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Speaker 1: What's up, Tribe. This is Mila and we are still

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Speaker 1: off season, but we're still potting over on Patreon. So

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Speaker 1: if you haven't yet clicked the link in this episode

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Speaker 1: description and come to Patreon, we're still potting. We still

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Speaker 1: have great guests, and actually it's even more intimate. So

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Speaker 1: I don't know when we're coming back, but because we

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Speaker 1: a very special episode today. In fact, this episode is

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Speaker 1: led by my sweet honey, Orlando Roy and Luis, founder

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Speaker 1: of Susia Play NYC. So we are diving into the lifestyle,

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Speaker 1: the adult lifestyle that is everything play parties, everything about pleasure,

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Speaker 1: decolonizing sex, and just the misconceptions of play parties in general.

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Speaker 1: This is a really, really, really good episode, you guys.

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Speaker 1: It's filled with so much information, so much education, and

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Speaker 1: I know you're curious about what's going down at these

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Speaker 1: play parties. So sit back, relax, and gather around, because

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Speaker 1: I know your little nosey ass wants to know what's

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Speaker 1: going down at the play parties. So send it to

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Speaker 1: your nosy friend who also wants to know and was

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Speaker 1: thinking about coming and pull up to our next play party,

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Speaker 1: partnering with Susia NYC in Los Angeles on April twenty seventh.

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Speaker 2: Enjoy, Hello and welcome everyone.

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Speaker 3: Welcome the lift to Lifestyle conversations about the lifestyle from

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Speaker 3: the Lifestyle. I am your handsomely beautiful host, Orlando roy

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Speaker 3: acor Lando ak Ate a big dick, bad bitch, and

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Speaker 3: aside from me, is another handsome person, another handsome human.

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Speaker 3: Go ahead, introduce yourself human.

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Speaker 4: What the beautiful people? How you doing? Is?

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Speaker 5: Brooklyn lou aka well known tone represents Assosi a NYC

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Speaker 5: hanging out here with some gorgeous, gorgeous humans.

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Speaker 4: So proud and so happy and honest.

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Speaker 3: Welcome, Welcome, Good Mom's Bad Choices podcast.

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Speaker 6: Hi, happy to be here.

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Speaker 3: I'm so happy to have y'all here as well. This

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Speaker 3: to ask for, and I'm happy we could do it.

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Speaker 3: We are here because we want to talk about the

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Speaker 3: a little bit.

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Speaker 1: I'm about Hi. I'm Mila for the namesake of voices.

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Speaker 4: We're just starting.

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Speaker 1: How is the play party in lah It was phenomenal.

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Speaker 1: We had a really good time. It was the first

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Speaker 7: I enjoyed it, of course, I always love every SUSSI

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Speaker 7: Just really floored just the space and the energy that's

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Speaker 7: I loved the theme afrofuturism, women men. We all participated,

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Speaker 7: I was so excited. I'm a I'm a theme ass bitch.

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Speaker 7: So you give me a theme and it's not Halloween,

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Speaker 5: It was super exciting for me, especially being able to

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Speaker 5: It was really something special and I'm really excited to

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Speaker 1: I feel like it's like a container of like energetic medicine.

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Speaker 7: Like it creates this, like she said, a container of

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Speaker 6: Like, so this is what I'm going to do? Is

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Speaker 7: And when I experienced it, I realized like, yeah, there,

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Speaker 5: I think it challenges what we view sex to be.

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Speaker 5: So being able to experience that and have it without

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Speaker 1: Know, and you'd be so surprised by that, like sentence

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Speaker 7: when you create a space of like evenness, which I

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Speaker 7: it creates a space like everyone that enters this room

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Speaker 7: And even the other day at the at at Susia,

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Speaker 7: I think that the platonicness of it is so important

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Speaker 6: Would you like more? Which one would you like me

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Speaker 7: Perfect? Okay? Does that taste good? You want something different?

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Speaker 7: No problem? You know, Like just the simple interaction of

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Speaker 7: And I loved that room. I love that there was

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Speaker 7: because I think too when sometimes people come to the

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Speaker 6: They're like, so.

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Speaker 7: Everyone's just fucking everywhere, Like what is it? It's like

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Speaker 7: Am I going to have to witness someone having sex?

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Speaker 7: I don't feel like watching, like you know, like there's

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Speaker 7: It's like you can dance, you can drink, you don't,

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Speaker 7: But sexual energy is so charged, it's so healing that

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Speaker 7: even if you choose not to play. There's there's like

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Speaker 4: It's awesome. It's really awesome.

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Speaker 5: What's really funny is I'll bump into people in public

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Speaker 5: This thing about it, like I was, you know, I've

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Speaker 4: Because the beauty.

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Speaker 3: And I really love that you said that, you know,

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Speaker 3: Boa And I was like, see how did that feel?

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Speaker 5: And that's play party. Yeah, that's like in her child

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Speaker 5: like oh oh they're here, they're here. And I saw

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Speaker 4: I see people regulating their.

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Speaker 4: Man, it was dope. It was dope. It was dope.

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Speaker 5: But the thing about community and letting people do things

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: over there.

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00:23:04,880 --> 00:23:05,120
Speaker 1: Chill.

439
00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:07,199
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, it's chill, you know.

440
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:09,960
Speaker 5: I really and I'm really excited to see what the

441
00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:13,480
Speaker 5: second iteration is going to be out there and and

442
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:15,480
Speaker 5: maybe what the theme is.

443
00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:19,119
Speaker 7: I feel like this La party was definitely like people

444
00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:21,680
Speaker 7: needed to just come out and kind of like see

445
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:23,920
Speaker 7: what was going on, because like, there's been no space

446
00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:26,399
Speaker 7: like that I've been to, well have I've been to

447
00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:28,800
Speaker 7: like one or two parties in LA and they're not

448
00:23:29,280 --> 00:23:30,160
Speaker 7: They've never been good.

449
00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:32,560
Speaker 6: And so I think.

450
00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:36,160
Speaker 7: People who have went to those parties probably have a perception.

451
00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:38,320
Speaker 7: They're like, you know, they're like, what what's so, what's

452
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:38,760
Speaker 7: this going to be?

453
00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:38,840
Speaker 4: Well?

454
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:40,439
Speaker 6: How is this going to be different? You know?

455
00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:44,040
Speaker 7: And I think that that first party was definitely like

456
00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:45,800
Speaker 7: an opportunity for people to kind of like.

457
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:48,080
Speaker 6: Come see the vibes, see the scene.

