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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rep An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello, we are scrubbing in. This is Tanya and we

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Speaker 2: have a very special guest co host today and his

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Speaker 2: name is Robbie.

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Speaker 3: So good to be here.

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Speaker 4: Scrubbing because I can sense your nerves.

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Speaker 3: I'm nervous. Listen. It's my third time now. The first

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Speaker 3: couple of times, I was definitely a little bit nervous.

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Speaker 3: I never felt like I was quite myself. But I'm

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Speaker 3: gonna try to try to pull it off today.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna try to be yourself today. I can already

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Speaker 2: sense your not self.

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Speaker 3: Miss Let's see, it's early, it's ear. We're going to

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Speaker 3: work our way into this.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay. So I didn't want to say.

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Speaker 3: What am I doing this? Not myself though, just so

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Speaker 3: I can like be aware of it.

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Speaker 4: I don't.

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Speaker 2: I was just like a vibe. Your vibes a little.

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Speaker 2: Your ViBe's a little not yeah, loosen up. Maybe you

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Speaker 2: know I should have had like a glass of wine

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Speaker 2: or something here for you to just like chill you out.

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Speaker 3: It's a little early for a glass of wine, but beer.

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Speaker 4: Okay. Uh. So Becca is off this week.

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Speaker 2: She will be back next week, and so I wanted

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Speaker 2: to have it's been a minute since you've been on,

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Speaker 2: and a lot has happened, uh in our relationship since

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Speaker 2: you've been on, And I just wanted to say it's

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Speaker 2: pretty crazy because we've been together for four years and

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Speaker 2: I'm just like still as obsessed with you as I

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Speaker 2: was in the very beginning.

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Speaker 4: Like I just think it's so cool.

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Speaker 2: I know this doesn't sound so cheesy, but I love

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Speaker 2: that I get to like go to sleep next to

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Speaker 2: you every night and wake up with you in the morning,

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Speaker 2: and like I still get giddy when you come home

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Speaker 2: from work, and like I hope that that never goes away.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, for sure. I mean I feel like I'm

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Speaker 3: more obsessed with you every day, to be honest, no,

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Speaker 3: I mean that I feel like our relationship has just

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Speaker 3: grown so much, and every phase has had its you

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Speaker 3: know things. You go through the honeymoon phase at the beginning,

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Speaker 3: and it's like, oh, so exciting and so new and

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Speaker 3: so fresh, and then you know, now we're a point

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Speaker 3: where we're just like best friends and we like enjoy

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Speaker 3: like just doing everything together, even if it's doing nothing together.

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Speaker 3: So I don't know, it's grown and it's Uh yeah,

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Speaker 3: but it's like.

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Speaker 4: Cool because you're here at my work, you know what

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Speaker 4: I mean.

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Speaker 2: So it's like difference, like my world's colliding, and it's

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Speaker 2: just very exciting.

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Speaker 4: So I'm happy to have you here today.

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Speaker 3: Happy to be here.

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Speaker 4: So we're going to start off.

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Speaker 2: I went to the Facebook group as I wanted to

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Speaker 2: ask the scrubbers like what they wanted to, like specific

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Speaker 2: questions they had for you, and so I kind of

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Speaker 2: clumped two things, just into the general conversation that we

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Speaker 2: can have first and foremost, and then we can kind

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Speaker 2: of get into the like random questions.

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Speaker 3: But where we went straight to questions. We want to

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Speaker 3: talk at all about the engagement shoot from the weekend.

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Speaker 3: I mean, do you want to talk about.

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Speaker 1: This man producing the show?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Really taking the ring? I mean yeah, we could

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Speaker 4: definitely talk about it.

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Speaker 3: We had a great week, like a really cool weekend.

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Speaker 4: We did have a really really cool weekend.

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Speaker 3: Well at these are really cool, like the engagement shoot.

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Speaker 3: I think it was really really cool become a super chow.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but we had Okay, So shout out to Kara Tiller.

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Speaker 4: She is Carra Tiller Photography on Instagram. She crushed it.

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Speaker 3: She was awesome.

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Speaker 4: We had the best day.

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Speaker 2: This was Friday, and we did our engagement photos at

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Speaker 2: Graystone Mansion, which is the venue that i'd really like,

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Speaker 2: I really wanted to do it there, and we were

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Speaker 2: glad that we did them there.

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Speaker 3: It worked out perfectly. And first of all, let me

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Speaker 3: just say I've lived in LA and really in Beverly

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Speaker 3: by that a million times and never knew that it

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Speaker 3: existed like that. Like that, That's what it was. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: We got great weather. Uh and and yeah, Kara was

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Speaker 3: not just that, like the whole experience was. You know,

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Speaker 3: she made it fun. The picks are great and we

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Speaker 3: had a great time and I'm looking forward to seeing

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Speaker 3: so far.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Robbie's creative direction was more Rolling Stone, less Bridal Magazine.

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Speaker 3: I was more Rolling Stone, more Vogue than Bridal Magazine,

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Speaker 3: and I was.

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Speaker 2: Like I wanted the happy, happy, smiley vibes, and I feel.

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Speaker 4: Like we had a good combo getting.

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Speaker 3: A combo both. Yeah, we have some like really like.

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Speaker 2: Sexual ones, see.

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Speaker 3: Like classic, and then we have some more like fun happy,

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Speaker 3: but they're all great, and some candids are great. I mean,

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Speaker 3: just like Love the Picks.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. My favorite part was when Kara was like telling

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Speaker 2: you to like get in there, and like, I like,

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Speaker 2: I know you obviously, and I know when like like

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Speaker 2: you were actually trying to be like sexual with me,

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Speaker 2: I was like, my breath.

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Speaker 4: Was so bad and you're like breathing in my ear.

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Speaker 3: Bath was unfortunate because if oh no, because like we

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Speaker 3: had to be so close to each other. And your breath,

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Speaker 3: by the way, has been great recent. No, No, you're no.

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Speaker 3: You went through a phase. You went through a thing

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Speaker 3: where Becka called you out years ago, where your breath

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Speaker 3: is a little bit stale from time to time. I

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Speaker 4: That's what it's from.

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Speaker 3: But you've been like it's been perfect for the past

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Speaker 3: like several years, and then just so happens on that

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Speaker 3: it was bad, not great, It wasn't terrible.

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Speaker 4: You know, you can sell your own breath.

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Speaker 2: I was like, I can smell my own breath, so

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Speaker 2: I can't even imagine how disgusting.

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Speaker 4: It's so romantic, it's a true fairy tale. Well, I

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Speaker 3: But that's the other thing. I was just thinking, like,

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Speaker 3: it's been my lack of sense of smell, right, because

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Speaker 3: I think COVID, I really do. I think COVID. You know,

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Speaker 3: it takes away people's sense of taste and never took

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Speaker 3: a smell anything. I think it's about a CRUs no.

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Speaker 3: But but okay, but no, I think COVID like took

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Speaker 3: don't know. We're gonna have to be on topic.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so that that's that. But it was like a

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Speaker 4: really really fun day.

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Speaker 2: I had so much fun doing that and it was

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Speaker 2: just really really great, great memory.

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Speaker 3: But I wasn't trying to be like actually sexual, you know,

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Speaker 3: I was just trying to like, yeah, oh okay, well

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Speaker 3: definitely some magic.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So that was Friday, and then we're really into Jenga.

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Speaker 2: So we've been having like Jenga tournaments with the family.

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Speaker 3: That's an understatement, Like we have now formulated an entire

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Speaker 3: tournament system, round robin with points to determine who the

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Speaker 3: family champion is. So far, Tanya is currently the champion.

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Speaker 4: That's right.

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Speaker 3: But we're in the middle of our of a tournament,

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Speaker 3: so we're going to see how it turns out. Tanya

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Speaker 3: has two points. I have one point so far. Others

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Speaker 3: a lot a lot of game left.

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Speaker 4: There was also a.

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Speaker 2: Lot of comments and people that don't really want They

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Speaker 2: just want to get to know, like who you are?

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Speaker 4: You know, like who is Robbie? What is he? What?

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Speaker 3: What? I'm mysterious?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, like what does he do?

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Speaker 2: I don't want to remain mysterious whatever questions, but like

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Speaker 4: What makes you tick? Where'd you grow up? What you know?

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Speaker 4: What's like the Robbie Attigar that we know? And love.

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean, I can't like do like a life story,

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Speaker 3: but like I'll answer whatever question. I mean. Okay, So

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Speaker 3: I grew up in la born and raised here, lived

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Speaker 3: my own firm, god like thirteen years ago now, and

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Speaker 3: So I'm happy to answer like whatever questions people have.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, we'll get into those questions. Do you have

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Speaker 2: anything else you'd like to talk about from the weekend?

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Speaker 3: No, I think that's it, isn't that. I mean, that's

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Speaker 3: basically we Obviously we did a lot of like Survivor

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Speaker 4: Did you get video of me snoring?

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Speaker 3: No? Could not. That was honestly, it's the first time

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Speaker 3: And in the moment I was like, I gotta capture this,

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Speaker 3: probably one of my biggest life regrets so far.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because in my mind, if you have no evidence,

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Speaker 4: it didn't happen.

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Speaker 3: No, it happened.

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Speaker 1: I texted him immediately said, could you please give me audio?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he told me.

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Speaker 3: I told her, yeah, no, I'm going to get it.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to get It's gonna happen again, and I will.

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Speaker 2: You don't have video, it doesn't happen. A snore, I

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Speaker 2: am a I am a ice. Sleep like a little kitten,

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Speaker 3: You sleep like a lot? You do just you're just

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Speaker 3: out and then you wake up in the morning. It's

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Speaker 3: quite a sight to see. Yeah, but I'm not a snore.

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Speaker 3: I have snored.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, from time to time.

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Speaker 3: No, from how many times in the years that we've

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Speaker 3: been together have I snored?

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Speaker 4: Maybe like one hundred.

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Speaker 3: This is is the biggest lie. This is character assassination.

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Speaker 4: Okay, you don't got a lawyer on me.

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Speaker 3: No, that's not uh really one hundred honestly, how many times?

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Speaker 3: A lot?

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Speaker 4: A lot? Yeah, you have not not you have accept them.

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Speaker 3: So all right. So Tanya comes to me, where were

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Speaker 3: we when we were in the Bahamamas? So we're on

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Speaker 3: vacation of the Bahamas, and I got really sick. I

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Speaker 3: Oh no, you just gotta just gotta be free, be yourself.

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Speaker 3: I think that's I think that they're on my side

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Speaker 4: No, no, they're not.

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Speaker 3: We did hear that person walking behind us in the airport, behind.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, we're going to take a break and then

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Speaker 4: Yes, correct, the family.

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Speaker 4: That's you, that's me, Yes, thank you.

