WEBVTT - Couples Asking for Honeymoon Donations:  Sin Verguenzas or Geniuses?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born

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<v Speaker 1>and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a body positive advocate.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Carolina Bermudez Sonika wins it. But I was born

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<v Speaker 2>and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama, and

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<v Speaker 2>a worker bee.

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<v Speaker 1>This is life in spanglish Carolina. I am about all

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<v Speaker 1>things with the word honey, right, honey.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, honey.

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<v Speaker 1>I use honey pot to watch my koochie.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, wait, hold up, pulled up. Wait, A lot of

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<v Speaker 2>people don't know about this. You use honeypot too? Do

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<v Speaker 2>you use the sensitive? Do you use the watch one

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<v Speaker 2>I use?

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<v Speaker 1>I use the sensitive one, the one with the blue label.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like sense. And you know Macha has to

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<v Speaker 1>be treated very nicely. But which one do you use?

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<v Speaker 2>Girl?

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I use the honey yeah, and.

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<v Speaker 2>Then I use the orange wipes. And I love the

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<v Speaker 2>honey pop pantyliners. I mean, we need to get them

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<v Speaker 2>on because this is what I said.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sending this to the salespeople. But anything honey catches

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<v Speaker 1>my eye, whether it be saved, the honeys, honey jack,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever it is. And lately I've been seeing baby honey

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<v Speaker 1>and lately I've been seeing this thing called honey fund

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<v Speaker 1>ooh oh, is.

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<v Speaker 2>This the wedding thing. It's like it's a registry.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a honeymoon registry. It's like an alternative to registering

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<v Speaker 1>for glassware at William's Sonoma. And I am loving this, Caroline.

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<v Speaker 1>I am one hundred percent here for this.

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<v Speaker 2>We need Okay. So lan're saying, is this has come

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<v Speaker 2>up a lot recently because it's wedding season, and normally

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<v Speaker 2>people say, like when does wedding season start? Well, for me,

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<v Speaker 2>wedding season is all year round. I don't think that

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<v Speaker 2>there's because you know, there are some people who dream

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<v Speaker 2>of like a winter wedding. There are some people who

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<v Speaker 2>dream of like you know, June is like the most

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<v Speaker 2>popular for brides. Anyway, it's this trend that is happening

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<v Speaker 2>that has people either all in or all out. So

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<v Speaker 2>the honey fund is when a couple gets together and

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<v Speaker 2>instead of giving you the option to buy them things

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<v Speaker 2>off of their registry, they say, we would like for

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<v Speaker 2>you to contribute to our honeymoon. So instead of giving

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<v Speaker 2>them like a check or money, you just go online.

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<v Speaker 2>You look up their honey fund, and you can contribute

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<v Speaker 2>like whatever amount of money that you would have given

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<v Speaker 2>them for their wedding to the honey fund.

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<v Speaker 1>So this is pretty much go fund me but for honeymoons.

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<v Speaker 2>Ooh yes, good take, yes exactly. But it rubs people

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<v Speaker 2>the wrong way because they don't well oh well, you

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<v Speaker 2>know the etiquette experts, right, okay, so like etiquette says,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think anybody's following etiquette. In twenty twenty, everybody's out, girl.

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<v Speaker 1>People be having GoFundMe for like vaginal rejuvenation surgeries and

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<v Speaker 1>shit like that. There's no anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>God, Okay, yes, people are tightening the and they're also

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<v Speaker 2>created and they want you to pay for it exactly exactly. No,

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<v Speaker 2>And that's where, like, you know, again, I always reference

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<v Speaker 2>to my mother whenever we're talking this podcast, because God

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<v Speaker 2>bless her, she just like is a wealth of like

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<v Speaker 2>just content. My mom is like, go the gofundmes for

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<v Speaker 2>the vaginal rejuvenation. My mom would be mortified. But also

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<v Speaker 2>my mom would be mortified about this because you know,

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<v Speaker 2>when you're getting married, there are a lot of people

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<v Speaker 2>who potentially can't come to your wedding, especially if you

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<v Speaker 2>have a big family. I know, for my sake, I

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<v Speaker 2>have of our family lives in California and Florida, nicaraua

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<v Speaker 2>like everywhere. Right, So you have a registry so that

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<v Speaker 2>people have the option if they can't make it, to

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<v Speaker 2>send you a little something, you know, like wanna go Sita,

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<v Speaker 2>you know. But when you're doing the Honey Fund, you're like, no,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want your choch keys. I want money so

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<v Speaker 2>that I can go and live my best life in

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<v Speaker 2>Bulhard Bora Bora right right. But a lot of people

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<v Speaker 2>are saying that it's tacky. And actually, for those of

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<v Speaker 2>you who are listening to Life in Spanglish, I have

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<v Speaker 2>a morning show and I have a co host and

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<v Speaker 2>his name is greg T. Greg T was invited to

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<v Speaker 2>a wedding where they they gave the link to the

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<v Speaker 2>Honey Fund. And when I tell you, this man's blood

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<v Speaker 2>pressure was through the roof. He was so offended, so offendil.

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<v Speaker 1>He was like, how theare they asked me for coal

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<v Speaker 1>hard cash to go have wild sex in Fiji?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you know what? And I always like to think, Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>if my money contributes to your love making, that I

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<v Speaker 2>am here for it, you know, because I'd rather you know,

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<v Speaker 2>some people say like, oh, whenever they use their china,

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<v Speaker 2>I want them to think of me, Honey, did you

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<v Speaker 2>get china for your wedding?

