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Start your comeback at Purdueglobal dot edu. 28 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:29,440 Speaker 4: We're a God bless you. 29 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:32,399 Speaker 5: It's joy to come into your homes, and if you're 30 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:34,920 Speaker 5: ever in our area, please stop buy and be a 31 00:01:34,959 --> 00:01:36,320 Speaker 5: part of one of our services. 32 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:38,759 Speaker 4: I promise you will make you feel right at home. 33 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:41,920 Speaker 5: I like to start with something funny, and I heard 34 00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 5: about these three sons that left home and went out 35 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 5: and prospered. They got back together to talk about the 36 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 5: gifts they bought their elderly mother. 37 00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:52,040 Speaker 4: The first son. 38 00:01:51,920 --> 00:01:55,559 Speaker 5: Said, I built mom a big house. The second one said, 39 00:01:55,800 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 5: I got her a fancy car. The third son said, 40 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 5: since mom loves to read the Bible. 41 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:03,840 Speaker 4: But she can barely see anymore. 42 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 5: I got her a specially trained parent that can quote 43 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 5: the entire Bible. A few months later, they received a 44 00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:13,360 Speaker 5: letter from their mother. It said, Milton, the house you 45 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:14,800 Speaker 5: built me is way too big. 46 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 4: Gerald, the car you bought me is way too small. 47 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:21,840 Speaker 5: But my dearest Donald, your simple gift is my favorite. 48 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:23,360 Speaker 4: The chicken was delicious. 49 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,480 Speaker 5: Say it like you mean it. This is my Bible. 50 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:31,040 Speaker 5: I am what it says I am. I have what 51 00:02:31,080 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 5: it says I have. I can do what it says 52 00:02:33,480 --> 00:02:36,280 Speaker 5: I can do. Today I will be taught the word 53 00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:40,480 Speaker 5: of God. I'll boldly confess. My mind is alert, my 54 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 5: heart is receptive. I will never be the same. In Jesus' name, 55 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 5: God bless you. I want to talk to you today 56 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 5: about not relying on people. It's great when people believe 57 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:56,919 Speaker 5: in us, cheer us on, make us feel valuable. We 58 00:02:56,960 --> 00:03:00,320 Speaker 5: love when our spouse compliments us, a friend is there 59 00:03:00,320 --> 00:03:03,800 Speaker 5: to give encouragement, our coworker stays late to help us 60 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:07,359 Speaker 5: on a project. God uses people to help move us 61 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:09,080 Speaker 5: toward our destiny. 62 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:10,000 Speaker 4: But here's the key. 63 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 5: You can't become so dependent on people that you're getting 64 00:03:14,080 --> 00:03:16,840 Speaker 5: your worth and value. 65 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:17,359 Speaker 4: Out of how they treat you. 66 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:24,560 Speaker 5: It's easy to become addicted to compliments, addicted to encouragement, addicted. 67 00:03:24,040 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 4: To them cheering you on. 68 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:28,959 Speaker 5: Now you rely on them to keep you feeling good 69 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:32,640 Speaker 5: about yourself, to always be there to validate you, to 70 00:03:32,720 --> 00:03:36,080 Speaker 5: make you feel approved and like a drug. If they 71 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 5: don't keep you fixed meet all your expectations, you get discouraged, 72 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:45,200 Speaker 5: feel inferior. Work over time to try to win their approval. 73 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:49,400 Speaker 5: The problem is you're trying to get from people what 74 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:50,640 Speaker 5: only God can give. 75 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:52,160 Speaker 4: Your worth. 76 00:03:52,560 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 5: Your value doesn't come from another person. It comes from 77 00:03:56,840 --> 00:04:01,040 Speaker 5: your creator. If you rely on people, you'll be disappointed. 78 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:04,120 Speaker 4: People will let you down, people will. 79 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:06,120 Speaker 5: Get busy and not be there when you need it. 80 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 5: Sometimes people will even turn on you. 81 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:13,320 Speaker 4: In the scripture, Peter was Jesus's close friend. They were 82 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 4: with each other day and night. 83 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:18,600 Speaker 5: But when Jesus needed Peter the most, when he was 84 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 5: about to be crucified, Peter denied that he even knew Christ. 85 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:26,920 Speaker 5: Jesus could have been upset. God, I don't understand it. 86 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:29,599 Speaker 5: Why wasn't my friend there for me? He would have 87 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 5: missed his destiny. 88 00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 4: Quit relying on people. 89 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 5: What they do or don't do doesn't determine your worth. 90 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:41,040 Speaker 5: What they give you or don't give you cannot stop 91 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:44,840 Speaker 5: your purpose. God breathed his life into you. He has 92 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:48,479 Speaker 5: crowned you with his favor. Quit waiting for people to 93 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:53,640 Speaker 5: approve you and start approving yourself. People may not encourage you. 94 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 5: You can encourage yourself. People may not make you feel special, 95 00:04:57,760 --> 00:05:00,680 Speaker 5: you can make yourself feel special. I'm a child of 96 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 5: the most high God. I know I'm crowned with favor. 