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Speaker 1: another episode of Horrible Decisions. First off, y'all puts pole thought.
Speaker 1: Y'all get no episodes, but we here, we is here,
Speaker 1: we are recording from the comforts of our homes. I'm excited.
Speaker 1: We are joined by a guest today, but as y'all know,
Speaker 1: there's actually ship to catch up on. I guess um,
Speaker 1: So this is your girl, Mandy b a k A
Speaker 1: full cor pumps a k A de beat and I
Speaker 1: am catless Cathy. We've got We've got Carol Baskin. Mandy
Speaker 1: over here who said she got a cat. Let me
Speaker 1: see it. I'm worthy, Oh loo it he cat. This
Speaker 1: is my little kid, So let me tell you all
Speaker 1: the story. So I came on here and told y'all um,
Speaker 1: I was being lonely. So I do want you all
Speaker 1: to pray for your single friends who live alone with
Speaker 1: no kids. That is me. So I have um actually
Speaker 1: been going through it um mentally. I've been talking to
Speaker 1: my mom. My mom was like even yesterday when I
Speaker 1: was leaving the grocery store, she was like, you sound
Speaker 1: kind of manic right now, and I'm concerned. Um, why
Speaker 1: did because just how I was talking, I was just
Speaker 1: like a girl. It was weird even though market and
Speaker 1: I didn't even notice it. But while I was grocery shopping,
Speaker 1: I was singing, I was dancing, I was losing my
Speaker 1: fucking mind. Um, and I was just like really talking
Speaker 1: really fast. She was just like really kind of concerned.
Speaker 1: So I want to shout out Demca. I believe her
Speaker 1: her name is or Demika. Anyway, she will listen, don't Anyways,
Speaker 1: one of our listeners actually hit me in the d
Speaker 1: M yesterday and was like, hey, girl, do you still
Speaker 1: want a kitten? One of my neighbors just walked up
Speaker 1: to us to sell the one. She was like, but
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest with you, but she only asked
Speaker 1: you for twenty dollars, so I think she just really
Speaker 1: need the twenty dollars. So I don't know where the
Speaker 1: cat really I gave her. I was like Okay, hopefully
Speaker 1: this twenty dollars isn't going to buy crack cocaine for
Speaker 1: this kitten. I don't know what I exchanged for this. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they actually showered it before they gave it to me,
Speaker 1: gave put it in a box and I got like
Speaker 1: a pe pad on it. I'm waiting on the litter
Speaker 1: box wich. I'm on Amazon last night because I go
Speaker 1: I want to pick it up last night and I
Speaker 1: was like, but I ain't got shipped. Girl. I gave
Speaker 1: us some tune us cat. So that's that's what I'm
Speaker 1: working on right now. So you could call it Cat's
Speaker 1: I will not. That reminds me of cat Dog actually
Speaker 1: the the you know the guy, So I kind of
Speaker 1: want to name it body. That's I don't know what
Speaker 1: I'm leaning towards, and only because it's reminded me of
Speaker 1: a hood as Bodega Cat, So I either want to
Speaker 1: call it for the body. I like Bodie better, more
Speaker 1: clever because it's ratchet. I'm not even gonna lie, let's
Speaker 1: not go with Bronx. You might move one day. Well,
Speaker 1: fuck you? Is the cat from the Bronx? Is that
Speaker 1: bit seven minutes away? She gave me her address to
Speaker 1: come pick it up. I was like, oh girl, you
Speaker 1: write you down the block, so I got it. I
Speaker 1: think that it's going to be good in terms of
Speaker 1: just my mental health because I am one of those
Speaker 1: that is really struggling right now well and my grandmother's
Speaker 1: nursing home. This is how I'm starting this. There's a
Speaker 1: few people that have like baby dolls. It sounds so weird.
Speaker 1: They're really losing it, and they give it to them
Speaker 1: so they have something to take care of. So it
Speaker 1: makes you feel like you've got, you know, something to do.
Speaker 1: You look forward to something, and you're not only like
Speaker 1: now you have to fend for someone else. Someone else's like,
Speaker 1: you know what, I I need depending on you. So it's
Speaker 1: really helpful. You got to fend for the baby doll.
Speaker 1: Who finning for baby dolls? Them old ask people that's
Speaker 1: losing it just like you will. In the grocery stop,
Speaker 1: I was fending for my clip, which I actually had
Speaker 1: to stop touching because I started fake orgasming to go
Speaker 1: to bed, like literally my clip it's gone, Like I
Speaker 1: don't feel nothing, Just hand girl the womanizer. Goddamn put
Speaker 1: this on the motherfucker. You can't do it. Stopped working
Speaker 1: and then I realized, like, you know, this is how
Speaker 1: I go to bed at night. So I started like
Speaker 1: literally fake orgasming to my own self. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm doing the moment. I was like, uh, bitch, but no,
Speaker 1: I really didn't come and it would help me fall asleep.
Speaker 1: It's been really the cat. What about the cat's gonna
Speaker 1: bring me some happiness? Um god, I thought that bitch
Speaker 1: in the hallway last night. He wouldn't let me sleep.
Speaker 1: He just want to keep playing. So I set him
Speaker 1: up in the hallway. Business. You gotta new to the
Speaker 1: girl lit. Okay, it's lit, and I think it's a
Speaker 1: but don't act hyper on the because it's gonna match
Speaker 1: your energy. What do you mean to think it's a boy?
Speaker 1: So here's the thing, right, I think he picked up
Speaker 1: the cats. We can tell you. I did. Oh, it's
Speaker 1: either balls or a fat pussy. I can't tell, Like,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I gotta look on the internet and
Speaker 1: see what the balls as well. Don't be the person
Speaker 1: that says nipples makes it a boy or girl? That
Speaker 1: would be me. All right, I'm about to hold on cat, pussy, cat,
Speaker 1: male or female? This is but look at kitting because
Speaker 1: I know when the balls dropped. But so she hit
Speaker 1: me this morning and said, hey, the lady said it's
Speaker 1: a girl, and I was like, oh, bitch, I was
Speaker 1: just sure it was a boy. But I so, I
Speaker 1: guess it's a fat pussy. You know what. I take
Speaker 1: it back, um, typing cat male or female, and they
Speaker 1: show you the but oh, okay, here's a good tip.
Speaker 1: The boy booty hole. I not it's more circular. No,
Speaker 1: I am not looking at the booty hole. Bro. I
Speaker 1: like to look at the booty hole on a nigger.
Speaker 1: I'm not looking at the booty hole to see if
Speaker 1: it's circular on my cat. Bro. Okay, So I think
Speaker 1: is that a joke? It's a um let me see
Speaker 1: what I'm feeling better about. I love going to the
Speaker 1: grocery store, bitch. That what a treat. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: Trader Joe's. I'd be in there like talking to people
Speaker 1: to share how y'all doing. I fucking love it. Also, Um,
Speaker 1: everyone that goes to the Trader Joe's and the Lower
Speaker 1: East Side for some reason listens to horrible decisions. Either
Speaker 1: that or they just want to now speak to me
Speaker 1: because I've been going to that Trader Joe's for the
Speaker 1: last two years, and everybody'd be like, Yo, what's that? Yeah,
Speaker 1: so how y'all recorded? And then one girl or was
Speaker 1: this like two days ago? She was like that ship.
Speaker 1: I don't believe y'all. Y'all did not fucking record that ship. Nah,
Speaker 1: Like I know, y'all did that ship in the house
Speaker 1: together whatever, y'all be faking like ya don't funk with
Speaker 1: each other. But she was at the same crap like
Speaker 1: but you could literally hear I think I had a
Speaker 1: package come. My buzzer went off. Y'all know I'm in
Speaker 1: the bronx of you go here to Sirens? Right, it's
Speaker 1: one time at least one um what else? Oh, I'm
Speaker 1: really excited about this weekend because I am going to
Speaker 1: throw another club quarantine. I found this stoddy as dress
Speaker 1: that I'm gonna put on, and yeah, I hit up
Speaker 1: my drug dealer. I was like, what do you have,
Speaker 1: Let's just turn it up and he was like, I'm
Speaker 1: really dry right now. I'm like, well, I'll take what
Speaker 1: you got. I just don't shoot up whatever it else
Speaker 1: it is, I'll take it because if we are getting
Speaker 1: fucked up. But my nigga is like, Yo, we can't
Speaker 1: get too late because we don't sunk up our immune system.
Speaker 1: We gotta keep our ships strong. I'm like, okay, well
Speaker 1: it's either that or I'll kill myself in this house
Speaker 1: if I don't go to the club. Well, someone's calling me.
Speaker 1: How do I do it? What someone's doing? Okay? Sorry,
Speaker 1: I was going through my phone anyway. So I got
Speaker 1: the stoddy as dress and I'm gonna do Instagram like
Speaker 1: I got gonna do Venus Ex or Manny Fresh because
Speaker 1: he was super lit this weekend. And also I'm going
Speaker 1: to get a virtual lap dance. Magic City has been girl.
Speaker 1: You is not doing the virtual lap dance ship Okay,
Speaker 1: you're gonna give it or you're gonna get it. So
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get it. And um yeah, right now I've
Speaker 1: been using what was I gonna say, porn h Premium. Um,
Speaker 1: my user name is Horny and why couple if you
Speaker 1: guys want to see the comments that I leave on
Speaker 1: my boot cockey videos. But yeah, I'm gonna do the
Speaker 1: virtual app dance. I think I'm gonna get one from
Speaker 1: Neon Tree and a few other Magic City girls. This
Speaker 1: is my way to support, you know, the community and
Speaker 1: also another way, UM, you should do this too. So
Speaker 1: I'm doing a whole fucking purge of my apartment right
Speaker 1: because I would have donated these clothes anyway. So I'm
Speaker 1: making a posh mark and donating the I'm not personally
Speaker 1: not even gonna do the posh mark. There's a there's
Speaker 1: a watch McCall it downstairs for me to like just
Speaker 1: put clothes and ship in. Well, I was gonna do
Speaker 1: that too, but I'm doing the poshmart thing, and I'm
Speaker 1: donating the money to people that need it. Girl, you
Speaker 1: you said, I look like um love and hip hop
Speaker 1: if it was a person. I ain't giving these my
Speaker 1: spandex and they gonna love that ship got a liquid
Speaker 1: level ship from fashion. No no, no, no, no no,
Speaker 1: I'm not donating my clothes to COVID. Really, I'm like
Speaker 1: selling them and giving the proceeds so like stuff that
Speaker 1: I wore on the tour ship like that. The postmark
Speaker 1: game is wheezy. What the fuck? Um and everything. I'm
Speaker 1: still in ten dollars stuff, twenty dollars stuff, thirty dollar stuff,
Speaker 1: and then all that money I'm gonna give to um,
Speaker 1: you know, patrons and followers. I need it. That's really cute.
Speaker 1: I hope that's cute. Don't want to you know, it
Speaker 1: works out good. But anyways, guys, I'm excited because we
Speaker 1: are joined today by a yes, so we can introduce her.
Speaker 1: You've been quiet, am I bad foot but like holding
Speaker 1: you all, we just had to, you know, update the
Speaker 1: motherfucker's on what we're doing. She's black, We're back black.