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<v Speaker 1>You know what, I still have. I have the blender

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<v Speaker 1>that I got for my wedding. But you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>me and NOONI were already living together for like five years,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just made a wedding registry because my wedding planner,

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<v Speaker 1>which happened to be my older sister, was like, you

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<v Speaker 1>have to register somewhere. I'm like, but I don't want anything.

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<v Speaker 1>She said, well, you replace things, you know, maybe things

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<v Speaker 1>that you don't own, if you want to get, like

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<v Speaker 1>something that you would never pay for yourself. And I

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<v Speaker 1>felt like a lot of it was waste of money.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I have albums with our names engraved. They've never

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<v Speaker 1>been filled. I have a million champagne glasses with our

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<v Speaker 1>initials that have never been used. Girl, I would have

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<v Speaker 1>one thousand times more preferred that honeyfund existed and that

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<v Speaker 1>all that money that everyone spent would have went towards

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<v Speaker 1>an amazing honeymoon.

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<v Speaker 2>Well so now here's the thing, though, if somebody's listening

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<v Speaker 2>right now and they're thinking about getting married, there is

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<v Speaker 2>a catch with the honey fund or with these sights,

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<v Speaker 2>because it's not just honey Fund. There are a bunch

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<v Speaker 2>of different ones. There's like wanderable dot Com. There's like

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<v Speaker 2>a bunch of different like websites that you can go

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<v Speaker 2>to to register for this stuff. So what happens is

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<v Speaker 2>what ends up happening is they don't I don't charge

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<v Speaker 2>the person who is sending you the money, but when

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<v Speaker 2>you withdraw the money, there is a little fee that

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<v Speaker 2>they take out for their services. So you know, you're

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<v Speaker 2>not getting this like completely scot free, you know, for

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<v Speaker 2>the sake of saying that, but yeah, I mean, I

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<v Speaker 2>guess it's like it's a different approach to looking at

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<v Speaker 2>your gifts or the things that you're going to receive

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<v Speaker 2>and whether or not it's actually something that you will use.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you're right, honey. A lot of people now they're

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<v Speaker 2>living together. This isn't like nineteen seventies nineteen eighties, right

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<v Speaker 2>where people would get married out of high school. They

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<v Speaker 2>would get married out of like you know, after college,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was forbidden for you to live together. Now

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<v Speaker 2>you're getting couples who live together for like five, six,

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<v Speaker 2>seven years and they already have blenders. Yeah, they already

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<v Speaker 2>have a salad spinner, which, by the way, I still

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<v Speaker 2>have my salad spinner for my wedding and it works batulously.

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<v Speaker 2>But no, you know, I think that there is something

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<v Speaker 2>to be said about the creativity and whether or not,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I would have done it or not. I mean, look,

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<v Speaker 2>we ended up like you end up losing money when

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<v Speaker 2>you throw a big wedding. You don't even I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know about you. But like, we got gifts, but it

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<v Speaker 2>didn't even cover like what we spent on the wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>It put a small debt into like what we ended

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<v Speaker 2>up spending.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I got gifts like during my bridal shower from

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<v Speaker 1>like the all the women that were involved in the wedding.

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<v Speaker 1>But I had a destination wedding and I did not

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<v Speaker 1>feel comfortable accepting any gifts at all. So I told

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<v Speaker 1>all of my guests that they did not need to

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<v Speaker 1>give us gifts or money. So we our wedding. We

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<v Speaker 1>just paid for it. You know, some people like I

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<v Speaker 1>made all my money bag, Well no, we made zero

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<v Speaker 1>dollars back. All my wedding was completely funded by us cash.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the only good thing. We didn't charge anything, So

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<v Speaker 1>the day after the wedding. We didn't have any debt,

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<v Speaker 1>but we didn't have no envelopes either.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you brought up the D word, which was what

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<v Speaker 2>I was going to bring up after we go to breaks.

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<v Speaker 2>So a lot of people are talking about whether or

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<v Speaker 2>not this is tacky if people are taking away from

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<v Speaker 2>the special moment of their wedding because they're requesting money.

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<v Speaker 2>Basically like, look, we didn't do Please tell me did

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<v Speaker 2>you do the money dance? You know that's like a

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<v Speaker 2>thing in some cultures, right, No, you know what the

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<v Speaker 2>money dances.

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<v Speaker 1>I've seen it, but my Dominican culture, we don't do it.

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<v Speaker 2>No. Yeah, my mom was against it, like from the

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<v Speaker 2>very beginning, from my sister getting married back in like

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<v Speaker 2>nineteen ninety or whatever. My oldest sister got married when

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<v Speaker 2>she was younger, right out of college, and my mom

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<v Speaker 2>was like, no way, we are not having people pin

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<v Speaker 2>dollars onto your wedding dress that they saved up so

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<v Speaker 2>much money for. My mom was like, that is not happening.

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<v Speaker 2>But there are different ways that people, like air quotes

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<v Speaker 2>make money at their wedding. But honey, you brought up

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<v Speaker 2>something that I want to discuss next after we go

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<v Speaker 2>to break and that's the debt of the way wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>So we'll get into it right after this. So now

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<v Speaker 2>experts are saying that if you are going to get married,

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<v Speaker 2>the number one thing that you should consider is if

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<v Speaker 2>you can afford it. Okay, a lot of people cannot

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<v Speaker 2>afford to have weddings that they imagine because once you

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<v Speaker 2>start getting into it, like, for example, you did a

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<v Speaker 2>destination wedding. We did a wedding in New York. We

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<v Speaker 2>put a deposit down. That deposit was for the space itself.

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<v Speaker 2>That didn't include the tables, the chairs, the linens, the food,

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<v Speaker 2>the entertainment. You know, like so all of these things.

