WEBVTT - The one habit that can revolutionize your time

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip comes from a listener who completely changed how

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<v Speaker 1>she spent her time after losing a dear friend. Listener

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<v Speaker 1>Robin writes that she enjoyed the List of one hundred

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<v Speaker 1>Dreams episode that aired a few months ago. This was

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<v Speaker 1>about creating an unedited list of anything you'd like to

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<v Speaker 1>spend more time doing. Robin said that she'd been creating

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<v Speaker 1>a similar list for the past three years, albeit with

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<v Speaker 1>fifty items, and she wanted to share the story of

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<v Speaker 1>how her list came to be. Several years ago, she writes,

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<v Speaker 1>a friend of mine was unexpectedly diagnosed with stage four cancer.

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<v Speaker 1>From the time she was diagnosed till we lost her

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<v Speaker 1>was about four months after hearing of her diagnosis. We

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<v Speaker 1>were sitting together talking and I asked her how she

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<v Speaker 1>was doing. Her response at the time and to this

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<v Speaker 1>day flabbergasted me. She told me she was fine. The

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<v Speaker 1>doctors had told her that if there was anything that

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<v Speaker 1>she hadn't done that she really wanted to do, that

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<v Speaker 1>she should do it immediately. She said that she had

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<v Speaker 1>done everything and had no regrets. Robin continues, we were

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<v Speaker 1>both in our forties at the time, and I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>imagine being able to say this. I could imagine so

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<v Speaker 1>many more things that I hadn't done, so many more

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<v Speaker 1>adventures I hadn't gone on, so many more experiences that

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<v Speaker 1>were yet to be had. But here was my friend

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<v Speaker 1>telling me that she had checked off everything on her list.

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<v Speaker 1>Robin notes that I rationalized this away to some extent.

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<v Speaker 1>She was single and had no children, Her time was

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<v Speaker 1>her own. I was married, with three children, one each

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<v Speaker 1>in college, high school, in middle school. Our lives were different,

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<v Speaker 1>yet this stayed with me in a profound way. A

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<v Speaker 1>couple of years later, I was given a notebook by

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<v Speaker 1>another friend. On the cover, it says, have courage and

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<v Speaker 1>be kind. A few days later, there was news coverage

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<v Speaker 1>of an event that my deceased friend had attended every year.

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<v Speaker 1>Even though she was gone, I still found myself searching

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<v Speaker 1>for her distinctive winter hat in the crowd. That night,

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<v Speaker 1>I picked up the notebook and started to write down

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<v Speaker 1>everything that caught my attention, and I haven't stopped. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I only have fifty items on my list, but as

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<v Speaker 1>of this weekend, three years after I started. Forty three

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<v Speaker 1>of them have been done. I'm constantly adding to the

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<v Speaker 1>original list. Sometimes I will add something on Monday, knowing

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<v Speaker 1>I plan on doing it on Saturday. But that really

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't matter. What matters is that I am identifying much

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<v Speaker 1>better uses for my time and creating memories. She writes,

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<v Speaker 1>I am managing my time to create a better life.

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<v Speaker 1>I love Robin's story and her commitment to creating an

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<v Speaker 1>ongoing list of how she'd like to spend her time. Time.

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<v Speaker 1>What a great habit to have. We can revolutionize our

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<v Speaker 1>lives by asking a version of the question her friends

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<v Speaker 1>doctors asked her, what would we like to do that

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<v Speaker 1>we haven't done? The vast majority of us aren't facing

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<v Speaker 1>a life threatening diagnosis, thank goodness. But it's easy to

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<v Speaker 1>trudge along through life assuming will do everything later. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>we do have all the time in the world, but

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<v Speaker 1>maybe we don't. If our time was suddenly limited, what

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<v Speaker 1>would we still like to cross off that list? Of course,

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<v Speaker 1>there needs to be a balance here. Living like there's

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<v Speaker 1>no tomorrow means a lot of people would stop saving

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<v Speaker 1>for retirement, they'd stop flossing, they'd stop eating their vegetables.

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<v Speaker 1>No one's immortal. But given that the odds favor a

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<v Speaker 1>fair number of tomorrow's, we're probably better off doing these things.

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<v Speaker 1>But like Robin, it might help to ask ourselves what

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<v Speaker 1>we'd need to do to get to a place where,

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<v Speaker 1>like her friend, we could say we have no regrets,

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<v Speaker 1>make this list, and then see what's feasible to do,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe sooner rather than later. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear from you.

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