Speaker 1: I get this so many times with divorce being so
Speaker 1: normal now in the world, at least in my world
Speaker 1: in the US. If you're a kid, or maybe you
Speaker 1: grew up this way, or remember you're the parent of
Speaker 1: a kid, how do you choose whether you're going to
Speaker 1: live with mom or dad? So obviously you have to
Speaker 1: be a certain age if if you're a kid, But
Speaker 1: but if you if the parent's trying to decide, how
Speaker 1: do you choose who goes with who? You know most
Speaker 1: of you would say everyone goes with the mother, right,
Speaker 1: But how does that affect the kid in the long term?
Speaker 1: And then if you're the kid and you're old enough
Speaker 1: to pick, depending on the state you're in, do you
Speaker 1: get resentments that you pick the mother? Do you do
Speaker 1: you get resentment from the father and then the father's family,
Speaker 1: And if if you pick the father, it's the same
Speaker 1: way with the mother. And then how do you handle
Speaker 1: holidays together? And do you what happens if you're invited
Speaker 1: to a Christmas party and your mother is not you're
Speaker 1: invited to your father's Christmas party and your mother's not invited,
Speaker 1: or vice versa, And what do you do and how
Speaker 1: do you try to mend that and how does that
Speaker 1: affect that your life and how you raise your own
Speaker 1: family when you have one. It's such a such a
Speaker 1: terrible thought, but it's such a common issue with people,
Speaker 1: and so we're going to dive into that. I got
Speaker 1: my good buddy Bernie with me, so we're going to
Speaker 1: answer a lot of questions, including that one kind of
Speaker 1: really get in depth. And I always look at these
Speaker 1: questions from you guys. It's like we're sitting around a
Speaker 1: campfire together and how you say, Hey, man, I got
Speaker 1: this thought. I wanted to run by it, but you know,
Speaker 1: I had to pick my mother and my parents got
Speaker 1: a divorce and my dad hates me for it. What
Speaker 1: do I do? It's like we're just sittinground a campfire,
Speaker 1: and I would answer, you know, like like you're my buddy.
Speaker 1: If you have a question, any question for me, email
Speaker 1: Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. Could be about anything,
Speaker 1: could be music related, tour related, life related, relationship related,
Speaker 1: career related, whatever it might be. What we'll dig into it.
Speaker 1: I got to say before we start this podcast too,
Speaker 1: that it's an exciting day for me. If you're watching
Speaker 1: this as this as this podcast is releasing today then tonight,
Speaker 1: my music video for Hate You Like I Love You
Speaker 1: releases six pm Central. It's gonna be on my YouTube channel,
Speaker 1: the Granger Smith YouTube channel, and I'm so excited. This
Speaker 1: is my first I've done so many music videos, but
Speaker 1: this is my first one that we did at All
Speaker 1: Night Shoot. It's my first one where we did extensive
Speaker 1: CGI like digital editing, special effects. And it's a very
Speaker 1: twisted storyline. It's about a car wreck and so I
Speaker 1: cannot wait for you guys to see what this looks like.
Speaker 1: So let me know that's important. If you want to
Speaker 1: get a hold of me, if you want to shoot
Speaker 1: me a text personally, or if you want me to
Speaker 1: send you a video message. It could be to you,
Speaker 1: or could be as a gift to anyone else, could
Speaker 1: be to a boyfriend or girlfriend, or a shout out
Speaker 1: or a birthday to your kid. Go to Cameo dot com.
Speaker 1: Cameo dot com is I've been doing this for a
Speaker 1: couple of years now and it's a really good program.
Speaker 1: It's a simple app. You could download cameo dot com
Speaker 1: or get the Cameo app and find me on there
Speaker 1: and I could do anything you want. So let's take
Speaker 1: into this podcast. I love it when Bernie's here. Bernie
Speaker 1: is I've been friends with him for twenty one years.
Speaker 1: He's so full of knowledge and good advice that I
Speaker 1: just keep having him come back and come back to
Speaker 1: help me discuss these camp fire type questions with you guys.
Speaker 1: And I think you guys are really gonna like this one,
Speaker 1: and the subject matter is interesting. So wherever you're listening,
Speaker 1: where you're you're on the road truck, or you're you're
Speaker 1: driving to work, or you're you're going to school, or
Speaker 1: you're you're staying at home, wherever you are, whatever you're doing,
Speaker 1: Welcome to the green Smith Podcast. This is episode seventy four.
Speaker 1: Ye ye did chant months time? So long line up
Speaker 1: and down on that range. Yeah, gation, So pumped to
Speaker 1: have Bernie back on the podcast. How many news for
Speaker 1: you now? This is uh four or five? Yeah, something
Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, yeah, I think this is five? Okay, yeah, four? Five? Okay,
Speaker 1: Thank you guys for not just you know, commenting that
Speaker 1: Granger needs to get rid of me. So I'm pumped
Speaker 1: to be back. Well, you obviously come back to the
Speaker 1: podcast because you're feeling out with you that, but you
Speaker 1: also feel something with this podcast, right absolutely, man, it's
Speaker 1: giving something to your life. You have to admit it, rightlute,
Speaker 1: because it does for me. Yeah, absolutely. I mean the
Speaker 1: amount of pain and joy and experience and everything that
Speaker 1: we've been through. Like sometimes just being able to like
Speaker 1: share the story just kind of justifies it in our minds.
Speaker 1: It makes it worth it and feel like you're kind
Speaker 1: of helping others. Means that's music too, right, It's just yeah,
Speaker 1: your life in the story to inspire others. And yeah, man,
Speaker 1: it's a privilege. And so I want everybody out there
Speaker 1: to know, like, I'm just a regular dude. Happened to
Speaker 1: meet Granger twenty one years ago? Is that we said,
Speaker 1: twenty one years ago and have stayed you know, pretty
Speaker 1: close over the years, and he wanted to bring me on,
Speaker 1: And I just feel really privileged. So it could be
Speaker 1: one of you guys, you never know, meet him at
Speaker 1: a show in twenty one years. He may be like, hey,
Speaker 1: come and do this thing. If they're still doing podcasts
Speaker 1: in twenty one. Yeah, not only not only were so close,
Speaker 1: but you're just you just give really good advice. I
Speaker 1: say this every time you're on. You give really good
Speaker 1: advice to me, and so it just occurred to me,
Speaker 1: as I answer people's questions on this podcast, that you
Speaker 1: would give good advice to them and if anything, we
Speaker 1: could just talk through it. Sure, we're sitting in you know,
Speaker 1: around a campfire, which I think is great. Yeah, man,
Speaker 1: I love that idea, and you've said it many times
Speaker 1: on the podcast. This is kind of like you're just
Speaker 1: driving in your truck and talking to somebody, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: answered the question. So I was thinking on my way
Speaker 1: over here, like, Okay, we're in the truck, right, me
Speaker 1: and you were driving and these guys, you know, these
Speaker 1: listeners out there, they have a bunch of questions, right,
Speaker 1: But the first thing that you do when you sit
Speaker 1: in a truck with somebody haven't seen a while, I'll say,
Speaker 1: and this is my question for you, great Smiths podcast. Dude,
Speaker 1: what have you been up to? Man? What are you
Speaker 1: excited about right now? Man? Well, let's see what's today?
