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Speaker 1: My husband ghosted me for two weeks because he has

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Speaker 1: borderline personality disorder.

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Speaker 2: Two weeks. He's not talking yet. He's not talking yet. Lot,

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Speaker 2: That's okay.

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Speaker 1: We're going to see My husband thirty eight male and

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Speaker 1: I forty female, met just over two years ago and

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Speaker 1: fell head over heels. We are total opposites. He's a

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Speaker 1: free spirit from the Midwest. I'm very Type A and

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Speaker 1: have a steady lifestyle. Not not always. I was quite

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Speaker 1: the adventures through my twenties. I was diagnosed with bipolar

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Speaker 1: disorder when I was fourteen and have been medicated on

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Speaker 1: and off since I've been working on I've been working

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Speaker 1: on that for the last nine years, and it's worked

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Speaker 1: very well for me. He was the first person who

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Speaker 1: just kind of took it for what it was and

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Speaker 1: respected my flare ups slash anxiety without questioning it or

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Speaker 1: making me feel crazy.

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Speaker 2: That is beautiful. Wow. Look, we accept people who they are.

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Speaker 2: We gotta love it.

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Speaker 1: I showed him a more posh slash city lifestyle and

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Speaker 1: helped him with adulting. He grew up doing things by

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Speaker 1: word or by handshake. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 1: f and Unicorn beiouch from the R slash okay, story time,

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Speaker 1: subredda try taking that down things. He showed up with

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Speaker 1: a crap car and all his belongings fit inside. He

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Speaker 2: I like it.

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Speaker 1: They both influenced each other, like he made her more

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Speaker 2: She helped him. Adults and they all live. This is

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Speaker 2: your cash of opposite to track Ooh.

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Speaker 1: Now I owned my house for six years, had good

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Speaker 1: credit and a great job. Subtle flex but okay. We

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Speaker 1: got married after five months. We got a convertible in

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Speaker 1: my name.

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Speaker 2: He had no credit.

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Speaker 1: Two kittens, three puppies on top of my four already cats?

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Speaker 2: Are I already had? Wow?

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Speaker 1: Started a landscaping business, got a grand piano, a hotup,

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Speaker 3: I love bears, pigs, you know, tigers, sprinkled the grand piano?

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Speaker 2: What else? What else?

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Speaker 3: Let's the Christmas song go? How does it go? In?

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Speaker 3: On the twelfth week my.

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Speaker 4: Cousin we gave to me four cats, three dogs, and

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Speaker 4: the one great piano for me.

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Speaker 2: So point being he said, jump, and I said, let's

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Speaker 2: do it. Here's some money. Put an ic you in

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Speaker 2: the chat if you see what's about to happen.

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Speaker 1: I felt very uncomfortable with much of this, but just

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Speaker 1: saw it as stepping a little bit out of my bubble.

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Speaker 1: We both love to go out and drink, sing, karaoke, explore,

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Speaker 1: et cetera. However, his drinking started getting out of control

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Speaker 1: and he would get into rages, not necessarily at me,

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Speaker 1: get him to a rational place, or even to sleep

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Speaker 1: like most people, or even to sleep like most wasted people.

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Speaker 1: am because it was like he had taken hard substances

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Speaker 1: he didn't and was running around all sorts trying to drive,

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Speaker 2: Yikes, it sounds very intense. Yeah, sounds not fun. Not fun.

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Speaker 1: Then the next morning there's the apologies. We all know

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Speaker 1: the adrill no excuses, but he has an incredibly traumatic childhood,

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Speaker 1: so we sort of chalked up these episodes up to

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Speaker 2: Oh so, at this.

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Speaker 4: Point in the story, do they know that he has

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Speaker 4: borderline personality disorder?

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Speaker 1: I believe not yet, and we are there's another section

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Speaker 1: coming up, So it seems like not yet, That's what

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Speaker 4: I've had friends that got diagnosed with borderline personality, and

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Speaker 4: sense of, Like you have these like really intense episodes

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Speaker 1: And also like what we what we do know now

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Speaker 1: We're gonna see the next title is the next section

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Speaker 4: Sound like it's gonna get better. Well, he stopped drinking,

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Speaker 3: The Devil's lettuce.

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Speaker 1: The Devil's lettuce, I do not partake, and made it

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Speaker 1: no problem with others doing it. It's just not something

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Speaker 1: I don't get why people think this is such a

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Speaker 2: Whereas we had.

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Speaker 1: Spicy sleep one to three times per day most days,

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Speaker 1: now it was nothing. He became very irritable with drawn,

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Speaker 1: I've been the breadwinner the entire time. I won't even

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Speaker 1: get into finances, but we'll just say. Most people describe

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Speaker 1: his behavior as parasitic. Not a great thing to be

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Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely not a good adjectivit. No, I don't want

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Speaker 3: Just using the adjective parasitic not attractive.

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Speaker 3: It's not great positive in the word parasitic.

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Speaker 1: Things were awful for basically a year after he started smoking,

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Speaker 1: I asked him to help me with this, but he

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Speaker 4: Yeah, this is not a winning cycle here. You guys

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Speaker 2: The U boros, yeah bora boros.

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Speaker 4: Y'all are accelerating each other's issues right now.

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Speaker 1: It seems he lied constantly about how much he smoked,

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Speaker 1: which he has since admitted to. We have the next

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but Dakota, we have we have to we have

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Speaker 2: to talk. I've seen a couple of comments that said

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Speaker 2: this too. Yeah, one to three times per day?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Yo, how much stamina are you that day? Hoday?

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Speaker 3: How old are they? Did you get a number of

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Speaker 4: Oh well, dud dude, they're like late thirties, early forties.

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Speaker 4: Are you doing for work?

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Speaker 1: Thirty thirty eight male and forty female? No, dude, We've

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Speaker 4: Many stories where the ages are just like mixed up

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Speaker 2: How are you doing that three times a day?

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Speaker 2: Good for them, But they might also be like twenty two,

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Speaker 1: But I mean he is he is the like adventurous

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Speaker 1: Like I get that he's on some Yeah what is

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Speaker 1: the uh where you like learn a bunch of different positions?

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Speaker 2: The Jack of All tradesutra, kamasutra? Thank you?

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Speaker 4: Oh yes, maybe he's maybe maybe he's on those guys anyways,

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Speaker 2: The matter at hand here, Wait, yeah, what is your job?

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Speaker 3: Is that your job? That's your job? Bro?

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Speaker 4: I like how this whole story is just becoming like,

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Speaker 4: how can two four year olds bang three times a

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Speaker 2: Well, please flood the comments with your guesses on how

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Speaker 4: I mean, hey, maybe they're just virile, but but Dakota

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Speaker 4: both spiraling in the wrong direction. Yeah, and it is downwards. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: There is there a place like I would say, it's

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Speaker 2: Something along your line.

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Speaker 4: The bottom line is what from what I she said,

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Speaker 4: I think that says everything that needs to be said.

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Speaker 4: If like that's a boundary that you set and that's

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's okay.

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Speaker 4: It just doesn't have to work out with this one guy,

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Speaker 4: even though it was great at one point, it's you know,

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Speaker 4: y'all are not lining up, and it's again the spiral

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Speaker 2: Breakup or na I want to know breakup or na

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Speaker 2: I'm on breakup?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I think at this point it's they

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Speaker 4: would both probably be better off.

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Speaker 2: They have their own things they need to figure out.

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Speaker 4: That will be way easier to figure it out without

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Speaker 2: In a relationship. Yes, Like I don't think they're ready yet. Well,

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Speaker 2: if it is, set pole, set, put your votes in.

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Speaker 2: Let's see if they actually do.

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Speaker 3: Also, a lot of people in the comments when you

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Speaker 2: You have something you want to share with the class?

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Speaker 4: I mean acknowledge, you know, acknowledgment that all right, this

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Speaker 2: Hannah a moment, I guess, another moment of silence for Hannah. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: can we can her emoji be? Yeah? Can you guys

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Speaker 3: And also, I'm Riley's down here if you guys don't

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Speaker 3: see Riley. Okay, storytime clips guys, that's our second channel.

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Speaker 1: So if you're looking for like new stories, all those

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Speaker 2: Hey, there you go.

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Speaker 4: Anyways, we're gonna be back. You've got more work to do.

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Speaker 3: I'll post that link in a little bit, guys, but

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Speaker 2: God bless him.

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Speaker 1: So he agreed to sign the divorce papers, so I

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Speaker 1: Side note. That was on my fortieth birthday. It's happy

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 2: Where we are It's been almost two weeks.

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Speaker 2: He was obviously shaded. He has obviously.

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Speaker 1: I found out that he's been spending thousands on fun

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Speaker 1: stuff for himself while I'm paying for all of our

443
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Speaker 1: joint activities, substances, gambling, et cetera, et cetera. I can't

444
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Speaker 1: help but feel that he's cheated with how much he's

445
00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:09,320
Speaker 1: asked me if I have classic projecting.

446
00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:12,520
Speaker 2: That is a classic move cheater. He's like a two

447
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Speaker 2: thousand's elementary classroom projector. I never have.

448
00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:21,960
Speaker 1: And he has access to my phone to whereabouts at

449
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Speaker 1: all times. I work from home. He swears he hasn't.

450
00:22:24,920 --> 00:22:28,280
Speaker 1: I'm terrified of his blow ups and it's exhausting, but

451
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Speaker 1: I married him and now we have a baseline to

452
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Speaker 1: work from as far as him getting help. By the way,

453
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:39,040
Speaker 1: you can always help us by hanging out with us,

454
00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:42,040
Speaker 1: that's right, and tapping our profile to join live at

455
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Speaker 1: three PMPSD on YouTube.

456
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Speaker 4: Do you just go ahead and tap it and join it?

457
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Speaker 4: And you know, if you're watching this in the future,

458
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Speaker 4: we might even be live right now.

459
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Speaker 2: You should check.

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Speaker 4: Just do it, Just do it before we get into

461
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Speaker 4: this last part, Dakota, just quick gut check.

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Speaker 2: How do you feel right now? Is this resolving the

463
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Speaker 2: way you think it should? I mean the way I

464
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Speaker 2: think it should.

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Speaker 4: I mean I think that they need to probably work

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Speaker 4: on their own issues separately. I think they need a

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Speaker 4: little bit of independent sort of reading time to get

468
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Speaker 4: in touch with what they need instead of like I mean,

469
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Speaker 4: and it's it is nice that they want to stay again,

470
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Speaker 4: and it's like, look, if you're gonna marry somebody, it's

471
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Speaker 4: like it should be somebody that you're like, you know,

472
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Speaker 4: like I'm down to try to go through at work no.

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Speaker 2: Matter what, essentially right or die.