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Speaker 3: For being here, my pleasure, thank you for having me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So before we left, we said we wanted your perspective.

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Speaker 2: I got a lot of questions about your side of

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Speaker 4: And when did you know that I was the one?

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Speaker 2: Then they want to know about the planning, like when

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Speaker 4: Like the whole background of it all, all right?

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Speaker 3: So how did I know you were the one? Or

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Speaker 3: like when and when did I know you were the one?

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Speaker 3: Well? I think you kind of, I don't know. I

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Speaker 2: All right, So when you knew well, this question came up.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't. That's not why that was groaning and

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Speaker 3: I don't think you answer it until you get on

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Speaker 3: I think it's just something that you don't. I personally

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Speaker 4: Percent, So right right, you yeah, stuck with her.

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Speaker 3: So that's my answer.

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Speaker 3: The planning was hilarious. Okay, so first, well, actually it

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Speaker 4: Well, the promise ring comes into play at some point.

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Speaker 3: Right, So I'm just going to start talking from kind

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Speaker 3: It just wasn't the right time. There was really a

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Speaker 3: Christmas is coming up. The story is so the promising

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Speaker 3: and the lady who was helping me was she was

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00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:16,640
Speaker 3: a larger woman and she had large hands, and so

440
00:21:16,680 --> 00:21:19,239
Speaker 3: she put it on and it like fit her. And

441
00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:24,000
Speaker 3: I'm like looking at her hands and I was like,

442
00:21:24,119 --> 00:21:27,320
Speaker 3: I guess that's why. I guess that's her hand size.

443
00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:30,640
Speaker 3: It looks bigger than her hands. But I guess, so

444
00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:33,600
Speaker 3: size eight, all right, So I get it and I'm

445
00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:37,160
Speaker 3: gonna get it engraved with kind of the four letters

446
00:21:37,240 --> 00:21:44,200
Speaker 3: that are the foundations of our relationship. And so they're like, okay,

447
00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:46,760
Speaker 3: you know, if you engrave it, just FYI. You know,

448
00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:49,520
Speaker 3: at that point, we can't exchange it. It's personal eye,

449
00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:52,080
Speaker 3: so that's it. I said, yeah, yeah, yeah, let's do it.

450
00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:53,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, she's gonna love it.

451
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:55,119
Speaker 3: She's gonna love it. I really in that moment, I

452
00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:59,320
Speaker 3: was like, she's gonna love this. Oh my god. So

453
00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:02,000
Speaker 3: then they so I go engrave and I pick it

454
00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:03,800
Speaker 3: up whatever in a day or two, and I pack

455
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:06,439
Speaker 3: it up, and I'm and I like hide it and

456
00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:09,080
Speaker 3: I'm just waiting to present it to her on Christmas

457
00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:16,240
Speaker 3: morning and uh so we like wake up and I

458
00:22:16,359 --> 00:22:19,240
Speaker 3: take it out, and I give her this whole speech

459
00:22:20,240 --> 00:22:24,480
Speaker 3: about how, you know, my commitment to her and how

460
00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:26,840
Speaker 3: much she means to me, and I can't wait, you know,

461
00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:28,680
Speaker 3: for the rest of our lives together.

462
00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:30,840
Speaker 4: Meanwhile, he's holding a box.

463
00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:33,639
Speaker 2: So I'm like, oh my gosh, oh my gosh, this

464
00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:36,840
Speaker 2: is happening, right yeah.

465
00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:39,560
Speaker 3: And uh and then there's you know, it's like but

466
00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:44,119
Speaker 3: with everything going on, it's not the right time. And

467
00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:46,040
Speaker 3: so I give her this day and she takes it

468
00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:49,480
Speaker 3: out and the look on her face. It's like it's

469
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:51,719
Speaker 3: like Sonny ran away, Like I told her Sonny ran

470
00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:54,720
Speaker 3: away or something like that, and she was I'll never

471
00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:58,240
Speaker 3: forget that look. It was so sad and I was

472
00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:03,080
Speaker 3: so bummed, But so then that she still tried to

473
00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:07,880
Speaker 3: kind of fake it like she was sweet, she was excited. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

474
00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:09,560
Speaker 3: she was trying to be a good sport about it.

475
00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:11,800
Speaker 3: But then she like took it out of the box

476
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:17,119
Speaker 3: and like tried it on and it was giant, like.

477
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:17,639
Speaker 4: Like wouldn't even I couldn't even fit it on.

478
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:19,480
Speaker 3: My two fingers couldn't fit in that.

479
00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:20,879
Speaker 4: It was like two fingers.

480
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:22,760
Speaker 2: I couldn't even fit it on my thumb. I was

481
00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:25,959
Speaker 2: just like, did you even think about this? Like I

482
00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 2: was like, did you even put any thought into this?

483
00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:30,440
Speaker 2: Did you find this in a like a cracker jack

484
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:31,600
Speaker 2: and like get it engraved?

485
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:33,240
Speaker 3: Of course you didn't say any of that, but you

486
00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:37,119
Speaker 3: were just saying all that with your eyes. Yeah, and

487
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:41,320
Speaker 3: then you know whatever, we kind of we kind of

488
00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:43,840
Speaker 3: let it go. She was in a kind of bummed

489
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:46,760
Speaker 3: out mood for a little while, and I noticed that

490
00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:49,600
Speaker 3: the ring was nowhere to be seen. She was never

491
00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:54,439
Speaker 3: wearing it, uh, and so it was kind of it

492
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 3: was kind of sad. I mean it was really sad,

493
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:58,960
Speaker 3: really sad, good intentions behind it.

494
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 4: No girl wants a ring unless it's the ring.

495
00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:04,520
Speaker 3: First of all, I don't know about no girl, I

496
00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:07,320
Speaker 3: don't know about anything. You knew. Our circumstances were very.

497
00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:09,359
Speaker 4: I understood, I understood.

498
00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:12,360
Speaker 3: So the thought was that, I mean, whatever, in hindsight

499
00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:13,919
Speaker 3: is very funny. And now it's a story that we

500
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:17,320
Speaker 3: tell and I and I wear. Now I wear the

501
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:21,159
Speaker 3: ring on a necklace around my neck right there. This

502
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:27,760
Speaker 3: is on a chain and still like doesn't even come

503
00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:33,360
Speaker 3: close to fitting me. So now it's a funny story. Good,

504
00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:34,960
Speaker 3: good dinner, good dinner conversation.

505
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:37,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, with friends, Yeah, it is very funny with friends.

506
00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:40,119
Speaker 3: All's good. That ends well, Yeah, I had.

507
00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:41,639
Speaker 2: It, like I kept it in the box that he

508
00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:42,879
Speaker 2: gave it to me, and it was just like in

509
00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:45,359
Speaker 2: our bathroom and I just never wore it once.

510
00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:47,880
Speaker 4: It's just stayed there.

511
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:49,600
Speaker 3: No, don't you feel like that about that?

512
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:49,880
Speaker 2: Now?

513
00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 4: Like, don't you feel like I don't, I really don't.

514
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,439
Speaker 3: Such a great guy for thinking of me and like

515
00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 3: wanted to do that for me, And I think.

516
00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:00,440
Speaker 2: It's so sweet that you wear it now. I bought

517
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:02,720
Speaker 2: in the chain that it goes around, and now it's

518
00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 2: like a part of him.

519
00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:07,360
Speaker 4: I love that you were that was a huge ring.

520
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:08,199
Speaker 1: I'm looking at it now.

521
00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:10,960
Speaker 3: You not only is it no, I'm saying it doesn't

522
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:14,400
Speaker 3: itIt me like the and this is yeah, but it's

523
00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 3: not only big in circumference, it's also how like, yeah,

524
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:23,159
Speaker 3: it's a female ring at all. So again it was

525
00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:23,600
Speaker 3: meant to be.

526
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was meant to be where it.

527
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:31,959
Speaker 3: Is right over my heart exactly.

528
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:38,440
Speaker 2: Exactly exactly. So now that the promise ring is has

529
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:42,040
Speaker 2: its new home, let's get into the engagement.

530
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:45,920
Speaker 3: Oh okay, So the engagement was the proposal was delayed

531
00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:50,280
Speaker 3: for family health reasons. It was you know, it took

532
00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:52,960
Speaker 3: a while for for us to be in the clear

533
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:54,639
Speaker 3: of all that and to come out the other side.

534
00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 3: And as soon as I knew that we were coming

535
00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:01,639
Speaker 3: out of the other side of that, I started planning

536
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,439
Speaker 3: again to make sure that it happened really kind of

537
00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:10,159
Speaker 3: as as soon as made sense. And so it was

538
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:12,880
Speaker 3: full systems. It was all full systems go at that point.

539
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 3: And I'd already known, I'd already known where I knew

540
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:23,439
Speaker 3: I wanted to do it at the Mayborne Courtyard or adjacent,

541
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 3: because that courtyard means so much to us.

542
00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:30,800
Speaker 4: And what's so funny, Well, I was.

543
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:33,040
Speaker 3: Just remembering when we were at the Eiffel Tower and

544
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:39,000
Speaker 3: like at midnight and you were the eyes again. I mean,

545
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 3: it was getting from December twenty twenty two to the

546
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:48,520
Speaker 3: proposal in September twenty twenty thirty. There was so many

547
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:55,119
Speaker 3: disappointments and heartbreaks for Tanya along the way, and so

548
00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:57,399
Speaker 3: much press I mean the amount of pressure that I

549
00:26:57,520 --> 00:27:00,760
Speaker 3: felt at the at the Eiffel Tower that night. I

550
00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:04,959
Speaker 3: mean I've wished that upon nobody, but I brought up

551
00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:06,919
Speaker 3: at myself too, So I'm not I'm not. I'm not

552
00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:10,679
Speaker 3: playing the victim here, I mean definitely. Anyways, So it was.

553
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:13,719
Speaker 4: Just the Eiffel Tower was the twinkling Eiffel Tower, the

554
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 4: chess midnight, with the cellist behind us playing all these

555
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 4: like edge sheer and perfect songs and like all this

556
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:24,080
Speaker 4: just the most romantic setting that you could possibly imagine.

