Speaker 1: It's Tuesday here on your Second Date Update podcast, which
Speaker 1: means you get a little awkward, all right, Yes, and
Speaker 1: today's is pretty special because there is I don't know
Speaker 1: if you saw it, but like a viral TikTok issue
Speaker 1: with the kid's birthday party.
Speaker 2: Where they all in it in tears.
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Speaker 2: Enjoy some awkwardness. It's your awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 3: One of the most dramatic calls we've had all year,
Speaker 3: and it all started with a weird disagreement at a
Speaker 3: Build a Bear workshop.
Speaker 2: Where all big disagreements happened.
Speaker 3: Of course, gotten it, Oh yeah. Children were in tears,
Speaker 3: their parents were upset, and even went viral on TikTok.
Speaker 3: And now one father's decided it's time to get justice
Speaker 3: and confront the person who started the drama. You're gonna
Speaker 3: hear what went down at Build a Bear in your
Speaker 3: brand new awkward big teas right, the most awkward Tuesday
Speaker 3: phone call coming up right after this. It's awkward, It's Tuesday.
Speaker 3: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. Different radio shows excel at
Speaker 3: different types of content. Some shows are really good with
Speaker 3: health and wellness tips. Other ones don't judge the other shows.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah. Other ones focus more on true crime stories.
Speaker 3: But today we're honing in on our wheelhouse children's birthday
Speaker 3: party drama. That's where we thrive. And I bring it
Speaker 3: up because there's a story that's actually been going viral
Speaker 3: on TikTok lately. I'm not sure if you guys have
Speaker 3: heard about it yet, but one of the people who
Speaker 3: was directly involved reached out to us saying, hey, I
Speaker 3: could really really use your help.
Speaker 2: Interesting that children's birthdays aren't in my algorithm.
Speaker 3: Jeffrey, Yeah, I don't know why. Let's talk to him though.
Speaker 3: His name is Richard. Richard, welcome to the Showy.
Speaker 1: You doing apparently better than you if you're viral on
Speaker 1: TikTok for an issue.
Speaker 4: Well, okay, I'm not the one viral, but my daughter
Speaker 4: was a part of it.
Speaker 3: Oh, so's not as good as your daughter. Yeah, not
Speaker 3: as bad as your daughter. Yeah, but it's not a
Speaker 3: good slag.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: We shouldn't be slamming our listeners as soon as they
Speaker 3: ask us for help. Sorry about that, Richard, tell us,
Speaker 3: what's going on? You were involved with this birthday drama?
Speaker 4: How well, my daughter's seven years old and she was
Speaker 4: invited to this birthday party. So basically I had to
Speaker 4: drop her off at the mall, like in the food court.
Speaker 4: And what I understood that the plan was they were
Speaker 4: gonna go have lunch and do party activities and when
Speaker 4: then the group was going to head over to build
Speaker 4: a bear.
Speaker 3: Just a bunch of seven year olds freely figuring it out.
Speaker 4: Oh, it's like a build a bear party the birthday
Speaker 4: girl's mom was taking care of.
Speaker 1: Don't you love that age when your kids finally get
Speaker 1: to the drop off parties you don't have to stay
Speaker 1: any longer.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was a great I'll be back in a
Speaker 4: few hours. It's perfect.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, sounds sounds like a good plan.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So I go home and I come back in a
Speaker 4: few hours and there's my daughter just in tears. What
Speaker 4: I feared?
Speaker 2: She's crying?
Speaker 3: Oh, no, pretty standard for post seven year old birthday party.
Speaker 2: Though there's always one kid at the party. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: mean it stops that it's yours. I get it.
Speaker 4: Well, it was more than my kid, it was other
Speaker 4: kids too. They were all upset.
Speaker 5: Oh and wow, what the heck happened? Did Jeff show
Speaker 5: up into a parody song in the middle.
Speaker 3: Of the party?
Speaker 4: Laughing?
Speaker 3: Then what happened?
Speaker 4: So I got her in the car and asked what happened?
Speaker 4: She said that the mom forced all the girls to
Speaker 4: give their build of bears to the birthday girl.
Speaker 3: No way, wait?
Speaker 1: What like they went to a party and they made
Speaker 1: their own build a bear without knowing it was for
Speaker 1: the birthday girl.
Speaker 3: New that's so rude.
Speaker 5: I'm not even involved in the bear world or children's world,
Speaker 5: and I want to fight everyone right now.
Speaker 1: Why would the little birthday girl needs eleven stuffed animals?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 2: Why would the mom do that?
Speaker 4: That's what I was asked to myself. So I contacted
Speaker 4: another mom who was involved, and she she couldn't believe
Speaker 4: it either. She was really upset. Wow.
