WEBVTT - Divorce: Would you choose your mom or dad? 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:14.720 I get this so many times with divorce being so 0:00:16.480 --> 0:00:20.639 normal now in the world, at least in my world 0:00:20.680 --> 0:00:25.320 in the US. If you're a kid, or maybe you 0:00:25.320 --> 0:00:28.479 grew up this way, or remember you're the parent of 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:32.080 a kid, how do you choose whether you're going to 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:34.960 live with mom or dad? So obviously you have to 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:38.120 be a certain age if if you're a kid, But 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:40.879 but if you if the parent's trying to decide, how 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:43.640 do you choose who goes with who? You know most 0:00:43.640 --> 0:00:45.879 of you would say everyone goes with the mother, right, 0:00:48.320 --> 0:00:50.520 But how does that affect the kid in the long term? 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:53.880 And then if you're the kid and you're old enough 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:56.920 to pick, depending on the state you're in, do you 0:00:56.960 --> 0:00:59.840 get resentments that you pick the mother? Do you do 0:00:59.880 --> 0:01:03.440 you get resentment from the father and then the father's family, 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:05.280 And if if you pick the father, it's the same 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:07.560 way with the mother. And then how do you handle 0:01:08.280 --> 0:01:13.000 holidays together? And do you what happens if you're invited 0:01:13.040 --> 0:01:17.160 to a Christmas party and your mother is not you're 0:01:17.200 --> 0:01:20.679 invited to your father's Christmas party and your mother's not invited, 0:01:20.920 --> 0:01:24.440 or vice versa, And what do you do and how 0:01:24.440 --> 0:01:26.080 do you try to mend that and how does that 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:29.280 affect that your life and how you raise your own 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:33.920 family when you have one. It's such a such a 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:39.119 terrible thought, but it's such a common issue with people, 0:01:39.120 --> 0:01:40.520 and so we're going to dive into that. I got 0:01:40.560 --> 0:01:42.960 my good buddy Bernie with me, so we're going to 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:45.520 answer a lot of questions, including that one kind of 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:47.039 really get in depth. And I always look at these 0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:51.320 questions from you guys. It's like we're sitting around a 0:01:51.320 --> 0:01:55.120 campfire together and how you say, Hey, man, I got 0:01:55.120 --> 0:01:58.200 this thought. I wanted to run by it, but you know, 0:01:58.680 --> 0:02:00.680 I had to pick my mother and my parents got 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:02.400 a divorce and my dad hates me for it. What 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:04.600 do I do? It's like we're just sittinground a campfire, 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:10.480 and I would answer, you know, like like you're my buddy. 0:02:10.560 --> 0:02:13.160 If you have a question, any question for me, email 0:02:13.240 --> 0:02:16.600 Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. Could be about anything, 0:02:16.639 --> 0:02:23.400 could be music related, tour related, life related, relationship related, 0:02:23.840 --> 0:02:26.359 career related, whatever it might be. What we'll dig into it. 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:29.440 I got to say before we start this podcast too, 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:31.600 that it's an exciting day for me. If you're watching 0:02:31.600 --> 0:02:36.400 this as this as this podcast is releasing today then tonight, 0:02:37.160 --> 0:02:39.320 my music video for Hate You Like I Love You 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:44.080 releases six pm Central. It's gonna be on my YouTube channel, 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:46.200 the Granger Smith YouTube channel, and I'm so excited. This 0:02:46.280 --> 0:02:49.320 is my first I've done so many music videos, but 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:50.880 this is my first one that we did at All 