Speaker 1: Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, wherever you may be.
Speaker 1: Guess what you are tuned into the Vitamin D podcast
Speaker 1: and what well, I'm your host, Dawn Day, here to
Speaker 1: get you excited about your life so that you can
Speaker 1: live life on purpose and for a purpose. You're worady,
Speaker 1: now listen, if you're new, I want to say welcome, Come, come, come,
Speaker 1: Heather Vitamin D. It's a point of my name, right.
Speaker 1: You know you get Vitamin D from the sun. Well,
Speaker 1: Dawn means the sun, and so I'm here to shed
Speaker 1: light into your life. And I want to be clear,
Speaker 1: Vitamin D I like to consider a multi vitamin for
Speaker 1: your mind. And in this whole process of where we
Speaker 1: shed light, that's shutting light on the good and the bead.
Speaker 1: So basically we gotta keep it real because you can't
Speaker 1: fear what you see, because what is fear? False evidence
Speaker 1: appearing real? And if you want to be better and
Speaker 1: if you want to do better, you got to see
Speaker 1: better and what better way to see than what the
Speaker 1: lights on? So are you ready? This does require for
Speaker 1: you to look at yourself and to be out of
Speaker 1: next with yourself. You don't what it really requires is
Speaker 1: for you to communicate with yourself. I say the communication
Speaker 1: is the key point because it's almost that whole idea
Speaker 1: of where I talk about how you are your greatest
Speaker 1: asset is where you know where you stand. You do
Speaker 1: a check in and if you have no idea what
Speaker 1: I mean by uh, the Life Bank account and you
Speaker 1: being your greatest asset, well, think about any account that
Speaker 1: you may have right, so you have like say, for example,
Speaker 1: your checkings or your savings right and what you have
Speaker 1: on account or your assets. Well, if you have your
Speaker 1: Life Bank account and you are your greatest asset, it's
Speaker 1: all about balancing this account because they're going to be
Speaker 1: deposits and they're going to be withdrawals, and there are
Speaker 1: things that are going to ask your life. There are
Speaker 1: things going to be a liability and listen because life
Speaker 1: and how it moves, that's the way it goes. But
Speaker 1: the key is to keep the balance. You check in
Speaker 1: with me. So along with in the light on this podcast,
Speaker 1: I have UM I share inspirational insights with music lyrics
Speaker 1: and also with celebrities and everyday people like you and me,
Speaker 1: just a mode of how to live life better, how
Speaker 1: to be better. And I also do something where I
Speaker 1: like to splash and as I do something where I
Speaker 1: talk about advice letters where I welcome listeners who um
Speaker 1: want advice on love, relationships, career, um success, just anything
Speaker 1: to email me at Vitamin D at dawn day Speaks
Speaker 1: dot com. You got that Vitamin D at Dawn day
Speaker 1: Speaks dot com. And then ever so often you know,
Speaker 1: I crock open the Vitamin D email bag and I
Speaker 1: don't read the letters. Now, this is strictly my opinion,
Speaker 1: and like I told you with Vitamin Day, it's all
Speaker 1: about shedding light on the good and the bad. So
Speaker 1: that means I'm gonna keep it real with you. You
Speaker 1: may not like it, but understand it's only so you
Speaker 1: can be better and do better from my point of view.
Speaker 1: And if you're writing in and I can only gettum
Speaker 1: that you want to know what I think. At the
Speaker 1: end of the day, remember this podcast is all about
Speaker 1: you living your life on purpose and for a purpose,
Speaker 1: because you know we're gonna die, right, I'm just saying
Speaker 1: I don't know about you, but I'm not trying to
Speaker 1: waste any time. You know, time is like your most
Speaker 1: valuable corn. Once it's spent, you can't get it back.
Speaker 1: It's gone forever. Be mindful with your time, mainly with
Speaker 1: yourself and then with others. Oh gay, So on this episode,
Speaker 1: I'm diving into my vitamin D email bag. Um, I'm
Speaker 1: just excited to see what you'll got to say. So,
Speaker 1: without further ado, it's time for your dose or should
Speaker 1: I say doses a vitamin damin D right with me
Speaker 1: and get excited about your All right, let's get to
Speaker 1: this first letter subject, is she cheating? Dear Dawn, I'm
Speaker 1: worried my wife is cheating on me, or at least
Speaker 1: about to. So it was a bit of a back story.
Speaker 1: We're both twenty seven and we've been married for eight years.
