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Speaker 1: You are now angel what I call her?

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Speaker 2: Ye, it's way up, Angela Ye.

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Speaker 3: And my guy Meno is here.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, good morning.

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Speaker 3: Good morning. We're gonna do some fun things with Maino.

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Speaker 2: I like that, yeah, because he is looking for love

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Speaker 2: and I feel like this is a theme for the show.

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Speaker 5: A lot of people have been calling up a lot

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Speaker 5: of d ms, yeah, trying to get my attention.

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Speaker 3: You are so lit.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, today we also have Resma Mennekam joining us,

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Speaker 2: and he is the author of My Grandmother's Hands, The

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Speaker 2: Quaking of America. He has a children's book out, The

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Speaker 2: Stories from My Grandmother's Hands, and you guys are gonna love.

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Speaker 2: He's a New York Times best selling author, but he

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Speaker 2: has great information and I think you'll really enjoy this

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Speaker 2: today when Resma Menicam, I actually did a book club

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Speaker 2: with him at my coffee shop and people really stayed

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Speaker 2: and people were crying and every thing.

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Speaker 4: I've been in one of your book.

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Speaker 3: Clubs, yes you have. That's a long time ago.

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Speaker 4: All right.

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Speaker 2: Well, let's get this show started with some love and positivity.

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Speaker 2: Let's shine a light eight hundred two ninet two fifty

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Speaker 2: one fifty spread some love, guys, it's what we do.

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Speaker 3: It's way up.

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Speaker 6: Turn your lights on, y'all, light saw it, spreading love

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Speaker 6: to those who are doing greatness.

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Speaker 1: Shine the light on them, Shine light on. It's time

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Speaker 1: to shine a light on them.

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Speaker 3: It's way up.

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Speaker 2: A man to laye manos here, no mana you ready

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Speaker 2: to shine a light mano? Let's do it all right?

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Speaker 2: Today I went to shine a light on Derek Falcon.

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Speaker 2: We were talking about donuts in here this morning.

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Speaker 4: Holy moly, donut shit.

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Speaker 2: And he owns a donut shop called Cloudy Donut.

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Speaker 3: It actually started off in Baltimore.

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Speaker 2: Maryland, in twenty twenty, and he now has two locations

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Speaker 2: in New York, one in Brooklyn Heights and it was

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Speaker 2: the first black owned business in Brooklyn Heights. Got out

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Speaker 2: the hell man, and that's not an easy thing. But

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Speaker 2: these are vegan donuts too, by the way, and they're delicious.

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Speaker 2: They have like all these amazing different flavors oft but

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Speaker 2: not super sweet. And he said he spent you know,

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Speaker 2: he did spend eleven years of his life in prison.

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Speaker 2: He spent two years in solitary confinement, and then after

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Speaker 2: that he came home and started his own business. And

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Speaker 2: so I just want to shout out to him for

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Speaker 2: that there one in Manhattan and no leader in Manhattan,

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Speaker 2: all right. So he actually opened that during Black History Month,

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Speaker 2: the first day of Black History Month. So I think

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Speaker 2: the goal is to open these businesses, but also to

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Speaker 2: do some monumental things, and so shout out to Derek Falcon.

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Speaker 2: He said he has a goal to uplift and provide

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Speaker 2: education to black and people of color that are interested

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Speaker 2: in the culinary space. And yeah, amazing thing to do

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Speaker 2: quality products, connecting with the local community, hiring a diverse

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Speaker 2: All of this I feel like is important, all right,

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Speaker 2: So shout out to you, Derek Falcon.

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Speaker 3: Now, who do you guys want to shine a light on?

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Speaker 2: Eight hundred two nine two fifty one fifty desiree, who

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Speaker 2: do you want to shine a light on?

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Speaker 7: I want to shine a light on my husband, my

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Speaker 7: beautiful husband of almost four years. He is an amazing

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Speaker 7: black father, hard working fellow. Okay, So I just wanted

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Speaker 1: Oh that is so sweet.

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Speaker 3: And what does he do exactly?

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Speaker 7: So he's actually an assistant manager at Home Depot.

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Speaker 8: Okay, he's worked his way up for our family ever

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Speaker 8: since our three year old, ever since he was born.

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Speaker 7: He worked his way up from just a department supervisor

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Speaker 7: all the way to assistant store manager in the past

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Speaker 7: three years.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, Okay, we'll shout out to him and shout

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Speaker 2: out to everybody who works at Home Depot. We appreciate

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Speaker 2: you for being knowledgeable because I don't be knowing nothing.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, uh, I'm trying, so yes, what a scuy?

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Speaker 2: All right, well, thank you for callings desiree.

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Speaker 3: Yes, thank you.

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Speaker 7: For having this segment. We need more positivity out here.

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Speaker 2: Thank you absolutely, thank you. Have a great day you too. Well.

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Speaker 2: I was shining a light eight hundred two nine fifty

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Speaker 2: fifty if you still want to shine a light on somebody,

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Speaker 2: but you couldn't get through. And when we come back,

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Speaker 2: let's talk about a boogie with the hoodie. He dropped

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Speaker 2: a new EP and it's called Alone. Feels like he's

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Speaker 2: going through it. It's way out.

