1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,320 Speaker 1: And they have been on speaking terms for quite some time, 2 00:00:02,360 --> 00:00:05,760 Speaker 1: longer than I thought. Larry told me his family had 3 00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:10,200 Speaker 1: paid for these and I believed him. I felt betrayed 4 00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:12,440 Speaker 1: by him, and then I couldn't trust him. I'm going 5 00:00:12,480 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 1: to have to speak to him eventually, but I don't 6 00:00:14,160 --> 00:00:16,600 Speaker 1: feel ready. Update number three you were just diving. 7 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:18,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, already, we already had. 8 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:21,160 Speaker 1: Firstly, I like to apologize for taking down my posts. 9 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:23,279 Speaker 1: I was really upset and felt under pressure and needed 10 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:26,319 Speaker 1: space to think without constant messages. Some of you were 11 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:28,800 Speaker 1: trying to be helpful and I appreciate that, but some 12 00:00:29,440 --> 00:00:33,360 Speaker 1: abusive messages I received were terrible. I'm updating for those 13 00:00:33,440 --> 00:00:35,800 Speaker 1: who have asked for an update and were supportive to me. 14 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:38,559 Speaker 1: This will be my last post and I won't be 15 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:41,760 Speaker 1: posting again. The episode is only halfway over. Yeah, dude, 16 00:00:41,760 --> 00:00:44,560 Speaker 1: we got personally, the deal with my dad is off 17 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:45,040 Speaker 1: the table. 18 00:00:45,280 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 2: Good good, good, good good good. 19 00:00:48,280 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 1: He couldn't even manage a week without overstepping my boundaries. 20 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 1: Knew it, dude, absolutely so. There will be no therapy 21 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: sessions with them, and I will remain no contact, as 22 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:01,880 Speaker 1: you were all aware. After to my dad and agreeing 23 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:06,360 Speaker 1: away forward from my uh and my conditions. Keep Janet 24 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:08,679 Speaker 1: away from me, Tell the kids to back off, don't 25 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: pressure me or invade my space. 26 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:11,080 Speaker 2: Guys. 27 00:01:11,080 --> 00:01:14,000 Speaker 1: That lasted all three days. Everyone seemed happy. I had 28 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:17,679 Speaker 1: forgiven my dad and and told me so. My sister 29 00:01:17,800 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: was excited. I was willing to give him a chance, 30 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:22,400 Speaker 1: and with some pressure, I agreed to having dinner with 31 00:01:22,480 --> 00:01:25,360 Speaker 1: just her and my dad. When my sister and I 32 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 1: arrived at the restaurant to meet our dad, he was 33 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 1: not alone. He had invited Janet, my grandparents, his son 34 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:35,360 Speaker 1: and daughter. It was supposed to be him and the 35 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:38,640 Speaker 1: other daughter. That was it bro through a whole family 36 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:41,160 Speaker 1: reunion with the real family. 37 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:44,080 Speaker 2: This just shows you every inch he takes, he's going 38 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:44,720 Speaker 2: to take a mile. 39 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yeses. He never understood Bopie's pains. Yeah, never 40 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:53,200 Speaker 1: acknowledge it. Never acknowledge it. What do you think? Ghost 41 00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 1: producer agreed? Yep, agreed. Good thoughts, Good thoughts. I immediately 42 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 1: became a set asking why they were there. My dad 43 00:02:01,200 --> 00:02:03,600 Speaker 1: told me that we have if we have any hope 44 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 1: of repairing our relationship, I had to accept Janet and 45 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:07,080 Speaker 1: my other siblings. 46 00:02:07,160 --> 00:02:09,959 Speaker 2: Dude, you have to repair the relationship she's just being 47 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:11,440 Speaker 2: nice enough to say that she would. 48 00:02:11,560 --> 00:02:15,000 Speaker 1: If you have any hope of us have a relationship, 49 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:17,440 Speaker 1: then you need to accept these freaking mens o. 50 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 2: God God. 51 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:24,520 Speaker 1: I told him he just broke our deal and to 52 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 1: never contact me again and tried to leave. 53 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 2: But do you think Opie leave successfully? Riley? Oh, of 54 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:32,200 Speaker 2: course she will. She will get to walk to her car, 55 00:02:32,360 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 2: turn a car on, and drive off and live heavily 56 00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:36,000 Speaker 2: ever after without anyone ever bothering her again. 57 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 1: Uh. 58 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:38,400 Speaker 2: Yeah. He refused to let me leave and grabbed a 59 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 2: hold of me. Oh my gosh, nine in one. 60 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 1: When I said, all heck brokelus, I mean it, I 61 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 1: started shouting at them. My dad, Janet the grandparents tried 62 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,359 Speaker 1: to gaslight me and convinced me to sit down. When 63 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:57,120 Speaker 1: that didn't work, things got very heated and a shouting 64 00:02:57,120 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 1: match started, and a lot of unforgivable things were said 65 00:02:59,639 --> 00:03:02,800 Speaker 1: by my dad and Janet, including remarks about my appearance 66 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:03,320 Speaker 1: and calling me a. 67 00:03:03,320 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 2: Psychopath'd done, absolutely done, absolutely done. You were You don't 68 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:08,200 Speaker 2: even understand what you're doing here. 69 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:10,360 Speaker 1: My half brother walked out of the restaurant and my 70 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:13,560 Speaker 1: half sister started to cry. My sister actually surprised me 71 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:16,760 Speaker 1: and defended me, shouting at my dad for ruining things 72 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:19,440 Speaker 1: after all this time and when I had finally given 73 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 1: him a chance. She even slapped Janet. Whoa, guys, they're 74 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:27,240 Speaker 1: like so close to like, okay, you're you're, you're right 75 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:29,520 Speaker 1: to the line, and then and then you cross it. 76 