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Speaker 2: Jordan is on the phone today for a first Day
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Chrisa.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see
Speaker 2: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe
Speaker 2: get him another date. But first, Jordan, how long is it,
Speaker 2: Vinces you heard from Chrisa.
Speaker 3: I mean it's been it's been a few days. I
Speaker 3: left a voicemail. I mean it just fell right, I
Speaker 3: mean the date was fire.
Speaker 2: It's only been a few days, though. Are you sure
Speaker 2: you're getting ghosted?
Speaker 3: I mean, look, it's this, It's just a vibe, and
Speaker 3: it's just I was just after a few days, I'm
Speaker 3: kind of like, what's up?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 4: So you expected her to be like right on it.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, yeah, no doubt locked in.
Speaker 3: I mean I knew the second the second we nash
Speaker 3: like National online, I knew that date was going to
Speaker 3: be fire.
Speaker 4: What did you say in the voicemail?
Speaker 3: Just said there's a vibe, there's fires, you know they
Speaker 3: I was just saying stuff that I was just making
Speaker 3: her laugh, you know, she was listening, and you know,
Speaker 3: I was just thrown down some some motivational things about like,
Speaker 3: you know how my life all figured out and you
Speaker 3: know how I started from the bottom. Now I'm up there,
Speaker 3: you know. And I just got that vibe that she
Speaker 3: kind of responded to me a little sarcastic, but but
Speaker 3: she was with it.
Speaker 5: And I'm all about a girl and keep up with me,
Speaker 5: you know.
Speaker 4: Okay, So when was all of this going down? Was
Speaker 4: this part of the date?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 3: No, I mean it started off in the d MS, okay,
Speaker 3: And then afterward, after I said, you know, she can
Speaker 3: keep up, you know, she she's got it, I.
Speaker 5: Decided to take her over to you know, fancy joints.
Speaker 5: It shows that I got class, you know, right.
Speaker 4: Was she impressed?
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I mean she was attracted.
Speaker 3: I could tell, like she raised an eyebrow when I
Speaker 3: sat down. In all classes, she could not keep her
Speaker 3: eyes off me. I could feel my magnetism just pulling
Speaker 3: that all in.
Speaker 4: You get the same feeling when you look in the mirror.
Speaker 3: Oh of course I'm drawn to it, you know. So
Speaker 3: Dinners starts off perfect right.
Speaker 5: And I'm like, I'm just vibing.
Speaker 3: Now I'm just killing it. With my stories. Okay, I
Speaker 3: mean especially yeah, my gym routine. I mean, like this
Speaker 3: is it's something special, you know, it's something it's built
Speaker 3: from inspiration.
Speaker 2: Is she into working out stuff? Like would you be
Speaker 2: interested in that? Because you know sometimes you've thrown into it.
Speaker 2: They don't want to hear about the gym stuff.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 3: I knew she was into it, Like, but she was
Speaker 3: making jokes about it. But that's just she's just sarcastic,
Speaker 3: you know. Okay, she knew my movies were bold and
Speaker 3: she was liking its.
Speaker 5: She was with it.
Speaker 4: Okay, you're talking about how much she was with Like
Speaker 4: what did you like about her? Like? Was she engaging
Speaker 4: other than being sarcastic? Other than your gym routine? Was
Speaker 4: anything else going on?
Speaker 5: Oh? She was just a good listener. But she she
Speaker 5: could keep up, you know, and that's what I really liked.
Speaker 4: So what could have gone wrong?
Speaker 5: Then?
Speaker 3: Maybe, you know, maybe it's I just got a little
Speaker 3: too motivational because that's my future.
Speaker 5: Like I'm going to be a motivational speaker.
Speaker 3: Okay, you paid like six figures to say a few things,
Speaker 3: you knowing the kids believing themselves, you know, So I
Speaker 3: went from my gym routine straight into my motivational speech
Speaker 3: because like the mood was there right, Like I was like, hey,
Speaker 3: you know, talking about like what we're doing with our lives.
Speaker 3: And I just stood up and I hit the restaurant
Speaker 3: with some high energy like I'm talking. We're looking at me,
Speaker 3: like I was like Tony Robbins, you know, and I
Speaker 3: just I told her. I looked her in the eyes
Speaker 3: and I said, it's my purpose to inspire people to
Speaker 3: change lives.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 4: So you didn't just address her, you addressed the entire restaurant.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, they were looking at me. They knew, you know.
Speaker 3: And she was smiling. I mean she was shaking her
Speaker 3: head in a few things. I know that kind of hadshake,
Speaker 3: you know, you know I got hadshake when you know
Speaker 3: you're so lucky, like like you won the lottery or embarrassed.
