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Speaker 1: What's up y'all? Is your girl?

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Speaker 2: Lex peak any sugarl dre in the cold and you

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Speaker 2: are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mine.

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Speaker 1: Where a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. What's up, girl, girl?

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Speaker 1: I like your talk?

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Speaker 2: Thanks girl. I was trying to give classy but you

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Speaker 2: said he's not class's.

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Speaker 1: Definitely why why why would it be class.

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Speaker 2: Because it has a collar? Okay, it looks like a

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Speaker 2: little mini blazer. No, it's definitely not given man to

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Speaker 2: work when I worked, when I had when I had

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Speaker 2: a corporate drop. No, I was gonna say, I would

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Speaker 2: have war like a little other shirt, like a turtleneck

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Speaker 2: of some lender. Girl. I indeed, but I would have

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Speaker 2: worded the word.

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Speaker 1: That's what that lady used to mess with you. She

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Speaker 1: was mad because I had that ass I'm dead.

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Speaker 2: She was just jelly, I'm dead.

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Speaker 1: So what's been up? What's up?

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Speaker 2: Nothing? Girl? I had a good week. My mom is here, Oh,

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Speaker 2: yes she is. We went, We went and took her

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Speaker 2: out to eat for her birthday.

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Speaker 1: We had a good time. Lacks bought her some flowers.

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Speaker 2: She called everybody and now an olde to play Brought

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Speaker 2: to you by Scratchers in the California Lottery fill Harmonic

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Speaker 2: please play responsibly. It was be eighteen years or older

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Speaker 2: to purchase player claim everybody.

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Speaker 1: She liked it.

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Speaker 2: Yes, girl, it's a.

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Speaker 1: Big boat cut I know. She said, how many flowers

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Speaker 1: in here?

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Speaker 2: It's not twelve? I said, and show and show one.

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Speaker 2: So girls, she doesn't call everybody in the family. And

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Speaker 2: she like, oh, they took me out to and I

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Speaker 2: had to cut shopping earlier today too.

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Speaker 1: I hate took hood. Let me tell you something. We

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Speaker 1: went to Little Alice Steak. I looked at that happy.

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Speaker 1: I talked.

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Speaker 2: I thought, I said, you an expensive day. She thought.

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Speaker 1: She was tearing that up. She had the pop chops.

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Speaker 1: She said, these pompe chops good, and she was telling it.

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Speaker 1: We had a good time.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I had took her shopping earlier that day,

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Speaker 2: and then we took her out to eat.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, she's out here, she's been chilling. And then

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Speaker 1: what else.

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Speaker 2: Let's see, Oh, I started working with my train. I started,

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Speaker 2: like working with my trainer today.

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Speaker 1: How did that go? It's my first day.

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Speaker 2: I think I did good. You know, I feel good

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Speaker 2: right now, but we already know in a few days.

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Speaker 1: But really, yeah, see that that's what I was doing.

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Speaker 1: It was well.

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Speaker 2: We did a mixture of everything today. So we did

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Speaker 2: like legs, core in arms. But yeah, I didn't do

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Speaker 2: that much cardio though, mostly like weights and stuff.

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Speaker 1: My titties too be to be running. It was a

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Speaker 1: nice little work, I thought.

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Speaker 2: So I think I'm gonna start going to him maybe

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Speaker 2: like two or three times a week, and then like

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Speaker 2: the other days, just work out by myself.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, look at you getting fun and I need to.

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Speaker 1: I gotta get back on it because I done gained weight.

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Speaker 2: I mean you still a good I mean yeah, true, true,

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Speaker 2: but I'm like one sixty something right now. I need

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Speaker 2: to lose like five pounds and eating too. Good.

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Speaker 1: Life is good. Life is good.

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Speaker 3: This past week, what did I do? I haven't really

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Speaker 3: been doing nothing. I just really been chilling. It was

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Speaker 3: so funny today. Now, before I tell this story, y'all

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Speaker 3: just real quick, before we get into these topics.

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Speaker 1: I don't mean to offend nobody.

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Speaker 3: It was just funny. Okay, let me just say that.

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Speaker 3: So I got up early today.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what.

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Speaker 3: Emmy just like told me to get up early. So

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Speaker 3: I got up early, took a shower, and did my makeup.

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Speaker 3: I was just feeling good, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: So I feel like, you know, we always know when

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Speaker 3: to notice. So I'm headed to the studio today. I

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Speaker 3: stopped at the gas station.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: I got my little dress so looking fine, booty just

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Speaker 3: So this homeless guy walks up to me and he

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Speaker 3: So I was like trying to like be nice about

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Speaker 3: it because it's hard for me. Y'all know, I'm goofy

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Speaker 3: as fucking I laugh and everything. He was like, excuse me, miss, can.

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Speaker 1: I pump your gas?

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Speaker 3: And I was like no, Like I was like, no,

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Speaker 3: thank you, I got it. I'm good, you know what

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Speaker 3: I'm saying. So I'm just pumping my gas.

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Speaker 2: So he was just like walking around, you know, He's

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Speaker 2: still looking at me and shit like that.

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Speaker 3: He was just like, excuse me, miss. He came back

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Speaker 3: and I was like, hey, what's up. He was like, you,

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Speaker 3: I just want you to know you.

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Speaker 2: I said, he said, I said bad to the motherfucking

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Speaker 2: we literally laughed and had a good moment, like he

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Speaker 2: thought it was so funny. We literally that is hilarious.

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Speaker 2: My eyes are.

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Speaker 1: Literally were literally made my day.

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Speaker 2: I thought he was gonna get mad because I was

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Speaker 2: just you know, it's a natural instigram and it just

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Speaker 2: kind of clown with people and jo with people.

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Speaker 1: So he was trying so hard to get that bad out.

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Speaker 2: He was trying, trying.

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Speaker 3: So hard, but it literally made my day that he

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Speaker 3: was such a sweet one man. Then I gave him

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Speaker 3: three dollars.

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Speaker 1: I didn't. Okay, see how you push it. You're pushing it.

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Speaker 1: That's what he wanted. He said that three dollars.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, ship, I said, give me the DJ. I gave

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Speaker 3: him the three dollars. I said, don't spin it off

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Speaker 3: the crackhouse, Like.

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Speaker 1: All right, you did not tell that men, I didn't.

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Speaker 1: But he was a nice man. He was a nice man.

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Speaker 1: So shout out to him because he made my name.

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Speaker 1: No I didn't, I was, I was because I was

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I love where I wear that on it every

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Speaker 3: Okay, So let's get into these topics for today.

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Speaker 2: Period.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna let you introduce this one. You want me

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Speaker 1: to introduce it.

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Speaker 2: I wanted to talk about, like the psychology behind cheating

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Speaker 2: get into my mind, Like, not just the psychology behind cheating,

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Speaker 2: but like do we feel like do you feel like

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Speaker 2: cheating is like a learned behavior?

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Speaker 1: I really don't. I really don't, Okay, I think so.

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Speaker 2: You don't feel like maybe like growing up in a

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Speaker 2: they can have like an effect on.

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Speaker 3: Well, Honestly, I feel like when parents are unfaithful, they

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Speaker 2: Some yeah, some, because I have friends who knew that

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Speaker 2: their parents were cheating when they was kids.

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Speaker 3: I'll say this, I don't think like a kid is

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Speaker 3: gonna see like or no, like they dad again, they

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Speaker 3: dig suck by Brenda at the office and he's like,

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Speaker 3: you know what, I'm gonna do that when I grow up.

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Speaker 1: Like, I don't think that.

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Speaker 2: At the office.

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Speaker 1: I'm dead. I do think.

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Speaker 3: But I feel like cheating all comes from not being

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Speaker 3: satisfied in whatever area is. I really feel like cheating

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Speaker 3: is something that's personal and it's something that has nothing

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Speaker 3: to do with the partner.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, It has.

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Speaker 3: Nothing to do with it, Like yo, pussy not being good, Yo,

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Speaker 3: dick not being good has nothing to do with it.

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Speaker 3: I really feel like it's something like person like you're

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Speaker 3: missing something, You're not satisfying your relationship with something.

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Speaker 1: So you go start looking for something else.

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Speaker 2: I feel like there's no I mean, there is deep

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Speaker 2: psychology behind it, but for me personally, like.

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Speaker 1: When I cheat, I just want a little I'm trying to.

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Speaker 2: See what me Well, you know there's types of infidelity. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I feel like you are a habitual cheater, not habitual

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Speaker 2: only like you with you, it's like a force of

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Speaker 2: habit it's like it's a habit.

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Speaker 1: It's not a habit.

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Speaker 2: You don't think it's a habit. No, okay, because this

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Speaker 2: is this is my thing because I done cheated before

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Speaker 2: you said ten times, I'll say this though, every time

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Speaker 2: I've cheated, I can honestly say before I cheat it,

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Speaker 2: I told the niggas, hey, you're not doing this.

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Speaker 1: I'm not happy. I was communicating.

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Speaker 3: But to me, you can only communicate with somebody so

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Speaker 3: much before you just kind of.

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Speaker 1: Be like, so, why just not leave the relationship because

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Speaker 1: I want my cake? Am I? I want to have

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Speaker 1: my cake?

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Speaker 2: So like, okay, because I know of one time you cheated, well,

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Speaker 2: I mean I know of a few times, but we're

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Speaker 2: gonna talk about when Tom specifically, when you cheated this time?

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Speaker 2: Why did you cheat? Like? Was it?

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Speaker 1: Because what was the reason?

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Speaker 2: Because I know that you were cheating because you weren't

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Speaker 2: getting no dick? So what made you say?

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Speaker 1: Though?

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Speaker 2: So what was the reason?

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Speaker 1: Why? You say? Because I still have feelings for him?

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'm not gonna lie, Like, in the moment, I

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Speaker 1: He was a good little dog.

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Speaker 2: He was a good nigga to cheat with, cause some

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Speaker 1: They want to call your nigga.

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Speaker 2: Not that I know I had him save that My

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Speaker 1: A little lingottle. He knew he knew you had saved,

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Speaker 1: Like well, he knew I had a man.

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Speaker 2: But I'm saying he knew you had his name saved

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Speaker 1: I mean, he did what he had to do, That's all.

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Speaker 2: He a real nigga. But I just feel like sometimes

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Speaker 1: Your polythemy is a little different.

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Speaker 2: That's when you like everybody knows, everybody know, so it

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Speaker 1: Ain't close to know. I wasn't cheating.

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Speaker 2: I did end up fing out.

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Speaker 3: I was in a polygamist relationship. He was in a

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Speaker 1: That's not possible.

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Speaker 3: No, that's not what it was. Because I loved them.

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Speaker 1: Yes you were, No I wasn't.

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Speaker 2: So I don't know, Like I haven't really cheated that

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Speaker 2: I'm talking about like really cheating because I got I said,

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Speaker 1: You're a nice cheater.

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Speaker 2: But I wasn't really sucking dick like that back then.

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Speaker 1: How long was this.

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Speaker 2: I was in college. I was sucking dick, but not

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Speaker 1: Oh that was a good face, that's a good Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I was like twenty one twenty soup.

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Speaker 2: No, I was really like nineteen or twenty one of

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Speaker 2: But I feel like I'm a micro cheater.

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Speaker 1: What was a micro cheater? It's another form of cheating.

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Speaker 1: Now y'all got levels, But I'm a macro cheater. I

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Speaker 1: Well.

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Speaker 2: For example, I was on the phone the other day

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Speaker 1: We was on the phone. I had pulled up at

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Speaker 2: This dude, the valet dude was valet in my car,

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Speaker 2: Mind you, Me and hood Bab was on FaceTime, so

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Speaker 2: I'm kind of like you know, talking bag, flirting.

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Speaker 1: Bag, being friendly. He on the phone.

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Speaker 2: He like me, you need to shut this sheet down

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Speaker 2: right now.

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Speaker 1: I know that's right before I pull up and he

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Speaker 2: So he was like, naw, you need to shut this

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Speaker 1: Don't want I don't think motherfucking smoke. I will say

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Speaker 3: To me, everybody likes to define cheating as certain things, like, oh,

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Speaker 1: Cheating.

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Speaker 3: To me, cheating is anything that you cannot do in

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. So it's like yeah, I

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Speaker 3: Because it's like if it's not, if it's innocent or platonic,

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Speaker 3: why can't you do this in front of your partner

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Speaker 3: know what I'm saying so like, even if you just

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Speaker 1: To me, that's cheating.

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Speaker 2: But I read something where it's said, like most people.

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Speaker 2: The crazy thing about most people, they only consider cheating

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Speaker 2: physical cheating. I'm I don't. I don't either, because I

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Speaker 2: that's why, because baby, I'm sucking dick. When I'm cheating,

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Speaker 2: I'm sucking. I'm licking balls booty too.

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Speaker 1: I mean, we're not booty. That's a reserve for my man.

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Speaker 1: At least I say something that's nice of you, how sweet.

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Speaker 4: I know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: He ain't.

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Speaker 1: I didn't eat his ass, so the angels this level,

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Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, at least I didn't need his ass, Like

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Speaker 2: that's for you, baby, because I know that's supposed to

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Speaker 2: make him feel better, Like, oh, yeah, I was sucking

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Speaker 3: Yes, because I have limits, I have limits. I'm a

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Speaker 3: lady still. Now, I respect you enough, I respect him.

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Speaker 1: How do you respect him of your cheating?

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Speaker 2: Because, like I said, it wasn't I'm sorry, y'all, we're

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Speaker 2: in the name of this episode, the Mind of a Cheater, HM,

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Speaker 2: because I'm trying to get in. Honestly, every time I've

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Speaker 2: Bro Yes, City, it's fine because you could just not

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Speaker 2: be with that person if you're not happy.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes.

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Speaker 2: First of all, you're a liar. You sit here and

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Speaker 2: I'll save that time that time.

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Speaker 1: Okay, let me say this. Let me use an example.

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Speaker 2: I just feel like it was what's the word you

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Speaker 2: were familiar It was familiarity.

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, I'll say that, but let me put it

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Speaker 3: in an example for you.

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Speaker 2: Okay, it's Thanksgiving. Okay, you're making your plate.

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Speaker 4: Uh huh.

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Speaker 3: You got your turkey, you got your mac and cheese,

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Speaker 3: and you got your yams.

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Speaker 2: I don't like my food to tuch. Okay, that's fine.

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Speaker 2: So you got the little plate that got everything separate.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Thanksgiving dinner is not Thanksgiving dinner with just yams

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Speaker 2: and with just mac and cheese or just the turkey.

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Speaker 2: You need all free to make you happy. So at

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Speaker 2: that moment, the turkey was cool. The turkey is good,

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Speaker 2: but I need to dip it in that mac and

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You can't just teach him

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Speaker 2: No, he didn't know how to make the mac and cheese, bitch,

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Speaker 2: but he was still the motherfucking turkey.

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Speaker 1: He didn't know how to make the mac and cheese.

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Speaker 1: And you know we like that mac cheese.

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Speaker 2: We do like the macon cheese.

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Speaker 1: I prefer to making cheese over the turkey. So what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying the reason that it was not.

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Speaker 2: So I say that to say I probably would have

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Speaker 1: My side no, cause he just wasn't main nigga material.

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Speaker 1: And that's what.

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Speaker 2: And that's another thing, like sometimes side people are meant

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Speaker 1: He wasn't boyfriend material.

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Speaker 2: Clearly your boyfriend our boyfriend material neither if you cheating

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Speaker 1: Well, I'll say this, Like I said, it wasn't my faults.

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Speaker 3: If I tell you you're not giving me enough dick,

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Speaker 3: and I'm being vocal about it, and I'm constantly telling you,

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Speaker 3: how long do you think I'm gonna go without big?

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Speaker 1: How long you got a viberator? A vibrator? I don't

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Speaker 1: want that shit. Yeah, I'm on a cold, hard cock.

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Speaker 1: Why is it cold? My cocks be warm? Well, you

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Speaker 1: know what the fuck I mean? God damn it?

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Speaker 2: But no, okay, So I don't know. Do you feel

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Speaker 2: like okay? I have another question. Do you feel like

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Speaker 1: Absolutely? I don't think So what do you mean? What

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Speaker 2: I feel like it fucks with your morals If you're

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Speaker 2: Not And you're cheating on someone. And I'm not advocating

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Speaker 2: I think everybody has cheated before. I think some people

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Speaker 2: are capable of speak.

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Speaker 1: But you gotta know how, you gotta know when, you

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Speaker 2: And I feel like everybody cheats, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: But I feel like some people are capable of stopping.

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Speaker 2: Then there's people like you.

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Speaker 1: I can stop. I don't need that. I feel like

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Speaker 1: I was once a cheater, but I stopped.

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Speaker 2: I can stop too. I'm not sure if you can stop.

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Speaker 2: But let me tell you, if you do everything you're

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Speaker 2: supposed to do, I'm not gonna cheat you.

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Speaker 1: If I catch you lacking, I'm out the door.

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Speaker 2: You're not out the dog. You cheating. But what I'm

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Speaker 3: But what I'm saying is if my man expresses to

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Speaker 3: this and that, and I love you and I care

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Speaker 3: about you, I'm gonna do that, and I'm gonna make

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Speaker 2: So Ever, if he physically was not capable of giving

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Speaker 2: you like dick every night, I.