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Speaker 6: Yea t is next Yo, She's about to blow the

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Speaker 6: lid ab off this spot.

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Speaker 1: Let's get it. Oh yeah, Angela's feeling at ye come

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Speaker 1: and get the tea.

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Speaker 2: It's way up by Mangela Ye manos in the vilading

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Speaker 2: Man and a booking with the Hoodie dropped a new EP.

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Speaker 2: I don't know was this something that was planned, did

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Speaker 2: It's called alone and people are saying and it makes sense.

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Speaker 2: It's in response to his I guess on again off

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Speaker 2: again girlfriend, I don't know, like okay. Look, so according

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Speaker 2: to reports, uh, you know, she was allegedly messing around

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Speaker 2: with her quote unquote friend, Marcy Diaz's boyfriend she has.

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Speaker 3: Marcy has a child.

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Speaker 2: With him, and allegedly, you know, Marci is accusing her

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Speaker 2: of messing with her man. And so then a Boogie

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Speaker 2: had jumped into the conversation and said, I'm really DTB

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Speaker 2: for life. Lol bes be worse than N words. That's

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Speaker 2: what he said. I don't trust yeah yeah life, Yeah

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Speaker 2: for life. And that's after all of this was happening online.

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Speaker 2: And then Ellen Bans was basically like hate when m

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Speaker 2: we're try to tell me what to do. You ain't

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Speaker 2: my daddy, I'm not your baby. Try my best to

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Speaker 2: love you in this world. We end, and then a

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Speaker 2: boogie posted alone a boogie with the hoodie. It's an

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Speaker 2: this is a way that he's you know, therapeutically going

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Speaker 2: through it. But here is part of the song. It's

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Speaker 4: Oh No, did you do love me?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 2: Because a lot of people were in the comments like

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Speaker 2: you cheated all these times and now you can't read

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Speaker 2: you know.

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Speaker 5: So the best music come when you're going through something,

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Speaker 5: that's what they say.

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Speaker 3: And here is another snippet of a song called dt N.

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Speaker 1: Came home the next day you told me I'm a job.

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Speaker 2: So at least he's taking some accountability and responsibility for

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Speaker 2: the fact that maybe she's had enough. You have to, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: And in the.

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Speaker 2: Previous post he's done, you know, years back, he's apologized

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Speaker 2: to her for things that he's done and losing what

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Speaker 2: he has to love. And it's interesting because Elabanza is

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Speaker 2: also on that show The Impact New York, right, and

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Speaker 2: so we get to see some of.

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Speaker 5: Us it's been in that situation, having to take accountability

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Speaker 2: And to realize that maybe this is happening because of

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Speaker 2: the things I've done for you to you in the past,

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Speaker 2: all right now. People also were speculating that Little Dirk

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Speaker 2: and India were having some issues with each other because

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Speaker 2: they were online and she posted phone took literally back outside.

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Speaker 2: I'm a dog too. I don't want to change him.

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Speaker 2: That's what India said. So people were like, oh, here

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Speaker 2: it goes again. And Little Dirk had this to say, they.

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Speaker 4: Don't too much like titles. Man, if you with me,

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Speaker 2: Me right right, and then the two of them after that,

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Speaker 2: because it feels like they break up and get back

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Speaker 2: together all the time. They had broken up for quite

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Speaker 2: and here they are in live together right after all

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Speaker 2: this happened.

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Speaker 3: So I guess everything is I'm.

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Speaker 4: Feeling them though. I don't like titles. Neither we know.

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Speaker 3: But you do want to get married though?

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Speaker 4: Who said that?

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Speaker 3: I thought that's what we were turning to.

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Speaker 5: No, you never said that. You're throwing that out there

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Speaker 5: like you it's propaganda.

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Speaker 3: Okay, we're gonna work on that now.

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Speaker 2: Adrian Bilin is talking about her IVF journey and she

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Speaker 2: talked to people about it. She said she did eight

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Speaker 2: cycles of IVF, but that doesn't include the amount of Iuis.

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Speaker 2: I did in every other kind of imaginable treatments that

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Speaker 2: spent over a million dollars easily on trying to do this.

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Speaker 4: And did it work.

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Speaker 2: She ended up getting a surrogate and that worked. So

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Speaker 4: She's the other way didn't work.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that way did not happen for her, but she

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Speaker 2: did welcome her son via sarrogate in August of twenty

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Speaker 2: Them, all right, and that is your yet. And when

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Speaker 2: we come back, we have about last night. That's where

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Speaker 2: we discussed what we had going on. Last night. I

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Speaker 2: was doing lift service and it was chaotic. Because chaotic

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Speaker 6: So about last night, Yes, I went down.

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Speaker 2: It's way up A man to la yee manos here

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Speaker 2: no man no, yes, And we're talking about last night.

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Speaker 3: I feel like I haven't seen you in a long time.

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Speaker 4: No, because it's like you've been ducking me.

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Speaker 3: What were you doing Last night, I was on a.

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Speaker 5: Plane trying to get away from Florida, trying to get

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Speaker 3: You love Florida. You would talk.

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Speaker 2: You came in here talking about the weather's so nice,

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Speaker 3: You was supposed to have been back.

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Speaker 5: I don't know what happened, man, Well ninety Degreeze's just like.

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Speaker 3: I had a good night last night.

