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Speaker 1: another episode of Horrible Decisions. First off, y'all puts pole thought.

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Speaker 1: Y'all get no episodes, but we here, we is here,

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Speaker 1: we are recording from the comforts of our homes. I'm excited.

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Speaker 1: We are joined by a guest today, but as y'all know,

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Speaker 1: there's actually ship to catch up on. I guess um,

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Speaker 1: So this is your girl, Mandy b a k A

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Speaker 1: am catless Cathy. We've got We've got Carol Baskin. Mandy

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Speaker 1: over here who said she got a cat. Let me

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Speaker 1: see it. I'm worthy, Oh loo it he cat. This

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Speaker 1: is my little kid, So let me tell you all

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Speaker 1: the story. So I came on here and told y'all um,

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Speaker 1: I was being lonely. So I do want you all

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Speaker 1: to pray for your single friends who live alone with

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Speaker 1: no kids. That is me. So I have um actually

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Speaker 1: been going through it um mentally. I've been talking to

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Speaker 1: my mom. My mom was like even yesterday when I

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Speaker 1: was leaving the grocery store, she was like, you sound

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Speaker 1: kind of manic right now, and I'm concerned. Um, why

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Speaker 1: did because just how I was talking, I was just

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Speaker 1: like a girl. It was weird even though market and

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Speaker 1: I didn't even notice it. But while I was grocery shopping,

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Speaker 1: I was singing, I was dancing, I was losing my

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Speaker 1: So I want to shout out Demca. I believe her

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Speaker 1: her name is or Demika. Anyway, she will listen, don't Anyways,

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Speaker 1: M yesterday and was like, hey, girl, do you still

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Speaker 1: want a kitten? One of my neighbors just walked up

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Speaker 1: to us to sell the one. She was like, but

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest with you, but she only asked

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Speaker 1: this twenty dollars isn't going to buy crack cocaine for

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Speaker 1: this kitten. I don't know what I exchanged for this. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: they actually showered it before they gave it to me,

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Speaker 1: gave put it in a box and I got like

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Speaker 1: box wich. I'm on Amazon last night because I go

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Speaker 1: I will not. That reminds me of cat Dog actually

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Speaker 1: They're really losing it, and they give it to them

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Speaker 1: You look forward to something, and you're not only like

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Speaker 1: Who finning for baby dolls? Them old ask people that's

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Speaker 1: losing it just like you will. In the grocery stop,

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Speaker 1: I was fending for my clip, which I actually had

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Speaker 1: to stop touching because I started fake orgasming to go

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Speaker 1: this on the motherfucker. You can't do it. Stopped working

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Speaker 1: and then I realized, like, you know, this is how

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Speaker 1: It's been really the cat. What about the cat's gonna

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Speaker 1: bring me some happiness? Um god, I thought that bitch

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Speaker 1: He just want to keep playing. So I set him

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Speaker 1: but don't act hyper on the because it's gonna match

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Speaker 1: your energy. What do you mean to think it's a boy?

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Speaker 1: So here's the thing, right, I think he picked up

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Speaker 1: either balls or a fat pussy. I can't tell, Like,

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Speaker 1: see what the balls as well. Don't be the person

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Speaker 1: that says nipples makes it a boy or girl? That

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Speaker 1: would be me. All right, I'm about to hold on cat, pussy, cat,

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Speaker 1: male or female? This is but look at kitting because

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Speaker 1: I know when the balls dropped. But so she hit

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Speaker 1: me this morning and said, hey, the lady said it's

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Speaker 1: guess it's a fat pussy. You know what. I take

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Speaker 1: it back, um, typing cat male or female, and they

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Speaker 1: The boy booty hole. I not it's more circular. No,

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Speaker 1: I am not looking at the booty hole. Bro. I

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Speaker 1: like to look at the booty hole on a nigger.

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Speaker 1: I'm not looking at the booty hole to see if

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Speaker 1: it's circular on my cat. Bro. Okay, So I think

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Speaker 1: is that a joke? It's a um let me see

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Speaker 1: what I'm feeling better about. I love going to the

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Speaker 1: Trader Joe's. I'd be in there like talking to people

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Speaker 1: to share how y'all doing. I fucking love it. Also, Um,

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Speaker 1: everyone that goes to the Trader Joe's and the Lower

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Speaker 1: East Side for some reason listens to horrible decisions. Either

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Speaker 1: because I've been going to that Trader Joe's for the

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Speaker 1: last two years, and everybody'd be like, Yo, what's that? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so how y'all recorded? And then one girl or was

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Speaker 1: this like two days ago? She was like that ship.

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Speaker 1: I don't believe y'all. Y'all did not fucking record that ship. Nah,

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Speaker 1: Like I know, y'all did that ship in the house

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Speaker 1: package come. My buzzer went off. Y'all know I'm in

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Speaker 1: the bronx of you go here to Sirens? Right, it's

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Speaker 1: one time at least one um what else? Oh, I'm

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Speaker 1: really dry right now. I'm like, well, I'll take what

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Speaker 1: We gotta keep our ships strong. I'm like, okay, well

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Speaker 1: How do I do it? What someone's doing? Okay? Sorry,

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Speaker 1: I got gonna do Venus Ex or Manny Fresh because

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Speaker 1: he was super lit this weekend. And also I'm going

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Speaker 1: to get a virtual lap dance. Magic City has been girl.

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Speaker 1: You is not doing the virtual lap dance ship Okay,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna give it or you're gonna get it. So

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Speaker 1: my user name is Horny and why couple if you

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Speaker 1: guys want to see the comments that I leave on

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Speaker 1: my boot cockey videos. But yeah, I'm gonna do the

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Speaker 1: virtual app dance. I think I'm gonna get one from

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Speaker 1: Neon Tree and a few other Magic City girls. This

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Speaker 1: is my way to support, you know, the community and

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Speaker 1: also another way, UM, you should do this too. So

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Speaker 1: I'm doing a whole fucking purge of my apartment right

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Speaker 1: because I would have donated these clothes anyway. So I'm

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Speaker 1: making a posh mark and donating the I'm not personally

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Speaker 1: not even gonna do the posh mark. There's a there's

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Speaker 1: a watch McCall it downstairs for me to like just

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Speaker 1: put clothes and ship in. Well, I was gonna do

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Speaker 1: that too, but I'm doing the poshmart thing, and I'm

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Speaker 1: donating the money to people that need it. Girl, you

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Speaker 1: you said, I look like um love and hip hop

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Speaker 1: if it was a person. I ain't giving these my

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Speaker 1: level ship from fashion. No no, no, no, no no,

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Speaker 1: I'm not donating my clothes to COVID. Really, I'm like

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Speaker 1: selling them and giving the proceeds so like stuff that

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Speaker 1: I wore on the tour ship like that. The postmark

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Speaker 1: game is wheezy. What the fuck? Um and everything. I'm

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Speaker 1: still in ten dollars stuff, twenty dollars stuff, thirty dollar stuff,

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Speaker 1: and then all that money I'm gonna give to um,

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Speaker 1: you know, patrons and followers. I need it. That's really cute.

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Speaker 1: I hope that's cute. Don't want to you know, it

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Speaker 1: You've been quiet, am I bad foot but like holding

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Speaker 1: It just shows you how good it is, that's all. No,

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Speaker 1: So the second have you ever? Oh? Go ahead? What

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Speaker 1: He's like, why would I Hollywood come with you, Nigga?

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Speaker 1: He's like, I grabbed the condomn real quick, take it

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Speaker 1: off and be like yo, So that's the trick that

421
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:49,960
Speaker 1: I'd be knowing, Like niggas are just real quick, pulled

422
00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:51,800
Speaker 1: a condomn off and act like they gotta go piss

423
00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:53,600
Speaker 1: or something now, Like oh no, nigga, I need to

424
00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:56,920
Speaker 1: see that there's coming that condom. Did you come? That's

425
00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:59,119
Speaker 1: embarrassing if you if a woman got to ask, nigga,

426
00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:01,600
Speaker 1: but did you come? Ship? We're not supposed to be

427
00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:05,960
Speaker 1: asking that ship? I mean yeah, But I think also

428
00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:07,919
Speaker 1: we have a lot of we put a lot of

429
00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:10,280
Speaker 1: pressure on men coming like that's always like the quote

430
00:22:10,359 --> 00:22:13,600
Speaker 1: unquote finale of sex. So maybe they just feel the

431
00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:16,840
Speaker 1: pressure for it too. I don't know. I'll look at

432
00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:20,760
Speaker 1: you being all, you know, cautious of the mail because

433
00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:22,440
Speaker 1: I want to bar tickets when we come back on tour.

434
00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:29,160
Speaker 1: That's that's so we Weezy found this week's Vanilla shipn

435
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Speaker 1: dot Com. Um. It's funny because I was talking to

436
00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:35,520
Speaker 1: Andrea before recording and she actually saw this too. I

437
00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:37,600
Speaker 1: actually did not see this, and it's interesting. Whither do

438
00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:39,240
Speaker 1: you want to read the Vanilla ship or you want

439
00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:40,960
Speaker 1: me to y? Yeah, let me just pull it back up.

440
00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:44,200
Speaker 1: So UM, shout out to our Twitter listeners. A few

441
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,840
Speaker 1: people tagged me in this and I was like, holy,

442
00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:51,240
Speaker 1: ship is just costing. Yeah, I mean we can't do anything.

443
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:52,879
Speaker 1: We can't ride a bike, we can't go for a

444
00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:57,120
Speaker 1: run or for a swim because new clamydia species are

445
00:22:57,760 --> 00:23:01,520
Speaker 1: have now been discovered deep under the Arctic Ocean. That's wow.

446
00:23:01,560 --> 00:23:04,920
Speaker 1: I can't even talk are fact that this is from

447
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:08,320
Speaker 1: CNN dot com. Okay, so when people hear the word clamydia,

448
00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:10,520
Speaker 1: they usually think about STDs, and it's true that that

449
00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:14,880
Speaker 1: specific bacteria can cause lamydia depending on your interactions. UM

450
00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:18,000
Speaker 1: with people, but you can also get it with different

451
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 1: organisms to survive. So a team of researchers discovered that

452
00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:24,639
Speaker 1: new clamydia related species is below the Arctic Ocean in

453
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:28,760
Speaker 1: a place with no oxygen, without an apparent host organism,

454
00:23:28,800 --> 00:23:30,800
Speaker 1: so it's not like it's even coming from someplace. It's

455
00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:33,880
Speaker 1: almost like it's growing. Um. Finding chlamydia in this environment

456
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:37,440
Speaker 1: was completely unexpected, and of course beg the question what

457
00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:41,840
Speaker 1: on earth was it doing there? Um says that they're

458
00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 1: basically trying to find ways and how chlamydia is coming

459
00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:49,160
Speaker 1: into effect with humans and other animals. Um. They came

460
00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:53,439
Speaker 1: across a number of diverse cousins of chlamydia between point

461
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:56,480
Speaker 1: one and nine meters below the sea floor. UM, I

462
00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:59,159
Speaker 1: ain't a lie. That made me happy because I was like, okay,

463
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:01,320
Speaker 1: it's below to the floor. That means we could still

464
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:03,640
Speaker 1: fucking the ocean if we But you know what doesn't

465
00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:08,040
Speaker 1: anything Because Andrea, last week or not last week, a

466
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:10,239
Speaker 1: few weeks ago, someone wrote in and said, can you

467
00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:14,680
Speaker 1: create chlamydia? Because her man gave her the ship and

468
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:17,879
Speaker 1: he said he wasn't cheating. That's a damn line. So

469
00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:20,440
Speaker 1: so she wanted to know if their bodies together could

470
00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:25,840
Speaker 1: create No. He was like, Yo, no business dipping in.

471
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:28,240
Speaker 1: You listen to the fucking holes every week. Bitch, I'll

472
00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:30,679
Speaker 1: trying to tell you I went swimming, my nigga, I

473
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:35,240
Speaker 1: was swimming. And then look that's what they're gonna say.

474
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:36,959
Speaker 1: Now they're gonna be like I went to the beach, man,

475
00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:42,280
Speaker 1: I went to the sea. You'll be out there doing

476
00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:45,359
Speaker 1: some violations and I'm not down with that. Okay, you

477
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:48,320
Speaker 1: have to be responsible. You gotta be responsible. Man, what

478
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 1: beach do you think has the most chlamydia in New York?

479
00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 1: In New York, here she goes, She's gonna to New

480
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:58,200
Speaker 1: York like that Jones. Bitch, I got I got the

481
00:24:58,359 --> 00:25:01,199
Speaker 1: Orchard beach. I got a rock Away. You got a

482
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:02,879
Speaker 1: rock man from Queens. I used to go to Rockaway

483
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:04,040
Speaker 1: when I was a kid. But I haven't been in

484
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:07,359
Speaker 1: the beach in New York. And so here's when I

485
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:09,440
Speaker 1: go to the beach. I don't go in the water.

486
00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:11,879
Speaker 1: I just go. I just go in the water. You

487
00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:14,880
Speaker 1: go in the water, wheezy. Actually no, I don't. Yeah,

488
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:16,840
Speaker 1: that's my point. You don't go in the water in

489
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:18,800
Speaker 1: New York. So y'all looking at me like I'm crazy,

490
00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 1: But why don't we the girl because it's New York.

