Speaker 1: You're listening to mess ooh child.
Speaker 2: Okay, girl, I'm Haggeroni's how you doing? I'm doing well.
Speaker 1: I think if I think about how I'm actually doing,
Speaker 1: I think it's gonna make me feel bad. But I'm
Speaker 1: doing well really Yeah. Like you know how someone's like,
Speaker 1: how you doing and you just say good?
Speaker 2: Yeah? But sometimes I need to learn how to do that?
Speaker 2: How you do that? You lie? I'm bad at that.
Speaker 2: You have we not realized I am.
Speaker 3: I need to cut transparency out of my life.
Speaker 2: I'm done, you do, I'm done. You need to be more.
Speaker 2: What's the opposite of transparent?
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay, that's what I need to That's the word.
Speaker 2: Of the day. Okay, every time we say it, take
Speaker 2: a shot. Yes? So are you? Are you overwhelmed? This
Speaker 2: is the holidays? Is it just?
Speaker 1: I just feel like I have a lot of stuff
Speaker 1: that I need to do. Yeah, and if I don't
Speaker 1: write it down, it won't get done. And even if
Speaker 1: I do write it, it might not get done, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like I need to I have
Speaker 1: like a notebook now where I write in big sharpie
Speaker 1: not to do lists. Yeah, so then I can see
Speaker 1: it because usually I write everything on like an envelope
Speaker 1: or like a you know, a receipt, and then I
Speaker 1: lose that and then I.
Speaker 2: On, Mama's what You're just writing it on loose papers.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I just write it on the table like it's
Speaker 2: a dry erase ball. Well, at least you're writing it down.
Speaker 3: I feel like writing it down and thinking about it
Speaker 3: is just it's doing too much. That's a mess for me,
Speaker 3: like seeing what I have to do and knowing what
Speaker 3: I have to do. That's why i'm right now. Is
Speaker 3: I feel manic. I feel absolutely manic, because you know,
Speaker 3: I know you're tired of me talking about trying to
Speaker 3: get an apartment.
Speaker 1: Yes, but after we talk about it now, we'll never
Speaker 1: talk about it never.
Speaker 2: We'll never talk about it again, because we will.
Speaker 3: I will after this comes out, I will hopefully have
Speaker 3: already gotten in an apartment. That my mess, fully is
Speaker 3: like trying to unmess my life.
Speaker 2: That's what's going on right now. I am.
Speaker 3: I think I am tired of saying I'm a mess.
Speaker 3: It's okay that the pod is called mess, but I
Speaker 3: don't want that to be my life. I need to
Speaker 3: I need a whole rebrand. I need to, you know,
Speaker 3: gut it, gut the whole thing. Start Like the shell
Speaker 3: of it is going to be the same, but the
Speaker 3: inside we rearranging ship.
Speaker 2: The shell of your life, the shell of my life.
Speaker 3: You know, because a friend was like, I think it's
Speaker 3: cute that you know you kind of like a little messy.
Speaker 3: But I'm like, I I am, I'm through.
Speaker 2: I'm exhausted. I actually don't want to know more. You're retired.
Speaker 3: I'm ready to hang it up. Whatever, my my messy
Speaker 3: ass cloak is burn it. I am through because I
Speaker 3: want to be more organized.
Speaker 2: I don't think I'll ever go really be on time.
Speaker 3: That's fine, but like I just want my papers in order,
Speaker 3: my clothes, hung up, my money, my money.
Speaker 1: Right, Like that's I'm not asking for much, bitch. Put
Speaker 1: all that on the prayer list.
Speaker 2: Let me write that down. Yeah, so your papers and
Speaker 2: what papers? Oh? Any no? Anytime papers? Papers? The girl
Speaker 2: the way the papers just.
Speaker 3: Be lying around, Like have my whole bank statement, social security,
Speaker 3: my whole information just out I will I will rip up.
Speaker 2: In the envelope and then put it down somewhere. Well yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: but that's I got.
Speaker 1: I got a lot of letters from the I R
Speaker 1: S that I'm ignoring, and all the papers are on
Speaker 1: my table right now, and I'm I leave them out
Speaker 1: because I'm like, if they're out, maybe I'll read them.
Speaker 1: But I think I'm just gonna have to go to
Speaker 1: jail because arrest me.
Speaker 2: No, I don't. Please.
Speaker 3: Actually, while I'm starting my new life, I don't want
Speaker 3: to get arrested.
Speaker 2: I've done that already. I can't do it.
Speaker 1: It is the new black I can't do it, the
Speaker 1: new city girl.
Speaker 2: It's like.
Speaker 3: And the thing, the thing is is that, like you know, obviously,
Speaker 3: I'm I'm tired. I don't want to get older. I'm like,
Speaker 3: can we just say here, can we just like I
Speaker 3: be another year but the same year?
Speaker 2: Or can we can we be another year? But that
Speaker 2: is mess? What aging is mess?
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, because when you're young, you think you're gonna
Speaker 1: be young forever. You think your body and your knees
Speaker 1: and your back and your head, shoulders, these and toes,
Speaker 1: it's always gonna be Like I didn't know that all
Speaker 1: of the hair on your body can go gray. You
Speaker 1: can get gray eyebrow hairs, you could get gray armpit hairs,
Speaker 1: you can get gray pubs.
Speaker 3: Who knew I knew I knew because let me tell you, right,
Speaker 3: even before this pod, I was like, let me go,
Speaker 3: let me go work my situation out. Before I come
Speaker 3: to the pod, I said, let me let me start
Speaker 3: fresh man. When I tell you I think, I was like,
Speaker 3: the way I use that razor, I said, do I
Speaker 3: have Parkinson's?
Speaker 2: I missed a whole section. It looks uneven.
Speaker 1: Do I have Parkinson's. I would like to say that's
Speaker 1: in the running to be the title, but that's.
Speaker 2: Not the title.
Speaker 3: But the way I will never I won't tell anybody
Speaker 3: that they should trust me with scissors or to cut anything.
Speaker 2: Baby, we close to it. She's giving scalped, scalped. But
Speaker 2: then part because you know.
Speaker 3: I was trying to do the landing, trying to have
Speaker 3: something cute, trying to do a design. I was trying
Speaker 3: to I was trying to do some you know Netflix
Speaker 3: new show.
Speaker 2: You know that's why you was late to the to
Speaker 2: the studio today. You was trying to design.
Speaker 3: Yeah, shape shape that couch by Sydney Washington. I don't know,
Speaker 3: I was just I was anyway, is it is it Coucie?
Speaker 2: Is cooty? Is the Cucci cute? Is it Couchie cute.
Speaker 2: I'm trying.
Speaker 3: Thank you my best, thank you. Yeah, And I did
Speaker 3: it kind of in the dark, and then.
Speaker 1: Why are you shaving your because I just had max
Speaker 1: whe natural light, natural light going on in the bathroom,
Speaker 1: and you know, it's just a little window sill, just
Speaker 1: a smidge of the light coming through, and I said,
Speaker 1: that's enough.
Speaker 3: And I've got one eye open while I'm doing it.
Speaker 3: And then you know, I didn't lift my lift up
Speaker 3: my leg.
Speaker 1: I'm just fully just and you're trying to close because
Speaker 1: the cat's trying to you know, they trying to come in.
Speaker 2: They were like, well, let me get it that. George
Speaker 2: was like, I think I got a better angle. I
Speaker 2: don't know it was a cat, said, I hear you
Speaker 2: shaving a cat in there.
Speaker 1: Let me see, yeah, let me see.
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't look it's bad. And now I feel like
Speaker 3: I just gotta just start all over and just go bald.
Speaker 3: And I don't like that either, So really, yeah, I
Speaker 3: don't like that.
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's too much.
Speaker 3: It's like it's you know how some people can't have
Speaker 3: a bald head because you could see how lumpy or
Speaker 3: whatever it looks. I'm not saying it looks lumpy. It
Speaker 3: just I don't like it. I don't want to see
Speaker 3: it all the way girl, your Willison it Bruce Willis
Speaker 3: is it's very proportions. I don't know, you know, because
Speaker 3: I'm getting older, I put some weight on it. So
Speaker 3: it's not it's not Seltz. It's sad that.
Speaker 2: I never said that. I never said that. You said that.
Speaker 2: I did not. It's on the record, okay.
Speaker 3: But my my mess this week is I went to
Speaker 3: go see some apartments and I think, you know, they
Speaker 3: need to start over with all these Wiltors, a lot
Speaker 3: of them. I don't know how you got your job.
Speaker 3: I don't know what like you're over, but also you
Speaker 3: got an attitude. You have this air like you need me,
Speaker 3: and it's like I do, but I need you to
Speaker 3: act like you need me as well.
Speaker 1: They do because they need they need that little commission
Speaker 1: or whatever Seiling Sunset be talking about.
Speaker 3: I don't know what they need, but they need to
Speaker 3: rework some ways they speak to people. I went to this,
Speaker 3: you know, open house, which is crazy. I don't want
Speaker 3: to go to a cattle call of somebody seeing some apartment.
Speaker 2: In New York City.
Speaker 3: We walking, We're walking up the stairs. It feels like
Speaker 3: we're in the in the Navy and we're like they
Speaker 3: were all going up and we're walking up three flights
Speaker 3: of stairs. First of all, why did I know that
Speaker 3: this was a walk up? Why am I walk? I
Speaker 3: don't want to sweat to see an apartment.
Speaker 2: I don't want to.
Speaker 3: Be huffing and puffing and feeling like, oh my god,
Speaker 3: did I just do sult cycle. Yeah, third floor is
Speaker 3: too high because I'm somebody who always forgets something when
Speaker 3: I get to the bottom of the stairs and I
Speaker 3: gotta go back up. If I live on the third floor,
Speaker 3: whatever's up there, it's staying up It's my mayonnise, my wallet,
Speaker 3: whatever's up there is staying up there. And it's crazy
Speaker 3: because I went to go see a duplex and that's
Speaker 3: exactly the vibes of like you go in and it's
Speaker 3: like the ceilings are so hoth it is Ideally, it's like, ooh,
Speaker 3: this is.
Speaker 2: Beautiful, but it's not for me.
Speaker 3: It's not for me because I go up the stairs.
Speaker 3: Where's the closets. There's no closet, there's no space. It's
Speaker 3: like everything is for some cuty young kid that's in college.
Speaker 2: It's nothing.
Speaker 3: None of these apartments is for a grown ass bitch.
Speaker 3: That's like, I have stuff, I've lived, I have things.
Speaker 3: Where do my things go? Well, because it's a cue bedroom,
Speaker 3: it's actually anti horder right now, and I don't like it.
Speaker 2: Anti horder.