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<v Speaker 2>You start looking at it from a bigger picture and

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<v Speaker 2>you're like, oh my gosh, what are we doing. Look

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<v Speaker 2>at all of this money that we're going to be spending.

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<v Speaker 1>You need a spreadsheet when you're planning a wedding. You

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<v Speaker 1>need a whole Excel spreadsheet because if not, Carolina, you'll

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<v Speaker 1>end up spending so much money you don't even know

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<v Speaker 1>where it went.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you don't even need a spreadsheet. It's just

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<v Speaker 2>like you need to make sure that what's going in

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<v Speaker 2>and out. Yeah, I was going to say you need

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<v Speaker 2>a money manager at that point, because like people don't

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<v Speaker 2>realize unless you have a fixed budget and you're willing

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<v Speaker 2>to do like you know, have you seen these people

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<v Speaker 2>recently that catered their wedding with Chili's And people were

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<v Speaker 2>pissed off about it, and other people were like, I

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<v Speaker 2>think it's smart. You know that what your family is

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<v Speaker 2>going to like, you know that you're on a budget,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like, hey, the people who love you are

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<v Speaker 2>coming to celebrate you. They're not there to like criticize

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<v Speaker 2>what you decide to serve for your wedding. But what

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<v Speaker 2>experts are saying is that before you get married, you

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<v Speaker 2>need to look at the bigger picture and say, is

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<v Speaker 2>this money worth it to me for one night where

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<v Speaker 2>my family and friends get together and we have this

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<v Speaker 2>big celebration, or is this money better well spent as

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<v Speaker 2>a down payment for a house, which is also what

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<v Speaker 2>some people are using a honey fund for. Some people

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<v Speaker 2>are saying like, look, my my now husband and I

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<v Speaker 2>traveled so much when we were together. Now what we

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<v Speaker 2>really need to do instead of a honey fund, we

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<v Speaker 2>need a down payment for a house. So instead of

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<v Speaker 2>giving us gifts, you can contribute money to that, which

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<v Speaker 2>I have to be honest, I don't find any issue

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<v Speaker 2>with that.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't either. And if you're listening and you don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what to do, there is a show on Netflix

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<v Speaker 1>that's called Marriage or Mortgage, and it puts a lot

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<v Speaker 1>into perspective, and it's couples and they meet with like

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<v Speaker 1>a wedding planner and a real estate agent, and actually

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<v Speaker 1>they compete, like one person wants the wedding, one person

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<v Speaker 1>wants the mortgage. It's a cute little show. And if

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<v Speaker 1>you're right now contemplating, like should I spend sixty thousand

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<v Speaker 1>dollars on a wedding or put it down towards a

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<v Speaker 1>down payment, maybe that's a show you can start with.

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<v Speaker 2>I never even heard of that. I'm definitely gonna have

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<v Speaker 2>to check it out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I've watched it, and I would still do my

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<v Speaker 1>wedding care I didn't own my home when I did

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<v Speaker 1>my wedding, but also it was a week thing. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't regret it. Eventually I got more money and I

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<v Speaker 1>bought a house, and I bought another house. But I

0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:10.840
<v Speaker 1>could have never had a wedding and another wedding and

0:12:10.880 --> 0:12:14.320
<v Speaker 1>another wedding, So I'm glad I spent the money I

0:12:14.360 --> 0:12:17.520
<v Speaker 1>spent on my wedding. That was one memory that I

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<v Speaker 1>could never recreate. The money for the house. I could

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<v Speaker 1>raise it two, three, four or five times over.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I have to agree with you. I have no regrets.

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<v Speaker 2>And just like having all of the people who I

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<v Speaker 2>loved and loved me in that space and seeing Mark

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<v Speaker 2>and I, Yeah, and just like the vibe that we created.

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<v Speaker 2>I truly think that that was probably one of the

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<v Speaker 2>best nights of my entire life. Where you know, most

0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:45.800
<v Speaker 2>brides say, oh, this went wrong and that went wrong,

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<v Speaker 2>and Mark and I, like, we didn't spend the nights

0:12:48.160 --> 0:12:49.920
<v Speaker 2>we were already living together, and we didn't spend the

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<v Speaker 2>night together before we got married. But we looked at

0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:54.760
<v Speaker 2>each other and we said, no matter what, no matter

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<v Speaker 2>what happens, this day, this day, like when we get married,

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<v Speaker 2>is going to be just all about like the love

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<v Speaker 2>that we share for each other. And when I tell

0:13:02.920 --> 0:13:05.600
<v Speaker 2>you that nothing went wrong. Even my wedding planner was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think I've ever had a wedding that went

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<v Speaker 2>this smoothly. She's like, no wakeups, not one thing. It

0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:14.880
<v Speaker 2>was crazy. If it did. She kept it from us

0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:17.599
<v Speaker 2>because she was absolutely fabulous. Claudie Hanlin over at the

0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:20.640
<v Speaker 2>wedding library shout outs to her, the check is cleared.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, it was one of those things where I

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<v Speaker 2>would never take back that moment because it's like, I

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<v Speaker 2>have pictures of me dancing with Maya Waalita. He was

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<v Speaker 2>not here anymore. You know, Mark has pictures with his father.

0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:34.560
<v Speaker 2>His father isn't here anymore, and he got to actually

0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:36.880
<v Speaker 2>see us get married. So those are things, those are

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<v Speaker 2>moments that I would never ever, you know, regret.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's that. My wedding is actually the last time

0:13:44.760 --> 0:13:48.960
<v Speaker 1>I saw Maya Walita before she passed away. So and

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<v Speaker 1>the reason we got married in Dominican Republic was because

0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:55.240
<v Speaker 1>Maya Worita was in a wheelchair and she couldn't travel.

