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Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This

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Speaker 1: is How Men Thick and I heard radio podcast. Hey

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Speaker 1: what's up everybody. I'm Jonathan Bennett, and you may know

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Speaker 1: me as Aaron Samuels from the movie Mean Girls, and yes,

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Speaker 1: my hair does look sexy pushed back In case you're wondering,

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Speaker 1: I'm also an actor, a TV host, and I am

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Speaker 1: so happy to be guest hosting How Men Think. Now

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Speaker 1: I'm going to answer all of your questions and solve

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Speaker 1: the fascinating question of how men think. I think? But first,

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Speaker 1: this is eleven questions with Jonathan Bennett. Now I have

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Speaker 1: not looked at these until right now, so this will

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Speaker 1: all be on the fly. Wish me look, here we go.

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Speaker 1: Eleven questions with Jonathan. Number one, what are you known for?

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Speaker 1: Tell us about yourself? Okay, well, I guess most people

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Speaker 1: know me as Aaron Samuel's from Mean Girls, and I

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Speaker 1: think what happened as I just I kissed a redheaded,

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Speaker 1: freckle faced girl named Lindsay Lohan in a movie three

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Speaker 1: thousand years ago. And now I can't go to a

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Speaker 1: Starbucks without the barista writing, your hair look sexy pushed

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Speaker 1: back on my cup or like I'll go and say hey,

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Speaker 1: They'll they'll ask me for the name and say what's

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Speaker 1: your name please, and I'll say Jonathan and then they'll

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Speaker 1: just go ahead and write Aaron Samuel's on the cup,

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Speaker 1: which is an amazing thing but also crazy. So it's

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Speaker 1: a very weird life to be Jonathan Bennett. I'm not

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Speaker 1: gonna lie. October three is a very weird day for me.

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Speaker 1: So if you ever having an awkward day in your life,

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Speaker 1: just think what does Jonathan Bennett feel like on on

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Speaker 1: October three? I bet you it's not as weird as

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Speaker 1: his day number two. Who are you in your personal life? Well,

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Speaker 1: contrary to popular belief, I know you might think that

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Speaker 1: I was in love with Lindsay Lohan, but I I

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Speaker 1: actually I am in love with James Vaughan, my fiance.

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Speaker 1: Uh plot twist, Aaron Samuel's gay Huh wow? Um so

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Speaker 1: that was a big plot twist for pop culture. Um,

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Speaker 1: but actually was it wasn't? Really? Um. So I'm engaged

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Speaker 1: to my fiance James Vaughan. We've been engaged for just

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Speaker 1: over a year now, and we have our wedding coming

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Speaker 1: up this spring, which we're really excited about. We're getting

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Speaker 1: married to Mexico at Unicode Resort, which is this amazing

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Speaker 1: people coming there. It's just a fantastic place. So we're

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Speaker 1: very excited about that. And yeah, my fiance and I

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Speaker 1: fiance's and just going on this whole wedding journey, trying

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Speaker 1: to figure out who's coming, what's happening at the wedding,

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Speaker 1: all the things that happen when you're planning a wedding.

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Speaker 1: It's super fun, but also it's a little bit stressful.

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie um, but at the end of

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Speaker 1: the day, is long as we're standing there saying our vows,

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Speaker 1: I don't care if it you know, if everything falls

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Speaker 1: because we're gonna be there with all of our friends

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Speaker 1: and family and having a blast. So that's what's important.

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Speaker 1: Which is also crazy because our families have never met,

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Speaker 1: Is at our wedding, so this should be interesting. Three

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Speaker 1: shows that you are binge watching right now? Okay, guys,

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie like I want to have an

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Speaker 1: three shows that I'm watching right now are RuPaul's Drag

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Speaker 1: Race UK, RuPaul's Drag Race American, and RuPaul's Drag Race.

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Speaker 1: Queen of the Universe. Well, it's not really Rupaol's Drag Race,

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Speaker 1: It's all I watched because here's the thing. The day

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Speaker 1: Queen of the Universe is the New Wild Presents show.

