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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to mess ooh child.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, girl, I'm Haggeroni's how you doing? I'm doing well.

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<v Speaker 1>I think if I think about how I'm actually doing,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's gonna make me feel bad. But I'm

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<v Speaker 1>doing well really Yeah. Like you know how someone's like,

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<v Speaker 1>how you doing and you just say good?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? But sometimes I need to learn how to do that?

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<v Speaker 2>How you do that? You lie? I'm bad at that.

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<v Speaker 2>You have we not realized I am.

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<v Speaker 3>I need to cut transparency out of my life.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm done, you do, I'm done. You need to be more.

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<v Speaker 2>What's the opposite of transparent?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, okay, okay, that's what I need to That's the word.

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<v Speaker 2>Of the day. Okay, every time we say it, take

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<v Speaker 2>a shot. Yes? So are you? Are you overwhelmed? This

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<v Speaker 2>is the holidays? Is it just?

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<v Speaker 1>I just feel like I have a lot of stuff

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<v Speaker 1>that I need to do. Yeah, and if I don't

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<v Speaker 1>write it down, it won't get done. And even if

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<v Speaker 1>I do write it, it might not get done, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean? Like I need to I have

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<v Speaker 1>like a notebook now where I write in big sharpie

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<v Speaker 1>not to do lists. Yeah, so then I can see

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<v Speaker 1>it because usually I write everything on like an envelope

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<v Speaker 1>or like a you know, a receipt, and then I

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<v Speaker 1>lose that and then I.

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<v Speaker 2>On, Mama's what You're just writing it on loose papers.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I just write it on the table like it's

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<v Speaker 2>a dry erase ball. Well, at least you're writing it down.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like writing it down and thinking about it

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<v Speaker 3>is just it's doing too much. That's a mess for me,

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<v Speaker 3>like seeing what I have to do and knowing what

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<v Speaker 3>I have to do. That's why i'm right now. Is

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<v Speaker 3>I feel manic. I feel absolutely manic, because you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I know you're tired of me talking about trying to

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<v Speaker 3>get an apartment.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, but after we talk about it now, we'll never

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<v Speaker 1>talk about it never.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll never talk about it again, because we will.

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<v Speaker 3>I will after this comes out, I will hopefully have

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<v Speaker 3>already gotten in an apartment. That my mess, fully is

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<v Speaker 3>like trying to unmess my life.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what's going on right now. I am.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I am tired of saying I'm a mess.

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<v Speaker 3>It's okay that the pod is called mess, but I

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<v Speaker 3>don't want that to be my life. I need to

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<v Speaker 3>I need a whole rebrand. I need to, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>gut it, gut the whole thing. Start Like the shell

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<v Speaker 3>of it is going to be the same, but the

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<v Speaker 3>inside we rearranging ship.

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<v Speaker 2>The shell of your life, the shell of my life.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, because a friend was like, I think it's

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<v Speaker 3>cute that you know you kind of like a little messy.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm like, I I am, I'm through.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm exhausted. I actually don't want to know more. You're retired.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm ready to hang it up. Whatever, my my messy

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<v Speaker 3>ass cloak is burn it. I am through because I

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<v Speaker 3>want to be more organized.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think I'll ever go really be on time.

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<v Speaker 3>That's fine, but like I just want my papers in order,

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<v Speaker 3>my clothes, hung up, my money, my money.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Like that's I'm not asking for much, bitch. Put

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<v Speaker 1>all that on the prayer list.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me write that down. Yeah, so your papers and

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<v Speaker 2>what papers? Oh? Any no? Anytime papers? Papers? The girl

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<v Speaker 2>the way the papers just.

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<v Speaker 3>Be lying around, Like have my whole bank statement, social security,

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<v Speaker 3>my whole information just out I will I will rip up.

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<v Speaker 2>In the envelope and then put it down somewhere. Well yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but that's I got.

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<v Speaker 1>I got a lot of letters from the I R

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<v Speaker 1>S that I'm ignoring, and all the papers are on

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<v Speaker 1>my table right now, and I'm I leave them out

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm like, if they're out, maybe I'll read them.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think I'm just gonna have to go to

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<v Speaker 1>jail because arrest me.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I don't. Please.

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<v Speaker 3>Actually, while I'm starting my new life, I don't want

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<v Speaker 3>to get arrested.

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<v Speaker 2>I've done that already. I can't do it.

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<v Speaker 1>It is the new black I can't do it, the

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<v Speaker 1>new city girl.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like.

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<v Speaker 3>And the thing, the thing is is that, like you know, obviously,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm I'm tired. I don't want to get older. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>can we just say here, can we just like I

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<v Speaker 3>be another year but the same year?

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<v Speaker 2>Or can we can we be another year? But that

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<v Speaker 2>is mess? What aging is mess?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, because when you're young, you think you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be young forever. You think your body and your knees

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<v Speaker 1>and your back and your head, shoulders, these and toes,

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<v Speaker 1>it's always gonna be Like I didn't know that all

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<v Speaker 1>of the hair on your body can go gray. You

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<v Speaker 1>can get gray eyebrow hairs, you could get gray armpit hairs,

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<v Speaker 1>you can get gray pubs.

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<v Speaker 3>Who knew I knew I knew because let me tell you, right,

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<v Speaker 3>even before this pod, I was like, let me go,

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<v Speaker 3>let me go work my situation out. Before I come

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<v Speaker 3>to the pod, I said, let me let me start

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<v Speaker 3>fresh man. When I tell you I think, I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>the way I use that razor, I said, do I

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<v Speaker 3>have Parkinson's?

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<v Speaker 2>I missed a whole section. It looks uneven.

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<v Speaker 1>Do I have Parkinson's. I would like to say that's

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<v Speaker 1>in the running to be the title, but that's.

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<v Speaker 2>Not the title.

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<v Speaker 3>But the way I will never I won't tell anybody

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<v Speaker 3>that they should trust me with scissors or to cut anything.

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<v Speaker 2>Baby, we close to it. She's giving scalped, scalped. But

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<v Speaker 2>then part because you know.

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<v Speaker 3>I was trying to do the landing, trying to have

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<v Speaker 3>something cute, trying to do a design. I was trying

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<v Speaker 3>to I was trying to do some you know Netflix

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<v Speaker 3>new show.

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<v Speaker 2>You know that's why you was late to the to

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<v Speaker 2>the studio today. You was trying to design.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, shape shape that couch by Sydney Washington. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 3>I was just I was anyway, is it is it Coucie?

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<v Speaker 2>Is cooty? Is the Cucci cute? Is it Couchie cute.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you my best, thank you. Yeah, And I did

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<v Speaker 3>it kind of in the dark, and then.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you shaving your because I just had max

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<v Speaker 1>whe natural light, natural light going on in the bathroom,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, it's just a little window sill, just

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<v Speaker 1>a smidge of the light coming through, and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>that's enough.

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<v Speaker 3>And I've got one eye open while I'm doing it.

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<v Speaker 3>And then you know, I didn't lift my lift up

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<v Speaker 3>my leg.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just fully just and you're trying to close because

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<v Speaker 1>the cat's trying to you know, they trying to come in.

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<v Speaker 2>They were like, well, let me get it that. George

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<v Speaker 2>was like, I think I got a better angle. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know it was a cat, said, I hear you

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<v Speaker 2>shaving a cat in there.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me see, yeah, let me see.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, don't look it's bad. And now I feel like

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<v Speaker 3>I just gotta just start all over and just go bald.

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't like that either, So really, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't like that.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, it's too much.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like it's you know how some people can't have

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<v Speaker 3>a bald head because you could see how lumpy or

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<v Speaker 3>whatever it looks. I'm not saying it looks lumpy. It

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<v Speaker 3>just I don't like it. I don't want to see

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<v Speaker 3>it all the way girl, your Willison it Bruce Willis

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<v Speaker 3>is it's very proportions. I don't know, you know, because

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<v Speaker 3>I'm getting older, I put some weight on it. So

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<v Speaker 3>it's not it's not Seltz. It's sad that.

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<v Speaker 2>I never said that. I never said that. You said that.

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<v Speaker 2>I did not. It's on the record, okay.

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<v Speaker 3>But my my mess this week is I went to

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<v Speaker 3>go see some apartments and I think, you know, they

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<v Speaker 3>need to start over with all these Wiltors, a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of them. I don't know how you got your job.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what like you're over, but also you

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<v Speaker 3>got an attitude. You have this air like you need me,

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<v Speaker 3>and it's like I do, but I need you to

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<v Speaker 3>act like you need me as well.

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<v Speaker 1>They do because they need they need that little commission

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever Seiling Sunset be talking about.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what they need, but they need to

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<v Speaker 3>rework some ways they speak to people. I went to this,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, open house, which is crazy. I don't want

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<v Speaker 3>to go to a cattle call of somebody seeing some apartment.

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<v Speaker 2>In New York City.

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<v Speaker 3>We walking, We're walking up the stairs. It feels like

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<v Speaker 3>we're in the in the Navy and we're like they

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<v Speaker 3>were all going up and we're walking up three flights

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<v Speaker 3>of stairs. First of all, why did I know that

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<v Speaker 3>this was a walk up? Why am I walk? I

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<v Speaker 3>don't want to sweat to see an apartment.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to.

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<v Speaker 3>Be huffing and puffing and feeling like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 3>did I just do sult cycle. Yeah, third floor is

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<v Speaker 3>too high because I'm somebody who always forgets something when

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<v Speaker 3>I get to the bottom of the stairs and I

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<v Speaker 3>gotta go back up. If I live on the third floor,

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<v Speaker 3>whatever's up there, it's staying up It's my mayonnise, my wallet,

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<v Speaker 3>whatever's up there is staying up there. And it's crazy

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<v Speaker 3>because I went to go see a duplex and that's

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<v Speaker 3>exactly the vibes of like you go in and it's

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<v Speaker 3>like the ceilings are so hoth it is Ideally, it's like, ooh,

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<v Speaker 3>this is.

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<v Speaker 2>Beautiful, but it's not for me.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not for me because I go up the stairs.

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<v Speaker 3>Where's the closets. There's no closet, there's no space. It's

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<v Speaker 3>like everything is for some cuty young kid that's in college.

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<v Speaker 2>It's nothing.

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<v Speaker 3>None of these apartments is for a grown ass bitch.

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<v Speaker 3>That's like, I have stuff, I've lived, I have things.

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<v Speaker 3>Where do my things go? Well, because it's a cue bedroom,

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<v Speaker 3>it's actually anti horder right now, and I don't like it.

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<v Speaker 2>Anti horder.

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<v Speaker 3>They're like, oh, where're you gonna put yourself? You can't,

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<v Speaker 3>there's nowhere to put the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>No, you gotta they said, this little second bedroom. That's

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<v Speaker 1>the closet.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the closet.

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<v Speaker 3>And it's like, well, who's gonna pay for this second bed?

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<v Speaker 3>My clothes are not paying for this closet. So this

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<v Speaker 3>is the second room. So I go there. Everybody's sucking

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<v Speaker 3>their teeth. They're upset because they're like, we walked all

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<v Speaker 3>the way up here, We're not buying this, this is

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<v Speaker 3>this is dumb. Then I go to another place and

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<v Speaker 3>you know, another open house. Now I'm not being fucking rude,

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<v Speaker 3>but I'm rude right now. Now I see the people

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<v Speaker 3>who pulled up to see this apartment. I say, well,

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<v Speaker 3>these are the people who are trying to see the department.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't need to be here because what.

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<v Speaker 2>Is what the people? Look?

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<v Speaker 3>It was a ragtag of who where are y'all coming

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<v Speaker 3>from like are you where you live? Like they just

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<v Speaker 3>I came together, Like I was like, you know, let

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<v Speaker 3>me put on a little cute outfit. They look like

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<v Speaker 3>they rolled out of bed comes in this apartment, and

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<v Speaker 3>it was strange.

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<v Speaker 2>It was strange.

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<v Speaker 3>It was an odd couple. And then it was these roommates.

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<v Speaker 3>No no, no, no, no problem.

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<v Speaker 1>So the guy he's late, that the realtor or whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>he's late, no problem, I'm late, I understand.

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<v Speaker 2>He comes in, he's talking to the couple. He's nice

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<v Speaker 2>to them.

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<v Speaker 3>He's talking to the room, the two people who came into,

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<v Speaker 3>he's nice to them. He sees me, he's like, and

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<v Speaker 3>who are you. It's like, sir, you called me. You

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<v Speaker 3>called me to tell me. You're like, you don't know

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<v Speaker 3>who this is?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, babe, I'm on the list.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So then we go up.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, they're selling, selling, selling these apartments that are

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<v Speaker 3>too small, and he's talking to the couple, asking them

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<v Speaker 3>about them, then talking he's paying me dust like oh,

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<v Speaker 3>I ain't nobody, and then finally he's like he's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>I want them to see the apartments first, and then

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<v Speaker 3>you come after them. And I'm like, okay, this is

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<v Speaker 3>fucking Are you being rude because I'm by myself because

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<v Speaker 3>I'm a single woman. Then I go in the apartment

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<v Speaker 3>by myself with him. He's like, so, why do you

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<v Speaker 3>need a two bedroom ex? Oh no, none of your

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<v Speaker 3>fucking business. Whoa I could be in here with my

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<v Speaker 3>imaginary friend. Again, none of your business.

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<v Speaker 2>But also, why is he talking to you like he

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<v Speaker 2>already knows your critics score?

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<v Speaker 1>Woo Marie, you are rude, miss so.

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<v Speaker 3>Then I said, oh, well, I'm gonna you know, uh,

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<v Speaker 3>I have a roommate or whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like a husband.

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<v Speaker 3>First of all, if I was gonna be with a husband,

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<v Speaker 3>I would have said husband.

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<v Speaker 2>I said roommate.

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<v Speaker 3>He's like, oh, well he's roommate now, but he might

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<v Speaker 3>be a husband later. You are too familiar, sir, How

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<v Speaker 3>old was you? This person old enough to he should

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<v Speaker 3>be minding his business. You should be wanting me to apply.

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<v Speaker 3>I now no longer want to apply. I wasn't going

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<v Speaker 3>to apply anyway because I saw I saw the dirty

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<v Speaker 3>you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome Matt you have of this place. I'm all set,

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<v Speaker 1>but he's just it.

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<v Speaker 3>Was it was giving very sexist, over familiar, weirdo vibes.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was just like I was. He could tell

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<v Speaker 1>when I walked in. I was like, YE had a

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<v Speaker 1>same for me. He said, these views, the views are great.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, hey, I He's like, you're not going to

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<v Speaker 1>get anything better than this.

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<v Speaker 2>Excuse me, sir? What he was what they were asking for?

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<v Speaker 2>What price? I think it was.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it was like thirty one for you know,

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<v Speaker 3>just a regular like skinny two bedroom. Not enough closets,

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<v Speaker 3>the kitchen is in the living room, the living room

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<v Speaker 3>is in the bath.

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<v Speaker 2>It was all of that.

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<v Speaker 3>It wasning. It was nothing that he's like, oh, we

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<v Speaker 3>have a gym. I don't care about these amenities, sir.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna be in that gym. No. I would

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<v Speaker 2>like a gym, but you won't see me the gym.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't know me.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I would like it as an option, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>not the reason.

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<v Speaker 2>Why I'm in the building, do you understand.

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<v Speaker 3>So anyway, that pissed me off, and I was just

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<v Speaker 3>like And then he had the nerve to call me

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<v Speaker 3>the next day. I told him, I said, I'm not applying,

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<v Speaker 3>but he called me to say what, probably just checking it.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know because I didn't pick up. But I

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<v Speaker 2>now want to call him to that.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, hey, did anybody apply because I know I didn't,

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<v Speaker 1>and then hang up.

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<v Speaker 2>That's so petty.

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<v Speaker 3>It is petty, and that's I should have been like that,

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<v Speaker 3>because it was just like, sir, who the f are

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<v Speaker 3>you talking to?

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<v Speaker 2>AnyWho?