557
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:26,719
Speaker 3: It was okay. So then in that moment, I was like,

558
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:30,879
Speaker 3: I have an even more meaningful romantic place proposed to

559
00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:33,960
Speaker 3: you and I and I think I did, and so

560
00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 3: I did you know the fact that the yes, the

561
00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:41,880
Speaker 3: Eiffel Tower is super romantic, the most romantic place on earth. No,

562
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:44,359
Speaker 3: but honestly, you know how many people get proposed to

563
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:47,320
Speaker 3: with the Eiffel Tower every year? Probably thousands? Yeah, true,

564
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:51,120
Speaker 3: a little bit cliched in no offense anybody who gets

565
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:53,960
Speaker 3: engaged there. But for me, I had somewhere that was

566
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:59,840
Speaker 3: really meaningful to us and had been planning on doing

567
00:27:59,840 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 3: it there for a while. So anyways, okay, so the

568
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:05,160
Speaker 3: plan was to do it at the Mayborne Courtyard. Now

569
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:09,479
Speaker 3: we had to figure out dates. And I also, in

570
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:11,919
Speaker 3: addition to doing it and in location, in the location

571
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:16,560
Speaker 3: that I had wanted to do it at, I wanted

572
00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:19,560
Speaker 3: to make sure that I wanted to have our our

573
00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 3: our close immediate family there and for Tanya, her kind

574
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:27,719
Speaker 3: of closest girlfriends who are basically like family, and Brad

575
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:36,360
Speaker 3: and so and Brad uh and so. So. Now begins

576
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:41,080
Speaker 3: the coordination of everybody. Uh. The one huge bummer of

577
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:44,239
Speaker 3: this was that Tanya's parents were at this point in

578
00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 3: Serbia for what was going to be six months and so,

579
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 3: I mean they were or maybe five months, but it

580
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 3: was like half the year. And I said to Tanya,

581
00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:56,080
Speaker 3: I said, listen, I want to do this that you know,

582
00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:58,160
Speaker 3: now that you know the health stuff is behind us,

583
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:01,680
Speaker 3: I want to do this, but I want to give

584
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:04,400
Speaker 3: you the option of waiting for when your parents are back,

585
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 3: or you know, doing it sooner, because I know how

586
00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:11,040
Speaker 3: important it is. You know, we both wanted this to

587
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 3: happen really soon, and her parents are gonna be gone

588
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 3: for so long, and listen, if they were gone for

589
00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 3: a week, two weeks, three weeks, that's one thing that

590
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,760
Speaker 3: they were gone for so long. So we both decided that,

591
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:25,120
Speaker 3: you know, we would do it without them there, and

592
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:29,280
Speaker 3: we would incorporate them obviously, and we did. And but okay,

593
00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 3: so now it was coordinating with my family, her brother

594
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:40,080
Speaker 3: and sister and their families and the friends, and so

595
00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:42,120
Speaker 3: first I reached out to the families and kind of

596
00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 3: tried to throw out a few days and weekends, and

597
00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 3: it also had to be a weekend that I have

598
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:51,120
Speaker 3: the kids, because I wanted my kids to be there

599
00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:55,960
Speaker 3: and be a part of it. And so again we

600
00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 3: had limited days and times, started a couple of text

601
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:01,080
Speaker 3: chains the family was in, and then I reached out

602
00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 3: to her friends on one big group text which became

603
00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:08,280
Speaker 3: titled no Tanya or not Tanya, like Tanya with a

604
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 3: bunch of exes so that no one would accidentally spill

605
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 3: spill the beans her because we had to keep it

606
00:30:14,680 --> 00:30:17,760
Speaker 3: a secret. And that was the funniest text chain of

607
00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 3: all time because your friends. First of all, they were

608
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 3: so excited and so congratulatory, and that was cool because

609
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:25,760
Speaker 3: I didn't, you know, first I told them that I

610
00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 3: was doing it, and a lot of like love and

611
00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:30,400
Speaker 3: back and forth with them, and I love them like

612
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:34,440
Speaker 3: my family too, so it was really really really special.

613
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 3: And then we had to coordinate days. And so there

614
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 3: was one weekend basically that we that I had narrowed

615
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 3: it down to, and it could have been that Friday,

616
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:48,600
Speaker 3: that Saturday, or that Sunday. Friday, there were certain people

617
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:51,320
Speaker 3: on my family who couldn't make it and one of

618
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:56,600
Speaker 3: her friends. Saturday, everyone could make it, except that she

619
00:30:56,760 --> 00:31:00,080
Speaker 3: was going to the Jonas Brother's concert with half of

620
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 3: that group with Brads. Uh, So Saturday was in play

621
00:31:07,080 --> 00:31:09,400
Speaker 3: because everybody could make it, but we would have had

622
00:31:09,440 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 3: to not they would have had to not go to

623
00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:15,720
Speaker 3: the concert, so basically tricker as though they were going

624
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:18,080
Speaker 3: to the concert and then bring her to the proposal

625
00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 3: site we decided because we were able to make Sunday

626
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,320
Speaker 3: work even though a couple of people had to change

627
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:29,680
Speaker 3: their plans. We made sun We made Sunday work, which

628
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 3: just which which just led to so much comedy because

629
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,400
Speaker 3: the night before, as soon as she left for the car.

630
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:37,600
Speaker 3: So okay, So what was the plan. The plan was

631
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:45,160
Speaker 3: to uh set up a fake couple's massage. I don't

632
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:46,640
Speaker 3: know how much everyone knows, so I don't want to like,

633
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 3: should I go over to the deep, should I go

634
00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 3: over all this time?

635
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:50,000
Speaker 2: Well, I mean they know like how it went down,

636
00:31:50,040 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 2: but it's more just like from your aside.

637
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,400
Speaker 3: So the plan was set up a fake couple's massage

638
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:58,120
Speaker 3: at the Maybourne, which is something that we do from

639
00:31:58,120 --> 00:32:00,120
Speaker 3: time to time as like a treat to ourselves. Was

640
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 3: kind of like a special date night, so I don't

641
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 3: think she would have thought it unusual. So the poes

642
00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:11,440
Speaker 3: out of a fake couple's massage and then really it

643
00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 3: be just a massage for her and when she went

644
00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:17,600
Speaker 3: in then I would go, like set everything up, have

645
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:20,040
Speaker 3: her come out to So instead of doing it in

646
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:22,880
Speaker 3: the courtyard in the public area downstairs, which is just

647
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:25,680
Speaker 3: kind of open to the public, I thought listen, you know,

648
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 3: let's keep this more private. And so there's a terrace

649
00:32:30,760 --> 00:32:33,040
Speaker 3: on the third floor of the Maybourne right outside the

650
00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:37,320
Speaker 3: Spa that that I was able to coordinate with the

651
00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:40,360
Speaker 3: hotel to use. So okay, So how did it all

652
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 3: go down. I wanted to have her makeup and her

653
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 3: outfit ready for her at the spa when she got

654
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:53,400
Speaker 3: out of the massage, so the night before I had

655
00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:55,880
Speaker 3: to I have no idea what makeup she uses, and

656
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:58,400
Speaker 3: so I had to coordinate with Pow and Sofia to

657
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:01,200
Speaker 3: help me pick her makeup. So she leaves for the concert,

658
00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 3: She's actually on her way to pound Sofia's place because

659
00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 3: they were all going to go to the concert together.

660
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 3: And while she was en route to their place, I

661
00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 3: was on a FaceTime with them, showing Pal all of

662
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 3: her makeup and all the stuff in the drawers, and

663
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:16,960
Speaker 3: she was kind of pointing to take this, take that, No, no,

664
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:19,080
Speaker 3: no to this, take that. So I took all this

665
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 3: stuff and got her dress and her shoes that I

666
00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 3: selected expertly.

667
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:28,320
Speaker 4: If I might add, the shoes were perfect, excellent.

668
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:31,480
Speaker 3: And I put them in the back of my car

669
00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 3: along with my suit that I was going to wear.

670
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 3: For the occasion too, So that was all done Saturday

671
00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:44,080
Speaker 3: night while she was at the concert. Sunday again, we

672
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 3: had the kids that weekend, so we had to come

673
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 3: up with an excuse that they were that they actually helped

674
00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 3: come up with to get them out of the house

675
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 3: so that we could go get our massage, which we

676
00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:56,720
Speaker 3: would never ordinarily do on a day that we have

677
00:33:56,800 --> 00:34:02,040
Speaker 3: the kids. So they came up with the plan that

678
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:04,560
Speaker 3: they would have that they had a school project to

679
00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:07,880
Speaker 3: do that they had to kind of interview my parents.

680
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:12,880
Speaker 3: So we so we dropped off of my parents' house

681
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:16,000
Speaker 3: for a couple hours to go get massages, or so

682
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:22,640
Speaker 3: Tanya thought. And it was the kid's job to once

683
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 3: we dropped them off, go get Sonny from our house

684
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:29,160
Speaker 3: with my parents, bring them to the to the hotel

685
00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 3: so that we can be ready for proposal. Okay, so

686
00:34:31,080 --> 00:34:34,640
Speaker 3: that that's happening now. In the days leading up to it,

687
00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:37,400
Speaker 3: I had to coordinate with the Maybourne for the for

688
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:39,839
Speaker 3: the massage, so I went up. I had gone up

689
00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:42,719
Speaker 3: there kind of a few days prior and coordinated with

690
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:44,960
Speaker 3: everyone at the spa and they were like so cute.

691
00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:46,960
Speaker 3: So I walk in and they knew that you know,

692
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 3: they know us because we go there from time to time.

693
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:51,719
Speaker 3: So they were so excited to hear that, you know,

694
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:54,480
Speaker 3: I was proposing and it was you know, three women

695
00:34:54,920 --> 00:34:57,760
Speaker 3: working behind the desk there, and they were so giddy

696
00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:00,000
Speaker 3: and they loved being involved with it. It was so cute.

697
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:02,160
Speaker 3: And so they were in on the plan. They knew

698
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:03,799
Speaker 3: that when we got there, they had to do an

699
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:07,839
Speaker 3: Oscar worthy performance and pretend like the couple's massage room

700
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:12,319
Speaker 3: was out of service for you know, whatever reason they

701
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:15,160
Speaker 3: can come up with the reason. And so we show

702
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:19,600
Speaker 3: so so and then they were gonna so we show up. Uh,

703
00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 3: they take you know, we go into our respective locker rooms,

704
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:24,239
Speaker 3: we put on our robes, we go down into the

705
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:26,040
Speaker 3: waiting area, which is where you wait for the messuss

706
00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:27,920
Speaker 3: to come get you for the massage. Oh sorry. When

707
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 3: we check in, I'm with Tanya and we're you know,

708
00:35:30,480 --> 00:35:32,160
Speaker 3: we're there for a couple of massage and they say

709
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 3: that there's some sort of water leak or something in

710
00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 3: the massage room and they're so sorry, and we can't

711
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:39,880
Speaker 3: do it. And Tanya was like, actually, way more upset

712
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:41,479
Speaker 3: about that than I thought she would be. I figured

713
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:43,520
Speaker 3: she'd just let it go. But she was kind of

714
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:46,200
Speaker 3: putting up a little bit of a you know, you

715
00:35:46,239 --> 00:35:48,480
Speaker 3: know that's too is there any way, And I'm like, no, no,

716
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:51,439
Speaker 3: it's fine. Whatever. We don't talk to the massage anyway. Okay, fine,

717
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 3: get past that part. Go downstairs, you know, change into

718
00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:57,080
Speaker 3: our robes, go downstairs, wait for the messus. The messus

719
00:35:57,120 --> 00:36:00,879
Speaker 3: comes down. Uh uh Oh, there's a whole other part

720
00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:03,640
Speaker 3: that I forgot. So I'm coordinated with the hotel to

721
00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:06,040
Speaker 3: have the terrace available for us, and I'm emailing the

722
00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 3: lady at the hotel, and then again the weeks before,

723
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:13,600
Speaker 3: the week or so before, and I had somehow communicated

724
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:16,960
Speaker 3: the wrong date, so the day of I communicating the

725
00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 3: next Sunday. So the day of the proposal, I'm like,

726
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:22,799
Speaker 3: everything was like planned perfectly. I reach out to their

727
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:26,279
Speaker 3: to the girl and I'm like, hey, we're just want

728
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:29,680
Speaker 3: to make sure everything's set for today, and she responds back, oh, no,

729
00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:33,360
Speaker 3: I have you guys down for next weekend. And the

730
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 3: spa also had the massage down for the next weekend.