Speaker 1: Who then I don't what I mean? You know, we
Speaker 1: mixing it up. We did have a caucagean last week
Speaker 1: she shout out to ms Corey Be shout out to
Speaker 1: her again. I hope you guys caught her um her
Speaker 1: podcast again her first episode. You can into her. Never
Speaker 1: have I ever squirted? And last week they did fucking fisting,
Speaker 1: which I still haven't gotten fisted. We know Wheezy has,
Speaker 1: but we're not gonna get her. Run Bro, you said,
Speaker 1: did you put your fists in her? Or she put
Speaker 1: her fisty? I didn't put this. I just put four
Speaker 1: fingers in and then I didn't knuckle up real quick,
Speaker 1: did you? This hole just said, I only put four
Speaker 1: fingers and the thumb that's your hand. But but I
Speaker 1: ain't make a fist, so I just fingered with my hand,
Speaker 1: but no one calls it handy, bro. I forgot I
Speaker 1: that bitch. Honestly, see, look at you. I'll remember before you.
Speaker 1: I want to. I want to introduce our guests. We
Speaker 1: have Andrea Jackson, who was a lifestyle coach and hosts
Speaker 1: of our Mirrors Reflections podcast. Hi Adrea, Hi girls, Hi Mandy,
Speaker 1: Hi Wheezy. Welcome to the show. So you are a
Speaker 1: lifestyle coach, So what is it that you focused on.
Speaker 1: I focused on a young girl's team, moms, uh mother's
Speaker 1: uh ex wives, you know, women who have been through trauma,
Speaker 1: Women who has done been through things when they were
Speaker 1: younger that unfortunately that weren't able to talk about it
Speaker 1: until they were adults and it has now transferred into
Speaker 1: their marriage or their relationships. So I deal with women
Speaker 1: that has dealt with many trauma weathers from their husband,
Speaker 1: from their dads, from brothers. Um I myself have experienced, right,
Speaker 1: So it's near and dear to me to give back
Speaker 1: to young girls who went through what I went through.
Speaker 1: I really like that. I think, um we we We
Speaker 1: had the episode with dub Um and she spoke of,
Speaker 1: you know, the gang rate that she experienced. But I
Speaker 1: think that it's important. We actually have we had any
Speaker 1: other conversations regarding trauma in sex and relationships as adults, Sweezie,
Speaker 1: I don't think we have. I thought of I know,
Speaker 1: I did the bonus episode regarding like the Surviving Society
Speaker 1: after the r Kelly thing, But I think we don't
Speaker 1: really talk about trauma much do. I think? Also, like
Speaker 1: a reason, Um, Andrea, we don't really talk about trauma
Speaker 1: too often is because, first of all, it's so subjective
Speaker 1: to that person. Like right, like we taught Mandy did
Speaker 1: a domestic violence episode and people didn't like it. People
Speaker 1: liked it, Like it's like, how soft can we be
Speaker 1: when we talk about it? How are we honoring that
Speaker 1: person that has the experience that listened. Um. Someone even
Speaker 1: said that our diaper Boy episode was triggering for them
Speaker 1: because it brought them back to molestation, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: just because he's freaking like you know. So I think
Speaker 1: that maybe steering clear from trauma has happened, or maybe
Speaker 1: people don't even hit us up about it too often
Speaker 1: to come on because they feel like we're too nasty.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, it's it's crazy because we focus
Speaker 1: a lot on kinks and the one thing that I
Speaker 1: know that I know we say no kink shaming, but
Speaker 1: I think that we do bring up that the fact
Speaker 1: that we don't like how a lot of people associate
Speaker 1: kinks with trauma. So I think you know what I mean, Like,
Speaker 1: if you're into something, oh you must have been molested
Speaker 1: as a child, or maybe you have daddy issues, and
Speaker 1: a lot of people tie kinks to trauma, and we
Speaker 1: try to like showcase that people can be into these
Speaker 1: kinks without having I I think you can be into
Speaker 1: these things and still have had trauma happened to you. Um.
Speaker 1: I feel if people are not dealing with certain situations,
Speaker 1: of course it's going to be triggering to you. But
Speaker 1: if you are out there getting your therapy and you're
Speaker 1: out there getting your help, you definitely know how to
Speaker 1: separate it. And I'm I'm living proof of that. Well
Speaker 1: should y'all know, I'll be triggering y'all wholes just be
Speaker 1: talking about married sucking married man, so I get everything
Speaker 1: trigger y'all. Motherfucker's Oh my god, she is just so
Speaker 1: proud to fuck married men. Okay, I'm sorry if you're triggered,
Speaker 1: married woman, Oh my god, Okay, may almost awful. I
Speaker 1: don't know. It's nothing wrong with living your truth. It's
Speaker 1: nothing wrong, and I do like don't for living my truth.
Speaker 1: And people need to just be who they are and
Speaker 1: be in their own skin. And if you could can't
Speaker 1: be with it, then you can't be with it. Also,
Speaker 1: like cheating conversations are triggering sometimes in general, Like oh
Speaker 1: my god, when I hear about the situation ships, I
Speaker 1: just think back to every nigga that I was holding
Speaker 1: onn for and I'm like, it's just the worst. You know,
Speaker 1: there's so much triggering ship in everything, bro, Like that's
Speaker 1: why people have to deal with their stuff. I mean
Speaker 1: not only triggering. I don't know if y'all saw it,
Speaker 1: but Netflix just tweeted UM that they removed the are
Speaker 1: you still watching um? Feature on their platform because they
Speaker 1: know we're not doing nothing? And I felt triggered, like
Speaker 1: that was a fake tweet. I mean, well, oh I
Speaker 1: posted it, maybe they were let me see. I'm pretty
Speaker 1: sure that was when they said we know you guys
Speaker 1: are doing nothing. We do we I mean it's said Netflix.
Speaker 1: They said it was from Netflix. Because I reposted that
Speaker 1: ship to my story, I was like, oh, I feel triggered, baby, Like,
Speaker 1: how you know I'm not doing nothing? I mean I'm
Speaker 1: not doing nothing, but yeah, I don't think Netflix. Let's
Speaker 1: say that, bro, yeah, bro verified account. Look, I'm going
Speaker 1: to Mandy and do you think that they can't photo
Speaker 1: shot fucking fake ship? Oh you might be right, Okay
Speaker 1: photos shot I ain't, but no, they don't have it anymore. Okay,
Speaker 1: So we're gonna We're gonna start this week's episode though
Speaker 1: with an icebreaker. Um. Last week we played never Have
Speaker 1: I Ever? And this week with our guests, I want
Speaker 1: to play have you ever? And if you've ever done
Speaker 1: these things? Do share? Please? This is now storytime. So
Speaker 1: have you ever warns? Well? I know weezy done, of
Speaker 1: course done every Why did she always? I ain't gonna
Speaker 1: hold you. I feel like you may have done this
Speaker 1: in middle school, hope. Have you ever warned special clothes
Speaker 1: to cover a hickie? Now? Guess you're probably wearing turtlenecks
Speaker 1: in motherfucking the heat of summer, bitch, just to cover
Speaker 1: the hickies, Like you know, it's fashionable. I'm starting, That's
Speaker 1: why I'm one this weekend. You want to hit in Jorea?
Speaker 1: Have you ever worn special clothes? To cover a hicky.
Speaker 1: Yes I have. I'm guilty as charged. I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 1: Hicky is kind of like hunching to me. It's such
Speaker 1: a weird word. I kind of like to show off
Speaker 1: that every now and then. I'm like, yeah, I know
Speaker 1: I'm an oldie, but goody, but I still get something.
Speaker 1: I was sucking you you like to show off your hickies.
Speaker 1: I think hickies are such a childish thing to get. Why.
Speaker 1: It just shows you how good it is, that's all. No,
Speaker 1: it's like, nigger, you a vampire? Why are you sucking
Speaker 1: on my neck like to where it leaves a mark? Like?
Speaker 1: Do you not know how to keep at People get
Speaker 1: spanked and leave marks there too. That's a passion mark.
Speaker 1: I didn't think about that same thing. The only thing
Speaker 1: that freaks out about higgies. I'm like, Oh, it's all
Speaker 1: the blood. Is that what it is? Oh? I know
Speaker 1: you're not cringing for blood? We know you love blood.
Speaker 1: Shut bitch. My periods sucking coming on on Monday, so
Speaker 1: by the time you guys here, this will be here.
Speaker 1: And I was like, nigga, we got suck everywhere this week.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, hallelujah. Y'all, she's made it another month
Speaker 1: without getting pregnant. I'd be praying for your period. I'll
Speaker 1: go on that baby like ali want um Nah. I
Speaker 1: saw a tweet the other day that said, playing parents,
Speaker 1: I need to open back up this motherfucker growing. Oh.
Speaker 1: So the second have you ever? Oh? Go ahead? What
Speaker 1: she was gonna say? Go ahead? Oh? I was gonna say.
Speaker 1: The second have you ever? Is? Have you ever had
Speaker 1: sex with a person whose name you didn't know? Nah?
Speaker 1: Damn no, no, no, only names? Wazy, I'm sorry, I'm
Speaker 1: reading what a hicky is? What? Um? Have you ever
Speaker 1: had sex with a person whose name you didn't know? So,
Speaker 1: y'all really gonna make me be the only one? I'm
Speaker 1: sure if there's I'm the only one of some things
Speaker 1: that you didn't do either, child. I told listen, okay,
Speaker 1: you're right um for this one, and I shared the story.
Speaker 1: I may have shared it on a Patreon. I went
Speaker 1: to a party a couple of months ago, and me
Speaker 1: and this guy ended up like it was just like
Speaker 1: a matchmate in heaven. We ended up getting a room
Speaker 1: in the city and we had just some wild sex
Speaker 1: and the next morning we reintroduced ourselves because I could
Speaker 1: not remember what he even said his name was, and
Speaker 1: so I was like, hey, nice to meeting. I was like,
Speaker 1: by the way, my name is Mandy. Um well that
Speaker 1: was interesting. Um so yeah, so I we reintroduced ourselves
Speaker 1: in the morning after having sex, so listen, you know,
Speaker 1: and I was and now I'm not because we're in quarantine,
Speaker 1: and so I'm glad I experienced what I have experienced.
Speaker 1: Um So the next one is have you ever faked
Speaker 1: an orgasm? Now? I shared that I faked an orgasm
Speaker 1: just recently with my goddamn self. Have y'all ever faked
Speaker 1: an orgasm with your partners? Of course? Oh with my
Speaker 1: partner currently? No? I mean ever, yeah, I have Do
Speaker 1: you fake? So? I know we faked it with guys before.
Speaker 1: Have you ever faked um an orgasm with a woman?
Speaker 1: How do you fake it with a woman? I get
Speaker 1: the same way. I'm just like, so you do the
Speaker 1: Caucasian moment? Am I faked it with a woman? That
Speaker 1: generally women are better? But I've sucked a few girls
Speaker 1: that like had never been with a woman, and then
Speaker 1: they're just like doing a lot. So I just wanted
Speaker 1: to be over so, but I just know that it's
Speaker 1: probably I am actually more sensitive to the woman's ego
Speaker 1: than I am the man's ego. That's why I feel
Speaker 1: like I've had two with girls, which is probably sucked up.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I thought my man recently faked
Speaker 1: an orgasm with me, and I had a whole fit
Speaker 1: and he was like, trust me, it's gonna come out.
