1 00:00:01,400 --> 00:00:04,640 Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space. 2 00:00:04,920 --> 00:00:10,000 Speaker 2: I am not available for anything that drains me. Protecting 3 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:15,240 Speaker 2: my peace is a form of self love. Hey lady, 4 00:00:15,800 --> 00:00:20,480 Speaker 2: have you ever felt like the world just doesn't get you? Well, 5 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:21,599 Speaker 2: we do. 6 00:00:22,800 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 3: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, the podcast dedicated to uplifting 7 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 3: and empowering women like you. 8 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:35,280 Speaker 2: We're your hosts, doctor Dominique Brussard, and educator and psychologists. 9 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 3: And Terry Lomax, a techie and transformational speaker. 10 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 2: Join us every week for authentic conversations about everything from 11 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:47,520 Speaker 2: fibroids to fake friends as we create space for black 12 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 2: women to just be. 13 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:53,159 Speaker 3: Before we dive in, make sure you hit that follow 14 00:00:53,200 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 3: button and leave us a quick five star review. 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I 25 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 2: look forward to hearing from you our quote of the day, 26 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 2: I am alive and well. I'm gonna say that one 27 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 2: more time for the folks from the back, or maybe 28 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 2: if you need to pause, then let it fit on 29 00:01:57,320 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 2: you for a moment. I am, I'm alive and well. 30 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:08,760 Speaker 2: So this quote is part of a gratitude meditation from 31 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:16,079 Speaker 2: Janee Aiko and if you haven't heard it, lady, we 32 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:20,440 Speaker 2: highly suggest that you go and check it out. I 33 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 2: personally heard it through the Peloton app and that has 34 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:30,840 Speaker 2: become one of my go to morning meditations to start 35 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:35,679 Speaker 2: my mourning from a space of gratitude. And so I'll 36 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:41,359 Speaker 2: say it one more time, I am alive and well. 37 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 2: Rit when you hear this, because you hadn't, you weren't 38 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:50,960 Speaker 2: familiar with this meditation prior to us preking for this episode. 39 00:02:51,480 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 2: So when you hear this and you checks out that meditation, 40 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 2: what comes up for you? 41 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:00,920 Speaker 1: Okay? Girls? So much comes up for me. 42 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:03,160 Speaker 3: It actually makes me think about two other quotes that 43 00:03:03,200 --> 00:03:05,400 Speaker 3: I'm going to kind of add on to it. And 44 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 3: when I hear this, it kind of I feel like 45 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:12,240 Speaker 3: it kind of reminds me to be present right, like 46 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:14,360 Speaker 3: I'm alive, like in this moment right now, like I'm 47 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:15,200 Speaker 3: alive and well. 48 00:03:15,639 --> 00:03:16,560 Speaker 1: And the well part. 49 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:18,080 Speaker 3: I was thinking about that because I went through a 50 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 3: bit of a rough patch recently and I was like, well, 51 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:20,959 Speaker 3: I didn't feel well. 52 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 1: But that's where the other two quotes come in. 53 00:03:23,840 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 3: And to kind of add on to that, there's a 54 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:28,520 Speaker 3: quote that a friend in college shared where she said, 55 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 3: I forgot where she got it from, but she said, 56 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 3: where there's life, there's hope. 57 00:03:31,880 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 1: And so I'm like, okay, I come walk with that. 58 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 3: And then there's a less brand quote that I'll add 59 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 3: on to that that says if you can look up, 60 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 3: you can get up. And so I'm like adding them 61 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 3: all together into that particular quote, So I am alive 62 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:48,840 Speaker 3: and well, kind of going into when there's where there's life, 63 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 3: there's hope, and then if you can look up, you 64 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 3: can get up. And in that sense, like when I 65 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 3: think about that quote, I can see how, Okay, I'm alive, 66 00:03:56,520 --> 00:03:58,680 Speaker 3: I'm well, there's an opportunity for me to get to 67 00:03:58,720 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 3: where I want to go. 68 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: What comes up from you when I hear that? 69 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 2: I love that I love that because to me, when 70 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 2: I would meditate to this particular, this particular affirmation and 71 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:18,360 Speaker 2: the overall message that is through that that particular meditation. Yeah, 72 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:21,480 Speaker 2: it's similar of the quotes that you added on right 73 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:24,919 Speaker 2: that like, it's an expression of gratitude that you are present, 74 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:27,039 Speaker 2: you are here, And if you are present and you 75 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:31,480 Speaker 2: are here, then you have a lot to be grateful 76 00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 2: for in that alone. And where there's gratitude, there's room 77 00:04:37,160 --> 00:04:42,800 Speaker 2: for you to do things. Even if you aren't feeling 78 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:46,760 Speaker 2: you're one hundred percent, you can still say it to 79 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:50,160 Speaker 2: get until you get to that point where you are 80 00:04:50,160 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 2: feeling at one hundred percent. 81 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:56,839 Speaker 1: Oh, I love that. I love that so much, lady. 82 00:04:57,200 --> 00:05:00,960 Speaker 3: So, if you have been watching the new Loose on 83 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 3: social media, just if you have been alive, right, and 84 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:06,680 Speaker 3: if you are listening to this episode right, we're talking 85 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:07,160 Speaker 3: about being. 86 00:05:07,040 --> 00:05:07,719 Speaker 1: Alive and well. 87 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:11,040 Speaker 3: Life has been moving fast right for many of us. 88 00:05:11,400 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 3: You may be feeling heavy or like you just need 89 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:17,560 Speaker 3: a soft place to land. If that's you, this episode 90 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:20,520 Speaker 3: is for you. So we are slowing things down and 91 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:23,440 Speaker 3: wrapping you in words that feel like warmth, that feel 92 00:05:23,440 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 3: like a hug. And today we're going to be sharing 93 00:05:25,560 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 3: ten affirmations again to make you, you and your day 94 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:31,560 Speaker 3: feel like you're getting a hug from us personally. So 95 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:33,840 Speaker 3: it's going to be the kind that reaches your spirit, 96 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:37,039 Speaker 3: not just your ears. And each one of these affirmations 97 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:40,160 Speaker 3: ideally is going to speak to a part of our 98 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 3: lives that we all navigate so self worth, healing, rest, love, purpose, 99 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:49,320 Speaker 3: and trust. And we're not just saying these words, we're 100 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 3: unpacking why they matter, how they've carried us, and how 101 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:55,360 Speaker 3: you can use them to come back home to yourself. 102 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:57,279 Speaker 3: And I do want to state that this is not 103 00:05:57,320 --> 00:06:02,520 Speaker 3: about toxic positivity. It's about true telling, softness and reminders 104 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:06,120 Speaker 3: that you already are worthy, you already are powerful, and 105 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 3: you already are held even on your hard days. 106 00:06:09,040 --> 00:06:12,239 Speaker 1: So get cozy, grab your tea or drink of choice, 107 00:06:12,440 --> 00:06:17,279 Speaker 1: take a deep breath, and let's speak life together. All right, 108 00:06:17,760 --> 00:06:18,560 Speaker 1: all right. 