1 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your go Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,320 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 1: What are the cases I want to hear from you? 8 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: Remember these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're 9 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:42,599 Speaker 1: suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help 10 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,600 Speaker 1: from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and 11 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 1: leave your question at the sound of the beeB. 12 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:49,919 Speaker 2: Heye Cheeky's. 13 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:52,440 Speaker 3: So, me and my boyfriend of two and a half 14 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:55,600 Speaker 3: years recently got engaged about a month ago, so of 15 00:00:55,640 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 3: course we started planning our wedding, what kind of ceremony, recept, 16 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 3: where we're going to have it, all that fun stuff, 17 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 3: and we decided that we did not want to get 18 00:01:08,280 --> 00:01:11,240 Speaker 3: married in the Catholic Church, even though me and him 19 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:15,880 Speaker 3: grew up very into the Catholic Church, really received our 20 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:20,800 Speaker 3: religious sacraments and stuff. And he was talking to his 21 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:24,119 Speaker 3: mom the other day about like the venues that we've 22 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:27,400 Speaker 3: already seen. She asked him if we were going to 23 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:31,160 Speaker 3: get married in the Catholic Church and he told her no, 24 00:01:31,319 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 3: we were not going to get married in the Catholic Church. 25 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:36,760 Speaker 3: And she said, well, if y'all don't get married in 26 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 3: the Catholic Church, I will not be attending your wedding. 27 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:43,480 Speaker 3: And I feel like that is the ugliest thing you 28 00:01:43,520 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 3: can ever say. So I just need your advice, your 29 00:01:48,240 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 3: words of wisdom to help me figure out this situation. 30 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:55,680 Speaker 3: I really need your help. 31 00:01:57,000 --> 00:02:02,600 Speaker 1: Oh, Stephanie, girl, girl, this is a tough one. This 32 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:07,160 Speaker 1: is tough. Okay. You guys know that I was raised 33 00:02:07,280 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 1: in a Christian Church, so I know it's tough. You 34 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 1: have to respect your elders and what they believe, you know. 35 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 1: But and I know a lot of people might give 36 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 1: me some backlash and a little bit of hate, and 37 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: that's okay. These are my beliefs. You can take this 38 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:30,480 Speaker 1: advice if you'd like, Stephanie, or you could just you know, 39 00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:34,560 Speaker 1: throw it away. I don't agree with your mother in law. 40 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:38,640 Speaker 1: I think that is very selfish. I think that she 41 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:44,680 Speaker 1: needs to respect you and respect her son's decisions, and 42 00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 1: I know that that could be very difficult for a mother, 43 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:51,280 Speaker 1: because again she sounds like a religious mom, a religious woman, 44 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:54,240 Speaker 1: which is nothing wrong with that, but this is not 45 00:02:54,320 --> 00:02:56,560 Speaker 1: about her. This is about you, guys, and you guys 46 00:02:56,600 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 1: are old enough to make your own decisions and as parents. 47 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:02,240 Speaker 1: Although I'm not a parent yet, but I have parented 48 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:05,959 Speaker 1: my siblings. I've been like a second mother to them. 49 00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 1: I have learned that I need to respect their decisions, 50 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 1: even if it's something that I didn't necessarily teach them. 51 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:15,240 Speaker 1: They are their own person there. They are individuals, and 52 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:16,760 Speaker 1: as much as it's gonna hurt me and they piss 53 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:22,240 Speaker 1: me off, I love them so much that I'm going say, okay, cool. 54 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:25,360 Speaker 1: I mean unless they murder someone or do something like 55 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:27,320 Speaker 1: where I completely don't agree with, and I'm like, all right, 56 00:03:27,320 --> 00:03:31,640 Speaker 1: I'm taking your assagl you know myself. But with this, 57 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:33,840 Speaker 1: this is tough because of course you want your mother 58 00:03:33,880 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 1: in