458
00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:50,439
Speaker 7: And I have a feeling that this next party is

459
00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 7: going to be even more playful now that people are like, oh, okay,

460
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 7: I see myself there. It's like I see the black

461
00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:01,080
Speaker 7: and brown bodies. And that's really important for us because

462
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 7: I know, for me, being in a space where I

463
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 7: don't see myself, I feel uncomfortable. I don't want to

464
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:13,960
Speaker 7: feel watched by fetishized. Yeah, and and and specifically the

465
00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:17,960
Speaker 7: men too, you know. And so I think I'm really

466
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 7: I'm really excited for LA to be able to experience

467
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:26,280
Speaker 7: that type of play and pleasure in a space where

468
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:30,120
Speaker 7: they do see themselves and they're able to relax into

469
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 7: the experience. I think it's going to offer a lot

470
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:38,160
Speaker 7: of healing for the women and the men and everyone

471
00:24:39,200 --> 00:24:41,480
Speaker 7: that live in my city. So I'm really excited to

472
00:24:41,520 --> 00:24:43,200
Speaker 7: spread the medicine to my hometown.

473
00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:44,280
Speaker 4: Yeah.

474
00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:46,359
Speaker 3: I definitely need that comfort because I walk into a

475
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:48,200
Speaker 3: space and I don't see a lot of me, Especially

476
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:50,159
Speaker 3: in a sex space. Everything is like protruding back into

477
00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 3: my body. My dick is going into the going in.

478
00:24:52,920 --> 00:25:00,639
Speaker 3: But we're thinking of we're were throwing out ideas the

479
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 3: other day, get going I.

480
00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:03,840
Speaker 4: And we're like, what will be the next cool? What

481
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:04,240
Speaker 4: do we do?

482
00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:08,719
Speaker 5: Like a I know, like we're thinking just spitballing like

483
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 5: what like a like an afro anime.

484
00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:15,400
Speaker 4: Oh all these things like it's la like like like

485
00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 4: like afro hinta.

486
00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:21,879
Speaker 1: Futurism was so good. It was such a good theme.

487
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:23,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, how are you going to beat that? Because yeah,

488
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:26,359
Speaker 1: we are some dressing up ass bitches. I like to play,

489
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,119
Speaker 1: like in dress up and it was nice to see

490
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:33,600
Speaker 1: other people indulge and like participate because I don't think

491
00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:35,440
Speaker 1: as brown and black people, we get a lot of

492
00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 1: opportunities to play, you know sometimes like when life is

493
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:41,400
Speaker 1: serious and there's real shit going on and like we're

494
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:44,800
Speaker 1: constantly moving, it's like who has time to play? And

495
00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:46,639
Speaker 1: so it's just like it's not Halloween and we get

496
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:47,199
Speaker 1: to dress up?

497
00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:47,320
Speaker 4: What?

498
00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:49,240
Speaker 7: Yeah? I mean it made you have to take a

499
00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:51,840
Speaker 7: second out of your day to really consider how do

500
00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:52,919
Speaker 7: I want to show up to this.

501
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 1: And what does afrofuturism mean? Like if I get to

502
00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 1: play and like you know, play in this space, what

503
00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 1: does that look like? And it was really nice to

504
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:01,840
Speaker 1: see the men. Do you know a man be acting

505
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:05,159
Speaker 1: weird about doing anything outside of the box, So it

506
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 1: was nice to see them come out.

507
00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:08,960
Speaker 3: I'm extremely happy to see how La came out for

508
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:12,359
Speaker 3: that party because I I just this is just my opinion.

509
00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 3: I think that people have the right personality, they just

510
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:19,560
Speaker 3: don't have the right structure for things to happen. So

511
00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:22,120
Speaker 3: I think if people in LA had like not only

512
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:26,040
Speaker 3: the play parties, but like the workshops, the the vanilla

513
00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 3: type of events where it's just dancing and chill and

514
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:31,600
Speaker 3: people come and realize, Oh, this is what I should

515
00:26:31,640 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 3: be saying, this is how I should be speaking to people.

516
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 3: Because me and Mila's experienced, well both of us together

517
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:39,800
Speaker 3: doing play parties. Going to play parties in LA wasn't

518
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:42,240
Speaker 3: that great? And the people and the thing about it,

519
00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:45,000
Speaker 3: I realized that the people weren't They weren't bad people

520
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 3: or violating people. But there are just certain ways to

521
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:52,600
Speaker 3: move and go about things that we just know naturally

522
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:55,159
Speaker 3: or we just know that we've learned throughout being in space.

523
00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 3: I remember one time me and Mila were playing and

524
00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:01,760
Speaker 3: a guy is he's just voy ring, but he's not

525
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:06,479
Speaker 3: super close, but he's close enough and jerking off right awesome.

526
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 3: He is amazing. And it's one thing when you can't

527
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 3: see it, but when it's hitting like more than your

528
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 3: peripheral like now, you're kind of.

529
00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 1: In likes and then you add y'all are sexy as

530
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:23,199
Speaker 1: fuss distracted.

531
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:26,360
Speaker 5: That reminds me of that Day Chappelle episode when when

532
00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:29,119
Speaker 5: Homeboy was in the room with the with the former

533
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:31,159
Speaker 5: inmate er.

534
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:35,040
Speaker 4: Yeah.

535
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, so there's like, yeah, there's a certain type of

536
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:40,399
Speaker 3: like glaring and gawking that could be alleviated if you

537
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 3: know how to maneuver in the space and voyeur more comfortably.

538
00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:47,160
Speaker 5: I really think it's about turning down because it's it's

539
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 5: it's humans and penises that do that ship for the

540
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 5: most part, not I mean everybody, but that's for the

541
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:54,240
Speaker 5: most part, and it's just turning down, and it's a

542
00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:58,600
Speaker 5: process of like, look, everyone else needs to take up space.

543
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 5: We've read literally take up space without even knowing it,

544
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:04,439
Speaker 5: you know, that male privilege. We just were in it,

545
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:08,720
Speaker 5: you know, So just being able to just it's like

546
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:10,680
Speaker 5: playing in the band, right, if the drummer's too loud,

547
00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:13,560
Speaker 5: then no one else is really going to be hurt

548
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:16,320
Speaker 5: that much, you know what I'm saying. So just turn

549
00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:19,320
Speaker 5: your shit down a couple of notches, let everyone turn up,

550
00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:24,119
Speaker 5: and things beautiful things happen, you know, saying great conversations happened,

551
00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:27,080
Speaker 5: like breakthroughs happen, all kinds of awesome things, and.

552
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:30,200
Speaker 4: Then people feel safer, you know, and that's super important.

553
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 1: And the performances, oh my god, they're great.

554
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 7: Yeah, I literally and like I woke up in the

555
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 7: morning from the one here in New York and my

556
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:44,040
Speaker 7: body felt better. I got readjusted at the party. I

557
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 7: got a chiropractic experience.

558
00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 6: And I was telling my friends, like.

559
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:49,720
Speaker 4: Shy, yes.

560
00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:52,040
Speaker 7: She was like, you got a chiropractor experience at the

561
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:55,040
Speaker 7: sex party. I was like, yes, and I feel better today,

562
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:58,080
Speaker 7: like my back had been killing me and she did

563
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 7: her thing on my body. I was like, I love

564
00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 7: this space I can get. I can test out why

565
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:07,320
Speaker 7: I don't like getting spanked and change my mind, and

566
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:10,040
Speaker 7: then I can also get realigned over here.