109 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:25,480 Speaker 2: All right, So our first affirmation I am enough, exactly 110 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:30,080 Speaker 2: as I am. My power has never depended on anyone 111 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:35,680 Speaker 2: else's permission. I'm gonna say that one more time so 112 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:38,839 Speaker 2: that as you're listening to this, it may even be 113 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:44,039 Speaker 2: helpful for you to pause and close your eyes, place 114 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:47,919 Speaker 2: your hand on your belly or your heart and say 115 00:06:47,920 --> 00:06:54,800 Speaker 2: the affirmation, I am enough exactly as I am. My 116 00:06:55,080 --> 00:07:01,000 Speaker 2: power has never depended on anyone else's permission. So, lady, 117 00:07:01,240 --> 00:07:04,480 Speaker 2: as you hear that affirmation, and as you have set 118 00:07:04,520 --> 00:07:09,040 Speaker 2: that affirmation out loud, we also want you to think 119 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 2: about where in your life do you feel like you're 120 00:07:13,040 --> 00:07:17,679 Speaker 2: still waiting for permission, waiting for someone else to tell 121 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 2: you that it's okay to be you to do that thing. So, 122 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 2: as we're going through these affirmations and we have these 123 00:07:30,680 --> 00:07:34,560 Speaker 2: follow up questions, take a moment and write down your 124 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:39,960 Speaker 2: reflections and bookmark this particular episode so that you can 125 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 2: come back to it anytime you need it. 126 00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 3: I love this quote so much, or this affirmation so much, 127 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 3: because I feel like, when I was younger, I felt 128 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:50,720 Speaker 3: this is something my younger self needed to hear, because 129 00:07:50,880 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 3: I remember being in seasons of life where I was 130 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 3: looking outside of myself for enoughness or for worthiness. And 131 00:07:59,320 --> 00:08:02,040 Speaker 3: now at this age, I'm more, you know, we're like 132 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 3: I feel like when you hit this a certain age 133 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 3: and you've done healing work and you're on your growth 134 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:10,840 Speaker 3: journey and healing journey, you begin to just really sort 135 00:08:10,880 --> 00:08:13,120 Speaker 3: of take in the wisdom that you make that maybe 136 00:08:13,240 --> 00:08:15,080 Speaker 3: maybe it didn't hit you. I probably heard this before 137 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:16,720 Speaker 3: when I was younger, but I didn't hit the same. 138 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:19,320 Speaker 3: And so just knowing like everything you need is with them, 139 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:20,480 Speaker 3: like you really are enough. 140 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 1: I was watching an. 141 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 3: Interview today and I don't know where this quote came from, 142 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:27,720 Speaker 3: but the interview we said something like people used to 143 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:31,120 Speaker 3: laugh at me because I was different, and now I 144 00:08:31,200 --> 00:08:33,280 Speaker 3: laugh at them because they're all the same. And I 145 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:36,400 Speaker 3: think about, we're in this world where we're taught you 146 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:37,240 Speaker 3: have to assimilate. 147 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:40,080 Speaker 1: You have to everybody's you know, especially on social media. 148 00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:41,719 Speaker 3: Your body has to look this way, you got to 149 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:44,320 Speaker 3: speak this way, and people are like doing things to 150 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:47,199 Speaker 3: look like everyone else. Some people are at least, And 151 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:50,360 Speaker 3: I think this is just a reminder that it's important 152 00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 3: to be you, like you shouldn't be like anyone else, 153 00:08:52,840 --> 00:08:55,520 Speaker 3: like a snowflake, right, Like when you think about a snowflake, 154 00:08:55,520 --> 00:08:57,920 Speaker 3: they're all different shape, sizes, and they come with these 155 00:08:57,920 --> 00:08:59,920 Speaker 3: different forms and it's for a purpose and a reason. 156 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:03,400 Speaker 3: And so just remembering that you are enough no matter 157 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:06,840 Speaker 3: where you are in your journey. And yeah, your power 158 00:09:06,920 --> 00:09:10,719 Speaker 3: doesn't depend on anyone else outside of you. So that's 159 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 3: our first one. 160 00:09:12,480 --> 00:09:14,200 Speaker 1: Now we're going to dive into number two. 161 00:09:14,400 --> 00:09:17,800 Speaker 3: Number two is I honor my past, but I do 162 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:23,559 Speaker 3: not live there. I am healing forward with grace and compassion. 163 00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:25,160 Speaker 1: Wow. 164 00:09:26,280 --> 00:09:29,680 Speaker 3: So, dom I want to share what comes up for 165 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:32,880 Speaker 3: me as I read this particular affirmation, and I want 166 00:09:32,920 --> 00:09:35,320 Speaker 3: to hear what it makes you think about because I 167 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:37,800 Speaker 3: was recently. I was talking to a friend today and 168 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:42,360 Speaker 3: I was thinking about who I was shoot a year ago, 169 00:09:42,559 --> 00:09:45,920 Speaker 3: but more specifically, I would say maybe like ten to 170 00:09:46,679 --> 00:09:49,680 Speaker 3: ten to fifteen years ago, and there were certain experiences 171 00:09:49,720 --> 00:09:51,280 Speaker 3: that I was indulging in, and there were just a 172 00:09:51,320 --> 00:09:54,480 Speaker 3: certain lifestyle that I was living, certain things I was doing, 173 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 3: and when I think about who I am today, I 174 00:09:56,880 --> 00:09:58,280 Speaker 3: couldn't see myself doing those. 175 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:00,920 Speaker 1: Things like now. And I wasn't. 176 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 3: Looking back from a place of judgment, but it was 177 00:10:02,559 --> 00:10:05,080 Speaker 3: more so like Wow, I needed all of that to 178 00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:07,360 Speaker 3: grow and to be to learn the lessons and have 179 00:10:07,440 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 3: the experiences to give me an appreciation for where I 180 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:12,599 Speaker 3: am now but also understand what I desire, what I 181 00:10:13,120 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 3: don't want, and also that kind of shaped me into 182 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:17,440 Speaker 3: the woman that I am. And so I think it's 183 00:10:17,440 --> 00:10:21,959 Speaker 3: important to remember, like judging ourselves for our past that 184 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 3: doesn't do us, it doesn't really do us any good, right, 185 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:27,640 Speaker 3: And so just appreciating the experience and what it taught 186 00:10:27,679 --> 00:10:30,440 Speaker 3: us and how it supported us in getting to where 187 00:10:30,440 --> 00:10:33,360 Speaker 3: we are today. I think it's a healthier perspective to have. 188 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:36,400 Speaker 3: And just having grace and compassion and forgiveness for yourself 189 00:10:36,520 --> 00:10:38,440 Speaker 3: is just so key. So that's something that came up 190 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:40,760 Speaker 3: for me as I read that affirmation. What comes up 191 00:10:40,800 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 3: for you? 192 00:10:42,520 --> 00:10:42,960 Speaker 1: I love that? 193 00:10:43,080 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 2: And I think the other piece of that that comes 194 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:50,319 Speaker 2: up is this question of a lady you going ahead 195 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 2: and ask yourself this question, what part of your past 196 00:10:53,760 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 2: are you still carrying that you're ready to set down? 197 00:10:57,600 --> 00:10:57,840 Speaker 1: Right? 198 00:10:58,360 --> 00:11:01,000 Speaker 2: So, because the first part of this after says, I 199 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:05,360 Speaker 2: honor my past, but I do not live there. And 200 00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:10,319 Speaker 2: so to me, what comes up around that is recognizing 201 00:11:10,360 --> 00:11:16,480 Speaker 2: that part of your healing is releasing that your past 202 00:11:16,760 --> 00:11:23,960 Speaker 2: and letting go of the emotions that may be tied 203 00:11:24,040 --> 00:11:28,839 Speaker 2: to it that might be preventing you from moving forward. Right. 204 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 2: And So, because I think about oftentimes when we're talking 205 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:36,760 Speaker 2: about this, we're talking about things from our past that 206 00:11:37,400 --> 00:11:43,000 Speaker 2: may have been harmful or hurtful versus the good memories, 207 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 2: right like ideally, you want to you want to hold 208 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:51,679 Speaker 2: on to those things that brought you joy right, that 209 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:57,120 Speaker 2: made you feel seen, heard, loved, and valued, and you 210 00:11:57,280 --> 00:11:59,960 Speaker 2: want to be able to release the things that aren't, 211 00:12:00,600 --> 00:12:04,360 Speaker 2: because if you allow yourself to live in those spaces, 212 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:09,520 Speaker 2: then you can't grow. Then it is hard to move forward. 213 00:12:10,120 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 2: And so it's those things that were harmful or hurtful 214 00:12:16,200 --> 00:12:20,760 Speaker 2: to me. I'm not gonna live in that space. Yeah, 215 00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 2: I'm gonna I'm not gonna judge myself for being for 216 00:12:26,040 --> 00:12:29,960 Speaker 2: what happened at that time. I'm gonna let all of 217 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:32,480 Speaker 2: that go so that I can move forward. 