97 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 5: I'm one of a kind, I'm a masterpiece. You'll have 98 00:05:07,279 --> 00:05:10,919 Speaker 5: better relationships if you'll start validating yourself. 99 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:12,960 Speaker 4: If you're always. 100 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:17,560 Speaker 5: Depending on somebody else, you'll become needy, a burden, waiting 101 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 5: for other people to keep you fixed. Can I tell 102 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:24,800 Speaker 5: you your friends, family members, they have enough problems of 103 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 5: their own, They have enough issues that they're dealing with 104 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 5: to not come home and have to work on you 105 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 5: for three hours. That's not only hurting you, it's unfair 106 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:39,039 Speaker 5: to the people God put in your life. They're not 107 00:05:39,160 --> 00:05:43,039 Speaker 5: responsible for your happiness. They're not responsible to keep you 108 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:47,560 Speaker 5: cheered up. Don't put that extra pressure on them. Learn 109 00:05:47,680 --> 00:05:52,119 Speaker 5: to receive your value, your self worth from your heavenly Father. 110 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:55,480 Speaker 5: If you're basing that off of what people give you, 111 00:05:56,080 --> 00:05:59,160 Speaker 5: then if they change their mind, if they stop doing it, 112 00:05:59,520 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 5: you'll feel devalued. But when you go to God for it, 113 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 5: nobody can take it away. It's not dependent on how 114 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:09,600 Speaker 5: somebody treats you, how they make you feel how many. 115 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:10,520 Speaker 4: Compliments they give you. 116 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:14,039 Speaker 5: It's dependent on the fact that you're a child of 117 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 5: Almighty God, and you know he has already approved you. 118 00:06:17,880 --> 00:06:20,120 Speaker 5: That's where you're getting your value. 119 00:06:20,200 --> 00:06:21,160 Speaker 4: Well, Joel, my. 120 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 5: Parents didn't raise me right, I didn't have a good childhood. 121 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:28,680 Speaker 5: Or my spouse never compliments me. My boss didn't give 122 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:31,760 Speaker 5: me the credit that I deserve. I say this respectfully. 123 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:35,480 Speaker 4: If you didn't get it, you didn't need it. They 124 00:06:35,480 --> 00:06:36,839 Speaker 4: can't stop your destiny. 125 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:41,280 Speaker 5: What they say or do cannot override God's plan for 126 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:42,040 Speaker 5: your life. 127 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:43,840 Speaker 4: Shake off the negativity. 128 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:49,080 Speaker 5: That person that walked away did you wrong, made hurtful comments, 129 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:53,160 Speaker 5: Shake off the disrespect. Don't believe the lies that you're 130 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:57,600 Speaker 5: not talented enough, attractive enough, good enough. They don't determine 131 00:06:57,640 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 5: your value. They can't lessen your self worth. The only 132 00:07:01,960 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 5: power people have over you is the power that you 133 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 5: give them. Jesus had all kinds of people come against him, politicians, 134 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:15,280 Speaker 5: religious leaders, haters, critics trying to discredit him, make him 135 00:07:15,280 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 5: feel inferior, cause him to give up. He could have 136 00:07:18,880 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 5: taken debit, thought I must not be too special. Listen 137 00:07:22,640 --> 00:07:25,000 Speaker 5: to what they're saying. Look at how they're treating me. 138 00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:30,200 Speaker 5: But Jesus understood this principle. He knew his value didn't 139 00:07:30,240 --> 00:07:31,120 Speaker 5: come from people. 140 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:33,120 Speaker 4: It came from his heavenly father. 141 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:37,200 Speaker 5: He said to them in John chapter five, your approval 142 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:39,560 Speaker 5: or disapproval. 143 00:07:38,960 --> 00:07:42,600 Speaker 4: Means nothing to me. He was saying, I don't need 144 00:07:42,640 --> 00:07:44,760 Speaker 4: your approval to feel good about myself. 145 00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:48,360 Speaker 5: I don't have to have your encouragement, your support to 146 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:52,320 Speaker 5: keep me moving forward. Paul said it this way in Philippians. 147 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 4: I am self sufficient. 148 00:07:54,800 --> 00:07:59,240 Speaker 5: In Christ's sufficiency, not in our own strength. But when 149 00:07:59,280 --> 00:08:02,800 Speaker 5: we know the creator of the universe lives in us. 150 00:08:03,400 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 5: He's equipped us, empowered us, anointed us, we can put 151 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 5: our shoulders back, hold our head up high, knowing that 152 00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:14,120 Speaker 5: if God approves us, we don't have to have people's approval. 153 00:08:14,880 --> 00:08:17,680 Speaker 5: And this good when people encourage us, when they cheer 154 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:21,680 Speaker 5: us on. What I'm saying is, don't become dependent on that. 155 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:25,840 Speaker 5: If somebody's not given you what you expect, they're not 156 00:08:26,080 --> 00:08:30,200 Speaker 5: validating you. That's okay. You can validate yourself. You can 157 00:08:30,240 --> 00:08:31,280 Speaker 5: approve yourself. 158 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:34,479 Speaker 4: You are self sufficient in Christ's sufficiency. 