WEBVTT - “I WANT TO FUCK LIGHTNING MCQUEEN”

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<v Speaker 1>get into the episode. Hello, Hello, how's it going going good?

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<v Speaker 2>How a youself?

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<v Speaker 1>What is it you want to talk about today?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So I have kind of a peculiar situation with

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<v Speaker 2>a friend that I've known for a while. I want

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<v Speaker 2>to see how you thought about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, let's hear it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So again, this is a friend of known since

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<v Speaker 2>I was. Basically he was next to me growing up

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<v Speaker 2>to be hung out all the time, and actually went

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<v Speaker 2>to the same college, and he had confided in me

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<v Speaker 2>about my sophomore year so a few years ago that

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<v Speaker 2>he is like only getting off to when he's with

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<v Speaker 2>females or with whoever he is with, from like children cartoons.

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<v Speaker 1>Say that again, So when he is.

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<v Speaker 2>Like having relations with people like that, he's in the

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<v Speaker 2>end of the bedroom, he can only get off to like

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<v Speaker 2>children cartoons, like in his own mind.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, all right, so when he's having sex with somebody,

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<v Speaker 1>when he's having sex with somebody, he can only get

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<v Speaker 1>off thinking about children's cartoons or is it like are

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<v Speaker 1>the cartoons? Are the cartoons themselves children?

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<v Speaker 2>Uh no, So it's not anything like pedophilia per se,

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<v Speaker 2>but like a couple examples, like I have a few

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<v Speaker 2>of them that he came to me, where like like

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<v Speaker 2>the movie Cars, like Lightning, a Queen Eva from Wally,

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<v Speaker 2>like Tour Story, he like the Mary Jane like stuff

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<v Speaker 2>like that.

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<v Speaker 1>M hmm. Wait, so you're telling me that your friend,

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<v Speaker 1>when he's having sex with somebody, he can only get

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<v Speaker 1>off if he thinks of Lightning with Queen from Cars, basically, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>Well he sounds.

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<v Speaker 2>Awesome, he sounds he's a good guy. But I just

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<v Speaker 2>kind of like weirded out by the situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmmm mm hm. Why why does that weird you out?

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<v Speaker 2>Uh? Because like, uh, it's it's more like when like

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<v Speaker 2>guys are having a guy talk, you know, where a

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<v Speaker 2>group of friends something. He'll not saying this, but it's

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<v Speaker 2>only when like we're alone and he's trying to talk

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<v Speaker 2>about it, and he brings it up quite frequently, like

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<v Speaker 2>at the moment he has a girlfriend, and it's just

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<v Speaker 2>kind of awkward.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'm a level your is your your friend? I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>is he fucking with you?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think so. Like I think he's like fully

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<v Speaker 2>serious because he'll go into depth with this stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>What makes you think he's not fucking with you?

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<v Speaker 2>Uh, the fact that it's like it's not like a

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<v Speaker 2>one time thing. I feel like if he's fucking with me,

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<v Speaker 2>it would be like, oh, he said it, and then

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<v Speaker 2>he'll kind of joke about it. But like it's been

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<v Speaker 2>multiple times, like like multiple multiple times, or he he's

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<v Speaker 2>come up to me and talked about this.

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<v Speaker 1>I So, are you sure he's not like just really

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<v Speaker 1>fucking with you.

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<v Speaker 2>Honestly, I don't think so. He's not that kind of guy.

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<v Speaker 2>Like he's a very kind of like sweet kid, and

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<v Speaker 2>he's kind of a little awkward. But I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>he's fucking with me, and that's what kind of has

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<v Speaker 2>been driving me away from our friendship. And I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like he wouldn't throw away the friendship for fucking with

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<v Speaker 2>me like this.

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<v Speaker 1>Mh Is it only like that? Who is it only

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<v Speaker 1>give me some more characters?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay? So, like I was saying, it's like Eva from

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<v Speaker 2>Wally Okay, Mary Jane from Toy Story, It's like the

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<v Speaker 2>little sheep herder girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh a little do you mean little bo Peep?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that her name?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, yeah her, it's Ice Age Ellie, like the Manny's girlfriends,

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<v Speaker 2>the woolye mammoth tigers from Kung Fu.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh oh, the female the female wooly mammoth from Ice Age? Yes, yeah, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>I ever seen shark Tails or shark Tail?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? The girl from shark Tails? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, the

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<v Speaker 1>girl from shark Tails kind of hot. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if you've seen that kind of hot? Yeah, but I

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<v Speaker 1>get that one.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that one, that one I kind of get but

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<v Speaker 2>like the mammoth is a little kind of threatening or

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<v Speaker 2>not for any but scary, like even a little scary.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh, Mammoth the tiger from Kung Fu Panda.

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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm.

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<v Speaker 1>Now your your friend. He's bisexual, he is street Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>It's it's mostly female characters, but like I said, it

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<v Speaker 2>started with Lightning the Queen and it kind of like

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<v Speaker 2>evolved from there.

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<v Speaker 1>Now these are all three D animated characters. He's not

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<v Speaker 1>into any like pure cartoon.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I don't believe. So he hasn't brought any of them,

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<v Speaker 2>is up?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>He also said he was very excited for the new

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<v Speaker 2>Super Mario movie. And I can understand why.

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<v Speaker 1>U what Princess Peach, I'm assuming.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't really know and all the characters, but he

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<v Speaker 2>really wants to see you with me.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. I feel like we think it's Prese. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like we think it's Princess Peach, but actually he's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>pull his penis out when Bowser comes on the screen.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's it.

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<v Speaker 2>I could do that.

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<v Speaker 1>Powerful characters, okay, but.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like it was just powerful characters he would

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<v Speaker 2>be more into, not like children cartoons. I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>it'd be like actual people or actual like uh, like

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<v Speaker 2>movies or stories of fictional characters that are you know,

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<v Speaker 2>big and powerful versus these you know, like animals and

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<v Speaker 2>toys and stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, all the characters that you just listed do

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<v Speaker 1>have you know, undeniable sexual energies to them? Lightning McQueen, confident,

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<v Speaker 1>charismatic Eve, Uh, you know, a caretaker, the very supportive

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<v Speaker 1>ah that we already covered, the girl from Shark Tales.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's not pretend like we don't understand where your

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<v Speaker 1>homie is coming from. Okay, let's level with him on that. Okay, Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>tell me more about why this is just serving to you.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I said, it's kind of in the confides of

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<v Speaker 2>just when him are hanging out so like our boy time,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, playing games or like playing Xbox stuff like that,

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<v Speaker 2>it always turns into this conversation. It's always brought up

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<v Speaker 2>pretty frequently. Yeah, So I'm not really sure how to

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<v Speaker 2>digress from that conversation and more of him having these

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<v Speaker 2>like in depth of his sexual experiences while thinking of

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<v Speaker 2>these characters when it happens.

