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Speaker 1: It is the straw very alright, and make sure you

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Speaker 1: today on this letter all right subject, and we already

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Speaker 1: know your answer. Guys, everywhere in the world, on the planet,

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Speaker 1: and everywhere in the universe, is sex the answer for everything?

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Speaker 1: You don't even have to think about it? Did you?

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Speaker 1: All right? Here we go, Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband

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Speaker 1: and I have been married for twenty four years, and

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Speaker 1: he thinks sex is the answer to everything. A prime

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Speaker 1: example of this is last month when we went to

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Speaker 1: a barbecue at his mother's house. When I've been over

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Speaker 1: to get a soda out of the cooler, I caught

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Speaker 1: my husband lustily looking at my butt. A lot of

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Speaker 1: friends and family members saw him too, and they all laughed.

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Speaker 1: I was really embarrassed. I ran in the house to

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Speaker 1: and my husband followed me. When I told him how

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Speaker 1: embarrassing that was, he slowly massaged his crotch, smiled, and said,

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Speaker 1: I got something that will make you forget all about that.

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Speaker 1: Well right after that, I know this letter is crazy, right,

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Speaker 1: I got something better, making it right? Well? How how

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Speaker 1: was that? Oh? I got some Forget all of it.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like you guys have been there before, all right, listen.

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Speaker 1: Right after that, we were doing the do at his

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Speaker 1: mother's house. Okay, two minutes into it, my husband's mother

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Speaker 1: and his aunt came busting through the door. Instead of

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Speaker 1: I can't keep avoiding her. When I try to talk

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Speaker 1: to rubbing his crotch and telling me hit it joy God.

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Speaker 1: In fact, he does that almost every time we get

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Speaker 1: into an argument. What shall I do? I enjoy sex

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Speaker 1: with my husband and I will never tell him no.

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Speaker 1: But something has to give. I mean, surely sex can't

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Speaker 1: be the answer to everything. Please advise, all right, this

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Speaker 1: letter is confusing to me. It really is. Um, it's

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Speaker 1: very confusing. Clearly, you guys have a very active sexual relationship.

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Speaker 1: You have an active sexual sex life. Okay. While others

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Speaker 1: may not see this as a problem, there is such

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Speaker 1: a thing as too much of a good thing, and

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Speaker 1: that seems to be what you're saying in your letter

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Speaker 1: kind of sort of uh, you know, it might be

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Speaker 1: the situation here. You say you're embarrassed, you say you're uncomfortable,

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Speaker 1: your relatives are busting in on you. You're doing it

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Speaker 1: at his mama's house. You didn't even go over there

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Speaker 1: for that, but you end up doing it. Then they

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Speaker 1: a great laugh at your expense. But if this is

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Speaker 1: the last twenty four years, I can't believe that you're

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Speaker 1: just now complaining. That's the confusing part. You know. Some

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Speaker 1: married couples would love this, They would just absolutely love this.

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Speaker 1: And then some would think your husband is over sex.

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Speaker 1: It just depends right, and they would think your husband

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Speaker 1: is too much. I think it's ain't nobody over sick.

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Speaker 1: Let's quit, let's kill that. Never too much. Let's to her,

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Speaker 1: it is to her, it is you gotta see you know,

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Speaker 1: never too much, never too much. You gotta see her

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Speaker 1: it just all depends on what you like and what

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Speaker 1: you can tolerate. No one wants to be disrespected and

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Speaker 1: if you're feeling disrespected, I'm trying to get exactly what

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Speaker 1: you're saying. Here. You're saying it's too much, but then

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Speaker 1: say you'll never tell him no, but then you're saying

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Speaker 1: really going on. You gotta be happy in this situation too,

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Speaker 1: not just your husband. Okay, here we go, Yeah, it is.

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Speaker 1: If you wanted to stop, you're gonna have to completely

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Speaker 1: matter what you say is going dead. Whatever you say

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Speaker 1: to your man. If you say, can you believe what

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Speaker 1: you know that? Okay, question, why are you talking like that?

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Speaker 1: Get that's getting on my nerves? That's the sexy things,

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Speaker 1: you know, That's what it's about. To him? Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I gotta get my nails done. I

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Speaker 1: what Kanye West said about Kanye? Maybe my car has

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Speaker 1: stopped on me and I need roads fixed? Righty here?

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Speaker 1: That's sexy to you guys? Yeah, Oh my god, we're

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Speaker 1: We gotta get the church, all right, listen, we we

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Speaker 1: had to go to break right here. I guess we're

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Speaker 1: gonna have part two when we come back. Is sex

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Speaker 1: the answer for everything? Yes? It is? Yes, Yes it is.

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Speaker 1: What we have to do here is re enactment, all right?

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Speaker 1: This woman wrote in for a second. This woman wrote

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Speaker 1: in she's been married for twenty four years. Uh, she

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Speaker 1: to everything. A prime example, she says, is that last

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Speaker 1: some of that? Right? And so then anyway, so she

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Speaker 1: She says also though, that she enjoys having sex with

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Speaker 1: it's The letter is a bit confusing because it's like

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Speaker 1: she wants it, but she doesn't want it as much.

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Speaker 1: But she does want it and she does enjoy it,

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Speaker 1: but it's just a bit much. Be the lady, Jake,

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Speaker 1: no problem, No problem. Late, I think a better lady

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Speaker 1: than you, because you lay the lady with anger here

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Speaker 1: a good lady. But but guess what, Jake, I got

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Speaker 1: something that could make you forgive soues. I'm so disgusted

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Speaker 1: to be disgust right here that I guess my car's

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Speaker 1: are you thinking about? I'm thinking about two or something else?

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Speaker 1: I didn't. I was so embarrassed totally at my mom's house.

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Speaker 1: At my mom's house, that's better than your pastor's house.

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Speaker 1: Am I not safe from you? Oh my god, you're disgusting.

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Speaker 1: Twenty four years you guys have been married, disgusting. Got

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Speaker 1: some make you forget about put your pants back on

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Speaker 1: now without put them on, And we haven't started because

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Speaker 1: I gotta help you forget about that. I'm not getting

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Speaker 1: get on the dryer. I got something make you forget

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Speaker 1: a bad Last week I was washing my hair. I

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Speaker 1: you're right. I got something that you forget about your hair.

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Speaker 1: I'm afraid to be in the shower because of you.

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Speaker 1: I'm taking I'm taking spongebath just because of that. You

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Speaker 1: up in there taking bird bad. But that's all right.

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Speaker 1: When you make yes, I do. I got bad news

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Speaker 1: before you check us out. Went to the doctor last week.

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Speaker 1: He said, I'm losing my sight. Oh we're you ain't

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Speaker 1: gonna see me when I get that. When I got something,

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Speaker 1: clean out the basement. Who's down there butt necking? Clean

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Speaker 1: out more than the basement? I guess. I make you

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Speaker 1: forget abode, give it a rest man. When we get

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Speaker 1: That's your answer to everything yet because sex is Dianne

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Speaker 1: so everything. That's how you play the woman. You don't

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Speaker 1: fight like gentlemen. Chanthony Brown as wife up. Give it out,

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Speaker 1: you guys. I love that boy, and that's what I'm

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Speaker 1: guys so very much. You're gonna email us or Instagram?

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