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<v Speaker 3>I just can't wait till I get an apartment because

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<v Speaker 3>I'm ready.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna put petty Sydney on the prayer list.

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<v Speaker 2>You should be.

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<v Speaker 3>More petty, could be more petty. I should be more

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<v Speaker 3>petty and more organized. That's all I want, And now

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just trying to get I'm gonna. I saw an apartment.

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<v Speaker 3>I liked it. You know, my friend likes it. I

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<v Speaker 3>actually wanted to bed too bath. But it's you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I need more money. I need more money. Put that

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<v Speaker 3>on the prayer list as well. I need money, more coins,

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<v Speaker 3>Marie money. Okay, I put it on there.

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<v Speaker 2>I never about me. What about you?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, let's talk about my mess I do really think

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<v Speaker 1>getting older is messy, because you know, when you're young

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<v Speaker 1>and your eyes are awesome and your body is great,

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<v Speaker 1>you take it for granted. You know, you squint into

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<v Speaker 1>the sun and you look at eclipses, even though they

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<v Speaker 1>tell you not to without glasses, and you're like.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna be able to see forever.

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<v Speaker 1>So I had an eye exam last week, and you

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<v Speaker 1>know I cheated. I cheated at the eye exam. I

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<v Speaker 1>was trying to put both eyes in one hole and.

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<v Speaker 2>I was, whoa, you eyes one hole. That's crazy, Marie.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's hot? Is that? Will that be a new Porno?

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<v Speaker 2>Two eyes, one hole. It's gonna be nasty like the

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<v Speaker 2>original part.

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<v Speaker 1>One, two girls, one cup. But yeah, so I you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to cheat. The guys like what do you

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<v Speaker 1>see up there? I'm like, what do you see? The

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<v Speaker 1>doctor's like mail and I'm like male. And after the

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<v Speaker 1>exam turns out I need glasses.

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<v Speaker 2>So I got glasses.

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<v Speaker 1>But he was like, you know how they're like this

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<v Speaker 1>one or this one A or B and the whole

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<v Speaker 1>time I'm like, no, no, they kind of look the same.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm just I'm I'm not even really paying attention.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to take the it's serious. They have glasses.

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<v Speaker 2>They're too strong. I'm like, yeah, I feel like I

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<v Speaker 2>put them on for you. Yeah, let's see.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like when I wear I feel cross and

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<v Speaker 1>then want to thank them off now you just got

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<v Speaker 1>to get used to it. I got some cool little

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<v Speaker 1>hipster joints. It's not like I think.

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<v Speaker 3>It's kind of like when you put a Diva cup

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<v Speaker 3>in you know it doesn't feel right just yet, but

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<v Speaker 3>then you siting in it for a little bit and

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<v Speaker 3>you're like, oh, it didn't maneuvered.

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<v Speaker 2>It's I don't need to see this clearly.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I can see the world in four

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<v Speaker 1>K right now, like the wall has a text door.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to see that. I can these buttons breathing.

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<v Speaker 1>I can see the dust on the fuck you need

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<v Speaker 1>to be able to see friends, I'm thinking about.

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<v Speaker 2>That's probably why we're not on time. We don't see well,

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<v Speaker 2>we can't see the time. First of all, the glasses

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<v Speaker 2>are too strong.

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<v Speaker 1>And when I went to pick them up, I was

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<v Speaker 1>like like this, and the lady was like, wear them

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<v Speaker 1>for the weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I did not wear that. You have to

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<v Speaker 2>wear them for the weekend, Marie, wear them for the

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<v Speaker 2>rest of the show. Girl, my eyes, this is too

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<v Speaker 2>much sister you and I see you. You look beautif baby.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the opposite of Ray Charles, and I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like it, Like, I mean, see you watching this right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I need to see them. Maybe they're too strong.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I mean pretty you are without my glass?

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<v Speaker 1>No hold on, oh no, I can see these. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>I need Maybe this is my prescription.

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<v Speaker 2>Please look, please look into the camera. What do I

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<v Speaker 2>look like?

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<v Speaker 1>Do I look as good as Freeze? I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if they look good the way you're laughing at me.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me see they do look good. I'm just saying, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>but Jesus, cute girl, and they go and they go

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<v Speaker 1>with the shirt.

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<v Speaker 2>It's given miss Frizzle just a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>Mis Frizzle would never look this simple, babe, she would

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<v Speaker 1>have one seventeen patterns.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl, these glasses, I'm screaming seeing it's terrible now, thank you,

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I'm saying. See, let me not terrible. I

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<v Speaker 2>need to see, but not like that.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, yeah, anyway, so I got glasses and they're

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<v Speaker 1>too strong. That's my mess.

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<v Speaker 2>That is your mess. But at least you know you're

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<v Speaker 2>working on yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>You're feeling that is motivating, just knowing that you went

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<v Speaker 3>there and there's a solution.

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<v Speaker 2>The solution is glass want my money back.

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<v Speaker 3>You probably shouldn't have lied on your test, but we'll

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<v Speaker 3>go back and we'll make it right.

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<v Speaker 2>They're gonna call back, They're gonna charge me again for them.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, they try to up charge me with

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<v Speaker 1>the thinner sexy polycarbonate, this glass transition. And I was like, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever the cheapest ones are because I put my own

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<v Speaker 1>frames and then they charged me thirty five dollars.

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<v Speaker 2>For bringing my own frames. I don't even think these frames.

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<v Speaker 1>Cost thirty five dollars. How much are the glasses, Sydney?

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<v Speaker 1>You have these frames? I got them from Amazon and

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<v Speaker 1>then I put my perscripsion. That's great, so shout out

0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:48.960
<v Speaker 1>to Jeffrey. Are those glasses sturdy? Then? Because they're Amazon,

0:16:49.480 --> 0:16:53.200
<v Speaker 1>the wind blow wrong and it breaks, No, the glass,

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<v Speaker 1>the glass also, they call them glasses, but this is

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<v Speaker 1>not glass, it's plastic.

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<v Speaker 2>So why do they call them glass? And the lady

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<v Speaker 2>was like, I don't know, ma'am. I just work here.

0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:05.080
<v Speaker 2>She said, just swep your card, badge. I'm asking these

0:17:05.160 --> 0:17:07.080
<v Speaker 2>questions and pay for the that's real dusty in here.

0:17:07.119 --> 0:17:09.600
<v Speaker 2>I can see all the dust on the keyboard. A heart.

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<v Speaker 2>What's up? Y'all? Need a little swiffer, A little swiffer.

0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:15.360
<v Speaker 1>This bitch, this is crazy. But I will say now

0:17:15.359 --> 0:17:17.080
<v Speaker 1>that I have glasses and I can see. I wore

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<v Speaker 1>these on the train and I was making eye contact

0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:22.000
<v Speaker 1>with everybody and they probably thought you wanted them.

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<v Speaker 2>They're like they just I was like sexy. I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like Velma when she can see again. That's how I feel. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>who we're gonna take them off. Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>So another thing I think like getting older is messy

0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:40.199
<v Speaker 3>is because your perspective changes drastically. Yeah, like just the

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<v Speaker 3>things that I was so into is through I don't

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<v Speaker 3>I don't care no more, like what okay, let's see

0:17:50.680 --> 0:17:53.840
<v Speaker 3>this is this is a tough one. It's like when

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<v Speaker 3>people talk to me, I think they'd be talking to

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<v Speaker 3>the old me, where I would be like, oh yeah

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<v Speaker 3>that I'm cool with that, But now I think I'm

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<v Speaker 3>so not sensitive. But things irk me so much. So

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<v Speaker 3>when somebody asked me or talk to me a certain way,

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<v Speaker 3>it triggers me where I want to like.

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<v Speaker 2>Pop off, oh yeah, pop off. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And so I right now I'm trying to work on

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<v Speaker 3>talking to people the right way, like taking a break

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<v Speaker 3>and being like Okay, I'm gonna get back to you.

0:18:24.440 --> 0:18:26.639
<v Speaker 3>Let me think about this, because I don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>write immediately how I feel, and I don't. I want

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<v Speaker 3>to check me before I check that person. Sometimes you

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<v Speaker 3>got to check yourself before you wreck yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>You knew that was coming around. You knew it that

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<v Speaker 2>I knew it.

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<v Speaker 1>That was very old. No, No, it's wise.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what it is. I've lived. Why it's the new

0:18:46.119 --> 0:18:50.919
<v Speaker 2>old season. Rude, that's what you are. Thank you, But

0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:52.680
<v Speaker 2>you know, I'm a youth. The youth are rude.

0:18:53.240 --> 0:19:00.760
<v Speaker 1>That's why you see so well, you know what you

0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:03.760
<v Speaker 1>should start saying. Listen, I can't really hold space for

0:19:03.840 --> 0:19:04.440
<v Speaker 1>this right now.

0:19:04.560 --> 0:19:06.200
<v Speaker 2>That's what it is. I'm gonna get that to work

0:19:06.240 --> 0:19:12.560
<v Speaker 2>on space space. But also, yeah, I don't. I have

0:19:12.560 --> 0:19:13.159
<v Speaker 2>two modes.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, when somebody says something that I don't want to hear,

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<v Speaker 1>I am either very quick to block now I'm blocking,

0:19:19.960 --> 0:19:23.920
<v Speaker 1>or I send a very I'm not gonna say condescending,

0:19:24.000 --> 0:19:27.560
<v Speaker 1>but kind of like a the tone, the tone of

0:19:27.560 --> 0:19:32.119
<v Speaker 1>the email is a little bit rude. Like my accountant

0:19:32.440 --> 0:19:34.159
<v Speaker 1>took a really long time to get back to me,

0:19:34.440 --> 0:19:38.399
<v Speaker 1>and I looked at the correspondence of the email, and

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<v Speaker 1>it had been a month since the first message I sent.

0:19:41.160 --> 0:19:43.600
<v Speaker 2>Them, and so last week here, let me read the.

0:19:43.560 --> 0:19:47.720
<v Speaker 3>Message I said this, and then we be on the

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<v Speaker 3>chains and I'm like, yo, I need to can you

0:19:49.720 --> 0:19:53.000
<v Speaker 3>start a class on how to respond your responses. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't have written that, Yeah, I mean, sometimes it's

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<v Speaker 3>stuff I shouldn't write.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll be and I'll talk in us say it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be like, hey, Siri, and then I'll say it,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I'll why what I do is I type

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<v Speaker 1>it out?

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<v Speaker 2>So the way I type is not the way I

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<v Speaker 2>actually speak. Yeah, the way my problem.

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<v Speaker 1>The way I type is sometimes I speak but okay, boom,

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<v Speaker 1>hold on, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Said, Hi.

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<v Speaker 1>I never heard anything back regarding this, and I now

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<v Speaker 1>hear you both loud and clear. A full month has

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<v Speaker 1>passed since I sent my initial email regarding this issue,

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<v Speaker 1>and I would have appreciated just one message stating that

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<v Speaker 1>this was something you're unable to help me with, so

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't have wasted so much time waiting around moving

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<v Speaker 1>on to someone else who can hopefully resolve this for

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<v Speaker 1>me quickly. Thanks for dot dot dot you fire them well,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, then he responded immediately, Hi, Marie, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure what's going on, but I did respond

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<v Speaker 1>last week to set up a time to talk this over.

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<v Speaker 2>The response is below, and then he sent it and

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<v Speaker 2>it was in there, but I didn't get it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but you need to write and say, Hey, So

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<v Speaker 3>I got new glasses.

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<v Speaker 2>I just couldn't see. I'm sorry about that. No, I

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<v Speaker 2>got a prescription.

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<v Speaker 1>No no, no, I responded, Hi blank, I never received

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<v Speaker 1>that message you sent.

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<v Speaker 2>And this process has.

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<v Speaker 1>Been extremely frustrating because I'll be trying to channel my

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<v Speaker 1>inner white woman, you know, and I feel like they

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<v Speaker 1>would say something like this. I'd just like to pay

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<v Speaker 1>this fine and get set my accounts up and not

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<v Speaker 1>have this problem ever again.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you free to.

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<v Speaker 1>Talk today or sometime tomorrow morning? I understand if you're not,

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<v Speaker 1>but I do plan to call the IRS today. And

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<v Speaker 1>then we talked.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl, you Wesley Snipes, You're going to jail? What's up? Possibly? No, girl,

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<v Speaker 2>it's three.

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<v Speaker 1>Hundred twenty dollars fine that I gotta pay plus the

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<v Speaker 1>other fine.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know what was the fine for just late

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<v Speaker 2>failure to file? Oh yeah, but I filed just late.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, well, maybe you could talk to the IRS and

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<v Speaker 3>be like it wasn't me, it was fucking Greg you know. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I always say pushing on somebody else, what they gonna do.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean, I just listen, I just I'll be

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<v Speaker 1>speaking of my SERI and she says she records it.

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<v Speaker 2>I had a comma or two and then I'll send it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I need to work through that.

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<v Speaker 1>That being said, the first accountant that I talked to

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<v Speaker 1>like that did let herself go. She was like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>because I was like, I thought you were doing my taxes.

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<v Speaker 2>What's up?

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<v Speaker 1>And she was like, oh, I didn't know that I

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<v Speaker 1>was preparing them. And I was like, but I had

0:22:06.240 --> 0:22:08.399
<v Speaker 1>been messaging you about my taxes all year. Did you

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<v Speaker 1>think I was messaging you because we're friends? And she

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I actually don't like your tone and I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Not taking this any further with you. And I was like, damn,

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<v Speaker 2>I won't to do my taxes. But also it's like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes you got to give somebody enough rope for them

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<v Speaker 3>to hang in themselves, and sometimes you got to say

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<v Speaker 3>something for them to be like, you know what I'm going,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna peace out because I wasn't doing my job

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<v Speaker 3>right anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's what it is. We forget that, like

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<v Speaker 1>the same way that we half asked. The jobs that

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<v Speaker 1>we had when we were young, and some of the

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<v Speaker 1>jobs that we do now it's doctors half assed in

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<v Speaker 1>it's a CPA's.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why you have scary right now. I know too much.

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<v Speaker 2>I know too.

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<v Speaker 3>I remember when like I freaking was like I'm going

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<v Speaker 3>to work.

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<v Speaker 2>I am so happy to work. I would do anything

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<v Speaker 2>to work.

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<v Speaker 3>And now I'm like, man, I'm tired working his hard

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, will I know there's people who

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<v Speaker 3>are like me who are showing up to work, who

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<v Speaker 3>got more important at me and they got the same

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<v Speaker 3>vibes as me.

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<v Speaker 2>And are they showing.

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<v Speaker 3>Up twenty minutes late too? So they you know, they're

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<v Speaker 3>frazzled and stressed. So they're so the energy is just

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<v Speaker 3>like exchanging and it's stressing me out.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm thinking about too much at the same time, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you think pilots show up to work half fasten it too.

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<v Speaker 3>I think they have to come two hours early before

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<v Speaker 3>it's before they have to like fly.

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<v Speaker 2>They I don't think.

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<v Speaker 3>They'll let anybody show up to work late and then

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<v Speaker 3>go fly.

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<v Speaker 1>I have been on flights where they were like, we're

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<v Speaker 1>sitting here because the pilot is not here. I have

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<v Speaker 1>been on flights where they were like, we're waiting for

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<v Speaker 1>the pilot. He's getting off another flight, and it's like.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, but getting off another flight is different from he

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<v Speaker 3>haven't flown all day and now he pulling up thirty

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<v Speaker 3>minutes late.

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<v Speaker 2>No, you're wearing the blazer, but he's wearing pajama bottle.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh huh.

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<v Speaker 2>He got on sweatpan, you know what.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's some people's whole, like identity is where they yes,

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<v Speaker 3>they have the uniform on top, but they too loose.

0:23:52.520 --> 0:23:54.800
<v Speaker 2>At the bottom. They too loose at the bottom.