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<v Speaker 1>My thing with and this is more of your friend's

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<v Speaker 1>issue than yours is. Look, I think there's a fine line,

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<v Speaker 1>a major difference between being sexually attracted to Lightning McQueen

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<v Speaker 1>and making your identity as a human being being sexually

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<v Speaker 1>attracted to Lightning McQueen. And I think your friend has

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<v Speaker 1>fallen into the trap of the latter half of what

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<v Speaker 1>I just said, because clearly he's bringing this up so

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<v Speaker 1>much because it has become a part of who he is,

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<v Speaker 1>and that is in many ways.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's understandable. So my issue, like it again, like

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<v Speaker 2>that's his issue itself, But I'm not sure if it's

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<v Speaker 2>something I should bring up and try to get him

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<v Speaker 2>away from per se because you know, that's that's him.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to go into that much stuff to

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<v Speaker 2>belittle him in any meats, But I you know, don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if this friendship could possibly continue for much longer,

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<v Speaker 2>if this is going to be all it's about.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you had Look, you got to have a conversation

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<v Speaker 1>with your friend and be like, look, dude, here's the thing,

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<v Speaker 1>Like if you want to jerk off to the wooly

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<v Speaker 1>mammoth from ice age, like I implore you to live

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<v Speaker 1>your best life, but I don't. You don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>tell me about it every time you do.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's understandable. But what if he takes that the

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<v Speaker 2>wrong way. Hey, I'm the only person he could talk

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<v Speaker 2>about this too.

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<v Speaker 1>Just let him. Yeah. Well, I mean, look, you got it.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean we got to get serious. Yeah, I mean, look,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just about setting boundaries. I think, you know, if

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want to talk about maybe give him an allowance.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you can describe suck fuck I guess you would

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<v Speaker 1>fuck the engine hole, the exhaust pipe. Yeah, I know

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<v Speaker 1>he can tell him, he can. Okay, so you weren't

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<v Speaker 1>even listening when he was telling you about all this stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>I try to drown it out, like it's more of

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<v Speaker 2>like the last time he had talked about it was

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<v Speaker 2>like Doc Hudson, which is not you know, it's kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like an older car per se. But he was

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<v Speaker 2>more of like describing the sexual features of the car

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<v Speaker 2>than like the actual presence of fucking the car.

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<v Speaker 1>What what was he what was he saying?

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<v Speaker 2>Like how smooth it is, and how like the curves

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<v Speaker 2>are all together, and how like he's very shiny and

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<v Speaker 2>the fender is just right in your face. He also

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<v Speaker 2>said that the lips were perfect size and succulent, and

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<v Speaker 2>that is in the direct quote.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know where in the universe exactly, but somewhere

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<v Speaker 1>out there is a perfect community for your friend to

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<v Speaker 1>exist in, and it is probably not you. So I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, maybe you let him free and you let

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<v Speaker 1>him experiment, because look, he's there's got to be somebody

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<v Speaker 1>else who is as obsessed with fucking cartoon characters as

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<v Speaker 1>your friend is, and for his own sake, he should,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, spend some time finding that person instead of

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<v Speaker 1>wasting his breath on you.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So do you think, like, in terms of the friendship,

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<v Speaker 2>I should have a conversation with him, and it's like

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<v Speaker 2>disagreeable at all, I should probably just cut him loose.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think I think, uh, well, I'm not going

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<v Speaker 1>to tell you expressly what to do, but I think

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<v Speaker 1>you should have a conversation with him. And if he,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, continues to bring up all this stuff, then

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<v Speaker 1>uh he didn't, then he doesn't give a shit about

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the boundaries that you have tried to set

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<v Speaker 1>with him, and I think that's legitimate grounds for not

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<v Speaker 1>wanting to be around him as much.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's my thought as well. I just want to

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<v Speaker 2>talk to someone about it. It's kind of weird to

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<v Speaker 2>talk to him, I know, because obviously they'll know who

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<v Speaker 2>I'm talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>That is funny that they would. They would obviously know

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<v Speaker 1>who you're talking about unless you have multiple friends Like this, well.

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<v Speaker 2>It's my childhood friend, so obviously everyone know who that is.

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<v Speaker 1>Well I, by the way, I have to ask, like

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<v Speaker 1>as I just have just you know and look and

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<v Speaker 1>look this you know question doesn't come from anywhere in particular,

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<v Speaker 1>but I am as his childhood friend, I have to

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<v Speaker 1>know what was his childhood like.

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<v Speaker 2>Nothing too like crazy, I feel like as a snared

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<v Speaker 2>children like growing up wise like he had no major

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<v Speaker 2>issues in his life. Parents are both still there, grandparents

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<v Speaker 2>are all still there, luckily, middle class, good neighborhood, nice school,

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<v Speaker 2>like it wasn't anything to bring out these certain desires

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<v Speaker 2>per se, like no trauma on his life could kind

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<v Speaker 2>of contend with it. So I'm not really sure where

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<v Speaker 2>all this kind of came from. I'm not sure if

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<v Speaker 2>it came from his childhood watching so many of these

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<v Speaker 2>movies or maybe like just how it's like, obviously I

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<v Speaker 2>don't really know his full intake of his childhood growing up.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, like all the major details that happened

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<v Speaker 2>in his life, but from what I know, there was

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<v Speaker 2>no like specific tragic event.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't let him back off in the theater during the

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<v Speaker 1>Mario movie. Do that for the sake of society.

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<v Speaker 2>Having the conversation before that comes.

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<v Speaker 3>Out, hopefully.

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<v Speaker 1>Is there anything else you want to say to the

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<v Speaker 1>people of the computer before we go, Matthew, just.

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<v Speaker 2>Have a great night. Everyone you to thank you?

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<v Speaker 3>Mm hm.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, how about this one? The ants from ants? I

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<v Speaker 1>say no more? Who plays the the fish in Shark Tale?

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<v Speaker 1>Who is that? Angelina? Angelina? Joe Lee plays that fish?

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<v Speaker 1>Give it to him, give give him the give him

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<v Speaker 1>the fish from Shark Tale? Let him have that one.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi there, how's it going now? It's going good? How

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<v Speaker 1>are you?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just chilling with my cat, and I figured I

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<v Speaker 4>tell you guys about a time when I worked in

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<v Speaker 4>like a customer support job. We'll keep some some details light.