218 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:33,720 Speaker 1: I love that. 219 00:12:35,840 --> 00:12:42,319 Speaker 2: So then that takes us to our third affirmation. Abundance 220 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:48,800 Speaker 2: flows to me with ease, I attract aligned opportunities and overflowed. 221 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:53,040 Speaker 2: So I'm gonna say that one more time, Abundance flows 222 00:12:53,160 --> 00:12:58,480 Speaker 2: to me with ease, I attract aligned opportunities and overflow. 223 00:12:59,160 --> 00:13:03,600 Speaker 2: The lady, when you hear that and you say that 224 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:12,200 Speaker 2: out loud, remember that it's about alignment. And if you're 225 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:19,720 Speaker 2: feeling that things are in a struggle or feeling difficult, 226 00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:24,239 Speaker 2: then that's a sign that things are not in alignment. 227 00:13:26,280 --> 00:13:30,440 Speaker 2: And so then it's an opportunity to go within and 228 00:13:30,679 --> 00:13:34,880 Speaker 2: ask yourself, what are the things that I might be 229 00:13:35,040 --> 00:13:43,400 Speaker 2: doing or that I might be attracted that it's causing misalignment, 230 00:13:44,480 --> 00:13:49,080 Speaker 2: because sometimes when things are misaligned, it's not it's not 231 00:13:49,160 --> 00:13:54,600 Speaker 2: always from a negative space. It could be that we 232 00:13:54,640 --> 00:14:00,560 Speaker 2: are misaligned because we are not clear on what it 233 00:14:00,600 --> 00:14:05,319 Speaker 2: is that we want and need, and so we are 234 00:14:05,400 --> 00:14:11,240 Speaker 2: behaving in a way that is attracting things to us 235 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:17,200 Speaker 2: that is not what we desire, not what we want. 236 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:23,520 Speaker 2: But once we change that behavior to truly align with 237 00:14:23,640 --> 00:14:28,520 Speaker 2: what it is that we want and desire, opportunities will 238 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:31,240 Speaker 2: start to flow that feel right for us. 239 00:14:32,880 --> 00:14:36,080 Speaker 3: Okay, so you just gonna be preaching on the episode basically? 240 00:14:36,200 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 1: Is that what you're doing? 241 00:14:37,160 --> 00:14:39,880 Speaker 3: Because girl, you got me over here taking notes down 242 00:14:39,880 --> 00:14:42,120 Speaker 3: because you make me think about so many different things. Okay, 243 00:14:42,160 --> 00:14:44,440 Speaker 3: so I just wrote down a couple bullet points for myself, 244 00:14:44,440 --> 00:14:46,280 Speaker 3: so I don't forget that was so powerful. 245 00:14:46,320 --> 00:14:46,520 Speaker 2: Tom. 246 00:14:47,320 --> 00:14:49,680 Speaker 3: One of the things that you just talked about is 247 00:14:49,720 --> 00:14:53,160 Speaker 3: basically like aligning your energy with what you desire versus 248 00:14:53,360 --> 00:14:56,200 Speaker 3: and sometimes what that means, Lady, I don't know this 249 00:14:56,280 --> 00:14:58,160 Speaker 3: may sound wild to you, but sometimes that means be 250 00:14:58,200 --> 00:15:01,240 Speaker 3: de Lulu about your future at least, right, Like, sometimes 251 00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:03,600 Speaker 3: you have to be delusional because and people are you know, 252 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:05,960 Speaker 3: people say that facetiously online these days, But it's really 253 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:08,720 Speaker 3: about having faith in my opinion, right. And one of 254 00:15:08,760 --> 00:15:12,320 Speaker 3: the things I've been asking myself is how does wealthy 255 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:13,240 Speaker 3: terry show up? 256 00:15:13,360 --> 00:15:15,920 Speaker 1: Like what does it look like? For what does she do? 257 00:15:15,960 --> 00:15:18,360 Speaker 3: Like I envision a world of who my future self 258 00:15:18,920 --> 00:15:21,600 Speaker 3: is and how she shows up and having the certain 259 00:15:21,640 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 3: income that I desire and having the certain lifestyle that 260 00:15:24,360 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 3: I desire, And I ask myself, how does she show up? 261 00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:30,640 Speaker 3: Because sometimes if things are not looking the way that 262 00:15:30,680 --> 00:15:33,000 Speaker 3: I want them to look, my energy might be in 263 00:15:33,040 --> 00:15:35,800 Speaker 3: a different space, right, like coming from an energy of 264 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:40,400 Speaker 3: desperation or an energy of you know, forcing. And it's like, 265 00:15:40,480 --> 00:15:42,400 Speaker 3: if I continue to do that, I'm going to continue 266 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:45,080 Speaker 3: to attract that type of thing toward me. And so 267 00:15:45,160 --> 00:15:48,320 Speaker 3: I love that you mentioned that. I think another reminder 268 00:15:48,680 --> 00:15:51,560 Speaker 3: within this affirmation is that what's for you is never 269 00:15:51,920 --> 00:15:56,120 Speaker 3: going to miss you, whether it's job opportunity, maybe a 270 00:15:56,160 --> 00:15:58,520 Speaker 3: relationship didn't work out. If that thing is not in 271 00:15:58,560 --> 00:16:00,400 Speaker 3: your life right now, it probably wasn't for you, and 272 00:16:00,440 --> 00:16:04,040 Speaker 3: you may not understand why it didn't work out. Right now, 273 00:16:04,600 --> 00:16:06,920 Speaker 3: but in hindsight it'll probably all make sense. So I 274 00:16:06,920 --> 00:16:09,400 Speaker 3: think that's another thing to keep in mind. And then 275 00:16:10,760 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 3: something else I thought about is what we believe is 276 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:16,760 Speaker 3: going to be true for us, right Like you ever 277 00:16:16,920 --> 00:16:19,480 Speaker 3: been with someone and you have the same experience, but 278 00:16:19,520 --> 00:16:22,320 Speaker 3: you just have different perspectives of it, and whatever you 279 00:16:23,280 --> 00:16:25,520 Speaker 3: are perceiving that is true for you, that is your truth. 280 00:16:25,520 --> 00:16:28,800 Speaker 3: And then the other person, whatever they're perceiving, whatever they're perceiving, 281 00:16:28,840 --> 00:16:30,920 Speaker 3: that's their truth as well. And so whatever you believe, 282 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:35,000 Speaker 3: whatever narrative, whatever story you're telling yourself, that becomes your truth. 283 00:16:35,040 --> 00:16:37,600 Speaker 3: And so it's important to remember even though you might 284 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:39,920 Speaker 3: be looking at your bank account or you might be 285 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:42,240 Speaker 3: looking around you're like, well, I don't see the abundance. 286 00:16:42,840 --> 00:16:45,400 Speaker 1: Okay, Well let's tap into the energy of what we desire. 287 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:50,240 Speaker 3: And even if you have a moment where you are misaligned, 288 00:16:50,600 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 3: remember that every minute of every day can be a 289 00:16:52,680 --> 00:16:54,720 Speaker 3: fresh start for you. We don't have to wait until 290 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:58,160 Speaker 3: Jebuary first, Like every minute. Let me say you, I 291 00:16:58,280 --> 00:17:01,760 Speaker 3: was having a rough moment last week and I switched 292 00:17:01,760 --> 00:17:03,440 Speaker 3: that shit around. I said, Okay, hold up, I don't 293 00:17:03,440 --> 00:17:05,399 Speaker 3: want to I don't want to feel this right now. 294 00:17:05,680 --> 00:17:07,360 Speaker 3: It's not something that I need to dig into, which 295 00:17:07,400 --> 00:17:08,960 Speaker 3: is like a random thought that popped in and I 296 00:17:09,000 --> 00:17:10,639 Speaker 3: was like, I don't even where did this come from. 297 00:17:10,680 --> 00:17:12,600 Speaker 3: I'm gonna reach for a different type of thought, right 298 00:17:12,960 --> 00:17:16,400 Speaker 3: And so as we dig into this affirmation, remember that 299 00:17:16,640 --> 00:17:19,560 Speaker 3: it's important to also identify what does abundance mean to you? 300 00:17:20,040 --> 00:17:23,000 Speaker 3: So that was a powerful one. Don's over here, preacher. 301 00:17:23,040 --> 00:17:26,160 Speaker 3: We're gonna move on to number four. Now. At number four, 302 00:17:26,440 --> 00:17:29,919 Speaker 3: is I am worthy of love? 303 00:17:31,160 --> 00:17:32,240 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say that one more time. 304 00:17:32,359 --> 00:17:36,359 Speaker 3: Number four, Is I am worthy of a love that 305 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:40,119 Speaker 3: honors my softness and protects my strength? 306 00:17:41,119 --> 00:17:42,560 Speaker 1: I feel like I gotta sit with that and say 307 00:17:42,560 --> 00:17:43,760 Speaker 1: that again for the people in the back. 308 00:17:45,560 --> 00:17:49,520 Speaker 3: I am worthy of a love that honors my softness 309 00:17:49,520 --> 00:17:52,400 Speaker 3: and protects my strength. Okay, let me just say this, Don. 310 00:17:52,760 --> 00:17:55,000 Speaker 3: I'm we talked about this. I am very much into 311 00:17:55,040 --> 00:17:59,520 Speaker 3: pop culture, right, and although I'm into the whole celebrity 312 00:17:59,600 --> 00:18:03,040 Speaker 3: you know stuff, I realized that we don't understand, like 313 00:18:03,080 --> 00:18:07,480 Speaker 3: we don't know the behind the scenes of celebrity celebrities lives, right, 314 00:18:07,480 --> 00:18:09,720 Speaker 3: But I do want to share something that I've observed 315 00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:12,240 Speaker 3: and something that people are talking about that. I think 316 00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:16,320 Speaker 3: can really illustrate this particular point here, at least from 317 00:18:16,320 --> 00:18:17,000 Speaker 3: a surface level. 318 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:17,560 Speaker 1: Okay, So just. 319 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:19,440 Speaker 3: Walk with me, Walk with me, lady as we go 320 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:21,159 Speaker 3: through this, and then don might love to hear your 321 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:23,919 Speaker 3: perspective on this as well. So, Dom, you know about 322 00:18:23,960 --> 00:18:26,880 Speaker 3: Tianna Taylor and Aaron Pierre, right. 323 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:28,080 Speaker 1: Their relationship. 