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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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Speaker 3: Tis we tis the season.

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Speaker 2: It's every Every season is the season for scrubbing in.

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Speaker 3: So I have to tell you something, okay, And I

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Speaker 3: feel like you're gonna agree with this because you just

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Speaker 3: I just know you are. But normally when I'm like,

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Speaker 3: I have become a passenger princess. Okay, Robbie just enjoys

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Speaker 3: driving all the time, like he does not enjoy being

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Speaker 3: a passenger. He likes driving, so when we go places,

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Speaker 3: he drives me too. So I'm usually just driving like

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Speaker 3: myself for the kids. I'm never driving him, I see,

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Speaker 3: do you know what I mean? Yeah, So for his birthday,

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Speaker 3: I did some activities that I was I didn't want

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Speaker 3: to tell him, so I drove him to these activities. Right,

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Speaker 3: So he is in my car and he is the

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Speaker 3: worst backseat driver, Like he's just chirp, chirp, chirping away.

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Speaker 3: But he wasn't wrong.

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Speaker 4: And and.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like I I don't really stop. I drive really slow,

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Speaker 3: so I will say that I'm like a grandma, drive

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Speaker 3: really slow. However, I don't fully stop at stop signs.

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Speaker 3: I kind of just like roll through, roll through, but

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Speaker 3: I go slow. I'm going slow. I'm not like speeding

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Speaker 3: through like I'm still going slow. I'm just like slowly

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Speaker 3: approaching and then slowly I'm off and then up the

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Speaker 3: canyons with these like windy kind of like these windy roads,

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Speaker 3: and I don't really stay on my side, I just

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Speaker 3: like take up the whole whole road because I've never

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Speaker 3: seen any other cars coming around. And he was like, Babe,

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Speaker 3: if there was another car coming around the corner, like

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Speaker 3: that would be so bad. And I was like, you're right, yeah,

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Speaker 3: it would be it'd be bad. But I haven't seen whatever.

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Speaker 3: And driving these streets since nine to nine.

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Speaker 2: Let's just start trying to stay within the lines that

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Speaker 2: are there for a reason.

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Speaker 3: Line they don't have lines on them. They're lineless.

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Speaker 2: What road are you talking about?

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Speaker 3: Random roads? They're lineless because they're small. There's small roads, okay,

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Speaker 3: so like they're lineless.

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Speaker 1: Residential streets often will not what you're saying.

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Speaker 3: Yes, it's see residentially, I'm not like going down Hollywood.

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Speaker 2: Boulevard, Okay, I personally so I too, am the driver

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Speaker 2: of our relationship. Haley is very much the passenger princess.

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Speaker 2: And it's not because she doesn't want to drive. It's

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Speaker 2: because I'm like, absolutely not because and I'm not kidding,

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Speaker 2: Like nine times out of ten we will bicker because

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Speaker 2: she will do something and she'll be like, babe, I

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Speaker 2: swear because I'll go I'm a bad backseat driver too.

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Speaker 2: So it's a bad combo because she'll miss not like

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Speaker 2: not see someone has their brakes on and slam on

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Speaker 2: her brakes. Or she'll be staring at me and I'm like,

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Speaker 2: can you look at the road, and she is so beautiful,

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Speaker 2: I get distracted. I'm like, well then I need to

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Speaker 2: be driving. So that's our role. You know, you're so

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Speaker 2: scary to ride in the car with.

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Speaker 5: Why You'll just be like let me replay this song

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Speaker 5: and like fusing with your phone and I'm like, we're

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Speaker 5: going down literally the canyons, like zooming.

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Speaker 2: I don't consider you a slow driver, actually really I

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Speaker 2: don't think so. Really, I think I'm always quite scared

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Speaker 2: of how erratic and past we're going.

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Speaker 3: That's crazy. That is like a long day because I

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Speaker 3: drive very slow.

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Speaker 2: Well I don't maybe it's slow and erratic either way.

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Speaker 2: I always am thinking if if it's my choice, if

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Speaker 2: I'm writing in the car with Tanya, I'm going to

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Speaker 2: offer to drive, never not offering to drive.

