaker 1: Just here's your platform. Now maybe you can apologize now.

1074
00:46:27,080 --> 00:46:27,880
Speaker 1: Oh I'm sorry.

1075
00:46:27,880 --> 00:46:29,360
Speaker 3: I don't think you have anything to apologize for.

1076
00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:30,280
Speaker 5: I didn't.

1077
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:34,040
Speaker 4: Well technically it was it was he had feelings for

1078
00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:36,960
Speaker 4: me and I knew that he did, and and the

1079
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:39,520
Speaker 4: thing with the brother was so random and like there

1080
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 4: was no like this. I can't I'm not gonna say

1081
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:51,480
Speaker 4: it on here. I don't think they I doubt they listen. Yeah, no,

1082
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:52,839
Speaker 4: I would make.

1083
00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:57,440
Speaker 1: But I think it all comes down to like sometimes

1084
00:46:57,480 --> 00:47:00,319
Speaker 1: like when people are like dating, or like if someone

1085
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:02,520
Speaker 1: kisses something like I think kissing and dating is so

1086
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:05,440
Speaker 1: subjective to people, do you know what I mean? Like

1087
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:08,359
Speaker 1: some people could just kiss whoever and like not really care,

1088
00:47:08,760 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 1: and some people kiss could mean the world. I know,

1089
00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:14,360
Speaker 1: And I think that's kind.

1090
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:16,239
Speaker 3: Of So you broke this guy's heart. I mean, he

1091
00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 3: had feelings for you and you didn't reciprocate that.

1092
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:19,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think it was like broke heart.

1093
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:23,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, and like it was more of like I hurt

1094
00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:25,759
Speaker 4: him in the sense that I didn't want to date him,

1095
00:47:25,800 --> 00:47:29,040
Speaker 4: but then you know, had whatever with his little brother.

1096
00:47:29,200 --> 00:47:33,240
Speaker 4: So I think that I think his feelings were totally justified,

1097
00:47:33,320 --> 00:47:36,440
Speaker 4: and whether he still reacted the same after I talked

1098
00:47:37,520 --> 00:47:39,799
Speaker 4: it wouldn't matter. I just wanted to say, like be

1099
00:47:39,840 --> 00:47:41,560
Speaker 4: able to explain it and talk to him about it,

1100
00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:44,440
Speaker 4: and he wanted he wanted to do that, So that's unfortunate.

1101
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:46,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I totally get where she's coming from.

1102
00:47:47,080 --> 00:47:49,280
Speaker 3: Anonymous, though I don't think that necessarily she has anything

1103
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:51,400
Speaker 3: to apologize for it because it's a best friend, not

1104
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:53,920
Speaker 3: a brother. And also she made it clear that she

1105
00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:55,719
Speaker 3: was interested and he didn't take her up on that

1106
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:58,399
Speaker 3: right right, So she she really did went anything wrong here.

1107
00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:00,800
Speaker 3: It clearly clearly he has feelings for her or he

1108
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:02,080
Speaker 3: wouldn't be still hurt by this.

1109
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:04,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, So why didn't he ever make a move?

1110
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:05,840
Speaker 3: Why did he ever say anything?

1111
00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:08,719
Speaker 4: I think you said it. We've said it a lot.

1112
00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:10,840
Speaker 4: I think people we're all scared.

1113
00:48:10,920 --> 00:48:11,680
Speaker 3: Everybody's scared.

1114
00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:12,440
Speaker 2: We're all scared.

1115
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:17,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I think that it the fear has people

1116
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:20,719
Speaker 4: missing out on all opportunities. And instead of instead of

1117
00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:24,120
Speaker 4: accepting like, oh, I should have made that move and

1118
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:25,000
Speaker 4: since I didn't, I.

1119
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:28,600
Speaker 2: Lost out, he's lashing out at her, making her feel

1120
00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 2: like she.

1121
00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:31,719
Speaker 4: Did something wrong and putting the blame on her. So

1122
00:48:31,840 --> 00:48:34,080
Speaker 4: I think she needs to just move on and not

1123
00:48:34,800 --> 00:48:38,200
Speaker 4: like not try to get like, try to let him

1124
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 4: explain it to her. And I think eventually, if he

1125
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:43,360
Speaker 4: really likes her and cares about her, he might come around.

1126
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:46,480
Speaker 3: Should she make any efforts because if she still has

1127
00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:49,120
Speaker 3: feelings for him, should she try to mend this bridge

1128
00:48:49,160 --> 00:48:51,160
Speaker 3: at all? Because he clearly has feelings for her that

1129
00:48:51,239 --> 00:48:53,800
Speaker 3: maybe that maybe this was what it took to find

1130
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:56,000
Speaker 3: that out and they can build something from this.

1131
00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:58,960
Speaker 4: I feel like she tried already, Like I feel like

1132
00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:01,080
Speaker 4: at this point, if she's kind of tried to make

1133
00:49:01,120 --> 00:49:03,920
Speaker 4: amends and he's been the one that makes her feel

1134
00:49:03,920 --> 00:49:07,799
Speaker 4: guilty like he Yeah, then she needs to move on,

1135
00:49:08,440 --> 00:49:10,560
Speaker 4: which is I know it's easier said than none, But

1136
00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 4: eventually you do move on. You just don't talk to him,

1137
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:15,160
Speaker 4: You don't see them out of sight, out of mind

1138
00:49:15,200 --> 00:49:17,879
Speaker 4: a lot of times. And then if he makes if

1139
00:49:17,920 --> 00:49:21,120
Speaker 4: he's able to be mature about the situation and really

1140
00:49:21,280 --> 00:49:23,320
Speaker 4: wants to you, then he's going to come back around

1141
00:49:23,320 --> 00:49:23,880
Speaker 4: at some point.

1142
00:49:24,280 --> 00:49:25,440
Speaker 1: That was excellent advice.

1143
00:49:25,560 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 3: It was I picked out one that's directly to Becca

1144
00:49:29,080 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 3: and one that's directly for Tanya. Let's start with Becca.

1145
00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:34,239
Speaker 3: On the last podcast, Brookes says, you all touched a

1146
00:49:34,239 --> 00:49:36,399
Speaker 3: little bit on Becka's experience on The Bachelor. She even

1147
00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:38,520
Speaker 3: went to say that she wasn't too interested in either

1148
00:49:38,560 --> 00:49:41,279
Speaker 3: of those relationship I got. But since Becka made it

1149
00:49:41,280 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 3: to the final two on Chris Soul season, would she

1150
00:49:43,680 --> 00:49:47,160
Speaker 3: have accepted his proposal at that time if he chose her?

1151
00:49:48,760 --> 00:49:48,880
Speaker 5: So?

1152
00:49:49,920 --> 00:49:51,640
Speaker 2: Oh wait, go ahead, there's another.

1153
00:49:51,480 --> 00:49:53,800
Speaker 3: There is also with Tanya ever consider going on the Bachelor?

1154
00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 3: She would kill it.

1155
00:49:55,080 --> 00:50:00,360
Speaker 1: She would kill it, kill it, kill me. I'd be

1156
00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:01,600
Speaker 1: an emotional basket cade.

1157
00:50:01,640 --> 00:50:03,040
Speaker 3: But you would go on there, wouldn't you?

1158
00:50:03,080 --> 00:50:03,239
Speaker 5: What?

1159
00:50:03,320 --> 00:50:04,640
Speaker 3: You'd go on there, wouldn't you.

1160
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:05,759
Speaker 1: No, I don't think I could do it.

1161
00:50:05,840 --> 00:50:06,160
Speaker 3: Really.

1162
00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:08,440
Speaker 1: I think if I was the one that got to date,

1163
00:50:09,239 --> 00:50:10,719
Speaker 1: I think I could do that, But I don't think

1164
00:50:10,719 --> 00:50:11,080
Speaker 1: I could.

1165
00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:11,680
Speaker 3: No.

1166
00:50:11,800 --> 00:50:13,839
Speaker 4: We do a lot of training before you went on,

1167
00:50:14,200 --> 00:50:16,920
Speaker 4: a lot of mental emotional training to get you ready.

1168
00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:19,520
Speaker 1: I think it would really mess with me, like dating

1169
00:50:19,560 --> 00:50:21,520
Speaker 1: the same guy and like, you know me, I like

1170
00:50:21,600 --> 00:50:23,920
Speaker 1: making girlfriends. I feel like I would like be friends.

1171
00:50:23,640 --> 00:50:24,800
Speaker 5: With these naturally.

1172
00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:27,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, but then I'd be like, but I.

1173
00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:30,839
Speaker 2: Like that guy. That's exactly what happens. Yeah, it was wrong.

1174
00:50:30,880 --> 00:50:31,920
Speaker 1: I think it would be hard for me.

1175
00:50:32,040 --> 00:50:32,960
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1176
00:50:33,239 --> 00:50:35,360
Speaker 4: I for first of all, when I said that, I

1177
00:50:35,800 --> 00:50:38,360
Speaker 4: don't know what how, I what contacts I said it in.

