WEBVTT - Grateful 

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<v Speaker 1>This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Chris Harrison and Lauren Zema coming to you from the

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<v Speaker 1>home office in Austin, Texas. Happy Thanksgiving everybody. I hope

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<v Speaker 1>you are together with those that you love, and I

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<v Speaker 1>certainly am LZ your mom, my mom, the kids are here,

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<v Speaker 1>your brother's coming in, so we are hosting this year.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, Happy Thanksgiving.

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<v Speaker 2>Babe, Happy Thanksgiving. I'm so grateful for you.

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<v Speaker 1>This is our first round of holidays as a married couple.

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<v Speaker 2>Not much has changed, but well, no, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>something has changed.

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<v Speaker 1>What's that?

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<v Speaker 2>I think maybe this year, maybe it was last year,

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<v Speaker 2>was the first time or will be the first time

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<v Speaker 2>that we've spent both major holidays, Thanksgiving and Christmas together.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we made a concerted effort early on to just

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<v Speaker 1>support each other of go be with your family. You

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<v Speaker 1>do your thing, I'll do my thing. We will try

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<v Speaker 1>to be together as much as possible. We've definitely learned

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<v Speaker 1>we don't want to be apart.

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<v Speaker 2>So well, you know, we don't want to be apart.

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<v Speaker 2>But I will also say, I just think, like with

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of families, you know you're dealing with. I

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<v Speaker 2>think people tend to live all over the country more

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<v Speaker 2>now than they did decades ago. Our families are spread

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<v Speaker 2>out all over in different cities. You know. We have

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<v Speaker 2>divorce in our family, Like there are different things where

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<v Speaker 2>you end up having to split time and share time,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I think it's so important to have a

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<v Speaker 2>soft heart with that and to be empathetic and to

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<v Speaker 2>not make demands of the people you love, Like as

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<v Speaker 2>long as you're seeing effort from those people that they

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<v Speaker 2>want to see or that they're trying to or they're saying, well,

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<v Speaker 2>let's do Christmas on this day. But it's hard. It's

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<v Speaker 2>hard to not be with the ones you love on holidays.

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<v Speaker 1>And we did that and I definitely was like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to do that again. Where you and I

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<v Speaker 1>were apart, you don't ever well, I mean, if we look,

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<v Speaker 1>if we have to, I agree with what you just said.

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<v Speaker 1>We all got to just do the best we can. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>when you have kids and families, like you said, in

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<v Speaker 1>the family dynamics.

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<v Speaker 2>Grew up, they're dating people, they have partners, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And in this day and age, there's divorce in your

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<v Speaker 1>everybody and including having grace for our own kids. Of

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<v Speaker 1>everyone's just going to do the best they can and

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<v Speaker 1>you try to remove the guilt. And I guess that

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<v Speaker 1>gets me to my point of what's so wonderful about

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<v Speaker 1>Thanksgiving is it's the holiday where you really choose. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>Christmas is it's family. You know, it's it's such a

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<v Speaker 1>religious holiday. Typically it's that's with your family, period, full stop.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanksgiving has always been kind of that. Yes, it's definitely

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<v Speaker 1>with family, but it's also your friends, the people you

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<v Speaker 1>choose to have a holiday with.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I think this is a very La thing. You're

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<v Speaker 2>heading on. LA is the city of friendsgivings. Did you

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<v Speaker 2>ever notice that?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well I did a few of those.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's because it's a very transient place. Like

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of people are moving to LA to pursue

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<v Speaker 2>their dreams away from their family please. And then it's

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<v Speaker 2>like on this one end of the country and a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of people are struggling artists, like with not that

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<v Speaker 2>much money. So I noticed when I was in LA

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<v Speaker 2>in my twenties, so many people stay in LA for Thanksgiving,

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<v Speaker 2>do friends givings, and then like save their money to

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<v Speaker 2>go home for Christmas.

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<v Speaker 1>And I tried to bring as many orphans, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>La orphans, you call them as I could into my

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<v Speaker 1>home because I was very traditionalist. You know, I would

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<v Speaker 1>fry the turkey and do the thing. And you know, look,

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to come, bring a dish if you can,

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<v Speaker 1>if not, just come and enjoy. Because you know, one

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<v Speaker 1>thing is you just don't want people to feel alone

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<v Speaker 1>in these holiday seasons, and try to be cognizant of that.