491
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:23,719
Speaker 1: They you see what they'd be putting in the guy there,

492
00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:25,640
Speaker 1: so I saw. Let me tell you, I almost thought

493
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:27,320
Speaker 1: these niggles was lying and they just didn't know what

494
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:29,840
Speaker 1: one looks like. But I went to Rockaway Beach last

495
00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:31,480
Speaker 1: summer in my whole girl. We're drinking, we have a

496
00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:33,439
Speaker 1: good time, and these needna started bugging out because they

497
00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:35,679
Speaker 1: see a dolphin and I was like, why they like?

498
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:38,320
Speaker 1: There was a dolphin for real? There actually was, And

499
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:40,760
Speaker 1: I was the judge bench talking about they don't have

500
00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:47,960
Speaker 1: to There was like the only beach that I really like,

501
00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:49,639
Speaker 1: and I think, actually I'm lying. I have been in

502
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 1: the water, but it's not a New York beach. Would

503
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:54,240
Speaker 1: be Gunnison. It's the nude beach in Jersey off Sandy Hook,

504
00:25:54,680 --> 00:26:02,479
Speaker 1: And I mean it's it's up that got the media open,

505
00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:08,920
Speaker 1: and then they created situations that they're writing in I'm

506
00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:11,439
Speaker 1: a weak anyways, I want to get into this week's

507
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:16,040
Speaker 1: horrid dirt um And it was only right because um,

508
00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:18,520
Speaker 1: if you don't live with a motherfucker, you shouldn't be

509
00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 1: sucking them. I was talking to my homegirl. She still

510
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 1: got tender niggas just popping up to drop the dick off,

511
00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:26,800
Speaker 1: and I'm like, girl, this is not the time. Guys. Yes,

512
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 1: like that she met off tender because she ain't got

513
00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 1: no more time but to swipe. And I'm just like, okay,

514
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:33,919
Speaker 1: I get it, you want to funk, but baby girl, no,

515
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 1: this isn't that. So the horrid dirt for this week,

516
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:39,800
Speaker 1: I know we normally give sex tips, so I want

517
00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:44,960
Speaker 1: on yes. So well, by the way, guys, me and

518
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 1: Mandy actually picked the same hord dirt because I was like,

519
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 1: because I kept picking a couple of ship and I

520
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 1: was like, well, I guess that ain't right. Yeah, because bitch,

521
00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:55,879
Speaker 1: I ain't coupling. I ain't even have a sex with

522
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 1: someone else. So I was like, oh, bitch, sex tips,

523
00:26:58,400 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 1: let me lean into the masturbation band. Um. So the

524
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:04,359
Speaker 1: horder for this week that I have in Andrea, I

525
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:05,880
Speaker 1: would love for you to share maybe one of your

526
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 1: masturbation tips. I have one being to explore a rogynous zone,

527
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:15,479
Speaker 1: so that means playing with like your nipples, your ears,

528
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:18,159
Speaker 1: your thighs. Um. It's something that I actually do and

529
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, just watching Netflix. I love rubbing in between

530
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 1: my thighs. It just started getting my pussy wet before then.

531
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:25,360
Speaker 1: I'm just like, now I gotta watch porn and play

532
00:27:25,440 --> 00:27:29,359
Speaker 1: with myself. But I love rubbing my thighs. I also

533
00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 1: and I'm not sure if it counts because I'm at

534
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:34,360
Speaker 1: home and bitch, I ain't got no niggas, I ain't

535
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 1: really shaving like that. I love playing with my little

536
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:39,320
Speaker 1: pussy hairs. Bitch. I'll just be like, I don't turn

537
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:43,239
Speaker 1: you know, because it makes me. I don't know, I

538
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:45,520
Speaker 1: don't know, it doesn't know. It kind of it turns

539
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 1: out how long I love bitch a couples. I don't

540
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:51,400
Speaker 1: know a cinemeter. I don't even know what that type

541
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:53,679
Speaker 1: of metric system is, but they kind of long. I

542
00:27:53,680 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 1: can play. I can like pull them a little bit.

543
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:58,679
Speaker 1: What I like playing with. I don't know what that

544
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:03,359
Speaker 1: metric system is for real, Like we don't use meters,

545
00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:05,400
Speaker 1: we use inches and ship but it's not an inch.

546
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:13,120
Speaker 1: It's smaller than an inch, so it's it's right now

547
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:15,440
Speaker 1: it's kind of straight. So yeah, right now, I got

548
00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:18,400
Speaker 1: kind of straight pubes. I ain't gonna hold you, um,

549
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 1: but I'll just be kind of I used to have

550
00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:25,600
Speaker 1: curly pubes until I started getting wax. Now that they're

551
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 1: pulling that shipped from the root. Um, yeah see, which

552
00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:37,439
Speaker 1: is why I've really just thought it was the difference

553
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:41,560
Speaker 1: between pussy hairs and dick hares, because bitch all the niggas,

554
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:44,680
Speaker 1: they should be so curly. I mean, like Dann, why

555
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:47,040
Speaker 1: we ain't got curly hair down there. I thought that's

556
00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:49,200
Speaker 1: just the difference between sexes. I ain't gonna hold you.

557
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 1: I thought women had straight pubs and guy's head women

558
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:54,800
Speaker 1: do not have not all women have straight I didn't

559
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 1: know that, like for real, for real, like I don't know.

560
00:28:57,640 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 1: I guess I've never really seen super curly hubes on

561
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:04,360
Speaker 1: a woman. I don't know how it is, especially how

562
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 1: it is you know what when you get a bush

563
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 1: and naturally just actually I don't still have that book.

564
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 1: I have a book of you have a pubes. I

565
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:19,360
Speaker 1: have a book of pussy and it's different images. I

566
00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 1: got it at the Museum of Sex, and it shows

567
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:24,880
Speaker 1: you like vaginas throughout time. It's dope. I actually have

568
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:28,200
Speaker 1: that book. If you do orange little one, it shows

569
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: you to shake some of them right and so like

570
00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:34,520
Speaker 1: you have skinny ones, you have big fluffy juicy ones

571
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 1: you have. I I like that book maybec what kind

572
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 1: of how are you? I ain't gonna hold you. I

573
00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 1: would probably want a book of dicks bad one. Really,

574
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 1: I think that's the one I want. I really enjoy

575
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:52,520
Speaker 1: the site of a penis um more than ever, goddamn it.

576
00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:57,800
Speaker 1: Another one is another masturbation tip, which I actually kind

577
00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:01,440
Speaker 1: of reference to earlier, is to give your sex toys

578
00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:05,560
Speaker 1: a break. Wheezy told me put the woman eyes down

579
00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 1: and use my fingers. So vibrators and didos are loads

580
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 1: of fun to play with, but they're not the only

581
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 1: sex toys in town. For example, you can simulate yourself

582
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 1: with maybe your shower head, or you can rub your

583
00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:24,560
Speaker 1: bova against a pillow all the I'm like, I ain't

584
00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:27,840
Speaker 1: gonna hold you. I actually have um. I don't know

585
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:31,160
Speaker 1: because I don't have my acrylic nails anymore. I feel

586
00:30:31,160 --> 00:30:33,280
Speaker 1: like now I could really play with my pussy different.

587
00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:35,240
Speaker 1: It just feels different than when I have my nails on.

588
00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:40,880
Speaker 1: But you're like, I can get in. I mean, but

589
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 1: so I don't. I don't finger myself. I only like

590
00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 1: which is weird. Which is weird because I talked about

591
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:48,560
Speaker 1: how I don't like head. But masturbation wise, I can

592
00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 1: only play with my clip. I don't stick my fingers

593
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 1: in myself, but when a man is giving me head,

594
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:56,080
Speaker 1: I asked him to put his fingers in me so

595
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:59,040
Speaker 1: I can't fucking sunk myself. I don't know why I didn't.

596
00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 1: So I me and you had checked out the same

597
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:03,400
Speaker 1: article and one thing I liked in there if they

598
00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:06,640
Speaker 1: talked about the different positions to masturbate in so for women,

599
00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 1: they talked about squatting. I actually I don't know. Let

600
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:12,959
Speaker 1: me tell you how I did this. The other night.

601
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:15,840
Speaker 1: That ship was so fucking good. This is really fucked up.

602
00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:19,640
Speaker 1: And I actually didn't tell him this, but I was

603
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 1: obsulating and my nigga was sleep and we already had

604
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:23,880
Speaker 1: sex once and then twice. He woke up in the

605
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:25,640
Speaker 1: middle of the night and I had to do it again,

606
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 1: and I was like, yo, he's gonna get like I

607
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 1: could only imagine how I would feel if I knew

608
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 1: like he went in the bathroom while I was sleeping

609
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 1: to go masturbate because like, I didn't give him enough.

610
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:36,160
Speaker 1: So I was like, let me just would you be mad?

611
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be mad, but I'd be like God, damn bitch.

612
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 1: Like I did everything, I couldn't ain't enough. So I

613
00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:43,640
Speaker 1: went in the bathroom and I didn't want to sit

614
00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 1: on the toilet, so I just squatted down and I

615
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 1: just fucking masturbated like while squatting, And it was a

616
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 1: whole different feeling. So it's crazy. When I read it

617
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 1: and it said squatting, it was weird, but that ship

618
00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 1: felt good. And then when I was like really coming,

619
00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:58,120
Speaker 1: I had to like put my hand down because I

620
00:31:58,120 --> 00:32:01,480
Speaker 1: couldn't hold the squat anymore. But for men, they talked

621
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:05,560
Speaker 1: about jerking off on all fours because it'll emulate kind

622
00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 1: of doggy style, right, So hey, wait, is that possible

623
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 1: if they're using their hands? Yeah, I mean just like

624
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:20,160
Speaker 1: just like technically down all threes, bitch. Okay, I'm just

625
00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 1: saying I'm trying to get that. I'm trying to get

626
00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 1: the numbers right around here. Andrea, do you have any

627
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 1: masturbation tips? Ice cubes in masturbation? What is it that

628
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 1: you do with them? No? So you insert what was it?

629
00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:43,400
Speaker 1: What does it do for you? What is it? You

630
00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:45,480
Speaker 1: bring ice cubes to the bed and then you just

631
00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:47,920
Speaker 1: put it in your pussy and then do what it

632
00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 1: just melts and then feels good. Yeah, you put it

633
00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:58,200
Speaker 1: in a condom. No it's too cold, is it? No?

634
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:06,000
Speaker 1: Not if you're hot, think about it, think about your

635
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:09,160
Speaker 1: hand and it does melt, Yes, melted a little bit,

636
00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:12,840
Speaker 1: and then go ahead and see what happens. I ain't

637
00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:16,640
Speaker 1: gonna hold you. I hate confusing my wetness with something

638
00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 1: else that's wet. That's why I don't like like doing

639
00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 1: anything in the shower. It's like, is my pussy really wet?

640
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 1: Or is this water? As long as you have your

641
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 1: happy ending is how I see it. It's just a

642
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 1: different consistency. I guess water and my pussy juice. My

643
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 1: pussy just like it's a little bit more slippery. I

644
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 1: don't know. I just like I want to get into

645
00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 1: um um the horrible decision though for this week it's

646
00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:45,880
Speaker 1: kind of a whole lot um. Just with the pandemic

647
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:48,960
Speaker 1: that's going on, I wanted to talk about sex and

648
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 1: mental health. Um. I guess before we get started, I

649
00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:52,920
Speaker 1: want to talk to you guys kind of what's been

650
00:33:52,920 --> 00:33:56,960
Speaker 1: going on with me. UM. I am getting into therapy

651
00:33:57,160 --> 00:34:01,200
Speaker 1: because through this pandemic, I've had something sing that has

652
00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:04,200
Speaker 1: happened recently and it's I guess it's an AHA moment

653
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 1: or a self reflection. And I actually talked to my

654
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 1: old roommate about it and she was like, girl, I'm

655
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:12,400
Speaker 1: glad you finally see it, because I was, you know,

656
00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:16,200
Speaker 1: kind of wondering. Um. Last week I talked about considering

657
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:20,359
Speaker 1: flying dick in um, I knowing that I couldn't have

658
00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:24,320
Speaker 1: the human connection I've just I was super just antsy,

659
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 1: like trying to have sex, trying to figure out what

660
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:29,319
Speaker 1: I can stick in my pussy, trying to figure out

661
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,320
Speaker 1: how it would work for me to get with a guy.

662
00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:34,640
Speaker 1: And so a guy texts me. Actually a lot of

663
00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:36,920
Speaker 1: guys have been texting me, and I've been really nasty

664
00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:42,319
Speaker 1: to them and so the other days just just really

665
00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:44,759
Speaker 1: mean because um, and this is where I guess the

666
00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:47,480
Speaker 1: self reflection came in. Um, a guy hit me just

667
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:48,960
Speaker 1: to check up on me and stuff like that, and

668
00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:51,319
Speaker 1: I was very short and brief with him, and he

669
00:34:51,400 --> 00:34:56,320
Speaker 1: was like, damn, like what's your problem? And I was like, well, nigga,

670
00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:57,840
Speaker 1: I don't need a penpal right now. And I know

671
00:34:57,880 --> 00:35:00,440
Speaker 1: I've talked on this show before about the pen pal idea,

672
00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:05,840
Speaker 1: and I realized that, well, if a man can't physically

673
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:08,480
Speaker 1: see me and give me quality time, if he can't

674
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 1: sexually see me and fuck me, or if he can't

675
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 1: financially do anything for me. I realized that I have

676
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 1: no desire to have that emotional connection to men, and

677
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:21,360
Speaker 1: I like, I almost started crying. I was like, damn,

678
00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:23,480
Speaker 1: maybe this is what's been wrong with me and why

679
00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:26,360
Speaker 1: I had the relationship that I had and why I

680
00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:29,360
Speaker 1: have a lot of these sexual relationships. Um, it is

681
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:33,680
Speaker 1: because I don't try to find an emotional connection to men.

