WEBVTT - How Men Think with Jimmie Allen 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:03.880 We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This 0:00:04.559 --> 0:00:08.360 is How Men Think and I heard radio podcast. Hi. 0:00:08.640 --> 0:00:11.520 This is Paris Hilton, and I'm excited to tell you 0:00:11.560 --> 0:00:15.200 that I'm executive producing the new and improved How Men 0:00:15.320 --> 0:00:19.480 Think podcast. How Men Think was always about helping women 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:22.759 understand the things that men say and do, all of 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:31.440 it relationships, dating, marriage, divorce, breakups, hookups, love, sex, family, 0:00:31.600 --> 0:00:34.599 and fatherhood. But when I agreed to do this reboot, 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:39.240 I had a few conditions. No sugarcoating, no mind games, 0:00:39.560 --> 0:00:43.600 and absolutely no man splaining. Men are hard enough to 0:00:43.680 --> 0:00:47.360 understand without the mind games. To be honest, I'm not 0:00:47.440 --> 0:00:51.040 even convinced that they understand themselves, but the How Men 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:54.120 Think podcast is exactly what we need to figure them out. 0:00:54.520 --> 0:00:57.720 It's going to be fun, informative, and probably a bit 0:00:57.760 --> 0:01:01.480 scary at times because we're literally going inside the minds 0:01:01.520 --> 0:01:04.920 of men. Buckle up, check out the How Men Think 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:08.720 Podcast on I Heart Radio and everywhere you listen to podcasts. 0:01:11.319 --> 0:01:13.800 Hey what's up, y'all? I'm Jimmy Allen. Some of you 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:18.400 might know me as a singer songwriter, uh or someone 0:01:18.440 --> 0:01:21.840 you're tired of hearing on the radio. Either way, I'm me. 0:01:22.520 --> 0:01:25.720 I'm here and I'm happy to be guest hosting How 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:28.640 men think? So we're gonna answer all your questions and 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:31.720 solve some of your fascinating questions that you've probably been 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:34.560 sitting on for a while and kind of wanted to yourself. 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:37.960 What do you men think? How do you men think? 0:01:38.640 --> 0:01:40.440 But I'll tell you what before we jump into all that, 0:01:40.920 --> 0:01:45.240 we're gonna jump into eleven questions kind of about myself 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:47.880 as shucks. So before we jump into that, We're gonna 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:50.320 go into eleven questions, and I'll tell a little bit 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:52.760 about me that way, hopefully you feel a lot more comfortable. 0:01:52.760 --> 0:01:54.160 We can get on here and have good time and 0:01:54.200 --> 0:01:57.560 I can answer some of your questions. Okay, So here 0:01:57.600 --> 0:02:01.120 we go. This is eleven Questions with Jimmy Allen. What 0:02:01.200 --> 0:02:06.400 are you known for? Tell us about yourself? Well, I 0:02:06.400 --> 0:02:08.519 I probably known for, you know, being a country music 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:10.840 artist recently. Probably it's a lot of people know me 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:13.040 from Dance with the Star of Season thirty, which is 0:02:13.080 --> 0:02:15.720 being great by the way. That's me. You know. I 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:19.040 grew up in this town called Milton, Delaware with my father, 0:02:19.160 --> 0:02:23.560 my mother, my siblings, grow listen to country music, rock music. 0:02:23.760 --> 0:02:27.399 You know, Christie music, R and B, hip hop everything. Um, 0:02:27.440 --> 0:02:30.200 this small town guy. You know, I love fishing. I 0:02:30.240 --> 0:02:35.080 love hanging out at the Mooselage, you know, drinking beers 0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:37.800 and playing cards with my family. Who are you in 0:02:37.840 --> 0:02:42.359 your personal life? Yeah? In my personal life, I'm sure 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:45.400 my wife would say I am the kind of opposite 0:02:45.440 --> 0:02:48.400 of who I am on stage on television. Um, I 0:02:48.400 --> 0:02:50.320 don't know. I'm a lot more chill at home, you know, 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:54.280 probably because I spend so much energy at work. I'm 0:02:54.320 --> 0:02:55.959 a lot I'm sure my wife would like me be 0:02:55.960 --> 0:02:58.120 a lot more energetic at home because I give it 0:02:58.160 --> 0:03:00.600 to the world, gives to everybody else. But times at home, 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:03.720 I just love watching TV. Uh. You know. I love 0:03:04.200 --> 0:03:06.880 being with my wife and you know, saying stuff and 0:03:06.960 --> 0:03:10.040 laughing with her and crying with her doing we're TV 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:14.120 shows because we watched a lot of TV out of movies. Um. 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:15.799 But yeah, that's kind of me in my personal life. 0:03:15.800 --> 0:03:19.280 I love Disney World. I'm pretty simple for the most part. 