1178
00:50:38,760 --> 00:50:41,759
Speaker 4: I liked both of those guys, Chris and Ben, and

1179
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:45,680
Speaker 4: with both of them, my problem was that it was

1180
00:50:45,719 --> 00:50:47,880
Speaker 4: such a short amount of time, which I knew, especially

1181
00:50:47,960 --> 00:50:50,279
Speaker 4: going into Ben season. But with Ben, I was a

1182
00:50:50,320 --> 00:50:53,640
Speaker 4: lot more intentional about why I went on specifically to

1183
00:50:53,680 --> 00:50:56,400
Speaker 4: meet Ben, so I was already had those feelings for

1184
00:50:56,480 --> 00:50:58,759
Speaker 4: him starting off. Whereas Chris, I hadn't watched the show,

1185
00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:00,200
Speaker 4: so I didn't know much about.

1186
00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:00,600
Speaker 2: Him at all.

1187
00:51:00,880 --> 00:51:03,960
Speaker 4: Even if I'd like him, I don't know if I've

1188
00:51:04,000 --> 00:51:07,320
Speaker 4: ever said this publicly, but I'm not under contract anymore.

1189
00:51:07,400 --> 00:51:12,919
Speaker 4: So when I was on Chris the season towards the end,

1190
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:15,960
Speaker 4: I told Chris that if he proposed me, I couldn't

1191
00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:16,359
Speaker 4: say yes.

1192
00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:17,200
Speaker 2: And I don't think they.

1193
00:51:17,120 --> 00:51:21,279
Speaker 4: Showed this because I knew that if he proposed and

1194
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:23,600
Speaker 4: I said yes, I would be saying it just to

1195
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:28,359
Speaker 4: appease everyone who was watching the show and like him.

1196
00:51:28,520 --> 00:51:30,279
Speaker 4: And you know, I didn't think it was fair because

1197
00:51:30,280 --> 00:51:32,720
Speaker 4: I knew that my heart wasn't there. And I also

1198
00:51:32,800 --> 00:51:35,160
Speaker 4: had told him that I wasn't in love with him yet,

1199
00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 4: and so for me to accept a proposal after I

1200
00:51:38,040 --> 00:51:40,360
Speaker 4: had already said I wasn't in love with him seems

1201
00:51:40,400 --> 00:51:45,279
Speaker 4: so backwards to me. And so I told him like, basically,

1202
00:51:45,560 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 4: if you want to choose me, choose me, but I

1203
00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:51,560
Speaker 4: don't propose to me, right, And so that was kind

1204
00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:55,319
Speaker 4: of that was why. That's why when it ended the

1205
00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:58,120
Speaker 4: next day, well that happened the night before that.

1206
00:51:58,120 --> 00:51:59,600
Speaker 2: I don't think they showed it in that order.

1207
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:01,680
Speaker 4: But when he broke up with me in the barn,

1208
00:52:01,840 --> 00:52:04,560
Speaker 4: there was no I wasn't there wasn't this like shock

1209
00:52:04,680 --> 00:52:07,880
Speaker 4: because when I told him that. I was like, I

1210
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:10,040
Speaker 4: mean that just changed the game as far as.

1211
00:52:10,120 --> 00:52:12,400
Speaker 1: Well, and he's probably getting all this pressure from my

1212
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:16,040
Speaker 1: producers proposal Big Finale.

1213
00:52:15,719 --> 00:52:18,480
Speaker 4: And I think there was the season before was Juan

1214
00:52:18,520 --> 00:52:20,759
Speaker 4: Pablo and he didn't propose. He just was like, I

1215
00:52:20,800 --> 00:52:22,560
Speaker 4: want to date you, and they were like, we can't,

1216
00:52:22,640 --> 00:52:25,279
Speaker 4: like that can't happen again, you know, so they need

1217
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:25,800
Speaker 4: a proposal.

1218
00:52:25,800 --> 00:52:28,120
Speaker 2: And I genuinely think Whitney.

1219
00:52:27,800 --> 00:52:29,880
Speaker 4: Was like who he want, Like as far as what

1220
00:52:30,000 --> 00:52:32,480
Speaker 4: he came on the show for, I think he that's

1221
00:52:32,480 --> 00:52:33,120
Speaker 4: who he wanted.

1222
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:35,840
Speaker 2: But I think for we.

1223
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:38,080
Speaker 4: Had this like we liked each other and we had

1224
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:40,839
Speaker 4: chemistry and it was like I was I think there

1225
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:43,080
Speaker 4: was the hard to get aspect of it for him

1226
00:52:43,080 --> 00:52:46,000
Speaker 4: that he was intrigued by. But yeah, I basically told

1227
00:52:46,040 --> 00:52:49,400
Speaker 4: him that I wanted I wantn't say yes to proposal.

1228
00:52:53,920 --> 00:52:56,719
Speaker 4: So it was it was a tough conversation, but I

1229
00:52:56,760 --> 00:52:58,880
Speaker 4: was like, Okay, I either say yes and I'm like

1230
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:01,600
Speaker 4: what did I just do? Or he proposes and I

1231
00:53:01,640 --> 00:53:04,359
Speaker 4: say no and I'm like the most hated person ever.

1232
00:53:04,480 --> 00:53:06,960
Speaker 3: That's a lot of pressure national television. He's down on

1233
00:53:06,960 --> 00:53:09,600
Speaker 3: one knee everybody watching. I mean, you'd have to say yes.

1234
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:12,360
Speaker 2: I'm just like silent cut to commercial.

1235
00:53:13,280 --> 00:53:16,520
Speaker 1: I was just like, he's like, okay, say nothing if

1236
00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:18,280
Speaker 1: you mean yes link.

1237
00:53:20,480 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1238
00:53:20,719 --> 00:53:21,880
Speaker 2: I mean it is a lot of pressure.

1239
00:53:21,880 --> 00:53:24,360
Speaker 4: And you think about these couples that go on the

1240
00:53:24,400 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 4: show and they get engaged and they break up soon after.

1241
00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:30,000
Speaker 2: It's like yeah, because the guy's down on one knee.

1242
00:53:30,040 --> 00:53:30,799
Speaker 5: Like a lot of.

1243
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:33,719
Speaker 4: People aren't gonna say no in that situation. I just

1244
00:53:33,719 --> 00:53:35,680
Speaker 4: took care of it before it could happen what he

1245
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:36,920
Speaker 4: ended up breaking up with me.

1246
00:53:37,360 --> 00:53:39,520
Speaker 2: Ever, it was a really a mood point.

1247
00:53:39,680 --> 00:53:42,520
Speaker 3: Someone say that that's you sabotage that relationship, just the

1248
00:53:42,520 --> 00:53:43,440
Speaker 3: way you sabotage.

1249
00:53:43,719 --> 00:53:44,000
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1250
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:47,200
Speaker 4: I sabotaged most of relationships, but that one was more

1251
00:53:47,280 --> 00:53:50,080
Speaker 4: for that was I actually was thinking about him in

1252
00:53:50,080 --> 00:53:52,080
Speaker 4: that situation because I was like, well.

1253
00:53:52,000 --> 00:53:54,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's scary.

1254
00:53:54,440 --> 00:53:57,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, fifty to fifty chances you didn't get proposed

1255
00:53:57,200 --> 00:53:59,040
Speaker 3: to it if you're not feeling it, I think, yeah, thing.

1256
00:53:59,239 --> 00:54:03,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, ballsy conversation though, I was you remember I remember

1257
00:54:03,440 --> 00:54:05,360
Speaker 1: after you a good mojo. I feel like you probably

1258
00:54:05,360 --> 00:54:11,720
Speaker 1: had some major yeah, Joe, Yeah, shed a solid nine.

1259
00:54:11,880 --> 00:54:14,680
Speaker 3: This one's just for Tanya from Christa. She wants to

1260
00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:17,400
Speaker 3: comment on Tanya's outlook of her tenth partner being her husband.

1261
00:54:17,440 --> 00:54:19,279
Speaker 3: We discussed last week that Tony has been with nine

1262
00:54:19,280 --> 00:54:21,840
Speaker 3: men and she's planning on not going into double digits,

1263
00:54:21,880 --> 00:54:24,759
Speaker 3: or at least going over double digits and marrying number ten.

1264
00:54:25,360 --> 00:54:27,080
Speaker 3: Throughout my life, I had the same outlook. All of

1265
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:29,799
Speaker 3: my friends thought I was nuts in college, a little

1266
00:54:29,800 --> 00:54:32,080
Speaker 3: too much fun and got to nine. Lo and behold,

1267
00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:34,000
Speaker 3: I met a great guy who turned into number ten

1268
00:54:34,160 --> 00:54:36,720
Speaker 3: and then turned into my husband my final semester of school.

1269
00:54:37,200 --> 00:54:40,480
Speaker 3: Your idea can work. Loved the podcast. Keep it up, Tanya,

1270
00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:43,120
Speaker 3: Your laugh was one of the best I've ever heard. Christa.

1271
00:54:43,360 --> 00:54:44,280
Speaker 3: I agree with Christa.