Speaker 3: They're like, oh, where're you gonna put yourself? You can't,
Speaker 3: there's nowhere to put the thing.
Speaker 1: No, you gotta they said, this little second bedroom. That's
Speaker 1: the closet.
Speaker 2: That's the closet.
Speaker 3: And it's like, well, who's gonna pay for this second bed?
Speaker 3: My clothes are not paying for this closet. So this
Speaker 3: is the second room. So I go there. Everybody's sucking
Speaker 3: their teeth. They're upset because they're like, we walked all
Speaker 3: the way up here, We're not buying this, this is
Speaker 3: this is dumb. Then I go to another place and
Speaker 3: you know, another open house. Now I'm not being fucking rude,
Speaker 3: but I'm rude right now. Now I see the people
Speaker 3: who pulled up to see this apartment. I say, well,
Speaker 3: these are the people who are trying to see the department.
Speaker 3: I don't need to be here because what.
Speaker 2: Is what the people? Look?
Speaker 3: It was a ragtag of who where are y'all coming
Speaker 3: from like are you where you live? Like they just
Speaker 3: I came together, Like I was like, you know, let
Speaker 3: me put on a little cute outfit. They look like
Speaker 3: they rolled out of bed comes in this apartment, and
Speaker 3: it was strange.
Speaker 2: It was strange.
Speaker 3: It was an odd couple. And then it was these roommates.
Speaker 3: No no, no, no, no problem.
Speaker 1: So the guy he's late, that the realtor or whatever,
Speaker 1: he's late, no problem, I'm late, I understand.
Speaker 2: He comes in, he's talking to the couple. He's nice
Speaker 2: to them.
Speaker 3: He's talking to the room, the two people who came into,
Speaker 3: he's nice to them. He sees me, he's like, and
Speaker 3: who are you. It's like, sir, you called me. You
Speaker 3: called me to tell me. You're like, you don't know
Speaker 3: who this is?
Speaker 2: Yeah, babe, I'm on the list.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So then we go up.
Speaker 3: You know, they're selling, selling, selling these apartments that are
Speaker 3: too small, and he's talking to the couple, asking them
Speaker 3: about them, then talking he's paying me dust like oh,
Speaker 3: I ain't nobody, and then finally he's like he's like, oh,
Speaker 3: I want them to see the apartments first, and then
Speaker 3: you come after them. And I'm like, okay, this is
Speaker 3: fucking Are you being rude because I'm by myself because
Speaker 3: I'm a single woman. Then I go in the apartment
Speaker 3: by myself with him. He's like, so, why do you
Speaker 3: need a two bedroom ex? Oh no, none of your
Speaker 3: fucking business. Whoa I could be in here with my
Speaker 3: imaginary friend. Again, none of your business.
Speaker 2: But also, why is he talking to you like he
Speaker 2: already knows your critics score?
Speaker 1: Woo Marie, you are rude, miss so.
Speaker 3: Then I said, oh, well, I'm gonna you know, uh,
Speaker 3: I have a roommate or whatever.
Speaker 2: He's like a husband.
Speaker 3: First of all, if I was gonna be with a husband,
Speaker 3: I would have said husband.
Speaker 2: I said roommate.
Speaker 3: He's like, oh, well he's roommate now, but he might
Speaker 3: be a husband later. You are too familiar, sir, How
Speaker 3: old was you? This person old enough to he should
Speaker 3: be minding his business. You should be wanting me to apply.
Speaker 3: I now no longer want to apply. I wasn't going
Speaker 3: to apply anyway because I saw I saw the dirty
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 1: Welcome Matt you have of this place. I'm all set,
Speaker 1: but he's just it.
Speaker 3: Was it was giving very sexist, over familiar, weirdo vibes.
Speaker 1: And I was just like I was. He could tell
Speaker 1: when I walked in. I was like, YE had a
Speaker 1: same for me. He said, these views, the views are great.
Speaker 1: I said, hey, I He's like, you're not going to
Speaker 1: get anything better than this.
Speaker 2: Excuse me, sir? What he was what they were asking for?
Speaker 2: What price? I think it was.
Speaker 3: I think it was like thirty one for you know,
Speaker 3: just a regular like skinny two bedroom. Not enough closets,
Speaker 3: the kitchen is in the living room, the living room
Speaker 3: is in the bath.
Speaker 2: It was all of that.
Speaker 3: It wasning. It was nothing that he's like, oh, we
Speaker 3: have a gym. I don't care about these amenities, sir.
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna be in that gym. No. I would
Speaker 2: like a gym, but you won't see me the gym.
Speaker 2: Don't know me.
Speaker 1: Okay, I would like it as an option, but it's
Speaker 1: not the reason.
Speaker 2: Why I'm in the building, do you understand.
Speaker 3: So anyway, that pissed me off, and I was just
Speaker 3: like And then he had the nerve to call me
Speaker 3: the next day. I told him, I said, I'm not applying,
Speaker 3: but he called me to say what, probably just checking it.
Speaker 2: I don't know because I didn't pick up. But I
Speaker 2: now want to call him to that.
Speaker 1: I said, hey, did anybody apply because I know I didn't,
Speaker 1: and then hang up.
Speaker 2: That's so petty.
Speaker 3: It is petty, and that's I should have been like that,
Speaker 3: because it was just like, sir, who the f are
Speaker 3: you talking to?
Speaker 2: AnyWho?
Speaker 3: I just can't wait till I get an apartment because
Speaker 3: I'm ready.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put petty Sydney on the prayer list.
Speaker 2: You should be.
Speaker 3: More petty, could be more petty. I should be more
Speaker 3: petty and more organized. That's all I want, And now
Speaker 3: I'm just trying to get I'm gonna. I saw an apartment.
Speaker 3: I liked it. You know, my friend likes it. I
Speaker 3: actually wanted to bed too bath. But it's you know,
Speaker 3: I need more money. I need more money. Put that
Speaker 3: on the prayer list as well. I need money, more coins,
Speaker 3: Marie money. Okay, I put it on there.
Speaker 2: I never about me. What about you?
Speaker 1: Oh, let's talk about my mess I do really think
Speaker 1: getting older is messy, because you know, when you're young
Speaker 1: and your eyes are awesome and your body is great,
Speaker 1: you take it for granted. You know, you squint into
Speaker 1: the sun and you look at eclipses, even though they
Speaker 1: tell you not to without glasses, and you're like.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be able to see forever.
Speaker 1: So I had an eye exam last week, and you
Speaker 1: know I cheated. I cheated at the eye exam. I
Speaker 1: was trying to put both eyes in one hole and.
Speaker 2: I was, whoa, you eyes one hole. That's crazy, Marie.
Speaker 2: But that's hot? Is that? Will that be a new Porno?
Speaker 2: Two eyes, one hole. It's gonna be nasty like the
Speaker 2: original part.
Speaker 1: One, two girls, one cup. But yeah, so I you know,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to cheat. The guys like what do you
Speaker 1: see up there? I'm like, what do you see? The
Speaker 1: doctor's like mail and I'm like male. And after the
Speaker 1: exam turns out I need glasses.
Speaker 2: So I got glasses.
Speaker 1: But he was like, you know how they're like this
Speaker 1: one or this one A or B and the whole
Speaker 1: time I'm like, no, no, they kind of look the same.
Speaker 1: So I'm just I'm I'm not even really paying attention.
Speaker 2: You have to take the it's serious. They have glasses.
Speaker 2: They're too strong. I'm like, yeah, I feel like I
Speaker 2: put them on for you. Yeah, let's see.
Speaker 1: I feel like when I wear I feel cross and
Speaker 1: then want to thank them off now you just got
Speaker 1: to get used to it. I got some cool little
Speaker 1: hipster joints. It's not like I think.
Speaker 3: It's kind of like when you put a Diva cup
Speaker 3: in you know it doesn't feel right just yet, but
Speaker 3: then you siting in it for a little bit and
Speaker 3: you're like, oh, it didn't maneuvered.
Speaker 2: It's I don't need to see this clearly.
Speaker 1: I feel like I can see the world in four
Speaker 1: K right now, like the wall has a text door.
Speaker 1: I don't want to see that. I can these buttons breathing.
Speaker 1: I can see the dust on the fuck you need
Speaker 1: to be able to see friends, I'm thinking about.
Speaker 2: That's probably why we're not on time. We don't see well,
Speaker 2: we can't see the time. First of all, the glasses
Speaker 2: are too strong.
Speaker 1: And when I went to pick them up, I was
Speaker 1: like like this, and the lady was like, wear them
Speaker 1: for the weekend.
Speaker 2: And then I did not wear that. You have to
Speaker 2: wear them for the weekend, Marie, wear them for the
Speaker 2: rest of the show. Girl, my eyes, this is too
Speaker 2: much sister you and I see you. You look beautif baby.
Speaker 1: This is the opposite of Ray Charles, and I don't
Speaker 1: like it, Like, I mean, see you watching this right now.
Speaker 2: Maybe I need to see them. Maybe they're too strong.
Speaker 2: Maybe I mean pretty you are without my glass?
Speaker 1: No hold on, oh no, I can see these. Maybe
Speaker 1: I need Maybe this is my prescription.
Speaker 2: Please look, please look into the camera. What do I
Speaker 2: look like?
Speaker 1: Do I look as good as Freeze? I don't know
Speaker 1: if they look good the way you're laughing at me.
Speaker 1: Let me see they do look good. I'm just saying, oh,
Speaker 1: but Jesus, cute girl, and they go and they go
Speaker 1: with the shirt.
Speaker 2: It's given miss Frizzle just a little bit.
Speaker 1: Mis Frizzle would never look this simple, babe, she would
Speaker 1: have one seventeen patterns.
Speaker 2: Girl, these glasses, I'm screaming seeing it's terrible now, thank you,
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. See, let me not terrible. I
Speaker 2: need to see, but not like that.
Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, anyway, so I got glasses and they're
Speaker 1: too strong. That's my mess.
Speaker 2: That is your mess. But at least you know you're
Speaker 2: working on yourself.
Speaker 3: You're feeling that is motivating, just knowing that you went
Speaker 3: there and there's a solution.
Speaker 2: The solution is glass want my money back.
Speaker 3: You probably shouldn't have lied on your test, but we'll
Speaker 3: go back and we'll make it right.
Speaker 2: They're gonna call back, They're gonna charge me again for them.
Speaker 1: And you know, they try to up charge me with
Speaker 1: the thinner sexy polycarbonate, this glass transition. And I was like, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: whatever the cheapest ones are because I put my own
Speaker 1: frames and then they charged me thirty five dollars.
Speaker 2: For bringing my own frames. I don't even think these frames.
Speaker 1: Cost thirty five dollars. How much are the glasses, Sydney?