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 1: Come on, guys, come on, we were so close to 77 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: just really asserting our boundaries and all that. Job. Also, 78 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:39,280 Speaker 1: Opie was like she even slapped Janet, like amazing, look 79 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:41,560 Speaker 1: at that. What a bonus. That's what it feels like. Anyway, 80 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 1: she got me out of there and apologized to me. 81 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:46,320 Speaker 1: I think this is the first time that she had 82 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 1: really seen how Janet was with me and how she 83 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:51,320 Speaker 1: treated me. So maybe OPI was the one that caught 84 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:54,800 Speaker 1: the brunt of you know, everyone's sick. 85 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:57,600 Speaker 2: She was probably getting all the smooth talking dad. 86 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:01,680 Speaker 1: She kept saying that she couldn't understand how Dad it 87 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:04,440 Speaker 1: spent years saying he would do anything to have me back, 88 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:07,080 Speaker 1: and then would do this when he finally got his 89 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: chance to rebuild a relationship. Literally, it's like, hey, you 90 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:11,600 Speaker 1: want to do anything, here's my list of boundaries. Just 91 00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 1: respect him. That's literally all you have to do. And 92 00:04:13,640 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 1: yet you do the most. You literally had to do 93 00:04:15,720 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 1: less effort. You could have just invited just two people, 94 00:04:18,600 --> 00:04:21,240 Speaker 1: like you said, but you put in more of your 95 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:24,000 Speaker 1: wasting time and energy to destroy my boundaries. 96 00:04:24,160 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 2: Come on, dude, what do you think? 97 00:04:25,240 --> 00:04:27,040 Speaker 1: What do you think I'm gonna do? My dad has 98 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:28,960 Speaker 1: been trying to contact me, but I have blocked him 99 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 1: and refuse to talk to him. Nice sounds familiar. Tragically, 100 00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:34,600 Speaker 1: I have also refused to speak to my grandparents. My 101 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 1: dad has tried to convince my mom and sister to 102 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 1: speak to me, but I think he's burned the bridges 103 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:39,920 Speaker 1: with them. 104 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:40,920 Speaker 2: Good nice. 105 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 1: The incident from the restaurant has spread and some people 106 00:04:44,320 --> 00:04:45,640 Speaker 1: seem to be backing off. 107 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:48,360 Speaker 2: Oh nice, good, good, good, good good. 108 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:51,239 Speaker 1: Now we got the tides of turning. Like I said, 109 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 1: what my dad and Janet shouted at me was unforgivable 110 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:58,960 Speaker 1: and they were overheard. And remember this is a small town. 111 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:05,480 Speaker 2: Yep, yep, yep, yeah, yoho. Hopefully people will. 112 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:08,920 Speaker 1: Back off, and those who won't, I'm going to have 113 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:11,240 Speaker 1: to cut them out. My sister is very unhappy with 114 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 1: my dad, and Janet is not speaking with them. She 115 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:18,000 Speaker 1: is blaming them for me going no contact again. My 116 00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:21,360 Speaker 1: sister is not letting them see her kids. I don't 117 00:05:21,400 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: know if my sister will reconcile right now, but she's furious. 118 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 1: My mom is also furious and apparently had a few 119 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:29,839 Speaker 1: choice words with my dad and Janet and has promised 120 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:32,960 Speaker 1: she will never pressure me to speak to him again. 121 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:35,560 Speaker 1: I am going to individual therapy and I think I 122 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 1: definitely need it. Yes, I definitely agree. I do feel 123 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:43,280 Speaker 1: bad about my half siblings, as they haven't done anything wrong, 124 00:05:43,640 --> 00:05:46,320 Speaker 1: and am maybe open to having a distance kind of 125 00:05:46,360 --> 00:05:48,839 Speaker 1: relationship with them in the future, but I'm not ready 126 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:52,040 Speaker 1: yet or not sure if I'll ever be super quick 127 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:56,560 Speaker 1: on that they have pressured op when I feel like 128 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 1: they should be like, hey, I realize you know you 129 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:00,919 Speaker 1: feel I think they should say something similar to what 130 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:03,599 Speaker 1: the dad should have said. Yeah, I realize you're upset. 131 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:06,960 Speaker 1: I would love to build a relationship with you. If 132 00:06:06,960 --> 00:06:09,240 Speaker 1: you don't want to do that, I'm gonna respect your boundary, 133 00:06:10,000 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 1: but I'll be here and would love to, like hopefully 134 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:15,840 Speaker 1: over time, build like a familiar uh like simbling relationship 135 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 1: if and when you're open to it, and that I 136 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:21,640 Speaker 1: feel like like Opie was willing to come to the 137 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 1: table with the dad. I feel like Opie would have 138 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:25,480 Speaker 1: done this, but they were pressuring him and and they 139 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:27,559 Speaker 1: backed the dad. Let's be real here, Yeah, they're backing 140 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:29,400 Speaker 1: the dad here. So I actually do think they've done 141 00:06:29,400 --> 00:06:31,280 Speaker 1: something wrong and OPI doesn't need to talk to him. 142 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:34,160 Speaker 1: In my humble opinion, I did send them a message 143 00:06:34,200 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 1: on Facebook to apologize and tell them they've done nothing wrong. Well, 144 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:39,800 Speaker 1: I guess op he's being good, being overly nice in 145 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 1: that sense. 146 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:40,719 Speaker 2: Yeah. 147 00:06:40,760 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: AnyWho, Lastly, to update you all in regards to my 148 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:46,560 Speaker 1: fiance Larry. 