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Speaker 1: Know he was. So that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: So some things are not just that easy to tell

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Speaker 2: your partner, Okay, I want you to work on these

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Speaker 2: and and then you expect them to fixie.

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Speaker 1: All right, So I go a piece of hunt.

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Speaker 2: Ain't no big deal. It ain't no big there, it

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Speaker 2: ain't no problem. That's what I'm saying it ain't no

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Speaker 2: big deal. That's what I'm saying. It's not my fault.

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Speaker 2: It ain't my fault that you did.

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00:19:59,359 --> 00:20:00,800
Speaker 1: It's really not my fault.

443
00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:03,760
Speaker 3: Okay, that's what I'm a different type of cheating now,

444
00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:04,440
Speaker 3: So what.

445
00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:07,159
Speaker 1: Makes you a different type of cheater? Because it hurts

446
00:20:07,200 --> 00:20:10,080
Speaker 1: me to do No, it don't. I don't want to

447
00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:10,920
Speaker 1: go to piece of hud.

448
00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:12,440
Speaker 2: You're a fucking liar, bro.

449
00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:16,160
Speaker 1: I don't want to do that to you. I really don't,

450
00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:17,359
Speaker 1: and I'm not.

451
00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:20,200
Speaker 2: This is really how I say this about you, though.

452
00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:22,639
Speaker 2: I definitely don't feel like you're an emotional cheater.

453
00:20:23,040 --> 00:20:25,040
Speaker 1: I'm not at all. I'm not at all.

454
00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:27,920
Speaker 2: It really just be about like but I would say

455
00:20:28,040 --> 00:20:29,560
Speaker 2: I might roll for some feathers with this.

456
00:20:29,720 --> 00:20:32,920
Speaker 3: I do feel like most women are emotional cheaters.

457
00:20:33,119 --> 00:20:36,640
Speaker 2: I think so too. I feel like with masolutely, men

458
00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:39,760
Speaker 2: just see a back. That's why women automatically. I think

459
00:20:39,800 --> 00:20:42,920
Speaker 2: that's why it bothers women so much. You know, when

460
00:20:43,000 --> 00:20:46,160
Speaker 2: men are unfaithful and then they have an emotional situation

461
00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:48,240
Speaker 2: with another woman. I think that's why it bothers women

462
00:20:48,320 --> 00:20:50,959
Speaker 2: so much, because we know how emotional we are and

463
00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:53,199
Speaker 2: how easily we get emotionally attached to me.

464
00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:56,520
Speaker 1: I mean, I will say men men mentioned emotionally.

465
00:20:56,640 --> 00:20:58,840
Speaker 2: We know that they do, but I think it's not

466
00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:02,919
Speaker 2: as often. I think men are very able, like very

467
00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:05,879
Speaker 2: much able to separate the two, like separate sex from emotion,

468
00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:07,960
Speaker 2: and that's something that a lot of women struggle with.

469
00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:11,879
Speaker 2: But yes, I don't think. I think over time that's what.

470
00:21:12,160 --> 00:21:15,399
Speaker 2: But that's in any situation. But over time, you're going

471
00:21:15,440 --> 00:21:18,240
Speaker 2: to if you fucking somebody, and let's fucking him is

472
00:21:18,280 --> 00:21:21,119
Speaker 2: one thing, Fucking them raw is another thing. So you

473
00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:24,960
Speaker 2: start having unprotected sex with somebody eventually over time, yes,

474
00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:27,679
Speaker 2: it's gonna be feelings involved for both parties, right, But

475
00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:31,600
Speaker 2: I think sometimes there are men who just go and cheat,

476
00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:35,040
Speaker 2: like yeah, fuck it one time, and I don't think

477
00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:36,480
Speaker 2: it's no emotions involved in it.

478
00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:39,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely, Like I feel like men do that more

479
00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:41,800
Speaker 3: so often. But a lot of men do emotionally cheat.

480
00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:43,920
Speaker 3: Let's say that. Let's just let that be known.

481
00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:47,159
Speaker 2: But I don't think emotion was the intention though, right

482
00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:49,240
Speaker 2: right when it started.

483
00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 3: I've been in some situations but it was like I

484
00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:56,240
Speaker 3: had to cut it off because I'm like, this is

485
00:21:56,280 --> 00:21:58,680
Speaker 3: a lot, this is a lot, you know, what I'm saying,

486
00:21:59,119 --> 00:22:01,520
Speaker 3: and honestly for a woman, like if I was married

487
00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:04,840
Speaker 3: to somebody and I found out, like you fucking this bitch,

488
00:22:04,880 --> 00:22:07,160
Speaker 3: You eating her coochie, you telling her you missed?

489
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:07,800
Speaker 2: What would you do?

490
00:22:08,040 --> 00:22:09,119
Speaker 1: You paying her rent?

491
00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:14,359
Speaker 2: Oh, it's funny that you said that, because I was

492
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:17,400
Speaker 2: talking to Len one day and Linn was like, that's

493
00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:18,080
Speaker 2: my trigger.

494
00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:20,280
Speaker 1: She was like, you buying this beach hit.

495
00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:24,080
Speaker 2: She was like yeah, She was like, you buying this

496
00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:26,480
Speaker 2: bitch shit, like you buying bitches bags this shit, and

497
00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:27,600
Speaker 2: you supposed to be my nigga.

498
00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:29,440
Speaker 1: You embarrassing. That's embarrassing.

499
00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:30,080
Speaker 2: It is.

500
00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:35,320
Speaker 1: You can get the biggest shaw nigga show up that

501
00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:37,320
Speaker 1: y'all are talking about. You can get the biggest chanail

502
00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:38,680
Speaker 1: the whole time.

503
00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:39,399
Speaker 2: He got a beach.

504
00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:41,480
Speaker 1: What's up, y'all?

505
00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:44,440
Speaker 2: Is your girl lix peat any sugarl drying the cold?

506
00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:46,800
Speaker 3: And y'all y'all know, we got our first show coming

507
00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:50,159
Speaker 3: up November seventeenth in Nashville as Naneties, but it's so

508
00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:52,800
Speaker 3: loud out. The first show sold out, so we had

509
00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:54,639
Speaker 3: to add tickets for a second shot.

510
00:22:55,320 --> 00:22:58,440
Speaker 2: So we're doing a second show ye the same night.

511
00:22:58,960 --> 00:23:02,440
Speaker 2: Tickets are availed, right, now, and I'm not very excited

512
00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:03,040
Speaker 2: about y'all.

513
00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:05,240
Speaker 1: Y'all better get y'all tickets. They're gonna sell out.

514
00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:06,280
Speaker 2: They're gonna sell out again.

515
00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:08,440
Speaker 1: You don't want to miss out. That's what I'm saying.

516
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 1: We did this for y'all because we love y'all so much.

517
00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:12,880
Speaker 3: Were bringing it back to back, So make sure y'all

518
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 3: get y'all tickets November seventeenth at Zainety's in Nashville.

519
00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:17,919
Speaker 1: I don't want to see all y'all. It's gonna be

520
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:20,160
Speaker 1: so len We're gonna have so much fun, so we'll

521
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,359
Speaker 1: see y'all. Suits see y'all, so we can't wait.

522
00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:26,160
Speaker 3: But anyway, like I was saying, going back to my point,

523
00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:28,040
Speaker 3: what I was saying is like women are more more

524
00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:30,679
Speaker 3: emotional cheaters. So a lot of times when they're missing

525
00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:34,120
Speaker 3: something emotionally, they're going out and they're looking for something else,

526
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:36,400
Speaker 3: they just want somebody to I'll say this.

527
00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:40,760
Speaker 1: I have a friend she recently got divorced, and.

528
00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:45,200
Speaker 2: She oh she is, she's all right, that's crazy.

529
00:23:45,359 --> 00:23:47,880
Speaker 1: I mean, shit happened. But I'll say this.

530
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:52,400
Speaker 3: She always says like her ex husband never complimented her,

531
00:23:52,720 --> 00:23:55,080
Speaker 3: he never made her feel good and she didn't cheat

532
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:56,639
Speaker 3: on him or nothing that I know of.

533
00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 1: She didn't cheat on him.

534
00:23:57,640 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 3: But what I'm saying is, like most women in their situation,

535
00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:03,320
Speaker 3: you're not telling me I look good. You're not making

536
00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 3: me feel good about myself. You're not praising me like

537
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:09,680
Speaker 3: women love praise. Yeah, everybody loves praise. So as a woman,

538
00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:11,920
Speaker 3: if you're not feeling that, if you're not feeling that,

539
00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:14,080
Speaker 3: it's natural to go out and look that.

540
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 1: For that elsewhere.

541
00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:16,719
Speaker 2: Remember Maya from Groogle.

542
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying.

543
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 3: But for me, I can honestly say I've never really

544
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:22,560
Speaker 3: lacked that in a relationship.

545
00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:25,040
Speaker 1: Like your niggas tell you beautiful.

546
00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:29,520
Speaker 3: But I'm an emotion I'm an expressive person, so I

547
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:31,440
Speaker 3: feel like I bring that out in people like I

548
00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:32,360
Speaker 3: don't mind saying like.

549
00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:35,720
Speaker 1: Damn bay, you look good as you up like I'm any.

550
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:37,720
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, I'm gonna make my nigga

551
00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:38,280
Speaker 1: feel good.

552
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,200
Speaker 2: I don't know in that too though, I don't be

553
00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 2: having that problem.

554
00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 1: I feel like and I'm not saying that she didn't

555
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:43,359
Speaker 1: do that to him.

556
00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:46,879
Speaker 3: I was just saying, for example, but I know that

557
00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:49,120
Speaker 3: I'm a comp like I love to compliment people.

558
00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:50,399
Speaker 1: I like to make you feel good. I want you

559
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:51,680
Speaker 1: to feel good in my presence.

560
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:55,840
Speaker 3: So that's why it's like cheating for me is like

561
00:24:55,960 --> 00:24:58,800
Speaker 3: never emotional because I'm getting everything I want emotionally in

562
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:01,080
Speaker 3: my relationship. And honestly, that's most of the times why

563
00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:03,640
Speaker 3: I stay because they're fulfilling me emotionally, and.

564
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,760
Speaker 1: It's kind of hard to find somebody. Sometimes it just

565
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:09,520
Speaker 1: don't be the physical. Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

566
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:11,879
Speaker 3: Like I had a lot of situations where like, you

567
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:15,680
Speaker 3: meet the most amazing man and he coole as fucking

568
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:20,600
Speaker 3: y'all vibe and y'all have deep conversations that, but that

569
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:22,560
Speaker 3: is trash.

570
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,359
Speaker 1: That just be like not good.

571
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,919
Speaker 2: It'd be like that's how I cheated on my boyfriend

572
00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 2: and when I was in college because that was not

573
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:35,040
Speaker 2: higher given cranbarrass and obody.

574
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,040
Speaker 1: Like h That's what I'm saying.

575
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:39,240
Speaker 3: So sometimes it just be like that, Like you need

576
00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:42,359
Speaker 3: something that's gonna really make you, but it's sometimes you

577
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:43,440
Speaker 3: get the full package.

578
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:46,359
Speaker 1: You get the full package.

579
00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:51,680
Speaker 2: Occasionally. I think I've been in like two relationships where

580
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:53,439
Speaker 2: it was like the full package. I've been in a

581
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:55,879
Speaker 2: relationship and I was facingol and I'm thirty.

582
00:25:57,520 --> 00:25:59,600
Speaker 3: My relationship I was in before I moved to Atlanta

583
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:02,560
Speaker 3: I was. I was stayful to him.

584
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:05,520
Speaker 1: I did not cheat on him. How long y'all was together,

585
00:26:05,560 --> 00:26:08,880
Speaker 1: I forgot. We were together for about I would have say,

586
00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:10,560
Speaker 1: like a year and a half. I thought she was

587
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 1: gonna say like six months, a year and a half,

588
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:15,119
Speaker 1: like we were together for a minute, and then it

589
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:18,200
Speaker 1: was like it was just y'all al was living together though.

590
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:20,679
Speaker 3: Right, No, no, no, no, no, no, you're talking about my boyfriend.

591
00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 3: I was like twenty But no, I was.

592
00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:22,719
Speaker 1: Staateful to him.

593
00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:25,920
Speaker 2: But honestly, like I said, if I'm faithful to you,

594
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:30,240
Speaker 2: it's up to you, nigga. You were faithful because he

595
00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 2: was emotionally.

596
00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:33,960
Speaker 1: Physically he did everything.

597
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,200
Speaker 2: When I was both talk to him about the things

598
00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:39,119
Speaker 2: that I was missing. He fixed it, fixed it.

599
00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:42,680
Speaker 1: So, like I said, I give you a chance, n

600
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:44,920
Speaker 1: You're gonna get a chance to fix yourself.

601
00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:46,720
Speaker 2: So do you ever think you just will like break

602
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:50,159
Speaker 2: up instead of cheating? No break up, which I mean

603
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,159
Speaker 2: just because even when you look back at all of

604
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:56,360
Speaker 2: those situations, you stayed. But then y'all still broke up,

605
00:26:56,640 --> 00:27:01,440
Speaker 2: so you could have just lived. Obviously, you still you're

606
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:03,719
Speaker 2: not with them, chaos.

607
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:07,720
Speaker 1: It was fun, but did you die? You had a

608
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 1: good time. Now you got stories to tell. Let me

609
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:11,560
Speaker 1: tell you about this. You ain't gonna tell.

610
00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:13,919
Speaker 2: A story when they don't even know. What I'm saying

611
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:18,199
Speaker 2: is they know that your niggas do not be knowing that.

612
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 1: You'll be cheating on them. Noah, I knowing, and I'll

613
00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:21,880
Speaker 1: just be like, hey, how you doing.

614
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:24,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not gonna lie. I've never got caught cheating.

615
00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:26,760
Speaker 3: I got almost got caught one time when I was.

616
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 1: In college, but I'm a smooth criminal.

617
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,919
Speaker 2: I didn't get caught till after Oh I lot, I

618
00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:37,640
Speaker 2: cheated on yourself, me, bitch, please, I keep ship two players.

619
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:40,360
Speaker 2: Never tell it on myself. Now, I told you how

620
00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:42,320
Speaker 2: I got caught. I got caught. So see, I lied

621
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 2: y'all two times. But the second time I got caught

622
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:49,560
Speaker 2: because remember, he got my cell phone. I had gave

623
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:51,199
Speaker 2: it because it was the broke niggas. But that's why

624
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:53,359
Speaker 2: I was cheating on him, because he was broke, and

625
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 2: so I gave him my cell phone forgot to delete

626
00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:57,200
Speaker 2: the threads, and then he seen that.

627
00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:59,720
Speaker 1: I was like, nia, right.

628
00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:03,320
Speaker 2: So I'm looking at this article and they're like everything

629
00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:06,520
Speaker 2: that they're naming of. Like why people cheat, It says

630
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:11,480
Speaker 2: your lives are not intertwined. You see their differences as flaws.

631
00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:15,040
Speaker 2: They've become narcissistic. These are all things that you can

632
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:19,040
Speaker 2: I do think narcissists people cheat alike of course, because

633
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 2: those are It's an ego thing and you just don't care.

634
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:25,399
Speaker 2: You only care about yourself. It's all about self fulfillment,

635
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 2: you know what.

636
00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:37,880
Speaker 1: Like I said, I like people too.

637
00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 3: Like like one example says, your lives are not intertwined.

638
00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,240
Speaker 3: If you're noticing that your lives are not intertwined, that's

639
00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 3: a sign. When you see each other, do you disclose

640
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:48,480
Speaker 3: meaningful information or hold back.

641
00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 1: It's important to be vulnerable with your partner, so, like

642
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:53,760
Speaker 1: I said, that's not me. I'm always vulnerable with my partner.

643
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 1: So I'm giving you.

644
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,480
Speaker 3: I literally give you the keys to love me. I'm

645
00:28:57,480 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 3: not a closed book, like if I fuck with you,

646
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 3: I'm a open book.

647
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:03,360
Speaker 2: That's why I said, when I cheat, it's your fault,

648
00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:05,760
Speaker 2: and I stand by what I say.

649
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 1: It's so stay fault. It's their fault when I cheat.

650
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:11,200
Speaker 2: It is now some people just cheat because they want

651
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 2: to cheat I'm not gonna see like a nigga walk

652
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 2: by in the club and he fine and he got money,

653
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:17,840
Speaker 2: and I'm just be like, oh, ye'ahall want that nigga.

654
00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 1: That's what niggas do.

655
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:23,880
Speaker 2: They can have the finest bitch walk like.

656
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: Man, I'm gonna go. I want her to, Yeah, I

657
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:26,960
Speaker 1: want her to.

658
00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:30,080
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying with me, give me some chances.

659
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 2: That's why I'm a different type of cheating.

660
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 1: I'm not doing. It hurts me. It really be hurting me,

661
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Speaker 2: So I wanted to talk about do you feel like

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Speaker 2: you know delaying intimacy does the strengthen your relationship or

695
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Speaker 2: benefit the relationship and make you better? You know? Studies say,

696
00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:20,719
Speaker 2: Studies say, studies say that you know waiting to have

697
00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:23,479
Speaker 2: six does strengthen the relationship, and you'll probably have a

698
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 2: better bond, emotional bond and things like that. We say,

699
00:31:29,680 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 2: get that dick when you're ready.

