WEBVTT - Body Image & Weight Gain During Pregnancy

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<v Speaker 1>Who baby, my baby, belof I need you, Oh how

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<v Speaker 1>I need you? What do you expect? As a production

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<v Speaker 1>of I Heart Radio, I'm your host Heidi Murkoff and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a mom on a mission, a mission to help

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<v Speaker 1>you know what to expect every step of the way.

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<v Speaker 1>You probably already knew this going in, and if not,

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<v Speaker 1>you definitely found out along the way. A mom's body

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<v Speaker 1>takes one for the team. During pregnancy, your body changes

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<v Speaker 1>in ways that you almost certainly expected, those bigger boobs,

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<v Speaker 1>that swelling belly, and in ways you almost certainly didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>There's nothing more beautiful than a body devoted to the

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<v Speaker 1>growing of a new human life. Every change your body undergoes,

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<v Speaker 1>those pounds you add happens for a reason. Wondering how

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<v Speaker 1>to embrace your new curves, the ones you're acquiring or

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<v Speaker 1>already acquired, but hoping to stay on the healthiest curve

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<v Speaker 1>when it comes to your weight gain. Today, we're getting

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<v Speaker 1>real about your changing body, what's just temporary, what's for keeps,

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<v Speaker 1>and what you can do to keep yourself and your

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<v Speaker 1>pregnancy healthy as you and baby grow. I'm here with Emma, Hey, Emma, hey, mom.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's been a minute since you were pregnant. It's

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<v Speaker 1>been it's longer minute since you've been pregnant. I still

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<v Speaker 1>feel the effects of my pregnancy. Yea, So we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>talk about how we felt about our pregnant bodies. You first,

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<v Speaker 1>I actually really liked my pregnant body. I think that

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<v Speaker 1>you know that first few months, I was a little

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<v Speaker 1>little anxious, like when I had just gained a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of weight. I started to show pretty early, so

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<v Speaker 1>it's like that in between are you or aren't you

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<v Speaker 1>kind of situation, And then my boobs got really big

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<v Speaker 1>and they were already they were the perkiest they've ever been.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I felt sexy when I was pregnant,

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<v Speaker 1>especially the second time, because my husband made me feel sexy.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think there's nothing more beautiful than a pregnant body.

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<v Speaker 1>I totally agree. I loved my pregnant body so much.

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<v Speaker 1>From what I can remember, I loved my belly. I

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<v Speaker 1>love my boobs. My only regret was that I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>get to show any of it off. You have the

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<v Speaker 1>chance to wear all those cute maternity clothes. I had

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<v Speaker 1>those maternity jeans and they had an elastic panel like

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<v Speaker 1>up to your boobs, and they were so short, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean the ham on the bottom, it was so so ugly.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I only have what two polaroids of my

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<v Speaker 1>pregnancy because because we didn't have a camera, there's no

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<v Speaker 1>photo graphic evidence. Your belly was something that you couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>show off naked back then. That's so sad, that's so

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<v Speaker 1>I love wearing a bikini when I'm pregnant. Just let

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<v Speaker 1>it all hang out. I mean, I wish I could

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<v Speaker 1>do it all over again. So the best parts for

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<v Speaker 1>you about your pregnant body, boobs or my boobs. And

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<v Speaker 1>I had a little bit of butt for the first

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<v Speaker 1>time in my life, the curves. I felt sexy, obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>like my nose got a little water and I got

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<v Speaker 1>the acne. But besides that, I was loving it. And

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<v Speaker 1>Simon was loving it too. Yeah, I mean honestly, like

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<v Speaker 1>you're softer when you're pregnant, you look softer. I was

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<v Speaker 1>living my best life and I was pregnant. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I felt the prettiest when I was pregnant. How

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<v Speaker 1>did you feel about your body after? Well? With my

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<v Speaker 1>first I was in my twenties and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh cool, I'm just gonna bounce back, and that's not

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<v Speaker 1>how it happened. Actually, I remember being on the floor

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<v Speaker 1>of the Victoria's Secret Pink dressing room like crying because

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't fit into sweatpants. I remember that I was

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<v Speaker 1>with you, Yeah, you are with me, And then I

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<v Speaker 1>got like a belly bandit and that really helped me

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<v Speaker 1>feel better, help my posture a lot. I think that

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<v Speaker 1>you know it takes nine months to grow a baby,

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<v Speaker 1>give yourself at least nine months. I think you say

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<v Speaker 1>this to lose it. And personally, I don't look the

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<v Speaker 1>same as I did before I had a baby. I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm never gonna look the same. My boobs are certainly