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<v Speaker 4>I would I would basically help them with their internet

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<v Speaker 4>you know, they call in, have me reset their password,

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<v Speaker 4>turn on and off their WiFi box, and uh. Essentially,

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<v Speaker 4>essentially the unusual part.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it says here that you used to use Google

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<v Speaker 1>to look at random people's houses.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so you ever go on Google street View and

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<v Speaker 4>just kind of walk around. Yeah, you know, just just

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<v Speaker 4>get in the sights. I really like doing that. It's

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<v Speaker 4>it's pretty therapeutic. It's something that I've come back to

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<v Speaker 4>a lot, and it just just reminded me of the show.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, when you go to Vegas and meet random people,

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<v Speaker 4>it's like fishing. You know, you meet a random person

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<v Speaker 4>and make a connection with them. You know, I think about,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, somebody's grandma that I helped connect their printer,

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<v Speaker 4>like that person. You know, I couldn't call them back

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<v Speaker 4>if I wanted to. You know, it's it's part of

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<v Speaker 4>the job. You have responsibility to, you know, have their

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<v Speaker 4>address and give them their help. You know, a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of the time they're pissed and then they're like, why

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<v Speaker 4>is my wif I not working?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so sot me can I can? I let me

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<v Speaker 1>interview for a second. So I just want to make

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<v Speaker 1>sure this is clear. So you you talk to the grandma,

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<v Speaker 1>you help her with her internet, and then you look

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<v Speaker 1>up her address on Google Maps and look at her.

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<v Speaker 4>House basically in another tab. And it was you know,

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<v Speaker 4>I try to you know, people that were angry or

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<v Speaker 4>people that.

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<v Speaker 1>Were okay, wait real quick, real quick. So all right,

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<v Speaker 1>so you you okay, now I understand, all right, you

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<v Speaker 1>are you are remotely on the phone with an old

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<v Speaker 1>lady and you're helping her with her internet, and in

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<v Speaker 1>another tab, you go on Google Maps and type in

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<v Speaker 1>her address to look at her house, uh, to see

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<v Speaker 1>and so like, like while you're on the phone with her.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, And while I was helping, there was a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of dead air where I would just kind of like

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<v Speaker 4>read them the Wi Fi password or something, or I'd

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<v Speaker 4>be waiting for them to enter in the passwords, so

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<v Speaker 4>you know, I'd go to their house and take a

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<v Speaker 4>walk around the block see what their neighborhood's like. And

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<v Speaker 4>it was really something that I tried to not be

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<v Speaker 4>creepy about. It was more of like a way to travel.

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<v Speaker 4>A lot of the memories I made of doing that

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<v Speaker 4>street view. I went to I think Oregon has the Redwoods,

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<v Speaker 4>and there was a really nice neighborhood that was just

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<v Speaker 4>pristine roads in the Redwoods and very nice houses. And

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<v Speaker 4>I just thought, what, you know, what it would be

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<v Speaker 4>like to live there, Because I live in Michigan and

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<v Speaker 4>I've lived in this sort of Michigan Michigan trees my

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<v Speaker 4>entire life. And then I would go to Arizona on

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<v Speaker 4>the next call and it would just you know, there's

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<v Speaker 4>no lawns, It's just rocks and cactuses. And it really

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<v Speaker 4>reminded me of the show. So I just want to

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<v Speaker 4>call in and uh, I guess I really appreciate a

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<v Speaker 4>lot of the callers, and I appreciate you, Lyle.

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<v Speaker 1>Now do you think it would be Now if let's

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<v Speaker 1>say I looked up the callers addresses and I was

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<v Speaker 1>like looking at your house while I was talking to

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think that would be weird?

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<v Speaker 4>I see, that's the thing I'm trying to think. Was

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<v Speaker 4>it unethical of me to kind of take that information

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<v Speaker 4>like it is a little bit of a violation of

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<v Speaker 4>the privacy And it was. I felt like it was

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<v Speaker 4>more of a curiosity. But I never did anything harmful

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<v Speaker 4>with it. And you know, it was kind of just

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<v Speaker 4>like if I if I had been an in person

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<v Speaker 4>tech helper, it seems like it would be the same thing.

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<v Speaker 4>Like I went to their house, I was gone, I'll

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<v Speaker 4>never see them again and I thank them for the time,

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<v Speaker 4>bye bye. And I really didn't see any ethical pri problem.

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<v Speaker 4>And you know, just taking a walk around the neighborhood,

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<v Speaker 4>almost like imagining walking you know, going to a Starbucks

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<v Speaker 4>er now Starbucks coffee, but you know, just seeing the

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<v Speaker 4>stores and traveling with Google Maps. So like a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of callers I've noticed want to get out and travel

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<v Speaker 4>and just see the world, but you can, you literally can't.

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<v Speaker 4>Street view it's very good. So yeah, that's that's just

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<v Speaker 4>something I wanted to spread my love, just just cruising

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<v Speaker 4>around in the street view, even if it came from

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<v Speaker 4>my tech support job. I tried to make some help

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<v Speaker 4>some out of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever gone back to somebody's house, Like you're

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone with them, you're helping them out to

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<v Speaker 1>tech support, and then while you're on the phone with them,

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<v Speaker 1>you're out their house, and then later you're like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of like that old lady's house. I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna like later at night, you're just in your

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<v Speaker 1>bed on your computer and you're like, I'm gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>back to that lady's house. You ever do something like that?

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<v Speaker 4>I bet I have gone through the Google history and

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<v Speaker 4>just seen lots of the different places that I've searched

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<v Speaker 4>when I was working that this is a very long

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<v Speaker 4>time ago, you know, just to look back at all

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<v Speaker 4>the virtual places I've traveled, it's like, I don't know's

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<v Speaker 4>it seems like geoguesser. I guess the we call center

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<v Speaker 4>part was just call center geo guesser. I guess I

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<v Speaker 4>knew the location.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so let's talk more about this. You use this,

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<v Speaker 1>uh looking up people's dresses that you're helping with tech

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<v Speaker 1>support port and walking around their neighborhoods. Virtually, you use

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<v Speaker 1>it as a way to virtually travel. Correct.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, yeah, basically. And there's been a few times where

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just stress and I'll just just type in a

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<v Speaker 4>random city or or zoom into somewhere in Europe and

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<v Speaker 4>go walk through the streets and street view and it's

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<v Speaker 4>been something that's pretty cool. I think more people should

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<v Speaker 4>do it, honestly. Now street view.