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Speaker 4: But like, I think when it comes to op it's like,

475
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Speaker 4: especially with the cheating thing, and like having that like

476
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Speaker 4: in the back of your head, I think that's your.

477
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Speaker 2: That's one thing. There's too much baggage in this relationship

478
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Speaker 2: at this point for things to be able to like

479
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Speaker 2: grow like properly. Yeah, at least that's what I see. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think it might be best for them to separate.

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Speaker 2: I agree.

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Speaker 1: Chat let us know if you feel differently for any reason.

483
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Speaker 1: But yeah, I think they're already having so much great

484
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Speaker 1: healthy progress. Accelerate that by just being separated for a

485
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Speaker 1: while and like totally investing in doubling down on your

486
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Speaker 1: own except for like absolutely like legal or whatever, like

487
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Speaker 1: required stuff like give your self spost sub space.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, or I mean, and if you're not gonna do that,

489
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Speaker 4: you guys one hundred percent need to be doing like

490
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Speaker 4: joint counseling every week.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, good point, Like that's a requirement. I agree. I agree, Like.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so in the last section seeking advice, I feel

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Speaker 1: a sense of obligation to be there for him as

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Speaker 1: long as he's trying to get help and improve. The

495
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Speaker 1: divorce papers expire in a couple of weeks, and I'm

496
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Speaker 1: scared that he'll leave again if they lapse, and I'll

497
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Speaker 1: be screwed trying to track him down to protect my

498
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Speaker 1: house and resolve our other business issues. My friend's family

499
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Speaker 1: and therapists think I'm being too loyal slash compassionate in

500
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Speaker 1: putting his life first, and I will never be able

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Speaker 1: to reach my potential if I stay. I don't disagree,

502
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Speaker 1: but can't help feel like I'm abandoning him, even though

503
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Speaker 1: he honestly treats me pretty cappy. In general, I still

504
00:24:59,359 --> 00:25:01,879
Speaker 1: see the person I fell in love with, and writing

505
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Speaker 1: this all out, it just seems quite obvious. Maybe I

506
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Speaker 1: just need a validation.

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Speaker 2: And that is the end of that store.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, hopefully it seems like it's at least going

509
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Speaker 1: in a good direction.

510
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Speaker 2: I do think that OPI should at least take some time.

511
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Speaker 4: For herself to be to improve herself in him saying,

512
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Speaker 4: but you know what, maybe don't Maybe you don't have

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Speaker 4: to go straight into divorce, just like do a separate,

514
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Speaker 4: you know, separation just for like just for now, just

515
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Speaker 4: to like, you know, figure out how you guys.

516
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Speaker 2: Feel being separated.

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Speaker 4: Agree, and if you're like, okay, our lives actually feel

518
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Speaker 4: a lot more manageable and a lot better, you might

519
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 4: want to just be divorced sometimes.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, you know what, Dakota. I agree. I

521
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 2: ain't mad at it. But that's it. That's all we got.

522
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:56,200
Speaker 2: That's all she wrote. Literally, chat, how are we doing?

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00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:59,480
Speaker 2: It's been a minute, three times a day, three times

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Speaker 2: a day.

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Speaker 3: That's what we're taking away from this story of the day.

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Speaker 1: Guys, again, my seventy eighty nine year olds, I'm just

527
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Speaker 1: following the logic, so.

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Speaker 2: Tell me if I'm wrong.

529
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Speaker 4: I feel like it could go up where logic fails.

530
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:16,960
Speaker 4: This is why you need human intuition.

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Speaker 1: No, I feel like it could go up to ten.

532
00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:21,440
Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying. I'm just following the paper trail.

533
00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 2: That's it. That's it. They've got two pacemakers, one for

534
00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:29,120
Speaker 2: their heart and one for well that's true, that's true.

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00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, Alay, I think we got another story, right,

536
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:34,400
Speaker 3: another story?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we do.

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Speaker 3: While we got over the story, we got a lot

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Speaker 3: of we gotta.

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Speaker 2: Actually, yeah, we have a lot. Yeah yeah, and we

541
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Speaker 2: did you know what.

542
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Speaker 4: We had somebody in the stream yesterday who said that

543
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Speaker 4: they have watched it took them a whole year that

544
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:48,840
Speaker 4: they've seen everything.

545
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Speaker 2: I think it was Luna. Big shout out to Luna. Yeah,

546
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:56,000
Speaker 2: if you're here right now, but you might might be,

547
00:26:56,160 --> 00:26:58,680
Speaker 2: might not be. I'm always, I'm always, guys. There's a

548
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Speaker 2: lot of content.

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00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:03,160
Speaker 1: There's a lot of content, but we need to find

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00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 1: a way to prove it.

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00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:04,520
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:09,040
Speaker 1: Oh like like, okay, okay, degree, you've you've you've listened to,

553
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:11,120
Speaker 1: like you've watched all the episodes, and then you get

554
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:11,879
Speaker 1: like a certificate.

555
00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:16,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, send it in the mail, dude. We'll send you

556
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 4: a scroll, an ancient.

557
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 2: Scroll, yeah, with the okay badge of approval. Yeah. I

558
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:23,320
Speaker 2: like that. Uh.

559
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:26,800
Speaker 3: While Dakota is playing, Yes, sir, let's read some downs again.

560
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:29,639
Speaker 3: Shout out to Hannah, big shout out.

561
00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:33,479
Speaker 1: And then we got some youtubet jets. What's up, Kenny boy,

562
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:36,119
Speaker 1: thanks for being a member for eight months. Eight months, boys,

563
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:40,200
Speaker 1: almost as long as a fully cooked baby. Almost full Okay, remember, guys, Yeah,

564
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 1: you know it took me fifteen months so listen. Some

565
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:45,520
Speaker 1: some babies tick longer. Excuse me, Kirsten to do I

566
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:48,679
Speaker 1: hope I said that right. Thanks for the fourteen Canadian bucks.

567
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:52,879
Speaker 1: Thank you for making me smile, especially especially when you

568
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:54,120
Speaker 1: say my last name?

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Speaker 2: Is it? I think it's did you? Did you? Did you?

570
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:00,639
Speaker 2: It's like it's because it's kind of like freend, It's like,

571
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:02,880
Speaker 2: did do you? It's Kirsten diu?

572
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, Kirston?

573
00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,399
Speaker 2: Does that means Kirston? You're probably Kirston?

574
00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:11,320
Speaker 4: Does your last name translate to Kirsten the god that'll

575
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,440
Speaker 4: be fire? Because you mean, isn't that how you say

576
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:16,919
Speaker 4: god in French? I don't know because when they go

577
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:19,680
Speaker 4: oh mon dieu, they're saying, oh my god.

578
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:20,119
Speaker 2: I'm not sure.

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Speaker 1: And then Jella, but thanks for being a member for

580
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Speaker 1: nine months. Happy first full month at CODA.

581
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Speaker 2: Yeah, hey, whoa, thank you? What that's wait a minute,

582
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Speaker 2: it's been a month. It's a month. Well, I guess

583
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 2: technically tomorrow is a month.

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Speaker 4: That's unbelievable, but it's yeahs and purposes, this is a

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Speaker 4: whole month.

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Speaker 2: That's crazy. That by fast dude, right, whoa? It feels

587
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:47,800
Speaker 2: like week that's crazy? Moly? Who else we got in

588
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:48,360
Speaker 2: the chats.

589
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Speaker 4: Josephe but Dollar Burquest thanks for the twenty seven Swedish Coroners.

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Speaker 2: No PhD is for six plus months membership, John so the.

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Speaker 4: PhD Like, Okay, you get ITHD for being a member

592
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 4: for six months, but honestly, guys, listening to all the

593
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 4: episodes that is like literally it took uh Luna allegedly

594
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 4: a year, so I don't know, it's it's a lot.

595
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 1: Also shout out to Josephine for being a member of

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Speaker 1: seven months. Seven months.

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Speaker 4: Okay, storytime is now part of my autistic routine and

599
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 4: I wouldn't want it any other way.

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Speaker 1: Hell yeah, love y'all, especially especially cute heart face like

601
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:30,400
Speaker 1: the stream or I'll bank you in all in all caps,

602
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:33,120
Speaker 1: I don't want to get bonked by jose come on

603
00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 1: like the stream and then uh oh Amber deal, Amber Doll,

604
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:40,720
Speaker 1: thanks for being a member for six months. Thank you

605
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 1: for always making me smile. My mother in law passed

606
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:46,080
Speaker 1: away this morning, so I definitely need last hearts.

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Speaker 2: In the chat for Amber community. Do what you do.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, sorry to hear that, but glad we could be

609
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Speaker 1: here and share us mine with That's that's what we

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Speaker 1: always try to do. Heidi Vincent, thanks for the five

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Speaker 1: gifted memberships, Grow in the Family.

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Speaker 2: Five new little Okay Babies Family Well, John, I did

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Speaker 2: not glue.

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Speaker 4: Bost Ghost Blue Lady, Welcome to the Knights, Fix Mix

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Speaker 4: shout outs for the five Okay story Time gifted memberships,

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Speaker 4: and then Tony Campin.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to the Knights and is that all I think?

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Speaker 2: Look down one more time? Actually we got one more

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Speaker 2: Oh yes, all.

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Speaker 1: Over the place sex and we remember for four months

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Speaker 1: my ex of ten years uh got schizophrenia after six years.

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Speaker 1: I tried for years, but I had to choose my

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Speaker 1: sanity over being there for him. He's not doing well.

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Speaker 1: Tear sad face, but I am. Sometimes I do think

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Speaker 1: there are those cases where you, you know, you do

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Speaker 1: what you can and support how you can. But sometimes

627
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Speaker 1: it's like, you know, both do we want both people

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Speaker 1: to uh? You know, it just hits that point sometimes

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Speaker 1: and it's always hard.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna use a really weird analogy here, Oh dear.

631
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:55,680
Speaker 4: It's like it's like in the in the air what

632
00:30:55,760 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 4: they say in the in the airplanes with like the

633
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Speaker 4: oxygen masks drop down. If you have somebody who needs

634
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Speaker 4: to get their oxygen mask on they don't say it.

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00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,280
Speaker 2: You have to put yours on first. Got to put

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00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:10,320
Speaker 2: it on first, because if you if you can't get

637
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,520
Speaker 2: your mask on, how are you gonna be able to

638
00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 2: help this other person? Of course, like sometimes you gotta

639
00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:17,960
Speaker 2: you gotta prioritize yourself first, and then if like you,

640
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:19,760
Speaker 2: then you try to help this other person and they're

641
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 2: like actively like swatting the thing away from them. It's like, right,

642
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:26,600
Speaker 2: you can only do so much and I can't breathe,

643
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:29,160
Speaker 2: and you might end up you feel guilty about it,

644
00:31:29,200 --> 00:31:32,000
Speaker 2: but it's not. It's just it's just a hard, terrible,

645
00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 2: sucky situation. Well, there you go.