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm a real estate agent, so I actually

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Speaker 2: was lacking in a listing yesterday. So I'm excited about that.

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Speaker 2: It will be my second one that I got myself.

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Speaker 2: But in addition to that, I was recording lip service

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Speaker 2: last night. Shout out to Skill, a baby who came through.

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Speaker 2: He has a new project coming out. Actually, is it

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Speaker 2: coming out on Friday? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Okay, but his episode comes out next week.

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Speaker 2: But Scrappy, a little Scrappy and Chaotic, they have a

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Speaker 2: new show pick Aside that's coming out actually I think tomorrow, yep, tomorrow.

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Speaker 3: Now that's TV.

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Speaker 2: And one thing that we were talking about is everybody

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Speaker 2: thinks that little Scrappy and his Emiani's mother, Erica from

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Speaker 2: Love and Hip Hop, are back together.

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Speaker 3: Erica Dixon.

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Speaker 2: He says they're not, but it's very confusing. And they

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Speaker 2: don't have sex, but they hang out together and that

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Speaker 2: he loves her, but they don't anything, and he doesn't

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Speaker 2: Now it's way up on Angela ye menos in the

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Speaker 2: out today and Scrappy is talking about his relationship with Erica.

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Speaker 3: Here's what he said.

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Speaker 9: I look at it like, if I'm gonna do something

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Speaker 9: just taking this that like we're gonna we're gonna go

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Speaker 3: But might not be together?

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Speaker 2: Right? Erica is really his soul mate, all right? He

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Speaker 5: There and it was strictly about my daughter. And last

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Speaker 3: Co parenting.

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Speaker 2: So if you had a girlfriend though, with that have

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Speaker 5: Nah, because I'm telling that comes with the package. I'm

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, let's see what you guys think. Eight

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Speaker 3: What do you think?

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Speaker 2: What's up? So tell us what you think. Me and

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Speaker 2: Made don't want to know. Would you be okay with

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Speaker 10: I would be okay with it, depending on the circumstances.

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Speaker 10: It would have to literally be Erica and scrappy situation

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Speaker 10: type thing. They've been through so much. They have an

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Speaker 10: It's healthy for the kid, it's helpy for everybody around.

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Speaker 10: It's just about the other pertinent insecurities. It can't be insecure,

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Speaker 10: and you got to know how to keep your man.

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Speaker 2: That's it, okay, don't be insecure and know how to

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Speaker 4: And know how to keep your man. You know how

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Speaker 2: All right, sure do but you know he did say

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Speaker 10: Yeah, at the end of the day, they have a child,

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Speaker 10: This is before the baby. After the baby, they might

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Speaker 2: Okay, it feels like you've been through this before.

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Speaker 4: Going through it now.

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Speaker 10: I mean at the end of the day, I'll there

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Speaker 4: You got here.

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Speaker 3: Hey, Daminic, what's up?

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Speaker 5: Hi?

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Speaker 8: So I have two year old twins with my ex

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Speaker 8: and right now we function as a family. We go

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Speaker 8: on trips together, we go to dinner together. We spend

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Speaker 8: a lot of time together. But we're not together. But

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Speaker 8: we don't have sex or anything like that.

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Speaker 2: Do you guys sleep in the bed together when you

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Speaker 2: go on chips or separate rooms or how does that work?

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Speaker 10: We will usually.

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Speaker 8: Do like a like a double bed in the room.

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Speaker 8: We be in the same room, but with the kids,

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Speaker 8: like he'll have one and I'll have the other.

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Speaker 2: Does he try do you think he wants to spend

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Speaker 2: the Black and you don't want to or yeah, absolutely,

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Speaker 2: see that's the problem right there.

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Speaker 4: I don't well, I don't think nothing is wrong with something.

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Speaker 2: Like that, though, the problem is he's still trying to

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Speaker 2: hit and why won't you let him?

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Speaker 8: I'm just not interested. He's been through a lot together,

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Speaker 8: so for my mental health, it's just not It wouldn't

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Speaker 3: What's that? Window closes? That's it?

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Speaker 2: All right, guys, Well, thank you for calling.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, Shamanique?

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Speaker 2: Hey, what's that? What do you think about this? Because

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Speaker 2: you date somebody who was still taking tips with their ex.

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Speaker 11: No, I definitely wouldn't.

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Speaker 7: But because I feel like if they're taking trips with

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Speaker 7: the point of taking trips with your ex, Like it's something.

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Speaker 4: More to you because you have a kid with them?

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Speaker 5: And then what if it's your daughter's birthday and you

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Speaker 5: want to take your daughter away for a birthday, but

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Speaker 5: the mother comes along, Because that's just the nature of

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Speaker 3: It's very personal.

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Speaker 5: Man.

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Speaker 11: Yeah, yeah, I mean that's true.

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Speaker 8: But most times people they are not meet each other,

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Speaker 8: but they're doing more.

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Speaker 4: So that's not true.

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Speaker 5: And if me and you was together you're gonna date

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Speaker 5: me even though I have to take my ex somewhere.

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Speaker 2: You're gonna drop him up at the airport, pick him up.

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Speaker 5: Absolutely, Yeah, you're gonna do it. No, no, yeah you will.

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Speaker 5: You will trust me?

