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Speaker 1: Smith's and Ambers arrives, and I've tried, still haven't been

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Speaker 1: able to figure out all of your your tattoos what

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Speaker 1: they say. Could you please show your tattoos and what

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Speaker 1: they are and what they say and what their meanings are.

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Speaker 1: And I'm invested in knowing, so please put my eyes

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Speaker 1: strained at rest. Thank you so much. I think her

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Speaker 1: name's Sassy. Yeah. I think she just wants you to

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Speaker 1: take your shirt off and that one on your butt.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna have to show out one on my butt,

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Speaker 1: so you have some too. You have to do this too, Okay,

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Speaker 1: So I have I know that people are very concerned

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Speaker 1: about like what my tattoos mean. Well you got to

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Speaker 1: say it. So I got to have dare mighty things

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Speaker 1: on my left arm. That is a Teddy Roosevelt out

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Speaker 1: of a Teddy Roosevelt speech that most people call the

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Speaker 1: speech dear Mighty Things. Incredible speech. I've said it many

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Speaker 1: times on this podcast, but I love that. And this

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Speaker 1: happened when my tour manager Chris was getting a tattooed

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Speaker 1: in Nashville and he was getting one for his son,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, I'll go with you, and so

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Speaker 1: I got my favorite quote, dear Mighty Things, which I

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Speaker 1: love looking at it on my left hand, and then

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Speaker 1: I have on that left bicep, I have a feather,

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Speaker 1: and I have my three birth dates and Roman numerals

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Speaker 1: of my kids. My three kids, so that's too hard

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Speaker 1: to pull up, but three birthdates. And then on my

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Speaker 1: right I have State of Texas under my arm. The

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Speaker 1: outline that came from spurgis South Dakota at the rally

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Speaker 1: we were playing a few years ago, and at that

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Speaker 1: biker rally there's a million tattoo artists. It's like a

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Speaker 1: big convention. They all go there. It's like the best

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Speaker 1: in the world. So it kind of felt like I

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Speaker 1: should partake in that. Yeah, yeah, So me and my

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Speaker 1: bass player both got matching Texas tattoos. And then on

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Speaker 1: after we lost them, so and then I think that's it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: how about you. I got one right here that just

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Speaker 1: simply says the word seek. I got this when I

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Speaker 1: showing up over and over. And what it means to

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Speaker 1: is to continually be seeking, seeking truth, you know, seeking understanding.

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Speaker 1: And that's not just like in a faith journey, but

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Speaker 1: here to like tell you, I'm here to like seek

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Speaker 1: understanding and understand and learn about you. But also the

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Speaker 1: way that I try to communicate faith to other people

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Speaker 1: But it's not my real it's not my job to

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Speaker 1: what God has for you to find. But I believe

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Speaker 1: I feel like what my job is to really inspire

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Speaker 1: to push in and seek. So that's that one. This

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Speaker 1: We'll get there. So everything for her was always like,

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Speaker 1: you know, it's an adventure. When she passed away, I

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Speaker 1: I had a letter waiting in my mailbox from her. Wow.

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Speaker 1: And I read the letter and she said, you know,

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Speaker 1: and Leslie. So I took that letter, which I still

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Speaker 1: have and keep very close. I took that letter to

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Speaker 1: So this says her quote in her handwriting. It's pretty cools.

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Speaker 1: So awesome man. Yeah, And I was thinking, as you're

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Speaker 1: All right, We're gonna get a little bit deeper on

648
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Speaker 1: this next question. It says, Hey, Grangel, my name is

649
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:43,799
Speaker 1: Jennifer from Kansas. Shout out to Kansas. It says, my

650
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:48,719
Speaker 1: question is with family being divided and picking sides and

651
00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:53,719
Speaker 1: having toxic family members. Besides praying, which I do all

652
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:57,479
Speaker 1: the time, even for them, my dad and siblings want

653
00:39:57,560 --> 00:40:00,320
Speaker 1: nothing to do with me. It's because I love my mom,

654
00:40:00,719 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 1: and my mom and I are close, and my dad

655
00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:04,759
Speaker 1: and her divorce when I was three years old, and

656
00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 1: they want nothing to do with her. My siblings are

657
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 1: mad that they got divorced and they blamed my mom,

658
00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:14,120
Speaker 1: which there's always two sides to every story. They asked

659
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:16,399
Speaker 1: me to pick dad or mom, and I picked mom.

660
00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:19,279
Speaker 1: My dad and siblings are never there for me. They

661
00:40:19,280 --> 00:40:21,759
Speaker 1: don't call or text. I haven't heard from them in

662
00:40:21,840 --> 00:40:24,440
Speaker 1: five years because I finally cut them out of my

663
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:26,759
Speaker 1: life because they would never invite my mom to any

664
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 1: of the family things. And this last month, my niece

665
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:32,920
Speaker 1: got married and we weren't even invited. I was just

666
00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 1: wondering how you deal with something like this, or if

667
00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:38,520
Speaker 1: it's ever happened to you. On the inside. It's killing

668
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:40,879
Speaker 1: me that we all can't get along. Thanks Granger, I'm

669
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:46,640
Speaker 1: sorry this was all over the place, Jennifer. I'm sorry

670
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:50,040
Speaker 1: Jennifer that you're You know, no one should have to

671
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:54,560
Speaker 1: deal with this, and this is so devastating and yet

672
00:40:54,680 --> 00:41:00,799
Speaker 1: so common with divorce. It's also common that you you

673
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 1: would have been three years old, you know, when this happened,

674
00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:06,960
Speaker 1: and then you deal, you start dealing with the aftermath

675
00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:09,640
Speaker 1: for decades and decades later. I don't know how old

676
00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:13,759
Speaker 1: you are, but you're obviously old enough to have a

677
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:18,400
Speaker 1: choice and who you're gonna live with. You want to

678
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:26,600
Speaker 1: start at me? Start? Yeah, I can start. I can relate.