Speaker 1: It's gonna come out, and like so he just had
Speaker 1: the quietest fucking come I'd ever heard, and he doesn't
Speaker 1: come that way. I was like, you didn't come. I
Speaker 1: got up. I was so mad. I took a shower
Speaker 1: and then I felt it and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: but I ain't gonna I ain't gonna hold you because
Speaker 1: sometimes I know and Nigga can be lying, especially if
Speaker 1: I'm sucking for a long time, I want to look
Speaker 1: in the condom and make sure it's in there right,
Speaker 1: So I'd be feeling like Nigga's be fake coming bro, dude,
Speaker 1: they do. So then I started, we got this whole thing.
Speaker 1: He's like, why would I Hollywood come with you, Nigga?
Speaker 1: Why I would just tell you we can suck tomorrow.
Speaker 1: That wasn't fake. I'm like, so why he was quiet
Speaker 1: He's like, I was only quiet because I wanted to
Speaker 1: hear you come. Oh he gotta answer for every but
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna lie. I squeeze the tip of his
Speaker 1: dick to make sure some of it came out. I
Speaker 1: was being a real extra. Wait you squeeze the tip
Speaker 1: of his dick. Bro. He was laughing. And then we
Speaker 1: had a whole conversation about Hollywood cubs and I was like,
Speaker 1: what's the worst that you've done. He was like, Oh,
Speaker 1: I've spent on bitches booties before, Like I've done it all.
Speaker 1: He's like, I grabbed the condomn real quick, take it
Speaker 1: off and be like yo, So that's the trick that
Speaker 1: I'd be knowing, Like niggas are just real quick, pulled
Speaker 1: a condomn off and act like they gotta go piss
Speaker 1: or something now, Like oh no, nigga, I need to
Speaker 1: see that there's coming that condom. Did you come? That's
Speaker 1: embarrassing if you if a woman got to ask, nigga,
Speaker 1: but did you come? Ship? We're not supposed to be
Speaker 1: asking that ship? I mean yeah, But I think also
Speaker 1: we have a lot of we put a lot of
Speaker 1: pressure on men coming like that's always like the quote
Speaker 1: unquote finale of sex. So maybe they just feel the
Speaker 1: pressure for it too. I don't know. I'll look at
Speaker 1: you being all, you know, cautious of the mail because
Speaker 1: I want to bar tickets when we come back on tour.
Speaker 1: That's that's so we Weezy found this week's Vanilla shipn
Speaker 1: dot Com. Um. It's funny because I was talking to
Speaker 1: Andrea before recording and she actually saw this too. I
Speaker 1: actually did not see this, and it's interesting. Whither do
Speaker 1: you want to read the Vanilla ship or you want
Speaker 1: me to y? Yeah, let me just pull it back up.
Speaker 1: So UM, shout out to our Twitter listeners. A few
Speaker 1: people tagged me in this and I was like, holy,
Speaker 1: ship is just costing. Yeah, I mean we can't do anything.
Speaker 1: We can't ride a bike, we can't go for a
Speaker 1: run or for a swim because new clamydia species are
Speaker 1: have now been discovered deep under the Arctic Ocean. That's wow.
Speaker 1: I can't even talk are fact that this is from
Speaker 1: CNN dot com. Okay, so when people hear the word clamydia,
Speaker 1: they usually think about STDs, and it's true that that
Speaker 1: specific bacteria can cause lamydia depending on your interactions. UM
Speaker 1: with people, but you can also get it with different
Speaker 1: organisms to survive. So a team of researchers discovered that
Speaker 1: new clamydia related species is below the Arctic Ocean in
Speaker 1: a place with no oxygen, without an apparent host organism,
Speaker 1: so it's not like it's even coming from someplace. It's
Speaker 1: almost like it's growing. Um. Finding chlamydia in this environment
Speaker 1: was completely unexpected, and of course beg the question what
Speaker 1: on earth was it doing there? Um says that they're
Speaker 1: basically trying to find ways and how chlamydia is coming
Speaker 1: into effect with humans and other animals. Um. They came
Speaker 1: across a number of diverse cousins of chlamydia between point
Speaker 1: one and nine meters below the sea floor. UM, I
Speaker 1: ain't a lie. That made me happy because I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: it's below to the floor. That means we could still
Speaker 1: fucking the ocean if we But you know what doesn't
Speaker 1: anything Because Andrea, last week or not last week, a
Speaker 1: few weeks ago, someone wrote in and said, can you
Speaker 1: create chlamydia? Because her man gave her the ship and
Speaker 1: he said he wasn't cheating. That's a damn line. So
Speaker 1: so she wanted to know if their bodies together could
Speaker 1: create No. He was like, Yo, no business dipping in.
Speaker 1: You listen to the fucking holes every week. Bitch, I'll
Speaker 1: trying to tell you I went swimming, my nigga, I
Speaker 1: was swimming. And then look that's what they're gonna say.
Speaker 1: Now they're gonna be like I went to the beach, man,
Speaker 1: I went to the sea. You'll be out there doing
Speaker 1: some violations and I'm not down with that. Okay, you
Speaker 1: have to be responsible. You gotta be responsible. Man, what
Speaker 1: beach do you think has the most chlamydia in New York?
Speaker 1: In New York, here she goes, She's gonna to New
Speaker 1: York like that Jones. Bitch, I got I got the
Speaker 1: Orchard beach. I got a rock Away. You got a
Speaker 1: rock man from Queens. I used to go to Rockaway
Speaker 1: when I was a kid. But I haven't been in
Speaker 1: the beach in New York. And so here's when I
Speaker 1: go to the beach. I don't go in the water.
Speaker 1: I just go. I just go in the water. You
Speaker 1: go in the water, wheezy. Actually no, I don't. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's my point. You don't go in the water in
Speaker 1: New York. So y'all looking at me like I'm crazy,
Speaker 1: But why don't we the girl because it's New York.
Speaker 1: They you see what they'd be putting in the guy there,
Speaker 1: so I saw. Let me tell you, I almost thought
Speaker 1: these niggles was lying and they just didn't know what
Speaker 1: one looks like. But I went to Rockaway Beach last
Speaker 1: summer in my whole girl. We're drinking, we have a
Speaker 1: good time, and these needna started bugging out because they
Speaker 1: see a dolphin and I was like, why they like?
Speaker 1: There was a dolphin for real? There actually was, And
Speaker 1: I was the judge bench talking about they don't have
Speaker 1: to There was like the only beach that I really like,
Speaker 1: and I think, actually I'm lying. I have been in
Speaker 1: the water, but it's not a New York beach. Would
Speaker 1: be Gunnison. It's the nude beach in Jersey off Sandy Hook,
Speaker 1: And I mean it's it's up that got the media open,
Speaker 1: and then they created situations that they're writing in I'm
Speaker 1: a weak anyways, I want to get into this week's
Speaker 1: horrid dirt um And it was only right because um,
Speaker 1: if you don't live with a motherfucker, you shouldn't be
Speaker 1: sucking them. I was talking to my homegirl. She still
Speaker 1: got tender niggas just popping up to drop the dick off,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, girl, this is not the time. Guys. Yes,
Speaker 1: like that she met off tender because she ain't got
Speaker 1: no more time but to swipe. And I'm just like, okay,
Speaker 1: I get it, you want to funk, but baby girl, no,
Speaker 1: this isn't that. So the horrid dirt for this week,
Speaker 1: I know we normally give sex tips, so I want
Speaker 1: on yes. So well, by the way, guys, me and
Speaker 1: Mandy actually picked the same hord dirt because I was like,
Speaker 1: because I kept picking a couple of ship and I
Speaker 1: was like, well, I guess that ain't right. Yeah, because bitch,
Speaker 1: I ain't coupling. I ain't even have a sex with
Speaker 1: someone else. So I was like, oh, bitch, sex tips,
Speaker 1: let me lean into the masturbation band. Um. So the
Speaker 1: horder for this week that I have in Andrea, I
Speaker 1: would love for you to share maybe one of your
Speaker 1: masturbation tips. I have one being to explore a rogynous zone,
Speaker 1: so that means playing with like your nipples, your ears,
Speaker 1: your thighs. Um. It's something that I actually do and
Speaker 1: I'm like, just watching Netflix. I love rubbing in between
Speaker 1: my thighs. It just started getting my pussy wet before then.
Speaker 1: I'm just like, now I gotta watch porn and play
Speaker 1: with myself. But I love rubbing my thighs. I also
Speaker 1: and I'm not sure if it counts because I'm at
Speaker 1: home and bitch, I ain't got no niggas, I ain't
Speaker 1: really shaving like that. I love playing with my little
Speaker 1: pussy hairs. Bitch. I'll just be like, I don't turn
Speaker 1: you know, because it makes me. I don't know, I
Speaker 1: don't know, it doesn't know. It kind of it turns
Speaker 1: out how long I love bitch a couples. I don't
Speaker 1: know a cinemeter. I don't even know what that type
Speaker 1: of metric system is, but they kind of long. I
Speaker 1: can play. I can like pull them a little bit.
Speaker 1: What I like playing with. I don't know what that
Speaker 1: metric system is for real, Like we don't use meters,
Speaker 1: we use inches and ship but it's not an inch.
Speaker 1: It's smaller than an inch, so it's it's right now
Speaker 1: it's kind of straight. So yeah, right now, I got
Speaker 1: kind of straight pubes. I ain't gonna hold you, um,
Speaker 1: but I'll just be kind of I used to have
Speaker 1: curly pubes until I started getting wax. Now that they're
Speaker 1: pulling that shipped from the root. Um, yeah see, which
Speaker 1: is why I've really just thought it was the difference
Speaker 1: between pussy hairs and dick hares, because bitch all the niggas,
Speaker 1: they should be so curly. I mean, like Dann, why
Speaker 1: we ain't got curly hair down there. I thought that's
Speaker 1: just the difference between sexes. I ain't gonna hold you.
Speaker 1: I thought women had straight pubs and guy's head women
Speaker 1: do not have not all women have straight I didn't
Speaker 1: know that, like for real, for real, like I don't know.
Speaker 1: I guess I've never really seen super curly hubes on
Speaker 1: a woman. I don't know how it is, especially how
Speaker 1: it is you know what when you get a bush
Speaker 1: and naturally just actually I don't still have that book.
Speaker 1: I have a book of you have a pubes. I
Speaker 1: have a book of pussy and it's different images. I
Speaker 1: got it at the Museum of Sex, and it shows
Speaker 1: you like vaginas throughout time. It's dope. I actually have
Speaker 1: that book. If you do orange little one, it shows
Speaker 1: you to shake some of them right and so like
Speaker 1: you have skinny ones, you have big fluffy juicy ones
Speaker 1: you have. I I like that book maybec what kind
Speaker 1: of how are you? I ain't gonna hold you. I
Speaker 1: would probably want a book of dicks bad one. Really,
Speaker 1: I think that's the one I want. I really enjoy
Speaker 1: the site of a penis um more than ever, goddamn it.
Speaker 1: Another one is another masturbation tip, which I actually kind
Speaker 1: of reference to earlier, is to give your sex toys
Speaker 1: a break. Wheezy told me put the woman eyes down
Speaker 1: and use my fingers. So vibrators and didos are loads
Speaker 1: of fun to play with, but they're not the only
Speaker 1: sex toys in town. For example, you can simulate yourself
Speaker 1: with maybe your shower head, or you can rub your
Speaker 1: bova against a pillow all the I'm like, I ain't
Speaker 1: gonna hold you. I actually have um. I don't know
Speaker 1: because I don't have my acrylic nails anymore. I feel
Speaker 1: like now I could really play with my pussy different.