0:02:50.960 --> 0:02:55.119 Night Shoot. It's my first one where we did extensive 0:02:56.840 --> 0:03:05.760 CGI like digital editing, special effects. And it's a very 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:09.880 twisted storyline. It's about a car wreck and so I 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:12.400 cannot wait for you guys to see what this looks like. 0:03:12.480 --> 0:03:15.920 So let me know that's important. If you want to 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:18.560 get a hold of me, if you want to shoot 0:03:18.560 --> 0:03:20.840 me a text personally, or if you want me to 0:03:20.880 --> 0:03:24.000 send you a video message. It could be to you, 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:27.160 or could be as a gift to anyone else, could 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:29.760 be to a boyfriend or girlfriend, or a shout out 0:03:29.880 --> 0:03:32.680 or a birthday to your kid. Go to Cameo dot com. 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:35.240 Cameo dot com is I've been doing this for a 0:03:35.240 --> 0:03:38.000 couple of years now and it's a really good program. 0:03:38.000 --> 0:03:40.440 It's a simple app. You could download cameo dot com 0:03:40.560 --> 0:03:42.800 or get the Cameo app and find me on there 0:03:42.880 --> 0:03:46.640 and I could do anything you want. So let's take 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:49.440 into this podcast. I love it when Bernie's here. Bernie 0:03:49.600 --> 0:03:52.280 is I've been friends with him for twenty one years. 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:57.880 He's so full of knowledge and good advice that I 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:00.160 just keep having him come back and come back to 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:03.880 help me discuss these camp fire type questions with you guys. 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:06.839 And I think you guys are really gonna like this one, 0:04:07.000 --> 0:04:09.920 and the subject matter is interesting. So wherever you're listening, 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:12.119 where you're you're on the road truck, or you're you're 0:04:12.200 --> 0:04:15.200 driving to work, or you're you're going to school, or 0:04:15.240 --> 0:04:19.000 you're you're staying at home, wherever you are, whatever you're doing, 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:22.559 Welcome to the green Smith Podcast. This is episode seventy four. 0:04:23.040 --> 0:05:05.080 Ye ye did chant months time? So long line up 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:26.200 and down on that range. Yeah, gation, So pumped to 0:05:26.240 --> 0:05:29.240 have Bernie back on the podcast. How many news for 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:35.400 you now? This is uh four or five? Yeah, something 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:40.120 like that. Yeah, yeah, I think this is five? Okay, yeah, four? Five? Okay, 0:05:41.360 --> 0:05:44.600 Thank you guys for not just you know, commenting that 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:47.359 Granger needs to get rid of me. So I'm pumped 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:49.600 to be back. Well, you obviously come back to the 0:05:49.640 --> 0:05:54.400 podcast because you're feeling out with you that, but you 0:05:54.440 --> 0:05:58.560 also feel something with this podcast, right absolutely, man, it's 0:05:59.080 --> 0:06:02.400 giving something to your life. You have to admit it, rightlute, 0:06:02.400 --> 0:06:05.040 because it does for me. Yeah, absolutely. I mean the 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:13.159 amount of pain and joy and experience and everything that 0:06:13.160 --> 0:06:16.960 we've been through. Like sometimes just being able to like 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:21.680 share the story just kind of justifies it in our minds. 