WEBVTT - Long in the Front, Short in the Back 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.280 Hell I Suck at Dating with Dean Ungler and Jared 0:00:04.360 --> 0:00:10.960 Haven and I heard radio podcast. What's going on? Everyone? 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:15.360 Welcome to an all new episode of Help I Suck 0:00:15.440 --> 0:00:18.960 At Podcast at Dating. Uh. It's Dean Angler here, joined 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:22.640 as always by Jared. We don't have a great guest 0:00:22.720 --> 0:00:24.279 for you guys this week. Well we have. We do 0:00:24.320 --> 0:00:26.960 have a guest, but that's later in the week. So 0:00:27.520 --> 0:00:29.720 this week it's just gonna be Jared kind of filling 0:00:29.800 --> 0:00:33.920 us in on dad life. Um, maybe it explained this 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:37.199 new barber that he went to. Um, what's going on 0:00:37.200 --> 0:00:39.320 with you? Like the haircut? What's going on with the 0:00:39.360 --> 0:00:42.000 haircut right now? What? Well? I mean obviously I've had hair, 0:00:42.159 --> 0:00:45.000 but like it looks good, you just haven't styled it 0:00:45.040 --> 0:00:47.320 this morning. Maybe that's so I definitely have not styled it. 0:00:47.400 --> 0:00:50.280 I have had hair right now. Uh, dude, No, My 0:00:50.400 --> 0:00:52.680 barber is awesome. His name is Caleb. He does such 0:00:52.680 --> 0:00:54.080 a great job as so as I put a little 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:58.120 jel in this thing, it's gonna be fire. So do 0:00:58.200 --> 0:01:02.280 you prefer yourself with law or short hair? I'm going 0:01:02.320 --> 0:01:04.280 my hair back out. I realized I'm a long hair 0:01:04.360 --> 0:01:08.320 person now, so I feel naked without long hair, I 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:10.320 definitely feel the same one. You kind of look like 0:01:10.360 --> 0:01:12.200 a little bit of Sean Hunter right now. That's like 0:01:12.240 --> 0:01:16.000 your hair and Jude, I'm digging the like that's the 0:01:16.000 --> 0:01:18.840 exact same thing. It's I'm in this weird, awkward phase 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:20.560 where the hair on my top of my head is 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:21.880 really long and the hair on the side of my 0:01:21.880 --> 0:01:24.360 heads is like short but like getting long, and I 0:01:24.360 --> 0:01:26.200 don't have any other options other than to just like 0:01:26.319 --> 0:01:29.760 push it back like this, So I'm going to boy 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:32.399 meets World. Yeah, and you should put a leather like 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:35.640 an oversized leather jacket on baggy pants with like the 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:39.399 silver chain that's a belt but also like hangs down 0:01:39.440 --> 0:01:43.440 by the side. Bro. Well, when I was dogging you 0:01:43.480 --> 0:01:44.880 for your hair style, I thought you were gonna come 0:01:44.880 --> 0:01:46.640 back strong and make fun of mine. So I mean, hey, 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:49.880 I appreciate the no. I like it's a bit compliment. 0:01:51.200 --> 0:01:53.480 I've decided that I think I'm a short hair guy now. 0:01:53.920 --> 0:01:56.160 I think I've decided, like, I think that's just my 0:01:56.280 --> 0:01:59.480 move for the foreseeable future, because Dude, I miss my 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:01.880 long hair hair, but I miss my long hair because 0:02:01.960 --> 0:02:04.680 I miss being And I feel like you can relate 0:02:04.720 --> 0:02:06.840 to this like unconventional. You know, I don't want to 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:10.880 be the guy that just traditionally has short hair. Yeah, 0:02:10.960 --> 0:02:14.080 I want something different. But now you know, I'm a dad, 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:16.960 I'm a business owner. I you know, I feel like 0:02:17.000 --> 0:02:19.560 I look more cleaned up with short hair. I think 0:02:19.639 --> 0:02:21.600 it's just time. Man. I think I'm in that stage 0:02:21.600 --> 0:02:23.520 of my life. I'm thirty three years old. I'm just 0:02:23.560 --> 0:02:27.320 the short hair guy. Now. Yeah, I get that, especially 0:02:27.320 --> 0:02:30.000 for you, you got your dad, Like you said, business owner, 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:32.320 you kind have long hair work in the restaurant because 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:35.079 