646
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 1: But Dakota, do we have another story that is maybe

647
00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 1: a little less suppressing.

648
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 2: We do have another story. Baby, It's gonna be an

649
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:43,920
Speaker 2: interesting one.

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Speaker 3: Let's get it, Dakota, you have the title idea?

651
00:31:47,640 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 2: Yes?

652
00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:51,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, yes, yeah, good, Yeah, that's a fun one.

653
00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, this one should be pretty interesting. Get it.

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Speaker 3: You're all right?

655
00:31:55,200 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 2: I ghosted my X because she's married. It's tough. It

656
00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:04,440
Speaker 2: sounds like the thing you should do, though, right, good work.

657
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 2: My friends think I'm an a hole for blocking my

658
00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:12,320
Speaker 2: ex who is married, because she keeps calling and messaging me.

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00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:15,320
Speaker 2: I wanted to ask if what I'm doing is right

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Speaker 2: or if I should keep in touch with her. By

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Speaker 2: the way, this comes from user twex NC twenty three

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Speaker 2: forty two thirty four on the r slash Okay storytime subreddit.

663
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Speaker 2: So I dated Lisa for four years and we broke

664
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Speaker 2: up two years ago.

665
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:35,040
Speaker 4: Lisa told me she didn't see a future with me

666
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:42,120
Speaker 4: and wanted to call things off. That would be so

667
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 4: funny there, NERO. I Uh, there were many reasons, and

668
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:49,360
Speaker 4: I knew it was coming. Lisa came from a wealthy

669
00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 4: family and we met in college. Our relationship was great

670
00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 4: during the college years. However, after we graduated and got jobs,

671
00:32:57,040 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 4: it became clear to her that I would never be

672
00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:02,560
Speaker 4: able to provide the lifestyle she was used to. She

673
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 4: hated the small apartment we rented because I wanted to

674
00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:08,240
Speaker 4: pay off my student loan quickly, and she resented that

675
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:10,560
Speaker 4: I couldn't afford to take her on nice vacations.

676
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 2: It sucked, but I couldn't blame her.

677
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 4: I loved Lisa deeply, but I also knew she deserved

678
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 4: the life that she wanted. After we broke up, we

679
00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 4: still had lingering feelings and stayed friends for a few months.

680
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:25,640
Speaker 4: We had mutual friends and would meet regularly. I never

681
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:28,760
Speaker 4: hated Lisa. In fact, I cherished the memories of the

682
00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 4: four years that we were together. But I was also

683
00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:34,520
Speaker 4: acutely aware that we came from different worlds and that

684
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:37,000
Speaker 4: she shouldn't have to settle because of me.

685
00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:40,160
Speaker 2: I mean, he's poor. This guy is, like, what.

686
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:43,840
Speaker 4: An enlightened perspective he is having so far just being

687
00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 4: like a lot of people would probably be viciously bitter

688
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 4: that their girlfriend, like was like, you're too broke for me.

689
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 4: This guy, he's taking it completely in stride self security.

690
00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:56,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, the opposite of insecurity, which we don't hear about

691
00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:57,200
Speaker 1: much in these stories.

692
00:33:57,240 --> 00:33:57,680
Speaker 3: It's true.

693
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:00,360
Speaker 2: He's like, hey, she wants some of them wants what

694
00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 2: I can't give her. She's welcome to have it. Gotta

695
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 2: love that. Yeah, that's what a m m M big.

696
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Speaker 3: A big shout out to vix Mix.

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Speaker 1: Oh mix with's a fifty buckeroon. He's happy holidays, y'all.

698
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:14,759
Speaker 1: Love seeing my nephews doing a great job.

699
00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:17,920
Speaker 2: Fix Mix. Thanks vix Mix, appreciate you.

700
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:22,960
Speaker 3: Okay, Oh it's me Hey, hey.

701
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:27,399
Speaker 4: Ah, But I was acutely aware that we came from

702
00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 4: different worlds and that she shouldn't.

703
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:29,759
Speaker 2: Have to settle because of me.

704
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 4: Still, it was hard to let go completely, and sometimes

705
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:35,560
Speaker 4: I wondered if I'd ever truly get over her. We

706
00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:38,440
Speaker 4: drifted apart after Lisa started dating a family friend.

707
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:40,480
Speaker 2: I met him a few times at parties.

708
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 4: He knew Lisa and I had dated, and though he

709
00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:46,000
Speaker 4: was polite, I started avoiding her and focused on work.

710
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:49,880
Speaker 2: That's right, King, get your grind on. Oh yeah.

711
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 4: Eventually, eventually I moved to another city and lost touch

712
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:56,799
Speaker 4: with Lisa. I heard from mutual friends that she got

713
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,720
Speaker 4: married six months ago. I wasn't invited to the wedding,

714
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:02,840
Speaker 4: but I was happy for I also dated someone briefly

715
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:06,120
Speaker 4: last year. But right now, my career is my main focus.

716
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:09,759
Speaker 4: That's what I need to believe. Three weeks ago, out

717
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:13,160
Speaker 4: of the blue, I got a call from an unknown number.

718
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 2: It was Lisa, what are you doing?

719
00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 4: We literally could have ended the story perfect, perfect to

720
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:25,279
Speaker 4: be like, yeah, and Opie's life was great and he's

721
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:25,879
Speaker 4: working on.

722
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 2: His job and we don't know the bomb yet? Right?

723
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:33,440
Speaker 2: What that that she was not single? I mean, we

724
00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:35,680
Speaker 2: don't know, we don't know yet, we don't know, Okay,

725
00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:38,640
Speaker 2: I don't know. Uh.

726
00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:42,520
Speaker 4: She started with small talk and we caught up on

727
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:45,280
Speaker 4: each other's lives. She told me about the new house

728
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:49,560
Speaker 4: she and her husband had just bought, and how busy

729
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:53,280
Speaker 4: she had been. So husband is very much on the table.

730
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:57,040
Speaker 2: I told her about that. Wait, that is what you

731
00:35:57,040 --> 00:36:00,440
Speaker 2: were asking when you're yes, okay, if he knew already, right, yeah, now.

732
00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 4: He's very acutely aware that the husband is still there.

733
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:04,480
Speaker 2: Oh boy.

734
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:07,600
Speaker 4: I told her about my work and my new life.

735
00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 4: It was nice, like catching up with an old friend.

736
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:13,480
Speaker 4: She gave She gave me her new number, and the

737
00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:16,400
Speaker 4: call lasted about twenty minutes. Although I found it odd,

738
00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:18,640
Speaker 4: I figured she might have thought about me and decided

739
00:36:18,680 --> 00:36:22,640
Speaker 4: to reach out, as people do. Sometimes that's just what happens.

740
00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:26,880
Speaker 2: I don't trust it. Yeah, but that might not be

741
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 2: the case in this story. The next day she messaged

742
00:36:30,080 --> 00:36:32,760
Speaker 2: me and sent a few photos of her new house.

743
00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:37,799
Speaker 1: That's a weird word for it. Yeah, that's her little garage.

744
00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:42,160
Speaker 1: She wants to Parker his big carnet, the big things.

745
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:45,279
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yo, I don't trust it, John, I don't trust it.

746
00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:47,800
Speaker 2: John's wondering what house, what house?

747
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 3: What?

748
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:51,360
Speaker 4: What kind of house it is? She's taken pictures of

749
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:56,760
Speaker 4: tiny little garage, the baby house. Okay, moving on god Boys,

750
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 4: stream boystream Okay.

751
00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:02,640
Speaker 2: I momented her on them the pictures of the house.

752
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:06,799
Speaker 4: Two days later, she called me again, saying she was

753
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:10,240
Speaker 4: driving and thought about chatting. We talked about my new city,

754
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:13,840
Speaker 4: my new friends, and even gossiped about our old mutual friends.

755
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:17,560
Speaker 4: Then she started sending me photos from a recent party

756
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:18,959
Speaker 4: where they all met up.

757
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 2: Over the next two weeks, Lisa began calling me almost

758
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:25,279
Speaker 2: every day. Here we go, here we go.

759
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,840
Speaker 4: I ignored most of her calls, but she always said

760
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 4: she had free time and wanted to talk. Yeah, maybe

761
00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:37,640
Speaker 4: talk to your husband, Glensha just a thought here, You've

762
00:37:37,680 --> 00:37:40,080
Speaker 4: got free time to spend.

763
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:43,879
Speaker 2: With your husband. But why do that when she can

764
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:46,080
Speaker 2: be terrible? Yeah, she can be an awful human being.

765
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:46,920
Speaker 3: Sounds boring?

766
00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, you boring husband. My rich husband is so boring

767
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:55,959
Speaker 2: compared to you, poor ex boyfriend. You're broken? Fun, Yeah,

768
00:37:57,160 --> 00:37:58,240
Speaker 2: I'm broken.

769
00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:01,080
Speaker 4: Imagine that's how straight up up by the phone call goes.

770
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 2: She's just like, I realized you're broke, but fun, My

771
00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:06,480
Speaker 2: husband sucks? Can we date?

772
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:07,840
Speaker 3: Hey? You know what's fun?

773
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:09,200
Speaker 2: Thirty more minutes?

774
00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:14,520
Speaker 4: Wow, look at dude, Oh my god, Wow, guys, Okay,

775
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:17,279
Speaker 4: great work. Not I felt like I came out of nowhere. Yeah,

776
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 4: that was just like attention to it, let's go okay wow.

777
00:38:23,920 --> 00:38:30,840
Speaker 2: So she started sending me tiktoks memes messages, initiating conversations

778
00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:34,880
Speaker 2: all the time. At first I brushed it off, thinking

779
00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:38,760
Speaker 2: she was just being friendly, but it felt wrong. Lisa

780
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:42,040
Speaker 2: is married and I shouldn't be talking to her so frequently.

781
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:43,279
Speaker 2: The more she.

782
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:47,160
Speaker 4: Reached out, the more unsettled I became. Was she unhappy

783
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 4: in her marriage?

784
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:51,239
Speaker 2: Was she just lonely? Or was I reading too much

785
00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:51,719
Speaker 2: into it.

786
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 4: Last Friday, I finally messaged her, saying that it felt inappropriate.

787
00:38:56,880 --> 00:39:00,319
Speaker 2: For us to talk so often given that she's married now.

788
00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:04,399
Speaker 4: She replied almost immediately saying there's nothing wrong with us

789
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:07,799
Speaker 4: being good friends like before. I didn't want to continue,

790
00:39:07,880 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 4: so I told her we needed to stop talking for

791
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:11,520
Speaker 4: a while because I.