149 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:50,640 Speaker 2: They're done. They're done. Larry the lame well. 150 00:06:51,279 --> 00:06:54,400 Speaker 1: I spoke to me yesterday about everything I had been 151 00:06:54,640 --> 00:06:58,599 Speaker 1: radio silence that's walking out on him. Basically, he was 152 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 1: pressured by his father to speak to my dad and 153 00:07:01,320 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 1: was fed a sob story of how my misunderstood father 154 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:08,400 Speaker 1: desperately wanting to be in his daughter's life. Larry had 155 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:11,440 Speaker 1: become annoyed with me, refusing to attend his family events 156 00:07:11,480 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 1: and walking out of his mother's birthday when I realized 157 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:16,559 Speaker 1: my dad and Janet were there, as he was getting 158 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 1: pressure from his family about me ruining their events. 159 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:21,480 Speaker 2: Because probably the family was in like a little bit 160 00:07:21,480 --> 00:07:25,120 Speaker 2: of financial troubles and Larry Mary liked talked because Larry 161 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 2: is friends. The reason Larry got in con or the 162 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:31,400 Speaker 2: reason Opie's dad got in contact was Larry is because 163 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:33,480 Speaker 2: Larry's dad and Opie's dad are friends. 164 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:35,560 Speaker 1: Friends. He's paying for the wedding. 165 00:07:35,320 --> 00:07:36,080 Speaker 2: He's playing for the wedding. 166 00:07:36,120 --> 00:07:39,960 Speaker 1: Ope thought that Larry's dad was the one that was 167 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:42,280 Speaker 1: paying for the wedding, but no, it was Opie's dad. 168 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:46,520 Speaker 2: He lied to her, m m m and I think 169 00:07:46,560 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 2: the parents were in financial trouble and Opie's dad was like, oh, 170 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 2: I can come and help you out. Look, what's your 171 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 2: son's say? 172 00:07:53,760 --> 00:07:57,600 Speaker 1: Got my back all scratch yours, We'll all get her 173 00:07:57,640 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 1: back on my side and I'll be able to look 174 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:01,880 Speaker 1: like the good he This is like the one stain 175 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:05,480 Speaker 1: on He's like managed to like beat the alley. He cheated, 176 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:08,520 Speaker 1: but still he was like charismatic character in the town. 177 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:11,600 Speaker 1: But this is the one smudge he was trying to 178 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:16,080 Speaker 1: clean off his record, but then it all backlashed and 179 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:21,160 Speaker 1: came back on him. Yep, delicious, delicious. He just wanted 180 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:25,200 Speaker 1: everyone to be happy and get along. Clearly at my expense. Correct, 181 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 1: Larry admitted my dad had paid for some of the 182 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:29,600 Speaker 1: vendors for the wedding, but he did not know that 183 00:08:29,720 --> 00:08:31,280 Speaker 1: until after it was already paid. 184 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 2: Don't trust him, I called it. I read accentence. 185 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:38,439 Speaker 1: His father had told Larry that him and his mom 186 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:41,840 Speaker 1: had paid. My dad had told Larry it was a 187 00:08:41,880 --> 00:08:46,199 Speaker 1: gift and his way of contributing. Larry admitted, my dad 188 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 1: had asked him to speak to me on his behalf. 189 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:52,360 Speaker 2: They weren't in a bad money stitch, but he did. 190 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:55,440 Speaker 1: Had he basically they were having him pay for it. Basically, yeah, 191 00:08:55,480 --> 00:08:57,080 Speaker 1: it could have been. They totally could have been. Though. 192 00:08:57,200 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 1: I told Larry he had betrayed my trust and I 193 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:02,520 Speaker 1: couldn't see m myself marrying someone who does not support me. 194 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:06,000 Speaker 1: Thank god, thank god. That is absolutely true. 195 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:07,520 Speaker 2: So in a way, he didn't really lie to her 196 00:09:07,559 --> 00:09:10,600 Speaker 2: about that point about the but he did. 197 00:09:10,400 --> 00:09:14,880 Speaker 1: Though, right because he said that the parents were the parents. 198 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:17,720 Speaker 2: Parents looked the money as a gift. Oh oh oh, sorry, sorry, 199 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:18,719 Speaker 2: but I thought. 200 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:21,439 Speaker 1: That he didn't know the parents boots, Yeah, yeah, so 201 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:25,360 Speaker 1: he So basically Larry was unaware because he thought it 202 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:27,079 Speaker 1: was a gift from his parents. Meanwhile, it was a 203 00:09:27,120 --> 00:09:29,520 Speaker 1: gift from Opie's dad, and he didn't know. 204 00:09:29,520 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 2: But the second he did. But it seemed like he 205 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:33,319 Speaker 2: did know at one point, and he should have told 206 00:09:33,520 --> 00:09:34,160 Speaker 2: OPI about it. 207 00:09:34,240 --> 00:09:36,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, like he found it eventually. He should have told 208 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:38,160 Speaker 1: her eventually. And then he called her. He called her 209 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:40,120 Speaker 1: a bee, like a like a hateful bee. 210 00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:42,480 Speaker 2: Or something heartless. Be a heartless beat dude. Come on, 211 00:09:42,600 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 2: are you kidding me? You'd say that's the woman your love, 212 00:09:44,840 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 2: your life, dude? What the heck? Godly? 