682
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:38,880
Speaker 1: It's either sexual, physical, or financial. And so I know

683
00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:40,960
Speaker 1: I haven't said I was gonna be absentent before, but

684
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:44,920
Speaker 1: although I'm forced now, I now, um, I am gonna

685
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 1: go through life coaching and therapy to figure out why

686
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:51,719
Speaker 1: this is my connection with men, and I think that

687
00:35:51,719 --> 00:35:55,040
Speaker 1: that's been something positive to come out of this. So sexually,

688
00:35:55,040 --> 00:35:58,239
Speaker 1: I'm I'm no longer like focusing on when is the

689
00:35:58,280 --> 00:35:59,839
Speaker 1: next time I'm gonna funk, When is the next time

690
00:35:59,880 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be penetrated, When of the next time I'm

691
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:05,000
Speaker 1: gonna suck a dick. I need to find how I

692
00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:08,879
Speaker 1: can emotionally connect to a man, and I don't think

693
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:13,440
Speaker 1: I I've picked up on that. That's honest, and I think,

694
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:18,560
Speaker 1: like very vulnerable for you to say, because I feel

695
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:20,759
Speaker 1: like some people because I'm listening to it and not

696
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:24,799
Speaker 1: and I'm like, of course you like you've already said this,

697
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 1: but I think just acknowledging that you know it's necessary

698
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:30,920
Speaker 1: now because like even when you talk about like, oh,

699
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 1: my friends are good to have my friends, I have

700
00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 1: my friends. That's important when you're single, um and when

701
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:40,439
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship. But I think that feeling like

702
00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:42,800
Speaker 1: you have an emotional connection to your friend can't replace

703
00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 1: the romantic one. And I think that's my life coach

704
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 1: said exactly what you're saying. He's just like, you speak

705
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,000
Speaker 1: so highly of your friends and have this emotional tist

706
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:53,320
Speaker 1: with your friends, but when you speak of your lovers,

707
00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 1: you act like your lovers can't also be your friends

708
00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 1: with that emotional caring, like everything you care about your friends.

709
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:03,799
Speaker 1: And so I don't know, I'm it's been kind of

710
00:37:03,840 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 1: big and I'm now seeing the emphasis that I have

711
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:10,320
Speaker 1: on sex and I'm just like, Okay, I need to

712
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 1: find a healthy space because now that I'm looking at it,

713
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 1: I see that maybe my connection to sex and men

714
00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:21,319
Speaker 1: has not really been that healthy. It's like, I think

715
00:37:21,360 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 1: it's a reset that's happening for you, and I think

716
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:26,120
Speaker 1: it's tappening for all of us, just some different ways.

717
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:30,200
Speaker 1: I think you acknowledging that on your own is a

718
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:34,319
Speaker 1: huge shattering the ceiling moment, and you shouldn't take it

719
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:37,239
Speaker 1: lightly because it takes a lot for persons to self

720
00:37:37,280 --> 00:37:40,759
Speaker 1: reflect and say, huh, this is what my issue is

721
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:43,239
Speaker 1: and this is why I'm not allowing men in. So

722
00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 1: I think this is where you are. You are very

723
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:47,319
Speaker 1: tight with your friends, you give your friends, you're all

724
00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:49,799
Speaker 1: put there's a disconnect with men where you just put

725
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:53,080
Speaker 1: them in this box, and you have to then ask yourself,

726
00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 1: why are you in that box? And why am I

727
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:56,520
Speaker 1: putting them all in the box? Why am I not

728
00:37:56,640 --> 00:38:00,799
Speaker 1: allowing them to come and stimulate me mentally? Right, it's

729
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 1: just a basical thing and it's an exchange, but you're

730
00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:05,080
Speaker 1: not exchanging it with your mind. So when that dude

731
00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 1: cold you and said hey, I want to hollerate you

732
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:09,080
Speaker 1: and talk to see how you doing, he was like, oh, no,

733
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 1: that's right, that's exactly where I went to and and

734
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 1: it was to me where I had to um figure

735
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 1: that out and shout out to DJ damage Um. I've

736
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:20,600
Speaker 1: been talking to him a lot just because we have

737
00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:22,960
Speaker 1: so much in common. And I even had to tell him,

738
00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:25,239
Speaker 1: I said, can I tell you how much I appreciate

739
00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:28,920
Speaker 1: just talking to you every day, like about the things

740
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:31,880
Speaker 1: that make me happy. As far as creating, He's always

741
00:38:31,880 --> 00:38:34,520
Speaker 1: like asking me, have I come up with another way

742
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 1: to make money? Like you know, this is our creative

743
00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:38,960
Speaker 1: bubble right now that we're in, And I enjoyed that.

744
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 1: I actually had to thank him yesterday. I was like,

745
00:38:40,680 --> 00:38:45,360
Speaker 1: I haven't had just a conversation that was free flowing

746
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 1: that I enjoyed with a man in a long time.

747
00:38:47,600 --> 00:38:49,960
Speaker 1: And me and him have not touched on sex at all.

748
00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:52,719
Speaker 1: It's not even going there, and so I'm just appreciating

749
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:58,560
Speaker 1: even just having that conversation without going into so do

750
00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:00,480
Speaker 1: you like it from the back? Do you like yes?

751
00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:02,719
Speaker 1: Ate dad? Do you like your balls played with? And

752
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:05,080
Speaker 1: I'm just realizing that that's where And I know Weezy

753
00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 1: has told me like sex shouldn't be a conversation so early,

754
00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 1: and I'm just like, damn, maybe damn. I don't want

755
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:14,279
Speaker 1: to say Weezy was right, because y'all know I don't

756
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:17,279
Speaker 1: want to give it, say say say Weezy was right,

757
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:21,160
Speaker 1: It's okay, well in that space. Yet it's different because

758
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:24,279
Speaker 1: if Mandy knows that she can't have anything more like

759
00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 1: let's say they are married, or let's say that it

760
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 1: is supposed to be casual, then maybe yeah, but no,

761
00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 1: I have always said that I felt like sometimes it

762
00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:37,960
Speaker 1: was too early because to me, I just think it'll

763
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:41,440
Speaker 1: be difficult for wanting to grow a deeper connection after sex,

764
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:43,400
Speaker 1: not that it can't happen. I mean, I'm in that

765
00:39:43,480 --> 00:39:47,080
Speaker 1: relationship right now. Right then. They literally told me, I

766
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:51,480
Speaker 1: think a few months ago, after we've been on vacations together,

767
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:53,920
Speaker 1: that he didn't know what my favorite color was. You know, wow,

768
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:56,799
Speaker 1: I didn't even know that. And it's like thinking what

769
00:39:57,600 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 1: and it and it took time to realize, like wow,

770
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:01,799
Speaker 1: this It is really hard to get deep, deep, deep

771
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 1: and deeper with someone you've been sucking for a minute.

772
00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:06,720
Speaker 1: And I think it just starts off a lot better

773
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 1: when because if you don't like the person that they are,

774
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 1: you leave him before you back him. So it's it's

775
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:14,960
Speaker 1: crazy that you brought that up. I wanted before we

776
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:17,759
Speaker 1: get into that conversation. And Andrea, you and I were

777
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:20,040
Speaker 1: just gonna kind of mix up the order here, but

778
00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 1: we I wanted to ask you because because um, this

779
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:27,160
Speaker 1: ship is, you know, requiring distancing from group sex and

780
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:29,960
Speaker 1: orgy sex, and you guys love bringing other partners, and

781
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:33,360
Speaker 1: I want to know if mentally it's you know, changed

782
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:36,839
Speaker 1: anything with you or him that you're not having thirds join.

783
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:39,760
Speaker 1: I just want to know how if someone who's normally

784
00:40:39,840 --> 00:40:43,040
Speaker 1: into group sex and that's excitement for you, how this

785
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:45,759
Speaker 1: pandemic has kind of changed your thought process with that.

786
00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:50,520
Speaker 1: We just talked about this on Sunday. Yes, I know

787
00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:52,799
Speaker 1: a lot of our listeners are into that lifestyle too,

788
00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:54,799
Speaker 1: So can you talk to that and how it's changed

789
00:40:54,840 --> 00:40:58,160
Speaker 1: and what the conversation around that is. So uh, Sunday night,

790
00:40:58,320 --> 00:41:01,480
Speaker 1: I am and treated it too. I was like crying. Really,

791
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:04,480
Speaker 1: I know, I always think I cry, which I do, um,

792
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:07,000
Speaker 1: but at a really hard time and we had just

793
00:41:07,080 --> 00:41:09,640
Speaker 1: made dinner and I was, I mean hard, like making

794
00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:12,600
Speaker 1: noise crying, And I didn't want to tell him because

795
00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 1: I find that sometimes when you burden somebody with your

796
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:18,279
Speaker 1: emotional ship, like it can be too much, especially in

797
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:19,600
Speaker 1: a time right now. So I'm like, let me just

798
00:41:19,680 --> 00:41:21,560
Speaker 1: keep it light. So we get in the bed and

799
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 1: he could tell I was upset, and he was like, listen,

800
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 1: the things that we do as a couple that makes

801
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:30,200
Speaker 1: us happy, we still do, but there's a big piece

802
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:32,840
Speaker 1: that miss. It's missing. And he was like, and we

803
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:36,400
Speaker 1: always kicking by that. He like, we go out, we fucking,

804
00:41:36,440 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 1: we do this, we do that. And he was like,

805
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:40,880
Speaker 1: and that can't be our only fulfillment, Like that's not

806
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 1: why we love each other, that's just something we love

807
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:46,320
Speaker 1: to do. He's like, trust me, I miss watching basketball.

808
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 1: I know you miss going and out in shopping. He

809
00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 1: was like, that's just an aspect that's gone away. But

810
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:53,360
Speaker 1: this is just more time for us to connect on

811
00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:55,400
Speaker 1: another level. And we literally had to sit in the

812
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:58,879
Speaker 1: bed and talk about like goals for the next ten

813
00:41:58,960 --> 00:42:02,880
Speaker 1: days thirty days is like not even sexually, but I

814
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:05,120
Speaker 1: think it's just like sex is such a big part

815
00:42:05,120 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 1: of our relationship that we had to talk about like

816
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:10,080
Speaker 1: opening it up to more ship. Um. So, I mean

817
00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:11,880
Speaker 1: we definitely got deeper after that, but I mean it

818
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:16,040
Speaker 1: ain't easy. I FaceTime this girl that we fucked, and

819
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:18,799
Speaker 1: he was like, I mean, is it really bad to

820
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:22,560
Speaker 1: have her over here? See? Yes, because you don't don't,

821
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:25,560
Speaker 1: And that's why I wanted to ask you, like, I

822
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:27,839
Speaker 1: know that that's been a big thing you shared on

823
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:29,960
Speaker 1: the platform. Even when you travel, it's a part of

824
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:32,560
Speaker 1: your sex life, so being that you do have to

825
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:36,919
Speaker 1: kind of limit who you're around, I was wondering how

826
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 1: that has affected, like you know, so we added it up.

827
00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:43,840
Speaker 1: There's only once that we know, sorry twice because Thanksgiving?

828
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 1: What account with my mom that we didn't have sex

829
00:42:45,800 --> 00:42:49,520
Speaker 1: in someone a vacation and not of them we're playing.

830
00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 1: They just happened. So it's like constant, constant, constant. I

831
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:55,080
Speaker 1: thought Puerto Rico was gonna be it. Nope, last night

832
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:58,919
Speaker 1: we suck a bitch. Um. Yeah. The conversation wasn't easy either,

833
00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:00,520
Speaker 1: because I told him I was like, it's sucking up

834
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 1: my self esteem a little bit because for me, I

835
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:06,160
Speaker 1: feel super sexy when I get to be with another woman,

836
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:10,120
Speaker 1: I get super turned on, and knowing we're going out

837
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:12,440
Speaker 1: and picking someone, it's my way of keeping dating fresh.

838
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 1: Like it's making me feel really shitty and I'm like

839
00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 1: really having a sit and deal with that. So you

840
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:20,919
Speaker 1: you went to bring in I guess the face time

841
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:23,960
Speaker 1: was something. Are are there any other things. If someone's

842
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:26,400
Speaker 1: listening and they're also used to having three sims with

843
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:29,719
Speaker 1: their partner, do you have any tips for them, Like

844
00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 1: have you implemented anything yet that seems to make up

845
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:36,799
Speaker 1: for the lack of another? The only thing that it's,

846
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:38,279
Speaker 1: like I said, we're gonna try this weekend, it's the

847
00:43:38,360 --> 00:43:41,319
Speaker 1: virtual lap dances because it's I'm a boy, a blow

848
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:43,799
Speaker 1: up doll. Let me know that nigga address, you're gonna

849
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:47,080
Speaker 1: blow up doll this, I'm good? What a faith it?

850
00:43:47,400 --> 00:43:50,840
Speaker 1: But I do have this week? And I was thinking,

851
00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:57,399
Speaker 1: oh my god, what Yeah, listen, I didn't like last

852
00:43:57,400 --> 00:43:59,920
Speaker 1: week and very like minimally, but I'm just gonna get

853
00:43:59,920 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 1: the wig. And I know he's probably gonna laugh and

854
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:03,839
Speaker 1: think it's silly at first, but if we're sucked up,

855
00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:07,239
Speaker 1: he'll get into it. And that is funny, Like, yo,

856
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:12,320
Speaker 1: I'm making a whole thing, go for it. That is funny.