Speaker 1: Today's Monday? Hate you like? I love your music video?
Speaker 1: Super excited about that because Amber, yet again is in
Speaker 1: another music video of mine, and yet again she's we're
Speaker 1: kind of playing a different role as a couple, and
Speaker 1: she's playing a different character and I'm playing a different character.
Speaker 1: So's it's really fun. So many of our music videos
Speaker 1: we're rarely just us like we are. Sometimes there's a few,
Speaker 1: but usually we're playing the characters of the song, right yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: And so people get to see it and in common
Speaker 1: below if you have seen it, but it kind of
Speaker 1: this is a weird one. It's like the song is
Speaker 1: called hate You like I Love You, and it's the
Speaker 1: story of this guy who's he's just passionately in love
Speaker 1: with this girl that doesn't love him back, and he
Speaker 1: wishes he could just hate her with the same passion
Speaker 1: that he loves her with. And that came from I
Speaker 1: just always had this idea where people usually think, what's
Speaker 1: the Like if you say what's the opposite of love,
Speaker 1: they always go hate, But it's not. The opposite of
Speaker 1: love is indifference, like I could care less. That's the
Speaker 1: opposite of love. The close cousin of love is hate.
Speaker 1: It's because it takes that kind of energy, the same
Speaker 1: energy to hate. It's like passionate. You have to be
Speaker 1: passionate to love and passionate to hate. It takes energy
Speaker 1: to do it. So I thought, what if there's this
Speaker 1: poor guy who just wishes he could hate her with
Speaker 1: the same energy. You know. So Amber, Amber is this
Speaker 1: this character, this girl, and she's she's not a ghost,
Speaker 1: she is she's just haunting his mind. And he thinks
Speaker 1: that he sees her, you know, she's you could think
Speaker 1: whatever you want when you see it, but I don't
Speaker 1: think she's dead when you see it. She's just haunting
Speaker 1: his mind. And he gets in this wreck and he's
Speaker 1: like coming out. This guy's had a bad day. He's
Speaker 1: coming out of this truck. It's on its side, it's burning,
Speaker 1: and he's like like trying to figure out what happened
Speaker 1: because he swerved to miss it, and up ahead is
Speaker 1: a deer. So it's like, did I swerve to miss
Speaker 1: the deer? But in his mind he swerved because she
Speaker 1: was literally sitting in the road, and he just keeps
Speaker 1: seeing her and he can't get he can't stop thinking
Speaker 1: about her. So so yeah, that's what's going on. And
Speaker 1: we're super excited about that. Very cool also have and
Speaker 1: I've said this on the Smiths a project that we've
Speaker 1: been working on, okay for like a year, and we're
Speaker 1: going to announce that project this week, and I've been
Speaker 1: talking that's exciting I've been talking to you about it.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm talking about. Anytime you've been working
Speaker 1: on something for a year, Yeah, and told nobody about it,
Speaker 1: like it's pretty exciting. Yeah, and you know about it.
Speaker 1: I've been saying, it's a big, big deal. Yeah, very cool. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So as for music videos, people out there comment below
Speaker 1: if you can find the Granger Smith videos that I
Speaker 1: have appeared in. Dude, I thought about that, you know,
Speaker 1: I thought about that the other day. I don't think
Speaker 1: anyone's going to get that. I don't think anybody's going
Speaker 1: to get it. If you get it, Granger will send
Speaker 1: you his truck. Now, it's just we'll send you a
Speaker 1: side CD or something. It's good, I mean, if you could. Actually,
Speaker 1: and my and my son and my wife are in
Speaker 1: a separate one that I wasn't in. But those two
Speaker 1: were in because you looked different. Yep. So get a
Speaker 1: good look right here, Yeah, and go see what you
Speaker 1: can do. Look, it's not new. You got to go
Speaker 1: through the archives a little bit. Yeah, you got to
Speaker 1: go back like ten years. Dude. I thought about that,
Speaker 1: and I just thought no one would get that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we'll see. But it's a pretty prominent role you have. Yeah,
Speaker 1: at least one. There's there's a couple of them, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think there's a couple of them. Yeah, so maybe
Speaker 1: I can help us out jog our memories a little bit. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're getting old. So dude, what I wanted to say
Speaker 1: to you is, and we're talking right before we turn
Speaker 1: on the recorder. Here, as I started reading Morning Brew,
Speaker 1: which is an email subscription newservis that you sent me
Speaker 1: or you told me about that you said you read
Speaker 1: because it's like unbiased, pretty non partisan. It. It is
Speaker 1: a little bit because I noticed when Rush Limbaugh died
Speaker 1: that it was pretty pretty negative. The whole thing about
Speaker 1: Rush Limball was negative. But anyway, it's it is pretty
Speaker 1: non partisan. So I like to read it. But every day,
Speaker 1: every morning, and I'll just say, right before I even
Speaker 1: start talking about this, YouTube will probably catch this on
Speaker 1: an algorithm and just boom, demonetize it. I don't care anymore.
Speaker 1: Every day when I read Morning Brew, COVID numbers are
Speaker 1: like plummeting. Yep. Vaccines are getting more prevalent. There's new
Speaker 1: ones popping up. John Johnson came out with one worldwide,
Speaker 1: maybe except Canada. Canada seems to be a little slow,
Speaker 1: but worldwide numbers are plummeting. Vaccine numbers are going up.
Speaker 1: So this is more rhetorical question, not really to you,
Speaker 1: because I know I know you well enough, but it's
Speaker 1: to everyone to just think about how are you feeling
Speaker 1: about this? Like are you are you excited? Or I
Speaker 1: know that a lot of people listening are like, dude,
Speaker 1: I'm about to bust down the door and get to work.
Speaker 1: And I know, I know there's probably some people that
Speaker 1: are like I don't know yet, Like I'm still worried. Sure,
Speaker 1: I don't believe what. I don't believe it yet. I
Speaker 1: believe it when what? When? What? When the governor says
Speaker 1: everything's good? There's rumors that Abbot's like on the verge
Speaker 1: of just opening up fools full speed. That's that's in
Speaker 1: Texas for y'all. So anyway, where where is where is
Speaker 1: the consensus of the listeners of this podcast with this?
Speaker 1: You know, Like, I'm I'm curious because for me, it
Speaker 1: feels like just like outside, it feels like springtime, like
Speaker 1: it's about start getting warm. Yep. Winter, winter is done,
Speaker 1: Winter is cooked. Good riddance, Yeah, yeah, good riddance. COVID
Speaker 1: good riddens winter. The weather is changing, and so is
Speaker 1: the climate of the people. I think, yeah, yeah, it's
Speaker 1: tough to say. I mean, I think really dependent on
Speaker 1: where you are, what you listen to, what you watch,
Speaker 1: where we can be products of our environment. So typically, uh,
Speaker 1: you know, in the cities, there's just they're more dense there,
Speaker 1: they tend to be more liberal. There's just more you know,
Speaker 1: kind of concern still for whatever reason, I'm not saying
Speaker 1: either one is go to bed, but outside the city
Speaker 1: there's not so much. And I don't know if it's
Speaker 1: just like denser populations, like you don't have the room
Speaker 1: to kind of spit out be outside. I don't know
Speaker 1: what that is. But the I don't know what the
Speaker 1: consensus is around the country. I'd love to, you know,
Speaker 1: hear what people have to say. But I think that
Speaker 1: we're I think it's promising, don't you Yeah, where we're headed.