567
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:11,920
Speaker 6: And I was like, this is what it's about.

568
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 7: It's about, like, yeah, it's it's not always what you

569
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 7: think it's going to be, and it really is about

570
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:19,960
Speaker 7: being able to come back in your body, feel safe

571
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 7: in your body, feel good in your body. And it

572
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 7: looks different in every space and every party and every

573
00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 7: Susie party. Don't really always know what you're going to get,

574
00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:30,160
Speaker 7: and that's what I love about it too. It's always

575
00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:32,840
Speaker 7: kind of like a treat. It's almost like a little surprise,

576
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 7: little gift that you're going to get when you walk

577
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:37,400
Speaker 7: through that door, Like who's going to be there facilitating

578
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:38,280
Speaker 7: these experiences?

579
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:42,800
Speaker 5: I definitely it's really cool because these humans are healers,

580
00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:47,920
Speaker 5: you know, like there and they also enjoy being in

581
00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:49,800
Speaker 5: the space as well too, because there's different.

582
00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:51,040
Speaker 4: I was talking to.

583
00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:55,840
Speaker 5: Too Shy about that, and you know, she's she's a

584
00:29:56,040 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 5: high level trauma therapist, U real deal, Like she'll she

585
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:05,600
Speaker 5: adjusted me and when I picked my face up off

586
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:07,320
Speaker 5: the thing, I was like, hoh, those are my tears?

587
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 5: Holy shit, Like what the fuck? And she mentioned something

588
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 5: that really stuck with me. She was like, you know,

589
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 5: usually when I do this, I'm working with rich people

590
00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 5: who just see you as like a mechanic, fixed me up. Okay, leave.

591
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 5: And She's like, in a space like this, I get

592
00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 5: to work with people who normally wouldn't be able to

593
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:32,680
Speaker 5: get a session with me, you know, and they're here

594
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 5: and I'm enjoying it. And all the facilitators went for

595
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 5: hours and the amount of energy that they put out

596
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:46,600
Speaker 5: is ridiculous, you know. But it's also for them a

597
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:50,360
Speaker 5: healing experience too, because you're laying hands on people like

598
00:30:50,440 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 5: you that need it, you know, And I think that's dope.

599
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 3: It's also fucking dope the literal fact that it's a

600
00:30:56,960 --> 00:31:00,480
Speaker 3: great party. Well, even if without the sexual aspect. If

601
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:01,840
Speaker 3: I was at a party and there's somebody like I

602
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:03,280
Speaker 3: had a chiropract that, I was like, I might be

603
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:06,600
Speaker 3: interested what's going on over here? But the party aspect

604
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:09,960
Speaker 3: itself is amazing. And the performance aspect is great because

605
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 3: that girl that was in the Red Fish can't remember

606
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:14,760
Speaker 3: her name, she did the first performance. Oh Jazz, the Polar,

607
00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:17,200
Speaker 3: Jazz the Polar. She did that move where she has

608
00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 3: like flipped flipp Yeah. She told show me how to Yeah,

609
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 3: I did the move last night. To me, I was like,

610
00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 3: you do you figure it out?

611
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:35,600
Speaker 1: I guess show I literally was a messag video she did.

612
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:37,400
Speaker 6: She said, I'll show you. I said, I'm gonna need

613
00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 6: to know that.

614
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:42,800
Speaker 5: Jazz and and and Selena is surreal. Selena's been doing

615
00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 5: the door on our parties for years. She's so dope,

616
00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:50,240
Speaker 5: you know, like the whole like stapling hearts, you think,

617
00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 5: because it's kind of cool because it gets people like.

618
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:52,960
Speaker 1: I wasn't expecting that.

619
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 7: Well, it's an expiration of Kinks.

620
00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 5: It also it's a part of you, that little bit

621
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 5: of like discomfort, discomfort and fear. It just kind of

622
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:09,080
Speaker 5: shakes you up a little bit. And then having Shay

623
00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 5: come in and after and Shae's another.

624
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,080
Speaker 6: Top notch fucking he's incredible.

625
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 5: I don't and you haven't even see her dual pole

626
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 5: work work. I was like, wow, but now we're really lucky.

627
00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 5: We're really lucky to be playing with these people, and

628
00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 5: and and and and and having them in the space

629
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:28,560
Speaker 5: and they were amped. Yeah, that was like, good moms, Yeah,

630
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 5: I'm there.

631
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 7: Well, I was grateful for their presence and I was

632
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 7: grateful to know to get to know them and experience them, honestly,

633
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 7: because it was beautiful to see their their them in

634
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:42,720
Speaker 7: their art and their power. You could see I don't

635
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:45,560
Speaker 7: know what they're like and their everyday life, but in

636
00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:48,760
Speaker 7: that space, they they were charged up and their power

637
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 7: was super activated and it was beautiful to witness.

638
00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:55,720
Speaker 1: And that soup was delicious.

639
00:32:56,480 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 4: Shout out to Zach Cook.

640
00:32:57,800 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 1: Okay, well you said that, do you like corn soup?

641
00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, what's the is he talking?

642
00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:01,080
Speaker 4: Like?

643
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:06,200
Speaker 5: What would you say, yeah, I do.

644
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:08,080
Speaker 1: But you know, when I got there and I was

645
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:10,200
Speaker 1: eating the soup, I was like, this is the perfect

646
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:14,320
Speaker 1: selection of foods. It's like very grounding. It's vegetables, there's

647
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 1: no creams. It was like it was like nourishing, Like

648
00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:20,320
Speaker 1: even the food is curated. You know, it's like it's

649
00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:23,560
Speaker 1: a nourishing meal. But it's warm, it feels cozy.

650
00:33:24,040 --> 00:33:26,120
Speaker 7: It's light enough that you can carry on and not

651
00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 7: feel tired. Yeah, feeling enough that you're like, all right,

652
00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:30,600
Speaker 7: I can have, I can sustain.

653
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:34,320
Speaker 1: And the souperman was very kinds been doing.

654
00:33:34,680 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 5: He did our backyard parties. He's done, he's done pop

655
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 5: ups at my bar. It's after a night of dancing

656
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 5: or if you're playing some intense playing.

657
00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:46,080
Speaker 4: Enjoying drugs and you just hit that legal.

658
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:47,600
Speaker 3: Drugs that are legal in the United States.

659
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 5: Legal, but that it's amazing.

660
00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:57,680
Speaker 3: Like yeah, no, the soup. The soup was delicious thanks

661
00:33:57,720 --> 00:34:00,960
Speaker 3: to him. The performances are great, they can divations are great.

662
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 3: That people are amazing.

663
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:06,320
Speaker 4: DJ DJ DJ.