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:23.720 It makes it worth it and feel like you're kind 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:26.800 of helping others. Means that's music too, right, It's just yeah, 0:06:26.839 --> 0:06:30.480 your life in the story to inspire others. And yeah, man, 0:06:30.520 --> 0:06:32.520 it's a privilege. And so I want everybody out there 0:06:32.520 --> 0:06:35.159 to know, like, I'm just a regular dude. Happened to 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:38.719 meet Granger twenty one years ago? Is that we said, 0:06:39.040 --> 0:06:42.880 twenty one years ago and have stayed you know, pretty 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:46.919 close over the years, and he wanted to bring me on, 0:06:47.120 --> 0:06:50.479 And I just feel really privileged. So it could be 0:06:50.520 --> 0:06:52.039 one of you guys, you never know, meet him at 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:54.360 a show in twenty one years. He may be like, hey, 0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:57.039 come and do this thing. If they're still doing podcasts 0:06:57.040 --> 0:06:59.560 in twenty one. Yeah, not only not only were so close, 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:02.800 but you're just you just give really good advice. I 0:07:02.839 --> 0:07:05.320 say this every time you're on. You give really good 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:07.800 advice to me, and so it just occurred to me, 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:10.080 as I answer people's questions on this podcast, that you 0:07:10.120 --> 0:07:12.960 would give good advice to them and if anything, we 0:07:12.960 --> 0:07:15.360 could just talk through it. Sure, we're sitting in you know, 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:18.080 around a campfire, which I think is great. Yeah, man, 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:20.120 I love that idea, and you've said it many times 0:07:20.160 --> 0:07:22.040 on the podcast. This is kind of like you're just 0:07:22.120 --> 0:07:25.720 driving in your truck and talking to somebody, right, Yeah, 0:07:26.200 --> 0:07:29.160 answered the question. So I was thinking on my way 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:31.320 over here, like, Okay, we're in the truck, right, me 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:34.120 and you were driving and these guys, you know, these 0:07:34.320 --> 0:07:38.040 listeners out there, they have a bunch of questions, right, 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:40.600 But the first thing that you do when you sit 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:42.600 in a truck with somebody haven't seen a while, I'll say, 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:48.160 and this is my question for you, great Smiths podcast. Dude, 0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:49.680 what have you been up to? Man? What are you 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:54.920 excited about right now? Man? Well, let's see what's today? 0:07:55.080 --> 0:07:57.559 Today's Monday? Hate you like? I love your music video? 0:07:58.000 --> 0:08:02.080 Super excited about that because Amber, yet again is in 0:08:02.120 --> 0:08:06.280 another music video of mine, and yet again she's we're 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:09.280 kind of playing a different role as a couple, and 0:08:09.360 --> 0:08:12.240 she's playing a different character and I'm playing a different character. 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:15.679 So's it's really fun. So many of our music videos 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:19.680 we're rarely just us like we are. Sometimes there's a few, 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:23.800 but usually we're playing the characters of the song, right yeah, yeah, 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:27.000 And so people get to see it and in common 0:08:27.040 --> 0:08:28.840 below if you have seen it, but it kind of 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:32.679 this is a weird one. It's like the song is 0:08:32.679 --> 0:08:34.080 called hate You like I Love You, and it's the 0:08:34.120 --> 0:08:37.640 story of this guy who's he's just passionately in love 0:08:37.679 --> 0:08:40.520 with this girl that doesn't love him back, and he 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:43.200 wishes he could just hate her with the same passion 0:08:43.200 --> 0:08:46.320 that he loves her with. And that came from I 0:08:46.440 --> 0:08:50.880 just always had this idea where people usually think, what's 0:08:50.880 --> 0:08:53.240 the Like if you say what's the opposite of love, 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:58.160 they always go hate, But it's not. The opposite of 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:01.680 love is indifference, like I could care less. That's the 0:09:01.679 --> 0:09:04.880 opposite of love. The close cousin of love is hate. 0:09:05.440 --> 0:09:08.280 It's because it takes that kind of energy, the same 