Speaker 1: It just feels different than when I have my nails on.
Speaker 1: But you're like, I can get in. I mean, but
Speaker 1: so I don't. I don't finger myself. I only like
Speaker 1: which is weird. Which is weird because I talked about
Speaker 1: how I don't like head. But masturbation wise, I can
Speaker 1: only play with my clip. I don't stick my fingers
Speaker 1: in myself, but when a man is giving me head,
Speaker 1: I asked him to put his fingers in me so
Speaker 1: I can't fucking sunk myself. I don't know why I didn't.
Speaker 1: So I me and you had checked out the same
Speaker 1: article and one thing I liked in there if they
Speaker 1: talked about the different positions to masturbate in so for women,
Speaker 1: they talked about squatting. I actually I don't know. Let
Speaker 1: me tell you how I did this. The other night.
Speaker 1: That ship was so fucking good. This is really fucked up.
Speaker 1: And I actually didn't tell him this, but I was
Speaker 1: obsulating and my nigga was sleep and we already had
Speaker 1: sex once and then twice. He woke up in the
Speaker 1: middle of the night and I had to do it again,
Speaker 1: and I was like, yo, he's gonna get like I
Speaker 1: could only imagine how I would feel if I knew
Speaker 1: like he went in the bathroom while I was sleeping
Speaker 1: to go masturbate because like, I didn't give him enough.
Speaker 1: So I was like, let me just would you be mad?
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be mad, but I'd be like God, damn bitch.
Speaker 1: Like I did everything, I couldn't ain't enough. So I
Speaker 1: went in the bathroom and I didn't want to sit
Speaker 1: on the toilet, so I just squatted down and I
Speaker 1: just fucking masturbated like while squatting, And it was a
Speaker 1: whole different feeling. So it's crazy. When I read it
Speaker 1: and it said squatting, it was weird, but that ship
Speaker 1: felt good. And then when I was like really coming,
Speaker 1: I had to like put my hand down because I
Speaker 1: couldn't hold the squat anymore. But for men, they talked
Speaker 1: about jerking off on all fours because it'll emulate kind
Speaker 1: of doggy style, right, So hey, wait, is that possible
Speaker 1: if they're using their hands? Yeah, I mean just like
Speaker 1: just like technically down all threes, bitch. Okay, I'm just
Speaker 1: saying I'm trying to get that. I'm trying to get
Speaker 1: the numbers right around here. Andrea, do you have any
Speaker 1: masturbation tips? Ice cubes in masturbation? What is it that
Speaker 1: you do with them? No? So you insert what was it?
Speaker 1: What does it do for you? What is it? You
Speaker 1: bring ice cubes to the bed and then you just
Speaker 1: put it in your pussy and then do what it
Speaker 1: just melts and then feels good. Yeah, you put it
Speaker 1: in a condom. No it's too cold, is it? No?
Speaker 1: Not if you're hot, think about it, think about your
Speaker 1: hand and it does melt, Yes, melted a little bit,
Speaker 1: and then go ahead and see what happens. I ain't
Speaker 1: gonna hold you. I hate confusing my wetness with something
Speaker 1: else that's wet. That's why I don't like like doing
Speaker 1: anything in the shower. It's like, is my pussy really wet?
Speaker 1: Or is this water? As long as you have your
Speaker 1: happy ending is how I see it. It's just a
Speaker 1: different consistency. I guess water and my pussy juice. My
Speaker 1: pussy just like it's a little bit more slippery. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I just like I want to get into
Speaker 1: um um the horrible decision though for this week it's
Speaker 1: kind of a whole lot um. Just with the pandemic
Speaker 1: that's going on, I wanted to talk about sex and
Speaker 1: mental health. Um. I guess before we get started, I
Speaker 1: want to talk to you guys kind of what's been
Speaker 1: going on with me. UM. I am getting into therapy
Speaker 1: because through this pandemic, I've had something sing that has
Speaker 1: happened recently and it's I guess it's an AHA moment
Speaker 1: or a self reflection. And I actually talked to my
Speaker 1: old roommate about it and she was like, girl, I'm
Speaker 1: glad you finally see it, because I was, you know,
Speaker 1: kind of wondering. Um. Last week I talked about considering
Speaker 1: flying dick in um, I knowing that I couldn't have
Speaker 1: the human connection I've just I was super just antsy,
Speaker 1: like trying to have sex, trying to figure out what
Speaker 1: I can stick in my pussy, trying to figure out
Speaker 1: how it would work for me to get with a guy.
Speaker 1: And so a guy texts me. Actually a lot of
Speaker 1: guys have been texting me, and I've been really nasty
Speaker 1: to them and so the other days just just really
Speaker 1: mean because um, and this is where I guess the
Speaker 1: self reflection came in. Um, a guy hit me just
Speaker 1: to check up on me and stuff like that, and
Speaker 1: I was very short and brief with him, and he
Speaker 1: was like, damn, like what's your problem? And I was like, well, nigga,
Speaker 1: I don't need a penpal right now. And I know
Speaker 1: I've talked on this show before about the pen pal idea,
Speaker 1: and I realized that, well, if a man can't physically
Speaker 1: see me and give me quality time, if he can't
Speaker 1: sexually see me and fuck me, or if he can't
Speaker 1: financially do anything for me. I realized that I have
Speaker 1: no desire to have that emotional connection to men, and
Speaker 1: I like, I almost started crying. I was like, damn,
Speaker 1: maybe this is what's been wrong with me and why
Speaker 1: I had the relationship that I had and why I
Speaker 1: have a lot of these sexual relationships. Um, it is
Speaker 1: because I don't try to find an emotional connection to men.
Speaker 1: It's either sexual, physical, or financial. And so I know
Speaker 1: I haven't said I was gonna be absentent before, but
Speaker 1: although I'm forced now, I now, um, I am gonna
Speaker 1: go through life coaching and therapy to figure out why
Speaker 1: this is my connection with men, and I think that
Speaker 1: that's been something positive to come out of this. So sexually,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm no longer like focusing on when is the
Speaker 1: next time I'm gonna funk, When is the next time
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be penetrated, When of the next time I'm
Speaker 1: gonna suck a dick. I need to find how I
Speaker 1: can emotionally connect to a man, and I don't think
Speaker 1: I I've picked up on that. That's honest, and I think,
Speaker 1: like very vulnerable for you to say, because I feel
Speaker 1: like some people because I'm listening to it and not
Speaker 1: and I'm like, of course you like you've already said this,
Speaker 1: but I think just acknowledging that you know it's necessary
Speaker 1: now because like even when you talk about like, oh,
Speaker 1: my friends are good to have my friends, I have
Speaker 1: my friends. That's important when you're single, um and when
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship. But I think that feeling like
Speaker 1: you have an emotional connection to your friend can't replace
Speaker 1: the romantic one. And I think that's my life coach
Speaker 1: said exactly what you're saying. He's just like, you speak
Speaker 1: so highly of your friends and have this emotional tist
Speaker 1: with your friends, but when you speak of your lovers,
Speaker 1: you act like your lovers can't also be your friends
Speaker 1: with that emotional caring, like everything you care about your friends.
Speaker 1: And so I don't know, I'm it's been kind of
Speaker 1: big and I'm now seeing the emphasis that I have
Speaker 1: on sex and I'm just like, Okay, I need to
Speaker 1: find a healthy space because now that I'm looking at it,
Speaker 1: I see that maybe my connection to sex and men
Speaker 1: has not really been that healthy. It's like, I think
Speaker 1: it's a reset that's happening for you, and I think
Speaker 1: it's tappening for all of us, just some different ways.
Speaker 1: I think you acknowledging that on your own is a
Speaker 1: huge shattering the ceiling moment, and you shouldn't take it
Speaker 1: lightly because it takes a lot for persons to self
Speaker 1: reflect and say, huh, this is what my issue is
Speaker 1: and this is why I'm not allowing men in. So
Speaker 1: I think this is where you are. You are very
Speaker 1: tight with your friends, you give your friends, you're all
Speaker 1: put there's a disconnect with men where you just put
Speaker 1: them in this box, and you have to then ask yourself,
Speaker 1: why are you in that box? And why am I
Speaker 1: putting them all in the box? Why am I not
Speaker 1: allowing them to come and stimulate me mentally? Right, it's
Speaker 1: just a basical thing and it's an exchange, but you're
Speaker 1: not exchanging it with your mind. So when that dude
Speaker 1: cold you and said hey, I want to hollerate you
Speaker 1: and talk to see how you doing, he was like, oh, no,
Speaker 1: that's right, that's exactly where I went to and and
Speaker 1: it was to me where I had to um figure
Speaker 1: that out and shout out to DJ damage Um. I've
Speaker 1: been talking to him a lot just because we have
Speaker 1: so much in common. And I even had to tell him,
Speaker 1: I said, can I tell you how much I appreciate
Speaker 1: just talking to you every day, like about the things
Speaker 1: that make me happy. As far as creating, He's always
Speaker 1: like asking me, have I come up with another way
Speaker 1: to make money? Like you know, this is our creative
Speaker 1: bubble right now that we're in, And I enjoyed that.
Speaker 1: I actually had to thank him yesterday. I was like,
Speaker 1: I haven't had just a conversation that was free flowing
Speaker 1: that I enjoyed with a man in a long time.
Speaker 1: And me and him have not touched on sex at all.
Speaker 1: It's not even going there, and so I'm just appreciating
Speaker 1: even just having that conversation without going into so do
Speaker 1: you like it from the back? Do you like yes?
Speaker 1: Ate dad? Do you like your balls played with? And
Speaker 1: I'm just realizing that that's where And I know Weezy
Speaker 1: has told me like sex shouldn't be a conversation so early,
Speaker 1: and I'm just like, damn, maybe damn. I don't want
Speaker 1: to say Weezy was right, because y'all know I don't
Speaker 1: want to give it, say say say Weezy was right,
Speaker 1: It's okay, well in that space. Yet it's different because
Speaker 1: if Mandy knows that she can't have anything more like
Speaker 1: let's say they are married, or let's say that it
Speaker 1: is supposed to be casual, then maybe yeah, but no,
Speaker 1: I have always said that I felt like sometimes it
Speaker 1: was too early because to me, I just think it'll
Speaker 1: be difficult for wanting to grow a deeper connection after sex,
Speaker 1: not that it can't happen. I mean, I'm in that
Speaker 1: relationship right now. Right then. They literally told me, I
Speaker 1: think a few months ago, after we've been on vacations together,
Speaker 1: that he didn't know what my favorite color was. You know, wow,
Speaker 1: I didn't even know that. And it's like thinking what
Speaker 1: and it and it took time to realize, like wow,
Speaker 1: this It is really hard to get deep, deep, deep
Speaker 1: and deeper with someone you've been sucking for a minute.
Speaker 1: And I think it just starts off a lot better
Speaker 1: when because if you don't like the person that they are,
Speaker 1: you leave him before you back him. So it's it's
Speaker 1: crazy that you brought that up. I wanted before we
Speaker 1: get into that conversation. And Andrea, you and I were
Speaker 1: just gonna kind of mix up the order here, but
Speaker 1: we I wanted to ask you because because um, this
Speaker 1: ship is, you know, requiring distancing from group sex and
Speaker 1: orgy sex, and you guys love bringing other partners, and
Speaker 1: I want to know if mentally it's you know, changed
Speaker 1: anything with you or him that you're not having thirds join.