731
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 3: So the last second, I'm like, oh man, after all this,

732
00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:43,359
Speaker 3: like this isn't going to work out, but they made

733
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:46,080
Speaker 3: it work. The massage started a little bit late. Okay,

734
00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:50,279
Speaker 3: all good, a little bit of a sweat there. So

735
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:52,839
Speaker 3: she goes in for her massage. I like, run up,

736
00:36:53,080 --> 00:36:56,879
Speaker 3: change into my suit, run to the car. Sorry, I'd

737
00:36:56,960 --> 00:37:00,120
Speaker 3: run up, change into my street clothes, Run to my car,

738
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:02,640
Speaker 3: which is across the street in a parking lot, get

739
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:06,040
Speaker 3: her dress, her makeup, my suit, her shoes. Run back

740
00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:09,440
Speaker 3: to the spa, give them her stuff to put in

741
00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:13,000
Speaker 3: her locker, Change into my suit. I also had written

742
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 3: this handwritten note to Tanya that basically said, you know,

743
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:19,719
Speaker 3: it's been a long journey, but we're finally here. You know,

744
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:22,799
Speaker 3: take your time. Your clothes and everything and makeup are

745
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:27,359
Speaker 3: waiting for you in the locker. Take your time get ready.

746
00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:29,439
Speaker 2: And it was a question from somebody like why did

747
00:37:29,480 --> 00:37:31,440
Speaker 2: you tell me that we were basically tell me we

748
00:37:31,440 --> 00:37:33,080
Speaker 2: were getting engaged instead of just like.

749
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:37,000
Speaker 3: Doing it. Well, because okay, well, I mean I could

750
00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:40,560
Speaker 3: have done it either way, but I wanted you to

751
00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 3: like get dressed and do all that and come out.

752
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:48,040
Speaker 3: Kind of before I said that to you, I felt

753
00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:51,120
Speaker 3: like it was still a huge surprise and would build

754
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:53,520
Speaker 3: up like a lot of the anticipation and then you

755
00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 3: would see me for the first time yes, and knowing

756
00:37:56,040 --> 00:37:58,760
Speaker 3: that this was happening, but still not knowing that everybody

757
00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:00,960
Speaker 3: was there, and still not knowing any Yeah, so I

758
00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:06,920
Speaker 3: just to me, it seemed more more like romantic, more magical,

759
00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:09,920
Speaker 3: more like fairy tale to do it that way. I

760
00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:12,400
Speaker 3: thought the note was kind of like a really cute

761
00:38:12,400 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 3: like touch actually rather than me waiting for you, or

762
00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 3: I could have come in after the massage instead of

763
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 3: the massus and like surprised you. But then that's weird.

764
00:38:22,120 --> 00:38:24,000
Speaker 3: Then what then? Now, like what happens for that while

765
00:38:24,040 --> 00:38:26,200
Speaker 3: you're getting ready, I'm just like waiting there, like just

766
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:29,080
Speaker 3: on your phone. Yeah, exactly.

767
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 1: So I loved it. You sacrificed a moment, right. You

768
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:34,680
Speaker 1: didn't have a recording of her seeing that note and

769
00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:36,600
Speaker 1: crying and all that stuff, But that's good. She got

770
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:39,120
Speaker 1: to do that on her own. She knew it was coming.

771
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:40,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was that was like a weird.

772
00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:42,719
Speaker 2: I think it was like twenty minutes that I was

773
00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 2: in there, and that was like a weird because it

774
00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:48,080
Speaker 2: was like I knew it was happening. I like wanted

775
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:50,000
Speaker 2: to text everybody, but then I also wanted to get

776
00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:52,160
Speaker 2: ready really fast, and then I'm like crying and I'm

777
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:54,520
Speaker 2: trying not to cry, and like it was like such

778
00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:55,799
Speaker 2: a crazy I never.

779
00:38:55,760 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 1: Would have thought to do it that way. It was

780
00:38:57,200 --> 00:38:58,719
Speaker 1: really cool. I thought it was really cool. Yeah, it's

781
00:38:58,760 --> 00:38:59,759
Speaker 1: my favorite part of the whole thing.

782
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:03,080
Speaker 3: Chill was thinking about it. It was fun. Wow, it

783
00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 3: was really fun. And the massus who apparently the massus

784
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 3: is crying is the Tanya's crying didn't stop. So we

785
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:13,480
Speaker 3: got the crying, you know, we still got a lot

786
00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:14,480
Speaker 3: of the crying.

787
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:18,880
Speaker 4: Definitely did not stop. Yeah, that was brutal.

788
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:24,800
Speaker 3: Okay, so now everybody, her brother, her sister, brother in law,

789
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:34,080
Speaker 3: their kids, my mom, dad kids, Sonny brother, my brother,

790
00:39:34,200 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 3: my sister in law, their three kids, and then Raquel, Pao,

791
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:46,280
Speaker 3: Sophia Brad, Becca Hayley. We're all out on the terrace

792
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:48,719
Speaker 3: and we're all hanging out now for what was probably

793
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:51,879
Speaker 3: close to forty five even maybe close to an hour

794
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:54,799
Speaker 3: because we were up there while she was getting most

795
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 3: of her massage. Then she got out and then she

796
00:39:57,200 --> 00:39:59,719
Speaker 3: took forever to like compose herself and get ready and

797
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:04,319
Speaker 3: come out, and it was just hilarious because Paw had

798
00:40:04,840 --> 00:40:07,600
Speaker 3: the brilliant idea of getting us a direct text line

799
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:10,400
Speaker 3: with the people in the spa. So they're texting us

800
00:40:11,360 --> 00:40:14,120
Speaker 3: play by play. Oh my gosh, she's oh, she's crying,

801
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:18,600
Speaker 3: she's crying more, she's still crying. There's a lot of

802
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 3: she's crying. And then finally, okay, she's getting dressed. She's

803
00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:28,040
Speaker 3: crying again. Okay, she's good whatever. She's coming out. So finally,

804
00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 3: like we have everyone hide in the in like in

805
00:40:31,120 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 3: the corner basically where they couldn't be seen when she

806
00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:36,680
Speaker 3: was coming out. And I had a photographer there as

807
00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:39,120
Speaker 3: well to capture the moment, which initially I was planning

808
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:41,320
Speaker 3: it to be Beca, but thank god I didn't. They

809
00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:42,080
Speaker 3: talked me out of it.

810
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:42,279
Speaker 1: Really.

811
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:45,439
Speaker 3: Becka was very like subtle about it in the group text,

812
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:47,279
Speaker 3: but she was like, are you sure you don't want

813
00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:49,839
Speaker 3: to get to done, Sophia? You know. Sophia also was like,

814
00:40:50,160 --> 00:40:52,360
Speaker 3: here's the name of my photographer, just in case you

815
00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 3: want to use a photographer. I was like, okay, I

816
00:40:54,560 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 3: get the message, guys. So God had a great photographer

817
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:02,440
Speaker 3: and so he was up there with us taking pictures

818
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 3: before she came out, and then really you know, caught

819
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:07,520
Speaker 3: the moment of her walking out, and the way it

820
00:41:07,560 --> 00:41:10,320
Speaker 3: was set up was I was like probably two hundred

821
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:13,879
Speaker 3: feet or so away from when she first walked out,

822
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:17,520
Speaker 3: and so there's like this long walk from her to

823
00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:19,319
Speaker 3: kind of where I was standing, which was I thought

824
00:41:19,360 --> 00:41:24,520
Speaker 3: again so like awesome. It was really special because it

825
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 3: was like a build up for her, a build up

826
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:34,839
Speaker 3: for me, and then when she got there, I had

827
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:37,040
Speaker 3: a lot to say, apparently way more than I thought.

828
00:41:37,040 --> 00:41:38,520
Speaker 3: I didn't realize it was four It was it.

829
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:41,080
Speaker 4: Four and a half minutes, almost five minutes.

830
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:46,319
Speaker 3: In my head, it was like thirty seconds. I think

831
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 3: I blacked out. But you had no idea what was

832
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:52,239
Speaker 3: going on. I know you had no idea what was

833
00:41:52,320 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 3: going on? Yeah, because like I remember certain things that

834
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:56,920
Speaker 3: I said, and it was just like not no, Like

835
00:41:57,280 --> 00:42:02,600
Speaker 3: she was just no response. So got on my knee

836
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:09,239
Speaker 3: proposed we had our moment together, and then I you know,

837
00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:11,400
Speaker 3: then the plan was to have my kids and Sunny

838
00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:14,879
Speaker 3: come out first, so they like so I waved them over.

839
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:21,279
Speaker 3: They ran out, and then after they ran out and

840
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:26,359
Speaker 3: we had our kind of family moment together, everybody else

841
00:42:26,440 --> 00:42:29,719
Speaker 3: ran out holding signs and we hugged and we took

842
00:42:29,800 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 3: pictures and then we had a champagne and or derve

843
00:42:36,080 --> 00:42:39,879
Speaker 3: kind of party waiting for us at this restaurant downstairs

844
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:44,360
Speaker 3: attached to the Maymorn Courtyard, which was also just perfect.

845
00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:46,960
Speaker 3: We had the whole place to ourselves. It was just

846
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:49,880
Speaker 3: so chic and so nice, and the food was great,

847
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:53,360
Speaker 3: and it was just such a great vibe and great

848
00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:55,840
Speaker 3: energy withhich Is the people that kind of are closest

849
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:57,920
Speaker 3: to us there with us to share in that moment

850
00:42:59,680 --> 00:43:03,640
Speaker 3: and just a day that I will never forget for

851
00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:04,319
Speaker 3: this in my life.

852
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:07,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, never forget. And like you forgot this, well you

853
00:43:07,080 --> 00:43:07,640
Speaker 4: weren't there.

