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Speaker 1: Wine Down with Janne Kramer and I Heart Radio podcast.

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Speaker 1: I just got a funny text message from my lawyer. Um, actually,

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Speaker 1: well actually East and I would love for you to

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Speaker 1: come on on this, uh this topic. Um. Like I said,

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Speaker 1: it's this has not been easy at all. But my

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Speaker 1: lawyer goes, well, that's one way to do it. And

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Speaker 1: there was an article like Janna Kramer poses topless after

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Speaker 1: following divorce. He goes, well, that's one way to approach it.

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Speaker 1: It was like the timing could not have been worse.

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Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean for this to happen. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean I can see it. I can see it

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Speaker 1: from that perspective. I mean, but then also like my

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Speaker 1: other girlfriends are like, well, like when you're ready, and

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Speaker 1: I'm just like I like, oh my gosh. Um. I

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Speaker 1: mean I even my doctor and I joke about it.

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Speaker 1: He's like, well, I gave you a great divorce body,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, well, that's not like why I want like,

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Speaker 1: oh my god. Um, but no, I'm the I I

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Speaker 1: don't know. It's something in a weird way. It's kind

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Speaker 1: of like, well that's kind of cool because I was

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Speaker 1: always embarrassed, you know, So now if if and when

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Speaker 1: I venture out onto the scene, I might have a

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Speaker 1: little bit more you know confidence. I guess, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I saw the picture. I shot it alike, I double tapped,

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Speaker 1: just as as your co worker, as a as you're

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Speaker 1: just you look great, just very I'm looking very respectfully.

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Speaker 1: Just wanted to bring that home. I just, honestly, I

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Speaker 1: just I wanted to do it because look, either way,

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Speaker 1: either if I had my you know, the mom boobs

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Speaker 1: or you know the implants, I want to feel and

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Speaker 1: I want people to feel good no matter what, like

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Speaker 1: however that looks, however that makes you feel. And truly,

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Speaker 1: I was just doing it for myself because I just

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I just I really wanted. Um, it's

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Speaker 1: something that I wanted for me, and I think it's

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Speaker 1: you know, a lot of people like you should just

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Speaker 1: be proud of the body that you have, regardless, and

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Speaker 1: I was, like, I am very proud of it. But

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Speaker 1: I also like I wanted to do something for me

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Speaker 1: to do something for yourself. Just like I work out,

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Speaker 1: I work out for myself. I don't work out for

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Speaker 1: anyone else. I don't work out to like, you know,

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Speaker 1: compete with this person's legs or do this, like I

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Speaker 1: work out because I want to work out. And that's

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Speaker 1: kind of the same thing that I felt like with

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Speaker 1: getting the breast augmentation. I was like, okay, like I

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Speaker 1: want this for me, not for my then X or

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Speaker 1: the next guy. I don't know, so even weird, like

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Speaker 1: thinking about that Jesus. Yeah. No, that's something my wife

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Speaker 1: talks about all the time. Is because there's a lot

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Speaker 1: of like weird dudes that are always like, why do

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Speaker 1: women do you know, get their boottox and stuff? But

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Speaker 1: it's not about that. It's about what, like what you

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Speaker 1: want and how you want to look. It's your body.

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Speaker 1: It's uh, you know, it's I don't know, I just

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Speaker 1: don't see any problem with it if that's what if

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Speaker 1: I think it's I think right now though, and I

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Speaker 1: to know, like whatever you don't awesome, like whatever makes

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Speaker 1: Like I've suffered from anxiety for a very very long time,

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Speaker 1: so honored to have um a guest co host today

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Speaker 1: as much as we embrace the good times, where yeah,

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Speaker 1: I want the show amazing. Hey, friends, let's gonna have

425
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:37,520
Speaker 1: fun because we're embracing so much. Embrace those moments when

426
00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:41,560
Speaker 1: you fall down the floor, Embrace them because that's teaching

427
00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:44,440
Speaker 1: you something. I've learned so much about myself and this

428
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:52,440
Speaker 1: whole process of finding the the deeper side of kio,

429
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:58,640
Speaker 1: you know, the inner the more like the yeah, yeah

430
00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:01,200
Speaker 1: it's the right thing to say, Yeah, the deeper kio.