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00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:36,960
Speaker 3: No, that okay, okay, but I kind of I do

701
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Speaker 3: agree with the studies.

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00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 1: Not enough, I don't. I don't, but I do.

703
00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 2: I want to try that for myself before and I

704
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,240
Speaker 2: did too, and I don't feel like it was that

705
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Speaker 2: damn ardy.

706
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Speaker 1: It wasn't.

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Speaker 3: So let me say this though, I do agree with

708
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Speaker 3: the studies because they said. I read something that said,

709
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Speaker 3: when you're intimate too soon, a lot of things are

710
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Speaker 3: like dependent on that intimacy.

711
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Speaker 1: And the sex is good. You know, we all have

712
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:07,480
Speaker 1: been digmatized before. You're putting up with a nigga shit

713
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 1: just because he's blocking your walls down? Yeah, because he

714
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:13,040
Speaker 1: the turkey, the mac and cheese and the yams.

715
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Speaker 2: You know what I'm said.

716
00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:18,240
Speaker 3: So sometimes you deal with a lot of ship and

717
00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:21,000
Speaker 3: it's not your person but the dick bee fire. So

718
00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 3: when you have sex too soon, I do believe that

719
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:24,200
Speaker 3: that does happen.

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Speaker 1: And I do believe that if.

721
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:30,640
Speaker 2: You wait for sex, y'all can build a bond, right,

722
00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:34,280
Speaker 2: an emotional a mental, a mental bond, so whenever y'all

723
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:37,560
Speaker 2: do have sex, it'll be so amazing. What if the

724
00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:44,320
Speaker 2: week and that's my research, and that was my study.

725
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,840
Speaker 2: Nigga made me wait ninety days, he said. He said

726
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 2: I was pressuring him. Thought he said, I said.

727
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Speaker 1: Wait, who made you?

728
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Speaker 2: Who?

729
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Speaker 1: All?

730
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Speaker 2: Really? Yes?

731
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Speaker 3: He made me wait three months ninety days. He definitely trash.

732
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Speaker 2: It was just big, not good.

733
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Speaker 1: I won't say it was trash and it's not.

734
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Speaker 2: I said, dacity of you, my nigga, and the whole

735
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Speaker 2: ninety days and then give them some poodya's.

736
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Speaker 1: Like three months, nigga, ninety days. I waited for this.

737
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:26,520
Speaker 1: I was highly upset, but I'm not gonna lie.

738
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Speaker 3: At that time, we had already developed an emotional bond,

739
00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 3: so I was like, you know what, I'm a stick

740
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Speaker 3: beside him, and I was.

741
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Speaker 1: Like, well, you tried to, but then, you know what

742
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:39,719
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not gonna lie.

743
00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:41,560
Speaker 3: The sex did get a little bit better, and we

744
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:44,440
Speaker 3: dealt with each other for a very long time. Because

745
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 3: I feel like if me and him would have had

746
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:48,240
Speaker 3: sex like right off the bat, like I usually do,

747
00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:50,240
Speaker 3: I would have cut it off and I'd be like, nah,

748
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:53,160
Speaker 3: that ain't it because I've definitely had sex with some guys.

749
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:55,480
Speaker 1: I'm just like, I don't care about you that much.

750
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Speaker 1: I'm cool on you.

751
00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:01,480
Speaker 3: But I will say him making me wait, like I said,

752
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 3: he did make me interesting.

753
00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:06,160
Speaker 2: I've never dated a guy who like made me wait anytime.

754
00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 2: It was because that's what I you know, I wanted.

755
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:10,520
Speaker 1: Him to wait.

756
00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:14,359
Speaker 3: Well at the time, he was a very like spiritual

757
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:18,880
Speaker 3: person and he was trying to change his life because

758
00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:20,960
Speaker 3: he had a sketch of past.

759
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Speaker 1: I'll leave it at that, but that's what I was saying.

760
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Speaker 2: I'm trying to.

761
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Speaker 1: Exactly or why are you not any and I was

762
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 1: being punished. He wanted to do fun. He talking about,

763
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 1: let's go to the museum.

764
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:40,799
Speaker 2: Bathroom. I'm looking at Mozart like where is that dick.

765
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:44,840
Speaker 2: I'm trying to ask industry, like, oh, this piece is

766
00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 2: so beautiful.

767
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to be deep and ship He meditating. I'm

768
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:55,520
Speaker 1: meditating mad as hell, and I see he out of

769
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Speaker 1: line for that ship man.

770
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Speaker 2: But like I said, honestly, I w while I did

771
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Speaker 2: feel like way. So y'all built an emotional we did,

772
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:06,719
Speaker 2: and it was it was a cool situation. But honestly,

773
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 2: that situation I guess it just scared me because I'm like,

774
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Speaker 2: what's the point because we didn't.

775
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Speaker 1: Even work out anyway.

776
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:15,640
Speaker 3: And then I always say I've been in love in

777
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Speaker 3: love one time.

778
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Speaker 1: I've been in like I have love for people that

779
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Speaker 1: I day.

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00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:22,759
Speaker 3: I've been one time the one that I my ex

781
00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:25,319
Speaker 3: boyfriend that I lived with and we were together for

782
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Speaker 3: a very long time.

783
00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:28,840
Speaker 1: That emotion, that relationship was very toxic.

784
00:35:28,920 --> 00:35:30,719
Speaker 3: It was very toxic, but that was a one time

785
00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:34,399
Speaker 3: I can say I honestly experienced love and we had

786
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Speaker 3: sex on the first night I was.

787
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Speaker 2: I too, was in a relationship for like three years,

788
00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:44,920
Speaker 2: what is year? Three years and we had sex the

789
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Speaker 2: first time we linked up. That was my nigger for

790
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 2: a long time.

791
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Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying.

792
00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:52,080
Speaker 2: We had a great relationship like that was really my problem.

793
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:55,400
Speaker 2: The research is not standing for me. He ain't staying

794
00:35:55,480 --> 00:35:59,160
Speaker 2: for me neither, But it says you have a more

795
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:03,799
Speaker 2: satisfying they were relationship later on. So I guess if you,

796
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 2: you know, looking for a very long term type of situation,

797
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:09,320
Speaker 2: or maybe if you looking to get married, then that's

798
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Speaker 2: the way to go.

799
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Speaker 1: Okay, let me read this.

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Speaker 2: It said compared with those in the early sex group.

801
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Speaker 2: Early sex group is people like us. We in the

802
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:22,280
Speaker 2: early sex group, which is fucking, which is you either

803
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:24,959
Speaker 2: you either have sex before dating or you have sex

804
00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:27,520
Speaker 2: less than one month after you start dating, which is

805
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 2: crazy to me though, well now, I mean is early nitties.

806
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:33,360
Speaker 2: It's the next one. It do me, fu lou, So

807
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 2: let me read that.

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00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:36,239
Speaker 3: So early sex, like you said, is before dating or

809
00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 3: less than one month after they started dating, so they said,

810
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Speaker 3: compared with those in early sex group, those who waited

811
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Speaker 3: until marriage, It doesn't specify if they were a virgin

812
00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:48,120
Speaker 3: or a celibacy or whatever, but it just says those

813
00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:50,320
Speaker 3: who waited until marriage to have sex with their partner,

814
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Speaker 3: the relationship stability is twenty two percent higher, the satisfaction

815
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Speaker 3: is twenty percent higher, sexual quality is fifteen percent better,

816
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Speaker 3: and communication is twelve percent better.

817
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Speaker 1: Twelve percent ain't that much. It's all like these numbers

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00:37:06,480 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 1: on mean shit you eight ninety Yeah, that's what I think.

819
00:37:12,080 --> 00:37:13,760
Speaker 2: You could show me some real stack.

820
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:14,239
Speaker 1: I'm not.

821
00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:16,720
Speaker 2: I don't give a funk about our communication being twelve

822
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:17,560
Speaker 2: percent better.

823
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:21,239
Speaker 1: I sure don't. I could. We could take it to

824
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 1: leave day, text me good morning. That's that twelve percent right.

825
00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:28,480
Speaker 2: Now, period the fuck but no. I was interesting though

826
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Speaker 2: to find out that late sixties between one month and

827
00:37:31,080 --> 00:37:34,880
Speaker 2: two years of dating, because I actually would still consider

828
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 2: one month early six early, but I guess for even

829
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:39,920
Speaker 2: two months early that's early.

830
00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 1: But I know two months ain't early. It is sixty days. No, man,

831
00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 1: I don't pay my rent later than that. That's fucking no.

832
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 1: Six to day. That's a long time. Now today it's

833
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 1: not that long.

834
00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:55,359
Speaker 2: It's just to me. Also to when it comes to sex,

835
00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:58,720
Speaker 2: I feel like it's also depending upon how how often

836
00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 2: you seeing a person. That's what I'm saying, like, because

837
00:38:01,960 --> 00:38:03,879
Speaker 2: if you're dating somebody for two months, so you ain't

838
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 2: a person for two months, and y'all don't live in

839
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 2: the same city, and y'all only went on like two

840
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 2: three days, when then sixty days and then on the

841
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 2: fourth link, y'all fuck, that ain't really their lost four

842
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:17,319
Speaker 2: but city. I'm saying, y'all live in other cities. Y'all

843
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:18,080
Speaker 2: can't see each.

844
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:20,279
Speaker 1: Other every week now, I mean where y'all could.

845
00:38:20,040 --> 00:38:22,000
Speaker 2: But that's a lot of it. Ain't going down and

846
00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:26,040
Speaker 2: live at this age. If we live in other cities,

847
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:27,560
Speaker 2: I already.

848
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 1: Know I want to fuck you.

849
00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:28,200
Speaker 2: If you.

850
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Speaker 1: If I'm letting you fly me out, I want to

851
00:38:30,239 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 1: beat so as soon as I land, nigga, drop them draws.

852
00:38:34,160 --> 00:38:37,200
Speaker 2: Not playing with y'all, motherfucking I'm not going see Mozart

853
00:38:37,280 --> 00:38:38,399
Speaker 2: no more niggas.

854
00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:41,560
Speaker 1: Not playing with y'all, motherfucking ass. I don't.

855
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:44,760
Speaker 2: I don't know. It's like, so you don't go nowhere

856
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:52,000
Speaker 2: no more without no If you see me in Germany, Swetzland,

857
00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:58,120
Speaker 2: in the Orange Texas, I'm the fucking you can catch

858
00:38:58,120 --> 00:38:59,720
Speaker 2: me in Jackson, Mississippi.

859
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:03,840
Speaker 1: I'm fucking. Wasn't we just them? I'm fucking.

860
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:09,440
Speaker 2: If a nigga flying me out, I'm fucking I'm not

861
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:12,320
Speaker 2: flying on the vel. I'm stupid.

862
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 1: So we were somewhere bit you was not fucking. I

863
00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:19,680
Speaker 1: wasn't because I was working. But if I wasn't, if,

864
00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:20,560
Speaker 1: I'm fucking.

865
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Speaker 3: So Therefore, if you date somebody in another city, that

866
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:28,000
Speaker 3: the rules really don't apply with somebody in another city, because.

867
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:30,239
Speaker 2: I feel like they apply even more because you don't

868
00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:31,760
Speaker 2: really know that person.

869
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,560
Speaker 1: But I will say this, I.

870
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Speaker 2: Just had a revelation. That's a resolution. But yeah, so

871
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 2: I just had a revelation. I did remember what we

872
00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:46,640
Speaker 2: called then we call him Donkey Kong.

873
00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:51,400
Speaker 1: Oh, yes, I remember Donkey Kong very vividly.

874
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:55,160
Speaker 2: So remember when I started dating Donkey Kong. That's when

875
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:57,720
Speaker 2: me and you first became friends.

876
00:39:58,440 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 1: Music. Okay, anyways, so we were talking.

877
00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 2: We used to talk every day, and then when I

878
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 2: came over, I was like, ooh, Lex, I'm about to

879
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Speaker 2: come see him. I'm about to come to Atlanta and

880
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 2: see him, but I'm not gonna FuG. She called me

881
00:40:11,719 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 2: that night like be oh my boy, girl, and you

882
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:19,960
Speaker 2: should see his crib. Like he picked me up and

883
00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:25,399
Speaker 2: I Ashley Martin, hold on girl, hold on, yeah, girl,

884
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:26,440
Speaker 2: let me call you babe.

885
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:28,040
Speaker 1: No.

886
00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:31,320
Speaker 2: So yeah, I didn't even make it through the first night, y'all.

887
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:32,799
Speaker 2: Like I didn't even make it through the first night.

888
00:40:32,840 --> 00:40:35,319
Speaker 2: Like he picked me up from the airport. We had

889
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 2: smoked the blund this one I used to smoke weed.

890
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:39,520
Speaker 2: We had smoked the blund and then I was warning

891
00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:40,760
Speaker 2: as FuG and we start fucking.

892
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:41,439
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying.

893
00:40:41,480 --> 00:40:44,439
Speaker 2: But it's different whenever it's somebody had been talking for

894
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 2: maybe like too much, and then I talked to him

895
00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:50,000
Speaker 2: even like then, we we kept talking even once I

896
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 2: moved to Atlanta.

897
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:51,640
Speaker 1: But I was like this.

898
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:54,000
Speaker 2: When somebody lives out of town as well, you don't

899
00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 2: know when the next time you're gonna see them.

900
00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:58,480
Speaker 1: It's just different. Like I said, I'm not about to

901
00:40:58,480 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 1: waste my time.

902
00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 2: You think if the flight it's over ninety seven minutes,

903
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 2: I won't that day. But do you feel like, Okay,

904
00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 2: if you're looking for something more emotionally rewarding, do you

905
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 2: think you should wait? No, we can watch Titanic because

906
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 2: I will say those situations I was in.

907
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:23,400
Speaker 1: We're gonna get very emotional. Jack. He gonna shed a

908
00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 1: till we're gonna have that bond. You watch Titanic with

909
00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:29,400
Speaker 1: a nigga. Now, will you watch Titanic when a nigga?

910
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:31,000
Speaker 1: Hes gonna be like I never cried in front of

911
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:31,840
Speaker 1: nobody before.

912
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:34,279
Speaker 2: Tartanic is very heart.

913
00:41:34,520 --> 00:41:36,840
Speaker 1: What I'm saying, all you gotta do is you emotional.

914
00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:38,399
Speaker 1: I'm putting y'all on game.

915
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:40,720
Speaker 3: You want an emotional bond with a nigga, watch Titanic

916
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 3: with him. He gonna be like And he's on Netflix

917
00:41:43,239 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 3: right now.

918
00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:43,839
Speaker 1: Okay.

919
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:45,040
Speaker 2: You want a kid like man.

920
00:41:44,880 --> 00:41:47,360
Speaker 1: He gonna be like Man, that's lead. That's here different.

921
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:58,319
Speaker 1: That's what can't be built. I don't put Tom.

922
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:02,600
Speaker 3: This is how I am. All jokes aside. I've learned

923
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:05,839
Speaker 3: not to put Tom on anything. You can meet somebody

924
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 3: and in the instant that'd be the person that's your

925
00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 3: person forever. Then you can meet somebody and y'all don't

926
00:42:10,680 --> 00:42:13,080
Speaker 3: click at the time, and then three years later y'all

927
00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:15,080
Speaker 3: might meet and it might work. Then you have some

928
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:17,360
Speaker 3: people who are married for thirty years and they finally

929
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:20,040
Speaker 3: just give up, and then they end up hating each other.

930
00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:23,880
Speaker 3: You can't put Tom on anything. Tom doesn't matter.

931
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:26,680
Speaker 1: So you feel like all this is some bullshit. All

932
00:42:26,719 --> 00:42:28,400
Speaker 1: of it is some bullshit. Do what you feel.

933
00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:31,520
Speaker 2: If people were more honest with their emotions, we wouldn't

934
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 2: even have these problems period. If they pussy thirteen million,

935
00:42:34,520 --> 00:42:35,560
Speaker 2: fuck their nigga.

936
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:37,480
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. That's my philosophy.

937
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:39,040
Speaker 2: If I love you, I love you, Why do I

938
00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:42,120
Speaker 2: have to wait two years to say I love you?

939
00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:44,719
Speaker 2: But I will say with some dudes, though, I'll be

940
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:48,000
Speaker 2: having to feel people out. Yeah, you gotta feel you know,

941
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 2: Like with some niggas, you do gotta feel them out.

942
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:52,439
Speaker 2: And it's not even about trying to be like, oh,

943
00:42:52,480 --> 00:42:54,759
Speaker 2: you gotta wait three months before we can have six.

944
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:56,839
Speaker 1: But it have been times where I have.

945
00:42:56,920 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 2: Waited to have six and you to do and then yeah,

946
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:01,920
Speaker 2: after like a few days, I was like, thank god,

947
00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 2: I ain't get a nigga.

948
00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:06,600
Speaker 1: Know, No, I think sometimes it is worth the wait.

949
00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 1: Then well I'm talking about Well, I'm not talking about

950
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:09,280
Speaker 1: those situations.