664
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:08,880
Speaker 5: The dance circles that were going on, I was like,

665
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,760
Speaker 5: this is the spiritual shit happening right here because people

666
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:15,760
Speaker 5: were going in and that's what saying is that release,

667
00:34:16,400 --> 00:34:18,719
Speaker 5: is that release of being able to dance without worrying

668
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 5: someone sneaking up behind you.

669
00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:22,799
Speaker 1: I know a man came in and danced with him.

670
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 1: I was like sitting and he like came naked, like

671
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:26,640
Speaker 1: to play, and I was like, okay, we're just like

672
00:34:26,760 --> 00:34:28,839
Speaker 1: dancing on the dance floor naked. And I was like,

673
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:29,479
Speaker 1: this is fun.

674
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:31,239
Speaker 4: It's just that.

675
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 3: Yeah. I even saw that too, and I was like,

676
00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:36,720
Speaker 3: I don't want to say something, but they're dancing naked.

677
00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 3: This is a good song.

678
00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:37,919
Speaker 4: Though.

679
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:42,279
Speaker 5: I've seen the homies like just in the middle of dance,

680
00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:45,239
Speaker 5: we're dancing talking like you know what I'm saying, Like

681
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,040
Speaker 5: it's all cool. He's like, Yo, we're just here, we're existing,

682
00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:50,680
Speaker 5: We're humans, you know what I'm saying.

683
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:53,919
Speaker 4: There's no undertones, no, just it's just here.

684
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:57,719
Speaker 1: As a person who likes to be naked and topless

685
00:34:57,760 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 1: a lot, I realized that men don't have a lot

686
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:02,200
Speaker 1: of space like women don't have a lot of spaces

687
00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 1: to do it, Like you said, like in the comfort

688
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:07,000
Speaker 1: of your bedroom and shit. But when you can go

689
00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:09,479
Speaker 1: into a space feel safe because you know, for women,

690
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 1: a lot of times initially you see a dick out,

691
00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 1: and it's a little bit aggressive because it's a.

692
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 4: Dick and.

693
00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:18,880
Speaker 1: There's been a danger associated with the dicks. So I'm like,

694
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:20,359
Speaker 1: your dick is out, what are you going to do next?

695
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 1: You know, women have been violated, I mean men have too,

696
00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:27,759
Speaker 1: and so sometimes I have to check myself. But it

697
00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 1: reminds me that we, like, especially for men, we all

698
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:33,960
Speaker 1: kind of we kind of all deserve the space to

699
00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:37,680
Speaker 1: be sensual and to be naked, and men don't really

700
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:41,279
Speaker 1: have a lot of space to do that, to be graceful,

701
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:44,600
Speaker 1: to be sensual because in our society we don't put

702
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:49,160
Speaker 1: masculinity in those words and terms and feelings together. It's

703
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:51,320
Speaker 1: like this idea always have to come off like strong

704
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 1: and like bey on guard and shit. So it's nice

705
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:57,560
Speaker 1: to just be able to indulge in the nudity and

706
00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:00,239
Speaker 1: remind myself too. It's like we all want to be

707
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:02,680
Speaker 1: out here, ask Bucky, naked and having fun and be

708
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:06,239
Speaker 1: free and dance on the dance floor. You know, it

709
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 1: doesn't mean anything.

710
00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:11,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, one thing I could say about this space, I'm

711
00:36:11,719 --> 00:36:13,720
Speaker 3: just tagging on all of the great things about Assusia.

712
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 3: We are very we're selling it today. What thing I

713
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 3: love about the space is the how it's strengthening my

714
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:25,200
Speaker 3: relationship at that right because I feel like now that

715
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 3: I'm in this, uh, I go to play parties with

716
00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:32,680
Speaker 3: my partner Mila, and before moving as an individual and

717
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 3: a play party was a much different experience than in

718
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:37,480
Speaker 3: a couple. I feel like we've all seen how I'm moving.

719
00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 4: That's a unique way of hosting, Orlando. It's so funny.

720
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:51,840
Speaker 3: You have definitely stopped me like, hey, we need you

721
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:58,400
Speaker 3: over here, and I'm like now, but having somebody there

722
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:02,879
Speaker 3: and having a discipline than myself to not necessarily asks

723
00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:04,840
Speaker 3: for permission but make sure like my partner is on

724
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 3: the same page of page as me, rather than just

725
00:37:07,560 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 3: like being a cowboy a while cowboy in the play

726
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:11,800
Speaker 3: party space and just going for everything. I feel like

727
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 3: it's also gave me a strong level of like, not

728
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 3: only discipline, but discernment on how I play or what

729
00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:21,239
Speaker 3: I interact with and what may feel more safer for

730
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:24,880
Speaker 3: me in those spaces. And with that I'm able to

731
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:28,480
Speaker 3: like see and facilitate for like other people and what

732
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:32,000
Speaker 3: Noah may feel more comfortable for them, because like, oh,

733
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:34,279
Speaker 3: I know how this made me feel, Whereas before it's

734
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:36,399
Speaker 3: like I'm open for everything.

735
00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 1: Do you feel super restricted as going to a party together,

736
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:41,960
Speaker 1: like being in a relationship in that space?

737
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:46,319
Speaker 3: No, I don't feel restricted, But I realized that I

738
00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 3: can have much better experiences now when I interact with

739
00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 3: when I speak to like my partner, and then see

740
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:57,800
Speaker 3: what may be comfortable for both of us. Because before

741
00:37:58,160 --> 00:38:00,399
Speaker 3: I would just go into the playing right I mean

742
00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 3: not dis sermon, but people want to play with me.

743
00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:10,239
Speaker 3: Girls won't play with me, so I would be like, literally,

744
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 3: let's just get to it. But now I feel like

745
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:15,200
Speaker 3: I have more thought and more attention behind like how

746
00:38:15,239 --> 00:38:18,320
Speaker 3: I play. I'm also now like dancing more. I'm interacting

747
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:20,839
Speaker 3: with like the kinky stuff more. So I was like, oh, yeah,

748
00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:23,439
Speaker 3: this your penis and people.

749
00:38:23,520 --> 00:38:29,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, people, how's your experience as a single woman going

750
00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:31,640
Speaker 5: into our space now, Ben, because this is the second

751
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 5: time you've been in our space as a single human

752
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:35,279
Speaker 5: or a third.

753
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:38,080
Speaker 7: Well, I think the first time that I went, the

754
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 7: very first time I went to your space, I was single.

755
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:43,040
Speaker 4: Oh that was you guys, A man.

756
00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,600
Speaker 3: Nighth my I was what.

757
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:50,120
Speaker 4: You could not have scripted this ship, There's no way.

758
00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 7: But yeah, yeah, that was an epic night that I

759
00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:55,399
Speaker 7: almost didn't even allow myself to participate in before. Yeah,

760
00:38:55,800 --> 00:38:58,719
Speaker 7: there was a series of events that happened before that

761
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:03,040
Speaker 7: happened that made me feel really ashamed about even considering going.