1272
00:54:44,600 --> 00:54:45,479
Speaker 2: Wow too.

1273
00:54:45,760 --> 00:54:50,840
Speaker 1: Christa things that's like, that's nice positive reinforcement from a listener,

1274
00:54:50,920 --> 00:54:53,920
Speaker 1: and I thank you. That's nice because everybody thinks I'm

1275
00:54:53,920 --> 00:54:55,520
Speaker 1: crazy too. When I said I had like a, I

1276
00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:56,239
Speaker 1: didn't want to go.

1277
00:54:56,200 --> 00:54:58,240
Speaker 3: Past single digits.

1278
00:54:58,320 --> 00:55:00,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, i' it goes crazy.

1279
00:55:01,840 --> 00:55:05,040
Speaker 3: Elizabeth has an interesting question. She's obsessed with your podcast.

1280
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:06,799
Speaker 3: She says, I listen when I walk my dog and

1281
00:55:06,840 --> 00:55:08,480
Speaker 3: he always looks at me like I'm crazy. When I

1282
00:55:08,560 --> 00:55:11,879
Speaker 3: die laughing at everything you guys say. Her best friend

1283
00:55:11,960 --> 00:55:14,839
Speaker 3: just got engaged and she really hates the guy. Oh no,

1284
00:55:15,120 --> 00:55:17,200
Speaker 3: He's done some terrible things over the years that they're

1285
00:55:17,239 --> 00:55:20,920
Speaker 3: on again off again relationship. Cheating, lying, blowing her off,

1286
00:55:21,160 --> 00:55:23,120
Speaker 3: breaking up with her, you name it, he's done it.

1287
00:55:23,200 --> 00:55:25,840
Speaker 3: She always forgives him. They're good for a few months,

1288
00:55:25,920 --> 00:55:28,520
Speaker 3: then the cycle repeats. She's tried to move on many times,

1289
00:55:28,560 --> 00:55:30,400
Speaker 3: she blocks his numbers, she ignores him, but then he

1290
00:55:30,400 --> 00:55:32,600
Speaker 3: shows up at her apartment or her work and convinces

1291
00:55:32,640 --> 00:55:35,120
Speaker 3: her to get back with him. I've had many conversations

1292
00:55:35,160 --> 00:55:36,960
Speaker 3: with my friend about how much better she is than him,

1293
00:55:36,960 --> 00:55:38,680
Speaker 3: and how she deserves so much more, but she is

1294
00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:41,759
Speaker 3: committed to him. After three years of spending so much

1295
00:55:41,800 --> 00:55:44,640
Speaker 3: time and energy to convince her otherwise, I've decided to

1296
00:55:44,680 --> 00:55:47,440
Speaker 3: support her decision to be with him. What I do

1297
00:55:47,560 --> 00:55:50,840
Speaker 3: need is advice on this. I know she's going to

1298
00:55:50,880 --> 00:55:52,920
Speaker 3: ask me to be her maid of honor. How am

1299
00:55:52,960 --> 00:55:54,719
Speaker 3: I going to give a nice speech at her wedding

1300
00:55:54,800 --> 00:55:57,120
Speaker 3: without lying and saying I love them to gather and

1301
00:55:57,160 --> 00:55:59,719
Speaker 3: I love the relationship. I truly cannot think of what

1302
00:55:59,719 --> 00:56:01,879
Speaker 3: I would say any advice. That's a tough one.

1303
00:56:01,960 --> 00:56:06,280
Speaker 4: Oh no, I think this is easy I've been in

1304
00:56:06,360 --> 00:56:09,480
Speaker 4: a situation where I've been in a wedding and the

1305
00:56:09,560 --> 00:56:14,479
Speaker 4: bridesmaid and the grooms like the what's the main guy?

1306
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:17,319
Speaker 2: Oh, what's up a guy's name?

1307
00:56:19,000 --> 00:56:22,600
Speaker 4: Where they when they deliver speeches, they focus on their

1308
00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:26,480
Speaker 4: memories with the bride or the groom and maybe at

1309
00:56:26,520 --> 00:56:28,960
Speaker 4: the end it's like she could even just say I

1310
00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:31,520
Speaker 4: just want you to be happy, and it keeps it

1311
00:56:31,560 --> 00:56:34,399
Speaker 4: a little more vague. But I think you focus when

1312
00:56:34,440 --> 00:56:36,920
Speaker 4: giving a speech, you focus on your memories with her

1313
00:56:37,000 --> 00:56:40,480
Speaker 4: and y'all's friendship and that beautiful aspect of why you're

1314
00:56:40,560 --> 00:56:43,319
Speaker 4: that person standing next to her, and not make it

1315
00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 4: so much about them as a couple.

1316
00:56:44,760 --> 00:56:48,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that nothing good comes from you sharing

1317
00:56:48,760 --> 00:56:52,360
Speaker 1: your dislike of her fiance, to be totally honest, unless

1318
00:56:52,360 --> 00:56:57,719
Speaker 1: he's like harming her in any way. You don't know

1319
00:56:57,760 --> 00:56:59,920
Speaker 1: what it's like being on the inside of anybody's anyone

1320
00:57:00,120 --> 00:57:03,120
Speaker 1: relationship and you're not in that relationship. She is your

1321
00:57:03,120 --> 00:57:04,799
Speaker 1: best friend, and I think you have to like just

1322
00:57:05,040 --> 00:57:07,080
Speaker 1: respect that she sees something in him that you may

1323
00:57:07,120 --> 00:57:10,799
Speaker 1: not see and you have to work past it. As

1324
00:57:10,920 --> 00:57:13,000
Speaker 1: much as that sucks. I've had friends at dated guys

1325
00:57:13,000 --> 00:57:15,520
Speaker 1: that I didn't particularly love, and I had to just

1326
00:57:15,600 --> 00:57:18,960
Speaker 1: swallow it and say, I'm a different person than them,

1327
00:57:19,000 --> 00:57:19,200
Speaker 1: you know.

1328
00:57:19,520 --> 00:57:22,080
Speaker 4: But I'm reading it's not like, oh, he just has

1329
00:57:22,160 --> 00:57:23,320
Speaker 4: quirks that she doesn't like.

1330
00:57:23,520 --> 00:57:24,480
Speaker 5: I just reread it.

1331
00:57:24,480 --> 00:57:28,560
Speaker 2: It's like cheating, blowing her off, breaking up with her constantly.

1332
00:57:28,680 --> 00:57:29,560
Speaker 2: It's kind of lying.

1333
00:57:30,360 --> 00:57:33,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, but like that's not you know what I mean.

1334
00:57:33,640 --> 00:57:36,360
Speaker 4: I'm just saying it's not that's not like justifiable behavior.

1335
00:57:36,440 --> 00:57:39,120
Speaker 4: It's not like, oh, you don't know, it's like, oh,

1336
00:57:39,160 --> 00:57:40,200
Speaker 4: he cheats on her.

1337
00:57:41,240 --> 00:57:43,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's for her to decide.

1338
00:57:43,640 --> 00:57:45,680
Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, she makes that decision. I'm just saying,

1339
00:57:45,720 --> 00:57:47,800
Speaker 4: it's not like she's just like I don't like him,

1340
00:57:47,800 --> 00:57:48,480
Speaker 4: I don't like right.

1341
00:57:49,360 --> 00:57:53,440
Speaker 1: But I think like as friends were there to pick

1342
00:57:53,560 --> 00:57:55,280
Speaker 1: up the pieces, you know what I mean if it

1343
00:57:55,280 --> 00:57:57,240
Speaker 1: doesn't go well, Like you're still going to be there

1344
00:57:57,280 --> 00:57:58,080
Speaker 1: for her no matter what.

1345
00:57:58,280 --> 00:58:00,000
Speaker 4: You don't you also don't want to see your friends

1346
00:58:00,120 --> 00:58:01,840
Speaker 4: have to pick up the pieces, like you want to

1347
00:58:01,880 --> 00:58:04,640
Speaker 4: prevent her from having right.

1348
00:58:04,720 --> 00:58:06,960
Speaker 1: But I think at this point, now that they're engaged,

1349
00:58:07,360 --> 00:58:09,440
Speaker 1: it's almost too far gone, you know what I mean.

1350
00:58:09,560 --> 00:58:12,080
Speaker 1: Like I feel like that point may have that ship

1351
00:58:12,160 --> 00:58:15,080
Speaker 1: may have sailed you know what I mean. Yeah, I

1352
00:58:15,120 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 1: mean I don't know.

1353
00:58:15,960 --> 00:58:17,200
Speaker 3: So there's nothing she can do.

1354
00:58:17,360 --> 00:58:20,080
Speaker 2: Well if she's she seems like she's moved past the fact.

1355
00:58:20,600 --> 00:58:21,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess she's accepted.

1356
00:58:21,680 --> 00:58:23,640
Speaker 4: No, it's more about like the she's the maid of

1357
00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:26,200
Speaker 4: honor and has to give a speech, and what does

1358
00:58:26,240 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 4: she say?

1359
00:58:26,680 --> 00:58:29,800
Speaker 2: That's not lying. But also.