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<v Speaker 4>That's at the bottom, too loose at the bottom.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, let's look at some of this stuff that's like

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<v Speaker 3>messy for the week that's coming up that I saw

0:24:23.240 --> 0:24:28.679
<v Speaker 3>on you know, the internets. So I'm into this artist,

0:24:28.720 --> 0:24:31.480
<v Speaker 3>Sabrina Carpenter. I mean also, she's getting pushed down my

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<v Speaker 3>throat with algorithm.

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<v Speaker 2>Saying to this artist, like people don't know who she's made,

0:24:35.440 --> 0:24:35.720
<v Speaker 2>to this.

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<v Speaker 3>Artist, I don't know if y'all know about her, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know, you know, she just popped out. I am.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm thoroughly enjoying. I think it's a short and sweet tour.

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<v Speaker 3>Everybody's putting out all these like clips they're going. We've

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<v Speaker 3>even had a friend, Marcelo Hernandez from SNL.

0:24:52.359 --> 0:24:55.240
<v Speaker 2>He he was able to do a little skit with her.

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<v Speaker 1>They they both posted a picture of them backstage together.

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<v Speaker 1>They look real into it looks so freaking cool, right

0:25:02.440 --> 0:25:04.040
<v Speaker 1>them and tell him I want to officiate the wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>It was sweet dope. It was so dope.

0:25:06.720 --> 0:25:09.600
<v Speaker 3>And so you know, I'm listening to her songs. I'm

0:25:09.600 --> 0:25:12.800
<v Speaker 3>watching how she performs. And it's what people don't know

0:25:12.920 --> 0:25:16.480
<v Speaker 3>is Sabrina is selling sex. I don't care if y'all

0:25:16.480 --> 0:25:17.520
<v Speaker 3>think she a poll pocket.

0:25:17.600 --> 0:25:21.960
<v Speaker 2>She is sex sexy. She's sexy in a little teddy dress.

0:25:21.960 --> 0:25:25.440
<v Speaker 3>She is deep throating that microphone in front. And that's

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<v Speaker 3>the problem right now.

0:25:26.440 --> 0:25:30.120
<v Speaker 1>People are having an issue where her like little Juno poses.

0:25:30.119 --> 0:25:32.439
<v Speaker 2>They're like, are you doing You're doing too much, sister babe.

0:25:32.480 --> 0:25:34.760
<v Speaker 3>She's going, she's coming to the to the concert and

0:25:34.760 --> 0:25:38.480
<v Speaker 3>it's like, hey, whatever, I don't know who she used

0:25:38.480 --> 0:25:40.320
<v Speaker 3>to be on a Disney channel. She's not doing that

0:25:40.400 --> 0:25:42.280
<v Speaker 3>no more. No, ma, you guys got us.

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<v Speaker 2>You gotta leave the Disney Channel. You gotta hi.

0:25:44.359 --> 0:25:46.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm Sabrina Carpenter and you're watching this, you gotta leave

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<v Speaker 1>this behind this she's grown.

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<v Speaker 2>She not doing this no more. She's doing this now. Yay,

0:25:51.200 --> 0:25:51.960
<v Speaker 2>she is doing that.

0:25:52.000 --> 0:25:55.920
<v Speaker 3>And I think women should be allowed to express themselves,

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<v Speaker 3>how sexually or not, if they want to.

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<v Speaker 2>And if they're listening just so happened to be.

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<v Speaker 3>Eighteen seventeen fifteen six, because that's who's listening, then hey,

0:26:07.920 --> 0:26:08.480
<v Speaker 3>so be it.

0:26:08.520 --> 0:26:10.000
<v Speaker 2>This is what people.

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<v Speaker 3>Grow up, and this is how they're speaking and how

0:26:12.119 --> 0:26:14.800
<v Speaker 3>they're talking and every and she's a poet too, because

0:26:14.840 --> 0:26:16.840
<v Speaker 3>the thing is they'll listen to a song they're like, oh,

0:26:17.760 --> 0:26:20.000
<v Speaker 3>she's talking about taking it from the back yard, y'ah.

0:26:20.119 --> 0:26:22.600
<v Speaker 2>She just says that. She tries to saying it the

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<v Speaker 2>urban outfitters way.

0:26:24.200 --> 0:26:27.240
<v Speaker 1>She's she just covered it with like this a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of bubble gum because she said the.

0:26:30.800 --> 0:26:31.600
<v Speaker 2>Come and ride on me.

0:26:31.960 --> 0:26:36.720
<v Speaker 3>Come on, ride on me, I mean camaraderie. She's being like,

0:26:36.800 --> 0:26:39.800
<v Speaker 3>she's got to play on words. She said, come on,

0:26:39.920 --> 0:26:44.720
<v Speaker 3>ride on me. That's what she said. Okay, she's reversed

0:26:44.760 --> 0:26:47.760
<v Speaker 3>cowgirl on that ass. She's number eleven in the world

0:26:47.880 --> 0:26:50.440
<v Speaker 3>on Spotify, So that's amazing.

0:26:50.600 --> 0:26:52.760
<v Speaker 2>You can't it's not short or sweet. Okay.

0:26:52.920 --> 0:26:56.199
<v Speaker 1>She it's crazy because like when you a friend of

0:26:56.200 --> 0:26:58.840
<v Speaker 1>ours just want to go see Taylor Swift, and she said,

0:26:58.880 --> 0:27:01.639
<v Speaker 1>Taylor Swift is very like you guys can do it

0:27:01.800 --> 0:27:04.000
<v Speaker 1>and like yeah, like because she has a lot of

0:27:04.040 --> 0:27:06.879
<v Speaker 1>little kid fans and she got you know, people you

0:27:06.920 --> 0:27:10.200
<v Speaker 1>know that are older, and Sabrina is doing the opposite.

0:27:10.840 --> 0:27:12.480
<v Speaker 1>She has a lot of little kid fans, but she

0:27:12.840 --> 0:27:15.280
<v Speaker 1>is giving you know, mighty when she wouldn't put her

0:27:15.320 --> 0:27:18.000
<v Speaker 1>tongue back in her mouth energy And I think that.

0:27:18.160 --> 0:27:20.640
<v Speaker 3>It should However the artist wants to be portrayed, that's

0:27:20.640 --> 0:27:23.320
<v Speaker 3>how they should be able to portray. If there's young

0:27:23.359 --> 0:27:25.960
<v Speaker 3>people listening to me, thank you for listening. But I'm

0:27:26.000 --> 0:27:28.840
<v Speaker 3>still gonna be me. I'm still an adult. I'm still

0:27:29.359 --> 0:27:32.600
<v Speaker 3>you know, how old is Sabrina? She gotta be like,

0:27:33.160 --> 0:27:34.760
<v Speaker 3>oh all that okay, she own.

0:27:34.680 --> 0:27:36.840
<v Speaker 2>She's grown, h Marie, She's.

0:27:36.680 --> 0:27:40.199
<v Speaker 3>Grown twenty five And I think twenty five is like

0:27:40.320 --> 0:27:42.800
<v Speaker 3>the most flirty I had ever been in my life.

0:27:42.840 --> 0:27:45.880
<v Speaker 3>Like I was just becoming my you know, getting into

0:27:45.880 --> 0:27:48.679
<v Speaker 3>my own I didn't have fake breast yet, but you know,

0:27:48.840 --> 0:27:52.160
<v Speaker 3>I was flopping them a little triple A cups everywhere,

0:27:52.200 --> 0:27:55.400
<v Speaker 3>and I was in my little American apparels, tiny ass

0:27:55.560 --> 0:27:58.399
<v Speaker 3>dresses with no panties on it. And so I feel

0:27:58.400 --> 0:28:02.160
<v Speaker 3>like Sabrina's probably an elem you know to rich that. Yeah,

0:28:02.200 --> 0:28:05.080
<v Speaker 3>And so when you're feeling yourself and you you know

0:28:05.119 --> 0:28:07.720
<v Speaker 3>you can write and you can sing and you can perform,

0:28:07.880 --> 0:28:10.920
<v Speaker 3>you're saying whatever, and you should be allowed to And

0:28:11.560 --> 0:28:15.400
<v Speaker 3>I forgot what news anchor was saying. You know, oh,

0:28:15.480 --> 0:28:17.920
<v Speaker 3>the parents should just be listening to the music, so

0:28:18.000 --> 0:28:20.520
<v Speaker 3>that so they didn't know what their kids are listening.

0:28:20.640 --> 0:28:23.080
<v Speaker 3>He's like, I'm a parent, I'm doing what parents do.

0:28:23.240 --> 0:28:25.000
<v Speaker 3>I don't have time to listen to these songs and

0:28:25.040 --> 0:28:28.160
<v Speaker 3>know He's like, it's up to the artists, it's their responsibility.

0:28:28.200 --> 0:28:31.159
<v Speaker 3>I said, no, it's not what they only.

0:28:31.040 --> 0:28:33.639
<v Speaker 1>They only do this to female artists, and they do

0:28:33.720 --> 0:28:35.960
<v Speaker 1>it every single year.

0:28:36.640 --> 0:28:38.880
<v Speaker 2>Every year some artists is popping.

0:28:38.600 --> 0:28:41.440
<v Speaker 1>And they're like, well, Rihanna should be a better influence

0:28:41.440 --> 0:28:44.480
<v Speaker 1>to the Rihanna is a grown ass woman smoking weed

0:28:44.800 --> 0:28:46.960
<v Speaker 1>and talking about how sex with herb is so amazing.

0:28:47.200 --> 0:28:49.880
<v Speaker 1>Why did you think your kid was not going to

0:28:49.920 --> 0:28:52.280
<v Speaker 1>hear that or shouldn't hear that?

0:28:52.600 --> 0:28:54.800
<v Speaker 2>Like you don't care about your daughter? You know what

0:28:54.880 --> 0:28:58.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm saying, like, she gotta kids herself. Now, she's a mother.

0:28:58.800 --> 0:28:59.440
<v Speaker 2>She is a mother.

0:28:59.600 --> 0:29:02.600
<v Speaker 1>But like every artist they do that with, but it's women.

0:29:02.640 --> 0:29:04.239
<v Speaker 1>I don't think they do this with men. Men get

0:29:04.320 --> 0:29:06.200
<v Speaker 1>up there and they're talking about I don't even know

0:29:06.240 --> 0:29:07.400
<v Speaker 1>what male artists talk about.

0:29:07.640 --> 0:29:11.320
<v Speaker 2>I don't My ear is just closed. Yeah, but uh.

0:29:13.360 --> 0:29:16.320
<v Speaker 3>Talking about I don't know, But I love I would

0:29:16.320 --> 0:29:18.680
<v Speaker 3>love to go to her concerts.

0:29:18.760 --> 0:29:21.120
<v Speaker 2>Shelby text mar Marcella Marcia. I know he could get

0:29:21.120 --> 0:29:21.880
<v Speaker 2>his backstage, right.

0:29:21.920 --> 0:29:25.640
<v Speaker 3>I love her concert and I love when artists are

0:29:25.640 --> 0:29:28.440
<v Speaker 3>on stage and you could tell they're having a good time.

0:29:28.760 --> 0:29:31.480
<v Speaker 3>I don't like when people are being performative and they're

0:29:31.480 --> 0:29:32.080
<v Speaker 3>not in their bag.

0:29:32.160 --> 0:29:36.120
<v Speaker 2>Dough Chi right now is in you know, panties and.

0:29:36.240 --> 0:29:39.120
<v Speaker 3>Ass is flapping and she's wrapping her ass off and

0:29:39.160 --> 0:29:41.680
<v Speaker 3>she's so good, and I like, that's what I want

0:29:41.720 --> 0:29:43.920
<v Speaker 3>to see. I don't want to see somebody being like, well,

0:29:43.960 --> 0:29:45.440
<v Speaker 3>this is what I think they want me to be.

0:29:45.640 --> 0:29:50.720
<v Speaker 3>It's like ugh, not ugh, but no, yeah.

0:29:50.040 --> 0:29:51.320
<v Speaker 1>Do what you want to do, how you want to

0:29:51.360 --> 0:29:52.800
<v Speaker 1>do it. And if you're having a good time, it's

0:29:52.840 --> 0:29:56.680
<v Speaker 1>a it's fun for everybody involved, now, you know, We've

0:29:56.680 --> 0:29:59.720
<v Speaker 1>seen Mariah Carey live a few times and she pops

0:29:59.720 --> 0:30:02.000
<v Speaker 1>out the holiday, she does a little two months of

0:30:02.600 --> 0:30:03.800
<v Speaker 1>music and then she leaves.

0:30:03.840 --> 0:30:06.000
<v Speaker 2>But you know, the last time we saw her perform,

0:30:06.080 --> 0:30:08.880
<v Speaker 2>I said, did she take an edible? Like? Wait?

0:30:10.640 --> 0:30:13.800
<v Speaker 1>She just so very I mean, and she you know,

0:30:13.840 --> 0:30:16.840
<v Speaker 1>she's not doing choreo. She she don't really sway. But

0:30:16.920 --> 0:30:18.960
<v Speaker 1>it did feel like the last time we saw her perform,

0:30:19.120 --> 0:30:21.280
<v Speaker 1>it was like it was given sedated.

0:30:21.440 --> 0:30:24.080
<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, it wasn't given sadated. It's giving legend.

0:30:25.120 --> 0:30:30.440
<v Speaker 3>She has worked so many years, decades put in her discography.

0:30:30.760 --> 0:30:34.640
<v Speaker 2>Is it's unmatched. She's worked her, She's did her time.

0:30:34.720 --> 0:30:38.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she wants to glide and sliding. She wants to

0:30:38.880 --> 0:30:42.040
<v Speaker 1>get her if she wants to get her tresses pressed

0:30:42.120 --> 0:30:44.840
<v Speaker 1>out on stage, she should be able to and she

0:30:44.840 --> 0:30:48.080
<v Speaker 1>she will and she she stands there, she she sings,

0:30:48.440 --> 0:30:50.560
<v Speaker 1>and then the guy comes out and he's like, and

0:30:50.600 --> 0:30:54.320
<v Speaker 1>then I love it. I think these fans are expecting

0:30:54.360 --> 0:30:57.800
<v Speaker 1>too much and they know too much and they're too critical,

0:30:57.840 --> 0:31:00.480
<v Speaker 1>and it's like, you know us, she's out there sweating,

0:31:00.600 --> 0:31:02.240
<v Speaker 1>sweating his wig off.

0:31:02.840 --> 0:31:05.040
<v Speaker 2>He's in roller skates.

0:31:04.480 --> 0:31:06.400
<v Speaker 3>Background there, he's got all this stuff going on, and

0:31:06.400 --> 0:31:08.040
<v Speaker 3>it's like, y'all feel the same way.

0:31:08.240 --> 0:31:10.480
<v Speaker 2>Y'all feel the same way about everything. Y'all.

0:31:10.720 --> 0:31:13.320
<v Speaker 3>People are never satisfied, you know what I'm saying. So

0:31:13.360 --> 0:31:15.400
<v Speaker 3>it's like, at least perform the way you want to

0:31:15.440 --> 0:31:17.400
<v Speaker 3>perform and walk out and be like I did what

0:31:17.440 --> 0:31:18.040
<v Speaker 3>I wanted to do.

0:31:18.120 --> 0:31:20.160
<v Speaker 2>I just want, if you're going to perform live, just

0:31:20.320 --> 0:31:22.600
<v Speaker 2>make it seem like you're excited to be there. That's

0:31:22.640 --> 0:31:24.880
<v Speaker 2>all I'm saying. I think I think she is.

0:31:25.400 --> 0:31:28.360
<v Speaker 1>She's sipping her lemonade, she got her kids dancing in

0:31:28.360 --> 0:31:28.800
<v Speaker 1>the back.

0:31:28.680 --> 0:31:31.480
<v Speaker 2>She's having a good time. Okay. So also, how old

0:31:31.560 --> 0:31:33.680
<v Speaker 2>is she? How old is Mariah carry?

0:31:34.760 --> 0:31:38.520
<v Speaker 1>I want to say fifty eight?