Speaker 1: I just want to know how if someone who's normally
Speaker 1: into group sex and that's excitement for you, how this
Speaker 1: pandemic has kind of changed your thought process with that.
Speaker 1: We just talked about this on Sunday. Yes, I know
Speaker 1: a lot of our listeners are into that lifestyle too,
Speaker 1: So can you talk to that and how it's changed
Speaker 1: and what the conversation around that is. So uh, Sunday night,
Speaker 1: I am and treated it too. I was like crying. Really,
Speaker 1: I know, I always think I cry, which I do, um,
Speaker 1: but at a really hard time and we had just
Speaker 1: made dinner and I was, I mean hard, like making
Speaker 1: noise crying, And I didn't want to tell him because
Speaker 1: I find that sometimes when you burden somebody with your
Speaker 1: emotional ship, like it can be too much, especially in
Speaker 1: a time right now. So I'm like, let me just
Speaker 1: keep it light. So we get in the bed and
Speaker 1: he could tell I was upset, and he was like, listen,
Speaker 1: the things that we do as a couple that makes
Speaker 1: us happy, we still do, but there's a big piece
Speaker 1: that miss. It's missing. And he was like, and we
Speaker 1: always kicking by that. He like, we go out, we fucking,
Speaker 1: we do this, we do that. And he was like,
Speaker 1: and that can't be our only fulfillment, Like that's not
Speaker 1: why we love each other, that's just something we love
Speaker 1: to do. He's like, trust me, I miss watching basketball.
Speaker 1: I know you miss going and out in shopping. He
Speaker 1: was like, that's just an aspect that's gone away. But
Speaker 1: this is just more time for us to connect on
Speaker 1: another level. And we literally had to sit in the
Speaker 1: bed and talk about like goals for the next ten
Speaker 1: days thirty days is like not even sexually, but I
Speaker 1: think it's just like sex is such a big part
Speaker 1: of our relationship that we had to talk about like
Speaker 1: opening it up to more ship. Um. So, I mean
Speaker 1: we definitely got deeper after that, but I mean it
Speaker 1: ain't easy. I FaceTime this girl that we fucked, and
Speaker 1: he was like, I mean, is it really bad to
Speaker 1: have her over here? See? Yes, because you don't don't,
Speaker 1: And that's why I wanted to ask you, like, I
Speaker 1: know that that's been a big thing you shared on
Speaker 1: the platform. Even when you travel, it's a part of
Speaker 1: your sex life, so being that you do have to
Speaker 1: kind of limit who you're around, I was wondering how
Speaker 1: that has affected, like you know, so we added it up.
Speaker 1: There's only once that we know, sorry twice because Thanksgiving?
Speaker 1: What account with my mom that we didn't have sex
Speaker 1: in someone a vacation and not of them we're playing.
Speaker 1: They just happened. So it's like constant, constant, constant. I
Speaker 1: thought Puerto Rico was gonna be it. Nope, last night
Speaker 1: we suck a bitch. Um. Yeah. The conversation wasn't easy either,
Speaker 1: because I told him I was like, it's sucking up
Speaker 1: my self esteem a little bit because for me, I
Speaker 1: feel super sexy when I get to be with another woman,
Speaker 1: I get super turned on, and knowing we're going out
Speaker 1: and picking someone, it's my way of keeping dating fresh.
Speaker 1: Like it's making me feel really shitty and I'm like
Speaker 1: really having a sit and deal with that. So you
Speaker 1: you went to bring in I guess the face time
Speaker 1: was something. Are are there any other things. If someone's
Speaker 1: listening and they're also used to having three sims with
Speaker 1: their partner, do you have any tips for them, Like
Speaker 1: have you implemented anything yet that seems to make up
Speaker 1: for the lack of another? The only thing that it's,
Speaker 1: like I said, we're gonna try this weekend, it's the
Speaker 1: virtual lap dances because it's I'm a boy, a blow
Speaker 1: up doll. Let me know that nigga address, you're gonna
Speaker 1: blow up doll this, I'm good? What a faith it?
Speaker 1: But I do have this week? And I was thinking,
Speaker 1: oh my god, what Yeah, listen, I didn't like last
Speaker 1: week and very like minimally, but I'm just gonna get
Speaker 1: the wig. And I know he's probably gonna laugh and
Speaker 1: think it's silly at first, but if we're sucked up,
Speaker 1: he'll get into it. And that is funny, Like, yo,
Speaker 1: I'm making a whole thing, go for it. That is funny.
Speaker 1: So I wanted to switch this conversation. We really actually
Speaker 1: kind of brought something up like if you don't like
Speaker 1: a nigga, you can stop sucking them. And with this
Speaker 1: pandemic and a lot of people working from home now,
Speaker 1: they're spending a lot more time around their partners, and
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people are realizing maybe they
Speaker 1: don't like their partners as much as they thought they did. So, um, Andrea,
Speaker 1: why do you what? I guess, what would you suggest
Speaker 1: for someone who's realizing this, you know the fact that
Speaker 1: we have to stay at home and them seeing that
Speaker 1: maybe they're not as into either emotionally basically or sexually
Speaker 1: into their partners, Like, what are things that they can
Speaker 1: do to to not make that hinder, you know, their relationship.
Speaker 1: I would say, first of all, you know, we're all
Speaker 1: in a very interesting space right now, and I think
Speaker 1: I think people need to really sit down and deal
Speaker 1: with their stuff first before they go to their partner,
Speaker 1: because sometimes it's what we're feeling about ourselves and then
Speaker 1: we're projecting it onto the other person. So what I
Speaker 1: would say is, first, well, write down on a piece
Speaker 1: of paper what are the things that you feel you're
Speaker 1: lacking and what are the things you feel that you
Speaker 1: need that you're not getting. That's number one. Another thing
Speaker 1: that I would say to do is record yourself first,
Speaker 1: because you could really Once you record yourself and play
Speaker 1: that ship back, trust me, you'll realize you've got a
Speaker 1: little crazy new that you need to record yourself having
Speaker 1: a conversation, record yourself, which I do a lot, having
Speaker 1: a conversation with yourself, speak out your feeling and record it. Yes,
Speaker 1: and then when I say put it on pause after
Speaker 1: you're done, don't play it right away. Pick it up
Speaker 1: the next day and play it, and then you could
Speaker 1: hear what is really deep down bothering you. Is it
Speaker 1: that you're both in each other's face all the time
Speaker 1: and the kids is running around? Is it that you
Speaker 1: have to face affect your in a marriage and you're
Speaker 1: not having sex. Okay, it's one thing when you're both
Speaker 1: working full time, you don't really have to dress it.
Speaker 1: It's one thing home twenty four hours for the last
Speaker 1: fourteen days together. You are really in a bad situation
Speaker 1: because it's it's crazy that you said the playback. So
Speaker 1: let me tell you. I was in a group chat
Speaker 1: with my homegirl. So she's still getting dicked during this
Speaker 1: quarantine ship. And so she met a guy Friday. He
Speaker 1: spent the whole weekend with this is in l A exactly.
Speaker 1: Maybe I think she was I don't know, maybe online.
Speaker 1: I didn't even ask where she met the guy. Yeah, No,
Speaker 1: she met literally met a guy on Friday. So it
Speaker 1: was either online or through mutual friends. I'll get the
Speaker 1: tea where she met the nigga. Anyways, we're all in
Speaker 1: the group chat and she's like, Bro, this nigga just
Speaker 1: came over. He came over Friday, he spent the weekend,
Speaker 1: and then come Monday, he stopped answering. His phone literally
Speaker 1: went over twenty four hours, goes to her, So listen,
Speaker 1: we're all on the phone and so like, wait, wait, wait,
Speaker 1: I said, wait one moment and I texted and then
Speaker 1: I voice recorded it, and I was like, wait, you
Speaker 1: met a nigga Friday. Let me spend the weekend with you.
Speaker 1: Let him get the pussy raw, because yeah, you let
Speaker 1: him fuck raw on top of just just for him
Speaker 1: to go see twenty four hours after he left your
Speaker 1: your thing mind you. Then when he came back to
Speaker 1: respond to her, he said, I'm just getting my phone back.
Speaker 1: The excuse right, girl? So I literally she was like,
Speaker 1: so I wrote it in a paragraph and she laughed.
Speaker 1: She was like, can you can you voice note that
Speaker 1: to me? So I reiterated it in a voice note
Speaker 1: and she's like, damn, hearing you say it, that sounds
Speaker 1: really bad. She was like, damn, I'm judging myself now,
Speaker 1: And it was literally hearing those words and what literally
Speaker 1: just happened, but hearing it back through vocals. So I
Speaker 1: actually liked the tip of you saying record your thoughts
Speaker 1: and listen back to it because you're judging. You can
Speaker 1: actually judge yourself the words that you're a great idea,
Speaker 1: and you don't have to call all your friends and
Speaker 1: get your friends all in your business and have them
Speaker 1: throw that in your face at the later time. That's me.
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna like. If she had the nigga over
Speaker 1: last night, I said, where is your self dignity? Bro?
Speaker 1: I said, where is it you let that nigga? I said,
Speaker 1: he's only gonna do what you allow. Didn't face time
Speaker 1: me while the nigga was at her house and was like,
Speaker 1: my friend hates you. I was like, your damn skippy
Speaker 1: because you ain't ship nigga. I said, you shouldn't have
Speaker 1: got pussy now. I said, but it's okay. My friend
Speaker 1: has no self worth and she's lonely. Say that who
Speaker 1: did it? She laughed, that's whar to God? I said it?
Speaker 1: I said, but we're gonna work on this. Do you
Speaker 1: know what. I really love when you can really tell
Speaker 1: your friends how you really feel. That's how that's how
Speaker 1: you know who you're real friends. And when he can
Speaker 1: tell you the truth about yourself. She was like, she
Speaker 1: was like, she was like, you keep saying that word dignity, bitch,
Speaker 1: I feel seen. And I said, I listen. And then
Speaker 1: she wanted to be petty and she thought she was
Speaker 1: gonna help me name my cat because she has cats,
Speaker 1: and then she started sucking naming it Jordan's. I said,
Speaker 1: get off the phone. I said, that's not what we're
Speaker 1: gonna do. I'm not having my cat after that. Nigga,
Speaker 1: thank you very much. I that's belowd about, way below,
Speaker 1: way belowd about. I'm like, damn, so you're gonna name
Speaker 1: my cat and nigga, I hate thank you. What's most
Speaker 1: disappointing to It's like when you get that call from
Speaker 1: a friend, or when you're the person that calls and
Speaker 1: you already know they're gonna be bad. Shout out to
Speaker 1: my home girl. I don't want to say your name,
Speaker 1: but that bitch called me. What was it like? A
Speaker 1: few weeks ago, we hadn't talked to a few days
Speaker 1: because I was away on vacation a few weeks ago.
Speaker 1: I'm like, what happened. She's like, girl, you know what happened.
Speaker 1: I'm like you she was like, yeah, but we are
Speaker 1: talking again, and I'm telling you I'm done. I'm done.
Speaker 1: I was like, but you were like, no, you're not.