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:10.760 energy to hate. It's like passionate. You have to be 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:14.200 passionate to love and passionate to hate. It takes energy 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:16.200 to do it. So I thought, what if there's this 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:19.520 poor guy who just wishes he could hate her with 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:23.839 the same energy. You know. So Amber, Amber is this 0:09:23.840 --> 0:09:28.199 this character, this girl, and she's she's not a ghost, 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:33.000 she is she's just haunting his mind. And he thinks 0:09:33.000 --> 0:09:35.920 that he sees her, you know, she's you could think 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:37.520 whatever you want when you see it, but I don't 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:40.079 think she's dead when you see it. She's just haunting 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:43.280 his mind. And he gets in this wreck and he's 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:45.280 like coming out. This guy's had a bad day. He's 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:48.400 coming out of this truck. It's on its side, it's burning, 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:52.520 and he's like like trying to figure out what happened 0:09:52.520 --> 0:09:54.920 because he swerved to miss it, and up ahead is 0:09:54.960 --> 0:09:57.280 a deer. So it's like, did I swerve to miss 0:09:57.280 --> 0:09:59.680 the deer? But in his mind he swerved because she 0:09:59.800 --> 0:10:02.880 was literally sitting in the road, and he just keeps 0:10:02.880 --> 0:10:04.840 seeing her and he can't get he can't stop thinking 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:08.240 about her. So so yeah, that's what's going on. And 0:10:08.320 --> 0:10:12.400 we're super excited about that. Very cool also have and 0:10:12.440 --> 0:10:15.480 I've said this on the Smiths a project that we've 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:19.360 been working on, okay for like a year, and we're 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:24.000 going to announce that project this week, and I've been 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:25.840 talking that's exciting I've been talking to you about it. 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:28.560 You know what I'm talking about. Anytime you've been working 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:30.840 on something for a year, Yeah, and told nobody about it, 0:10:30.880 --> 0:10:33.720 like it's pretty exciting. Yeah, and you know about it. 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:39.320 I've been saying, it's a big, big deal. Yeah, very cool. Yeah. 0:10:39.400 --> 0:10:43.000 So as for music videos, people out there comment below 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:47.640 if you can find the Granger Smith videos that I 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:50.000 have appeared in. Dude, I thought about that, you know, 0:10:50.120 --> 0:10:52.480 I thought about that the other day. I don't think 0:10:52.520 --> 0:10:54.280 anyone's going to get that. I don't think anybody's going 0:10:54.320 --> 0:10:58.000 to get it. If you get it, Granger will send 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:03.040 you his truck. Now, it's just we'll send you a 0:11:03.160 --> 0:11:07.760 side CD or something. It's good, I mean, if you could. Actually, 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:10.560 and my and my son and my wife are in 0:11:10.640 --> 0:11:13.200 a separate one that I wasn't in. But those two 0:11:13.200 --> 0:11:18.480 were in because you looked different. Yep. So get a 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:22.280 good look right here, Yeah, and go see what you 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:23.960 can do. Look, it's not new. You got to go 0:11:24.000 --> 0:11:26.200 through the archives a little bit. Yeah, you got to 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:30.719 go back like ten years. Dude. I thought about that, 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:33.400 and I just thought no one would get that. Yeah, 0:11:33.480 --> 0:11:36.240 we'll see. But it's a pretty prominent role you have. Yeah, 0:11:36.840 --> 0:11:40.160 at least one. There's there's a couple of them, right, Yeah, 0:11:40.240 --> 0:11:42.120 