762
00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:06,279
Speaker 1: We had a babysitter, we had to find a babysitter,

763
00:39:06,360 --> 00:39:07,720
Speaker 1: and we were in like a new city.

764
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:08,880
Speaker 6: You don't need to tell everyone.

765
00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:12,720
Speaker 1: I was all the details. I wasn't telling all the details,

766
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:15,400
Speaker 1: but I was saying just simply having to have a

767
00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:17,840
Speaker 1: babysitter and then go. As a mom, there's always going

768
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:20,200
Speaker 1: to be the question of is this important, like DoD

769
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 1: I need to drop my kid off for this? Or

770
00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 1: am I being like indulgent or I'm being too much?

771
00:39:24,640 --> 00:39:25,319
Speaker 1: So yeah, so.

772
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 7: There was that knowing that I was going to come

773
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 7: home and like yeah, I'm gonna be a mom the

774
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 7: next morning, and and so I almost didn't go, and

775
00:39:33,080 --> 00:39:34,880
Speaker 7: then I was like fuck this, I'm going. And then

776
00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:37,839
Speaker 7: I'm so happy that I did because it was super

777
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:41,640
Speaker 7: transcending for me. And then going with a partner was

778
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:46,400
Speaker 7: also a beautiful experience as well. And I'm actually not

779
00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 7: single right now, but even going into this space with

780
00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 7: a different type of energy, like I'm with someone who

781
00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 7: is we have a lot more conversations around the space

782
00:39:57,560 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 7: as well, and I'm allowed to do it not whatever

783
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:00,480
Speaker 7: I want do, but.

784
00:40:01,480 --> 00:40:03,880
Speaker 6: It still I don't feel tethered.

785
00:40:06,040 --> 00:40:10,560
Speaker 7: And so I think for me, having the perspective of

786
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:14,360
Speaker 7: walking in both in different ways has been really beautiful

787
00:40:14,440 --> 00:40:17,240
Speaker 7: to be able to experience it like with no one

788
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:20,359
Speaker 7: to worry about, and experience it with someone who's never

789
00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:22,520
Speaker 7: really been in the space and so like kind of

790
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 7: showing him the ropes while also having new experiences with

791
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 7: that person, and then now being in a different space

792
00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:36,759
Speaker 7: and still being able to play.

793
00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:36,600
Speaker 1: You know.

794
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:41,879
Speaker 7: And it's just been it's every time something new comes

795
00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:44,640
Speaker 7: up for me, Like even in this last experience, like

796
00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 7: something new came up for me and I was able

797
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 7: to explain talk to my partner about that, and it's

798
00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 7: very healing for me. And I'm excited to see how

799
00:40:57,120 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 7: it continues to expand within my self and within my partnership.

800
00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:03,000
Speaker 6: So I'm grateful.

801
00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:04,240
Speaker 4: It's dope.

802
00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:08,600
Speaker 5: What's really interesting though, right like as as as parents,

803
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:13,080
Speaker 5: you guys have younger kids, right as they get older,

804
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:16,399
Speaker 5: the conversations around that, you know what I'm saying, Like

805
00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:19,840
Speaker 5: me having conversations with my son he's eighteen, you know

806
00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:24,320
Speaker 5: sub Phoenix, my dude right there, he started college. My

807
00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 5: daughter's twenty five, and just being able to talk to

808
00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:29,840
Speaker 5: them about like, hey, you know what, this is not

809
00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:34,760
Speaker 5: something nasty, this is not something dirty. This is something

810
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:38,640
Speaker 5: that requires a lot of responsibility. You know, it's going

811
00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:41,279
Speaker 5: to challenge you. This is something's going to challenge the

812
00:41:41,320 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 5: way your friends may view you. You know, like you

813
00:41:47,200 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 5: owning yourself. You like, I'm in charge of me, and

814
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:53,359
Speaker 5: if I choose to share myself with you, then fine,

815
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:53,839
Speaker 5: but I'm not.

816
00:41:53,760 --> 00:41:56,759
Speaker 4: Going to do it or I'm going to learn not

817
00:41:56,920 --> 00:41:57,319
Speaker 4: to do.

818
00:41:57,239 --> 00:42:00,640
Speaker 5: It for any other reason other than making myself self happy,

819
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:04,040
Speaker 5: you know. And that's that's something that that you know,

820
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:06,520
Speaker 5: because when I started in this, my son was twelve,

821
00:42:07,840 --> 00:42:10,040
Speaker 5: you know, just starting a little conversations with him around it,

822
00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:12,520
Speaker 5: like you know, you know what sex positivity is, and

823
00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 5: then little questions here and there, and then at one point.

824
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:19,880
Speaker 4: He's like, Dad, Like, Dad, I have I G.

825
00:42:22,480 --> 00:42:26,120
Speaker 5: I was like, and then he was like and it

826
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:31,239
Speaker 5: was it was just dope, like accepting accepting each other.

827
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:32,880
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

828
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:36,800
Speaker 5: Where he's at, you know, he's called me from school,

829
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:39,680
Speaker 5: He's like, Dad, I just I can't do it.

830
00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:42,879
Speaker 4: You know, I just can't stand gay white men.

831
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 5: He's in Providence. He's like, I'm like slim pickings, you know.

832
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:50,000
Speaker 5: He's like, I don't know. He's like, yes, I know,

833
00:42:50,080 --> 00:42:53,959
Speaker 5: but it just they're just so fucking weird. And yeah,

834
00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:56,040
Speaker 5: he's looking forward to coming back to New York.

835
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:56,560
Speaker 3: You know.

836
00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:58,800
Speaker 7: I think that that is an interesting I mean, it

837
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 7: does feel like there is a responsibility to protect your

838
00:43:02,600 --> 00:43:06,440
Speaker 7: kids and like what like from I guess whatever anyone

839
00:43:06,440 --> 00:43:09,920
Speaker 7: else might throw at them, like based on your choices

840
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:12,799
Speaker 7: personally as a parent, and how you show up and

841
00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:16,960
Speaker 7: your choices inevitably could affect your child and how they

842
00:43:16,960 --> 00:43:19,759
Speaker 7: have to defend you or how they not even knowing

843
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 7: how having the language to defend you. And I think

844
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:25,600
Speaker 7: about that often, and I don't know if I even have,

845
00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:28,480
Speaker 7: Like I don't know if I'm prepared for that, and

846
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:30,280
Speaker 7: not even in just this space, just in the space

847
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:33,319
Speaker 7: of our podcast, which is very transparent and open, and

848
00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 7: that's something that comes up for me.

849
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 6: It's been coming up for me more and more because

850
00:43:37,960 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 6: my daughter is getting older.

851
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:43,680
Speaker 7: So I guess, yeah, how have you navigated that as

852
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:48,840
Speaker 7: far as like your choices potentially putting your child in

853
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:52,360
Speaker 7: a position where now they have to explain something to someone.