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Speaker 3: All right? Well, thank you for calling.

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Speaker 7: You're welcome.

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Speaker 3: Don't say you too, all.

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Speaker 2: Right, Well, thank you guys for calling in and picking

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Speaker 2: a side with that one. It feels like, in general

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Speaker 2: people can see the maturity of that, but it also

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Speaker 2: feels like it depends on your own circumstances and things

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Speaker 2: you've been through.

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Speaker 4: And the communication. Right, so somebody has.

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Speaker 2: To say, like, yo, look, you can't lie, right, you can't.

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Speaker 4: You can't say I'm going on trip with my homies

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Speaker 4: and then you're going with your.

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Speaker 2: Ex or act like you're just going with your kid

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Speaker 2: and not mention the mom is going to be. Then

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Speaker 2: it feels like you're hiding something. Yeah, all right, Well,

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Speaker 2: when we come back, we have yet and let's talk

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Speaker 2: about Quavo versus Chris Brown. And it's getting really ugly here.

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Speaker 2: I wonder if it's going to stop there. I don't know,

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Speaker 2: you don't think so, all right, it's way up? YEA

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Speaker 8: Like they angela Jean like they angela Jean Man.

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Speaker 1: She's spilling it all. This is yeat, way up.

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Speaker 3: It's way yup.

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Speaker 2: I'm angela yee manos here y yeah. Okay, well let's

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Speaker 2: get into some yeat. These disc tracks going back and forth. Now,

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Speaker 2: you know, Chris Brown put out this song called Weakest Link.

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Speaker 2: He's going at Quavo. The two of them have had

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Speaker 2: this beef and I guess it all started because of

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Speaker 2: Kruci over ladies, yeah, over women. And here is originally

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Speaker 2: what Chris Brown had to say where he references Takeoff

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Speaker 9: All right, Pete take Off, he'd the only real one

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Speaker 9: that got true respect crazy how when he died everybody

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Speaker 9: really wished it was you as dead?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 2: Well, Quavo then went ahead and put out his song

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Speaker 2: over hose and b words okay, and he attacked Chris

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Speaker 3: I see you think it real hard man?

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Speaker 4: Know you addressed that line right there too.

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Speaker 2: Though, yes, yes he did for sure. And here is

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Speaker 2: what Quavo had to say. Look, they come dance battle

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Speaker 2: with my drake.

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Speaker 4: Who okay?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 2: And you know as far as women, here is what

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Speaker 2: Quavo had to say, and he definitely was going at

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Speaker 2: Chris Brown and alections against Chris Brown attacking Tianna Taylor.

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Speaker 2: Here's what he said, Rouge like that, I like, I like,

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Speaker 2: I like both of them. All right, Well, look and

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Speaker 2: there's more, all right, because of course we know Quavo

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Speaker 2: used to date Sweety and people are saying that, and

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Speaker 2: Chris Brown is saying that he had a situation with

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Speaker 3: And we'll get to this in a second.

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Speaker 2: Sweety did post a d M, and they're paying attention

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Speaker 2: in particular to the date of the DM that she posted.

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Speaker 3: Will tell you why.

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Speaker 2: But here's what Quavo had to say in response to

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Speaker 2: all of what Chris Brown had to say about Sweetie.

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Speaker 2: And you know, I can take a muddle make a sweetik. Yes,

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Speaker 2: you know it's hard to you know me, it's very harsh,

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Speaker 2: but I'm like, okay, I guess that's what it's going

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Speaker 2: to be. It's a rab battle, you know, I'm nice

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Speaker 5: It ain't always peachy, it ain't always fun, you know,

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Speaker 5: sometimes the dogs gotta eat.

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Speaker 3: And Sweety definitely had something to say.

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Speaker 2: Sweety always, by the way, appears to be unbothered in

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Speaker 3: And because Quavo said that he.

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Speaker 2: Could turn a model into Sweeten into Sweedie, she said,

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Speaker 2: hopefully the model he turns into me, replies, and then

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Speaker 2: she posted the fact that he had been dming her,

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Speaker 2: you know, And yeah, she posted those dms as well.

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Speaker 2: But the date of the DM is January fourteenth, and

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Speaker 4: Oh wow, she's the internet is undefeated.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, the same day I always started sitting right next

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Speaker 3: to Chris Brown.

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Speaker 4: Oh wow.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, well that is your Yet when we

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Speaker 2: come back, we have under the radar. These are the

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Speaker 2: stories that are not necessarily in the headlines. They are

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Speaker 2: flying under the radar, and it is the end of

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Speaker 2: an error for everybody who loves to shop at Express.

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Speaker 2: I remember those days. We're gonna miss you Express. We'll

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Speaker 2: talk about it. Under the radar.

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Speaker 1: It's way up this in the news that relates to you.

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Speaker 1: These stories are flying under the radar, all right.

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Speaker 3: It's way up on Angela.

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Speaker 2: Ye, Meno's here and It's time for under the Radar now.

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Speaker 2: I told you it is the end of an era.

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Speaker 2: Express has filed for bankrupt Are you ever used to

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Speaker 4: I've shopped in there once or twice.

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Speaker 2: Yes, they're gonna close nearly one hundred stores as they

445
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Speaker 2: are trying to find investor groups to save that brand.