679
00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 1: My parents were divorced whenever I was nine. Fortunately, uh,

680
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 1: there was definitely a division. I think me and my siblings.

681
00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:49,959
Speaker 1: I don't know if we necessarily were as divided as

682
00:41:50,080 --> 00:41:52,560
Speaker 1: as it sounds like, and there there wasn't so much

683
00:41:52,600 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 1: a push to like you pick, you know, pick this

684
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:59,480
Speaker 1: or this. It was a really difficult time. And so, Jennifer,

685
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:01,799
Speaker 1: I I really understand what you're going through. It's it's

686
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 1: a really tough time. You're young, I'm guessing you're younger,

687
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 1: trying to figure out who you are and like figure

688
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:12,600
Speaker 1: out life, and then you have all of these kind

689
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:19,080
Speaker 1: of really difficult relationship emotional things to navigate without a

690
00:42:19,120 --> 00:42:23,360
Speaker 1: ton of guidance or experience. Uh. I would really hope

691
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 1: that your parents would be bigger people and better for

692
00:42:31,320 --> 00:42:35,680
Speaker 1: you to to just show that this is how you

693
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 1: make peace, and this is how in life when people

694
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:40,960
Speaker 1: don't see things the way you do, or they they

695
00:42:41,040 --> 00:42:44,759
Speaker 1: hurt you, you don't just hurt them back like that

696
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:50,440
Speaker 1: doesn't it doesn't accomplish anything. It just divides. And so Jennifer,

697
00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 1: I think maybe you have the opportunity to be that

698
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:58,920
Speaker 1: person for them and and try to not repay hate

699
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:03,880
Speaker 1: with hate, but you know, try to find these little

700
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 1: moments where you can reconcile and you can and and

701
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 1: bring people together and unify as far as you know,

702
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:17,400
Speaker 1: practical advice on what to do, like we've said before,

703
00:43:18,400 --> 00:43:21,840
Speaker 1: without having a dialogue, a direct dialogue with you about

704
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:26,920
Speaker 1: more details about the situation and who is where, and

705
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 1: it's really hard to give you. Hey, you should call

706
00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 1: this person and do this. But I think overall, continue

707
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:39,319
Speaker 1: to pray, and you know, I feel like from my perspective,

708
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:43,359
Speaker 1: I need to always just have a off the bat disclaimer.

709
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 1: The Word of God is where I go for everything,

710
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:53,239
Speaker 1: for my marriage, for business, for parenting, for you know,

711
00:43:53,840 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 1: influencing others, for any advice my closest friends. You have

712
00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:05,359
Speaker 1: to search the word of God. It is tested and

713
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:10,520
Speaker 1: faithful and true. And if you if you wait in

714
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:13,080
Speaker 1: His word long enough, like you will be guided. I

715
00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:15,239
Speaker 1: fully believe you'll be guided in what you need to do.

716
00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:19,480
Speaker 1: I know that that's a bit broad, probably not exactly

717
00:44:19,520 --> 00:44:24,160
Speaker 1: what you're looking for, but I think that you know

718
00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 1: you're praying, so that tells me that you do have,

719
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 1: you know, some form of faith, and I would just

720
00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:39,600
Speaker 1: push into that and and really try to find ways

721
00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:43,040
Speaker 1: to be the soft hearted one and not the hard

722
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:47,960
Speaker 1: hearted one. Even when people are mean to you and

723
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:53,560
Speaker 1: they do you wrong. It's up to you too on

724
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:58,680
Speaker 1: how you perceive that what you meant for evil God

725
00:44:58,719 --> 00:45:02,439
Speaker 1: actually meant as good, so you can you can take

726
00:45:02,480 --> 00:45:05,319
Speaker 1: everything and view it in that way. And so what

727
00:45:05,360 --> 00:45:07,640
Speaker 1: you leave them with is, hey, you're the one that's

728
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:10,360
Speaker 1: carrying that hate. I'm not carrying that. It's too heavy

729
00:45:10,400 --> 00:45:13,560
Speaker 1: a burden. You're going to be someone that lives free,

730
00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:17,879
Speaker 1: and they're going to probably start to say, Hey, Mom, Dad,

731
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:19,239
Speaker 1: I don't care, I just want to I just want

732
00:45:19,239 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 1: to hang out with Jennifer because man, she is just

733
00:45:22,040 --> 00:45:23,440
Speaker 1: changed in this way and this way and this way,

734
00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:26,120
Speaker 1: and I don't know, we think I think of it.

735
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:28,319
Speaker 1: First of all, big just a big amen to that.

736
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:32,080
Speaker 1: That's awesome, awesome word and this stuff is so much

737
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 1: easier to give advice to you than it is to

738
00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:36,759
Speaker 1: live it. So I have to always preface with that.

739
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:42,240
Speaker 1: But the source of your piece, Jennifer, does not hinge

740
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:47,440
Speaker 1: upon how your dad and your siblings treat you, because

741
00:45:47,440 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 1: you can't control that and you can't change their mind.

742
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 1: So that has nothing to do with your peace. And

743
00:45:55,360 --> 00:45:57,640
Speaker 1: so you have to look at it from the perspective

744
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:00,160
Speaker 1: of the only thing you can control is you and

745
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 1: how you respond to them putting you in the situation

746
00:46:04,760 --> 00:46:07,520
Speaker 1: of picking mom or dad. It's a terrible, terrible place

747
00:46:07,560 --> 00:46:10,440
Speaker 1: for any kid, no matter how old to be in

748
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:12,120
Speaker 1: you got to pick who do you want to pick

749
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:15,319
Speaker 1: and make the right decision because you know who we

750
00:46:15,400 --> 00:46:17,680
Speaker 1: hate and you know who we love. That's a terrible

751
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:21,480
Speaker 1: thing because you're a product of both of them, and

752
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:24,000
Speaker 1: you love your mom. Your your mom and you were close.