857
00:44:12,360 --> 00:44:15,320
Speaker 1: So I wanted to switch this conversation. We really actually

858
00:44:15,360 --> 00:44:18,360
Speaker 1: kind of brought something up like if you don't like

859
00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:21,520
Speaker 1: a nigga, you can stop sucking them. And with this

860
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:23,919
Speaker 1: pandemic and a lot of people working from home now,

861
00:44:24,239 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 1: they're spending a lot more time around their partners, and

862
00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:29,360
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people are realizing maybe they

863
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:34,640
Speaker 1: don't like their partners as much as they thought they did. So, um, Andrea,

864
00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:37,360
Speaker 1: why do you what? I guess, what would you suggest

865
00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:41,840
Speaker 1: for someone who's realizing this, you know the fact that

866
00:44:41,880 --> 00:44:45,360
Speaker 1: we have to stay at home and them seeing that

867
00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:49,320
Speaker 1: maybe they're not as into either emotionally basically or sexually

868
00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:51,799
Speaker 1: into their partners, Like, what are things that they can

869
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:54,880
Speaker 1: do to to not make that hinder, you know, their relationship.

870
00:44:55,280 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 1: I would say, first of all, you know, we're all

871
00:44:58,160 --> 00:45:01,720
Speaker 1: in a very interesting space right now, and I think

872
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 1: I think people need to really sit down and deal

873
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 1: with their stuff first before they go to their partner,

874
00:45:07,520 --> 00:45:10,000
Speaker 1: because sometimes it's what we're feeling about ourselves and then

875
00:45:10,000 --> 00:45:12,680
Speaker 1: we're projecting it onto the other person. So what I

876
00:45:12,680 --> 00:45:15,200
Speaker 1: would say is, first, well, write down on a piece

877
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 1: of paper what are the things that you feel you're

878
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 1: lacking and what are the things you feel that you

879
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:23,080
Speaker 1: need that you're not getting. That's number one. Another thing

880
00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:25,480
Speaker 1: that I would say to do is record yourself first,

881
00:45:25,560 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 1: because you could really Once you record yourself and play

882
00:45:27,719 --> 00:45:30,360
Speaker 1: that ship back, trust me, you'll realize you've got a

883
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 1: little crazy new that you need to record yourself having

884
00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:36,280
Speaker 1: a conversation, record yourself, which I do a lot, having

885
00:45:36,280 --> 00:45:40,840
Speaker 1: a conversation with yourself, speak out your feeling and record it. Yes,

886
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:43,359
Speaker 1: and then when I say put it on pause after

887
00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 1: you're done, don't play it right away. Pick it up

888
00:45:45,480 --> 00:45:48,120
Speaker 1: the next day and play it, and then you could

889
00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:50,680
Speaker 1: hear what is really deep down bothering you. Is it

890
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:52,960
Speaker 1: that you're both in each other's face all the time

891
00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:55,120
Speaker 1: and the kids is running around? Is it that you

892
00:45:55,160 --> 00:45:57,160
Speaker 1: have to face affect your in a marriage and you're

893
00:45:57,200 --> 00:45:59,319
Speaker 1: not having sex. Okay, it's one thing when you're both

894
00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:01,359
Speaker 1: working full time, you don't really have to dress it.

895
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:04,279
Speaker 1: It's one thing home twenty four hours for the last

896
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:08,000
Speaker 1: fourteen days together. You are really in a bad situation

897
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 1: because it's it's crazy that you said the playback. So

898
00:46:12,640 --> 00:46:14,239
Speaker 1: let me tell you. I was in a group chat

899
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:16,680
Speaker 1: with my homegirl. So she's still getting dicked during this

900
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:20,480
Speaker 1: quarantine ship. And so she met a guy Friday. He

901
00:46:20,560 --> 00:46:25,440
Speaker 1: spent the whole weekend with this is in l A exactly.

902
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 1: Maybe I think she was I don't know, maybe online.

903
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:32,800
Speaker 1: I didn't even ask where she met the guy. Yeah, No,

904
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:35,080
Speaker 1: she met literally met a guy on Friday. So it

905
00:46:35,120 --> 00:46:37,120
Speaker 1: was either online or through mutual friends. I'll get the

906
00:46:37,120 --> 00:46:40,360
Speaker 1: tea where she met the nigga. Anyways, we're all in

907
00:46:40,400 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 1: the group chat and she's like, Bro, this nigga just

908
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:46,920
Speaker 1: came over. He came over Friday, he spent the weekend,

909
00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:50,720
Speaker 1: and then come Monday, he stopped answering. His phone literally

910
00:46:50,719 --> 00:46:54,240
Speaker 1: went over twenty four hours, goes to her, So listen,

911
00:46:54,520 --> 00:46:57,759
Speaker 1: we're all on the phone and so like, wait, wait, wait,

912
00:46:57,880 --> 00:47:01,160
Speaker 1: I said, wait one moment and I texted and then

913
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:03,239
Speaker 1: I voice recorded it, and I was like, wait, you

914
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:06,600
Speaker 1: met a nigga Friday. Let me spend the weekend with you.

915
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:09,560
Speaker 1: Let him get the pussy raw, because yeah, you let

916
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:13,080
Speaker 1: him fuck raw on top of just just for him

917
00:47:13,120 --> 00:47:16,440
Speaker 1: to go see twenty four hours after he left your

918
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:20,160
Speaker 1: your thing mind you. Then when he came back to

919
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 1: respond to her, he said, I'm just getting my phone back.

920
00:47:24,280 --> 00:47:29,719
Speaker 1: The excuse right, girl? So I literally she was like,

921
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 1: so I wrote it in a paragraph and she laughed.

922
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:34,799
Speaker 1: She was like, can you can you voice note that

923
00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:37,359
Speaker 1: to me? So I reiterated it in a voice note

924
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:40,800
Speaker 1: and she's like, damn, hearing you say it, that sounds

925
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:46,200
Speaker 1: really bad. She was like, damn, I'm judging myself now,

926
00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 1: And it was literally hearing those words and what literally

927
00:47:50,560 --> 00:47:53,520
Speaker 1: just happened, but hearing it back through vocals. So I

928
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:56,400
Speaker 1: actually liked the tip of you saying record your thoughts

929
00:47:56,440 --> 00:47:58,880
Speaker 1: and listen back to it because you're judging. You can

930
00:47:58,920 --> 00:48:02,600
Speaker 1: actually judge yourself the words that you're a great idea,

931
00:48:02,719 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 1: and you don't have to call all your friends and

932
00:48:04,480 --> 00:48:06,200
Speaker 1: get your friends all in your business and have them

933
00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 1: throw that in your face at the later time. That's me.

934
00:48:12,440 --> 00:48:14,480
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna like. If she had the nigga over

935
00:48:14,560 --> 00:48:16,960
Speaker 1: last night, I said, where is your self dignity? Bro?

936
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:20,080
Speaker 1: I said, where is it you let that nigga? I said,

937
00:48:20,120 --> 00:48:22,600
Speaker 1: he's only gonna do what you allow. Didn't face time

938
00:48:22,680 --> 00:48:25,120
Speaker 1: me while the nigga was at her house and was like,

939
00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:27,280
Speaker 1: my friend hates you. I was like, your damn skippy

940
00:48:27,320 --> 00:48:30,160
Speaker 1: because you ain't ship nigga. I said, you shouldn't have

941
00:48:30,160 --> 00:48:32,239
Speaker 1: got pussy now. I said, but it's okay. My friend

942
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:35,239
Speaker 1: has no self worth and she's lonely. Say that who

943
00:48:35,280 --> 00:48:37,279
Speaker 1: did it? She laughed, that's whar to God? I said it?

944
00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:39,440
Speaker 1: I said, but we're gonna work on this. Do you

945
00:48:39,480 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 1: know what. I really love when you can really tell

946
00:48:41,680 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 1: your friends how you really feel. That's how that's how

947
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 1: you know who you're real friends. And when he can

948
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:49,239
Speaker 1: tell you the truth about yourself. She was like, she

949
00:48:49,400 --> 00:48:52,440
Speaker 1: was like, she was like, you keep saying that word dignity, bitch,

950
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:57,920
Speaker 1: I feel seen. And I said, I listen. And then

951
00:48:58,000 --> 00:48:59,480
Speaker 1: she wanted to be petty and she thought she was

952
00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:01,520
Speaker 1: gonna help me name my cat because she has cats,

953
00:49:01,880 --> 00:49:03,960
Speaker 1: and then she started sucking naming it Jordan's. I said,

954
00:49:04,000 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 1: get off the phone. I said, that's not what we're

955
00:49:05,560 --> 00:49:08,400
Speaker 1: gonna do. I'm not having my cat after that. Nigga,

956
00:49:08,440 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 1: thank you very much. I that's belowd about, way below,

957
00:49:11,840 --> 00:49:14,359
Speaker 1: way belowd about. I'm like, damn, so you're gonna name

958
00:49:14,400 --> 00:49:16,399
Speaker 1: my cat and nigga, I hate thank you. What's most

959
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 1: disappointing to It's like when you get that call from

960
00:49:19,239 --> 00:49:21,160
Speaker 1: a friend, or when you're the person that calls and

961
00:49:21,200 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 1: you already know they're gonna be bad. Shout out to

962
00:49:23,680 --> 00:49:25,359
Speaker 1: my home girl. I don't want to say your name,

963
00:49:25,400 --> 00:49:27,920
Speaker 1: but that bitch called me. What was it like? A

964
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:29,960
Speaker 1: few weeks ago, we hadn't talked to a few days

965
00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:31,960
Speaker 1: because I was away on vacation a few weeks ago.

966
00:49:33,120 --> 00:49:35,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, what happened. She's like, girl, you know what happened.

967
00:49:35,800 --> 00:49:38,440
Speaker 1: I'm like you she was like, yeah, but we are

968
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:41,279
Speaker 1: talking again, and I'm telling you I'm done. I'm done.

969
00:49:42,040 --> 00:49:45,080
Speaker 1: I was like, but you were like, no, you're not.

970
00:49:46,000 --> 00:49:48,040
Speaker 1: Me and your they both said they're never going to

971
00:49:48,120 --> 00:49:50,160
Speaker 1: talk to each other again. And just a few days ago,

972
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:52,400
Speaker 1: she was like, Wow, this real thing is really not

973
00:49:52,520 --> 00:49:54,239
Speaker 1: hitting me up to see if I'm okay. I'm like,

974
00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:57,080
Speaker 1: y'all said you were down with each other. Wait, so

975
00:49:57,239 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 1: that was like the last time fun. I don't know

976
00:49:59,080 --> 00:50:02,360
Speaker 1: if you remember you were Replies had a song, um,

977
00:50:02,480 --> 00:50:04,359
Speaker 1: let me funk one more time or something like that,

978
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:08,759
Speaker 1: before y'all remember Applies me be in real Florida right now, Um,

979
00:50:08,920 --> 00:50:11,600
Speaker 1: before you leave, baby, let me funk one more time.

980
00:50:11,800 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 1: It was called it was called one more Time. Y'all

981
00:50:13,560 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 1: gotta listen to it, God damn it, sayce listen. I'm

982
00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:18,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna at it on Patreon because we're gonna get

983
00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:21,040
Speaker 1: kicked off iTunes if I put it here. Just just

984
00:50:21,080 --> 00:50:23,760
Speaker 1: look up one more time by Applies and it's literally

985
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:26,399
Speaker 1: that's your closure. Bro. You don't believe that somebody could

986
00:50:26,400 --> 00:50:28,720
Speaker 1: suck somebody one more time and they never talk again.

987
00:50:28,760 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 1: I had to close your sex with lover boy the

988
00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:35,000
Speaker 1: day we broke up. And it's crazy because we had

989
00:50:35,080 --> 00:50:38,319
Speaker 1: lunch in Dallas, UM, because he lives there now, and

990
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 1: it was right before our show, and I was like, Oh,

991
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:42,840
Speaker 1: he's kind of cute. I could suck him again. But

992
00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:45,400
Speaker 1: then I'm like, you know what, we had our closure

993
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:51,960
Speaker 1: fuck and that was why open it back up? I listen.

994
00:50:52,000 --> 00:50:55,279
Speaker 1: I hate I hate backtracking, but y'all know, I haven't

995
00:50:55,280 --> 00:50:56,719
Speaker 1: told you. I didn't have the same niggas in my

996
00:50:56,760 --> 00:50:59,080
Speaker 1: phone for about ten years. I was a girl, and

997
00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:01,560
Speaker 1: I ain't one of the niggas who I wanted to

998
00:51:01,560 --> 00:51:04,279
Speaker 1: fly here. Bitch you went to school with and don't

999
00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:06,000
Speaker 1: say his name, because you know, the only nigga from

1000
00:51:06,280 --> 00:51:11,200
Speaker 1: Olympia that I talked to. Oh he's so cute. You're like, yeah,

1001
00:51:11,239 --> 00:51:13,440
Speaker 1: he's so cute, and you you didn't even because he

1002
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:17,520
Speaker 1: was a little nerd and that. And then I went

1003
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:21,560
Speaker 1: to middle school, maybe even elementary. UM probably known him

1004
00:51:21,640 --> 00:51:27,880
Speaker 1: my whole life, and very tall basketball player of the school,

1005
00:51:28,239 --> 00:51:30,720
Speaker 1: but was always so geeky and lanky, so when Mandy

1006
00:51:30,760 --> 00:51:33,840
Speaker 1: told me she was, I was like him. Then I

1007
00:51:33,880 --> 00:51:39,320
Speaker 1: went on his Instagram and he got fine. He definitely

1008
00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:43,279
Speaker 1: grew out of his nerdiness. Like god, yeah, but that dude,

1009
00:51:43,280 --> 00:51:48,480
Speaker 1: I think he left me a happy birthday comment. Now,

1010
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:51,239
Speaker 1: but all the basketball niggas from high school grew up,

1011
00:51:51,360 --> 00:51:53,719
Speaker 1: and at the time, when you're in high school, you're like,

1012
00:51:54,480 --> 00:51:59,239
Speaker 1: I can fuck a college guy now next, and I'm

1013
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:02,719
Speaker 1: alright with it. Right It's yeah. I was. I was

1014
00:52:02,760 --> 00:52:04,719
Speaker 1: willing to fly him here. He was like, no, you

1015
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:07,040
Speaker 1: come to Orlando. I said, they're not letting bitches from

1016
00:52:07,040 --> 00:52:09,839
Speaker 1: New York into the state of Florida right now. Like,

1017
00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:13,000
Speaker 1: did you I come down there? I'm stuck for two quarantine.