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Speaker 3: Well, it's all been noted, and I'm gonna start taking

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Speaker 3: driving lessons because I think.

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Speaker 2: I think there's some things that you can correct without

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Speaker 2: needing lessons. Though I think it's.

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Speaker 5: Stopping at a stop sign.

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Speaker 2: You can do that, staying on one side of the road,

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Speaker 2: doabole going to speed limit.

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Speaker 1: I do want to speed limit.

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Speaker 2: I drive in my FLD slowly on the freeway, but

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Speaker 2: that's also dangerous. Why are you going too slow on

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Speaker 2: the freeway. You're too slow?

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Speaker 3: Please please, please, please respect. I have some respect on

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Speaker 3: my name.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes your conversations, it's like our relationship really mirrors each.

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Speaker 3: Other, me and Robbie and you and Haley.

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Speaker 2: Yes yeah, with you being Haley and Robbie and I being.

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Speaker 3: Like yeah, it's tough being in a relationship with us.

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Speaker 3: So I understand.

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Speaker 2: Wow, you're so self aware rate today.

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Speaker 3: I'm nothing if not aware, nothing aware.

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Speaker 2: We're skipping the jingle until we have what we want.

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Speaker 2: So don't worry.

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Speaker 3: Now, you're just gonna get us singing live each time.

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Speaker 2: You gotta come with the question on you.

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Speaker 3: I have an idea. Dear bond Ya.

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Speaker 1: That was Amy Rose by the way, Yeah, from Sonic Rose.

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Speaker 3: We'll never know.

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Speaker 2: We realized that Tonya can't channel Amy Rose unless she's

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Speaker 2: singing the Dear Bondy. It's a it's a complicated situation

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Speaker 2: we're in.

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Speaker 3: You know, who's gonna be really sad one day when

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Speaker 3: I finally get my role in some animated movie, the

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Speaker 3: Sonic people will come crawling back to me.

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Speaker 2: You just watch.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're gonna hang up on them when they do that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm gonna say sorry. I'm already gonna be in

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Speaker 3: Frozen seventeen.

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Speaker 2: Wow, we have a long way before she gets hurt

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Speaker 2: her star.

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Speaker 1: You see.

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Speaker 3: That's why I went to y'all.

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Speaker 2: Are y'all are pretty simpatico? Is that the word? Like

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Speaker 2: in line with each other.

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Speaker 1: But it's a rivalry.

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Speaker 2: Now, she took your job on one sidry it.

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Speaker 1: Is, you're gonna take her job from Frozen. By the way,

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Speaker 1: She's coming on the show on Friday, so tomorrow, so yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're welcome to call her out to.

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Speaker 3: Promote this movie.

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Speaker 1: No, she's talking about the Actor Awards oh, the sag

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Speaker 1: Award formerly.

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Speaker 2: Known as Yeah, Oh my gosh, you should have a

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Speaker 2: amy Ro's voice off.

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Speaker 3: I wonder if she has it down.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure she auditioned for right.

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Speaker 3: And that's what she has to use.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sure, but maybe you could give her some tips.

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Speaker 3: Face to face, just.

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Speaker 2: Like eyeing her down and she's like, weird?

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Speaker 3: Why is this girl looking at me so weird?

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Speaker 1: Dear Bonya, shall we from anonymous fellow scrubbing in crew.

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Speaker 1: My first time writing in because I genuinely don't know

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Speaker 1: what to do or who to talk to about this.

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Speaker 1: I'm three months postpartum after my second child, going back

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Speaker 1: to where and I decided to join my work indoor

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Speaker 1: soccer team because I played soccer in high school. I

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Speaker 1: was nervous and I felt vulnerable because my first time

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Speaker 1: is different now. I had my husband coming. He bought

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Speaker 1: my two year old daughter and newborn's son. I was

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Speaker 1: out of shape, but I felt proud of myself. I

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Speaker 1: could hear my two year old cheer for me from

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Speaker 1: the stands. On the way home, my husband told me

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Speaker 1: he heard a woman say that if I was just

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Speaker 1: coming back from a baby. Maybe I should have joined

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Speaker 1: a less competitive team. What is she doing here? Anyway?