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<v Speaker 1>not going to look the same. You get a baby,

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<v Speaker 1>you give you a few other things. For me, the

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<v Speaker 1>scariest part were the boobs because when my milk came in,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it was like four four days postpartum, and

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<v Speaker 1>it was very dramatic and it was like the boobs

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<v Speaker 1>at eight Manhattan exactly. Yeah, they were, so I can't.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember like going into the bathroom of my room

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<v Speaker 1>at the hospital and I've lifted up my down and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, holy crop, So what do you struggle with? Still? Though,

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<v Speaker 1>if anything, I struggle sometimes looking in the mirror with

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<v Speaker 1>my boobs. And you know, I definitely got a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of cellulite when I was pregnant and that stayed around

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<v Speaker 1>and that's okay. I'm learning to embrace it. And the

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<v Speaker 1>thing is this on Instagram, there's this thing that people

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<v Speaker 1>are doing where they're putting like glitter on their stretch

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<v Speaker 1>marks on their stomach, and I think it's so beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>or like creating art with it. I think that embracing

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<v Speaker 1>your mom stripes is such a beautiful thing. It definitely is. Absolutely.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's take a quick break, and when we come back,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm answering the biggest questions you have about weight gain

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<v Speaker 1>and body image during pregnancy. Okay, mom, so let's get

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<v Speaker 1>real about our bodies during end after pregnancy. Let's how

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<v Speaker 1>much weight should a woman gain when they're pregnant. I

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<v Speaker 1>think I gained like thirty five fish. That sounds about right. Truthfully,

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<v Speaker 1>the best person to answer that question is not me.

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<v Speaker 1>The best person is your doctor midwife. So as soon

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<v Speaker 1>in pregnancy as you possibly can, you need to ask

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<v Speaker 1>for that magic number. And that magic number varies a

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<v Speaker 1>lot from mom to mom. How many pounds you should

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<v Speaker 1>plan on gaining is going to be based not just

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<v Speaker 1>on general guidelines, but on your specific body, and everybody

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<v Speaker 1>is different in case you haven't noticed. So that's it.

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<v Speaker 1>For the average weight woman, to thirty five pounds is

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<v Speaker 1>usually considered the sweet spot, so that you definitely fit

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<v Speaker 1>comfortably into that. I mean it might have been thirty seven,

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<v Speaker 1>it might have I don't know. I stopped weighing at

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<v Speaker 1>the end. So that's enough to nurture your baby and

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<v Speaker 1>also to lay on some extra fat stores that you're

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<v Speaker 1>actually going to need later on for breastfeeding. That's the

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<v Speaker 1>padding on the arms and the butt and the thighs

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<v Speaker 1>and all those womanly places that all of us are

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<v Speaker 1>gonna pack on. It's enough, but it's not so much

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<v Speaker 1>that you're piling on extra risks with those extra pounds,

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<v Speaker 1>and that can happen if you really exceed those weight

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<v Speaker 1>gain recommendations. Now. Just as important as a total amount

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<v Speaker 1>of pounds, though, is the rate you gain them at.

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<v Speaker 1>So the goal the objective would begin gain maybe a

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<v Speaker 1>handful of pounds in the first time master give or take,

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<v Speaker 1>and then in the second and third timemesters about a

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<v Speaker 1>pound a week. But that's an average, So it could

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<v Speaker 1>be half a pound one week, and a pound and

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<v Speaker 1>a half the next week, and then three quarters of pounds.

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<v Speaker 1>So as long as it averages out to about a

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<v Speaker 1>pound a week, you don't have a thirty pound baby.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank God. Yeah, hopefully right. So what is all that

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<v Speaker 1>extra weight? Yeah, I would say seven pounds was of you.

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<v Speaker 1>Was plenty of enough for me to push out. So

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<v Speaker 1>you know all those pregnant women with the perfect bellies

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<v Speaker 1>and they say, oh my god, you're all baby, but

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<v Speaker 1>that's not really true. Nobody's all baby because the baby

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<v Speaker 1>is just about a quarter of a total weight game

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<v Speaker 1>for an average wekenn. So the rest is extra fat,

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<v Speaker 1>stores extra fluids. You've got to include about three pounds

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<v Speaker 1>of retain water, two pounds of amniotic fluid, about four

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<v Speaker 1>pounds of extra blood. And then you've got your supersized breasts,

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<v Speaker 1>so they're going to add anywhere between one and three

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<v Speaker 1>pounds or ten or ten. Even your uterus adds about

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<v Speaker 1>two pounds, and I'm not even talking about what's inside

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<v Speaker 1>your uterus. Just your uterus itself grows by two pounds.