951
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:11,719
Speaker 2: I'm talking about saying like when you meet somebody and

952
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:15,440
Speaker 2: y'all just have like this, yeah chemistry, Yeah, we have chemistry.

953
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 1: We fucking, but they're like this nigga, not fuck you

954
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 1: thinking about fucking him?

955
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:22,480
Speaker 3: No, no, no, I'm talking about people that are already fucking.

956
00:43:22,480 --> 00:43:24,960
Speaker 3: Because I'm kind of getting off topic here. So what

957
00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:27,319
Speaker 3: I'm saying is, y'all because Keller said this shout out

958
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 3: to Killer. This is actually her pin tweet because this

959
00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 3: is something I don't understand this nigga ate your ass.

960
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 1: Ain't Joe pussy spit in your mouth.

961
00:43:36,680 --> 00:43:39,120
Speaker 2: You ain't his booty hole, sucked his big put every

962
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:41,320
Speaker 2: part of his body in your mouth.

963
00:43:41,640 --> 00:43:43,319
Speaker 3: But y'all draw on the line and saying I love

964
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:47,120
Speaker 3: you or I care about you. It's like and even

965
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 3: if we don't work out.

966
00:43:48,080 --> 00:43:54,320
Speaker 2: But y'all really out here doing it, you me doing it? No,

967
00:43:57,160 --> 00:44:00,120
Speaker 2: call into a nigga. I'm telling him, nigga, I love you,

968
00:44:00,719 --> 00:44:03,319
Speaker 2: and he be telling me I lose you like we

969
00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:06,920
Speaker 2: be on society. Not really, but we gonna say.

970
00:44:06,960 --> 00:44:08,759
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying. I don't see the purpose because,

971
00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:10,440
Speaker 1: like she said in her pantsweet.

972
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 2: She was saying, the day y'all buy a dog or

973
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:14,399
Speaker 2: a cat or whatever, you be like, oh my god,

974
00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:17,759
Speaker 2: I love him, I love him, I love him. So

975
00:44:17,840 --> 00:44:20,600
Speaker 2: it's like, it's a fucking dog. You can't do this

976
00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:23,479
Speaker 2: to a human being. You can't fuck with a human being.

977
00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:25,720
Speaker 2: And I'm not saying we have to be in love.

978
00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 1: But if I'm fucking you.

979
00:44:27,120 --> 00:44:28,799
Speaker 3: And I'm doing all this stuff to you, we going

980
00:44:28,840 --> 00:44:31,440
Speaker 3: on dates, were going on trips. Obviously I have some

981
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:33,640
Speaker 3: type of care and love for you.

982
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 1: Not necessarily.

983
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:38,160
Speaker 2: I mean, well, in a lot of cases, I mean

984
00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:40,360
Speaker 2: lust and love is a great Lust and love is

985
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 2: two different things. But I feel like people can absolutely

986
00:44:43,239 --> 00:44:46,960
Speaker 2: go on vacations and do shit with people without loving him. Well, well,

987
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:49,080
Speaker 2: sometimes you only doing that shit because you want the

988
00:44:49,080 --> 00:44:50,839
Speaker 2: gratification of what it brings you.

989
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:51,719
Speaker 1: Well, when I.

990
00:44:51,640 --> 00:44:55,000
Speaker 3: Say love, I'm not talking about like in love and

991
00:44:55,040 --> 00:44:56,680
Speaker 3: like being deep in love and in that.

992
00:44:56,600 --> 00:45:00,960
Speaker 1: Moment like I love you like I'm not yeah no.

993
00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:01,560
Speaker 2: And I'm not.

994
00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:03,359
Speaker 3: What I'm saying is like it's not being in love,

995
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:04,799
Speaker 3: like I want to spend the rest of my life

996
00:45:04,800 --> 00:45:07,879
Speaker 3: with you, but it's like you know, you feel them

997
00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:09,840
Speaker 3: emotions which all have happy.

998
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:11,920
Speaker 2: We outside, and I'm just happy we off the country.

999
00:45:11,960 --> 00:45:12,960
Speaker 2: Then I got out of you.

1000
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:15,640
Speaker 1: But all this waiting and shit, life's too short. I'm

1001
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:16,479
Speaker 1: not waiting for shit.

1002
00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:19,000
Speaker 2: So you're just gonna do. I'm gonna do what you

1003
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:21,399
Speaker 2: want to do when you ready to hear. And as

1004
00:45:21,440 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 2: long as you don't make me call piece of hood,

1005
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:23,760
Speaker 2: were gonna be straight.

1006
00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? Is your girl lix.

1007
00:45:27,840 --> 00:45:31,239
Speaker 2: Pea and it's sugarl Drea Nicole, and y'all know we're

1008
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 2: here to talk about her.

1009
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 1: No Friends, it's fall.

1010
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:37,239
Speaker 2: I hate going to the grocery store year round, but

1011
00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:41,640
Speaker 2: especially when it gets cool side. Everybody cooking, everybody cookie,

1012
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:43,960
Speaker 2: and the grocery store is we packed in its cold,

1013
00:45:44,239 --> 00:45:46,200
Speaker 2: not gonna load all it up in my car on

1014
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:47,279
Speaker 2: so like doing all it.

1015
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:47,640
Speaker 3: So.

1016
00:45:47,800 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 2: One good thing about Hello Friends is that they deliver

1017
00:45:51,200 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 2: everything to your door pre portioned in greens.

1018
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:55,440
Speaker 1: You don't have to guess. You don't have to do.

1019
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:57,200
Speaker 2: Nothing I gotta do is cookie and you can.

1020
00:45:57,160 --> 00:46:01,680
Speaker 3: Choose from everything from vegetarian males, calories, art choices, extra

1021
00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:04,520
Speaker 3: special gourmet options. And for the girls who really can't cooking,

1022
00:46:04,560 --> 00:46:07,279
Speaker 3: they don't know what they're doing, this is really for you.

1023
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:09,000
Speaker 1: But you can't mess it up right.

1024
00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:12,760
Speaker 2: And Hello Fresh is also thirty percent cheaper over thirty

1025
00:46:12,760 --> 00:46:14,640
Speaker 2: percent cheaper than shopping at the grocery store.

1026
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:17,240
Speaker 1: No, that's crazy. So you know we live the same money.

1027
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:19,680
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You actually made that crispy

1028
00:46:20,360 --> 00:46:23,799
Speaker 1: parmesan chicken. I love me a little parmesan b It

1029
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:24,399
Speaker 1: was so good.

1030
00:46:24,440 --> 00:46:25,680
Speaker 2: It was so good.

1031
00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:28,680
Speaker 1: It was crispy on the outside and fresh.

1032
00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:30,120
Speaker 2: It's the shit.

1033
00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 1: Shut up, shout out to Hello Fresh. We love us

1034
00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:33,320
Speaker 1: Hello Fresh.

1035
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:37,479
Speaker 2: So all you gotta do is go to HelloFresh dot

1036
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:40,839
Speaker 2: com slash poor minees fourteen and use the call poor

1037
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:46,000
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1038
00:46:46,080 --> 00:46:49,919
Speaker 2: free HelloFresh dot com slash poormides and use the called

1039
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:54,760
Speaker 2: poor mine sporteen for fourteen free meals and free shipping.

1040
00:46:54,840 --> 00:46:58,160
Speaker 1: That's a lot of food, you know, amen? All right,

1041
00:46:58,360 --> 00:47:00,920
Speaker 1: so now we're gonna get in to the b.

1042
00:47:01,080 --> 00:47:07,640
Speaker 2: A love about about about about okay, So for the

1043
00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 2: bed today, we're we always.

1044
00:47:10,280 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 3: Talk about love languages. You know, it's words of affirmation.

1045
00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:19,160
Speaker 3: Uh what is it gifts.

1046
00:47:18,400 --> 00:47:20,440
Speaker 2: Physical physical touch?

1047
00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:25,799
Speaker 1: Quality time? What's the other one? Whereas affirmation gives quality time?

1048
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:31,839
Speaker 1: It's we already said. I don't y'all look it up.

1049
00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 3: So I think a lot of times, like we were

1050
00:47:35,520 --> 00:47:38,480
Speaker 3: saying earlier, I waited ninety days to have sex with

1051
00:47:38,560 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 3: this man and it wasn't good, but a lot But

1052
00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:42,960
Speaker 3: we have a lot more information now.

1053
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:44,919
Speaker 1: I was young, I was like twenty four to twenty

1054
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:45,840
Speaker 1: five in that situation.

1055
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:50,040
Speaker 3: I feel like now it's important to know somebody's sex languages,

1056
00:47:50,640 --> 00:47:52,400
Speaker 3: Like you need to know what a person likes in

1057
00:47:52,440 --> 00:47:54,239
Speaker 3: the bedroom if you care about a person and you

1058
00:47:54,280 --> 00:47:58,000
Speaker 3: want that shit to work. The sex line what turned

1059
00:47:58,000 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 3: them on are just as important as a love languages

1060
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:04,200
Speaker 3: because I love love obviously, But bitch y'all like that.

1061
00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:07,920
Speaker 3: We know, I told y'all earlier, I'm fucking so I

1062
00:48:08,000 --> 00:48:10,719
Speaker 3: need to know. You need to know my sex language.

1063
00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:13,279
Speaker 3: So we know a lot of y'all aren't educated on

1064
00:48:13,320 --> 00:48:13,719
Speaker 3: the sex.

1065
00:48:13,800 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 2: Sex languages so we're gonna educate y'all on the sex

1066
00:48:16,719 --> 00:48:18,279
Speaker 2: languages and let y'all know what they are.

1067
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:21,640
Speaker 1: Y'all can identify which sex language is yours.

1068
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:25,120
Speaker 2: You want to read the sure the first sex language

1069
00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:28,680
Speaker 2: is fun. It says the fun sex language person's pleasure

1070
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 2: is accentuating when you mix fun with sex. This person

1071
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:36,919
Speaker 2: is going to enjoy spontinaity, various locations, and creativity during

1072
00:48:37,000 --> 00:48:38,280
Speaker 2: all phases of sex.

1073
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:41,960
Speaker 1: Okay, does this description you like stuff like that?

1074
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:48,800
Speaker 2: Yeah? Oh so, I definitely the has sex is a

1075
00:48:49,000 --> 00:48:52,600
Speaker 2: wild place, yeah you have? Yeah, so this definitely feeds me.

1076
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:58,440
Speaker 2: I'm old, I'm always ready, bring me, put me, no,

1077
00:48:58,480 --> 00:49:01,319
Speaker 2: and I me put me in the bitch, don't be

1078
00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:04,120
Speaker 2: trying to rub on my leg and no, motherfucking roof, Chris,

1079
00:49:04,400 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 2: don't touch me on the elevator.

1080
00:49:06,000 --> 00:49:08,480
Speaker 1: Don't ask me to suck it while you're driving. Take

1081
00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:09,160
Speaker 1: me home.

1082
00:49:09,480 --> 00:49:13,160
Speaker 2: I will suck a little while you driving, baby, don't

1083
00:49:13,239 --> 00:49:14,919
Speaker 2: you bet not? Starts to worrying though.

1084
00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:15,839
Speaker 1: My back hurt.

1085
00:49:15,880 --> 00:49:17,600
Speaker 2: You know how much you gotta because now you put

1086
00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:18,919
Speaker 2: in my life in that and that's.

1087
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:21,040
Speaker 1: What I can't even been down right now. And then

1088
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:24,360
Speaker 1: my titties, my titt is long, bitch, I might titty

1089
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:27,440
Speaker 1: might drop hit the gas. Now we're going eighty. I

1090
00:49:27,520 --> 00:49:31,600
Speaker 1: don't afford it. You can't drive. I'm trying to pick

1091
00:49:31,680 --> 00:49:33,759
Speaker 1: up my titty and roll up the other one. It's

1092
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:37,120
Speaker 1: just too fun, it's too much. I can't do it.

1093
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:39,759
Speaker 1: I like to be like fun, funny. It's definitely one

1094
00:49:39,760 --> 00:49:40,560
Speaker 1: of my six languages.

1095
00:49:40,719 --> 00:49:45,520
Speaker 2: Official. I fucked in some very odd places, like the

1096
00:49:45,560 --> 00:49:46,240
Speaker 2: bowling alley.

1097
00:49:46,480 --> 00:49:48,920
Speaker 3: Yeah like that that that that was a little extreme

1098
00:49:50,200 --> 00:49:52,000
Speaker 3: and it wasn't a nice bowling alley.

1099
00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:53,520
Speaker 1: I ain't put my booty on it.

1100
00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:56,560
Speaker 3: You put your booty on him, yeah, but not on

1101
00:49:56,640 --> 00:49:59,600
Speaker 3: that new and she was she just got done bowling.

1102
00:49:59,680 --> 00:50:01,680
Speaker 3: So I I always said, bring you here sweating because

1103
00:50:01,719 --> 00:50:02,800
Speaker 3: I love it when it's funk.

1104
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:05,920
Speaker 2: Bolling is not even though activity that make you sweat.

1105
00:50:05,920 --> 00:50:11,880
Speaker 2: Bit the fuck that booty big when y'all ladies, if

1106
00:50:11,920 --> 00:50:14,000
Speaker 2: y'all got a fat ass, you know, sometimes y'all booty

1107
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:15,360
Speaker 2: just be sweat for no reason.

1108
00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:17,720
Speaker 1: It don't even be high. You just feel a little

1109
00:50:18,960 --> 00:50:21,600
Speaker 1: y'all know.

1110
00:50:20,080 --> 00:50:23,440
Speaker 2: I don't know that your story.

1111
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:27,840
Speaker 3: I'm saying that sweating right now, motherfucker hot. Okay, so

1112
00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:30,719
Speaker 3: let's go to a sex language. Number two is desire.

1113
00:50:31,320 --> 00:50:35,280
Speaker 2: Desire sex language person sexuality is heightened if they feel

1114
00:50:35,400 --> 00:50:38,440
Speaker 2: if they feel pursued and wanted, they love you planning

1115
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:41,320
Speaker 2: their sexual time and encounter their pleasure.

1116
00:50:41,400 --> 00:50:45,160
Speaker 3: Is you really wanting them sexually? I would say this

1117
00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 3: is definitely one of mine. I love to feel wanted.

1118
00:50:48,200 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 2: Okay, like I.

1119
00:50:50,040 --> 00:50:54,920
Speaker 3: Won't necessarily I don't necessarily like plan sex, but I

1120
00:50:54,960 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 3: definitely want to like know that you want it, like

1121
00:50:57,640 --> 00:50:59,480
Speaker 3: you're the kind of person you're gonna have sex at

1122
00:50:59,480 --> 00:51:02,400
Speaker 3: the restaurant. I want to know at the restaurant that

1123
00:51:02,400 --> 00:51:04,120
Speaker 3: you're ready to fuck and it's time to go.

1124
00:51:04,200 --> 00:51:05,040
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying.

1125
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:08,920
Speaker 2: I might have a bitch that was my past, Like god, damn,

1126
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:12,560
Speaker 2: I'm not. I am not just not.

1127
00:51:12,840 --> 00:51:14,920
Speaker 1: For the record, I do not be fucking at ruth

1128
00:51:15,080 --> 00:51:16,239
Speaker 1: Ris no more, no.

1129
00:51:18,440 --> 00:51:18,680
Speaker 2: More.

1130
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:26,719
Speaker 3: That chicken wasn't the only thing getting stuffed because but yes,

1131
00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:28,840
Speaker 3: I would say, desire is something I want. I like

1132
00:51:28,920 --> 00:51:29,279
Speaker 3: to know.

1133
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:31,600
Speaker 1: I like to know when a man is like ready

1134
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:33,719
Speaker 1: to fuck, like he lets me know, like when I

1135
00:51:33,760 --> 00:51:35,480
Speaker 1: get you home, tear that up.

1136
00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:38,440
Speaker 2: I like to know that I like desires. I mean,

1137
00:51:38,560 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 2: I guess desire would be a love language. But I

1138
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:43,279
Speaker 2: feel like are people out here having sex with people

1139
00:51:43,360 --> 00:51:45,319
Speaker 2: that they don't desire. Well, what I'm saying, well, they're

1140
00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:48,280
Speaker 2: saying like they're vocal about it, Okay, like you feel

1141
00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:49,880
Speaker 2: pursued in one, Like they're pursuing you.

1142
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:51,400
Speaker 1: They're letting you know, like when.

1143
00:51:51,280 --> 00:51:53,719
Speaker 3: I get you home, you're looking so good, this and that,

1144
00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:55,360
Speaker 3: Like they're like letting you know what they're.

1145
00:51:55,200 --> 00:51:55,719
Speaker 1: About to do.

1146
00:51:56,120 --> 00:51:58,840
Speaker 3: A lot of people sometimes they just have boring sex lives,

1147
00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:02,320
Speaker 3: like they gonna have dinner, ride home, they're just listening

1148
00:52:02,320 --> 00:52:05,880
Speaker 3: to music, talking and they get home band versus like,

1149
00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:06,880
Speaker 3: you know, the build up.

1150
00:52:06,920 --> 00:52:08,920
Speaker 1: I think desire is like the build up to say, yeah,

1151
00:52:08,920 --> 00:52:11,400
Speaker 1: that's what I'm taking to that that makes sense. Okay,

1152
00:52:11,440 --> 00:52:13,800
Speaker 1: So sex language number three is pleasure.