792
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:12,800
Speaker 2: Needed to focus on work.

793
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 4: My king is all about his grind. Op literally is

794
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:20,960
Speaker 4: just the goat. Yeah, he is like, he's secure, he's

795
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:24,520
Speaker 4: on his grind. He's he's not wanting to pursue a

796
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:25,080
Speaker 4: married woman.

797
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 2: He's like, why are you doing? Yeah, he is setting boundaries,

798
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:34,280
Speaker 2: setting boundaried women and focusing on your career. Unheard, where's

799
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 2: your crown? You dropped it? Oh you know what, I

800
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:40,320
Speaker 2: know where it is. It's on his head right now. Oh,

801
00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:47,880
Speaker 2: talk about it, okay. After that, I blocked her number. Good.

802
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:53,880
Speaker 4: She called our mutual friend Jess, crying about how I

803
00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:55,560
Speaker 4: was rude and blocked her.

804
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:59,440
Speaker 2: Ah. Yeah, couldn't couldn't have seen that one coming se.

805
00:40:00,320 --> 00:40:03,080
Speaker 4: Jess told her other friends, and some of them called me,

806
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 4: saying I was being unreasonable to treat Lisa that way

807
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 4: and to cut her off. I don't understand how no

808
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:11,839
Speaker 4: one sees that it's wrong for Lisa to call her

809
00:40:11,960 --> 00:40:15,359
Speaker 4: ex when she's happily married after more than a year

810
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:16,480
Speaker 4: of no contact.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't make sense.

812
00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:21,520
Speaker 4: Well, op, it does make sense if you factor in

813
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:23,080
Speaker 4: that Lisa wants you back.

814
00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:27,240
Speaker 2: Her little garage is empty. She wants you in that garage.

815
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:27,920
Speaker 2: It's empty.

816
00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:32,239
Speaker 4: She wants you, she wants you parked in the garage,

817
00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:33,520
Speaker 4: in the garage.

818
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:41,360
Speaker 2: God, it just doesn't make sense. But maybe sense.

819
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:44,799
Speaker 4: But maybe I'm the one who's missing something. Am I

820
00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:48,319
Speaker 4: being Am I being unreasonable with Lisa? Or was it

821
00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:50,480
Speaker 4: right for me to block her for both of our sakes.

822
00:40:50,680 --> 00:40:54,200
Speaker 4: And if I'm right, why do I still feel so conflicted?

823
00:40:54,680 --> 00:41:00,840
Speaker 2: Oh? Ope's got a little conflicted feelings? Is our angel?

824
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 2: What was this? Lucy?

825
00:41:05,440 --> 00:41:05,600
Speaker 5: Oh?

826
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:06,000
Speaker 4: Is he really?

827
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 2: Is he about to fall? Fall? He's Lucifer morning Star? Whoa, whoa?

828
00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:17,920
Speaker 4: We do have an update from a month and a

829
00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:19,400
Speaker 4: half after the original post.

830
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:19,760
Speaker 2: Wow.

831
00:41:20,560 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 4: Uh, I mean I think clearly, ops, it's we. I mean,

832
00:41:26,760 --> 00:41:31,400
Speaker 4: they're the friends are getting the story filtered through Lisa's perspective, indeed,

833
00:41:32,080 --> 00:41:34,600
Speaker 4: But I don't think it's I think it's crazy for

834
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:36,640
Speaker 4: the friends to be like, why are you cutting off

835
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 4: the married woman you used to date who's talking to

836
00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:40,480
Speaker 4: you incessantly?

837
00:41:40,760 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 1: Well, it seems that probably the perspective they're getting is like, oh,

838
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 1: we were just like chatting and stuff and he just

839
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:47,880
Speaker 1: out of nowhere, you know, friendly whatever, And then I

840
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 1: don't know where he blocked me. So I wonder do

841
00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 1: we tell the friends?

842
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:54,279
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I think the friends need your side

843
00:41:54,320 --> 00:41:54,680
Speaker 4: of the story.

844
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:56,880
Speaker 1: Ope, I think I think I think we need to

845
00:41:56,960 --> 00:41:59,799
Speaker 1: let them know. The danger though, is do they bring

846
00:41:59,840 --> 00:42:01,640
Speaker 1: that back around to the husband and explode everything?

847
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:05,720
Speaker 2: Right? So I think really the the golden move here, Yes,

848
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:07,480
Speaker 2: just keep doing exactly what you're doing.

849
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:10,879
Speaker 4: Ope, right, keep focusing on the grind. Don't even care

850
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:13,120
Speaker 4: if the friends have a different version of this story.

851
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:15,160
Speaker 4: It doesn't matter because at the end of the day,

852
00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:17,760
Speaker 4: you're going to stand on your beliefs that I shouldn't

853
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 4: even be talking to Lisa like this. I mean, it

854
00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:23,239
Speaker 4: was fine at first she crossed the line, and then

855
00:42:23,280 --> 00:42:25,520
Speaker 4: when I pointed it out, she refused to change.

856
00:42:25,719 --> 00:42:30,200
Speaker 2: So it's over. I good, good job, op.

857
00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, way, there's a way to say it that doesn't

858
00:42:34,760 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 1: implicate her as much. Actually, sorry, So final quick question

859
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:40,279
Speaker 1: before we get back to it. Do we drop the nuke?

860
00:42:41,239 --> 00:42:43,880
Speaker 1: Do we pick up the phone? Oh and call husband,

861
00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:46,120
Speaker 1: call the hobby and say, hey, listen, you know how

862
00:42:46,120 --> 00:42:47,640
Speaker 1: she's not talking to you ever, She talks to me

863
00:42:47,680 --> 00:42:52,839
Speaker 1: every day. Her garage is barren, dust everywhere.

864
00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:55,800
Speaker 4: If your if your goal is to keep your own peace,

865
00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 4: you don't do that because it hasn't gone to a

866
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 4: level that's unaccepted. It's not like she suggest she didn't

867
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:04,680
Speaker 4: send you any bad pictures. She only sent you the

868
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:09,520
Speaker 4: garage strictly garage pictures, right, not or no? I mean

869
00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:11,480
Speaker 4: not garage pictures. Not garage pictures.

870
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:18,719
Speaker 2: Other actually innocent pictures, truly innocent house pictures. Anyway, let's

871
00:43:18,719 --> 00:43:19,120
Speaker 2: get into this.

872
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 4: I had posted a month and a half ago regarding

873
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:26,360
Speaker 4: going no contact with my ex girlfriend Lisa after she

874
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:29,920
Speaker 4: tried to rekindle our friendship. Lisa married her husband Jason,

875
00:43:30,080 --> 00:43:31,880
Speaker 4: six months ago.

876
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:33,279
Speaker 2: That's pretty fresh, and.

877
00:43:33,280 --> 00:43:35,960
Speaker 4: I wanted to respect their marriage and blocked her after

878
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:38,840
Speaker 4: I felt we were crossing a line. My friend was

879
00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:41,279
Speaker 4: very critical of me because I was ignoring her, and

880
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 4: most of you agreed that I did the right thing.

881
00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 4: Things have been really crazy since then, and many of

882
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:48,880
Speaker 4: you asked for an update.

883
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:49,839
Speaker 2: I wanted to.

884
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 4: Respect Lisa's privacy, but as things settled down, I am

885
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:56,799
Speaker 4: again not sure if I'm doing the right thing and

886
00:43:56,880 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 4: need advice on my situation. Sorry for the long post,

887
00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:02,719
Speaker 4: but too many things have happened and I wanted to

888
00:44:02,719 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 4: get this off my chest. After I blocked Lisa, she

889
00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:08,440
Speaker 4: called my friend Jess and wanted to talk to me

890
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:13,080
Speaker 4: one last time. I initially declined, but finally caved and

891
00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 4: told her that it would be the last time we

892
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:18,959
Speaker 4: would talk. Lisa called me on Saturday morning and told

893
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:20,799
Speaker 4: me that she wanted to talk to me because she

894
00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 4: needed help and does not know.

895
00:44:22,560 --> 00:44:24,280
Speaker 2: If she can trust anyone.

896
00:44:24,360 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 4: She sounded awful and I had to calm her down

897
00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:29,840
Speaker 4: before she told me what was going on. Lisa told

898
00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:33,800
Speaker 4: me that after we broke up, she met her husband, Jason.

899
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:37,919
Speaker 4: Within a few months, Jason asked her for a date

900
00:44:38,320 --> 00:44:41,279
Speaker 4: in front of her mom, and her mom insisted that

901
00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:44,239
Speaker 4: she at least give Jason a chance. Jason was a

902
00:44:44,320 --> 00:44:48,000
Speaker 4: charmer and they quickly became official. Jason was everything I

903
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 4: was not. He came from a wealthy family and had

904
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:53,759
Speaker 4: everything figured out. He took her on all the vacations

905
00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:56,040
Speaker 4: that I could never afford, and Lisa loved this life

906
00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:58,279
Speaker 4: where she does not have to worry about things like

907
00:44:58,360 --> 00:45:01,360
Speaker 4: loans money like she did when she was with me.

908
00:45:02,920 --> 00:45:05,440
Speaker 4: They had a grand wedding, but Lisa told me that

909
00:45:05,480 --> 00:45:09,960
Speaker 4: things quickly started going south. One night, she was hanging

910
00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 4: out with Jason's friends and one of his college friends

911
00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:19,280
Speaker 4: started flirting with her and touched her inappropriate. Oh, Jason's

912
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:21,319
Speaker 4: friend needs to go be thrown into the sun.

913
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 2: Lisa was shocked and told Jason immediately.

914
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:29,520
Speaker 4: Jason was wasted and told Lisa to loosen up and

915
00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:32,400
Speaker 4: enjoy the party and did not confront the friend, and now.

916
00:45:32,320 --> 00:45:34,279
Speaker 2: Jason is being thrown into the sun as well.

917
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:39,239
Speaker 4: As months went by, Lisa found proof that Jason and

918
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:44,160
Speaker 4: his friends were doing illicit substances and Jason had slept

919
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:49,719
Speaker 4: with most of his friend's wives. Oh and it was

920
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:51,800
Speaker 4: a common thing in their friend group.

921
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 3: Hmmm.

922
00:45:55,640 --> 00:45:59,520
Speaker 2: So that's why he didn't confront her, his friend, because

923
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:01,000
Speaker 2: he was just trying.

924
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:02,840
Speaker 4: To be like, bab this is the what you married into.

925
00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:05,640
Speaker 4: You married into the creepy swinger.

926
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:10,279
Speaker 2: That's creepy upfront. It's way less creepy if you're just

927
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:11,840
Speaker 2: upfront about being a swinger.