I think there's a couple of them. Yeah, so maybe 0:11:42.160 --> 0:11:44.480 I can help us out jog our memories a little bit. Yeah, 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:47.319 we're getting old. So dude, what I wanted to say 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:49.600 to you is, and we're talking right before we turn 0:11:49.679 --> 0:11:56.200 on the recorder. Here, as I started reading Morning Brew, 0:11:56.960 --> 0:12:01.560 which is an email subscription newservis that you sent me 0:12:01.840 --> 0:12:03.600 or you told me about that you said you read 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:08.240 because it's like unbiased, pretty non partisan. It. It is 0:12:08.400 --> 0:12:13.559 a little bit because I noticed when Rush Limbaugh died 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:18.760 that it was pretty pretty negative. The whole thing about 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:23.480 Rush Limball was negative. But anyway, it's it is pretty 0:12:23.480 --> 0:12:27.280 non partisan. So I like to read it. But every day, 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:31.560 every morning, and I'll just say, right before I even 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:34.199 start talking about this, YouTube will probably catch this on 0:12:34.240 --> 0:12:38.280 an algorithm and just boom, demonetize it. I don't care anymore. 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:42.800 Every day when I read Morning Brew, COVID numbers are 0:12:42.840 --> 0:12:49.760 like plummeting. Yep. Vaccines are getting more prevalent. There's new 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:54.520 ones popping up. John Johnson came out with one worldwide, 0:12:54.559 --> 0:12:56.839 maybe except Canada. Canada seems to be a little slow, 0:12:57.360 --> 0:13:01.240 but worldwide numbers are plummeting. Vaccine numbers are going up. 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:05.920 So this is more rhetorical question, not really to you, 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:08.360 because I know I know you well enough, but it's 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:10.240 to everyone to just think about how are you feeling 0:13:10.280 --> 0:13:14.280 about this? Like are you are you excited? Or I 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:16.120 know that a lot of people listening are like, dude, 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:19.160 I'm about to bust down the door and get to work. 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:21.439 And I know, I know there's probably some people that 0:13:21.440 --> 0:13:24.280 are like I don't know yet, Like I'm still worried. Sure, 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:26.760 I don't believe what. I don't believe it yet. I 0:13:26.920 --> 0:13:30.439 believe it when what? When? What? When the governor says 0:13:31.280 --> 0:13:34.959 everything's good? There's rumors that Abbot's like on the verge 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:38.800 of just opening up fools full speed. That's that's in 0:13:38.880 --> 0:13:45.000 Texas for y'all. So anyway, where where is where is 0:13:45.040 --> 0:13:47.400 the consensus of the listeners of this podcast with this? 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:51.040 You know, Like, I'm I'm curious because for me, it 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:55.280 feels like just like outside, it feels like springtime, like 0:13:55.720 --> 0:13:59.840 it's about start getting warm. Yep. Winter, winter is done, 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:04.560 Winter is cooked. Good riddance, Yeah, yeah, good riddance. COVID 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:08.960 good riddens winter. The weather is changing, and so is 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:14.520 the climate of the people. I think, yeah, yeah, it's 0:14:14.559 --> 0:14:19.840 tough to say. I mean, I think really dependent on 0:14:21.160 --> 0:14:26.440 where you are, what you listen to, what you watch, 0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:32.880 where we can be products of our environment. So typically, uh, 0:14:33.480 --> 0:14:37.520 you know, in the cities, there's just they're more dense there, 0:14:37.640 --> 0:14:44.160 they tend to be more liberal. There's just more you know, 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:48.680 kind of concern still for whatever reason, I'm not saying 0:14:48.720 --> 0:14:50.840 either one is go to bed, but outside the city 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:54.080 there's not so much. And I don't know if it's 0:14:54.160 --> 0:14:57.240 just like denser populations, like you don't have the room 0:14:57.320 --> 0:14:59.000 to kind of spit out be outside. I don't know 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:04.120 what that is. But the I don't know what the 0:15:04.160 --> 0:15:06.880 consensus is around the country. I'd love to, you know, 0:15:06.920 --> 0:15:10.560 hear what people have to say. But I think that 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:15.160 we're I think it's promising, don't you Yeah, where we're headed. 