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<v Speaker 1>And then the average placenta is about a pound and

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<v Speaker 1>a half, so it all adds up, and it's supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to just three pounds of water weight. Come on, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I was way puffier than that, especially in

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<v Speaker 1>my cheeks. You know, you're supposed to retain water. Your

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<v Speaker 1>body eats those extra fluid so it holds onto more

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<v Speaker 1>of them, So when it's in your face and your feet,

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<v Speaker 1>it might feel like more fluid than it actually is,

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<v Speaker 1>and you might not think all that's swelling, so swell,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's normal. I had a mom recently tell me

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<v Speaker 1>that she felt like a cactus when she was pregnant

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<v Speaker 1>because she was prickly and retained water. There's just one

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<v Speaker 1>important caveat make sure you check with your doctor if

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<v Speaker 1>you suddenly have severe swelling, especially in your face or

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<v Speaker 1>your hands and above above the knee, so that it's

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<v Speaker 1>not just in your feet and your feet is more

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<v Speaker 1>likely to be normal if you suddenly have excessive weighting,

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<v Speaker 1>and this could happen in late and pregnancy or postpartum,

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<v Speaker 1>and it could be a sign of a complication like

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<v Speaker 1>pre eclampsia, So make sure you check in about that.

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<v Speaker 1>What if you have problems gaining weight, or what if

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<v Speaker 1>you have a problem watching the numbers go up and

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<v Speaker 1>you get stressed out when you do, maybe because you

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<v Speaker 1>had an eating disorder in the past or something. And

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<v Speaker 1>and even though you know it's the right thing for

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<v Speaker 1>your body, seeing those numbers creeping up can give you anxiety.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, this is such an important conversation to have

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<v Speaker 1>and have it openly. So I'm really glad that we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to talk about it now. So many women, so

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<v Speaker 1>many women have had some kind of disordered eating at

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<v Speaker 1>one point or another in their lives. And many women

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<v Speaker 1>have a really unhealthy relationship with their scale and with

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<v Speaker 1>their eating habits and their body image. And it's easy

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<v Speaker 1>to panic when you gain weight, but gaining the right

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<v Speaker 1>amount of weight during pregnancy it's not only okay, it's necessary,

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<v Speaker 1>it's vital. It's vital to your pregnancy health and to

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<v Speaker 1>your baby sealth. And for some moms, I would say

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<v Speaker 1>it's best just to avoid the scale altogether, except for

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<v Speaker 1>the monthly weigh ins that you get at your doctor

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<v Speaker 1>midwife's office, and then for your sanity. For some moms,

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<v Speaker 1>it's way better if the nerve just doesn't say the

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<v Speaker 1>numbers out loud, like, just records them and doesn't say anything. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>if you have an eating disorder or you've ever had

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<v Speaker 1>an eating disorder and you feel like you're struggling again

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<v Speaker 1>once the weight starts piling on. Please please please talk

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<v Speaker 1>to your doctor midwife and get a referral to a

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<v Speaker 1>therapist or a nutritionist or both who can help you

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<v Speaker 1>talk through those feelings so you can start feeling good

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<v Speaker 1>about eating wealth for yourself and your pregnancy and your baby,

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<v Speaker 1>and feel good about gaining weight. And it's so important.

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<v Speaker 1>And here's where a healthy body image during pregnancy is

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<v Speaker 1>really key. No, you don't want to exceed the weight

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<v Speaker 1>gain recommendations because that's not healthy, but you definitely don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to fall short of them either, because that's not healthy.

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<v Speaker 1>In fact, it's less healthy. This is the time to

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<v Speaker 1>let go of weight gain phobia, to welcome the weight gain.

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<v Speaker 1>So what can you do if you haven't gained any weight,

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<v Speaker 1>or you're not gaining enough off weight. If you need

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<v Speaker 1>to start packing on the pounds, you need to eat more,

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<v Speaker 1>and you don't have to eat more at each meal,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's really hard to eat a lot when you're

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<v Speaker 1>pregnant and it makes heartburn all those tummy troubles. So

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<v Speaker 1>instead of trying to fit it all into two or

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<v Speaker 1>three meals. You want to do the six meal solution

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<v Speaker 1>and eat small amounts frequently and focus on high calorie

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<v Speaker 1>foods that are also high in nutritions, so you know,

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<v Speaker 1>seeds and nuts and avocados. What if you gained a

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<v Speaker 1>lot early on, like say, twenty pounds by the halfway point,

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<v Speaker 1>should you slam on the brakes and try not to

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<v Speaker 1>gain anymore? You know, that happens a lot, and it

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<v Speaker 1>often happens to moms who well, either they're super hungry

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<v Speaker 1>instead of super sick. Yeah, that's gonna go either way.