431
00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:06,960
Speaker 1: I found that, Like, I found that. And I've always

432
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 1: wanted people to make other people happy. I'm always I'm

433
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:14,359
Speaker 1: that kid. I've always grew up wanting everyone to be happy,

434
00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 1: wanting to this and this and this. And I turned

435
00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 1: around and go, what about you? What about you? Like?

436
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:26,399
Speaker 1: Are you making yourself happy? Are you? Yeah? So I

437
00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:31,400
Speaker 1: just I had to just look at myself in the mirror,

438
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:47,440
Speaker 1: you know, and ask myself questions, what do you say

439
00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:50,199
Speaker 1: to the men out there? And like these kind of

440
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:52,919
Speaker 1: situations like what do you think the best advice that

441
00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:56,960
Speaker 1: you can give two men and women but that you've

442
00:25:57,080 --> 00:26:00,479
Speaker 1: kind of found your peace with with your break up.

443
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:07,439
Speaker 1: I wouldn't. I wouldn't say men and women because as

444
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:11,720
Speaker 1: soon as you start saying that, it makes it makes

445
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,720
Speaker 1: a guy have like a chip on their shoulder like, no,

446
00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:17,719
Speaker 1: I'm a guy, I'm strong, blah blah blah. Right, and

447
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:22,320
Speaker 1: a woman has to feel over the fields, right, And

448
00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 1: I think every person going through the break up, how

449
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:32,400
Speaker 1: just just face it with you with with your forehead, man,

450
00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:36,960
Speaker 1: face it with your two eyes. Face it, because if

451
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 1: you don't face it right now when you're going through that,

452
00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:43,480
Speaker 1: it's gonna hunt you. Because it's gonna hunt you when

453
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:47,159
Speaker 1: you meet the person, when you meet that person that

454
00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:52,399
Speaker 1: God has for you, it's gonna be so many struggles

455
00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 1: on your side, not on her side, on your side,

456
00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:58,119
Speaker 1: and you're gonna blame it on her, which is or

457
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:01,880
Speaker 1: vice versa, which is not. I feel like sometimes it's

458
00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:04,920
Speaker 1: not a right thing to do. So face it, face

459
00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:10,600
Speaker 1: it deep down, and it's just I Yeah, I'm facing it, man,

460
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 1: I'm facing it like straight ahead. So keyo, two point oh.

461
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:21,880
Speaker 1: For the next relationship, what so what what's one thing

462
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:25,280
Speaker 1: that you're going to not bring into the next relationship,

463
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 1: something that you're like for me, you know, if I

464
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:31,119
Speaker 1: get the chance to be able to have the next relationship,

465
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:34,920
Speaker 1: I think something that I didn't really like about myself

466
00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:36,879
Speaker 1: in the last relationship is that I can be passive. Now.

467
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:40,760
Speaker 1: I don't know if that passiveness was because of the

468
00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:43,880
Speaker 1: situation in a relationship or whatever, but it was still

469
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 1: a quality that I brought in that I didn't like

470
00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:48,880
Speaker 1: about myself. So you know, I'm doing the work to

471
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 1: to work on that. So what is what is something

472
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:54,200
Speaker 1: that you're like, Okay, this is a character defect that

473
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:56,679
Speaker 1: you know you don't need to shame yourself for, but

474
00:27:56,760 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 1: also like you know, you want to work on follow

475
00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:07,480
Speaker 1: my instinct and also be truthful to myself. You know.