Speaker 1: I think there's a lot of really talented people that
Speaker 1: have worked really hard to like progress, you know, this
Speaker 1: vaccine and like the healthcare workers, thank you guys so
Speaker 1: much for everything that you're doing, frontline workers, first responders,
Speaker 1: like I think everybody has kind of rallied it's just
Speaker 1: been such a different dynamic of rallying in the nation
Speaker 1: as it was like nine to eleven, right, So there
Speaker 1: was almost like a a definitive action against us that
Speaker 1: rallied us together. And this was kind of like something
Speaker 1: that happened that all of a sudden political lines were drawn.
Speaker 1: And so I think once we get to the other
Speaker 1: side of that and these things start to kind of
Speaker 1: weave themselves out, well, maybe we'll learn a lot about
Speaker 1: our culture, a lot about ourselves, Yeah, for sure. But
Speaker 1: I think that I really hope that people start to
Speaker 1: open back up. You know, there's probably people listening that
Speaker 1: are thinking, nothing's changed for me. I didn't do anything.
Speaker 1: I didn't do any of it. Man, good for you,
Speaker 1: but but for me, everything changed for as far as
Speaker 1: my career, and it was I can't remember the exact day.
Speaker 1: I think it was like March. I want to say
Speaker 1: March the eighth, but regardless, we're coming up on the
Speaker 1: one year anniversary of Ground zero for everyone. Because there
Speaker 1: was a day and I was flying to I was
Speaker 1: flying to New York City to play a show on
Speaker 1: this day, and the band and crew, most of them
Speaker 1: were already in Columbus Ohio. So Chris and I and
Speaker 1: two of my guitar players and one sound guy all
Speaker 1: flying together from Austin and Dallas to Columbus, Ohio to
Speaker 1: meet everyone and then we're gonna drive overnight to New York.
Speaker 1: This was, like I said, like March seventh or eighth,
Speaker 1: and that was the day that everyone remembers where it
Speaker 1: was like to the minute the country shut down and
Speaker 1: we were we landed on a layover to Columbus, Ohio,
Speaker 1: from Austin to Dallas as a layover, and when we
Speaker 1: landed and turned on our phones from airplane mode, it
Speaker 1: was blowing up, like and not just us. Everyone on
Speaker 1: the plane was like like everyone's mumbling and talking and
Speaker 1: it was scary, and it was like what's going on?
Speaker 1: And like this coronavirus thing is like coming, it's coming.
Speaker 1: What does that mean? And our booking agent we was like, hey, guys,
Speaker 1: we're worried about the New York show. The Pittsburgh show
Speaker 1: after that is still on, and the one after that
Speaker 1: and something is still on. But we're probably gonna have
Speaker 1: a day off in New York because they're they're limiting
Speaker 1: capacity to like one hundred people. And we're like that
Speaker 1: is so weird, okay, And then within five minutes of that,
Speaker 1: it was like, Pittsburgh canceled. They would I think it
Speaker 1: was like all, but to New York they canceled. It
Speaker 1: was like, man, the whole weekend's canceled. So we got
Speaker 1: off the plane at the layover and went to the
Speaker 1: desk and to the Southwest Airlines desk and said, can
Speaker 1: we go back to Austin? Our work just got canceled,
Speaker 1: and and it was awesome. She was like, yeah, there's
Speaker 1: a there's a nine to forty am flight right here.
Speaker 1: I could put you on it. No questions asked, no
Speaker 1: money exchanged. We literally just got new boarding passes and
Speaker 1: got on and came home. And at that point we
Speaker 1: still thought this is the weirdest thing ever. Next week
Speaker 1: we'll be back out. And then that day it was like, guys,
Speaker 1: next week canceled. Man, so we're thinking, we're thinking it's
Speaker 1: going to take a couple of weeks for this to
Speaker 1: clear up. And then that turned into that was in March.
Speaker 1: Then it was like we're thinking Apriril, and then that
Speaker 1: was the whole Easter thing, and then it was like, guys,
Speaker 1: I don't think we're torn until May first, and then
Speaker 1: that was June, and then it was like jumped to
Speaker 1: September fall, then it was like December for sure. So
Speaker 1: here we are a year later, and man, for those
Speaker 1: of you that think that your life nothing happened, like
Speaker 1: I said, good any but dude, my life drastically changed.
Speaker 1: Now looking back, I was full of anxiety then, and
Speaker 1: I was full of like, what are we to do?
Speaker 1: Mainly my concern was how's the band and crew going
Speaker 1: to get paychecks? Like they have families. This is They've
Speaker 1: been loyal to me for ten years. Nothing could be
Speaker 1: ever predicted that this something happened, So that was my
Speaker 1: main worry was how am I going to take care
Speaker 1: of these guys and what's going to happen? And they're
Speaker 1: really lying on me for information and to know something.
Speaker 1: So long story short, you've guys have heard that story
Speaker 1: a million times. But long story short, here we are
Speaker 1: fast forward one year. Cannot believe it's taken this long,
Speaker 1: but I feel like the weather's changing the scope of everyone,
Speaker 1: that the way everyone feels is starting to change. Even
Speaker 1: the hardcore maskers that always maskers are starting to feel like, hey,
Speaker 1: I might be able to take it off I'm able
Speaker 1: to take the mask off and go to the grocery store. Yeah, absolutely,
Speaker 1: thank god man. Yeah, So anyway, comment below, maybe we'll
Speaker 1: kind of get some feel the pulse of how everyone
Speaker 1: else is thinking to on this. Yeah. I think there's
Speaker 1: just an underlie you. I mean, honestly, a griz. You
Speaker 1: have endured my friend in the last couple of years,
Speaker 1: like more than I just can't imagine. I really can't.
Speaker 1: If you just circle back through the last two two
Speaker 1: and a half years, like what has been stripped away
Speaker 1: from you and the way that you have responded to
Speaker 1: it and handled it. I don't even think all these
Speaker 1: listeners understand, and I hope that they do, and that
Speaker 1: they they don't just follow you and support you because
Speaker 1: of great music that you make, but because of the
Speaker 1: person that you are and the way that you inspire
Speaker 1: people by the way you respond to these things that
Speaker 1: might have crushed many other people, that you have found
Speaker 1: a way to rally with your family, you know, direct
Speaker 1: family and work family, and come through it on the
Speaker 1: other side. I feel like as a stronger, more inspiring
Speaker 1: person you and Amber both so you know, for those
Speaker 1: I think there are some that weren't affected very much.
Speaker 1: Others were affected, everything changed, Others lost family members because
Speaker 1: of this. Yeah, but I think everybody needs to recognize
Speaker 1: there has been a low, lying level of trauma that
Speaker 1: has happened to the entire country. Whether you think that, oh,
Speaker 1: my life just went you know, I went to work.