1018
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: Did you know that they'll check they? Yeah. Someone I

1019
00:52:17,080 --> 00:52:19,399
Speaker 1: just I mentioned this on the round of reports. Someone

1020
00:52:19,520 --> 00:52:21,480
Speaker 1: was like, man, they just make you feel out of paper.

1021
00:52:21,480 --> 00:52:23,680
Speaker 1: And someone else retweeted and was like, no, nigga, they

1022
00:52:23,680 --> 00:52:29,759
Speaker 1: didn't knocked on my door twice. They're like, y, no,

1023
00:52:29,880 --> 00:52:33,360
Speaker 1: for sure, specifically if you're traveling, and they also added

1024
00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:37,120
Speaker 1: New Orleans, so they blocked off going into the state

1025
00:52:37,160 --> 00:52:38,879
Speaker 1: of Florida, but also if you're coming from New Orleans

1026
00:52:38,960 --> 00:52:43,360
Speaker 1: because they said that Marty grawl added to so many cases.

1027
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:48,719
Speaker 1: Festival is done. Oh, it's postponed. It's postponed. Yeah, everything said.

1028
00:52:48,960 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 1: We ain't gonna have no summer y'all. So I wanted

1029
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:56,120
Speaker 1: to talk about I'm going outside. We not have it

1030
00:52:56,160 --> 00:52:58,359
Speaker 1: as maybe I'm not going to the club, but I'm

1031
00:52:58,480 --> 00:53:01,200
Speaker 1: going down the time. Where are you going? Where you

1032
00:53:01,200 --> 00:53:06,279
Speaker 1: going out to Trader Joe's a game, I'm going to take.

1033
00:53:07,640 --> 00:53:10,360
Speaker 1: Hey listen, by the way, if any of you guys

1034
00:53:10,440 --> 00:53:14,240
Speaker 1: listening work at the supermarkets, can we get some bops

1035
00:53:15,000 --> 00:53:17,840
Speaker 1: um playing some tunes in the grocery stores. Now that

1036
00:53:17,960 --> 00:53:20,480
Speaker 1: is our club. That is our club. Now, that is

1037
00:53:20,480 --> 00:53:23,760
Speaker 1: our entertainment. I need some bops while I'm deciding between

1038
00:53:24,239 --> 00:53:27,560
Speaker 1: you know, mayonnaise and I needed some super some bomp

1039
00:53:27,600 --> 00:53:31,960
Speaker 1: in it. Uh. To be honest with you, I actually

1040
00:53:32,040 --> 00:53:33,520
Speaker 1: said this on Twitter the other day. I was like,

1041
00:53:33,520 --> 00:53:35,920
Speaker 1: I've prayed to God none of my favorite rappers come

1042
00:53:35,960 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 1: out with a hit because I cannot be in a

1043
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:40,800
Speaker 1: house with a lid As song right now. Well, I

1044
00:53:40,800 --> 00:53:42,719
Speaker 1: ain't gonna hold you unless they got a studio at

1045
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:47,239
Speaker 1: their houses. But all the studios a show, please, I

1046
00:53:47,280 --> 00:53:50,280
Speaker 1: mean in the house they can't go to the studio.

1047
00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:52,680
Speaker 1: The studios closed girl, even in Atlanta. I was talking

1048
00:53:52,719 --> 00:53:55,040
Speaker 1: to UM. They record out of the I Heart studio

1049
00:53:55,280 --> 00:53:58,120
Speaker 1: lex Andria, which they had to record from home. I

1050
00:53:58,160 --> 00:54:01,160
Speaker 1: know that our studio bitch that we record out of

1051
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:11,320
Speaker 1: bitch clothes. These can't do it. They got studios in

1052
00:54:11,360 --> 00:54:13,879
Speaker 1: their basis. Bit they got off. The baby in there

1053
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:19,680
Speaker 1: right now cooking it up headphones on big beautiful curls.

1054
00:54:19,680 --> 00:54:24,680
Speaker 1: That baby is beautiful. I want to shout out UM

1055
00:54:24,719 --> 00:54:30,200
Speaker 1: as well to one of our Twitter um our Twitter listeners. Actually, no,

1056
00:54:30,440 --> 00:54:32,479
Speaker 1: we're not. We'll talk about the ted X talk. Maybe

1057
00:54:32,520 --> 00:54:34,640
Speaker 1: not that there is a teex UM that talks about

1058
00:54:34,680 --> 00:54:37,440
Speaker 1: how sex workers UM can teach us about human connection.

1059
00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:40,000
Speaker 1: That was really dope, UM, because I think it's funny

1060
00:54:40,000 --> 00:54:44,680
Speaker 1: that only fans actually went up as far as their

1061
00:54:44,800 --> 00:54:48,839
Speaker 1: new subscriptions and new pages in the month of March.

1062
00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:53,000
Speaker 1: So happy for those women and it's the highest peak

1063
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:56,520
Speaker 1: that they did. But so with talking about sex, UM again,

1064
00:54:56,719 --> 00:54:59,640
Speaker 1: I have different sex than Wheezy has Andrea. Are you

1065
00:54:59,680 --> 00:55:02,479
Speaker 1: married at all or in a relationship? Uh, you gotta

1066
00:55:02,520 --> 00:55:03,920
Speaker 1: wait for the book, but I will tell you I

1067
00:55:04,000 --> 00:55:06,480
Speaker 1: was married for twenty something years, have two children, in

1068
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:11,359
Speaker 1: divorce for five years, so I'm divorced. Who bitch, that's

1069
00:55:11,360 --> 00:55:14,880
Speaker 1: a that's a long time baby. Yeah, I was so

1070
00:55:15,040 --> 00:55:18,120
Speaker 1: long as you guys ever went without sex. It's not

1071
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 1: to be this quarantine. Four years? No, I mad her marriage?

1072
00:55:22,520 --> 00:55:25,359
Speaker 1: Oh in your marriage years? Was it try to enter

1073
00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:28,360
Speaker 1: in the middle? Uh no, no, no, not in the marriage,

1074
00:55:28,400 --> 00:55:34,160
Speaker 1: after the marriage. Um, you personally personally, that's what you

1075
00:55:34,160 --> 00:55:37,960
Speaker 1: were saying. Four years was yeah, oh my goodness, in

1076
00:55:38,040 --> 00:55:41,719
Speaker 1: your marriage. But wow, four years? Four years and that

1077
00:55:41,880 --> 00:55:45,840
Speaker 1: was after your marriage because you couldn't find someone to

1078
00:55:45,920 --> 00:55:48,960
Speaker 1: replace your husband. Wasn't mental? Why didn't it four years?

1079
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:52,360
Speaker 1: It was all mental? It was all mental. I was destroyed.

1080
00:55:52,600 --> 00:55:55,120
Speaker 1: Was not interested. And as you get old, I'm forty

1081
00:55:55,120 --> 00:55:57,920
Speaker 1: three years old, it's I'm not saying I'm not into it.

1082
00:55:57,960 --> 00:55:59,760
Speaker 1: I love sex. I think it's more of a mental

1083
00:55:59,800 --> 00:56:02,440
Speaker 1: state for me. And if I'm not here mentally, then

1084
00:56:02,440 --> 00:56:08,759
Speaker 1: nothing damn there can happen. I mean say, I was

1085
00:56:08,760 --> 00:56:10,680
Speaker 1: about to say, I think we've said the same thing,

1086
00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:14,120
Speaker 1: like and although I'm not having a mental or emotional connection,

1087
00:56:14,160 --> 00:56:16,359
Speaker 1: like still mentally, bitch, if if I'm off you, if

1088
00:56:16,400 --> 00:56:19,040
Speaker 1: you do something that I don't like. Um, I'm sorry,

1089
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:20,840
Speaker 1: we can't have sex. My pussy won't get wet. So

1090
00:56:20,920 --> 00:56:22,799
Speaker 1: I actually wanted to talk about, real quick before we

1091
00:56:22,840 --> 00:56:26,520
Speaker 1: get into the homemail, the differences between types of sex.

1092
00:56:26,840 --> 00:56:30,160
Speaker 1: So I found this article, um, and this comes from

1093
00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:34,280
Speaker 1: Psychology Today, and it talks about the differences between types

1094
00:56:34,280 --> 00:56:36,600
Speaker 1: of sex. And I know we talked about I I know,

1095
00:56:36,640 --> 00:56:38,799
Speaker 1: I talked about just kind of the casual sex I have.

1096
00:56:39,120 --> 00:56:43,400
Speaker 1: Wheezy has sex with where where there's you know, two

1097
00:56:43,520 --> 00:56:46,480
Speaker 1: or more people. So I wanted to talk about the

1098
00:56:46,480 --> 00:56:51,240
Speaker 1: difference between hook up sex, marital sex, and making love sex.

1099
00:56:53,280 --> 00:56:56,279
Speaker 1: And I didn't realize how different they were because I know, like,

1100
00:56:56,560 --> 00:56:58,960
Speaker 1: even with my hook up sex, I've been like, oh,

1101
00:56:59,000 --> 00:57:01,160
Speaker 1: but it was real intimate. Then there's porn star sex.

1102
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:03,960
Speaker 1: I mean, so I wanted to, I guess, clarify between

1103
00:57:04,200 --> 00:57:08,400
Speaker 1: the three. Um, actually, Wheezy, do you do you know

1104
00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:11,759
Speaker 1: the difference between hook up, marital and making love sex?

1105
00:57:12,280 --> 00:57:15,640
Speaker 1: Do you sound like there are I know, look at me,

1106
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:21,960
Speaker 1: I look like. So hook up sex refers to purely

1107
00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:26,360
Speaker 1: physical encounters. Marital sex is the kind of sex that

1108
00:57:26,400 --> 00:57:29,080
Speaker 1: most committed couples tend to have, so merit or not

1109
00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:32,240
Speaker 1: straighter gay. That would be marital sex, and then making

1110
00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:35,960
Speaker 1: love is a different kind of experience that transcends both

1111
00:57:36,000 --> 00:57:39,720
Speaker 1: of the other two kinds. So hook up sex um

1112
00:57:39,880 --> 00:57:42,280
Speaker 1: is more like you and your partner use each other's

1113
00:57:42,280 --> 00:57:45,840
Speaker 1: bodies for your own pleasure. I used to say that

1114
00:57:46,000 --> 00:57:52,400
Speaker 1: ship you do, you do can. It can be extremely

1115
00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:55,480
Speaker 1: intense and arousing, especially when you feel less towards a

1116
00:57:55,520 --> 00:57:58,000
Speaker 1: new partner. There's a place for this kind of sex.

1117
00:57:58,000 --> 00:58:01,040
Speaker 1: But it's also the most primitive. It's the least involved

1118
00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:04,080
Speaker 1: form of sex too. Um. It reflects more of your

1119
00:58:04,320 --> 00:58:08,120
Speaker 1: your animal part of being a human. UM. So it's

1120
00:58:08,160 --> 00:58:11,160
Speaker 1: like your psychological needs and your impulses when you're having

1121
00:58:11,200 --> 00:58:13,600
Speaker 1: hook up sex. Which is funny because reading this, I

1122
00:58:13,600 --> 00:58:17,760
Speaker 1: think it is more so what I've encountered mostly. Um.

1123
00:58:17,800 --> 00:58:20,040
Speaker 1: Even like as far as when I talk about my partners,

1124
00:58:20,120 --> 00:58:22,440
Speaker 1: I only want to have sex with a motherfucker that

1125
00:58:22,480 --> 00:58:24,680
Speaker 1: I know is going to make me come. And if

1126
00:58:24,720 --> 00:58:29,160
Speaker 1: I can't come, what are we doing? You know? Um,

1127
00:58:29,200 --> 00:58:33,880
Speaker 1: where's the marital sex? Um? Marital sex actually reflects a

1128
00:58:33,960 --> 00:58:36,520
Speaker 1: higher plane than a hook up because it includes some

1129
00:58:36,680 --> 00:58:39,600
Speaker 1: degree of emotional connection and intimacy. So, bitch, even when

1130
00:58:39,600 --> 00:58:41,360
Speaker 1: you was having casual sex. I think he was having

1131
00:58:41,400 --> 00:58:47,720
Speaker 1: marital sex. Who you bitch? Because it says that it's

1132
00:58:47,760 --> 00:58:50,160
Speaker 1: above the hook up where you're not just looking for

1133
00:58:50,680 --> 00:58:54,080
Speaker 1: your own emotional needs, but you're tying in a degree

1134
00:58:54,080 --> 00:58:58,240
Speaker 1: of an emotional connection and intimacy. So I think that

1135
00:58:58,320 --> 00:59:01,040
Speaker 1: even I can agree with and even if it didn't

1136
00:59:01,040 --> 00:59:04,800
Speaker 1: mean the same for them, Like I definitely needed to

1137
00:59:04,840 --> 00:59:07,560
Speaker 1: be stimulated in some way to where I felt like

1138
00:59:07,600 --> 00:59:11,560
Speaker 1: there was a deeper emotional connection. Um, even with like

1139
00:59:11,720 --> 00:59:16,000
Speaker 1: other partners, like there's an emotional connection there, like the

1140
00:59:16,000 --> 00:59:17,560
Speaker 1: hook up sex. I don't know why, it just doesn't

1141
00:59:17,560 --> 00:59:19,160
Speaker 1: work for me, Like I don't want how do you?