854
00:43:07,880 --> 00:43:10,360
Speaker 2: But when we were at the Jonas brother show, Kevin

855
00:43:10,440 --> 00:43:13,319
Speaker 2: Jonas asked me, He's like, where's your man. I was like,

856
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:15,080
Speaker 2: he's a home with the kids. And he's like, when's

857
00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:18,080
Speaker 2: he going to propose? And I was like, who knows?

858
00:43:18,120 --> 00:43:20,120
Speaker 2: Any day now, And like Brad.

859
00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:23,920
Speaker 4: And everybody knew, I knew, and they put up some

860
00:43:23,960 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 4: good poker Facebook.

861
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 3: Well, the texts that we're going I wish I could

862
00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 3: like go back and read some of these texts. I'd

863
00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:29,960
Speaker 3: have to take a minute to look for them. But

864
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:32,080
Speaker 3: the texts that were going around in the group chat

865
00:43:32,120 --> 00:43:33,839
Speaker 3: even that night while you guys were at the Jonas

866
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,680
Speaker 3: Brothers concert, hilarious. Brad, I mean, Brad is hilarious. But

867
00:43:36,680 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 3: everyone was so great and all great liars. Your friends

868
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:42,920
Speaker 3: really did a good job. Yeah, I really did a

869
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:43,279
Speaker 3: good job.

870
00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:46,000
Speaker 4: Really scary, actually, yeah, but so cute.

871
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was amazing. It's all out of love. I mean,

872
00:43:48,239 --> 00:43:49,719
Speaker 3: those are the best kind of surprises.

873
00:43:49,760 --> 00:43:55,239
Speaker 2: My favorite was that Paulina screen recorded the FaceTime that

874
00:43:55,280 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 2: you guys did picking out the makeup, and that was

875
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:00,120
Speaker 2: so cute, like watching the FaceTime with like you and

876
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:01,160
Speaker 2: them picking out.

877
00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:03,600
Speaker 3: Oh wait, but we've forgotten. I totally screwed up the

878
00:44:03,600 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 3: makeup at the end of the day.

879
00:44:04,800 --> 00:44:05,040
Speaker 4: Yeah.

880
00:44:05,080 --> 00:44:07,160
Speaker 2: It was literally not anything that I use on a

881
00:44:07,160 --> 00:44:09,400
Speaker 2: regular basis, and which made me realize I need to

882
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:11,120
Speaker 2: clean out my stuff. Like I was like, why do

883
00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:12,759
Speaker 2: I have all this if I'm not using it?

884
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:14,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I think it was my fault. I don't

885
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:17,400
Speaker 3: think it was Paulina's fault because I had a bag

886
00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:19,839
Speaker 3: with the makeup and then I had to transfer that

887
00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 3: bag into another bag, and I think I left some

888
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 3: of the key.

889
00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:25,440
Speaker 2: No, you had to take a picture of it or something,

890
00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:27,560
Speaker 2: because you need to leave it there because I.

891
00:44:27,480 --> 00:44:28,319
Speaker 4: Was doing my makeup for.

892
00:44:30,320 --> 00:44:31,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was crazy.

893
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:32,479
Speaker 4: Details but it worked.

894
00:44:32,480 --> 00:44:34,719
Speaker 3: It all worked out even better than I could have

895
00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:37,640
Speaker 3: imagined and hoped. It was so great, it was really special.

896
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:39,320
Speaker 3: Is there anything that we're missing from that? I feel like,

897
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:40,360
Speaker 3: whatever comes back.

898
00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:41,920
Speaker 2: To me O, No, I think that's pretty much in

899
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 2: terms of the proposal I did have. There are some

900
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:48,120
Speaker 2: other questions that people had that were kind of random

901
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:48,960
Speaker 2: that I.

902
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:50,880
Speaker 4: Wanted to kind of spitball at you. Should we do

903
00:44:50,880 --> 00:44:52,680
Speaker 4: that now hour, Should we do that when we come back? Okay,

904
00:44:52,680 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 4: we'll do when we come back.

905
00:45:11,080 --> 00:45:14,520
Speaker 2: So another big question was they want to hear about

906
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 2: wedding planning, which I feel like might just have to

907
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:18,719
Speaker 2: be a whole nother podcast because we don't have the

908
00:45:18,760 --> 00:45:19,600
Speaker 2: time for that today.

909
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:21,480
Speaker 3: I'd love to hear a podcast on wedding planning to

910
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:23,080
Speaker 3: be honest, because we need some help.

911
00:45:23,120 --> 00:45:27,360
Speaker 2: But we did not like a mom like we just

912
00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 2: got paralyzed.

913
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:29,879
Speaker 4: We're like, we know what we want, we just don't

914
00:45:29,920 --> 00:45:30,879
Speaker 4: know how to get there.

915
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 3: Essentially, we don't really know what we want. We know

916
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:37,040
Speaker 3: we know we have a few ideas. We have a

917
00:45:37,040 --> 00:45:41,720
Speaker 3: couple ideas, like of where with two very different places

918
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:44,480
Speaker 3: we may want to do it. We don't know exactly

919
00:45:44,560 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 3: how big it can be or should be or we

920
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 3: want it to be, depends on kind of where we're

921
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:51,520
Speaker 3: doing it. So yeah, there's all these sorry, there's all

922
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:54,440
Speaker 3: these pieces that need to fit together, but I think

923
00:45:54,480 --> 00:45:57,920
Speaker 3: we're slowly narrowing it down. We had a great call

924
00:45:58,400 --> 00:46:03,320
Speaker 3: with someone this weekend and the process is starting to

925
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:06,800
Speaker 3: gain a little bit of traction. Although we could we

926
00:46:06,800 --> 00:46:09,760
Speaker 3: should have a planning the conversation another time, but although

927
00:46:09,920 --> 00:46:11,960
Speaker 3: so after the call we had this weekend, I said

928
00:46:11,960 --> 00:46:13,920
Speaker 3: to you, I was like, I feel really good about that.

929
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:16,400
Speaker 3: I feel like we're finally making progress. And You're like, no,

930
00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:18,200
Speaker 3: I feel like we take two steps back. And I

931
00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:20,719
Speaker 3: don't understand, Like what happened? Why why don't we take

932
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:21,479
Speaker 3: two steps back?

933
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 2: Because I just feel like there's just I guess what

934
00:46:26,000 --> 00:46:28,120
Speaker 2: I realized didn't realize after we got engaged was like,

935
00:46:28,160 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 2: there's so much opportunity and there's so many things that

936
00:46:31,040 --> 00:46:34,680
Speaker 2: you can do and not do, and like all the

937
00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:37,560
Speaker 2: decisions are like so debilitating in a little bit of

938
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 2: a way for me.

939
00:46:38,400 --> 00:46:40,280
Speaker 4: So I feel like, I it's not even more options.

940
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:43,160
Speaker 4: Over the weekend that I was like, oh my gosh.

941
00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:44,360
Speaker 3: I think here the thing that the big takeaway that

942
00:46:44,400 --> 00:46:46,439
Speaker 3: I took from so here here, I guess for sake

943
00:46:46,480 --> 00:46:48,480
Speaker 3: of this discussion, let's talk about like where we're at

944
00:46:48,480 --> 00:46:49,640
Speaker 3: in the process we have.

945
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:51,959
Speaker 4: Well I was gonna say it for a different podcast, I.

946
00:46:51,880 --> 00:46:55,000
Speaker 3: Know, Oh, even just this, I'm just like high level,

947
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:58,080
Speaker 3: high level. All I'm saying is like we're undecided between

948
00:46:58,760 --> 00:47:01,040
Speaker 3: you know, doing it at home or doing get abroad basically,

949
00:47:01,600 --> 00:47:06,239
Speaker 3: and so that's like a big decision, and you know,

950
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:09,440
Speaker 3: how many people are invited is going to be dependent

951
00:47:09,440 --> 00:47:12,560
Speaker 3: on where we do it and all that. And so

952
00:47:13,120 --> 00:47:15,680
Speaker 3: I think the big step that we took this weekend

953
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:17,840
Speaker 3: was I think we put a plan in place to

954
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 3: determine what it's going to look like in location and

955
00:47:22,239 --> 00:47:25,200
Speaker 3: what it's going to look and then once we have

956
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:27,879
Speaker 3: a better idea of that, then we can pick and go.

957
00:47:27,920 --> 00:47:29,640
Speaker 3: And that's what I think we're going to do. And

958
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:32,360
Speaker 3: also the thing that I took that I that I

959
00:47:32,400 --> 00:47:36,040
Speaker 3: thought was good is that I'm pretty confident based on

960
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:40,719
Speaker 3: that conversation that dates, like getting a location abroad, like

961
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 3: a venue abroad, on the dates that we want them,

962
00:47:43,120 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 3: is not going to be impossible, even though it's such

963
00:47:45,640 --> 00:47:50,759
Speaker 3: short notes. I think it's crazy. Yeah, No, I think

964
00:47:50,840 --> 00:47:52,520
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. So we've been on the impression

965
00:47:52,520 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 3: that it's going to be impossible because in the US

966
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 3: it's impossible. People plan them out like two years in advance.

967
00:47:57,280 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 3: But apparently you know where we want to potentially do it,

968
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:02,400
Speaker 3: it's not. So that's great.

969
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:05,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, good news. So more on that, More on that

970
00:48:05,640 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 2: to come. But these are going to be kind of

971
00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 2: like rapid fire. So do you know what that means? Babe?

972
00:48:09,600 --> 00:48:11,720
Speaker 3: Do I know what rapid fire means? What does rapid

973
00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:13,719
Speaker 3: fire means? Of course I know what rapid fire means?

974
00:48:13,719 --> 00:48:16,759
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, So these are like just like quick off

975
00:48:16,800 --> 00:48:19,319
Speaker 4: the cuff, like what your answer is? Okay, So like

976
00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:21,920
Speaker 4: you don't have to think too hard, right.

977
00:48:22,360 --> 00:48:23,520
Speaker 1: Well, it's rapid fire.

978
00:48:23,600 --> 00:48:28,800
Speaker 4: It's rapid So it's like fast, fast answers, fast green

979
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:30,200
Speaker 4: flags to look for on a day.

980
00:48:30,239 --> 00:48:32,319
Speaker 2: So these are women in the Facebook group asking, like,

981
00:48:32,360 --> 00:48:34,839
Speaker 2: from your perspective, uh.

982
00:48:35,080 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 3: Green flags are harder to answer than I think red flags.

983
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:41,840
Speaker 3: I think red flags are easier to answer, but green flag,

984
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:45,920
Speaker 3: I think listen, if anyone has read.

985
00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 4: Rapid fire, rapid fire.

986
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:52,520
Speaker 3: Kindness, smiling, smiling and kindness, okay.