1360
00:58:32,080 --> 00:58:35,640
Speaker 1: You can find a really amazing poem, like a poem

1361
00:58:35,760 --> 00:58:38,160
Speaker 1: that like makes you think of their relationship or whatever,

1362
00:58:38,200 --> 00:58:39,800
Speaker 1: and like incorporate that somehow.

1363
00:58:41,040 --> 00:58:44,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean there's Yeah, like I said, there's ways

1364
00:58:44,480 --> 00:58:47,040
Speaker 4: to focus on her only and not and.

1365
00:58:47,120 --> 00:58:50,840
Speaker 3: Your relationship with her, not their relationship, your friendship over

1366
00:58:50,880 --> 00:58:53,480
Speaker 3: the years, and how you've noticed since then and the

1367
00:58:53,480 --> 00:58:55,920
Speaker 3: first time you saw her and she had races and

1368
00:58:55,960 --> 00:58:58,560
Speaker 3: she spelled putting on her shirt, you know, stuff like that.

1369
00:58:58,560 --> 00:59:00,000
Speaker 3: That's cute and everyone's gonna last.

1370
00:59:00,160 --> 00:59:02,600
Speaker 5: I think that'll keep it light, keep it light and funny.

1371
00:59:02,720 --> 00:59:06,320
Speaker 3: Your friend knows how you feel about him. Yeah, there's

1372
00:59:06,320 --> 00:59:06,920
Speaker 3: a way around it.

1373
00:59:07,040 --> 00:59:07,280
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1374
00:59:07,360 --> 00:59:09,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, but there's nothing she can do to get her

1375
00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:09,680
Speaker 3: away from this guy.

1376
00:59:09,760 --> 00:59:14,200
Speaker 4: Huh, So as she's had many conversations, So I'm guessing.

1377
00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:16,080
Speaker 1: No, Yeah, I'm gonna I'm gonna go ahead and say

1378
00:59:16,160 --> 00:59:16,920
Speaker 1: abort mission.

1379
00:59:18,920 --> 00:59:21,880
Speaker 3: Elsie Tanya just in a nutshell. She wants to know

1380
00:59:21,920 --> 00:59:24,400
Speaker 3: how to move on. She says, you've talked about your

1381
00:59:24,400 --> 00:59:27,080
Speaker 3: long term relationship and how difficult was to get over it,

1382
00:59:27,120 --> 00:59:29,040
Speaker 3: and she's going through that right now. It's been four

1383
00:59:29,120 --> 00:59:32,120
Speaker 3: months since they ended it. It wasn't a very bitter breakup.

1384
00:59:32,120 --> 00:59:34,720
Speaker 3: They did it together, but she wants some advice on

1385
00:59:34,840 --> 00:59:37,000
Speaker 3: what she can do to move on. I'm not religious,

1386
00:59:37,080 --> 00:59:39,920
Speaker 3: I am in therapy. I downloaded Bumble, but it made

1387
00:59:39,960 --> 00:59:40,760
Speaker 3: me more depressed.

1388
00:59:40,920 --> 00:59:43,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't start. I mean, I'll hold off on

1389
00:59:43,840 --> 00:59:46,440
Speaker 1: the dating apps for a while. I would read it.

1390
00:59:46,520 --> 00:59:49,200
Speaker 1: It's called a breakup because it's broken, and that sounds

1391
00:59:49,240 --> 00:59:53,040
Speaker 1: so stupid, but that book is so fantastic. It really

1392
00:59:53,080 --> 00:59:55,360
Speaker 1: like kind of breaks it down and kind of makes

1393
00:59:55,400 --> 00:59:59,560
Speaker 1: you feel a lot better and like not like what

1394
00:59:59,600 --> 01:00:03,960
Speaker 1: you're going through isn't permanent. No, yeah, it's not permanent.

1395
01:00:03,960 --> 01:00:06,520
Speaker 1: And it's also you're not like crazy for feeling the

1396
01:00:06,520 --> 01:00:09,240
Speaker 1: way that you're feeling. So I would recommend that book.

1397
01:00:09,280 --> 01:00:13,160
Speaker 1: I really enjoyed. I read the book three times. I

1398
01:00:13,200 --> 01:00:15,360
Speaker 1: always I always take it to the next step, do

1399
01:00:15,360 --> 01:00:17,720
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like it's never just like Tanya, like, oh,

1400
01:00:17,720 --> 01:00:19,320
Speaker 1: here's one thing. It's like I take it to the

1401
01:00:19,320 --> 01:00:22,480
Speaker 1: next level like three times. So I read it three

1402
01:00:22,480 --> 01:00:26,720
Speaker 1: times and highlighted it, and I would just say, kind

1403
01:00:26,760 --> 01:00:28,640
Speaker 1: of try and go out with your friends. Spend a

1404
01:00:28,680 --> 01:00:30,720
Speaker 1: lot of time with your friends. I didn't really like

1405
01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:33,800
Speaker 1: being alone. That was like my biggest things. Well, I

1406
01:00:33,800 --> 01:00:35,560
Speaker 1: think the thing is like when you come out of

1407
01:00:35,600 --> 01:00:38,320
Speaker 1: a relationship, you're used to doing things in pairs, you

1408
01:00:38,400 --> 01:00:39,560
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like you used to go into

1409
01:00:39,560 --> 01:00:42,400
Speaker 1: weddings with somebody you're going everything is like oh yeah,

1410
01:00:42,440 --> 01:00:45,760
Speaker 1: like you're just used to having that person, and so

1411
01:00:45,880 --> 01:00:48,040
Speaker 1: like the first couple of things that you do when

1412
01:00:48,040 --> 01:00:52,400
Speaker 1: you in you'res by yourself. I think it's like really jarring,

1413
01:00:52,840 --> 01:00:54,640
Speaker 1: you know. So I think just like spending time hanging

1414
01:00:54,680 --> 01:00:56,840
Speaker 1: out with your friends, hang out with your family, just

1415
01:00:56,840 --> 01:00:58,600
Speaker 1: like keeping busy is like super important.

1416
01:00:58,720 --> 01:01:00,320
Speaker 3: What are you reading now? You said over the weekend

1417
01:01:00,360 --> 01:01:03,520
Speaker 3: you did some reading when you weren't watching.

1418
01:01:03,840 --> 01:01:06,280
Speaker 1: It's called You're a Badass.

1419
01:01:06,480 --> 01:01:10,280
Speaker 5: Oh I want to read. Wait, I think it's you

1420
01:01:10,360 --> 01:01:11,200
Speaker 5: are a Badass.

1421
01:01:11,400 --> 01:01:11,920
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1422
01:01:12,320 --> 01:01:13,560
Speaker 1: A listener recommended it to me.

1423
01:01:14,400 --> 01:01:16,680
Speaker 2: Jojo posted a that's the same book.

1424
01:01:16,720 --> 01:01:18,680
Speaker 5: Oh okay, yeah, like it's really.

1425
01:01:18,440 --> 01:01:20,760
Speaker 3: Good to stop doubting your greatness and start living an

1426
01:01:20,760 --> 01:01:21,360
Speaker 3: awesome life.

1427
01:01:21,480 --> 01:01:24,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I'm getting my mojo bass.

1428
01:01:24,040 --> 01:01:27,240
Speaker 2: Maybe that's maybe that's my mojo, the start of my mojo.

1429
01:01:27,600 --> 01:01:30,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm really I was like, I went two pages

1430
01:01:30,480 --> 01:01:32,040
Speaker 1: and I wanted to vomit. But that was just because

1431
01:01:32,040 --> 01:01:35,360
Speaker 1: I wasn't feeling well. But that's what I'm reading where

1432
01:01:35,360 --> 01:01:36,600
Speaker 1: you should get it. We should read together.

1433
01:01:36,840 --> 01:01:40,040
Speaker 2: Want to vomit because I wasn't feeling sick.

1434
01:01:40,840 --> 01:01:43,040
Speaker 4: Oh you were saying, because like you had to stop

1435
01:01:43,040 --> 01:01:44,920
Speaker 4: reading because it was hard to look.

1436
01:01:44,760 --> 01:01:47,000
Speaker 2: At yeah pages, Yeah, I got it.

1437
01:01:47,040 --> 01:01:49,040
Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, do you ever read and you

1438
01:01:49,080 --> 01:01:49,680
Speaker 3: never read fiction?

1439
01:01:49,760 --> 01:01:50,880
Speaker 1: Huh?

1440
01:01:51,080 --> 01:01:51,440
Speaker 3: Becca?

1441
01:01:51,680 --> 01:01:52,040
Speaker 2: I love.

1442
01:01:52,240 --> 01:01:54,360
Speaker 5: I love weirdly, I love to read.

1443
01:01:54,400 --> 01:01:56,800
Speaker 4: Like if I get a book and I'm like zoned

1444
01:01:56,920 --> 01:01:58,240
Speaker 4: and don't want to do It's kind of how I

1445
01:01:58,280 --> 01:02:00,400
Speaker 4: get when I'm like binge watching a show, like I

1446
01:02:00,400 --> 01:02:02,480
Speaker 4: don't want to do anything until I finish the book.