213 00:09:47,360 --> 00:09:50,319 Speaker 1: He broke down crying, apologizing to me and promised to 214 00:09:50,400 --> 00:09:54,240 Speaker 1: never do it again. Too late, Larry was heartbroken and 215 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:57,000 Speaker 1: begged for a second chance. To those of you who 216 00:09:57,040 --> 00:09:59,439 Speaker 1: wanted me to break up with him, I'm sorry to 217 00:09:59,480 --> 00:10:02,480 Speaker 1: disappoint you, but we are going to try to work 218 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:05,160 Speaker 1: through this. Apart from this issue, he has been the 219 00:10:05,160 --> 00:10:08,040 Speaker 1: best partner and I genuinely think he had been manipulated 220 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:11,800 Speaker 1: by his family and my dad. I don't like it. 221 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:14,079 Speaker 2: He's gonna have to work really hard. Larry's gonna have 222 00:10:14,120 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 2: to be putting in the work. He better be looking 223 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:17,839 Speaker 2: like Larry Lombster by the end of this. 224 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, oh yeah. Larry had promised to stand up 225 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:24,360 Speaker 1: to his family and go no contact with my dad. 226 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:27,720 Speaker 1: We shall see. I am still living at my mom's 227 00:10:28,080 --> 00:10:31,319 Speaker 1: as I still need some space, which which I won't 228 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:34,320 Speaker 1: have if I move home. We are going to contact 229 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 1: our wedding vendors and see what our options are next week. 230 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 1: Larry is begging for a postponement rather than to cancel 231 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:44,079 Speaker 1: it altogether. We may still break up, as actions speak 232 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 1: louder than words, and I need to see if he 233 00:10:45,920 --> 00:10:48,640 Speaker 1: can rebuild what we had and show me I can 234 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:52,040 Speaker 1: trust and depend on him. Update number force coming up here. 235 00:10:52,880 --> 00:10:54,800 Speaker 2: I don't even know what this update is going to be, 236 00:10:54,920 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 2: Like I think they break up. I think he yeah, Larry, 237 00:10:58,440 --> 00:11:00,840 Speaker 2: Larry disproves her trust and they because. 238 00:11:00,640 --> 00:11:02,360 Speaker 1: You know, what seems to be kind of the running 239 00:11:02,400 --> 00:11:05,760 Speaker 1: theme here is like opis like she's like got hurt. 240 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:09,120 Speaker 1: She she goes hard at her boundaries. She's like no, no, no, no, no, 241 00:11:09,120 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 1: don't do this. She's like, Okay, we'll give it a try. Well, 242 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 1: well we'll see if it works out. You know, you're 243 00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:17,600 Speaker 1: you're the one coming to me begging for me to 244 00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:19,760 Speaker 1: be back in your life with a dad, with Larry whatever, 245 00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:23,199 Speaker 1: And then those people end up disappointing her and just 246 00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:25,640 Speaker 1: doing the same old, same old and suck. 247 00:11:25,679 --> 00:11:28,800 Speaker 2: Disrespect her boundaries, like no one's respecting her here, no 248 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 2: one's no one's respect for her mom and her sister. 249 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:33,240 Speaker 2: She finally got her sister back and respecting her. 250 00:11:33,400 --> 00:11:36,000 Speaker 1: Glad that that her and the sister rebuilt their relationships. 251 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:37,000 Speaker 2: Snake is exposed. 252 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:40,320 Speaker 1: The snakes are exposed, dude, the snakes are exposed. I 253 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:43,800 Speaker 1: do not trust Larry as far as I can throw him. 254 00:11:45,120 --> 00:11:47,480 Speaker 2: Kaylin aity six talk. Dad and Janet show up at 255 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:47,839 Speaker 2: the wedding. 256 00:11:49,320 --> 00:11:52,839 Speaker 1: Not only do Dad and Janet show up, Dad's whole 257 00:11:53,280 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 1: real family shows up, dude, the whole day football brother, 258 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:01,960 Speaker 1: the full the full armada that a cavalry walk in 259 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:04,280 Speaker 1: and they want to make Op look bad at the wedding, 260 00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 1: so that way the dead looks good. 261 00:12:05,760 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I think so, I think so well. 262 00:12:09,720 --> 00:12:12,760 Speaker 1: Update number four Hi everyone, I did not may plan 263 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:15,439 Speaker 1: to make another update, but I'm still getting messages for 264 00:12:15,480 --> 00:12:17,520 Speaker 1: an update, and I thought I would let you know 265 00:12:17,720 --> 00:12:21,240 Speaker 1: the recent developments. So firstly, I've canceled the wedding and 266 00:12:21,280 --> 00:12:23,560 Speaker 1: I was able to get some partial refunds but have 267 00:12:23,679 --> 00:12:27,280 Speaker 1: lost some money. Larry begged me not to cancel the wedding, 268 00:12:27,360 --> 00:12:29,400 Speaker 1: but there was no way I could marry him after 269 00:12:29,440 --> 00:12:33,040 Speaker 1: what he did. Yes, oh wow, yes. 270 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:36,440 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, So she came, she came around. 271 00:12:36,800 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 1: I was set on giving him a second chance. Opie 272 00:12:39,160 --> 00:12:40,679 Speaker 1: was set was going to do it. 273 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:43,000 Speaker 2: She set her boundaries. Dude, you freaking called this. Here 274 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:44,040 Speaker 2: we go freaking called this. 275 00:12:44,559 --> 00:12:47,400 Speaker 1: What do we say? And he promised me he would 276 00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:50,160 Speaker 1: go low contact, stand up to his parents an issue, 277 00:12:50,200 --> 00:12:53,319 Speaker 1: an ultimate him that we would not tolerate any contact 278 00:12:53,360 --> 00:12:57,640 Speaker 1: with Dad and Janet evil stepmom. Easy, easy, right, seems 279 00:12:57,679 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 1: so simple, seems so simple. 280 00:12:59,679 --> 00:12:59,920 Speaker 2: Basic. 281 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:02,960 Speaker 1: He would tell them that we would not attend any 282 00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:05,199 Speaker 1: event or party they were invited to, and we would 283 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:08,640 Speaker 1: not tolerate any attempt to force contact or relationship with 284 00:13:08,679 --> 00:13:11,040 Speaker 1: my dad. He met with them to explain this to them. 285 00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:14,280 Speaker 1: When he came back from this meeting, he was quite 286 00:13:14,280 --> 00:13:17,160 Speaker 1: irritable with me and appeared to have had. 287 00:13:17,040 --> 00:13:17,880 Speaker 2: A change of heart. 288 00:13:17,960 --> 00:13:22,120 Speaker 1: To summarize it, he was trying to convince me his 289 00:13:22,200 --> 00:13:25,280 Speaker 1: family only meant well, and that he can't go to 290 00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:28,640 Speaker 1: low contact with his family because he loves them and 291 00:13:28,760 --> 00:13:31,040 Speaker 1: he can't dictate their friendships. 292 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:33,480 Speaker 2: So she also said he had to go low contact 293 00:13:33,480 --> 00:13:35,320 Speaker 2: with his own family. Yeah, that actually, I was like, 294 00:13:35,320 --> 00:13:37,839 Speaker 2: wait a minute, I don't I don't know which. Yeah, 295 00:13:37,880 --> 00:13:40,280 Speaker 2: I don't know that. I don't feel good about that part. 296 00:13:40,400 --> 00:13:44,079 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think you can say, dude, Opie Opie side. 297 00:13:44,080 --> 00:13:47,040 Speaker 1: They always it's like yes, stating your boundaries. They don't 298 00:13:47,080 --> 00:13:49,400 Speaker 1: understand you. Yes, and then they and then they crossed 299 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:52,720 Speaker 1: the lot. I mean, I don't think I think you can. 300 00:13:52,640 --> 00:13:55,360 Speaker 2: Say, go low contact with my dad and his family, 301 00:13:55,440 --> 00:13:57,920 Speaker 2: but do not. You don't have to go no contact 302 00:13:57,920 --> 00:13:59,800 Speaker 2: with your own family. Yeah, like think about the U 303 00:14:00,200 --> 00:14:02,360 Speaker 2: because they're victims in this situation. 