1153
00:52:15,160 --> 00:52:17,960
Speaker 2: So if your partner sex language is pleasure, they will

1154
00:52:18,000 --> 00:52:20,400
Speaker 2: want to learn how to please you. They want to

1155
00:52:20,520 --> 00:52:23,359
Speaker 2: experiment as to what gives you the most pleasure during

1156
00:52:23,360 --> 00:52:26,640
Speaker 2: a sex X. They're exploring and being explored takes sex

1157
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:29,000
Speaker 2: to a whole another level for this person. So I

1158
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:31,239
Speaker 2: think this, Sorry, I think this is one of my

1159
00:52:31,320 --> 00:52:33,200
Speaker 2: sex languages for sure.

1160
00:52:33,520 --> 00:52:35,920
Speaker 1: Like I think I'm a pleaser. Oh you like to

1161
00:52:35,960 --> 00:52:39,040
Speaker 1: please a person. M M so and that turns you on?

1162
00:52:39,520 --> 00:52:42,200
Speaker 2: Yes, okay, Well well I'm looking at it as what

1163
00:52:42,280 --> 00:52:45,279
Speaker 2: you waynt made a song about this? What I got

1164
00:52:45,440 --> 00:52:48,000
Speaker 2: a bitch named Keisha shi' a real deep please? Oh

1165
00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:51,279
Speaker 2: that's what he's saying.

1166
00:52:51,400 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 1: I thought you were being classy today.

1167
00:52:54,160 --> 00:53:01,040
Speaker 2: Penis pleaser, I'm dead. You gotta use the say some pleasure.

1168
00:53:01,120 --> 00:53:04,160
Speaker 2: Is where things get a little tricky, though, because I

1169
00:53:04,200 --> 00:53:05,840
Speaker 2: feel like I'm a pleaser to like who wants to

1170
00:53:05,880 --> 00:53:08,120
Speaker 2: have sex saying you not pleasing your partner?

1171
00:53:08,600 --> 00:53:09,239
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying?

1172
00:53:09,280 --> 00:53:12,320
Speaker 3: Like everybody, I think this should be everybody's love language.

1173
00:53:12,600 --> 00:53:14,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's not. Some people only look out for

1174
00:53:14,719 --> 00:53:18,400
Speaker 2: something first ye men, men.

1175
00:53:18,640 --> 00:53:21,560
Speaker 3: But this should be everybody's love language. You should always

1176
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:24,120
Speaker 3: want to satisfy your partner. But this can get a

1177
00:53:24,120 --> 00:53:28,719
Speaker 3: little weird though, because if you're communicating and you're experimenting

1178
00:53:28,880 --> 00:53:31,400
Speaker 3: on what gives them the most pleasure during sex. Like

1179
00:53:31,880 --> 00:53:34,319
Speaker 3: what if a nigga say like, I want you to

1180
00:53:34,440 --> 00:53:36,799
Speaker 3: play with my toes and play this little piggy wentto

1181
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 3: the market and shit like then I'm like this little bit,

1182
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:41,240
Speaker 3: I'm riding the dick backwards.

1183
00:53:41,280 --> 00:53:43,640
Speaker 1: I'm doing cowgirl stuff. I'm playing with his toes and

1184
00:53:43,680 --> 00:53:46,080
Speaker 1: I'm not even turned on. You see what I'm saying,

1185
00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:48,960
Speaker 1: because you're gonna start kink shame. I don't want to

1186
00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:49,520
Speaker 1: kink shame.

1187
00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:51,120
Speaker 2: But some niggas like if you want me to take

1188
00:53:51,160 --> 00:53:53,080
Speaker 2: on your feet while I'm riding to Dick, and I'm

1189
00:53:53,080 --> 00:53:55,359
Speaker 2: just kind of like, I'm not enjoying this. I don't

1190
00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:57,440
Speaker 2: think no nigga wants you to say this little piggy

1191
00:53:57,440 --> 00:53:58,200
Speaker 2: when we we we.

1192
00:53:58,360 --> 00:54:03,480
Speaker 1: All the way she might want you to do that.

1193
00:54:03,520 --> 00:54:06,040
Speaker 1: It's a story, tom. Niggas get turned on by the

1194
00:54:06,040 --> 00:54:09,399
Speaker 1: weirdest things now and you know that. So that's why

1195
00:54:09,400 --> 00:54:11,720
Speaker 1: I said, I really don't pleasure.

1196
00:54:11,719 --> 00:54:15,280
Speaker 2: Don't feel like I've been in those situations. That's that weird.

1197
00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:19,920
Speaker 2: That's weird playing with a nigga told saying little piggy.

1198
00:54:20,920 --> 00:54:22,960
Speaker 3: You you look like you said a little piggy when

1199
00:54:22,960 --> 00:54:24,120
Speaker 3: you were sucking that man toe.

1200
00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:27,280
Speaker 2: No, I didn't what you said nothing. I was sucking

1201
00:54:27,320 --> 00:54:27,719
Speaker 2: his toe.

1202
00:54:29,719 --> 00:54:31,200
Speaker 1: See that's pushing a line for me.

1203
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:35,040
Speaker 2: What sucking a man toe? You will suck. You won't

1204
00:54:35,080 --> 00:54:37,640
Speaker 2: suck a niggatae, but you will eat his ass.

1205
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:40,040
Speaker 1: It's a section that's a g spotting there.

1206
00:54:40,360 --> 00:54:41,000
Speaker 2: It don't matter.

1207
00:54:41,080 --> 00:54:44,000
Speaker 1: It's an ass dook. He come out of it now,

1208
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:45,200
Speaker 1: See why you gotta say it like.

1209
00:54:45,239 --> 00:54:47,600
Speaker 2: Don't she come out of don't nothing to come out

1210
00:54:47,600 --> 00:54:54,840
Speaker 2: of a nigga toe bitch. She took a shower, the shower.

1211
00:54:56,600 --> 00:55:01,240
Speaker 2: Just what if he farted in your face?

1212
00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:05,239
Speaker 1: I can't fart in my mouth now? See how you

1213
00:55:05,239 --> 00:55:08,320
Speaker 1: take ship too far? Now? Now, Pony Tang gonna like

1214
00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:09,160
Speaker 1: this conversation?

1215
00:55:09,840 --> 00:55:13,000
Speaker 3: Y'all remember Ponty Tang. So let's change the subject. Is

1216
00:55:13,000 --> 00:55:14,400
Speaker 3: he's gonna pop up in my dams?

1217
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:15,480
Speaker 2: You right?

1218
00:55:17,920 --> 00:55:21,200
Speaker 1: I heard you was talking about thought fought faughnting.

1219
00:55:21,680 --> 00:55:24,360
Speaker 2: My ex boyfriend was from from New Orleans and he

1220
00:55:24,440 --> 00:55:25,080
Speaker 2: used to stay hot.

1221
00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:29,080
Speaker 1: Okay, that's shut up.

1222
00:55:30,880 --> 00:55:33,279
Speaker 2: Why he used to always say that? And I used

1223
00:55:33,280 --> 00:55:34,759
Speaker 2: to be like, why you said it like that?

1224
00:55:35,000 --> 00:55:37,319
Speaker 1: What was y'all talking about where he had to take?

1225
00:55:38,680 --> 00:55:41,040
Speaker 1: What the fuck was y'all talking about where he had

1226
00:55:41,040 --> 00:55:45,239
Speaker 1: to stay? Just out of curiosity?

1227
00:55:47,360 --> 00:55:51,560
Speaker 2: Somebody farted, maybe me or him? I don't know what.

1228
00:55:52,080 --> 00:55:53,399
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, did you fight?

1229
00:55:54,239 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 2: Say?

1230
00:55:55,480 --> 00:55:57,440
Speaker 1: I'd be like new when it's the wind?

1231
00:55:58,480 --> 00:55:58,960
Speaker 2: All right?

1232
00:56:00,440 --> 00:56:05,120
Speaker 3: Number four, patience, slow it down, take your time, and

1233
00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:07,440
Speaker 3: a lot of time are some of the mantras in

1234
00:56:07,480 --> 00:56:13,320
Speaker 3: the patience of sex language. This person enjoys massages, gentleness, before, during,

1235
00:56:13,400 --> 00:56:14,240
Speaker 3: or after sex.

1236
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:18,920
Speaker 2: Now I like this patience, yes, like take your time. Yeah,

1237
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:21,759
Speaker 2: I don't like quick sex. I mean sometimes depending on

1238
00:56:21,800 --> 00:56:26,279
Speaker 2: the environment. But what I didn't say nothing because we

1239
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:28,439
Speaker 2: already talked about you know, I've paid, I have six

1240
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:31,680
Speaker 2: in different environments, so depending on the environment, it could

1241
00:56:31,719 --> 00:56:32,080
Speaker 2: be quick.

1242
00:56:32,280 --> 00:56:34,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, but if we at home.

1243
00:56:34,040 --> 00:56:36,120
Speaker 2: In the bed, like it needs to be slow.

1244
00:56:36,280 --> 00:56:40,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, like some to get in And I feel.

1245
00:56:40,200 --> 00:56:41,800
Speaker 2: Like niggas be freaky.

1246
00:56:42,160 --> 00:56:43,960
Speaker 3: No, they don't be freaky. A lot of times they

1247
00:56:44,040 --> 00:56:47,040
Speaker 3: just be horny. There's a difference, Like niggas be horning.

1248
00:56:47,080 --> 00:56:48,959
Speaker 3: So I feel like a lot of times it's hard

1249
00:56:49,000 --> 00:56:52,239
Speaker 3: for men to take their time, and like women, we

1250
00:56:52,320 --> 00:56:54,799
Speaker 3: love for our body to be appreciated too. So it's

1251
00:56:54,840 --> 00:56:57,200
Speaker 3: just like, you know, rub us down a little bit,

1252
00:56:57,239 --> 00:56:58,160
Speaker 3: like we putting on a.

1253
00:56:58,080 --> 00:57:02,200
Speaker 1: Lot of game. Now, be rubbed down. Rub your woman, dawn,

1254
00:57:02,280 --> 00:57:03,959
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Kiss a little bit.

1255
00:57:03,920 --> 00:57:06,359
Speaker 3: Kiss her from my nag, you know, on her back,

1256
00:57:06,600 --> 00:57:10,960
Speaker 3: all that stuff. So I'm with patients. I like patients because.

1257
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:13,840
Speaker 2: The build up, Yeah, the build up is now we

1258
00:57:13,920 --> 00:57:18,840
Speaker 2: got eighteen minutes. Bit Niggas was shook. Eighteen Niggas was

1259
00:57:18,880 --> 00:57:22,760
Speaker 2: shook when she said, say no, you would shook.

1260
00:57:22,800 --> 00:57:24,560
Speaker 1: So I'm like, that's normal.

1261
00:57:24,760 --> 00:57:25,920
Speaker 2: But like I said, but I feel like if you

1262
00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:29,200
Speaker 2: eighteen minutes, but if you add a massage in there.

1263
00:57:29,640 --> 00:57:30,480
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying.

1264
00:57:30,640 --> 00:57:32,560
Speaker 2: It's like, it's so many different things that you can

1265
00:57:32,600 --> 00:57:35,480
Speaker 2: do during four play. I think people be automatically just

1266
00:57:35,560 --> 00:57:39,000
Speaker 2: always thinking of four plays kissing, eating pussy, sooking deep,

1267
00:57:39,280 --> 00:57:43,080
Speaker 2: and they see and it's that's what you do, so

1268
00:57:45,680 --> 00:57:52,920
Speaker 2: who left, that's what you do doing for a play.

1269
00:57:53,200 --> 00:57:55,440
Speaker 2: I feel like it's so many different other things though,

1270
00:57:55,440 --> 00:57:57,360
Speaker 2: that you can do during for a place, other than

1271
00:57:57,400 --> 00:58:00,640
Speaker 2: those specific three things, right, you know. But I think

1272
00:58:00,640 --> 00:58:03,120
Speaker 2: that's what people's minds always go to. And that's why

1273
00:58:03,120 --> 00:58:06,400
Speaker 2: when the topic of time limits come up, people are like, oh,

1274
00:58:06,440 --> 00:58:08,760
Speaker 2: hell nah, I ain't eat pussy for eighteen minutes. I

1275
00:58:08,760 --> 00:58:11,040
Speaker 2: ain't looking for eighteen minutes. That's not the only thing

1276
00:58:11,080 --> 00:58:13,320
Speaker 2: you can do during foreplay though, right, And you.

1277
00:58:13,280 --> 00:58:14,720
Speaker 1: Know what we're gonna talk about next episode.

1278
00:58:14,760 --> 00:58:16,600
Speaker 3: We're going to talk about the pressure points on the

1279
00:58:16,600 --> 00:58:19,400
Speaker 3: body that are sexual but not in your you know.

1280
00:58:20,320 --> 00:58:24,040
Speaker 1: Horogenous, right, it's still arogenis I mean?

1281
00:58:24,160 --> 00:58:25,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like a lot of pressure points in your

1282
00:58:25,760 --> 00:58:28,040
Speaker 2: body that like turn you on are not necessarily I

1283
00:58:28,080 --> 00:58:28,760
Speaker 2: mean you know what I mean.

1284
00:58:28,840 --> 00:58:30,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, sexual, So we're not what you mean.

1285
00:58:30,760 --> 00:58:35,720
Speaker 2: So sex language number five acceptance and celebration. The person

1286
00:58:35,800 --> 00:58:39,280
Speaker 2: who has an acceptance celebration sex language wants to know

1287
00:58:39,360 --> 00:58:42,720
Speaker 2: you accept and celebrate all of who they are during every.

1288
00:58:42,560 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 1: Phase of sex.

1289
00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:45,440
Speaker 2: They want you to appreciate all they are to you,

1290
00:58:45,880 --> 00:58:49,280
Speaker 2: not just their body are sexually. Being value makes sex

1291
00:58:49,320 --> 00:58:52,520
Speaker 2: more satisfying for this person. I think that's what Poody

1292
00:58:52,560 --> 00:58:55,280
Speaker 2: Tang was. That was his sex language acceptance.

1293
00:58:55,720 --> 00:58:57,960
Speaker 1: I wasn't accepting that he wanted you to.

1294
00:58:58,480 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 2: He wanted you to accept who he will us and

1295
00:59:00,800 --> 00:59:04,240
Speaker 2: what he likes and not can' shame him. No, I'm

1296
00:59:04,280 --> 00:59:08,200
Speaker 2: kick shaming him. Okay, So that's a you know, I'll

1297
00:59:08,240 --> 00:59:09,920
Speaker 2: say this about acceptance a celebration.

1298
00:59:10,080 --> 00:59:11,960
Speaker 3: I feel like this is when you talk during six,

1299
00:59:12,560 --> 00:59:13,880
Speaker 3: like you said, all this did good.

1300
00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:17,120
Speaker 2: It feels like.

1301
00:59:19,720 --> 00:59:22,400
Speaker 1: Let him know that you're doing a good job. After

1302
00:59:22,600 --> 00:59:25,040
Speaker 1: you get your high five. Nigga, you did that ship.

1303
00:59:25,120 --> 00:59:26,320
Speaker 1: You beat that ship up.

1304
00:59:26,920 --> 00:59:29,760
Speaker 2: You was tearing up definitely letting dabb the nigga up.

1305
00:59:29,800 --> 00:59:30,840
Speaker 2: After six I was like.

1306
00:59:30,840 --> 00:59:33,720
Speaker 1: Hell, yeah, yeah, what's good?

1307
00:59:35,480 --> 00:59:35,600
Speaker 2: Fo?

1308
00:59:35,880 --> 00:59:38,320
Speaker 1: That ship was crazy. I don't know about you about

1309
00:59:39,880 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So I like acceptance. I mean,

1310
00:59:42,400 --> 00:59:44,960
Speaker 1: we're ordering wings, That's what I'm saying. But women like

1311
00:59:45,040 --> 00:59:46,960
Speaker 1: that too, like you know what a man is fucking you.

1312
00:59:46,960 --> 00:59:48,919
Speaker 1: You like to hear that, you know, my pussy? Good

1313
00:59:49,080 --> 00:59:51,520
Speaker 1: ship like that, you know that this some good pussy.

1314
00:59:51,680 --> 00:59:53,080
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Shit like that.

1315
00:59:53,240 --> 00:59:55,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I definitely feel like you have to

1316
00:59:55,480 --> 00:59:58,120
Speaker 2: say that. It's like words of affirmation, which is one

1317
00:59:58,120 --> 01:00:00,960
Speaker 2: of the regular love languages, but I feel like it's

1318
01:00:01,000 --> 01:00:03,320
Speaker 2: also a sex language as well, Like you have to

1319
01:00:03,400 --> 01:00:06,720
Speaker 2: tell people well no, we talked about that. Well no,

1320
01:00:07,080 --> 01:00:09,160
Speaker 2: you need to really just be like, oh, I'm so

1321
01:00:09,240 --> 01:00:13,360
Speaker 2: glad you paid that light bill not but you know,

1322
01:00:13,520 --> 01:00:15,240
Speaker 2: just telling the nigga that dequos fine.