1447
01:02:02,800 --> 01:02:05,440
Speaker 4: But it takes like it takes a good story. It

1448
01:02:05,440 --> 01:02:08,720
Speaker 4: takes a good first few pages to hold my attention.

1449
01:02:09,080 --> 01:02:10,280
Speaker 1: Did you read Redeeming Love?

1450
01:02:10,520 --> 01:02:13,480
Speaker 2: Oh my, that was my favorite book of all time.

1451
01:02:13,680 --> 01:02:17,040
Speaker 2: That's fiction, but it's based off of the book. Yeah,

1452
01:02:17,080 --> 01:02:17,720
Speaker 2: Bible story.

1453
01:02:17,800 --> 01:02:21,040
Speaker 4: Yeah. I like this from Amanda. It's kind of funny.

1454
01:02:21,080 --> 01:02:23,800
Speaker 4: It says, Hi, Beckatania and friends. This made me laugh

1455
01:02:23,840 --> 01:02:25,480
Speaker 4: and I just thought I would share with you, guys.

1456
01:02:25,680 --> 01:02:28,320
Speaker 4: I was re listening to old podcast episodes today, in

1457
01:02:28,360 --> 01:02:32,560
Speaker 4: particular episode five, double texting Dilemma. I decided to see

1458
01:02:32,600 --> 01:02:36,080
Speaker 4: how far this dilemma goes, so went straight to my boyfriend. So,

1459
01:02:36,120 --> 01:02:38,960
Speaker 4: she says. She sent a screenshot of her text. So

1460
01:02:39,040 --> 01:02:42,720
Speaker 4: she says, I need your opinion because of the topic

1461
01:02:42,760 --> 01:02:46,000
Speaker 4: that's being discussed on my podcast. Does double texting matter?

1462
01:02:46,080 --> 01:02:49,000
Speaker 4: After you were dating? And he said, what's double texting?

1463
01:02:49,040 --> 01:02:51,400
Speaker 4: And she said, hey, how are you? What do you

1464
01:02:51,440 --> 01:02:53,680
Speaker 4: want to do tonight? Then she said this is now

1465
01:02:53,720 --> 01:02:57,840
Speaker 4: a quad text and he said lol damn blowing me up.

1466
01:02:58,400 --> 01:03:00,280
Speaker 4: And she said, are you still into me? And he

1467
01:03:00,360 --> 01:03:01,360
Speaker 4: said absolutely.

1468
01:03:01,920 --> 01:03:07,320
Speaker 5: The double texting is okay. After your dating, I do.

1469
01:03:07,320 --> 01:03:10,320
Speaker 6: Fourteen texts in a row and things are going just mine.

1470
01:03:13,320 --> 01:03:15,880
Speaker 2: Thanks Amanda, and thanks for re listening to episodes.

1471
01:03:15,920 --> 01:03:17,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, I like to hear.

1472
01:03:17,920 --> 01:03:20,680
Speaker 1: Okay, I love this girl. This says Hi, friends, we're friends, right.

1473
01:03:21,760 --> 01:03:23,040
Speaker 1: I don't even know her email says that.

1474
01:03:23,120 --> 01:03:26,800
Speaker 3: His lover, oh, we could do it, okay, since you

1475
01:03:26,840 --> 01:03:28,720
Speaker 3: started it. I've been in love with my guy friends

1476
01:03:28,720 --> 01:03:30,600
Speaker 3: for years. I did someone else, but as soon as

1477
01:03:30,600 --> 01:03:33,280
Speaker 3: that ended, I was immediately drawn back to this friend

1478
01:03:33,280 --> 01:03:35,360
Speaker 3: of mine. I don't think you feel it's the same way,

1479
01:03:35,360 --> 01:03:38,120
Speaker 3: but it's hard to say. We're kind of friends with benefits,

1480
01:03:38,440 --> 01:03:40,760
Speaker 3: but not on a regular basis, and kind of because

1481
01:03:40,800 --> 01:03:43,960
Speaker 3: it's g rated. I'm also saving myself from marriage that

1482
01:03:44,160 --> 01:03:45,760
Speaker 3: itself has been going on for like a year and

1483
01:03:45,800 --> 01:03:47,840
Speaker 3: a half. I'm confused, but I don't want to lose

1484
01:03:47,840 --> 01:03:50,080
Speaker 3: our relationship. I feel like that could happen if I'm

1485
01:03:50,080 --> 01:03:52,000
Speaker 3: honored my feelings. Have you ever been into friends with

1486
01:03:52,000 --> 01:03:55,600
Speaker 3: benefits situation? You think there are ever any feelings behind it?

1487
01:03:55,720 --> 01:03:58,160
Speaker 3: Or are they just using you? Curious for your opinions.

1488
01:03:58,160 --> 01:04:00,280
Speaker 3: I'm twenty four. I want to be marry and have

1489
01:04:00,280 --> 01:04:02,640
Speaker 3: a family desperately. I'm too old to be doing the

1490
01:04:02,680 --> 01:04:04,840
Speaker 3: FWB thing, although I don't think that's true. I think

1491
01:04:04,840 --> 01:04:06,240
Speaker 3: a lot of people your age do that.

1492
01:04:06,520 --> 01:04:13,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I feel like Robert and I before we

1493
01:04:13,280 --> 01:04:17,600
Speaker 4: started dating in a relationship, or like friends with benefits.

1494
01:04:17,280 --> 01:04:22,439
Speaker 3: There's always feelings too, there's at least feelings on one side,

1495
01:04:22,440 --> 01:04:24,040
Speaker 3: but I feel like there's some feelings.

1496
01:04:23,680 --> 01:04:27,120
Speaker 4: On there, has some sort of reciprocation. It's just like

1497
01:04:27,160 --> 01:04:29,040
Speaker 4: how deep is that? Is it enough to be in

1498
01:04:29,120 --> 01:04:32,440
Speaker 4: a relationship or is it just to entertain while you're waiting?

1499
01:04:32,960 --> 01:04:36,160
Speaker 5: You cannot make it. I don't know anyone that can.

1500
01:04:36,200 --> 01:04:38,760
Speaker 5: Just like, well, girls that just hook up with a

1501
01:04:38,880 --> 01:04:40,400
Speaker 5: dude that they're not.

1502
01:04:40,560 --> 01:04:44,440
Speaker 6: Attracted to and into yeah, I could never do that.

1503
01:04:44,520 --> 01:04:45,280
Speaker 5: I'd bar.

1504
01:04:47,080 --> 01:04:49,600
Speaker 3: You have to be attracted to them, and that is

1505
01:04:49,760 --> 01:04:52,520
Speaker 3: a good percentage of all the way there, you know

1506
01:04:52,560 --> 01:04:54,880
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. Maybe it's only halfway or something, but

1507
01:04:54,920 --> 01:04:58,360
Speaker 3: it's a chunk of it. Yeah, so he's attracted to you. Yeah,

1508
01:04:58,400 --> 01:05:00,919
Speaker 3: he's attracted to you. That's a huge bon us right there.

1509
01:05:01,720 --> 01:05:04,080
Speaker 3: But can you convert this into a relationship? That's the question.

1510
01:05:04,240 --> 01:05:06,560
Speaker 5: All depends on what is g rated.

1511
01:05:06,800 --> 01:05:09,840
Speaker 1: Meaning like they're probably just like making out, yeah, or like.

1512
01:05:10,600 --> 01:05:12,960
Speaker 3: Oh, I think be more than that laying down kissing.

1513
01:05:13,040 --> 01:05:14,640
Speaker 5: I call that laying down kissing.

1514
01:05:14,840 --> 01:05:16,840
Speaker 3: I don't think he's coming around just to make out that.

1515
01:05:16,880 --> 01:05:18,919
Speaker 3: There's got to be Obviously they're not going all the way,

1516
01:05:18,960 --> 01:05:20,240
Speaker 3: but I'm thinking there's somewhere.

1517
01:05:19,960 --> 01:05:22,240
Speaker 1: In between, like they get naked had hamstuff.

1518
01:05:22,280 --> 01:05:23,800
Speaker 3: I think there's some naked hands stuff.

1519
01:05:23,800 --> 01:05:24,360
Speaker 2: I think so.

1520
01:05:24,600 --> 01:05:27,840
Speaker 4: I think because she's saying g rated like she's saving

1521
01:05:27,840 --> 01:05:28,840
Speaker 4: herself for marriage.

1522
01:05:28,880 --> 01:05:30,680
Speaker 2: I don't think that this girl is.

1523
01:05:30,680 --> 01:05:33,120
Speaker 5: Laying down kissing with clothes on. That's what that is.

1524
01:05:33,160 --> 01:05:35,280
Speaker 6: I guarantee you she will write us back. It's laying

1525
01:05:35,320 --> 01:05:36,280
Speaker 6: down kissing with clothes.