304 00:14:02,679 --> 00:14:04,040 Speaker 1: I then try to convince me that it won't be 305 00:14:04,040 --> 00:14:06,000 Speaker 1: an issue in the future. And his father would speak 306 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:08,120 Speaker 1: to my dad and tell him to be on his 307 00:14:08,160 --> 00:14:09,600 Speaker 1: best behavior in my presence. 308 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:10,120 Speaker 2: Oh yes. 309 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:13,360 Speaker 1: Opie was like, hey, I can't force him to like 310 00:14:13,440 --> 00:14:16,319 Speaker 1: not speak to his mom. And look, there's definitely situations 311 00:14:16,360 --> 00:14:18,240 Speaker 1: where I think we've we've seen it before people. 312 00:14:18,240 --> 00:14:19,760 Speaker 2: We've seen multiple ones where you have to go. 313 00:14:20,280 --> 00:14:22,520 Speaker 1: Totally totally and so that's totally an option. But this 314 00:14:22,560 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 1: one isn't one of those. Yeah, this is it's it's 315 00:14:25,080 --> 00:14:27,200 Speaker 1: it's just kind of hard. But I think you could say, like, hey, 316 00:14:27,960 --> 00:14:30,200 Speaker 1: I don't want to talk to them, protect me from them. 317 00:14:30,200 --> 00:14:31,520 Speaker 1: I don't want to go to events where I see 318 00:14:31,560 --> 00:14:33,760 Speaker 1: them things like that. It's like, hey, don't put me 319 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:37,040 Speaker 1: in their path to where I can get hurt by them. 320 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:39,280 Speaker 1: But like I understand, if you want to have a 321 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:41,600 Speaker 1: relationship with them, it's in that weird middle ground, right, 322 00:14:41,680 --> 00:14:42,840 Speaker 1: But anyways, I digress. 323 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:44,800 Speaker 2: As soon as I heard the people's. 324 00:14:44,440 --> 00:14:46,800 Speaker 1: Comments went through my head, and the main one being 325 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:50,040 Speaker 1: if we had children, he would he would take them 326 00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:52,920 Speaker 1: to his family where my dad and Janet would be. 327 00:14:53,200 --> 00:14:56,680 Speaker 1: And how I would have no control over this? Bro? 328 00:14:56,760 --> 00:14:59,920 Speaker 1: Why are you digging your own grave? Can I ask 329 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:02,280 Speaker 1: you why you went to the store, bought a shovel 330 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:04,200 Speaker 1: and started digging your own grave up? 331 00:15:04,240 --> 00:15:07,040 Speaker 2: And then you got some wood and started making a coffin. 332 00:15:07,160 --> 00:15:10,120 Speaker 2: And then he said, don't bury me, please. He's sinking 333 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:10,720 Speaker 2: into it. 334 00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:13,760 Speaker 1: As he's sinking into the gravy, Doug, He's like, please, no, oh, 335 00:15:13,760 --> 00:15:15,200 Speaker 1: my gosh, I know I built this and I made 336 00:15:15,200 --> 00:15:16,440 Speaker 1: the coffin and everything else will please. 337 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:19,080 Speaker 2: And he somehow has a clone that is putting dirt 338 00:15:19,080 --> 00:15:19,760 Speaker 2: over his coffin. 339 00:15:19,840 --> 00:15:23,440 Speaker 1: Dude, come on, come on man. At that moment I 340 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 1: realized I couldn't trust Larry and never would be able. 341 00:15:26,920 --> 00:15:29,840 Speaker 2: To talk that talk. Honestly, I broke up with him. 342 00:15:30,000 --> 00:15:32,000 Speaker 1: He is not taking it well and keeps begging me 343 00:15:32,040 --> 00:15:33,680 Speaker 1: to take him back, and that he would go no 344 00:15:33,760 --> 00:15:34,680 Speaker 1: contact with his family. 345 00:15:34,720 --> 00:15:37,120 Speaker 2: You already said that I didn't do it. You already 346 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:37,800 Speaker 2: had a second chance. 347 00:15:37,840 --> 00:15:40,920 Speaker 1: You you, Oh my god. His family and his friends 348 00:15:40,920 --> 00:15:42,720 Speaker 1: are trying to convince me on his behalf not to 349 00:15:42,800 --> 00:15:45,840 Speaker 1: end a relationship. He made his choice and proven to 350 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:48,320 Speaker 1: me that he is spiless. 351 00:15:47,880 --> 00:15:51,680 Speaker 2: Or like we like to say, what to spye. 352 00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:56,480 Speaker 1: Not sour dough days old. I don't need him in 353 00:15:56,520 --> 00:15:58,840 Speaker 1: my life. In regards to my dad, I'm looking into 354 00:15:58,880 --> 00:16:02,160 Speaker 1: getting a restraining order given. Honestly, yes, after what happened 355 00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:04,160 Speaker 1: to the restaurant, I might be able to, but I 356 00:16:04,200 --> 00:16:06,640 Speaker 1: don't know as of yet. A friend of mine is 357 00:16:06,640 --> 00:16:08,800 Speaker 1: helping me look into this. My dad has kept a 358 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 1: low profile since last week. Apart from a couple attempts 359 00:16:11,440 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 1: to apologize to me. I haven't heard from a much. 360 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:17,160 Speaker 1: My sister still won't speak to him or Janet. Unlike me, 361 00:16:17,520 --> 00:16:20,800 Speaker 1: my sister is highly confrontational and has blasted him and 362 00:16:20,920 --> 00:16:24,760 Speaker 1: Janet on social media. I love Jeezy old book face 363 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:27,800 Speaker 1: with what happened at the restaurant and things that have 364 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:30,960 Speaker 1: happened in the past which I don't know about. 365 00:16:30,960 --> 00:16:33,080 Speaker 2: This restaurant is a five stars. This is where my 366 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:36,280 Speaker 2: dad tried to manipulate my sister into going back into 367 00:16:36,360 --> 00:16:37,160 Speaker 2: contact with them. 368 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:41,440 Speaker 1: Dude, duking it out and the yell previews is amazing, Dude, 369 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:43,800 Speaker 1: there's probably some great yell reviews that we can read 370 00:16:43,840 --> 00:16:44,440 Speaker 1: that would be that. 371 00:16:44,440 --> 00:16:45,240 Speaker 2: Would be hilarious. 372 00:16:45,320 --> 00:16:48,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, a little different. But my sister and Janet had 373 00:16:48,200 --> 00:16:52,040 Speaker 1: a very public screaming match when she had seen them 374 00:16:52,040 --> 00:16:54,520 Speaker 1: in town due to my sister's post and demanding to 375 00:16:54,560 --> 00:16:59,200 Speaker 1: take them down. It ended up with Janet attacking my sister. 376 00:16:59,520 --> 00:17:02,160 Speaker 2: Oh god, oh yeah, that's right. Yeah, yeah, because the 377 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:05,359 Speaker 2: sister slapped Janet, so Janet is now attacking the sister. 378 00:17:06,480 --> 00:17:08,240 Speaker 2: I see. 379 00:17:08,320 --> 00:17:12,760 Speaker 1: This is why we don't slap or do those things 380 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:15,520 Speaker 1: we call people oar's or bees or. 381 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:16,600 Speaker 2: Do those other things. 382 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:19,159 Speaker 1: We be the bigger person here, be the bigger person, 383 00:17:19,280 --> 00:17:21,800 Speaker 1: because then guess what, they will just sink lower and 384 00:17:21,840 --> 00:17:22,600 Speaker 1: lower exactly. 385 00:17:22,600 --> 00:17:24,200 Speaker 2: It makes them look worse. It makes them look worse 386 00:17:24,200 --> 00:17:24,800 Speaker 2: and worse and worse. 387 00:17:24,840 --> 00:17:26,800 Speaker 1: And you stay over here and you're like listen, I'm 388 00:17:26,880 --> 00:17:31,200 Speaker 1: trying to be respectful, but you can boundaries. 