854
00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 5: Well, I had to take it with a grain of

855
00:43:54,640 --> 00:43:57,920
Speaker 5: salt because there is that teenage era where it's like

856
00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:00,680
Speaker 5: everything you do is going to be corny fuck to them,

857
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 5: you know, So you got to understand part or embarrassing.

858
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:04,879
Speaker 4: Right.

859
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 5: But then there's a part where for me and my

860
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:13,600
Speaker 5: experience with with with my kids, it's just just talking

861
00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:16,799
Speaker 5: to them, you know. Like my daughter told me when

862
00:44:16,840 --> 00:44:19,200
Speaker 5: she lost he virginity, you know, and I was like,

863
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:24,160
Speaker 5: it's quick pause, all right. I was like, all right, dope,

864
00:44:24,200 --> 00:44:30,440
Speaker 5: all right. I was like, were you comfortable somebody?

865
00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 4: You know?

866
00:44:33,600 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 5: With my son too, because I promised my daughter I

867
00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:38,960
Speaker 5: would never I wouldn't treat my son any differently, you

868
00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:40,839
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying than I treated her.

869
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:45,160
Speaker 4: And you know, my son's a little more guy.

870
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:47,480
Speaker 5: He's like, you know, done everything, both sex, you know,

871
00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:49,000
Speaker 5: and I got I get to me his little boyfriend

872
00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:52,800
Speaker 5: and stuff, and you know, they're amazing, sweet sweet, sweet

873
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:55,799
Speaker 5: little kid. Sorry young man, I can't get a little kid,

874
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 5: but just just the conversations. These kids know so much

875
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:00,200
Speaker 5: more than we did. They have so much more act

876
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:02,040
Speaker 5: of things. So the thing about it is they're getting

877
00:45:02,080 --> 00:45:04,360
Speaker 5: access to stuff, but are they're getting it? Are they

878
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:07,960
Speaker 5: is it being put into perspective? You know, like the

879
00:45:08,000 --> 00:45:10,799
Speaker 5: conversations need to be had, you know, because they they're

880
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:14,000
Speaker 5: seeing shit. You know, they're seeing some wild shit too,

881
00:45:14,520 --> 00:45:16,520
Speaker 5: So it's like what it's what did you see? Let's

882
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:19,319
Speaker 5: talk about it. You know, there's nothing embarrassing, you know,

883
00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:22,279
Speaker 5: this is this is not a real representation or this

884
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:24,399
Speaker 5: is something maybe a little more real.

885
00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:26,040
Speaker 4: I'm not saying sit and watch it with them.

886
00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:28,839
Speaker 5: I'm just saying, you know, this is this is real

887
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 5: and and and the kind of humans we are. You know,

888
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:37,240
Speaker 5: you have your inner circle, you have your your your

889
00:45:37,280 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 5: your support system, you know, and it's it's just conversations.

890
00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:43,680
Speaker 4: It's constant, constant talking. You know.

891
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:47,799
Speaker 1: I think we underestimate how much just existing with us

892
00:45:47,840 --> 00:45:51,799
Speaker 1: as parents kind of slow drops into the well. You know,

893
00:45:52,040 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 1: like I realize, like I've had conversations with Luna, like

894
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:58,440
Speaker 1: moms be naked, but you know, like everybody's not as

895
00:45:58,480 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 1: free as us. And so when you go back to

896
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:02,880
Speaker 1: Nana's house, you don't have to tell them everything, like

897
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:04,760
Speaker 1: I canna tell me went to the nude beach? Okay,

898
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 1: Like and I also realized there is a lot of

899
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:11,800
Speaker 1: trauma in our community, around our bodies, around you know, sex,

900
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:15,959
Speaker 1: around these topics pleasure. It's just not something that we've

901
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:18,600
Speaker 1: had the opportunity to indulge in because we've had other

902
00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:21,919
Speaker 1: things on our plate that took priority. But I kind

903
00:46:21,920 --> 00:46:25,520
Speaker 1: of like, I'm scared in ways, but I also know,

904
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 1: like my daughter is such a ride or die for me.

905
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:33,319
Speaker 1: I can't like even she knows I'd be naked. And

906
00:46:33,360 --> 00:46:36,320
Speaker 1: then like, you know, I just finished my sexology program

907
00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:37,320
Speaker 1: and she was like, I was like, you know what

908
00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 1: I went to school for her. She was like sexiology

909
00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:42,399
Speaker 1: or something, you know what I mean. And there's just

910
00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:46,960
Speaker 1: like there's just small instances where I see that I

911
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:49,880
Speaker 1: have the opportunity, and you know, obviously there she's nine,

912
00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 1: so I'm not like at the eighteen or the fifteen,

913
00:46:53,800 --> 00:46:56,879
Speaker 1: but just having I realized this at the party too.

914
00:46:56,960 --> 00:46:59,680
Speaker 1: My cousin was there and her son helped us at

915
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:01,719
Speaker 1: the the live show, and he's twenty one, but he's

916
00:47:01,760 --> 00:47:04,360
Speaker 1: such a cool kid. He was with this girlfriend and

917
00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:05,799
Speaker 1: he was like, I don't know if I'm come to the party,

918
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:06,759
Speaker 1: and I was like going to let him come to

919
00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:08,440
Speaker 1: the party. To his mom and she was like, he's

920
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:10,919
Speaker 1: twenty when I get it. Ever, he once and while

921
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:13,680
Speaker 1: you're doing the consent speech, I was like, this actually

922
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:16,160
Speaker 1: would have been a good time for him to experience this.

923
00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 1: And it took me to like, hear you have the

924
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:20,759
Speaker 1: consent speech, because I was like, is he coming? But

925
00:47:20,960 --> 00:47:26,279
Speaker 1: I can understand how these spaces would have changed things

926
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:30,080
Speaker 1: for me tremendously going into my hoe phase at seventeen eighteen,

927
00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:31,520
Speaker 1: nineteen twenty, because.

928
00:47:31,280 --> 00:47:34,160
Speaker 3: I got going into it for seventeen going in, I mean,

929
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:34,480
Speaker 3: I was.

930
00:47:34,400 --> 00:47:37,560
Speaker 1: In my home fase for like a strong fifteen years honestly,

931
00:47:37,680 --> 00:47:40,680
Speaker 1: but a lot of that was like rooted in trauma

932
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 1: and just doing shit because I'm confused, you know, and

933
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:47,360
Speaker 1: sometimes I just think a little bit of structure we underestimate,

934
00:47:48,200 --> 00:47:50,799
Speaker 1: you know, having uncomfortable conversations with our kids at age

935
00:47:50,800 --> 00:47:56,720
Speaker 1: appropriate times that will actually change the game for them.

936
00:47:57,239 --> 00:47:58,160
Speaker 4: Wow, a hundred percent.

937
00:47:58,400 --> 00:47:59,120
Speaker 3: That was nice.