1142
00:59:19,520 --> 00:59:21,880
Speaker 1: How do you? How do you compare? Because the next

1143
00:59:21,880 --> 00:59:25,040
Speaker 1: one is making love? And to me, emotional sex is

1144
00:59:25,080 --> 00:59:27,920
Speaker 1: making love? No, Like no, what do you? What do

1145
00:59:27,920 --> 00:59:32,800
Speaker 1: you know? Yeah? So what is the difference between before

1146
00:59:32,840 --> 00:59:34,400
Speaker 1: I get into what they say making love is, what

1147
00:59:34,480 --> 00:59:37,760
Speaker 1: is the difference between emotional and intimate sex and making love?

1148
00:59:37,800 --> 00:59:39,280
Speaker 1: Because I thought they were the same thing. I think

1149
00:59:39,360 --> 00:59:43,480
Speaker 1: emotional is when you're connecting beyond sex with someone in

1150
00:59:43,520 --> 00:59:47,440
Speaker 1: a mental space I feel, when you're doing things together

1151
00:59:48,120 --> 00:59:50,840
Speaker 1: as a couple. I don't and in some days you

1152
00:59:50,880 --> 00:59:53,320
Speaker 1: don't even have to have sex. It's the intimacy, is

1153
00:59:53,320 --> 00:59:57,160
Speaker 1: the conversation, spending time together. That's what I think. Okay,

1154
00:59:57,200 --> 00:59:59,960
Speaker 1: and then making love then is what I think. Make

1155
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:01,720
Speaker 1: and love could be with a boyfriend, it could be

1156
01:00:01,760 --> 01:00:04,480
Speaker 1: with a you know, somebody that you hit up every

1157
01:00:04,480 --> 01:00:08,680
Speaker 1: now and then, because it's like beyond just having the

1158
01:00:10,200 --> 01:00:14,280
Speaker 1: right it's like, wholey, you know, let's lay down, let's

1159
01:00:14,280 --> 01:00:17,000
Speaker 1: do it again, go to sleep, wake up, do it again.

1160
01:00:17,080 --> 01:00:19,160
Speaker 1: That's what I think. There's a lot more I think

1161
01:00:19,360 --> 01:00:23,600
Speaker 1: um softness to making love, Like I don't really you

1162
01:00:23,640 --> 01:00:26,160
Speaker 1: could have rough, passionate sex, but I don't consider that

1163
01:00:26,240 --> 01:00:29,760
Speaker 1: making love. I don't either. It's funny they actually hear

1164
01:00:29,960 --> 01:00:35,800
Speaker 1: they they say that making love is equal to kind

1165
01:00:35,840 --> 01:00:42,680
Speaker 1: of spiritual sex, so kind of um ecstatic physical experience

1166
01:00:42,720 --> 01:00:45,440
Speaker 1: that you have. So I think that that So what

1167
01:00:45,520 --> 01:00:47,720
Speaker 1: if I cried, like I know, we had like porn

1168
01:00:47,720 --> 01:00:49,640
Speaker 1: star sex, But if I cried during sex, does that

1169
01:00:49,720 --> 01:00:53,720
Speaker 1: making love? If it makes me cry? Yes? Right? Or

1170
01:00:53,840 --> 01:00:56,280
Speaker 1: do you agree with that? Or no? If I cry,

1171
01:00:56,360 --> 01:00:58,920
Speaker 1: is that not some sort of like spiritual like because

1172
01:00:58,920 --> 01:01:00,440
Speaker 1: I know you don't you you you be crying all

1173
01:01:00,480 --> 01:01:05,000
Speaker 1: the time. I think that's emotional connection. Absolutely, yeah, But

1174
01:01:05,200 --> 01:01:07,439
Speaker 1: what if I can't. What if I'm just emotionally tied

1175
01:01:07,480 --> 01:01:11,000
Speaker 1: to the great Dick? Nah? Now, if I cry, that

1176
01:01:11,040 --> 01:01:13,160
Speaker 1: means there's nothing deeper. There's something deeper there that you

1177
01:01:13,240 --> 01:01:16,800
Speaker 1: need to explore, you agree or not. Have you ever

1178
01:01:16,880 --> 01:01:19,600
Speaker 1: cried just from good as dick and not making love? Yeah,

1179
01:01:19,600 --> 01:01:21,760
Speaker 1: I've had, Like it's been like a release, but there

1180
01:01:21,880 --> 01:01:25,400
Speaker 1: was something a little bit deeper there, but it wasn't

1181
01:01:25,520 --> 01:01:28,400
Speaker 1: but it wasn't like it wasn't really him. It wasn't that, um,

1182
01:01:29,480 --> 01:01:30,920
Speaker 1: I was super in love with that part. Like, and

1183
01:01:30,960 --> 01:01:33,200
Speaker 1: I'm only speaking from guys from my past when I

1184
01:01:33,240 --> 01:01:35,240
Speaker 1: know I've cried and it wasn't like I wasn't sad

1185
01:01:35,360 --> 01:01:37,680
Speaker 1: or anything, and I wasn't in love with them. But

1186
01:01:37,760 --> 01:01:40,040
Speaker 1: there was one time I remember where I cried when

1187
01:01:40,080 --> 01:01:42,760
Speaker 1: I weared guys. I don't know if I was just like, oh, like,

1188
01:01:43,280 --> 01:01:47,640
Speaker 1: am I crying because it was a release? But also

1189
01:01:47,760 --> 01:01:52,440
Speaker 1: like do I want something this deep and this personal

1190
01:01:52,480 --> 01:01:54,920
Speaker 1: with someone else? Like it was weird. It was it

1191
01:01:55,000 --> 01:01:58,920
Speaker 1: was like some subconscious because I wasn't upset and I

1192
01:01:58,960 --> 01:02:00,920
Speaker 1: knew I wasn't like super in love with this person.

1193
01:02:01,040 --> 01:02:04,840
Speaker 1: But I'm like, why why did that cry? Right? I

1194
01:02:04,840 --> 01:02:07,200
Speaker 1: mean I cried with my ex um, But the next

1195
01:02:07,280 --> 01:02:09,000
Speaker 1: day I had pink eyes, So I think maybe just

1196
01:02:09,040 --> 01:02:11,680
Speaker 1: my eyeglands that watering because which I think it was

1197
01:02:11,720 --> 01:02:13,840
Speaker 1: the pink guy bitch Listen, I didn't want it to

1198
01:02:13,880 --> 01:02:16,560
Speaker 1: think he made me. Goddamn girl, I think he got

1199
01:02:16,600 --> 01:02:18,960
Speaker 1: you in a place where you haven't been and you

1200
01:02:19,040 --> 01:02:22,080
Speaker 1: were afraid to go and see what that was about.

1201
01:02:22,640 --> 01:02:25,280
Speaker 1: But I also had pink guys, so I think that.

1202
01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:32,520
Speaker 1: So intertwining all of these conversations, UM leads us to

1203
01:02:32,560 --> 01:02:35,400
Speaker 1: our homemail, and it was sentence I won't say her name.

1204
01:02:35,560 --> 01:02:39,080
Speaker 1: She demned me and said, this is a baby homemail question.

1205
01:02:39,440 --> 01:02:42,680
Speaker 1: But UM, just because we just had this conversation of

1206
01:02:42,720 --> 01:02:45,240
Speaker 1: all the different forms of sex, how sex has helped

1207
01:02:45,400 --> 01:02:48,360
Speaker 1: like affected us mentally through in the pandemic UM, one

1208
01:02:48,440 --> 01:02:50,680
Speaker 1: of our listeners, one of our listeners wants to know

1209
01:02:51,200 --> 01:02:55,040
Speaker 1: what should I do about feeling insecure about sleeping with

1210
01:02:55,200 --> 01:02:58,360
Speaker 1: multiple men. Of course, I'm doing it because I want

1211
01:02:58,400 --> 01:03:00,720
Speaker 1: to and I like it. But if I have sex

1212
01:03:00,760 --> 01:03:03,000
Speaker 1: with one guy, I feel like the next guy can

1213
01:03:03,080 --> 01:03:05,160
Speaker 1: feel it or knows that I did it, and I

1214
01:03:05,200 --> 01:03:07,920
Speaker 1: tripping what should I do? And I think that we

1215
01:03:08,080 --> 01:03:11,080
Speaker 1: the you and I have you know, kind of paraded

1216
01:03:11,080 --> 01:03:15,400
Speaker 1: the idea of you know, living your best life. Um.

1217
01:03:15,760 --> 01:03:18,480
Speaker 1: You know, we meet virgins that are looking forward to

1218
01:03:18,600 --> 01:03:20,880
Speaker 1: losing their virginity when we meet them at our lives shows.

1219
01:03:21,560 --> 01:03:25,360
Speaker 1: What would you tell someone who was insecure about sleeping

1220
01:03:25,360 --> 01:03:27,560
Speaker 1: with multiple men even though they want to sleep with

1221
01:03:27,640 --> 01:03:30,480
Speaker 1: multiple men? I don't know. I mean, I think that's

1222
01:03:30,520 --> 01:03:33,240
Speaker 1: something we have to unlearn. I feel insecure about wanting

1223
01:03:33,240 --> 01:03:36,360
Speaker 1: a male male female threesome. There's something that makes me

1224
01:03:36,400 --> 01:03:39,560
Speaker 1: feel insecure about that. But that's also like preconceived notions

1225
01:03:39,600 --> 01:03:43,160
Speaker 1: and things that I've been taught growing up. Right, It's

1226
01:03:43,160 --> 01:03:48,800
Speaker 1: that it's that inner horriphobia. UM. It's a hard thing

1227
01:03:48,880 --> 01:03:51,600
Speaker 1: because I think the only thing that can maybe make

1228
01:03:51,640 --> 01:03:55,040
Speaker 1: you feel better about it is keeping it private, because

1229
01:03:55,040 --> 01:03:57,840
Speaker 1: for some reason, you're feeling bad because either you're judging

1230
01:03:57,880 --> 01:04:00,280
Speaker 1: yourself or you feel like others will judge you. And

1231
01:04:00,320 --> 01:04:02,680
Speaker 1: to that, I would say, you're allowed to keep your

1232
01:04:02,680 --> 01:04:05,640
Speaker 1: sexual life private. A lot of people overshare with their friends,

1233
01:04:06,120 --> 01:04:08,320
Speaker 1: and I don't think that that's necessarily something that we

1234
01:04:08,320 --> 01:04:10,920
Speaker 1: always need to do. Um. The only person I overshare

1235
01:04:10,960 --> 01:04:14,480
Speaker 1: with is my therapist. But I mean even then, like

1236
01:04:14,600 --> 01:04:16,600
Speaker 1: I'll be ready for him to judge me. You know

1237
01:04:16,600 --> 01:04:20,600
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, right, It's it's crazy because I actually

1238
01:04:20,880 --> 01:04:23,880
Speaker 1: think that Um, for one, I do want to say

1239
01:04:23,880 --> 01:04:26,200
Speaker 1: and let me know if I'm wrong. She says that

1240
01:04:26,280 --> 01:04:28,920
Speaker 1: she feels like the next guy can feel it if

1241
01:04:28,960 --> 01:04:31,640
Speaker 1: she had sex with someone else. I know that we're

1242
01:04:31,640 --> 01:04:34,959
Speaker 1: not niggas, but no, take it from someone who has

1243
01:04:35,080 --> 01:04:39,240
Speaker 1: done that. Now, No, they can't write. No, I mean

1244
01:04:39,320 --> 01:04:42,040
Speaker 1: I would say maybe they're what if they're super different

1245
01:04:42,120 --> 01:04:47,200
Speaker 1: in size? Look, No, I'm asking the question that people

1246
01:04:47,200 --> 01:04:49,240
Speaker 1: may want to know. I think the only way that

1247
01:04:49,280 --> 01:04:51,200
Speaker 1: a person can tell if they're really in tune with

1248
01:04:51,240 --> 01:04:54,120
Speaker 1: the person, and if there's an odor or smell. Because

1249
01:04:54,120 --> 01:04:56,320
Speaker 1: I don't care what you say, if you move from

1250
01:04:56,880 --> 01:04:59,520
Speaker 1: a different person to another person, there is a smell

1251
01:04:59,560 --> 01:05:01,480
Speaker 1: there and have to be a foul smell or a

1252
01:05:01,480 --> 01:05:03,640
Speaker 1: horrible smell, but there is an odor, and if you're

1253
01:05:03,680 --> 01:05:05,720
Speaker 1: paying attention to your partner, you can tell that they've

1254
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Speaker 1: been with somebody else. So it's funny that you bring

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01:05:09,640 --> 01:05:12,760
Speaker 1: this up because it was a conversation on the timeline, UM,

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01:05:12,760 --> 01:05:15,080
Speaker 1: when you were with your husband or we the any

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01:05:15,120 --> 01:05:22,120
Speaker 1: partners that you've been with, Have y'all ever smelled their dick? Yes? Really? Can? Can? Okay,

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Speaker 1: so I've never done? Can? I just know how this

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Speaker 1: conversation happens because I was listening to the to a

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Speaker 1: podcast and they were talking about washing their dicks off

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Speaker 1: before going home. Because bitches are really asking to smell dicks?