928
00:46:11,960 --> 00:46:17,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, that seems like a massively catastrophically critical detail to know.

929
00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:20,920
Speaker 2: Yeah before Yeah, time to leave. Are they married at

930
00:46:20,960 --> 00:46:23,440
Speaker 2: this point? Yes, a right, they are. Now they've married.

931
00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:26,120
Speaker 4: And after they got married, he was like, hey, by

932
00:46:26,160 --> 00:46:28,000
Speaker 4: the way, you're everyone's wife.

933
00:46:28,280 --> 00:46:36,360
Speaker 2: Oh what No, yeah, immediately he's for the streets. Yes.

934
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:39,960
Speaker 4: She She suspects that this happened during the time they

935
00:46:39,960 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 4: were dating, and also a few times after they were married.

936
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:45,960
Speaker 4: She confronted Jason, but he just got mad at her

937
00:46:46,200 --> 00:46:49,920
Speaker 4: and told her that she's being too uptight. Things got messy,

938
00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 4: and Lisa told me that there were some instances of

939
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 4: physical harm, though she did not go into too many details.

940
00:46:58,800 --> 00:46:59,040
Speaker 3: Uh.

941
00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, this guy is a black hole. Black hole

942
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:04,160
Speaker 4: tur Ninda Spaghetti. Get rid of this guy. I don't

943
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:06,400
Speaker 4: want him in the same universe as any of us.

944
00:47:06,960 --> 00:47:09,760
Speaker 4: Lisa wanted to leave Jason and told her mom about it. However,

945
00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:12,239
Speaker 4: her mom told her that it is too early in

946
00:47:12,280 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 4: their marriage and instead Lisa should work harder to make

947
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:17,239
Speaker 4: Jason happy so that he does not need to look

948
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:21,920
Speaker 4: at other women's yo. Lisa's mom also suhs throw Lisa's

949
00:47:21,920 --> 00:47:22,680
Speaker 4: mom into the sun.

950
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:24,080
Speaker 2: God.

951
00:47:24,719 --> 00:47:27,280
Speaker 3: Lisa's probably going crazy right now, is like, what planet

952
00:47:27,360 --> 00:47:30,439
Speaker 3: am I? Yeah, everyone's telling me that this is raw.

953
00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:35,160
Speaker 2: I guess sometimes when you marry the rich, successful.

954
00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:40,799
Speaker 4: Guy, he's got quirks, and the quirks are that he's

955
00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:44,919
Speaker 4: a gross dude who sleeps with his.

956
00:47:44,840 --> 00:47:48,880
Speaker 2: Friends wives evil without this guy telling his own wife.

957
00:47:48,960 --> 00:47:50,720
Speaker 2: I hate this guy a lot.

958
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:54,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like Lisa maybe should be.

959
00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:56,959
Speaker 2: I don't know. Let's keep going, Let's keep going.

960
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:01,400
Speaker 4: Lisa never told any of our mutual friends about this

961
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:04,080
Speaker 4: because they all loved Jason, mostly because he paid for

962
00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:06,919
Speaker 4: all the parties and restaurants because he's the richie rich boy,

963
00:48:07,640 --> 00:48:11,160
Speaker 4: and Lisa just felt very lonely and helpless. That is

964
00:48:11,200 --> 00:48:13,560
Speaker 4: when she got a burner phone and started messaging me

965
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:16,400
Speaker 4: on it. She apologized to me for getting me involved

966
00:48:16,400 --> 00:48:18,319
Speaker 4: in her mess, but asked me if I can buy

967
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:20,520
Speaker 4: her a ticket to my city so that she can

968
00:48:20,520 --> 00:48:24,120
Speaker 4: get away from Jason and everyone and figure out exactly

969
00:48:24,120 --> 00:48:27,000
Speaker 4: what to do next. She could not buy the tickets

970
00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:30,080
Speaker 4: herself because Jason had access to all her cards and accounts,

971
00:48:30,480 --> 00:48:32,640
Speaker 4: and she could not trust any of her friends back

972
00:48:32,719 --> 00:48:34,520
Speaker 4: home because Jason might know about it.

973
00:48:35,120 --> 00:48:38,800
Speaker 2: I was really angry with the whole situation and agreed

974
00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:42,080
Speaker 2: to help her. I got the tickets immediately and did

975
00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 2: not email her any details. I only told her the

976
00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 2: confirmation numbers. Win packed and reached the airport. Wow.

977
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:51,400
Speaker 4: She flew to my city and is staying in my

978
00:48:51,440 --> 00:48:55,919
Speaker 4: guest room as expected. Heck broke loose as soon as

979
00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:57,799
Speaker 4: she called her parents to tell them that she had

980
00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:01,040
Speaker 4: left Jason and is with me. She told them and

981
00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 4: our friends why she did what she did. However, everyone

982
00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:06,719
Speaker 4: just thought that we had an affair and she left

983
00:49:06,840 --> 00:49:11,239
Speaker 4: Jason for me. Yeah, I mean that is the optically

984
00:49:12,120 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 4: exactly what that looks like.

985
00:49:14,520 --> 00:49:15,080
Speaker 2: It does.

986
00:49:16,600 --> 00:49:20,040
Speaker 3: So much chat because this is like Lisa's POV. Someone

987
00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:21,640
Speaker 3: of the chats saying that she might be lying.

988
00:49:21,680 --> 00:49:25,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, I am seeing that the chat is I don't

989
00:49:25,040 --> 00:49:26,320
Speaker 4: know I should have.

990
00:49:26,680 --> 00:49:28,320
Speaker 2: I kind of disagree because I'm.

991
00:49:28,160 --> 00:49:32,799
Speaker 3: Just like, yeah, I disagree, Like why make it up?

992
00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:34,800
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know. It just sounds either

993
00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 3: too fishy or like that is an odd situation that

994
00:49:39,040 --> 00:49:40,279
Speaker 3: I how did you not know?

995
00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 4: I mean, she's also getting like it makes sense that

996
00:49:42,719 --> 00:49:44,920
Speaker 4: I think people wouldn't know because she comes from a

997
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:46,560
Speaker 4: lot of money. And it sounds like the mom is

998
00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:48,880
Speaker 4: very much like it doesn't matter what your husband doesn't

999
00:49:48,880 --> 00:49:51,840
Speaker 4: matters how much money your husband has, so yeah, like

1000
00:49:52,719 --> 00:49:54,879
Speaker 4: you need to stay with him so that and she's

1001
00:49:54,920 --> 00:49:57,000
Speaker 4: like I think she's like six months is too early,

1002
00:49:57,080 --> 00:49:59,520
Speaker 4: not even because of like, oh it's too early to

1003
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:01,840
Speaker 4: leave some And she's like you won't get the money.

1004
00:50:02,840 --> 00:50:04,120
Speaker 2: That's how she's probably operating.

1005
00:50:04,480 --> 00:50:06,560
Speaker 4: She's like, you gotta stay with him until the prenup

1006
00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:09,280
Speaker 4: hits and then you can take half of his assets.

1007
00:50:09,880 --> 00:50:15,279
Speaker 2: That's probably what she's thinking, mom My mom, Yeah, hi

1008
00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:15,960
Speaker 2: ya yai.

1009
00:50:16,760 --> 00:50:22,600
Speaker 4: Well, Jason was really angry and demanded her to come

1010
00:50:22,640 --> 00:50:25,799
Speaker 4: home or they're done. His parents called her to plead

1011
00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:28,719
Speaker 4: her to come back and talk about things calmly. Her

1012
00:50:28,800 --> 00:50:31,439
Speaker 4: dad refused to talk to her, while her mom flew

1013
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:33,919
Speaker 4: to my city and we all met and she told

1014
00:50:33,960 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 4: her what happened.

1015
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:36,799
Speaker 2: Excuse me.

1016
00:50:37,040 --> 00:50:40,319
Speaker 4: Her mom was more worried about their reputation than what

1017
00:50:40,400 --> 00:50:42,480
Speaker 4: Lisa went through in the last few months, and it

1018
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:46,440
Speaker 4: was just sickening. Lisa is looking for lawyers to file

1019
00:50:46,520 --> 00:50:49,760
Speaker 4: for a divorce and has refused to talk to Jason

1020
00:50:50,160 --> 00:50:52,760
Speaker 4: since she came here. Jason has not made an attempt

1021
00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:55,600
Speaker 4: to visit her, and initially sent sent her a lot

1022
00:50:55,600 --> 00:50:58,840
Speaker 4: of threatening messages. I feel he was advised not to

1023
00:50:58,880 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 4: send any more in criminalating messages to her, and the

1024
00:51:01,120 --> 00:51:05,640
Speaker 4: messages from him suddenly stopped. There's radio silence. Lisa is

1025
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:08,200
Speaker 4: currently living with me for the last month. She has

1026
00:51:08,200 --> 00:51:10,200
Speaker 4: offered to pay me rent, but I have told her

1027
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:12,920
Speaker 4: to just save up for any legal fees, as it

1028
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:16,640
Speaker 4: seems her parents might cut her off. OK, which, bro

1029
00:51:16,719 --> 00:51:18,640
Speaker 4: I'm I like you, that's some that's king.

1030
00:51:19,000 --> 00:51:19,440
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1031
00:51:19,440 --> 00:51:23,960
Speaker 4: And I know you're sweetie, right and you're you're but

1032
00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:27,000
Speaker 4: in a way I feel like you're like.

1033
00:51:27,239 --> 00:51:29,319
Speaker 2: Oh, remember how you told me? I was broke, might

1034
00:51:29,320 --> 00:51:32,520
Speaker 2: be time for you to save some money. Oh yeah,

1035
00:51:32,880 --> 00:51:36,759
Speaker 2: take a little splash of like satisfaction and being like,

1036
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:38,239
Speaker 2: remember how you broke up with me because I was

1037
00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:40,319
Speaker 2: so broke. I'm just start saving your money because I'm

1038
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:40,959
Speaker 2: paying your rent.

1039
00:51:41,040 --> 00:51:44,080
Speaker 1: I'm choosing to believe in op He's golden heart. But uh, dude,

1040
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:47,480
Speaker 1: this is literally like you know Darman Darman? Yeah, have

1041
00:51:47,560 --> 00:51:52,200
Speaker 1: you seen Darman kan Dude? He has these like insanely cheesy,

1042
00:51:52,400 --> 00:51:55,760
Speaker 1: way over the top videos there. It's honestly so so funny,

1043
00:51:56,640 --> 00:51:58,719
Speaker 1: but they basically have these like crazy scenarios where it'll

1044
00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:00,440
Speaker 1: be a guy who's like, you know, I'm working on

1045
00:52:00,480 --> 00:52:03,080
Speaker 1: my business, goes like, man, you're such a loser.