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<v Speaker 1>If you have friends or people that are alone, try

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<v Speaker 1>to give them a little extra attention or a call,

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<v Speaker 1>or invite them over, or take them some leftovers, even

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<v Speaker 1>just say hey, we made you a plate, and try

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<v Speaker 1>to make people feel a little seen and loved on

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<v Speaker 1>this holiday. But I'm excited for Thanksgiving, and I hope

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<v Speaker 1>everybody listening is getting a chance to settle in and

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully if you're traveling, you've made a twere you're getting

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<v Speaker 1>because I know travel is crazy this week. But I'm

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<v Speaker 1>excited for Thanksgiving. I love this holiday. Is there something

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<v Speaker 1>in particular you love the most other than the obvious

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<v Speaker 1>of families going to be here. Is there something you

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<v Speaker 1>look forward to on Thanksgiving?

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<v Speaker 2>I've actually, very consciously in the last few years tried

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<v Speaker 2>to mentally drill in on being so grateful at Thanksgiving

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<v Speaker 2>and really thinking about truly what I'm thankful for, because

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<v Speaker 2>you know, when you're little, it's like the turkey and

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what thinks. There's the playful side of

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<v Speaker 2>Thanksgiving and when you're a kid, you don't have the

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<v Speaker 2>capacity to be super grateful. And then in the past

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<v Speaker 2>couple of years, I know, you know, there's been some

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<v Speaker 2>controversy around it as a holiday. So to me, I've

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<v Speaker 2>just tried to focus on the meaning of Thanksgiving, like

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<v Speaker 2>what are you grateful for? Especially because I think with

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<v Speaker 2>Christmas there's a lot more pomp and circumstance, like gifts

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<v Speaker 2>and decorations, and Thanksgiving we just basically got food right

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<v Speaker 2>and people we love. So I think that like this year,

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<v Speaker 2>my brother wasn't necessarily like he was super busy with work,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, dude, just come, you know, Like, to me,

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<v Speaker 2>it's so important, and it probably comes from a grief

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<v Speaker 2>place of knowing my dad's not with us anymore. The

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<v Speaker 2>older I get, the more I just think, let's just

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<v Speaker 2>try to move mountains to be together. And I think,

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<v Speaker 2>especially when you live apart these little weekends, it's kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like this concentrated experience where you can pack a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of gratefulness and quality time together. So I'm thankful

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<v Speaker 2>for that, and then I'm reminding myself to be thankful

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<v Speaker 2>and that's what I'm looking forward to about Thanksgiving.

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<v Speaker 1>What were your thanksgivings growing up? What was that?

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<v Speaker 2>Always either at our house or my grandmother's house. She

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<v Speaker 2>lived forty minutes away, so we kind of exchanged, like

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<v Speaker 2>who was hosting Thanksgiving or Christmas?

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<v Speaker 1>And is just like ten twenty thirty Yeah, like.

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<v Speaker 2>Twenty twenty five people. Yeah, I mean it was like

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<v Speaker 2>that was one thing. A lot of my family still

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<v Speaker 2>lived in Chicago, so we were able to be together

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<v Speaker 2>for a lot, which I had great times with my cousins,

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<v Speaker 2>Like we were all, you know, kids running around and

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm definitely grateful this year for my sister being

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<v Speaker 2>a new mom. It's like starting a new generation and

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<v Speaker 2>it'll be fun in the next couple of years and

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<v Speaker 2>we have holidays with little kids running around.

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<v Speaker 1>It's going to get bigger and bigger.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what about you? What were your Thanksgivings on?

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<v Speaker 1>Mine were kind of sports for a while growing up.

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<v Speaker 2>With sports was not a thing for us.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, there was there was the like a football game

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<v Speaker 1>or so no, no no. For me, it was there

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<v Speaker 1>was a Thanksgiving soccer tournament every year in Houston, and

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<v Speaker 1>so we would go to the soccer tournament and you

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<v Speaker 1>know the turkey trot whatever you call them, and then

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<v Speaker 1>we would go I luckily I have relatives. My dad's

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<v Speaker 1>sister lived in Houston, so we would then go to

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<v Speaker 1>their house for Thanksgiving and kind of knock it all out.