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Speaker 1: He told me this because he said it made it

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Speaker 1: mad and he wanted to defend me. Ultimately, though, his

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Speaker 1: telling me this story made me sad. I started to cry. First,

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Speaker 1: it's supposed to be a fun work league. It's not

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Speaker 1: supposed to be competitive. Second, I was so nervous, and

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Speaker 1: that's so I confirmed my fears and I felt dumb

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Speaker 1: going to play. I was proud and happy my kid

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Speaker 1: could see me out there, but it felt like that

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Speaker 1: need advice I want to do next. My work wants

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Speaker 1: me to come play, and my husband's trying to tell

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Speaker 1: me don't. With some other people still play, it's easier

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Speaker 1: said than done. Do I tell anyone about this comment

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Speaker 1: that was said. I'd love to keep playing soccer in

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Speaker 1: front of my daughter, who cheered for me, but I'm

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Speaker 1: having a hard time putting myself in a vulnerable position again.

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Speaker 1: Any thoughts and advice are welcomed. Thank you for being

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Speaker 1: a space Wherecord write down my thoughts and feelings. Even

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Speaker 1: if you don't read this on the podcast.

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Speaker 2: Well that you show up every single week this leak

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Speaker 2: because you know what you I have. I can say

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Speaker 2: this because I recently like just sort of playing in

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Speaker 2: the back and it's not even a league, the basketball

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Speaker 2: thing I'm playing. It's just like a pickup basketball game.

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Speaker 2: Going and doing something like that new with people that

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Speaker 2: you don't know very well or only know on like

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Speaker 2: a work level, and and putting yourself in a vulnerable position,

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Speaker 2: especially when you know, like you're not at your peak

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Speaker 2: hope that you don't let I heard this thing the

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Speaker 2: other day, don't let the criticism of losers affect you.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, wow, that is such a thing,

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Speaker 2: because why do we listen and let things get in

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Speaker 2: our head when it's from people like you're such a

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Speaker 2: going to play soccer. Like I couldn't even play soccer

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Speaker 2: right now, it's so much running. So I say, don't listen,

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Speaker 2: go out there, show them why you wanted to play.

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Speaker 2: And if you, for whatever reason feel like, hey, this

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Speaker 2: league feels a little too advanced for where I'm at

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Speaker 2: right now, I want to join. If you feel that way,

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Speaker 3: And be she doesn't. She's literally saying she's having fun,

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. But I'm saying if she gets

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Speaker 2: to a point where she's like, dang, like I'm struggle

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Speaker 2: or you know, I'm like, but if as long as

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Speaker 2: you feel good about being out there, I say, you

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Speaker 2: show up every week.

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Speaker 3: It just bothers. I know, it's so much easier said

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Speaker 3: and say, come, don't listen to what anybody else to say, like,

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Speaker 3: live your life unapologetically be you, and like I am

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Speaker 3: the first person to say that, But I know it's

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Speaker 3: so much easier said than done. But at the end

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Speaker 3: I mean, Like you don't want to have regrets about

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Speaker 3: something because of somebody else's stupid opinion, you know what

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Speaker 3: I mean. Like, and we get it all the time.

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Speaker 3: People are constantly, like even in our Facebook group, calling

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Speaker 3: us out for things that we you know, like or

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Speaker 3: how I act, or if I'm annoying, or I find

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Speaker 3: this or that. If I listen to people, I would

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Speaker 3: literally drive myself nuts trying to just like appease every

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Speaker 3: single person. At the end of the day, you have

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Speaker 3: to live your life authentically to who you are. You

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Speaker 3: want to go out there, you want to play the game,

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Speaker 3: you're having fun. It seems like this is the only

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Speaker 3: person that has a problem with it, and it's not

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Speaker 3: her problem. It's not her business. I stand on business.

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Speaker 2: I think you should go up to the girl who

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Speaker 2: said it and say I heard that. No one's kidding.

