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Speaker 1: Have you ever wanted a safe space where you can

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Speaker 1: stories that shape us. I'm your host, Zach Stafford, and

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Speaker 1: each episode we create a space to be you, all

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Speaker 1: of you and all your messy and complicated glory. Every

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Speaker 1: and understanding. Hi there, welcome back today. I want to

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Speaker 1: that's confidence. Those people we reach out to when we're down,

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Speaker 1: agree that sometimes these people come via communal spaces. The

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Speaker 1: where they can freely be themselves. Our guest today, Lorenzo Lewis,

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Speaker 1: is a man that wears many hats. He's an entrepreneur,

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Speaker 1: mental health advocate, motivational speaker, author. His resume is extensive

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Speaker 1: before he thought of this creative way of bringing mental

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Speaker 1: That was honestly very scared than anything, knowing that I

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Speaker 1: So what is it about salons and barbershops that make

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Speaker 1: black people not only want to go there for you know,

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Speaker 1: barbershops as a loon, as I passed down through family manages. Ultimately,

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Speaker 1: think about it, that was probably the most transformational therapy

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Speaker 1: session that you can have with someone while doing their

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Speaker 1: You know, the clippers and razors are one of the

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Speaker 1: It really creates, I believe, and a powerful opportunity for

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Speaker 1: to get help, especially man be optimistic and taking a

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Speaker 1: your good And I also know that healing is not linear. No,

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Speaker 1: healing is a lifetime You know that once you've went

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Speaker 1: Lorenzo highlights an important point when he says that healing

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Speaker 1: is not linear because like most things in life, it

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Speaker 1: isn't a straight shot. Grief isn't linear, trauma isn't linear,

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Speaker 1: and the solutions to most problems are almost never a

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Speaker 1: one size fits all. But it's how we show up

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Speaker 1: in the world every day for ourselves and for others

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Speaker 1: Despite our imperfections. This has been in the deep Stories

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Speaker 1: that shape us. Find this episode and others on the

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Speaker 1: to podcasts. Don't forget to share, rate, and review if

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Speaker 1: you enjoyed this conversation. This show is produced by Von

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Speaker 1: Chien and master by James Foster. Our show researcher is

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Speaker 1: John and Raggio and our writer is Yvette Lopez. A

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Speaker 1: special shout out to our guest Lorenzo Lewis. I'm your host,

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Speaker 1: Zack Stafford