Speaker 1: You have these frames? I got them from Amazon and
Speaker 1: then I put my perscripsion. That's great, so shout out
Speaker 1: to Jeffrey. Are those glasses sturdy? Then? Because they're Amazon,
Speaker 1: the wind blow wrong and it breaks, No, the glass,
Speaker 1: the glass also, they call them glasses, but this is
Speaker 1: not glass, it's plastic.
Speaker 2: So why do they call them glass? And the lady
Speaker 2: was like, I don't know, ma'am. I just work here.
Speaker 2: She said, just swep your card, badge. I'm asking these
Speaker 2: questions and pay for the that's real dusty in here.
Speaker 2: I can see all the dust on the keyboard. A heart.
Speaker 2: What's up? Y'all? Need a little swiffer, A little swiffer.
Speaker 1: This bitch, this is crazy. But I will say now
Speaker 1: that I have glasses and I can see. I wore
Speaker 1: these on the train and I was making eye contact
Speaker 1: with everybody and they probably thought you wanted them.
Speaker 2: They're like they just I was like sexy. I feel
Speaker 2: like Velma when she can see again. That's how I feel. Anyway,
Speaker 2: who we're gonna take them off. Okay.
Speaker 3: So another thing I think like getting older is messy
Speaker 3: is because your perspective changes drastically. Yeah, like just the
Speaker 3: things that I was so into is through I don't
Speaker 3: I don't care no more, like what okay, let's see
Speaker 3: this is this is a tough one. It's like when
Speaker 3: people talk to me, I think they'd be talking to
Speaker 3: the old me, where I would be like, oh yeah
Speaker 3: that I'm cool with that, But now I think I'm
Speaker 3: so not sensitive. But things irk me so much. So
Speaker 3: when somebody asked me or talk to me a certain way,
Speaker 3: it triggers me where I want to like.
Speaker 2: Pop off, oh yeah, pop off. Yeah.
Speaker 3: And so I right now I'm trying to work on
Speaker 3: talking to people the right way, like taking a break
Speaker 3: and being like Okay, I'm gonna get back to you.
Speaker 3: Let me think about this, because I don't want to
Speaker 3: write immediately how I feel, and I don't. I want
Speaker 3: to check me before I check that person. Sometimes you
Speaker 3: got to check yourself before you wreck yourself.
Speaker 2: You knew that was coming around. You knew it that
Speaker 2: I knew it.
Speaker 1: That was very old. No, No, it's wise.
Speaker 2: That's what it is. I've lived. Why it's the new
Speaker 2: old season. Rude, that's what you are. Thank you, But
Speaker 2: you know, I'm a youth. The youth are rude.
Speaker 1: That's why you see so well, you know what you
Speaker 1: should start saying. Listen, I can't really hold space for
Speaker 1: this right now.
Speaker 2: That's what it is. I'm gonna get that to work
Speaker 2: on space space. But also, yeah, I don't. I have
Speaker 2: two modes.
Speaker 1: Okay, when somebody says something that I don't want to hear,
Speaker 1: I am either very quick to block now I'm blocking,
Speaker 1: or I send a very I'm not gonna say condescending,
Speaker 1: but kind of like a the tone, the tone of
Speaker 1: the email is a little bit rude. Like my accountant
Speaker 1: took a really long time to get back to me,
Speaker 1: and I looked at the correspondence of the email, and
Speaker 1: it had been a month since the first message I sent.
Speaker 2: Them, and so last week here, let me read the.
Speaker 3: Message I said this, and then we be on the
Speaker 3: chains and I'm like, yo, I need to can you
Speaker 3: start a class on how to respond your responses. I'm like,
Speaker 3: I wouldn't have written that, Yeah, I mean, sometimes it's
Speaker 3: stuff I shouldn't write.
Speaker 2: I'll be and I'll talk in us say it.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, hey, Siri, and then I'll say it,
Speaker 1: and then I'll why what I do is I type
Speaker 1: it out?
Speaker 2: So the way I type is not the way I
Speaker 2: actually speak. Yeah, the way my problem.
Speaker 1: The way I type is sometimes I speak but okay, boom,
Speaker 1: hold on, I.
Speaker 2: Said, Hi.
Speaker 1: I never heard anything back regarding this, and I now
Speaker 1: hear you both loud and clear. A full month has
Speaker 1: passed since I sent my initial email regarding this issue,
Speaker 1: and I would have appreciated just one message stating that
Speaker 1: this was something you're unable to help me with, so
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have wasted so much time waiting around moving
Speaker 1: on to someone else who can hopefully resolve this for
Speaker 1: me quickly. Thanks for dot dot dot you fire them well,
Speaker 1: I mean, then he responded immediately, Hi, Marie, I'm not
Speaker 1: I'm not sure what's going on, but I did respond
Speaker 1: last week to set up a time to talk this over.
Speaker 2: The response is below, and then he sent it and
Speaker 2: it was in there, but I didn't get it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you need to write and say, Hey, So
Speaker 3: I got new glasses.
Speaker 2: I just couldn't see. I'm sorry about that. No, I
Speaker 2: got a prescription.
Speaker 1: No no, no, I responded, Hi blank, I never received
Speaker 1: that message you sent.
Speaker 2: And this process has.
Speaker 1: Been extremely frustrating because I'll be trying to channel my
Speaker 1: inner white woman, you know, and I feel like they
Speaker 1: would say something like this. I'd just like to pay
Speaker 1: this fine and get set my accounts up and not
Speaker 1: have this problem ever again.
Speaker 2: Are you free to.
Speaker 1: Talk today or sometime tomorrow morning? I understand if you're not,
Speaker 1: but I do plan to call the IRS today. And
Speaker 1: then we talked.
Speaker 2: Girl, you Wesley Snipes, You're going to jail? What's up? Possibly? No, girl,
Speaker 2: it's three.
Speaker 1: Hundred twenty dollars fine that I gotta pay plus the
Speaker 1: other fine.
Speaker 2: But you know what was the fine for just late
Speaker 2: failure to file? Oh yeah, but I filed just late.
Speaker 3: Well, well, maybe you could talk to the IRS and
Speaker 3: be like it wasn't me, it was fucking Greg you know. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I always say pushing on somebody else, what they gonna do.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, I just listen, I just I'll be
Speaker 1: speaking of my SERI and she says she records it.
Speaker 2: I had a comma or two and then I'll send it. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I need to work through that.
Speaker 1: That being said, the first accountant that I talked to
Speaker 1: like that did let herself go. She was like, well,
Speaker 1: because I was like, I thought you were doing my taxes.
Speaker 2: What's up?
Speaker 1: And she was like, oh, I didn't know that I
Speaker 1: was preparing them. And I was like, but I had
Speaker 1: been messaging you about my taxes all year. Did you
Speaker 1: think I was messaging you because we're friends? And she
Speaker 1: was like, I actually don't like your tone and I'm.
Speaker 2: Not taking this any further with you. And I was like, damn,
Speaker 2: I won't to do my taxes. But also it's like,
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Sometimes you got to give somebody enough rope for them
Speaker 3: to hang in themselves, and sometimes you got to say
Speaker 3: something for them to be like, you know what I'm going,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna peace out because I wasn't doing my job
Speaker 3: right anyway.
Speaker 1: I think that's what it is. We forget that, like
Speaker 1: the same way that we half asked. The jobs that
Speaker 1: we had when we were young, and some of the
Speaker 1: jobs that we do now it's doctors half assed in
Speaker 1: it's a CPA's.
Speaker 2: That's why you have scary right now. I know too much.
Speaker 2: I know too.
Speaker 3: I remember when like I freaking was like I'm going
Speaker 3: to work.
Speaker 2: I am so happy to work. I would do anything
Speaker 2: to work.
Speaker 3: And now I'm like, man, I'm tired working his hard
Speaker 3: And I was like, will I know there's people who
Speaker 3: are like me who are showing up to work, who
Speaker 3: got more important at me and they got the same
Speaker 3: vibes as me.
Speaker 2: And are they showing.
Speaker 3: Up twenty minutes late too? So they you know, they're
Speaker 3: frazzled and stressed. So they're so the energy is just
Speaker 3: like exchanging and it's stressing me out.
Speaker 2: I'm thinking about too much at the same time, Yeah,
Speaker 2: you think pilots show up to work half fasten it too.
Speaker 3: I think they have to come two hours early before
Speaker 3: it's before they have to like fly.
Speaker 2: They I don't think.
Speaker 3: They'll let anybody show up to work late and then
Speaker 3: go fly.
Speaker 1: I have been on flights where they were like, we're
Speaker 1: sitting here because the pilot is not here. I have
Speaker 1: been on flights where they were like, we're waiting for
Speaker 1: the pilot. He's getting off another flight, and it's like.
Speaker 3: Okay, but getting off another flight is different from he
Speaker 3: haven't flown all day and now he pulling up thirty
Speaker 3: minutes late.
Speaker 2: No, you're wearing the blazer, but he's wearing pajama bottle.
Speaker 1: Uh huh.
Speaker 2: He got on sweatpan, you know what.
Speaker 3: And that's some people's whole, like identity is where they yes,
Speaker 3: they have the uniform on top, but they too loose.
Speaker 2: At the bottom. They too loose at the bottom.
Speaker 4: That's at the bottom, too loose at the bottom.
Speaker 3: Okay, let's look at some of this stuff that's like
Speaker 3: messy for the week that's coming up that I saw
Speaker 3: on you know, the internets. So I'm into this artist,
Speaker 3: Sabrina Carpenter. I mean also, she's getting pushed down my
Speaker 3: throat with algorithm.
Speaker 2: Saying to this artist, like people don't know who she's made,
Speaker 2: to this.
Speaker 3: Artist, I don't know if y'all know about her, I
Speaker 3: don't know, you know, she just popped out. I am.
Speaker 3: I'm thoroughly enjoying. I think it's a short and sweet tour.
Speaker 3: Everybody's putting out all these like clips they're going. We've
Speaker 3: even had a friend, Marcelo Hernandez from SNL.
Speaker 2: He he was able to do a little skit with her.
Speaker 1: They they both posted a picture of them backstage together.
Speaker 1: They look real into it looks so freaking cool, right
Speaker 1: them and tell him I want to officiate the wedding.
Speaker 2: It was sweet dope. It was so dope.
Speaker 3: And so you know, I'm listening to her songs. I'm
Speaker 3: watching how she performs. And it's what people don't know
Speaker 3: is Sabrina is selling sex. I don't care if y'all
Speaker 3: think she a poll pocket.
Speaker 2: She is sex sexy. She's sexy in a little teddy dress.
Speaker 3: She is deep throating that microphone in front. And that's
Speaker 3: the problem right now.