159 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 5: You can feel good about who you are knowing that 160 00:08:37,960 --> 00:08:41,640 Speaker 5: God hand picked you, created you in his image, put 161 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:44,240 Speaker 5: seeds of greatness on the inside. 162 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:45,240 Speaker 4: What am I saying? 163 00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:49,400 Speaker 5: You don't need somebody else's praise. You don't have to 164 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 5: have people's applause. You have the applause from the one 165 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 5: who matters most, from the God who spoke worlds into existence. 166 00:08:57,240 --> 00:09:00,920 Speaker 5: I'd rather have his applause than people's applause. Well, if 167 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 5: I could convince this person to like me, they know 168 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:07,040 Speaker 5: a lot of people, then maybe some new doors would open. 169 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:11,359 Speaker 5: The scripture says promotion doesn't come from people. 170 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:14,840 Speaker 4: It comes from the Lord. God knows where all the 171 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:16,000 Speaker 4: opportunities are. 172 00:09:16,679 --> 00:09:19,839 Speaker 5: He can make things happen for you without you having 173 00:09:19,880 --> 00:09:23,240 Speaker 5: to convince somebody to like you. You don't have to 174 00:09:23,280 --> 00:09:26,079 Speaker 5: play up to people try to win their favor. 175 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:28,800 Speaker 4: If they don't want to be your friend, it's their 176 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 4: loss and not yours. 177 00:09:30,360 --> 00:09:32,760 Speaker 5: Do yourself a favor and keep moving forward. 178 00:09:33,040 --> 00:09:34,560 Speaker 4: They're not a part of your destiny. 179 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:39,960 Speaker 5: God has divine connections people. He's already lined up. They're 180 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:44,360 Speaker 5: already in your future. Sometimes the reason people don't give 181 00:09:44,440 --> 00:09:46,679 Speaker 5: us what we need is because. 182 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:47,160 Speaker 4: They don't have it. 183 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:50,760 Speaker 5: Nobody gave it to them. They didn't see it modeled 184 00:09:50,760 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 5: growing up. 185 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 4: If they weren't. 186 00:09:52,800 --> 00:09:57,440 Speaker 5: Raised showing affection with people expressing feelings, being good to 187 00:09:57,480 --> 00:09:57,960 Speaker 5: each other. 188 00:09:58,520 --> 00:10:00,920 Speaker 4: The problem is that don't have it to give. 189 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:04,360 Speaker 5: If you're trying to get it from them, you're going 190 00:10:04,440 --> 00:10:07,360 Speaker 5: to be frustrated. Why don't you let them off the 191 00:10:07,400 --> 00:10:10,079 Speaker 5: hook and go to God for what they can't give you. 192 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:12,000 Speaker 4: Here's the key. God has it all. 193 00:10:12,679 --> 00:10:16,079 Speaker 5: If you'll learn this principle to not rely on people, 194 00:10:16,559 --> 00:10:19,920 Speaker 5: but to go to Him for your encouragement, for your approval, 195 00:10:20,200 --> 00:10:23,520 Speaker 5: for your self worth, then you want live stressed out 196 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:27,560 Speaker 5: because somebody is not giving you what you expect. If 197 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:29,320 Speaker 5: nobody's complimenting. 198 00:10:28,760 --> 00:10:31,720 Speaker 4: You, you can compliment yourself. Get up in the morning, 199 00:10:31,720 --> 00:10:33,880 Speaker 4: look at yourself in the mirror, good morning, you good 200 00:10:33,920 --> 00:10:38,439 Speaker 4: looking thing. Call it by faith. God calls you a masterpiece. 201 00:10:39,360 --> 00:10:40,839 Speaker 4: Say what God says about you. 202 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:43,480 Speaker 5: I'm strong, I'm healthy, I'm one of a kind, I'm 203 00:10:43,600 --> 00:10:49,360 Speaker 5: highly favored. You have to build yourself up, encourage yourself, 204 00:10:49,880 --> 00:10:54,680 Speaker 5: compliment yourself. You cannot rely on your spouse, your parents, 205 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:55,520 Speaker 5: your coach. 206 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:56,400 Speaker 4: Your teacher, your pastor. 207 00:10:56,640 --> 00:11:00,520 Speaker 5: They may mean well, they couldn't love you anymore, but 208 00:11:00,640 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 5: no person can meet all of your needs. 209 00:11:03,600 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 4: Only God can. 210 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:09,120 Speaker 5: If you're just looking to people, eventually you're going to 211 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:14,040 Speaker 5: become resentful, bitter, start holding that against them, it will. 212 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:17,960 Speaker 4: Sour the relationship. And the truth is it's not their fault. 213 00:11:18,679 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 5: Maybe they have issues, they could be doing better in areas. 214 00:11:22,080 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 5: But if you'll not rely on people instead go to God, 215 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:30,000 Speaker 5: then you won't be dependent on what somebody does. If 216 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:32,599 Speaker 5: they're not giving you what you need and that was 217 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:35,800 Speaker 5: the only way to get it, they would control your destiny. 218 00:11:36,640 --> 00:11:39,480 Speaker 5: God didn't design the plan for your life and say, Okay, 219 00:11:39,480 --> 00:11:42,520 Speaker 5: it's all dependent on if these other people do what's right, 220 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:45,160 Speaker 5: if they encourage you, if they cheer you on, if 221 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:48,640 Speaker 5: they never let you down, or God put everything. 222 00:11:48,120 --> 00:11:51,079 Speaker 4: You need within your power, and. 223 00:11:51,040 --> 00:11:53,120 Speaker 5: Instead of us live in needy. Oh man, why don't 224 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:56,080 Speaker 5: they compliment me? Why won't they be my friend? The 225 00:11:56,200 --> 00:12:00,560 Speaker 5: right attitude is nobody owes me anything. I don't have 226 00:12:00,640 --> 00:12:03,560 Speaker 5: to have people's credit, their applause, their support. 227 00:12:03,320 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 4: Their compliments. I am self sufficient. 228 00:12:06,240 --> 00:12:08,720 Speaker 5: I know where to go for everything that I need. 229 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:13,320 Speaker 5: My father was raised very poor on a cotton farm 230 00:12:13,480 --> 00:12:17,319 Speaker 5: during the Great Depression. He didn't have enough food, hardly 231 00:12:17,360 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 5: any clothes, a limited education. It was a very rough childhood. 