Speaker 5: See, okay, so this is like the normal reaction.
Speaker 3: Everyone's agreed blindsided all of the parents, the children there obviously.
Speaker 2: I mean, what was the reason? Did you ever get
Speaker 2: to the bottom of that?
Speaker 4: Well? What she said was that the mom wanted each
Speaker 4: girl to build a bear so that like her daughter
Speaker 4: would remember each one of them by the bear that
Speaker 4: they built. They built for her.
Speaker 3: Was that was that laid out in like the invitation
Speaker 3: that all the kids were going to be building a
Speaker 3: bear for the birthday girl.
Speaker 4: No, no, my daughter thought she was getting the bear
Speaker 4: to bring home. I mean, okay, we already gave the gift.
Speaker 2: That is so weird. Okay, I mean you didn't pay
Speaker 2: for it, right, Like the mom.
Speaker 3: Paid for that question expensive?
Speaker 2: The birthday mom paid for everybody to.
Speaker 4: Make these Yeah, she did pay for the bill of
Speaker 4: bear period.
Speaker 3: Well, the birthday mom paid for the cake too, I'm
Speaker 3: assuming and she gave someone that away, so at least
Speaker 3: she's kind of generous.
Speaker 5: Okay, look, let me play advocate really quick. Think about
Speaker 5: it from the birthday girl, every one of those bears.
Speaker 5: Every night she goes to bed, it's like, this is
Speaker 5: Sarah's bear, this is Brooks bear, this is just her friends.
Speaker 5: And so that's just wanting to throw that out there.
Speaker 2: But how is a mother? Could you see all these
Speaker 2: children crying? I like, this is the choice. This is
Speaker 2: the choice I'm making.
Speaker 5: I'm just saying I see.
Speaker 4: Where maybe I think exactly what Brook thinks. All these
Speaker 4: girls had to stand in wine, they to make each bear,
Speaker 4: and then they were all the bears were ripped away
Speaker 4: from them at the end, a.
Speaker 5: Crying line of kids like here, it's so ridiculous.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, So I have the lady's number. I want
Speaker 4: to contact her, tell her this is okay.
Speaker 3: An we want to call the mom of the birthday
Speaker 3: girl who set this up.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I want to contact her and say it's not right,
Speaker 4: it's not okay, okay, give you a bear back?
Speaker 2: I mean, is that what you're going to ask for
Speaker 2: the bag.
Speaker 4: That would be a cherry on top. I don't expect it,
Speaker 4: but I just need her to know what she did
Speaker 4: was wrong. Okay, so I don't know how to say it.
Speaker 4: I want you guys to tell me what to say.
Speaker 3: Gotcha? So you want advice on how to call the
Speaker 3: mother of the birthday girl after the birthday is over,
Speaker 3: to tell her it's not cool that she made all
Speaker 3: of the children at the party build build a Bears
Speaker 3: and then give them all to her daughter at the
Speaker 3: very end.
Speaker 4: This is she's a build She's a build a Bear thief.
Speaker 4: I want to Okay.
Speaker 3: Not sure if the name calling will work, but we'll
Speaker 3: have some ideas for you when we come back.
Speaker 4: I'm calling you. I can't be trusted, all right.
Speaker 3: But remember when you're working to call when we'd come
Speaker 3: back for your awkward Tuesday phone call. Build a Bear edition.
Speaker 3: Just let's try and calm down a little bit. We're
Speaker 3: going to play a song and do it right after this.
Speaker 4: I'm not sure I can, but.
Speaker 3: I'll try.
Speaker 4: Hold on.
Speaker 3: It's awkward. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. I know. Brooke
Speaker 3: has said many times she loves it when other parents
Speaker 3: call and tell her she's doing a bad job of bothering.
Speaker 1: Text emails, direct messages, all of us.
Speaker 3: We do a whole segment time tell Brooks she's a
Speaker 3: bad mom.
Speaker 2: Oh God.
Speaker 3: But the thing is not everybody is as receptive to
Speaker 3: parental criticism as brook is. That's true. That's why our
Speaker 3: listener Richard needs our help today because he was upset
Speaker 3: after dropping his seven year old daughter off at a
Speaker 3: bild a Bear birthday party game and when he picked
Speaker 3: her up, his daughter was crying because the host mom
Speaker 3: made all of the children give their bill of Bears
Speaker 3: to the birthday girl as like a big happy gift
Speaker 3: to remember everybody bad. But there was some type of logic.
Speaker 2: I mean, we talk about core memories. This is definitely wy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're never gonna forget. But Richard's not the only
Speaker 3: parent who was upset by hearing this. He does want
Speaker 3: to be the one, though, who calls up the mom
Speaker 3: and lets her know that he thinks what she did
Speaker 3: wasn't really right. Yeah, So how does he politely deliver
Speaker 3: that message so the mom gets it? Let's go to
Speaker 3: our child's rearing expert, jose For Yes, Josell, what's your advice?