1323
01:00:15,120 --> 01:00:16,120
Speaker 1: Right, it should be.

1324
01:00:16,160 --> 01:00:19,480
Speaker 2: It's just light second light, right, it's just stay sexual

1325
01:00:19,480 --> 01:00:19,800
Speaker 2: and light.

1326
01:00:20,080 --> 01:00:22,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like it doesn't mean like, oh my god, thank

1327
01:00:22,560 --> 01:00:24,320
Speaker 3: you baby for cooking the mens this morning.

1328
01:00:24,480 --> 01:00:27,520
Speaker 2: Yeah good man, Yeah you good. Don't even nerved to

1329
01:00:27,520 --> 01:00:31,000
Speaker 2: be praised, right, They're not doing much. That's too much,

1330
01:00:31,080 --> 01:00:34,040
Speaker 2: but definitely feel like, you know, you need to talk.

1331
01:00:34,240 --> 01:00:37,040
Speaker 2: I don't know how people have quiet segs. That's concerning

1332
01:00:37,080 --> 01:00:40,080
Speaker 2: to me because I wouldn't be there. I mean, you

1333
01:00:40,080 --> 01:00:41,120
Speaker 2: can have you have to.

1334
01:00:41,080 --> 01:00:43,720
Speaker 3: Have quiet sex when you're in certain places like you are,

1335
01:00:44,640 --> 01:00:45,720
Speaker 3: like you can't.

1336
01:00:45,960 --> 01:00:47,760
Speaker 1: Right, all right, So now.

1337
01:00:47,680 --> 01:00:51,640
Speaker 2: We're gonna get into first, let us know what y'all

1338
01:00:51,960 --> 01:00:52,800
Speaker 2: sex languages are.

1339
01:00:52,840 --> 01:00:54,160
Speaker 1: I'm actually interested to know.

1340
01:00:54,480 --> 01:00:57,320
Speaker 2: And if you've ever known about this and talked about

1341
01:00:57,320 --> 01:00:59,760
Speaker 2: it with your partner, I'm actually interested because I've never

1342
01:00:59,800 --> 01:01:01,760
Speaker 2: heard about the six languages. I didn't know it was

1343
01:01:01,760 --> 01:01:05,160
Speaker 2: a thing. Okay, So now we're gonna get into dub

1344
01:01:06,960 --> 01:01:10,080
Speaker 2: bow dub bow bow bow bow.

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01:01:11,120 --> 01:01:14,320
Speaker 1: You want to go first, you can go first. Okay.

1346
01:01:14,400 --> 01:01:16,040
Speaker 2: So my bopp of the because it looks like you

1347
01:01:16,600 --> 01:01:18,760
Speaker 2: to go first. No, I was just get it out

1348
01:01:18,800 --> 01:01:20,200
Speaker 2: the way because you know, I'll be talking a lot.

1349
01:01:21,080 --> 01:01:23,440
Speaker 2: My bop of the week is actually I switched it

1350
01:01:23,480 --> 01:01:24,120
Speaker 2: at the last minute.

1351
01:01:24,120 --> 01:01:28,320
Speaker 1: It's actually by our good friend r L R L

1352
01:01:28,960 --> 01:01:29,240
Speaker 1: r L.

1353
01:01:29,360 --> 01:01:31,680
Speaker 3: He had a song. He has a song called Time.

1354
01:01:31,840 --> 01:01:35,200
Speaker 3: It's featuring him. The artist is a double A, but

1355
01:01:35,280 --> 01:01:36,560
Speaker 3: on the song it's pretty much like him.

1356
01:01:36,600 --> 01:01:42,360
Speaker 1: Singing y'all. Now, y'all know boy it was. It's such

1357
01:01:42,400 --> 01:01:43,680
Speaker 1: a smooth song.

1358
01:01:44,400 --> 01:01:49,040
Speaker 3: He literally God touched them vocals like God was like Beyonce,

1359
01:01:49,880 --> 01:01:55,040
Speaker 3: Adele Ril, r L, Christina Aguilera.

1360
01:01:55,400 --> 01:01:55,840
Speaker 2: You better.

1361
01:01:55,920 --> 01:01:56,560
Speaker 1: I know you.

1362
01:01:56,680 --> 01:01:58,080
Speaker 2: Was about to say that, dub.

1363
01:02:01,760 --> 01:02:10,040
Speaker 1: I know you, Tina Lex Uh you know what I'm saying. No,

1364
01:02:10,120 --> 01:02:12,680
Speaker 1: I don't. I was with you until you said Lex.

1365
01:02:13,400 --> 01:02:20,120
Speaker 2: But yes, voice it's like butterlet's.

1366
01:02:20,120 --> 01:02:22,520
Speaker 3: That's why that's he was talking about his voice too.

1367
01:02:22,800 --> 01:02:24,959
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie to y'all. It's a really really

1368
01:02:24,960 --> 01:02:27,000
Speaker 3: good song. It's about Double A and it's with two

1369
01:02:27,080 --> 01:02:30,680
Speaker 3: A's featuring r L. It's called Time, And like I said,

1370
01:02:30,960 --> 01:02:34,720
Speaker 3: r L's voice is so beautiful, and I like, if

1371
01:02:34,760 --> 01:02:38,920
Speaker 3: you like that, like that old school like good music.

1372
01:02:38,680 --> 01:02:41,200
Speaker 2: Like that's the vibes that it gives, like that real

1373
01:02:41,440 --> 01:02:44,200
Speaker 2: R and B sound. It's an amazing song. And like

1374
01:02:44,240 --> 01:02:46,760
Speaker 2: I said, I love his voice because honestly, when he

1375
01:02:46,800 --> 01:02:48,960
Speaker 2: came on the show and he sang, I was like, ooh,

1376
01:02:48,960 --> 01:02:51,080
Speaker 2: I hope his voice don't crack because when he talked,

1377
01:02:51,120 --> 01:02:53,080
Speaker 2: his voices really deep and raspy.

1378
01:02:53,560 --> 01:02:55,480
Speaker 1: I'm like, you're gonna be able to sing because I'm

1379
01:02:55,480 --> 01:02:56,440
Speaker 1: about to tell I'm about to.

1380
01:02:56,400 --> 01:02:59,920
Speaker 2: Tear that up now and back when he got out out,

1381
01:03:00,280 --> 01:03:03,840
Speaker 2: r L was worried at all it up. He wasn't

1382
01:03:04,120 --> 01:03:06,120
Speaker 2: because when he started singing, I said, hold on, Nigga,

1383
01:03:06,120 --> 01:03:06,720
Speaker 2: it's my show.

1384
01:03:08,520 --> 01:03:10,200
Speaker 1: Because he did what he takes.

1385
01:03:10,240 --> 01:03:12,280
Speaker 2: We had very few people on the show that I

1386
01:03:12,280 --> 01:03:14,800
Speaker 2: think LIX was shook when they started singing, and that

1387
01:03:15,000 --> 01:03:18,200
Speaker 2: was obviously one of them. I said, hold on, Nigga,

1388
01:03:18,400 --> 01:03:22,320
Speaker 2: and and of course me, but yes, r L double

1389
01:03:22,360 --> 01:03:23,920
Speaker 2: a feature r L time.

1390
01:03:24,000 --> 01:03:26,320
Speaker 3: It's an amazing song. It's beautiful. Shout out to r

1391
01:03:26,400 --> 01:03:28,600
Speaker 3: RAL beautiful voice. He still got it.

1392
01:03:28,600 --> 01:03:32,680
Speaker 2: Still got it period. Okay, so my viby, we're about

1393
01:03:32,720 --> 01:03:33,560
Speaker 2: to take it a little.

1394
01:03:33,600 --> 01:03:37,440
Speaker 1: You know, we're about to twirk. We're about to twirt.

1395
01:03:37,960 --> 01:03:42,720
Speaker 2: My Bob is too easy by Gunna one in future.

1396
01:03:43,760 --> 01:03:47,760
Speaker 1: It's still growing on I like you. I was listening

1397
01:03:47,800 --> 01:03:48,920
Speaker 1: to it in the car on the way here.

1398
01:03:48,960 --> 01:03:51,959
Speaker 2: I was like, yes, okay, period, Yeah, I'm not gonna

1399
01:03:51,960 --> 01:03:54,320
Speaker 2: lie little easy. This ship too easy.

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01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:57,400
Speaker 3: Gunna still has a top mistress because he's too easy

1401
01:03:57,560 --> 01:03:57,960
Speaker 3: for me.

1402
01:03:58,240 --> 01:03:59,600
Speaker 1: I love gonna memories.

1403
01:04:00,080 --> 01:04:03,760
Speaker 3: Since that was a song, how did they go? Got

1404
01:04:03,760 --> 01:04:07,800
Speaker 3: me a real Mistress that he still ain't top that

1405
01:04:07,880 --> 01:04:09,200
Speaker 3: song for me, but he.

1406
01:04:09,320 --> 01:04:13,160
Speaker 1: Has a lot of good he had some bo I'm saying,

1407
01:04:13,200 --> 01:04:14,640
Speaker 1: Mistress is still my favorite song.

1408
01:04:14,480 --> 01:04:17,120
Speaker 3: But I listened to Too Easy by Future and Gun

1409
01:04:17,160 --> 01:04:18,320
Speaker 3: and it just has to grow on me.

1410
01:04:18,360 --> 01:04:20,360
Speaker 1: I'm not quite there with you, I think.

1411
01:04:20,360 --> 01:04:22,560
Speaker 2: I mean, And that's understandable because I feel like, you know,

1412
01:04:22,600 --> 01:04:24,320
Speaker 2: it's a lot of songs that come out and stuff,

1413
01:04:24,320 --> 01:04:26,400
Speaker 2: and you hear them the first the very first time,

1414
01:04:26,440 --> 01:04:29,040
Speaker 2: and then they have to grow on you, you know what

1415
01:04:29,120 --> 01:04:31,200
Speaker 2: I mean. So that happens all the time to all

1416
01:04:31,240 --> 01:04:33,200
Speaker 2: of us. It was actually like I think I had

1417
01:04:33,240 --> 01:04:36,560
Speaker 2: talked about Meek album like a few weeks ago, and

1418
01:04:38,000 --> 01:04:40,520
Speaker 2: I actually like a few more songs now. So I mean,

1419
01:04:41,600 --> 01:04:44,160
Speaker 2: that's what it is. Sometimes stuff has to grow on you.

1420
01:04:43,960 --> 01:04:44,479
Speaker 1: All right.

1421
01:04:44,760 --> 01:04:47,960
Speaker 2: So now we're getting to our favorite segment, the pour

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Speaker 1: No, but you always trying to get the short questions.

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Speaker 2: I'm just I can, ladies. I'm one of your male listeners.

1466
01:06:44,480 --> 01:06:46,720
Speaker 2: I recently hooked up with an X of mine at

1467
01:06:46,720 --> 01:06:49,440
Speaker 2: the cabin in the mountains. We had sex in the

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01:06:49,440 --> 01:06:51,520
Speaker 2: hot tub, and for her it was amazing and the

1469
01:06:51,560 --> 01:06:54,280
Speaker 2: best part of the weekend. I thought it was okay,

1470
01:06:54,560 --> 01:06:57,280
Speaker 2: but I definitely had freaction burned on my dick since

1471
01:06:57,280 --> 01:07:00,520
Speaker 2: she was riding me the whole time. My questions you is,

1472
01:07:00,600 --> 01:07:04,160
Speaker 2: do y'all enjoy hot tubs slash pool sex? No?

1473
01:07:05,440 --> 01:07:07,120
Speaker 1: Terror, I don't.

1474
01:07:07,440 --> 01:07:11,560
Speaker 2: I don't even really like having sex and water is

1475
01:07:11,600 --> 01:07:12,560
Speaker 2: the ultimate no.

1476
01:07:12,560 --> 01:07:12,720
Speaker 1: No.

1477
01:07:13,080 --> 01:07:15,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, shower sex is cool and it's not

1478
01:07:16,000 --> 01:07:22,680
Speaker 2: so bad, but like sitting in water fucking that ain't

1479
01:07:22,720 --> 01:07:27,200
Speaker 2: really you washed, not my idea of a good time hunt.

1480
01:07:27,320 --> 01:07:29,200
Speaker 1: And then when you in a pool it's.

1481
01:07:29,080 --> 01:07:31,680
Speaker 2: Corene in there that she getting all up in your pussy,

1482
01:07:31,800 --> 01:07:32,600
Speaker 2: Like I don't like that.

1483
01:07:33,240 --> 01:07:36,000
Speaker 3: And I'm like, she said that it was amazing, but

1484
01:07:36,040 --> 01:07:38,320
Speaker 3: she's probably lying because that's I've never.

1485
01:07:38,400 --> 01:07:40,560
Speaker 1: She probably ain't lying. It probably was an amazing to her.

1486
01:07:42,080 --> 01:07:43,760
Speaker 1: I don't know. I've never had sex with the water.

1487
01:07:43,840 --> 01:07:44,360
Speaker 1: It was amazing.

1488
01:07:44,680 --> 01:07:47,320
Speaker 3: I've done good because after that second time, I'm like, no,

1489
01:07:47,400 --> 01:07:48,040
Speaker 3: I have.

1490
01:07:48,040 --> 01:07:51,080
Speaker 2: Had sex in water and it was good. It's just

1491
01:07:51,280 --> 01:07:54,640
Speaker 2: not a preference of mind, Like it's not something that

1492
01:07:54,680 --> 01:07:58,440
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna ideally want to do. I have. I've

1493
01:07:58,440 --> 01:08:00,360
Speaker 2: had sex in the baths, like I've had sex and

1494
01:08:00,400 --> 01:08:05,600
Speaker 2: bathtubs and stuff like that. Like you know, I told you,

1495
01:08:05,680 --> 01:08:10,360
Speaker 2: all right, So no, we don't enjoy hot tel pull sex.

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01:08:10,400 --> 01:08:12,200
Speaker 1: I feel like sex in the water is a no

1497
01:08:12,200 --> 01:08:13,960
Speaker 1: no for me personally.

1498
01:08:13,720 --> 01:08:16,559
Speaker 2: Not friction burn. It sounded more like that pussy was dry.

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01:08:17,040 --> 01:08:20,759
Speaker 2: Yeah that too, because I ain't never add a nigga

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01:08:20,760 --> 01:08:21,920
Speaker 2: bee like wit burn.

1501
01:08:23,320 --> 01:08:27,000
Speaker 1: I think that you should let it burn.

1502
01:08:28,439 --> 01:08:30,000
Speaker 2: If might not be friction.

1503
01:08:29,720 --> 01:08:31,200
Speaker 1: Burning, might I see?

1504
01:08:31,240 --> 01:08:33,120
Speaker 2: I ain't want to say another bird.

1505
01:08:33,240 --> 01:08:36,400
Speaker 1: Make sure you just go to the doctor. Amen question too,

1506
01:08:36,760 --> 01:08:37,800
Speaker 1: Hello Alexandrea.

1507
01:08:37,960 --> 01:08:39,439
Speaker 2: I don't want you to make this I don't want

1508
01:08:39,439 --> 01:08:41,080
Speaker 2: to make this long, but I do want to say

1509
01:08:41,120 --> 01:08:42,559
Speaker 2: you guys are both gorgeous and dre.

1510
01:08:42,720 --> 01:08:45,439
Speaker 1: You really put on for us brown skin, darker skinned

1511
01:08:45,479 --> 01:08:47,639
Speaker 1: women like I'm out a chocolate queen.

1512
01:08:49,920 --> 01:08:52,120
Speaker 2: I live in a smaller city and have not crossed

1513
01:08:52,200 --> 01:08:55,639
Speaker 2: any real badbs. A few months ago, this man added

1514
01:08:55,680 --> 01:08:58,599
Speaker 2: me on Facebook. I accepted because we had a few

1515
01:08:58,680 --> 01:09:01,760
Speaker 2: mutual friends from the air side. Note my friends and

1516
01:09:01,800 --> 01:09:04,960
Speaker 2: I did a little digging on him and verify he's legit.

1517
01:09:05,080 --> 01:09:08,200
Speaker 2: He's definitely very successful. He's an older white man, but

1518
01:09:08,320 --> 01:09:10,960
Speaker 2: damn he's fine. He sent me a message about a

1519
01:09:11,000 --> 01:09:13,800
Speaker 2: month ago just saying Hi. It was very bland and

1520
01:09:13,800 --> 01:09:16,400
Speaker 2: it did not get far in conversation. The other day

1521
01:09:16,439 --> 01:09:19,240
Speaker 2: he messages me regarding a picture I posted, complimenting me.

1522
01:09:19,640 --> 01:09:21,479
Speaker 2: He then said I should come over to his place

1523
01:09:21,560 --> 01:09:24,080
Speaker 2: to hang out. This was definitely a red flag, as

1524
01:09:24,120 --> 01:09:26,360
Speaker 2: I just don't go to anyone's house especially not no

1525
01:09:26,439 --> 01:09:29,400
Speaker 2: white man I never met. I responded to his message

1526
01:09:29,640 --> 01:09:32,040
Speaker 2: complimenting me, but I ignored the last message of him

1527
01:09:32,040 --> 01:09:34,240
Speaker 2: asking me to come over. Can you guys give me

1528
01:09:34,240 --> 01:09:36,800
Speaker 2: advice on how to handle this situation? Should I just

1529
01:09:36,840 --> 01:09:39,439
Speaker 2: ignore him altogether? Since common sense is telling me what

1530
01:09:39,479 --> 01:09:42,120
Speaker 2: his intentions are? Is there any way to make someone

1531
01:09:42,200 --> 01:09:45,360
Speaker 2: you never even met into a BDB situation?