law there. Of course he wants his mom there, 59 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:37,280 Speaker 1: but that's her decision, and you guys are gonna have 60 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 1: to be okay with her not being there and you 61 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:44,040 Speaker 1: not holding that resentment towards her. If she really is 62 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:45,720 Speaker 1: not there the day of the wedding, that would really 63 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: suck for her. That would be really sad. But if 64 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:50,880 Speaker 1: you guys don't want to have your wedding in a 65 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 1: Catholic church and you all want more of a spiritual setting, 66 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:55,960 Speaker 1: that is your prerogative. That is your decision and everyone 67 00:03:55,960 --> 00:04:02,320 Speaker 1: should respect it. And and that's it. And see her 68 00:04:02,320 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 1: the next day and if or I don't know what's 69 00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:07,840 Speaker 1: going to happen after, but don't hold resentment, don't be 70 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 1: upset at her. Accept her decision. Like you guys, expect 71 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:17,600 Speaker 1: her to respect your decision, if that makes sense. But 72 00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 1: this is a tough one because that does suck, and 73 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:22,160 Speaker 1: I don't agree with her, but maybe she'll come around. 74 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:24,599 Speaker 1: I think maybe she'll choose she's just saying that to 75 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:26,840 Speaker 1: scare you guys, and then she'll end up being there, 76 00:04:26,880 --> 00:04:30,599 Speaker 1: God willing. But I don't advise you guys to have 77 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:33,760 Speaker 1: your wedding in a Catholic church just to please her, 78 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 1: because that's also not fair to you. So just be 79 00:04:37,160 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 1: okay with your decision and that's it, and just pray 80 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:43,039 Speaker 1: that she's there, and don't hold resentment either one of you. 81 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:46,840 Speaker 1: Just respect her decision. But I hope she goes, oh 82 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 1: my gosh, have your swether I call me or something. 83 00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:52,360 Speaker 1: I'll let her know what's up. Oh it makes me sad, 84 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 1: all right, wishing you the best, Stephanie. Okay, guys, so 85 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:00,000 Speaker 1: our next question is from Maria. 86 00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 4: Hi Jiki's I just want to start off by saying, Hi, 87 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:08,479 Speaker 4: I am a huge fan of you, and I was 88 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:12,600 Speaker 4: a huge fan of your mom. I am about ten 89 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 4: years younger than you are, but I look up to 90 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:17,599 Speaker 4: you in so many ways. I think you're so inspirational, 91 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:20,760 Speaker 4: You're so badassed, and it makes me so proud that 92 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:23,839 Speaker 4: you are proud to be Mexican. I am one hundred 93 00:05:23,880 --> 00:05:29,480 Speaker 4: percent Mexican, not raised, but born in Mexico from Hale School. 94 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:33,760 Speaker 4: And my question for you is I recently lost my 95 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:35,920 Speaker 4: brother about a month ago, and this is my first 96 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:39,320 Speaker 4: time experiencing grief, and I completely get it now you 97 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:43,200 Speaker 4: have so many ups and downs. But now that I 98 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:48,360 Speaker 4: am experiencing and I'm going through grief, I grew up Catholic. 99 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:53,560 Speaker 4: You can say I'm religious, but I'm not spiritual. And 100 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 4: now I feel spiritual. I feel a connection with my brother, 101 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 4: and I want to meet and I want to, you know, 102 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:04,840 Speaker 4: do all these kinds of different stuff. And my question 103 00:06:05,080 --> 00:06:07,920 Speaker 4: is how can I get into meditating? I want to 104 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:11,560 Speaker 4: be more spiritual and be more in tune with my soul. 105 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 4: I'm in tune with my body, but I'm not in 106 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 4: tune with my soul. 107 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 3: Maria. 108 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 1: I really like your question, and thank you so much 109 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: for all those beautiful things that you said. I think 110 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 1: with that's that's great that you're religious and you're wanting 111 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: to tap into the spiritual side of it. It goes 112 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 1: hand in hand in reality. I as far as meditating, 113 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:41,599 Speaker 1: I would suggest starting with guided meditation. That's how I started. 