Speaker 1: It's had its ups and downs, but lately it has
Speaker 1: been more down than anything. My wife suffers from depression
Speaker 1: and anxiety. I'm in the military, so she has had
Speaker 1: to leave her hometown for quite some time. She visits
Speaker 1: as often as she can, usually once a year at least. Um,
Speaker 1: lately things have been hard. She feels like she doesn't
Speaker 1: have a support system, no friends in the area we
Speaker 1: are living in, and I have been going a lot
Speaker 1: due to work. I try to be there as much
Speaker 1: as I can via phone calls, and text, but it
Speaker 1: doesn't seem to be enough, so we decided on a
Speaker 1: plan she would move back home for six months to
Speaker 1: be around her support system. We never said taking a
Speaker 1: break or anything. This was for her mental health. WHOA.
Speaker 1: At the beginning of this, she took a vacation to
Speaker 1: San Diego, where we had lived previously. She loves the
Speaker 1: area and we had a mutual friend there. A couple
Speaker 1: of days after getting there, she started ghosting me. I
Speaker 1: figured she was busy, so I waited to hear from her.
Speaker 1: Three days go by and not even a text. So
Speaker 1: I call him and she's with our mutual friend, a man.
Speaker 1: I'll call Thomas and says she's busy and has to go.
Speaker 1: We spoke for barely two minutes now about this friend.
Speaker 1: Thomas and I were great friends while we were living there,
Speaker 1: but ever since we left, he doesn't respond to my texts.
Speaker 1: But a week before my wife's trip back home, they
Speaker 1: begin talking a lot every day. Nothing intimate or anything,
Speaker 1: but I know what men are like. Now I'm seeing
Speaker 1: on his Instagram story that all of a sudden, he's
Speaker 1: booked a private dinner cruise and my wife still isn't
Speaker 1: answering my calls. I've always believed in the adage, where
Speaker 1: they're smoked, they're as fire. So I'm freaking out. What
Speaker 1: should I do? Sir? The first thing you need to
Speaker 1: do is be real with yourself. Don't play yourself. You
Speaker 1: gotta really trust your intuition. You know what this is.
Speaker 1: You know, if you're not getting what you want at home,
Speaker 1: or if you're not getting what you want, oftentimes people
Speaker 1: look elsewhere. You know, your wife communicated with you that
Speaker 1: she was unhappy, and I see how you did a
Speaker 1: happy compromise of what you were saying, Hey, well, let's
Speaker 1: make it so that you're able to go home and
Speaker 1: be around your support system. Where's the thing. It sounds
Speaker 1: like she was still saying that she needed more of you.
Speaker 1: You are her partner, you are her made Now. Do
Speaker 1: understand that you're working in the military and your job
Speaker 1: is very demanding. But where your attention goals, that's where
Speaker 1: things grow. And so your wife has to clear I'm
Speaker 1: not happy here. You know, she doesn't feel like she's
Speaker 1: growing in that area. So she you say, hey, she
Speaker 1: went ahead and took a trip back to an area
Speaker 1: where she loved San Diego, where she felt good and
Speaker 1: there was a friend. And this friend you say, let's
Speaker 1: call him Thomas, hasn't communicated with you at all. Now
Speaker 1: your wife, your own wife, who you've been married to
Speaker 1: for eight years, not one or two, not three I
Speaker 1: said age, And regardless of the time, your wife isn't
Speaker 1: responding to your calls. Three days and you haven't heard
Speaker 1: from your life partner, somebody that you made a commitment to,
Speaker 1: somebody that you said that you love so much that
Speaker 1: I want to spend the rest of my life with
Speaker 1: somebody that you communicated and you are on this wavelength
Speaker 1: of love with has not communicating with you. You know,
Speaker 1: as I talk about relationships and I talk about relationships
Speaker 1: with self, see how you are communicating with yourself and
Speaker 1: honest with yourself is how you would treat your relationship
Speaker 1: with your partner. How you do anything is how you'll
Speaker 1: do everything. And I can tell even about what you're
Speaker 1: saying of having to do the person who you've dedicating
Speaker 1: your entire life too to say, hey I gotta text
Speaker 1: you and I can't spend time with you, Well, what
Speaker 1: does that say about the relationship? So when you say, hey,
Speaker 1: what should I do? Well, One, you need to communicate
Speaker 1: with your wife, and to be honest with yourself about
Speaker 1: what the possibility of something that is going on. Now,
Speaker 1: the question is when you find out what it seems
Speaker 1: the obvious and I don't want to put that on there,
Speaker 1: but I'm just saying, all of a sudden, they're communicating.
Speaker 1: All of a sudden, this single man is now having
Speaker 1: a romantic dinner and coincidentally enough, your wife is out
Speaker 1: there and she's not responding to you. It's interesting how
Speaker 1: this entire time, how you know she's talking about how
Speaker 1: she's unhappy in the relationship, whether that be where she
Speaker 1: is located, and also not filling the support. She's getting
Speaker 1: it from someone else, someone else that does have the time,
Speaker 1: someone else that is paying attention. Now doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: you don't love her, No, I'm not saying that you
Speaker 1: don't love her. But what I'm saying is that you're
Speaker 1: not giving her what she needs. And if you're not
Speaker 1: giving her what she needs, do you see how the
Speaker 1: communication has broken? Do you see what's happening? There's a disconnect?