1532
01:09:48,000 --> 01:09:49,840
Speaker 1: I feel like when a.

1533
01:09:49,560 --> 01:09:52,840
Speaker 2: Man messages me and asks me to come over, that's

1534
01:09:52,920 --> 01:09:55,160
Speaker 2: your opportunity if you still want to talk to him, because,

1535
01:09:55,360 --> 01:09:56,960
Speaker 2: like I said, men gonna try to do the bare

1536
01:09:57,000 --> 01:09:58,120
Speaker 2: minimum if you let them.

1537
01:09:58,280 --> 01:10:01,000
Speaker 1: Who wants to work for pussy? Nobody? You know what

1538
01:10:01,000 --> 01:10:03,320
Speaker 1: I'm saying. And he's so much pussy you ain't gotta

1539
01:10:03,439 --> 01:10:04,040
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying.

1540
01:10:04,080 --> 01:10:06,880
Speaker 3: So if he if he is a BDB, obviously he's

1541
01:10:06,920 --> 01:10:09,479
Speaker 3: probably just used to women want to come and come over.

1542
01:10:09,600 --> 01:10:12,840
Speaker 3: But that's your opportunity right there to let him know

1543
01:10:13,120 --> 01:10:16,120
Speaker 3: what your expectations are. No, I don't want to come

1544
01:10:16,120 --> 01:10:17,800
Speaker 3: to your house, but if you would like to like

1545
01:10:17,840 --> 01:10:19,439
Speaker 3: to take me to dinner and we can go do that,

1546
01:10:19,880 --> 01:10:22,360
Speaker 3: let him know, like, I'm not that bitch that's just

1547
01:10:22,360 --> 01:10:24,160
Speaker 3: gonna come over to your house the first time we

1548
01:10:24,240 --> 01:10:25,439
Speaker 3: hanging out in Netflix and chill.

1549
01:10:25,800 --> 01:10:28,120
Speaker 1: This man is older and he white. He know better.

1550
01:10:28,680 --> 01:10:31,840
Speaker 3: And honestly, I hate to say this, but you do

1551
01:10:31,920 --> 01:10:34,200
Speaker 3: gotta watch out for them older white men because sometimes

1552
01:10:34,200 --> 01:10:36,559
Speaker 3: it be a fetish thing, like they just like fuck.

1553
01:10:36,640 --> 01:10:38,879
Speaker 1: I think you gotta watch out for a white men period,

1554
01:10:39,360 --> 01:10:40,400
Speaker 1: Like sometimes.

1555
01:10:40,120 --> 01:10:42,120
Speaker 3: It be like a fetish thing. So you need to

1556
01:10:42,200 --> 01:10:43,920
Speaker 3: let it be known straight up in them. Hey, you

1557
01:10:43,960 --> 01:10:45,680
Speaker 3: want to hang out with me, We're gonna have to

1558
01:10:45,680 --> 01:10:47,400
Speaker 3: go to dinner. We're gonna have to do something like

1559
01:10:48,040 --> 01:10:50,920
Speaker 3: let him know, like you gotta spend do something.

1560
01:10:51,360 --> 01:10:52,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, come hang out with you at your house.

1561
01:10:53,000 --> 01:10:55,960
Speaker 2: I think you absolutely just just sit the boundaries, you

1562
01:10:55,960 --> 01:10:58,320
Speaker 2: know what I mean, Like y'all need to go on dates, y'all,

1563
01:10:58,320 --> 01:11:01,120
Speaker 2: you want to do something at activity easy, want to

1564
01:11:01,160 --> 01:11:02,559
Speaker 2: get out the house. You ain't trying to be all

1565
01:11:02,640 --> 01:11:05,200
Speaker 2: up in his crew, right, and just let that be known.

1566
01:11:05,280 --> 01:11:06,960
Speaker 2: And if he cool with that, then cool, then I

1567
01:11:06,960 --> 01:11:08,559
Speaker 2: would go on a date with him. But then if

1568
01:11:08,560 --> 01:11:10,479
Speaker 2: he's not, okay, well you already know what he was about.

1569
01:11:10,600 --> 01:11:13,719
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's an easy situation. That's an easy situation

1570
01:11:13,840 --> 01:11:15,519
Speaker 1: for sure. Yeah, Okay.

1571
01:11:15,600 --> 01:11:18,320
Speaker 2: Question number three I'm dealing with one of my coworkers,

1572
01:11:18,360 --> 01:11:20,479
Speaker 2: and I'm falling for him when I shouldn't be. The

1573
01:11:20,560 --> 01:11:23,000
Speaker 2: first reason I shouldn't be is because I've recently just

1574
01:11:23,000 --> 01:11:24,880
Speaker 2: got out of a relationship with one of our old

1575
01:11:24,880 --> 01:11:27,759
Speaker 2: coworkers who no longer works there. But now it's awkward

1576
01:11:27,840 --> 01:11:29,839
Speaker 2: because I don't want to seem like I get around

1577
01:11:29,920 --> 01:11:34,960
Speaker 2: at the job the second. The second reason is because

1578
01:11:34,960 --> 01:11:37,679
Speaker 2: he claims he's single, but he just recently had a baby,

1579
01:11:38,000 --> 01:11:40,040
Speaker 2: so I know he's still dealing with his baby mama.

1580
01:11:40,080 --> 01:11:42,720
Speaker 2: We're still young in our mid twenties. Should we just

1581
01:11:42,760 --> 01:11:45,400
Speaker 2: say fucking and have fun with life or just not

1582
01:11:45,760 --> 01:11:50,120
Speaker 2: deal with each other? Why did you do that? Because

1583
01:11:50,200 --> 01:11:52,639
Speaker 2: I just remember that work life. Niggas be working fifty

1584
01:11:52,640 --> 01:11:53,840
Speaker 2: hours a week, you be with that.

1585
01:11:53,840 --> 01:11:54,559
Speaker 1: Nigga all the time.

1586
01:11:54,720 --> 01:11:58,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I don't think if you date a second

1587
01:11:58,640 --> 01:12:01,080
Speaker 2: person they choulder. I mean, I would say it depending

1588
01:12:01,080 --> 01:12:04,400
Speaker 2: on how big or smaller company is. Oh well, fuck

1589
01:12:04,600 --> 01:12:07,360
Speaker 2: them people when one thing about me. When I worked

1590
01:12:07,360 --> 01:12:10,880
Speaker 2: in the corporate America world, I didn't give a fuck

1591
01:12:10,920 --> 01:12:12,519
Speaker 2: about what the people thought about me. I used to

1592
01:12:12,560 --> 01:12:14,720
Speaker 2: do whatever the fuck I wanted to do when I

1593
01:12:14,720 --> 01:12:16,920
Speaker 2: wanted to do it, na id end up getting laid off.

1594
01:12:18,280 --> 01:12:19,679
Speaker 1: So I don't know if you take my base.

1595
01:12:20,000 --> 01:12:24,120
Speaker 2: But but I got a severence package, so you know,

1596
01:12:24,560 --> 01:12:26,400
Speaker 2: well maybe if she get one and she could go

1597
01:12:26,439 --> 01:12:29,160
Speaker 2: pursue something else. I don't know, But all I'm saying

1598
01:12:29,240 --> 01:12:31,160
Speaker 2: is fucking people like I wouldn't give a fuck. If

1599
01:12:31,160 --> 01:12:32,639
Speaker 2: you want a date to dude and you like him,

1600
01:12:32,880 --> 01:12:35,080
Speaker 2: I would date him. I would not date him just

1601
01:12:35,120 --> 01:12:37,439
Speaker 2: because he works at my job and I dated somebody

1602
01:12:37,439 --> 01:12:39,840
Speaker 2: else at the job who no longer even work at

1603
01:12:39,840 --> 01:12:41,439
Speaker 2: the job, who cares well.

1604
01:12:41,439 --> 01:12:43,880
Speaker 3: I'll say this, like being in your thirties, when you

1605
01:12:43,920 --> 01:12:47,400
Speaker 3: think about shit that was going on in your mid

1606
01:12:47,439 --> 01:12:50,439
Speaker 3: twenties or your early twenties, that shit don't even matter

1607
01:12:50,479 --> 01:12:50,800
Speaker 3: no more.

1608
01:12:50,880 --> 01:12:52,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, for me, it's like being thirty.

1609
01:12:52,439 --> 01:12:54,920
Speaker 2: I just think about all the time and stuff that

1610
01:12:54,960 --> 01:12:57,640
Speaker 2: I cared about in time I wasted that and the

1611
01:12:57,720 --> 01:12:59,759
Speaker 2: shit really don't fucking really matter.

1612
01:12:59,680 --> 01:13:00,439
Speaker 1: Right, you know?

1613
01:13:00,920 --> 01:13:02,840
Speaker 2: Like that That's the type of ship I think me

1614
01:13:03,040 --> 01:13:05,160
Speaker 2: as my younger self, Like in my early twenties, I

1615
01:13:05,160 --> 01:13:07,800
Speaker 2: probably would have cared about some shit like that too,

1616
01:13:07,920 --> 01:13:10,000
Speaker 2: But it's like that ship, don't it don't matter, Like

1617
01:13:10,080 --> 01:13:12,120
Speaker 2: y'all probably gonna have a good time, enjoy each other.

1618
01:13:12,280 --> 01:13:15,040
Speaker 1: So have fun while you hand like do what you

1619
01:13:15,080 --> 01:13:15,439
Speaker 1: want to do.

1620
01:13:15,479 --> 01:13:17,720
Speaker 3: Girl, Just have fun because who cares as long as

1621
01:13:17,800 --> 01:13:19,839
Speaker 3: y'all keep y'all co workers out, y'all beers and stuff.

1622
01:13:19,880 --> 01:13:21,960
Speaker 2: That's the main thing. It's like, how people gonna know

1623
01:13:22,040 --> 01:13:24,960
Speaker 2: y'all fucking with each other? Y'all tell them that shall

1624
01:13:25,000 --> 01:13:29,000
Speaker 2: be fucking at the cubicles holding hands and she I'm

1625
01:13:29,040 --> 01:13:31,400
Speaker 2: just saying how people don't know y'all fucking with each other.

1626
01:13:33,520 --> 01:13:35,479
Speaker 3: M See, y'all used to work at a restaurant. Me

1627
01:13:35,520 --> 01:13:37,400
Speaker 3: and my nigga used to be kissing a deep freek.

1628
01:13:37,479 --> 01:13:39,960
Speaker 1: You never worked in an office next to the I

1629
01:13:40,040 --> 01:13:42,799
Speaker 1: used to work at TGI Friday's Baby the Potato Skins.

1630
01:13:42,840 --> 01:13:45,240
Speaker 2: We used to be getting right between the potato skins

1631
01:13:45,240 --> 01:13:52,320
Speaker 2: and the postause it was going down. That's so glad

1632
01:13:52,360 --> 01:13:56,360
Speaker 2: that you have made it, because that sounds rough.

1633
01:13:56,520 --> 01:13:59,400
Speaker 1: You know, you remember he probably still watching it.

1634
01:13:59,439 --> 01:14:00,320
Speaker 2: He probably still worked.

1635
01:14:00,680 --> 01:14:03,360
Speaker 1: He probably do, knowing me with my past. You never

1636
01:14:03,400 --> 01:14:04,599
Speaker 1: worked at a corporate office.

1637
01:14:04,680 --> 01:14:11,000
Speaker 2: I thought you did. We had a corporate no them niggas.

1638
01:14:11,080 --> 01:14:13,240
Speaker 2: I mean I had a man that was like definitely

1639
01:14:13,320 --> 01:14:16,639
Speaker 2: used to always hit on me. And it's so crazy

1640
01:14:16,680 --> 01:14:18,240
Speaker 2: because he used to always hit on me and say

1641
01:14:18,280 --> 01:14:18,760
Speaker 2: little stuff.

1642
01:14:18,760 --> 01:14:21,240
Speaker 3: And this is around the time we had started the podcast,

1643
01:14:21,400 --> 01:14:23,000
Speaker 3: and he would be like, men, let's go for a Julie,

1644
01:14:23,080 --> 01:14:24,800
Speaker 3: Let's go for happy hour. But I knew he was married.

1645
01:14:24,840 --> 01:14:26,720
Speaker 3: I was just like, no, like I'm cool because he

1646
01:14:26,800 --> 01:14:28,960
Speaker 3: used to listen to the podcast. So the first time

1647
01:14:28,960 --> 01:14:32,400
Speaker 3: he listened to it, he was like, oh, yead s right,

1648
01:14:32,840 --> 01:14:35,840
Speaker 3: I'm about the buck like he's I know. He was like, yeah,

1649
01:14:35,920 --> 01:14:37,599
Speaker 3: he used to come in the morning. I swear to god,

1650
01:14:37,800 --> 01:14:40,160
Speaker 3: I listened to your podcast last night, wind.

1651
01:14:39,880 --> 01:14:45,439
Speaker 2: Down Wednesday LID and I used to be like, and

1652
01:14:45,479 --> 01:14:46,760
Speaker 2: it's like the building I worked in.

1653
01:14:46,840 --> 01:14:49,360
Speaker 1: They he didn't actually work for the company I worked for.

1654
01:14:49,439 --> 01:14:51,640
Speaker 3: He was renting out of office because I used to

1655
01:14:51,640 --> 01:14:54,240
Speaker 3: work at Regions, right, they rent out office spaces, so it's.

1656
01:14:54,120 --> 01:14:57,200
Speaker 1: Not like like who I'm gonna tell he worked for himself.

1657
01:14:57,240 --> 01:14:58,920
Speaker 1: And he was like, yeah, I'm a BDB.

1658
01:14:59,080 --> 01:15:00,599
Speaker 2: I heard what y'all know, my BDB.

1659
01:15:03,240 --> 01:15:04,280
Speaker 1: He was super corny.

1660
01:15:04,439 --> 01:15:06,840
Speaker 2: I never I never fucked with nobody that I worked

1661
01:15:06,880 --> 01:15:10,760
Speaker 2: sweet in like my little corporate jobs or whatever. Like

1662
01:15:10,800 --> 01:15:12,320
Speaker 2: I did have a dude who used to flirt with

1663
01:15:12,360 --> 01:15:14,880
Speaker 2: me all the time. So and I was surprised, but

1664
01:15:14,920 --> 01:15:16,559
Speaker 2: I used to fly mex. I could put my work

1665
01:15:16,560 --> 01:15:18,840
Speaker 2: off on him. I'm dead, but yeah, he definitely used

1666
01:15:18,840 --> 01:15:20,240
Speaker 2: to flirt with me. But I used to get him

1667
01:15:20,280 --> 01:15:21,960
Speaker 2: to do my files and she it was.

1668
01:15:21,880 --> 01:15:24,120
Speaker 3: Crazy because later on it came out that he he

1669
01:15:24,200 --> 01:15:25,840
Speaker 3: started sucking one of my coworkers.

1670
01:15:26,000 --> 01:15:27,280
Speaker 1: He was just trying to get anybody.

1671
01:15:27,280 --> 01:15:28,880
Speaker 2: He was sign She wasn't cute.

1672
01:15:29,000 --> 01:15:29,960
Speaker 1: I mean she was cool.

1673
01:15:30,240 --> 01:15:33,320
Speaker 2: It wasn't about she said. I mean she was. I'm

1674
01:15:33,360 --> 01:15:34,320
Speaker 2: just saying, you.

1675
01:15:34,160 --> 01:15:36,240
Speaker 1: Think about Lex let me tell y'all something.

1676
01:15:36,520 --> 01:15:38,760
Speaker 2: Whenever she don't want to call nobody ugly, but she

1677
01:15:38,800 --> 01:15:39,920
Speaker 2: want to still try to be nice.

1678
01:15:39,920 --> 01:15:42,000
Speaker 1: She'd be like, I mean that was cool.

1679
01:15:42,400 --> 01:15:42,960
Speaker 2: It was cool.

1680
01:15:43,000 --> 01:15:43,479
Speaker 1: I mean she was.

1681
01:15:45,920 --> 01:15:51,840
Speaker 2: When my boys get like a motherfucker, I'm like question

1682
01:15:52,000 --> 01:15:56,200
Speaker 2: number four. Dear Lex Andrea, I've been a long time listener,

1683
01:15:56,240 --> 01:15:58,559
Speaker 2: and I'm proud of the success and recognition you are

1684
01:15:58,560 --> 01:16:01,000
Speaker 2: both now receiving received for your hard work.