Speaker 1: I mean I'm in the construction business. It boomed, nobody's business.
Speaker 1: I still have to recognize there's a low level of
Speaker 1: trauma that we've been through in the last year because
Speaker 1: of this, and what does that mean and kind of
Speaker 1: sit with it and dig through it. Relationships that have
Speaker 1: been taxed because of this, Relationships that have been disconnected
Speaker 1: because we can't be it's not the same guys. I
Speaker 1: love Zoom and I hope it only sued by them,
Speaker 1: but it is not the same as this right here,
Speaker 1: face to face. This is what we were made for
Speaker 1: and there's no replicating that digitally. I'm sorry. And I
Speaker 1: think a lot of these companies that are going to
Speaker 1: remote work from wherever. Culture, you know, Drucker said, culture
Speaker 1: eats strategy for breakfast, Like the culture of a business
Speaker 1: of an organization cannot thrive with people not being connected
Speaker 1: under you know, like one one cause in one place
Speaker 1: at least sometimes. So I think that this mass exodus
Speaker 1: from you know, companies being together to all working remote,
Speaker 1: I think it's going to backfire, and I hope so
Speaker 1: in a way culture eats strategy for breakfast. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: love that, Charlie Drucker, God, I love that. That's so true. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know the difference between last year us thinking maybe
Speaker 1: maybe December will go back on tour, maybe September. Last
Speaker 1: year there was a hint when we said that, there
Speaker 1: was a hint of but it'll probably be this, it'll
Speaker 1: look like this, like they'll probably have to wear a mask,
Speaker 1: or they'll probably still have to be in pods or
Speaker 1: some ridicult this thing. The difference now looking at touring
Speaker 1: coming up, when our first dates really start in June,
Speaker 1: if that happens. But the difference is now we look
Speaker 1: at it and go, oh yeah, full speed, like it'll
Speaker 1: be open when we open, when concerts start, it's going
Speaker 1: to be full blown, elbow to elbow regular. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: we know that now. Last year it was like remember
Speaker 1: last year when it was like you think this is
Speaker 1: just how it's always going to be. People were saying that,
Speaker 1: like you think we'll just wear a mask that we'll
Speaker 1: just always wear a mask now and we'll always do zoom. Yeah.
Speaker 1: People kept saying like the new normal, and I was like,
Speaker 1: that's crappy object to this normal, which is not a
Speaker 1: new normal. This is a temporary solution to a worldwide problem.
Speaker 1: This is not what we're made for. And we've been
Speaker 1: through you know, humans have been through this before, and
Speaker 1: we go back to the things that made us who
Speaker 1: we are, which is personal connection, being together. And so
Speaker 1: I have you know, personal friends and family that have
Speaker 1: been on both sides of the spectrum as far as
Speaker 1: very conservative and you know, very open. And I have
Speaker 1: ultimate respect for everybody to do what they feel like
Speaker 1: is best for them and take care of themselves. But
Speaker 1: I think at a minimum, you have to like recognize
Speaker 1: the low level of trauma that you're experiencing and what
Speaker 1: effect that has not just on yourself, but on other
Speaker 1: people too. Totally. I used to I've done a lot
Speaker 1: of podcasts on reject the idea of new normal. So yeah,
Speaker 1: so moving forward, we'll just see. Yep. I'm hopeful you
Speaker 1: want to answer a couple of questions here. Yeah, let's go.
Speaker 1: If you have a question, guys, email Granger Smith podcast
Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. You can ask anything in the world.
Speaker 1: This first question, I'm gonna start off light, says, Hey Granger,
Speaker 1: I'm Sassy from Utah, about ten minutes from Salt Lake.
Speaker 1: Love Utah Park City. It's Harriman, Okay, yeah, I love Utah,
Speaker 1: it says I've been watching you from the beginning, including
Speaker 1: Smith's and Ambers arrives, and I've tried, still haven't been
Speaker 1: able to figure out all of your your tattoos what
Speaker 1: they say. Could you please show your tattoos and what
Speaker 1: they are and what they say and what their meanings are.
Speaker 1: And I'm invested in knowing, so please put my eyes
Speaker 1: strained at rest. Thank you so much. I think her
Speaker 1: name's Sassy. Yeah. I think she just wants you to
Speaker 1: take your shirt off and that one on your butt.
Speaker 1: You're gonna have to show out one on my butt,
Speaker 1: so you have some too. You have to do this too, Okay,
Speaker 1: So I have I know that people are very concerned
Speaker 1: about like what my tattoos mean. Well you got to
Speaker 1: say it. So I got to have dare mighty things
Speaker 1: on my left arm. That is a Teddy Roosevelt out
Speaker 1: of a Teddy Roosevelt speech that most people call the
Speaker 1: speech dear Mighty Things. Incredible speech. I've said it many
Speaker 1: times on this podcast, but I love that. And this
Speaker 1: happened when my tour manager Chris was getting a tattooed
Speaker 1: in Nashville and he was getting one for his son,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I'll go with you, and so
Speaker 1: I got my favorite quote, dear Mighty Things, which I
Speaker 1: love looking at it on my left hand, and then
Speaker 1: I have on that left bicep, I have a feather,
Speaker 1: and I have my three birth dates and Roman numerals
Speaker 1: of my kids. My three kids, so that's too hard
Speaker 1: to pull up, but three birthdates. And then on my
Speaker 1: right I have State of Texas under my arm. The
Speaker 1: outline that came from spurgis South Dakota at the rally
Speaker 1: we were playing a few years ago, and at that
Speaker 1: biker rally there's a million tattoo artists. It's like a
Speaker 1: big convention. They all go there. It's like the best
Speaker 1: in the world. So it kind of felt like I
Speaker 1: should partake in that. Yeah, yeah, So me and my
Speaker 1: bass player both got matching Texas tattoos. And then on
Speaker 1: the other side of my most recent tattoo says River
Speaker 1: on the outside of my arm. I got that shortly
Speaker 1: after we lost them, so and then I think that's it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: how about you. I got one right here that just
Speaker 1: simply says the word seek. I got this when I
Speaker 1: was in at a very kind of pivotal I guess
Speaker 1: part of my faith journey, and I just felt like
Speaker 1: God was kind of telling me this word catch kept
Speaker 1: showing up over and over. And what it means to
Speaker 1: me is, this is what the journey is out for me,
Speaker 1: is to continually be seeking, seeking truth, you know, seeking understanding.
Speaker 1: And that's not just like in a faith journey, but
Speaker 1: that's how you walk into a conversation like I'm not
Speaker 1: here to like tell you, I'm here to like seek
Speaker 1: understanding and understand and learn about you. But also the
Speaker 1: way that I try to communicate faith to other people
Speaker 1: is that you know the verse of Matthew. You know,
Speaker 1: like seeking you will find is what it comes from.
Speaker 1: But it's not my real it's not my job to
Speaker 1: tell you what you're gonna find, because I don't know
Speaker 1: what God has for you to find. But I believe
Speaker 1: that what you will find will be of Him, and
Speaker 1: it's going to be especially for you, because that's his promise.