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<v Speaker 1>So we did that for a lot of years, and

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<v Speaker 1>then after that it was kind of a hodgepodge of

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<v Speaker 1>being back home, you know, in college and all that.

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<v Speaker 1>So I love Thanksgiving. I think what I relish the

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<v Speaker 1>most is the days leading up to it. The first

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<v Speaker 1>like Wednesday, you know, Tuesday, really Wednesday and Thursday, of

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<v Speaker 1>getting everything prepped. I enjoy going to the store. I

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<v Speaker 1>know it can be crazy going to the grocery store.

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<v Speaker 2>You're so right about this. I think that the cooking

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<v Speaker 2>together is more fun than the eating together.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, hanging out in the kitchen. Your mom's going to

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<v Speaker 1>be there, I'll be there, Taylor, our daughter is going

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<v Speaker 1>to be there. Your brother's girlfriend, Casey's an amazing baker

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<v Speaker 1>and cooking.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank god Taylor and Casey are around to join on

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<v Speaker 2>the baker some sus chef. Your mom's going to cook

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<v Speaker 2>as well.

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<v Speaker 1>My mom's coming in, So that to me to have

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<v Speaker 1>music going, have a game on in the background, have

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<v Speaker 1>the football game on. Oh you know, you'll be in

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<v Speaker 1>charge of opening wine and champagne and shakouderie. But we

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<v Speaker 1>like just all hanging out in that area, laughing, talking,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, debating whatever it is. That is everything to

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<v Speaker 1>me as much as diving in and actually eating on Thursdays.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you're totally right. And isn't it funny because

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<v Speaker 2>you actually spend so much more time on the prep

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<v Speaker 2>than the meal. Like I said, you do all this

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<v Speaker 2>work and then sit down to eat, and you forty

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<v Speaker 2>minutes later you're done and okay, now we're all cleaning up.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, then you're just excited about the leftovers.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you just sit on a really good metaphor? Is

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<v Speaker 2>it allegory?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>I got to READO my English education. But point of

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<v Speaker 2>that Thanksgiving shows us and the prep and all that

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<v Speaker 2>reminds us that you got to enjoy the journey. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes the destination you get there, but like the journeys

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<v Speaker 2>where you actually make the memories and you're totally right

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<v Speaker 2>now that I stop and think about it. My great

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<v Speaker 2>memories of especially recent years when I can remember more

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<v Speaker 2>from instead of being so young, but is helping my

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<v Speaker 2>mom in the kitchen and just hanging out and laughing

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<v Speaker 2>with her, because there's something very human about a joint

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<v Speaker 2>project and goal that you're working towards, like the creation

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<v Speaker 2>of the food, and doing that together is really bonding.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's changed, right, I mean, I remember when I

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<v Speaker 1>was a kid, and I don't know if it was

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<v Speaker 1>different for you, but when I was a kid, I

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<v Speaker 1>dreamt of pecan pie and turkey and gravy and mashed potatoes.

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<v Speaker 1>It was just waiting all day smelling it, and you'd

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<v Speaker 1>sneak in and you know, the adults were in there

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<v Speaker 1>and I wasn't involved in the prep, and that the

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<v Speaker 1>moment of walking in just seeing this buffet because we

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<v Speaker 1>didn't eat like that all year, and so you know,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're your grandparents or whatever, just seeing all that food,

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<v Speaker 1>you're like, oh my gosh, that just bounty you're about

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<v Speaker 1>to dive into, and then two seconds later you're stuffed.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's definitely changed now. I relish everyone coming home

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<v Speaker 1>and the big hugs and the music and the laughter

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<v Speaker 1>and the house being full and the noise is what

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<v Speaker 1>I relish the most.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's another good point. Probably when we're younger, we

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<v Speaker 2>so focus on the end results, yeah, and the toy

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<v Speaker 2>we get for Christmas, and then when we're older we

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<v Speaker 2>realize the fun is in like putting the dollhouse together, kids' faces.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, okay, But with that said, let's go shallow.