Speaker 1: But again, what do you do when you find out?
Speaker 1: That's the real question, because this is what we're going
Speaker 1: to require you to take some time and to really
Speaker 1: see eye to eye and if this is are you
Speaker 1: and your partner growing on the same level. And that's
Speaker 1: the whole thing that I was saying about, making sure
Speaker 1: you communicate with yourself and really do a check in
Speaker 1: to see what it is that you really want. Do
Speaker 1: you want this career? Do you want your wife now?
Speaker 1: Because of your wife, and I want to use this
Speaker 1: term loosely, her illnesses um dealing with depression and dealing
Speaker 1: with anxiety that requires a different level of attention that
Speaker 1: she needs. She needs that and you can't give her that.
Speaker 1: So what happens or do you false her for going
Speaker 1: outside or going elsewhere? Because at what point did the
Speaker 1: communication break down that you can go more than one
Speaker 1: day without speaking to your wife. Does it just happen
Speaker 1: overnight on just this one trip. You know you probably
Speaker 1: would have sent out the search more or something like that.
Speaker 1: So something leads me to say that perhaps this is
Speaker 1: not the first time that she's gone without answering your calls.
Speaker 1: Because if you are used to talking to somebody very frequently,
Speaker 1: like you said, you've been making sure you text and call.
Speaker 1: She hasn't responded in three days seventy two hours, and
Speaker 1: you didn't make sure that you did a wellness check.
Speaker 1: What's that about? Now? Is this the whole situation that
Speaker 1: you may be in denial? Because again she said what
Speaker 1: she needs. You basically said, hey, I'm gonna do my
Speaker 1: best of what I can give you. But clearly that
Speaker 1: isn't enough because she's flourishing in the area and around
Speaker 1: people that can give her attention. So now you have
Speaker 1: to ask yourself, how do you want to move forward?
Speaker 1: What should you do? You need to communicate with your
Speaker 1: wife because clearly it's evident seventy two hours and she
Speaker 1: hasn't replied or hasn't called you back, there's a breakdown
Speaker 1: and communication. That's the first thing you need to do
Speaker 1: is talk to your wife. And you guys need to
Speaker 1: do a check in on where you all right now
Speaker 1: because who you married it years ago may not be
Speaker 1: the same person she is to Chang. Doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: she never loved you. No, I'm not saying that. It
Speaker 1: doesn't mean she never loved you or she still doesn't
Speaker 1: love you. But people change, just like the seasons, and
Speaker 1: you have to remain or to think like, are you
Speaker 1: that constant what happened? So I would recommend you definitely UM,
Speaker 1: talk to your wife. I would say, brace yourself because
Speaker 1: it seems as though where the smoke is that there
Speaker 1: is fire and that she is probably um parlaying and
Speaker 1: say in diego on some type of beach, you know,
Speaker 1: just parlaying. But yeah, you know, it's never easy. But
Speaker 1: I think love conquers all. And what it sounds like
Speaker 1: if she needs some attention and another thing, you might
Speaker 1: not let your wife go nowhere with no grown man
Speaker 1: another man. That's not true. UM, So give me a
Speaker 1: follow up on what happens. And once you find out,
Speaker 1: I mainly want to know what you are going to
Speaker 1: do from here. Are you going to communicate because based
Speaker 1: on what I'm reading, that's some area that you could
Speaker 1: do more work in. Okay, all right, let's go on
Speaker 1: to the next letter subject. Am I being undervalued? Dear Dawn.
Speaker 1: I don't feel respected in my place of work. I'm
Speaker 1: twenty eight and just trying to climb the corporate ladder
Speaker 1: to a CE suite gig that I can just jump
Speaker 1: start a path towards wealth. I've been at this company
Speaker 1: for the last five years and have seen barely any
Speaker 1: job growth in my field. It's not uncommonacy promotions to
Speaker 1: middle management, and that time I was worried that I
Speaker 1: wasn't putting in my best, you know, like the guys
Speaker 1: at the top saw me as somebody to keep around.
Speaker 1: But after a recent project proposal of mind turned out
Speaker 1: to be a huge success and I was getting praised
Speaker 1: from my supervisors, I knew that at least they valued
Speaker 1: my ideas. When I started to ask around about what
Speaker 1: people were getting paid, I made friends with someone in
Speaker 1: HR early, which has paid off many times. I came
Speaker 1: to the conclusion that the company has been low balling
Speaker 1: me when it comes to raises the last few years.
Speaker 1: To add insult to injury, someone who had gotten hired
Speaker 1: after me was promoted to a supervisor position before me.