0:31:39.240 --> 0:31:41.880
<v Speaker 2>Oh right? We yay.

0:31:42.360 --> 0:31:45.080
<v Speaker 3>I mean I think there should be I think it's

0:31:45.120 --> 0:31:47.920
<v Speaker 3>a mess when you expect too much from people who

0:31:47.960 --> 0:31:49.880
<v Speaker 3>have lived a long time.

0:31:50.240 --> 0:31:53.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I am in my thirties. I'm exhausted.

0:31:53.600 --> 0:31:57.240
<v Speaker 3>I can't I being that age and doing everything that

0:31:57.320 --> 0:31:58.000
<v Speaker 3>she has done.

0:31:58.480 --> 0:31:59.840
<v Speaker 2>I can't even imagine. I would not.

0:32:00.000 --> 0:32:02.400
<v Speaker 3>I have no time for nothing. I wouldn't want anybody

0:32:02.440 --> 0:32:04.880
<v Speaker 3>giving me notes on anything. I'm like, hey, I've been

0:32:04.920 --> 0:32:07.239
<v Speaker 3>fine since right, I've been doing what I need to do.

0:32:07.400 --> 0:32:12.200
<v Speaker 1>But being thirty and regular is different than being I

0:32:12.280 --> 0:32:14.760
<v Speaker 1>heard you being thirty very regular.

0:32:14.840 --> 0:32:17.600
<v Speaker 2>Hold on, let me finish you trying to finish thirty

0:32:17.600 --> 0:32:21.760
<v Speaker 2>in regular? Being saw the title. That's also the title bit.

0:32:22.040 --> 0:32:25.040
<v Speaker 1>Being thirty irregular is different than being fifty five and rich,

0:32:25.360 --> 0:32:28.680
<v Speaker 1>because fifty five and rich is basically thirty in regular.

0:32:29.680 --> 0:32:32.400
<v Speaker 2>You know what I'm saying, Like like you you understand

0:32:32.400 --> 0:32:34.720
<v Speaker 2>what I'm saying. Yeah, And Mariah Carey.

0:32:34.480 --> 0:32:40.240
<v Speaker 1>Has been rich since she was like twenty, so you

0:32:40.320 --> 0:32:43.440
<v Speaker 1>know it's thirty thirty five years? Is that the math?

0:32:43.920 --> 0:32:47.560
<v Speaker 1>That's it's thirty five years of rich, leisurely, you know,

0:32:48.160 --> 0:32:51.720
<v Speaker 1>face massages and butt massages and risk massages, whatever the

0:32:51.720 --> 0:32:52.680
<v Speaker 1>hell she needs to just get in.

0:32:52.720 --> 0:32:53.880
<v Speaker 2>Oh, you know, it's a mess right now.

0:32:54.000 --> 0:32:58.840
<v Speaker 3>People are obsessed with the way Lindsey Lohan Lookssina Aguilera,

0:32:59.440 --> 0:33:02.080
<v Speaker 3>all the girls is getting the work done, probably even

0:33:02.120 --> 0:33:05.640
<v Speaker 3>Martha Stewart. The girls are popping out. The new surgeon

0:33:05.640 --> 0:33:08.080
<v Speaker 3>that's on a block, he's doing his thug dizzle. But

0:33:08.240 --> 0:33:13.640
<v Speaker 3>everyone is commenting on how it's right now. It's weird

0:33:13.800 --> 0:33:16.560
<v Speaker 3>because one way you want to be like, oh, these

0:33:16.560 --> 0:33:20.360
<v Speaker 3>people look amazing, but they're obviously in the eye of

0:33:20.480 --> 0:33:22.080
<v Speaker 3>the people, and they have to get this work done.

0:33:22.120 --> 0:33:25.000
<v Speaker 3>But then they're like, you're promoting this is a negative

0:33:25.000 --> 0:33:28.280
<v Speaker 3>way to promote what getting older looks like, because that's

0:33:28.320 --> 0:33:29.800
<v Speaker 3>not how people that age looks.

0:33:29.920 --> 0:33:31.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't think it's negative to promote that. I think

0:33:31.840 --> 0:33:34.960
<v Speaker 1>that they look great. Christina Juilera looks like she literally

0:33:35.000 --> 0:33:37.320
<v Speaker 1>turned back the hands of times given Genie in a bottle,

0:33:38.040 --> 0:33:38.800
<v Speaker 1>Lindsay Lohan.

0:33:39.120 --> 0:33:40.719
<v Speaker 2>I mean they say it's toxic.

0:33:40.840 --> 0:33:43.800
<v Speaker 3>They say it's toxic because she looks better than she

0:33:43.840 --> 0:33:44.720
<v Speaker 3>did when she was younger.

0:33:44.760 --> 0:33:47.320
<v Speaker 2>Okay, So as a woman, you're not allowed to be ugly.

0:33:47.400 --> 0:33:49.040
<v Speaker 1>You're not allowed to be cute, You're not allowed to

0:33:49.080 --> 0:33:50.560
<v Speaker 1>be big, you're not allowed to be small.

0:33:50.640 --> 0:33:50.920
<v Speaker 2>No.

0:33:50.920 --> 0:33:53.200
<v Speaker 1>Now, if you on TikTok bragging about being skinny, people

0:33:53.200 --> 0:33:56.800
<v Speaker 1>are like, that's offensive. Yep, I like being skinny, you say,

0:33:56.840 --> 0:33:59.680
<v Speaker 1>now on the record front the antling people for that.

0:33:59.720 --> 0:34:03.040
<v Speaker 1>They answering people right now, I like being skinny.

0:34:03.040 --> 0:34:06.880
<v Speaker 2>Are you saying that? Wish camera? But I'm not, Okay,

0:34:07.040 --> 0:34:08.680
<v Speaker 2>I've tried, you tried to be thick.

0:34:10.360 --> 0:34:13.640
<v Speaker 3>My my thing about it one because I've had plastic

0:34:13.680 --> 0:34:18.040
<v Speaker 3>surgery and I am thin. I will say this, some

0:34:18.080 --> 0:34:20.919
<v Speaker 3>of that stuff is not the answer. If you do

0:34:21.040 --> 0:34:24.320
<v Speaker 3>things thinking that it's gonna change your whole you could

0:34:24.320 --> 0:34:27.959
<v Speaker 3>still have your body done, be thin and doing bad.

0:34:28.520 --> 0:34:30.120
<v Speaker 3>And I'm gonna tell you this, I'm saying it in

0:34:30.120 --> 0:34:34.560
<v Speaker 3>the camera that be me. Sometimes skinny boobs bad.

0:34:34.719 --> 0:34:42.040
<v Speaker 1>Like it's happening, you.

0:34:42.120 --> 0:34:42.520
<v Speaker 2>Know for me.

0:34:42.560 --> 0:34:46.279
<v Speaker 3>I was having this conversation with our friend Carolina, and

0:34:46.360 --> 0:34:48.719
<v Speaker 3>she was just like, you'll never know what it's like to,

0:34:48.960 --> 0:34:52.440
<v Speaker 3>you know, deal with fat phobia and these things. And

0:34:52.480 --> 0:34:55.480
<v Speaker 3>like you saying that, oh, you're skinny and you have issues,

0:34:55.520 --> 0:34:56.960
<v Speaker 3>it's not the same. And I was like, I'm not

0:34:57.000 --> 0:35:00.279
<v Speaker 3>saying it's the same, but you can't invalidate how people

0:35:00.280 --> 0:35:02.239
<v Speaker 3>feel in their bodies. That's what I'm saying is that

0:35:02.440 --> 0:35:05.960
<v Speaker 3>it's obviously fat phobia is real. I don't know if

0:35:06.160 --> 0:35:09.720
<v Speaker 3>skinny phobia is real. But even the way they're talking

0:35:09.719 --> 0:35:14.640
<v Speaker 3>about Ariana Grande and Cynthia Rivo, the discussion is everything

0:35:14.719 --> 0:35:17.239
<v Speaker 3>is all weird. It's like people are just getting too

0:35:17.640 --> 0:35:21.120
<v Speaker 3>loose with the lips about discussing women's bodies and how

0:35:21.160 --> 0:35:22.480
<v Speaker 3>they look and how they should be.

0:35:22.600 --> 0:35:23.840
<v Speaker 2>And nobody's professionals.

0:35:24.040 --> 0:35:26.480
<v Speaker 3>You're not a doctor, you don't know what they're doing

0:35:26.520 --> 0:35:29.560
<v Speaker 3>in their day to day to say somebody, oh you're

0:35:29.800 --> 0:35:33.239
<v Speaker 3>you have body issues or eating eating disorder or it's

0:35:33.640 --> 0:35:37.239
<v Speaker 3>it's none of your fucking business. At my point, like

0:35:37.760 --> 0:35:41.319
<v Speaker 3>the way that we want to Lindsey tell us who

0:35:41.320 --> 0:35:43.840
<v Speaker 3>did your face? Hey babe, you got to get in

0:35:43.880 --> 0:35:45.880
<v Speaker 3>the same tax record as me, and then you'll know

0:35:45.920 --> 0:35:47.160
<v Speaker 3>who the who the doctor is.

0:35:47.480 --> 0:35:47.960
<v Speaker 2>You can't get.

0:35:48.000 --> 0:35:50.640
<v Speaker 1>You can't get whoever she got. Y'all who work at

0:35:50.680 --> 0:35:52.440
<v Speaker 1>CVS can't. So why are you asking?

0:35:52.560 --> 0:35:55.360
<v Speaker 2>I heard it was a two hundred thousand dollars facelift? Really,

0:35:56.360 --> 0:35:58.000
<v Speaker 2>no way, is that? What is that? What? I see?

0:35:58.040 --> 0:35:59.760
<v Speaker 2>What they say? You wt two hundred thousand dollars?

0:36:00.280 --> 0:36:05.839
<v Speaker 1>Okay, Oh you know what, since we're talking about money

0:36:05.880 --> 0:36:09.600
<v Speaker 1>and you're listening to this, go ahead and venmoy fifty dollars.

0:36:10.160 --> 0:36:17.320
<v Speaker 1>We're gonna work our way up to the two hundred thous.

0:36:14.680 --> 0:36:16.839
<v Speaker 2>From my facelift, thank you? Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.

0:36:16.880 --> 0:36:20.640
<v Speaker 1>It's pretty much a GoFundMe and installment. It's gonna take

0:36:20.640 --> 0:36:25.560
<v Speaker 1>two hundred thousand episodes to get there. Yeah, we'll get there. Yeah, No,

0:36:25.680 --> 0:36:27.680
<v Speaker 1>I think that there is. I don't I don't know

0:36:27.760 --> 0:36:32.960
<v Speaker 1>if it's skinny phobic. But you know when people are

0:36:33.880 --> 0:36:36.919
<v Speaker 1>like big and proud to be big, and I don't

0:36:36.920 --> 0:36:39.080
<v Speaker 1>know what the word is here body positive.

0:36:39.640 --> 0:36:41.680
<v Speaker 2>You're allowed to be body positive.

0:36:41.280 --> 0:36:44.279
<v Speaker 1>If you're bigger, but if you're thin and you are

0:36:44.440 --> 0:36:46.759
<v Speaker 1>happy with your weight, then people are not.

0:36:46.760 --> 0:36:47.319
<v Speaker 2>Happy with you.

0:36:47.440 --> 0:36:49.640
<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, is this how white people feel when

0:36:49.680 --> 0:36:54.200
<v Speaker 1>black people be like black black girl magic and black power?

0:36:54.320 --> 0:36:57.319
<v Speaker 2>Is this how white people feel? I don't. I don't know. Well,

0:36:58.120 --> 0:36:58.560
<v Speaker 2>that's the thing.

0:36:58.560 --> 0:37:01.120
<v Speaker 3>They're like, hey, you are you have a privilege by

0:37:01.160 --> 0:37:03.560
<v Speaker 3>being thin or beautiful or whatever, So why do you

0:37:03.600 --> 0:37:05.440
<v Speaker 3>need to say that you're already living.

0:37:05.520 --> 0:37:09.480
<v Speaker 2>Living the life. Not a privilege? But it is.

0:37:09.800 --> 0:37:12.880
<v Speaker 3>I disagree, it is. It is a but it is

0:37:12.920 --> 0:37:15.560
<v Speaker 3>a we we do have to be on. It's like,

0:37:15.920 --> 0:37:18.560
<v Speaker 3>you know, white privilege or what it is? A privilege

0:37:18.840 --> 0:37:22.040
<v Speaker 3>being attractive or having a certain body type because people

0:37:22.080 --> 0:37:24.799
<v Speaker 3>will treat you differently. It just that's just what it is.

0:37:25.120 --> 0:37:28.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, But everybody that's big is not big because they

0:37:28.560 --> 0:37:33.239
<v Speaker 1>can't help being big. You know, this is everybody don't

0:37:33.239 --> 0:37:35.320
<v Speaker 1>have a thyroid problem. This is not my wheelhouse.

0:37:35.400 --> 0:37:35.719
<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

0:37:35.760 --> 0:37:40.440
<v Speaker 1>Everybody don't have pcos. I can't everybody it's America. Some

0:37:40.480 --> 0:37:42.799
<v Speaker 1>of y'all big because y'all love Chick fil A.

0:37:43.040 --> 0:37:46.040
<v Speaker 2>Oh bitch, hey, that's what Marie said. That's not what

0:37:46.080 --> 0:37:46.439
<v Speaker 2>I said.

0:37:46.800 --> 0:37:49.719
<v Speaker 1>This is this is Marie's standing on that. I am

0:37:50.440 --> 0:37:55.919
<v Speaker 1>not listen, zoom in no zoomen Wow. This is gonna

0:37:55.960 --> 0:37:58.280
<v Speaker 1>go viral for sure for all the wrong reasons.

0:37:58.280 --> 0:37:58.600
<v Speaker 2>Girl.

0:37:58.960 --> 0:38:01.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm not trying to go for I'm just saying, Oh,

0:38:01.360 --> 0:38:05.840
<v Speaker 1>you don't have to try, man, I'm just saying, Okay,

0:38:06.040 --> 0:38:09.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm petite. I got petite parents, but they got big.

0:38:09.760 --> 0:38:11.920
<v Speaker 1>I have big aunts and uncles. You know what I'm saying.

0:38:12.560 --> 0:38:14.600
<v Speaker 2>The way you're saying big, sis, I don't know. I

0:38:14.640 --> 0:38:15.240
<v Speaker 2>don't know you should.

0:38:15.400 --> 0:38:17.800
<v Speaker 3>Maybe you should be a little bit more like lighter

0:38:17.840 --> 0:38:20.640
<v Speaker 3>with it, big big.

0:38:21.040 --> 0:38:24.680
<v Speaker 1>Listen, everybody, everybody in a and I'm speaking specifically about America.

0:38:24.840 --> 0:38:28.160
<v Speaker 1>Everybody that's here is not big because of an accident,

0:38:28.520 --> 0:38:31.439
<v Speaker 1>or because of a health issue, or because I don't

0:38:31.480 --> 0:38:32.640
<v Speaker 1>know lymph notes.

0:38:32.680 --> 0:38:34.160
<v Speaker 2>I don't know why people. I don't know why people

0:38:34.239 --> 0:38:39.319
<v Speaker 2>be big, but uh yeah, I don't. I can understand

0:38:39.520 --> 0:38:40.680
<v Speaker 2>the privilege of it.

0:38:40.760 --> 0:38:42.560
<v Speaker 1>But like, how you doing that quote because I don't

0:38:42.600 --> 0:38:44.520
<v Speaker 1>really I don't think it's a privilege to be skinny.

0:38:45.080 --> 0:38:46.200
<v Speaker 2>You got some fucking nerves.

0:38:46.280 --> 0:38:50.480
<v Speaker 1>You with your good ass skin, your gabs glasses on,

0:38:50.760 --> 0:38:51.280
<v Speaker 1>you can't.

0:38:51.080 --> 0:38:51.680
<v Speaker 2>See that well.