1526
01:05:36,320 --> 01:05:38,240
Speaker 3: But then he's got more feelings than that, because he's

1527
01:05:38,240 --> 01:05:41,240
Speaker 3: clearly not quote unquote using her for anything. If it's

1528
01:05:41,280 --> 01:05:42,520
Speaker 3: just laying down kissing.

1529
01:05:42,320 --> 01:05:46,440
Speaker 5: Right, they like each other? What laying down kissing? What

1530
01:05:46,600 --> 01:05:48,880
Speaker 5: is so funny? Are we twelve?

1531
01:05:49,680 --> 01:05:53,160
Speaker 6: My friend Rich invented laying down kissing and it sums

1532
01:05:53,240 --> 01:05:56,120
Speaker 6: up everything you need to know, because that's what they're doing.

1533
01:05:56,320 --> 01:06:00,520
Speaker 2: What I don't goodness, laying down I'm kissing?

1534
01:06:00,520 --> 01:06:02,880
Speaker 5: How do we know? Because she said g rate it, I.

1535
01:06:02,880 --> 01:06:06,920
Speaker 6: Know, but that could be standing up, yeah, because that's

1536
01:06:06,960 --> 01:06:07,560
Speaker 6: just a kiss.

1537
01:06:08,000 --> 01:06:08,600
Speaker 5: She would have said.

1538
01:06:09,040 --> 01:06:11,200
Speaker 3: She understands movie ratings that well, because you're right, g

1539
01:06:11,360 --> 01:06:12,880
Speaker 3: ratings couldn't be more than kissing.

1540
01:06:12,880 --> 01:06:14,919
Speaker 2: G Rated is just kissing in the movie.

1541
01:06:14,920 --> 01:06:16,760
Speaker 3: But I don't think guys see that as benefits.

1542
01:06:16,840 --> 01:06:19,600
Speaker 6: Laying down kissing with clothes on. I will bet you

1543
01:06:19,640 --> 01:06:20,840
Speaker 6: each one hundred dollars.

1544
01:06:20,840 --> 01:06:22,120
Speaker 2: Please, Hannah come back.

1545
01:06:22,720 --> 01:06:22,960
Speaker 3: Let me.

1546
01:06:23,280 --> 01:06:25,240
Speaker 5: Let's email her right now and see if she responds.

1547
01:06:25,240 --> 01:06:29,400
Speaker 6: Okay, yeah, one hundred dollars each, please my check book.

1548
01:06:29,600 --> 01:06:32,640
Speaker 6: They are laying down, kissing with clothes on, maybe sometimes

1549
01:06:32,680 --> 01:06:38,280
Speaker 6: not kissing.

1550
01:06:36,120 --> 01:06:38,320
Speaker 5: Shirt, groping, shirt could come off.

1551
01:06:38,360 --> 01:06:41,640
Speaker 3: But it's very g rated, like rated.

1552
01:06:41,960 --> 01:06:43,000
Speaker 5: Totally is No, it's.

1553
01:06:42,880 --> 01:06:43,840
Speaker 2: Not, it's not.

1554
01:06:44,400 --> 01:06:44,720
Speaker 5: Guys.

1555
01:06:44,840 --> 01:06:48,080
Speaker 6: We're going right, We're going first base, that's what she's saying,

1556
01:06:48,600 --> 01:06:49,520
Speaker 6: first base.

1557
01:06:49,320 --> 01:06:49,880
Speaker 3: First base.

1558
01:06:49,960 --> 01:06:51,640
Speaker 2: I cannot wait to win this, all right?

1559
01:06:51,720 --> 01:06:52,920
Speaker 3: Wait, what do you say?

1560
01:06:53,040 --> 01:06:53,520
Speaker 5: Are you paying?

1561
01:06:53,560 --> 01:06:59,840
Speaker 4: I can't everything standing up like kissing, standing up, email.

1562
01:06:59,680 --> 01:07:01,960
Speaker 3: Not even laying down, no groping, no, nothing, nothing.

1563
01:07:01,880 --> 01:07:06,880
Speaker 1: Tanya, I'm saying kissing, not laying down, just straight vertical.

1564
01:07:07,440 --> 01:07:13,160
Speaker 2: Wait all wait, they say what are laying out standing up?

1565
01:07:13,200 --> 01:07:14,400
Speaker 3: Would be vertical vertical?

1566
01:07:15,200 --> 01:07:22,200
Speaker 1: Uh, clothes on, and I would say maybe some maybe

1567
01:07:22,240 --> 01:07:23,040
Speaker 1: some boob touching.

1568
01:07:23,400 --> 01:07:26,400
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, all right, he has strong feelings for

1569
01:07:26,480 --> 01:07:27,960
Speaker 3: if he's just coming around and make out every once

1570
01:07:28,000 --> 01:07:28,840
Speaker 3: in a while, that's strong.

1571
01:07:29,080 --> 01:07:30,960
Speaker 6: I don't know how long it's been. That might just

1572
01:07:30,960 --> 01:07:32,720
Speaker 6: be the groundwork he's I also.

1573
01:07:32,560 --> 01:07:35,800
Speaker 4: Think that they're like conservative Christians and he is like

1574
01:07:36,120 --> 01:07:39,080
Speaker 4: very like probably raised to be like respectful and likes her,

1575
01:07:39,120 --> 01:07:40,880
Speaker 4: but isn't going to do anything.

1576
01:07:41,320 --> 01:07:42,959
Speaker 1: I know. I wish I would have said a boob touching,

1577
01:07:42,960 --> 01:07:46,480
Speaker 1: But you're done. I'm to have emailed Hannah, thank you,

1578
01:07:47,000 --> 01:07:53,160
Speaker 1: thank you, Erica. Okay, Okay, let Hannah no spoiler alert.

1579
01:07:53,200 --> 01:07:54,560
Speaker 1: We can change her last name.

1580
01:07:55,720 --> 01:07:57,800
Speaker 2: Or her name her name Hannah.

1581
01:07:59,640 --> 01:08:00,600
Speaker 5: Right stuck.

1582
01:08:02,600 --> 01:08:03,360
Speaker 2: It is Hannah.

1583
01:08:03,480 --> 01:08:05,000
Speaker 1: Sorry, Okay?

1584
01:08:06,120 --> 01:08:08,480
Speaker 2: Do we dive into my emotional problems? Oh?

1585
01:08:08,520 --> 01:08:11,760
Speaker 1: You know, I saw the email that was about it's

1586
01:08:11,800 --> 01:08:15,520
Speaker 1: too much. I liked the email that was like talking

1587
01:08:15,520 --> 01:08:19,320
Speaker 1: about she's like torn on which side on the Robert thing.

1588
01:08:19,840 --> 01:08:22,320
Speaker 2: That's what I was talking about. Oh yeah, well.

1589
01:08:22,439 --> 01:08:24,360
Speaker 5: You've talked about it's not that bad.

1590
01:08:24,640 --> 01:08:26,080
Speaker 1: It's not about your emotional baggage.

1591
01:08:26,360 --> 01:08:29,240
Speaker 3: Go Mark read it for okay, Hi? Beckatanian Mark obsessed

1592
01:08:29,280 --> 01:08:31,519
Speaker 3: with the podcast. They do some questions after y'all have

1593
01:08:31,560 --> 01:08:35,280
Speaker 3: been diving into Becca's emotional problems. What are Robert's thoughts

1594
01:08:35,280 --> 01:08:37,600
Speaker 3: regarding all of this, especially with giving some of the

1595
01:08:37,600 --> 01:08:39,680
Speaker 3: details of the relationship. You want to tackle that one

1596
01:08:39,720 --> 01:08:40,439
Speaker 3: one at a time.

1597
01:08:40,280 --> 01:08:43,720
Speaker 4: Here, Yeah, I haven't talked to him I don't think

1598
01:08:43,760 --> 01:08:48,320
Speaker 4: he can't imagine that he loves it because it's somewhat personal.

1599
01:08:48,479 --> 01:08:53,040
Speaker 4: But I also think that we only speak highly of him, Like,

1600
01:08:53,080 --> 01:08:55,360
Speaker 4: if anything, this has definitely been a thing where I

1601
01:08:55,400 --> 01:08:58,320
Speaker 4: talk about my issues and how he did everything right

1602
01:08:58,360 --> 01:08:59,880
Speaker 4: and there was just something missing.

1603
01:09:00,120 --> 01:09:02,719
Speaker 1: So and I think it's a part of your story,

1604
01:09:02,800 --> 01:09:06,240
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like you were in a relationship, right, yeah.

1605
01:09:06,640 --> 01:09:09,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, So it just is one of those things where

1606
01:09:09,760 --> 01:09:13,360
Speaker 4: everyone also knows who he is, right, so it makes

1607
01:09:13,400 --> 01:09:15,679
Speaker 4: it a little more complicated. But I don't think I've

1608
01:09:15,720 --> 01:09:18,200
Speaker 4: tried to make sure that anything I say about Robert

1609
01:09:18,280 --> 01:09:22,080
Speaker 4: is positive, because there was nothing really negative to say

1610
01:09:22,080 --> 01:09:23,880
Speaker 4: about him, to be honest.