Speaker 5: Well, I would play vague here and just ask, hey,
Speaker 5: have you heard from any other parents about the party,
Speaker 5: because likely she's gonna say yeah, I have, And if not,
Speaker 5: you can just be like, I hear some of them
Speaker 5: are upset.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's so passive aggression.
Speaker 3: I get what he's saying. That way, Richard doesn't have
Speaker 3: to own all of the anger, for he can share
Speaker 3: some of the blame with the parents. Richard, what do
Speaker 3: you think about that bully her?
Speaker 4: Yes? Yeah, I mean what if she says I haven't
Speaker 4: heard anything?
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, just then you can break the news I
Speaker 3: heard from one other Yeah, there you go, I heard
Speaker 3: from so and so. Good luck beating that advice.
Speaker 1: So honestly, Like, I know you heard from another parent
Speaker 1: what this mom's intentions were. But I if you want
Speaker 1: her to like understand what she did is wrong, I
Speaker 1: think that you need to have her explain why, like
Speaker 1: you haven't just asked her. I think you need to
Speaker 1: come in with an open mind. Nobody ever changes their
Speaker 1: mind if they're attacked. If you're on the defense, you
Speaker 1: are never going to see somebody's else's opinion.
Speaker 4: I feel like I see why she did it. She
Speaker 4: wanted this special moment strictly for her daughter.
Speaker 3: Okay, but maybe if you just ask her to say that,
Speaker 3: she'll realize how dumb it is coming out of her
Speaker 3: own mouth. I do that all the time. I'm starting
Speaker 3: to talk, I'm making a point, and I'm like, wow,
Speaker 3: that is really stupid. Well, you know what I'm I'm wrong.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: So you can choose either one of those pieces of
Speaker 3: advice or none, Richard, either one. We're gonna be here
Speaker 3: waiting to jump in if we feel like you need
Speaker 3: a little bit of help. I think you got it.
Speaker 4: Okay, as long as you're you were pretty.
Speaker 3: Heated yet five years.
Speaker 2: Don't get so upset. I mean, in the end, it's
Speaker 2: just a Teddy Bear. Those are nice expensive bears.
Speaker 3: Teddy Bear's twelve Teddy Bears.
Speaker 4: It's so much more than Yeah, okay, sorry, yeah, we don't.
Speaker 3: We don't want to get you all excited again. Stay calm.
Speaker 3: We're gonna dial this mom for you. Let you talk
Speaker 3: to her.
Speaker 4: Here we go. I don't try to keep going to control, right,
Speaker 4: you got this, buddy? Here we go? Hello? Hi this Megan?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Who's this?
Speaker 4: Hi? This is Richard. I'm Vanessa's dad. Oh yeah, okay, Hi,
Speaker 4: how are you hi? Good? First, off. I just wanted
Speaker 4: to thank you for inviting my daughter to the birthday party. No,
Speaker 4: no problem, that's refreshing. Well, I will say she had
Speaker 4: a really good time, but there was one little issue,
Speaker 4: and I'm just kind of wondering if you had feedback
Speaker 4: from other parents. Yeah, I've already had some other whiny
Speaker 4: parents call about this is So whatever you're about to say,
Speaker 4: just save it. So I'm assuming what you're talking about
Speaker 4: is the Build a Bear situation. Yeah, so I don't
Speaker 4: think any of you really understand that it was my
Speaker 4: child's birthday party. So I get to make the rules, right,
Speaker 4: You get to make the rules. Yeah, and with no
Speaker 4: regard to the other children's feelings. That was that one
Speaker 4: of the rules.
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 4: I paid for all the bears, right, I don't. I
Speaker 4: didn't see your credit cards PLoP down on the desk
Speaker 4: at Build a Bear. It was mine. So you bought
Speaker 4: every one of their tears, is what you're saying? Tears?
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, give me you purchased each was it
Speaker 4: was it build a teer. This was a birthday party,
Speaker 4: not a charity event to give bears to the Left
Speaker 4: Earth event. It was it was a labor camp. A
Speaker 4: labor girls to work. I'm not the only one who
Speaker 4: thinks this. All the parents are talking and they all
Speaker 4: kind of think you're a sure.
Speaker 3: Okay, great, go get together and report me to the
Speaker 3: build a bear police.
Speaker 2: Who cares?
Speaker 4: Done? Well, you should have them make a build of
Speaker 4: bear police bear and then just take that away too.
Speaker 1: Oh Burn, thank you?