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Speaker 3: But they have filed for a Chapter eleven bankruptcy.

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Speaker 2: They also own Bonnobos and Up West, and so they're

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Speaker 2: going to close those stores too.

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Speaker 3: They expect this to happen starting today. I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 3: Express was my joint.

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Speaker 4: Just drove by Express store yesterday.

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Speaker 3: They had one in Shore Hills, MO. I don't know

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Speaker 3: if that one closed yet.

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Speaker 2: There were certain stores that I really miss mm hm

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Speaker 2: all right, well, you know, shout out to them. They're

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Speaker 2: trying to figure it out, and I would hate to

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Speaker 2: see Express go. Remember American Apparel that used to be

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Speaker 2: my store too. Just that's an easy that's been gone, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: That's just an easy when you needed to get some basics.

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Speaker 3: They had a lot a drama too with the owner.

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Speaker 3: I think of that one all right now.

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Speaker 2: A Carnival Cruise Ship Rescue twenty seven Cuban migrants. These

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Speaker 2: migrants were on a rickety wooden boat that was bound

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Speaker 2: for the United States.

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Speaker 3: This Carnival Paradise had set sail from Tampa.

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Speaker 2: That's when they spotted these twenty seven people and they

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Speaker 2: set a course to intercept their craft. With the high

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Speaker 2: seas rescue taking place on Sunday around two thirty pm.

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Speaker 2: The cruise ship was on the way to Honduras when

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Speaker 2: it spotted these Cubans. All twenty seven were taken aboard

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Speaker 2: the ship. They were given food, they were given medical

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Speaker 2: checkups and yes, they it's crazy.

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Speaker 4: They were a cruise and they're having it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they were taking aboard the boat and ship back

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Speaker 2: to Cuba though, according to the Coastguard. But I am

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Speaker 2: glad that they did manage to save their lives and

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Speaker 2: feed them make sure that they were good little Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you know, that's a scary thing. And people

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Speaker 2: your yet. And let's talk about Kanye West. He's back

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Speaker 2: in the news.

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Speaker 12: You know.

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Speaker 2: He did this interview with Justin Leboy and he had

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Speaker 2: a lot to say about j Cole Kenjack Lamar. He

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Speaker 2: made some inappropriate jokes about Michelle Obama. We'll discuss it.

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Speaker 2: It's way up, they says in.

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Speaker 6: The rooms from industry shade to all of gossip out

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Speaker 6: Angela's feeling that.

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Speaker 2: Ye, what's up his way up at Angela, Ye, I'm Angela,

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Speaker 2: Ye manos in the building.

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Speaker 3: All right, let's get into some yet right away.

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Speaker 10: Now.

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Speaker 2: Kanye West was on justin the Boys the Download podcast.

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Speaker 2: I guess that's a new podcast that he has, and

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Speaker 2: he talked about a lot of different things. First, he

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Speaker 2: talked about J Cole and the whole apology to Kenjack Lamar.

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Speaker 3: Here's what he said, man, because it's like this J

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Speaker 3: Cole went on tour Drake, he know what it is.

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Speaker 4: It's like he can't run. Now it's you also all

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Speaker 4: this like it's up for Cole too.

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Speaker 3: If you say Cole, you can't say up and Cole

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Speaker 3: in the same sentence, now.

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Speaker 12: You know.

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Speaker 2: He did also just J Cole on the like that remix,

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Speaker 2: but that got taken off of YouTube, by the way,

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Speaker 2: that remix that Kanye had put out the Metro Boom

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Speaker 2: in the Future song. I guess that got put down

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Speaker 2: taken down because it didn't go through the proper channels.

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Speaker 4: I don't know right he did. He put it out hisself.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think he put it out. It's on his

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Speaker 2: website also, or it was on his website z dot

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Speaker 2: com And so I guess you got to go through Sony, right,

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Speaker 2: Sony was supposed to put it out if you want

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Speaker 2: to do that now. Another thing that he talked about

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Speaker 2: was threesome. Who would he like to pick to join

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Speaker 2: him and his wife in a threesome? Here's what he said,

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Speaker 2: you can.

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Speaker 4: Pick anyone in the world. There's just one person.

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Speaker 1: Michelle Obama got the.

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Speaker 4: President's why.

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Speaker 2: And if you're interested, that phot interview comes out on Monday.

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Speaker 2: That is so disrespectful. President wife Michelle Obama would be like,

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Speaker 2: I'll pass, thank you, all right.

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Speaker 3: Anyway.

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Speaker 2: He also in this interview called kaisat an industry plan

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Speaker 2: and said that he's on the wrong side. You know,

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Speaker 2: I'm sure when we get this full interview to come

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Speaker 2: out with him and Justin Leaboy, it'll be a lot

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Speaker 2: more to it, all right. Now, Big Sean is on

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Speaker 2: the cover of Essence, and you know he just had

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Speaker 2: a kid, to his first kid, so congratulations to him, Jinnaiko. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: they both had they had a kid together, and he's

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Speaker 2: talking about being the father of Detroit rap, adding his

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Speaker 2: own legacy to so many different artists, I mean after

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Speaker 2: Eminem probably big Sean was like a really big artist

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Speaker 2: out of Detroit.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but the way the way that he didn't say

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Speaker 4: it right.