476
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 1: It goes back to that that thing I just said,

477
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:16,199
Speaker 1: Like you sometimes you think, I feel like you, you

478
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:19,440
Speaker 1: always want to make people happy, and you also lose

479
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:22,960
Speaker 1: yourself in the situation in trying to do extra things

480
00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:25,560
Speaker 1: this and this, and sometimes it begs fires on you.

481
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:28,439
Speaker 1: You go think, but I can. I've just been honest

482
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 1: with myself and like, don't do that, you know what

483
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:36,120
Speaker 1: I mean? So I think it's being honest with myself.

484
00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:40,960
Speaker 1: Is it also being honest with others too? Do you

485
00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 1: think guys have a hard time being honest with relationships

486
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 1: and the people because maybe they're like trying to cover

487
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 1: up their own insecurities not don't things. So it's I don't.

488
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Speaker 1: I don't think we have mann just honest being No,

489
00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:04,240
Speaker 1: I'm not like everyone in general, like you know, like, yeah,

490
00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:05,760
Speaker 1: I know, I'm not just like labeling man, I'm just

491
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 1: sit saying like you know, because I'm have I lied

492
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 1: sure in the past, I've lied, you know, but it's

493
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:15,480
Speaker 1: to cover up, you know, my own And now, like

494
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:18,280
Speaker 1: I just said, that's like my I hate that quality.

495
00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 1: So I don't do that anymore because it's like it

496
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:23,720
Speaker 1: only affects. It doesn't just affect me, affects everybody around

497
00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:26,520
Speaker 1: me when you do that lie. But you see, that's

498
00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. If you, first of all, you lied

499
00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 1: to yourself, because before it even hits other people, you

500
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 1: lie to this person. So if you're gonna lie to

501
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:36,960
Speaker 1: this person, that those people won't be affected, you know.

502
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 1: So that's why I say it's being honest with me,

503
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 1: because if you're honest with yourself, this won't be affected regardless, regardless.

504
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:50,760
Speaker 1: If that's everything starts with you. How you're gonna love someone,

505
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:55,200
Speaker 1: It's how you love yourself. Let's that's the bottom line.

506
00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 1: It's how you're gonna make someone smile. It's how you

507
00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 1: make yourself smile. Yeah, no, it's it's so interesting like

508
00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 1: when you say that, because I think, you know what,

509
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 1: I think back to the times that I have lied

510
00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:09,320
Speaker 1: in in past relationships, You're like there was something missing

511
00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:11,040
Speaker 1: in me, and like what, like why was I trying

512
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 1: to make myself feel better or like, you know, it's

513
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 1: just it's it's kind of sad in a way too,

514
00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 1: because it's not it's not the truth and be it's

515
00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:23,280
Speaker 1: like I have more love for myself to not lie

516
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 1: and be like I'm yeah, that's a massive failure, but like, hey,

517
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:30,600
Speaker 1: that makes me who I am. But instead of been like,

518
00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:35,960
Speaker 1: oh yeah, no, that never happened. You see, that's what it's.

519
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:40,280
Speaker 1: It's it has nothing to do with other people. And

520
00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:44,440
Speaker 1: I say this strongly, it has nothing to do with

521
00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:51,840
Speaker 1: other people. However people take it me. I wouldn't anyway. Yeah, okay,

522
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 1: so yeah, go ahead, we're gonna say no, I just

523
00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 1: I just saying, like how I said, it's just that

524
00:30:57,720 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: be real with this person. That's it and everything will

525
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:05,360
Speaker 1: be fine. You know. I was reading some of the

526
00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:08,240
Speaker 1: notes before, and I was actually shocked when I was

527
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:16,560
Speaker 1: reading some of it, because okay, here we go. No,

528
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:19,760
Speaker 1: you you like called someone out for being the worst partner.

529
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:22,600
Speaker 1: And I swear like if I if Glev said that

530
00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:24,760
Speaker 1: I was the worst partner, I would like crawl into

531
00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 1: a hole and cry. Okay, let me let me just

532
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:33,520
Speaker 1: let me just clarify that I never said that they

533
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 1: asked me who was the worst partner on the show.