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<v Speaker 1>Now hunter, do you ever do you have the desire

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<v Speaker 1>to actually get out of your house and go to

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<v Speaker 1>a bunch of new places?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I drive. I drive the same kind of route

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<v Speaker 4>for work, so I do get out a bit. I've

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<v Speaker 4>never I've traveled to. When I was about twelve or thirteen,

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<v Speaker 4>I traveled to Texas and we went to Mexico just

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<v Speaker 4>for day, and it's just a different world. Everything's so different.

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<v Speaker 4>It just seems extremely extremely different.

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<v Speaker 1>Hunter, Do you do you do you still work remotely? No?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't anymore. Actually I used to go on stream

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<v Speaker 4>view a lot more. And this is like back in

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<v Speaker 4>like twenty fourteen. I think, do.

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<v Speaker 1>You still go on street view at all?

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<v Speaker 4>I haven't, But during the pandemic I randomly picked it

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<v Speaker 4>back up just as I stress relief or you know,

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<v Speaker 4>it's just a random curiosity thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Hunter, I feel as though you might. I mean, look, man,

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing all this traveling through Google Maps. That's good

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<v Speaker 1>that you're finding a way to use your desires. But

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I don't know what to make of you,

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<v Speaker 1>because it sounds like you have this deep desire within

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<v Speaker 1>you to go and actually travel.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I definitely it's hard because I love where

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<v Speaker 4>I live in Michigan, and you know, just for life circumstances,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm pretty comfortable in my situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Hunter. People do this thing. People People people go on

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<v Speaker 1>vacations where they don't they continue to live where they

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<v Speaker 1>currently live, and they travel to another place only briefly,

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<v Speaker 1>and then return back to where they live.

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<v Speaker 4>That is a good proposition. I feel like I would

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<v Speaker 4>have to travel far enough to where it's a bit different,

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<v Speaker 4>Like I haven't been up to the up and it's

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<v Speaker 4>pretty intense, it's very snowy. I think Canada would be cool.

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<v Speaker 4>I think we're going to go into Canada. It would

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<v Speaker 4>be a cool goal for this year.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Okay, well, uh, I.

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<v Speaker 4>Guess I'll put myself in Canada season places to go

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<v Speaker 4>in Canada.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I'm trying to think if I have any comments

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<v Speaker 1>as to how I feel about you looking up people's addresses.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't feel strongly about it.

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<v Speaker 4>Was it a little bit unethical? I think that I

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<v Speaker 4>was responsible, I think, and uh, you know, i'd never

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<v Speaker 4>give out some of these address.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I'm trying to will look full all that ship

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<v Speaker 1>and all the back and forth about that. I just

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<v Speaker 1>want to get to the underlying thing with you, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>because you're you're you're sweetly talking about all this Google

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<v Speaker 1>maps stuff. But what's all I really care about with you,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think we've gotten somewhere with it is is

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<v Speaker 1>what's what What's what's lying underneath all of this? Is

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<v Speaker 1>it a desire to actually go places? And if it

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<v Speaker 1>is what what opportunities do you have, if any, What

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<v Speaker 1>opportunities can you create to actually be able to go

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<v Speaker 1>and do that.

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<v Speaker 4>I think it was a I wanted a kind of

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<v Speaker 4>visual way to see. I don't want to say how

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<v Speaker 4>other people live, but just you know, other other It's

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<v Speaker 4>hard to put in the words just the human experience

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<v Speaker 4>of every person, Like I guess it's a parasocial connection

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<v Speaker 4>to each person. Sometimes when people would be really angry

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<v Speaker 4>at me, I would angrily look up their address and

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<v Speaker 4>I'd be like, no, well, that's that's kind of shitty

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<v Speaker 4>to just creep on somebody like that. I didn't want

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<v Speaker 4>to ever feel like I was intruding. If somebody wouldn't

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<v Speaker 4>invite me in their house, I wouldn't look them up.

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<v Speaker 4>You know. I think actually going and doing it is

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of It's a lot of work, but I

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<v Speaker 4>think in small steps all I'm when to travel like

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<v Speaker 4>I good people hopefully this summer.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, has someone ever been angry with you

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<v Speaker 1>and you've looked at their house and you've thought about

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<v Speaker 1>stealing things from their front yard.

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<v Speaker 4>I did have a It was a guy that called

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<v Speaker 4>me and complained that his wife I didn't reach and

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<v Speaker 4>I looked up his house and it was this massive house, Surrey.

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<v Speaker 4>I really don't know what to tell you can get

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<v Speaker 4>extenders or something that, And he seemed to get really

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<v Speaker 4>mad at me just for I don't know. I try

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<v Speaker 4>to be a nice guy and offer the best solution,

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<v Speaker 4>trying to be a kind person, and I just hung

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<v Speaker 4>up on him. I couldn't take it. I just hung up.

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<v Speaker 4>And I feel kind of bad about just hanging up

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<v Speaker 4>and not being able to resolve that.

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<v Speaker 1>Hunter. I hope you protect your own peace. Okay, that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I'll leave you with. I hope you protect your

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<v Speaker 1>own peace having people yell at you all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't know whether or not it's ethical for

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<v Speaker 1>you to fucking look at people's houses on Google Maps,

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<v Speaker 1>but I do know that I'm going to be thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about that every time ill somebody on the phone for

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<v Speaker 1>tech support.

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<v Speaker 4>Now, yeah, I think everybody in show will be.

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<v Speaker 1>Too, Hunter. Is there anything else you want to say

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<v Speaker 1>to the people of the computer before we go?

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<v Speaker 4>No, I appreciate your work. Kick. I will love on

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<v Speaker 4>my can and chill out and listen to Ress Dream.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for calling Hunter Bo. Hello, Caroline, how are Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>What's going on.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm great. My husband left me to go to Texas

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<v Speaker 3>for work. I'm just chilling with my dog watching a

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<v Speaker 3>Get Go. It's it's a good Wednesday night.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't complain beautiful. How can I get you today, Caroline?

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<v Speaker 3>You know you've been taking some heavy calls and uh,

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<v Speaker 3>I just wanted to call in to just give a

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<v Speaker 3>shout out and to all the blanky adults out there.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm twenty five years old, i am about to have

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<v Speaker 3>my first child, and I'm still out here sleeping with

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<v Speaker 3>not one, but three baby blankets. And I've done my

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<v Speaker 3>research and it seems that they're around twenty to thirty

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<v Speaker 3>percent of adults has some sort of comforting item to

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<v Speaker 3>sleep with.