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<v Speaker 1>When you see the lineup on Thursday, what's that one

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<v Speaker 1>thing you're like that's my go to? Like? Is there

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<v Speaker 1>a thing where you're like? Is it turkey as it yams?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it the green bean casserout?

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<v Speaker 2>We're the only ones who do this?

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<v Speaker 1>Well.

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<v Speaker 2>You and I feel differently. I love turkey, you're not.

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<v Speaker 2>I like turkey, turkey fair. Your mom makes an amazing turkey,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'm excited about that. And I fried a turkey

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<v Speaker 2>for a long time, which I did love a fried turkey.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, the Emerald Lagassi fried turkey recipe that's

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<v Speaker 1>been around for forever is spectacular. I used it for

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<v Speaker 1>for forever.

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<v Speaker 2>Why have you not made me this very because we

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<v Speaker 2>got to buy a friar, gotta get against and it's dangerous.

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<v Speaker 1>You do it right. It's really not for you know,

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<v Speaker 1>probably a decade.

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<v Speaker 2>It's my grandfather used to fry a turkey. He got

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<v Speaker 2>really into it for a while, and I just remember,

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<v Speaker 2>like my mom would tell him, Dad, take that out

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<v Speaker 2>on the deck and do it away from the kids,

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<v Speaker 2>and we'd like watch him through the glass window of

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<v Speaker 2>frying the turkey because we weren't allowed to beating ny.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, okay, a couple of things. A check the water,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, put it in the trash bag.

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<v Speaker 2>And it wasn't a man who loved.

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<v Speaker 1>So you definitely set you know, so you can set

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<v Speaker 1>the oil level. Uh, and then obviously don't let the

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<v Speaker 1>turkey be frozen at all when you put it in

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<v Speaker 1>the fryer.

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<v Speaker 2>Bad hot tip. Literally.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's also just difficult because even if you do

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<v Speaker 1>it perfectly, it's messy and you have just a ton

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<v Speaker 1>of peanut oil or whatever that whatever oil you're using.

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<v Speaker 1>You have this vat of oil that you have to

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<v Speaker 1>dispose of. So it's just it's not a clean thing

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<v Speaker 1>to do. Like, it's just a bit of a pain,

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<v Speaker 1>but man, it's good. Once you have one like that,

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<v Speaker 1>it's hard to go.

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<v Speaker 2>I did they were great? I think he stopped doing

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<v Speaker 2>it just because it was so much work. Exactly what

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<v Speaker 2>you're saying. My mom got me really into and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if other people do this, but at Thanksgiving

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<v Speaker 2>we have turkey with champagne, and like the flavor combination

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<v Speaker 2>of turkey and gravy with champagne is so good.

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<v Speaker 1>Like the way you're moving your shoulders round.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm getting excited about it. And we you know, it's

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<v Speaker 2>like there's also something so special about holiday food because

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<v Speaker 2>it's one c year, you know, when I'm never eating

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<v Speaker 2>turkey other than at Thanksgiving, so it really makes it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a side fan, you know. I love to make

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<v Speaker 1>a tender loin, So I'm going to make us a

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<v Speaker 1>tender loin on the green Ada.

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<v Speaker 2>If anyone else is doing this beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it.

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<v Speaker 2>I love a tender You make a great tenderline. I've

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<v Speaker 2>just never had the tender line of Thanksgiving until you.

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<v Speaker 1>So instead of turkey and ham, we do turkey and tenderloin.

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<v Speaker 1>But I like, I'm excited for a little bit of everything,

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<v Speaker 1>like the green bean casserole, the candy jams. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna eat a lot of them, but you got to

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<v Speaker 1>have some mashed potatoes. I love your mom's gravy all

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I love all of that and a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>Of dessert for sure. The sides are a major.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm a big sides person because it's I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's the one meal where I'm just so excited about

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<v Speaker 1>the sides.

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<v Speaker 2>It is. I know some people, Oh, in the you

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<v Speaker 2>call it yams, It's called sweet potato casting.

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<v Speaker 1>The same thing. But what about the cranberry sauce.

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<v Speaker 2>I need it out of the can me too.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I know, I need to see the ribbed can.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't want the real ones. It's probably the

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<v Speaker 2>only thing in my life where I want the less natural,

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<v Speaker 2>more processed version.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, and I know we could just google this now,

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<v Speaker 1>but does anybody understand why the label is always upside

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<v Speaker 1>down on the cranberry sauce cans?