324 00:18:29,359 --> 00:18:33,399 Speaker 3: Okay, So she apparently he's been working with her on 325 00:18:33,960 --> 00:18:37,040 Speaker 3: her new project, and I've been watching some of their interviews, 326 00:18:37,040 --> 00:18:39,320 Speaker 3: and I followed her career ever since she was on 327 00:18:39,359 --> 00:18:41,800 Speaker 3: what was that Sweet sixteen back in the day, right 328 00:18:41,840 --> 00:18:43,320 Speaker 3: when she was on Sweet sixteen. So I followed her 329 00:18:43,359 --> 00:18:45,560 Speaker 3: career and I just as an observer, right, I don't 330 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:47,680 Speaker 3: know her personally, but as an observer I've seen I 331 00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:50,919 Speaker 3: saw how she showed up in her relationship with her 332 00:18:50,960 --> 00:18:52,360 Speaker 3: ex husband Emon Schumpert. 333 00:18:52,520 --> 00:18:52,680 Speaker 1: Right. 334 00:18:53,280 --> 00:18:55,880 Speaker 3: And there's a different energy to Tianna Taylor. She's also 335 00:18:55,880 --> 00:18:58,480 Speaker 3: a sagittarian. So shout out to my sage sister, I 336 00:18:58,560 --> 00:18:59,719 Speaker 3: kind of you know, I feel like I get her 337 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:01,879 Speaker 3: a little because we said it's over here. But she 338 00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:05,480 Speaker 3: has a very strong presence. She's so talented, right, beautiful woman, 339 00:19:05,840 --> 00:19:07,480 Speaker 3: and you can see the difference in the way that 340 00:19:07,520 --> 00:19:11,640 Speaker 3: she shows up with her current man versus her ex. 341 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:13,280 Speaker 3: And I think that when you are in a space 342 00:19:13,320 --> 00:19:16,080 Speaker 3: where you are being loved in a way where you 343 00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:19,040 Speaker 3: can be vulnerable, where you can be soft, and you 344 00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:20,800 Speaker 3: don't have to put on that you know, be in 345 00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:23,040 Speaker 3: that masculine energy, I think that's a powerful thing. So 346 00:19:23,040 --> 00:19:25,399 Speaker 3: I just wanted to tie that in because it made me. 347 00:19:25,560 --> 00:19:27,879 Speaker 3: I thought about it when I saw this affirmation. But 348 00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:29,760 Speaker 3: I think this kind of goes back to what we said. 349 00:19:29,800 --> 00:19:33,040 Speaker 3: What you believe for yourself to be true is going 350 00:19:33,119 --> 00:19:35,119 Speaker 3: to be true, and so knowing and stating that you 351 00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:37,879 Speaker 3: are worthy of this love is so important. But I 352 00:19:37,920 --> 00:19:40,479 Speaker 3: think the most important thing with this affirmation is that 353 00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:41,520 Speaker 3: it starts with you. 354 00:19:41,840 --> 00:19:43,080 Speaker 1: So even if you don't. 355 00:19:42,840 --> 00:19:45,439 Speaker 3: Have that love in your life right now, show up 356 00:19:45,480 --> 00:19:47,879 Speaker 3: and give yourself that love. I remember when I was 357 00:19:48,119 --> 00:19:50,160 Speaker 3: in my dating journey, I was sending to myself Hello, 358 00:19:50,240 --> 00:19:53,480 Speaker 3: beautiful text messages in the morning, like to myself because 359 00:19:53,520 --> 00:19:56,159 Speaker 3: I wanted to give myself what I desired. You know, 360 00:19:56,200 --> 00:19:57,600 Speaker 3: I think that's important for us to be able to 361 00:19:57,680 --> 00:20:00,200 Speaker 3: love ourselves and the way that we want someone knows 362 00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:01,920 Speaker 3: to love us, and also to mirror that to show 363 00:20:01,960 --> 00:20:04,600 Speaker 3: them that's mouthful. 364 00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:10,199 Speaker 2: And I think you know, I think what comes up 365 00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:15,640 Speaker 2: for me is that when you, as you grow and evolve, 366 00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:22,000 Speaker 2: the relationships that you have also may grow and it 367 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:26,200 Speaker 2: may look will look different as you grow and evolve. Right, 368 00:20:26,920 --> 00:20:33,040 Speaker 2: And so how she is showing up now in this 369 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:37,639 Speaker 2: season is then reflected in the type of relationship that 370 00:20:37,720 --> 00:20:42,159 Speaker 2: she has, Yes, And so I think that applies to 371 00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:46,920 Speaker 2: all of us, right, that that how we are in 372 00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:51,879 Speaker 2: this moment, will our relationships will reflect that? And so 373 00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:57,720 Speaker 2: to me for this particular, this particular affirmation is one 374 00:20:57,800 --> 00:21:02,360 Speaker 2: that will hopefully all allow us to attract. 375 00:21:03,680 --> 00:21:04,480 Speaker 3: Love that. 376 00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:10,040 Speaker 2: Honors our softness and our strength. And I also want 377 00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:16,640 Speaker 2: to emphasize that that's not only applicable to romantic relationships, right, 378 00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:24,040 Speaker 2: that hopefully we are also attracting our friendships, like all 379 00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:30,280 Speaker 2: of our relationships, yeah, are allowing us to be soft 380 00:21:30,440 --> 00:21:33,240 Speaker 2: and honor and respect our strength. 381 00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:36,080 Speaker 1: Yeah. 382 00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:38,800 Speaker 2: And so and that's if that's what you're choosing in 383 00:21:38,840 --> 00:21:41,479 Speaker 2: this moment in this season, right, So you can even 384 00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:45,280 Speaker 2: so part of what question to ask yourself is what 385 00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:48,919 Speaker 2: is it that you want in need? Like how do 386 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:53,920 Speaker 2: you want to be loved in this particular season? And 387 00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:56,840 Speaker 2: then what do you need to do to attract that? 388 00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:03,720 Speaker 2: So then that takes us to affirmation number five. I 389 00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:10,479 Speaker 2: slow down, I breathe. I trust that I am safe 390 00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:15,120 Speaker 2: in my body and in this moment. So I'm gonna 391 00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:22,000 Speaker 2: say that one more time. I slow down, I breathe. 392 00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:26,040 Speaker 2: I trust that I am safe in my body and 393 00:22:26,240 --> 00:22:30,679 Speaker 2: in this moment. So immediately what comes up for me 394 00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:36,800 Speaker 2: is the specificity around this particular affirmation that you are 395 00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:43,280 Speaker 2: safe in your body, because there are times when everything 396 00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:50,240 Speaker 2: around us may feel chaotic, but the real question for 397 00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:55,080 Speaker 2: us is are we safe within ourselves? Because if we 398 00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:59,080 Speaker 2: have slowed down, if we are focused on our breath, 399 00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:04,280 Speaker 2: and do you feel safe within our own body, then 400 00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:08,360 Speaker 2: all will be well for us. Everything around us could 401 00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:13,000 Speaker 2: be in pure chaos, but if we feel grounded and 402 00:23:13,160 --> 00:23:15,440 Speaker 2: safe within ourselves, we. 403 00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:18,840 Speaker 1: Are going to be okay. Yes, Laud. 404 00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:21,919 Speaker 3: And this reminds me of it's probably all of our favorites, 405 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:25,320 Speaker 3: the quote or saying where they say put your mask 406 00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:28,439 Speaker 3: on first, and you have to fill your cup because 407 00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:30,920 Speaker 3: we cannot pour it from an empty cup, and this 408 00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:34,720 Speaker 3: particular affirmation, it's actually the second half of it is 409 00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:38,960 Speaker 3: something that my therapist and I it was an affirmation 410 00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:41,920 Speaker 3: or mantra that my therapist and I were working through 411 00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:44,639 Speaker 3: when I was trying to conceive, because when I was 412 00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:47,240 Speaker 3: in my infertility journey, one of the things that came 413 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:49,040 Speaker 3: up was like a lot of childhood trauma and how 414 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:51,680 Speaker 3: I didn't realize it, but I did not feel safe 415 00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:54,159 Speaker 3: in my body, and so I felt like that was 416 00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 3: preventing my body from being able to have this environment. 