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<v Speaker 4>I just wanted to discuss that.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that sleeping I'm gonna take the position here, Caroline,

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<v Speaker 1>that sleeping with a blanket is rather normal.

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<v Speaker 3>But a baby blanket like a.

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<v Speaker 1>Blankie, what is the difference?

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<v Speaker 3>It's small. Mostly if you're twenty five years old like me,

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<v Speaker 3>it's probably really tattered. It's seen, it seems seen some

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<v Speaker 3>better days, it's for sure, you know. And I always

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<v Speaker 3>I was always very insecure about it. I grew up

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<v Speaker 3>with like sleep problems, you know, And I was always

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<v Speaker 3>the girl at the sleepovers even in high school, like

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<v Speaker 3>bringing my baby blanket and like hiding it and stuff.

0:31:31.560 --> 0:31:33.239
<v Speaker 3>And then I was like and I looked it up,

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<v Speaker 3>and I was like, does this mean there's something wrong

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<v Speaker 3>with me? Is there some unanswered trauma that I've never

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<v Speaker 3>kind of taken a look at? And I looked it

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<v Speaker 3>up and they're like.

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<v Speaker 5>No, no, this is okay, And it's okay for me

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<v Speaker 5>to do this because many adults will turn to you know,

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<v Speaker 5>alcohol and drugs instead, and it took a really dark turn, but.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I'm just do you don't want to end up

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<v Speaker 1>having to go to b a.

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<v Speaker 3>No blank He's anonymous, you know what. I'm gonna don't

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<v Speaker 3>see if there's any around here in Nashville. I'm sure

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<v Speaker 3>that they're weirder things that Caroline.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's my thoughts on this is uh, I don't understand.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess to me, I don't understand what you're psyching

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<v Speaker 1>yourself up about because this idea of a baby blanket

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<v Speaker 1>is is redundant to me. I'm just trying to give

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<v Speaker 1>a word, and I'm gonna go with redundant because you're

0:32:38.240 --> 0:32:44.240
<v Speaker 1>it's fucking it's fabric. It's soft. Yeah stuff. People sleep

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<v Speaker 1>with comforters and sheets and pillow and soft things to

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<v Speaker 1>make them fall asleep. The this your blanket is people

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<v Speaker 1>sleep with blankets all the time. It's it's a piece

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<v Speaker 1>of fabric that is soft. I think it's literally the

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<v Speaker 1>the uh consideration of the object, the labeling that you're

0:33:08.440 --> 0:33:13.800
<v Speaker 1>psyching yourself up about. Uh where it's just if it's

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<v Speaker 1>a fucking blanket, what's the big deal?

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<v Speaker 3>But would you would you like scream bloody murder if

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<v Speaker 3>somehow you are comforter or you're you're just a blanket

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<v Speaker 3>that you have on your bed disappeared one day, or

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<v Speaker 3>or if your house caught on fire and your blankets

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<v Speaker 3>went up in flames, Like would that for life?

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<v Speaker 1>I I think losing my comforter and my house getting

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<v Speaker 1>lit on fire are two very different scenarios. Uh. One

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<v Speaker 1>would cause me far less alarm. Are you saying that

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<v Speaker 1>your concern or the thing that you find strange is

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<v Speaker 1>that you have an attachment with your blanket that is

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<v Speaker 1>to the point where you would scream bloody murder if

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<v Speaker 1>you ever lost it?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, absolutely, yeah. Not that it's a you know, I

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<v Speaker 3>feel like there are there are worse things. There are

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<v Speaker 3>for sure worse things, and I've kept them around this

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<v Speaker 3>long without without losing them. But I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 3>just and since I'm I'm bringing a child into this world,

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<v Speaker 3>like are that it will he be like yo, my

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<v Speaker 3>like my mom's like a blanky adult Like will he

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<v Speaker 3>will he grow up and like tell his friends and

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<v Speaker 3>be like, yo, my mom's a weirdo because she's like

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<v Speaker 3>she has blankies. And I don't know, I'm just well,

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<v Speaker 3>you have me?

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<v Speaker 1>Can I say you have a long you have a

0:34:59.680 --> 0:35:02.960
<v Speaker 1>long time until then because I assume your child is

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<v Speaker 1>also going to have a blanket. So he's a piece

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<v Speaker 1>of shit hypocrite if he says that about.

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<v Speaker 3>You, oh for sure. And then this falls on me

0:35:14.000 --> 0:35:16.320
<v Speaker 3>because I'm like, if I have, if I have a blanky,

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<v Speaker 3>a blanky lover myself, like I need to pick out

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<v Speaker 3>the perfect one. And while I'm doing that, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 3>be honest. While I'm doing that, like I've been I've

0:35:26.440 --> 0:35:30.080
<v Speaker 3>been looking. I've been you know, scrolling on Amazon whatever,

0:35:30.120 --> 0:35:33.960
<v Speaker 3>trying to find like the best quality blankets, and it's

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<v Speaker 3>like almost tempting to pick one up for me as well.

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<v Speaker 3>Because those ones that I have here, I mean, like,

0:35:39.480 --> 0:35:41.800
<v Speaker 3>don't get me wrong, they're saying around, I'm not getting

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<v Speaker 3>rid of him. Many times I want to.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to go down a path with this. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So the blanket itself is sleeping with a blanket. Again,

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<v Speaker 1>in my head, it's completely normal. People sleep with blankets.

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<v Speaker 1>Whether you call it a baby blanket or you call

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<v Speaker 1>it or whatever, it's a It's a fucking piece of fabric.

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<v Speaker 1>I think what is interesting, though, is the attachment to

0:36:04.360 --> 0:36:06.279
<v Speaker 1>the piece of fabric. So when you say that, you

0:36:06.320 --> 0:36:11.879
<v Speaker 1>would scream bloody murder, like you have a very visceral, emotional,

0:36:12.080 --> 0:36:18.000
<v Speaker 1>intense attachment to the blanket. Is it one specific? Is

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<v Speaker 1>this a specific blanket that's been with you for a

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<v Speaker 1>very long time?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, three, I have three of them. My mom has

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<v Speaker 3>a shopping addiction and she bought me three of the

0:36:29.000 --> 0:36:34.279
<v Speaker 3>same blankets, And yes, I have all three of them.

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<v Speaker 3>They're next me right now. And I have a purple

0:36:36.040 --> 0:36:39.359
<v Speaker 3>teddy bear too, So that there, you know, they take

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<v Speaker 3>up some room how long at kings heist mattress because

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<v Speaker 3>we're not We're not all gonna I'm not all going

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<v Speaker 3>to fit on here anymore with the dog, and my

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<v Speaker 3>pregnancy pillow and all my blankies.