Speaker 1: I don't mean to disparage my colleague, but I know
Speaker 1: for a fact that I've contributed more to the team
Speaker 1: than them, and I have shown up. This knowledge is
Speaker 1: starting to take a tone on my health. I can't sleep,
Speaker 1: I can't work effectively knowing that these people don't value me. Dawn,
Speaker 1: Should I just go in and ask for a raise?
Speaker 1: Could I even find a new job in this market?
Speaker 1: Thank you for writing in. I think anyone that has
Speaker 1: been in the workforce has definitely felt what you have
Speaker 1: your writing in about. And you will hear me say
Speaker 1: time and time again, you have to teach people how
Speaker 1: to treat you. You have to get off the sales
Speaker 1: rack and get behind the glass where the valuables are.
Speaker 1: So my question is to you, what's your worth? How
Speaker 1: much do you value yourself? Now? The reason why I'm
Speaker 1: asking you that is that it sounds like you're somebody
Speaker 1: who's ambitious. In fact, you said the reason why you
Speaker 1: were going after this job and trying to cryme the
Speaker 1: corporate ladder is because you want to work towards a
Speaker 1: path to success, to wealth. So what you deem as
Speaker 1: happiness to get to your level of points, well, when
Speaker 1: we talk about success, you know, it's it's this constant movement,
Speaker 1: it's this journ. Well, for the past or five years,
Speaker 1: you have been stuck or in the same position. Now
Speaker 1: it's starting to take a tone in your health. Is
Speaker 1: it because you've just found out that other people are
Speaker 1: making more money or is the fact that you aren't growing?
Speaker 1: Which one is it? Because if you're gonna consistently look
Speaker 1: at your neighbor's yard, well heck, it's always gonna look
Speaker 1: greener over there. But again the question is is how
Speaker 1: much do you value yourself? How long do you sit
Speaker 1: there in that position? Now? You said on should I
Speaker 1: just go in there and ask for a raise? Do
Speaker 1: you deserve the raise? How much do you better yourself?
Speaker 1: If you know that you've been doing a great job,
Speaker 1: why wouldn't you ask for it? If you can't see
Speaker 1: the worth in yourself, how and why would you expect
Speaker 1: somebody else to. You have to know what you're bringing
Speaker 1: to the table. If you don't stand for yourself, you
Speaker 1: will fall for anything. And look at yourself. You've been
Speaker 1: in the same situation for five It's not it's not
Speaker 1: about whether or not you can do the work. You
Speaker 1: just said that you just did this bomb project, but
Speaker 1: yet there hasn't been a change in your salary, you
Speaker 1: having received any type of promotion. So then I have
Speaker 1: to ask you what do you want? You're asking me
Speaker 1: what you should do. I have to ask you what
Speaker 1: you want because I'm getting a little confused right now,
Speaker 1: Like you're saying, I want to be successful. I want
Speaker 1: to build my path towards success and wealth. Yet you
Speaker 1: don't know if you should go in there and ask
Speaker 1: for raids? Close miles. Don't get fed. You're trying to eat.
Speaker 1: Open your mouth. You gotta say something for somebody to
Speaker 1: give you something to chew. If i'm your your company,
Speaker 1: your business, why would I just volunteerly give you more
Speaker 1: money if you're not asking for it. M hmm. You
Speaker 1: can't expect somebody to see your value in your worth.
Speaker 1: You have to dictate that. That's what I said. Get
Speaker 1: off the clearance rack and get behind glass where the
Speaker 1: valuables are. You need to go in there and show
Speaker 1: your numbers. You need to go in there and let
Speaker 1: them know how much you value yourself. You're gonna have
Speaker 1: to bet on yourself. Are you as good as you
Speaker 1: claim to? Because you know when people are successful, when
Speaker 1: people are well, they're ambitious. It's about growth, it's about movement. Well, listen,
Speaker 1: you've been stuck not one, not to nothing. You're not
Speaker 1: for but five years. And you hear me say this also,
Speaker 1: often how you do anything is how you'll do everything.
Speaker 1: You're asking for a microphone, But you have nothing to
Speaker 1: say when you talk about having um a C suite
Speaker 1: level position, that's a leader, that's somebody that can take charge.
Speaker 1: That's somebody that can dictate orders. That's somebody that exudes confidence,
Speaker 1: and right now I see that there's not that same
Speaker 1: confidence you have in yourself because when you know your worth,
Speaker 1: you know what you're asking for because you know what's
Speaker 1: at stake. But guess what, we all start from somewhere.
Speaker 1: The fact that you're writing in, the fact that you're asking,
Speaker 1: that means the conversation is happening. And the previous letter
Speaker 1: I had to say, Hey, what happened to the check in?