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<v Speaker 1>So I said, you know what, this is the most

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<v Speaker 1>important woman in my life because when I was born,

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<v Speaker 1>my mom was in New York City as a young

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<v Speaker 1>woman and she was still trying to you know, she

0:14:06.280 --> 0:14:08.240
<v Speaker 1>was still trying to get her feet wet and get

0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:12.040
<v Speaker 1>her money up. And she set me as an infant

0:14:12.360 --> 0:14:14.880
<v Speaker 1>to live with my Aweila, and I was there with

0:14:14.920 --> 0:14:18.080
<v Speaker 1>her probably till I was like five years old. So

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<v Speaker 1>this was my first.

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<v Speaker 2>Mom, right, yeah, and you had that connection.

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<v Speaker 1>I was not getting married unless this woman could be

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<v Speaker 1>there and dad alone, Carolina makes having had that wedding

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<v Speaker 1>the best decision I've made in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>Well yeah, I mean, and that's what it's about. And listen,

0:14:37.440 --> 0:14:39.520
<v Speaker 2>there are people who may not be close with their

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<v Speaker 2>families and don't need that, and that's perfectly fine too,

0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:45.280
<v Speaker 2>you know, because there are people who say, I'm happy

0:14:45.320 --> 0:14:47.920
<v Speaker 2>going to the courthouse. It's just a piece of paper.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the love of my life. This is what

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<v Speaker 2>I want to do. And I'm a big believer in

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<v Speaker 2>doing whatever makes you happy. But the only the thing

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<v Speaker 2>that really bothers me about this, honey fund, I'll tell

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<v Speaker 2>you the truth is that people have so many opinions,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like the world evolves. People evolved, people change,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's just like what I told you before. It's

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<v Speaker 2>like people aren't getting married when they're eighteen and nineteen

0:15:12.960 --> 0:15:16.120
<v Speaker 2>years old anymore. You can't go and buy a house

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<v Speaker 2>in a neighborhood as a startup house, and I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>for real, like that. That's the state of the world

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<v Speaker 2>that we're in right now. So why are you coming

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<v Speaker 2>down on people for being creative. To me, I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's a creative idea.

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<v Speaker 1>It is, and you know, shout outs to this couple

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<v Speaker 1>that came together and put this website together, because it's

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<v Speaker 1>not something that I guess we would come out and

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<v Speaker 1>ask and be like, hey, traditionally I want to go

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<v Speaker 1>to Thailand. Why don't you? Guys like you just you

0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:46.000
<v Speaker 1>feel bad even people giving you money nonetheless putting together

0:15:46.160 --> 0:15:48.600
<v Speaker 1>whole landing page and saying we want to go on

0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:52.320
<v Speaker 1>an African safari? Can you give us fifteen thousand dollars?

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<v Speaker 1>But I feel like through this it's acceptable. And you

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<v Speaker 1>know what, I'd rather give you money to go to

0:15:59.040 --> 0:16:02.840
<v Speaker 1>let's say, Bora Bora, then to buy you a set

0:16:02.880 --> 0:16:07.160
<v Speaker 1>of towels and some forks and some pots. I don't

0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:09.080
<v Speaker 1>want to buy you none of that. I want you

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<v Speaker 1>to have an experience that's gonna be emblazed in your

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<v Speaker 1>brain forever.

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<v Speaker 2>Well yeah, and also this is something really cool. When

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<v Speaker 2>I was researching these different types of funds, I feel

0:16:21.560 --> 0:16:23.160
<v Speaker 2>the exact same way that you do. I want to

0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:25.960
<v Speaker 2>help somebody create an experience and a memory, and I

0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.160
<v Speaker 2>want to be a part of that. Right. But like

0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:32.040
<v Speaker 2>on some of these different sites, like you can say like, oh,

0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:35.480
<v Speaker 2>this is for I'm making this up. This two hundred

0:16:35.480 --> 0:16:38.600
<v Speaker 2>and fifty dollars is for your first dinner when you

0:16:38.680 --> 0:16:41.760
<v Speaker 2>get to your honeymoon, and you can like, isn't that

0:16:41.800 --> 0:16:46.040
<v Speaker 2>so cool? So like if the husband loves to golf, okay,

0:16:46.920 --> 0:16:49.720
<v Speaker 2>you could put money toward like his golf outing, or

0:16:49.760 --> 0:16:52.440
<v Speaker 2>you could put money toward her spa day so that

0:16:52.560 --> 0:16:54.840
<v Speaker 2>she can relax after the wedding, which I think is

0:16:54.880 --> 0:16:57.760
<v Speaker 2>like a really nice gesture, so that when she's getting

0:16:57.760 --> 0:17:00.800
<v Speaker 2>that massage, she could be like, oh, honey, I gave

0:17:00.840 --> 0:17:02.760
<v Speaker 2>this to me. I am thinking of them while I'm

0:17:02.760 --> 0:17:05.000
<v Speaker 2>getting my massage, Like I wouldn't have gotten this if

0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:06.960
<v Speaker 2>it weren't for them. So I do think that there

0:17:06.960 --> 0:17:09.080
<v Speaker 2>are ways that you can personalize it and make it

0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:13.119
<v Speaker 2>a little bit more special or sentimental, if you know

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<v Speaker 2>what I mean. Because like a lot of people give

0:17:16.320 --> 0:17:19.480
<v Speaker 2>you know, items thinking like oh, every time she uses

0:17:19.560 --> 0:17:22.480
<v Speaker 2>the salad spinner, she's gonna think of me, you know

0:17:22.520 --> 0:17:25.240
<v Speaker 2>what I mean. So it's like that way, that's what

0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:27.680
<v Speaker 2>I feel like they get around it. And I do

0:17:27.800 --> 0:17:31.359
<v Speaker 2>believe that that is a wonderful way to remember somebody's

0:17:31.520 --> 0:17:33.840
<v Speaker 2>beautiful gesture for you on your wedding day.