753
00:46:24,040 --> 00:46:28,120
Speaker 1: So don't don't regret that decision. First of all, don't

754
00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:31,440
Speaker 1: don't ever hold a grudge to your mom that that

755
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:33,799
Speaker 1: now she has forced you to pick, or your dad

756
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:37,839
Speaker 1: forced forget that you make the right decision, because that's

757
00:46:37,840 --> 00:46:41,439
Speaker 1: what your gut told you to do. And I think

758
00:46:41,520 --> 00:46:44,719
Speaker 1: I would just go through this, navigate this whole situation

759
00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:49,640
Speaker 1: and with trying to give them grace talking about your

760
00:46:49,680 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 1: dad and your siblings, just just give them grace. It's

761
00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:56,640
Speaker 1: it's hard to understand what they're going through or how

762
00:46:56,640 --> 00:46:59,279
Speaker 1: they view this situation, and how you might look like

763
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:02,360
Speaker 1: a trader to them. It's hard to understand their point

764
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:04,960
Speaker 1: of view, but try to try to give them a

765
00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:08,640
Speaker 1: little grace. And when they throw hate your way, or

766
00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:13,080
Speaker 1: they throw you the cold shoulder, send them a happy birthday,

767
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:16,920
Speaker 1: textra phone call, or letter. You know letters are great.

768
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:22,800
Speaker 1: Like handwritten letters, they do worlds of difference in relationships

769
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:25,080
Speaker 1: because you could pour your heart out in a handwritten

770
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:27,719
Speaker 1: letter and they don't get a chance to respond out

771
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:31,440
Speaker 1: of anger. They have to open the letter and read

772
00:47:31,480 --> 00:47:35,799
Speaker 1: it instead of texting back or shouting back in a conversation.

773
00:47:35,920 --> 00:47:39,080
Speaker 1: They have to read it and absorb it, and they

774
00:47:39,120 --> 00:47:42,080
Speaker 1: have to delay their response back to you. So you

775
00:47:42,080 --> 00:47:45,759
Speaker 1: could pour your heart out and don't blame them. Just

776
00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 1: tell them that it pains you to not have them

777
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:53,160
Speaker 1: in your life, and that no matter what has happened,

778
00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:57,960
Speaker 1: you're still blood relatives, and show them that grace that

779
00:47:58,000 --> 00:48:03,720
Speaker 1: you actually loved them, and that is I think that'll

780
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:07,520
Speaker 1: I think that'll matter to them, and if it doesn't,

781
00:48:09,440 --> 00:48:12,239
Speaker 1: then that's not the end of the world for you.

782
00:48:13,160 --> 00:48:16,640
Speaker 1: In my opinion on parenting, I always look at it

783
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:22,480
Speaker 1: as a child shouldn't is not required to have unconditional

784
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:26,960
Speaker 1: love for the parents. It's the opposite. The parents are

785
00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:29,600
Speaker 1: required to if they brought you into this world, they're

786
00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:33,000
Speaker 1: required to have unconditional love for their kids. But it's

787
00:48:33,040 --> 00:48:35,880
Speaker 1: not the other way around. They have to earn that

788
00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 1: back from the kids, and if they're not in their

789
00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:40,680
Speaker 1: life and they treat them like crap all the time.

790
00:48:41,120 --> 00:48:43,600
Speaker 1: Then you can't. You can't just look at your kid

791
00:48:43,640 --> 00:48:45,439
Speaker 1: and go, why did you love me? You know that

792
00:48:45,440 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 1: that doesn't make any sense. So if they don't, if

793
00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:51,719
Speaker 1: your dad never comes around to this, that's not on

794
00:48:51,760 --> 00:48:56,520
Speaker 1: you anymore. You and you can't carry it around as

795
00:48:56,560 --> 00:48:58,840
Speaker 1: a burden. And I'm so sorry that you have to

796
00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 1: go through this, And I'm caring to you. A lot

797
00:49:00,520 --> 00:49:03,560
Speaker 1: of people listening are thinking I'm in that same boat. Yep.

798
00:49:03,640 --> 00:49:05,600
Speaker 1: I was just thinking that. I know there's been some

799
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:10,279
Speaker 1: comments and you know, folks emailing you about topics that

800
00:49:10,320 --> 00:49:13,319
Speaker 1: are relevant to you know, not just about this this.

801
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:17,080
Speaker 1: If everybody out there who happens to be listening to

802
00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 1: this takes a minute and starts to think about, you know,

803
00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:24,400
Speaker 1: some situation that they are in or that they have

804
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 1: been in, where there is some break in relationship, there's

805
00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 1: some kind of like change. That's where conflict comes from.

806
00:49:34,600 --> 00:49:37,840
Speaker 1: It's it's a change in relationship that can either be

807
00:49:38,600 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 1: handled with communication and like you're saying, with grace and

808
00:49:43,680 --> 00:49:47,680
Speaker 1: understanding where it goes to conflict, you know, and then

809
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:50,239
Speaker 1: you have to go back to those things in order

810
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:54,520
Speaker 1: to restore it. So if you think about in your life,

811
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:57,880
Speaker 1: you know what, I guarantee you there's some place in

812
00:49:57,960 --> 00:50:00,840
Speaker 1: there that there is somebody that you work with, that

813
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:03,200
Speaker 1: you sought the store, that you're married to, that you

814
00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:08,000
Speaker 1: are siblings with in family. With that there's some kind

815
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:12,000
Speaker 1: of break. And if you can take what Griz just

816
00:50:12,080 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 1: said of approaching that with grace and pursuing peace and reconciliation,

817
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:24,120
Speaker 1: I feel like this is where the culture as a

818
00:50:24,200 --> 00:50:28,680
Speaker 1: whole starts to go back towards unity and not so

819
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:33,800
Speaker 1: divided like families divided, you know, countries divided, people divided.