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:17.120 I think there's a lot of really talented people that 0:15:17.280 --> 0:15:22.400 have worked really hard to like progress, you know, this 0:15:22.960 --> 0:15:26.520 vaccine and like the healthcare workers, thank you guys so 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:30.520 much for everything that you're doing, frontline workers, first responders, 0:15:30.600 --> 0:15:33.400 like I think everybody has kind of rallied it's just 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:37.000 been such a different dynamic of rallying in the nation 0:15:37.200 --> 0:15:40.960 as it was like nine to eleven, right, So there 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:47.120 was almost like a a definitive action against us that 0:15:47.880 --> 0:15:50.960 rallied us together. And this was kind of like something 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:55.040 that happened that all of a sudden political lines were drawn. 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:57.280 And so I think once we get to the other 0:15:57.360 --> 0:15:59.240 side of that and these things start to kind of 0:15:59.240 --> 0:16:01.680 weave themselves out, well, maybe we'll learn a lot about 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:05.520 our culture, a lot about ourselves, Yeah, for sure. But 0:16:05.840 --> 0:16:11.120 I think that I really hope that people start to 0:16:13.920 --> 0:16:17.080 open back up. You know, there's probably people listening that 0:16:17.120 --> 0:16:20.600 are thinking, nothing's changed for me. I didn't do anything. 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:22.800 I didn't do any of it. Man, good for you, 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:26.920 but but for me, everything changed for as far as 0:16:27.000 --> 0:16:30.000 my career, and it was I can't remember the exact day. 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:32.080 I think it was like March. I want to say 0:16:32.080 --> 0:16:37.040 March the eighth, but regardless, we're coming up on the 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:42.320 one year anniversary of Ground zero for everyone. Because there 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:45.160 was a day and I was flying to I was 0:16:45.200 --> 0:16:48.440 flying to New York City to play a show on 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:51.360 this day, and the band and crew, most of them 0:16:51.360 --> 0:16:56.200 were already in Columbus Ohio. So Chris and I and 0:16:56.680 --> 0:17:00.240 two of my guitar players and one sound guy all 0:17:00.320 --> 0:17:06.280 flying together from Austin and Dallas to Columbus, Ohio to 0:17:06.400 --> 0:17:08.840 meet everyone and then we're gonna drive overnight to New York. 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:11.720 This was, like I said, like March seventh or eighth, 0:17:12.720 --> 0:17:17.439 and that was the day that everyone remembers where it 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:21.560 was like to the minute the country shut down and 0:17:21.640 --> 0:17:25.080 we were we landed on a layover to Columbus, Ohio, 0:17:25.160 --> 0:17:28.560 from Austin to Dallas as a layover, and when we 0:17:28.640 --> 0:17:31.679 landed and turned on our phones from airplane mode, it 0:17:31.760 --> 0:17:34.800 was blowing up, like and not just us. Everyone on 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:39.639 the plane was like like everyone's mumbling and talking and 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:41.440 it was scary, and it was like what's going on? 0:17:42.240 --> 0:17:47.359 And like this coronavirus thing is like coming, it's coming. 