Speaker 1: What's what you're doing the check in? So we're not
Speaker 1: gonna beat up on that area, but we are going
Speaker 1: to cut on the light of what it is that
Speaker 1: we see because now it's time. What are you gonna
Speaker 1: do from here? It's not too late because you're still
Speaker 1: employed by the company. It's not too late because you're
Speaker 1: still progressing, you're still moving forward. Now the only question
Speaker 1: is going to be are you're going to have to pivot?
Speaker 1: Because if they are not willing to give you what
Speaker 1: you want, are you willing to go out there and
Speaker 1: take a chance on yourself? How much do you believe
Speaker 1: in yourself? What do you think the value of yourself? Is?
Speaker 1: Only you can answer that. I can't tell you that.
Speaker 1: But what I can charge you to think about within
Speaker 1: yourself is that how much do you value yourself? What
Speaker 1: do you think you're worth? Is so you just thought that, Uh,
Speaker 1: the person that got hired after you just sat there. Wait,
Speaker 1: did it sound like they were ambitious and they went
Speaker 1: up to the table so they can get fat. And
Speaker 1: it's not so much as throwing someone else under the table.
Speaker 1: It's all about you scooping up to the table so
Speaker 1: that you can eat. People just asking for you to
Speaker 1: show up, for you to sit in your throne. And
Speaker 1: that's what we talk about authority and dominion over your life.
Speaker 1: Because then you asked the next thing, you said, could
Speaker 1: I even find a new job in this market? What
Speaker 1: do you want? You have to have that belief in
Speaker 1: yourself when you want to be successful, when you want
Speaker 1: to make it, when you want to grow. Even when
Speaker 1: you look at a plant right outside of the garden
Speaker 1: and the grass, when you look at a tree, they
Speaker 1: rise up to the light, they stretch, they grow, what
Speaker 1: do you want? Do you believe in yourself? Sometimes you're
Speaker 1: gonna have to take a chance, because let me ask
Speaker 1: you this. If you go out to them and he say,
Speaker 1: we don't have the funds. Right now we can't pay you.
Speaker 1: Are you willing to walk away? Are you willing to
Speaker 1: walk in your truth? And right now your truth says
Speaker 1: that you aren't being paid your worth? So are you
Speaker 1: gonna dictate it? Or are you gonna sit another five
Speaker 1: and fifteen twenty years in the same position you are
Speaker 1: right now being low palt because you're allowing them to
Speaker 1: dictate you. You know, when I was eighth grade, I
Speaker 1: shout out to Ms. Karma rest in peace. I learned
Speaker 1: this quote, I make myself what I am. Do you
Speaker 1: understand that what that means and what that says? You
Speaker 1: have the ability to create the life that you want.
Speaker 1: It's in your hands. You can speak it over your life.
Speaker 1: And I guess I'm so passionate about you like doing.
Speaker 1: All I did was just asking about what should I
Speaker 1: do with this job? But remember how you do anything
Speaker 1: is how you'll do everything. And the fact that we're
Speaker 1: talking about your value, We're talking about your value and
Speaker 1: your worth. How many years you spent on the job,
Speaker 1: you'res curating it, years making it and cultivating your own
Speaker 1: years of learning how to talk to people, years of
Speaker 1: learning how to be consistent, years of knowing the language,
Speaker 1: the fabric, the threatening, the material, the essence of this company.
Speaker 1: So what you're gonna do? Boom, You're gonna do what
Speaker 1: you need to do or not? So you said, Dawn,
Speaker 1: should I just go and ask for a race? Hey? Can? Yeah?
Speaker 1: You need to go in here and ask for the raising,
Speaker 1: get your money? Are you trying to be about that
Speaker 1: life or at all? Going there and dictate your worth?
Speaker 1: And you have to believe so much in yourself that
Speaker 1: if they say they can't do it, you're gonna have
Speaker 1: to just do a pivot and go somewhere else. Because
Speaker 1: the right job for you and the right moment for you,
Speaker 1: it's gonna fit and it's gonna be right. That's how
Speaker 1: you'll know. Okay, baby, gonta get your money? Hey, all right,
Speaker 1: let's go on to the next letter subject help me
Speaker 1: make my life interesting and Dear Dawn, I have a
Speaker 1: twenty four year old woman living in Fresno, and I
Speaker 1: am slowly finding out I am the most boring person alive.
Speaker 1: All I do for fun is watch TV and go
Speaker 1: out with my friends. Nothing else is interesting to me,
Speaker 1: not my books and my favorite games, not any new movies,
Speaker 1: not discovering hobbies. I sometimes feel like I just have
Speaker 1: to have fun and do nothing else. The situation has
Speaker 1: me feeling empty on the inside. What can I do
Speaker 1: to find more things to like? I mean, I used
Speaker 1: to walk almost daily, but it only lasted a month
Speaker 1: because I got a foot injury. I read a book
Speaker 1: a while back on the value of forming good habits.