987
00:48:52,280 --> 00:48:55,400
Speaker 2: Great, Ashley wants to hear your thoughts on the NFL

988
00:48:55,440 --> 00:48:57,920
Speaker 2: team's left and who is he rooting for and how

989
00:48:57,960 --> 00:48:59,200
Speaker 2: did his fantasy do this year?

990
00:49:00,520 --> 00:49:03,080
Speaker 3: So the Rams are my number one team and they

991
00:49:03,640 --> 00:49:09,600
Speaker 3: got beat last night by the Lions, my second team

992
00:49:09,840 --> 00:49:12,480
Speaker 3: because I went to school in Philadelphia, or the Eagles,

993
00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:16,839
Speaker 3: So I'm definitely rooting for the Eagles. And you know,

994
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:18,840
Speaker 3: I wouldn't mind seeing the Lions do well. They're you know,

995
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:21,080
Speaker 3: they've they've had a tough run of it, so they're

996
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 3: kind of a feel good team for me to to

997
00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:23,839
Speaker 3: do well.

998
00:49:23,840 --> 00:49:27,440
Speaker 5: Also, okay, your favorite cur how did I do in fantasy?

999
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:29,319
Speaker 5: Is about another part of the question. Yeah, we had

1000
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 5: a great season. We had a great season, thank you

1001
00:49:31,520 --> 00:49:33,920
Speaker 5: for asking. Ended in disappointment.

1002
00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:37,040
Speaker 3: We were definitely at one point of the season a

1003
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:38,880
Speaker 3: top or a top too, you know, the top or

1004
00:49:39,040 --> 00:49:43,319
Speaker 3: a top two team. Uh, made the playoffs, won the

1005
00:49:43,320 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 3: first round of the playoffs, and then just got destroyed

1006
00:49:46,280 --> 00:49:49,200
Speaker 3: in the second round by George Pickens. So it happens

1007
00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:50,280
Speaker 3: we'll be back next.

1008
00:49:50,200 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 4: Year stronger, Yes, cam oot to wait for next year?

1009
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:54,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, the good news is football is not over

1010
00:49:54,760 --> 00:49:55,319
Speaker 3: this year, so we.

1011
00:49:55,239 --> 00:49:58,160
Speaker 4: Still have more But yeah, what a time to be

1012
00:49:58,160 --> 00:50:00,640
Speaker 4: alive so you don't have to wait Herbie wants to

1013
00:50:00,640 --> 00:50:02,960
Speaker 4: know your favorite Survivor player of all time.

1014
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:06,239
Speaker 3: So Tony's my favorite. I felt like he's the best

1015
00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:09,000
Speaker 3: reader of people. He's hilarious. I don't like how impulsive

1016
00:50:09,000 --> 00:50:10,640
Speaker 3: he is, but I think he's just hilarious and amazing

1017
00:50:10,640 --> 00:50:13,400
Speaker 3: and it works for him. I do love Ozzy. I

1018
00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:17,480
Speaker 3: think Ozzy is just like great all around guy in

1019
00:50:17,520 --> 00:50:23,200
Speaker 3: every way. I love Sirie. I think Syria is very underrated.

1020
00:50:23,239 --> 00:50:25,319
Speaker 3: I used to hate I hated Syria at first, but

1021
00:50:25,360 --> 00:50:30,960
Speaker 3: Soria is a freaking genius and despite not being physically imposing,

1022
00:50:31,040 --> 00:50:35,040
Speaker 3: despite being terrible at challenges, she is a genius and

1023
00:50:35,080 --> 00:50:42,200
Speaker 3: can manipulate that that season that Poverty ended up winning fans, well,

1024
00:50:42,239 --> 00:50:45,400
Speaker 3: fans were his favorites. Is like thirty years ago, not

1025
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:47,840
Speaker 3: so much was fun, but that season that she that

1026
00:50:47,920 --> 00:50:51,280
Speaker 3: Poverty ended up winning, everyone was giving Poverty all the credit,

1027
00:50:51,320 --> 00:50:53,959
Speaker 3: but Syria was pulling all those strings and the fact

1028
00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:56,680
Speaker 3: that the things that she was doing just remarkable, always

1029
00:50:56,680 --> 00:50:58,680
Speaker 3: with a smile crace. So I love Siri and then

1030
00:50:58,880 --> 00:51:02,720
Speaker 3: sorry underrat that no one talks about. Maybe Cody and Jesse,

1031
00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 3: the duo from I Think Season forty three, Jesse is

1032
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:09,239
Speaker 3: probably my favorite player because, mind me, Jef Cody was

1033
00:51:09,360 --> 00:51:11,920
Speaker 3: like if season forty three, Cody was like kind of

1034
00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:15,360
Speaker 3: that like surfer dude, got not surfer.

1035
00:51:15,160 --> 00:51:16,920
Speaker 1: Dude, but like yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.

1036
00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:18,680
Speaker 3: He had like the kind of a mulody type thing,

1037
00:51:18,680 --> 00:51:21,600
Speaker 3: and then Jesse was like the Hispanic guy who's like, uh,

1038
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:24,399
Speaker 3: in prison, in prison.

1039
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:28,480
Speaker 1: Season right now, So no spoilers, Oh great season.

1040
00:51:28,880 --> 00:51:34,080
Speaker 3: Honestly, Jesse one of my favorite players ever. So those

1041
00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:34,720
Speaker 3: were my answers.

1042
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:39,200
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, good, good a good? What did you whisper

1043
00:51:39,239 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 4: in my ear during our engagement photos?

1044
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:50,439
Speaker 3: Tatiana has been a bad girl. I also said normal,

1045
00:51:50,560 --> 00:51:53,200
Speaker 3: nice stuff, but I had to I had to keep it.

1046
00:51:53,239 --> 00:51:54,200
Speaker 3: I had to keep it fun.

1047
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:59,839
Speaker 2: Okay, what have you learned since living with me full time?

1048
00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:04,400
Speaker 3: That if dishes remain even rinsed in the sink for

1049
00:52:04,440 --> 00:52:08,799
Speaker 3: more than thirty seconds, that you're a despicable slob? And

1050
00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:15,480
Speaker 3: what else? That's number one, it's facts.

1051
00:52:16,160 --> 00:52:19,200
Speaker 2: Victoria wants to know, what do you predict my dress

1052
00:52:19,280 --> 00:52:21,160
Speaker 2: is going to look like for our wedding.

1053
00:52:21,480 --> 00:52:25,520
Speaker 3: Mermaid Mermaid style so kind of like fitted. I don't

1054
00:52:25,520 --> 00:52:27,480
Speaker 3: really know how to describe it, but like fitted around

1055
00:52:27,600 --> 00:52:30,880
Speaker 3: the waste, maybe a little bit looser towards the bottom.

1056
00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:33,439
Speaker 4: And then fact, you know that's Mermaid is pretty good.

1057
00:52:35,480 --> 00:52:38,759
Speaker 3: And then and then what do you call it? Like,

1058
00:52:38,960 --> 00:52:40,640
Speaker 3: what do you call it when it's like top strapless,

1059
00:52:40,800 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 3: extractly strapless? I think, but like tube top or like yes, corsetti, corsetti, Yeah, corsetti,

1060
00:52:46,320 --> 00:52:47,640
Speaker 3: but not too much cleavage.

1061
00:52:47,680 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 4: I just think corsetti, right, Like I'm gonna be classy, classy.

1062
00:52:50,719 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 3: Brad, Yeah, exactly.

1063
00:52:51,760 --> 00:52:53,000
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1064
00:52:53,040 --> 00:52:55,240
Speaker 2: And then everybody, a lot of people have a courtney

1065
00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:59,399
Speaker 2: in particular, wants to hear your perspective on the family meetings.

1066
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:03,640
Speaker 3: This is a rapid fire question. Yeah, I mean, okay, listen,

1067
00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:07,040
Speaker 3: I'm all about communication. I love. I think communication is

1068
00:53:07,080 --> 00:53:09,799
Speaker 3: the key to any relationship. The problem is is that

1069
00:53:10,040 --> 00:53:11,520
Speaker 3: and maybe this goes back to what have I learned

1070
00:53:11,520 --> 00:53:16,359
Speaker 3: from living with Tanya. Tanya wants to communicate all like

1071
00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 3: every we have like hourly check ins, not really, but

1072
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:25,040
Speaker 3: like we daily daily we're having like substantive kind of

1073
00:53:25,080 --> 00:53:27,520
Speaker 3: like family meeting type conversation. So when she came to me,

1074
00:53:27,600 --> 00:53:31,240
Speaker 3: she was like, we should have a weekly family meeting.

1075
00:53:31,480 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 3: And she had actually proposed like renting office space for

1076
00:53:35,040 --> 00:53:37,080
Speaker 3: it or something. I mean, really, this is not a joke.

1077
00:53:37,160 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 3: She's like she saw. The thing is that Tany gets

1078
00:53:40,000 --> 00:53:42,360
Speaker 3: a lot of her life inspiration from Instagram, and so

1079
00:53:42,480 --> 00:53:46,640
Speaker 3: there was like, Zacher, just give forward and stuff NonStop already,

1080
00:53:46,680 --> 00:53:49,360
Speaker 3: like something from this couple that rents an office space

1081
00:53:49,400 --> 00:53:51,560
Speaker 3: that we work it with like a white board.

1082
00:53:51,640 --> 00:53:54,080
Speaker 4: That's like their year planning. So that's like every year

1083
00:53:54,120 --> 00:53:54,879
Speaker 4: on New Year's Eve.

1084
00:53:55,280 --> 00:53:57,799
Speaker 3: So I love listen. I love a family meeting, but

1085
00:53:58,040 --> 00:53:59,560
Speaker 3: we do it my way. Now we go to a

1086
00:53:59,600 --> 00:54:01,279
Speaker 3: bar and we have some wine, and we have some

1087
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:03,359
Speaker 3: dinner and we have a family meeting. But it's good.

1088
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:05,080
Speaker 3: It's it's really important. I do think it's important to

1089
00:54:05,160 --> 00:54:08,560
Speaker 3: kind of check in and set your either weekly, monthly

1090
00:54:08,719 --> 00:54:11,960
Speaker 3: or whatever kind of goals. And then we're also trying

1091
00:54:11,960 --> 00:54:15,359
Speaker 3: to figure out a good shared app that we can use.

1092
00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:18,240
Speaker 2: I got a lot of suggestions the podcast last week

1093
00:54:18,640 --> 00:54:22,479
Speaker 2: that I'll share with you, right, and then I feel

1094
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:24,799
Speaker 2: like it's too this is too long to get into,

1095
00:54:24,840 --> 00:54:26,279
Speaker 2: so maybe we'll say this friend of the time. But

1096
00:54:26,280 --> 00:54:28,960
Speaker 2: a lot of people wanted advice on your experience of

1097
00:54:29,040 --> 00:54:30,520
Speaker 2: dating with kids.