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<v Speaker 1>Or they could be feeling sick and the only thing

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<v Speaker 1>they're comforted by is ice cream, you know, and fries.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's understandable. That happens, and it can be something

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<v Speaker 1>of a shock when you step on the scale and

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<v Speaker 1>you're like, oh, no, crap, I just gained twenty pounds

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm only you know, eighteen weeks. But you definitely

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't slam the brakes on your weight gain because the

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<v Speaker 1>second half of your pregnancy is that's the prime growing

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<v Speaker 1>time for your baby, and that means it's prime growing

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<v Speaker 1>time for you. So you've got a game weight you

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<v Speaker 1>can't rely on the pounds you're already added for fueling

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<v Speaker 1>that baby making production lines, so you're gonna have to

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<v Speaker 1>keep adding them, just maybe a little bit more gradually.

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<v Speaker 1>And the best thing to do is to talk to

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<v Speaker 1>your doctor midwife and figure out a weight game plan

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<v Speaker 1>for the rest of your pregnancy and to meet it.

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<v Speaker 1>To focus on foods that pack the most nutrition for

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<v Speaker 1>the fewest calories, so you know, veggies, fruits, lean protein,

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<v Speaker 1>little fat, dairy. The thing to remember is you shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>go fat free, because fat is essential for your pregnancy health.

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<v Speaker 1>But to go lower fat if you're trying to limit

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<v Speaker 1>the number of pounds you're gaining. And definitely fit fitness

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<v Speaker 1>and all pregnant women should get, you know, unless they've

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<v Speaker 1>been restricted in their activity. They should get thirty minutes

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<v Speaker 1>of exercise a day, and you can definitely do more

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<v Speaker 1>of that, even if it's just power walking or streaming.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not a fitness kind of gal, so I power walked.

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<v Speaker 1>Walking is a great exercise for pregnancy. Also it helps

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<v Speaker 1>like with nausea, getting fresh air, so it definitely does.

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<v Speaker 1>The ideal exercise actually for pregnancy is swimming. If you

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<v Speaker 1>can get into water, it helps with all of those

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<v Speaker 1>aches and pains and waits. It also helps with extra

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<v Speaker 1>fluid retention. Okay, and I have to ask what about

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<v Speaker 1>our boobs? When do they go back to normal after

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<v Speaker 1>having a baby. Do they ever go back to normal?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna go with no, Well, I guess would. It

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<v Speaker 1>would depend on your definition of normal. Chances are really

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<v Speaker 1>good you're not going to have exactly the same breast

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<v Speaker 1>that you had going in before. When I would lay down,

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<v Speaker 1>they didn't go to my sides and now they do. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's that's one of the possible. Also, my nipples and

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<v Speaker 1>now the size of texas, So there's that. So I

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<v Speaker 1>would say you probably aren't even going to know exactly

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<v Speaker 1>what you're going to end up with if your breastfeeding

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<v Speaker 1>until after you wean your baby. And I'm not gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 1>Pregnancy can take a toll on the girls. There is

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of growing going on. Often there are stretch

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<v Speaker 1>marks involved, their changes in the color and the size

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<v Speaker 1>of your ariola's and when it's all over, including breastfeeding,

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<v Speaker 1>you might find yourself how do we put this deflated?

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<v Speaker 1>That's normal wear and hair. And by the way, the

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<v Speaker 1>saggy is not caused by breastfeeding. It's caused by pregnancy. Again,

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<v Speaker 1>your results may vary depending on genetics, how big your

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<v Speaker 1>breasts were to begin with, how much support you provide

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<v Speaker 1>them during pregnancy. But here's what we have to remember.

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<v Speaker 1>Your breasts were born to do this. They rise to

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<v Speaker 1>the occasion when they have to, and we should celebrate

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<v Speaker 1>them and embrace them no matter what. And free the nipple.

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<v Speaker 1>Free the nipple. Yes, Okay. What's the biggest surprise moms

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<v Speaker 1>have about their postpartum bods? Okay, so I I remember

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<v Speaker 1>clearly looking down at my belly for the first time

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<v Speaker 1>after delivery and being totally shocked that I still look pregnant. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>I did not look that much different than when I

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<v Speaker 1>checked into the hospital, And I think that is the

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<v Speaker 1>biggest surprise for most moms. You know, the baby has

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<v Speaker 1>left the building, the building still looks six months pregnant.