Speaker 1: I know that it takes time, which I have a
Speaker 1: lot of. I'm currently unemployed and waiting for an internship
Speaker 1: with my dad's friend to start. I figured that when
Speaker 1: that picks up, I'll be too busy to actually do something.
Speaker 1: So I sort of feel like there's this ticking clock
Speaker 1: if I don't use this free time now to actually
Speaker 1: develop some interest. What's to stop work, TV and hanging
Speaker 1: out with my friends being my life? And the last
Speaker 1: thing I want to do is be Dare I say basic?
Speaker 1: You know the kind of chick that just works and
Speaker 1: parties until she's in her late thirties, then finds out
Speaker 1: that she doesn't have a personality when she can't do
Speaker 1: that anymore. To top it all off, right now almost
Speaker 1: everything is closed due to COVID, But there has to
Speaker 1: be something that I can do expand my horizons. Help me, Dawn.
Speaker 1: How do I expand what I like? Or am I
Speaker 1: just creating a crisis out of nothing? Okay, hold on,
Speaker 1: what do you want? There's a lot there. There is
Speaker 1: a lot going on in this letter, and I guess
Speaker 1: I'm just wondering what it is that you want. Um,
Speaker 1: you're saying like, hey, Dawn, I'm uncomfortable right now. I'm
Speaker 1: trying to find something to do. I want to be
Speaker 1: proactive with my life. But then on the other hand,
Speaker 1: you said that you're waiting for an internship with your
Speaker 1: dad's friend to start. Um, you're waiting on that. Why
Speaker 1: why aren't you going to look for something? Now? Here's
Speaker 1: the thing. I just feel like I'm finding a lot
Speaker 1: of complaints and the fact that you do have time,
Speaker 1: get up and do something, keep doing something until you
Speaker 1: find something you like. What you're just gonna stop? Now?
Speaker 1: The only reason why I'm wondering because you're saying that, hey,
Speaker 1: I want to do more, But then you're saying you don't.
Speaker 1: Are you sure that this may not be deeper than
Speaker 1: what it seems to be on phase value or surface
Speaker 1: value rather, because I'm not sure what's gonna make you happy?
Speaker 1: So what you're gonna busy doing work in an internship
Speaker 1: for a job that you may not like. That I've
Speaker 1: set you up for a situation to be in a
Speaker 1: career that you don't like. You need to find what
Speaker 1: it is that you enjoy. You know you're gonna die
Speaker 1: one day. You know one that you will remember the
Speaker 1: last person you loved and not know that that will
Speaker 1: be the last person you loved. You will kiss somebody
Speaker 1: that you love and not realize that would be the
Speaker 1: last person that you are kissed. You will hold the hand,
Speaker 1: you will listen to a song. You will eat a
Speaker 1: meal that you will not realize is the mad live
Speaker 1: as the meal that you will eat. Do you think
Speaker 1: that you have time for doing something that you do
Speaker 1: not love? Do you think that you have time for
Speaker 1: not searching to find out what is you and what
Speaker 1: makes you you? When we think about life and we
Speaker 1: think about growing right nutrients, things need to feed us
Speaker 1: to grow so we don't become robotic and just start functioning,
Speaker 1: you don't want to get in the situation of just
Speaker 1: waiting for this internship and you may not even love.
Speaker 1: And now I can see if you said, Dawn, this
Speaker 1: was my dream job. I'm going into internship with something
Speaker 1: that I love. But you don't even know what you
Speaker 1: want that you're gonna wait and settle for anything. Go
Speaker 1: out there and keep trying different things. Listen to music,
Speaker 1: get it to the conversation, figure out the language of
Speaker 1: the things that you love. And that's just simply you
Speaker 1: experience in life and being present and when something resonates
Speaker 1: with you, when something that you find makes you pay attention,
Speaker 1: move closer to it. You know. It reminds me of
Speaker 1: when I spoke on this panel and it was entitled
Speaker 1: Women in Media Amplifying Her Boys, and it was put
Speaker 1: on by the d C Chapter of the National Black
Speaker 1: NBA Association and the moderator Mr Anderson. She was talking
Speaker 1: about how to hone into what it is that you
Speaker 1: love and what it is that you want to do
Speaker 1: if you're trying to figure out your path. And I'm
Speaker 1: probably paraphrasing this a bit, but she talks about how
Speaker 1: you need to find something that can annoy you, something
Speaker 1: that you basically pay attention to the ideo screency so
Speaker 1: much that it can cause an annoyance because you think
Speaker 1: about it. If something doesn't matter, you don't mind it, right,
Speaker 1: But if you're minding it. It must matter. It must
Speaker 1: be something that catches your rye. It must be something
Speaker 1: that catches your attention. Like even for myself, speech is
Speaker 1: very important to me. So those that may not articulate themselves,
Speaker 1: I have to own in. And it's like, Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: pulling myself in because I love the art of speech.