Speaker 1: People are having an issue where her like little Juno poses.
Speaker 2: They're like, are you doing You're doing too much, sister babe.
Speaker 3: She's going, she's coming to the to the concert and
Speaker 3: it's like, hey, whatever, I don't know who she used
Speaker 3: to be on a Disney channel. She's not doing that
Speaker 3: no more. No, ma, you guys got us.
Speaker 2: You gotta leave the Disney Channel. You gotta hi.
Speaker 1: I'm Sabrina Carpenter and you're watching this, you gotta leave
Speaker 1: this behind this she's grown.
Speaker 2: She not doing this no more. She's doing this now. Yay,
Speaker 2: she is doing that.
Speaker 3: And I think women should be allowed to express themselves,
Speaker 3: how sexually or not, if they want to.
Speaker 2: And if they're listening just so happened to be.
Speaker 3: Eighteen seventeen fifteen six, because that's who's listening, then hey,
Speaker 3: so be it.
Speaker 2: This is what people.
Speaker 3: Grow up, and this is how they're speaking and how
Speaker 3: they're talking and every and she's a poet too, because
Speaker 3: the thing is they'll listen to a song they're like, oh,
Speaker 3: she's talking about taking it from the back yard, y'ah.
Speaker 2: She just says that. She tries to saying it the
Speaker 2: urban outfitters way.
Speaker 1: She's she just covered it with like this a lot
Speaker 1: of bubble gum because she said the.
Speaker 2: Come and ride on me.
Speaker 3: Come on, ride on me, I mean camaraderie. She's being like,
Speaker 3: she's got to play on words. She said, come on,
Speaker 3: ride on me. That's what she said. Okay, she's reversed
Speaker 3: cowgirl on that ass. She's number eleven in the world
Speaker 3: on Spotify, So that's amazing.
Speaker 2: You can't it's not short or sweet. Okay.
Speaker 1: She it's crazy because like when you a friend of
Speaker 1: ours just want to go see Taylor Swift, and she said,
Speaker 1: Taylor Swift is very like you guys can do it
Speaker 1: and like yeah, like because she has a lot of
Speaker 1: little kid fans and she got you know, people you
Speaker 1: know that are older, and Sabrina is doing the opposite.
Speaker 1: She has a lot of little kid fans, but she
Speaker 1: is giving you know, mighty when she wouldn't put her
Speaker 1: tongue back in her mouth energy And I think that.
Speaker 3: It should However the artist wants to be portrayed, that's
Speaker 3: how they should be able to portray. If there's young
Speaker 3: people listening to me, thank you for listening. But I'm
Speaker 3: still gonna be me. I'm still an adult. I'm still
Speaker 3: you know, how old is Sabrina? She gotta be like,
Speaker 3: oh all that okay, she own.
Speaker 2: She's grown, h Marie, She's.
Speaker 3: Grown twenty five And I think twenty five is like
Speaker 3: the most flirty I had ever been in my life.
Speaker 3: Like I was just becoming my you know, getting into
Speaker 3: my own I didn't have fake breast yet, but you know,
Speaker 3: I was flopping them a little triple A cups everywhere,
Speaker 3: and I was in my little American apparels, tiny ass
Speaker 3: dresses with no panties on it. And so I feel
Speaker 3: like Sabrina's probably an elem you know to rich that. Yeah,
Speaker 3: And so when you're feeling yourself and you you know
Speaker 3: you can write and you can sing and you can perform,
Speaker 3: you're saying whatever, and you should be allowed to And
Speaker 3: I forgot what news anchor was saying. You know, oh,
Speaker 3: the parents should just be listening to the music, so
Speaker 3: that so they didn't know what their kids are listening.
Speaker 3: He's like, I'm a parent, I'm doing what parents do.
Speaker 3: I don't have time to listen to these songs and
Speaker 3: know He's like, it's up to the artists, it's their responsibility.
Speaker 3: I said, no, it's not what they only.
Speaker 1: They only do this to female artists, and they do
Speaker 1: it every single year.
Speaker 2: Every year some artists is popping.
Speaker 1: And they're like, well, Rihanna should be a better influence
Speaker 1: to the Rihanna is a grown ass woman smoking weed
Speaker 1: and talking about how sex with herb is so amazing.
Speaker 1: Why did you think your kid was not going to
Speaker 1: hear that or shouldn't hear that?
Speaker 2: Like you don't care about your daughter? You know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying, like, she gotta kids herself. Now, she's a mother.
Speaker 2: She is a mother.
Speaker 1: But like every artist they do that with, but it's women.
Speaker 1: I don't think they do this with men. Men get
Speaker 1: up there and they're talking about I don't even know
Speaker 1: what male artists talk about.
Speaker 2: I don't My ear is just closed. Yeah, but uh.
Speaker 3: Talking about I don't know, But I love I would
Speaker 3: love to go to her concerts.
Speaker 2: Shelby text mar Marcella Marcia. I know he could get
Speaker 2: his backstage, right.
Speaker 3: I love her concert and I love when artists are
Speaker 3: on stage and you could tell they're having a good time.
Speaker 3: I don't like when people are being performative and they're
Speaker 3: not in their bag.
Speaker 2: Dough Chi right now is in you know, panties and.
Speaker 3: Ass is flapping and she's wrapping her ass off and
Speaker 3: she's so good, and I like, that's what I want
Speaker 3: to see. I don't want to see somebody being like, well,
Speaker 3: this is what I think they want me to be.
Speaker 3: It's like ugh, not ugh, but no, yeah.
Speaker 1: Do what you want to do, how you want to
Speaker 1: do it. And if you're having a good time, it's
Speaker 1: a it's fun for everybody involved, now, you know, We've
Speaker 1: seen Mariah Carey live a few times and she pops
Speaker 1: out the holiday, she does a little two months of
Speaker 1: music and then she leaves.
Speaker 2: But you know, the last time we saw her perform,
Speaker 2: I said, did she take an edible? Like? Wait?
Speaker 1: She just so very I mean, and she you know,
Speaker 1: she's not doing choreo. She she don't really sway. But
Speaker 1: it did feel like the last time we saw her perform,
Speaker 1: it was like it was given sedated.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, it wasn't given sadated. It's giving legend.
Speaker 3: She has worked so many years, decades put in her discography.
Speaker 2: Is it's unmatched. She's worked her, She's did her time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she wants to glide and sliding. She wants to
Speaker 1: get her if she wants to get her tresses pressed
Speaker 1: out on stage, she should be able to and she
Speaker 1: she will and she she stands there, she she sings,
Speaker 1: and then the guy comes out and he's like, and
Speaker 1: then I love it. I think these fans are expecting
Speaker 1: too much and they know too much and they're too critical,
Speaker 1: and it's like, you know us, she's out there sweating,
Speaker 1: sweating his wig off.
Speaker 2: He's in roller skates.
Speaker 3: Background there, he's got all this stuff going on, and
Speaker 3: it's like, y'all feel the same way.
Speaker 2: Y'all feel the same way about everything. Y'all.
Speaker 3: People are never satisfied, you know what I'm saying. So
Speaker 3: it's like, at least perform the way you want to
Speaker 3: perform and walk out and be like I did what
Speaker 3: I wanted to do.
Speaker 2: I just want, if you're going to perform live, just
Speaker 2: make it seem like you're excited to be there. That's
Speaker 2: all I'm saying. I think I think she is.
Speaker 1: She's sipping her lemonade, she got her kids dancing in
Speaker 1: the back.
Speaker 2: She's having a good time. Okay. So also, how old
Speaker 2: is she? How old is Mariah carry?
Speaker 1: I want to say fifty eight?
Speaker 2: Oh right? We yay.
Speaker 3: I mean I think there should be I think it's
Speaker 3: a mess when you expect too much from people who
Speaker 3: have lived a long time.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I am in my thirties. I'm exhausted.
Speaker 3: I can't I being that age and doing everything that
Speaker 3: she has done.
Speaker 2: I can't even imagine. I would not.
Speaker 3: I have no time for nothing. I wouldn't want anybody
Speaker 3: giving me notes on anything. I'm like, hey, I've been
Speaker 3: fine since right, I've been doing what I need to do.
Speaker 1: But being thirty and regular is different than being I
Speaker 1: heard you being thirty very regular.
Speaker 2: Hold on, let me finish you trying to finish thirty
Speaker 2: in regular? Being saw the title. That's also the title bit.
Speaker 1: Being thirty irregular is different than being fifty five and rich,
Speaker 1: because fifty five and rich is basically thirty in regular.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, Like like you you understand
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. Yeah, And Mariah Carey.
Speaker 1: Has been rich since she was like twenty, so you
Speaker 1: know it's thirty thirty five years? Is that the math?
Speaker 1: That's it's thirty five years of rich, leisurely, you know,
Speaker 1: face massages and butt massages and risk massages, whatever the
Speaker 1: hell she needs to just get in.
Speaker 2: Oh, you know, it's a mess right now.
Speaker 3: People are obsessed with the way Lindsey Lohan Lookssina Aguilera,
Speaker 3: all the girls is getting the work done, probably even
Speaker 3: Martha Stewart. The girls are popping out. The new surgeon
Speaker 3: that's on a block, he's doing his thug dizzle. But
Speaker 3: everyone is commenting on how it's right now. It's weird
Speaker 3: because one way you want to be like, oh, these
Speaker 3: people look amazing, but they're obviously in the eye of
Speaker 3: the people, and they have to get this work done.
Speaker 3: But then they're like, you're promoting this is a negative
Speaker 3: way to promote what getting older looks like, because that's
Speaker 3: not how people that age looks.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's negative to promote that. I think
Speaker 1: that they look great. Christina Juilera looks like she literally
Speaker 1: turned back the hands of times given Genie in a bottle,
Speaker 1: Lindsay Lohan.
Speaker 2: I mean they say it's toxic.
Speaker 3: They say it's toxic because she looks better than she
Speaker 3: did when she was younger.
Speaker 2: Okay, So as a woman, you're not allowed to be ugly.
Speaker 1: You're not allowed to be cute, You're not allowed to
Speaker 1: be big, you're not allowed to be small.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: Now, if you on TikTok bragging about being skinny, people
Speaker 1: are like, that's offensive. Yep, I like being skinny, you say,
Speaker 1: now on the record front the antling people for that.
Speaker 1: They answering people right now, I like being skinny.
Speaker 2: Are you saying that? Wish camera? But I'm not, Okay,
Speaker 2: I've tried, you tried to be thick.
Speaker 3: My my thing about it one because I've had plastic
Speaker 3: surgery and I am thin. I will say this, some
Speaker 3: of that stuff is not the answer. If you do
Speaker 3: things thinking that it's gonna change your whole you could
Speaker 3: still have your body done, be thin and doing bad.