Speaker 1: Me and your they both said they're never going to
Speaker 1: talk to each other again. And just a few days ago,
Speaker 1: she was like, Wow, this real thing is really not
Speaker 1: hitting me up to see if I'm okay. I'm like,
Speaker 1: y'all said you were down with each other. Wait, so
Speaker 1: that was like the last time fun. I don't know
Speaker 1: if you remember you were Replies had a song, um,
Speaker 1: let me funk one more time or something like that,
Speaker 1: before y'all remember Applies me be in real Florida right now, Um,
Speaker 1: before you leave, baby, let me funk one more time.
Speaker 1: It was called it was called one more Time. Y'all
Speaker 1: gotta listen to it, God damn it, sayce listen. I'm
Speaker 1: I'm gonna at it on Patreon because we're gonna get
Speaker 1: kicked off iTunes if I put it here. Just just
Speaker 1: look up one more time by Applies and it's literally
Speaker 1: that's your closure. Bro. You don't believe that somebody could
Speaker 1: suck somebody one more time and they never talk again.
Speaker 1: I had to close your sex with lover boy the
Speaker 1: day we broke up. And it's crazy because we had
Speaker 1: lunch in Dallas, UM, because he lives there now, and
Speaker 1: it was right before our show, and I was like, Oh,
Speaker 1: he's kind of cute. I could suck him again. But
Speaker 1: then I'm like, you know what, we had our closure
Speaker 1: fuck and that was why open it back up? I listen.
Speaker 1: I hate I hate backtracking, but y'all know, I haven't
Speaker 1: told you. I didn't have the same niggas in my
Speaker 1: phone for about ten years. I was a girl, and
Speaker 1: I ain't one of the niggas who I wanted to
Speaker 1: fly here. Bitch you went to school with and don't
Speaker 1: say his name, because you know, the only nigga from
Speaker 1: Olympia that I talked to. Oh he's so cute. You're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: he's so cute, and you you didn't even because he
Speaker 1: was a little nerd and that. And then I went
Speaker 1: to middle school, maybe even elementary. UM probably known him
Speaker 1: my whole life, and very tall basketball player of the school,
Speaker 1: but was always so geeky and lanky, so when Mandy
Speaker 1: told me she was, I was like him. Then I
Speaker 1: went on his Instagram and he got fine. He definitely
Speaker 1: grew out of his nerdiness. Like god, yeah, but that dude,
Speaker 1: I think he left me a happy birthday comment. Now,
Speaker 1: but all the basketball niggas from high school grew up,
Speaker 1: and at the time, when you're in high school, you're like,
Speaker 1: I can fuck a college guy now next, and I'm
Speaker 1: alright with it. Right It's yeah. I was. I was
Speaker 1: willing to fly him here. He was like, no, you
Speaker 1: come to Orlando. I said, they're not letting bitches from
Speaker 1: New York into the state of Florida right now. Like,
Speaker 1: did you I come down there? I'm stuck for two quarantine.
Speaker 1: Did you know that they'll check they? Yeah. Someone I
Speaker 1: just I mentioned this on the round of reports. Someone
Speaker 1: was like, man, they just make you feel out of paper.
Speaker 1: And someone else retweeted and was like, no, nigga, they
Speaker 1: didn't knocked on my door twice. They're like, y, no,
Speaker 1: for sure, specifically if you're traveling, and they also added
Speaker 1: New Orleans, so they blocked off going into the state
Speaker 1: of Florida, but also if you're coming from New Orleans
Speaker 1: because they said that Marty grawl added to so many cases.
Speaker 1: Festival is done. Oh, it's postponed. It's postponed. Yeah, everything said.
Speaker 1: We ain't gonna have no summer y'all. So I wanted
Speaker 1: to talk about I'm going outside. We not have it
Speaker 1: as maybe I'm not going to the club, but I'm
Speaker 1: going down the time. Where are you going? Where you
Speaker 1: going out to Trader Joe's a game, I'm going to take.
Speaker 1: Hey listen, by the way, if any of you guys
Speaker 1: listening work at the supermarkets, can we get some bops
Speaker 1: um playing some tunes in the grocery stores. Now that
Speaker 1: is our club. That is our club. Now, that is
Speaker 1: our entertainment. I need some bops while I'm deciding between
Speaker 1: you know, mayonnaise and I needed some super some bomp
Speaker 1: in it. Uh. To be honest with you, I actually
Speaker 1: said this on Twitter the other day. I was like,
Speaker 1: I've prayed to God none of my favorite rappers come
Speaker 1: out with a hit because I cannot be in a
Speaker 1: house with a lid As song right now. Well, I
Speaker 1: ain't gonna hold you unless they got a studio at
Speaker 1: their houses. But all the studios a show, please, I
Speaker 1: mean in the house they can't go to the studio.
Speaker 1: The studios closed girl, even in Atlanta. I was talking
Speaker 1: to UM. They record out of the I Heart studio
Speaker 1: lex Andria, which they had to record from home. I
Speaker 1: know that our studio bitch that we record out of
Speaker 1: bitch clothes. These can't do it. They got studios in
Speaker 1: their basis. Bit they got off. The baby in there
Speaker 1: right now cooking it up headphones on big beautiful curls.
Speaker 1: That baby is beautiful. I want to shout out UM
Speaker 1: as well to one of our Twitter um our Twitter listeners. Actually, no,
Speaker 1: we're not. We'll talk about the ted X talk. Maybe
Speaker 1: not that there is a teex UM that talks about
Speaker 1: how sex workers UM can teach us about human connection.
Speaker 1: That was really dope, UM, because I think it's funny
Speaker 1: that only fans actually went up as far as their
Speaker 1: new subscriptions and new pages in the month of March.
Speaker 1: So happy for those women and it's the highest peak
Speaker 1: that they did. But so with talking about sex, UM again,
Speaker 1: I have different sex than Wheezy has Andrea. Are you
Speaker 1: married at all or in a relationship? Uh, you gotta
Speaker 1: wait for the book, but I will tell you I
Speaker 1: was married for twenty something years, have two children, in
Speaker 1: divorce for five years, so I'm divorced. Who bitch, that's
Speaker 1: a that's a long time baby. Yeah, I was so
Speaker 1: long as you guys ever went without sex. It's not
Speaker 1: to be this quarantine. Four years? No, I mad her marriage?
Speaker 1: Oh in your marriage years? Was it try to enter
Speaker 1: in the middle? Uh no, no, no, not in the marriage,
Speaker 1: after the marriage. Um, you personally personally, that's what you
Speaker 1: were saying. Four years was yeah, oh my goodness, in
Speaker 1: your marriage. But wow, four years? Four years and that
Speaker 1: was after your marriage because you couldn't find someone to
Speaker 1: replace your husband. Wasn't mental? Why didn't it four years?
Speaker 1: It was all mental? It was all mental. I was destroyed.
Speaker 1: Was not interested. And as you get old, I'm forty
Speaker 1: three years old, it's I'm not saying I'm not into it.
Speaker 1: I love sex. I think it's more of a mental
Speaker 1: state for me. And if I'm not here mentally, then
Speaker 1: nothing damn there can happen. I mean say, I was
Speaker 1: about to say, I think we've said the same thing,
Speaker 1: like and although I'm not having a mental or emotional connection,
Speaker 1: like still mentally, bitch, if if I'm off you, if
Speaker 1: you do something that I don't like. Um, I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: we can't have sex. My pussy won't get wet. So
Speaker 1: I actually wanted to talk about, real quick before we
Speaker 1: get into the homemail, the differences between types of sex.
Speaker 1: So I found this article, um, and this comes from
Speaker 1: Psychology Today, and it talks about the differences between types
Speaker 1: of sex. And I know we talked about I I know,
Speaker 1: I talked about just kind of the casual sex I have.
Speaker 1: Wheezy has sex with where where there's you know, two
Speaker 1: or more people. So I wanted to talk about the
Speaker 1: difference between hook up sex, marital sex, and making love sex.
Speaker 1: And I didn't realize how different they were because I know, like,
Speaker 1: even with my hook up sex, I've been like, oh,
Speaker 1: but it was real intimate. Then there's porn star sex.
Speaker 1: I mean, so I wanted to, I guess, clarify between
Speaker 1: the three. Um, actually, Wheezy, do you do you know
Speaker 1: the difference between hook up, marital and making love sex?
Speaker 1: Do you sound like there are I know, look at me,
Speaker 1: I look like. So hook up sex refers to purely
Speaker 1: physical encounters. Marital sex is the kind of sex that
Speaker 1: most committed couples tend to have, so merit or not
Speaker 1: straighter gay. That would be marital sex, and then making
Speaker 1: love is a different kind of experience that transcends both
Speaker 1: of the other two kinds. So hook up sex um
Speaker 1: is more like you and your partner use each other's
Speaker 1: bodies for your own pleasure. I used to say that
Speaker 1: ship you do, you do can. It can be extremely
Speaker 1: intense and arousing, especially when you feel less towards a
Speaker 1: new partner. There's a place for this kind of sex.
Speaker 1: But it's also the most primitive. It's the least involved
Speaker 1: form of sex too. Um. It reflects more of your
Speaker 1: your animal part of being a human. UM. So it's
Speaker 1: like your psychological needs and your impulses when you're having
Speaker 1: hook up sex. Which is funny because reading this, I
Speaker 1: think it is more so what I've encountered mostly. Um.
Speaker 1: Even like as far as when I talk about my partners,
Speaker 1: I only want to have sex with a motherfucker that
Speaker 1: I know is going to make me come. And if
Speaker 1: I can't come, what are we doing? You know? Um,
Speaker 1: where's the marital sex? Um? Marital sex actually reflects a
Speaker 1: higher plane than a hook up because it includes some
Speaker 1: degree of emotional connection and intimacy. So, bitch, even when
Speaker 1: you was having casual sex. I think he was having
Speaker 1: marital sex. Who you bitch? Because it says that it's
Speaker 1: above the hook up where you're not just looking for
Speaker 1: your own emotional needs, but you're tying in a degree
Speaker 1: of an emotional connection and intimacy. So I think that
Speaker 1: even I can agree with and even if it didn't
Speaker 1: mean the same for them, Like I definitely needed to
Speaker 1: be stimulated in some way to where I felt like
Speaker 1: there was a deeper emotional connection. Um, even with like
Speaker 1: other partners, like there's an emotional connection there, like the
Speaker 1: hook up sex. I don't know why, it just doesn't
Speaker 1: work for me, Like I don't want how do you?
Speaker 1: How do you? How do you compare? Because the next
Speaker 1: one is making love? And to me, emotional sex is
Speaker 1: making love? No, Like no, what do you? What do
Speaker 1: you know? Yeah? So what is the difference between before
Speaker 1: I get into what they say making love is, what
Speaker 1: is the difference between emotional and intimate sex and making love?
Speaker 1: Because I thought they were the same thing. I think
Speaker 1: emotional is when you're connecting beyond sex with someone in
Speaker 1: a mental space I feel, when you're doing things together
Speaker 1: as a couple. I don't and in some days you
Speaker 1: don't even have to have sex. It's the intimacy, is
Speaker 1: the conversation, spending time together. That's what I think. Okay,
Speaker 1: and then making love then is what I think. Make
Speaker 1: and love could be with a boyfriend, it could be
Speaker 1: with a you know, somebody that you hit up every
Speaker 1: now and then, because it's like beyond just having the
Speaker 1: right it's like, wholey, you know, let's lay down, let's
Speaker 1: do it again, go to sleep, wake up, do it again.