232 00:12:22,760 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 5: At the age of seventeen, my dad gave his life 233 00:12:25,200 --> 00:12:27,839 Speaker 5: to Christ, and he left the farm and went out 234 00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 5: and started ministring. Years later, when he was in his 235 00:12:31,840 --> 00:12:36,120 Speaker 5: forties and had become a successful minister, he started thinking 236 00:12:36,160 --> 00:12:39,040 Speaker 5: about how he was raised and all the things he 237 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 5: had to endure. He wondered why his parents didn't give 238 00:12:43,480 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 5: him a better childhood, and why he had to go 239 00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:49,880 Speaker 5: without food and without a good education. All these negative 240 00:12:49,960 --> 00:12:53,480 Speaker 5: memories filled his mind and he started thinking, Ah. 241 00:12:53,280 --> 00:12:54,040 Speaker 4: That wasn't right. 242 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:57,040 Speaker 5: They should have done better. They didn't give me what 243 00:12:57,200 --> 00:13:00,560 Speaker 5: I needed. He got so stirred up about it. He 244 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:04,080 Speaker 5: was about to travel back to his parents' hometown and 245 00:13:04,240 --> 00:13:08,320 Speaker 5: confront his parents and tell them what he thought. Just 246 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:11,920 Speaker 5: before he left, he heard something on the inside saying 247 00:13:12,559 --> 00:13:15,559 Speaker 5: they did you wrong, didn't they? He said, yeah, they 248 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:19,439 Speaker 5: sure did. It said it wasn't fair, was it. They 249 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:21,680 Speaker 5: didn't give you what you needed. He answered, no, it 250 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:24,080 Speaker 5: wasn't fair. You're gonna let them have it? Yeah, I'm 251 00:13:24,080 --> 00:13:27,400 Speaker 5: gonna let them have it. Then the boy said, how 252 00:13:27,400 --> 00:13:29,960 Speaker 5: do you think you would have done if you would 253 00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:33,360 Speaker 5: have been in their shoes, with no income, with the 254 00:13:33,440 --> 00:13:37,120 Speaker 5: banks closing, with nobody to buy the cotton, with six 255 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:41,520 Speaker 5: children to raise, no electricity, no washing machines, no modern 256 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:46,840 Speaker 5: day conveniences. That conversation changed my father's perspective. 257 00:13:47,240 --> 00:13:50,960 Speaker 4: He realized his parents did the best they could with 258 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:54,320 Speaker 4: what they had. They couldn't give him what they didn't have. 259 00:13:55,800 --> 00:13:58,680 Speaker 4: Why don't you let the people in your life off 260 00:13:58,720 --> 00:14:01,600 Speaker 4: the hook. They did the best they could. 261 00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:05,400 Speaker 5: They may have made decisions that you don't understand. Feels 262 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:08,280 Speaker 5: like it puts you at a disadvantage, but you didn't 263 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:12,040 Speaker 5: have to walk in their shoes. Maybe nobody gave them 264 00:14:12,200 --> 00:14:15,600 Speaker 5: what they needed to give to you. Bottom line, nobody 265 00:14:15,640 --> 00:14:19,120 Speaker 5: owes you anything. God is keeping all the records. 266 00:14:19,440 --> 00:14:21,200 Speaker 4: He has seen everything. 267 00:14:20,840 --> 00:14:25,760 Speaker 5: That's happened in your life, the injustice, the bad breaks, 268 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:30,320 Speaker 5: the person that did you wrong. Those people cannot pay 269 00:14:30,360 --> 00:14:34,280 Speaker 5: you back. They cannot make your whole. Only God can. 270 00:14:35,120 --> 00:14:37,760 Speaker 4: He said he would give you beauty for the ashes. 271 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:40,880 Speaker 5: He would pay you back double for the unfair things 272 00:14:40,920 --> 00:14:43,880 Speaker 5: that have happened. Quit looking to people to make it 273 00:14:43,960 --> 00:14:47,320 Speaker 5: up to you. Quit trying to get somebody to apologize, 274 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:50,680 Speaker 5: to admit they were wrong, to give you what they 275 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:53,880 Speaker 5: don't have. If you'll go to God, he'll bring you 276 00:14:53,920 --> 00:14:56,840 Speaker 5: out better. He'll make the rest of your life more 277 00:14:56,920 --> 00:15:00,080 Speaker 5: rewarding more fulfilling than it would have been if that 278 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:01,600 Speaker 5: hadn't have happened in the first place. 279 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:04,440 Speaker 4: And that's what my father did. He let it go. 280 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:08,440 Speaker 4: He realized his parents couldn't give him what they didn't have. 281 00:15:09,080 --> 00:15:12,200 Speaker 5: Daddy went on to live a blessed, prosperous, successful life. 282 00:15:12,920 --> 00:15:15,800 Speaker 5: And when you let people off the hook and quit 283 00:15:15,880 --> 00:15:19,520 Speaker 5: trying to make them perform perfectly and keep you fixed, 284 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:23,960 Speaker 5: not only would their life be better, but your relationships 285 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:28,080 Speaker 5: will improve. No matter how good of a person is, 286 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:32,600 Speaker 5: they can't give you everything that you need. I realize 287 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:35,960 Speaker 5: I can't meet everyone of Victoria's needs. I can do 288 00:15:36,040 --> 00:15:40,320 Speaker 5: my best. I can compliment her, encourage her, treat her 289 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:41,440 Speaker 5: with respect. 290 00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:42,960 Speaker 4: But I'm human. 