1046
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:04,840
Speaker 2: Why don't you have a lot of money already?

1047
00:52:05,040 --> 00:52:06,640
Speaker 1: And then at the end he's like going to his

1048
00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:09,279
Speaker 1: Ferrari with with the beautiful codess. I was like, oh, hey,

1049
00:52:09,400 --> 00:52:11,319
Speaker 1: good to see you, and she's like disheveled.

1050
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:16,759
Speaker 2: I I think I have seen Uh that's the guy

1051
00:52:16,800 --> 00:52:19,520
Speaker 2: who does it. But it's like, okay, yeah, is that

1052
00:52:19,600 --> 00:52:23,680
Speaker 2: second pote that's you? Right? The second one that look

1053
00:52:23,719 --> 00:52:28,440
Speaker 2: that's you me Darmy no Kean. It's key on in

1054
00:52:28,440 --> 00:52:28,840
Speaker 2: the gym.

1055
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 3: Which one the second photo, I'm not pulling that up.

1056
00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:36,359
Speaker 2: When you had a full facial hair, well.

1057
00:52:36,239 --> 00:52:39,680
Speaker 3: I'll think it as a compliment. Yeah, you should take it.

1058
00:52:41,440 --> 00:52:44,480
Speaker 4: Honestly, he looks like attractive young man.

1059
00:52:47,880 --> 00:52:50,080
Speaker 2: Oh baby, can we not say that?

1060
00:52:50,680 --> 00:52:57,359
Speaker 4: I thought this was America anyway? Uh So I told

1061
00:52:57,360 --> 00:52:58,960
Speaker 4: her she might just want to save up for any

1062
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:00,960
Speaker 4: sort of legal fees, as it seems her parents might

1063
00:53:01,000 --> 00:53:04,520
Speaker 4: cut her off. Many of our mutual friends still refuse

1064
00:53:04,600 --> 00:53:07,440
Speaker 4: to believe what Jason did, and some feel we were

1065
00:53:07,440 --> 00:53:10,359
Speaker 4: having an affair. Many of them have completely stopped talking

1066
00:53:10,440 --> 00:53:14,520
Speaker 4: to Lisa and me and even removed us from their socials.

1067
00:53:15,160 --> 00:53:18,400
Speaker 4: Lisa looks like an empty shell of herself. She was

1068
00:53:18,440 --> 00:53:21,239
Speaker 4: the most kind, fun person when we were together. Even

1069
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:23,879
Speaker 4: though she keeps a brave face, she just bursts into

1070
00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:29,640
Speaker 4: tears randomly. Yeah that's I'm starting I feel now for Lisa.

1071
00:53:29,960 --> 00:53:30,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, one hundred.

1072
00:53:33,000 --> 00:53:38,640
Speaker 1: I don't think Lisa did anything really wrong at this point,

1073
00:53:38,760 --> 00:53:41,360
Speaker 1: because I think she was probably trying to build up

1074
00:53:41,400 --> 00:53:42,120
Speaker 1: the courage to.

1075
00:53:44,520 --> 00:53:45,120
Speaker 2: Talk to him.

1076
00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:48,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, tell them right right, Yeah, it's got to be

1077
00:53:48,960 --> 00:53:51,520
Speaker 4: a really I mean, it's super hard to deal with.

1078
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:57,480
Speaker 4: I feel that she has still not told me the

1079
00:53:57,520 --> 00:54:00,160
Speaker 4: whole story on what Jason did to her. But I'm

1080
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:01,839
Speaker 4: just going to be a good friend and give her

1081
00:54:01,840 --> 00:54:04,520
Speaker 4: the space that she needs. I honestly am not sure

1082
00:54:04,760 --> 00:54:07,719
Speaker 4: how to feel. Everything has happened so suddenly, and I

1083
00:54:07,800 --> 00:54:10,000
Speaker 4: never had a time to react and think if what

1084
00:54:10,040 --> 00:54:12,439
Speaker 4: I'm doing is right. I don't know how I got

1085
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:15,200
Speaker 4: in a situation where my married ex is now living

1086
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:17,680
Speaker 4: with me. I cannot kick her out and I want

1087
00:54:17,719 --> 00:54:21,160
Speaker 4: to be there to support her in such a horrible time. However,

1088
00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:23,520
Speaker 4: a part of me also does not know if what

1089
00:54:23,600 --> 00:54:26,640
Speaker 4: I'm doing is right, and as she is still a

1090
00:54:26,680 --> 00:54:27,360
Speaker 4: married woman.

1091
00:54:28,560 --> 00:54:30,000
Speaker 3: Is that's just talk?

1092
00:54:30,160 --> 00:54:34,040
Speaker 2: Thanks TikTok, thanks talk. I get whatever that was run

1093
00:54:34,120 --> 00:54:34,520
Speaker 2: real quick.

1094
00:54:34,719 --> 00:54:39,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, However, a part of me does not also does

1095
00:54:39,040 --> 00:54:41,359
Speaker 4: not know if what I am doing is right as

1096
00:54:41,400 --> 00:54:44,879
Speaker 4: she still is a married woman, and I don't want

1097
00:54:44,880 --> 00:54:46,920
Speaker 4: to be labeled as a home wrecker or a cheater.

1098
00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:51,200
Speaker 4: Any advice would be appreciated, And there is an edit

1099
00:54:51,360 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 4: with some more context here, so let's get that. Just

1100
00:54:55,719 --> 00:54:57,799
Speaker 4: wanted to add some context since many of you are

1101
00:54:57,840 --> 00:55:00,200
Speaker 4: asking about it in the comments. Lisa left her main

1102
00:55:00,360 --> 00:55:03,360
Speaker 4: phone at home when she left, since her husband can

1103
00:55:03,440 --> 00:55:06,040
Speaker 4: track her phone. He was already paranoid that Lisa would

1104
00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:09,719
Speaker 4: leave him and was tracking all accounts and Lisa's whereabouts.

1105
00:55:09,760 --> 00:55:12,080
Speaker 4: She did not want to let anyone know she was

1106
00:55:12,120 --> 00:55:14,879
Speaker 4: at my place. However, I insisted that she at least

1107
00:55:14,880 --> 00:55:17,439
Speaker 4: call and tell her parents that she was safe, else

1108
00:55:17,480 --> 00:55:19,680
Speaker 4: they would have thought she disappeared and might have gone

1109
00:55:19,719 --> 00:55:23,480
Speaker 4: to the cops to file a missing person report. Jess

1110
00:55:23,480 --> 00:55:26,400
Speaker 4: did not help her because Lisa did not tell Jess

1111
00:55:26,680 --> 00:55:29,560
Speaker 4: or any of our friends about the abuse. All Lisa

1112
00:55:29,600 --> 00:55:31,640
Speaker 4: told me was that she did not trust any of

1113
00:55:31,640 --> 00:55:34,200
Speaker 4: our friends. Right now, I'm still not sure why and

1114
00:55:34,280 --> 00:55:37,280
Speaker 4: what happened there. However, most of our friends have sided

1115
00:55:37,280 --> 00:55:39,960
Speaker 4: with Jason, and he is spreading a false narrative that

1116
00:55:40,000 --> 00:55:42,920
Speaker 4: Lisa married him for money and waited for six months

1117
00:55:42,960 --> 00:55:45,960
Speaker 4: exactly so that she would be eligible for a significant

1118
00:55:45,960 --> 00:55:51,799
Speaker 4: alimony based on their prenup. But ooh, the other there's

1119
00:55:51,800 --> 00:55:55,160
Speaker 4: the flip side of this very suspicious coin, at least

1120
00:55:55,200 --> 00:55:57,040
Speaker 4: for the people who are suspicious in chat.

1121
00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:01,880
Speaker 2: I still don't believe it, but I mean that flips.

1122
00:56:01,920 --> 00:56:04,000
Speaker 4: I think the mom's narrative in my head because I

1123
00:56:04,040 --> 00:56:05,839
Speaker 4: thought the mom was telling her to stay to get

1124
00:56:05,840 --> 00:56:08,560
Speaker 4: more money. But now I guess it sounds like she

1125
00:56:08,560 --> 00:56:11,799
Speaker 4: could already get money if we're going off of that.

1126
00:56:11,960 --> 00:56:14,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, it almost sounds it almost sounded like maybe the

1127
00:56:14,520 --> 00:56:17,000
Speaker 1: mom didn't know or was just trying to make sure

1128
00:56:17,040 --> 00:56:18,759
Speaker 1: she hit that mark or so.

1129
00:56:18,840 --> 00:56:19,239
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1130
00:56:19,760 --> 00:56:22,560
Speaker 4: So right as of right now, there are two possibilities

1131
00:56:22,600 --> 00:56:23,040
Speaker 4: of this story.

1132
00:56:23,120 --> 00:56:25,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just want to break it down. One, Oh,

1133
00:56:25,840 --> 00:56:27,080
Speaker 2: Lisa is telling the truth.

1134
00:56:27,200 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, and she's gone through this horrific experience that we

1135
00:56:30,680 --> 00:56:32,200
Speaker 4: have nothing but empathy for her.

1136
00:56:32,280 --> 00:56:32,560
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1137
00:56:32,680 --> 00:56:38,200
Speaker 4: For number two, Lisa is lying and is which we

1138
00:56:38,560 --> 00:56:43,080
Speaker 4: don't know, but the leaving right as if that's true,

1139
00:56:43,080 --> 00:56:45,399
Speaker 4: because Jason could also be lying about the pre nup.

1140
00:56:45,880 --> 00:56:48,839
Speaker 4: But it does look really optically suspicious if she left

1141
00:56:48,880 --> 00:56:52,080
Speaker 4: her rich husband six months after they got married and

1142
00:56:52,120 --> 00:56:55,160
Speaker 4: now has the money and now she's back with her the.

1143
00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 2: Broke boyfriend who was more fun. Is she trying to.

1144
00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:01,920
Speaker 4: Have the best of both worlds? Those are the two options.

1145
00:57:01,960 --> 00:57:02,560
Speaker 2: I don't think so.

1146
00:57:02,719 --> 00:57:06,759
Speaker 4: I believe the first one already, but especially because uh,

1147
00:57:07,719 --> 00:57:09,960
Speaker 4: he's been like like after she's gotten there, he's been

1148
00:57:10,000 --> 00:57:12,040
Speaker 4: able to see she's been bursting out in tears.

1149
00:57:12,120 --> 00:57:15,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's constantly contacting her like it's like super clear

1150
00:57:16,280 --> 00:57:19,040
Speaker 1: with her there even before I think, because it's like,

1151
00:57:19,200 --> 00:57:21,280
Speaker 1: what's the alternative? Oh, she's trying to leave her husband

1152
00:57:21,320 --> 00:57:27,480
Speaker 1: like okay, like fine, but the other alternative is horrendous.