Speaker 3: And I'm gonna tell you this, I'm saying it in
Speaker 3: the camera that be me. Sometimes skinny boobs bad.
Speaker 1: Like it's happening, you.
Speaker 2: Know for me.
Speaker 3: I was having this conversation with our friend Carolina, and
Speaker 3: she was just like, you'll never know what it's like to,
Speaker 3: you know, deal with fat phobia and these things. And
Speaker 3: like you saying that, oh, you're skinny and you have issues,
Speaker 3: it's not the same. And I was like, I'm not
Speaker 3: saying it's the same, but you can't invalidate how people
Speaker 3: feel in their bodies. That's what I'm saying is that
Speaker 3: it's obviously fat phobia is real. I don't know if
Speaker 3: skinny phobia is real. But even the way they're talking
Speaker 3: about Ariana Grande and Cynthia Rivo, the discussion is everything
Speaker 3: is all weird. It's like people are just getting too
Speaker 3: loose with the lips about discussing women's bodies and how
Speaker 3: they look and how they should be.
Speaker 2: And nobody's professionals.
Speaker 3: You're not a doctor, you don't know what they're doing
Speaker 3: in their day to day to say somebody, oh you're
Speaker 3: you have body issues or eating eating disorder or it's
Speaker 3: it's none of your fucking business. At my point, like
Speaker 3: the way that we want to Lindsey tell us who
Speaker 3: did your face? Hey babe, you got to get in
Speaker 3: the same tax record as me, and then you'll know
Speaker 3: who the who the doctor is.
Speaker 2: You can't get.
Speaker 1: You can't get whoever she got. Y'all who work at
Speaker 1: CVS can't. So why are you asking?
Speaker 2: I heard it was a two hundred thousand dollars facelift? Really,
Speaker 2: no way, is that? What is that? What? I see?
Speaker 2: What they say? You wt two hundred thousand dollars?
Speaker 1: Okay, Oh you know what, since we're talking about money
Speaker 1: and you're listening to this, go ahead and venmoy fifty dollars.
Speaker 1: We're gonna work our way up to the two hundred thous.
Speaker 2: From my facelift, thank you? Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 1: It's pretty much a GoFundMe and installment. It's gonna take
Speaker 1: two hundred thousand episodes to get there. Yeah, we'll get there. Yeah, No,
Speaker 1: I think that there is. I don't I don't know
Speaker 1: if it's skinny phobic. But you know when people are
Speaker 1: like big and proud to be big, and I don't
Speaker 1: know what the word is here body positive.
Speaker 2: You're allowed to be body positive.
Speaker 1: If you're bigger, but if you're thin and you are
Speaker 1: happy with your weight, then people are not.
Speaker 2: Happy with you.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, is this how white people feel when
Speaker 1: black people be like black black girl magic and black power?
Speaker 2: Is this how white people feel? I don't. I don't know. Well,
Speaker 2: that's the thing.
Speaker 3: They're like, hey, you are you have a privilege by
Speaker 3: being thin or beautiful or whatever, So why do you
Speaker 3: need to say that you're already living.
Speaker 2: Living the life. Not a privilege? But it is.
Speaker 3: I disagree, it is. It is a but it is
Speaker 3: a we we do have to be on. It's like,
Speaker 3: you know, white privilege or what it is? A privilege
Speaker 3: being attractive or having a certain body type because people
Speaker 3: will treat you differently. It just that's just what it is.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But everybody that's big is not big because they
Speaker 1: can't help being big. You know, this is everybody don't
Speaker 1: have a thyroid problem. This is not my wheelhouse.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Everybody don't have pcos. I can't everybody it's America. Some
Speaker 1: of y'all big because y'all love Chick fil A.
Speaker 2: Oh bitch, hey, that's what Marie said. That's not what
Speaker 2: I said.
Speaker 1: This is this is Marie's standing on that. I am
Speaker 1: not listen, zoom in no zoomen Wow. This is gonna
Speaker 1: go viral for sure for all the wrong reasons.
Speaker 2: Girl.
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to go for I'm just saying, Oh,
Speaker 1: you don't have to try, man, I'm just saying, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm petite. I got petite parents, but they got big.
Speaker 1: I have big aunts and uncles. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: The way you're saying big, sis, I don't know. I
Speaker 2: don't know you should.
Speaker 3: Maybe you should be a little bit more like lighter
Speaker 3: with it, big big.
Speaker 1: Listen, everybody, everybody in a and I'm speaking specifically about America.
Speaker 1: Everybody that's here is not big because of an accident,
Speaker 1: or because of a health issue, or because I don't
Speaker 1: know lymph notes.
Speaker 2: I don't know why people. I don't know why people
Speaker 2: be big, but uh yeah, I don't. I can understand
Speaker 2: the privilege of it.
Speaker 1: But like, how you doing that quote because I don't
Speaker 1: really I don't think it's a privilege to be skinny.
Speaker 2: You got some fucking nerves.
Speaker 1: You with your good ass skin, your gabs glasses on,
Speaker 1: you can't.
Speaker 2: See that well.
Speaker 3: But everything else is working out, friend, everything else is
Speaker 3: working out.
Speaker 1: Listen, one day, when I'm big, maybe I should Maybe
Speaker 1: so when I'm big, I could be like, let me
Speaker 1: get my.
Speaker 2: Big Yes, girl, you're a mess.
Speaker 3: I will say that as I've gotten older, I've gained
Speaker 3: you know. Obviously it's not enough for people to be like,
Speaker 3: h but I have things change and I can't wear
Speaker 3: the same clothes or I don't feel comfortable, and I'm like,
Speaker 3: if I feel like this, I know this is hard
Speaker 3: for other people. So I do understand the sensitivity of
Speaker 3: just like being kinder to like how women speak about the.
Speaker 2: Outside that the shell it is.
Speaker 3: It is a way to talk about things and having
Speaker 3: empathy because I do understand.
Speaker 2: I am not saying that I don't understand.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying like, even like somebody will put an
Speaker 1: offit on and people will be in the comments like
Speaker 1: is the outfit cute or is she just skinny?
Speaker 2: And it's like, why can't it be both?
Speaker 1: People love dragging a skinny beach because they're like, well,
Speaker 1: her life must be perfect, or she must not have
Speaker 1: no problems, or she must get dick every day. And
Speaker 1: it's like, whoa, my life is a mess?
Speaker 2: Is that? What they say in your comments.
Speaker 1: Is I don't know, not not my comments necessarily, but
Speaker 1: I'm saying like anytime somebody uh slender or slim does something,
Speaker 1: someone in the comments is like she's too skinny or
Speaker 1: why like, oh, she can wear that, but why not
Speaker 1: make this bigger? Like even brands will have people modeling
Speaker 1: things and they'll be like, well, what size does this
Speaker 1: go up to?
Speaker 2: And this is big people of rasure.
Speaker 1: And it's like you know this, you know this simple size,
Speaker 1: Like they only had a couple pieces of fabric together.
Speaker 2: They put this together so you can see what it
Speaker 2: looks like.
Speaker 1: Don't be mad at this brand or this person's body, like,
Speaker 1: you know, let let me be thin in peace.
Speaker 2: Oh thin in peace?
Speaker 3: Okay, that's another title, babe, thin.
Speaker 2: In pieces wild. That's the name of my memoirs.
Speaker 3: I I think for me, I used to say such
Speaker 3: wild things when I was younger, about just a state
Speaker 3: of anything everything, and now I'm like, yo, one wrong
Speaker 3: move and you might not have it like that, and
Speaker 3: so I'm trying to be more like light about things because.
Speaker 2: I remember.
Speaker 3: I remember I was in Zara and I'm a name
Speaker 3: names and I put on these genes and I just
Speaker 3: I just didn't I didn't feel good in it. And
Speaker 3: the woman next to me, like I came out and
Speaker 3: I was looking. I was like, oh, like, She's like,
Speaker 3: you look great, and I was like, I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't think this does anything for me. She's like,
Speaker 3: I would kill to have that body, and I'm like, okay,
Speaker 3: don't kill me right now, and like what what can
Speaker 3: I do? What can I do with that?
Speaker 2: That that's how you feel about where you want your
Speaker 2: body be. I don't. I don't like this.
Speaker 3: So it's kind of like we all need to take
Speaker 3: our own personal feelings to think and work on that,
Speaker 3: and we can't all just be projecting.
Speaker 2: Because it's hard living in our bodies. Period. It's hard
Speaker 2: living in our bodies.
Speaker 1: I think as and I'm gonna you know, I can
Speaker 1: only speak from a woman's perspective, but like you know,
Speaker 1: people have a lot to say about how we look,
Speaker 1: and we internalize things about ourselves, like my body now
Speaker 1: is not the way my body looked ten years ago,
Speaker 1: you know, so it things about my body that I
Speaker 1: don't like, and if I dare say something about it,
Speaker 1: people be like, what could you possibly have to complain about?
Speaker 2: And it's like I live.
Speaker 1: Here, I live here, Yeah, I live here, so let
Speaker 1: me live here.
Speaker 2: That's also a good title. I live here. Yes, Okay.
Speaker 1: Let's talk about makeup artists who posts before and after
Speaker 1: or like Durwan you know what I mean, Like, you
Speaker 1: get your hair done now because of TikTok. There's a
Speaker 1: camera with a ring light in your face. You get
Speaker 1: your makeup done now, there's a camera with a ring
Speaker 1: on it in your face. So this makeup artist posted
Speaker 1: the process of putting Glorilla's makeup on, and then Glorilla
Speaker 1: got mad at her.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she posted it, and uh, you know it definitely
Speaker 3: it didn't seem like how a lot of makeup artists
Speaker 3: are just doing these time laps videos and it looked
Speaker 3: really professional. This feels like, girl, you was in the
Speaker 3: back of somebody's room just taking these videos likes yeah, bts,
Speaker 3: But it didn't. It seemed like she did it on
Speaker 3: an android, like I'm know, no shade, but it just
Speaker 3: didn't seem like properly lit or like some people don't
Speaker 3: have the BTS face. Some people you just you need
Speaker 3: to post the finished product and that's it. I think
Speaker 3: I'm one of those people. I don't like seeing the process.
Speaker 3: I just post what happened. I don't, you know, because
Speaker 3: if my hair is not right, or you know, my
Speaker 3: eyebrows not all the way drawing in, I just don't
Speaker 3: like that. So I think it's weird that we've become
Speaker 3: in this world where everything is freaking content every like, girl.
Speaker 2: Just do my nails. Why you setting up the damn tripodter?
Speaker 2: Just do my nails right?