0:17:48.080 --> 0:17:53.080 What does that mean? And our booking agent we was like, hey, guys, 0:17:53.960 --> 0:17:58.400 we're worried about the New York show. The Pittsburgh show 0:17:58.440 --> 0:18:00.920 after that is still on, and the one after that 0:18:01.000 --> 0:18:04.720 and something is still on. But we're probably gonna have 0:18:04.760 --> 0:18:07.840 a day off in New York because they're they're limiting 0:18:07.880 --> 0:18:11.000 capacity to like one hundred people. And we're like that 0:18:11.160 --> 0:18:15.840 is so weird, okay, And then within five minutes of that, 0:18:16.480 --> 0:18:20.359 it was like, Pittsburgh canceled. They would I think it 0:18:20.359 --> 0:18:22.560 was like all, but to New York they canceled. It 0:18:22.640 --> 0:18:26.600 was like, man, the whole weekend's canceled. So we got 0:18:26.600 --> 0:18:28.679 off the plane at the layover and went to the 0:18:28.760 --> 0:18:32.320 desk and to the Southwest Airlines desk and said, can 0:18:32.359 --> 0:18:35.040 we go back to Austin? Our work just got canceled, 0:18:35.040 --> 0:18:38.120 and and it was awesome. She was like, yeah, there's 0:18:38.160 --> 0:18:41.000 a there's a nine to forty am flight right here. 0:18:41.080 --> 0:18:43.720 I could put you on it. No questions asked, no 0:18:43.800 --> 0:18:47.320 money exchanged. We literally just got new boarding passes and 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:50.000 got on and came home. And at that point we 0:18:50.040 --> 0:18:53.960 still thought this is the weirdest thing ever. Next week 0:18:54.000 --> 0:18:57.000 we'll be back out. And then that day it was like, guys, 0:18:57.080 --> 0:19:01.920 next week canceled. Man, so we're thinking, we're thinking it's 0:19:01.920 --> 0:19:03.320 going to take a couple of weeks for this to 0:19:03.480 --> 0:19:06.400 clear up. And then that turned into that was in March. 0:19:06.400 --> 0:19:10.119 Then it was like we're thinking Apriril, and then that 0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:14.159 was the whole Easter thing, and then it was like, guys, 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:17.080 I don't think we're torn until May first, and then 0:19:17.119 --> 0:19:19.040 that was June, and then it was like jumped to 0:19:19.119 --> 0:19:23.040 September fall, then it was like December for sure. So 0:19:23.160 --> 0:19:26.000 here we are a year later, and man, for those 0:19:26.080 --> 0:19:29.159 of you that think that your life nothing happened, like 0:19:29.200 --> 0:19:33.480 I said, good any but dude, my life drastically changed. 0:19:34.400 --> 0:19:37.000 Now looking back, I was full of anxiety then, and 0:19:37.000 --> 0:19:38.959 I was full of like, what are we to do? 0:19:39.600 --> 0:19:42.320 Mainly my concern was how's the band and crew going 0:19:42.400 --> 0:19:45.040 to get paychecks? Like they have families. This is They've 0:19:45.080 --> 0:19:48.640 been loyal to me for ten years. Nothing could be 0:19:49.000 --> 0:19:52.800 ever predicted that this something happened, So that was my 0:19:52.880 --> 0:19:55.919 main worry was how am I going to take care 0:19:55.960 --> 0:19:59.800 of these guys and what's going to happen? And they're 0:19:59.800 --> 0:20:03.680 really lying on me for information and to know something. 0:20:03.760 --> 0:20:06.880 So long story short, you've guys have heard that story 0:20:06.880 --> 0:20:09.760 a million times. But long story short, here we are 0:20:10.040 --> 0:20:13.560 fast forward one year. Cannot believe it's taken this long, 0:20:13.600 --> 0:20:19.600 but I feel like the weather's changing the scope of everyone, 0:20:19.920 --> 0:20:22.880 that the way everyone feels is starting to change. Even 0:20:22.880 --> 0:20:28.120 the hardcore maskers that always maskers are starting to feel like, hey, 0:20:28.160 --> 0:20:30.360 I might be able to take it off I'm able 0:20:30.359 --> 0:20:33.400 to take the mask off and go to the grocery store. Yeah, absolutely, 0:20:34.520 --> 0:20:41.120 thank god man. Yeah, So anyway, comment below, maybe we'll 0:20:41.160 --> 0:20:43.600 kind of get some feel the pulse of how everyone 0:20:43.600 --> 0:20:46.440 else is thinking to on this. Yeah. I think there's 0:20:46.560 --> 0:20:49.080 just an underlie you. I mean, honestly, a griz. You 0:20:49.160 --> 0:20:54.360 have endured my friend in the last couple of years, 0:20:54.400 --> 0:20:59.679 like more than I just can't imagine. I really can't. 0:21:00.240 --> 0:21:03.240 If you just circle back through the last two two 0:21:03.280 --> 0:21:06.040 and a half years, like what has been stripped away 0:21:06.080 --> 0:21:08.159 from you and the way that you have responded to 0:21:08.200 --> 0:21:10.360 it and handled it. I don't even think all these 0:21:10.400 --> 0:21:14.520 listeners understand, and