1153
00:57:27,680 --> 00:57:30,320
Speaker 1: So I feel like, yeah, it's just like we have

1154
00:57:30,400 --> 00:57:32,760
Speaker 1: to do these things.

1155
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:36,240
Speaker 2: We've got two great contents right here. Yeah, first one

1156
00:57:36,280 --> 00:57:37,000
Speaker 2: is totally spies.

1157
00:57:37,040 --> 00:57:39,200
Speaker 4: Oh one says how do you prove either, which is

1158
00:57:39,240 --> 00:57:41,640
Speaker 4: like it's so, it's so impossible. And then we have

1159
00:57:41,720 --> 00:57:44,800
Speaker 4: one right after that, which is Litha that says both

1160
00:57:44,920 --> 00:57:47,840
Speaker 4: can be true, which is also true.

1161
00:57:47,920 --> 00:57:48,320
Speaker 2: I think.

1162
00:57:48,400 --> 00:57:51,920
Speaker 1: I think it's probably hard, like it might. Here's a

1163
00:57:51,960 --> 00:57:54,960
Speaker 1: probably a very real probable scenario. She's going through all

1164
00:57:55,000 --> 00:58:00,640
Speaker 1: of these horrible things and she's like she's talking, She's like,

1165
00:58:00,640 --> 00:58:01,720
Speaker 1: oh do I do I stay?

1166
00:58:01,720 --> 00:58:03,520
Speaker 2: Do I leave? Like when's the right time? Like should am?

1167
00:58:03,520 --> 00:58:03,760
Speaker 2: I am?

1168
00:58:03,800 --> 00:58:06,680
Speaker 1: I just being crazy? My mom saying this like, oh,

1169
00:58:06,320 --> 00:58:10,120
Speaker 1: like I do wanna stay? This is my lifestyle built up?

1170
00:58:10,160 --> 00:58:11,920
Speaker 1: Oh if I stay for this long, I feel like

1171
00:58:11,920 --> 00:58:15,560
Speaker 1: it's like everything at once it was probably like all

1172
00:58:15,680 --> 00:58:19,280
Speaker 1: just like bouncing around in her head, and she finally

1173
00:58:19,320 --> 00:58:21,880
Speaker 1: just reached the point where like enough was enough, Like

1174
00:58:22,320 --> 00:58:24,160
Speaker 1: maybe it was like trying to see if she could

1175
00:58:24,160 --> 00:58:26,959
Speaker 1: make it out, like make it to that time point.

1176
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:29,880
Speaker 1: Hey if she gets if she she should get paid

1177
00:58:29,880 --> 00:58:30,880
Speaker 1: for the abuse that she had.

1178
00:58:31,000 --> 00:58:34,120
Speaker 2: Honestly, yes, right, she deserves that. She she should be

1179
00:58:34,160 --> 00:58:39,040
Speaker 2: paid for that. So like, great, amazing, all right, that's

1180
00:58:39,040 --> 00:58:40,600
Speaker 2: what she's going. Let's keep going.

1181
00:58:40,640 --> 00:58:47,120
Speaker 3: There we go again, Hannah with the silent heart donation

1182
00:58:47,280 --> 00:58:47,640
Speaker 3: right here?

1183
00:58:48,160 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 2: Oh purple heart, purple Heart.

1184
00:58:50,320 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 3: Sixty US dollars from Hannah.

1185
00:58:54,080 --> 00:58:58,800
Speaker 2: Whoa, I can't do it. I can't do it. I

1186
00:58:58,800 --> 00:58:59,320
Speaker 2: can't get it.

1187
00:58:59,360 --> 00:59:01,640
Speaker 4: Oh you want to get randomly one time like last

1188
00:59:01,640 --> 00:59:04,120
Speaker 4: week while we were on break, I got it really well,

1189
00:59:04,160 --> 00:59:04,760
Speaker 4: and I can't.

1190
00:59:04,600 --> 00:59:05,080
Speaker 2: Do it again.

1191
00:59:05,520 --> 00:59:07,080
Speaker 3: I get it right, I got you brother?

1192
00:59:08,280 --> 00:59:16,680
Speaker 4: Oh god, okay, Oh well there's uh.

1193
00:59:15,800 --> 00:59:19,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, let's I let's keep going. We got more,

1194
00:59:19,040 --> 00:59:20,800
Speaker 2: we got more? Oh yeah yeah.

1195
00:59:21,600 --> 00:59:25,280
Speaker 4: Everyone suspects that we Lisa and I planned this whole

1196
00:59:25,360 --> 00:59:28,280
Speaker 4: charade for Jason's money, which.

1197
00:59:28,920 --> 00:59:30,160
Speaker 2: That's definitely not true.

1198
00:59:30,920 --> 00:59:33,760
Speaker 4: Lisa left and came back to me because she wanted

1199
00:59:33,800 --> 00:59:36,160
Speaker 4: to put as much physical distance between Jason and her

1200
00:59:36,240 --> 00:59:40,360
Speaker 4: before she told him that she was leaving him. Oh okay,

1201
00:59:40,480 --> 00:59:44,560
Speaker 4: and uh, by the way, you please feel free to

1202
00:59:44,640 --> 00:59:47,920
Speaker 4: join us when we go live on YouTube, on Facebook,

1203
00:59:48,200 --> 00:59:52,440
Speaker 4: on Twitch every weekday at three pm PST. All you

1204
00:59:52,440 --> 00:59:54,280
Speaker 4: gotta do is tap our profile and if you're watching

1205
00:59:54,280 --> 00:59:56,040
Speaker 4: this in the future, we might be live right now,

1206
00:59:56,040 --> 00:59:57,840
Speaker 4: so go ahead and check it out right after this,

1207
00:59:58,880 --> 01:00:00,880
Speaker 4: because well, I should we just dive into it.

1208
01:00:00,880 --> 01:00:02,240
Speaker 2: I feel like we kind of broke down the story

1209
01:00:02,280 --> 01:00:03,320
Speaker 2: a little bit. I think we can dive in.

1210
01:00:03,360 --> 01:00:05,320
Speaker 4: Normally we'd do a little breakdown right here, but we've

1211
01:00:05,320 --> 01:00:06,520
Speaker 4: been breaking breaking.

1212
01:00:06,280 --> 01:00:06,600
Speaker 3: A lot of it.

1213
01:00:06,840 --> 01:00:10,280
Speaker 4: Dude, we are breakdancwers right now, breaking it down.

1214
01:00:10,640 --> 01:00:11,640
Speaker 2: Let's get right into it.

1215
01:00:11,720 --> 01:00:11,959
Speaker 3: Yep.

1216
01:00:13,360 --> 01:00:16,560
Speaker 4: Of course, Lisa and I are not getting back together.

1217
01:00:16,880 --> 01:00:19,680
Speaker 4: I understand the vulnerable position she's in and I just

1218
01:00:19,720 --> 01:00:22,600
Speaker 4: want to make sure that she is safe. Finally, what

1219
01:00:22,680 --> 01:00:25,720
Speaker 4: are my future plans? I'm taking it one day at

1220
01:00:25,720 --> 01:00:28,640
Speaker 4: a time. I luckily have a very well paying job

1221
01:00:28,720 --> 01:00:31,720
Speaker 4: now and do not have to worry about financially supporting

1222
01:00:31,720 --> 01:00:34,880
Speaker 4: her for a short time. However, I do understand Lisa

1223
01:00:34,920 --> 01:00:37,360
Speaker 4: cannot live with me forever and we need to figure

1224
01:00:37,400 --> 01:00:39,520
Speaker 4: out something as soon as things settle down.

1225
01:00:40,720 --> 01:00:43,800
Speaker 2: And that is the end of that story. Wow, zero

1226
01:00:43,880 --> 01:00:47,760
Speaker 2: resolution for us. That hurts my brain.

1227
01:00:49,080 --> 01:00:52,560
Speaker 1: Ah, okay, but you know what, it seems like that

1228
01:00:52,680 --> 01:00:56,160
Speaker 1: is a pickle dude. She's now with Opie, who we

1229
01:00:56,240 --> 01:00:58,680
Speaker 1: know is a goaded, gorgeous angel.

1230
01:00:58,480 --> 01:01:01,280
Speaker 4: Case, the straight king end up dude, So we know

1231
01:01:01,320 --> 01:01:03,480
Speaker 4: that there's no way that Ope, there.

1232
01:01:03,360 --> 01:01:08,400
Speaker 2: Was no conspiracy here. Yeah, clearly there's no conspiracy. Yeah.

1233
01:01:08,480 --> 01:01:12,680
Speaker 4: I think she probably Yeah, I think she probably went

1234
01:01:12,720 --> 01:01:16,880
Speaker 4: through pretty much everything that she went through and saw

1235
01:01:16,960 --> 01:01:22,240
Speaker 4: op as the trustworthy king that he is and slowly

1236
01:01:22,440 --> 01:01:27,320
Speaker 4: tried to sort of, you know, redevelop a trust slash

1237
01:01:27,400 --> 01:01:30,040
Speaker 4: bond so that she could go to him and be like,

1238
01:01:30,560 --> 01:01:31,920
Speaker 4: I please help me get out of I need to

1239
01:01:31,920 --> 01:01:33,520
Speaker 4: get out of this, and I don't really have anyone

1240
01:01:33,520 --> 01:01:34,880
Speaker 4: else I can trust right now. Please, I need to

1241
01:01:34,880 --> 01:01:36,760
Speaker 4: trust you, trust me, help me out.

1242
01:01:36,960 --> 01:01:38,560
Speaker 2: And now she can figure it out from a safe place.

1243
01:01:38,720 --> 01:01:42,560
Speaker 4: Yes, that that I think actually is a good a

1244
01:01:42,920 --> 01:01:44,919
Speaker 4: good ending of where it left arm right here.

1245
01:01:46,000 --> 01:01:49,440
Speaker 2: But that's it. Yes, I see, I know that didn't end.

1246
01:01:49,320 --> 01:01:51,400
Speaker 5: In a great place, But I see both of these

1247
01:01:51,480 --> 01:01:56,480
Speaker 5: people having beautiful, fully fulfilled lives and they are friends

1248
01:01:56,920 --> 01:02:02,000
Speaker 5: and their friend group that is problematic for them is

1249
01:02:02,080 --> 01:02:05,440
Speaker 5: out of the picture, and Jason is thrown into a

1250
01:02:05,880 --> 01:02:10,640
Speaker 5: particle collider and particles split on an atomic level into

1251
01:02:10,840 --> 01:02:12,560
Speaker 5: absolutely nothing but dust.