291 00:15:43,600 --> 00:15:47,320 Speaker 5: I have flaws, shortcomings. If she just looks to me, 292 00:15:47,840 --> 00:15:51,120 Speaker 5: she'll be disappointed. But if you'll look to God, you'll 293 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:58,640 Speaker 5: never be disappointed. No person has one hundred percent. I've 294 00:15:58,640 --> 00:16:01,520 Speaker 5: heard it said in a real life relationship, the most 295 00:16:01,600 --> 00:16:05,320 Speaker 5: the other person will have is eighty percent what you need. 296 00:16:06,040 --> 00:16:09,280 Speaker 5: There will always be twenty percent that they don't have 297 00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:09,960 Speaker 5: to give you. 298 00:16:10,680 --> 00:16:13,880 Speaker 4: The mistake we make is we leave the eighty to. 299 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:17,360 Speaker 5: Go find the twenty in somebody else. The problem is 300 00:16:17,760 --> 00:16:21,160 Speaker 5: that next person will be missing twenty percent as well. 301 00:16:22,200 --> 00:16:24,080 Speaker 5: I know some of you thinking, Joel, my wife is 302 00:16:24,120 --> 00:16:27,840 Speaker 5: missing a lot more than twenty percent. Think of it 303 00:16:27,840 --> 00:16:30,720 Speaker 5: this way. If she had more, she wouldn't have married you. 304 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:39,080 Speaker 5: I'm thinking with the ladies, part of the twenty percent 305 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:42,760 Speaker 5: that I'm missing that Victoria needs is I don't like 306 00:16:42,840 --> 00:16:45,200 Speaker 5: to talk a lot. You see me up here and 307 00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:49,400 Speaker 5: I seem outgoing, but in private, I'm more quiet and reserved. 308 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:52,760 Speaker 5: Small talk is not one of my favorite things. And yes, 309 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:55,080 Speaker 5: at home we talk and laugh and have fun together. 310 00:16:55,200 --> 00:16:58,160 Speaker 5: But Victoria and her family they can talk for hours. 311 00:16:58,200 --> 00:16:59,360 Speaker 4: They enjoy each other. 312 00:17:00,880 --> 00:17:02,920 Speaker 5: We were having lunch one time at our house with 313 00:17:03,160 --> 00:17:06,120 Speaker 5: all of her family, and you know, after about thirty minutes, 314 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:09,280 Speaker 5: when I'd finished eating, I asked to be excused and 315 00:17:09,680 --> 00:17:12,120 Speaker 5: I went to the back and watched the football game. 316 00:17:12,760 --> 00:17:15,479 Speaker 5: Three and a half hours later, I came back and 317 00:17:15,520 --> 00:17:17,119 Speaker 5: they were still sitting at the table. 318 00:17:17,240 --> 00:17:19,520 Speaker 4: Nobody had moved. I was so amazed. 319 00:17:19,680 --> 00:17:22,480 Speaker 5: I asked them, did y'all go somewhere? Victoria said no, 320 00:17:22,720 --> 00:17:24,840 Speaker 5: we didn't go anywhere. I said, what are you talking about? 321 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:26,040 Speaker 5: Victoria said nothing. 322 00:17:28,320 --> 00:17:31,000 Speaker 4: They talk about nothing longer than anybody I know. But 323 00:17:32,440 --> 00:17:34,040 Speaker 4: the key to a good. 324 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:39,800 Speaker 5: Relationship is to recognize the other person's strengths and weaknesses, 325 00:17:40,440 --> 00:17:43,880 Speaker 5: then give them room to be who they are. Don't 326 00:17:43,880 --> 00:17:46,840 Speaker 5: try to squeeze them into your mold. What I appreciate 327 00:17:46,880 --> 00:17:49,520 Speaker 5: about Victorious she doesn't say, Joe'll come in here and 328 00:17:49,560 --> 00:17:50,560 Speaker 5: visit with us for three and. 329 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:53,080 Speaker 4: A half hours. I'll get upset, I'll give you the 330 00:17:53,080 --> 00:17:53,679 Speaker 4: cold shoulder. 331 00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:56,960 Speaker 5: She recognizes that's a part of the twenty percent that 332 00:17:57,000 --> 00:17:59,480 Speaker 5: I don't have. I thank God every day that I 333 00:17:59,480 --> 00:18:05,639 Speaker 5: didn't get it. But Victoria, she doesn't try to squeeze 334 00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:08,960 Speaker 5: me into her mold, and even more importantly, she doesn't 335 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:11,480 Speaker 5: try to get something from me that I don't have. 336 00:18:12,440 --> 00:18:15,760 Speaker 5: If you're relying on another person to meet all your 337 00:18:15,880 --> 00:18:18,200 Speaker 5: needs and become everything in your. 338 00:18:18,119 --> 00:18:21,200 Speaker 4: Life, you're going to be disappointed. You have to let 339 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:22,119 Speaker 4: them off the hook. 340 00:18:23,119 --> 00:18:26,760 Speaker 5: Sometimes God will let us go through seasons where we're 341 00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:30,840 Speaker 5: not getting what we expect from people. On purpose, He'll 342 00:18:30,880 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 5: have them withhold it to teach us to not rely 343 00:18:34,280 --> 00:18:37,720 Speaker 5: on another person, but to get our encouragement, our value, 344 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:41,200 Speaker 5: our worth from Him. And when I first started ministering 345 00:18:41,640 --> 00:18:45,120 Speaker 5: back in nineteen ninety nine, I was very insecure, very 346 00:18:45,240 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 5: unsure of myself. 347 00:18:46,359 --> 00:18:47,160 Speaker 4: I'd never done it. 348 00:18:47,800 --> 00:18:49,760 Speaker 5: My dad had that heart attack and went to be 349 00:18:49,880 --> 00:18:51,520 Speaker 5: with the Lord, and I. 350 00:18:51,440 --> 00:18:54,119 Speaker 4: Stepped up to pastor the church. Now I was so 351 00:18:54,280 --> 00:18:57,600 Speaker 4: concerned about what people thought and was I doing it 352 00:18:57,640 --> 00:18:58,160 Speaker 4: good enough? 353 00:18:58,200 --> 00:19:01,480 Speaker 5: Were they going to accept me after the services when 354 00:19:01,520 --> 00:19:04,640 Speaker 5: I talk with visitors and different people. I lived off 355 00:19:04,640 --> 00:19:08,159 Speaker 5: of people's compliments. Joel, that was good today. I really 356 00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:12,960 Speaker 5: enjoyed it. Those comments were like water to a thirsty soul. 357 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:16,280 Speaker 5: Now it's getting my approval, my validation from people, and 358 00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:19,040 Speaker 5: you know, God uses that to keep us going, keep 359 00:19:19,119 --> 00:19:19,639 Speaker 5: us moving. 360 00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:22,200 Speaker 4: But at some point, like a. 361 00:19:22,200 --> 00:19:25,880 Speaker 5: Mother weans a baby off a bottle so the child 362 00:19:25,960 --> 00:19:28,920 Speaker 5: can grow up, God is going to wean you off 363 00:19:29,320 --> 00:19:33,400 Speaker 5: having to have people's compliments. People's applause doesn't mean it's 364 00:19:33,440 --> 00:19:36,320 Speaker 5: never going to happen. It means you're going to get 365 00:19:36,359 --> 00:19:39,880 Speaker 5: to a place where you're not dependent on someone else 366 00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:43,000 Speaker 5: cheering you on so you can feel good about yourself. 367 00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:47,360 Speaker 5: You're not dependent on them complimenting you and keeping you encouraged. 368 00:19:47,680 --> 00:19:52,959 Speaker 5: It's nice to hear, but you've developed this self sufficiency. 