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<v Speaker 2>Never even noticed that. Yeah, obviously I don't do the grocery.

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<v Speaker 1>Shopping, but oftentimes it's upside down. I've always wondered why

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<v Speaker 1>that is.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just a reminder to be grateful.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, thanks, But yeah, I'm glad that we agree on

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<v Speaker 1>that because I need a couple of slices and it's

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<v Speaker 1>and then later I'll put that on.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, more than if anyone giving us that answer, I

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<v Speaker 2>would be interested to know. And I'm circling back to

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<v Speaker 2>what we said a minute ago. But if we are

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<v Speaker 2>the only ones who, up until so recently, because we've

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<v Speaker 2>been together for six years, but would separate on holidays

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<v Speaker 2>like this, does, I think it's a rare thing. I

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<v Speaker 2>guess my mindset with it was always, well, we're together

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<v Speaker 2>pretty much the rest of the year, right, and I

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<v Speaker 2>just don't ever want either of us to like not

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<v Speaker 2>be able to see our family. So in years past,

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<v Speaker 2>what we've done is, you know, you might go see

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<v Speaker 2>your dad a Thanksgiving and so I'll go be with

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<v Speaker 2>my mom, and but then like we'd have the kids

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<v Speaker 2>for Christmas, so we're going to come together. Maybe your

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<v Speaker 2>mom would come to that and we would just kind

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<v Speaker 2>of be like we would separate so that we could

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<v Speaker 2>see all the people we love. So I'm interested if

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<v Speaker 2>anybody else does that or if we're weird.

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<v Speaker 1>There's no and just no, there's no right way to

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<v Speaker 1>do it. Yeah, there's no. However, you're pulling it off

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<v Speaker 1>and making it work. God bless you for it.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, some people get mad about it, like some people

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<v Speaker 2>when you do you know, a, oh, we're doing our

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<v Speaker 2>Christmas on this day. Some people get offended about that

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<v Speaker 2>and they're like, no, it's not that doesn't count. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>a big I'm okay with it not being on the

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<v Speaker 2>actual date, like let's just get together. But you know,

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<v Speaker 2>and I want to give a shout out, like a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of this probably comes from a grief place for me.

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<v Speaker 2>I know that, like losing my dad and then growing older.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just driven home from more the importance of appreciating

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<v Speaker 2>family and being together. And a shout out to anybody

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<v Speaker 2>who is missing someone this holiday season. I know that,

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<v Speaker 2>you know it's like this time of joy and gratefulness,

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<v Speaker 2>but sometimes it feels like a little a little stab

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<v Speaker 2>of pain when you think about the people you don't have.

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<v Speaker 2>So just sending love to you and know that our

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<v Speaker 2>thoughts are with you.

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<v Speaker 1>And I echo that as we head into the holiday season,

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<v Speaker 1>obviously it kicks off for Thanksgiving. Wherever you are, Elsie

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<v Speaker 1>and I are thinking about you. We love you. We

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<v Speaker 1>love doing this podcast, and especially it always hits home

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<v Speaker 1>as we head into the holidays to be grateful, and

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<v Speaker 1>one of the things we're grateful for is that we've

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<v Speaker 1>had this conduit to you guys to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to chat and The Most Dramatic Podcast Ever has

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<v Speaker 1>been a lot of things, a lot of great interviews,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of great talks, a lot of great questions

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<v Speaker 1>from you guys. But at this time of year we

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<v Speaker 1>give thanks. And one of the things that Elsie and

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<v Speaker 1>I will definitely give thanks for is you always you

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<v Speaker 1>for allowing us to do what we love and now

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<v Speaker 1>we get to do it together. So Happy Thanksgiving everybody.

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<v Speaker 2>We love you, We're grateful for you, and we hope

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<v Speaker 2>that you are with people who appreciate you and that

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<v Speaker 2>you can send love to them and give it back,

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<v Speaker 2>because I really think at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 2>that's what life is all about, the people in our lives.

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<v Speaker 2>We love you, guys, Thank you so so much, and

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<v Speaker 2>Happy Thanksgiving.

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