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<v Speaker 1>How long have you had those items for.

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<v Speaker 3>Since I was since I was a baby. They've been

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<v Speaker 3>around twenty five years now, they're and they're they're still kicking.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean they're they're tattered, they're ripped, they have holes

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<v Speaker 3>in them, like I have to hand wash them and

0:37:11.760 --> 0:37:13.920
<v Speaker 3>the air dry be very gentle.

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<v Speaker 1>So these are objects, all apart the s. These are

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<v Speaker 1>objects that hold sentimental value to you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, more than like I picture myself being buried with

0:37:28.719 --> 0:37:34.320
<v Speaker 3>these one day. Tell tell like that they've just they've

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<v Speaker 3>been with me since the beginning of time, my time

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<v Speaker 3>at least.

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<v Speaker 1>So listen, is it it's Look, it's not weird to sleep.

0:37:45.640 --> 0:37:49.080
<v Speaker 1>It's fairly normal to sleep with a blank to sleep

0:37:49.080 --> 0:37:52.800
<v Speaker 1>with a blanket. Everyone does. Sleeps with a comforter. Blanket

0:37:52.800 --> 0:37:55.799
<v Speaker 1>and sheets are all the same fucking thing to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care. I don't care about what they're all called.

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<v Speaker 1>They are a soft thing you put over yourself when

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<v Speaker 1>you sleep. So we all sleep with a get of

0:38:03.640 --> 0:38:08.840
<v Speaker 1>some kind. And it's a normal thing to have emotional

0:38:09.239 --> 0:38:13.120
<v Speaker 1>investments and sentimental objects that have been in around your

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<v Speaker 1>whole life. Now, question does the here's where it gets.

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<v Speaker 1>Does the blanket come with you to the grocery store

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<v Speaker 1>and the bank?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 3>No, on vacation, if I'm staying somewhere, if I'm if

0:38:31.160 --> 0:38:34.880
<v Speaker 3>we're you know, going away somewhere, blank blankets come with

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<v Speaker 3>But do I shove it in my bag to go

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<v Speaker 3>grocery shopping? I do not.

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<v Speaker 1>Is Linus a personal hero of yours?

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<v Speaker 3>You know what? I don't know why I haven't thought

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<v Speaker 3>of this before, but yes, it's I don't know how

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<v Speaker 3>it doesn't get torn at the scenes from dragging it

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<v Speaker 3>all around everywhere.

0:39:01.280 --> 0:39:06.399
<v Speaker 1>But I do know what I know. Is it because

0:39:06.400 --> 0:39:12.880
<v Speaker 1>it's animated, it's because he's a cartoon? Yes, yeah, But

0:39:12.960 --> 0:39:18.840
<v Speaker 1>we don't all have that kind of privilege in our lives.

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<v Speaker 3>We don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Well Listen, Caroline, I I I know it sounds like

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<v Speaker 1>you uh, you're you're, you're, And I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 1>hope you take this in a positive way. I hope,

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<v Speaker 1>I hope it's helpful for you. But it sounds like

0:39:38.680 --> 0:39:41.439
<v Speaker 1>you're psyching yourself up over a lot that I don't

0:39:41.480 --> 0:39:44.360
<v Speaker 1>think is worth being. Uh, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Psychic very good yea, oh, I'm very good at doing

0:39:48.200 --> 0:39:52.759
<v Speaker 3>that I'm very good at doing that with other things

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<v Speaker 3>as well. They're probably more important than this. But uh,

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<v Speaker 3>it seems all like top of the line. M a

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<v Speaker 3>lot if I'm if I just get philosophical with myself

0:40:03.760 --> 0:40:04.200
<v Speaker 3>too much.

0:40:04.760 --> 0:40:08.080
<v Speaker 1>Mm hmmm. Uh if your house did light on fire,

0:40:08.200 --> 0:40:10.319
<v Speaker 1>I think that's worth getting psyched up about. I wanted

0:40:10.360 --> 0:40:14.359
<v Speaker 1>to say that as well. You know what, Look, if

0:40:14.400 --> 0:40:16.000
<v Speaker 1>you're here's the thing. Do you have a Do you

0:40:16.040 --> 0:40:16.640
<v Speaker 1>have a job?

0:40:18.960 --> 0:40:19.359
<v Speaker 2>I do.

0:40:19.560 --> 0:40:21.040
<v Speaker 3>I I am a business owner.

0:40:21.840 --> 0:40:24.960
<v Speaker 1>What do you what's your business?

0:40:25.239 --> 0:40:28.040
<v Speaker 3>I own a social media management company.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, okay, I look it sounds like that. That's

0:40:36.000 --> 0:40:38.160
<v Speaker 1>that's a thing that took you a long time to build.

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<v Speaker 1>You're a fucking adult. You pay your bills on time,

0:40:44.080 --> 0:40:47.680
<v Speaker 1>you have a child, you have a job. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>go buy yourself a blanket, Caroline. I actually I'm gonna

0:40:54.719 --> 0:40:57.000
<v Speaker 1>say I'm gonna put I'm gonna say this, Caroline. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna say this crazy thing. I think you, with the

0:41:01.600 --> 0:41:06.000
<v Speaker 1>money that you make as an adult, making the intentional

0:41:06.040 --> 0:41:10.880
<v Speaker 1>decision to proudly purchase and use a blanket for yourself

0:41:12.200 --> 0:41:15.080
<v Speaker 1>is quite the opposite of a childlike decision. I think

0:41:15.120 --> 0:41:20.680
<v Speaker 1>it's an incredibly adult decision to make, so I implore you

0:41:20.719 --> 0:41:21.759
<v Speaker 1>to make it confidently.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what, I'm going to go all out. I'm

0:41:26.760 --> 0:41:31.520
<v Speaker 3>gonna find a goosey blanket or that. I bet they

0:41:31.560 --> 0:41:32.680
<v Speaker 3>have those out there, don't.

0:41:32.520 --> 0:41:35.440
<v Speaker 1>They well be financially responsible for us that that is

0:41:35.520 --> 0:41:38.200
<v Speaker 1>actually how people end up in BA.

0:41:38.640 --> 0:41:45.840
<v Speaker 3>So yes, I will you know what you're You're so

0:41:46.040 --> 0:41:49.680
<v Speaker 3>right about that, I'm gonna I'll look at Amazon first

0:41:49.680 --> 0:41:51.600
<v Speaker 3>and see is.