417 00:23:58,640 --> 00:23:59,440 Speaker 1: To hold this baby. 418 00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:01,639 Speaker 3: And so I did a lot of breadth work and 419 00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:04,240 Speaker 3: a lot of healing work, and that was something that 420 00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:07,200 Speaker 3: I really leaned into. It's like reminding myself that I'm 421 00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:10,600 Speaker 3: safe now, like I'm okay, and I just going back 422 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:12,520 Speaker 3: to filling our cup. Is so important to make sure 423 00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:18,119 Speaker 3: that we're good, especially as caregivers and whether it's mothers 424 00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:20,159 Speaker 3: or just family members, people who do a lot for 425 00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:21,680 Speaker 3: other people. We need to make sure that we're good 426 00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:24,600 Speaker 3: so that we can show up for ourselves first and 427 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:26,520 Speaker 3: then be there for others that need us as well. 428 00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:30,880 Speaker 3: So definitely something to keep in mind. Yeah, all right, 429 00:24:31,400 --> 00:24:34,000 Speaker 3: let's move on to number six. So number six is 430 00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:39,680 Speaker 3: my voice matters, my story matters, my gifts are sacred 431 00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:43,440 Speaker 3: and meant to be shared. Wow, this is a really 432 00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:47,399 Speaker 3: good one. Just sitting with that for a minute, I 433 00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:52,440 Speaker 3: feel like, for me when this comes, well, I think 434 00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:55,320 Speaker 3: about this dome, this is okay. I have a lot 435 00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:57,040 Speaker 3: of different thoughts about this okay. So when I think 436 00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:00,280 Speaker 3: about this particular affirmation, it just makes me think about 437 00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:03,399 Speaker 3: a time in my journey where I was debating on 438 00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:05,760 Speaker 3: if I wanted to share my parts of my story. 439 00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:10,199 Speaker 3: And I think back to about thirteen years ago or 440 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:12,960 Speaker 3: so when I first created my blog when I was 441 00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:14,840 Speaker 3: in grad school, and I remember sharing, like some of 442 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:17,199 Speaker 3: the first few blog posts about being abused, like some 443 00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:19,760 Speaker 3: of the very sensitive topics, but I felt called to 444 00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:22,159 Speaker 3: share it. But I also felt some shame and some 445 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:24,680 Speaker 3: anxiety because I was like, what is my family. 446 00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:24,919 Speaker 1: Going to think? Right? 447 00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:26,879 Speaker 3: What is my mom going to say about the stories 448 00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:29,560 Speaker 3: I'm sharing? And what I was reminded of as I 449 00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:31,359 Speaker 3: began to share my stories that we all have a 450 00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:34,720 Speaker 3: story one and there were so many people around the world, 451 00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,080 Speaker 3: so many women came out and were thanking me for 452 00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:40,159 Speaker 3: being so transparent and sharing these deep stories about my 453 00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:44,000 Speaker 3: suicidal ideations and about depression and things that I felt 454 00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:47,000 Speaker 3: a little shame about but also felt compelled to share 455 00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:49,320 Speaker 3: at the same time. So, lady, this is a reminder 456 00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:53,040 Speaker 3: of course, share your story when like you know yourself 457 00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,439 Speaker 3: best right, and you should ideally be working with you know, 458 00:25:55,480 --> 00:26:00,440 Speaker 3: your intuition, your spiritual guide, whoever, your whatever, whatever you're 459 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:03,320 Speaker 3: going to for support and for answers, like you work 460 00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:07,160 Speaker 3: with your support system to ensure that it's the time 461 00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:08,840 Speaker 3: and space and you do it in a way that 462 00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:11,240 Speaker 3: feels right for you. But just know, like your voice 463 00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:15,520 Speaker 3: does matter. And the prompt that we can offer for 464 00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:19,320 Speaker 3: this particular affirmation is what story are you finally ready 465 00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:19,840 Speaker 3: to share? 466 00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:23,400 Speaker 1: Whether you share it in a journal with a friend. 467 00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:26,520 Speaker 3: In a small group community setting, or on a podcast, 468 00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:29,000 Speaker 3: whatever that is, Like, what story is that for you? 469 00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:31,679 Speaker 3: Because I think there's so much freedom and liberation not 470 00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:34,840 Speaker 3: I think, I know there's so much liberation that comes 471 00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:37,280 Speaker 3: when we share our stories and use our voice, and 472 00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:39,560 Speaker 3: it really does help to liberate other people as well. 473 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:45,040 Speaker 2: Yes, and I do think, yeah, I love that last 474 00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:49,320 Speaker 2: statement of sharing your story helps liberate other people and 475 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:57,399 Speaker 2: gives other people the capacity to then or the permission, 476 00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:01,000 Speaker 2: going back to one of our earlier affirmations of giving people, 477 00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:04,880 Speaker 2: it gives others permissions to say, oh yes, me too. 478 00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:06,120 Speaker 1: Yes. 479 00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:10,240 Speaker 2: I oh, yes, now I maybe maybe I don't feel 480 00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:14,439 Speaker 2: shame or judgment now because someone else has shared and 481 00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:19,080 Speaker 2: I see that I am not alone. And at the 482 00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,159 Speaker 2: end of the day, the majority of us in this 483 00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:26,280 Speaker 2: world want nothing more than to not feel alone. Yes, 484 00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:32,199 Speaker 2: and so when you share your story, whatever whatever that 485 00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:36,360 Speaker 2: story might be, there is always going to be someone 486 00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:41,240 Speaker 2: else that connects with that. So then that takes us 487 00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:47,320 Speaker 2: to affirmation number seven. I am not available for anything 488 00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:51,679 Speaker 2: that drains me. Protecting my peace is a form of 489 00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:52,400 Speaker 2: self love. 490 00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:56,760 Speaker 1: I need read it again, Read it again. 491 00:27:57,000 --> 00:28:04,919 Speaker 2: Please available for anything that drains me. Protecting my peace 492 00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:06,560 Speaker 2: is a form of self love. 493 00:28:08,080 --> 00:28:08,680 Speaker 1: Cool child? 494 00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:14,720 Speaker 2: Okay, So lady, ask yourself, what are you giving too 495 00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:18,920 Speaker 2: much of yourself to right now? When you look at 496 00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:23,600 Speaker 2: your cup and where you are putting your time, efforts, talent, 497 00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:28,600 Speaker 2: and energy. Is there a part of your life that 498 00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:31,240 Speaker 2: you are giving too much of yourself to right now? 499 00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:36,040 Speaker 2: And why is that? Because I do want to honor 500 00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:40,479 Speaker 2: and acknowledge that there are times, so there are times 501 00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:46,000 Speaker 2: where it is needed. Yes, okay, So I don't want 502 00:28:46,040 --> 00:28:52,000 Speaker 2: us to use this as a well doctor Diamond Terry said, then, 503 00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:54,840 Speaker 2: because I feel like this drains me. I ain't got 504 00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:58,280 Speaker 2: to do it. That's not what we're saying. We are 505 00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:01,600 Speaker 2: saying to be be mind, will be intentional. 506 00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:03,560 Speaker 1: Yeah. 507 00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:07,800 Speaker 2: And that there and recognizing that, yes, there are some 508 00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:14,640 Speaker 2: things in life that we have to do that rightfully 509 00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:19,360 Speaker 2: will drain us. But the real question is are we 510 00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:24,840 Speaker 2: doing things that we don't have to do that are 511 00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:29,440 Speaker 2: draining us? Yeah? Or are we doing things that naturally 512 00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:32,720 Speaker 2: are going to drain us but we're we're giving, we're 513 00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:35,680 Speaker 2: being over the top with it, which is causing even 514 00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:42,440 Speaker 2: more strength. Yeah. And so you know, and I recognize that, 515 00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:47,840 Speaker 2: particularly for us as black women, how we show up 516 00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:56,600 Speaker 2: is always above and beyond right. And so let's really 517 00:29:56,680 --> 00:30:02,480 Speaker 2: step back and be intentional of out out and when 518 00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:06,320 Speaker 2: we choose to show up. Are the things that we 519 00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:12,880 Speaker 2: are showing up for aligned with our goals and our values? 