it's like, you know, you're getting hairs and people's coffees 0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:37.920 and stuff. No one wants that, even like dude, when 0:02:37.960 --> 0:02:40.000 I walked up with like when we first open and 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:43.200 I was just working a hundred hours, so I would 0:02:43.240 --> 0:02:45.960 look disgusting. I'd have my long hair, my backwards hat, 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:49.239 my sweatshirt on, and I would have filth all over 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:51.640 my jeans because I'm just like cooking and doing making 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:54.679 washing dishes, do whenever I need to do. And I'd 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:56.560 go out and i'd be like, yeah, I'm the owner. 0:02:56.639 --> 0:02:59.040 High nice to meet you. And they're like oh hello, 0:02:59.200 --> 0:03:01.880 and I'm like, well, you know, it's just I'm grinding. 0:03:02.080 --> 0:03:05.200 I'm grinding here. So I was like, I got talking 0:03:05.320 --> 0:03:07.800 at they like pull the waiters out and they're like, hey, 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:09.920 some homeless man is in here saying he's the owner 0:03:09.960 --> 0:03:13.320 of the restaurant. Um, excuse me, could you get security 0:03:13.320 --> 0:03:16.280 to escort that gentleman away with the long hair? The 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:20.240 other I I saw a video I went golfing with 0:03:20.280 --> 0:03:23.080 Wells and Ben like in February of this year. So 0:03:23.120 --> 0:03:25.240 what is that like three months ago? And um, they 0:03:25.280 --> 0:03:26.960 took a video, I mean one of the holes. And 0:03:26.960 --> 0:03:28.359 this was like right after I had just gotten a 0:03:28.400 --> 0:03:32.360 haircut like that, you know, this classic guy's haircut right 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:33.880 now where it's like the high and tight and then 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:35.400 you got all that length on top to style it 0:03:35.440 --> 0:03:38.160 however you want. And I saw the hair I watched 0:03:38.160 --> 0:03:40.680 the video back and I saw like my haircut under 0:03:40.720 --> 0:03:43.320 my hat, and I was like this, this, this haircut 0:03:43.520 --> 0:03:47.720 does not suit me in the slightest because a I uh, 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:50.000 you know, like you said, I like to maybe at 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:52.880 least pretend like I'm a little more unconventional and be 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:56.400 I've put on a lot of weight, and short hair 0:03:56.480 --> 0:03:58.920 really tends to accentuate the weight gain, Like in the 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:02.320 face and stuff, and so I had, you know, and 0:04:02.400 --> 0:04:04.080 I had body. It's more for you to do begin with. Like, 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:06.960 even when I was in peak physical condition for myself, 0:04:07.040 --> 0:04:09.760 I thought that I look like dog crap. So um, 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:12.040 it's only gone downhill from there. And Caitln Halen gives 0:04:12.040 --> 0:04:13.800 me crap for it all the time. But I saw 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:16.400 I watched the video and I had this big, you know, uh, 0:04:16.600 --> 0:04:19.400 cumbersome lower body, and I was like, oh, you look 0:04:19.480 --> 0:04:21.039 so fat. And I looked up at my head and 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:23.200 I had this like tight little hair cut and I 0:04:23.240 --> 0:04:25.320 was like, those things just don't match up very well. 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:27.640 And so ever since I saw the video, I haven't 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:29.320 cut my hair since, and I don't plan on cutting 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:35.760 my hair for there's forty years, maybe fifty years. So hides. One, 0:04:36.000 --> 0:04:38.599 you don't look like you've gained anyway, but two, I 0:04:38.600 --> 0:04:40.280 feel you because I have the same body. It's this 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:43.120 warfare of man where I like, I try I've had 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:45.640 always I've always like liked long hair because I like 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:47.960 hiding my features because I feel like I look better 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:50.800 when I'm hidden. But now I think I'm just in 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:53.440 the stage where it's like this is just like I 0:04:53.480 --> 0:04:55.800 can't this is this is it, This is it. This 0:04:55.880 --> 0:04:58.680 is the guy that I am. You know, short hair 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:01.280 and all, but you are you are you are At 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:03.560 least I would say you're You're built, you put together 0:05:03.560 --> 0:05:05.280 a little bit better than me, you know what I mean. 0:05:05.880 --> 0:05:07.640 I don't know if i'd say that. I mean, dude, 0:05:07.640 --> 0:05:09.320 I saw you know what's funny you're talking about how 0:05:09.320 --> 0:05:11.200 you saw a picture of yourself. I did the same thing. 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:13.400 It was the first time I went golfing all year, 0:05:13.800 --> 0:05:15.120 Just like a week and a half ago. I played 0:05:15.200 --> 0:05:16.480 nine holes of a buddy of mine. He took a 0:05:16.520 --> 0:05:18.240 picture on the first hold of me swinging because he's 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:21.000 like first time out, and I was like, bro, I 0:05:21.040 --> 0:05:23.919 gotta like I have a little belly. I got a 0:05:24.000 --> 0:05:27.880 little belly. And it's like, foule a man can't say 0:05:27.880 --> 0:05:31.279 the real word on here because they'll get edited out. 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:34.159 I'm like, damn, man, just I don't have time to 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:36.320 work out as much as I have and did I 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:39.000 work in a coffee shop, so it's like I'm hungry, bro, 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:42.000 I just grab a blueberry muffin, scarf it down and 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:44.800 and then like that's my day. I'd be eating all day, 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:48.719 especially the pastries. I remember not even not even recently, 0:05:48.760 --> 0:05:51.240 like two years ago, maybe like even a little bit 0:05:51.279 --> 0:05:53.159 more than that. I was at the beach with a 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:55.360 bunch of our friends and Nick was there. Uh and 0:05:55.480 --> 0:05:57.880 Nick is, you know, incredible shape, especially for a fifty 0:05:57.960 --> 0:06:02.440 year old man, um and five now. But he looks 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:04.040 over at me and we're all shirtlets, just like hanging 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:06.400 on the beach. I just like like laying back, relaxing 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:09.760 on the towel and you know, playing some beeble outside 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:12.279 of my school now. Uh. And he sees me and 0:06:12.279 --> 0:06:14.320 he looks me up and down and he goes, are 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:16.760 you ever gonna get back in shape again? And this 0:06:16.800 --> 0:06:18.360 was two and a half years ago, back when I 0:06:18.400 --> 0:06:20.479 was like not in good shape, but I was in 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:22.360 better shape than I am now. And so it's just 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:24.200 it's just gets to or us every single day. But 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:27.560 such as life, I guess, such as what's going on? Such? 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:29.760 Well such as life is that my wife is just 0:06:29.839 --> 0:06:35.080 like coming in or not? Yes, of course, So you 0:06:35.120 --> 0:06:38.600 need to sign this. Okay, I'm signing it right now again. Alright, alright, 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:42.080 I'm the house. Well, so here's the thing. We want 0:06:42.080 --> 0:06:43.760 to move closer to the coffee shop, Like we talked 0:06:43.760 --> 0:06:45.680 about on the podcast before we're about thirty five for 0:06:45.760 --> 0:06:48.040 a minutes away. We found a place that would love. 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:50.000 It's a condo. This morning we fell in love with 0:06:50.040 --> 0:06:52.600 the we you know, we put a bit into a house. 0:06:52.680 --> 0:06:55.280 We've seen like probably I don't know, ten twelve houses 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:57.839 at this point. We saw one like a month ago 0:06:57.880 --> 0:07:00.240 that we loved, put an offer in, we got out 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:02.640 bit buy a lot, and it was like, oh my god, 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:04.800 we're never buying a house because of the market so 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:06.680 crazy right now, like we can't pay for a house 0:07:06.680 --> 0:07:09.880 that's just obscene or obscenely over priced. But we found 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:13.200 a condo this morning. It's relatively in our price point 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:17.440 and we put a like a like a verbal offer 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:19.320 in and they're like, we're probably gonna accept that. So 0:07:19.360 --> 0:07:22.680 now we're like, again, everything we need to get done immediately, 0:07:22.720 --> 0:07:24.720 try to get this offer wrapped up, because dude, if 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:28.120 we get this place, it's freaking awesome. It's great. It's 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:31.160 literally four minutes from the shop. It's in South Kingstown, 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:33.360 which is beautiful part of Rhode Island. It's just like 0:07:33.440 --> 0:07:35.480 everything we want. So now actually it's like, you know, 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:39.600 doing the wife thing and just make it chere alright. 0:07:39.680 --> 0:07:42.120 Signed signed three times. Anyway, that's what my life is 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:45.160 right now. But I was going to didn't. You guys 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:46.800 just went, let's let's focus on the house thing for 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:48.600 a second, and you guys just like buying the house 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:52.320 out there recently back in December. Yeah, so we bought 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:54.560 a house, like I said, in a place called West Granders, 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:56.800 Rhode Island, which is a little bit out there. It's woodsy. 0:07:56.920 --> 0:07:58.760 But the reason we did that was because the housing 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:01.360 markets so crazy right now. Where we wanted to buy, 0:08:01.400 --> 0:08:03.840 which is in southern Rhode Island, was too crazy and 0:08:03.880 --> 0:08:07.280 way too overpriced. And you know, we're talking about properties 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:10.880 that are good properties, but like we're paying way more. 0:08:11.000 --> 0:08:12.720 So we're like, okay, well we need to look in 0:08:12.800 --> 0:08:15.440 other places so we can pay for something that we 0:08:15.560 --> 0:08:18.760 feel like our money is is going into. That's well, 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:20.720 So we found a house that really liked, ended up 0:08:20.720 --> 0:08:22.680 buying it in December, and it's a well, like I said, 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:24.160 thirty five minutes from the shop. And we're like, oh, 0:08:24.160 --> 0:08:28.160 it's fine, I don't mind commuting, so on and so forth. Yeah, 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:30.440 so we're like, whatever, it's fine, we're used to commute. 0:08:30.520 --> 0:08:33.240 Having said that, now that I'm at the shop, constantly, 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:37.000 you know, six times a week, at least sixty hours 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:40.880 a week, especially with Dawson here. Now, it's just impossible 0:08:40.960 --> 0:08:43.840 she's here alone all the time. It is very much 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:45.800 I'm not gonna say it's in the middle of nowhere, 0:08:45.840 --> 0:08:48.440 but it's not a very populated area, so you know, 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:50.360 it's a little nerve wreaking a night. Sometimes I don't 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:52.640 get home to like one in the morning because I'm 0:08:52.640 --> 0:08:54.960 closing up and I'm just not spending as much time 0:08:55.000 --> 0:08:56.640 with Dawson as I want to. So if we moved 0:08:56.679 --> 0:08:58.959 to a place closer, I'd be able to bounce back 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:03.000 and forth much easier than I in multiple times exactly 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:05.440 where I can't bounce back forth right now because it's 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:09.240 you know, forty minutes each way. Are gonna do about 0:09:09.240 --> 0:09:12.640 your careent house, we would sell it, even though you 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:15.160 just bought it six months ago, I know, but you know, 0:09:15.240 --> 0:09:17.120 I mean, we trust me. Ashley and I have had 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:19.520 many conversations. It was like, Okay, either we stick to 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:21.000 this house and be like, all right, let's just try 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:22.520 to ride it out for the next couple of years 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:24.880 and see how it goes, or we just bite the 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:27.280 bullet right now, try to figure out the best deal 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:29.920 we can possibly get, move on from it, you know, 0:09:29.960 --> 0:09:32.200 I know it's gonna suck. Just move over, you know, 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:36.320 move again, and then I think increase our quality of life, 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:39.319 you know, in the short term. So that's the decision 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:41.640 we decided to go in and and if we get 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:44.760 this place today, that would work out really well. Would 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:48.319 you guys be able to like rent it and then 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:50.040 like still build equity in that house and then just 0:09:50.120 --> 0:09:52.000 buy the new house and then living that one, you know, Well, 0:09:52.040 --> 0:09:57.160 what we're gonna try to do is potentially um sell 0:09:57.240 --> 0:09:59.920 this by the new property and then in a couple 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:03.200 years if we end up building or you know, hopefully 0:10:03.559 --> 0:10:05.959 doing something like because this is it's a condo and 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:07.880 be our forever home, but like it's great for the 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:09.960 next few years. But if we do move in our 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:14.240 forever home in like four years, maybe if we're okay 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:17.160 to keep the condo, rent that out and build more 0:10:17.200 --> 0:10:19.800 equity that way rather than having two properties right now. 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:22.360 And it's we don't really like that. I don't think 0:10:22.360 --> 0:10:26.000 this place could be really that much of a renting. Yeah, 0:10:26.000 --> 0:10:30.240 it's not renting, it's just like two family owned. It's 0:10:30.480 --> 0:10:31.719 you'd have to see it, and you'd be like, no 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:35.400 one's gonna rent here because it's like, um, it would 0:10:35.400 --> 0:10:38.079 be like a single family. It's just kind of the moonious. 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:39.920 There's nothing like to rent, you know what I mean, 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:42.000 because if you rent, you want to be around places, 0:10:42.040 --> 0:10:44.040 so it's easier and convenient. Like that's the whole point 0:10:44.080 --> 0:10:47.680 of renting, right, it's convenient. There's nothing convenient about this location. 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:51.240 All right, Well here I'm on Zillo right now for 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:56.480 North Kingstown, Rhode Island. There's some good options here. Let's 0:10:56.480 --> 0:11:01.720 see three bed, three bath square feet seven fifty thousand dollars, Like, 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:05.400 that's a good deal. Um, let's see two bed, three bath, 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:10.640 two thousand square feet six hundred fifty thousand how much? Yeah, 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:13.600 that's probably you know, there's a lot of like colonials 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:15.960 that are probably built like the eighteen or early nineteen hundreds, 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:18.080 which is a very great character. I'm sure there are 0:11:18.120 --> 0:11:22.040 many ghosts in there, which would be the ghosts, but 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:24.800 a lot of a lot of coreokie floorboards to so 0:11:24.840 --> 0:11:27.400 many creeks and cracks. But that's I mean, that's that's 0:11:27.400 --> 0:11:29.800 a that's big news though, because I mean, obviously buying 0:11:29.800 --> 0:11:31.480 a house is a big deal. Hopefully you guys get it. 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:33.880 I'll keep you in my thoughts and hope a sense 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:35.679 of positive us your way. Appreciate it. Put it into 0:11:35.679 --> 0:11:38.720 the universe, baby, yeah, put it in the universe. That's 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:40.240 I mean, I don't envy that you guys have to 0:11:40.240 --> 0:11:43.280 move all your crap over again. That's always a big, 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:47.839 big bummer. But Dawson's first move. Dawson's going on his 0:11:47.920 --> 0:11:49.760 first plane later on today. We're gonna see how that 0:11:49.840 --> 0:11:52.840 goes as well. We're flying out where Virginia, so it's 0:11:52.840 --> 0:11:54.680 an hour so it's just up and down pretty quick, 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:57.040 which is nice. So it's a nice little tester. So 0:11:57.080 --> 0:11:58.840 we're gonna, like we have it kind of planned out. 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:00.880 Ashley's gonna sit in the window seat. I'm going to 0:12:00.920 --> 0:12:03.120 sit in the passenger side seats. She'll have Dawson, and 0:12:03.160 --> 0:12:05.360 as soon as like we start taxing, she's gonna give 0:12:05.400 --> 0:12:07.520 him a bottle. Like, so we'll have a bottle about 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:09.360 two hours before that before we get to the airport. 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:12.280 As soon as we board, sit down, get comfy, start taxing, 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:14.840 give him a bottle, and then hopefully we ride this 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:18.280 hour through and he's just conked out. Nice, I mean, 0:12:18.440 --> 0:12:20.400 that'll be that'll be fun. I always love sitting next 0:12:20.400 --> 0:12:21.880 to the babies on the airplane, So hopefully, guys, I 0:12:21.920 --> 0:12:24.079 don't have anyone sitting next to you. Do you guys 0:12:24.120 --> 0:12:25.920 have any big travel plans coming up at all or 0:12:26.800 --> 0:12:31.360 anything besides Virginia? Uh, you know, we're you know, man, 0:12:31.480 --> 0:12:34.679 we're a couple of travel plans. You know we're going, Uh, 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:39.000 we have a wedding in San Francisco later this month. Yeah, 0:12:39.080 --> 0:12:41.640 so we're going to the West coast, and you never know, 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:43.559 you never know what's gonna pop up, man, So we'll 0:12:43.559 --> 0:12:47.680 see west coast to the US coast to USA, West coast, USA. 0:12:47.840 --> 0:12:52.160 That's right, yes, yes, so we'll see, man, we'll see 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:55.320 what happens. And uh, I'm sure it will certainly keep 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:57.960 you up to date on everything that happens in our lives. 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:00.199 I appreciate that. When's the wedding in San franc let's 0:13:00.200 --> 0:13:05.320 go late June, so something like that somewhere in there. 0:13:05.320 --> 0:13:07.360 But it's one of her friends and that was actually 0:13:07.559 --> 0:13:09.640 I don't know if you remember Briar. She was one 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:15.320 of the bride'smaids. Who did she walk down the aisle with? Chad? Yeah, 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:19.720 Chad she's getting married. So she's getting married. Yeah, she 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:26.480 proposed to her to her fiance, yeahfrid and her fiance 0:13:26.600 --> 0:13:30.520 is a man, yes, yeah, so she proposed to him. 0:13:30.920 --> 0:13:32.840 Why didn't Rob propose? I know that they were like 0:13:32.840 --> 0:13:36.080 back and forth on this. He wanted to didn't he 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:39.920 here speaking to the mic. One night they were like 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:41.839 out drunk and she was like, you know, one day 0:13:41.840 --> 0:13:45.800 I'm going to propose to you. And then he said, oh, 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:48.400 are you? And then he's like I want to hold 0:13:48.400 --> 0:13:51.720 you to that. And that was early on in them dating, 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.440 and then he kind of kept holding it against her. 0:13:55.920 --> 0:13:59.040 He was like, you know, I would have proposed to you, 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:02.120 but you said that you were the one who wanted 0:14:02.160 --> 0:14:05.160 to do. It's going to be waiting for that moment. 0:14:05.840 --> 0:14:08.040 Was there some big story for it or like or 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:10.520 a big moment like leading up to the engagement. She 0:14:10.720 --> 0:14:13.079 actually did it really cute. It's like right before they 0:14:13.080 --> 0:14:15.679 did Thanksgiving together, it was just gonna be the two 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:18.320 of them for this Thanksgiving and she lit like the 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:21.840 whole kitchen and family room area up with candles and 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:25.960 had pictures and stuff all laid out from their relationship, 0:14:26.200 --> 0:14:29.480 like a whole timeline thing. It was really cute. That's 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:31.600 really cute. I've got a question for you guys now 0:14:31.640 --> 0:14:33.960 that I have you here, Ashley, So, you guys got 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:37.160 engaged obviously on Bachelor in paradise Um, which is not 0:14:37.200 --> 0:14:39.800 how most people see their proposal going. Has there ever 0:14:39.840 --> 0:14:42.600 been any discussion of like reproposing in a more like 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:47.560 intimate or personal way? No, would you even want that? No? 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:51.080 I sometimes think that like second proposals are kind of weird. 0:14:51.520 --> 0:14:54.280 I think the second proposers are fine for like what 0:14:54.400 --> 0:14:56.360 Jojo and Jordan did. I think that actually made a 0:14:56.360 --> 0:14:59.360 lot of sense for them. He had a new ring, 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:02.920 and why did he have a new ring? She didn't 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:06.120 like hers? She may have been over hers. Well, it's 0:15:06.160 --> 0:15:08.560 also different on Bachelor because you're like, hey, here are 0:15:08.600 --> 0:15:11.560 the three you choose? Yeah, right right, So that was 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:14.760 more like a more personal ring. And then also I 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:18.360 think that it was just like them really deciding this 0:15:18.440 --> 0:15:20.640 was like this is not a bachelor move. This is 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:23.760 like us actually gonna gage after us feeling so confident 0:15:23.800 --> 0:15:26.840 in our relationship. Because the two of them like definitely 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:31.840 had a very difficult first year. They say, oh yeah, 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:33.800 they were like on the verge of breaking up once 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:35.800 I feel like there's a lot of bachelor couples that 0:15:35.880 --> 0:15:38.600 have a very tough first year because you leave the 0:15:38.640 --> 0:15:41.360 experience and then it's like, oh, okay, now we have 0:15:41.480 --> 0:15:45.440 to go to Shaws together and groceries have to watch 0:15:45.600 --> 0:16:01.120 this season backs all these boys. I've got a question 0:16:01.120 --> 0:16:03.360 for you actually, while I got you here too, um. So, 0:16:03.440 --> 0:16:06.080 Caylin has been sending me engagement rings that she wants, 0:16:06.280 --> 0:16:09.120 and she sent me a four and a quarter carrot 0:16:09.160 --> 0:16:12.760 emerald cut diamond ring, um, which is not very sure. 0:16:13.240 --> 0:16:17.360 It's not cheap, and I don't even know yours like 0:16:17.360 --> 0:16:20.680 a quarter, it's a carrot. I think it's more than 0:16:20.720 --> 0:16:23.200 a carrot. It's it's like a pretty good rock. But 0:16:24.320 --> 0:16:26.120 it's a good ring. I don't know. I'm not a 0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:29.600 very much rememvery knowledge of all this stuff. Sorry, I intered, 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:32.440 how do I how do I take Caylin up here, 0:16:32.760 --> 0:16:36.880 um and just gently place her on a significantly lower carrot? 