Speaker 3: Well you just see this guy with great sayings and
Speaker 3: great gains, like oh I like that. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 3: I said good night. You know, I said good night.
Speaker 3: I mcclassy dude, you know. And one of I was,
Speaker 3: you know, wanting to get to know her more. I
Speaker 3: said a text later, telling her I had a blast
Speaker 3: and I just let the voice not the next day.
Speaker 3: You know, I'm just because I'm just being thoughtful, you.
Speaker 2: Know, Well, why do you think she's ghosting you?
Speaker 5: I think I just think I've gone Maybe I went
Speaker 5: a little too big.
Speaker 3: It's in five days, and I mean, but we had chemistry,
Speaker 3: and I mean, I know she wants a confident guy outgoing.
Speaker 5: Can't get more outgoing than that, And I just think.
Speaker 3: Maybe maybe I'm being a little misunderstood, but but I'm
Speaker 3: definitely your.
Speaker 5: Type, but definitely are tight.
Speaker 2: All right, Well, we'll try to figure out where you
Speaker 2: play a song come back, and then call her and
Speaker 2: see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you and
Speaker 2: maybe get you another day to write.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, you got it, you got it?
Speaker 2: Okay, thank you, play song, come back, and get your
Speaker 2: first day follow up next. Right in the middle of
Speaker 2: today's first date follow up and if you're just joining us,
Speaker 2: Jordan is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Christa.
Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if she'll
Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him
Speaker 2: another date. But first, Jordan, why don't you kind of
Speaker 2: recap your day for us?
Speaker 3: Yeah, so we went out to a fancy place. We
Speaker 3: hit it off. The spot definitely had chemistry. She couldn't
Speaker 3: keep her eyes off me. I couldn't keep her eyes
Speaker 3: off her. I was just being confident, you know, just
Speaker 3: showing off my outgoing nature.
Speaker 5: I told her some stories.
Speaker 3: We hit it off, and you know, I went into
Speaker 3: my gym routine and then got into my whole motivation,
Speaker 3: and uh, we hit it off. I had a I
Speaker 3: had a blast, And I've been texting her about Hey, yes,
Speaker 3: let's keep this going, like, let's when I am.
Speaker 5: When am I going to see your game?
Speaker 2: Ready for us to call her?
Speaker 5: Yeah, no doubt, Let's do it.
Speaker 2: Here we go. I may I speak to Chrystal please?
Speaker 2: Hey Christa, how are you? My name is jew Well.
Speaker 2: I'm calling from a radio show. It's called The Jubile Show.
Speaker 4: Hi, Christo, we're all here. My name's Nina, Hi, and
Speaker 4: I'm Victoria.
Speaker 6: Okay, I know you guys.
Speaker 2: Oh you do? Sweet well, thank you very much for
Speaker 2: knowing us. Appreciate that. We do a segment on the show.
Speaker 2: It's called the First Day follow Up. It's where if
Speaker 2: you go on a date with somebody and you end
Speaker 2: up ghosting them, that person can email us to call
Speaker 2: you and find out why you're ghosting. So any idea
Speaker 2: who would email us about you?
Speaker 6: Jordan?
Speaker 2: Obviously, Yes it is Jordan.
Speaker 4: So you asked you are blatantly ghosting? Jordan?
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, definitely.
Speaker 2: H okay, would you mind telling us why? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean, like the whole day just felt like I
Speaker 1: was like on some episode of a crazy fitness reality show.
Speaker 6: It was an absurd human I don't know.
Speaker 4: I don't know any highlights of the reality show that
Speaker 4: you felt like.
Speaker 6: You were on so many let's see.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, okay, first off, he's really not my type,
Speaker 1: Like it is not normally the type of guy I
Speaker 1: would go out with. But you know, he scoot and
Speaker 1: me pick the fancy restaurant, so I figured, you know,
Speaker 1: why not?
Speaker 6: And so I walk in and there he is in this.
Speaker 1: Like totally skin tight, like long sleeve white almost febru
Speaker 1: shirt with like you know, his bicets are like screaming
Speaker 1: to please give me a break from bicep curls.
Speaker 6: He just was a total meat, you know what I mean,
Speaker 6: Like you could just tell.
Speaker 1: And so dinner started fine until like Jordan started talking
Speaker 1: and he noticed the waiter who was like the kind
Speaker 1: of a skinny, young, you know, dorky kind of guy.
Speaker 1: So Jordan starts calling him scrawny to his face, and then.