938
00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 5: There's no like guessing. There's no like getting advice from

939
00:48:04,520 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 5: your friends about so I think, you know, and seeing

940
00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:19,400
Speaker 5: like my son how he navigates and how he talks

941
00:48:19,400 --> 00:48:23,720
Speaker 5: to you know, his let me say Coote and Coote

942
00:48:23,760 --> 00:48:29,839
Speaker 5: boyfriend about being in college and being open with each

943
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:34,360
Speaker 5: other and not not playing the game of it's just

944
00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:37,440
Speaker 5: you and me, you know, because that's going to inevitably

945
00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:39,640
Speaker 5: lead to some kind of heartbreak at this young age.

946
00:48:39,719 --> 00:48:43,279
Speaker 5: And it's like, look, maintain a friendship, talk to each other.

947
00:48:43,400 --> 00:48:47,040
Speaker 5: And he ran with it, you know, I see his boyfriend.

948
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:47,960
Speaker 5: I bump into him the street.

949
00:48:47,960 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 4: What's up? How you do you know? You know, Phoenix

950
00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:52,880
Speaker 4: coming down next week all and hang out.

951
00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 3: Yeah.

952
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:57,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, so it's it's it's it's And like I said,

953
00:48:57,760 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 5: at the end of the day, you're their parents. You're

954
00:49:00,480 --> 00:49:03,120
Speaker 5: still going to do some corny ship in their eyes,

955
00:49:03,160 --> 00:49:04,080
Speaker 5: and you.

956
00:49:04,040 --> 00:49:05,799
Speaker 3: Know, play party is a corny day.

957
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, right, like really like yo yo yo son.

958
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:11,400
Speaker 4: You know how cool I was in the nineties. I

959
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 4: actually said that.

960
00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:16,799
Speaker 5: I was just like, oh no, that ship.

961
00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 3: Yeah myself, Oh god, I had a moment like that

962
00:49:21,280 --> 00:49:23,560
Speaker 3: myself and my little cousin where I was telling her

963
00:49:24,000 --> 00:49:25,600
Speaker 3: we were in d C. And I was like where

964
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:27,319
Speaker 3: you at? She was being really vague, and I was like,

965
00:49:27,360 --> 00:49:29,319
Speaker 3: you know, I'm from this town, right, Yeah, you know,

966
00:49:29,480 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 3: I know d C. I was doing things in d

967
00:49:32,280 --> 00:49:34,120
Speaker 3: C before you even knew your alphabets. I was like,

968
00:49:34,120 --> 00:49:35,280
Speaker 3: oh no, oh.

969
00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:40,920
Speaker 4: No, you tight my belt up? Look my pants?

970
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:46,560
Speaker 3: Mm hmmm. We we love doing this play party space thing.

971
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:49,560
Speaker 3: I really, I really have to say that I've found

972
00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:52,719
Speaker 3: that overwhelming joy with doing it. Before I really just

973
00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:55,279
Speaker 3: wanted to like really be a bridge and be like, hey,

974
00:49:55,320 --> 00:49:57,600
Speaker 3: you know, just come over here if you're really interested,

975
00:49:57,640 --> 00:50:00,200
Speaker 3: like figured it out. But me myself, being in this face,

976
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 3: I was like, oh wow, I've learned a lot of discipline,

977
00:50:03,120 --> 00:50:05,640
Speaker 3: a lot of discernment. I even learned how to talk

978
00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:09,160
Speaker 3: to women better being being in a play party space

979
00:50:09,160 --> 00:50:13,239
Speaker 3: because I realized once two people are naked, you have

980
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:16,880
Speaker 3: to show up as yourself and be real about yourself.

981
00:50:17,040 --> 00:50:19,600
Speaker 3: And that's really hard to be fake when you're naked.

982
00:50:21,040 --> 00:50:26,800
Speaker 5: We'll try to run game on somebody. But I'm excited

983
00:50:26,800 --> 00:50:29,719
Speaker 5: about working with you guys. You guys out in l

984
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:36,239
Speaker 5: A thank you like for just like opening your your

985
00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:39,560
Speaker 5: world to us. And and you know, I'm looking forward

986
00:50:39,640 --> 00:50:43,160
Speaker 5: to more stuff. I'm looking forward to. I got some ideas.

987
00:50:43,680 --> 00:50:46,440
Speaker 5: I got some ideas, some cool ship. I think, you know,

988
00:50:47,640 --> 00:50:50,799
Speaker 5: talk about it, see how it works. Because the West

989
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:52,680
Speaker 5: Coast is big, it's really.

990
00:50:52,640 --> 00:50:55,920
Speaker 3: All the way up yeah, things going a very large state.

991
00:50:56,200 --> 00:50:58,560
Speaker 3: But I think we could bring a lot of good

992
00:50:58,719 --> 00:51:01,880
Speaker 3: things to the West Coast and in that space. And

993
00:51:01,920 --> 00:51:03,840
Speaker 3: I really think that they have a lot of vibe

994
00:51:04,200 --> 00:51:05,840
Speaker 3: and a lot of like the person that they have

995
00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:09,080
Speaker 3: like all the ingredients right. Just need the right chefs, right,

996
00:51:09,080 --> 00:51:10,719
Speaker 3: you need the right cooks, like come in and like

997
00:51:10,800 --> 00:51:13,439
Speaker 3: put it together because I like, I like the West Coast,

998
00:51:13,440 --> 00:51:15,480
Speaker 3: the weather, it's great, the people are great. And I

999
00:51:15,520 --> 00:51:19,360
Speaker 3: think that specifically black and brown people like they're looking

1000
00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:24,080
Speaker 3: for something specific. Before a year before we even did

1001
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:27,880
Speaker 3: the play party, in December twenty twenty three, me and

1002
00:51:27,920 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 3: Mila went to a party and we were just talking

1003
00:51:30,080 --> 00:51:31,759
Speaker 3: to one of the guys there who end up being

1004
00:51:31,800 --> 00:51:34,960
Speaker 3: a guardian for the party, and we were just asking, like,

1005
00:51:35,000 --> 00:51:37,160
Speaker 3: you know how I was new to La at the time,

1006
00:51:37,200 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 3: so I was just asking, like it is, how is

1007
00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:40,880
Speaker 3: it here, and like what's been going on? Can you

1008
00:51:40,920 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 3: give me some information as far as like play parties

1009
00:51:42,640 --> 00:51:45,400
Speaker 3: with black and round people, who were just like, yeah,

1010
00:51:46,760 --> 00:51:49,680
Speaker 3: I have much chances. And I looked at it and said,

1011
00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:52,080
Speaker 3: give me some time they play party in La. I

1012
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:52,920
Speaker 3: got your bet.

1013
00:51:53,960 --> 00:51:55,640
Speaker 4: I'm looking forward. I'm looking forward to it.

1014
00:51:55,800 --> 00:51:59,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, twenty seventh us, Susia and you want to partner

1015
00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:02,239
Speaker 3: a good moment and mister s Marley, so we can

1016
00:52:02,239 --> 00:52:05,080
Speaker 3: throw this party in LA. What made you and Susio

1017
00:52:05,160 --> 00:52:09,400
Speaker 3: wanted to come out to l A just do something there.