820
00:50:33,880 --> 00:50:37,600
Speaker 1: Like I one hundred percent agree with you, man, I

821
00:50:37,600 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 1: think that grace and understanding and pursuing peace is the

822
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:45,080
Speaker 1: way you said. I finally cut them out of my

823
00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:47,160
Speaker 1: life because they would never invite my mom to any

824
00:50:47,160 --> 00:50:49,880
Speaker 1: of the family things. And that's admirable, But at the

825
00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:52,600
Speaker 1: same time, your mom doesn't need to be protected from them.

826
00:50:53,080 --> 00:50:55,600
Speaker 1: It's awesome that you're standing up for her, but I

827
00:50:55,640 --> 00:50:57,279
Speaker 1: don't know if that's the right way to do it,

828
00:50:57,320 --> 00:51:00,759
Speaker 1: because the way for like Bernie said that unity, the

829
00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:04,200
Speaker 1: way to unity is for you to extend that grace

830
00:51:04,280 --> 00:51:07,160
Speaker 1: to them instead of cutting them off. They might not

831
00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:09,799
Speaker 1: ever reply to you or respond, but you just keep

832
00:51:10,040 --> 00:51:12,319
Speaker 1: the communication open. And that's the way to bring your

833
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 1: mother back into the conversation, because you cutting them off

834
00:51:16,280 --> 00:51:19,000
Speaker 1: even makes it worse. So your mother doesn't need to

835
00:51:19,000 --> 00:51:21,880
Speaker 1: be protected. She's a grown woman. She obviously knows your

836
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:25,719
Speaker 1: dad better than most people. She doesn't need to be

837
00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:30,360
Speaker 1: protected from him in that sense. So I would just

838
00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:32,719
Speaker 1: keep the communication lines open even if you get a

839
00:51:32,719 --> 00:51:35,600
Speaker 1: no response. Make sure that you send out a Merry

840
00:51:35,680 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 1: Christmas and a happy Birthday, and occasionally a handwritten letter

841
00:51:40,680 --> 00:51:44,480
Speaker 1: just hey, Dad, thinking about you. I love you. I

842
00:51:44,520 --> 00:51:47,080
Speaker 1: know we haven't had the best relationships, but just want

843
00:51:47,120 --> 00:51:48,760
Speaker 1: to let you know that think about you a lot,

844
00:51:49,120 --> 00:51:53,680
Speaker 1: and I think about improving this relationship a lot. And

845
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:56,560
Speaker 1: if I have failed as a daughter, and I know

846
00:51:56,640 --> 00:51:59,000
Speaker 1: I have in many ways, I hope that you can

847
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:03,040
Speaker 1: forgive me, Like come on, yeah, how could he not

848
00:52:03,239 --> 00:52:07,759
Speaker 1: just go? Okay? Yeah? Absolutely. You know, and set the expectation,

849
00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:12,200
Speaker 1: Jennifer that this is not an instant fix. It's not

850
00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:14,760
Speaker 1: going to be something that happens really quick. Most things

851
00:52:14,800 --> 00:52:21,440
Speaker 1: that are really impactful and valuable and worth anything take time.

852
00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:24,080
Speaker 1: So just set your expectation that, Hey, this is going

853
00:52:24,160 --> 00:52:27,279
Speaker 1: to be years, you know, Like I said, like when

854
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 1: my parents split, there was definitely a break with my

855
00:52:29,760 --> 00:52:36,840
Speaker 1: dad and I and it took many, many, many years

856
00:52:36,880 --> 00:52:39,839
Speaker 1: for me to finally get to a place where you know,

857
00:52:40,239 --> 00:52:43,680
Speaker 1: he was trying to reconcile with me and just kept

858
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:46,360
Speaker 1: coming back, and I was just in a place I

859
00:52:46,400 --> 00:52:49,239
Speaker 1: didn't understand why he left. I didn't there was so much,

860
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:53,640
Speaker 1: you know, kind of confusion, and it took many conversations

861
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:57,360
Speaker 1: with him and just grace and humility and diligence and

862
00:52:57,480 --> 00:53:01,279
Speaker 1: him pursuing and calling me like every day, Hey, man,

863
00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:02,719
Speaker 1: just want you to know I'm proud of you. I

864
00:53:02,760 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 1: love you, thinking of you to where I had to

865
00:53:05,680 --> 00:53:09,280
Speaker 1: call him one day and finally say, Dad, I'm proud

866
00:53:09,360 --> 00:53:13,239
Speaker 1: of you as a dad. I don't know if I've

867
00:53:13,280 --> 00:53:18,319
Speaker 1: ever accepted what the grace and the forgiveness that you've

868
00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:20,680
Speaker 1: been asking of me, Like I've never forgiven you and

869
00:53:20,680 --> 00:53:24,399
Speaker 1: I've never gotten to that place. But man, you call

870
00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:27,160
Speaker 1: me like every day, tell me how proud of me

871
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:31,360
Speaker 1: that you are. You always want to come visit you. You

872
00:53:30,880 --> 00:53:33,600
Speaker 1: You just kept after me even when I was shoving

873
00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 1: you away, and like you said, eventually like man, that

874
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:40,719
Speaker 1: grace and that kind of love just tears down any

875
00:53:40,760 --> 00:53:45,319
Speaker 1: other thing and heals that brokenness. So, Jennifer, I hope

876
00:53:45,320 --> 00:53:49,480
Speaker 1: that that encourages you that it's worth fighting for. It's

877
00:53:49,520 --> 00:53:52,640
Speaker 1: gonna take some time, but lead with grace. Like Chris said,

878
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:57,439
Speaker 1: I think you'll be good. Love it. Just do another one,

879
00:53:57,680 --> 00:54:00,880
Speaker 1: This says, take her into this. Aaron from Kansas, shout

880
00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:04,719
Speaker 1: out to Kansas. Love your podcast and your music and

881
00:54:04,760 --> 00:54:06,839
Speaker 1: the message you and your family give. Y'all are such

882
00:54:06,840 --> 00:54:10,000
Speaker 1: an inspiration. Thank you, buddy, He says. My question is

883
00:54:10,280 --> 00:54:13,920
Speaker 1: I've always struggled with my weight fluctuating up and down.