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<v Speaker 1>Seven months pregnant, and you lose a lot of weight overnight.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you lose about twelve pounds or so. That's significant,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's not everything that you gain, not by a

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<v Speaker 1>long shot. And the rest comes off over time, and

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<v Speaker 1>it can take some time, and include it includes a

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<v Speaker 1>whole lot of accumulated fluids that you're gonna lose over

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<v Speaker 1>the months, And initially you might notice that you're a

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<v Speaker 1>lot puffier than you might have thought. Like you thought

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<v Speaker 1>pregnancy puffy, postpartum not puffy, not so and you retain

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<v Speaker 1>water after delivery, but especially if you had an epidural,

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<v Speaker 1>because they pump you full of a lot of fluids

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<v Speaker 1>during an epidural and later on. I think most moms

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<v Speaker 1>are not prepared for the extra skin around their bellies.

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<v Speaker 1>You may think, oh, I'm back to my weight and

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<v Speaker 1>who is this? Don't sip up, it doesn't make any sense.

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<v Speaker 1>But one thing you should be on the lookout for

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<v Speaker 1>is if you have a separation of your abdominal muscles.

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<v Speaker 1>You'll notice a little kind of a pooch between your

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<v Speaker 1>abdominal muscles, especially when you bend down to get something,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's called the die stasis wrecked. I um, you

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<v Speaker 1>don't need to know that. All you need to know

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<v Speaker 1>is it's super common late in pregnancy and you might

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<v Speaker 1>not notice it during pregnancy, but usually it happens then

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<v Speaker 1>and it doesn't always heal on its own. So you

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<v Speaker 1>can do some really easy exercises. I have them in

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<v Speaker 1>the book there on the website on the app to

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<v Speaker 1>help you close the gap, and that can help you,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, get back on the road to recovery for

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<v Speaker 1>your ABS. And it's really important not to do any

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<v Speaker 1>abdominal workouts until that gap has closed, because you can

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<v Speaker 1>do more damage. Here's the thing we have to keep

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<v Speaker 1>in mind. It takes nine months for your body to

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<v Speaker 1>change to gain that pregnancy weight, and it takes at

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<v Speaker 1>least that long to lose the weight and also to

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<v Speaker 1>get back to some kind of semblance of what you

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<v Speaker 1>kind of sort of remember as normal. I mean, let's

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<v Speaker 1>say that your body is never going to be exactly

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<v Speaker 1>the same even after you lose all the weight. But

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<v Speaker 1>we should all wear our mom bodies with pride. We

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<v Speaker 1>earned the stretch marks, we earned the c section scars,

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<v Speaker 1>we earned the slack skin. That's why I love when

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<v Speaker 1>moms share their unfiltered photos of their real post bartom

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<v Speaker 1>bodies and embrace them for what they have achieved and

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<v Speaker 1>not what others perceived. And we're never ever ever gonna

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<v Speaker 1>let a mom be body shamed postpartum just not going

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<v Speaker 1>to happen on our watch. The more we tell each

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<v Speaker 1>other that, the more we're gonna be able to personally

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<v Speaker 1>accept it. So let's keep the conversation going. It doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>matter what necessarily is happening on Instagram. You know, there's

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<v Speaker 1>so much more to it. And you know, honestly, I

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<v Speaker 1>see women on Instagram all the time who were pregnant

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<v Speaker 1>with these tiny arms or or they just gave birth

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<v Speaker 1>and they're like rocking a bikini and they look amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>And yeah, I looked great after I had a baby,

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<v Speaker 1>but not like that, and it's hard. You're like, wait, what,

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<v Speaker 1>why isn't my body doing that too? So you know what, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I get it. No, yourself, know what you can handle

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<v Speaker 1>after you give birth? No, like can I handle seeing people?

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<v Speaker 1>Do I need a break? I want to end with

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<v Speaker 1>a message I got on Facebook from a mom named

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<v Speaker 1>I See You. She said, I love my body during

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<v Speaker 1>pregnancy and I felt the most beautiful. Like if all

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<v Speaker 1>my flaws I thought I had, then we're vanished. I

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<v Speaker 1>had body issues when I was sin I thought it

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<v Speaker 1>was chubby, but I looked back and I see that

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<v Speaker 1>I was a stick. But now I've learned to love

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<v Speaker 1>myself for what I have done and gone through to

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<v Speaker 1>have two wonderful kids. In this world. I just love that. Emma,

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<v Speaker 1>how about you? I love that so much? Perfect ending

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<v Speaker 1>Amen to that? Who baby love, my baby love. I

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