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<v Speaker 1>And I see it because two different people while we

0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:42.679
<v Speaker 1>were in Dominican Republic, decided, oh, okay, I want to

0:17:42.720 --> 0:17:47.520
<v Speaker 1>gift you guys some samba dancers. That was dope. I

0:17:47.560 --> 0:17:51.000
<v Speaker 1>love that. I will ever remember the samba dancers. And

0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:54.200
<v Speaker 1>then someone else said, I want to gift NOONI a

0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:59.119
<v Speaker 1>cigar roller experience. That was super dope. Those two things

0:17:59.160 --> 0:18:03.240
<v Speaker 1>forever stick in my mind as two people that were

0:18:03.280 --> 0:18:05.399
<v Speaker 1>there decided to add that on to our wedding and

0:18:05.440 --> 0:18:06.160
<v Speaker 1>it was special.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I just hope that, like maybe we're

0:18:09.200 --> 0:18:11.960
<v Speaker 2>opening people's eyes to like maybe not be so judgmental

0:18:12.080 --> 0:18:14.919
<v Speaker 2>or to be open to like different ideas when it

0:18:14.960 --> 0:18:17.439
<v Speaker 2>comes to showing your love to the people that you

0:18:17.560 --> 0:18:20.399
<v Speaker 2>care about, especially on such a big day. You know,

0:18:20.920 --> 0:18:22.760
<v Speaker 2>you don't want to go into that with like hurt

0:18:22.800 --> 0:18:26.520
<v Speaker 2>feelings or bad feelings. So I we don't know. Yeah, yeah,

0:18:26.600 --> 0:18:28.960
<v Speaker 2>maybe be open to like these new creative ways that

0:18:28.960 --> 0:18:31.080
<v Speaker 2>people are doing this because the world is changing. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I said, honey, you know, it is not like how

0:18:32.920 --> 0:18:35.359
<v Speaker 2>you and I when we got married. The way that

0:18:35.400 --> 0:18:37.760
<v Speaker 2>things are and it's gonna be different. Five to ten

0:18:37.840 --> 0:18:39.800
<v Speaker 2>years from now. I always I look at my husband

0:18:39.800 --> 0:18:42.240
<v Speaker 2>and I wonder we talk about like our kids, and

0:18:42.280 --> 0:18:45.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, gosh, I wonder what's gonna happen with our boys?

0:18:45.600 --> 0:18:47.359
<v Speaker 2>Are they going to be like the type to get

0:18:47.440 --> 0:18:50.800
<v Speaker 2>married young late? Like what are weddings going to look like?

0:18:50.880 --> 0:18:51.080
<v Speaker 1>Then?

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<v Speaker 2>So you know, sometimes you do you have to roll

0:18:53.920 --> 0:18:55.920
<v Speaker 2>with the times. But you know, when we come back,

0:18:55.920 --> 0:18:57.920
<v Speaker 2>we got to go to the salon. I'm so excited

0:18:57.960 --> 0:19:00.520
<v Speaker 2>to read this letter to you because it's so June, see,

0:19:00.560 --> 0:19:02.920
<v Speaker 2>and I cannot wait. You know, everybody says that they

0:19:02.960 --> 0:19:04.920
<v Speaker 2>love Honey's opinions on the salon, so I got it

0:19:05.000 --> 0:19:10.920
<v Speaker 2>up my game. That's coming up back. Well, if that

0:19:11.080 --> 0:19:14.679
<v Speaker 2>wasn't a tease, Honey, ooh, we got a letter in

0:19:14.720 --> 0:19:16.520
<v Speaker 2>the salon. And you guys know that you can always

0:19:16.560 --> 0:19:20.600
<v Speaker 2>send us your issues or dilemmas or your problems so

0:19:20.640 --> 0:19:23.080
<v Speaker 2>that Honey and I can hash it out. And typically

0:19:23.080 --> 0:19:26.160
<v Speaker 2>we don't agree, which is always great, but you can

0:19:26.200 --> 0:19:28.159
<v Speaker 2>send us your letters so that we can try to

0:19:28.160 --> 0:19:29.639
<v Speaker 2>figure out your problems for you.

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<v Speaker 1>So today's second Carolina. I'm putting a little bit of

0:19:33.760 --> 0:19:39.159
<v Speaker 1>oil in my mouth because you know, lanes come my

0:19:39.320 --> 0:19:40.919
<v Speaker 1>tongue has got to be ready.

0:19:41.000 --> 0:19:44.280
<v Speaker 2>Go ahead, Oh she is ready ready, Okay, So here

0:19:44.320 --> 0:19:47.920
<v Speaker 2>we go. This comes to us from Chloe. She said, Hey, ladies,

0:19:48.040 --> 0:19:50.639
<v Speaker 2>I hope y'all are sitting because this one is messy.

0:19:51.320 --> 0:19:55.040
<v Speaker 2>My younger brother has always been my best friend, mir Manito.

0:19:55.440 --> 0:19:58.440
<v Speaker 2>We have an inseparable bond and I love him so much.