369 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:56,000 Speaker 5: You don't rely on people for their approval. You go 370 00:19:56,080 --> 00:20:00,280 Speaker 5: to God for your approval. The first year that I 371 00:20:00,359 --> 00:20:03,479 Speaker 5: started ministering at Lakewood, every time I got up to speak, 372 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:07,600 Speaker 5: people would cheer for me. They were very encouraging, very loyal, 373 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:11,520 Speaker 5: and supportive. Every time I walked off the platform, Victoria 374 00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:13,439 Speaker 5: would say, Joe, that was amazing today. 375 00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:16,399 Speaker 4: You did so good. Could have been the worst message 376 00:20:16,400 --> 00:20:16,959 Speaker 4: in the world. 377 00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:19,359 Speaker 5: I could always count on her to tell me it 378 00:20:19,440 --> 00:20:19,840 Speaker 5: was good. 379 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:22,600 Speaker 4: Now, I know sometimes she was lying, but I needed 380 00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:23,120 Speaker 4: it back then. 381 00:20:25,359 --> 00:20:28,480 Speaker 5: One day I just finished my message about a year 382 00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:31,880 Speaker 5: in and I walked off the platform, and Victoria didn't 383 00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:32,480 Speaker 5: say a word. 384 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:35,639 Speaker 4: I stood there and waited and waited. 385 00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:37,240 Speaker 5: Gave her plenty of opportunities. 386 00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:38,000 Speaker 4: Still nothing. 387 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:41,240 Speaker 5: I thought, well, she just preoccupied thinking about something else. 388 00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:43,880 Speaker 5: I went out to visit with the visitors and talk 389 00:20:43,960 --> 00:20:48,640 Speaker 5: with different people. Not one person complimented me on my sermon. 390 00:20:49,040 --> 00:20:52,560 Speaker 5: Usually every other person says something just being polite. I 391 00:20:52,600 --> 00:20:54,960 Speaker 5: thought they were playing a trick on me. I left 392 00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:58,960 Speaker 5: there so discouraged. I got home. My little dog can 393 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:00,159 Speaker 5: hear our car coming in. 394 00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:03,359 Speaker 4: She's always at the back door, so happy to see me, 395 00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:06,200 Speaker 4: jumping up on me. I opened the door. My dog 396 00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:10,960 Speaker 4: wasn't even there. I walked over. She was in her bed. 397 00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:14,360 Speaker 5: She looked up at me, barely opened her eyes, like, oh, 398 00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:15,120 Speaker 5: it's just you. 399 00:21:15,320 --> 00:21:17,159 Speaker 4: Close your eyes, went back to sleep. 400 00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:20,919 Speaker 5: God will use your dog given to work on you. 401 00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:27,239 Speaker 5: Looking back now, I realize God was teaching me to 402 00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:28,200 Speaker 5: not rely. 403 00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:29,920 Speaker 4: On what people think to. 404 00:21:29,960 --> 00:21:33,520 Speaker 5: Have to have their applause and their approval. If I 405 00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:36,600 Speaker 5: had not learned that back then, I wouldn't be standing 406 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:40,360 Speaker 5: here today. Because the higher God takes you, there will 407 00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:44,480 Speaker 5: be more disapproval, more opposition, more critics. If you're basing 408 00:21:45,119 --> 00:21:50,200 Speaker 5: your work and value on how people are treating you 409 00:21:50,240 --> 00:21:52,840 Speaker 5: and how much they're cheering you on, and you're trying 410 00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:56,480 Speaker 5: to keep all of them happy, you'll never become everything 411 00:21:56,560 --> 00:21:59,959 Speaker 5: God created you to be. In those early years, if 412 00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:03,160 Speaker 5: I heard one negative comment, it ruined my whole Sunday. 413 00:22:03,640 --> 00:22:06,320 Speaker 5: I'd go home discourage, thinking that I didn't do good enough. 414 00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:10,040 Speaker 5: But now that I've been weaned off that bottle, so 415 00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:12,760 Speaker 5: to speak, if I hear something negative. 416 00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:13,280 Speaker 4: Doesn't bother me. 417 00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:17,040 Speaker 5: I realize, as long as I'm doing my best honoring God, 418 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:19,160 Speaker 5: I don't have to have people's approval. 419 00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:20,800 Speaker 4: I have al Mighty God's approval. 420 00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:26,720 Speaker 5: Here's the thing you're never going to keep everyone happy. 421 00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:29,560 Speaker 4: Quit trying to please people. 422 00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:32,199 Speaker 5: When you come to the end of your life, you 423 00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:35,200 Speaker 5: are not going to stand before people and give an account. 424 00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:38,119 Speaker 5: You're going to stand before God. He's not going to 425 00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:40,959 Speaker 5: say did you keep everyone happy? Did you please all 426 00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:44,040 Speaker 5: your family? Did you have the support from your coworkers. 427 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:47,720 Speaker 5: He's going to ask, did you fulfill my purpose for 428 00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:48,400 Speaker 5: your life? 429 00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:52,040 Speaker 4: Did you run your race? Did you finish your assignment? 430 00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:56,679 Speaker 5: Maybe, like with me, you're not getting from people what 431 00:22:56,800 --> 00:23:00,600 Speaker 5: you used to, the compliments, the support, the encouragement. Instead 432 00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:03,400 Speaker 5: of being frustrated, have a new perspective. 433 00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:05,040 Speaker 4: God is growing you up. 434 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:08,960 Speaker 5: He's getting you prepared for the next level of your destiny. 435 00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:14,200 Speaker 5: The less you depend on people, the stronger your spiritual muscles. 