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Speaker 1: The insecurity is from the other woman, the woman who

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Speaker 1: That's right, Dear Banya, all capitalized like it's an acronym.

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Speaker 2: Okay, this is a real dilemma. I'm sorry you're going

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Speaker 1: a lingering feeling situation. He really wants me to go

437
00:21:17,760 --> 00:21:20,320
Speaker 1: and is clearly annoyed that I'm hesitant. I've met some

438
00:21:20,440 --> 00:21:22,520
Speaker 1: extended family and his brother, but only once. I want

439
00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:24,760
Speaker 1: to be a supportive girlfriend. I know how much throwing

440
00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:26,720
Speaker 1: this party means to him, but I can't check the

441
00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 1: feeling that I'm walking into a nightmare. Do I go

442
00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:31,040
Speaker 1: and support him? Or is it reasonable to set a

443
00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:33,399
Speaker 1: boundary here and sit this one out? Love the girlfriend

444
00:21:33,440 --> 00:21:34,520
Speaker 1: with no onboarding?

445
00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:39,480
Speaker 2: Hm?

446
00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:40,840
Speaker 3: Why have all I need to know?

447
00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:41,680
Speaker 4: Oh?

448
00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:41,800
Speaker 2: What?

449
00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:46,880
Speaker 3: Ami? Because she says I'm trying to find exactly where

450
00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:52,200
Speaker 3: she said it, but she said that her boyfriend really

451
00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:57,400
Speaker 3: wants her to go. That to me is a green flag.

452
00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:00,400
Speaker 3: The fact that he's not trying to hide you keep

453
00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:03,000
Speaker 3: you from this party. Imagine he tried to say no, no,

454
00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:06,640
Speaker 3: don't come to this party, and like that would be

455
00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:09,000
Speaker 3: even more annoying. I think I think you'd feel a

456
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:10,399
Speaker 3: certain type of way if he didn't want you to

457
00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:12,119
Speaker 3: come to this party. The fact that he wants you

458
00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:14,880
Speaker 3: to come to this party, it's not gonna be about you.

459
00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:16,680
Speaker 3: You're not gonna make the mom feel weird because you've

460
00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,719
Speaker 3: never met you. Go, you be super nice, meet her,

461
00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:22,399
Speaker 3: and then be on your merry way, Like just be

462
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:24,760
Speaker 3: a nice, fun guess at the party, don't make it

463
00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:27,879
Speaker 3: about you, and go and have a good time. I

464
00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:30,280
Speaker 3: don't think it's like I don't think it's setting a boundary.

465
00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:32,640
Speaker 3: I also don't think you need to rush into anything,

466
00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:34,200
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, especially if you think you're

467
00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:36,119
Speaker 3: gonna be with this guy for a long time, if

468
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:37,880
Speaker 3: you're not ready and you're not comfortable. But I feel

469
00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:39,359
Speaker 3: like the fact that he wants you to go is

470
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Speaker 3: a green good sign.

471
00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:43,840
Speaker 2: I agree. I was gonna suggest because she said she

472
00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:45,480
Speaker 2: lives out of town. I don't know if it's like

473
00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:48,720
Speaker 2: they're driving for the day and then coming back. I

474
00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:51,280
Speaker 2: don't know such logistics, but I was thinking, I wonder

475
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,880
Speaker 2: if they could set up a like go the day

476
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:57,240
Speaker 2: before and they could go have dinner with his mom,

477
00:22:57,280 --> 00:22:59,240
Speaker 2: just so it doesn't feel like you're like meeting her

478
00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:01,720
Speaker 2: for the first time the party, you know what I'm saying, Or.

479
00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:03,359
Speaker 3: Even like a FaceTime or something.