389 00:17:30,760 --> 00:17:33,679 Speaker 2: Hard line, those hard line, those hard light restraining order boom. 390 00:17:33,760 --> 00:17:34,000 Speaker 1: Hit you. 391 00:17:34,160 --> 00:17:36,760 Speaker 2: Yep, you disrespect their straining order. Boom. I'm assuming you're 392 00:17:36,800 --> 00:17:39,080 Speaker 2: taking you to the court, but you and I don't care. 393 00:17:38,680 --> 00:17:41,719 Speaker 1: But just don't cross the line of you know, violence, 394 00:17:41,720 --> 00:17:45,200 Speaker 1: of those other things. Anyways, John's Golden Rules, let's talk 395 00:17:45,240 --> 00:17:47,720 Speaker 1: John's Golden Rules. Come on, pretty good stuff. My dad 396 00:17:47,760 --> 00:17:51,320 Speaker 1: apparently sided with Jannon on this, who surprised. 397 00:17:51,440 --> 00:17:52,960 Speaker 2: Honestly, my sister. 398 00:17:52,800 --> 00:17:55,040 Speaker 1: Now hates Janet and refuses to speak to our dad, 399 00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:57,239 Speaker 1: who is also trying to contact up. 400 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:00,800 Speaker 2: Not him starting the process all over again. 401 00:18:00,640 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 1: With the sister. 402 00:18:03,440 --> 00:18:05,440 Speaker 2: It didn't work with Opie, but it's surely gonna work 403 00:18:05,440 --> 00:18:06,359 Speaker 2: with his sister. Dude. 404 00:18:06,440 --> 00:18:09,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, my dad and Janser reputation seems to have taken 405 00:18:09,920 --> 00:18:12,439 Speaker 1: a hit between the incident and the restaurant and my 406 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:16,160 Speaker 1: sister's fight with Janet, uh and the numerous book faces 407 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:18,840 Speaker 1: posts about them. I knew it was book face. 408 00:18:19,640 --> 00:18:24,760 Speaker 2: People are gossiping, stir in the pot. 409 00:18:25,040 --> 00:18:27,280 Speaker 1: This has worked well for me because some people have 410 00:18:27,520 --> 00:18:31,240 Speaker 1: backed off, which I'm happy about. Unfortunately, there are a 411 00:18:31,240 --> 00:18:34,359 Speaker 1: few people still on the side, including my ex's parents. 412 00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:37,680 Speaker 2: Okay, now you know who the real ones are exactly exactly, 413 00:18:37,760 --> 00:18:41,080 Speaker 2: well kind of real ones, yeah, all along, but now 414 00:18:41,119 --> 00:18:44,160 Speaker 2: you kind of know behalf half real. They were probably 415 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:48,000 Speaker 2: looking into the swirling black and white snake eyes of 416 00:18:48,040 --> 00:18:49,760 Speaker 2: the dad and they didn't know what was right and wrong. 417 00:18:49,840 --> 00:18:50,800 Speaker 1: Could have been manipulated. 418 00:18:50,840 --> 00:18:52,040 Speaker 2: It's possible. It's possible. 419 00:18:52,080 --> 00:18:54,239 Speaker 1: As for my half siblings, there's not much of an 420 00:18:54,280 --> 00:18:58,280 Speaker 1: update in regards to them just playing football winning trophies. 421 00:18:58,560 --> 00:19:00,600 Speaker 1: I found a therapist, however, there is a bit of 422 00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:02,840 Speaker 1: a waiting list before I can start my therapy. I'm 423 00:19:02,880 --> 00:19:05,399 Speaker 1: still living with my mom, who's completely on my side, 424 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:06,720 Speaker 1: and I have found. 425 00:19:06,560 --> 00:19:08,200 Speaker 2: A kitten and pick her up next week. 426 00:19:08,320 --> 00:19:10,720 Speaker 1: Who kitten should be more of a solution. 427 00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:13,520 Speaker 2: I think soccer called this I won't be posting here again, 428 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:16,600 Speaker 2: proceeds with thirty updates. I think that's who said that. 429 00:19:17,280 --> 00:19:18,200 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, oh. 430 00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:20,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, he's right, dude. Update number five. 431 00:19:20,320 --> 00:19:20,679 Speaker 2: Here we go. 432 00:19:21,240 --> 00:19:23,160 Speaker 1: Hi, everyone, I thought I would give you an update 433 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:25,199 Speaker 1: as of what's been happening the last couple of weeks. 434 00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:27,760 Speaker 1: For those of you who are still interested, we are here. 435 00:19:27,800 --> 00:19:28,120 Speaker 2: We are. 436 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:30,840 Speaker 1: Firstly, I'm still at my mom's house, and I've got 437 00:19:30,840 --> 00:19:33,480 Speaker 1: my little kitten. I named her Sasha, and she is 438 00:19:33,520 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 1: the sweetest thing but very energetic. For those of you 439 00:19:36,119 --> 00:19:38,600 Speaker 1: asking for pictures, I'll try, but if she refuses to 440 00:19:38,640 --> 00:19:40,840 Speaker 1: stay still long enough to not get one that's blurred. 441 00:19:41,640 --> 00:19:44,359 Speaker 1: I love her already. My mom continues to be my rock. 442 00:19:44,560 --> 00:19:47,879 Speaker 1: I'm still waiting for therapy, but finding Reddit useful and therapeutic, 443 00:19:48,400 --> 00:19:50,080 Speaker 1: and the support I've for seen from most of the 444 00:19:50,119 --> 00:19:52,120 Speaker 1: people on here has been great and help me see 445 00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:54,119 Speaker 1: things more clearly. So a big thank you to everyone. 446 00:19:54,160 --> 00:19:56,080 Speaker 2: I'm so glad we got a little bit of something 447 00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:57,800 Speaker 2: good here. Yes hell Ift, he's in the chat. 448 00:19:58,480 --> 00:20:01,399 Speaker 1: As for my ex, now that we've broken up, I 449 00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:05,200 Speaker 1: feel lighter and free. Being away from him has made 450 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:07,600 Speaker 1: me see all of the red flags that I was 451 00:20:07,640 --> 00:20:10,080 Speaker 1: blind to in our relationship, and I feel like I've 452 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:11,200 Speaker 1: dodged a bullet. 453 00:20:11,480 --> 00:20:14,240 Speaker 2: Oh please give us a list. 454 00:20:13,960 --> 00:20:18,840 Speaker 1: Of Luke using real names, because my posts were discovered. 455 00:20:19,119 --> 00:20:22,280 Speaker 2: She said, f you, Larry Luke. It is gloves. 456 00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:27,600 Speaker 1: The gloves have officially been taken off. 457 00:20:28,960 --> 00:20:29,440 Speaker 2: I'm sorry. 458 00:20:29,400 --> 00:20:30,960 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. 459 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:33,440 Speaker 2: I love it when they use because my favorite ones 460 00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:36,280 Speaker 2: are like using real name real names here because f you. 461 00:20:36,320 --> 00:20:43,400 Speaker 1: Luke right, Hey Todd, Yeah, I'm hey Todd Smith at 462 00:20:43,480 --> 00:20:47,679 Speaker 1: one two three Jury Lane. Oh my god. So is 463 00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:51,520 Speaker 1: not taking the breakup well and has taken over from 464 00:20:51,600 --> 00:20:53,600 Speaker 1: my father, constantly bothering me. 465 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:54,960 Speaker 2: She can't get away. 466 00:20:55,359 --> 00:20:58,760 Speaker 1: Hey, if you're reading this, Luke, we're done and I'm 467 00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:01,800 Speaker 1: not changing my mind. So stop calling me, stop coming 468 00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:05,199 Speaker 1: to the house, and stop sending me flowers. Hope he 469 00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:07,520 Speaker 1: doesn't want them. She doesn't want to, she doesn't want him. 470 00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:11,560 Speaker 1: I'm moving on and you should too. My sister Emma 471 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:13,879 Speaker 1: is still firmly on my side and has washed her 472 00:21:13,920 --> 00:21:18,000 Speaker 1: hands of Janet the step monster. Yeah, I said that, 473 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 1: and they are not on speaking terms after my sister 474 00:21:21,040 --> 00:21:23,600 Speaker 1: told everyone about Janet's affairs. 