884
00:54:14,160 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 1: You're in great shape, and I'm just wondering what your

885
00:54:16,560 --> 00:54:20,239
Speaker 1: day to day regimen looks like when you are if

886
00:54:20,239 --> 00:54:22,239
Speaker 1: and when you're on a diet. I know that tour

887
00:54:22,320 --> 00:54:26,560
Speaker 1: life is a beast in itself, but when able to

888
00:54:26,600 --> 00:54:28,880
Speaker 1: have a normal balance in your diet, what do you

889
00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:35,200
Speaker 1: do and eat? And I picked this one because we've

890
00:54:35,200 --> 00:54:38,399
Speaker 1: talked a lot about this too, Bernie, and we've kind

891
00:54:38,400 --> 00:54:43,719
Speaker 1: of taken a journey together through years and Aaron, you're

892
00:54:43,760 --> 00:54:47,280
Speaker 1: not alone, man, You're not. This another very common question.

893
00:54:47,440 --> 00:54:52,600
Speaker 1: People struggle with this, and there's a lot of misinformation

894
00:54:52,760 --> 00:54:56,920
Speaker 1: out there on on health and diets, and I certainly

895
00:54:56,920 --> 00:54:59,680
Speaker 1: don't want to contribute to more that misinformation because I'm

896
00:54:59,680 --> 00:55:04,000
Speaker 1: not a doctor. But I can, you know, like we're

897
00:55:04,040 --> 00:55:06,680
Speaker 1: sitting around a campfire talking, I can tell you what

898
00:55:06,760 --> 00:55:10,319
Speaker 1: I do and what I think. Whether you take it

899
00:55:10,320 --> 00:55:12,959
Speaker 1: to heart and use it as medical vice, don't, don't

900
00:55:12,960 --> 00:55:15,960
Speaker 1: do that. But I figured, you know, Bernie, we could

901
00:55:15,960 --> 00:55:21,440
Speaker 1: talk through this with Aaron. And I have to say,

902
00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:25,799
Speaker 1: first of all, I have not struggled with fluctuating up

903
00:55:25,880 --> 00:55:30,200
Speaker 1: and down weight. My body has a tendency to go down.

904
00:55:30,280 --> 00:55:35,359
Speaker 1: My body wants to get skinny. That don't change one day,

905
00:55:35,560 --> 00:55:40,200
Speaker 1: I'm sure, but most of my adult life my body

906
00:55:40,239 --> 00:55:42,959
Speaker 1: wants to go skinny, and so I have to eat

907
00:55:42,960 --> 00:55:46,200
Speaker 1: these calories to try to keep bulked up to look

908
00:55:46,280 --> 00:55:51,399
Speaker 1: like I'm not skeletor, and I have to put good

909
00:55:51,440 --> 00:55:56,279
Speaker 1: calories in there instead of battling. So it is a

910
00:55:56,520 --> 00:56:00,400
Speaker 1: massive part of my daily life is thinking about this stuff.

911
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:06,160
Speaker 1: And I have friends that are all body types and

912
00:56:06,200 --> 00:56:10,959
Speaker 1: we all talk about this. And then it's interesting because

913
00:56:11,000 --> 00:56:14,200
Speaker 1: Bernie and I we have a very similar approach, but

914
00:56:14,280 --> 00:56:17,600
Speaker 1: we have different ways of achieving that same approach, which

915
00:56:17,640 --> 00:56:19,040
Speaker 1: is cool why I wanted to bring it up on

916
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:25,480
Speaker 1: this podcast. So do you remember, Bernie, probably three or

917
00:56:25,520 --> 00:56:27,759
Speaker 1: four years ago, we had lunch and you told me

918
00:56:27,800 --> 00:56:31,440
Speaker 1: about that book It All Starts with Food, and that

919
00:56:31,960 --> 00:56:34,759
Speaker 1: book it's so great. Do you remember the author that

920
00:56:35,320 --> 00:56:43,000
Speaker 1: Heartwig it all shout out stuff. Yeah? Man, such a

921
00:56:43,120 --> 00:56:48,840
Speaker 1: great book, so well researched, such great information that I

922
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:53,040
Speaker 1: still think about almost every meal I eat. I still

923
00:56:53,040 --> 00:56:55,600
Speaker 1: think about that book in some way. I don't follow

924
00:56:55,680 --> 00:56:58,160
Speaker 1: it to a t. I did for like a year,

925
00:56:58,960 --> 00:57:01,240
Speaker 1: like that day you told me about it, I started

926
00:57:01,280 --> 00:57:07,319
Speaker 1: reading it and boom, I changed everything. And there's there

927
00:57:07,360 --> 00:57:10,640
Speaker 1: is so many diets. There's thousands of diets out there,

928
00:57:10,680 --> 00:57:13,480
Speaker 1: and this book is not another one of them. It's not.