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Speaker 1: That's pretty close. It's basically RuPaul's Drag Race meets American Idol,

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Speaker 1: new number four. What is your favorite food? Okay, I

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Speaker 1: I also really like the Chinese chicken salad from Applebee's,

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Speaker 1: I'm from Ohio. That's just what we eat. Tell us

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Speaker 1: about your career number five. Um, okay, So my career

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Speaker 1: is very strange. The first movie I ever did was

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Speaker 1: do Mean Girls. It's a very bizarre life. It's a

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Speaker 1: the Zach Morris syndrome. You become Zack Morris. Right, you're

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Speaker 1: Aaron Samuels. You're not Johnathan men At the actor, You're

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Speaker 1: lot of really fun movies. I did Van Wilder Freshman Year,

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Speaker 1: Mean Girls fans called the Burn Cookbook. Because I started

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Speaker 1: which was The Burn Cookbook. It's basically cookbook for Mean

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Speaker 1: Chenie Alfredo. We even have Gretchen's wieners in the book.

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Speaker 1: It's just the perfect book for you and your girlfriends

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Speaker 1: December eighteenth, we have the sequel to The Christmas House.

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Speaker 1: It's The Christmas House to coming out this December eighteenth

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Speaker 1: on Homework Channel, where we actually take that storyline a

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Speaker 1: Him and his husband Jake. Their family has expanded and

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Speaker 1: And the coolest part of all this, get this, wait,

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Speaker 1: get this ready, The Smithsonian has my jacket from the

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Speaker 1: What's my biggest fear? Uh? I think my biggest fear

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Speaker 1: your biggest pet? Peeve? Chewing cereal. You're not allowed to

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Speaker 1: through the window. I have misophonia, which is a condition

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Speaker 1: and give my fiance kisses. I mean, my fiance has

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Speaker 1: What's your ideal Saturday morning? Again? Waking up with my

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Speaker 1: of all, we don't know what's going on with your

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00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:24,800
Speaker 1: cousin and her man like this could just because they

426
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Speaker 1: brought him to Thanksgiving doesn't mean it's the right one.

427
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Speaker 1: So don't don't put the cart before the horse. Yeah,

428
00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:39,000
Speaker 1: totally or or in this case, the turkey. So well, Tara,

429
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Speaker 1: thank you so much. I hope I helped. Thank you,

430
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Speaker 1: Yeah you did. And have a good one you too,

431
00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:48,720
Speaker 1: Thank you. Bye. Hello, Sydney. We have Sydney on the line.

432
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Speaker 1: How are you. It's Jonathan. Hi, Jonathan. I'm good. How

433
00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:56,200
Speaker 1: are you. I'm wonderful. What's going on? Girl? Not too much.

434
00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:59,520
Speaker 1: I'm on my lunch break right now, but super happy

435
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Speaker 1: to be here. You're on your lunch break. First of all,

436
00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:05,960
Speaker 1: two questions, where do you work? And what are you eating? Um?

437
00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:10,280
Speaker 1: I work at a it's like a healthcare education company,

438
00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:15,520
Speaker 1: Amrican marketing. Okay, very fun. I'm in Boston and I'm

439
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 1: eating I made this, um, like chicken tkaraoke meatballs with

440
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:25,439
Speaker 1: rice and zucchini. Okay. So we're on like the healthy

441
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:28,760
Speaker 1: train because we're doing like karaoke meatballs with rice and zucchini,

442
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:31,480
Speaker 1: so it's still kind of healthy but still good. I'm

443
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Speaker 1: really into that. Can you send me the recipe that

444
00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:37,080
Speaker 1: sounds delicious? Yes? Brock your body shout out, she stop,

445
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:41,080
Speaker 1: brock your body. Don't even get out of here, Come on,

446
00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:45,639
Speaker 1: very good. What's going on? Are you in love? Are

447
00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 1: you not in love? What do you want me to

448
00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:50,240
Speaker 1: talk about? I'm not in love. I'm dating for sure,

449
00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 1: I'm single. But I did have a question more of

450
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 1: like a generic relationship question. UM. But basically I know

451
00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 1: that there's the old saying of like, oh, if he

452
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Speaker 1: wanted to, you would um in the context of dating

453
00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:05,680
Speaker 1: and relationships. But do you think that still holds true

454
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Speaker 1: today or do you think it's better to be more

455
00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:11,359
Speaker 1: upfront at this point and just say you're interested? Or

456
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Speaker 1: does it depend? I feel like that could go a

457
00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:15,320
Speaker 1: lot of ways. But when do you get your thoughts?