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Speaker 3: But that's what they said in the article.

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Speaker 2: It's not like he's saying I'm your daddy to everybody

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Speaker 2: in Detroit, but you know so many different Detroit artists

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Speaker 2: because he's also a father, So maybe they're doing a

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Speaker 2: play on the word father. But he's saying that being

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Speaker 2: a father has understandably taken precedence for him over everything,

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Speaker 2: and so that's why he hasn't been really putting out,

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Speaker 2: you know, music and projects the way that he normally would.

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Speaker 2: He said, one of the biggest lessons of fatherhood that

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Speaker 2: I love is just enjoying the simple things. I feel

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Speaker 2: like I kind of lost touch with that before having

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Speaker 2: my son. And what I mean by that is if

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Speaker 2: I'm walking with him outside just looking at the sky,

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Speaker 2: looking at a plant, he'll want to reach out for

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Speaker 2: a flower, and then I admire the flower too, and

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Speaker 2: I appreciate him because even though he's my son, it's

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Speaker 2: like he's teaching me. That's amazing. Did you feel like

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Speaker 2: that absolutely about your son? He still ain't got your

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Speaker 2: name tattooed on him.

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Speaker 3: But that's so hard. That's good enough, all right, Well,

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Speaker 3: shout out to Big Sean for that.

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Speaker 2: And when we come back, we have asked Yee eight

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Speaker 2: hundred two nine two fifty one fifty is a number

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Speaker 2: any question that you have, we are here to help

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Speaker 3: New Mano.

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Speaker 6: This way up, whether it's relationship or career advice, Angela's

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Speaker 6: dropping facts.

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Speaker 1: You should know.

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Speaker 3: This is ask what's up? Its way up with Angela.

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Speaker 2: Ye, I'm Angela Yee and the award winning advice giver

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Speaker 2: Mano if here and we have Phoenix on the line

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Speaker 2: with the Phoenix. Hey Aaron, you, hey Mano, what's going on?

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Speaker 3: What's your question today? Phoenix?

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Speaker 11: So, I have a work friend who's the male and

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Speaker 11: this person is married, he has kids. I've met his

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Speaker 11: wife and I've also met his kids. He's always been like,

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Speaker 11: very flirty and everything. But it's not mutral, like it's

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Speaker 11: not that at all on my end.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you're not responsive to his flirting, right, but.

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Speaker 11: He recently cut off all communication with me, like unfollowed

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Speaker 11: me on Instagram. And my question is when his wife

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Speaker 11: approaches me.

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Speaker 2: How do I go about that?

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Speaker 3: Because you know his wife is going to approach you.

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Speaker 2: Nothing happened, right, But should you be honest you mean

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Speaker 2: about him being flirtatious because she might already know, because clear.

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Speaker 11: I don't honestly don't know what to say. Should I

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Speaker 11: just be like, oh, whatever he said.

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Speaker 4: Just flirting is not really nothing major.

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Speaker 2: And the thing is he can deny it, and so

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Speaker 2: then you'll be looking like you just cause some issues

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Speaker 2: if he denies flirting because he didn't do anything right.

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Speaker 4: No, he didn't. I would stay away from that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would just be like, listen, all I know

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Speaker 2: is like, that is I know his situation. That's not

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Speaker 2: even a question. So regardless of if anybody did ever

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Speaker 2: flirt with me, it depends on how she comes at

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Speaker 2: you never happened, yeah, Because also he could just say

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Speaker 2: I wasn't flirting. He can deny it unless there's some

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Speaker 2: like hard evidence, and then you're gonna end up looking crazy, right,

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Speaker 2: and he can The good thing is that nothing happened,

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Speaker 2: and so he could act like you're making something bigger

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Speaker 2: than what it was. Oh, that didn't happen. She's lying,

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Speaker 2: and that could be really awkward for you. I think

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Speaker 2: the main thing is thank God that you weren't responsive

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Speaker 2: to this, and you can just say to her, look,

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Speaker 2: I don't know you know what you're thinking. All I

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Speaker 2: know is I can only speak for myself, and that's

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Speaker 2: not something I would ever do. So you know, on

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Speaker 2: my end, there's nothing to ever worry about, right, that's all.

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Speaker 2: And as far as was he inappropriate, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't even pay attention to that, So if he was,

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Speaker 2: that's not even something that I would pick up on.

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Speaker 3: All right, thank you, Phoenix. Good luck with that. All right?

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Speaker 2: Well that is ask ye And when we come back,

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Speaker 2: we have therapists. Resma Menicam joining us. He's also a

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Speaker 2: New York Times best selling author. He has his children's

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Speaker 2: book out, The Stories of My Grandmother's Hands. If you

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Speaker 2: haven't read his book, My Grandmother's Hands, I suggest you

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Speaker 2: do that. You're going to love this conversation.

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Speaker 1: His way up, you way up with Angela Yee. More, now,

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Speaker 1: what's up?

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Speaker 3: Its way up with Angela Yee.

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Speaker 2: I'm Angela Yee and we have a really special guest,

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Speaker 2: and I know you're going to love this conversation today.

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Speaker 3: Rasma Medicam is here first.

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Speaker 12: Time on way up, Yes, my first time, my first time.