Speaker 1: I feel like what my job is to really inspire
Speaker 1: people just to seek, Hey, just go seek, just content,
Speaker 1: don't don't be apathetic, don't give up, just like continue
Speaker 1: to push in and seek. So that's that one. This
Speaker 1: one says it's an adventure. So my mom, who passed
Speaker 1: away when I was twenty three, all growing up, she
Speaker 1: had this kind of like mantra that you know, life
Speaker 1: is kind of either and you can take everything in
Speaker 1: life as an obstacle or an adventure, or sorry, as
Speaker 1: an ordeal or an adventure. Like, oh my gosh, I
Speaker 1: can't believe we got lost and now it's this and this,
Speaker 1: and we would get lost all the time. This is
Speaker 1: before you know, smartphones and GPS, and my mom was
Speaker 1: driving and we'd be like, ma, we've been driving for
Speaker 1: like an hour. Where we go. She's like, it's an adventure.
Speaker 1: We'll get there. So everything for her was always like,
Speaker 1: you know, it's an adventure. When she passed away, I
Speaker 1: left the hospital and went back home, and oddly enough
Speaker 1: I had a letter waiting in my mailbox from her. Wow.
Speaker 1: And I read the letter and she said, you know,
Speaker 1: she was so proud of me and just couldn't wait
Speaker 1: to see all the things that God had for me
Speaker 1: and Leslie. So I took that letter, which I still
Speaker 1: have and keep very close. I took that letter to
Speaker 1: a tattoo artist and I said, I want to copy
Speaker 1: this handwriting, and I wanted to say, it's an adventure.
Speaker 1: So this says her quote in her handwriting. It's pretty cools.
Speaker 1: So awesome man. Yeah, And I was thinking, as you're
Speaker 1: saying it, that maybe another podcast will address the what's
Speaker 1: the Bible say about tattoos because people are probably thinking
Speaker 1: that too. Yeah, these guys talk about Bible, and well,
Speaker 1: we could talk about Leviticus, where it says that we
Speaker 1: could talk about, Yeah, the difference in the three types
Speaker 1: of laws, which is moral laws, civil laws which relate
Speaker 1: to the current climate of the government, and the ceremonial
Speaker 1: laws which related to God sacrificing to God before there
Speaker 1: was the ultimate sacrifice made. So we talk about that.
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Speaker 1: All right, We're gonna get a little bit deeper on
Speaker 1: this next question. It says, Hey, Grangel, my name is
Speaker 1: Jennifer from Kansas. Shout out to Kansas. It says, my
Speaker 1: question is with family being divided and picking sides and
Speaker 1: having toxic family members. Besides praying, which I do all
Speaker 1: the time, even for them, my dad and siblings want
Speaker 1: nothing to do with me. It's because I love my mom,
Speaker 1: and my mom and I are close, and my dad
Speaker 1: and her divorce when I was three years old, and
Speaker 1: they want nothing to do with her. My siblings are
Speaker 1: mad that they got divorced and they blamed my mom,
Speaker 1: which there's always two sides to every story. They asked
Speaker 1: me to pick dad or mom, and I picked mom.
Speaker 1: My dad and siblings are never there for me. They
Speaker 1: don't call or text. I haven't heard from them in
Speaker 1: five years because I finally cut them out of my
Speaker 1: life because they would never invite my mom to any
Speaker 1: of the family things. And this last month, my niece
Speaker 1: got married and we weren't even invited. I was just
Speaker 1: wondering how you deal with something like this, or if
Speaker 1: it's ever happened to you. On the inside. It's killing
Speaker 1: me that we all can't get along. Thanks Granger, I'm
Speaker 1: sorry this was all over the place, Jennifer. I'm sorry
Speaker 1: Jennifer that you're You know, no one should have to
Speaker 1: deal with this, and this is so devastating and yet
Speaker 1: so common with divorce. It's also common that you you
Speaker 1: would have been three years old, you know, when this happened,
Speaker 1: and then you deal, you start dealing with the aftermath
Speaker 1: for decades and decades later. I don't know how old
Speaker 1: you are, but you're obviously old enough to have a
Speaker 1: choice and who you're gonna live with. You want to
Speaker 1: start at me? Start? Yeah, I can start. I can relate.
Speaker 1: My parents were divorced whenever I was nine. Fortunately, uh,
Speaker 1: there was definitely a division. I think me and my siblings.
Speaker 1: I don't know if we necessarily were as divided as
Speaker 1: as it sounds like, and there there wasn't so much
Speaker 1: a push to like you pick, you know, pick this
Speaker 1: or this. It was a really difficult time. And so, Jennifer,
Speaker 1: I I really understand what you're going through. It's it's
Speaker 1: a really tough time. You're young, I'm guessing you're younger,
Speaker 1: trying to figure out who you are and like figure
Speaker 1: out life, and then you have all of these kind
Speaker 1: of really difficult relationship emotional things to navigate without a
Speaker 1: ton of guidance or experience. Uh. I would really hope
Speaker 1: that your parents would be bigger people and better for
Speaker 1: you to to just show that this is how you
Speaker 1: make peace, and this is how in life when people
Speaker 1: don't see things the way you do, or they they
Speaker 1: hurt you, you don't just hurt them back like that
Speaker 1: doesn't it doesn't accomplish anything. It just divides. And so Jennifer,
Speaker 1: I think maybe you have the opportunity to be that
Speaker 1: person for them and and try to not repay hate
Speaker 1: with hate, but you know, try to find these little
Speaker 1: moments where you can reconcile and you can and and
Speaker 1: bring people together and unify as far as you know,
Speaker 1: practical advice on what to do, like we've said before,
Speaker 1: without having a dialogue, a direct dialogue with you about
Speaker 1: more details about the situation and who is where, and
Speaker 1: it's really hard to give you. Hey, you should call
Speaker 1: this person and do this. But I think overall, continue
Speaker 1: to pray, and you know, I feel like from my perspective,
Speaker 1: I need to always just have a off the bat disclaimer.
Speaker 1: The Word of God is where I go for everything,
Speaker 1: for my marriage, for business, for parenting, for you know,
Speaker 1: influencing others, for any advice my closest friends. You have
Speaker 1: to search the word of God. It is tested and
Speaker 1: faithful and true. And if you if you wait in
Speaker 1: His word long enough, like you will be guided. I
Speaker 1: fully believe you'll be guided in what you need to do.
Speaker 1: I know that that's a bit broad, probably not exactly
Speaker 1: what you're looking for, but I think that you know
Speaker 1: you're praying, so that tells me that you do have,
Speaker 1: you know, some form of faith, and I would just
Speaker 1: push into that and and really try to find ways
Speaker 1: to be the soft hearted one and not the hard
Speaker 1: hearted one. Even when people are mean to you and
Speaker 1: they do you wrong. It's up to you too on
Speaker 1: how you perceive that what you meant for evil God
Speaker 1: actually meant as good, so you can you can take
Speaker 1: everything and view it in that way. And so what
Speaker 1: you leave them with is, hey, you're the one that's
Speaker 1: carrying that hate. I'm not carrying that. It's too heavy
Speaker 1: a burden. You're going to be someone that lives free,
Speaker 1: and they're going to probably start to say, Hey, Mom, Dad,
Speaker 1: I don't care, I just want to I just want
Speaker 1: to hang out with Jennifer because man, she is just
Speaker 1: changed in this way and this way and this way,
Speaker 1: and I don't know, we think I think of it.