114 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:44,320 Speaker 1: Someone just speaking to you and telling you exactly what 115 00:06:44,400 --> 00:06:48,159 Speaker 1: to do. And then if you're hearing someone or listening 116 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 1: to someone, it kind of just takes your mind away 117 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:54,400 Speaker 1: from everything else. Also, remind yourself to be patient because 118 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:56,479 Speaker 1: it's gonna take some time. Don't feel like, oh, the 119 00:06:56,520 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: first time you meditate, you got to do it for 120 00:06:57,839 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 1: ten minutes, Like no, start a little by li, you know, 121 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:04,240 Speaker 1: a minute, two minutes, gradually like go you know, up 122 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:09,440 Speaker 1: in the time. But I think for sure what meditation 123 00:07:09,560 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 1: is supposed to do is just supposed to really quiet 124 00:07:12,080 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 1: your mind and then just center you. And and in 125 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:20,360 Speaker 1: that moment, I personally start with like I'm grateful, I'm grateful. 126 00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 1: I keep just saying, not even out loud, it's in 127 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 1: my mind. I just say, like, I'm grateful. I'm grateful, 128 00:07:24,040 --> 00:07:26,760 Speaker 1: Like to me that there's the attitude of gratitude goes 129 00:07:26,800 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 1: a long way. So I just go and I say 130 00:07:28,800 --> 00:07:30,720 Speaker 1: that over and over. I repeat it until like I'm 131 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 1: in this like just peace. I don't even know how 132 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 1: to explain it. It's hard to explain what it is 133 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:40,560 Speaker 1: that you're feeling. But you get so connected. And when 134 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 1: I meditate, I feel so calm throughout the day. It 135 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:48,560 Speaker 1: just centers you. And it's very different from being religious, 136 00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:50,840 Speaker 1: because when you're religious, you go to church, which is great. 137 00:07:50,840 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 1: You know, you sing alabanzas, so you worship and you're 138 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:57,680 Speaker 1: you're reading the Bible and all that's great, and then 139 00:07:57,680 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 1: meditation just helps you just I feel like just anything 140 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:07,160 Speaker 1: that comes your wake like it doesn't affect you as much. 141 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:10,040 Speaker 1: And that's what meditation does for me. It's like I'm 142 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:13,640 Speaker 1: giving this moment of silence to myself, a gift of 143 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 1: just quieting down my mind and the world, and I 144 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 1: give it to like the universe and to God, and 145 00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 1: it just it's still very spiritual and it's very connected. 146 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 1: But yes, try guided meditation and that'll help you. And 147 00:08:26,680 --> 00:08:28,600 Speaker 1: then little by little just listen to like music and 148 00:08:28,640 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 1: then remove the music and then it's just you. You know, 149 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:35,120 Speaker 1: take baby steps. There's no reason to run. Walk and 150 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:37,160 Speaker 1: be patient. Be patient because it is going to be 151 00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: a little hard. Don't give up on it right away. 152 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:41,520 Speaker 1: It's gonna take a little bit. You know, practice makes perfect. 153 00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 1: I hope that helped Maria, and I hope that meditation 154 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:47,160 Speaker 1: saves your life the way it saved my life, because 155 00:08:47,200 --> 00:08:56,199 Speaker 1: it really did. Okay, so next question comes from Cassie 156 00:08:56,960 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 1: Hi Cheeky's. 157 00:08:57,880 --> 00:09:02,520 Speaker 2: I started watching your families reality show called I Love Jenny, 158 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:06,080 Speaker 2: and it was at the episode where your mom talked 159 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 2: about performing at the Latin Grammys and talking about how 160 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:14,319 Speaker 2: Mexican regional music isn't as popular as other genres during 161 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:18,760 Speaker 2: that time. How would your mom feel about Latin music 162 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:23,200 Speaker 2: in general becoming so popular around the world, but also 163 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:28,840 Speaker 2: having Mexican regional music blowing up currently as it is. Thanks, 164 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:30,400 Speaker 2: and I just want to say I'm a big fan 165 00:09:30,600 --> 00:09:33,240 Speaker 2: and I love you and many blessings to you. 166 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:39,400 Speaker 1: Ooh, Cassie, thank you so much. Many blessings to you too. 167 00:09:40,679 --> 00:09:43,679 Speaker 1: It's a little difficult to answer that question because obviously 168 00:09:43,880 --> 00:09:49,840 Speaker 1: I can't really speak for my mom, but knowing what 169 00:09:49,920 --> 00:09:53,760 Speaker 1: I know about her and being in the genre, I 170 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:55,960 Speaker 1: think she'd be very proud to see that our music, 171 00:09:57,440 --> 00:10:01,080 Speaker 1: you know, is reaching different heights and different and you know, 172 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:01,960 Speaker 1: it's international. 