520 00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:17,760 Speaker 2: Is it something that we have to do? And if 521 00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:20,040 Speaker 2: it's not, why are we doing. 522 00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:24,080 Speaker 1: A men to that dom. 523 00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:26,200 Speaker 3: I'm glad that I'm glad that you made that distinction 524 00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:29,200 Speaker 3: because I was thinking about something that came up recently, 525 00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:33,600 Speaker 3: a family situation that I felt conflicted about, and I 526 00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:35,280 Speaker 3: was like, I don't know if I want to do Okay, 527 00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:39,000 Speaker 3: really quick, lady, this is this is real life right now. Okay, 528 00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:41,440 Speaker 3: So Dom, can you hear my neighbors, because these people 529 00:30:41,440 --> 00:30:43,400 Speaker 3: are allowed to tell outside, can. 530 00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:46,760 Speaker 1: You hear them? Okay? I know, thankfully. Okay, I was 531 00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:47,760 Speaker 1: gonna say, I'm about to get it. 532 00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:50,239 Speaker 3: If you're watching us, you see me looking over like 533 00:30:50,520 --> 00:30:51,720 Speaker 3: I'm looking like, what the fuck? 534 00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:52,280 Speaker 1: What's going on? 535 00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:53,640 Speaker 3: I thought I had to get up and close the window. 536 00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:55,320 Speaker 3: But okay, are y'all way back to the show? 537 00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:56,000 Speaker 1: Back to the show. 538 00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:58,000 Speaker 3: But I was going to say, there was a moment, 539 00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:00,440 Speaker 3: a family situation that came up, and I felt conflicted 540 00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:02,560 Speaker 3: about it, and I wanted to support, but I also 541 00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:05,080 Speaker 3: wanted to be mindful of my energy, and I was like, 542 00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:10,840 Speaker 3: what what could possibly be required or what could possibly 543 00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:11,400 Speaker 3: be asked of me? 544 00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:13,400 Speaker 1: At this moment? Feels like it could be draining. 545 00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:16,960 Speaker 3: So I love that you brought up values because at 546 00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:20,000 Speaker 3: the same time, showing up and the way that I 547 00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:23,240 Speaker 3: did was aligned with my values. But I set boundaries 548 00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:26,719 Speaker 3: and I reinforced those boundaries so that I wasn't it 549 00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:30,040 Speaker 3: wasn't this like continuously draining thing. So I set up, 550 00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:32,160 Speaker 3: I went to do what I had to do, set 551 00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:34,200 Speaker 3: some boundaries and I was able to align with my 552 00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:36,520 Speaker 3: values and show up in that way and not feel 553 00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:38,959 Speaker 3: like it was too much for me where you know 554 00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:41,120 Speaker 3: it was debilitating, right, So I love that you made 555 00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:44,360 Speaker 3: that point. I think another thing to remember we probably 556 00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:46,360 Speaker 3: have episodes about this, I'm pretty sure, but like saying 557 00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:49,560 Speaker 3: no without guilt, We've definitely done episodes about setting boundaries 558 00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:51,760 Speaker 3: and saying no, So go back to those episode, lady. 559 00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:53,760 Speaker 3: And the last thing I want to say about this 560 00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:57,880 Speaker 3: particular affirmation is that it's important for us to be 561 00:31:57,960 --> 00:32:00,600 Speaker 3: aware or at least try to understand and what it 562 00:32:00,600 --> 00:32:02,720 Speaker 3: feels like to have peace in our bodies, Like what 563 00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:04,800 Speaker 3: does it feel like for my body to be at peace? 564 00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:08,360 Speaker 3: Because I remember growing up, I didn't realize I had anxiety. 565 00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:09,800 Speaker 3: I didn't know that's what it was. But I had 566 00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:12,960 Speaker 3: appetite issues and anxiety for like all these other things 567 00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:15,000 Speaker 3: for so long. And it wasn't until I got to 568 00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:16,600 Speaker 3: a space where my life it was away from my 569 00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:19,240 Speaker 3: family actually, when I moved away and I was able 570 00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:21,320 Speaker 3: to like, I was like, this is I have peace now, 571 00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:26,240 Speaker 3: Like I have tranquility, I have wow, Like this. 572 00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:28,560 Speaker 1: Is foreign, I have this thing and this is beautiful, right. 573 00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:32,240 Speaker 3: And the funny thing is I went home last year 574 00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:37,240 Speaker 3: and I was around certain people and immediately my nervous 575 00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:39,120 Speaker 3: system shifted, and I was like, oh my gosh. And 576 00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:41,840 Speaker 3: because peace is like a part of my daily life 577 00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:44,160 Speaker 3: when you know where I'm at now, where I live, 578 00:32:44,280 --> 00:32:46,440 Speaker 3: and how I built my life. When I was in 579 00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:50,360 Speaker 3: that other environment, it was like I immediately knew I 580 00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,800 Speaker 3: didn't feel safe. My body was acting a certain way, 581 00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:55,560 Speaker 3: and I was like, Okay, I'm happy. I'm only here 582 00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:56,880 Speaker 3: for a short minute of time, like I'm going to 583 00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:59,160 Speaker 3: set some boundaries as I see fit and take time 584 00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:01,120 Speaker 3: for myself. But it was it's so important to understand, 585 00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:03,440 Speaker 3: like what is the baseline of peace, so that when 586 00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:06,840 Speaker 3: something comes into your life and it's trying to drain 587 00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:10,120 Speaker 3: you or disrupt that piece, you can identify it more easily. 588 00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:10,920 Speaker 1: If that makes sense. 589 00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:20,720 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, absolutely that does. And so yeah, I 590 00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:24,320 Speaker 2: I as you're saying that, I'm like, yes, that that's 591 00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:29,320 Speaker 2: another way in which you're we are able to identify 592 00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:33,760 Speaker 2: how our bodies respond. Lets us know, is this something 593 00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:35,440 Speaker 2: that's right for me to be engaging in? 594 00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:42,120 Speaker 3: M all right now talking about bodies, speaking of bodies, 595 00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:44,440 Speaker 3: all right, let's get into affirmation number eight. 596 00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:45,640 Speaker 1: Okay, get ready for this. 597 00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:50,640 Speaker 3: Affirmation Number eight is I love and honor my body 598 00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:52,480 Speaker 3: in every season. 599 00:33:53,160 --> 00:34:00,200 Speaker 1: She is mine and she is magic. Okay, so this 600 00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:01,000 Speaker 1: one right here. 601 00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:03,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, I've been watching a lot of interviews lately, and 602 00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:06,479 Speaker 3: I was watching an interview of I forget whose interview 603 00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,640 Speaker 3: it was that. I was watching an interview from a 604 00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:13,840 Speaker 3: new mom who was talking about when she was pregnant 605 00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:15,960 Speaker 3: and how she loved her pregnant body. It was so 606 00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:19,719 Speaker 3: beautiful and I could totally resonate with this because I, yeah, 607 00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:21,000 Speaker 3: I loved my pregnant body. 608 00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:22,560 Speaker 1: It was like, Ooh, I got this bomb. It was 609 00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:23,040 Speaker 1: so cute. 610 00:34:23,440 --> 00:34:25,480 Speaker 3: And after I had the baby and I still felt 611 00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:27,120 Speaker 3: like I had a pregnant body and I did not 612 00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:29,719 Speaker 3: have the snap back that people be posting about on 613 00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:30,400 Speaker 3: social media. 