0:38:51.719 --> 0:38:54.719
<v Speaker 3>But everything else is working out, friend, everything else is

0:38:54.760 --> 0:38:55.200
<v Speaker 3>working out.

0:38:55.320 --> 0:38:58.560
<v Speaker 1>Listen, one day, when I'm big, maybe I should Maybe

0:38:58.600 --> 0:38:59.640
<v Speaker 1>so when I'm big, I could be like, let me

0:38:59.640 --> 0:38:59.840
<v Speaker 1>get my.

0:38:59.840 --> 0:39:02.080
<v Speaker 2>Big Yes, girl, you're a mess.

0:39:02.480 --> 0:39:05.440
<v Speaker 3>I will say that as I've gotten older, I've gained

0:39:05.719 --> 0:39:09.480
<v Speaker 3>you know. Obviously it's not enough for people to be like,

0:39:09.760 --> 0:39:12.520
<v Speaker 3>h but I have things change and I can't wear

0:39:12.560 --> 0:39:15.719
<v Speaker 3>the same clothes or I don't feel comfortable, and I'm like,

0:39:15.840 --> 0:39:18.319
<v Speaker 3>if I feel like this, I know this is hard

0:39:18.320 --> 0:39:21.319
<v Speaker 3>for other people. So I do understand the sensitivity of

0:39:21.520 --> 0:39:26.439
<v Speaker 3>just like being kinder to like how women speak about the.

0:39:26.400 --> 0:39:28.560
<v Speaker 2>Outside that the shell it is.

0:39:28.760 --> 0:39:31.360
<v Speaker 3>It is a way to talk about things and having

0:39:31.440 --> 0:39:34.239
<v Speaker 3>empathy because I do understand.

0:39:34.880 --> 0:39:37.320
<v Speaker 2>I am not saying that I don't understand.

0:39:37.880 --> 0:39:41.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying like, even like somebody will put an

0:39:41.600 --> 0:39:44.120
<v Speaker 1>offit on and people will be in the comments like

0:39:44.640 --> 0:39:46.720
<v Speaker 1>is the outfit cute or is she just skinny?

0:39:46.840 --> 0:39:48.600
<v Speaker 2>And it's like, why can't it be both?

0:39:50.120 --> 0:39:52.640
<v Speaker 1>People love dragging a skinny beach because they're like, well,

0:39:52.640 --> 0:39:54.719
<v Speaker 1>her life must be perfect, or she must not have

0:39:54.719 --> 0:39:56.920
<v Speaker 1>no problems, or she must get dick every day. And

0:39:56.960 --> 0:40:00.640
<v Speaker 1>it's like, whoa, my life is a mess?

0:40:02.480 --> 0:40:04.120
<v Speaker 2>Is that? What they say in your comments.

0:40:03.920 --> 0:40:07.960
<v Speaker 1>Is I don't know, not not my comments necessarily, but

0:40:08.040 --> 0:40:13.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying like anytime somebody uh slender or slim does something,

0:40:13.719 --> 0:40:16.879
<v Speaker 1>someone in the comments is like she's too skinny or

0:40:17.000 --> 0:40:19.680
<v Speaker 1>why like, oh, she can wear that, but why not

0:40:19.760 --> 0:40:23.360
<v Speaker 1>make this bigger? Like even brands will have people modeling

0:40:23.400 --> 0:40:24.960
<v Speaker 1>things and they'll be like, well, what size does this

0:40:25.000 --> 0:40:25.400
<v Speaker 1>go up to?

0:40:25.520 --> 0:40:27.680
<v Speaker 2>And this is big people of rasure.

0:40:27.440 --> 0:40:29.480
<v Speaker 1>And it's like you know this, you know this simple size,

0:40:29.520 --> 0:40:31.959
<v Speaker 1>Like they only had a couple pieces of fabric together.

0:40:32.000 --> 0:40:33.360
<v Speaker 2>They put this together so you can see what it

0:40:33.360 --> 0:40:33.759
<v Speaker 2>looks like.

0:40:34.200 --> 0:40:37.120
<v Speaker 1>Don't be mad at this brand or this person's body, like,

0:40:37.200 --> 0:40:39.120
<v Speaker 1>you know, let let me be thin in peace.

0:40:39.360 --> 0:40:40.440
<v Speaker 2>Oh thin in peace?

0:40:40.560 --> 0:40:45.719
<v Speaker 3>Okay, that's another title, babe, thin.

0:40:45.080 --> 0:40:48.680
<v Speaker 2>In pieces wild. That's the name of my memoirs.

0:40:48.719 --> 0:40:54.280
<v Speaker 3>I I think for me, I used to say such

0:40:54.440 --> 0:40:58.560
<v Speaker 3>wild things when I was younger, about just a state

0:40:58.640 --> 0:41:04.640
<v Speaker 3>of anything everything, and now I'm like, yo, one wrong

0:41:04.680 --> 0:41:07.920
<v Speaker 3>move and you might not have it like that, and

0:41:07.960 --> 0:41:14.160
<v Speaker 3>so I'm trying to be more like light about things because.

0:41:15.440 --> 0:41:16.040
<v Speaker 2>I remember.

0:41:16.239 --> 0:41:20.120
<v Speaker 3>I remember I was in Zara and I'm a name

0:41:20.200 --> 0:41:24.359
<v Speaker 3>names and I put on these genes and I just

0:41:24.680 --> 0:41:26.680
<v Speaker 3>I just didn't I didn't feel good in it. And

0:41:26.719 --> 0:41:29.400
<v Speaker 3>the woman next to me, like I came out and

0:41:29.440 --> 0:41:31.000
<v Speaker 3>I was looking. I was like, oh, like, She's like,

0:41:32.000 --> 0:41:33.680
<v Speaker 3>you look great, and I was like, I don't.

0:41:33.760 --> 0:41:34.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't.

0:41:34.400 --> 0:41:36.160
<v Speaker 3>I don't think this does anything for me. She's like,

0:41:36.560 --> 0:41:40.080
<v Speaker 3>I would kill to have that body, and I'm like, okay,

0:41:41.120 --> 0:41:43.080
<v Speaker 3>don't kill me right now, and like what what can

0:41:43.120 --> 0:41:45.120
<v Speaker 3>I do? What can I do with that?

0:41:45.120 --> 0:41:47.839
<v Speaker 2>That that's how you feel about where you want your

0:41:47.880 --> 0:41:50.520
<v Speaker 2>body be. I don't. I don't like this.

0:41:51.080 --> 0:41:54.720
<v Speaker 3>So it's kind of like we all need to take

0:41:54.800 --> 0:41:57.879
<v Speaker 3>our own personal feelings to think and work on that,

0:41:57.960 --> 0:42:00.200
<v Speaker 3>and we can't all just be projecting.

0:42:00.040 --> 0:42:03.759
<v Speaker 2>Because it's hard living in our bodies. Period. It's hard

0:42:03.760 --> 0:42:04.640
<v Speaker 2>living in our bodies.

0:42:04.719 --> 0:42:07.480
<v Speaker 1>I think as and I'm gonna you know, I can

0:42:07.480 --> 0:42:10.319
<v Speaker 1>only speak from a woman's perspective, but like you know,

0:42:10.520 --> 0:42:12.319
<v Speaker 1>people have a lot to say about how we look,

0:42:12.480 --> 0:42:16.160
<v Speaker 1>and we internalize things about ourselves, like my body now

0:42:16.239 --> 0:42:18.160
<v Speaker 1>is not the way my body looked ten years ago,

0:42:18.880 --> 0:42:21.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, so it things about my body that I

0:42:21.200 --> 0:42:23.880
<v Speaker 1>don't like, and if I dare say something about it,

0:42:23.920 --> 0:42:26.759
<v Speaker 1>people be like, what could you possibly have to complain about?

0:42:26.800 --> 0:42:27.920
<v Speaker 2>And it's like I live.

0:42:27.760 --> 0:42:31.560
<v Speaker 1>Here, I live here, Yeah, I live here, so let

0:42:31.560 --> 0:42:32.120
<v Speaker 1>me live here.

0:42:32.120 --> 0:42:36.440
<v Speaker 2>That's also a good title. I live here. Yes, Okay.

0:42:36.640 --> 0:42:41.400
<v Speaker 1>Let's talk about makeup artists who posts before and after

0:42:41.640 --> 0:42:43.680
<v Speaker 1>or like Durwan you know what I mean, Like, you

0:42:43.680 --> 0:42:46.160
<v Speaker 1>get your hair done now because of TikTok. There's a

0:42:46.640 --> 0:42:48.359
<v Speaker 1>camera with a ring light in your face. You get

0:42:48.400 --> 0:42:51.319
<v Speaker 1>your makeup done now, there's a camera with a ring

0:42:51.360 --> 0:42:54.520
<v Speaker 1>on it in your face. So this makeup artist posted

0:42:54.640 --> 0:42:57.640
<v Speaker 1>the process of putting Glorilla's makeup on, and then Glorilla

0:42:57.640 --> 0:42:58.279
<v Speaker 1>got mad at her.

0:42:58.480 --> 0:43:02.440
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, she posted it, and uh, you know it definitely

0:43:02.560 --> 0:43:06.200
<v Speaker 3>it didn't seem like how a lot of makeup artists

0:43:06.320 --> 0:43:09.680
<v Speaker 3>are just doing these time laps videos and it looked

0:43:09.719 --> 0:43:12.360
<v Speaker 3>really professional. This feels like, girl, you was in the

0:43:12.400 --> 0:43:17.160
<v Speaker 3>back of somebody's room just taking these videos likes yeah, bts,

0:43:17.160 --> 0:43:19.040
<v Speaker 3>But it didn't. It seemed like she did it on

0:43:19.080 --> 0:43:21.400
<v Speaker 3>an android, like I'm know, no shade, but it just

0:43:21.440 --> 0:43:25.880
<v Speaker 3>didn't seem like properly lit or like some people don't

0:43:25.880 --> 0:43:30.239
<v Speaker 3>have the BTS face. Some people you just you need

0:43:30.280 --> 0:43:32.800
<v Speaker 3>to post the finished product and that's it. I think

0:43:33.040 --> 0:43:36.320
<v Speaker 3>I'm one of those people. I don't like seeing the process.

0:43:36.440 --> 0:43:40.360
<v Speaker 3>I just post what happened. I don't, you know, because

0:43:40.560 --> 0:43:43.120
<v Speaker 3>if my hair is not right, or you know, my

0:43:43.160 --> 0:43:46.160
<v Speaker 3>eyebrows not all the way drawing in, I just don't

0:43:46.239 --> 0:43:49.520
<v Speaker 3>like that. So I think it's weird that we've become

0:43:49.920 --> 0:43:55.200
<v Speaker 3>in this world where everything is freaking content every like, girl.

0:43:55.440 --> 0:43:58.560
<v Speaker 2>Just do my nails. Why you setting up the damn tripodter?

0:43:59.000 --> 0:44:01.359
<v Speaker 2>Just do my nails right?

0:44:01.800 --> 0:44:04.640
<v Speaker 1>And so Gorilla was like, she's like I thought she

0:44:04.680 --> 0:44:06.480
<v Speaker 1>did a bad job, or not a bad job, but

0:44:06.520 --> 0:44:09.319
<v Speaker 1>she was kind of like dragging the makeup artists and

0:44:09.320 --> 0:44:10.680
<v Speaker 1>she's like, but this is weird.

0:44:10.719 --> 0:44:12.839
<v Speaker 3>I told her I was up and coming, and she

0:44:13.040 --> 0:44:14.439
<v Speaker 3>her friends that I did a good job.

0:44:14.480 --> 0:44:16.799
<v Speaker 2>But it's like, you posted this, what did you think?

0:44:16.840 --> 0:44:19.240
<v Speaker 1>She was gonna say, Well, I think the makeup artists

0:44:19.280 --> 0:44:22.000
<v Speaker 1>got what they wanted. They went viral, wed viral, and

0:44:22.040 --> 0:44:25.000
<v Speaker 1>now talking about it, and when it's the ending, the

0:44:25.120 --> 0:44:27.360
<v Speaker 1>end result, I think it looks good.

0:44:27.440 --> 0:44:28.920
<v Speaker 2>She looks like how we usually see her.

0:44:29.000 --> 0:44:31.240
<v Speaker 1>So it's like, I mean, maybe the time laps should

0:44:31.239 --> 0:44:32.879
<v Speaker 1>have been a little quicker, we shouldn't really have seen

0:44:32.880 --> 0:44:35.560
<v Speaker 1>them before that long, because I think that's what people

0:44:35.640 --> 0:44:37.200
<v Speaker 1>are are upset about.

0:44:37.480 --> 0:44:39.600
<v Speaker 3>But then there were then it was this discussion where

0:44:39.640 --> 0:44:41.960
<v Speaker 3>they were like, well, they're saying that it doesn't look

0:44:41.960 --> 0:44:45.960
<v Speaker 3>good because of Gorilla's features, like oh, because of her

0:44:46.080 --> 0:44:49.400
<v Speaker 3>nose or the way like her her jaws is shaped.

0:44:49.440 --> 0:44:52.759
<v Speaker 3>And it's like whoa, whoa, whoa, Hey, hey, it's none

0:44:52.800 --> 0:44:55.440
<v Speaker 3>of that. It's like, hey, I some of us just

0:44:55.560 --> 0:44:58.080
<v Speaker 3>feel more comfortable when it's already done.

0:44:58.200 --> 0:45:00.879
<v Speaker 2>I don't. I don't love my hands per se.

0:45:01.040 --> 0:45:04.160
<v Speaker 3>Like I hate when I'm getting my nails done and

0:45:04.200 --> 0:45:06.279
<v Speaker 3>they take a picture at the end. I'm like, I

0:45:06.360 --> 0:45:08.759
<v Speaker 3>know you're not gonna post this. My hands look kind

0:45:08.760 --> 0:45:11.840
<v Speaker 3>of kind of elder. I know you're not gonna post older.

0:45:12.200 --> 0:45:16.040
<v Speaker 1>I know that the hands are giving step bushit me sometimes,

0:45:16.160 --> 0:45:18.120
<v Speaker 1>so I know that I'm not gonna so stop taking

0:45:18.160 --> 0:45:19.959
<v Speaker 1>pictures that you're not gonna poste.

0:45:20.000 --> 0:45:21.000
<v Speaker 2>That hurts my feelings too.

0:45:21.480 --> 0:45:23.520
<v Speaker 3>People take pictures of oh they did my hair, they

0:45:23.520 --> 0:45:25.239
<v Speaker 3>did my makeup, and they don't post it. So why

0:45:25.239 --> 0:45:27.600
<v Speaker 3>did you take this picture for a reference with a

0:45:27.640 --> 0:45:29.839
<v Speaker 3>reference supposed to be online, so you don't like it.

0:45:30.040 --> 0:45:32.960
<v Speaker 2>I remember I got my my hair done at this place.

0:45:33.040 --> 0:45:38.120
<v Speaker 3>In this place, they literally post like good work or

0:45:38.160 --> 0:45:40.880
<v Speaker 3>best work work that they did that day hair.

0:45:41.200 --> 0:45:42.719
<v Speaker 2>They did my hair and.

0:45:43.520 --> 0:45:46.360
<v Speaker 3>No, it didn't look good, but they took the picture,

0:45:46.480 --> 0:45:48.239
<v Speaker 3>they did the video, and then they didn't post it.

0:45:48.280 --> 0:45:50.520
<v Speaker 3>And I was like, I wonder why. I wonder why

0:45:50.640 --> 0:45:52.200
<v Speaker 3>is that a drag on me or a drag on

0:45:52.239 --> 0:45:54.759
<v Speaker 3>you because you didn't do a good job. And then

0:45:54.800 --> 0:45:56.759
<v Speaker 3>I went back to that place and they did my

0:45:56.760 --> 0:45:57.680
<v Speaker 3>hair get and I'm waiting.

0:45:57.680 --> 0:45:59.759
<v Speaker 2>I'm waiting. I'm like, are you gonna post what's up?

