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Speaker 1: All right, guys, time now for my Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading

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Speaker 1: your letter, just like we're gonna read this one. We're

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Speaker 1: gonna read this one right here, right now. Okay, up

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Speaker 1: and hold on tight. We got it for you. Here.

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter, all right, nephew. It says

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Speaker 1: I asked a married woman to marry me. That is

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Speaker 1: the subject. I asked a married woman to marry me,

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. For the past ten years, I have

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Speaker 1: lived with a really good female friend. Over the years,

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Speaker 1: we've shared a bed at times, and we've had sex

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Speaker 1: when it was convenient. Other than that, it was more

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Speaker 1: of a roommate type of arrangement. She dated other men

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Speaker 1: and I dated other women. When we were at home,

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Speaker 1: we were best friends that happened to sleep in the

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Speaker 1: same bed sometimes. We never had our boyfriends or girlfriends

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Speaker 1: sleep over, and I was thinking this is a perfect setup.

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Speaker 1: But my roommate flipped the switch and got married last month.

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Speaker 1: She told me that her husband lives in another country

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Speaker 1: and she's been in a long distance relationship for a year.

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Speaker 1: She told me that her husband can't get a visa renewed,

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Speaker 1: so he cannot come back into the US right now.

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Speaker 1: I was really hurt to find out that she'd gotten

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Speaker 1: married on me, and she casually told me like it

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Speaker 1: was no big deal. It broke my heart and made

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Speaker 1: me realize that I'm in love with her. She's also

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Speaker 1: been going through in beetro fertilization IVF to have a

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Speaker 1: was supportive of all of that, and last year I

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Speaker 1: told her that i'd father her child. She brought that

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Speaker 1: her IVF and still have me donate sperm as the

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Speaker 1: father since her husband is stuck in another country indefinitely.

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Speaker 1: I want to be the father of the baby and

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Speaker 1: her husband. So I made an impulsive move and I

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Speaker 1: went and brought her a ring, bought her a ring,

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Speaker 1: and I asked her to marry me. She said she

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Speaker 1: does love me and she would think about it. My

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Speaker 1: life will not be the same if she leaves me.

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, Am I wrong for doing this now? If

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Speaker 1: I'm just jealous and not in love? Wow? This relationship

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Speaker 1: right here, it's really crazy? Okay, different dumb? Can you

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Speaker 1: get you're just in it for convenience anyway you said?

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Speaker 1: I mean, you guys have been friends with benefits for

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Speaker 1: ten years. Ten years. Let me put it this way.

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Speaker 1: You've just been using each other's bodies, never even talked

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Speaker 1: once about a future, dating, moving out, nothing. You guys

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Speaker 1: are just there sleeping together when it's convenient. She's forty

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Speaker 1: years old, still doing this, So what was she supposed

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Speaker 1: to do? Just stay there and entertain you, sleep with

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Speaker 1: you when it was convenient for another ten years? Listen,

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Speaker 1: Life goes on. People change all the time, and that's

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Speaker 1: exactly what she did. She moved on, well sort of, okay,

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Speaker 1: yes and no, she moved on because she did say

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Speaker 1: she think about her proposal. Right, it just gets crazier

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Speaker 1: and crazier, and she wants your sperm for her baby

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Speaker 1: because her husband is out of the country indefinitely. What

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Speaker 1: all right? I think you know, regarding the ring and everything,

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Speaker 1: I think you got kind of scared because your normal

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Speaker 1: is about to change. No more free, convenient sex for you,

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Speaker 1: so you did get impulsive and go out and buy

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Speaker 1: for the simple fact that she's already married. That's a

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Speaker 1: But then you know, you guys don't look at each

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Speaker 1: other that way. I mean, it takes something drastic to

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Speaker 1: and you don't even know if that's really what's going on.

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Speaker 1: You two people are confused. It's been convenient and like

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Speaker 1: thing from you, this letter is crazy, That's all I

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Speaker 1: this letter is to accept, to just honestly tell you all,

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Speaker 1: the letter that I don't think is really valid. Been

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Speaker 1: dating this lady for ten years, you live with her.

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Speaker 1: She's a good friend. Y'all share bad at times. Y'all

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Speaker 1: back and say she dated other men. I dated other women,

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Speaker 1: But when we were home, we were best friends that

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Speaker 1: perfect setup, so he said it was. She told me

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Speaker 1: that her husband lives in another country. She's been a long,

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Speaker 1: husband can't get his visa renew so he can't come

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Speaker 1: back to the US. Right now, what, what, where the

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Speaker 1: hell did that come from I just write out the

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Speaker 1: damn let him. You were just talking about how convenient

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Speaker 1: it was, what he good, what it was, how y'all

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Speaker 1: don't bring your girlfriend boyfriends over, and you were thinking

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Speaker 1: of the perfect dinner. Then she told me her husband

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Speaker 1: live in another country. Keep it right back. It's a

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Speaker 1: damn lie. We'll have part two of your response coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: subject I asked a married woman to marry me. We'll

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Let's recap if we can. Today's Crazyberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: the subject I asked to marry a married woman to

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Speaker 1: marry me. I asked a married woman to marry me.

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Speaker 1: I think this letter a bunch of bullcrap. I really

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Speaker 1: really do, mann't. I don't doubt that he wrote the letter.

