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Speaker 1: here we go. Subject he has sleepovers with his best friend.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm in my early thirties and I'm

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Speaker 1: dealing with a guy in his mid thirties. We hung

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Speaker 1: out for a couple of months and he was ready

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Speaker 1: to get serious, which meant it was time for me

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Speaker 1: to give up the cookie from top. From the time

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Speaker 1: I met him, I had a problem with the so

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Speaker 1: called best friend, who is a female. I've tried to

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Speaker 1: understand the relationship and he says it's nothing, but she

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Speaker 1: spends the night at his house, and he will stay

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Speaker 1: at her house. He said they have known each other

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Speaker 1: since they were kids, so there's no way he crossed

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Speaker 1: the line with her. I believed him, and I gave

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Speaker 1: up the cookie. We had the best sex ever. The

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Speaker 1: next night, he told me he'd be in for the

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Speaker 1: This made me so mad, I couldn't think straight last night.

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Speaker 1: Later that night, I went to his town house and

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Speaker 1: the couch with his head in her lap. They were

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Speaker 1: watching a movie and talking about the movie. He told

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Speaker 1: her he needed more wine, and she went to get it.

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Speaker 1: She had on a pair of short shorts, a wife beater,

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Speaker 1: jiggling on her. He commented that she is nice and

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Speaker 1: thick when she walked away. After she sat back down,

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Speaker 1: he put his head back on her lap and gave

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Speaker 1: her a peck on her inner thigh. I sat there

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Speaker 1: and watched about fifteen more minutes, and nothing else happened.

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Speaker 1: He called me the next day and told me they

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Speaker 1: had dinner, wine and watched a movie and she left.

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Speaker 1: He was telling the truth because I rode back by

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Speaker 1: his house after one am and her car was gone.

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Speaker 1: He was honest about everything. So should I trust him? Now?

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Speaker 1: What about the part? What about the kiss on the

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Speaker 1: inner thigh part? What about that part? I just think

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Speaker 1: at this moment in time, it doesn't matter if he's

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Speaker 1: the point is their relationship is a bit much, don't

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Speaker 1: you think. I mean, they're way too close, way too close,

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Speaker 1: closer than some marriages. I mean, he puts you off

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Speaker 1: that he was gonna be with his best friend. What

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Speaker 1: you guys just had sex. I mean, seems like you

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Speaker 1: would want to be together, But he put you off

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Speaker 1: for his best friend so he could put his head

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Speaker 1: in her lap and watch movies. Then when she gets up,

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Speaker 1: he says, you're nice and thick, and then he kisses

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Speaker 1: her on the inner thigh. What is going on here? Okay?

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Speaker 1: I don't like it. I don't like it. I think

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Speaker 1: it's a sign. I think it's a red flag. If

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Speaker 1: I've ever seen one. I think in this relationship, she

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Speaker 1: will always come before you because they're just that close.

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Speaker 1: You know, when you get on a relationship, you can

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Speaker 1: still have friends, but female friends. You know, we talk

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Speaker 1: about that a lot on this show. He says it

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Speaker 1: they don't cross the line in this letter. Yeah, his

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Speaker 1: I'm just not buying this relationship. She has a house.

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Speaker 1: Why doesn't she spend the night at her own house?

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Speaker 1: He's in a relationship now, he doesn't need to be

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Speaker 1: any other way to look at this situation. And again,

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Speaker 1: I think she's always going to come before you. And

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Speaker 1: going anywhere. Jay Anthony. I'm so glad that I get

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Speaker 1: But this time you're so wrong. What's so wrong? He

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Speaker 1: All it was is he had sex with her. He

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Speaker 1: If you go into bushes, you're gonna find trash. You

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Speaker 1: were looking for something that wasn't there. This is just

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Speaker 1: a fine friend that cooks. That's all this is. There's

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Speaker 1: nothing else to this. She happens to have a nice

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Speaker 1: body and she can cook. What man? What man don't

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Speaker 1: that don't want that? Who don't want a nice brisket

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Speaker 1: round salt THI DELAYO head down, watch a movie. What man?

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Speaker 1: Don't won't that? Tell me? Raise your hand? If you

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Speaker 1: don't want that, you a lot, You're a damn lap.