436 00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:16,159 Speaker 4: Are going to become, and the higher you're going to go. 437 00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:21,640 Speaker 5: In Judges chapter seven, the Midianites joined forces with two 438 00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:24,640 Speaker 5: other armies that crossed the Jordan. 439 00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:26,960 Speaker 4: River and were about to attack the Israelites. 440 00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:29,880 Speaker 5: Gideon put out a call to all of his men. 441 00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:32,159 Speaker 5: Thirty two thousand. 442 00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:36,200 Speaker 4: Israeli warriors showed up ready to fight. Gideon was feeling good. 443 00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:40,119 Speaker 5: He had a large army to protect the people of Israel. 444 00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:43,720 Speaker 5: They marched out toward those enemies. But God said to 445 00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:47,479 Speaker 5: him in verse two, Gideon, you have too many people 446 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:47,879 Speaker 5: with you. 447 00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:51,280 Speaker 4: If you win the battle, you'll think you did it 448 00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:52,440 Speaker 4: in your own strength. 449 00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:57,160 Speaker 5: God instructed him to tell everyone that wanted to leave, 450 00:23:57,320 --> 00:24:00,800 Speaker 5: anyone that was afraid they could go back home. Twenty 451 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:04,680 Speaker 5: two thousand men turned around and left. He lost two 452 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:09,600 Speaker 5: thirds of his army. I'm sure Gideon gulped and said, God, 453 00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:11,320 Speaker 5: did you see what just happened. 454 00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:13,080 Speaker 4: God said, yes, I saw it. 455 00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:17,240 Speaker 5: But Gideon, you still have too many people. And God 456 00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:21,359 Speaker 5: told Gideon to take those remaining ten thousand men down 457 00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:24,280 Speaker 5: to get a drink. He was to divide them into 458 00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:27,520 Speaker 5: two groups. Every man that put his mouth to the 459 00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:30,840 Speaker 5: water and drank that was one group. The second group 460 00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:33,720 Speaker 5: was the men who cupped their hands and brought the 461 00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:38,560 Speaker 5: water to their mouth. Nine thousand, seven hundred men put 462 00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:39,240 Speaker 5: their mouth. 463 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:41,520 Speaker 4: To the water. That was the group that was to 464 00:24:41,520 --> 00:24:42,040 Speaker 4: go home. 465 00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:46,199 Speaker 5: Only three hundred men drank it the other way. His 466 00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:49,640 Speaker 5: army went from thirty two thousand to three hundred. 467 00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:52,440 Speaker 4: I can imagine Gideon. 468 00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:55,679 Speaker 5: Thought God, I was confident with thirty two thousand, I 469 00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:58,320 Speaker 5: was a little worried with ten thousand, But God, three 470 00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:03,399 Speaker 5: hundred men, this is impossible. God was saying, Gideon, you 471 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:06,240 Speaker 5: don't need everyone that you think you need. 472 00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:10,560 Speaker 4: You're depending on too many people. God is saying that 473 00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:11,080 Speaker 4: to us. 474 00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:15,120 Speaker 5: You don't need all of your coworkers to support you. 475 00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:17,600 Speaker 5: You don't have to have all your friends and family 476 00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:18,679 Speaker 5: members cheering you on. 477 00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:19,640 Speaker 4: Here's the key. 478 00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:24,000 Speaker 5: The less you depend on people, the greater the anointing 479 00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:24,760 Speaker 5: in your life. 480 00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:28,159 Speaker 4: When you're not depending on someone. 481 00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:32,080 Speaker 5: Else hoping that they'll help you, thinking that they're the savior, 482 00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:35,399 Speaker 5: then God will release his favor in your life in 483 00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,960 Speaker 5: a greater way. Gideon went out with those three hundred 484 00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:43,760 Speaker 5: men one percent of what he started with. God supernaturally 485 00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:47,080 Speaker 5: helped them to defeat those armies that were much bigger 486 00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:51,240 Speaker 5: and much more equipped. In the same way, God is 487 00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:54,440 Speaker 5: going to give you victories where the odds were totally 488 00:25:54,480 --> 00:25:58,160 Speaker 5: against you. You know, you could accomplish your goal if 489 00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:02,480 Speaker 5: you had the support, the connect You could overcome that obstacle. 490 00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:05,840 Speaker 5: If you had the strongest players, the best people on 491 00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:09,120 Speaker 5: your legal team. God is saying, don't worry about it. 492 00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:12,560 Speaker 5: You don't have to have all those people. You and 493 00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:16,320 Speaker 5: God are a majority the forces that are for you 494 00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:19,560 Speaker 5: are greater than the forces that are against you. Now, 495 00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:22,719 Speaker 5: quit saying, oh, if they just train me, if they 496 00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:26,320 Speaker 5: just get behind me. If you'll quit depending on people, 497 00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:30,040 Speaker 5: the anointing will increase in your own life. You'll accomplish 498 00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:33,840 Speaker 5: more with less help, with less people because of God's 499 00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:38,080 Speaker 5: favor on your life. Are you frustrated because you don't 500 00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:41,359 Speaker 5: think you have enough support? Have this new perspective. 