Speaker 1: I love I love the way it feels, I love
Speaker 1: the the stories that you can convey, the emotions that
Speaker 1: you can take people on. So what is your thing?
Speaker 1: But you can only know unless you get out there.
Speaker 1: You can't sit here and wait for somebody to come
Speaker 1: and serve you are blade. If you can't, you better
Speaker 1: get up and eat. So this whole idea of saying,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I have to do everything now before
Speaker 1: I get this job. What if you do not like
Speaker 1: this internship, You're gonna be in the same situation of
Speaker 1: unemployed and just sit there not doing anything. You actually
Speaker 1: have the world is your oyster right now to just
Speaker 1: go play. Because what I didn't hear you say is
Speaker 1: that you're in the financial mind or must be blessed, yes,
Speaker 1: because they're folks out here that are unemployed and they
Speaker 1: don't have the option of being uh so bored that
Speaker 1: they're chilling. They actually are trying to find money each
Speaker 1: and every way. So how was it that you should
Speaker 1: step up and figure it out what it is that
Speaker 1: you love? And that just only takes you out there
Speaker 1: being outspoken and having a conversation with others. If you
Speaker 1: want to be you gotta do. Do you understand what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. And also, I just want you to keep
Speaker 1: in mind to uh this whole notion on waiting. You
Speaker 1: can't do that. You know, that's the same thing that
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. In the previous letter, the young woman
Speaker 1: was like, Hey, I've been at this job for five years.
Speaker 1: I just did this my project, and my job is
Speaker 1: not giving me a raise. And it basically boiled down.
Speaker 1: I said, girl, you're gonna have to get off the
Speaker 1: clearance rack and go behind the glass where the valuables are.
Speaker 1: That's the same for you. You're gonna have to take
Speaker 1: time to curate yourself. You're gonna have to take time
Speaker 1: to get to know yourself. The main thing that you
Speaker 1: talked about saying is you want a party and hang
Speaker 1: out with your friends. What are you running from? That's
Speaker 1: what I said. Is this something that you're speaking from
Speaker 1: services value because what are you running from? What is
Speaker 1: important to you? Is it about the fact of being
Speaker 1: surrounded by people having fun? Or is about finding your purpose?
Speaker 1: Because I'm assuming because you wrote in here Vitamin D
Speaker 1: is all about living life on purpose and for a purpose.
Speaker 1: So you know how I was gonna bring it here
Speaker 1: and then't like I'm coming out of left field. You
Speaker 1: know what this situation is. So I have to ask
Speaker 1: you what it is that you want? And two, are
Speaker 1: you valuing yourself the way that you should? Because if
Speaker 1: you are, you will understand that you have to take
Speaker 1: time with yourself. If you are, you understand why it's
Speaker 1: important to figure out what it is that you want.
Speaker 1: If you are with yourself, you have to understand and
Speaker 1: realize right now, at twenty four years old, that you
Speaker 1: can't be a bystander in your life. It's called your
Speaker 1: life for a reason. Be the star of your show,
Speaker 1: be the star of your mo fee. It's your life.
Speaker 1: What better person is to be than you? What better
Speaker 1: person is to tell your story, to dictate your steps?
Speaker 1: What better person than you to create your reality? What
Speaker 1: better person than YouTube? Just be on full overflow, enjoy you,
Speaker 1: expand your horizons by expanding yourself your mind to what's
Speaker 1: new about always realizing that you're consistently growing. So when
Speaker 1: you don't find it somewhere else, you go somewhere else.
Speaker 1: When you don't find it somewhere else, you go somewhere else,
Speaker 1: and you keep going because that's the journey of life,
Speaker 1: and as you realize as you get older. Because you
Speaker 1: are only twenty four. And I do not say that,
Speaker 1: and I do not mean that in the condescending way.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying that you're so young to have time
Speaker 1: to discover, you still have time to take a chance.
Speaker 1: I didn't hear you say that you have a mortgage.
Speaker 1: I didn't hear you say that you have any children.
Speaker 1: I didn't hear that you say that you have something
Speaker 1: that could be holding you back. In fact, all I
Speaker 1: see is opportunity in front of you. So don't just wait,
Speaker 1: go after it, seize the day. Be the amazing unicorn
Speaker 1: that you want to be in your life. Your life
Speaker 1: is magical. You can create it. You just have to
Speaker 1: take time to figure yourself out. And you can't give up.