1098
00:54:30,840 --> 00:54:33,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I can I can write a book

1099
00:54:33,120 --> 00:54:36,239
Speaker 3: on that an expert, I wouldn't say that in that way,

1100
00:54:36,280 --> 00:54:40,640
Speaker 3: but like it's the most important thing that I can

1101
00:54:40,880 --> 00:54:43,320
Speaker 3: It's like, you know, it's it's very difficult. It's a

1102
00:54:43,360 --> 00:54:46,120
Speaker 3: very difficult thing. It's it's amazing, but it's also very

1103
00:54:46,120 --> 00:54:49,600
Speaker 3: difficult because when you don't have kids and you're dating,

1104
00:54:51,640 --> 00:54:54,600
Speaker 3: you can really just think about yourself. And it's so,

1105
00:54:55,040 --> 00:54:57,719
Speaker 3: you know, that's you can't do that when you have

1106
00:54:57,840 --> 00:54:59,600
Speaker 3: kids and you you have to think about yourself, but

1107
00:54:59,600 --> 00:55:03,759
Speaker 3: you also have to think of them, and so it

1108
00:55:03,880 --> 00:55:11,200
Speaker 3: just adds a whole other layer to to everything, you know,

1109
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:13,279
Speaker 3: to everything, not so much of dating. I mean, yes,

1110
00:55:13,480 --> 00:55:15,920
Speaker 3: dating is one thing, but as you get more serious,

1111
00:55:16,040 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 3: you know, all the questions, when do you introduce you know,

1112
00:55:18,680 --> 00:55:22,239
Speaker 3: this the person you're dating to your kids? Okay, now

1113
00:55:22,280 --> 00:55:25,200
Speaker 3: you're ready to get engaged. When do you talk to

1114
00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 3: your kids about that? How do you talk to your

1115
00:55:27,239 --> 00:55:29,600
Speaker 3: kids about that? What do you say about that? If

1116
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:31,480
Speaker 3: the person's going to move in with you, how do

1117
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:34,880
Speaker 3: you broach that conversation? What role should this person have

1118
00:55:35,000 --> 00:55:37,240
Speaker 3: in your kids' lives on a day to day basis?

1119
00:55:37,280 --> 00:55:41,080
Speaker 3: Are they should they be in a position to, you know,

1120
00:55:41,320 --> 00:55:43,480
Speaker 3: be a quote unquote disciplinarian or tell them to do

1121
00:55:43,600 --> 00:55:46,879
Speaker 3: things and not do things, and so all of it

1122
00:55:46,920 --> 00:55:52,759
Speaker 3: is so important. And you know, again, I think I

1123
00:55:52,800 --> 00:55:54,640
Speaker 3: could talk about it. I can write a book. Like

1124
00:55:54,640 --> 00:55:56,600
Speaker 3: I said, I think that, and I'm happy to talk

1125
00:55:56,640 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 3: about it in more detail or if there's a specific

1126
00:55:59,640 --> 00:56:03,080
Speaker 3: question that we want to answer there. But I just

1127
00:56:03,120 --> 00:56:08,440
Speaker 3: think that having to, you know, taking their feelings into

1128
00:56:08,440 --> 00:56:10,480
Speaker 3: consideration is the key to the whole thing. And I

1129
00:56:10,520 --> 00:56:14,040
Speaker 3: think that hopefully most parents do that. Probably not every

1130
00:56:14,040 --> 00:56:17,719
Speaker 3: parent does that. It's hard, but that's the most important thing.

1131
00:56:18,800 --> 00:56:19,480
Speaker 3: In a nutshell.

1132
00:56:20,640 --> 00:56:23,560
Speaker 4: We do have a game that we are going to play.

1133
00:56:23,680 --> 00:56:24,560
Speaker 1: It was Robbie's idea.

1134
00:56:24,600 --> 00:56:27,720
Speaker 4: This, Yes, this game did come from your very own brain.

1135
00:56:27,880 --> 00:56:29,040
Speaker 3: Oh the Facebook game.

1136
00:56:29,120 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's going to be called We're going to call

1137
00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:35,319
Speaker 2: it to Two Truths and a Lie. Oh yeah, So

1138
00:56:35,600 --> 00:56:37,600
Speaker 2: Mark can explain the premise of the game.

1139
00:56:37,840 --> 00:56:40,120
Speaker 1: I sure will right after this.

1140
00:56:54,480 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 4: And we're back.

1141
00:56:55,520 --> 00:56:59,520
Speaker 1: What I was told was Robbie found a very humorously

1142
00:56:59,600 --> 00:57:02,279
Speaker 1: odd post on the Facebook group and he said, this

1143
00:57:02,320 --> 00:57:05,480
Speaker 1: would be fun if you guys came up with real

1144
00:57:05,880 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 1: and phony Facebook posts from the scrubbing and Facebook group

1145
00:57:09,080 --> 00:57:12,719
Speaker 1: and he and you had to decide which is the lie,

1146
00:57:12,800 --> 00:57:14,160
Speaker 1: which is the made up post?

1147
00:57:14,360 --> 00:57:16,439
Speaker 3: Right? Yeah? I mean the posts in that group are

1148
00:57:16,520 --> 00:57:18,960
Speaker 3: That Facebook group is my I've said this before, is

1149
00:57:19,000 --> 00:57:22,680
Speaker 3: my favorite thing on social media, and some of those

1150
00:57:22,680 --> 00:57:27,080
Speaker 3: posts are so just outrageously amazing that it's hard to

1151
00:57:27,080 --> 00:57:29,440
Speaker 3: believe they're true. So I think this would be a

1152
00:57:29,480 --> 00:57:31,120
Speaker 3: fun gamey.

1153
00:57:30,680 --> 00:57:32,959
Speaker 1: So here we go. Are we ready ready to play?

1154
00:57:33,040 --> 00:57:33,280
Speaker 4: Ready?

1155
00:57:33,320 --> 00:57:33,600
Speaker 3: All right?

1156
00:57:33,600 --> 00:57:35,480
Speaker 1: You guys can compete against each other. I guess if

1157
00:57:35,480 --> 00:57:37,280
Speaker 1: you if you disagree.

1158
00:57:37,320 --> 00:57:40,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's just like, yeah, competitions, competition.

1159
00:57:40,560 --> 00:57:42,160
Speaker 1: Have we got the most friendly competition?

1160
00:57:42,240 --> 00:57:42,400
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1161
00:57:42,480 --> 00:57:44,560
Speaker 4: Unless we think it's the same one, Well.

1162
00:57:44,400 --> 00:57:45,960
Speaker 3: Then the only one is only one?

1163
00:57:46,000 --> 00:57:46,800
Speaker 1: I have three rounds?

1164
00:57:46,880 --> 00:57:50,600
Speaker 3: Okay, so yeah, okay, maybe we write our answers down

1165
00:57:50,640 --> 00:57:52,160
Speaker 3: a piece of papers, so you know, smart.

1166
00:57:52,240 --> 00:57:53,160
Speaker 1: No, I love that.

1167
00:57:53,360 --> 00:57:56,480
Speaker 3: Here you go, steal my ideas.

1168
00:57:57,600 --> 00:57:59,120
Speaker 1: Do you have a post it over there? I have

1169
00:57:59,160 --> 00:58:03,440
Speaker 1: a okay, great, here we go. Number one? Which of

1170
00:58:03,480 --> 00:58:07,200
Speaker 1: these is made up? A?

1171
00:58:10,000 --> 00:58:13,960
Speaker 3: See? Sorry? A.

1172
00:58:14,200 --> 00:58:16,960
Speaker 1: I think my boyfriend is using a strap on dildo

1173
00:58:17,000 --> 00:58:21,920
Speaker 1: on me and pretending it's his real penis. B. I

1174
00:58:22,080 --> 00:58:24,240
Speaker 1: dumped a guy recently because he said he was going

1175
00:58:24,240 --> 00:58:28,520
Speaker 1: to wait until morning to shower. See my boyfriend is

1176
00:58:28,560 --> 00:58:31,320
Speaker 1: pansexual and hooked up with his friend Brandon not long

1177
00:58:31,360 --> 00:58:35,400
Speaker 1: before we met. One of those is fake. The other

1178
00:58:35,440 --> 00:58:37,440
Speaker 1: two were posted on the Facebook.

1179
00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:43,000
Speaker 3: Group It's not this one. I okay, all.

1180
00:58:42,960 --> 00:58:46,320
Speaker 1: Right, we'll reveal answers. Tanya, you may go first. My

1181
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:50,160
Speaker 1: answer was b the dumping a guy because he didn't

1182
00:58:50,320 --> 00:58:52,040
Speaker 1: shower promptly okay?

1183
00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:54,880
Speaker 3: And is the strap on dildo and pretending it's his

1184
00:58:54,960 --> 00:58:56,720
Speaker 3: own thing.

1185
00:58:56,760 --> 00:59:01,160
Speaker 1: The made up answer. The made up post is my

1186
00:59:01,160 --> 00:59:03,960
Speaker 1: boyfriend is pansexual and hooked up with his friend Brandon

1187
00:59:04,080 --> 00:59:09,600
Speaker 1: before we met. So you're both wrong. I feel like,

1188
00:59:09,640 --> 00:59:12,920
Speaker 1: if we have time, we should delve into the one

1189
00:59:13,480 --> 00:59:14,960
Speaker 1: because that is a real post.

1190
00:59:16,080 --> 00:59:17,080
Speaker 3: Uh.

1191
00:59:18,240 --> 00:59:19,919
Speaker 1: Where is it? I got it somewhere here?

1192
00:59:20,240 --> 00:59:21,200
Speaker 3: How did that even happen?

1193
00:59:21,240 --> 00:59:30,160
Speaker 1: I'll find it all right. Next up, which of these

1194
00:59:30,240 --> 00:59:33,840
Speaker 1: is fake? He my boyfriend and his mom kiss each

1195
00:59:33,840 --> 00:59:37,960
Speaker 1: other on the lips? Is that normal? B? Are we

1196
00:59:38,080 --> 00:59:42,960
Speaker 1: being sold three D printed meat from China and grocery stores? See?

1197
00:59:43,480 --> 00:59:45,480
Speaker 1: My befty and I were talking about being choked in

1198
00:59:45,480 --> 00:59:47,880
Speaker 1: the bedroom. We both think it's hot as hell? Is

1199
00:59:47,920 --> 00:59:49,040
Speaker 1: there something wrong with us?