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Speaker 2: But let's talk about who Resma Menicum is. Just for

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Speaker 2: people who are listening, what would you say when somebody

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Speaker 2: was like, oh, what do you do?

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Speaker 12: Primarily? I am a author, I am a clinical of

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Speaker 12: been a clinical social worker specializing in racialized trauma and violence.

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Speaker 12: I've been doing this work for thirty five years. Yes

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Speaker 12: you have, yeah, yeah, and so did a lot of

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Speaker 12: stuff with trauma and a lot of stuff with couples.

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Speaker 2: Right now, I'm talking to therapists and trauma specialist Rasma Menicam.

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Speaker 3: You know, I want to ask you about something that

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Speaker 3: had went viral.

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Speaker 2: Right, So, Ragie was talking about how as black people

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Speaker 2: we can run when we laugh, and she talked about

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Speaker 2: how that is something that is also racialized trauma, so

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Speaker 2: to say, because we weren't allowed to laugh, And a

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Speaker 2: lot of people were like, what is she talking about?

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Speaker 2: But then there were some people that were like, no,

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Speaker 2: she's absolutely correct, So can you break that down absolutely?

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Speaker 12: So there's this kind of phrase that I use, is

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Speaker 12: that just the march of time can decontextualize trauma. So

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Speaker 12: what I mean by that is that trauma decontextualized, untended

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Speaker 12: to over time, and a person can look like personality.

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Speaker 12: Trauma untended to in a family over time can look

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Speaker 12: like family traits. Trauma untended to in a people can

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Speaker 12: look like culture.

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Speaker 4: Right, like me and you.

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Speaker 12: If me and you cool when we're friends and something happened,

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Speaker 12: somebody walks through that door and hurts me badly, right,

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Speaker 12: and then next week you call and check up on me,

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Speaker 12: and I'm saying says I'm good, I'm good, And then

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Speaker 12: you see me the week after that and I'm acting strange.

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Speaker 12: You would immediately contextualize they Let me call Maria, let

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Speaker 12: me call his wife and see because just last week

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Speaker 12: I saw that happen to him, so we got to

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Speaker 12: get resmeus some help.

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 12: That's contextualizing it, right. What if you never saw it

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Speaker 12: and I'm acting crazy though, right right now it looks

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Speaker 12: like my personality. What if my reflexes like every time

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Speaker 12: you say something, I got more energy than I should

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Speaker 12: have in a particular thing.

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Speaker 4: Right, you say one thing and I'm hyped about it.

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Speaker 12: Those are the things that over time look like personality

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Speaker 12: but are actually trauma responses. I'll give you another one

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Speaker 12: and we make it part of culture. So I remember

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Speaker 12: my mother on Saturdays cleaning the house like incessantly. And

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Speaker 12: if you didn't get up at seven.

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Speaker 4: O'clock in the morning and help her.

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Speaker 12: And if you're supposed to wash the dishes and you

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Speaker 12: left a spoon in the sink, you getting it right.

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Speaker 12: What we don't realize is that many people, many many

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Speaker 12: of our people, had become adults early. So now that

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Speaker 12: the response to that is or this is just how

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Speaker 12: black people do, when it actually might be a response

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Speaker 12: to trauma. It might be a response to the things

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Speaker 12: that happened to us, and then we got organized around it.

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Speaker 12: Now it looks like, oh, that's just who black people are, that's.

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Speaker 2: Just what we do, all right. Resma Menicam is here.

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Speaker 2: He's a New York Times bestselling author. He's a psychotherapist

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Speaker 2: specializing in the effects of trauma on the human body.

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Speaker 2: And we have more with him when we come back.

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Speaker 2: It's way up, Way up with Angela Yee.

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Speaker 9: More.

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Speaker 2: Now, what's up as way up with Angela Yee. I'm

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Speaker 2: Angela Yee and Resma Menicam is here. He's an author

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Speaker 2: and a psychotherapist. You know him from his book The

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Speaker 2: Quaking of America and My Grandmother's Hands and now the

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Speaker 2: children's book, the Stories from my Grandmother's Hands. All right, now,

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Speaker 2: what made you decide that it's time to make that

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Speaker 2: into a children's book.

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Speaker 4: That's that's a good question.

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Speaker 12: So actually, a lot of black women kept asking me

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Speaker 12: when I was going to do something for kids, because

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Speaker 12: they'd like to have something to read to kids. A

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Speaker 12: lot of black women read My Grandmother's Hands.

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Speaker 2: Because that also is a great way to open up conversations.

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Speaker 2: That's exactly right, you know, like just a little bit

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Speaker 2: of it. If you want to just please please, you

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Speaker 2: go right ahead.

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Speaker 12: Yes, So the first line in the book is called

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Speaker 12: it says, my grandmother's hands picked cotton, and then there's

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Speaker 12: a painting of really it's from my grandmother's hands, who

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Speaker 12: was a very thin woman, but she had thick pads

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Speaker 12: in the middle of her fingers. And that's because at

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Speaker 12: the age of four, her daddy was a sharecropper and

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Speaker 12: so when she would pick the cotton at four, it

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Speaker 12: would rip her hands out. So along with the book

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Speaker 12: an album, a download album down the Yeah, so there's

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Speaker 12: an album that goes along with the book. And also

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Speaker 12: in the book, so The book actually comes out for

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Speaker 12: sale in September, and people will get a download the

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Speaker 12: book Florida. They probably gonna burn it in Florida, but

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Speaker 12: they'll get it. The music actually is what also helps

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Speaker 12: to deepen the words because each line has a whole

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Speaker 12: song to it.