0:41:51.520 --> 0:41:53.720
<v Speaker 1>There anything that you want to say to the people

0:41:53.719 --> 0:41:54.719
<v Speaker 1>of the computer before we go.

0:41:58.880 --> 0:42:03.280
<v Speaker 3>I guess listen, if if getting it's getting to gekin

0:42:03.440 --> 0:42:08.480
<v Speaker 3>gets rough sometimes, you know, I'm in Nashville during the

0:42:08.560 --> 0:42:11.759
<v Speaker 3>Nashville show. We can always switch places and I can

0:42:12.520 --> 0:42:15.280
<v Speaker 3>and I can put on the suit. You can chat

0:42:15.360 --> 0:42:20.120
<v Speaker 3>to me. I don't have I don't have any uh

0:42:20.880 --> 0:42:28.600
<v Speaker 3>psychiatric experience either. But if you want to reverse the roles, this.

0:42:28.560 --> 0:42:30.680
<v Speaker 1>Doesn't mean that I have feel like. This doesn't mean

0:42:30.719 --> 0:42:33.160
<v Speaker 1>I have to like make Facebook posts for a dentist,

0:42:33.280 --> 0:42:33.600
<v Speaker 1>do I.

0:42:36.840 --> 0:42:39.280
<v Speaker 3>Oh, I more meant you can tell me your problems

0:42:39.320 --> 0:42:44.200
<v Speaker 3>on stage. But but hey, if you yeah, if you're

0:42:44.280 --> 0:42:47.040
<v Speaker 3>good at I mean, you're great at engaging with audiences,

0:42:47.080 --> 0:42:50.400
<v Speaker 3>it's just that and I'll throw you the content and

0:42:50.440 --> 0:42:53.160
<v Speaker 3>you can write a fun caption if you want to

0:42:53.200 --> 0:42:59.000
<v Speaker 3>do my social media job. But yes, if you want

0:42:59.040 --> 0:43:02.239
<v Speaker 3>to switch roles at your show and you talk to me,

0:43:02.560 --> 0:43:03.200
<v Speaker 3>you let me know.

0:43:04.280 --> 0:43:06.360
<v Speaker 1>Well, thank you, Caroline, you have a good rest of

0:43:06.360 --> 0:43:06.840
<v Speaker 1>the night.

0:43:08.600 --> 0:43:11.720
<v Speaker 3>You as well. Thanks.

0:43:12.920 --> 0:43:19.120
<v Speaker 1>I would do that, but I don't trust her, no offense.

0:43:20.080 --> 0:43:30.600
<v Speaker 1>I like Caroline, but you know, so there are some things.

0:43:32.600 --> 0:43:35.400
<v Speaker 1>You know, we can cut all everything that I just said,

0:43:36.719 --> 0:43:40.239
<v Speaker 1>and we can just end it right when the call ends.

0:43:42.320 --> 0:43:44.120
<v Speaker 1>You know what, no, actually know what. Don't cut it.

0:43:46.600 --> 0:43:50.920
<v Speaker 1>I said what I said. I'm a fucking idiot. Hello.

0:43:51.080 --> 0:43:52.160
<v Speaker 4>Hello, how you doing.

0:43:52.520 --> 0:43:54.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm good? How are you doing well?

0:43:54.640 --> 0:43:55.040
<v Speaker 4>Thanks?

0:43:55.480 --> 0:44:00.399
<v Speaker 1>What's what's going on with you this evening? My friend? Oh?

0:44:00.800 --> 0:44:05.440
<v Speaker 4>Nothing, just uh, you know, watching stream, hanging out. I

0:44:05.560 --> 0:44:08.000
<v Speaker 4>had a little something on my mind recently figured to

0:44:08.239 --> 0:44:09.520
<v Speaker 4>talk to you about it.

0:44:09.560 --> 0:44:09.920
<v Speaker 1>Hit men.

0:44:10.640 --> 0:44:16.280
<v Speaker 4>So I just got back from some travel and anywhere

0:44:16.280 --> 0:44:18.439
<v Speaker 4>I go I tend to just kind of people watch.

0:44:18.480 --> 0:44:22.759
<v Speaker 4>That's kind of my job. One thing that I noticed, though,

0:44:22.880 --> 0:44:27.759
<v Speaker 4>is that when you have conversations with people that you

0:44:27.800 --> 0:44:32.240
<v Speaker 4>don't necessarily know, you've never really interacted with with, there's

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<v Speaker 4>there's kind of a a direction that that conversation is

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<v Speaker 4>supposed to go.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, tell me more about this direction that you

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<v Speaker 1>feel like the conversation.

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<v Speaker 4>So sure, So, for instance, how we just started this conversation,

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<v Speaker 4>it's hey, how are you? I'm well, how are you?

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<v Speaker 4>And generally it's kind of forced in a direction that

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<v Speaker 4>isn't necessarily giving any substance to the conversation. It feels

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<v Speaker 4>kind of superficial. And I just got back from Vegas

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<v Speaker 4>and I kind of noticed that that's almost every interaction

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<v Speaker 4>I had personally and just watching people, it's the same way.

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<v Speaker 4>There's no real connection between people.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you felt this way for a while, Yeah, yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 4>Suppose I've noticed it for some time.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's something I've always picked up on, I guess,

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<v Speaker 4>and something that I've always participated in as well. It

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<v Speaker 4>just seems like that's kind of the natural progression.

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<v Speaker 1>So you say it's something that you participate in. Are

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<v Speaker 1>you trying to have more vulnerable, deeper open conversations with

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<v Speaker 1>other people?

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<v Speaker 4>I suppose so, I guess it's hard to tell when

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<v Speaker 4>somebody would be receptive to that. You don't necessarily want

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<v Speaker 4>to make them uncomfortable with it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Yeah, I got a ton of thoughts on this.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like in yes, it's true, there's a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of situations where people are doing a dance or they're

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<v Speaker 1>being you know, somewhat superficial or level one or whatever

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<v Speaker 1>you could call that. But I think for you man,

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<v Speaker 1>the thing to do, and tell me if you already

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<v Speaker 1>do this, is you have to be vulnerable first. You

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<v Speaker 1>You can't expect other people to let their guard down

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<v Speaker 1>and open up to you if you're not gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>there first, you know what I'm saying. Do you ever

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<v Speaker 1>do that? Do you ever sort of let your guard

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<v Speaker 1>down when you're talking to people and try to engage

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<v Speaker 1>them in the kind of conversation that you're hoping to

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<v Speaker 1>be engaged in? You know not?