1200
00:59:50,360 --> 00:59:53,280
Speaker 3: They're gonna give me a second here? I mean, it's

1201
00:59:54,440 --> 00:59:58,680
Speaker 3: it's gotta be. I have my answer to all right, Gret,

1202
00:59:58,800 --> 01:00:01,080
Speaker 3: you're going first, there's time I'll go first. I think

1203
01:00:01,520 --> 01:00:04,080
Speaker 3: I think that the mom kisses very believable. I know

1204
01:00:04,080 --> 01:00:06,080
Speaker 3: a lot of people who do that. I personally think

1205
01:00:06,080 --> 01:00:10,040
Speaker 3: it's a little bit odd, but okay, So my answer,

1206
01:00:10,200 --> 01:00:13,480
Speaker 3: and also like the choke thing sounds very sounds very

1207
01:00:13,480 --> 01:00:15,760
Speaker 3: realistic to me. So I'm going with the three D

1208
01:00:16,560 --> 01:00:17,920
Speaker 3: meat from China, all right.

1209
01:00:18,480 --> 01:00:21,000
Speaker 4: I also picked the three D meat from China.

1210
01:00:21,560 --> 01:00:25,840
Speaker 1: Fake post was my boyfriend and his mom kiss each

1211
01:00:25,840 --> 01:00:26,439
Speaker 1: other on the logs?

1212
01:00:26,600 --> 01:00:28,840
Speaker 3: Is normal? These are good.

1213
01:00:28,960 --> 01:00:29,520
Speaker 1: I found that.

1214
01:00:29,520 --> 01:00:31,560
Speaker 4: Else saw that somewhere.

1215
01:00:31,600 --> 01:00:33,680
Speaker 1: You might have seen that Slate. I stole some of

1216
01:00:33,720 --> 01:00:35,440
Speaker 1: these from Slate. The ones that are fake and not

1217
01:00:35,560 --> 01:00:37,640
Speaker 1: in discribery, well there you go. I guess you didn't

1218
01:00:37,640 --> 01:00:40,840
Speaker 1: find it, am. The other ones are legit, all right.

1219
01:00:40,920 --> 01:00:43,480
Speaker 1: And finally, so it's still anyone's game, still zero zero.

1220
01:00:43,640 --> 01:00:47,400
Speaker 1: It all comes down to this, a my urine sample

1221
01:00:47,440 --> 01:00:50,439
Speaker 1: for work. Look cloudy, and my boyfriend's most a lot

1222
01:00:50,440 --> 01:00:53,240
Speaker 1: of marijuana. We had sex the night before. Is that

1223
01:00:53,280 --> 01:00:57,520
Speaker 1: what happened? B My boyfriend and I take a post

1224
01:00:57,560 --> 01:01:00,440
Speaker 1: dinner walk every night. He sometimes pauses to take a

1225
01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:03,320
Speaker 1: dump on the side of the road he has a

1226
01:01:03,320 --> 01:01:07,400
Speaker 1: hard time planning his potty schedule. Or see. I caught

1227
01:01:07,480 --> 01:01:10,120
Speaker 1: my in laws doing it in our guest bedroom this weekend.

1228
01:01:10,320 --> 01:01:11,840
Speaker 1: The door was partially open.

1229
01:01:14,920 --> 01:01:20,240
Speaker 3: Come on, come on, do I go I'm gonna. I

1230
01:01:20,240 --> 01:01:23,200
Speaker 3: doesn't have an answer yet because now I'm starting to

1231
01:01:23,200 --> 01:01:24,520
Speaker 3: figure out how Marcus is.

1232
01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:30,200
Speaker 1: Yes, so it's marijuana. You're in sample post dinner walk

1233
01:01:30,360 --> 01:01:34,480
Speaker 1: dump in laws doing it? No, it's time you go ahead.

1234
01:01:34,720 --> 01:01:37,160
Speaker 4: I went with be the post walk dump, post walk.

1235
01:01:37,080 --> 01:01:37,520
Speaker 1: Dump, all right?

1236
01:01:37,520 --> 01:01:39,560
Speaker 3: I think post walk dump is way too obvious, so

1237
01:01:39,600 --> 01:01:41,920
Speaker 3: I went with see the in laws doing it?

1238
01:01:42,000 --> 01:01:46,800
Speaker 1: Okay, the fake post is my boyfriend and I take

1239
01:01:46,800 --> 01:01:48,200
Speaker 1: a post dinner walk every night.

1240
01:01:54,400 --> 01:01:56,840
Speaker 4: I never went anything on this podcast.

1241
01:01:57,280 --> 01:01:59,280
Speaker 1: I found that one. It's an old Reddit thread, but

1242
01:01:59,440 --> 01:02:01,960
Speaker 1: uh yeah, that the in law is one is a

1243
01:02:01,960 --> 01:02:04,440
Speaker 1: good one because the way she describes that. She says,

1244
01:02:05,680 --> 01:02:07,200
Speaker 1: my in laws were in the guests bedroom. They're in

1245
01:02:07,200 --> 01:02:10,040
Speaker 1: their mid seventies, sweet older couple mary close to fifty

1246
01:02:10,080 --> 01:02:11,600
Speaker 1: years The first night they were here, I got up

1247
01:02:11,640 --> 01:02:13,040
Speaker 1: to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night,

1248
01:02:13,360 --> 01:02:15,520
Speaker 1: I heard what sounded like the washer out of balance.

1249
01:02:15,800 --> 01:02:18,720
Speaker 1: Lots of loud slamming. I stepped out of my room,

1250
01:02:18,760 --> 01:02:21,120
Speaker 1: and sure enough it was my father in law just

1251
01:02:21,240 --> 01:02:23,919
Speaker 1: knocking the bottom out of my mother in law. God,

1252
01:02:24,000 --> 01:02:27,400
Speaker 1: the door was even partially open, honestly, Good for that,

1253
01:02:27,480 --> 01:02:28,080
Speaker 1: Good for them.

1254
01:02:28,320 --> 01:02:30,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's nice, a beautiful story.

1255
01:02:30,600 --> 01:02:33,120
Speaker 1: And let me give you the other one too. I'm

1256
01:02:33,120 --> 01:02:36,000
Speaker 1: pretty sure my boyfriend's been lying to me our entire relationship.

1257
01:02:36,080 --> 01:02:38,360
Speaker 1: The first time we had sex, his penis felt different,

1258
01:02:38,520 --> 01:02:40,720
Speaker 1: so I was confused because the skin didn't move and

1259
01:02:40,800 --> 01:02:43,400
Speaker 1: it was pretty big. Lately, I've been noticing he's been

1260
01:02:43,400 --> 01:02:45,919
Speaker 1: going to the bathroom before and after sex. I also

1261
01:02:45,960 --> 01:02:47,720
Speaker 1: found a dildo in the bathroom, and he said that

1262
01:02:47,760 --> 01:02:49,480
Speaker 1: was his exes and he didn't want me to touch it.

1263
01:02:49,840 --> 01:02:52,439
Speaker 1: But now it's all making sense to me. He did

1264
01:02:52,480 --> 01:02:54,919
Speaker 1: tell me he was born with both female and male

1265
01:02:55,000 --> 01:02:57,520
Speaker 1: parts and needs one more surgery, But why would he

1266
01:02:57,560 --> 01:03:00,880
Speaker 1: be using a dildo if that's the case. I'm very confused.

1267
01:03:01,040 --> 01:03:03,200
Speaker 1: What makes it worse is that at one point we

1268
01:03:03,280 --> 01:03:06,040
Speaker 1: thought I was pregnant and he got my hopes up.

1269
01:03:06,040 --> 01:03:09,400
Speaker 1: But now it seems like that was impossible. Oh my god,

1270
01:03:09,480 --> 01:03:10,520
Speaker 1: that is fascinating.

1271
01:03:10,520 --> 01:03:11,200
Speaker 3: That's wild.

1272
01:03:12,000 --> 01:03:13,080
Speaker 4: That almost seems sad.

1273
01:03:13,760 --> 01:03:16,480
Speaker 1: There's a sadness element from both sides.

1274
01:03:17,200 --> 01:03:21,560
Speaker 3: But I guess if he's admitted that he's going through

1275
01:03:21,720 --> 01:03:31,360
Speaker 3: this like genital transition, I guess why would he hide. Yeah,

1276
01:03:31,760 --> 01:03:34,000
Speaker 3: like that seems like not such a far jump to

1277
01:03:34,160 --> 01:03:36,960
Speaker 3: just admit that, right, you need that.

1278
01:03:37,800 --> 01:03:39,560
Speaker 1: I mean, this is two years ago, so I don't

1279
01:03:39,600 --> 01:03:41,560
Speaker 1: know that she's looking for advice, but there you go.

1280
01:03:42,120 --> 01:03:44,480
Speaker 1: It's very interesting. And thank you Crystal for helping me

1281
01:03:44,560 --> 01:03:45,560
Speaker 1: compile some of these.

1282
01:03:45,640 --> 01:03:49,400
Speaker 4: Yes, thank you Crystal. Yeah, very fun. Good job, good

1283
01:03:49,520 --> 01:03:53,880
Speaker 4: job people I lost. Yeah, good idea.

1284
01:03:54,040 --> 01:03:55,320
Speaker 1: We're all winners really.

1285
01:03:55,160 --> 01:03:57,200
Speaker 4: Always, Yeah, we're the world winners.

1286
01:03:57,560 --> 01:03:59,160
Speaker 2: I wanted to say thank you so much for taking

1287
01:03:59,160 --> 01:04:00,680
Speaker 2: the time to be here, and I you're a busy,

1288
01:04:00,720 --> 01:04:06,360
Speaker 2: busy man. Anybody has any law questions or concerns, you

1289
01:04:06,360 --> 01:04:13,000
Speaker 2: can hit him up at yadagar lapc dot net com

1290
01:04:13,120 --> 01:04:16,680
Speaker 2: dot com at yadegar Lah.

1291
01:04:16,960 --> 01:04:20,320
Speaker 3: I know I'm old, I'm not that old, and.

1292
01:04:20,240 --> 01:04:21,280
Speaker 4: I just love having you here.

1293
01:04:21,320 --> 01:04:24,439
Speaker 2: Like I said, I really we've been together for over

1294
01:04:24,480 --> 01:04:26,560
Speaker 2: four years, and I feel like it's just the beginning.

1295
01:04:26,640 --> 01:04:28,840
Speaker 2: I just get giddy to like go to sleep with you,

1296
01:04:28,920 --> 01:04:30,640
Speaker 2: wake up with you, and not having you in here,

1297
01:04:30,680 --> 01:04:32,920
Speaker 2: it's very very fun, so thank you for taking the

1298
01:04:32,960 --> 01:04:33,960
Speaker 2: time and.

1299
01:04:34,000 --> 01:04:38,040
Speaker 4: Hopefully you'll scrow up in soon. Love you all, talk

1300
01:04:38,120 --> 01:04:38,920
Speaker 4: to you next week.

1301
01:04:39,200 --> 01:04:39,560
Speaker 3: Bye.