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Speaker 1: We have it for you. These strawberry net does so

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Speaker 1: many people in your head? Okay, subject, he must think

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Speaker 1: I'm crazy. Hi, Stephen Shirley. I've been dating a forty

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Speaker 1: His son is seventeen, and since I've been with him,

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Speaker 1: he has had a good relationship with this woman. But

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Speaker 1: I want to know how good it is. Too good.

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Speaker 1: He runs a business with her, he goes on family

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Speaker 1: he has accidentally fallen asleep over her house at least

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Speaker 1: five times since we've been dating. When I'm met her,

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Speaker 1: she was very standoffish. I've told him several times that

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Speaker 1: I don't necessarily think he thinks you're crazy. Um, that's

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Speaker 1: four years. I mean he's been lying to you you said,

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Speaker 1: when you bring up the fact that you're uncomfortable with

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Speaker 1: does it seem that he is concerned about your feelings. Okay,

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Speaker 1: this isn't good. I don't think from a man that

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Speaker 1: to re examine your relationship with him. Seems like he

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Speaker 1: in his son's life. It's it's good that he gets

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Speaker 1: along with his ex wife for that reason, for the

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Speaker 1: disrespectful to you. I think sleeping over a house and

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Speaker 1: all of that, Uh, that needs to stop. And until

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Speaker 1: I just don't. He likes the way things are, and

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Speaker 1: let's just get to it. You're uncomfortable with his relationship

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Speaker 1: and why are you uncomfortable? Because they go he go

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Speaker 1: that off, oh, he has accidentally fallen asleep at her house.

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Speaker 1: What you accidentally fell asleep at her house? And you

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Speaker 1: do it, and she's doing something else too. I'm looking

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Speaker 1: good it is. One of the business with her goes

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Speaker 1: First of all, look, I got being cool with your

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Speaker 1: at least five times since we've been dating. He could

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Speaker 1: because they still a family. The core is why did

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Speaker 1: The man got another family and you're okay with it,

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Speaker 1: then okay, fine, be okay with it. It's very frustrating

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Speaker 1: I seem to be in the way anyway. He must

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Speaker 1: just said it. You need to leave, but you're not

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Speaker 1: like you in. But I'll be done going if you're

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Speaker 1: to today's Strawberry Letters subject he must think I'm crazy.

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Speaker 1: He must thank I'm crazy. Shirley and me, thank you crazy,

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Speaker 1: and you ain't a family. Most people are going family vacation,

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Speaker 1: going family vacation, damn family. But he hadn told you

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Speaker 1: they are family. When you got mad at him, he

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Speaker 1: told you was insecure. You tripping. She liked family to

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Speaker 1: me exactly in the words of Judge told us, grandmother

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Speaker 1: Her grandmother told her, don't ever let a man have

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Speaker 1: don't care if you see it, because you know why,

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Speaker 1: because you're insecure in your trip. Lady, you are Can

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Speaker 1: I tell us, sir? Can I just tell her the truth?

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Speaker 1: We love the lady that wrote this letter. You are

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Speaker 1: Yeah you are. Ain't nothing wrong with that just because

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Speaker 1: to you. Yes it does. So why have we time

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Speaker 1: you really actually accidentally falllessly? Shirley Murdoch wrote a song

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Speaker 1: about it. It's my most number one hated son because

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Speaker 1: one simple fan, ain't no woman we do someone the night.

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Speaker 1: We ain't just slept no night. I ain't been in

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Speaker 1: Whatever was the pail? At one thirty? You forgot about Joe? Fuck?

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