Speaker 1: And so Gorilla was like, she's like I thought she
Speaker 1: did a bad job, or not a bad job, but
Speaker 1: she was kind of like dragging the makeup artists and
Speaker 1: she's like, but this is weird.
Speaker 3: I told her I was up and coming, and she
Speaker 3: her friends that I did a good job.
Speaker 2: But it's like, you posted this, what did you think?
Speaker 1: She was gonna say, Well, I think the makeup artists
Speaker 1: got what they wanted. They went viral, wed viral, and
Speaker 1: now talking about it, and when it's the ending, the
Speaker 1: end result, I think it looks good.
Speaker 2: She looks like how we usually see her.
Speaker 1: So it's like, I mean, maybe the time laps should
Speaker 1: have been a little quicker, we shouldn't really have seen
Speaker 1: them before that long, because I think that's what people
Speaker 1: are are upset about.
Speaker 3: But then there were then it was this discussion where
Speaker 3: they were like, well, they're saying that it doesn't look
Speaker 3: good because of Gorilla's features, like oh, because of her
Speaker 3: nose or the way like her her jaws is shaped.
Speaker 3: And it's like whoa, whoa, whoa, Hey, hey, it's none
Speaker 3: of that. It's like, hey, I some of us just
Speaker 3: feel more comfortable when it's already done.
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't love my hands per se.
Speaker 3: Like I hate when I'm getting my nails done and
Speaker 3: they take a picture at the end. I'm like, I
Speaker 3: know you're not gonna post this. My hands look kind
Speaker 3: of kind of elder. I know you're not gonna post older.
Speaker 1: I know that the hands are giving step bushit me sometimes,
Speaker 1: so I know that I'm not gonna so stop taking
Speaker 1: pictures that you're not gonna poste.
Speaker 2: That hurts my feelings too.
Speaker 3: People take pictures of oh they did my hair, they
Speaker 3: did my makeup, and they don't post it. So why
Speaker 3: did you take this picture for a reference with a
Speaker 3: reference supposed to be online, so you don't like it.
Speaker 2: I remember I got my my hair done at this place.
Speaker 3: In this place, they literally post like good work or
Speaker 3: best work work that they did that day hair.
Speaker 2: They did my hair and.
Speaker 3: No, it didn't look good, but they took the picture,
Speaker 3: they did the video, and then they didn't post it.
Speaker 3: And I was like, I wonder why. I wonder why
Speaker 3: is that a drag on me or a drag on
Speaker 3: you because you didn't do a good job. And then
Speaker 3: I went back to that place and they did my
Speaker 3: hair get and I'm waiting.
Speaker 2: I'm waiting. I'm like, are you gonna post what's up?
Speaker 2: You want? With your makeup done and everything? No, you
Speaker 2: went into full beat. I did not go on a
Speaker 2: full beat, but I had a concealer on. I had enough.
Speaker 1: That's like, I had like a cute little track outfit
Speaker 1: where they could have did a little video and posted
Speaker 1: it in the stories.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, and they didn't do that. Some of us
Speaker 2: don't want it on.
Speaker 3: But then if you make it a thing where we're
Speaker 3: posting everybody and then you don't post me, now I
Speaker 3: feel some type of.
Speaker 2: Way everything doesn't need to be content. Everything doesn't need
Speaker 2: to be content.
Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, I made an appointment to get When
Speaker 1: I went made an appointment to get my hair done,
Speaker 1: it was like at the very end, it was like,
Speaker 1: do you consent to being on video for disappointment?
Speaker 2: And I said yes.
Speaker 1: And then when I got there, the camera wasn't set
Speaker 1: up and I didn't say nothing because I was like,
Speaker 1: actually this, people don't. I showed up looking like Samuel
Speaker 1: Jackson in Django with the hair right here, and I said, yeah,
Speaker 1: they didn't need to see that before cause you know,
Speaker 1: I left my house with no hat, no bandana, no nothing,
Speaker 1: because I was like, oh, I'm just gonna run in
Speaker 1: and out. Yeah, I'm gonna run into the car and
Speaker 1: then I'm ana run out when I get there. I
Speaker 1: get there, the car drops you off around the corner
Speaker 1: place it's rainy. He wasn't mighty is shrinking.
Speaker 2: I looked like a young Michael.
Speaker 1: Jackson and it was dudes on the you know, it
Speaker 1: was dudes on the corner like looking at me while
Speaker 1: I'm trying to find this thing. My sister called me
Speaker 1: on WhatsApp and she was like damn. When she picked
Speaker 1: up and I was like, yeah, I gotta get inside.
Speaker 2: Where is the door?
Speaker 1: So you know, everything doesn't need to be posted, but
Speaker 1: also you should be able to sound like a little
Speaker 1: release or a waiver that's like I'm cool, would you
Speaker 1: posted me? Or I'm not.
Speaker 2: Well.
Speaker 3: Everybody also is trying to get their workout because now
Speaker 3: everything is like it's all social media based, like, oh,
Speaker 3: you'll probably go to somebody based off like how many
Speaker 3: people were commenting like oh I went here, this was great,
Speaker 3: like or somebody recommended you, and so you know, if
Speaker 3: if the work is.
Speaker 2: Good and you post it, it might make people want
Speaker 2: to go.
Speaker 3: But I remember I went to go see my friend
Speaker 3: to do my hair, and then at the salon somebody
Speaker 3: else was like doing eyebrows, and so she's like, oh,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna you know, I'll get you a hookup. They'll
Speaker 3: do your eyebrows. All you gotta do is tip them,
Speaker 3: and so then they do my eyebrows. I said, did
Speaker 3: you do my eyebrows?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I didn't.
Speaker 2: I didn't. Really, it wasn't difference. I didn't.
Speaker 3: It was it was fine, it wasn't terrible, but it
Speaker 3: wasn't like it wasn't it didn't wow me. Right, I've
Speaker 3: gone and got my eyebrows or whatever done before, and
Speaker 3: I was like, damn, bitch, I look like a brand
Speaker 3: new girl.
Speaker 2: It wasn't given that. So then the friend turns around,
Speaker 2: was like, hey, are you gonna post this person? I said,
Speaker 2: post what what is there to post?
Speaker 3: Like if I post this, I don't know if this
Speaker 3: is going to bring this person any business, you know.
Speaker 3: And so then it was kind of like, oh, well,
Speaker 3: you know they feel some time it was like, well,
Speaker 3: yes you did, but I gave you a good tip
Speaker 3: or whatever. But it's also like, hey, we're in the
Speaker 3: business of if I pay you, that's that's it.
Speaker 2: That's the pet transaction is over. Yeah, that's it.
Speaker 3: Like I don't I don't have to tag everybody. I
Speaker 3: don't even tag friends of.
Speaker 2: Mine who.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the tagging thing is m m yeah yeah, because
Speaker 1: like I'm tagging you for is this a sponsored post?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Because we're making money. That's the thing.
Speaker 3: It's like, right now, this is the business of everything
Speaker 3: is could be payment in a way, like if you
Speaker 3: have followers, if you have people who come to your shows,
Speaker 3: like fans that are that ride or die that if
Speaker 3: you post that they're pulling up. So it's like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I want obviously want people to get business, but also
Speaker 3: I'm like, if I paid.
Speaker 2: You, that's the business you got my coins.
Speaker 1: No, but if I'm if I'm paying you for service,
Speaker 1: then that's And if somebody asked me like where did
Speaker 1: you get that or what is that, I'll tell them.
Speaker 1: But I'm not making a post for you on the
Speaker 1: page that says I went here and thank you for
Speaker 1: like this, like people brands pay for that, people spend
Speaker 1: money for that, Like you want me to send you
Speaker 1: my rate card?
Speaker 2: Oh that was that.
Speaker 3: It's crazy because that's an that's a part of this
Speaker 3: messy or living segment. This guy who is a like
Speaker 3: computer tech or whatever, like fixes computers. He's like, am
Speaker 3: I a bad person because my niece wants me to
Speaker 3: fix the computer for free? And it's like, hey, I
Speaker 3: already I hooked you up before. This is my actual job.
Speaker 2: You have to pay me.
Speaker 3: And it's like this is not mess creating a boundary
Speaker 3: with people that's.
Speaker 2: Like, this is my job.
Speaker 1: You need to give me money, right, maybe not full price,
Speaker 1: but you need to give me something.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 3: I think he was like, hey, I didn't, I didn't
Speaker 3: hooked you up enough. This is a your whatever happened
Speaker 3: when your computer is way beyond repair, like you really
Speaker 3: need to if you want me to work on it.
Speaker 2: I need my full fee fee because it's not easy
Speaker 2: to fix a computer. I know I can't fix the computer.
Speaker 2: I'll be hit.
Speaker 3: I'll be leaning on that power button hoping it restarts,
Speaker 3: and I'm like, and it comes back right.
Speaker 1: I pray you'll be hoping that that little globe doesn't
Speaker 1: pop up when you restart the laptop.
Speaker 3: When the little time the time thing comes up and
Speaker 3: it's like, oh the hour glass that when that hour
Speaker 3: glass show up, Hey, you might gone to the genius
Speaker 3: bar because your ship is done.
Speaker 1: I did date a little nerd a little nerdy dude
Speaker 1: for a little while, and anytime I had any type
Speaker 1: of issue with tech or whatever, I would text him
Speaker 1: and or call him young and what he said, he
Speaker 1: would do it. He would try, Well, what was you was?
Speaker 1: You were y'all hook it up?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I was literally I was literally sitting on him.
Speaker 2: Yeah he was fixed.
Speaker 3: Listen, now, if I didn't hit you off with some
Speaker 3: good good you will not be getting a dime for me.
Speaker 2: Oh baby, that is the payment. Hey, can you come
Speaker 2: pick up my laptop? It's not working, miss you.
Speaker 1: I love that for you. No, I mean it's you know,
Speaker 1: it's it's dead and gone. But you know, we went,
Speaker 1: we've been through that. He's no longer my genius bar.
Speaker 2: It's no longer my genius. Part is that's great. Okay.
Speaker 3: So here's another one. This is This is from a
Speaker 3: minute ago. But it was really interesting because I was
Speaker 3: really surprised by this. Actually, Whoopy Goldberg was celebrating her
Speaker 3: birthday and she ordered like these specific like cakes from
Speaker 3: this bakery and it was like her, you know, a
Speaker 3: big birthday, and she you know, put in the order.
Speaker 3: I think she even said her name, and the bakery
Speaker 3: was like, oh, we can't do the cakes or blah
Speaker 3: blah blah, like we can't accommodate you or something of
Speaker 3: that sort. And so she, she being probably WHOOPI Gober,
Speaker 3: was like, huh, I wonder why they can't accommodate me.