Speaker 1: That's what I think. There's a lot more I think
Speaker 1: um softness to making love, Like I don't really you
Speaker 1: could have rough, passionate sex, but I don't consider that
Speaker 1: making love. I don't either. It's funny they actually hear
Speaker 1: they they say that making love is equal to kind
Speaker 1: of spiritual sex, so kind of um ecstatic physical experience
Speaker 1: that you have. So I think that that So what
Speaker 1: if I cried, like I know, we had like porn
Speaker 1: star sex, But if I cried during sex, does that
Speaker 1: making love? If it makes me cry? Yes? Right? Or
Speaker 1: do you agree with that? Or no? If I cry,
Speaker 1: is that not some sort of like spiritual like because
Speaker 1: I know you don't you you you be crying all
Speaker 1: the time. I think that's emotional connection. Absolutely, yeah, But
Speaker 1: what if I can't. What if I'm just emotionally tied
Speaker 1: to the great Dick? Nah? Now, if I cry, that
Speaker 1: means there's nothing deeper. There's something deeper there that you
Speaker 1: need to explore, you agree or not. Have you ever
Speaker 1: cried just from good as dick and not making love? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've had, Like it's been like a release, but there
Speaker 1: was something a little bit deeper there, but it wasn't
Speaker 1: but it wasn't like it wasn't really him. It wasn't that, um,
Speaker 1: I was super in love with that part. Like, and
Speaker 1: I'm only speaking from guys from my past when I
Speaker 1: know I've cried and it wasn't like I wasn't sad
Speaker 1: or anything, and I wasn't in love with them. But
Speaker 1: there was one time I remember where I cried when
Speaker 1: I weared guys. I don't know if I was just like, oh, like,
Speaker 1: am I crying because it was a release? But also
Speaker 1: like do I want something this deep and this personal
Speaker 1: with someone else? Like it was weird. It was it
Speaker 1: was like some subconscious because I wasn't upset and I
Speaker 1: knew I wasn't like super in love with this person.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, why why did that cry? Right? I
Speaker 1: mean I cried with my ex um, But the next
Speaker 1: day I had pink eyes, So I think maybe just
Speaker 1: my eyeglands that watering because which I think it was
Speaker 1: the pink guy bitch Listen, I didn't want it to
Speaker 1: think he made me. Goddamn girl, I think he got
Speaker 1: you in a place where you haven't been and you
Speaker 1: were afraid to go and see what that was about.
Speaker 1: But I also had pink guys, so I think that.
Speaker 1: So intertwining all of these conversations, UM leads us to
Speaker 1: our homemail, and it was sentence I won't say her name.
Speaker 1: She demned me and said, this is a baby homemail question.
Speaker 1: But UM, just because we just had this conversation of
Speaker 1: all the different forms of sex, how sex has helped
Speaker 1: like affected us mentally through in the pandemic UM, one
Speaker 1: of our listeners, one of our listeners wants to know
Speaker 1: what should I do about feeling insecure about sleeping with
Speaker 1: multiple men. Of course, I'm doing it because I want
Speaker 1: to and I like it. But if I have sex
Speaker 1: with one guy, I feel like the next guy can
Speaker 1: feel it or knows that I did it, and I
Speaker 1: tripping what should I do? And I think that we
Speaker 1: the you and I have you know, kind of paraded
Speaker 1: the idea of you know, living your best life. Um.
Speaker 1: You know, we meet virgins that are looking forward to
Speaker 1: losing their virginity when we meet them at our lives shows.
Speaker 1: What would you tell someone who was insecure about sleeping
Speaker 1: with multiple men even though they want to sleep with
Speaker 1: multiple men? I don't know. I mean, I think that's
Speaker 1: something we have to unlearn. I feel insecure about wanting
Speaker 1: a male male female threesome. There's something that makes me
Speaker 1: feel insecure about that. But that's also like preconceived notions
Speaker 1: and things that I've been taught growing up. Right, It's
Speaker 1: that it's that inner horriphobia. UM. It's a hard thing
Speaker 1: because I think the only thing that can maybe make
Speaker 1: you feel better about it is keeping it private, because
Speaker 1: for some reason, you're feeling bad because either you're judging
Speaker 1: yourself or you feel like others will judge you. And
Speaker 1: to that, I would say, you're allowed to keep your
Speaker 1: sexual life private. A lot of people overshare with their friends,
Speaker 1: and I don't think that that's necessarily something that we
Speaker 1: always need to do. Um. The only person I overshare
Speaker 1: with is my therapist. But I mean even then, like
Speaker 1: I'll be ready for him to judge me. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, right, It's it's crazy because I actually
Speaker 1: think that Um, for one, I do want to say
Speaker 1: and let me know if I'm wrong. She says that
Speaker 1: she feels like the next guy can feel it if
Speaker 1: she had sex with someone else. I know that we're
Speaker 1: not niggas, but no, take it from someone who has
Speaker 1: done that. Now, No, they can't write. No, I mean
Speaker 1: I would say maybe they're what if they're super different
Speaker 1: in size? Look, No, I'm asking the question that people
Speaker 1: may want to know. I think the only way that
Speaker 1: a person can tell if they're really in tune with
Speaker 1: the person, and if there's an odor or smell. Because
Speaker 1: I don't care what you say, if you move from
Speaker 1: a different person to another person, there is a smell
Speaker 1: there and have to be a foul smell or a
Speaker 1: horrible smell, but there is an odor, and if you're
Speaker 1: paying attention to your partner, you can tell that they've
Speaker 1: been with somebody else. So it's funny that you bring
Speaker 1: this up because it was a conversation on the timeline, UM,
Speaker 1: when you were with your husband or we the any
Speaker 1: partners that you've been with, Have y'all ever smelled their dick? Yes? Really? Can? Can? Okay,
Speaker 1: so I've never done? Can? I just know how this
Speaker 1: conversation happens because I was listening to the to a
Speaker 1: podcast and they were talking about washing their dicks off
Speaker 1: before going home. Because bitches are really asking to smell dicks?
Speaker 1: Can you can both? Y'all police why that came up? Um? Uh? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know who the nigga that does your taxes. He
Speaker 1: came home one day from motherfucking Cleo's. Clio's is a
Speaker 1: strip club for those who don't know Andrea and Orlando,
Speaker 1: and um, I was like, let me say that, and
Speaker 1: I think he was like thinking I was trying to
Speaker 1: be funny, and I was like, no, let me smell it.
Speaker 1: And you and you asked to smell it to see
Speaker 1: if it smells like I remember complaining that he smells
Speaker 1: like soap and he told me I was driven. I
Speaker 1: still think he cheated on me that night phone, So
Speaker 1: it's weird. So it's supposed to have no smell. And
Speaker 1: I know you know I don't. I guess we're giving
Speaker 1: tips now to the nigga. So you just know your
Speaker 1: nigga dick smells, so even if they wash it, it's
Speaker 1: not saving them from it. Because if you've been out,
Speaker 1: like I'm sorry, Ria, how did you ask to smell
Speaker 1: the dick drop your pants? And he just no? Oh
Speaker 1: you was just like I know you out, I know
Speaker 1: you have too many hours without talking to you and
Speaker 1: so so, so what's the conversation when you smell it
Speaker 1: and it smells like soap or something else that you
Speaker 1: know it shouldn't smell like, well, I don't know either
Speaker 1: the ring is getting slushed down the toilet, I'm locking
Speaker 1: you out the house, I'm throwing you in the basement.
Speaker 1: I mean it could just depend. So niggas in the
Speaker 1: basement basement? What's your basement like? Is it like comfortable
Speaker 1: basement or is it like dungeon? It's comfortable? Okay, let's
Speaker 1: still it's a list throw away bit. You about to
Speaker 1: put that nigga in the adding? So what what is
Speaker 1: it like? I guess what do you do when it
Speaker 1: smells different? Like do you just hope he admits to cheating?
Speaker 1: Like so that's my question, Like, Okay, you smell the
Speaker 1: nigga's dick and it either smells like soap or like
Speaker 1: how you don't want it, like how you don't think
Speaker 1: it's It's the same for pussy. If I went to
Speaker 1: go fux someone else, right, and you thought I was
Speaker 1: at the club and I came home, you know what,
Speaker 1: My pussy would smell like sweaty whatever, like a musk smell.
Speaker 1: If I went to fux somebody else and then I shout,
Speaker 1: it smells like a condom. Oh no, oh, I'm saying,
Speaker 1: if you, if you're if you're washing it so now.
Speaker 1: But women walk around with whites like that doesn't help.
Speaker 1: Remember we are internal and you that odor will hang
Speaker 1: on to you for a minute. I would give a
Speaker 1: damn if you sat and it's up to thirty minutes
Speaker 1: with hot water and some dead told. I want to
Speaker 1: just make a point. I have a friend who I
Speaker 1: know the escorts, and she's talked about how when she's
Speaker 1: with her partners, they don't use condoms. He does cream
Speaker 1: prize and ship and she says that recently she feels
Speaker 1: like a guy who went down on her because she
Speaker 1: had a cream pie the night before. She was like
Speaker 1: a showered whatever. But she's like, I just feel like
Speaker 1: there's this moment where he tasted him. She was like,
Speaker 1: I think it was different from what I normally taste. Like,
Speaker 1: She's like, I never really thought about like spacing it out. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So so when we get guys that taste different, we
Speaker 1: apply it to their diet. No, you're talking about semen. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: y'all talking. Y'all been talking about the taste and smell
Speaker 1: of the dick. Okay, Okay, yeah, when I guess okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about seeing because that's where I really pick
Speaker 1: up on it. I guess. I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: know if you have someone though to think about it,
Speaker 1: like you're with them every day, like you know, not
Speaker 1: that I was went every day, but yeah, I knew.
Speaker 1: You know, they're smells when they wake up. You know,
Speaker 1: they're smells when they're going to bed. You know they're
Speaker 1: smells when it's all day. I know what my man's
Speaker 1: dick smells like when he comes home from work. Bro,
Speaker 1: That's how much I know. It's so weird because I
Speaker 1: wasn't even with seven and I know, Okay, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: stop bringing him up eventually, but that's the only thing
Speaker 1: I have to really go off. And we were working
Speaker 1: like weakly, but his dick to me, even though I
Speaker 1: knew he was sucking other people, I felt like his
Speaker 1: dick smelled the same like. And I know we really
Speaker 1: got on me because when we went and did Vice Live,
Speaker 1: I felt like his dick smell was in my hair
Speaker 1: and I really liked his dick smell. So like It's
Speaker 1: weird because I was dealing with someone that I knew
Speaker 1: wasn't my only partner, but his smell was his smells,
Speaker 1: So even if he had sex with someone the day before,
Speaker 1: even the night of, I have never really sensed a
Speaker 1: difference in his dick smell, which is that That's why
Speaker 1: I guess I was really Maybe I don't know that
Speaker 1: maybe it was the I don't know his dick smell,
Speaker 1: And I told you because we talked about this on Vice.