1018
00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:11,800
Speaker 4: Because there's black people there?

1019
00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:13,760
Speaker 3: Where are the black people?

1020
00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:17,360
Speaker 5: Where were the black we not a k and and

1021
00:52:17,480 --> 00:52:20,840
Speaker 5: being black skin shut out, I was like, you know,

1022
00:52:20,880 --> 00:52:22,920
Speaker 5: I just go out there and and and be on

1023
00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:28,040
Speaker 5: my black sicandos. No, I'm I really and and and

1024
00:52:28,160 --> 00:52:30,319
Speaker 5: I thank you for saying me. But it's not just me.

1025
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:32,120
Speaker 5: It's like I gotta say, it's the three of us.

1026
00:52:32,120 --> 00:52:37,040
Speaker 5: It's it's it's it's Morgana, it's Gecko like like without them,

1027
00:52:37,600 --> 00:52:39,959
Speaker 5: it just wouldn't it wouldn't be what it is without

1028
00:52:39,960 --> 00:52:43,880
Speaker 5: the community. But no, I'm I'm I'm LA is dope.

1029
00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:49,399
Speaker 5: Uh Bay Area is dope. Further South is dope. I mean,

1030
00:52:49,440 --> 00:52:51,560
Speaker 5: I'm I'm for it.

1031
00:52:52,120 --> 00:52:52,600
Speaker 4: I'm for it.

1032
00:52:52,600 --> 00:52:56,239
Speaker 5: I'm for it, like really creating spaces for our people

1033
00:52:56,320 --> 00:53:00,680
Speaker 5: to have breakthroughs and to begin or whatever point of

1034
00:53:00,680 --> 00:53:03,240
Speaker 5: their journey they're at at censoring their joy and their pleasure.

1035
00:53:04,160 --> 00:53:08,000
Speaker 1: You know, well, thank you for just trusting us and

1036
00:53:08,040 --> 00:53:12,359
Speaker 1: including us in collaboration like this, and uh, just our

1037
00:53:12,400 --> 00:53:14,600
Speaker 1: tribe too, because I think there was a time where

1038
00:53:14,600 --> 00:53:17,080
Speaker 1: we were hesitanting about participating in this way, because it's

1039
00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:19,759
Speaker 1: just like we're moms, our kids. We're already doing a lot.

1040
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:24,960
Speaker 1: We're already doing a lot, but it makes perfect sense,

1041
00:53:25,080 --> 00:53:28,279
Speaker 1: and we are about you know, play and exploring the

1042
00:53:28,280 --> 00:53:30,960
Speaker 1: pleasure and giving people permission and reminding them that they

1043
00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:33,759
Speaker 1: don't need permission. So it makes sense. But I think

1044
00:53:33,800 --> 00:53:35,680
Speaker 1: that just seeing how you move and seeing like the

1045
00:53:35,719 --> 00:53:39,040
Speaker 1: beautiful space and community that you've built is really like,

1046
00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:41,600
Speaker 1: you know, I wouldn't we wouldn't do it with anybody else.

1047
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 4: Thank you.

1048
00:53:48,280 --> 00:53:52,640
Speaker 3: M M. Let's get an outro from y'all before we

1049
00:53:52,680 --> 00:53:55,120
Speaker 3: get out of here. I'm gonna where can the people

1050
00:53:55,160 --> 00:53:57,320
Speaker 3: find y'all individually and together?

1051
00:53:58,480 --> 00:54:01,440
Speaker 7: You can find us on all podcasts platforms Good Mom's

1052
00:54:01,440 --> 00:54:04,480
Speaker 7: Bad Choices. You can find us on Instagram at Good

1053
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Speaker 7: Mom's Underscore Bad Choices. Make sure you check out our website,

1054
00:54:07,760 --> 00:54:09,120
Speaker 7: Good Moms Bad Choices dot com.

1055
00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:10,800
Speaker 6: You can check out where we're.

1056
00:54:10,680 --> 00:54:13,840
Speaker 7: What cities were coming to next on our tour our retreats,

1057
00:54:15,040 --> 00:54:18,440
Speaker 7: which we do them in Costa Rica, and we actually

1058
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:20,600
Speaker 7: have one coming up in Atlanta. It's our first in

1059
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Speaker 7: state retreat. To make sure you check out the Good

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Speaker 7: Vibe Retreat. You can find me at Watch Erica.

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Speaker 1: And I'm Meela with an h underscore map with two p's, and.

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00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:34,200
Speaker 3: You can find both of them at Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 3: We are going to bring y'all a lot of things.

1064
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:39,600
Speaker 3: We'll bring you a party, We'll bring you activation Kinks.

1065
00:54:39,640 --> 00:54:41,040
Speaker 3: I don't know if we're gonna have the chiropractor, but

1066
00:54:41,040 --> 00:54:47,920
Speaker 3: we're gonna bring something good for your body.

1067
00:54:46,920 --> 00:54:50,399
Speaker 6: Requirement and I need to relign me now.

1068
00:54:50,680 --> 00:54:57,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, but honestly, honestly, honestly, the Kinks, the dancing, the music,

1069
00:54:57,400 --> 00:55:00,120
Speaker 3: the colors. We never really talked about the vibe in

1070
00:55:00,160 --> 00:55:03,640
Speaker 3: the curation of like the space itself, but Luis Geko

1071
00:55:03,920 --> 00:55:07,600
Speaker 3: and morgana are really good with creating an environment not

1072
00:55:07,680 --> 00:55:11,160
Speaker 3: just with people but just like lights, aesthetic and everything.

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00:55:12,040 --> 00:55:20,000
Speaker 3: I can't wait to hit La again double entendre you

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Speaker 3: know clever Man. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I am Orlando ak Orlando, Orlando.

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Speaker 3: My beautiful co host here with is Luscious Beard.

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Speaker 4: Brooklyn Lou aka a well known Yeah.

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Speaker 3: We we are lifts to lifestyle conversations about the lifestyle

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Speaker 3: from the lifestyle piece.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for joining us on this bonus episode with

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Speaker 1: Lips the lifestyle podcast that will be coming to you

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Speaker 1: in the fall, all about the lifestyle. I hope you

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00:56:22,719 --> 00:56:24,920
Speaker 1: enjoyed this. I hope this has opened your heart in

1083
00:56:24,960 --> 00:56:27,400
Speaker 1: your mind, and I hope if you're in the LA area,

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Speaker 1: or even if you're not, you want to fly in

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Speaker 1: that you come join us April twenty seventh to experience

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Speaker 1: this gem for yourself. Click the link in this episode

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Speaker 1: description and come play and party with us in La

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Speaker 1: April twenty seventh at our next Sussia NYC collaboration. Bye

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Speaker 1: see you over at Patreon.