534
00:31:37,120 --> 00:31:40,280
Speaker 1: Then I said, I said, oh my god, I remember

535
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 1: season season something when I danced to sugar Con. I

536
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 1: have to like, it was just a tough season. Never said,

537
00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:53,920
Speaker 1: never said that my worst partner. I just said it

538
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:56,680
Speaker 1: was a tough season, you know, and like, but because

539
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:59,200
Speaker 1: I had a video of me explaining it, I didn't

540
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 1: if you have to defend myself because I'm like, I

541
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 1: know what I said, so I didn't need So when

542
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 1: I saw that, I was like wow. I was like, wow,

543
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:09,880
Speaker 1: you see the met is what the media does now

544
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:13,520
Speaker 1: Now I laugh at things like as long as I

545
00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:16,960
Speaker 1: know the truth done, I'm like, okay, I don't you know,

546
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:23,040
Speaker 1: because leaving glad glab com is like bro I said, no,

547
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:26,320
Speaker 1: I did it. He goes and he listened to the

548
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:29,560
Speaker 1: video and he goes, oh okay. He's like, you didn't

549
00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 1: say that. I said yeah. But he's like, but you

550
00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:35,280
Speaker 1: see how the media takes it. I'm like, yeah, the

551
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:37,360
Speaker 1: video is there, so whoever wants to see the video,

552
00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 1: they'll see it and they'll see the truth. I'm not

553
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 1: defend myself. Why do I defend myself? Like this world,

554
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 1: I know that's that's crazy. If there is there one

555
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:51,000
Speaker 1: partner that you wish that you had that someone else had,

556
00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 1: you don't have to say any don't worry. Yeah, but

557
00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 1: you know, we spoke about this. I know it would

558
00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:02,280
Speaker 1: have been fun the first day we met, the first

559
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:05,200
Speaker 1: day we met. Sorry, Glad, we love you. But yeah, Glad,

560
00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:07,400
Speaker 1: we love you. But Keo was able to do the

561
00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 1: left that you can do. Oh man, yeah, yeah, did

562
00:33:16,240 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 1: you so when it's start to come back right, yes,

563
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 1: And do you know anything? Like are you are you

564
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 1: going to be a pro what's going on? We know

565
00:33:25,040 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 1: nothing nothing when you listen, we know how you guys

566
00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 1: find out on like when you see the outlets like

567
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:36,280
Speaker 1: oh this person maybe in the show. That's how we know.

568
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:39,720
Speaker 1: That's how we find out. You know, it's not like oh,

569
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:42,160
Speaker 1: we get an email from the producers. Hey there's the

570
00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:44,720
Speaker 1: list of celebrities. Then you can go. You can either

571
00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:47,400
Speaker 1: go like, oh I see myself with that person. No,

572
00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 1: they'll give you to this one. That's that's not part.

573
00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 1: And then like every time we fought, we like we

574
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 1: have a good chat. We always get it right. Really,

575
00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 1: like you kind of know who your partner is without

576
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 1: even knowing you can't know your partner's like that you

577
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 1: opened the door like, yep, I was right, you know?

578
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 1: So did you wish you had like Krishaw last year?

579
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 1: Like were you a little were a little envious? And

580
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:24,320
Speaker 1: the club? I need a drink, Susie, can I please?

581
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:28,320
Speaker 1: Jenns asking me hard questions right now and I'm blushing?

582
00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:34,400
Speaker 1: What the hell? Um? Yeah, I mean how could you not?

583
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:35,960
Speaker 1: You know? I mean, you guys ended up, you know,

584
00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 1: falling in love, and how could you not? So, yeah,

585
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:43,080
Speaker 1: that could have been you know, you look at like

586
00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:48,200
Speaker 1: the artem and Nikki, so it's like that kind of

587
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 1: that would have been fun for y'all. But it played

588
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:53,319
Speaker 1: out how it was supposed to. But yeah, I could

589
00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:56,719
Speaker 1: see see the universe at the universe. I feel like

590
00:34:56,760 --> 00:35:02,360
Speaker 1: sometimes if you sometimes it works something it doesn't, you know. No,

591
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 1: I was gonna work. I want to show with my partners.