929
00:57:14,600 --> 00:57:17,480
Speaker 1: It just helps you understand more of what food is

930
00:57:17,520 --> 00:57:21,280
Speaker 1: doing to you and and how how big a deal

931
00:57:21,360 --> 00:57:23,760
Speaker 1: it plays in your life, which is why it's called

932
00:57:23,880 --> 00:57:28,560
Speaker 1: it All Starts with food. Basically, whether that's your your

933
00:57:28,600 --> 00:57:31,959
Speaker 1: fatigue or your strength or your endurance. Are your brain,

934
00:57:32,280 --> 00:57:38,960
Speaker 1: your emotions, your your sleep, your gut, your you're the cold,

935
00:57:39,440 --> 00:57:45,160
Speaker 1: I mean allergies. Everything starts with food and that's your

936
00:57:45,240 --> 00:57:47,120
Speaker 1: that's your fuel. So if you think of it like

937
00:57:47,160 --> 00:57:49,520
Speaker 1: a race car, Like when you're running a NASCAR and

938
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:52,600
Speaker 1: you're in a pit crew. You don't use crappy gasoline.

939
00:57:53,080 --> 00:57:58,280
Speaker 1: You're gonna get the best, highest octane whatever they use

940
00:57:58,400 --> 00:58:02,360
Speaker 1: jet fuel, I don't know. But but the higher dollar

941
00:58:02,560 --> 00:58:06,560
Speaker 1: piece of equipment, you know, like a stealth bomber or

942
00:58:06,560 --> 00:58:10,160
Speaker 1: whatever that, you know, an F twenty two, the higher

943
00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:13,160
Speaker 1: dollar the machinery, the higher dollar the fuel they're going

944
00:58:13,160 --> 00:58:15,600
Speaker 1: to put into it. And we almost have to think

945
00:58:15,640 --> 00:58:18,000
Speaker 1: of it the same way with our bodies because this

946
00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:21,760
Speaker 1: is the most valuable possession we have, is our body,

947
00:58:22,480 --> 00:58:25,120
Speaker 1: because that's going to get us to the end of

948
00:58:25,120 --> 00:58:29,840
Speaker 1: the race. And unfortunately, most of the time we don't

949
00:58:29,920 --> 00:58:32,000
Speaker 1: ever think of it in that terms. We think of

950
00:58:32,320 --> 00:58:37,320
Speaker 1: meals as getting us satisfying a hunger and getting us

951
00:58:37,320 --> 00:58:40,000
Speaker 1: through the day. That's about it. Ye fill our bellies

952
00:58:40,040 --> 00:58:42,160
Speaker 1: and move on. And it's so much more to that.

953
00:58:42,240 --> 00:58:49,760
Speaker 1: So before you think about regimens, activities, workout routines, before

954
00:58:49,880 --> 00:58:53,560
Speaker 1: all that, think about your food, and before you think

955
00:58:53,560 --> 00:59:02,040
Speaker 1: about the latest trendy diet on Instagram, just remember that

956
00:59:02,360 --> 00:59:05,240
Speaker 1: there's a reason there's such the diet industry is such

957
00:59:05,280 --> 00:59:09,120
Speaker 1: a massive business because people keep They just reinvent the

958
00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:11,760
Speaker 1: wheel and repackage it and give it a different name,

959
00:59:12,360 --> 00:59:14,960
Speaker 1: and then they know that people will buy the book

960
00:59:15,160 --> 00:59:19,560
Speaker 1: and read about it and start. And it's if it

961
00:59:19,720 --> 00:59:21,360
Speaker 1: says that you have to do it for a certain

962
00:59:21,360 --> 00:59:24,439
Speaker 1: amount of time, then don't do it, because why would

963
00:59:24,440 --> 00:59:27,680
Speaker 1: you do anything for thirty days or six weeks or

964
00:59:27,720 --> 00:59:31,960
Speaker 1: twelve months. You need to build a lifestyle out of

965
00:59:32,280 --> 00:59:35,040
Speaker 1: what you eat and what you do. That's the goal.

966
00:59:35,040 --> 00:59:37,760
Speaker 1: And that's what changed for me is it's not a

967
00:59:37,800 --> 00:59:40,280
Speaker 1: sixty day thing. It's not a ninety day thing. It's

968
00:59:40,280 --> 00:59:41,880
Speaker 1: not like I'm going to eat. I'm going to juice

969
00:59:41,880 --> 00:59:43,520
Speaker 1: for ninety days and see what it does to me.

970
00:59:44,000 --> 00:59:46,120
Speaker 1: Like that's something different. That's not a diet. That's more

971
00:59:46,160 --> 00:59:51,240
Speaker 1: of a mental discipline or something that's like fasting. That's

972
00:59:51,240 --> 00:59:53,920
Speaker 1: it looked at it in a different way. But you

973
00:59:54,280 --> 00:59:58,360
Speaker 1: need to build a lifestyle and then you'll be able

974
00:59:58,400 --> 01:00:02,240
Speaker 1: to better understand why you're weight is fluctuating, because once

975
01:00:02,280 --> 01:00:04,840
Speaker 1: you strip all the everything away, you'll be able to

976
01:00:04,840 --> 01:00:07,840
Speaker 1: look at your weight and go, I gain weight because

977
01:00:07,880 --> 01:00:11,760
Speaker 1: of this food. This specific food makes me gain weight

978
01:00:12,160 --> 01:00:14,680
Speaker 1: or makes me tired, or makes me not sleep well.