0:46:00.000 --> 0:46:02.400
<v Speaker 2>You want? With your makeup done and everything? No, you

0:46:02.440 --> 0:46:04.080
<v Speaker 2>went into full beat. I did not go on a

0:46:04.080 --> 0:46:06.120
<v Speaker 2>full beat, but I had a concealer on. I had enough.

0:46:06.160 --> 0:46:08.480
<v Speaker 1>That's like, I had like a cute little track outfit

0:46:08.520 --> 0:46:10.160
<v Speaker 1>where they could have did a little video and posted

0:46:10.160 --> 0:46:10.840
<v Speaker 1>it in the stories.

0:46:10.920 --> 0:46:13.799
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, and they didn't do that. Some of us

0:46:13.840 --> 0:46:14.880
<v Speaker 2>don't want it on.

0:46:15.040 --> 0:46:16.600
<v Speaker 3>But then if you make it a thing where we're

0:46:16.640 --> 0:46:18.440
<v Speaker 3>posting everybody and then you don't post me, now I

0:46:18.480 --> 0:46:19.200
<v Speaker 3>feel some type of.

0:46:19.200 --> 0:46:22.080
<v Speaker 2>Way everything doesn't need to be content. Everything doesn't need

0:46:22.120 --> 0:46:22.680
<v Speaker 2>to be content.

0:46:22.760 --> 0:46:25.920
<v Speaker 1>You know. Yeah, I made an appointment to get When

0:46:25.920 --> 0:46:27.560
<v Speaker 1>I went made an appointment to get my hair done,

0:46:27.600 --> 0:46:29.160
<v Speaker 1>it was like at the very end, it was like,

0:46:29.520 --> 0:46:33.200
<v Speaker 1>do you consent to being on video for disappointment?

0:46:33.760 --> 0:46:34.560
<v Speaker 2>And I said yes.

0:46:35.040 --> 0:46:36.960
<v Speaker 1>And then when I got there, the camera wasn't set

0:46:37.000 --> 0:46:38.400
<v Speaker 1>up and I didn't say nothing because I was like,

0:46:38.440 --> 0:46:42.320
<v Speaker 1>actually this, people don't. I showed up looking like Samuel

0:46:42.520 --> 0:46:46.960
<v Speaker 1>Jackson in Django with the hair right here, and I said, yeah,

0:46:47.000 --> 0:46:48.600
<v Speaker 1>they didn't need to see that before cause you know,

0:46:48.760 --> 0:46:52.560
<v Speaker 1>I left my house with no hat, no bandana, no nothing,

0:46:52.600 --> 0:46:54.200
<v Speaker 1>because I was like, oh, I'm just gonna run in

0:46:54.239 --> 0:46:55.920
<v Speaker 1>and out. Yeah, I'm gonna run into the car and

0:46:55.920 --> 0:46:57.319
<v Speaker 1>then I'm ana run out when I get there. I

0:46:57.360 --> 0:46:59.520
<v Speaker 1>get there, the car drops you off around the corner

0:47:00.920 --> 0:47:05.080
<v Speaker 1>place it's rainy. He wasn't mighty is shrinking.

0:47:05.160 --> 0:47:06.600
<v Speaker 2>I looked like a young Michael.

0:47:06.400 --> 0:47:09.840
<v Speaker 1>Jackson and it was dudes on the you know, it

0:47:09.840 --> 0:47:12.399
<v Speaker 1>was dudes on the corner like looking at me while

0:47:12.400 --> 0:47:15.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to find this thing. My sister called me

0:47:15.320 --> 0:47:19.000
<v Speaker 1>on WhatsApp and she was like damn. When she picked

0:47:19.040 --> 0:47:20.920
<v Speaker 1>up and I was like, yeah, I gotta get inside.

0:47:20.960 --> 0:47:21.800
<v Speaker 2>Where is the door?

0:47:22.840 --> 0:47:25.360
<v Speaker 1>So you know, everything doesn't need to be posted, but

0:47:25.360 --> 0:47:26.960
<v Speaker 1>also you should be able to sound like a little

0:47:27.040 --> 0:47:29.239
<v Speaker 1>release or a waiver that's like I'm cool, would you

0:47:29.280 --> 0:47:30.080
<v Speaker 1>posted me? Or I'm not.

0:47:30.280 --> 0:47:30.440
<v Speaker 2>Well.

0:47:30.480 --> 0:47:33.399
<v Speaker 3>Everybody also is trying to get their workout because now

0:47:33.520 --> 0:47:37.080
<v Speaker 3>everything is like it's all social media based, like, oh,

0:47:37.160 --> 0:47:40.279
<v Speaker 3>you'll probably go to somebody based off like how many

0:47:40.320 --> 0:47:42.760
<v Speaker 3>people were commenting like oh I went here, this was great,

0:47:42.880 --> 0:47:46.759
<v Speaker 3>like or somebody recommended you, and so you know, if

0:47:46.960 --> 0:47:47.839
<v Speaker 3>if the work is.

0:47:47.800 --> 0:47:49.960
<v Speaker 2>Good and you post it, it might make people want

0:47:49.960 --> 0:47:50.200
<v Speaker 2>to go.

0:47:50.360 --> 0:47:52.720
<v Speaker 3>But I remember I went to go see my friend

0:47:53.280 --> 0:47:56.880
<v Speaker 3>to do my hair, and then at the salon somebody

0:47:56.880 --> 0:48:00.239
<v Speaker 3>else was like doing eyebrows, and so she's like, oh,

0:48:00.239 --> 0:48:02.359
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna you know, I'll get you a hookup. They'll

0:48:02.360 --> 0:48:04.680
<v Speaker 3>do your eyebrows. All you gotta do is tip them,

0:48:05.000 --> 0:48:08.799
<v Speaker 3>and so then they do my eyebrows. I said, did

0:48:08.800 --> 0:48:09.480
<v Speaker 3>you do my eyebrows?

0:48:09.520 --> 0:48:10.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I didn't.

0:48:10.239 --> 0:48:12.200
<v Speaker 2>I didn't. Really, it wasn't difference. I didn't.

0:48:12.680 --> 0:48:15.160
<v Speaker 3>It was it was fine, it wasn't terrible, but it

0:48:15.239 --> 0:48:18.120
<v Speaker 3>wasn't like it wasn't it didn't wow me. Right, I've

0:48:18.160 --> 0:48:20.960
<v Speaker 3>gone and got my eyebrows or whatever done before, and

0:48:21.000 --> 0:48:23.200
<v Speaker 3>I was like, damn, bitch, I look like a brand

0:48:23.280 --> 0:48:23.760
<v Speaker 3>new girl.

0:48:24.040 --> 0:48:27.439
<v Speaker 2>It wasn't given that. So then the friend turns around,

0:48:27.520 --> 0:48:29.439
<v Speaker 2>was like, hey, are you gonna post this person? I said,

0:48:29.480 --> 0:48:31.040
<v Speaker 2>post what what is there to post?

0:48:31.120 --> 0:48:33.880
<v Speaker 3>Like if I post this, I don't know if this

0:48:33.960 --> 0:48:36.680
<v Speaker 3>is going to bring this person any business, you know.

0:48:37.400 --> 0:48:39.560
<v Speaker 3>And so then it was kind of like, oh, well,

0:48:39.800 --> 0:48:41.319
<v Speaker 3>you know they feel some time it was like, well,

0:48:42.080 --> 0:48:44.479
<v Speaker 3>yes you did, but I gave you a good tip

0:48:44.560 --> 0:48:47.239
<v Speaker 3>or whatever. But it's also like, hey, we're in the

0:48:47.280 --> 0:48:51.120
<v Speaker 3>business of if I pay you, that's that's it.

0:48:51.160 --> 0:48:53.759
<v Speaker 2>That's the pet transaction is over. Yeah, that's it.

0:48:53.920 --> 0:48:56.719
<v Speaker 3>Like I don't I don't have to tag everybody. I

0:48:56.719 --> 0:48:58.239
<v Speaker 3>don't even tag friends of.

0:48:58.200 --> 0:48:58.920
<v Speaker 2>Mine who.

0:49:00.719 --> 0:49:06.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, the tagging thing is m m yeah yeah, because

0:49:06.520 --> 0:49:09.040
<v Speaker 1>like I'm tagging you for is this a sponsored post?

0:49:09.400 --> 0:49:11.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Because we're making money. That's the thing.

0:49:11.719 --> 0:49:15.680
<v Speaker 3>It's like, right now, this is the business of everything

0:49:16.360 --> 0:49:18.840
<v Speaker 3>is could be payment in a way, like if you

0:49:18.880 --> 0:49:21.600
<v Speaker 3>have followers, if you have people who come to your shows,

0:49:22.440 --> 0:49:24.879
<v Speaker 3>like fans that are that ride or die that if

0:49:24.880 --> 0:49:28.319
<v Speaker 3>you post that they're pulling up. So it's like, yeah,

0:49:28.480 --> 0:49:30.839
<v Speaker 3>I want obviously want people to get business, but also

0:49:30.920 --> 0:49:32.080
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, if I paid.

0:49:31.840 --> 0:49:34.200
<v Speaker 2>You, that's the business you got my coins.

0:49:34.280 --> 0:49:38.320
<v Speaker 1>No, but if I'm if I'm paying you for service,

0:49:39.360 --> 0:49:41.680
<v Speaker 1>then that's And if somebody asked me like where did

0:49:41.680 --> 0:49:44.479
<v Speaker 1>you get that or what is that, I'll tell them.

0:49:44.760 --> 0:49:47.799
<v Speaker 1>But I'm not making a post for you on the

0:49:47.840 --> 0:49:50.120
<v Speaker 1>page that says I went here and thank you for

0:49:50.320 --> 0:49:54.880
<v Speaker 1>like this, like people brands pay for that, people spend

0:49:54.960 --> 0:49:56.960
<v Speaker 1>money for that, Like you want me to send you

0:49:57.040 --> 0:49:57.600
<v Speaker 1>my rate card?

0:50:00.600 --> 0:50:01.680
<v Speaker 2>Oh that was that.

0:50:02.080 --> 0:50:04.640
<v Speaker 3>It's crazy because that's an that's a part of this

0:50:04.800 --> 0:50:10.520
<v Speaker 3>messy or living segment. This guy who is a like

0:50:10.719 --> 0:50:14.359
<v Speaker 3>computer tech or whatever, like fixes computers. He's like, am

0:50:14.440 --> 0:50:17.120
<v Speaker 3>I a bad person because my niece wants me to

0:50:17.160 --> 0:50:20.680
<v Speaker 3>fix the computer for free? And it's like, hey, I

0:50:20.719 --> 0:50:24.040
<v Speaker 3>already I hooked you up before. This is my actual job.

0:50:24.680 --> 0:50:25.640
<v Speaker 2>You have to pay me.

0:50:25.920 --> 0:50:28.960
<v Speaker 3>And it's like this is not mess creating a boundary

0:50:29.000 --> 0:50:29.960
<v Speaker 3>with people that's.

0:50:29.880 --> 0:50:30.920
<v Speaker 2>Like, this is my job.

0:50:31.640 --> 0:50:35.080
<v Speaker 1>You need to give me money, right, maybe not full price,

0:50:35.560 --> 0:50:36.840
<v Speaker 1>but you need to give me something.

0:50:37.440 --> 0:50:37.520
<v Speaker 4>No.

0:50:37.800 --> 0:50:40.200
<v Speaker 3>I think he was like, hey, I didn't, I didn't

0:50:40.200 --> 0:50:43.800
<v Speaker 3>hooked you up enough. This is a your whatever happened

0:50:43.840 --> 0:50:47.920
<v Speaker 3>when your computer is way beyond repair, like you really

0:50:47.960 --> 0:50:50.080
<v Speaker 3>need to if you want me to work on it.

0:50:50.120 --> 0:50:54.520
<v Speaker 2>I need my full fee fee because it's not easy

0:50:54.680 --> 0:50:56.920
<v Speaker 2>to fix a computer. I know I can't fix the computer.

0:50:57.160 --> 0:50:57.640
<v Speaker 2>I'll be hit.

0:50:57.719 --> 0:51:00.880
<v Speaker 3>I'll be leaning on that power button hoping it restarts,

0:51:00.880 --> 0:51:03.279
<v Speaker 3>and I'm like, and it comes back right.

0:51:03.520 --> 0:51:06.400
<v Speaker 1>I pray you'll be hoping that that little globe doesn't

0:51:06.400 --> 0:51:08.680
<v Speaker 1>pop up when you restart the laptop.

0:51:09.239 --> 0:51:12.200
<v Speaker 3>When the little time the time thing comes up and

0:51:12.200 --> 0:51:14.640
<v Speaker 3>it's like, oh the hour glass that when that hour

0:51:14.680 --> 0:51:18.160
<v Speaker 3>glass show up, Hey, you might gone to the genius

0:51:18.200 --> 0:51:19.279
<v Speaker 3>bar because your ship is done.

0:51:19.360 --> 0:51:22.200
<v Speaker 1>I did date a little nerd a little nerdy dude

0:51:22.840 --> 0:51:24.799
<v Speaker 1>for a little while, and anytime I had any type

0:51:24.800 --> 0:51:27.560
<v Speaker 1>of issue with tech or whatever, I would text him

0:51:27.560 --> 0:51:29.600
<v Speaker 1>and or call him young and what he said, he

0:51:29.640 --> 0:51:34.040
<v Speaker 1>would do it. He would try, Well, what was you was?

0:51:34.080 --> 0:51:35.239
<v Speaker 1>You were y'all hook it up?

0:51:35.480 --> 0:51:38.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I was literally I was literally sitting on him.

0:51:39.200 --> 0:51:40.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah he was fixed.

0:51:40.760 --> 0:51:44.000
<v Speaker 3>Listen, now, if I didn't hit you off with some

0:51:44.120 --> 0:51:46.759
<v Speaker 3>good good you will not be getting a dime for me.

0:51:46.880 --> 0:51:48.960
<v Speaker 2>Oh baby, that is the payment. Hey, can you come

0:51:49.000 --> 0:51:51.200
<v Speaker 2>pick up my laptop? It's not working, miss you.

0:51:52.480 --> 0:51:54.680
<v Speaker 1>I love that for you. No, I mean it's you know,

0:51:55.320 --> 0:51:57.640
<v Speaker 1>it's it's dead and gone. But you know, we went,

0:51:57.680 --> 0:51:59.719
<v Speaker 1>we've been through that. He's no longer my genius bar.

0:52:01.120 --> 0:52:05.400
<v Speaker 2>It's no longer my genius. Part is that's great. Okay.

0:52:05.520 --> 0:52:07.960
<v Speaker 3>So here's another one. This is This is from a

0:52:08.000 --> 0:52:12.319
<v Speaker 3>minute ago. But it was really interesting because I was

0:52:12.360 --> 0:52:16.680
<v Speaker 3>really surprised by this. Actually, Whoopy Goldberg was celebrating her

0:52:16.680 --> 0:52:20.919
<v Speaker 3>birthday and she ordered like these specific like cakes from

0:52:20.920 --> 0:52:23.120
<v Speaker 3>this bakery and it was like her, you know, a

0:52:23.160 --> 0:52:25.399
<v Speaker 3>big birthday, and she you know, put in the order.

0:52:25.480 --> 0:52:28.240
<v Speaker 3>I think she even said her name, and the bakery

0:52:29.680 --> 0:52:31.839
<v Speaker 3>was like, oh, we can't do the cakes or blah

0:52:31.840 --> 0:52:35.160
<v Speaker 3>blah blah, like we can't accommodate you or something of

0:52:35.200 --> 0:52:39.719
<v Speaker 3>that sort. And so she, she being probably WHOOPI Gober,

0:52:39.840 --> 0:52:42.600
<v Speaker 3>was like, huh, I wonder why they can't accommodate me.