Speaker 6: Out of nowhere it got worse.
Speaker 1: So like that was embarrassing enough, but then out of nowhere,
Speaker 1: Jordan like grabs the guy's arm and is like and
Speaker 1: looks at me and goes, Babe, check this out, and
Speaker 1: then challenge water arm wrestling. You don't know me challenging
Speaker 1: to an arm wrestling match. Luckily, Scrownnie to decline, so
Speaker 1: we got away with not dealing with that. But yeah,
Speaker 1: and then he just like wouldn't stop talking about like
Speaker 1: his gym and like every ingredient and his protein shake
Speaker 1: in the mornings and like all of this crap. And
Speaker 1: then the worst part was it's towards the end, I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm just kind of laughing at him because he's again
Speaker 1: an absurd human. And towards the end he starts talking
Speaker 1: about how he wants to be like a Tony Robbins,
Speaker 1: like motivational speaker guy, and he stands up and does
Speaker 1: like a motivational seat to the back corner of the restaurant.
Speaker 2: He's really proud of it, of course he was.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, it was mortifying it was mortifying. And then
Speaker 1: when the date was so he bade the check, sat
Speaker 1: back down, you know whatever, and then he wanted to
Speaker 1: go like he wasn't ready for the night to be
Speaker 1: over and wanted to take me to some bar so
Speaker 1: that he could arm wrestle more.
Speaker 2: Got like I wanted to show off a little more.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, he just got to like show off that
Speaker 1: he could like arm rustle or bench press anybody.
Speaker 6: I don't know. It was just a third.
Speaker 1: So you didn't go no, no, I got out of there.
Speaker 2: You know who might be surprised to hear that you
Speaker 2: felt that way.
Speaker 5: Jordan.
Speaker 2: Yes, And guess what, Jordan is actually on the phone
Speaker 2: listening and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 3: Oh god, okay, yeah, hey Christa good to hear from you.
Speaker 5: Ray, how are you doing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm good.
Speaker 3: I just want to say that you're misunderstanding the whole thing.
Speaker 3: Like I get that that maybe the arm wrestling was
Speaker 3: a bit it was a bit much, but you know,
Speaker 3: I'll keep things fun.
Speaker 5: You know, we were having fun.
Speaker 3: And and it wasn't about it about showing off.
Speaker 5: I mean, look, I'm not It's natural, maybe a little
Speaker 5: because that's who I.
Speaker 3: Am, but it's because I wanted you to see I'm
Speaker 3: not I'm not boring.
Speaker 5: I don't play it safe. I'm not that kind of guy.
Speaker 3: But I didn't realize it comes off or I came
Speaker 3: off in any way as anxious, and I'll admit I
Speaker 3: probably went overboard.
Speaker 5: But but that's.
Speaker 3: Me being me, that's Jordan's being Jordan's you know. But
Speaker 3: but for real, I think there's still chemistry there with us.
Speaker 3: And I promise I'll turn it down because I'm not
Speaker 3: so meat to try and to prove himself.
Speaker 5: I'm proven. I just wanted to make a good impression.
Speaker 1: Okay, So I really appreciate how confident and out knowing
Speaker 1: you are, and I think that's that's super great. And
Speaker 1: you're not afraid to be yourself, and I think that's great.
Speaker 1: I've also realized that, you know, I think we're probably
Speaker 1: like looking for different things. You know, You've got this
Speaker 1: like big, bold personality anything going, and I don't really
Speaker 1: mess with that kind of energy, like that's not my
Speaker 1: jam kind of.
Speaker 3: Well, first off, I appreciate that you recognize my big
Speaker 3: and bold presence.
Speaker 5: Who I am, and you you appreciate.
Speaker 3: My confidence, and then that that's great and I just
Speaker 3: want to know if I could see you again, Chris,
Speaker 3: would you.
Speaker 2: Like Jordan again? We'll pay for it.
Speaker 6: No, No, I'm I'm good, thinks so yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean if you hear right there, you started
Speaker 3: off with a yes and change, so you just changing
Speaker 3: your mind there.
Speaker 5: I see you're still working it out. I know, I
Speaker 5: know there's still suff You just need some time, you know.
Speaker 5: And hey, I'm not to keep in touch you know now, Jordan.
Speaker 1: Jordan's delete my number. I think that would be for
Speaker 1: the best. If you need me. Look, if you don't
Speaker 1: like fitness, Jordan, go back to the gym.
Speaker 6: I'm I'm I'm good.
Speaker 5: Well, if I delete your number, how will I know
Speaker 5: when you decided to call me? You will first date,
Speaker 5: follow up