0:19:59.119 --> 0:20:03.320
<v Speaker 2>But his nobe two years. Let's change her name. I'll

0:20:03.320 --> 0:20:06.439
<v Speaker 2>call her Maria. Maria is a doll. I would be

0:20:06.520 --> 0:20:09.480
<v Speaker 2>honored to call her my sister in law one day. Now.

0:20:09.520 --> 0:20:11.720
<v Speaker 2>That's all fine and good, but recently, one of my

0:20:11.800 --> 0:20:15.280
<v Speaker 2>homegirls caught my brother hooking up with another girl at

0:20:15.320 --> 0:20:19.919
<v Speaker 2>the club. Yes there is photo evidence, and yes it

0:20:20.040 --> 0:20:24.639
<v Speaker 2>was confirmed that he was creeping on his girlfriend. I

0:20:24.680 --> 0:20:26.600
<v Speaker 2>feel sick to my stomach and don't know how to

0:20:26.600 --> 0:20:28.159
<v Speaker 2>bring this up to him in a safe way. I

0:20:28.160 --> 0:20:30.560
<v Speaker 2>don't want to ignore it, and it also has me

0:20:30.640 --> 0:20:34.680
<v Speaker 2>second guessing who my brother really is. Any advice please,

0:20:36.000 --> 0:20:38.959
<v Speaker 2>that comes to us from Chloe, and that is I'm

0:20:39.000 --> 0:20:41.439
<v Speaker 2>going to leave that right there like a cat that

0:20:41.600 --> 0:20:44.040
<v Speaker 2>just caught a bird outside and dropped it on the doorstep.

0:20:44.080 --> 0:20:45.359
<v Speaker 2>There you go, okay, honey, here we go.

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<v Speaker 1>Delivered First of all, Chloe, one word loyalty, and that

0:20:55.160 --> 0:20:58.480
<v Speaker 1>is only to your brother. I don't even know why

0:20:59.280 --> 0:21:03.440
<v Speaker 1>Maria was even mentioned in this letter, because Maria shall

0:21:03.520 --> 0:21:05.560
<v Speaker 1>never know about this. I don't care how much you

0:21:05.760 --> 0:21:10.480
<v Speaker 1>like her. Your brother is the only person that concerns

0:21:10.520 --> 0:21:10.840
<v Speaker 1>you here.

0:21:11.960 --> 0:21:17.080
<v Speaker 2>And this is where I step in. So yes, I

0:21:17.160 --> 0:21:19.320
<v Speaker 2>do think that you have to be loyal to your brother.

0:21:19.680 --> 0:21:23.040
<v Speaker 2>But I also do think that part of being a

0:21:23.080 --> 0:21:27.560
<v Speaker 2>good friend or a good sibling or family member is

0:21:27.600 --> 0:21:31.040
<v Speaker 2>to keep people accountable. I'm sorry, because you know what,

0:21:31.280 --> 0:21:34.520
<v Speaker 2>don't be out there doing something dirty if you got

0:21:34.520 --> 0:21:38.840
<v Speaker 2>this good girl that the family has accepted that you're

0:21:38.840 --> 0:21:40.960
<v Speaker 2>bringing around for two years. Because that's the thing that

0:21:41.000 --> 0:21:44.520
<v Speaker 2>a lot of people don't remember. When you are cheating

0:21:44.840 --> 0:21:48.480
<v Speaker 2>on your girlfriend or boyfriend or your spouse, that person

0:21:48.560 --> 0:21:52.200
<v Speaker 2>also has ties to your family too, And when somebody

0:21:52.240 --> 0:21:55.240
<v Speaker 2>comes in, that's also difficult. Now, I'm not saying that

0:21:55.359 --> 0:21:57.320
<v Speaker 2>Chloe should go to Maria and tell her what her

0:21:57.320 --> 0:21:59.560
<v Speaker 2>brother's been up to. I don't think that Chloe shouldn't

0:21:59.560 --> 0:22:02.719
<v Speaker 2>even go to her mom or dad or anyone. I

0:22:02.800 --> 0:22:06.840
<v Speaker 2>think it's something where she goes to her brother and says, hey,

0:22:08.000 --> 0:22:12.560
<v Speaker 2>you've been messy. You got caught. If you don't like

0:22:12.680 --> 0:22:15.880
<v Speaker 2>this girl anymore, do the right thing and let her go.

0:22:16.160 --> 0:22:19.119
<v Speaker 2>And I won't say anything, or I don't think she

0:22:19.160 --> 0:22:21.240
<v Speaker 2>should say anything period to Maria. But I think that

0:22:21.320 --> 0:22:23.199
<v Speaker 2>she should call him on the carpet and be like,

0:22:23.680 --> 0:22:27.520
<v Speaker 2>why are you doing this, Carolina?

0:22:27.560 --> 0:22:30.840
<v Speaker 1>Because men are men? But the hell why?

0:22:30.960 --> 0:22:33.119
<v Speaker 2>No? No, no, no, no, he's doing this the fun.

0:22:33.240 --> 0:22:37.680
<v Speaker 1>He's probably young, he met somebody, they saw him creeping.

0:22:38.080 --> 0:22:40.800
<v Speaker 1>It's not like they saw him having sex somewhere. And

0:22:41.080 --> 0:22:44.440
<v Speaker 1>I don't feel like men cheat because they don't love you.

0:22:44.800 --> 0:22:48.119
<v Speaker 1>Here I go. Noone has brainwashed me. And he's always

0:22:48.160 --> 0:22:52.000
<v Speaker 1>told me men don't cheat because they don't love their women.