0:52:42.680 --> 0:52:45.160
<v Speaker 2>This is weird. So then she got somebody else to

0:52:45.200 --> 0:52:48.839
<v Speaker 2>do the order through another name, and they was able

0:52:48.840 --> 0:52:51.359
<v Speaker 2>to accommodate her. So then she goes on.

0:52:51.360 --> 0:52:56.120
<v Speaker 3>To view and says what happened, And basically they found

0:52:56.200 --> 0:52:59.959
<v Speaker 3>out who this bakery was, and all hell broke loose.

0:53:00.560 --> 0:53:03.920
<v Speaker 3>I think the bakery like even is like suing her

0:53:04.000 --> 0:53:05.080
<v Speaker 3>for deformation or whatever.

0:53:05.080 --> 0:53:07.080
<v Speaker 2>But she said their name. She never said their name.

0:53:07.120 --> 0:53:07.960
<v Speaker 2>She never said her name.

0:53:08.960 --> 0:53:13.279
<v Speaker 3>But I I would like to be like, woop be

0:53:13.719 --> 0:53:15.719
<v Speaker 3>I'm not going around. I know she was trying to

0:53:15.719 --> 0:53:18.240
<v Speaker 3>be petty, but it's like, oh, you just not getting

0:53:18.239 --> 0:53:19.280
<v Speaker 3>my business.

0:53:18.840 --> 0:53:20.200
<v Speaker 2>Like I was about to hit you off.

0:53:20.320 --> 0:53:23.120
<v Speaker 3>And if you're if your cakes are popping, you could

0:53:23.160 --> 0:53:25.920
<v Speaker 3>get more promo. But she said that she thinks that

0:53:25.960 --> 0:53:27.319
<v Speaker 3>they didn't want to do her cakes. Is they don't

0:53:27.320 --> 0:53:28.760
<v Speaker 3>believe in her political views?

0:53:29.160 --> 0:53:33.640
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, maybe you know.

0:53:33.719 --> 0:53:35.799
<v Speaker 2>She does have a pretty loud view on the view.

0:53:35.960 --> 0:53:37.799
<v Speaker 2>The view is the view she'd be viewing on the

0:53:38.560 --> 0:53:39.960
<v Speaker 2>she got a view on the view. Don't nobody you

0:53:40.080 --> 0:53:42.160
<v Speaker 2>like whoopy views? Whoopy is going to have a view.

0:53:42.200 --> 0:53:45.200
<v Speaker 2>Whoopy has a view. The Whoope view is for real,

0:53:45.280 --> 0:53:45.839
<v Speaker 2>the Whoopie view.

0:53:46.000 --> 0:53:52.759
<v Speaker 1>Like this, it's an all cap view. I think that we.

0:53:52.520 --> 0:53:55.480
<v Speaker 3>Go to the internet for so many things like if

0:53:55.480 --> 0:53:58.160
<v Speaker 3>somebody do you wrong, if you in a barrelly you're like,

0:53:58.200 --> 0:54:00.800
<v Speaker 3>I'm anna go live, or I'm a post on TikTok

0:54:01.000 --> 0:54:03.719
<v Speaker 3>yah or or I have a TV show, I'm gonna

0:54:03.719 --> 0:54:05.239
<v Speaker 3>talk about it, or we on the podcast we're gonna

0:54:05.280 --> 0:54:08.920
<v Speaker 3>drag them. And it's like, when is there a line

0:54:08.960 --> 0:54:12.839
<v Speaker 3>where you're like, actually, let's not let's not do that.

0:54:13.320 --> 0:54:15.560
<v Speaker 1>Why should there be a line. We live in a

0:54:15.560 --> 0:54:19.040
<v Speaker 1>time where everybody's sharing everything about themselves. So what happened

0:54:19.080 --> 0:54:19.920
<v Speaker 1>at your birthday party?

0:54:20.000 --> 0:54:20.080
<v Speaker 2>Like?

0:54:20.120 --> 0:54:25.120
<v Speaker 1>Show us like what's up and something? And I'll say this, Murray,

0:54:25.120 --> 0:54:25.799
<v Speaker 1>would you like that?

0:54:26.080 --> 0:54:29.040
<v Speaker 3>If somebody comes to I don't know, your comedy show

0:54:29.040 --> 0:54:31.000
<v Speaker 3>and they felt some type of way then they got online,

0:54:31.120 --> 0:54:33.239
<v Speaker 3>was like a you want that?

0:54:33.440 --> 0:54:36.880
<v Speaker 2>Well what they say? What are you talking about? They

0:54:36.920 --> 0:54:37.880
<v Speaker 2>didn't have a good time.

0:54:38.160 --> 0:54:40.840
<v Speaker 1>She caught me ugly. Well that's the brand, bab. I

0:54:40.960 --> 0:54:44.279
<v Speaker 1>call everybody at the shows ugly and or poor. So

0:54:44.880 --> 0:54:47.160
<v Speaker 1>you know I've done that in theaters with thousands of

0:54:47.160 --> 0:54:48.839
<v Speaker 1>people in it. I'll be like, hey, ugly and they'd

0:54:48.880 --> 0:54:51.719
<v Speaker 1>be like, we are ugly. So if you come into

0:54:51.760 --> 0:54:53.279
<v Speaker 1>the show, that's what you're gonna get. But it's we're

0:54:53.280 --> 0:54:56.879
<v Speaker 1>gonna be entertained. I think a lot of times we're

0:54:56.920 --> 0:54:59.440
<v Speaker 1>posting stuff on socials and blah blah blah, but we're

0:54:59.440 --> 0:55:03.880
<v Speaker 1>not naming n but the people who watch dig and

0:55:03.920 --> 0:55:06.000
<v Speaker 1>then they find the thing or the person that you're

0:55:06.000 --> 0:55:08.520
<v Speaker 1>talking about, and now it's a problem. But I didn't

0:55:08.520 --> 0:55:11.880
<v Speaker 1>say your name, you know, like when Resa Tisa was

0:55:11.920 --> 0:55:16.080
<v Speaker 1>giving us her whole seventy two part thing, she never

0:55:16.160 --> 0:55:20.040
<v Speaker 1>said Legion's real name. I thought she but she she

0:55:20.160 --> 0:55:21.200
<v Speaker 1>never said his name.

0:55:21.320 --> 0:55:23.759
<v Speaker 3>She called him, but she just called him Legion. She

0:55:23.800 --> 0:55:26.399
<v Speaker 3>called him Leegion, but that wasn't his real name.

0:55:26.560 --> 0:55:26.759
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:55:27.040 --> 0:55:30.239
<v Speaker 1>And the girl who was dating the guy from the

0:55:30.239 --> 0:55:33.120
<v Speaker 1>Man from Atlanta, she never said his name. She said,

0:55:33.120 --> 0:55:35.319
<v Speaker 1>the man from Atlanta gave me this baby and left

0:55:35.320 --> 0:55:37.879
<v Speaker 1>me high and dry, and then he took it upon

0:55:37.960 --> 0:55:40.239
<v Speaker 1>himself to make a response video. And it's like you

0:55:40.239 --> 0:55:43.920
<v Speaker 1>could have been anonymous. Like I think Legion came out

0:55:43.960 --> 0:55:44.800
<v Speaker 1>and spoke out.

0:55:44.680 --> 0:55:46.280
<v Speaker 2>About what's her face?

0:55:46.400 --> 0:55:50.000
<v Speaker 1>That guy who did the Netflix show Baby Reindeer, the

0:55:50.040 --> 0:55:53.160
<v Speaker 1>woman came out and said that she was assuming him.

0:55:53.440 --> 0:55:57.240
<v Speaker 2>He didn't use her real name. Everybody is watching.

0:55:56.840 --> 0:55:58.960
<v Speaker 1>These things and hearing these things and seeing this stuff

0:55:58.960 --> 0:56:01.120
<v Speaker 1>go viral, and they're like, well, I want a piece

0:56:01.160 --> 0:56:03.040
<v Speaker 1>of that pie. And it's like you could have just

0:56:03.600 --> 0:56:06.759
<v Speaker 1>been embarrassed in the shadows, but you wanted to I

0:56:06.760 --> 0:56:07.160
<v Speaker 1>don't know.

0:56:07.480 --> 0:56:11.600
<v Speaker 3>Embarrassed in the shadows is it's a tough one, embarrassed

0:56:11.600 --> 0:56:14.279
<v Speaker 3>in the embarrassing in the shadows, because you're just like

0:56:14.480 --> 0:56:18.480
<v Speaker 3>I want, I want to clear my name, but you

0:56:18.520 --> 0:56:20.840
<v Speaker 3>don't need to. We don't know who you are until

0:56:20.880 --> 0:56:22.920
<v Speaker 3>you tell us who I know who I am, and

0:56:22.960 --> 0:56:24.959
<v Speaker 3>I need. I can't sleep at night because you didn't

0:56:25.040 --> 0:56:27.480
<v Speaker 3>drag me from Selma and back.

0:56:27.640 --> 0:56:31.359
<v Speaker 1>But now you're embarrassed in the light. Wouldn't you rather

0:56:31.440 --> 0:56:32.600
<v Speaker 1>be embarrassed in the shadows.

0:56:32.640 --> 0:56:35.360
<v Speaker 2>But the thing is is that you know the people online.

0:56:35.680 --> 0:56:40.120
<v Speaker 3>They are better private investigators than the private investigators when

0:56:40.160 --> 0:56:42.320
<v Speaker 3>I tell you, they get on their zoom, they find

0:56:42.360 --> 0:56:45.319
<v Speaker 3>out who you're talking about. Okay, if you do a

0:56:45.360 --> 0:56:48.560
<v Speaker 3>little like you do a story time and you post

0:56:48.920 --> 0:56:52.040
<v Speaker 3>like a little corner of a rest, they already know

0:56:52.120 --> 0:56:55.279
<v Speaker 3>the restaurant, they know the coordinates, they know who is

0:56:55.320 --> 0:56:56.120
<v Speaker 3>a chef that night.

0:56:56.520 --> 0:56:58.040
<v Speaker 2>People are wild.

0:56:58.719 --> 0:57:00.840
<v Speaker 3>So it's like you do kind of have to be

0:57:00.920 --> 0:57:04.759
<v Speaker 3>careful with the way you present something because even if

0:57:04.760 --> 0:57:07.280
<v Speaker 3>you don't say their name, we could do context clues.

0:57:07.280 --> 0:57:08.000
<v Speaker 2>We're not done.

0:57:08.120 --> 0:57:10.319
<v Speaker 3>We live in New York City and I think she

0:57:10.400 --> 0:57:13.480
<v Speaker 3>came on the show and brought the actual case and

0:57:13.560 --> 0:57:16.240
<v Speaker 3>they make the case specifically a certain way, and they

0:57:16.240 --> 0:57:20.040
<v Speaker 3>were like, you bringing your product on our show and

0:57:20.080 --> 0:57:22.560
<v Speaker 3>then saying that we didn't like you because blah blah blah.

0:57:22.600 --> 0:57:25.560
<v Speaker 3>Now I love that. She's like, I have a show,

0:57:25.640 --> 0:57:30.520
<v Speaker 3>How dare you not service me? You're insane? Actually I'm

0:57:30.560 --> 0:57:31.200
<v Speaker 3>not mad at that.

0:57:31.800 --> 0:57:36.960
<v Speaker 1>Whoopy said, let me eat cake lets of marine antoinette.

0:57:37.040 --> 0:57:57.000
<v Speaker 2>She did what she needed to do. Should we read

0:57:57.000 --> 0:57:57.600
<v Speaker 2>a message?

0:57:57.800 --> 0:58:01.800
<v Speaker 1>Yes, finally messages, got all messages, Let's do it.

0:58:01.840 --> 0:58:02.800
<v Speaker 2>Woo Okay.

0:58:02.920 --> 0:58:08.560
<v Speaker 1>The first one is titled Xes and Double Standards BS. Hey, ladies,

0:58:09.360 --> 0:58:11.480
<v Speaker 1>I've got some mess for you and could really use

0:58:11.520 --> 0:58:14.040
<v Speaker 1>some advice. I've been following you for years and I'm

0:58:14.080 --> 0:58:16.200
<v Speaker 1>so happy for your success and all the positive vibes

0:58:16.200 --> 0:58:16.560
<v Speaker 1>you put out.

0:58:16.600 --> 0:58:23.920
<v Speaker 2>You say, that's the name positive vibes. So's ugly vibes. No. So,

0:58:24.000 --> 0:58:24.520
<v Speaker 2>here's the thing.

0:58:24.880 --> 0:58:26.600
<v Speaker 1>I've got a lot of mess in my life and

0:58:26.640 --> 0:58:28.200
<v Speaker 1>I think it's all material for therapy.

0:58:28.320 --> 0:58:30.200
<v Speaker 2>But this one is juicy and I need your insight.

0:58:30.440 --> 0:58:30.560
<v Speaker 4>Now.

0:58:30.560 --> 0:58:31.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't think you're.

0:58:31.280 --> 0:58:35.600
<v Speaker 1>Supposed to view your life as material for therapy, but all.

0:58:35.360 --> 0:58:38.160
<v Speaker 2>That means you definitely need therapy. If you think your

0:58:38.320 --> 0:58:40.720
<v Speaker 2>your stuff is material, are you a comedian? Because I

0:58:40.720 --> 0:58:44.880
<v Speaker 2>actually I do like my therapy as materials. Okay.

0:58:45.240 --> 0:58:47.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm remarried with a baby, and I've been with my

0:58:47.840 --> 0:58:49.040
<v Speaker 1>husband for almost four years.

0:58:49.080 --> 0:58:51.440
<v Speaker 2>He's also divorced, Okay, adults.

0:58:51.720 --> 0:58:54.000
<v Speaker 1>He still keeps in touch with his ex, though it's

0:58:54.120 --> 0:58:56.600
<v Speaker 1>much less frequent now. I think she finally got the

0:58:56.680 --> 0:58:58.600
<v Speaker 1>hint that he's moved on and needs to get on.

0:58:58.600 --> 0:58:59.960
<v Speaker 2>With her life for her content.

0:59:00.520 --> 0:59:03.440
<v Speaker 1>She's white, okay, though I mentioned this because I do

0:59:03.480 --> 0:59:05.360
<v Speaker 1>feel like some of this behavior might be cultural.

0:59:05.800 --> 0:59:07.560
<v Speaker 2>Okay, because you know how they do.

0:59:08.960 --> 0:59:11.440
<v Speaker 1>In the past, she would randomly message him for all

0:59:11.480 --> 0:59:14.040
<v Speaker 1>sorts of reasons, catching up, talking about her pet, complaining

0:59:14.040 --> 0:59:16.720
<v Speaker 1>about it, hert toe, even needing help with.

0:59:16.800 --> 0:59:18.960
<v Speaker 2>Spotify to access old playlists.

0:59:19.200 --> 0:59:21.320
<v Speaker 1>I get it, some people can stay friends with their exes,

0:59:21.320 --> 0:59:24.520
<v Speaker 1>but what really bothers me from an independent feminist perspective

0:59:24.640 --> 0:59:27.080
<v Speaker 1>is the lack of respect she seems to have. She

0:59:27.200 --> 0:59:29.960
<v Speaker 1>mentioned how much she misses spending time with him, his family,

0:59:29.960 --> 0:59:33.000
<v Speaker 1>and their old trips together. Ooh, she wanted an old

0:59:33.000 --> 0:59:35.880
<v Speaker 1>thing back. If I were in her shoes, I wouldn't

0:59:35.880 --> 0:59:37.920
<v Speaker 1>be reaching out like that. I have too much pride.

0:59:38.200 --> 0:59:40.200
<v Speaker 1>If someone divorced me, I want to move on and

0:59:40.240 --> 0:59:41.760
<v Speaker 1>not keep clinging to the past.

0:59:42.120 --> 0:59:44.600
<v Speaker 2>Honestly, I dropped the last name too.