Speaker 1: First of all, big just a big amen to that.
Speaker 1: That's awesome, awesome word and this stuff is so much
Speaker 1: easier to give advice to you than it is to
Speaker 1: live it. So I have to always preface with that.
Speaker 1: But the source of your piece, Jennifer, does not hinge
Speaker 1: upon how your dad and your siblings treat you, because
Speaker 1: you can't control that and you can't change their mind.
Speaker 1: So that has nothing to do with your peace. And
Speaker 1: so you have to look at it from the perspective
Speaker 1: of the only thing you can control is you and
Speaker 1: how you respond to them putting you in the situation
Speaker 1: of picking mom or dad. It's a terrible, terrible place
Speaker 1: for any kid, no matter how old to be in
Speaker 1: you got to pick who do you want to pick
Speaker 1: and make the right decision because you know who we
Speaker 1: hate and you know who we love. That's a terrible
Speaker 1: thing because you're a product of both of them, and
Speaker 1: you love your mom. Your your mom and you were close.
Speaker 1: So don't don't regret that decision. First of all, don't
Speaker 1: don't ever hold a grudge to your mom that that
Speaker 1: now she has forced you to pick, or your dad
Speaker 1: forced forget that you make the right decision, because that's
Speaker 1: what your gut told you to do. And I think
Speaker 1: I would just go through this, navigate this whole situation
Speaker 1: and with trying to give them grace talking about your
Speaker 1: dad and your siblings, just just give them grace. It's
Speaker 1: it's hard to understand what they're going through or how
Speaker 1: they view this situation, and how you might look like
Speaker 1: a trader to them. It's hard to understand their point
Speaker 1: of view, but try to try to give them a
Speaker 1: little grace. And when they throw hate your way, or
Speaker 1: they throw you the cold shoulder, send them a happy birthday,
Speaker 1: textra phone call, or letter. You know letters are great.
Speaker 1: Like handwritten letters, they do worlds of difference in relationships
Speaker 1: because you could pour your heart out in a handwritten
Speaker 1: letter and they don't get a chance to respond out
Speaker 1: of anger. They have to open the letter and read
Speaker 1: it instead of texting back or shouting back in a conversation.
Speaker 1: They have to read it and absorb it, and they
Speaker 1: have to delay their response back to you. So you
Speaker 1: could pour your heart out and don't blame them. Just
Speaker 1: tell them that it pains you to not have them
Speaker 1: in your life, and that no matter what has happened,
Speaker 1: you're still blood relatives, and show them that grace that
Speaker 1: you actually loved them, and that is I think that'll
Speaker 1: I think that'll matter to them, and if it doesn't,
Speaker 1: then that's not the end of the world for you.
Speaker 1: In my opinion on parenting, I always look at it
Speaker 1: as a child shouldn't is not required to have unconditional
Speaker 1: love for the parents. It's the opposite. The parents are
Speaker 1: required to if they brought you into this world, they're
Speaker 1: required to have unconditional love for their kids. But it's
Speaker 1: not the other way around. They have to earn that
Speaker 1: back from the kids, and if they're not in their
Speaker 1: life and they treat them like crap all the time.
Speaker 1: Then you can't. You can't just look at your kid
Speaker 1: and go, why did you love me? You know that
Speaker 1: that doesn't make any sense. So if they don't, if
Speaker 1: your dad never comes around to this, that's not on
Speaker 1: you anymore. You and you can't carry it around as
Speaker 1: a burden. And I'm so sorry that you have to
Speaker 1: go through this, And I'm caring to you. A lot
Speaker 1: of people listening are thinking I'm in that same boat. Yep.
Speaker 1: I was just thinking that. I know there's been some
Speaker 1: comments and you know, folks emailing you about topics that
Speaker 1: are relevant to you know, not just about this this.
Speaker 1: If everybody out there who happens to be listening to
Speaker 1: this takes a minute and starts to think about, you know,
Speaker 1: some situation that they are in or that they have
Speaker 1: been in, where there is some break in relationship, there's
Speaker 1: some kind of like change. That's where conflict comes from.
Speaker 1: It's it's a change in relationship that can either be
Speaker 1: handled with communication and like you're saying, with grace and
Speaker 1: understanding where it goes to conflict, you know, and then
Speaker 1: you have to go back to those things in order
Speaker 1: to restore it. So if you think about in your life,
Speaker 1: you know what, I guarantee you there's some place in
Speaker 1: there that there is somebody that you work with, that
Speaker 1: you sought the store, that you're married to, that you
Speaker 1: are siblings with in family. With that there's some kind
Speaker 1: of break. And if you can take what Griz just
Speaker 1: said of approaching that with grace and pursuing peace and reconciliation,
Speaker 1: I feel like this is where the culture as a
Speaker 1: whole starts to go back towards unity and not so
Speaker 1: divided like families divided, you know, countries divided, people divided.
Speaker 1: Like I one hundred percent agree with you, man, I
Speaker 1: think that grace and understanding and pursuing peace is the
Speaker 1: way you said. I finally cut them out of my
Speaker 1: life because they would never invite my mom to any
Speaker 1: of the family things. And that's admirable, But at the
Speaker 1: same time, your mom doesn't need to be protected from them.
Speaker 1: It's awesome that you're standing up for her, but I
Speaker 1: don't know if that's the right way to do it,
Speaker 1: because the way for like Bernie said that unity, the
Speaker 1: way to unity is for you to extend that grace
Speaker 1: to them instead of cutting them off. They might not
Speaker 1: ever reply to you or respond, but you just keep
Speaker 1: the communication open. And that's the way to bring your
Speaker 1: mother back into the conversation, because you cutting them off
Speaker 1: even makes it worse. So your mother doesn't need to
Speaker 1: be protected. She's a grown woman. She obviously knows your
Speaker 1: dad better than most people. She doesn't need to be
Speaker 1: protected from him in that sense. So I would just
Speaker 1: keep the communication lines open even if you get a
Speaker 1: no response. Make sure that you send out a Merry
Speaker 1: Christmas and a happy Birthday, and occasionally a handwritten letter
Speaker 1: just hey, Dad, thinking about you. I love you. I
Speaker 1: know we haven't had the best relationships, but just want
Speaker 1: to let you know that think about you a lot,
Speaker 1: and I think about improving this relationship a lot. And
Speaker 1: if I have failed as a daughter, and I know
Speaker 1: I have in many ways, I hope that you can
Speaker 1: forgive me, Like come on, yeah, how could he not
Speaker 1: just go? Okay? Yeah? Absolutely. You know, and set the expectation,
Speaker 1: Jennifer that this is not an instant fix. It's not
Speaker 1: going to be something that happens really quick. Most things
Speaker 1: that are really impactful and valuable and worth anything take time.