Speaker 1: I know his dick smell and I really liked it,
Speaker 1: and so I liked when his dick smell was in
Speaker 1: my hair and everything. And I don't know, I don't know, bitch,
Speaker 1: I do miss that dick smell and that dick, but
Speaker 1: I ain't, you know, didn't it hasn't been since October,
Speaker 1: Since October, bitch, I ain't that nigga, since well, sex
Speaker 1: in the city. They say it takes half the time
Speaker 1: you're with someone to get over them. And I'm not saying, oh,
Speaker 1: bits three and a half years. Oh no, bitch, so
Speaker 1: you're almost out of year. You'll be all right by
Speaker 1: the time April, which I'm almost said, I've just reached
Speaker 1: six months, So don't do almost a year. You can't
Speaker 1: age me like that, like listen, oh yeah, I'm well,
Speaker 1: I'm not there because now I have no one else
Speaker 1: to reference sex, and Wheezy is like, we're recording horrible
Speaker 1: decisions and let's talk about sex. And here I go
Speaker 1: going through a phase where I don't even want to
Speaker 1: bitch oturdcast that we did. Yeah, but now I'm into like,
Speaker 1: well maybe like and And honestly, it's probably because every
Speaker 1: time I've made an outline it's been about relationships and dating,
Speaker 1: and I really came up with no sex topic. Can
Speaker 1: I just tell you all the irony of Mandy coming
Speaker 1: up I had. We were texting us. I was like,
Speaker 1: I was like, well, let's make sure we talk about sex,
Speaker 1: and She's like, no, we will, We'll talk about sex,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm so sad, like I'm not happy
Speaker 1: to me. I don't want any I hate niggas. That's
Speaker 1: why I was like, that's why the sex tip was masturbation.
Speaker 1: And she's like, well, I was gonna do the Patreon
Speaker 1: about masturbation. I said, we talk, we give oral sex tips.
Speaker 1: It's the same thing. Let's just talk about masturbation. I'm
Speaker 1: not having sex with someone else. I want to relate,
Speaker 1: Like we see come out here talking about thruffles and
Speaker 1: three films and group sex and bitch, I don't even
Speaker 1: want to dick around me right now. So I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 1: we're gonna have to try to find a balance here.
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, weezy, let me talk about the mental
Speaker 1: space that I'm in. I'm over. You're trying to plan
Speaker 1: an episode about assonance. Now, I'm like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: I have to relate. Well, that episode would be good
Speaker 1: because you did it. Like there's people that have been absent.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, was yours? My choice minds
Speaker 1: was by choice? You know why? Because here's the thing.
Speaker 1: When you get a divorce, the last thing you want
Speaker 1: to do is go run into somebody else's arms. What
Speaker 1: you need to do is figure out what your baggage
Speaker 1: is why the divorce happen. I know a lot of
Speaker 1: people like to say, well it was his fault. No,
Speaker 1: you come with your ship. They come with their ship too.
Speaker 1: And what Joe Exotica did d Nigga got married two
Speaker 1: months after the death. No, not doing it. Um, I
Speaker 1: needed to really get strong, and I feel like just
Speaker 1: running into another relationship or just having sex would have
Speaker 1: confused what I was trying to do for myself, which
Speaker 1: would take care of me and really take care of me.
Speaker 1: I like that. Well, Andrea, let our listeners know where
Speaker 1: they can listen to you and kind also maybe a
Speaker 1: steer them towards an episode that you have that you
Speaker 1: think that, Um, would you know are listening horrible adjacent? Well,
Speaker 1: you can find me on Our Mirrors Reflections. It's my podcast.
Speaker 1: If you want to find me about what I do
Speaker 1: more of is with my coaching with girls and women
Speaker 1: is Andrew P. Jackson dot com. You can find me
Speaker 1: on my Instagram at Andrew P. Jackson Underscore and the
Speaker 1: Twitter is the same Andrew P. Jackson Underscore. Allah, and um,
Speaker 1: I guess I know. And I listened to it and
Speaker 1: it was really good. You had Charlemagne as a guest
Speaker 1: on your part trying to have him. Yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: know how. I don't know what topics we're gonna have
Speaker 1: about Charlottage and when black men don't cheat, but they do.
Speaker 1: Not all black No, not all black man cheat. There's
Speaker 1: something that don't cheat. You gotta you gotta point them
Speaker 1: out because I know it's very far and few in between.
Speaker 1: Um no, you should. I think the guests should listen
Speaker 1: to Charlemagne, and I think you get to see him
Speaker 1: the whole different light. He talks about his family, his life,
Speaker 1: what that that journey was like. Um, you know, him
Speaker 1: losing his job to radio and then you know there's
Speaker 1: too manly to freaking go out there and accell unemployment.
Speaker 1: He was like, I'm not gonna do it. But he
Speaker 1: really talked about the struggles in his relationship and how
Speaker 1: they came together and made it happen. And I think
Speaker 1: a lot of people who's you know, having issues in
Speaker 1: their relationship. Here's hope out there. If you really love
Speaker 1: somebody and y'all just had a mishap or a few
Speaker 1: mishaps and you really want to work it out, you
Speaker 1: can work it out. Shargon Maine's story like to to
Speaker 1: completely go like told cold Turkey and not like no
Speaker 1: one else is in his life but his wife. I mean,
Speaker 1: he's prime example of like black men don't cheat anymore. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: you gotta add the animal with an asterisk up there,
Speaker 1: Like there's definitely you know, I agree with that. I
Speaker 1: agree with you. It's possible, and especially when you had
Speaker 1: access like that to not cheat, that's a big deal.
Speaker 1: It is a big deal. It takes a lot of wheel. Yeah, damn,
Speaker 1: we started the episode that way. Look how we did
Speaker 1: full circle. Who doesn't like free ship, free pussy, free
Speaker 1: toys whatever? Uh No, But I want to thank you
Speaker 1: again for for joining us. Um guys, if you guys
Speaker 1: are interested in tuning into her podcast or following on
Speaker 1: social media. If you have been through trauma, she does
Speaker 1: talk you through that and and finding you know, kind
Speaker 1: of closure with maybe some things that you have experienced
Speaker 1: in your past. Definitely reach out again. Thank you Andrea
Speaker 1: for joining us. Thank you for having girls. Love you girls.
Speaker 1: Keep doing it. And you know this this coronavirus say
Speaker 1: stopping us. So whatever, So y'all are still getting your
Speaker 1: episodes every Monday, and we are still dropping three bonus
Speaker 1: episodes every month on Patreon. So again, I know it's different.
Speaker 1: A lot of y'all are now listening to us from
Speaker 1: the comforts of your own home. Please still use your
Speaker 1: headphones if your children are around, because we still live
Speaker 1: in approp read guys. Maybe we'll find a way to
Speaker 1: Like I saw that some people are recording their zoom screens.
Speaker 1: Maybe we could do that. I just don't want to
Speaker 1: if you you no, bitch, I look at me right now.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I want people to see me. Bro,
Speaker 1: I ain't need to gonna hold you like Andrew Enjoy
Speaker 1: looks nice. What do your bottoms look like? My bottom? Like?
Speaker 1: Do you have actual pants on? Are you like? I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: I got a slitty dress? So what the hell? How
Speaker 1: she so ready? Right? But I definitely have right now.
Speaker 1: Guests always look better than every time. They always be
Speaker 1: ready like slate. Anyways, guys, again, if you're looking for
Speaker 1: more content, we still have our Patreon up, so you
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Speaker 1: We are going to leave you with a five minute
Speaker 1: clip from one of our bonus episodes. We truly hope
Speaker 1: that you enjoy and once again, thank you for tuning
Speaker 1: in to yet another episode of Horrible Decision. Bye bye.
Speaker 1: So today's Vanilla Ship is actually an old article, but
Speaker 1: I wanted to talk about it. Um. It's from Complex
Speaker 1: dot Com. Steven Spielberg's daughter explains why she's um embarking
Speaker 1: on doing porn. So some of you guys might have
Speaker 1: seen this in the shade room, but she submitted application
Speaker 1: to be a sex worker in Nashville, Tennessee. She's twenty three,
Speaker 1: she's battled and alcoholism, mental health issues, but she has
Speaker 1: come to realize she's a sexual creature and she wants
Speaker 1: to create solo porn videos that makes her feel that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I got really tired of not being able to capitalize
Speaker 1: my body, and frankly got really tired of being told
Speaker 1: to hate my body. And I got tired of working
Speaker 1: day to day in a way that it wasn't satisfying
Speaker 1: my soul. I feel like in doing this type of work,
Speaker 1: I'm able to satisfy other people and it feels good
Speaker 1: because I won't be violated. Um, I'm curious to know. Obviously,
Speaker 1: she comes from a family of money. Let's just say
Speaker 1: that she's got money from him. Let's just let's not yes,
Speaker 1: because I know like a lot of rich people won't
Speaker 1: give their kids ship. Right, let's just say that he's
Speaker 1: given her money. Do you think this is some cry
Speaker 1: for help? Ship? Like, do you really believe that someone
Speaker 1: that's got money just does sex work to satisfied? Like?
Speaker 1: How do you feel? So? I have I do believe
Speaker 1: that people are in sex work not just for financial gain. Um.
Speaker 1: I have a friend who was an escort, and I
Speaker 1: think that it was a lot more into maybe just
Speaker 1: what she got from being with different men. I think
Speaker 1: that there was a part of her that was also
Speaker 1: a sex addict. Um, but I know that there were
Speaker 1: things like even when she didn't need the money, she
Speaker 1: would still do it. Even when she found another way
Speaker 1: to make money, she was still doing sex work on
Speaker 1: the side. So I mean, I believe that that in
Speaker 1: terms of sex work, that there are reasons that people
Speaker 1: do it outside of money. Um, it's funny. I wasn't
Speaker 1: even missing says that she she was like that ship
Speaker 1: was fun. That was such a fun time. Like she
Speaker 1: always talks about how much fun she had when she
Speaker 1: was doing I mean, I ain't even gonna hold you.
Speaker 1: I think my whole friends are the funnest friends that
Speaker 1: I didn't had, like just going out, having the having
Speaker 1: a blast, drinking, skinny dipe, skinny dipping, fucking whoever we're
Speaker 1: around is having like it's just fun and too like
Speaker 1: it's it's non judgmental types of just fun. I don't know,
Speaker 1: it's it's hard to explain, but I mean, I do
Speaker 1: believe that even if she's getting money from her dad,
Speaker 1: that she is doing that because she likes it. Do
Speaker 1: I think that maybe it's a form of her boosting
Speaker 1: her own self confidence? Yes, I mean it was something yeah,
Speaker 1: but it's something that I do and and you helped
Speaker 1: me when when I lost weight. One of the things
Speaker 1: that makes me feel sexy sometimes it's literally walking lingerie. Um,
Speaker 1: And so the idea that her pleasing herself on camera
Speaker 1: makes her feel better about herself makes sense to me.
Speaker 1: I wear lingerie not for Instagram picture age. Like when
Speaker 1: I post a cute Instagram picture. It is what it is.
Speaker 1: There's a little bit of an ego boost in that,
Speaker 1: Like come on, I mean, who are we to say
Speaker 1: and not admit that if anyone said as a picture, yeah, bitch,
Speaker 1: we all do. But again, I think We've talked about
Speaker 1: the fact that a lot of us, whether it's sexually, physically,
Speaker 1: how we dress, um the idea that everything we do
Speaker 1: is for men or for some sort of attention. I
Speaker 1: think a lot of times there are things that we
Speaker 1: do that, while it may bring us attention, we do
Speaker 1: do it for ourselves to make ourselves feel better about ourselves.
Speaker 1: Like it is, that's cool,