979
01:00:14,760 --> 01:00:19,720
Speaker 1: Or makes me sleep really well. Whatever, what are your thoughts? Yeah, absolutely,

980
01:00:19,880 --> 01:00:23,680
Speaker 1: I so in my own experience. Again, like I'm not

981
01:00:23,760 --> 01:00:28,880
Speaker 1: a doctor by any stretch of the word. I used

982
01:00:28,920 --> 01:00:31,840
Speaker 1: to have with this cat's name, Aaron, Aaron Aaron. I

983
01:00:31,960 --> 01:00:35,800
Speaker 1: used to have the worst diet imaginable. I need to

984
01:00:36,000 --> 01:00:39,400
Speaker 1: every like fast food like place that you would drive

985
01:00:39,440 --> 01:00:41,240
Speaker 1: past and be like, nobody goes there. I was in

986
01:00:41,280 --> 01:00:45,680
Speaker 1: line at that place multiple times to death and like

987
01:00:45,760 --> 01:00:47,640
Speaker 1: somebody would give me like a strawberry, and I like

988
01:00:47,680 --> 01:00:50,000
Speaker 1: gags like this is disgusting. This is when we lived

989
01:00:50,040 --> 01:00:52,600
Speaker 1: in Nashville together. This is how both of us lived. Yeah,

990
01:00:52,640 --> 01:00:54,680
Speaker 1: I was either in a fast food line or I

991
01:00:54,720 --> 01:00:56,560
Speaker 1: was at home eating something that came out of a

992
01:00:56,600 --> 01:01:00,560
Speaker 1: box that you had to heat up. Yeah. Absolutely, And

993
01:01:00,640 --> 01:01:03,480
Speaker 1: so I think one of you know, one of the

994
01:01:03,520 --> 01:01:06,400
Speaker 1: points that Gris is making is just education and understanding.

995
01:01:06,680 --> 01:01:09,720
Speaker 1: Like I didn't. I didn't know. Like I would ask

996
01:01:09,760 --> 01:01:12,760
Speaker 1: a friend, I want to be healthy, So I would

997
01:01:12,800 --> 01:01:14,400
Speaker 1: just be like, I'm gonna go to the grocery store.

998
01:01:14,680 --> 01:01:16,479
Speaker 1: I'm gonna buy a bunch of grapes, and I would

999
01:01:16,520 --> 01:01:18,440
Speaker 1: just eat all the grapes. I'd be like, dude, I'm

1000
01:01:18,480 --> 01:01:23,520
Speaker 1: on my way. I had no idea what I was doing.

1001
01:01:24,800 --> 01:01:28,200
Speaker 1: Then I met my wife. My beautiful is that what

1002
01:01:28,240 --> 01:01:32,200
Speaker 1: did Oh? That is absolutely what did it? Okay? She

1003
01:01:32,200 --> 01:01:38,320
Speaker 1: she kinesiology major. She understood and she did a lot

1004
01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:40,920
Speaker 1: of research. I mean, she's the one that read you

1005
01:01:40,960 --> 01:01:43,360
Speaker 1: know it all starts with food Whole thirty. Like she's

1006
01:01:43,360 --> 01:01:46,000
Speaker 1: the one that like influenced me and had me read

1007
01:01:46,040 --> 01:01:49,000
Speaker 1: it and all this stuff sends still sends me podcasts

1008
01:01:49,080 --> 01:01:53,080
Speaker 1: about you know, foods, about refining sugar. Like there's a

1009
01:01:53,120 --> 01:01:56,320
Speaker 1: ton of things that she just knew that I didn't know.

1010
01:01:57,360 --> 01:02:01,680
Speaker 1: And as she would like teach me things, it's like, oh, okay,

1011
01:02:01,720 --> 01:02:05,480
Speaker 1: so I can just make this minor adjustment. Don't don't

1012
01:02:05,520 --> 01:02:08,600
Speaker 1: go clean out your pantry tomorrow like you're just gonna

1013
01:02:08,600 --> 01:02:11,240
Speaker 1: restock it. Like you're gonna this is kind of a marathon.

1014
01:02:11,280 --> 01:02:14,600
Speaker 1: You're gonna have to make some small adjustments in order

1015
01:02:14,600 --> 01:02:17,760
Speaker 1: for them to be lasting. It's it's all about habits.

1016
01:02:19,160 --> 01:02:23,880
Speaker 1: But I think that education is one thing, and just

1017
01:02:23,920 --> 01:02:28,200
Speaker 1: really understanding what you're putting in your body. I think that,

1018
01:02:29,200 --> 01:02:32,560
Speaker 1: you know, my wife, I'm just like incredibly blessed by her.

1019
01:02:35,080 --> 01:02:38,640
Speaker 1: She wasn't like a you know she didn't really cook

1020
01:02:38,720 --> 01:02:42,120
Speaker 1: when we first got married. It was like, make sure

1021
01:02:42,200 --> 01:02:45,440
Speaker 1: the smoke detectors are full battery strength when she starts cooking,

1022
01:02:45,520 --> 01:02:48,200
Speaker 1: because something is catching on fire. It was not good, right,

1023
01:02:48,560 --> 01:02:50,680
Speaker 1: I love you, babe, You're the best, your best. Now,

1024
01:02:50,680 --> 01:02:52,440
Speaker 1: I'm just talking about growth, That's what I'm talking about.

1025
01:02:52,680 --> 01:02:57,680
Speaker 1: So but now she has like learned so much and

1026
01:02:57,680 --> 01:03:01,240
Speaker 1: and and really just accepted so much of it that

1027
01:03:02,120 --> 01:03:04,280
Speaker 1: most of the meals that we have are like a

1028
01:03:04,320 --> 01:03:08,840
Speaker 1: whole thirty compliant or natural and are just really really good.