501 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:45,000 Speaker 4: The greatest force in the universe is breathing in. 502 00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:49,160 Speaker 5: Your direction right now. Are you discouraged because people are 503 00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:52,399 Speaker 5: not giving you what they used to. It's because God's 504 00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:56,440 Speaker 5: growing you up. Quit trying to get from people what only. 505 00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:56,880 Speaker 4: God can give. 506 00:26:57,400 --> 00:26:59,840 Speaker 5: Go to Him for your value, your self worth, for 507 00:26:59,840 --> 00:27:04,640 Speaker 5: your encouragement. If you'll start passing these tests, not relying 508 00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:08,680 Speaker 5: on people, you'll not only live more confident, more secure, 509 00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:12,960 Speaker 5: but I believe and declare, like Gideon, You're going to 510 00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:18,680 Speaker 5: overcome obstacles that looked insurmountable, accomplish dreams that seemed impossible, 511 00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:22,520 Speaker 5: and reached the fullness of your destiny in Jesus' name, 512 00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:23,159 Speaker 5: If you. 513 00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:25,000 Speaker 4: Receive it, can you say it then? Today? 514 00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:30,000 Speaker 5: We never like to close our broadcasts without giving you 515 00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:33,080 Speaker 5: an opportunity to make Jesus the lord of your life. 516 00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:38,000 Speaker 5: Would you pray with me, Just say, Lord Jesus, I'll 517 00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:39,200 Speaker 5: repent of my sins. 518 00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:46,480 Speaker 4: Come into my heart. I make you my Lord and savior. Friends, 519 00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:49,200 Speaker 4: if you prayed that simple prayer, we believe you got 520 00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:49,840 Speaker 4: born again. 521 00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:53,720 Speaker 5: Get in a good Bible based church. Keep God first place. 522 00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:56,520 Speaker 5: He's going to take your places that you've never dreamed. 523 00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,879 Speaker 6: As a thank you for your support department this month, 524 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,480 Speaker 6: Joel and Victoria, we'd like to send you a copy 525 00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:07,680 Speaker 6: of Joel's new three message series, Victory in the Storm. 526 00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:10,720 Speaker 6: In this new series, you learn you don't have to 527 00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:13,480 Speaker 6: stay stuck in defeat when the winds and storms come. 528 00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:16,840 Speaker 6: You have the power to stay strong regardless of what 529 00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:19,800 Speaker 6: comes against you. Request your copy of Victory in the 530 00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:23,800 Speaker 6: Storm today at Joeloustein dot com or call eight eight 531 00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:25,119 Speaker 6: eight five six seven. 532 00:28:25,359 --> 00:28:29,720 Speaker 7: Joel, we can't control everything that happens to us, but 533 00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:33,240 Speaker 7: we can't control how we respond in difficult times. We 534 00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:35,760 Speaker 7: don't have to get upset. We can stay in peace 535 00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:39,240 Speaker 7: knowing that God promised all things are going to work 536 00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:40,120 Speaker 7: out for our good. 537 00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:43,200 Speaker 5: That difficulty is not going to defeat you. It's going 538 00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:46,320 Speaker 5: to promote you request this resource. It will help you 539 00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:49,040 Speaker 5: live the victorious life that belongs to you. 540 00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:52,800 Speaker 8: Several years ago, I was diagnosed with what's called a goiter, 541 00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:56,000 Speaker 8: that's an extremely enlarged thyroid. It was the size of 542 00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:58,720 Speaker 8: both of my surgeon's fists. I had to have surgery 543 00:28:58,720 --> 00:29:01,520 Speaker 8: in a tobat never sing again, and I felt hopeless. 544 00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:04,040 Speaker 8: But you know what this ministry teaches us that we're 545 00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:06,920 Speaker 8: never victims, but we are always victors, and that is 546 00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:08,760 Speaker 8: what gave me the hope and the faith to be 547 00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:15,320 Speaker 8: able to press on God. I have that surgery, but 548 00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:18,440 Speaker 8: now I'm singing like I could before, and my life 549 00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:19,440 Speaker 8: has never been the same. 550 00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:23,240 Speaker 5: Your support is changing lives. Thank you so much for 551 00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:26,600 Speaker 5: your prayer and your generosity. If you'd like to partner 552 00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:28,680 Speaker 5: with us to take hope around the world, we'd love 553 00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:30,560 Speaker 5: to have you do it. Go to the website and 554 00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:32,560 Speaker 5: find out how Victory and I. 555 00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:34,480 Speaker 4: Pray for you and your family. Every day. 556 00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:37,480 Speaker 5: Twenty seventeen is going to be a blessed fear for you. 557 00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:41,640 Speaker 5: Keep believing, keep expecting. 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