480
00:23:03,440 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, just something where you kind of get a sense

481
00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:09,520
Speaker 2: of getting like meeting each other before a party. But

482
00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:14,080
Speaker 2: I think even though I totally validate your hesitation and

483
00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:17,280
Speaker 2: like the things that you're listing out that would be uncomfortable,

484
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:20,280
Speaker 2: But I think you just go. Don't feel pressure to

485
00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:22,880
Speaker 2: sit with his mom or entertain his mom. Just go

486
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:26,240
Speaker 2: and be more of like a support for your boyfriend

487
00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:29,399
Speaker 2: that clearly wants you to be a part and don't

488
00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:32,560
Speaker 2: overthink the like meeting for the first time part of it.

489
00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 4: Yeah.

490
00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:35,200
Speaker 2: And if you can make plans and go up a

491
00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:37,560
Speaker 2: little earlier the day before, maybe y'all can go have

492
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:39,359
Speaker 2: dinner or you can go to the house just to

493
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:43,400
Speaker 2: say hey, so that that that like initial ice breaker

494
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:45,600
Speaker 2: moment is out before the party.

495
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:46,480
Speaker 3: Yeah.

496
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:48,159
Speaker 2: And if it is at the party, just go and

497
00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:51,200
Speaker 2: be like, I'm so happy to be here and I'm

498
00:23:51,400 --> 00:23:53,320
Speaker 2: I'm so happy to meet you on your birthday, Like

499
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 2: just be you.

500
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Speaker 3: Yeah, happy birthday. What can I get you to drink? Yeah,

501
00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:02,119
Speaker 3: let's take a shot together, breaks the ice. Yeah, I

502
00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:02,800
Speaker 3: don't drink.

503
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:06,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean read learn about her, learn about her

504
00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:07,480
Speaker 2: before you ask about the shot.

505
00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 4: Yeah.

506
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:10,119
Speaker 3: I think this is such a green flag and like

507
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:13,040
Speaker 3: not a boundary that you need to set.

508
00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:16,480
Speaker 2: And you don't need his daughter's mom to like you.

509
00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:20,280
Speaker 2: It'd be great if she does, but I don't nothing

510
00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:23,400
Speaker 2: to prove to her. Just be nice. If she wants

511
00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,240
Speaker 2: to like you, great. If she already doesn't like if you,

512
00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 2: if she already doesn't like.

513
00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:29,199
Speaker 3: You, No, she she didn't say that. He said she

514
00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:30,240
Speaker 3: probably won't.

515
00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:34,240
Speaker 2: I know, if it's already assumed, then don't have expected.

516
00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:35,919
Speaker 2: Just go in be yourself. Maybe I will hit it

517
00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:39,200
Speaker 2: off and it'll surprise everybody. And maybe he's right, maybe

518
00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:44,000
Speaker 2: she's just not easy, like maybe she's has a hard

519
00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:46,159
Speaker 2: time liking anyone that's new. I don't know.

520
00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 3: That's not on you.

521
00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:50,760
Speaker 2: I think you go be you, be the star that

522
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:53,320
Speaker 2: you are, and don't feel like you have to like

523
00:24:53,600 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 2: prove yourself totally because he wants you there.

524
00:24:56,680 --> 00:24:59,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, which is key. Yes, which we love, which we love.

525
00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:06,160
Speaker 3: I think we're gonna play the birthday game, but we're

526
00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 3: gonna take a quick break before we play.

527
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:11,600
Speaker 2: I love that you love playing the birthday birthday game.

528
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 2: You keep coming back for more because you rarely win.

529
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:16,960
Speaker 1: You know, she did win recently when you weren't here,

530
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 1: So I'm not sure if it's that she rarely wins

531
00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 1: or that you always win.

532
00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:23,920
Speaker 2: I get so lucky though, like I know, I just luck.

533
00:25:24,160 --> 00:25:28,359
Speaker 2: So I'm hoping luck is today. I have a feeling

534
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:32,920
Speaker 2: today I pinch the monkey. Oh my god, here we go. Okay,

535
00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:34,359
Speaker 2: we'll be back with birthdays.

536
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:57,200
Speaker 1: We're back. I've got here seven celebrities with a birthday

537
00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:04,520
Speaker 1: this week. M all right, we're gonna start with Tanya. Okay,

538
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 1: you'll give the agent, Becca will say hi, or Laura.