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<v Speaker 4>I can't say that I have too often. I guess

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<v Speaker 4>there's always the worry that you may make somebody uncomfortable

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<v Speaker 4>by being vulnerable towards them. You know, that's a that's

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<v Speaker 4>a good point though.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's a fear that you're gonna like say something

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<v Speaker 1>that's gonna be awkward and make the other person uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 4>Uh huh, I I suppose so, yeah, sure, it's I

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<v Speaker 4>guess it's it's that connection is not quite there yet.

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<v Speaker 4>If you're vulnerable with them, it may close the doors

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<v Speaker 4>to being able to make a more meaningful connection.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I bring up another idea, So, if you're afraid

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<v Speaker 1>that you're going to be vulnerable and that your vulnerability

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<v Speaker 1>is going to turn somebody off, the thing is is

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<v Speaker 1>if you're trying to surround yourself with and engage in

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<v Speaker 1>conversations with open minded, vulnerable people, then when you open

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<v Speaker 1>yourself up and start being vulnerable, either the person will

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<v Speaker 1>respond positively and you will get to engage with them

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<v Speaker 1>in the kind of conversation that you wanted to engage with,

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<v Speaker 1>or if they respond negatively, it doesn't matter because they

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<v Speaker 1>weren't the kind of person that you wanted to engage

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<v Speaker 1>with anyway.

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<v Speaker 4>That is an excellent point right there. Yeah, that's true. Hmmm,

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<v Speaker 4>it's a I guess, uh. And at a certain point,

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<v Speaker 4>you can't be vulnerable to every single person you talk to,

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<v Speaker 4>So I guess there's got to be a kind of

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<v Speaker 4>a decider of spencer.

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<v Speaker 1>You can spencer, you can fuck it, you can do

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<v Speaker 1>whatever you want. You can be however you desire to

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<v Speaker 1>be in the worlds to people you can bring up

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<v Speaker 1>your parents' divorce in every conversation that you have if

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<v Speaker 1>you really fucking want to, and you will attract other

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<v Speaker 1>people who are like that as well. There are no

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<v Speaker 1>rules that you really need to follow, you know.

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<v Speaker 4>That's that's that's a good point. I I wonder what

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<v Speaker 4>kind of brought on that The general ebb and flow

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<v Speaker 4>of conversation that we have right now where it's like

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<v Speaker 4>super supersful is uh, you know that everybody has.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it's fear. You've ever been to a fucking music

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<v Speaker 1>festival and everyone's on ecstasy and they're all like spilling

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<v Speaker 1>to each other? Oh yeah, it's everyone's That's all that's

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<v Speaker 1>in everyone, that's in the you know, the thing that

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<v Speaker 1>the person who works in accounting fucking is spilling to

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<v Speaker 1>everyone while they're on ecstasy at the music festival, that's

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<v Speaker 1>still in them when they're at their computer doing their

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<v Speaker 1>EXCEL reports.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just that the environment and the drug and whatever

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<v Speaker 1>it is is letting it come out. But it's in there,

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<v Speaker 1>and if you want to take an opportunity to try

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<v Speaker 1>to tap into it at a time, at a situation

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<v Speaker 1>that's not a fucking music festival everrans on ecstasy and

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<v Speaker 1>you want to tap into it. I think people would

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<v Speaker 1>be excited by that. They'd be excited to talk to

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<v Speaker 1>you because they know that they can be vulnerable with you,

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<v Speaker 1>because you're being vulnerable with them.

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<v Speaker 4>Sure, I could, I could see that. I wonder so

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<v Speaker 4>if your inhibitions are removed and you get vulnerable with

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<v Speaker 4>somebody but they're stuck in the idea of those societal standards,

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<v Speaker 4>you may get a false negative reaction from them that

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<v Speaker 4>could have been a connection in a more comfortable space.

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<v Speaker 1>Definitely, definitely, But you gotta take the time. You gotta,

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<v Speaker 1>you gotta, you gotta kind of give a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>extra than what they're expecting and then listen to them

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<v Speaker 1>to make it so that they, you know, feel as

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<v Speaker 1>though their words to you are actually being received.

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<v Speaker 4>Sure, yeah, that's a good point.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I can I recommend a book for you to read?

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<v Speaker 4>You absolutely came. Let me grab a pens, all right?

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<v Speaker 1>So this is this is this is a dating book

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<v Speaker 1>that I read what really kind of changed a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of how I think about communicating with people. It is

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<v Speaker 1>a dating book, but it's it applies to any kind

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<v Speaker 1>of interaction. It doesn't necessarily have to be a romantic

0:52:30.560 --> 0:52:35.120
<v Speaker 1>or anything like that interaction. But you should read this book.

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<v Speaker 1>It's called Models. It's by a dude named Mark Manson.

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<v Speaker 1>He wrote another book called The Subtle Art of Not

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<v Speaker 1>Giving a Fuck, which is more popular book.

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<v Speaker 4>But I've heard of that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, but you should read this book. Again. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a dating book, but I think the concepts in it

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<v Speaker 1>applied to you know, all sorts of life stuff that

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<v Speaker 1>has nothing to do with dating.

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<v Speaker 4>Sure, okay, yeah, So so I take it then that

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<v Speaker 4>you you've had similar feelings towards bringing them interactions.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, absolutely, I'm always thinking about that stuff. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>always trying to give a little bit more if I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like it. Sometimes I don't have the emotional energy

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<v Speaker 1>for it, And that's another reason why people might That's

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<v Speaker 1>another reason why people might act cold to you if

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<v Speaker 1>you are putting yourself out there. But I hope that

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't distract you from putting yourself out there.

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<v Speaker 2>Sure.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Uh you want to say to the people of

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<v Speaker 1>the computer before we go, or any other aspect of

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<v Speaker 1>this that you felt like we didn't cover.

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<v Speaker 4>Uh yeah, My buddy Andy absolutely loves you, and he

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<v Speaker 4>kind of put me on to you. So I appreciate

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<v Speaker 4>your time.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell Andy, I said, uh, I was gonna say, tell Andy,

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<v Speaker 1>I said, he's a good guy, But I don't know Andy,

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<v Speaker 1>so I can't make that assumption. Well, but I think

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to say it anyway to be nice. Expensive

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<v Speaker 1>of course, thanks.

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<v Speaker 4>Call it the repeat.

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<v Speaker 1>Get goes off the line, taking your phone calls.

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<v Speaker 4>Every night, never beat cant goes to his right.

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<v Speaker 2>Was teaching you

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<v Speaker 1>About your life, but he's not really an expert.