614 00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:32,640 Speaker 1: It was a very different experience. There were so. 615 00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:36,000 Speaker 3: Many changes with my body in that season that were 616 00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:38,240 Speaker 3: so foreign to me, and I was just like, wait, 617 00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:40,560 Speaker 3: what is happening. I didn't recognize myself for my body, 618 00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:45,520 Speaker 3: and so even though I was in transition, I think 619 00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:49,440 Speaker 3: it's just important for us to remember, like we should 620 00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:51,279 Speaker 3: just be loving our body at every season, at every 621 00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:53,200 Speaker 3: stage right, no matter what it looks like. And if 622 00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:55,399 Speaker 3: there's something that we do want to change, I think 623 00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:58,320 Speaker 3: it's okay for us to you know, make those adjustments 624 00:34:58,360 --> 00:34:58,600 Speaker 3: in a. 625 00:34:58,560 --> 00:34:59,800 Speaker 1: Healthy way, right. 626 00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:01,719 Speaker 3: But I just think that kind of going back to 627 00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:06,440 Speaker 3: what we said earlier, our energy, whatever we're feeling right, 628 00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:09,879 Speaker 3: wherever our energy is, wherever our attention is, that's where 629 00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:11,480 Speaker 3: energy is going to flow. So if we're in a 630 00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:13,680 Speaker 3: space of you know, hating our body, I know what 631 00:35:13,719 --> 00:35:15,160 Speaker 3: it's like to not want to look in the mirror 632 00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:15,960 Speaker 3: and all those things. 633 00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:18,840 Speaker 1: That's going to work kind of like perpetuating those feelings. 634 00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:20,960 Speaker 1: And so I think just trying to be gentle with ourselves, 635 00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:24,360 Speaker 1: finding little things that we like. You know, I have 636 00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:27,080 Speaker 1: been working out in the gym and my body has transferred, 637 00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:29,719 Speaker 1: like I've transformed my body since having my daughter, but 638 00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:33,840 Speaker 1: there are still parts of my body, specifically this wrinkly 639 00:35:34,080 --> 00:35:37,200 Speaker 1: little like mommy pouch that just isn't really going away. 640 00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:40,040 Speaker 1: And I find myself in the mirror and sometimes depending 641 00:35:40,080 --> 00:35:42,040 Speaker 1: on the day, like I'll see myself judging it. I'm 642 00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:43,239 Speaker 1: actually like touching it right. 643 00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:44,839 Speaker 3: Now, and then I'll look at it and I'm just 644 00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:46,719 Speaker 3: like I love this, Like I love it because it's me, 645 00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:49,799 Speaker 3: it's mine. And also like my body did something so 646 00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:53,040 Speaker 3: powerful by you know, going through all the fertility treatments 647 00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:55,120 Speaker 3: I had and then having this baby. And so even 648 00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:59,239 Speaker 3: though I'm in a space where I am working on 649 00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:01,960 Speaker 3: all to and changing this part by being in the gym, 650 00:36:02,040 --> 00:36:04,919 Speaker 3: working on my diet, I'm still loving the me right 651 00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:08,600 Speaker 3: now as I manifest the me that I see in 652 00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:09,040 Speaker 3: my future. 653 00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:09,799 Speaker 1: If that makes sense. 654 00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:16,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, And I think it's important to acknowledge to 655 00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:20,560 Speaker 2: be real with ourselves around Okay, Yes, this particular peace, 656 00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:24,960 Speaker 2: this particular aspect of my body right now, I'm not 657 00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:31,520 Speaker 2: in love with and just like just like a romantic relationship, 658 00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:36,280 Speaker 2: there's a difference between being in love and loving someone, right, 659 00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:41,239 Speaker 2: And so there may be maybe our entire body or 660 00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:46,319 Speaker 2: maybe parts of our body that we love, but we 661 00:36:46,400 --> 00:36:52,000 Speaker 2: are not in love with, and the in love with 662 00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:56,959 Speaker 2: comes and goes. What would hopefully remain constant for us 663 00:36:57,360 --> 00:37:03,560 Speaker 2: is the love overall of for our bodies and what 664 00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:10,240 Speaker 2: our bodies can do. Yeah, And so then that takes 665 00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:16,520 Speaker 2: us to affirmation number nine. Rest is my birthright, joy 666 00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:22,200 Speaker 2: is my medicine. I do not have to earn either. 667 00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:26,080 Speaker 2: Oh that is one that I am constantly working on 668 00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:28,799 Speaker 2: the first part of it. The rest is my birthright 669 00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:31,719 Speaker 2: and that that I don't and that I don't have 670 00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:36,440 Speaker 2: to earn it. That you know there have been moments. 671 00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:39,359 Speaker 2: How how I know that I have gotten better at 672 00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:43,560 Speaker 2: it is that I've had moments where I've said, oh, 673 00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:47,000 Speaker 2: I need to do ABC and D, like I have 674 00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:49,400 Speaker 2: my checklists, the task that I need to get done. 675 00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:56,279 Speaker 2: And previous me would have said, all right, well, once 676 00:37:56,320 --> 00:38:01,240 Speaker 2: you get ABC D done, then you can rest right yes, 677 00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:11,520 Speaker 2: and current me says, Nah, if the space that I'm 678 00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:15,560 Speaker 2: in right now that I need rest, I'm gonna take 679 00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:19,360 Speaker 2: my rest. ABC and D are gonna still be waiting 680 00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:22,920 Speaker 2: for me, whether I rest or not. So how about 681 00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:27,000 Speaker 2: I get this rest in let me and I will 682 00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:29,239 Speaker 2: get to A, B, C and D when it's when 683 00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:33,720 Speaker 2: I need to, when it's time, because there is time 684 00:38:34,160 --> 00:38:38,359 Speaker 2: to do the thing, and right now the time is rest. 685 00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:40,520 Speaker 3: That is so good, Dom, and I love that you've 686 00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:43,440 Speaker 3: read this affirmation because I know we've had numerous conversations 687 00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:45,360 Speaker 3: about you and your bedtime and your. 688 00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,560 Speaker 1: Rest and Donald an't play about her rest. 689 00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:50,520 Speaker 3: But I literally had that thought today, Don, because it's 690 00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:53,799 Speaker 3: been a long day, right, we're recording, we're doing our thing, 691 00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:55,960 Speaker 3: making sure we get an episode out for this week. 692 00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:58,919 Speaker 3: And I was thinking about all the stuff that needs 693 00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:00,239 Speaker 3: to get done this week, and I was all right, 694 00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:02,640 Speaker 3: so after we in recording, I gotta do this, this, this, 695 00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:05,160 Speaker 3: And I was like, wait, no, like when have I 696 00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:08,680 Speaker 3: actually had a moment to just chill? And like the 697 00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:11,160 Speaker 3: prompt for this particular information lady is when was the 698 00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:14,239 Speaker 3: last time you gave yourself permission to do nothing? And 699 00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:17,439 Speaker 3: I rarely do that, And so I ended up moving 700 00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:19,319 Speaker 3: things around on the calendar and I asked myself, this 701 00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:21,319 Speaker 3: is really need to get done, Like tonight do I 702 00:39:21,400 --> 00:39:23,719 Speaker 3: have to do this thing? Like I'm so grateful that 703 00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:26,600 Speaker 3: I don't have a role or responsibilities where I'm like 704 00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:29,960 Speaker 3: a doctor or I'm you know, solving a world crisis 705 00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:32,839 Speaker 3: where like people need me in that capacity. This shit 706 00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:35,319 Speaker 3: can wait, like I'm gonna put it. It's gonna get 707 00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:38,719 Speaker 3: done on another day. And yes, it's so important for 708 00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:40,719 Speaker 3: us to honor our rest. Rest is our birthright. And 709 00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:42,759 Speaker 3: I love that you gave that example dom of not 710 00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:46,840 Speaker 3: having to Like you didn't use the word proof, but 711 00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:50,839 Speaker 3: would you say earn it? I think yes, you earn 712 00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:54,200 Speaker 3: your rest. Yes, okay, I love that. All right, y'all, 713 00:39:54,280 --> 00:39:58,120 Speaker 3: we're gonna get on to our final affirmation number ten, 714 00:39:58,680 --> 00:39:59,640 Speaker 3: So get ready for this. 715 00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:02,640 Speaker 1: Pretend is everything. 