475 00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:27,480 Speaker 2: Oh dude, what do we say on the show? What 476 00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:28,399 Speaker 2: do we say on the show? 477 00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:30,480 Speaker 1: Lose them? How you get them? 478 00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:34,720 Speaker 2: So? I think since things have gotten around town, some 479 00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:35,840 Speaker 2: things are going about. 480 00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:38,679 Speaker 1: Is that is she saying Janet's affairs as in like 481 00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:42,960 Speaker 1: her mischievous activities like attacking the sister, or like cheating affairs. 482 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:45,360 Speaker 2: Cheating affairs, dude, I'm calling that cheating affairs. 483 00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:48,600 Speaker 1: Janet is still trying to save face by saying my 484 00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:53,320 Speaker 1: sister is lying and telling everyone, telling everyone she can 485 00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:56,320 Speaker 1: how we are just the worst, and that we have 486 00:21:56,400 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 1: treated her terrible over the years and trying to ruin 487 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:02,200 Speaker 1: her marriage. Don't think everyone is buying what she's saying. 488 00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,040 Speaker 1: She has sent abusive messages to me and my sister, 489 00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:08,560 Speaker 1: and we've bumped into her, and she's been screaming at 490 00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:09,840 Speaker 1: us and threatening us. 491 00:22:10,040 --> 00:22:12,080 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, definitely cheating her very Yeah. 492 00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:14,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you're right. My sister's car had been 493 00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:16,960 Speaker 1: keyed and my store windows were smashed. 494 00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:20,760 Speaker 2: What the heck? Arrest her? Arrest cameras, make sure if 495 00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 2: you don't have them, arrestler though, arrest or. 496 00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:26,119 Speaker 1: Let's go, let's go. We can't prove it's her, unfortunately, 497 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:29,600 Speaker 1: but she is most likely the culprit. My half siblings 498 00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:33,359 Speaker 1: are definitely my dad's children. They tested them years ago 499 00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:36,879 Speaker 1: when she was a baby. Oh so oh wow, I 500 00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:39,760 Speaker 1: bet you. They never trusted each like the husband never 501 00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:42,840 Speaker 1: trusted her. We are just getting so many layers deeper. 502 00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:47,200 Speaker 1: From what I've heard, they're not speaking to Janet at all. 503 00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:49,560 Speaker 1: As for my dad, he seems to have grown a spine, 504 00:22:50,119 --> 00:22:52,440 Speaker 1: no more wet toast for him, and has kicked out 505 00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:54,320 Speaker 1: Janet and she is now living with her parents. 506 00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:54,640 Speaker 2: Wow. 507 00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:56,919 Speaker 1: That doesn't mean he's good. That just means he's like, 508 00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:59,639 Speaker 1: don't cheat on me anymore. Yeah, because that's literally what 509 00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:02,800 Speaker 1: he did. I digress. From what I've heard, he's thinking 510 00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:03,640 Speaker 1: about divorce. 511 00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:04,119 Speaker 2: Wow. 512 00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:06,560 Speaker 1: I haven't had any contact with my dad except for 513 00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:09,159 Speaker 1: a text saying he was sorry for everything. As forgetting 514 00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:12,480 Speaker 1: our restraining order, I'm more concerned about getting one against Janet. Honestly, 515 00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:16,199 Speaker 1: Jane has been throwing hands, So yeah, that's that's probably 516 00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:20,120 Speaker 1: a good call. Our last update, so let's dive in. Hi. Everyone, 517 00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:21,560 Speaker 1: it's been a while and some of you have asked 518 00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:23,480 Speaker 1: me for an update. So firstly, my dad and Janet 519 00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:25,679 Speaker 1: are still together. They broke up for a while, but 520 00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:28,880 Speaker 1: now they're back together and showing a united front even 521 00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:32,120 Speaker 1: though she's a cheater. Oh well, apparently they tried again 522 00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:34,160 Speaker 1: for the sake of the kids and that always works. 523 00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:35,000 Speaker 2: Yay. 524 00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:37,960 Speaker 1: Weirdly enough, me and my dad are in a better place. 525 00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:40,880 Speaker 1: We occasionally text in our cordial when we see each other, 526 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 1: but he has stopped pushing so hard for a relationship 527 00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:45,399 Speaker 1: and respecting my space. We can now be in the 528 00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:47,600 Speaker 1: same place and room without a scene and have had 529 00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:50,159 Speaker 1: the occasional coffee together, which to be fairs all I 530 00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:50,720 Speaker 1: over wanted. 531 00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:53,960 Speaker 2: Okay, so maybe he finally respected her boundaries and gave 532 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:56,320 Speaker 2: it months before he came back again. 533 00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,960 Speaker 1: Maybe seeing I was gonna say, maybe seeing Janet's insanity chain. 534 00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:02,880 Speaker 2: But he's still with her. Yeah, I don't get it. Yeah, 535 00:24:02,920 --> 00:24:04,120 Speaker 2: I don't get that part. 536 00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:07,400 Speaker 1: Yeah. Here, Opie really keeps us on her toes. 537 00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:09,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, she'll like kind of do the right she'll 538 00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:11,639 Speaker 2: do she'ld be directional, doing the right thing, and then 539 00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:14,080 Speaker 2: go too far and we're like what she's like cutting 540 00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:16,760 Speaker 2: out the spleen and then like gets into the lungs exactly. 