1252
01:02:13,560 --> 01:02:15,680
Speaker 2: Yeah I like that. Yeah, I like that.

1253
01:02:16,320 --> 01:02:18,520
Speaker 4: But guys, you know what else? I like this next

1254
01:02:18,560 --> 01:02:21,200
Speaker 4: story and some donos.

1255
01:02:21,960 --> 01:02:24,600
Speaker 1: Who else we got mount Avis girl, Thanks for the

1256
01:02:24,680 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 1: twenty five bucks on the donor.

1257
01:02:26,360 --> 01:02:31,160
Speaker 2: Like. By the way, guys, the uh the the tube.

1258
01:02:31,360 --> 01:02:32,240
Speaker 2: That sounds terrible.

1259
01:02:32,800 --> 01:02:34,720
Speaker 1: We save thirty when you say on the donor like

1260
01:02:34,800 --> 01:02:39,520
Speaker 1: this tube. I was trying to say to the tube

1261
01:02:39,760 --> 01:02:43,520
Speaker 1: taxes for the white tea. Thanks for starting my bucks.

1262
01:02:43,560 --> 01:02:47,480
Speaker 1: Happy holidays from Montana everyone, Robin, I feel like Montana

1263
01:02:47,560 --> 01:02:49,520
Speaker 1: is a great place to be in during the holidays.

1264
01:02:49,560 --> 01:02:51,800
Speaker 2: Like snow. Montana is just a great place to be

1265
01:02:51,840 --> 01:02:53,080
Speaker 2: in period, big, open.

1266
01:02:52,880 --> 01:02:56,560
Speaker 3: Sky, quiet, It's gorgeous and the guy I've been there,

1267
01:02:58,600 --> 01:02:59,600
Speaker 3: I highly recommend it.

1268
01:02:59,640 --> 01:02:59,960
Speaker 2: Montana.

1269
01:03:00,000 --> 01:03:01,360
Speaker 3: It's nice, it's beautiful.

1270
01:03:01,400 --> 01:03:03,680
Speaker 4: And you know what, Mingming, I am wearing a clock

1271
01:03:03,800 --> 01:03:06,680
Speaker 4: ring and it doesn't work and it's constantly set.

1272
01:03:06,440 --> 01:03:13,520
Speaker 2: At what time? Eleven eleven? Yes, yes it is. You

1273
01:03:13,600 --> 01:03:15,760
Speaker 2: nailed it. I read today that eleven eleven is a

1274
01:03:15,760 --> 01:03:16,680
Speaker 2: special number to many.

1275
01:03:17,280 --> 01:03:18,480
Speaker 3: John said, you're predictable.

1276
01:03:20,040 --> 01:03:22,959
Speaker 1: You're hey, you're taking my amazing guests and just taking

1277
01:03:23,000 --> 01:03:24,960
Speaker 1: the win on my sales hereon, I don't appreciate it.

1278
01:03:25,000 --> 01:03:26,920
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess it is a pretty predictable No.

1279
01:03:26,760 --> 01:03:28,520
Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, that was a great guess. And

1280
01:03:28,560 --> 01:03:30,040
Speaker 4: we just shared his amazing.

1281
01:03:30,000 --> 01:03:31,960
Speaker 3: Three units of time that you would get put.

1282
01:03:31,800 --> 01:03:32,280
Speaker 2: On the clock.

1283
01:03:32,560 --> 01:03:35,560
Speaker 1: We shared an amazing moment and that was great. And

1284
01:03:35,640 --> 01:03:40,040
Speaker 1: I'm leaving it there and I won't hear anything else. Yeah, exactly, yeah, correct,

1285
01:03:41,000 --> 01:03:44,280
Speaker 1: beautiful bashroods? What other we got some ya donos?

1286
01:03:44,320 --> 01:03:45,320
Speaker 3: No, we still got more done here?

1287
01:03:45,520 --> 01:03:48,520
Speaker 2: Oh sorry vix mix. Oh we already just read that.

1288
01:03:48,600 --> 01:03:49,360
Speaker 2: Wait we did?

1289
01:03:49,480 --> 01:03:56,360
Speaker 1: Yes, and then reckless and feckless five bucks listening from

1290
01:03:56,400 --> 01:03:59,000
Speaker 1: the UK about to fall asleep and first time donating.

1291
01:03:59,280 --> 01:04:01,160
Speaker 2: I've been being listening on Spotify.

1292
01:04:01,640 --> 01:04:01,720
Speaker 3: Uh.

1293
01:04:01,920 --> 01:04:04,960
Speaker 1: Made it down to the fifteen hundreds the episodes that is,

1294
01:04:05,040 --> 01:04:07,680
Speaker 1: and I'm loving the journey. Still haven't figured out the

1295
01:04:07,720 --> 01:04:11,840
Speaker 1: worm or pigeon origin stories, but nowhere.

1296
01:04:11,160 --> 01:04:12,040
Speaker 2: You're on your way.

1297
01:04:12,280 --> 01:04:12,960
Speaker 3: Neither have we.

1298
01:04:13,080 --> 01:04:13,880
Speaker 2: You're on your way.

1299
01:04:14,000 --> 01:04:16,920
Speaker 1: You're probably if you're in fifteen hundred. That was like

1300
01:04:17,040 --> 01:04:19,360
Speaker 1: the beginning of this year. So you're you're close. You're

1301
01:04:19,480 --> 01:04:21,960
Speaker 1: very close. If you're there. Bug takes it a five

1302
01:04:22,000 --> 01:04:24,880
Speaker 1: bucks first time. What's up bug, first time to love

1303
01:04:24,920 --> 01:04:26,400
Speaker 1: the movie ants.

1304
01:04:26,160 --> 01:04:28,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, we love. I loved the movie about your life life.

1305
01:04:28,480 --> 01:04:30,560
Speaker 1: There we go, first time donating and I just wanted

1306
01:04:30,560 --> 01:04:32,800
Speaker 1: to say thanks for keeping me company this week while

1307
01:04:32,800 --> 01:04:33,280
Speaker 1: I make.

1308
01:04:33,160 --> 01:04:36,760
Speaker 2: One hundred and twenty candles. Wow, I love y'all. Could

1309
01:04:36,840 --> 01:04:40,280
Speaker 2: you are they bug sized? I like candles? Are they like?

1310
01:04:40,960 --> 01:04:44,480
Speaker 3: Are you like like sixteen candles but twenty of them despired?

1311
01:04:44,520 --> 01:04:47,800
Speaker 2: In twenty candles? John, is it your birthday? Despite no

1312
01:04:47,920 --> 01:04:49,439
Speaker 2: john'son's no, no, it's I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: It should have beco. We must stand united. We must

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Speaker 1: have a united front against you being.

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Speaker 4: Old, against all of us being I'm the oldest.

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. That's why we need to stay

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Speaker 2: to night.

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Speaker 4: But anyways, Jesse with a dollar ba quasts says for

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Speaker 4: a twenty seven sweet corners.

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Speaker 2: Actually, if we want to take it away, yes, thank

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Speaker 2: you Josephine for the twenty seven Swedish girl. Nard. We

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Speaker 2: don't just tell stories. We changed lives Starman's that's for

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Speaker 2: all of us, for all the listeners.

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Speaker 3: Uh.

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Speaker 4: Josephine wrote that in uh alternating upper case lowercase. You

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Speaker 4: didn't get just why I said it, like you just

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Speaker 4: needed to provide some content.

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Speaker 2: We figured out the visual. Heidi Browning, thank you for

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Speaker 2: being a member for eight months, almost the full term. Baby.

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Speaker 4: Uh she wanted op back. I think she's full of crap.

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Speaker 2: I mean I would be a pretty freaking elaborately planned

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Speaker 2: like that's a that's a psychotic lie, that's a whole

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Speaker 2: why that's psychosis? Uh vix mixed two dollars. Thank you

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Speaker 2: very much. Run away from him now he's crazy, I

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Speaker 2: think talking about the husband. Yeah, Rum Josephine, thank you

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Speaker 2: for the twenty seven Swedish Crowner. Husband is on the table.

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Speaker 4: Yeah a chopping block, Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 2: Boom and Fix Mix. Thank you for five gifted Okay

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Speaker 2: storytime memberships. You're a champion. Tyy Vincent, thank you for

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Speaker 2: five okay gifted memberships. You're a champion as well. And

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Speaker 2: all of you listening right now, all of our listeners,

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Speaker 2: you're all champions.

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Speaker 3: Is that it got it for now?

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Speaker 2: I believe.

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Speaker 3: Great?

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Speaker 2: Give myself. I got it my age.

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Speaker 3: Before someone said that Dakota looked like Leonard from the

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Speaker 3: Big Bang Theory.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I need to change my hair if that's the case.

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Speaker 3: Okay, have you changed your hair?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: You brought that up, by the way, and then it

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Speaker 4: was at like an incredibly like tense emotional beat, and

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Speaker 4: I'm sitting here thinking how much I hate that someone

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Speaker 4: thinks I saw you.

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Speaker 2: I saw that in your face.

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Speaker 3: That's why you were playing with your hair the entire time.

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Speaker 2: No, no, it's not okay, let's look at Oh I

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01:07:04,480 --> 01:07:08,120
Speaker 2: like that one better. Yeah, yeah, that's sura what we

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Speaker 2: talk now. I'm committed to this. I'm committed to like,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, skater. Did we come up with the

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Speaker 2: name yet hair for this? For yeah? For that, I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't think so cheat. We need

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Speaker 2: a name.

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Speaker 3: I know that's I think somebody, but I don't. For

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Speaker 3: for reference, they thought he looked like.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Well that was the fourth picture.

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Speaker 2: Go to the fourth picture. No, no, what I mean? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: do it picture?

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Speaker 3: Wait which picture?

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Speaker 2: That's the fourth picture? That's uh Johnny Glucky.

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Speaker 4: You want to do you know so many actor names, Well,

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Speaker 4: he's been around for he was in like National Lampoon's

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Speaker 4: Christmas Baker people.

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Speaker 2: He's been in since he was like seven years old.

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Speaker 2: I don't care.

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Speaker 4: Everyone badhead, Yeah, you need your hair the cute. Now

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Speaker 4: keep the bangs down, bad head, that's Sam.

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Speaker 2: I love you just justin Bieber, I love you just

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Speaker 2: all right. I guess this is my hair style. Now

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Speaker 2: should I try to do a swoop?

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Speaker 3: No?

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01:08:02,360 --> 01:08:02,800
Speaker 2: No, I won't.

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Speaker 3: While you're figuring that out, John's going to read the

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Speaker 3: next story.

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Speaker 2: Let's do it.