Speaker 4: Ow that was her. You know what the truth is?
Speaker 4: You know who else thinks you a jerk? Everybody listening
Speaker 4: on the radio right now because you're on Brook and
Speaker 4: Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: What are you talking about?
Speaker 4: What the hell is going on? Yeah? You just got
Speaker 4: outed for being a first glance jerk to the entire country.
Speaker 1: What the hell that.
Speaker 3: Was?
Speaker 2: Wasn't it outer for being an a hole?
Speaker 3: No color of labor camp? That was the funniest back
Speaker 3: and forth?
Speaker 4: Excuse me? Can anyone tell me what's going on? Yes?
Speaker 3: Yeah, so, Megan, he wasn't lying. You actually are on
Speaker 3: the radio right now on Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: That's our show.
Speaker 2: It was for advice. We were trying to help the situation,
Speaker 2: not make it worse.
Speaker 4: What is this even? I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 3: Sorry, it's a healing segment that we do about bringing
Speaker 3: parents together and kindly talking to each other.
Speaker 2: Rich Did he get that memo?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: No, Well it's actually called an awkward Tuesday phone call
Speaker 3: because we knew that this conversation wasn't going to be flawless.
Speaker 3: I don't think anybody expected it to nosedive like it did.
Speaker 2: That wild what happened, Richard? We told you to open
Speaker 2: my poll.
Speaker 4: I tried, I tried my best.
Speaker 2: That was your best.
Speaker 4: She was an a hole from the very beginning. She
Speaker 4: called every whiny was not wrong.
Speaker 3: But also, yeah, you got a practice being the bigger
Speaker 3: man in that situation, Richard. But I think it's too
Speaker 3: late for that now. So listen, Megan. Maybe the message
Speaker 3: didn't come across quite the way we wanted it to,
Speaker 3: but do you understand the sentiment behind it that there's
Speaker 3: a lot of parents that were upset by what happened
Speaker 3: because their children were crying at the end of the party.
Speaker 3: You must have noticed.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sorry that they didn't teach their kids how
Speaker 1: to grasp the concept of party etiquette.
Speaker 4: It wasn't their birthdays.
Speaker 2: I know, well, I know, but I don't get it yet.
Speaker 2: And you said that.
Speaker 1: You didn't tell the kids at the beginning of the
Speaker 1: party that they were building a bear for the birthday girl.
Speaker 4: They're seven years old.
Speaker 3: They want to ruin the damn surprise. Oh oh my god.
Speaker 3: She does have a point a little bit there, but
Speaker 3: it's it's still it's not fair.
Speaker 1: Would these people also already brought gifts, Like they brought
Speaker 1: gifts already and that.
Speaker 2: Was something they put thought into of what your daughter
Speaker 2: would like.
Speaker 4: God, you sound like one of the damn whiny parents
Speaker 4: that call, even if.
Speaker 2: You still think you're right, which is fine, Like.
Speaker 1: You're gonna ruin your daughter's social life if you keep
Speaker 1: down this line. That's a good She's not going to
Speaker 1: get invited to birthday parties because of this good She
Speaker 1: doesn't want those kind of friends.
Speaker 2: Anyway, you get off.
Speaker 1: I hope you're proud of yourself for trying to drag
Speaker 1: a good mom down on live radio for we're trying
Speaker 1: to make her daughter happy.
Speaker 3: Okay, let's not tell her what a good mom.
Speaker 2: I don't know that that's true.
Speaker 3: Well, that doesn't matter. If you believe it, you should
Speaker 3: say it.
Speaker 2: I mean, I think that you're trying to make your
Speaker 2: daughter happy.
Speaker 3: Which you should try harder. With this apologies, that's.
Speaker 2: What we all want for our children.
Speaker 1: I just think that maybe the lesson of looking at
Speaker 1: others and putting others first is a good one too.
Speaker 4: Oh, thank you, thank you so much for all of
Speaker 4: the tips of how to be a good mother. How
Speaker 4: about I give you guys some advice, get real jobs.
Speaker 3: I'm trying. My mother gives me that same advice. You
Speaker 3: are a good mom.
Speaker 4: He works on radio anymore? Nobody?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean that the point you keep laying down
Speaker 3: truth bombs, I'm I'm coming around on everyone else.
Speaker 5: Feel bad.
Speaker 3: I want to work in your labor camps so much
Speaker 3: you set up so give us I will cry.
Speaker 4: You know what, I don't care if she's a jerk.
Speaker 4: Everyone heard how much of a jerk she is. I
Speaker 4: kind of wish the girls could have given all the
Speaker 4: food back too, and vomited all over.
Speaker 3: But your slams to keep getting goes on.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't call that bad. It's also a bad pirate
Speaker 2: Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning