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Speaker 1: Time for today Strawberry Letter. Guys, if you need advice

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Speaker 1: and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more, please submit

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Speaker 1: your Strawberry letter to Steve Harvey FM and click submit

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. Right Steve tell him yea, and we also

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Speaker 1: have to tell him this. Listen. If you have young

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Speaker 1: kids in the car, you may not want to hear

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Speaker 1: this letter. Them to hear this letter please, It's it's

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Speaker 1: a little racy. Let's say, ok, but got no kids,

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Speaker 1: got grand babies? Hold on tight. Here it is Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: All right, thank you, nephew. Subject. I'm not sure if

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Speaker 1: I can do this. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am in

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Speaker 1: a fairly new relationship with a great God. Everything was

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Speaker 1: going great for the first ninety days of our relationship,

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Speaker 1: so we were mutually ready to advance to a sexual relationship.

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Speaker 1: We talked beforehand about what we enjoyed and did not

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Speaker 1: enjoy during intimacy, but he left out one important detail

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Speaker 1: about what he really likes. On our second encounter, he

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Speaker 1: asked me to use a toy on him. Yes it

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Speaker 1: was his toy that he pulled out of a box

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Speaker 1: under his bed. Yes, it's exactly what you're thinking. I

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Speaker 1: thought he was joking at first, but he was very serious,

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Speaker 1: so I decided to try it and see what happened. Surely,

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Speaker 1: this man came to life, and he became so passionate,

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Speaker 1: aggressive and vocal. Afterwards, he said he was so happy

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Speaker 1: that he could reveal the side of himself to me

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Speaker 1: without judgment. The problem is he can't told to it.

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Speaker 1: No wait, wait, wait, wait, okay what yes him? Yes, yes, oh,

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Speaker 1: and he became excited and vocal. Yes, yes, okay, Okay,

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Speaker 1: you got it? Now I think I'll do okay, all right,

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Speaker 1: she says Shirley, this man came to life. He became

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Speaker 1: so passionate, aggressive and vocal. Afterwards, he said he was

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Speaker 1: to me without judgment. The problem is, she says, I

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Speaker 1: am judging him. I am okay with the fact that

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Speaker 1: he might be bisexual, but this is not something I

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Speaker 1: plan to keep up. I am crazy about this guy,

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Speaker 1: and I feel comfortable enough to talk to him about this,

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Speaker 1: but I'm sure he will leave me and find someone

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Speaker 1: else that's more open minded and adventurous in the bedroom.

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Speaker 1: I've never experienced this before. U. We're at the point

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Speaker 1: now where he can't reach his destination if I'm not

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Speaker 1: driving the car. This is getting way too much for

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Speaker 1: me to handle. Since we've only been together for nine months.

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Speaker 1: Should I just break it off with him? Am I

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Speaker 1: overthinking this? Please advise? All right, listen, if you're not

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Speaker 1: comfortable with this, no, I'm not. I'm not going to

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Speaker 1: be addressed this, not in any way. Yes, Steer, stay

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Speaker 1: on there. I know we people have issues, Steve, and

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Speaker 1: they need help. Okay, they need help. I'm telling my

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Speaker 1: Micael four comedians, she wrote to a show with four comedians.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna try and help you, though. I mean, she's

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Speaker 1: at the point where, you know, this is way too

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Speaker 1: much for her to handle. So if it's too much

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Speaker 1: for you to handle, don't handle it. Okay, you gotta

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Speaker 1: break this thing off before it does get literally yeah,

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Speaker 1: before it does get out of control. You're not comfortable

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Speaker 1: with it. Uh, you know, you guys discussed it beforehand,

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Speaker 1: but he left this part out. You said, um, you know,

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Speaker 1: and and if you don't do this, you put it

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Speaker 1: this way. Um, if you're not driving the car, Uh,

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Speaker 1: he can't reach his destination, that's what you said. Uh,

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Speaker 1: And you said this is way too much for you

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Speaker 1: you guys have only been together note and month, you're

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Speaker 1: not married. You want to know should you break it off.

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Speaker 1: I have to thank you, though, first of all, for

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Speaker 1: being so discreet in this letter. We definitely get what

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Speaker 1: we've ever gotten this kind of letter before. Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: you are very open minded and you are very adventurous.

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Speaker 1: But listen, if you're uncomfortable, if what you're doing makes

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know this is what he wants sexually,

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Speaker 1: but you know you can be out. Just say no,

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Speaker 1: you're uncomfortable. You guys have been talking so far, so

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Speaker 1: no reward on this. Well, if you talk about leaving me,

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Speaker 1: I don't tell you what. I'm gonna help you. Put

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Speaker 1: to take this personal. Whatever you do that floats your boat,

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Speaker 1: You rode in, you said, Shirley and Steve. Now, I

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Speaker 1: don't know what's going on him. Y'all been talking for

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Speaker 1: even talked about what you liked and what you didn't mind.

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Speaker 1: Y'all had sex. It must have been okay because you

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Speaker 1: a second time, he bought something out. He reached up

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Speaker 1: Now he can't reach his destination without you driving this toy.

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Speaker 1: You everything I think of I had to stop. You

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Speaker 1: can't do it. The letter is about her and how

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Speaker 1: So you're addressing her, Steve, Okay, cool, let me do

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Speaker 1: that deal. See, ma'am, I don't know what to tell you,

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Speaker 1: except if this is too much for you. It's too

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Speaker 1: she is all right. We're gonna have part two of

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Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up at twenty three after the hour.

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Speaker 1: The subject I'm not sure if I can do this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening, all right, Steve, we gotta recap today letter

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Speaker 1: ain't much of a recall. Well, and when you have

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Speaker 1: you might not want them to hear this letter. The

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Speaker 1: If you got other adults in the car, they might

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Speaker 1: not want head either. Yeah, this woman dating this man.

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Speaker 1: They finally have sex. They didn't talked about what they

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Speaker 1: though something like that? Well, he told us, right, he said. Afterwards,

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Speaker 1: But this is not something she plans to keep up. Well, yeah,

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Speaker 1: which means that in the nine months dad and done

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Speaker 1: in the future. I think, lady, in my estimation, you

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Speaker 1: keep this up. And then suppose, just suppose that he

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Speaker 1: wants mote what you're gonna do, Then if you're a

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Speaker 1: then I think you gotta get yourself in that position

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Speaker 1: Tip real, it's up to you. But you know, yeah,

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Speaker 1: She said, she's not going to be able to keep

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Speaker 1: this is what he wants, it makes him come alive

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Speaker 1: and all of that, she's not gonna be Let me

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Speaker 1: ask you something, Tommy, No, I got a show. No,

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Speaker 1: oh no, I'm not in this. I'm talking about women, right, Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, come on. Have you ever had a woman

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Speaker 1: and you had to pull back? Yeah? Yeah, yeah? How'd

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Speaker 1: you feel about having it? I left? Oh? Okay, Well

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Speaker 1: I mean did you run? Yeah? I have left with

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Speaker 1: you're doing? You know, i'd have seen the suitcase come out,

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Speaker 1: just sitting down there, just cute as she want to be,

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Speaker 1: just cutting stuff on? What is all this? Damn? What

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Speaker 1: She had all count stuff? That's too much. Don't worry

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Speaker 1: A decoration? That hit switch? Hey? Hold what what about?

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Speaker 1: that foot that bed hair? About selling eight things out? Serious? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: A little fun thing, I'm saying, going, man, what the

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Speaker 1: hell I got myself? What am I he for? The

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Speaker 1: The crazy thing is, I ain't know what none of

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Speaker 1: that stuff did. Wait a minute, so, junior, what are

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Speaker 1: you saying? They always look like a little bread No?

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Speaker 1: You know? Now? What are you saying? So you had

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Speaker 1: this experience as well? I had to leave while she

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Speaker 1: went to the band froom. I could left, really, Julian,

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Speaker 1: when they when they when they get that little trunk,

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Speaker 1: safe and fights it like lockart. Did she come out

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Speaker 1: the court? Did she say plug that in it for me?

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Speaker 1: Did it got gas? They go? Yeah? She started putting

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Speaker 1: on creams. Man, what you're not your jump? Do you

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Speaker 1: want something on your head? It's gonna make your head hot.

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Speaker 1: I don't need no hot ass hand. You want to

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Speaker 1: stand up? No, I don't want to stand Hey, you

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Speaker 1: lay right here? Amazing things we learn about this show?

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Speaker 1: Hold hold on? Scar? I thought, hey here, what mess

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Speaker 1: me up? She said, you want one of these? You

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Speaker 1: you you need two of them? Maybe you know? Hell? No,

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Speaker 1: I want no one of the What is it? Why

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Speaker 1: we got hot wet whites? What is this? What is that? Man?

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Speaker 1: Hot wet whites? What? You didn't even say? But Tommy,

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Speaker 1: I looked down there she just rubbed a baby all

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