1685
01:16:01,200 --> 01:16:04,479
Speaker 3: I've been in a relationship for eight long and draining years. Now,

1686
01:16:04,800 --> 01:16:07,639
Speaker 3: my crazies to yourself. Let my boyfriend talk me into

1687
01:16:07,720 --> 01:16:10,760
Speaker 3: using my car. June of twenty twenty until he got

1688
01:16:10,760 --> 01:16:13,439
Speaker 3: one of his own. It turned into a ghetto situation

1689
01:16:13,520 --> 01:16:15,560
Speaker 3: of him dropping me off and picking me up for

1690
01:16:15,720 --> 01:16:18,559
Speaker 3: my own job and him not paying a single dime

1691
01:16:18,800 --> 01:16:22,160
Speaker 3: up for my car note or insurance. I let him

1692
01:16:22,160 --> 01:16:24,880
Speaker 3: talk me into renting car from enterprise one day because

1693
01:16:24,880 --> 01:16:27,040
Speaker 3: I needed a car, and he wrecked the car and

1694
01:16:27,160 --> 01:16:29,439
Speaker 3: racked up thirty five hundred dollars on my credit that

1695
01:16:29,479 --> 01:16:31,719
Speaker 3: he says he is going to pay and still hasn't.

1696
01:16:32,000 --> 01:16:34,920
Speaker 3: Damn my stupid ass has turned around and got a

1697
01:16:34,960 --> 01:16:37,400
Speaker 3: phone taken out in my name. While on the way

1698
01:16:37,439 --> 01:16:39,680
Speaker 3: to the store, He's like, I'm not gonna play with

1699
01:16:39,760 --> 01:16:40,639
Speaker 3: other people's credit.

1700
01:16:40,680 --> 01:16:41,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna pay my bill.

1701
01:16:42,320 --> 01:16:44,799
Speaker 3: He goes in and gets the newest iPhone, then turns

1702
01:16:44,840 --> 01:16:47,840
Speaker 3: around and gets an iPad with the most expensive plan

1703
01:16:48,360 --> 01:16:51,400
Speaker 3: and stop paying the bill. So now seventeen hundred dollars

1704
01:16:51,760 --> 01:16:54,960
Speaker 3: is going on my credit for an unpaid bill. I

1705
01:16:55,000 --> 01:16:56,960
Speaker 3: know I did some dumb shit, but I'm twenty five

1706
01:16:57,000 --> 01:17:00,360
Speaker 3: and I've always maintained my credit, a nice job, and

1707
01:17:00,439 --> 01:17:02,240
Speaker 3: my own crib, and I've let a nigger come into

1708
01:17:02,280 --> 01:17:04,519
Speaker 3: my life and damn near ruin it. Would you ever

1709
01:17:04,560 --> 01:17:06,920
Speaker 3: trust someone else with your credit, And should I just

1710
01:17:06,960 --> 01:17:09,519
Speaker 3: pay the debt so it doesn't hurt me financially, or

1711
01:17:09,560 --> 01:17:11,559
Speaker 3: should I break up with him because he clearly doesn't

1712
01:17:11,560 --> 01:17:13,280
Speaker 3: give a damn about me and he's trying to break

1713
01:17:13,320 --> 01:17:17,000
Speaker 3: me down whirl, So number one is given of it

1714
01:17:17,080 --> 01:17:21,160
Speaker 3: in Jody, that's number one, number two.

1715
01:17:23,520 --> 01:17:30,760
Speaker 2: Number not the real mccryst. So definitely break up with

1716
01:17:30,760 --> 01:17:35,479
Speaker 2: that nigga. Definitely, definitely because he's using you and clearly

1717
01:17:35,520 --> 01:17:37,880
Speaker 2: he does not give a fuck about you and what

1718
01:17:38,000 --> 01:17:41,840
Speaker 2: you have going on. And you said, uh, should you?

1719
01:17:41,880 --> 01:17:44,760
Speaker 2: Would you ever trust someone else, trust someone else with

1720
01:17:44,840 --> 01:17:48,320
Speaker 2: your crety? I would never trust no one period with

1721
01:17:48,479 --> 01:17:52,320
Speaker 2: my credit. You need nobody for every for everything. I

1722
01:17:52,320 --> 01:17:55,479
Speaker 2: would never trust anybody with my creedy. You literally need

1723
01:17:55,520 --> 01:17:57,960
Speaker 2: credit for everything. If I fuck my credit up, that's

1724
01:17:58,000 --> 01:17:59,840
Speaker 2: not me. But I'm not about to let you fuck

1725
01:17:59,840 --> 01:18:02,160
Speaker 2: it up, you know what I mean. So it's like

1726
01:18:02,240 --> 01:18:05,320
Speaker 2: you built, you spend all this time building up your credit,

1727
01:18:05,800 --> 01:18:07,680
Speaker 2: trying to get your shit together so that you can

1728
01:18:07,760 --> 01:18:09,439
Speaker 2: have a good life, and you let this nigga come

1729
01:18:09,479 --> 01:18:14,560
Speaker 2: in your life and run up come onix thousand dollars

1730
01:18:14,760 --> 01:18:17,240
Speaker 2: about six thousand dollars worth a shit on your credit,

1731
01:18:17,560 --> 01:18:18,519
Speaker 2: and now you the one.

1732
01:18:18,439 --> 01:18:20,040
Speaker 1: That stuck paying this shit back because that shit on

1733
01:18:20,120 --> 01:18:20,639
Speaker 1: your credit.

1734
01:18:21,040 --> 01:18:23,200
Speaker 2: If he a fuck, if he really continues to be

1735
01:18:23,240 --> 01:18:25,120
Speaker 2: a fuck nigga and he decides, oh, I'm not gonna

1736
01:18:25,120 --> 01:18:26,800
Speaker 2: pay this ship back, it ain't shit you could do

1737
01:18:26,800 --> 01:18:29,960
Speaker 2: because that's on you, that's not on him. He could

1738
01:18:30,000 --> 01:18:31,920
Speaker 2: go on about his life, going about his visits with

1739
01:18:32,000 --> 01:18:36,800
Speaker 2: his new iPad and iPhone. Honestly, nine times out of ten,

1740
01:18:36,840 --> 01:18:38,439
Speaker 2: he's not gonna pay that ship back. So you just

1741
01:18:38,439 --> 01:18:41,880
Speaker 2: need to break up with him, block him, take your

1742
01:18:42,200 --> 01:18:43,559
Speaker 2: pay your ship back, get your.

1743
01:18:43,439 --> 01:18:46,200
Speaker 1: Credit, get your ship back together. Girl, let that shit go.

1744
01:18:46,360 --> 01:18:46,600
Speaker 1: I go.

1745
01:18:46,880 --> 01:18:48,920
Speaker 2: You know, you know that's not in our ministry. You

1746
01:18:48,960 --> 01:18:50,640
Speaker 2: know what the hell he was gonna say, God damn it.

1747
01:18:51,720 --> 01:18:55,120
Speaker 2: Go find you a new dude too, you know, because

1748
01:18:55,120 --> 01:18:56,800
Speaker 2: you might need a dude who might help you pay

1749
01:18:56,840 --> 01:18:59,120
Speaker 2: it off. But in the meantime, you need to start

1750
01:18:59,120 --> 01:19:02,400
Speaker 2: paying it off yourself, because it don't seem like he

1751
01:19:02,600 --> 01:19:05,040
Speaker 2: gonna do what he needs to do, because girl, he

1752
01:19:05,040 --> 01:19:07,840
Speaker 2: ain't even got a who don't have shit, He don't

1753
01:19:07,840 --> 01:19:09,840
Speaker 2: have nothing. He was he was in your car and

1754
01:19:09,840 --> 01:19:12,000
Speaker 2: then he needed a rental card. Now he needed a

1755
01:19:12,040 --> 01:19:13,479
Speaker 2: rental card and then he wrecked the.

1756
01:19:13,880 --> 01:19:16,800
Speaker 3: And that's what I'm saying. Like, you're twenty five, you're

1757
01:19:16,800 --> 01:19:18,400
Speaker 3: doing well for yourself. You said you had a nice

1758
01:19:18,439 --> 01:19:20,040
Speaker 3: job and good credit, and you let him ruin. That

1759
01:19:20,200 --> 01:19:23,000
Speaker 3: cut that off because when you turn thirty, you're gonna

1760
01:19:23,000 --> 01:19:25,479
Speaker 3: be like, damn, what the fuck like? So get that

1761
01:19:25,520 --> 01:19:28,519
Speaker 3: ship together now so you don't got to worry about it, ladyship,

1762
01:19:28,560 --> 01:19:31,640
Speaker 3: Absolutely so yes, to make sure if you want your

1763
01:19:31,760 --> 01:19:35,679
Speaker 3: questions answer on the show, you email us at ask

1764
01:19:35,840 --> 01:19:37,799
Speaker 3: poor minds at Gmail.

1765
01:19:38,280 --> 01:19:40,040
Speaker 2: Not calm, look.

1766
01:19:39,920 --> 01:19:41,920
Speaker 1: At us finish each other's.

1767
01:19:43,439 --> 01:19:43,960
Speaker 2: Sentence.

1768
01:19:44,280 --> 01:19:47,840
Speaker 1: I'm dead. No, friend, don't we all don't we all

1769
01:19:48,160 --> 01:19:49,280
Speaker 1: do that without knowing?

1770
01:19:49,520 --> 01:19:51,519
Speaker 2: I was watching something but it's the other day and

1771
01:19:51,600 --> 01:19:53,960
Speaker 2: we had said something that we always do it. I

1772
01:19:54,080 --> 01:19:57,559
Speaker 2: think we don't really peep it. We don't really peep it. No,

1773
01:19:58,560 --> 01:20:01,720
Speaker 2: why oh that hurt?

1774
01:20:01,960 --> 01:20:05,639
Speaker 1: No, it's my arm. I injured myself earlier. Not the workout, queen.

1775
01:20:05,720 --> 01:20:09,439
Speaker 2: But anyway, ugly this song.

1776
01:20:10,000 --> 01:20:12,640
Speaker 1: It's because we always finish each other. Okay, ty here

1777
01:20:12,720 --> 01:20:14,679
Speaker 1: said what happened? Okay, tell the story.

1778
01:20:15,120 --> 01:20:17,080
Speaker 2: I was running through the house like a tomb raider

1779
01:20:17,840 --> 01:20:21,040
Speaker 2: and I slipped on the towel, and then I tried

1780
01:20:21,040 --> 01:20:24,599
Speaker 2: to catch myself on the wall and my arm slid

1781
01:20:24,720 --> 01:20:28,120
Speaker 2: on the wall, and I think it like carpee burn,

1782
01:20:28,400 --> 01:20:29,440
Speaker 2: but like wallburn.

1783
01:20:29,720 --> 01:20:30,920
Speaker 1: I've never heard of wall burn.

1784
01:20:31,680 --> 01:20:35,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was dry wall burn, so it burned my

1785
01:20:36,120 --> 01:20:39,439
Speaker 2: somebody mark wallburn, wall burn.

1786
01:20:39,640 --> 01:20:43,320
Speaker 1: Oh.

1787
01:20:43,880 --> 01:20:46,640
Speaker 2: I slid down the wall trying to catch myself and

1788
01:20:46,640 --> 01:20:48,000
Speaker 2: then it was like a burn at first.

1789
01:20:48,000 --> 01:20:49,360
Speaker 1: But I didn't know it was gonna end up like this.

1790
01:20:51,160 --> 01:20:53,840
Speaker 1: We're gonna put it. It's gonna be already straight. It's

1791
01:20:53,840 --> 01:20:57,920
Speaker 1: gonna be. But the baby, I know that's very shut

1792
01:20:57,920 --> 01:21:01,479
Speaker 1: out to Ari. I want to sing this song.

1793
01:21:01,360 --> 01:21:02,720
Speaker 2: That she heard, though when I hear it, I ain't

1794
01:21:02,720 --> 01:21:03,040
Speaker 2: gonna lie.

1795
01:21:03,120 --> 01:21:08,639
Speaker 1: We always finish each other's sentence. And you know why,

1796
01:21:08,920 --> 01:21:10,880
Speaker 1: you know, why who are you gonna be? You ain't

1797
01:21:10,880 --> 01:21:11,360
Speaker 1: even tell you.

1798
01:21:11,640 --> 01:21:15,519
Speaker 2: I'm I don't let me drink the rest of my wine?

1799
01:21:15,560 --> 01:21:18,480
Speaker 2: How are you brief intermission?

1800
01:21:18,479 --> 01:21:20,240
Speaker 1: Why she finished her wine? I'm a star.

1801
01:21:21,080 --> 01:21:27,519
Speaker 4: That's always that one person who always say you never

1802
01:21:27,760 --> 01:21:29,800
Speaker 4: see it coming because.

1803
01:21:29,560 --> 01:21:34,200
Speaker 1: You're blinded from the store. That other one. For me,

1804
01:21:34,600 --> 01:21:37,160
Speaker 1: it's clear for everyone to see.

1805
01:21:37,600 --> 01:21:38,720
Speaker 2: Oh beg.

1806
01:21:42,320 --> 01:21:43,519
Speaker 1: Oh hit it, drainer.

1807
01:21:43,720 --> 01:21:46,639
Speaker 2: I don't know about y'all, but I know about us, Senna.

1808
01:21:47,000 --> 01:21:49,200
Speaker 2: It's the only way we know how to rock. I

1809
01:21:49,200 --> 01:21:52,599
Speaker 2: don't know about y'all, but I know about it. It's

1810
01:21:52,640 --> 01:21:54,200
Speaker 2: the only way we know how to ride.

1811
01:21:54,360 --> 01:21:58,160
Speaker 4: You remember, girl, I was the one who gave you

1812
01:21:58,160 --> 01:22:02,200
Speaker 4: your first kiss. Because I remember, girl, I was the

1813
01:22:02,240 --> 01:22:05,840
Speaker 4: one who said, with your lips like this, eas in

1814
01:22:06,320 --> 01:22:13,840
Speaker 4: before all the fammn people screaming your names, girl was this.

1815
01:22:14,240 --> 01:22:19,240
Speaker 2: And you want my bird bad? I don't well anyway, younger.

1816
01:22:19,520 --> 01:22:24,040
Speaker 2: You were my my boo. Now when the brother's taking

1817
01:22:24,280 --> 01:22:28,360
Speaker 2: nother but it's still in your ride my boot, even

1818
01:22:28,400 --> 01:22:33,559
Speaker 2: though we so argue, it's all ride my boot. I

1819
01:22:33,600 --> 01:22:36,400
Speaker 2: know we haven't seen each other and no.

1820
01:22:37,000 --> 01:22:41,560
Speaker 1: But you will always be my boat. I was he

1821
01:22:41,640 --> 01:22:43,400
Speaker 1: was actually supposed to seen their partner. That's all right,

1822
01:22:44,000 --> 01:22:44,719
Speaker 1: going fast forward.

1823
01:22:45,439 --> 01:22:49,200
Speaker 2: Yes, I remember the boys. After weeknds, I could only

1824
01:22:49,240 --> 01:22:53,240
Speaker 2: think about your lips. Yes, I remember boy, the moment

1825
01:22:53,320 --> 01:22:55,360
Speaker 2: I knew you were the one I could spend my

1826
01:22:55,479 --> 01:23:02,599
Speaker 2: life with him, before all my famne people screaming your name.

1827
01:23:03,320 --> 01:23:10,720
Speaker 1: I was there and you were my band. You were

1828
01:23:10,880 --> 01:23:16,160
Speaker 1: my my. But it's taking nobody sitting.

1829
01:23:16,000 --> 01:23:21,160
Speaker 2: Your ride my even though we you so ugu with

1830
01:23:21,439 --> 01:23:25,880
Speaker 2: so ride my boo. I know we haven't seen each

1831
01:23:25,920 --> 01:23:30,120
Speaker 2: other real no while, but you will always be my ball,

1832
01:23:30,600 --> 01:23:35,639
Speaker 2: my own, my own, my own, my boo, my oh

1833
01:23:36,120 --> 01:23:38,920
Speaker 2: my my, oh my own.

1834
01:23:39,160 --> 01:23:39,759
Speaker 1: My boo.

1835
01:23:44,479 --> 01:23:54,120
Speaker 2: It's we on the fucking shook me. I know, I know.

1836
01:23:54,680 --> 01:23:55,479
Speaker 1: I love when I.

1837
01:23:55,479 --> 01:23:56,640
Speaker 2: Catch you off guard like that.

1838
01:23:56,880 --> 01:23:58,040
Speaker 1: I know when you hit that so.

1839
01:24:00,720 --> 01:24:02,519
Speaker 2: I got you here, you gotta.

1840
01:24:04,240 --> 01:24:06,680
Speaker 1: I don't know about y'all, but I know about us,

1841
01:24:06,840 --> 01:24:09,519
Speaker 1: and it's the only way we know how to ride.

1842
01:24:09,600 --> 01:24:15,519
Speaker 1: We'll see y'all next week. Bye, y'all, not you, I

1843
01:24:15,520 --> 01:24:16,880
Speaker 1: should know where you went with that song.

1844
01:24:16,960 --> 01:24:17,880
Speaker 2: Oh what I do?

1845
01:24:18,160 --> 01:24:22,280
Speaker 1: You said, you're trying to catch y'all. Brother, he said, My.

1846
01:24:28,080 --> 01:24:28,560
Speaker 2: Wh I do?

1847
01:24:29,080 --> 01:24:30,640
Speaker 1: My my?

1848
01:24:32,960 --> 01:24:37,640
Speaker 2: I said, y'all want to know smoke be