0:22:52.840 --> 0:22:57.040
<v Speaker 1>They cheat because it's an activity and it's fun, and

0:22:57.080 --> 0:23:00.840
<v Speaker 1>then they eventually go back home. What do you think

0:23:00.880 --> 0:23:01.280
<v Speaker 1>about that?

0:23:01.520 --> 0:23:04.240
<v Speaker 2>But he think about closed and go pick up pickleball

0:23:04.280 --> 0:23:06.439
<v Speaker 2>if you want some activity, noony, because that is not

0:23:06.640 --> 0:23:11.520
<v Speaker 2>my not my style. Baby. No, defend all the men

0:23:11.600 --> 0:23:12.200
<v Speaker 2>that cheat.

0:23:12.320 --> 0:23:15.120
<v Speaker 1>He always defends them. He's like, there was no emotion

0:23:15.320 --> 0:23:19.520
<v Speaker 1>behind that. For men, sex is an act, there is

0:23:19.640 --> 0:23:22.400
<v Speaker 1>no attachment. It's an activity and then you go home.

0:23:23.240 --> 0:23:26.479
<v Speaker 2>But that in itself is so wrong because like, there

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<v Speaker 2>are two things that have an issue with that you

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<v Speaker 2>just said, honey, and I'm gonna call you on it.

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<v Speaker 2>Number one, like.

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<v Speaker 1>Ill you're calling, I'm calling on this this type of

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<v Speaker 1>behavior in my home.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, of course not. But what I'm saying

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<v Speaker 2>is like the whole boys will be boys mentality, It

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<v Speaker 2>is twenty twenty three. Okay, that is the biggest croc

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<v Speaker 2>of bullshit. It's also like preventing you from being a man.

0:23:49.119 --> 0:23:52.359
<v Speaker 2>A man thinks about other people. A man thinks about

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<v Speaker 2>how his behavior will affect other people that he loves

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<v Speaker 2>before he does something that's a man.

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<v Speaker 1>But there because you don't find out.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, no, but that's but that's why I'm saying, Chloe,

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<v Speaker 2>your brother is exhibiting little boy behavior because the little

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<v Speaker 2>boy can't make a choice and he's out there in

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<v Speaker 2>the streets grinding on some random girl, making out with

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<v Speaker 2>her at the club while his little girlfriend is at

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<v Speaker 2>home thinking that he's like, you know, being faithful. That's

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<v Speaker 2>what a boy does. But a man would be at

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<v Speaker 2>home with his girlfriend, not going out to the clubs

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<v Speaker 2>and acting crazy. So that's where that I think that

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<v Speaker 2>that's an issue that I don't like that phrase at all, because,

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<v Speaker 2>like I said, we don't raise our boys like what

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<v Speaker 2>the whole boys will be boys mentality. You know, I've

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<v Speaker 2>said to my sons too, even because you know, Noah's

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<v Speaker 2>getting to the point, like he's nine, he's starting like

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<v Speaker 2>the girls are starting. The stuff is starting. And I

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<v Speaker 2>say to him sometimes he'll be he'll treat me badly

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<v Speaker 2>because he had a bad day, or he'll talk back

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<v Speaker 2>to me, or he'll be snippy, and I say, hey, Noah,

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<v Speaker 2>I know you had a bad day. But you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>when you love somebody and somebody loves you and you

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<v Speaker 2>treat them that way, they're not going to tolerate it.

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<v Speaker 2>If you love someone, then you have to communicate. You

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<v Speaker 2>have to say I had a really bad day today.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry if I'm being short with you, it's not fair.

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<v Speaker 2>I know I need some time to myself. That starts now,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I'm saying. So it's like this whole

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<v Speaker 2>thing about like him being her brother and not being

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<v Speaker 2>able to the video is out there, so if she

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't tell him the friend saw it and recorded it,

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<v Speaker 2>somebody's gonna find out. That's why I feel like it's

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<v Speaker 2>being loyal by telling your brother. Hey, the word is

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<v Speaker 2>out on the street. You got caught. Now you need

0:25:38.000 --> 0:25:39.600
<v Speaker 2>to do the right thing. You got yourself from this

0:25:39.680 --> 0:25:40.800
<v Speaker 2>situation now.

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<v Speaker 1>Definitely, if there's video footage, I need.

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<v Speaker 2>It, she said. Hold on one second, she said, she said,

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<v Speaker 2>him hooking up with another girl at the cup. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>there is photo evidence. Yes, it was confirmed that he

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<v Speaker 2>was creeping. So boom right there. It's like, you put

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<v Speaker 2>yourself in this position.

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<v Speaker 1>Nah, you definitely got to put me on. If you

0:25:58.000 --> 0:25:59.879
<v Speaker 1>and my sibling, you got to put me on. But

0:26:00.560 --> 0:26:02.800
<v Speaker 1>don't think you're gonna put me in my place. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>worry about what I'm doing in my personal life. You

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<v Speaker 1>gotta be like, bitch, there's a picture if you creep

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<v Speaker 1>in exactly. You gotta get ahead of this. You got

0:26:10.600 --> 0:26:12.280
<v Speaker 1>to get ahead of this. But I don't expect you

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<v Speaker 1>to look down on me talk about oh, you shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>be cheating.

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<v Speaker 2>Nah, don't get involved.

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<v Speaker 1>In my personal life. You know you don't know what's

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<v Speaker 1>going on here. Just put me on so I could

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<v Speaker 1>get my story straight. But don't try to.