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Speaker 1: Can you can both? Y'all police why that came up? Um? Uh? Yeah,

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01:05:43,720 --> 01:05:46,000
Speaker 1: you know who the nigga that does your taxes. He

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01:05:46,120 --> 01:05:49,920
Speaker 1: came home one day from motherfucking Cleo's. Clio's is a

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Speaker 1: strip club for those who don't know Andrea and Orlando,

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Speaker 1: and um, I was like, let me say that, and

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01:05:56,080 --> 01:05:58,360
Speaker 1: I think he was like thinking I was trying to

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01:05:58,360 --> 01:06:00,720
Speaker 1: be funny, and I was like, no, let me smell it.

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01:06:01,440 --> 01:06:03,880
Speaker 1: And you and you asked to smell it to see

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01:06:03,880 --> 01:06:06,240
Speaker 1: if it smells like I remember complaining that he smells

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01:06:06,280 --> 01:06:09,320
Speaker 1: like soap and he told me I was driven. I

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01:06:09,320 --> 01:06:12,040
Speaker 1: still think he cheated on me that night phone, So

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01:06:12,120 --> 01:06:15,200
Speaker 1: it's weird. So it's supposed to have no smell. And

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Speaker 1: I know you know I don't. I guess we're giving

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Speaker 1: tips now to the nigga. So you just know your

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01:06:20,640 --> 01:06:22,480
Speaker 1: nigga dick smells, so even if they wash it, it's

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01:06:22,520 --> 01:06:24,800
Speaker 1: not saving them from it. Because if you've been out,

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Speaker 1: like I'm sorry, Ria, how did you ask to smell

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01:06:31,240 --> 01:06:39,360
Speaker 1: the dick drop your pants? And he just no? Oh

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01:06:39,680 --> 01:06:41,880
Speaker 1: you was just like I know you out, I know

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01:06:42,040 --> 01:06:45,880
Speaker 1: you have too many hours without talking to you and

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01:06:45,920 --> 01:06:48,360
Speaker 1: so so, so what's the conversation when you smell it

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01:06:48,360 --> 01:06:51,280
Speaker 1: and it smells like soap or something else that you

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01:06:51,320 --> 01:06:53,919
Speaker 1: know it shouldn't smell like, well, I don't know either

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01:06:54,080 --> 01:06:56,800
Speaker 1: the ring is getting slushed down the toilet, I'm locking

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01:06:56,800 --> 01:06:58,920
Speaker 1: you out the house, I'm throwing you in the basement.

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01:06:58,960 --> 01:07:01,240
Speaker 1: I mean it could just depend. So niggas in the

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01:07:01,280 --> 01:07:05,640
Speaker 1: basement basement? What's your basement like? Is it like comfortable

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01:07:05,680 --> 01:07:09,919
Speaker 1: basement or is it like dungeon? It's comfortable? Okay, let's

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01:07:09,920 --> 01:07:12,520
Speaker 1: still it's a list throw away bit. You about to

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01:07:12,520 --> 01:07:17,440
Speaker 1: put that nigga in the adding? So what what is

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01:07:17,480 --> 01:07:20,240
Speaker 1: it like? I guess what do you do when it

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01:07:20,240 --> 01:07:23,640
Speaker 1: smells different? Like do you just hope he admits to cheating?

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01:07:23,920 --> 01:07:25,920
Speaker 1: Like so that's my question, Like, Okay, you smell the

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01:07:25,960 --> 01:07:29,280
Speaker 1: nigga's dick and it either smells like soap or like

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01:07:29,320 --> 01:07:31,080
Speaker 1: how you don't want it, like how you don't think

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01:07:31,080 --> 01:07:34,040
Speaker 1: it's It's the same for pussy. If I went to

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Speaker 1: go fux someone else, right, and you thought I was

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Speaker 1: at the club and I came home, you know what,

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01:07:39,680 --> 01:07:43,720
Speaker 1: My pussy would smell like sweaty whatever, like a musk smell.

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01:07:44,200 --> 01:07:46,800
Speaker 1: If I went to fux somebody else and then I shout,

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01:07:46,880 --> 01:07:51,000
Speaker 1: it smells like a condom. Oh no, oh, I'm saying,

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01:07:51,040 --> 01:07:55,160
Speaker 1: if you, if you're if you're washing it so now.

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01:07:55,320 --> 01:07:58,560
Speaker 1: But women walk around with whites like that doesn't help.

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01:07:58,760 --> 01:08:03,800
Speaker 1: Remember we are internal and you that odor will hang

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01:08:03,840 --> 01:08:05,440
Speaker 1: on to you for a minute. I would give a

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01:08:05,480 --> 01:08:07,280
Speaker 1: damn if you sat and it's up to thirty minutes

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01:08:07,320 --> 01:08:11,480
Speaker 1: with hot water and some dead told. I want to

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01:08:11,520 --> 01:08:13,880
Speaker 1: just make a point. I have a friend who I

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01:08:13,960 --> 01:08:17,120
Speaker 1: know the escorts, and she's talked about how when she's

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01:08:17,200 --> 01:08:21,160
Speaker 1: with her partners, they don't use condoms. He does cream

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01:08:21,160 --> 01:08:24,679
Speaker 1: prize and ship and she says that recently she feels

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01:08:24,680 --> 01:08:26,559
Speaker 1: like a guy who went down on her because she

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01:08:26,600 --> 01:08:28,080
Speaker 1: had a cream pie the night before. She was like

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01:08:28,080 --> 01:08:31,479
Speaker 1: a showered whatever. But she's like, I just feel like

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01:08:32,120 --> 01:08:34,800
Speaker 1: there's this moment where he tasted him. She was like,

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Speaker 1: I think it was different from what I normally taste. Like,

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Speaker 1: She's like, I never really thought about like spacing it out. Yeah,

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01:08:41,360 --> 01:08:46,040
Speaker 1: So so when we get guys that taste different, we

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01:08:46,240 --> 01:08:54,000
Speaker 1: apply it to their diet. No, you're talking about semen. Okay, yeah,

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01:08:54,040 --> 01:08:56,960
Speaker 1: y'all talking. Y'all been talking about the taste and smell

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01:08:57,000 --> 01:09:02,000
Speaker 1: of the dick. Okay, Okay, yeah, when I guess okay, yeah,

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01:09:02,040 --> 01:09:04,160
Speaker 1: I'm talking about seeing because that's where I really pick

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01:09:04,240 --> 01:09:07,960
Speaker 1: up on it. I guess. I don't know. I don't

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01:09:08,000 --> 01:09:10,080
Speaker 1: know if you have someone though to think about it,

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01:09:10,120 --> 01:09:13,160
Speaker 1: like you're with them every day, like you know, not

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01:09:13,240 --> 01:09:15,200
Speaker 1: that I was went every day, but yeah, I knew.

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Speaker 1: You know, they're smells when they wake up. You know,

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01:09:17,160 --> 01:09:18,840
Speaker 1: they're smells when they're going to bed. You know they're

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01:09:18,840 --> 01:09:21,120
Speaker 1: smells when it's all day. I know what my man's

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01:09:21,160 --> 01:09:22,920
Speaker 1: dick smells like when he comes home from work. Bro,

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Speaker 1: That's how much I know. It's so weird because I

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01:09:25,800 --> 01:09:29,720
Speaker 1: wasn't even with seven and I know, Okay, I'm gonna

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01:09:29,720 --> 01:09:31,439
Speaker 1: stop bringing him up eventually, but that's the only thing

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01:09:31,520 --> 01:09:33,639
Speaker 1: I have to really go off. And we were working

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01:09:33,640 --> 01:09:36,360
Speaker 1: like weakly, but his dick to me, even though I

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01:09:36,400 --> 01:09:38,840
Speaker 1: knew he was sucking other people, I felt like his

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01:09:38,920 --> 01:09:41,479
Speaker 1: dick smelled the same like. And I know we really

1339
01:09:41,520 --> 01:09:43,200
Speaker 1: got on me because when we went and did Vice Live,

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01:09:43,640 --> 01:09:45,960
Speaker 1: I felt like his dick smell was in my hair

1341
01:09:46,040 --> 01:09:48,679
Speaker 1: and I really liked his dick smell. So like It's

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01:09:48,680 --> 01:09:50,479
Speaker 1: weird because I was dealing with someone that I knew

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01:09:50,560 --> 01:09:53,519
Speaker 1: wasn't my only partner, but his smell was his smells,

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01:09:53,520 --> 01:09:56,800
Speaker 1: So even if he had sex with someone the day before,

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01:09:57,240 --> 01:10:01,120
Speaker 1: even the night of, I have never really sensed a

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01:10:01,160 --> 01:10:04,559
Speaker 1: difference in his dick smell, which is that That's why

1347
01:10:04,600 --> 01:10:08,840
Speaker 1: I guess I was really Maybe I don't know that

1348
01:10:09,280 --> 01:10:11,760
Speaker 1: maybe it was the I don't know his dick smell,

1349
01:10:11,920 --> 01:10:13,960
Speaker 1: And I told you because we talked about this on Vice.

1350
01:10:14,320 --> 01:10:16,000
Speaker 1: I know his dick smell and I really liked it,

1351
01:10:16,040 --> 01:10:17,680
Speaker 1: and so I liked when his dick smell was in

1352
01:10:17,720 --> 01:10:21,080
Speaker 1: my hair and everything. And I don't know, I don't know, bitch,

1353
01:10:21,520 --> 01:10:23,479
Speaker 1: I do miss that dick smell and that dick, but

1354
01:10:23,520 --> 01:10:27,560
Speaker 1: I ain't, you know, didn't it hasn't been since October,

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01:10:28,320 --> 01:10:32,760
Speaker 1: Since October, bitch, I ain't that nigga, since well, sex

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01:10:32,800 --> 01:10:34,599
Speaker 1: in the city. They say it takes half the time

1357
01:10:34,680 --> 01:10:36,720
Speaker 1: you're with someone to get over them. And I'm not saying, oh,

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01:10:36,760 --> 01:10:38,840
Speaker 1: bits three and a half years. Oh no, bitch, so

1359
01:10:38,880 --> 01:10:40,640
Speaker 1: you're almost out of year. You'll be all right by

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01:10:40,720 --> 01:10:43,320
Speaker 1: the time April, which I'm almost said, I've just reached

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01:10:43,320 --> 01:10:47,080
Speaker 1: six months, So don't do almost a year. You can't

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01:10:47,120 --> 01:10:49,639
Speaker 1: age me like that, like listen, oh yeah, I'm well,

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01:10:49,640 --> 01:10:51,519
Speaker 1: I'm not there because now I have no one else

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01:10:51,560 --> 01:10:54,439
Speaker 1: to reference sex, and Wheezy is like, we're recording horrible

1365
01:10:54,479 --> 01:10:56,680
Speaker 1: decisions and let's talk about sex. And here I go

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01:10:56,680 --> 01:10:58,040
Speaker 1: going through a phase where I don't even want to

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01:10:59,560 --> 01:11:05,000
Speaker 1: bitch oturdcast that we did. Yeah, but now I'm into like,

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01:11:05,360 --> 01:11:09,120
Speaker 1: well maybe like and And honestly, it's probably because every

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01:11:09,160 --> 01:11:13,400
Speaker 1: time I've made an outline it's been about relationships and dating,

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01:11:13,560 --> 01:11:16,080
Speaker 1: and I really came up with no sex topic. Can

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01:11:16,120 --> 01:11:18,599
Speaker 1: I just tell you all the irony of Mandy coming

1372
01:11:18,680 --> 01:11:20,320
Speaker 1: up I had. We were texting us. I was like,

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01:11:20,560 --> 01:11:22,719
Speaker 1: I was like, well, let's make sure we talk about sex,

1374
01:11:23,439 --> 01:11:25,519
Speaker 1: and She's like, no, we will, We'll talk about sex,

1375
01:11:25,760 --> 01:11:29,519
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm so sad, like I'm not happy

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01:11:29,560 --> 01:11:34,000
Speaker 1: to me. I don't want any I hate niggas. That's

1377
01:11:34,000 --> 01:11:36,760
Speaker 1: why I was like, that's why the sex tip was masturbation.

1378
01:11:36,760 --> 01:11:39,280
Speaker 1: And she's like, well, I was gonna do the Patreon

1379
01:11:39,320 --> 01:11:42,080
Speaker 1: about masturbation. I said, we talk, we give oral sex tips.

1380
01:11:42,120 --> 01:11:44,200
Speaker 1: It's the same thing. Let's just talk about masturbation. I'm

1381
01:11:44,240 --> 01:11:47,200
Speaker 1: not having sex with someone else. I want to relate,

1382
01:11:47,360 --> 01:11:49,240
Speaker 1: Like we see come out here talking about thruffles and

1383
01:11:49,280 --> 01:11:51,920
Speaker 1: three films and group sex and bitch, I don't even

1384
01:11:51,920 --> 01:11:54,920
Speaker 1: want to dick around me right now. So I'm like, Okay,

1385
01:11:54,920 --> 01:11:56,519
Speaker 1: we're gonna have to try to find a balance here.