1029
01:03:08,880 --> 01:03:11,840
Speaker 1: So I'm thankful to have that. I understand not everybody

1030
01:03:11,840 --> 01:03:16,040
Speaker 1: has that. So I think that really just starting to

1031
01:03:18,240 --> 01:03:21,160
Speaker 1: learn as much as you can about food what it

1032
01:03:21,200 --> 01:03:23,959
Speaker 1: does to your body, like Griz is saying, and also

1033
01:03:24,160 --> 01:03:28,400
Speaker 1: understanding like your body and your body type. You know,

1034
01:03:28,520 --> 01:03:32,040
Speaker 1: ectomorphs and endomorphs, and there's whatever kind of morphs that

1035
01:03:32,600 --> 01:03:36,920
Speaker 1: your certain foods will affect you differently. Understanding your body

1036
01:03:37,240 --> 01:03:42,960
Speaker 1: and and also understanding that God made you a certain way.

1037
01:03:43,080 --> 01:03:45,360
Speaker 1: And there comes a time that we just kind of

1038
01:03:45,400 --> 01:03:49,480
Speaker 1: have to love ourselves and who we are and the

1039
01:03:49,520 --> 01:03:52,240
Speaker 1: way we are in this moment. It doesn't mean that

1040
01:03:52,280 --> 01:03:54,320
Speaker 1: we're just gonna Okay, well I got I'm just gonna

1041
01:03:54,360 --> 01:03:56,280
Speaker 1: love myself the way I am and not try to improve.

1042
01:03:56,320 --> 01:04:00,080
Speaker 1: It's like right, there's there's certain things about living a

1043
01:04:00,120 --> 01:04:03,000
Speaker 1: healthy lifestyle, like Griz is saying that we need to pursue.

1044
01:04:04,280 --> 01:04:06,840
Speaker 1: It is one of our greatest investments we can make,

1045
01:04:07,000 --> 01:04:11,680
Speaker 1: is like what we consume. But don't let the world

1046
01:04:11,800 --> 01:04:16,880
Speaker 1: tell you that you're not beautiful, that you're not uniquely

1047
01:04:16,880 --> 01:04:18,880
Speaker 1: made the way that you are, and don't try to

1048
01:04:18,920 --> 01:04:22,440
Speaker 1: fit into what somebody else wants you to look like,

1049
01:04:22,560 --> 01:04:26,880
Speaker 1: because you're probably not going to get there, or you're

1050
01:04:26,920 --> 01:04:30,280
Speaker 1: going to like stress yourself out tremendously trying to get there.

1051
01:04:31,360 --> 01:04:34,440
Speaker 1: I think that, like the last question, this is probably

1052
01:04:34,440 --> 01:04:39,000
Speaker 1: a longer journey if you can kind of push yourself

1053
01:04:39,200 --> 01:04:42,240
Speaker 1: and have diligence and do it Grangers talking about like,

1054
01:04:42,520 --> 01:04:45,080
Speaker 1: I think that you will get there and move to

1055
01:04:45,320 --> 01:04:49,120
Speaker 1: a healthier lifestyle, not just a healthier body image, but

1056
01:04:49,240 --> 01:04:53,360
Speaker 1: a healthier lifestyle. You'll have more energy, you'll be able

1057
01:04:53,360 --> 01:04:57,800
Speaker 1: to think more clearly, you'll sleep better. It does. Those

1058
01:04:57,840 --> 01:05:00,400
Speaker 1: things are products, but they don't happen over night, and

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Speaker 1: there's no like, hey, just do this and thirty days

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Speaker 1: later you look like Chris that try that. Let me

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Speaker 1: see if I could say, is that we have a

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Speaker 1: couple of minutes left. Let me see if I could

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Speaker 1: if I can give you just the starting points. First,

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Speaker 1: first and foremost, I would say, watch your sugars. Watch

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Speaker 1: your sugars. There's been studies with rats that they actually

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Speaker 1: addict the rats to cocaine. And every time a rat

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Speaker 1: is addicted to cocaine and he's put in a cage,

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Speaker 1: he will choose the sugar over the cocaine. That cannot

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Speaker 1: be overstated and the addiction we have and what that's

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Speaker 1: doing to your body. So pay attention to those kind

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Speaker 1: of sugars and what you're adding to your diet sugar wise. Secondly,

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Speaker 1: pay attention to how late you're eating. I would give

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Speaker 1: yourself a three to four hour window before you go

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Speaker 1: to bed of no eating, just digestion. That's so important.

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Speaker 1: To eat dinner and stop eating it's six o'clock and

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Speaker 1: before you go to bed at ten or whatever time.

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Speaker 1: And third, if your mom's cooking a big home cooked meal,

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Speaker 1: eat it, don't pass it up. If your mom's making

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Speaker 1: fried chicken and mashed potatoes and that's her specialty, and

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Speaker 1: you're going over to her house on Friday. Eat it

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Speaker 1: every time. That's important, and we can get way more

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Speaker 1: into this. We're a little bit out of time, but

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Speaker 1: we could talk. I don't think you really asked about exercising.

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Speaker 1: So you go out and walk for a mile or

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Speaker 1: two every day. That's enough. Don't think that you got

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Speaker 1: to do some crazy P nine e X routine. It

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Speaker 1: starts with food. Start there, Start in the kitchen. Pay

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Speaker 1: attention to that first. And it's not that hard. It's

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Speaker 1: not that big of a discipline because the crazy thing

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Speaker 1: is as it all starts with food. The book says,

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Speaker 1: once you stop training yourself to eat that way, then

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Speaker 1: your palate changes and you actually start craving the whole

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Speaker 1: fit just do good food. You start craving it and

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Speaker 1: you start being repulsed by the other stuff. And I'm

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Speaker 1: not perfect. I still I still have my cravings and

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Speaker 1: I still fall short as in anything. But it's just

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Speaker 1: it's it's good to have that mentality, train your mind

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Speaker 1: and you'll be better for it. And that's all we got.

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Speaker 1: That's all we got. Hey share this video with your friends,

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Speaker 1: boy Griz, thanks for having me, dude, Love you, bro yep,

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Speaker 1: see you guys, y, thanks for joining me on the

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