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<v Speaker 2>Wrap absolutely well that you know. I mean, I guess

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<v Speaker 2>like it sounds like they're very very close, So I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if she can help herself, because when you're

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<v Speaker 2>really close with somebody, it's almost like you know, I

0:26:32.160 --> 0:26:34.439
<v Speaker 2>love you. But I don't think that this will affect

0:26:34.440 --> 0:26:36.919
<v Speaker 2>their relationship. I think it would affect their relationship if

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<v Speaker 2>she goes to Maria and says something to her.

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<v Speaker 1>And also close a viihilation that right, theere is a violation.

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<v Speaker 1>If my sibling snitches me.

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<v Speaker 2>Out on cheating, oh forget it.

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<v Speaker 1>Our relationship is strained for life. I'm never gonna let

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<v Speaker 1>that go.

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<v Speaker 2>No, that breaks the bond right there. But what I

0:26:56.200 --> 0:26:59.360
<v Speaker 2>am saying is, Chloe, you need to go to your

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<v Speaker 2>friend and say, hey, do me as solid. Don't send

0:27:04.760 --> 0:27:08.320
<v Speaker 2>that out to anybody. Don't snapchat that shit. That's my brother,

0:27:08.480 --> 0:27:12.159
<v Speaker 2>that's my baby brother. Whatever. Let me repeat it to him,

0:27:12.600 --> 0:27:15.439
<v Speaker 2>right and let me figure this out, like do me

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<v Speaker 2>a favor, and like don't like that stays between us,

0:27:18.280 --> 0:27:20.720
<v Speaker 2>like me, you and him, Like, don't be sending that

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<v Speaker 2>out to other people because like that's the other thing

0:27:23.119 --> 0:27:27.320
<v Speaker 2>that happens, and be a you know what I means.

0:27:27.359 --> 0:27:29.040
<v Speaker 2>And now this one tells that one and that one

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<v Speaker 2>and it's gonna get back to Maria anyway. That's why

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying Chloe, like, if you are loyal and if

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<v Speaker 2>you're a good sister, you need to approach your brother

0:27:36.400 --> 0:27:38.919
<v Speaker 2>and let him know he got caught. You know about it.

0:27:38.960 --> 0:27:41.560
<v Speaker 2>There's a picture. What are you gonna do about it?

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<v Speaker 1>Put together a plan? Okay, tell your homegirl, Yo, hold

0:27:45.040 --> 0:27:47.640
<v Speaker 1>it down. Don't blow up my brother. We don't want

0:27:47.640 --> 0:27:49.919
<v Speaker 1>to hurt Maria. She's an innocent victim and all this.

0:27:50.440 --> 0:27:52.119
<v Speaker 1>Then pull up on your brother and be like, yo,

0:27:52.160 --> 0:27:55.240
<v Speaker 1>you out here, be a messy. We got photographic evidence.

0:27:55.280 --> 0:27:57.639
<v Speaker 1>If that makes it on socials, it's over. But you

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<v Speaker 1>and Maria, you're gonna break her heart. And she said, sweetheart,

0:28:00.520 --> 0:28:02.880
<v Speaker 1>and Mommy likes, how are we going to handle this?

0:28:03.119 --> 0:28:05.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty sure exactly. He can still come out of this,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's why I agree with you there too. And

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<v Speaker 2>I was gonna say, Chloe, like, so many relationships have

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<v Speaker 2>gone through these ups and downs. It sounds like you

0:28:13.240 --> 0:28:15.000
<v Speaker 2>guys are young, you know what I mean, And like

0:28:15.040 --> 0:28:18.159
<v Speaker 2>there are so many relationships that have gotten through a

0:28:18.240 --> 0:28:19.919
<v Speaker 2>cheating you know. And by the way, it's like he's

0:28:20.000 --> 0:28:21.640
<v Speaker 2>dancing with a girl at the club. Maybe he made

0:28:21.680 --> 0:28:24.360
<v Speaker 2>out with her, all right, Like you can bounce back

0:28:24.400 --> 0:28:27.520
<v Speaker 2>from that. But I think it's the dishonesty that is

0:28:27.640 --> 0:28:30.199
<v Speaker 2>really really the issue here, and that he needs to

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<v Speaker 2>like grab a hold of it if he's still interested

0:28:32.960 --> 0:28:34.960
<v Speaker 2>in Maria, because we don't even know, he might be.

0:28:34.960 --> 0:28:37.840
<v Speaker 1>Over it too, especially if he's already out here creeping.

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<v Speaker 1>But then again, if it's a young guy, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>young people, they like variety. They're fluid. They don't know

0:28:43.520 --> 0:28:45.480
<v Speaker 1>what they like today, they don't know what they like tomorrow.

0:28:45.600 --> 0:28:51.400
<v Speaker 2>I know, thus fluid. Everybody's fluid. That's another episode too.

0:28:51.560 --> 0:28:53.960
<v Speaker 1>I don't blame them. I should be fluid too, girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes I feel like sometimes I feel like men just

0:28:57.160 --> 0:28:59.840
<v Speaker 1>don't get women. But that's another episode too.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, you know what, we are going to

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<v Speaker 2>create a compound and we're just going to go with

0:29:04.320 --> 0:29:07.640
<v Speaker 2>like all women come and you know, we're gonna start

0:29:07.720 --> 0:29:11.520
<v Speaker 2>raising our kids together. It takes a village, seriously, but no,

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<v Speaker 2>oh please, I've had visions of it with my best friend.

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<v Speaker 2>We want to raise allainess well garden kidding you everything

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<v Speaker 2>for everything from the earth. I mean, no preservatives, no GMOs,

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<v Speaker 2>not hair, what hair, dried hair? Come on now? But yes, Chloe,

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