1611
01:09:24,439 --> 01:09:26,680
Speaker 3: Tanya think's timing is the issue. I hope it is

1612
01:09:26,720 --> 01:09:28,640
Speaker 3: and that there's hope for Becca and Robert again. But

1613
01:09:28,680 --> 01:09:30,559
Speaker 3: I feel like we can assume that Becca has not

1614
01:09:30,680 --> 01:09:33,240
Speaker 3: met her guy after speaking with a therapist in the

1615
01:09:33,240 --> 01:09:34,400
Speaker 3: life coach. Would you agree with that?

1616
01:09:35,080 --> 01:09:37,320
Speaker 2: Well, it was like two weeks ago, so yeah no.

1617
01:09:37,560 --> 01:09:39,439
Speaker 3: But she's saying you in your life you have not

1618
01:09:39,600 --> 01:09:40,280
Speaker 3: met the guy.

1619
01:09:40,400 --> 01:09:42,000
Speaker 2: Oh, like I haven't already met him?

1620
01:09:42,080 --> 01:09:44,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, your soulmate, your future husband, you've not met him yet.

1621
01:09:44,840 --> 01:09:47,519
Speaker 2: I would say, no, I think, what are the.

1622
01:09:47,600 --> 01:09:50,960
Speaker 3: Chances Robert is your future husband? Scale one to a hundred?

1623
01:09:51,000 --> 01:09:53,320
Speaker 1: Wow, whoa, what's wrong with that?

1624
01:09:53,320 --> 01:09:53,720
Speaker 3: That's me.

1625
01:09:55,240 --> 01:09:55,840
Speaker 1: In the email?

1626
01:09:56,800 --> 01:10:01,080
Speaker 4: Oh that was zero percent fifty because I'm like, not

1627
01:10:01,120 --> 01:10:04,000
Speaker 4: one hundred percent sure, but I'm also not one hundred

1628
01:10:04,040 --> 01:10:06,000
Speaker 4: percent not just pretty good though.

1629
01:10:06,760 --> 01:10:09,160
Speaker 3: Uh So. Anyway, Peyton says she's torn and wish side

1630
01:10:09,200 --> 01:10:12,000
Speaker 3: to pick optimistic about the rekindling or optimistic about Becka

1631
01:10:12,040 --> 01:10:14,320
Speaker 3: finding her person. That's not Robert, not ruling him out,

1632
01:10:14,640 --> 01:10:16,960
Speaker 3: it could be the answer. Anyways, listening to you all

1633
01:10:17,040 --> 01:10:18,639
Speaker 3: is the highlight of my week. Thank you for being

1634
01:10:18,640 --> 01:10:19,920
Speaker 3: a light to so many people.

1635
01:10:20,000 --> 01:10:25,759
Speaker 2: Peyton, Sweet, thank you, Peyton. Peyton, Yeah, come to myself.

1636
01:10:26,280 --> 01:10:26,760
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1637
01:10:26,840 --> 01:10:29,760
Speaker 4: I mean I feel like he I kind of feel

1638
01:10:29,760 --> 01:10:30,960
Speaker 4: like he's dating right now.

1639
01:10:31,120 --> 01:10:32,560
Speaker 2: So it's kind of like I don't want to.

1640
01:10:33,120 --> 01:10:34,599
Speaker 4: I don't want to be like, oh, we can maybe

1641
01:10:34,640 --> 01:10:38,080
Speaker 4: get together in the future because I don't expect him

1642
01:10:38,160 --> 01:10:40,000
Speaker 4: or want him to wait around for me to.

1643
01:10:39,960 --> 01:10:44,720
Speaker 2: Figure it out. So right as of now, no rekindling.

1644
01:10:45,040 --> 01:10:49,960
Speaker 1: Right, but you know what, a chapter might end but

1645
01:10:50,080 --> 01:10:51,479
Speaker 1: doesn't mean the book is finished.

1646
01:10:52,520 --> 01:10:55,000
Speaker 4: I did not That actually worked out well for you,

1647
01:10:55,000 --> 01:10:56,439
Speaker 4: because I think that came off.

1648
01:10:56,280 --> 01:11:01,840
Speaker 3: Atop of your head. The bar is low. We weren't expecting. Yeah, Becca,

1649
01:11:01,880 --> 01:11:04,479
Speaker 3: why were you not on Winter Games? That's Alicia sent

1650
01:11:04,520 --> 01:11:04,800
Speaker 3: that in.

1651
01:11:05,840 --> 01:11:12,400
Speaker 4: I was not a Winter Games because I, oh, I

1652
01:11:12,479 --> 01:11:14,280
Speaker 4: wasn't on They asked me to be on Winter Games,

1653
01:11:14,479 --> 01:11:16,360
Speaker 4: or they asked me to ask me if I wanted

1654
01:11:16,360 --> 01:11:19,400
Speaker 4: to do it. And when I initially heard about Winter Games,

1655
01:11:19,400 --> 01:11:21,280
Speaker 4: I was all about it. I thought it was gonna

1656
01:11:21,280 --> 01:11:24,200
Speaker 4: be like road Rolls meets Bachelor.

1657
01:11:24,080 --> 01:11:27,479
Speaker 1: Right, and I had a few challenge yeah.

1658
01:11:27,360 --> 01:11:30,240
Speaker 4: Like something more like where it was more about the competition,

1659
01:11:30,360 --> 01:11:33,080
Speaker 4: and then the dating stuff just happened naturally because girls

1660
01:11:33,120 --> 01:11:34,599
Speaker 4: and guys were living in the same house.

1661
01:11:35,080 --> 01:11:38,240
Speaker 2: But I don't know why. I thought it was gonna

1662
01:11:38,240 --> 01:11:38,639
Speaker 2: be different.

1663
01:11:38,680 --> 01:11:42,440
Speaker 4: But in true Bachelor form, it was the date cards

1664
01:11:42,479 --> 01:11:45,040
Speaker 4: and the row ceremonies, and I just didn't want to

1665
01:11:45,080 --> 01:11:45,880
Speaker 4: go through that again.

1666
01:11:48,360 --> 01:11:50,080
Speaker 2: That was about it.

1667
01:11:50,640 --> 01:11:52,960
Speaker 4: I watched the first episode and in like half of

1668
01:11:52,960 --> 01:11:53,839
Speaker 4: the second episode.

1669
01:11:54,439 --> 01:11:56,200
Speaker 3: Are you good at winter sports?

1670
01:11:56,560 --> 01:11:57,240
Speaker 5: I'm good at.

1671
01:11:57,120 --> 01:11:59,679
Speaker 4: Sports, but I'm not I didn't grow up in the snow,

1672
01:11:59,800 --> 01:12:01,400
Speaker 4: so I don't know how I would fare.

1673
01:12:01,520 --> 01:12:02,439
Speaker 2: I'm pretty athletic.

1674
01:12:02,640 --> 01:12:05,920
Speaker 3: You don't look at that Norwegian guy. I really could

1675
01:12:05,920 --> 01:12:06,720
Speaker 3: have I.

1676
01:12:06,680 --> 01:12:09,040
Speaker 4: Feel like the American guys are the hottest guy. Like

1677
01:12:09,120 --> 01:12:11,960
Speaker 4: I would have been into the American guy. So yeah,

1678
01:12:11,960 --> 01:12:14,559
Speaker 4: I would have been like I probably would have been like, oh,

1679
01:12:15,400 --> 01:12:17,080
Speaker 4: let's go on a date with Ben again and see

1680
01:12:17,080 --> 01:12:18,599
Speaker 4: if this can have been around two.

1681
01:12:19,000 --> 01:12:22,080
Speaker 1: I like Jordan's who which one is?

1682
01:12:22,840 --> 01:12:23,000
Speaker 3: Right?

1683
01:12:23,040 --> 01:12:24,719
Speaker 5: I don't think that's the guy.

1684
01:12:24,640 --> 01:12:25,360
Speaker 2: From New Zealand.

1685
01:12:25,560 --> 01:12:27,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, the one that was a bachelor and he tookeed

1686
01:12:27,960 --> 01:12:29,040
Speaker 4: a coin or whatever hot?

1687
01:12:29,600 --> 01:12:31,400
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1688
01:12:31,479 --> 01:12:32,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know.

1689
01:12:32,640 --> 01:12:34,479
Speaker 2: I just wasn't. There was no one that was like,

1690
01:12:34,560 --> 01:12:39,519
Speaker 2: oh but so Ben, I love Yuki.

1691
01:12:39,880 --> 01:12:47,479
Speaker 1: Are you guys looking at me like I'm from Mars?

1692
01:12:47,840 --> 01:12:49,879
Speaker 5: That just makes me realize. There's a street in our neighborhood,

1693
01:12:50,400 --> 01:12:53,400
Speaker 5: in our neighborhood called and I wonder if it's been walking.

1694
01:12:53,640 --> 01:12:55,680
Speaker 5: Oh I bet it is interesting.

1695
01:12:56,360 --> 01:12:58,320
Speaker 3: All right, I think we got a wrap, but Hannah

1696
01:12:58,360 --> 01:12:59,120
Speaker 3: has not responded.