1386
01:11:56,520 --> 01:11:58,479
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, weezy, let me talk about the mental

1387
01:11:58,520 --> 01:12:00,599
Speaker 1: space that I'm in. I'm over. You're trying to plan

1388
01:12:01,040 --> 01:12:05,160
Speaker 1: an episode about assonance. Now, I'm like, I don't know,

1389
01:12:05,200 --> 01:12:07,080
Speaker 1: I have to relate. Well, that episode would be good

1390
01:12:07,120 --> 01:12:13,160
Speaker 1: because you did it. Like there's people that have been absent.

1391
01:12:13,400 --> 01:12:16,799
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, was yours? My choice minds

1392
01:12:16,840 --> 01:12:19,920
Speaker 1: was by choice? You know why? Because here's the thing.

1393
01:12:19,920 --> 01:12:21,800
Speaker 1: When you get a divorce, the last thing you want

1394
01:12:21,800 --> 01:12:24,400
Speaker 1: to do is go run into somebody else's arms. What

1395
01:12:24,520 --> 01:12:26,280
Speaker 1: you need to do is figure out what your baggage

1396
01:12:26,360 --> 01:12:27,840
Speaker 1: is why the divorce happen. I know a lot of

1397
01:12:27,840 --> 01:12:29,360
Speaker 1: people like to say, well it was his fault. No,

1398
01:12:29,560 --> 01:12:31,639
Speaker 1: you come with your ship. They come with their ship too.

1399
01:12:32,040 --> 01:12:37,679
Speaker 1: And what Joe Exotica did d Nigga got married two

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01:12:37,680 --> 01:12:40,960
Speaker 1: months after the death. No, not doing it. Um, I

1401
01:12:41,040 --> 01:12:44,400
Speaker 1: needed to really get strong, and I feel like just

1402
01:12:44,520 --> 01:12:47,680
Speaker 1: running into another relationship or just having sex would have

1403
01:12:47,720 --> 01:12:50,760
Speaker 1: confused what I was trying to do for myself, which

1404
01:12:50,760 --> 01:12:53,000
Speaker 1: would take care of me and really take care of me.

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01:12:55,439 --> 01:12:58,559
Speaker 1: I like that. Well, Andrea, let our listeners know where

1406
01:12:58,560 --> 01:13:01,000
Speaker 1: they can listen to you and kind also maybe a

1407
01:13:01,240 --> 01:13:03,240
Speaker 1: steer them towards an episode that you have that you

1408
01:13:03,280 --> 01:13:09,840
Speaker 1: think that, Um, would you know are listening horrible adjacent? Well,

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01:13:10,120 --> 01:13:13,160
Speaker 1: you can find me on Our Mirrors Reflections. It's my podcast.

1410
01:13:13,320 --> 01:13:15,000
Speaker 1: If you want to find me about what I do

1411
01:13:15,080 --> 01:13:18,200
Speaker 1: more of is with my coaching with girls and women

1412
01:13:18,439 --> 01:13:20,720
Speaker 1: is Andrew P. Jackson dot com. You can find me

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01:13:20,760 --> 01:13:23,760
Speaker 1: on my Instagram at Andrew P. Jackson Underscore and the

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01:13:23,760 --> 01:13:29,679
Speaker 1: Twitter is the same Andrew P. Jackson Underscore. Allah, and um,

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01:13:29,920 --> 01:13:32,040
Speaker 1: I guess I know. And I listened to it and

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01:13:32,040 --> 01:13:34,080
Speaker 1: it was really good. You had Charlemagne as a guest

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01:13:34,280 --> 01:13:37,559
Speaker 1: on your part trying to have him. Yeah, I don't

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01:13:37,600 --> 01:13:39,240
Speaker 1: know how. I don't know what topics we're gonna have

1419
01:13:39,360 --> 01:13:42,599
Speaker 1: about Charlottage and when black men don't cheat, but they do.

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01:13:43,760 --> 01:13:45,920
Speaker 1: Not all black No, not all black man cheat. There's

1421
01:13:45,960 --> 01:13:49,000
Speaker 1: something that don't cheat. You gotta you gotta point them

1422
01:13:49,000 --> 01:13:51,360
Speaker 1: out because I know it's very far and few in between.

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01:13:53,080 --> 01:13:55,639
Speaker 1: Um no, you should. I think the guests should listen

1424
01:13:55,680 --> 01:13:57,479
Speaker 1: to Charlemagne, and I think you get to see him

1425
01:13:57,479 --> 01:14:00,280
Speaker 1: the whole different light. He talks about his family, his life,

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01:14:00,280 --> 01:14:03,800
Speaker 1: what that that journey was like. Um, you know, him

1427
01:14:03,800 --> 01:14:06,880
Speaker 1: losing his job to radio and then you know there's

1428
01:14:06,960 --> 01:14:09,880
Speaker 1: too manly to freaking go out there and accell unemployment.

1429
01:14:09,920 --> 01:14:12,559
Speaker 1: He was like, I'm not gonna do it. But he

1430
01:14:12,800 --> 01:14:15,760
Speaker 1: really talked about the struggles in his relationship and how

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01:14:15,800 --> 01:14:17,599
Speaker 1: they came together and made it happen. And I think

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01:14:17,640 --> 01:14:20,000
Speaker 1: a lot of people who's you know, having issues in

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01:14:20,040 --> 01:14:23,080
Speaker 1: their relationship. Here's hope out there. If you really love

1434
01:14:23,200 --> 01:14:25,400
Speaker 1: somebody and y'all just had a mishap or a few

1435
01:14:25,439 --> 01:14:28,000
Speaker 1: mishaps and you really want to work it out, you

1436
01:14:28,120 --> 01:14:30,760
Speaker 1: can work it out. Shargon Maine's story like to to

1437
01:14:30,920 --> 01:14:35,080
Speaker 1: completely go like told cold Turkey and not like no

1438
01:14:35,120 --> 01:14:37,120
Speaker 1: one else is in his life but his wife. I mean,

1439
01:14:37,280 --> 01:14:42,599
Speaker 1: he's prime example of like black men don't cheat anymore. Yeah, yeah,

1440
01:14:42,680 --> 01:14:47,559
Speaker 1: you gotta add the animal with an asterisk up there,

1441
01:14:47,600 --> 01:14:50,240
Speaker 1: Like there's definitely you know, I agree with that. I

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01:14:50,360 --> 01:14:53,080
Speaker 1: agree with you. It's possible, and especially when you had

1443
01:14:53,240 --> 01:14:56,280
Speaker 1: access like that to not cheat, that's a big deal.

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01:14:57,080 --> 01:15:07,719
Speaker 1: It is a big deal. It takes a lot of wheel. Yeah, damn,

1445
01:15:07,760 --> 01:15:09,840
Speaker 1: we started the episode that way. Look how we did

1446
01:15:09,840 --> 01:15:13,960
Speaker 1: full circle. Who doesn't like free ship, free pussy, free

1447
01:15:13,960 --> 01:15:16,519
Speaker 1: toys whatever? Uh No, But I want to thank you

1448
01:15:16,560 --> 01:15:19,120
Speaker 1: again for for joining us. Um guys, if you guys

1449
01:15:19,120 --> 01:15:21,640
Speaker 1: are interested in tuning into her podcast or following on

1450
01:15:21,680 --> 01:15:24,479
Speaker 1: social media. If you have been through trauma, she does

1451
01:15:24,560 --> 01:15:27,559
Speaker 1: talk you through that and and finding you know, kind

1452
01:15:27,560 --> 01:15:30,640
Speaker 1: of closure with maybe some things that you have experienced

1453
01:15:30,640 --> 01:15:32,960
Speaker 1: in your past. Definitely reach out again. Thank you Andrea

1454
01:15:33,040 --> 01:15:35,479
Speaker 1: for joining us. Thank you for having girls. Love you girls.

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01:15:35,800 --> 01:15:41,840
Speaker 1: Keep doing it. And you know this this coronavirus say

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01:15:41,960 --> 01:15:44,760
Speaker 1: stopping us. So whatever, So y'all are still getting your

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Speaker 1: episodes every Monday, and we are still dropping three bonus

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Speaker 1: episodes every month on Patreon. So again, I know it's different.

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Speaker 1: A lot of y'all are now listening to us from

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Speaker 1: the comforts of your own home. Please still use your

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Speaker 1: headphones if your children are around, because we still live

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Speaker 1: in approp read guys. Maybe we'll find a way to

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Speaker 1: Like I saw that some people are recording their zoom screens.

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Speaker 1: Maybe we could do that. I just don't want to

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Speaker 1: if you you no, bitch, I look at me right now.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I want people to see me. Bro,

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Speaker 1: I ain't need to gonna hold you like Andrew Enjoy

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Speaker 1: looks nice. What do your bottoms look like? My bottom? Like?

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Speaker 1: Do you have actual pants on? Are you like? I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I got a slitty dress? So what the hell? How

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Speaker 1: she so ready? Right? But I definitely have right now.

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Speaker 1: Guests always look better than every time. They always be

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Speaker 1: ready like slate. Anyways, guys, again, if you're looking for

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Speaker 1: more content, we still have our Patreon up, so you

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Speaker 1: can go to patreon dot com back slush Horrible Decisions.

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Speaker 1: We are going to leave you with a five minute

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Speaker 1: clip from one of our bonus episodes. We truly hope

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Speaker 1: that you enjoy and once again, thank you for tuning

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Speaker 1: in to yet another episode of Horrible Decision. Bye bye.

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Speaker 1: So today's Vanilla Ship is actually an old article, but

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Speaker 1: I wanted to talk about it. Um. It's from Complex

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Speaker 1: dot Com. Steven Spielberg's daughter explains why she's um embarking

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Speaker 1: on doing porn. So some of you guys might have

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Speaker 1: seen this in the shade room, but she submitted application

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Speaker 1: to be a sex worker in Nashville, Tennessee. She's twenty three,

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Speaker 1: she's battled and alcoholism, mental health issues, but she has

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Speaker 1: come to realize she's a sexual creature and she wants

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Speaker 1: to create solo porn videos that makes her feel that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I got really tired of not being able to capitalize

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Speaker 1: my body, and frankly got really tired of being told

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Speaker 1: to hate my body. And I got tired of working

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Speaker 1: day to day in a way that it wasn't satisfying

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Speaker 1: my soul. I feel like in doing this type of work,

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Speaker 1: I'm able to satisfy other people and it feels good

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Speaker 1: because I won't be violated. Um, I'm curious to know. Obviously,

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Speaker 1: she comes from a family of money. Let's just say

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Speaker 1: that she's got money from him. Let's just let's not yes,

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Speaker 1: because I know like a lot of rich people won't

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Speaker 1: give their kids ship. Right, let's just say that he's

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Speaker 1: given her money. Do you think this is some cry

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Speaker 1: for help? Ship? Like, do you really believe that someone

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Speaker 1: that's got money just does sex work to satisfied? Like?

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Speaker 1: How do you feel? So? I have I do believe

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Speaker 1: that people are in sex work not just for financial gain. Um.

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Speaker 1: I have a friend who was an escort, and I

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Speaker 1: think that it was a lot more into maybe just

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Speaker 1: what she got from being with different men. I think

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Speaker 1: that there was a part of her that was also

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Speaker 1: a sex addict. Um, but I know that there were

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Speaker 1: things like even when she didn't need the money, she

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Speaker 1: would still do it. Even when she found another way

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Speaker 1: to make money, she was still doing sex work on

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Speaker 1: the side. So I mean, I believe that that in

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Speaker 1: terms of sex work, that there are reasons that people

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Speaker 1: do it outside of money. Um, it's funny. I wasn't

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Speaker 1: even missing says that she she was like that ship

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Speaker 1: was fun. That was such a fun time. Like she

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Speaker 1: always talks about how much fun she had when she

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Speaker 1: was doing I mean, I ain't even gonna hold you.

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Speaker 1: I think my whole friends are the funnest friends that

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Speaker 1: I didn't had, like just going out, having the having

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Speaker 1: a blast, drinking, skinny dipe, skinny dipping, fucking whoever we're

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Speaker 1: around is having like it's just fun and too like

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Speaker 1: it's it's non judgmental types of just fun. I don't know,

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Speaker 1: it's it's hard to explain, but I mean, I do

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Speaker 1: believe that even if she's getting money from her dad,

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Speaker 1: that she is doing that because she likes it. Do

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Speaker 1: I think that maybe it's a form of her boosting

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Speaker 1: her own self confidence? Yes, I mean it was something yeah,

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Speaker 1: but it's something that I do and and you helped

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Speaker 1: me when when I lost weight. One of the things

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Speaker 1: that makes me feel sexy sometimes it's literally walking lingerie. Um,

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Speaker 1: And so the idea that her pleasing herself on camera

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Speaker 1: makes her feel better about herself makes sense to me.

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Speaker 1: I wear lingerie not for Instagram picture age. Like when

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Speaker 1: I post a cute Instagram picture. It is what it is.

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Speaker 1: There's a little bit of an ego boost in that,

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Speaker 1: Like come on, I mean, who are we to say

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Speaker 1: and not admit that if anyone said as a picture, yeah, bitch,

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Speaker 1: we all do. But again, I think We've talked about

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Speaker 1: the fact that a lot of us, whether it's sexually, physically,

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Speaker 1: how we dress, um the idea that everything we do

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Speaker 1: is for men or for some sort of attention. I

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Speaker 1: think a lot of times there are things that we

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Speaker 1: do that, while it may bring us attention, we do

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Speaker 1: do it for ourselves to make ourselves feel better about ourselves.

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Speaker 1: Like it is, that's cool,