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Speaker 3: That's amazing.

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Speaker 2: Right now, I'm talking to therapists and so I'm a

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Speaker 2: specialist Resma Menekaan.

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Speaker 4: All of my books have albums to it. Okay.

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Speaker 12: One of the things that I want people to do

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Speaker 12: is I want people to find a way into what

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Speaker 12: I'm trying to say any way that they can. So

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Speaker 12: whether it's art, whether it's books where there's music, whatever

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Speaker 12: it is. I'm writing a screenplay right now. I'm writing

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Speaker 12: a play right now. So what I'm trying to do

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Speaker 12: is create kind of this network of art and books

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Speaker 12: and talks and everything. So when our people start to

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Speaker 12: begin to say, okay, maybe I need to address these

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Speaker 12: particular pieces that I work, is something that they can

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Speaker 12: just lay with and be with and play with in

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Speaker 12: whatever way that they need to.

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Speaker 2: All Right, well, listen, I know we could go on,

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Speaker 2: and I know you'll be back because the book comes

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Speaker 2: down in September. The Children's book, the Stories on My

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Speaker 2: Grandmother's Hands, also the album that's coming along with it,

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Speaker 2: and people can get the vinyl.

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Speaker 12: They can get the vinyl on my website at restme

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Speaker 12: dot com or go to a Black Octopus Soociety dot com.

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Speaker 2: I know you're going to be doing some amazing things

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Speaker 2: too for the laws of the book. Oh yeah, because

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Speaker 2: you have great commentary just even on current events, for

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Speaker 2: people to be able to understand and relate the stories

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Speaker 2: from your books and the things that you're telling us

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Speaker 2: to what's happening in the world. So I appreciate you

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Speaker 2: for that. Thank you all right, well, thank you so

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Speaker 2: much for ReSm Medican. And you can also get the

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Speaker 2: Quicking of America. You know, you can get My Grandmother's Hands,

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Speaker 2: and you can also get the book that I'm going

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Speaker 2: to be picking up next because I want to make

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Speaker 2: sure that I read this as well. So Master's in love,

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Speaker 2: all right, It's way up and you can watch that

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Speaker 2: full interview on my YouTube channel Way Up with ye

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Speaker 2: And when we come back, you guys have the last word.

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Speaker 1: Take up the phone to get your voice heard. What

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Speaker 1: the word is the last word? On Way Up with Angela.

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Speaker 3: Yee, what's up?

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Speaker 2: Is way up put Angela yee, I'm angela ye. And

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Speaker 2: Meno's in the building.

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Speaker 3: Listen.

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Speaker 2: I just got an unexpected check today.

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Speaker 4: I like those. So I got a couple of checks

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Speaker 4: in here too though, just pop right up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I like when that happened. It makes you feel like

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Speaker 3: you did something good.

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Speaker 2: Blessed it blessing even though it's money you earns.

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Speaker 4: When it comes, it's really.

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Speaker 3: Good because I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 2: I just had like an old tax bill I didn't

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Speaker 2: know about for my business corporation tax, and I was like,

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Speaker 2: what with the penalties? And I was like, man, sometimes

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Speaker 2: you spend some money and then it ends up coming

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Speaker 2: back to you. So that's a great feeling. That's why

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Speaker 2: you gotta be a multitasker and a multi hyphen it

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Speaker 2: different things.

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Speaker 3: All right, Well, thank you to ReSm. Menikan for joining us.

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Speaker 2: You know, he is a therapist and trauma specialist, and

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Speaker 2: he has a book and it's called The Stories from

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Speaker 2: My Grandmother's Hands.

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Speaker 3: This is a children's but he also has the book.

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Speaker 2: He's a New York Times bestselling author, My Grandmother's Hands,

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Speaker 2: The Quaking of America and just great knowledge. So you

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Speaker 2: can watch that foot interview on Way Up with Ye.

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Speaker 2: I got to go to La this week.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, me too, Yeah you did seek.

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Speaker 3: Yeah we always miss each other.

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Speaker 4: Yeah you know.

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Speaker 2: But don't forget you.

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Speaker 3: Guys. You have the last word.

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Speaker 2: And ladies, Mino is available and he is looking to

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Speaker 2: get married one day and settle down.

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Speaker 3: Don't be afraid to shoot your shot.

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Speaker 13: Hey, I am the baby mother that traveled with her

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Speaker 13: ex husban. But I traveled with the ex husban and

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Speaker 13: his wife and nothing. We have been divorced for about

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Speaker 13: sixteen seventeen years and we have not handsick on those

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Speaker 13: trips or we with his friend.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, this is Matt.

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Speaker 10: I'm trying to try a light on my mom.

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Speaker 3: I just want to say I appreciate her so much.

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Speaker 8: He does so much for me, take care of me.

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Speaker 9: And really looked out for me.

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Speaker 4: I just want to say thank you so much.

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Speaker 10: It's not from hobo, and thank you.

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