539
00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:09,520
Speaker 1: We'll go back and forth, and whoever gets the most

540
00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:13,120
Speaker 1: of the seven correct, is our winner. All right, Tanya,

541
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:16,040
Speaker 1: we begin with you, and who's got a birthday this week?

542
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:18,879
Speaker 1: Dakota Fanning has a birthday this week, and I'm asking

543
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,359
Speaker 1: you how old is she turning this week? Tanya?

544
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 3: My god, is Dakota the older the younger?

545
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:24,760
Speaker 1: Well, I can't answer that question.

546
00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 3: I'm gonna say Dakota is turning twenty nine.

547
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:33,560
Speaker 1: Twenty nine? Beca? Is she how older or younger? We'll

548
00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 1: go that way.

549
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:34,399
Speaker 2: Older.

550
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:36,719
Speaker 1: She's thirty two, very nice. Becca is off to an

551
00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:39,360
Speaker 1: early lady, but I just know.

552
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 2: She's older than that.

553
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:43,240
Speaker 3: Elle Fanning is the older one though, No, she's the

554
00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:43,639
Speaker 3: younger one.

555
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:48,199
Speaker 1: Yeah, shoes, all right, Beca, this one's for you Emily Blunt.

556
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:50,119
Speaker 1: What do you think about Emily Blunt? What a birthday

557
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:50,880
Speaker 1: we're looking at there?

558
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 2: I'm going to guess Emily is.

559
00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:59,240
Speaker 1: Forty four, can turn forty four? That is incorrect. Tanya

560
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:01,760
Speaker 1: is Emily Blunt old or younger than the forty four?

561
00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:10,879
Speaker 1: She is turning forty three? Now, Tanya, you should have

562
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 1: an advantage on this one. I think you dated him briefly.

563
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:16,120
Speaker 1: Josh Grobin hardly.

564
00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:21,640
Speaker 3: I talked to him up, Yeah, yeah, brave brief.

565
00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:24,480
Speaker 1: Kind of did. That was the one where she she

566
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:27,760
Speaker 1: crowdsourced all of her responses amongst the staff and got

567
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:29,200
Speaker 1: a really nice back and forth going.

568
00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:29,440
Speaker 2: Yeah.

569
00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:31,960
Speaker 1: But the second she tried to on.

570
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:34,040
Speaker 3: Her weekend, so I didn't have anybody around.

571
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:36,280
Speaker 2: Happy Saturday, No, I can't remember.

572
00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 1: That was Matthew Perry got Happy Saturday.

573
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:39,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, but she.

574
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 1: Said something to him on her own without running it

575
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 1: by Dimitrio Sierrat. She never heard good.

576
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 2: Riddance, you know.

577
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:50,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, how old is Josh Grobin turning this week?

578
00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:53,159
Speaker 3: Forty seven?

579
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:55,919
Speaker 1: Okay, going forty seven? Older or younger? Becca?

580
00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:56,479
Speaker 2: Younger?

581
00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:59,840
Speaker 1: He is turning forty five? Right, Becca's off to it?

582
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:01,880
Speaker 1: Three nothing lead We might have been going and see

583
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:05,280
Speaker 1: if she gets a clean sweeper young book Josh gro Indeed, Becca,

584
00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,680
Speaker 1: Chelsea Handler has a birthday this week How old is

585
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 1: Chelsea Handler turning?

586
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:13,960
Speaker 2: I think Chelsea Handler is turning fifty four?

587
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 1: Fifty four older or younger? Tanya younger, she's fifty one.

588
00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:22,560
Speaker 1: It's three to one. There could be a comeback of

589
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:26,479
Speaker 1: bruin here because this kind of right in Tiny's wheelhouse, Tanya.

590
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:31,240
Speaker 1: How old is Justin Bieber this weekend? The beebes has

591
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 1: a birthday on Sunday?

592
00:28:32,840 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 3: Okay, I know this because he is going to be

593
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 3: thirty three.

594
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:45,080
Speaker 1: He is not going to be thirty three older or younger.

595
00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 1: Re Becca for a pretty major steel here.