Speaker 2: This is weird. So then she got somebody else to
Speaker 2: do the order through another name, and they was able
Speaker 2: to accommodate her. So then she goes on.
Speaker 3: To view and says what happened, And basically they found
Speaker 3: out who this bakery was, and all hell broke loose.
Speaker 3: I think the bakery like even is like suing her
Speaker 3: for deformation or whatever.
Speaker 2: But she said their name. She never said their name.
Speaker 2: She never said her name.
Speaker 3: But I I would like to be like, woop be
Speaker 3: I'm not going around. I know she was trying to
Speaker 3: be petty, but it's like, oh, you just not getting
Speaker 3: my business.
Speaker 2: Like I was about to hit you off.
Speaker 3: And if you're if your cakes are popping, you could
Speaker 3: get more promo. But she said that she thinks that
Speaker 3: they didn't want to do her cakes. Is they don't
Speaker 3: believe in her political views?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, maybe you know.
Speaker 2: She does have a pretty loud view on the view.
Speaker 2: The view is the view she'd be viewing on the
Speaker 2: she got a view on the view. Don't nobody you
Speaker 2: like whoopy views? Whoopy is going to have a view.
Speaker 2: Whoopy has a view. The Whoope view is for real,
Speaker 2: the Whoopie view.
Speaker 1: Like this, it's an all cap view. I think that we.
Speaker 3: Go to the internet for so many things like if
Speaker 3: somebody do you wrong, if you in a barrelly you're like,
Speaker 3: I'm anna go live, or I'm a post on TikTok
Speaker 3: yah or or I have a TV show, I'm gonna
Speaker 3: talk about it, or we on the podcast we're gonna
Speaker 3: drag them. And it's like, when is there a line
Speaker 3: where you're like, actually, let's not let's not do that.
Speaker 1: Why should there be a line. We live in a
Speaker 1: time where everybody's sharing everything about themselves. So what happened
Speaker 1: at your birthday party?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: Show us like what's up and something? And I'll say this, Murray,
Speaker 1: would you like that?
Speaker 3: If somebody comes to I don't know, your comedy show
Speaker 3: and they felt some type of way then they got online,
Speaker 3: was like a you want that?
Speaker 2: Well what they say? What are you talking about? They
Speaker 2: didn't have a good time.
Speaker 1: She caught me ugly. Well that's the brand, bab. I
Speaker 1: call everybody at the shows ugly and or poor. So
Speaker 1: you know I've done that in theaters with thousands of
Speaker 1: people in it. I'll be like, hey, ugly and they'd
Speaker 1: be like, we are ugly. So if you come into
Speaker 1: the show, that's what you're gonna get. But it's we're
Speaker 1: gonna be entertained. I think a lot of times we're
Speaker 1: posting stuff on socials and blah blah blah, but we're
Speaker 1: not naming n but the people who watch dig and
Speaker 1: then they find the thing or the person that you're
Speaker 1: talking about, and now it's a problem. But I didn't
Speaker 1: say your name, you know, like when Resa Tisa was
Speaker 1: giving us her whole seventy two part thing, she never
Speaker 1: said Legion's real name. I thought she but she she
Speaker 1: never said his name.
Speaker 3: She called him, but she just called him Legion. She
Speaker 3: called him Leegion, but that wasn't his real name.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And the girl who was dating the guy from the
Speaker 1: Man from Atlanta, she never said his name. She said,
Speaker 1: the man from Atlanta gave me this baby and left
Speaker 1: me high and dry, and then he took it upon
Speaker 1: himself to make a response video. And it's like you
Speaker 1: could have been anonymous. Like I think Legion came out
Speaker 1: and spoke out.
Speaker 2: About what's her face?
Speaker 1: That guy who did the Netflix show Baby Reindeer, the
Speaker 1: woman came out and said that she was assuming him.
Speaker 2: He didn't use her real name. Everybody is watching.
Speaker 1: These things and hearing these things and seeing this stuff
Speaker 1: go viral, and they're like, well, I want a piece
Speaker 1: of that pie. And it's like you could have just
Speaker 1: been embarrassed in the shadows, but you wanted to I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 3: Embarrassed in the shadows is it's a tough one, embarrassed
Speaker 3: in the embarrassing in the shadows, because you're just like
Speaker 3: I want, I want to clear my name, but you
Speaker 3: don't need to. We don't know who you are until
Speaker 3: you tell us who I know who I am, and
Speaker 3: I need. I can't sleep at night because you didn't
Speaker 3: drag me from Selma and back.
Speaker 1: But now you're embarrassed in the light. Wouldn't you rather
Speaker 1: be embarrassed in the shadows.
Speaker 2: But the thing is is that you know the people online.
Speaker 3: They are better private investigators than the private investigators when
Speaker 3: I tell you, they get on their zoom, they find
Speaker 3: out who you're talking about. Okay, if you do a
Speaker 3: little like you do a story time and you post
Speaker 3: like a little corner of a rest, they already know
Speaker 3: the restaurant, they know the coordinates, they know who is
Speaker 3: a chef that night.
Speaker 2: People are wild.
Speaker 3: So it's like you do kind of have to be
Speaker 3: careful with the way you present something because even if
Speaker 3: you don't say their name, we could do context clues.
Speaker 2: We're not done.
Speaker 3: We live in New York City and I think she
Speaker 3: came on the show and brought the actual case and
Speaker 3: they make the case specifically a certain way, and they
Speaker 3: were like, you bringing your product on our show and
Speaker 3: then saying that we didn't like you because blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: Now I love that. She's like, I have a show,
Speaker 3: How dare you not service me? You're insane? Actually I'm
Speaker 3: not mad at that.
Speaker 1: Whoopy said, let me eat cake lets of marine antoinette.
Speaker 2: She did what she needed to do. Should we read
Speaker 2: a message?
Speaker 1: Yes, finally messages, got all messages, Let's do it.
Speaker 2: Woo Okay.
Speaker 1: The first one is titled Xes and Double Standards BS. Hey, ladies,
Speaker 1: I've got some mess for you and could really use
Speaker 1: some advice. I've been following you for years and I'm
Speaker 1: so happy for your success and all the positive vibes
Speaker 1: you put out.
Speaker 2: You say, that's the name positive vibes. So's ugly vibes. No. So,
Speaker 2: here's the thing.
Speaker 1: I've got a lot of mess in my life and
Speaker 1: I think it's all material for therapy.
Speaker 2: But this one is juicy and I need your insight.
Speaker 4: Now.
Speaker 2: I don't think you're.
Speaker 1: Supposed to view your life as material for therapy, but all.
Speaker 2: That means you definitely need therapy. If you think your
Speaker 2: your stuff is material, are you a comedian? Because I
Speaker 2: actually I do like my therapy as materials. Okay.
Speaker 1: I'm remarried with a baby, and I've been with my
Speaker 1: husband for almost four years.
Speaker 2: He's also divorced, Okay, adults.
Speaker 1: He still keeps in touch with his ex, though it's
Speaker 1: much less frequent now. I think she finally got the
Speaker 1: hint that he's moved on and needs to get on.
Speaker 2: With her life for her content.
Speaker 1: She's white, okay, though I mentioned this because I do
Speaker 1: feel like some of this behavior might be cultural.
Speaker 2: Okay, because you know how they do.
Speaker 1: In the past, she would randomly message him for all
Speaker 1: sorts of reasons, catching up, talking about her pet, complaining
Speaker 1: about it, hert toe, even needing help with.
Speaker 2: Spotify to access old playlists.
Speaker 1: I get it, some people can stay friends with their exes,
Speaker 1: but what really bothers me from an independent feminist perspective
Speaker 1: is the lack of respect she seems to have. She
Speaker 1: mentioned how much she misses spending time with him, his family,
Speaker 1: and their old trips together. Ooh, she wanted an old
Speaker 1: thing back. If I were in her shoes, I wouldn't
Speaker 1: be reaching out like that. I have too much pride.
Speaker 1: If someone divorced me, I want to move on and
Speaker 1: not keep clinging to the past.
Speaker 2: Honestly, I dropped the last name too.
Speaker 1: If I was dumped, the last thing I want is
Speaker 1: a reminder of that relationship. But what really gets me
Speaker 1: is that if she's okay with staying friends and reaching out,
Speaker 1: then I should be included in the conversation, especially.
Speaker 2: Not her wanted to be added to a group chat.
Speaker 1: She want to be the third god damn, she said,
Speaker 1: me and coach, especially when she once practically harassed him
Speaker 1: into staying at her place for wine and cookies.
Speaker 2: He got weirded out by that and stopped engaging.
Speaker 1: And I think she finally got the message she's trying
Speaker 1: to bang your man. Sis yes, and she's like, girl,
Speaker 1: you can't tell him trying to bang your man, stop
Speaker 1: getting in between cookies.
Speaker 2: Woo woo pairs well with chocolate chip? Should lee like, girl? What? Yes?
Speaker 1: You have a little burlow and a double chocolate little
Speaker 1: sugar cookie and.
Speaker 2: Sugar cookie and Gruner is merch. Now fast forward.
Speaker 1: He needed to return some of her stuff, and he
Speaker 1: was surprised by her cold response and that she didn't
Speaker 1: even want to ask about his new baby. Instead, he
Speaker 1: goes on to tell me how good and healthy she looks.
Speaker 1: If I said something like that about my ex, who,
Speaker 1: by the way, worked out every day, he would totally
Speaker 1: take offense and get jealous. But when I poke fun
Speaker 1: of him reacting to his story, I am expected to
Speaker 1: just NodD along. I've seen her picks from the messages
Speaker 1: he has shared with me how he has described her.
Speaker 1: And I know I'm beautiful and tough as concrete, but
Speaker 1: it's the principle and the double standard that bothers me.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. It's exhausting having to explain
Speaker 1: this over and over to him anyway, reading it, it's
Speaker 1: under three minutes love you girls. So yeah, sis, she
Speaker 1: she's trying to hook up with Yobo and why she Wait,
Speaker 1: he didn't want you to talk about weight. He was
Speaker 1: telling you how good she looks. What's I don't like
Speaker 1: none of this?
Speaker 3: This is mess obviously, And and sister, you know that
Speaker 3: that's why you wrote this to us.
Speaker 2: This is this is all on. This is how you
Speaker 2: can handle this.
Speaker 3: I think as somebody who I famously am cool with
Speaker 3: my exes as a lesbian, but as a person who
Speaker 3: you know, understands boundaries.
Speaker 2: I feel like he knows this is this is his mess.
Speaker 2: He needs to fix this.
Speaker 3: He needs to either tell her, Hey, you're close to
Speaker 3: getting blocked.
Speaker 2: My wife doesn't like this. This is not cool.