458
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 1: It's like that book, he's just not into you, right,

459
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:21,840
Speaker 1: that's kind of like talking. I think it's the most

460
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Speaker 1: absolutely that you hit it on the head. I I

461
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 1: want to tell you my story, right, because when you

462
00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:31,239
Speaker 1: know you know right, I'm gonna take my story of

463
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:34,639
Speaker 1: how how it happened with my fiance and I. I

464
00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:37,479
Speaker 1: go to the Grove, which is a mall here, and

465
00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:39,960
Speaker 1: he's about to interview me for a show. He hosts

466
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Speaker 1: a show. I'm they're promoting my show. He's going to

467
00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:45,679
Speaker 1: interview me for the show. We meet and instantly it

468
00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:48,840
Speaker 1: just happens, like you literally, we touched each other because

469
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:52,160
Speaker 1: we're like, oh, let's let's take a picture for our friend,

470
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:55,320
Speaker 1: because we had the one gay friend that everyone that

471
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:58,679
Speaker 1: works in entertainment has in common, and that is Lance Bass.

472
00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:01,960
Speaker 1: Obviously Land because he's our leader, he's our married and

473
00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:05,199
Speaker 1: so we said, let's take a picture for Lance. And

474
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:08,360
Speaker 1: when we touched each other, you could feel the electricity

475
00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 1: just happened. And instantly, in that moment, I knew. I

476
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 1: was like I need to go on a date with

477
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:15,479
Speaker 1: him tonight. I need to kiss him right now. And

478
00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 1: it just was like this is it. It was happening.

479
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:21,480
Speaker 1: So we ended up going, we did the interview, I left,

480
00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:24,600
Speaker 1: and then I called him thirty My my publicist was like,

481
00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 1: don't call him for like three days. You came on

482
00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 1: really strong, and that's what a person that's never been

483
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:34,320
Speaker 1: in love says. And I'm like, oh, okay, So all

484
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:36,160
Speaker 1: your friends that are going don't do it, play hard

485
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 1: taking no, no, Well, y'all are dumb because you clearly

486
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:42,119
Speaker 1: have never been in love. You can't you can't control

487
00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 1: it when it happens. So what happened was I got

488
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Speaker 1: out of the car. I was like, of course, fam,

489
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Speaker 1: I'm not going to call him for like three days.

490
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:52,880
Speaker 1: They're fine. And I literally dialed his number and I

491
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:54,880
Speaker 1: said to him, is it weird if I come back

492
00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:57,600
Speaker 1: and kiss you right now? And he said no, And

493
00:27:57,640 --> 00:27:59,240
Speaker 1: I go good, because I'm already on my way. I

494
00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:02,280
Speaker 1: would already start driving. We kissed at them in the

495
00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 1: parking lot at the mall. I said, we just have

496
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 1: to do this and see if it's real. We kissed,

497
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:08,080
Speaker 1: it was like, yep, that's it. We went to dinner

498
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:10,639
Speaker 1: that night and are engaged to be married in three months.

499
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:15,160
Speaker 1: So it when it happens, it happens, right. And that's

500
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:17,639
Speaker 1: what I can tell you. Like, if he's not calling

501
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:21,880
Speaker 1: you back and he's not like putting energy into it,

502
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:25,919
Speaker 1: he's just not into you, and that's okay. But like

503
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 1: the excuses and the bullshit of like oh I'm busy,

504
00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 1: oh no, no, no, when it happens, and you get

505
00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 1: that butterfly feeling where you're like, I think this could

506
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:41,480
Speaker 1: be love. You can't not communicate with the person, you

507
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: cannot reach out you, you, your whole life changes, and

508
00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 1: they become a priority. If you're not a priority, it's

509
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:53,200
Speaker 1: because they're not into you, right, that makes sense. Really,

510
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:55,640
Speaker 1: I love that story too. I feel like that definitely

511
00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 1: resonates a lot, So I really appreciate it. Yes, when

512
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 1: it happens, it happens. Yeah, that's great. I'll keep that

513
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 1: in mind going forward. Yeah. And if he's not calling,

514
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 1: if he's not going back you're texting you, he's just

515
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 1: not into and you're too good for him anyway. So yeah, awesome, Well,

516
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 1: thank you so much. I really appreciate that. Thank you.