596
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 2: If you pull this off, I feel like he's younger.

597
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:55,280
Speaker 1: He's turning thirty two years old. And Becca snakes Bieber

598
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:56,960
Speaker 1: away from Tanya.

599
00:28:56,680 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 3: Because he's younger than Selena.

600
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:03,880
Speaker 1: I got two more of you on him, four a lot?

601
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:04,360
Speaker 2: Why not?

602
00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 1: How old is Kesha turning this weekend? Becca?

603
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:10,440
Speaker 2: Oh, Kesha? I would think that Kesha's thirty.

604
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:13,360
Speaker 1: Six, thirty six older, younger, Tanya younger. She is turning

605
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:19,920
Speaker 1: thirty nine five to one. And finally, how about Mark

606
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:25,040
Speaker 1: Paul Gossler saved by the bell. Yes, he's Zach. How

607
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:26,520
Speaker 1: old is he turning? This weekend?

608
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 3: Me my turn, here's your.

609
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 1: Turn, your last chance. Only you have one point, but

610
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:35,480
Speaker 1: fifty fifty the big five? Oh is not the case

611
00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 1: this weekend? Older or younger? Becca younger? Oh, he's fifty two.

612
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:43,960
Speaker 1: This weekend gets one final score Becca five, Tanya two,

613
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 1: and she's taking it as a moral victory, pulling off

614
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:47,200
Speaker 1: Mark Paul at the end.

615
00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:49,880
Speaker 2: There, good job, tom Age.

616
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:51,400
Speaker 1: Yeah no you don't.

617
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, damn, that's okay. Next time another loss.

618
00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 2: Maybe you can lose the most and that's how you win,

619
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:10,400
Speaker 2: chage it. You can be the worst at the game.

620
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 2: You can be the very worst, and that's how you

621
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 2: win it being the very worst.

622
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 3: When my comeback arc starts arcing, you're gonna be sorry.

623
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be proud to say when I start, I'm

624
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:24,000
Speaker 3: not only just gonna be guessing them right, I'm gonna

625
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:25,680
Speaker 3: guess their ages correctly.

626
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:27,120
Speaker 2: Just like not even.

627
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:30,080
Speaker 3: Off the tip. Yeah.

628
00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:31,000
Speaker 2: I can't wait for that.

629
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 3: Thank you.

630
00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 2: We are done for the day. But we love you

631
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:37,680
Speaker 2: so much. Our love you, our episodes end, but our

632
00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:41,440
Speaker 2: love does not guess exactly. I hope you have a

633
00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 2: wonderful weekend.

634
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:47,080
Speaker 3: Yes, filled with love and cuddles and if you like

635
00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 3: that really good television.

636
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:55,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, all the things. I'm We're in the Bahamas. Actually,

637
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:57,640
Speaker 2: as we speak, we're in the Mamas.

638
00:30:57,720 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 3: That's right.

639
00:30:58,320 --> 00:31:02,520
Speaker 2: And and I've already been thinking about sharks a lot,

640
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:05,400
Speaker 2: so just let you know my brain has been reeling.

641
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 2: I told Haley we can swim. It's more about her

642
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:11,480
Speaker 2: because I stay in shallow waters, which I also know

643
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:13,960
Speaker 2: sharks can get in shallow waters. But I tell her

644
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 2: that she just can't go deep, got it, Yeah, just

645
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 2: limitations on, but she doesn't listen, so then I'm just

646
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:22,120
Speaker 2: left stressed.

647
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 3: I don't really liked submerging in water as of late,

648
00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 3: so I'm not I'm not sure. Okay, ever since the

649
00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 3: New Year, just being completely submerged underwater hasn't really sounded

650
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 3: appealing to me.

651
00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:38,280
Speaker 2: I think it really good. It's very cleansing, especially in

652
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 2: the ocean.

653
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 3: We'll see.

654
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:43,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll keep you posted on that if don is submergent,

655
00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 2: because we're here with the hard hitting news that's scrubbing in.

656
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:50,520
Speaker 2: We love you so much of a ga