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Speaker 1: I don't doubt nothing he said. He lived with it

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Speaker 1: is what he thought was just a really good friend.

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Speaker 1: They sleep together, share bed at times, never had their

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Speaker 1: boyfriend girlfriends over. You know, we just roommates that type

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Speaker 1: of arrangement. You know, she dated other men. I date

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Speaker 1: other women, you know, and uh, you know when we

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Speaker 1: at home. Were the best of friends to have him

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Speaker 1: to sleep in the same bed. But my roommate flipped

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Speaker 1: a switch. Ain't got married last month she told me

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Speaker 1: her husband lives in another country and she's been along.

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Speaker 1: Just what now he got a stupid boy and can't

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Speaker 1: get his visory nude, so he cannot come back into

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Speaker 1: the US right now? Definitely, boy, then here he go.

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Speaker 1: I was really hurt to find out she got married

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Speaker 1: no big deal. That's cause brother, you getting played. I

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Speaker 1: think the whole marriage was a lie. It broke your heart,

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Speaker 1: and it made me realize that I'm in love with her.

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Speaker 1: What ten years, dude, ten years. It don't take no

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Speaker 1: man ten years to know a damn thing. It don't

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Speaker 1: take no woman ten years to know nothing. It don't

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Speaker 1: take a damn child. A child can learn how to

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Speaker 1: walk in less than ten years. You can get potty

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Speaker 1: trained in less than ten years. You can learn how

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Speaker 1: to drive a car in less than ten years. You

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Speaker 1: can find a boyfriend in less than ten years. You boy,

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Speaker 1: you know ten years. She's also been going through in

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Speaker 1: vitro fertilization to have a baby because she really wants

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Speaker 1: a child. She's forty. I was supported of all that.

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Speaker 1: Last year. I told her I'd father her child. She

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Speaker 1: bought that up and told me she ready to go

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Speaker 1: ahead and have me donate the sperm as the father

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Speaker 1: since her husband is still stuck in another country. Infinitely,

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Speaker 1: I want to be the father of the baby and

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Speaker 1: her husband. So I made it imposed move, and I

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Speaker 1: went out and bought a ring, asked her to marry me.

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Speaker 1: She said she does love me, and she would think

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Speaker 1: about it. You can't be married and think about it. Dog,

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Speaker 1: Listen to me, My life will never be the same

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Speaker 1: as she leaves me. Stephen Shelly, Am I wrong for

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Speaker 1: doing this now? And what if I'm jealous and not

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Speaker 1: in love? Hey, stupid, listen to me. You in love

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Speaker 1: and you are jealous, and you said it? What if

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Speaker 1: I'm just jealous and not in love? See, let me

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Speaker 1: tell you what did happened y'all? He only he want

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Speaker 1: her now cause somebody else got him, or I think

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Speaker 1: she's playing him and ain't really got no husband, and

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Speaker 1: they got tired of that arrangement and then told him

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Speaker 1: she had one, So now you want her cause somebody

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Speaker 1: else want her? And then in the letter. She turned around.

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Speaker 1: She only want you for your sperm. I don't really

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Speaker 1: because when you said will you married me, she said,

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Speaker 1: I think about it. You can't have a husband, and

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Speaker 1: in vitro and you gonna volunteer the sperm. And look, man,

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Speaker 1: she'd been wanting this baby the hold on the whole time.

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Speaker 1: She's been wanting you to do it. She trying to

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Speaker 1: play it off like she don't want to get married.

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Speaker 1: That's why she casually said I have a husband now,

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Speaker 1: and your dumb ass went, what now? You went and

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Speaker 1: bought a ring that she didn't thought about it. Now,

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Speaker 1: suppose she come back and tell you, you you know what,

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Speaker 1: I am gonna marry you. But the clicker is supposed

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Speaker 1: she does this. I just told you I was getting

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Speaker 1: married to see what you was gonna do. I can't

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Speaker 1: put it past her. That'll be good. Then he'll see

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Speaker 1: if he's really in love with her or just jealous jealous.

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Speaker 1: Whatever happens. Dog, you got whatever coming to you, it's

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Speaker 1: gonna come to you now. Why don't you just say, hey, look,

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Speaker 1: I love you I've known it for a while. I'm

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Speaker 1: too old to play these games. I don't want nobody else. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I want to marry you. Let's go and if she

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Speaker 1: go down to that courthouse and get married, then you

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Speaker 1: know goodn't here? Well it wasn't nobody else, but you

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Speaker 1: really won't it anyway, right or don't you? Yeah? This

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Speaker 1: is ugly dog. You got played. You got played with that,

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Speaker 1: I got somebody. Well that's it man, you got played, pimp. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: welcome to the ride. Ever been played? Ever been played? Junior? Yeah? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Ever been played? Tommy, of course a hundred times. Ever

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Speaker 1: been played? Jay? You ask me, why are you saying me?

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Speaker 1: When he brought it up in bade me think about it,

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Speaker 1: I was you were fine? Play? Yeah? Who happened? That's

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Speaker 1: how you learn from your mistakes. Was with me the

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Speaker 1: night before? Out with the other dude? Really? Junior? Happening? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: At the top of that, Junior to that let's get dude,

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Speaker 1: the other dude came to pick her up and she left. Okay, checkmate, Jay? Okay.

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