517
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:27,200
Speaker 1: Next up we have Meg. How's it going, Meg? Great?

518
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 1: How are you? I'm wonderful what's going on? You know,

519
00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 1: I'm just plugging away here in the Northern Michigan tundra

520
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 1: that we have with crazy blizzard outside, But northern Michigan

521
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 1: that's very tropical there, Yeah, very tropical. You know. It's

522
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:46,920
Speaker 1: funny because we're surrounded by water, so generally in the

523
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 1: summer it's very tropical. But in the winter. You just

524
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:54,520
Speaker 1: it's disgusting. It's disgusting. I'm from Toledo, Ohio, so I

525
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:57,520
Speaker 1: know the lake area effect. Oh, yes, you do effects

526
00:29:57,560 --> 00:30:01,080
Speaker 1: now for sure. It's disgusting. And I just have to

527
00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:05,560
Speaker 1: say I'm a huge fan. Um, I wore my special shirts. Okay,

528
00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 1: so Meg is wearing a Hugo Glen Coco shirt, which

529
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:13,720
Speaker 1: is very adorable, very on brand. However, I am glad

530
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 1: because you didn't wear any pink today because on Wednesdays

531
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:21,560
Speaker 1: we wear pink. Not today Wednesday, but you did wear

532
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:23,840
Speaker 1: your white gold hoops and I appreciate that. Oh yes,

533
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:28,320
Speaker 1: always always. So yeah, let's what can I help you with? Well,

534
00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:31,960
Speaker 1: I'm wondering, Um, I've been married for a little while,

535
00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 1: but this seems to kind of go with every aspect

536
00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:40,960
Speaker 1: of the various people that I know. But why do um,

537
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:43,120
Speaker 1: why don't men think we're the ones that want to

538
00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 1: make the decisions like all the time. Well, because usually

539
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:52,760
Speaker 1: everything we're doing, we're doing wrong. Um, that's why That's

540
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:55,720
Speaker 1: why I men tend to think that, oh, you make

541
00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 1: the decision, because if I don't make the decision, if

542
00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 1: I make a decision, and you're gonna tell me that

543
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 1: I've done it wrong anyway, and then we're gonna end

544
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,320
Speaker 1: up doing your plan. Is that true or not? Meg?

545
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:08,480
Speaker 1: How many times out of ten have has he made

546
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:13,600
Speaker 1: a decision and you have maybe altered that decision or

547
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:16,920
Speaker 1: plan into what it is that you really want honestly,

548
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 1: that might happen here and there? How many times? How

549
00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 1: many times out of ten would you say five? Would

550
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 1: you say five out of ten? You would? He would say,

551
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 1: let's have do you want pizza or Chinese? And you're

552
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 1: like Chinese. He's like or he's like pizza and you're like, yeah,

553
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:35,560
Speaker 1: but that Chinese was really good. He's like, okay, right,

554
00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 1: just the little things and what I what I what

555
00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:42,719
Speaker 1: I notice has to happen is and even in my

556
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 1: relationship with with my fiance, James will be sitting there

557
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 1: and I have to be I have to make a

558
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 1: conscious effort to ask him what he wants to do

559
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 1: and then and then really listen to what he wants

560
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:57,680
Speaker 1: and doing it. I think it just comes down to listening.

561
00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:01,160
Speaker 1: And I think that's a big thing that we forget

562
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,200
Speaker 1: in a relationship that we've been into. I mean, I'm

563
00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 1: with my fiance for five years now, we're comfortable right

564
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 1: like where it's it's super comfortable, and we forget to listen.

565
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:15,520
Speaker 1: And so I think what you might be experiencing is

566
00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:20,480
Speaker 1: the forgetting in the comfortable comfortable comfort is that a word? Comfortable?

567
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:23,480
Speaker 1: That's not a real word. That can't be a real world.

568
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:27,720
Speaker 1: Everyone knows what we're saying, you're you're listening. Needs to

569
00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:31,400
Speaker 1: improve in what he when you ask him what he wants,

570
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:35,360
Speaker 1: and really digest what he says, because what happens is,

571
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 1: you know they always say don't kick. Well, not don't

572
00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:41,400
Speaker 1: kick the cat doesn't work for this, um, but they

573
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:45,560
Speaker 1: cut that out. That doesn't work. Um. What happens is,

574
00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:49,000
Speaker 1: you know, just like a child, like men are children.