Speaker 1: So just set your expectation that, Hey, this is going
Speaker 1: to be years, you know, Like I said, like when
Speaker 1: my parents split, there was definitely a break with my
Speaker 1: dad and I and it took many, many, many years
Speaker 1: for me to finally get to a place where you know,
Speaker 1: he was trying to reconcile with me and just kept
Speaker 1: coming back, and I was just in a place I
Speaker 1: didn't understand why he left. I didn't there was so much,
Speaker 1: you know, kind of confusion, and it took many conversations
Speaker 1: with him and just grace and humility and diligence and
Speaker 1: him pursuing and calling me like every day, Hey, man,
Speaker 1: just want you to know I'm proud of you. I
Speaker 1: love you, thinking of you to where I had to
Speaker 1: call him one day and finally say, Dad, I'm proud
Speaker 1: of you as a dad. I don't know if I've
Speaker 1: ever accepted what the grace and the forgiveness that you've
Speaker 1: been asking of me, Like I've never forgiven you and
Speaker 1: I've never gotten to that place. But man, you call
Speaker 1: me like every day, tell me how proud of me
Speaker 1: that you are. You always want to come visit you. You
Speaker 1: You just kept after me even when I was shoving
Speaker 1: you away, and like you said, eventually like man, that
Speaker 1: grace and that kind of love just tears down any
Speaker 1: other thing and heals that brokenness. So, Jennifer, I hope
Speaker 1: that that encourages you that it's worth fighting for. It's
Speaker 1: gonna take some time, but lead with grace. Like Chris said,
Speaker 1: I think you'll be good. Love it. Just do another one,
Speaker 1: This says, take her into this. Aaron from Kansas, shout
Speaker 1: out to Kansas. Love your podcast and your music and
Speaker 1: the message you and your family give. Y'all are such
Speaker 1: an inspiration. Thank you, buddy, He says. My question is
Speaker 1: I've always struggled with my weight fluctuating up and down.
Speaker 1: You're in great shape, and I'm just wondering what your
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Speaker 1: have a normal balance in your diet, what do you
Speaker 1: do and eat? And I picked this one because we've
Speaker 1: talked a lot about this too, Bernie, and we've kind
Speaker 1: of taken a journey together through years and Aaron, you're
Speaker 1: not alone, man, You're not. This another very common question.
Speaker 1: People struggle with this, and there's a lot of misinformation
Speaker 1: out there on on health and diets, and I certainly
Speaker 1: don't want to contribute to more that misinformation because I'm
Speaker 1: not a doctor. But I can, you know, like we're
Speaker 1: sitting around a campfire talking, I can tell you what
Speaker 1: I do and what I think. Whether you take it
Speaker 1: to heart and use it as medical vice, don't, don't
Speaker 1: do that. But I figured, you know, Bernie, we could
Speaker 1: talk through this with Aaron. And I have to say,
Speaker 1: first of all, I have not struggled with fluctuating up
Speaker 1: and down weight. My body has a tendency to go down.
Speaker 1: My body wants to get skinny. That don't change one day,
Speaker 1: I'm sure, but most of my adult life my body
Speaker 1: wants to go skinny, and so I have to eat
Speaker 1: these calories to try to keep bulked up to look
Speaker 1: like I'm not skeletor, and I have to put good
Speaker 1: calories in there instead of battling. So it is a
Speaker 1: massive part of my daily life is thinking about this stuff.
Speaker 1: And I have friends that are all body types and
Speaker 1: we all talk about this. And then it's interesting because
Speaker 1: Bernie and I we have a very similar approach, but
Speaker 1: we have different ways of achieving that same approach, which
Speaker 1: is cool why I wanted to bring it up on
Speaker 1: this podcast. So do you remember, Bernie, probably three or
Speaker 1: four years ago, we had lunch and you told me
Speaker 1: about that book It All Starts with Food, and that
Speaker 1: book it's so great. Do you remember the author that
Speaker 1: Heartwig it all shout out stuff. Yeah? Man, such a
Speaker 1: great book, so well researched, such great information that I
Speaker 1: still think about almost every meal I eat. I still
Speaker 1: think about that book in some way. I don't follow
Speaker 1: it to a t. I did for like a year,
Speaker 1: like that day you told me about it, I started
Speaker 1: reading it and boom, I changed everything. And there's there
Speaker 1: is so many diets. There's thousands of diets out there,
Speaker 1: and this book is not another one of them. It's not.
Speaker 1: It just helps you understand more of what food is
Speaker 1: doing to you and and how how big a deal
Speaker 1: it plays in your life, which is why it's called
Speaker 1: it All Starts with food. Basically, whether that's your your
Speaker 1: fatigue or your strength or your endurance. Are your brain,
Speaker 1: your emotions, your your sleep, your gut, your you're the cold,
Speaker 1: I mean allergies. Everything starts with food and that's your
Speaker 1: that's your fuel. So if you think of it like
Speaker 1: a race car, Like when you're running a NASCAR and
Speaker 1: you're in a pit crew. You don't use crappy gasoline.
Speaker 1: You're gonna get the best, highest octane whatever they use
Speaker 1: jet fuel, I don't know. But but the higher dollar
Speaker 1: piece of equipment, you know, like a stealth bomber or
Speaker 1: whatever that, you know, an F twenty two, the higher
Speaker 1: dollar the machinery, the higher dollar the fuel they're going
Speaker 1: to put into it. And we almost have to think
Speaker 1: of it the same way with our bodies because this
Speaker 1: is the most valuable possession we have, is our body,
Speaker 1: because that's going to get us to the end of
Speaker 1: the race. And unfortunately, most of the time we don't
Speaker 1: ever think of it in that terms. We think of
Speaker 1: meals as getting us satisfying a hunger and getting us
Speaker 1: through the day. That's about it. Ye fill our bellies
Speaker 1: and move on. And it's so much more to that.
Speaker 1: So before you think about regimens, activities, workout routines, before
Speaker 1: all that, think about your food, and before you think
Speaker 1: about the latest trendy diet on Instagram, just remember that
Speaker 1: there's a reason there's such the diet industry is such
Speaker 1: a massive business because people keep They just reinvent the
Speaker 1: wheel and repackage it and give it a different name,
Speaker 1: and then they know that people will buy the book
Speaker 1: and read about it and start. And it's if it
Speaker 1: says that you have to do it for a certain
Speaker 1: amount of time, then don't do it, because why would
Speaker 1: you do anything for thirty days or six weeks or
Speaker 1: twelve months. You need to build a lifestyle out of
Speaker 1: what you eat and what you do. That's the goal.
Speaker 1: And that's what changed for me is it's not a
Speaker 1: sixty day thing. It's not a ninety day thing. It's
Speaker 1: not like I'm going to eat. I'm going to juice
Speaker 1: for ninety days and see what it does to me.
Speaker 1: Like that's something different. That's not a diet. That's more
Speaker 1: of a mental discipline or something that's like fasting. That's
Speaker 1: it looked at it in a different way. But you
Speaker 1: need to build a lifestyle and then you'll be able
Speaker 1: to better understand why you're weight is fluctuating, because once
Speaker 1: you strip all the everything away, you'll be able to
Speaker 1: look at your weight and go, I gain weight because
Speaker 1: of this food. This specific food makes me gain weight
Speaker 1: or makes me tired, or makes me not sleep well.