541 00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:20,359 Speaker 1: He even gave me my college fund with no strings attached. Okay, 542 00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:24,720 Speaker 1: still could be buying the relationship. So I'm still not Yeah, yeah, 543 00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:26,960 Speaker 1: I'm still not there. My step siblings and I have 544 00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:29,280 Speaker 1: started talking and we follow each other on social media, 545 00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:33,480 Speaker 1: and my stepsister comes to my business sometimes and helps out. Okay, 546 00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:35,560 Speaker 1: I realized they were not at fault and I was 547 00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:38,480 Speaker 1: being unfair to them. They're still upset with their mom, 548 00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:41,080 Speaker 1: but are stuck living with her. From what I can gather, 549 00:24:41,520 --> 00:24:45,840 Speaker 1: they are giving her the silent treatment. Okay, I guess 550 00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:46,960 Speaker 1: maybe the kids. 551 00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:47,240 Speaker 2: I don't know. 552 00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:49,400 Speaker 1: I feel like still I feel like the kids were 553 00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:52,000 Speaker 1: brain maybe brainwashed before and now they're better. But that's 554 00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:54,360 Speaker 1: the only explanation. They still were on the wrong side before. 555 00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:56,040 Speaker 1: I stand I stand by that. I stand by that. 556 00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:58,920 Speaker 1: Ask for Janet, I still hate her, but at least 557 00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:00,000 Speaker 1: she's staying out of my business. 558 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:00,480 Speaker 2: There we go. 559 00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:03,399 Speaker 1: I unfortunately could not get rex straining order due to 560 00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:06,760 Speaker 1: lack of evidence. I avoid her and won't speak to her, 561 00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:09,040 Speaker 1: and I think my dad has warned her. My sister 562 00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:12,240 Speaker 1: is speaking to our dad again, but despises Janet and 563 00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:15,399 Speaker 1: refuses to have anything to do with her and is 564 00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:17,720 Speaker 1: going out of her way to exclude her from everything 565 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,760 Speaker 1: she possibly can. Me and her have become much closer 566 00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:22,919 Speaker 1: by the way. You can become much closer to us 567 00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:26,320 Speaker 1: by tapping our profile and joining our lives every single 568 00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:30,879 Speaker 1: weekday at three pm PSD, sometimes till very late in 569 00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:33,000 Speaker 1: the evening, like it is right now. 570 00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:34,399 Speaker 2: So there you go. 571 00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:38,480 Speaker 1: As for Larry, we are not back together and never 572 00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:40,640 Speaker 1: will be, thank God goodness. 573 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:42,480 Speaker 2: Okay, make make sure it's this way. 574 00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:45,600 Speaker 1: He has not fully accepted things, but has calmed down 575 00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:49,000 Speaker 1: and I'm not being harassed as much. He still wants 576 00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:51,399 Speaker 1: to get back together, but I'm not interested him. His 577 00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:54,800 Speaker 1: friends and family will eventually accept this, he thinks, because 578 00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:57,560 Speaker 1: things are better with my dad and me now, I'll 579 00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:00,720 Speaker 1: soften up and forgive him. But I just can't trust him. 580 00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:04,280 Speaker 1: Big facts girl. As for me, I started therapy and 581 00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:07,280 Speaker 1: I'm working through my issues. I've realized a relationship with 582 00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:10,760 Speaker 1: my dad wasn't purely his fault, and I share blame 583 00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:13,760 Speaker 1: in this. I've spent my life acting like he abandoned 584 00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:16,399 Speaker 1: me when I pushed him away. As well. My business 585 00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,640 Speaker 1: is doing well and I'm just focusing on myself. 586 00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:22,320 Speaker 2: Thank you all for supports, all right. 587 00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:28,080 Speaker 1: Not a picture perfect, tighten tidy little bow on it, however, 588 00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:32,399 Speaker 1: I am over all the good outweighs the bad I 589 00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:35,679 Speaker 1: feel in this scenario. I see you. 590 00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:39,040 Speaker 2: I agree. I agree with that. Still confused and why 591 00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:40,760 Speaker 2: she went back with the dad? Not sure why she's 592 00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:41,760 Speaker 2: back with the dad. Thank god. 593 00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:43,960 Speaker 1: She's drawn the line on Larry. Yeah, got she's drawn 594 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:44,760 Speaker 1: the line on Jam. 595 00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:47,320 Speaker 2: Is it because they have a common enemy? That's Jenna now? 596 00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:49,640 Speaker 2: But you said she's still with her? She still Yeah? 597 00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:51,840 Speaker 1: He still, it would all make sense if he left her, 598 00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:54,919 Speaker 1: if he like stayed not being particular with her, But 599 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:57,080 Speaker 1: then he went back. So that's super confusing to me. 600 00:26:57,720 --> 00:27:02,120 Speaker 1: But maybe better to be friends and have a good 601 00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:04,919 Speaker 1: relationship then be at odds and have everyone harassing her 602 00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:10,600 Speaker 1: all day. I guess maybe that's probably better. So hey, hey, 603 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:12,080 Speaker 1: if you can't beat them, join them. 604 00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:15,040 Speaker 2: I guess dude just got some money out of it, 605 00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:16,800 Speaker 2: at least compensated for it. 606 00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:19,960 Speaker 1: That's true. That's true, emotional damages being paid out. But 607 00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:24,199 Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen, that's enough emotional damage for you for today. 608 00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:26,399 Speaker 1: So if you love us, make sure to subscribe. 609 00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 2: We love you and see you tomorrow.