Speaker 3: You have to contact me during business hours that's ten
Speaker 3: am to five pm. After that, there's no moss. Hey,
Speaker 3: what do you need? What are we doing here? Like
Speaker 3: you're just trying to chitchat? Yeah, we can't be chit chat?
Speaker 2: Is it? Like? Is it my birthday? Your birthday? Like?
Speaker 2: Did your mom die?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 2: What's up?
Speaker 3: Like we're on a need to know basis every six months.
Speaker 3: This can't be a every month week. Why that's your
Speaker 3: toe hurt? She WoT him my toe her because you
Speaker 3: need to be back in my life. That's what she's
Speaker 3: trying to say.
Speaker 2: You could heal my toe with a little bit of yo. No,
Speaker 2: I'm getting you know, the remedy for our toe that yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3: So this is as much as you're getting upset, this
Speaker 3: is on him. You can't you can't even get mad
Speaker 3: at her because it's not he's not putting his foot down.
Speaker 3: She might not know how weird this is if he's
Speaker 3: not telling her, or if she's not even if he's
Speaker 3: telling her it's weird and she's not respecting that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he needs to block you. I don't do they
Speaker 2: They don't have kids together, do they? No?
Speaker 1: I think so.
Speaker 2: They're just they just used to be. Tell him to
Speaker 2: block her and see and then tell us what then?
Speaker 3: Yeah, get back to us on that, because this is
Speaker 3: unacceptable and I'm I'm fully against. If you don't like
Speaker 3: it at all, then he shouldn't love it.
Speaker 2: Oh, he shouldn't. I don't like it. He shouldn't love it. Nope, Okay,
Speaker 2: here's another one. Where is it at? Okay? Looking for advice?
Speaker 2: Hey sid Marie, longtime listener, first time emailer. Here's the deal.
Speaker 3: A few months ago, I found myself in a pretty
Speaker 3: complicated spot. I'm in a relationship that started off amazing,
Speaker 3: but over time it became more and more tangled.
Speaker 2: We'll call him James for the sake of clarity.
Speaker 3: He's a great person and I love him, but we're
Speaker 3: just not clicking like we used to. To make things worse,
Speaker 3: I recently realize that I'm starting to develop feelings for
Speaker 3: someone else, Evan. Evan, you know, I'm not mad at
Speaker 3: men would ease you know. Evan is someone I met
Speaker 3: through work and we became close friends. It wasn't intentional,
Speaker 3: but as time has gone on, my feelings for him
Speaker 3: have only gotten stronger, and it's been confusing. I've tried
Speaker 3: to push it down, tell myself it's just a phase,
Speaker 3: but I can't ignore it anymore.
Speaker 2: Here's where it.
Speaker 3: Gets even messier. I don't want to hurt James, and
Speaker 3: hurt him no, I'm kidding. He's such a kind and
Speaker 3: loving person and I don't want to be the one
Speaker 3: who ends things. But on the other hand, I feel
Speaker 3: like I'm not being fair to him, staying in a
Speaker 3: relationship where I'm not fully invested anymore. And on top
Speaker 3: of that, I feel like I'm betraying him by having
Speaker 3: feelings for someone else. I've talked talking to my friends
Speaker 3: about it, but their advice has been all over the place.
Speaker 2: Okay, you know how your friends are.
Speaker 3: You know when you tell your friends what they gonna
Speaker 3: tell you, it is usually stuff that you can't use.
Speaker 3: Some think I should be honest with James, while others
Speaker 3: tell me I should take a step back and sort
Speaker 3: out my feelings before making any decision. Here's the part
Speaker 3: that has me really stuck. What if I'm just chasing
Speaker 3: something that isn't real? What if this thing with Evan
Speaker 3: is just a distraction or worse, something I'm imagining to
Speaker 3: avoid facing the issues with James.
Speaker 2: I feel so lost.
Speaker 3: I don't want to hurt anyone, but I can't keep
Speaker 3: going like this either. Ooh the drama girl, you're writing
Speaker 3: this down? Thank you so much. How do I figure
Speaker 3: out whether I'm truly unhappy in my current relationship or
Speaker 3: if I'm just confused?
Speaker 2: And what do I even do if I decide to
Speaker 2: end things with James?
Speaker 3: How do I even handle that kind of conversation without
Speaker 3: causing irreversible damage? I know I'm not the only one.
Speaker 3: I know I'm not the only one who can make
Speaker 3: the decision, but I'm really struggling with where to go
Speaker 3: from here.
Speaker 2: Any advice would be helpful.
Speaker 1: Love you' so James, But they like Evan, but they
Speaker 1: don't know if Evan likes them.
Speaker 2: Mh they you know.
Speaker 3: It's that thing when you're like, I'm she might be
Speaker 3: getting something from Evan that she's not getting from James,
Speaker 3: so it feels more intense than what it really is.
Speaker 1: Evan could just be like, yo, I'm just I'm just
Speaker 1: chilling with my homie like I usually do.
Speaker 3: But he's you know, writing back, maybe a little bit quicker,
Speaker 3: or you know, making plans and things of the source.
Speaker 2: So it's making her feel like.
Speaker 3: Oh, we might got something going on, but you probably
Speaker 3: are just it's probably just a distraction.
Speaker 2: But regardless of that, it's like you got it in
Speaker 2: one thing to do something else.
Speaker 3: So it's clear that your heart is not with James,
Speaker 3: so you should move on.
Speaker 2: Time is time is precious? Well, hold on, hold on,
Speaker 2: don't tell them to move on too quick. Do you
Speaker 2: live with James?
Speaker 1: Oh, you're asking James paying the rent?
Speaker 2: What where does Evan work? How do we know Evan?
Speaker 1: From church? From school? From Does he live in the building? Like,
Speaker 1: because if you leave James, you moveing in with Evan?
Speaker 2: Like what? What? Oh?
Speaker 1: But it says James is a great person and I
Speaker 1: love him, but we're just not clicking like we used to.
Speaker 1: Is it like James has gotten comfortable he not planning
Speaker 1: date nights?
Speaker 2: No more? Like is that a conversation that can happen
Speaker 2: and then we can?
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know, we get it, James, And you
Speaker 3: look at them at the sad of your eye, you're
Speaker 3: like like that, like if that and that happens, that
Speaker 3: happens where you don't where you fall out of love
Speaker 3: with somebody and you be looking at them like why
Speaker 3: did I even talk to you?
Speaker 2: If you feel like that, that's.
Speaker 3: Gonna be hard to come back from. I'm not even
Speaker 3: gonna lie.
Speaker 1: No, it is when you got that fucking ich where
Speaker 1: you're like, how how did this start?
Speaker 2: I'm not involved.
Speaker 1: Well, that's how I know when something is over, Like
Speaker 1: when they start to look ugly to me, I'd be like,
Speaker 1: oh okay, I'm done it, and.
Speaker 2: Hey, we gotta I think we got to move past this.
Speaker 3: I don't want to hurt nobody. Hey, we grown people. Feelings,
Speaker 3: they gonna get hurt. We we're at the age where
Speaker 3: when just because your feelings hurt is hurt. It doesn't
Speaker 3: mean that what happened didn't need to happen. Listen, feelings
Speaker 3: are gonna get hurt. But you know what hurts more
Speaker 3: wasting that person's time.
Speaker 2: That is always gonna hurt. The longer you.
Speaker 1: Take to rip the band aid off, or the longer
Speaker 1: you take to realize what you want or don't want,
Speaker 1: the more that person is gonna be invested, so you
Speaker 1: gotta let them go.
Speaker 3: It seems like, or maybe at least tell James like, hey,
Speaker 3: I'm not feeling X Y and Z.
Speaker 2: Can you work on this?
Speaker 3: Like give James a head out before you head out,
Speaker 3: like a little you know, you say, you're.
Speaker 2: James head out?
Speaker 3: No no, no oh, before you before you head out,
Speaker 3: give James a little you know, performance update.
Speaker 2: Hey a performance review.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know you're you're right now, you're at a seven.
Speaker 3: You're at a seven, more like a six. You're at
Speaker 3: a six. No, you gotta start.
Speaker 1: It's got to be like a like a like a compliment, sandwich,
Speaker 1: startup top. Something you love about James, Hey, babe, you
Speaker 1: know I really love that you're kind and loving. You're
Speaker 1: kind and loving and I love you. But you know,
Speaker 1: sometimes it seems like you take me for granted. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm in here cooking. You got me making alfredo every
Speaker 1: day or whatever the hell you're cooking over there. I
Speaker 1: don't know what you making, friend, you got me cooking,
Speaker 1: and I feel like you're taking you know, I just
Speaker 1: feel like I'm not being appreciated, or I feel like
Speaker 1: we're not clicking how we used to, you know, is
Speaker 1: that something and then with a little or maybe it's
Speaker 1: just open face. The compliment is at the top and
Speaker 1: then the sandwiches insults at the butt.
Speaker 2: I don't know whatever, but should we talk to Evan
Speaker 2: at all?
Speaker 3: Don't tell Evan we talked because I have nothing to
Speaker 3: do with Evan, because it's like, even if you do,
Speaker 3: if you do feel like you should be with Evan
Speaker 3: or even interest in it, you got to finish the
Speaker 3: James thing.
Speaker 2: You gotta finish the James before you can have your Evan.
Speaker 1: Finish the James before you get to your Evan baby.
Speaker 2: It is maybe it's Evan, a message in invisible ink,
Speaker 2: like what's up?
Speaker 1: Or just the eyes the eye When you send those eyes,
Speaker 1: they know what's up. They secretly know what's up. You
Speaker 1: don't have to say much with the eyes. The eyes
Speaker 1: say every way, Heit send the eyes that be like, Wow,
Speaker 1: you did that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's another one, but I think we
Speaker 2: need to save it for next week. Yeah we should.
Speaker 3: We need to save these messages. But you know, you
Speaker 3: guys are doing better. I'm proud of you. These were
Speaker 3: good messages. Wow, send us more.
Speaker 2: How about that?
Speaker 1: Is there anything anything we need to hit before we
Speaker 1: go friend, some things to add.
Speaker 2: To the Yeah, oh yeah, we already.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: I need an apartment, need more money, need to get organized,
Speaker 2: You need your papers in order, and let's put away.
Speaker 2: I'll put that down.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I want less mess. I want more mess for
Speaker 2: the pod less mess in my life. How about that?
Speaker 2: Less a mess for sid And I want petty Sydney.
Speaker 3: You want petty Sydney. Yeah, girl, you don't want me
Speaker 3: to be petty? Well, not pity with me, because I
Speaker 3: got I got something right now that I could be
Speaker 3: petty about.
Speaker 2: But I'm not. I don't want to do it on air. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And on that note to be continued.
Speaker 4: Okay, friend, love this for us.
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