716 00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:06,440 Speaker 3: Is unfolding for my highest good even when I can't 717 00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:07,120 Speaker 3: see it. 718 00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:10,680 Speaker 1: Oh wow, shall we read it again? 719 00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:13,080 Speaker 2: Yes? Yes, let's do it again. 720 00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:13,800 Speaker 1: Let's do it again. 721 00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:17,440 Speaker 3: Everything is unfolding for my highest good even when I 722 00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:20,799 Speaker 3: can't see it. I'm gonna be honest. I mentioned this 723 00:40:20,840 --> 00:40:23,640 Speaker 3: in the episode earlier that I've had. I've had quite 724 00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:27,040 Speaker 3: a few rough patches this past year, and you probably 725 00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:28,560 Speaker 3: have to, right, like many of us have. 726 00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:31,839 Speaker 1: The world is what you said, Dom what you call 727 00:40:31,880 --> 00:40:34,480 Speaker 1: the world? You said a cluster fuck. 728 00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:36,440 Speaker 2: That's my favorite way to describe the world. 729 00:40:36,520 --> 00:40:39,040 Speaker 3: A shit show, a shit show, a dumpster file, like 730 00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:43,399 Speaker 3: all these things right, like the world. But I love 731 00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:45,960 Speaker 3: another quote that I'm off to shares is like focusing 732 00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:48,560 Speaker 3: on what we can control, right. And So when I 733 00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:51,920 Speaker 3: think about this, there have been moments in my journey 734 00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:54,880 Speaker 3: where I'm like, bruh, I don't see how this is 735 00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:57,239 Speaker 3: unfolding for my good, Like what the fuck is going on? 736 00:40:57,320 --> 00:41:00,200 Speaker 3: Like I'm just it's I don't get it, right, but 737 00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:01,919 Speaker 3: if I'm being honest, I. 738 00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:05,160 Speaker 1: Think about all of the toughest. 739 00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:07,200 Speaker 3: Days of my life where I really thought that it 740 00:41:07,239 --> 00:41:09,359 Speaker 3: was like the end, where I was like, I don't 741 00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:11,000 Speaker 3: know how I'm gonna come out of this. I don't 742 00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:14,399 Speaker 3: know how I'm gonna survive this. And I survived. And 743 00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:17,239 Speaker 3: if you are here right now and you're listening to this, 744 00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:20,200 Speaker 3: and you here's this message. You have survived all of 745 00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:25,000 Speaker 3: your toughest days, and I think there's some value in that. 746 00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:28,960 Speaker 3: And I will honestly say, from my personal experience, everything 747 00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:33,839 Speaker 3: that I've experienced, every struggle, even the most challenging of experiences, 748 00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:37,399 Speaker 3: even some of the most adverse conditions, Now that I'm 749 00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:40,200 Speaker 3: far removed from them, I can see how it was 750 00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:43,800 Speaker 3: either developing me or providing me with lessons or tools 751 00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:47,000 Speaker 3: that I now am able to leverage in my daily life. 752 00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:49,319 Speaker 3: And I can see now that every single thing I 753 00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:51,560 Speaker 3: went through it was working out for my good, even 754 00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:52,840 Speaker 3: though I didn't see at the moment. 755 00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:55,040 Speaker 1: So I guess the message here is. 756 00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:58,360 Speaker 3: Just keep pushing, keep going a little further, keep on 757 00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:02,600 Speaker 3: keeping on, and one day the hope and my true 758 00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:04,520 Speaker 3: belief is that it'll all make sense, or you'll have 759 00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:07,000 Speaker 3: more clarity, or you'll have some lessons, or there will 760 00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:11,120 Speaker 3: be some type of some type of something positive, not 761 00:42:11,160 --> 00:42:13,200 Speaker 3: even positive, I don't want to use that word. Something 762 00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:17,160 Speaker 3: that you can gain from use of the pain, something 763 00:42:17,239 --> 00:42:18,120 Speaker 3: useful from the pain. 764 00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:19,839 Speaker 1: There we go, Thank you, dom. 765 00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:22,640 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I think that that's an important thing to 766 00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:26,440 Speaker 2: think about, is that you know this, particularly this last 767 00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:31,000 Speaker 2: part of this affirmation, that even when I can't yet 768 00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:36,040 Speaker 2: see it, and to me, that's about faith, right, that 769 00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:41,480 Speaker 2: it's about trusting the process, which is another quote that 770 00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:45,960 Speaker 2: I love. That it may not look so good right now, 771 00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:49,760 Speaker 2: and it might not feel maybe it doesn't even feel 772 00:42:49,840 --> 00:42:58,319 Speaker 2: good right now, but that eventually all will be revealed 773 00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:07,440 Speaker 2: and it will make sense that the things are happening 774 00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:12,239 Speaker 2: in the way that they're supposed to in the timing 775 00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:18,120 Speaker 2: that they're supposed to, even if it doesn't seem like 776 00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:22,480 Speaker 2: it in the moment, and that there are ways in 777 00:43:22,560 --> 00:43:28,520 Speaker 2: which our lives evolve that are outside of our understanding 778 00:43:28,600 --> 00:43:31,480 Speaker 2: in the moment, because if we had the full understanding 779 00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:36,319 Speaker 2: in the moment, we would probably make different choices that 780 00:43:36,360 --> 00:43:40,839 Speaker 2: would not be to our benefit. And so we are 781 00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:46,960 Speaker 2: provided with what we need in that moment, and when 782 00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:50,040 Speaker 2: it's meant for us to get the full picture. 783 00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:51,479 Speaker 1: We receive it. 784 00:43:53,320 --> 00:43:58,560 Speaker 2: Sometimes that that could be five minutes later, five years, 785 00:43:59,040 --> 00:44:03,360 Speaker 2: or five days gates. But it's revealed when it's supposed 786 00:44:03,400 --> 00:44:09,400 Speaker 2: to do. Yeah, and so, lady, what I would like 787 00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:14,600 Speaker 2: to do now is take a moment and read go 788 00:44:14,760 --> 00:44:20,000 Speaker 2: through all ten affirmation so that you can, if it's 789 00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:23,640 Speaker 2: more beneficial for you, after you listen to this episode, 790 00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:29,000 Speaker 2: you can take this specific clip with all the affirmation 791 00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:35,880 Speaker 2: and have this specific clip on repeat. All right, I 792 00:44:35,920 --> 00:44:42,479 Speaker 2: am enough exactly as I am. My power has never 793 00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:51,000 Speaker 2: depended on anyone else's permission. I honor my path, but 794 00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:56,000 Speaker 2: I do not live there. I am healing forward with 795 00:44:56,160 --> 00:45:02,759 Speaker 2: grace and compassion. Abundance flow to me with eve I 796 00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:08,960 Speaker 2: attract aligned opportunities and overflow. I am worthy of a 797 00:45:09,120 --> 00:45:14,680 Speaker 2: love that honors my softness and protects my strength. I 798 00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:20,600 Speaker 2: slow down, I breathe. I trust that I am safe 799 00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:25,760 Speaker 2: in my body and in this moment, my voice matters, 800 00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:31,080 Speaker 2: my story matters, my gifts are sacred and meant to 801 00:45:31,160 --> 00:45:35,359 Speaker 2: be shared. I am not available for anything that drains me. 802 00:45:36,160 --> 00:45:40,319 Speaker 2: Protecting my peace is the form of self love. I 803 00:45:40,400 --> 00:45:44,440 Speaker 2: love and honor my body in every season. She is 804 00:45:44,560 --> 00:45:50,160 Speaker 2: mine and she is magic. Rest is my birthright, Joy 805 00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:54,360 Speaker 2: is my medicine. 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