Speaker 1: Or makes me sleep really well. Whatever, what are your thoughts? Yeah, absolutely,
Speaker 1: I so in my own experience. Again, like I'm not
Speaker 1: a doctor by any stretch of the word. I used
Speaker 1: to have with this cat's name, Aaron, Aaron Aaron. I
Speaker 1: used to have the worst diet imaginable. I need to
Speaker 1: every like fast food like place that you would drive
Speaker 1: past and be like, nobody goes there. I was in
Speaker 1: line at that place multiple times to death and like
Speaker 1: somebody would give me like a strawberry, and I like
Speaker 1: gags like this is disgusting. This is when we lived
Speaker 1: in Nashville together. This is how both of us lived. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was either in a fast food line or I
Speaker 1: was at home eating something that came out of a
Speaker 1: box that you had to heat up. Yeah. Absolutely, And
Speaker 1: so I think one of you know, one of the
Speaker 1: points that Gris is making is just education and understanding.
Speaker 1: Like I didn't. I didn't know. Like I would ask
Speaker 1: a friend, I want to be healthy, So I would
Speaker 1: just be like, I'm gonna go to the grocery store.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna buy a bunch of grapes, and I would
Speaker 1: just eat all the grapes. I'd be like, dude, I'm
Speaker 1: on my way. I had no idea what I was doing.
Speaker 1: Then I met my wife. My beautiful is that what
Speaker 1: did Oh? That is absolutely what did it? Okay? She
Speaker 1: she kinesiology major. She understood and she did a lot
Speaker 1: of research. I mean, she's the one that read you
Speaker 1: know it all starts with food Whole thirty. Like she's
Speaker 1: the one that like influenced me and had me read
Speaker 1: it and all this stuff sends still sends me podcasts
Speaker 1: about you know, foods, about refining sugar. Like there's a
Speaker 1: ton of things that she just knew that I didn't know.
Speaker 1: And as she would like teach me things, it's like, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: so I can just make this minor adjustment. Don't don't
Speaker 1: go clean out your pantry tomorrow like you're just gonna
Speaker 1: restock it. Like you're gonna this is kind of a marathon.
Speaker 1: You're gonna have to make some small adjustments in order
Speaker 1: for them to be lasting. It's it's all about habits.
Speaker 1: But I think that education is one thing, and just
Speaker 1: really understanding what you're putting in your body. I think that,
Speaker 1: you know, my wife, I'm just like incredibly blessed by her.
Speaker 1: She wasn't like a you know she didn't really cook
Speaker 1: when we first got married. It was like, make sure
Speaker 1: the smoke detectors are full battery strength when she starts cooking,
Speaker 1: because something is catching on fire. It was not good, right,
Speaker 1: I love you, babe, You're the best, your best. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm just talking about growth, That's what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: So but now she has like learned so much and
Speaker 1: and and really just accepted so much of it that
Speaker 1: most of the meals that we have are like a
Speaker 1: whole thirty compliant or natural and are just really really good.
Speaker 1: So I'm thankful to have that. I understand not everybody
Speaker 1: has that. So I think that really just starting to
Speaker 1: learn as much as you can about food what it
Speaker 1: does to your body, like Griz is saying, and also
Speaker 1: understanding like your body and your body type. You know,
Speaker 1: ectomorphs and endomorphs, and there's whatever kind of morphs that
Speaker 1: your certain foods will affect you differently. Understanding your body
Speaker 1: and and also understanding that God made you a certain way.
Speaker 1: And there comes a time that we just kind of
Speaker 1: have to love ourselves and who we are and the
Speaker 1: way we are in this moment. It doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: we're just gonna Okay, well I got I'm just gonna
Speaker 1: love myself the way I am and not try to improve.
Speaker 1: It's like right, there's there's certain things about living a
Speaker 1: healthy lifestyle, like Griz is saying that we need to pursue.
Speaker 1: It is one of our greatest investments we can make,
Speaker 1: is like what we consume. But don't let the world
Speaker 1: tell you that you're not beautiful, that you're not uniquely
Speaker 1: made the way that you are, and don't try to
Speaker 1: fit into what somebody else wants you to look like,
Speaker 1: because you're probably not going to get there, or you're
Speaker 1: going to like stress yourself out tremendously trying to get there.
Speaker 1: I think that, like the last question, this is probably
Speaker 1: a longer journey if you can kind of push yourself
Speaker 1: and have diligence and do it Grangers talking about like,
Speaker 1: I think that you will get there and move to
Speaker 1: a healthier lifestyle, not just a healthier body image, but
Speaker 1: a healthier lifestyle. You'll have more energy, you'll be able
Speaker 1: to think more clearly, you'll sleep better. It does. Those
Speaker 1: things are products, but they don't happen over night, and
Speaker 1: there's no like, hey, just do this and thirty days
Speaker 1: later you look like Chris that try that. Let me
Speaker 1: see if I could say, is that we have a
Speaker 1: couple of minutes left. Let me see if I could
Speaker 1: if I can give you just the starting points. First,
Speaker 1: first and foremost, I would say, watch your sugars. Watch
Speaker 1: your sugars. There's been studies with rats that they actually
Speaker 1: addict the rats to cocaine. And every time a rat
Speaker 1: is addicted to cocaine and he's put in a cage,
Speaker 1: he will choose the sugar over the cocaine. That cannot
Speaker 1: be overstated and the addiction we have and what that's
Speaker 1: doing to your body. So pay attention to those kind
Speaker 1: of sugars and what you're adding to your diet sugar wise. Secondly,
Speaker 1: pay attention to how late you're eating. I would give
Speaker 1: yourself a three to four hour window before you go
Speaker 1: to bed of no eating, just digestion. That's so important.
Speaker 1: To eat dinner and stop eating it's six o'clock and
Speaker 1: before you go to bed at ten or whatever time.
Speaker 1: And third, if your mom's cooking a big home cooked meal,
Speaker 1: eat it, don't pass it up. If your mom's making
Speaker 1: fried chicken and mashed potatoes and that's her specialty, and
Speaker 1: you're going over to her house on Friday. Eat it
Speaker 1: every time. That's important, and we can get way more
Speaker 1: into this. We're a little bit out of time, but
Speaker 1: we could talk. I don't think you really asked about exercising.
Speaker 1: So you go out and walk for a mile or
Speaker 1: two every day. That's enough. Don't think that you got
Speaker 1: to do some crazy P nine e X routine. It
Speaker 1: starts with food. Start there, Start in the kitchen. Pay
Speaker 1: attention to that first. And it's not that hard. It's
Speaker 1: not that big of a discipline because the crazy thing
Speaker 1: is as it all starts with food. The book says,
Speaker 1: once you stop training yourself to eat that way, then
Speaker 1: your palate changes and you actually start craving the whole
Speaker 1: fit just do good food. You start craving it and
Speaker 1: you start being repulsed by the other stuff. And I'm
Speaker 1: not perfect. I still I still have my cravings and
Speaker 1: I still fall short as in anything. But it's just
Speaker 1: it's it's good to have that mentality, train your mind
Speaker 1: and you'll be better for it. And that's all we got.
Speaker 1: That's all we got. Hey share this video with your friends,
Speaker 1: boy Griz, thanks for having me, dude, Love you, bro yep,
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