Speaker 1: So I understand you said, I've been an employee for
Speaker 1: a while. Don't give up on yourself, keep figuring things out,
Speaker 1: and I want you to do some inner work and
Speaker 1: sit down with yourself and why you feel as though
Speaker 1: you have to keep partying and always having no times
Speaker 1: with your friends. I do understand you're young and you
Speaker 1: want to have fun, but it was just interesting how
Speaker 1: you said that you felt like you were gonna lose
Speaker 1: out on that because my ways just have to figure
Speaker 1: out what do you want? You got to find the
Speaker 1: joy within, because if it was enough hanging out with
Speaker 1: your friends, you wouldn't be concerned about all. I'm bored
Speaker 1: and I can't find my interest because again, I think
Speaker 1: we're all searching for that purpose. So understanding, if you
Speaker 1: are searching that purpose, it's gonna call for you to
Speaker 1: be loyal to yourself, and only to be loyal, you
Speaker 1: have to know yourself to know what you're mean. Loyal too.
Speaker 1: You feel me, and no, you can't look to me
Speaker 1: to make your life interesting. You gotta find out with yourself.
Speaker 1: You gotta discover. I don't know what you like, I
Speaker 1: don't know how you like it, and our dog on
Speaker 1: show don't know when you like it. But what I
Speaker 1: can tell you is that you have the ability to
Speaker 1: put one foot in front of the other, open your
Speaker 1: mouth to discover it. Go on the journey in life.
Speaker 1: As I always say my barber or former barber, Lewis
Speaker 1: t Pole, he says, the journey is the experience, and
Speaker 1: the experience is the journey. It's all in one. Everything
Speaker 1: is exactly how it's supposed to be. Because you're worried
Speaker 1: about missing out on all this time with your friends
Speaker 1: and doing whoop? What about the joy that you're in
Speaker 1: Whenever you're finding your purpose and feeling fulfilled, it's not
Speaker 1: a miss out, it's only an added quality. And you're
Speaker 1: also going to realize that the people that love you,
Speaker 1: that are around you, they're gonna see that you flourish
Speaker 1: and they're gonna want your join your happiness. So keep
Speaker 1: going on and keep finding yourself because I promise who
Speaker 1: you are at twenty four is not who you're gonna be.
Speaker 1: Dang gonna show who you're not gonna be a thirty five.
Speaker 1: And you must be out your mind if you think
Speaker 1: you're gonna be the same person that's ext Come on
Speaker 1: you hear what I'm saying. So show grace with yourself
Speaker 1: and take note. Just like I told what the previous letter,
Speaker 1: Get off the clearance rack and get behind the glass
Speaker 1: where the valuables are. You know, when if you think
Speaker 1: about it as a jewelry behind the glass, they usually
Speaker 1: have some type of historical context. They've been graded with
Speaker 1: a certain quality, they have a certain shine, There is
Speaker 1: a certain placement they have. What's the placement of your life?
Speaker 1: What does your pedigree say? What does your bio say?
Speaker 1: What is the dash and your life going to say?
Speaker 1: What is it going to mean? What does it feel like?
Speaker 1: Does it feel why does it feel nice? Let me know,
Speaker 1: you'll know when it does. And if you find yourself
Speaker 1: in a situation of your feeling um discontent meant, you'll
Speaker 1: realize that that's not it. So keep going every day
Speaker 1: that you have breath in your lungs, keep going and
Speaker 1: figure yourself out. Don't you give up on yourself. You
Speaker 1: hear me. You're not gonna always have the right answers,
Speaker 1: and you're not gonna feel like every resources within the
Speaker 1: arms are each But because you have that longing and
Speaker 1: because you got that beat in your chest, know that
Speaker 1: purpose beats purpose, that's passionate. Can you dick it all? Right? Um?
Speaker 1: That's it for the advice letters today Now you enjoyed them,
Speaker 1: and you know I always say thank you so much
Speaker 1: for writing in. Thank you for so much for just
Speaker 1: being vulnerable, just opening yourself up. You know. Oftentimes, you know,
Speaker 1: I find that we can all be self conscious and
Speaker 1: not as confident to show who we are. But just
Speaker 1: think of it, any type of wounds that we have.
Speaker 1: And you talk about healing, right, So say, if you
Speaker 1: got a scar on your lack, right, there's this open sore,
Speaker 1: you know you have to take a band aid off
Speaker 1: to air it out. Right, Vitamin did shedding, Mike, So
Speaker 1: we can air some stuff out because we don't have
Speaker 1: to hide. What do we say? What is fear of
Speaker 1: false evidence appearing real? But if I can see it,
Speaker 1: it can do nothing on me because I see it.
Speaker 1: You're ready to see? Are you ready to see? You
Speaker 1: said you got a vision. You got a vision because
Speaker 1: you're listening because I told you want to get go.
Speaker 1: Vitamin D is all about living life on purpose and
Speaker 1: for a purpose. And guess what, you're still here. I'm
Speaker 1: excited for you. Thank you for loving on yourself. Now,
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Speaker 1: So let's live life on purpose and for a purpose.
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