575
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:51,240
Speaker 1: I am a child. I am a big kid. All

576
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 1: men are kids. I'm sorry, you know we are. So

577
00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 1: if you tell a kid, hey, you're like, hey, which

578
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 1: one do you want to play with? Then they tell

579
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 1: you the toy and then the parent just says, no,

580
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 1: you're gonna play with this one instead. Eventually the kid

581
00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:08,560
Speaker 1: doesn't even know what it wants because he's like, the

582
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:10,760
Speaker 1: parents just gonna tell me what I want. So just

583
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 1: make sure in decision making that you're listening to what

584
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 1: he wants and honoring what he wants. Sometimes you don't

585
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:21,640
Speaker 1: have to do it all the time, but he might

586
00:33:21,680 --> 00:33:25,200
Speaker 1: be he might be have gotten kicked too much into

587
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 1: the direction that you want. That's fair, that's fair. I

588
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 1: think that's yeah. I think I'm a meeting planner, planner

589
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:39,400
Speaker 1: by day, so I make decisions. So I don't want

590
00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:41,440
Speaker 1: to tell I don't want to figure out some of

591
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:44,880
Speaker 1: those minute details of what side dish we're gonna have

592
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:48,120
Speaker 1: for dinner. I mean, that's a stupid example, but right, right,

593
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:49,600
Speaker 1: So you don't want to plan it. But then at

594
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 1: the end of the day when he picks you, you

595
00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 1: don't want to meg, but you can't help yourself because

596
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 1: that's your job. So you don't want to do it.

597
00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:00,120
Speaker 1: You don't want to plan the side dish, but the

598
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:03,560
Speaker 1: small details. So when he picks a small detail, if

599
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:06,800
Speaker 1: it's not correct, you're gonna fix it anyway. And you're like,

600
00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 1: well no, because you're like he okay, babe, just whatever

601
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:11,799
Speaker 1: you want you picked in and he's like, okay, we're

602
00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 1: having mashed potatoes and green beads as a side, and

603
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:16,080
Speaker 1: you're like, right, but mays have a lot of carbs

604
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:17,520
Speaker 1: and the green beads out of style. So we're gonna

605
00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 1: use this and we're gonna do that. And he's like, okay,

606
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:22,360
Speaker 1: So when just be a yes end? Okay, So that

607
00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 1: for the next month, when when you tell him to

608
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 1: make decisions, be a you know, the improv acting challenge

609
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:32,880
Speaker 1: of yes. And so if it is something you don't

610
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:34,960
Speaker 1: like or you're like, oh, he didn't pick the right thing,

611
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,399
Speaker 1: tell him yes and then add to it like, oh,

612
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:40,200
Speaker 1: I love that idea, and we'll do this too. Alright. Cool.

613
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:42,680
Speaker 1: So now he's getting what he wants and you're getting

614
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 1: what you want. I'm writing that down. Yes, and uh,

615
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:54,120
Speaker 1: well you're a blast. Thank you so much, mag and

616
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 1: good luck with the relationship and stay warm and noa

617
00:34:57,600 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 1: Michigan and don't forget watch my Hallmark Channel original movie

618
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 1: December eighteen, The Christmas House too. Oh I like that.

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Speaker 1: I saw that actually, and I think you are very

620
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:10,560
Speaker 1: gruel and look really sexy with the hair, like you know,

621
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:13,279
Speaker 1: I know I have to do it every time. I've

622
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:15,600
Speaker 1: been waiting years to say that. You know what, Meg,

623
00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:18,239
Speaker 1: you're up well, you know what, you're ugly? H how

624
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:20,240
Speaker 1: about that? No, I'm just kidding, No, I'm just kidding.

625
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:24,759
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. All right, talk to you soon,

626
00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:28,919
Speaker 1: my love. All right bye, all right, everybody, Well that's

627
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Speaker 1: our show. I'm Jonathan Bennett. Thank you so much for listening,

628
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 1: and don't forget to watch my all new Hallmark Channel

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Speaker 1: original movie The Christmas House to this December eighteen at

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Speaker 1: eight o'clock on Hallmark Channel. Everyone out there, stay fetch,

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Speaker 1: stay gruel, and most of all, push your hair back

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