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:40.600 You know? Well, you know what they say, You're supposed 0:16:40.640 --> 0:16:44.520 to spend three months salary on a ring. That's great. 0:16:44.560 --> 0:16:46.240 I would spend zero dollars on it then, because I 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:48.920 haven't made money in like six months. You're such a dean. 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:59.520 You're such a dean. M No, perfect, Let go right there. Actually, 0:17:00.080 --> 0:17:02.960 I'll say that for I think that the ring is 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:07.000 such a big deal and so exciting before you're engaged, 0:17:07.400 --> 0:17:10.080 and then when you're a couple of years into marriage, 0:17:10.520 --> 0:17:13.680 you're like, oh, it really doesn't matter, Like I honestly 0:17:13.720 --> 0:17:17.280 would have been, I'd be happy with with anything. I 0:17:17.359 --> 0:17:20.399 love my ring, but as long as there's a symbol 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:23.920 on my finger that I'm married, that's all that really matters. Well, 0:17:24.080 --> 0:17:26.680 So we went into the jewelry store to like look 0:17:26.720 --> 0:17:29.119 at stuff and like figure out what she wanted, and 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:30.719 I like, through it such a big kissy fit when 0:17:30.720 --> 0:17:32.080 we got in there too, because that's exactly what I 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:33.639 would say. And I was like, I don't even want 0:17:33.680 --> 0:17:35.359 to be in here right now. I don't care what 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:37.399 I'm wearing on my finger, blah blah blah. Like that 0:17:37.480 --> 0:17:40.560 was my logic, and she was she because you know, 0:17:40.600 --> 0:17:42.680 Klin loves her jewelry and stuff too. So we had 0:17:42.720 --> 0:17:44.960 like a bit of a scuffle a couple of weeks 0:17:45.000 --> 0:17:46.919 ago over it. But I don't know, it's such a 0:17:46.960 --> 0:17:50.159 touchy subject. Especially here's my thing with it too. Klin 0:17:50.240 --> 0:17:53.280 makes significantly more money than I do. And yet here 0:17:53.320 --> 0:17:54.879 I am having to spend all this money on an 0:17:54.880 --> 0:17:57.120 engagement ring that I don't even want, Like I want 0:17:57.240 --> 0:17:59.119 her to get what she wants, but she's the one 0:17:59.160 --> 0:18:01.080 that wants to get married. Yet here I am having 0:18:01.119 --> 0:18:04.280 to spend the money to make this big statement for 0:18:04.320 --> 0:18:06.520 her for something that she wants. And I get it, 0:18:06.960 --> 0:18:10.879 but like it's still it's a you know, yes, Bush, 0:18:11.000 --> 0:18:15.560 that's what it is. Um, I had a point to 0:18:15.680 --> 0:18:19.040 make it. Let me say this, if you ever did propose, 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:22.360 which you probably will at some point, I think the 0:18:22.440 --> 0:18:24.880 act of you proposing is going to be so much 0:18:24.920 --> 0:18:30.399 more significant to her than the ring itself. Well, I 0:18:30.440 --> 0:18:31.800 would love to believe that, but I don't know if 0:18:31.800 --> 0:18:35.560 that's really I mean, she would, she would, She doesn't care, 0:18:35.640 --> 0:18:38.399 but she does, Carol, she I mean she cares a 0:18:38.440 --> 0:18:40.720 little bit. Like, don't get her a popsicle ring, but 0:18:40.920 --> 0:18:44.160 if you got her any diamond ring that you even 0:18:45.920 --> 0:18:49.800 think the shape is actually pretty important quote quote you know, 0:18:50.000 --> 0:18:52.879 and then you're something like personalized, like something that you 0:18:52.920 --> 0:18:56.479 put thought into, Like you know, I made a deal 0:18:56.520 --> 0:18:57.800 with her. I was like, I'll buy you this engagement 0:18:57.840 --> 0:18:59.159 ring if you buy me a truck because I really 0:18:59.160 --> 0:19:04.600 want a truck right now. Um, so that's like our Okay, 0:19:05.440 --> 0:19:08.000 I just always wanted to Toyota Tacoma, and I think 0:19:08.000 --> 0:19:09.960 it would be cool to have one. So the truck 0:19:09.960 --> 0:19:12.920 and ring is about the same price. This guy, he's Dean, 0:19:13.040 --> 0:19:16.879 is like the most. Oh, I'm against conventional wisdom. I 0:19:16.920 --> 0:19:19.399