I hope that they do, and that 0:21:14.600 --> 0:21:19.440 they they don't just follow you and support you because 0:21:19.480 --> 0:21:21.760 of great music that you make, but because of the 0:21:21.840 --> 0:21:24.560 person that you are and the way that you inspire 0:21:24.600 --> 0:21:27.880 people by the way you respond to these things that 0:21:28.040 --> 0:21:31.720 might have crushed many other people, that you have found 0:21:31.760 --> 0:21:37.360 a way to rally with your family, you know, direct 0:21:37.359 --> 0:21:41.280 family and work family, and come through it on the 0:21:41.280 --> 0:21:44.480 other side. I feel like as a stronger, more inspiring 0:21:44.480 --> 0:21:49.000 person you and Amber both so you know, for those 0:21:49.920 --> 0:21:53.920 I think there are some that weren't affected very much. 0:21:55.000 --> 0:22:01.000 Others were affected, everything changed, Others lost family members because 0:22:01.040 --> 0:22:05.280 of this. Yeah, but I think everybody needs to recognize 0:22:05.280 --> 0:22:08.840 there has been a low, lying level of trauma that 0:22:08.880 --> 0:22:12.320 has happened to the entire country. Whether you think that, oh, 0:22:12.440 --> 0:22:14.880 my life just went you know, I went to work. 0:22:15.880 --> 0:22:19.920 I mean I'm in the construction business. It boomed, nobody's business. 0:22:20.680 --> 0:22:23.199 I still have to recognize there's a low level of 0:22:23.240 --> 0:22:26.040 trauma that we've been through in the last year because 0:22:26.040 --> 0:22:28.240 of this, and what does that mean and kind of 0:22:28.280 --> 0:22:31.080 sit with it and dig through it. Relationships that have 0:22:31.119 --> 0:22:34.840 been taxed because of this, Relationships that have been disconnected 0:22:34.880 --> 0:22:39.080 because we can't be it's not the same guys. I 0:22:39.119 --> 0:22:40.920 love Zoom and I hope it only sued by them, 0:22:40.960 --> 0:22:44.000 but it is not the same as this right here, 0:22:45.400 --> 0:22:48.200 face to face. This is what we were made for 0:22:49.040 --> 0:22:54.359 and there's no replicating that digitally. I'm sorry. And I 0:22:54.400 --> 0:22:56.560 think a lot of these companies that are going to 0:22:56.800 --> 0:23:04.880 remote work from wherever. Culture, you know, Drucker said, culture 0:23:04.920 --> 0:23:08.240 eats strategy for breakfast, Like the culture of a business 0:23:08.280 --> 0:23:12.160 of an organization cannot thrive with people not being connected 0:23:13.080 --> 0:23:16.399 under you know, like one one cause in one place 0:23:16.560 --> 0:23:20.280 at least sometimes. So I think that this mass exodus 0:23:20.320 --> 0:23:24.560 from you know, companies being together to all working remote, 0:23:24.760 --> 0:23:28.120 I think it's going to backfire, and I hope so 0:23:28.200 --> 0:23:32.040 in a way culture eats strategy for breakfast. Yeah, I 0:23:32.160 --> 0:23:37.600 love that, Charlie Drucker, God, I love that. That's so true. Yeah, 0:23:37.840 --> 0:23:42.040 you know the difference between last year us thinking maybe 0:23:42.200 --> 0:23:45.520 maybe December will go back on tour, maybe September. Last 0:23:45.600 --> 0:23:49.080 year there was a hint when we said that, there 0:23:49.119 --> 0:23:53.720 was a hint of but it'll probably be this, it'll 0:23:53.720 --> 0:23:55.680 look like this, like they'll probably have to wear a mask, 0:23:56.480 --> 0:23:59.000 or they'll probably still have to be in pods or 0:23:59.040 --> 0:24:04.119 some ridicult this thing. The difference now looking at touring 0:24:04.200 --> 0:24:06.760 coming up, when our first dates really start in June, 0:24:07.440 --> 0:24:10.520 if that happens. But the difference is now we look 0:24:10.520 --> 0:24:13.520 at it and go, oh yeah, full speed, like it'll 0:24:13.560 --> 0:24:17.840 be open when we open, when concerts start, it's going 0:24:17.920 --> 0:24:24.080 to be full blown, elbow to elbow regular. Yeah, and 0:24:24.119 --> 0:24:27.159 we know that now. Last year it was like remember 0:24:27.280 --> 0:24:29.000 last year when it was like you think this is 0:24:29.080 --> 0:24:31.320 just how it's always going to be. People were saying that, 0:24:31.440 --> 0:24:33.120 like you think we'll just wear a mask that we'll 0:24:33.160 --> 0:24:36.080 just always wear a mask now and we'll always do zoom. Yeah. 0:24:36.359 --> 0:24:39.239 People kept saying like the new normal, and I was like, 0:24:39.440 --> 0:24:42.879 that's crappy object to this normal, which is not a 0:24:43.000 --> 0:24:50.000 new normal. This is a temporary solution to a worldwide problem. 0:24:50.800 --> 0:24:52.679