0:59:45.120 --> 0:59:46.720
<v Speaker 1>If I was dumped, the last thing I want is

0:59:46.720 --> 0:59:49.400
<v Speaker 1>a reminder of that relationship. But what really gets me

0:59:49.880 --> 0:59:52.400
<v Speaker 1>is that if she's okay with staying friends and reaching out,

0:59:52.560 --> 0:59:55.960
<v Speaker 1>then I should be included in the conversation, especially.

0:59:55.600 --> 0:59:57.439
<v Speaker 2>Not her wanted to be added to a group chat.

0:59:57.520 --> 0:59:59.800
<v Speaker 1>She want to be the third god damn, she said,

1:00:00.200 --> 1:00:05.120
<v Speaker 1>me and coach, especially when she once practically harassed him

1:00:05.120 --> 1:00:07.360
<v Speaker 1>into staying at her place for wine and cookies.

1:00:07.880 --> 1:00:10.000
<v Speaker 2>He got weirded out by that and stopped engaging.

1:00:10.040 --> 1:00:12.480
<v Speaker 1>And I think she finally got the message she's trying

1:00:12.480 --> 1:00:15.919
<v Speaker 1>to bang your man. Sis yes, and she's like, girl,

1:00:15.960 --> 1:00:17.840
<v Speaker 1>you can't tell him trying to bang your man, stop

1:00:17.880 --> 1:00:19.560
<v Speaker 1>getting in between cookies.

1:00:19.600 --> 1:00:24.640
<v Speaker 2>Woo woo pairs well with chocolate chip? Should lee like, girl? What? Yes?

1:00:24.760 --> 1:00:28.320
<v Speaker 1>You have a little burlow and a double chocolate little

1:00:28.320 --> 1:00:29.160
<v Speaker 1>sugar cookie and.

1:00:29.680 --> 1:00:33.680
<v Speaker 2>Sugar cookie and Gruner is merch. Now fast forward.

1:00:33.920 --> 1:00:36.040
<v Speaker 1>He needed to return some of her stuff, and he

1:00:36.120 --> 1:00:38.800
<v Speaker 1>was surprised by her cold response and that she didn't

1:00:38.800 --> 1:00:41.760
<v Speaker 1>even want to ask about his new baby. Instead, he

1:00:41.800 --> 1:00:44.400
<v Speaker 1>goes on to tell me how good and healthy she looks.

1:00:45.000 --> 1:00:46.800
<v Speaker 1>If I said something like that about my ex, who,

1:00:46.800 --> 1:00:49.960
<v Speaker 1>by the way, worked out every day, he would totally

1:00:49.960 --> 1:00:52.439
<v Speaker 1>take offense and get jealous. But when I poke fun

1:00:52.480 --> 1:00:55.080
<v Speaker 1>of him reacting to his story, I am expected to

1:00:55.160 --> 1:00:57.960
<v Speaker 1>just NodD along. I've seen her picks from the messages

1:00:57.960 --> 1:01:00.720
<v Speaker 1>he has shared with me how he has described her.

1:01:00.760 --> 1:01:03.760
<v Speaker 1>And I know I'm beautiful and tough as concrete, but

1:01:03.800 --> 1:01:06.120
<v Speaker 1>it's the principle and the double standard that bothers me.

1:01:06.200 --> 1:01:08.480
<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean. It's exhausting having to explain

1:01:08.520 --> 1:01:10.920
<v Speaker 1>this over and over to him anyway, reading it, it's

1:01:11.000 --> 1:01:16.680
<v Speaker 1>under three minutes love you girls. So yeah, sis, she

1:01:16.680 --> 1:01:20.560
<v Speaker 1>she's trying to hook up with Yobo and why she Wait,

1:01:20.640 --> 1:01:23.160
<v Speaker 1>he didn't want you to talk about weight. He was

1:01:23.200 --> 1:01:26.400
<v Speaker 1>telling you how good she looks. What's I don't like

1:01:26.480 --> 1:01:27.800
<v Speaker 1>none of this?

1:01:27.800 --> 1:01:31.240
<v Speaker 3>This is mess obviously, And and sister, you know that

1:01:31.240 --> 1:01:33.320
<v Speaker 3>that's why you wrote this to us.

1:01:33.680 --> 1:01:36.640
<v Speaker 2>This is this is all on. This is how you

1:01:37.480 --> 1:01:38.160
<v Speaker 2>can handle this.

1:01:38.360 --> 1:01:42.720
<v Speaker 3>I think as somebody who I famously am cool with

1:01:42.720 --> 1:01:47.439
<v Speaker 3>my exes as a lesbian, but as a person who

1:01:48.400 --> 1:01:50.800
<v Speaker 3>you know, understands boundaries.

1:01:51.400 --> 1:01:57.760
<v Speaker 2>I feel like he knows this is this is his mess.

1:01:58.200 --> 1:01:59.560
<v Speaker 2>He needs to fix this.

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<v Speaker 3>He needs to either tell her, Hey, you're close to

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<v Speaker 3>getting blocked.

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<v Speaker 2>My wife doesn't like this. This is not cool.

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<v Speaker 3>You have to contact me during business hours that's ten

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<v Speaker 3>am to five pm. After that, there's no moss. Hey,

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<v Speaker 3>what do you need? What are we doing here? Like

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<v Speaker 3>you're just trying to chitchat? Yeah, we can't be chit chat?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it? Like? Is it my birthday? Your birthday? Like?

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<v Speaker 2>Did your mom die?

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<v Speaker 4>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>What's up?

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<v Speaker 3>Like we're on a need to know basis every six months.

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<v Speaker 3>This can't be a every month week. Why that's your

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<v Speaker 3>toe hurt? She WoT him my toe her because you

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<v Speaker 3>need to be back in my life. That's what she's

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<v Speaker 3>trying to say.

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<v Speaker 2>You could heal my toe with a little bit of yo. No,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm getting you know, the remedy for our toe that yeah, exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>So this is as much as you're getting upset, this

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<v Speaker 3>is on him. You can't you can't even get mad

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<v Speaker 3>at her because it's not he's not putting his foot down.

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<v Speaker 3>She might not know how weird this is if he's

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<v Speaker 3>not telling her, or if she's not even if he's

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<v Speaker 3>telling her it's weird and she's not respecting that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he needs to block you. I don't do they

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<v Speaker 2>They don't have kids together, do they? No?

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<v Speaker 1>I think so.

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<v Speaker 2>They're just they just used to be. Tell him to

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<v Speaker 2>block her and see and then tell us what then?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, get back to us on that, because this is

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<v Speaker 3>unacceptable and I'm I'm fully against. If you don't like

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<v Speaker 3>it at all, then he shouldn't love it.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, he shouldn't. I don't like it. He shouldn't love it. Nope, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>here's another one. Where is it at? Okay? Looking for advice?

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<v Speaker 2>Hey sid Marie, longtime listener, first time emailer. Here's the deal.

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<v Speaker 3>A few months ago, I found myself in a pretty

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<v Speaker 3>complicated spot. I'm in a relationship that started off amazing,

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<v Speaker 3>but over time it became more and more tangled.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll call him James for the sake of clarity.

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<v Speaker 3>He's a great person and I love him, but we're

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<v Speaker 3>just not clicking like we used to. To make things worse,

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<v Speaker 3>I recently realize that I'm starting to develop feelings for

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<v Speaker 3>someone else, Evan. Evan, you know, I'm not mad at

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<v Speaker 3>men would ease you know. Evan is someone I met

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<v Speaker 3>through work and we became close friends. It wasn't intentional,

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<v Speaker 3>but as time has gone on, my feelings for him

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<v Speaker 3>have only gotten stronger, and it's been confusing. I've tried

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<v Speaker 3>to push it down, tell myself it's just a phase,

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<v Speaker 3>but I can't ignore it anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's where it.

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<v Speaker 3>Gets even messier. I don't want to hurt James, and

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<v Speaker 3>hurt him no, I'm kidding. He's such a kind and

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<v Speaker 3>loving person and I don't want to be the one

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<v Speaker 3>who ends things. But on the other hand, I feel

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<v Speaker 3>like I'm not being fair to him, staying in a

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<v Speaker 3>relationship where I'm not fully invested anymore. And on top

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<v Speaker 3>of that, I feel like I'm betraying him by having

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<v Speaker 3>feelings for someone else. I've talked talking to my friends

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<v Speaker 3>about it, but their advice has been all over the place.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, you know how your friends are.

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<v Speaker 3>You know when you tell your friends what they gonna

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<v Speaker 3>tell you, it is usually stuff that you can't use.

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<v Speaker 3>Some think I should be honest with James, while others

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<v Speaker 3>tell me I should take a step back and sort

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<v Speaker 3>out my feelings before making any decision. Here's the part

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<v Speaker 3>that has me really stuck. What if I'm just chasing

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<v Speaker 3>something that isn't real? What if this thing with Evan

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<v Speaker 3>is just a distraction or worse, something I'm imagining to

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<v Speaker 3>avoid facing the issues with James.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel so lost.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to hurt anyone, but I can't keep

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<v Speaker 3>going like this either. Ooh the drama girl, you're writing

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<v Speaker 3>this down? Thank you so much. How do I figure

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<v Speaker 3>out whether I'm truly unhappy in my current relationship or

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<v Speaker 3>if I'm just confused?

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<v Speaker 2>And what do I even do if I decide to

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<v Speaker 2>end things with James?

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<v Speaker 3>How do I even handle that kind of conversation without

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<v Speaker 3>causing irreversible damage? I know I'm not the only one.

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<v Speaker 3>I know I'm not the only one who can make

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<v Speaker 3>the decision, but I'm really struggling with where to go

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<v Speaker 3>from here.

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<v Speaker 2>Any advice would be helpful.

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<v Speaker 1>Love you' so James, But they like Evan, but they

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if Evan likes them.

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<v Speaker 2>Mh they you know.

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<v Speaker 3>It's that thing when you're like, I'm she might be

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<v Speaker 3>getting something from Evan that she's not getting from James,

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<v Speaker 3>so it feels more intense than what it really is.

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<v Speaker 1>Evan could just be like, yo, I'm just I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>chilling with my homie like I usually do.

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<v Speaker 3>But he's you know, writing back, maybe a little bit quicker,

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<v Speaker 3>or you know, making plans and things of the source.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's making her feel like.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, we might got something going on, but you probably

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<v Speaker 3>are just it's probably just a distraction.

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<v Speaker 2>But regardless of that, it's like you got it in

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<v Speaker 2>one thing to do something else.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's clear that your heart is not with James,

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<v Speaker 3>so you should move on.

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<v Speaker 2>Time is time is precious? Well, hold on, hold on,

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<v Speaker 2>don't tell them to move on too quick. Do you

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<v Speaker 2>live with James?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, you're asking James paying the rent?

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<v Speaker 2>What where does Evan work? How do we know Evan?

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<v Speaker 1>From church? From school? From Does he live in the building? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>because if you leave James, you moveing in with Evan?

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<v Speaker 2>Like what? What? Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>But it says James is a great person and I

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<v Speaker 1>love him, but we're just not clicking like we used to.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it like James has gotten comfortable he not planning

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<v Speaker 1>date nights?

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<v Speaker 2>No more? Like is that a conversation that can happen

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<v Speaker 2>and then we can?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but you know, we get it, James, And you

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<v Speaker 3>look at them at the sad of your eye, you're

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<v Speaker 3>like like that, like if that and that happens, that

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<v Speaker 3>happens where you don't where you fall out of love

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<v Speaker 3>with somebody and you be looking at them like why

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<v Speaker 3>did I even talk to you?

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<v Speaker 2>If you feel like that, that's.

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<v Speaker 3>Gonna be hard to come back from. I'm not even

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<v Speaker 3>gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it is when you got that fucking ich where

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<v Speaker 1>you're like, how how did this start?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not involved.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, that's how I know when something is over, Like

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<v Speaker 1>when they start to look ugly to me, I'd be like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh okay, I'm done it, and.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, we gotta I think we got to move past this.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to hurt nobody. Hey, we grown people. Feelings,

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<v Speaker 3>they gonna get hurt. We we're at the age where

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<v Speaker 3>when just because your feelings hurt is hurt. It doesn't

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<v Speaker 3>mean that what happened didn't need to happen. Listen, feelings

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<v Speaker 3>are gonna get hurt. But you know what hurts more

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<v Speaker 3>wasting that person's time.

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<v Speaker 2>That is always gonna hurt. The longer you.

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<v Speaker 1>Take to rip the band aid off, or the longer

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<v Speaker 1>you take to realize what you want or don't want,

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<v Speaker 1>the more that person is gonna be invested, so you

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<v Speaker 1>gotta let them go.

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<v Speaker 3>It seems like, or maybe at least tell James like, hey,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not feeling X Y and Z.

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<v Speaker 2>Can you work on this?

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<v Speaker 3>Like give James a head out before you head out,

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<v Speaker 3>like a little you know, you say, you're.

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<v Speaker 2>James head out?

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<v Speaker 3>No no, no oh, before you before you head out,

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<v Speaker 3>give James a little you know, performance update.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey a performance review.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you know you're you're right now, you're at a seven.

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<v Speaker 3>You're at a seven, more like a six. You're at

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<v Speaker 3>a six. No, you gotta start.

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<v Speaker 1>It's got to be like a like a like a compliment, sandwich,

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<v Speaker 1>startup top. Something you love about James, Hey, babe, you

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<v Speaker 1>know I really love that you're kind and loving. You're

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<v Speaker 1>kind and loving and I love you. But you know,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes it seems like you take me for granted. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm in here cooking. You got me making alfredo every

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<v Speaker 1>day or whatever the hell you're cooking over there. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what you making, friend, you got me cooking,

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<v Speaker 1>and I feel like you're taking you know, I just

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I'm not being appreciated, or I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>we're not clicking how we used to, you know, is

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<v Speaker 1>that something and then with a little or maybe it's

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<v Speaker 1>just open face. The compliment is at the top and

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<v Speaker 1>then the sandwiches insults at the butt.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know whatever, but should we talk to Evan

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<v Speaker 2>at all?

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<v Speaker 3>Don't tell Evan we talked because I have nothing to

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<v Speaker 3>do with Evan, because it's like, even if you do,

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<v Speaker 3>if you do feel like you should be with Evan

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<v Speaker 3>or even interest in it, you got to finish the

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<v Speaker 3>James thing.

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<v Speaker 2>You gotta finish the James before you can have your Evan.

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<v Speaker 1>Finish the James before you get to your Evan baby.

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<v Speaker 2>It is maybe it's Evan, a message in invisible ink,

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<v Speaker 2>like what's up?

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<v Speaker 1>Or just the eyes the eye When you send those eyes,

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<v Speaker 1>they know what's up. They secretly know what's up. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't have to say much with the eyes. The eyes

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<v Speaker 1>say every way, Heit send the eyes that be like, Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>you did that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean it's another one, but I think we

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<v Speaker 2>need to save it for next week. Yeah we should.

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<v Speaker 3>We need to save these messages. But you know, you

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<v Speaker 3>guys are doing better. I'm proud of you. These were

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<v Speaker 3>good messages. Wow, send us more.

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<v Speaker 2>How about that?

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<v Speaker 1>Is there anything anything we need to hit before we

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<v Speaker 1>go friend, some things to add.

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<v Speaker 2>To the Yeah, oh yeah, we already.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>I need an apartment, need more money, need to get organized,

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<v Speaker 2>You need your papers in order, and let's put away.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll put that down.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And I want less mess. I want more mess for

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<v Speaker 2>the pod less mess in my life. How about that?

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<v Speaker 2>Less a mess for sid And I want petty Sydney.

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<v Speaker 3>You want petty Sydney. Yeah, girl, you don't want me

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<v Speaker 3>to be petty? Well, not pity with me, because I

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<v Speaker 3>got I got something right now that I could be

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<v Speaker 3>petty about.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm not. I don't want to do it on air. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And on that note to be continued.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, friend, love this for us.

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<v Speaker 1>James Mess with Sydney Washington and Marie Foston is a

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<v Speaker 1>produced by Olivia Aguilar and Hans Sonny, super produced by

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