592
00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 1: I'm not like, um still I don't know. Yeah at them? Yeah.

593
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:15,279
Speaker 1: Oh you don't yell like Gleb does he? Oh? Yes,

594
00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:22,320
Speaker 1: he yells. I yelled into I. You see, we're all different.

595
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:27,640
Speaker 1: I yelled to motivate, you know, I yelled to lift

596
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 1: you like because I don't know how to yell. But

597
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 1: I just yelled to lift you, to motivate you to

598
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:36,239
Speaker 1: think like you you're the best, which you are in

599
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:38,440
Speaker 1: your in your own world, you know what I mean? So,

600
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 1: and I should I shouldn't say glad yelt He was

601
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:43,120
Speaker 1: just like he was angry. He was a little angry

602
00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 1: Russian at me speaking of you in Gleb. Are you

603
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:54,759
Speaker 1: guys teaching dance lessons? Yeah? Okay, so how can I

604
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:57,879
Speaker 1: because I forgot everything Glab taught me? So how can

605
00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 1: can people like that are listening actually do a dance class?

606
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:03,839
Speaker 1: Or is it in person only? It's in person only

607
00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:07,960
Speaker 1: because it's like the whole thing is like a Latin flavor,

608
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:12,000
Speaker 1: Latin infusion. It's more of an experience than actually, like

609
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 1: let's do it online, you know what I mean? Because

610
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 1: online you want to be there. Like there's something about

611
00:36:17,480 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 1: being on that rooftop looking at the ocean and dancing

612
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 1: in the morning. That's just that feeling I call it.

613
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:27,120
Speaker 1: I tell him all the time, like it's literally having

614
00:36:27,120 --> 00:36:30,960
Speaker 1: a party for one hour where you let go get

615
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 1: about everything else, have a party for one hour and

616
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:36,520
Speaker 1: then have your green green smoothie and go home. I

617
00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:38,960
Speaker 1: love it so what's next, what's next for you? Like,

618
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:40,880
Speaker 1: what do you what are you doing? What do you

619
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 1: want to do? What are you putting out into the

620
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 1: universe a universe? Acting? I think I want to want

621
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:54,200
Speaker 1: to be on Broadway. Broadway is Broadway is my my

622
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:56,799
Speaker 1: number one goal? Oh, I see it, I see it.

623
00:36:56,840 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 1: I feel that, sir. It's like I want to see

624
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:04,919
Speaker 1: like whatever shows like if I did you to show

625
00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:09,240
Speaker 1: the Lion King starring King on What's outside the theater?

626
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:15,680
Speaker 1: My heart? Yeah, I love that. Well everyone, let's put

627
00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:18,440
Speaker 1: that on that out into universe for you and you know,

628
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 1: dream it and I would love to. Yeah, acting, I

629
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 1: think sing. I want to sing, but not like have

630
00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 1: an album or like songs. I want to sing like

631
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:33,480
Speaker 1: on the Broadway show or a movie you know. Um,

632
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:36,560
Speaker 1: and obviously dancing, you know. But then I want to

633
00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:42,160
Speaker 1: go into a different world in business, not directing, and

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Speaker 1: I would love to same, all right, Keo. It was

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Speaker 1: great talking to you and um, I'll see you soon, okay, Batman.

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Speaker 1: I love Ko. He's always been super sweet, and I

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Speaker 1: and deal with it and just deal with it. Just

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Speaker 1: deal with things you're going through so that way you can,

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Speaker 1: you know, properly grieve. And then I think another thing

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Speaker 1: lining and all of it. Um but I love you guys,

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Speaker 1: and let's chat next week.