1697
01:13:00,080 --> 01:13:01,800
Speaker 5: Have to pay next week?

1698
01:13:01,880 --> 01:13:02,800
Speaker 1: Okay, we have a lot of.

1699
01:13:02,800 --> 01:13:04,240
Speaker 3: Things to do next Okay, but let me write this

1700
01:13:04,280 --> 01:13:06,760
Speaker 3: down because I messed this up this week. All right,

1701
01:13:06,840 --> 01:13:09,800
Speaker 3: Next week, Gray's anatomy quiz. How well do you know

1702
01:13:09,880 --> 01:13:11,720
Speaker 3: each other? Quiz? Are you going to bring in the

1703
01:13:11,720 --> 01:13:13,880
Speaker 3: pop tars with butter if you forgot.

1704
01:13:13,560 --> 01:13:15,840
Speaker 4: That this week, Yeah, I'm going to bring them. They're

1705
01:13:15,880 --> 01:13:18,400
Speaker 4: going to be life changing for everyone in this room,

1706
01:13:18,439 --> 01:13:19,760
Speaker 4: all right, And we're going.

1707
01:13:19,680 --> 01:13:22,439
Speaker 3: To find out what Hannah's idea of a g rated

1708
01:13:22,479 --> 01:13:25,720
Speaker 3: Friends with Benefits is. We'll get her phone on them,

1709
01:13:25,760 --> 01:13:26,679
Speaker 3: We'll get her on Wait.

1710
01:13:27,160 --> 01:13:29,280
Speaker 5: Okay, so I'm going to be one hundred dollars richer?

1711
01:13:29,840 --> 01:13:30,439
Speaker 5: You mean I am?

1712
01:13:30,680 --> 01:13:32,400
Speaker 3: Are you giving every one one hundred dollars?

1713
01:13:32,560 --> 01:13:33,920
Speaker 5: Well, that's what we need to figure out.

1714
01:13:34,040 --> 01:13:36,599
Speaker 3: Because also it's gonna be tough because you Becca in time,

1715
01:13:36,600 --> 01:13:37,600
Speaker 3: you're basically.

1716
01:13:37,280 --> 01:13:43,439
Speaker 2: Agree No, no, you're laying down touching. I said, standing up, no.

1717
01:13:43,560 --> 01:13:44,479
Speaker 3: Boob, stand up.

1718
01:13:44,880 --> 01:13:48,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, Becca's going to loose. Nobody would call that g

1719
01:13:49,120 --> 01:13:50,320
Speaker 5: rated friends with benefits.

1720
01:13:50,320 --> 01:13:53,439
Speaker 2: That's just Halenna. I am ready for one hundred dollars.

1721
01:13:53,439 --> 01:13:55,520
Speaker 3: So here's what we can also do. Well, end the podcast,

1722
01:13:55,680 --> 01:13:58,400
Speaker 3: but if you guys are still here when Hannah responds,

1723
01:13:58,400 --> 01:13:59,559
Speaker 3: we'll end it after this.

1724
01:14:01,080 --> 01:14:02,240
Speaker 2: I don't even know that me.

1725
01:14:05,520 --> 01:14:05,600
Speaker 4: Do.

1726
01:14:05,640 --> 01:14:07,520
Speaker 5: We're talking about the grays quiz.

1727
01:14:07,600 --> 01:14:10,280
Speaker 3: He asked. I forgot. I'm sorry, I forgot to do that.

1728
01:14:10,439 --> 01:14:12,840
Speaker 1: Also, I'm like so pissed that there hasn't been new ones.

1729
01:14:13,439 --> 01:14:15,920
Speaker 5: Because of Winter Games games.

1730
01:14:16,040 --> 01:14:18,479
Speaker 6: Isn't that interesting because of the real Winter Game. Yeah,

1731
01:14:19,040 --> 01:14:21,040
Speaker 6: that's why the Olympics.

1732
01:14:21,439 --> 01:14:25,200
Speaker 1: No, but ABC is screwing us with all shows go

1733
01:14:25,320 --> 01:14:26,440
Speaker 1: off during the Olympics.

1734
01:14:26,520 --> 01:14:29,080
Speaker 3: This is US, Well, that's NBC. But Gray's anatomy. We're

1735
01:14:29,080 --> 01:14:31,000
Speaker 3: still going to get twenty four of them or twenty five,

1736
01:14:31,040 --> 01:14:32,960
Speaker 3: whatever it is. You're still going to get your full compliment.

1737
01:14:33,040 --> 01:14:34,960
Speaker 3: They're just off for a while. I watched.

1738
01:14:36,400 --> 01:14:37,120
Speaker 5: Before We Am.

1739
01:14:37,600 --> 01:14:40,920
Speaker 4: I watched the last grays Enemy episode that y'allah. I

1740
01:14:41,120 --> 01:14:43,600
Speaker 4: liked it better than Bailey's episode.

1741
01:14:43,760 --> 01:14:46,680
Speaker 5: Me too, me too, me too? Can somebody refresh on

1742
01:14:46,720 --> 01:14:49,360
Speaker 5: what happened? That's the thing. It's hard to say what happens.

1743
01:14:49,600 --> 01:14:51,839
Speaker 5: They're all trying to come up with something.

1744
01:14:52,000 --> 01:14:59,400
Speaker 6: The skin, Yeah, the like new private part right, the.

1745
01:14:59,080 --> 01:15:00,679
Speaker 5: Spleens, the hundred.

1746
01:15:02,200 --> 01:15:02,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, I liked it.

1747
01:15:03,040 --> 01:15:04,840
Speaker 5: It's fine. It's totally fine.

1748
01:15:04,920 --> 01:15:06,519
Speaker 3: Yeah, solid, valid episode.

1749
01:15:07,280 --> 01:15:10,679
Speaker 2: All right, So, uh, thanks everyone for being here.

1750
01:15:11,040 --> 01:15:13,240
Speaker 3: Thank you and thank you Yeah.

1751
01:15:13,240 --> 01:15:16,600
Speaker 4: Thank you, thread Up, thank you by Clarity. Thank you

1752
01:15:16,680 --> 01:15:18,880
Speaker 4: for all the emails we had even more that we

1753
01:15:18,920 --> 01:15:21,920
Speaker 4: didn't get to get to, but keep sending them in. Yeah,

1754
01:15:22,040 --> 01:15:24,080
Speaker 4: maybe one day we'll get to read every email we

1755
01:15:24,200 --> 01:15:25,480
Speaker 4: have printed.

1756
01:15:25,320 --> 01:15:28,240
Speaker 3: Scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot com. And we are getting

1757
01:15:28,280 --> 01:15:30,080
Speaker 3: to the point now where that might be impossible because

1758
01:15:30,080 --> 01:15:30,760
Speaker 3: we're getting a lot.

1759
01:15:30,880 --> 01:15:32,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, well it's a good thing you sitting them in.

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Speaker 2: We're very happy.

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Speaker 4: The emails are the best, and y'all are so fun

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Speaker 4: and the topics are so interesting since I don't have

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Speaker 4: anything like that going on in my personal life right now.

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Speaker 1: Can we also try and make a point to do

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Speaker 1: something this week, like to.

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Speaker 2: Get my mojo back or both of our mojo?

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Speaker 1: I yes, yeah, let's make a point.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we'll do that, all right. Well, thank y'all for listening.

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Speaker 4: Make sure you subscribe so you know exactly when the

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Speaker 4: new podcast as come out.

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Speaker 2: Be like, uh, what was her name? Who re listened?

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Speaker 4: Be like her and go back and listen to all

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Speaker 4: of our podcasts.

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Speaker 1: And you know, it would be nice if you do

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01:16:11,160 --> 01:16:14,280
Speaker 1: enjoy the podcast. Maybe maybe you could leave a nice

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Speaker 1: little note, like a little comment saying how much you

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Speaker 1: like it.

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Speaker 3: You know, it would help us to do that on iTunes, because.

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Speaker 2: You know why, oh yeah, leave a comment on iTunes.

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Speaker 1: I am a listener now of podcasts. I listen to

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Speaker 1: other podcasts, and I find myself looking at their ratings

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Speaker 1: and if they don't have a five point zho, I

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Speaker 1: don't listen.

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Speaker 2: And I read the comments, So leave us nice comments.

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Speaker 3: Isn't that the world? Though? You don't buy anything without comments.

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Speaker 3: You don't go to a restaurant with our comments. It's

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Speaker 3: all about comments nowadays.

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01:16:40,439 --> 01:16:42,960
Speaker 2: And so true. People's opinions matter.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so share yours, Yeah so share yours.

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Speaker 4: Thank you everyone for listening. Once again, we are so

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Speaker 4: happy to do this podcast. It's one of my favorite.

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Speaker 5: Parts of the week. We love y'all.

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Speaker 4: Keep sending emails, have an amazing week and happy Tuesday.

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Speaker 4: Time of death.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna call.

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Speaker 1: It fifteen oh seven

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Speaker 2: Minute mh Come on, Hannah,