173 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:02,160 Speaker 4: Now. 174 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:04,040 Speaker 1: I think that's awesome. That makes me very proud, and 175 00:10:04,040 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: I'm sure it would make her very, very very proud. 176 00:10:06,480 --> 00:10:09,320 Speaker 1: I do understand her now more than ever, that there 177 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:14,880 Speaker 1: are certain places and certain television networks that don't respect 178 00:10:14,880 --> 00:10:17,520 Speaker 1: our music as much. I mean as like regional music. 179 00:10:17,880 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 1: I do see it. She would tell me that a lot, 180 00:10:19,920 --> 00:10:22,200 Speaker 1: and there were certain award shows that she didn't like 181 00:10:22,240 --> 00:10:24,280 Speaker 1: going to because she's like, they just put us to 182 00:10:24,320 --> 00:10:26,760 Speaker 1: the side and they treat us differently. I have experienced it. 183 00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:31,080 Speaker 1: I have seen it, and it sucks. But I think 184 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:36,000 Speaker 1: the world finally understood how important our music is. And 185 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:42,000 Speaker 1: maybe it doesn't chart as much as other genres, but 186 00:10:42,040 --> 00:10:45,480 Speaker 1: we definitely have loyal fans and people that spend money 187 00:10:45,520 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 1: and actually go to the shows. Like That's where I'm like, Okay, 188 00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:51,120 Speaker 1: now i think they're starting to get it and really 189 00:10:52,559 --> 00:10:56,160 Speaker 1: respect regional Mexican music or most kama hikana the way 190 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:58,839 Speaker 1: it deserves now with the whole wave, with you know, 191 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:02,360 Speaker 1: the music changing, which I think is great. I think 192 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:07,160 Speaker 1: music is, you know, a universal language. It's a language 193 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:10,720 Speaker 1: of its own, and I think it's beautiful. I just 194 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:16,720 Speaker 1: don't want the traditional music that's timeless to like get 195 00:11:16,760 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 1: lost in the sauce, you know, And that's just you know, 196 00:11:20,760 --> 00:11:23,360 Speaker 1: we're gonna have to see what happens. But I do, 197 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:25,959 Speaker 1: for one, I feel very very proud of that, and 198 00:11:25,960 --> 00:11:27,960 Speaker 1: I think my mom would too. I think she'd agree 199 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:32,040 Speaker 1: with me personally, but I can't really say. I think 200 00:11:32,080 --> 00:11:33,960 Speaker 1: she'd be kind of like, Okay, well, I'm still going 201 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 1: to stick to what I do, because that's it's not 202 00:11:38,440 --> 00:11:41,240 Speaker 1: a trend. You know. We're not into trends. We're more 203 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 1: into like long term sort of thing. And I'm just 204 00:11:43,559 --> 00:11:45,320 Speaker 1: gonna leave it at that. That's what I'm gona leave 205 00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:49,800 Speaker 1: it at, because it's a whole all of the conversation 206 00:11:49,880 --> 00:11:52,480 Speaker 1: that we have to have, Cassie. But now that you're asking, 207 00:11:52,520 --> 00:11:54,800 Speaker 1: I think that's what my mom would say. I think, 208 00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:59,160 Speaker 1: I mean, the world we may never know. What would 209 00:11:59,240 --> 00:12:01,920 Speaker 1: Jenny do? I asked myself that all the time. Actually, 210 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 1: what would Johnny do? Just got to stick to our 211 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:08,160 Speaker 1: guns and stay focused on our lane. Stay in our lane. 212 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:12,120 Speaker 1: You know I have a lot to say, but I'm 213 00:12:12,120 --> 00:12:14,160 Speaker 1: just gonna stay quiet. Cassie, thank you so much for 214 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:21,240 Speaker 1: your question, girl, sending you a big hug. Thank you 215 00:12:21,240 --> 00:12:24,880 Speaker 1: guys so much for your questions, and for you guys 216 00:12:25,080 --> 00:12:27,319 Speaker 1: out there that want me to answer any questions that 217 00:12:27,360 --> 00:12:30,240 Speaker 1: you may have in regards to love finances. Just maybe 218 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:32,400 Speaker 1: you want to ask a question about my personal life. 219 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:34,560 Speaker 1: It could be about anything. You can leave your question 220 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:38,200 Speaker 1: at speakpipe dot com, Slash Cheeky's and Chill podcast. 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