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Speaker 1: But I promise, I promise you bang in me a

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Speaker 1: nice potato salad and a nice potato path. Sweep potato path.

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Speaker 1: You got a nice fluffy brown Thiel. That's all right,

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Speaker 1: hang on, hang on, we have part two of the

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter coming up. We're gonna get some more from Ujay.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna, of course, hear from the nephew. Uh. It's

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Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter H subject he has sleepovers with his best

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Speaker 1: friend and uh, we'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, guys,

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Speaker 1: let's recap this letter. H. This is from a woman

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Speaker 1: in her early thirties. She's dealing with a guy in

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Speaker 1: his mid thirties. He has a best friend that they

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Speaker 1: have been friends since kids, and they take time spending

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Speaker 1: the night over each other's house. Now, the woman in

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Speaker 1: her early thirties, they hang out. They've been she's been

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Speaker 1: hanging out with this guy for a couple of months

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Speaker 1: and he's ready to get serious now. And you know

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Speaker 1: what that means. She's ready to He wants the cookie,

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Speaker 1: as she put it, from her and she's a bit

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Speaker 1: concerned about that because he says it's nothing going on

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Speaker 1: She spends the night at his house. They've known each other,

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Speaker 1: like I said, since they were kids, but he claims

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Speaker 1: he's never crossed the line with her. So finally she

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Speaker 1: gave in, gave him the cookie. Those are her words,

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Speaker 1: and she said it was the best sex ever. But

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Speaker 1: So she sneaks around to his house to go see

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Speaker 1: what's going on. What is he doing? So he's in

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Speaker 1: all of this. She went to his town house. She

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Speaker 1: got lucky. The blinds were opened, the sliding door was cracked,

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Speaker 1: so uh, they were watching a movie. He said he

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Speaker 1: needed more wine. She went up to get the wine.

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Speaker 1: She had on a pair of short shorts. He commented

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Speaker 1: the letter writer said, she's a bigger girl, so everything

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Speaker 1: was jiggling. He commented that he you know, commented on

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Speaker 1: it as she walked away. When she sat back down,

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Speaker 1: because it's because right. She came over to cook the Yeah,

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Speaker 1: his house at about one am and the best friend's

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Speaker 1: um car was gone. So that is the um uh

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Speaker 1: gist of the letter. She wants to know. Should she

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Speaker 1: trust him? You know, because everything he said basically was true.

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Speaker 1: All right, Jay, did you have a little more you

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Speaker 1: want more? First of all, first of all, don't call

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Speaker 1: me OLJ do not. I just I just wanted to

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Speaker 1: him hit it. You know. She said he said he

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Speaker 1: in for the night. Come on a subject, he has

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Speaker 1: sleepovers with his best friend. What you got? All right,

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Speaker 1: let me say this, Every let I have ever laid on,

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Speaker 1: come on, tell the truth has been some inner thigh action. Okay,

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Speaker 1: every lap that the nephew been on, you can rest

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Speaker 1: the show. And this is what you need to understand.

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Speaker 1: When you hear wine, wife, beatle, jiggling and lap. It's

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Speaker 1: looking through the crack. Though I don't know how they

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Speaker 1: whole nother story. But all I'm saying is once, once

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Speaker 1: I lay in a lap? How many? How many laps

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Speaker 1: have you laid in? Jay? I've laid in a lot

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Speaker 1: thigh you home free. You are home free. No that, No,

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Speaker 1: that's not that. Don't make that makes now. Listen. You

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Speaker 1: While you laying in a lap, now that's a lot

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Speaker 1: You really can't go nowhere when you're laying in a lap, right,

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Speaker 1: But when you kiss saying a thigh, trust me, you

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Speaker 1: when you got a nice, thick woman and this everything

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Speaker 1: is jiggling, it's moving, he say, ain't no brown, just

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Speaker 1: a white beetle. Have you closed your eyes and picture

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Speaker 1: to store? Have you seen all that she just got

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Speaker 1: through cooking? This is so much sexiness going on. Everything

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Speaker 1: middle of greatness. That's right to know that. This letter

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Speaker 1: writer needs to know that there is definitely something going

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Speaker 1: he probably kissed her ass, he probably don't. Yes, be quiet,

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Speaker 1: not the point. Oh, once you hit in a thigh,

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