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:23.840 Tell us three shows you're binge watching right now? Three 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:31.560 shows I'm binge watching? Uh, Succession, Um, that's my bench watched. Oh, 0:03:31.680 --> 0:03:36.280 Lock and Key just came out. Oh and you. We 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:39.280 were on you, we just finished you. What is your 0:03:39.280 --> 0:03:43.960 favorite food? I would probably say French toasts. I love 0:03:44.000 --> 0:03:48.760 breakfast food altogether. Mac and cheese, my grandma's recipe and 0:03:48.800 --> 0:03:52.160 mac and cheese, Kenny, I love soul food. I don't know, 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:53.920 it's not that great for you. You You shouldn't eat it 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:56.640 as much as I do, but it's so good. Tell 0:03:56.720 --> 0:04:03.240 us about your career my career. Um, while I'm touring 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:06.880 country artists right now. Um, some people consider me country, 0:04:06.920 --> 0:04:09.200 some people just consider me an artist. Either way. I 0:04:09.200 --> 0:04:12.080 get to travel and sing songs I wrote with my friends. Um, 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:15.000 so that's for me the best part. Um, don't get 0:04:15.040 --> 0:04:17.359 into a lot of television now, whether it's hosting or 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:20.120 being a contestant on the show like Dance with the Stars, 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:23.520 doing that, and you know, just working on a bunch 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:26.320 of things I've always wanted to do, all right, And 0:04:26.560 --> 0:04:29.160 you know with my career, I am a officially children's 0:04:29.160 --> 0:04:31.440 book Arthur. Right now, I have a book I'll call 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:34.800 my Voice as a Trumpet. Um. Two of my biggest 0:04:34.839 --> 0:04:37.640 highlights in my career, I would say it's one I 0:04:37.640 --> 0:04:40.560 got to perform with Charlie Pride on the CMA Awards. 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:43.160 Charlie Pride is the first black country artist. I sold 0:04:43.200 --> 0:04:47.000 over sixty million records in the sixties and seventies. Um 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:50.560 and working with another musical giant, Elton John. I got 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:52.200 to do a song with Elton on his new album 0:04:52.240 --> 0:04:55.120 called The Lockdown Sessions. We did a song that I 0:04:55.160 --> 0:04:58.000 co wrote with some people called Beauty the Bones, and 0:04:58.040 --> 0:05:00.359 I still can't believe those two things happen in career. 0:05:00.600 --> 0:05:04.720 What's your biggest fear in life? Probably not living up 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:08.000 to the expectations I set for myself, whether that be 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:10.800 you know who I am as a father, a parent, 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:14.320 a musician, And that's probably my biggest fear. Like setting 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:18.520 bars for myself and not reaching them. You know, um, 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:21.039 letting people down, that's my biggest fear, whether it's my 0:05:21.080 --> 0:05:23.800 wife or my kids, that's my That's my biggest fear. 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:27.760 What's your biggest pet peeve? Lazy people on my biggest 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:32.920 pet peeves. There's nothing I hate worse than a lazy person. 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:36.680 And I ask whole. I ask whole is someone who 0:05:36.720 --> 0:05:38.719 asked you questions, You give answers and they do the 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:42.080 exact opposite of what you told them to do. You 0:05:42.080 --> 0:05:46.200 know anyone that makes excuses. I just feel like, yeah, 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:49.440 things are hard in life. There's always gonna be obstacles. 0:05:50.200 --> 0:05:51.920 I don't mean you can't get through them, can't get 0:05:51.920 --> 0:05:54.719 around them. Um, So yeah, those are probably my biggest 0:05:54.720 --> 0:06:00.480 pet peeves. What makes you the most happy? I honestly 0:06:02.640 --> 0:06:07.520 hanging out with my family a Disney World. I'm sure 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:09.480 my family is sick a going, but I don't know 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:11.240 what it is about that place and being in with 0:06:11.279 --> 0:06:15.560 my family that really makes me happy. What is your 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:23.000 ideal Saturday morning? Ideal Saturday morning falling into the city 0:06:24.000 --> 0:06:27.760 on a new city on tour, you know, having my 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:32.279 family with me, eat bread, let's hang out, you know, 0:06:33.400 --> 0:06:35.520 doing a couple of beers with my band, playing some 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:38.720 corn hole. That's that's great for me. Are you more 0:06:38.720 --> 0:06:44.520 of the athlete or the armchair quarterback? I think I'm 0:06:44.520 --> 0:06:47.360 more an athlete for sure. Definitely more of the athlete. 0:06:47.680 --> 0:06:49.479 I'd rather be out there doing it than sit and 0:06:49.480 --> 0:06:53.960 watch somebody else do it. Last and not least. What 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:58.719 keeps you motivated? I'll say my family keeps are motivated, 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:02.279 you know, for for providing for them and in my career. 0:07:02.320 --> 0:07:04.680 For me. Honestly, everything clicked once I have my son. 0:07:05.600 --> 0:07:09.600 You know, I realized that my dream didn't change, but 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:12.680 my purpose and my reason behind when I was doing changes, 0:07:13.240 --> 0:07:16.240 because I feel like you see a lot more success. 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:20.560 You have a purpose, you know, for what you're doing, 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:23.560 and there's a reason behind what you're doing. That was 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:33.240 the Eleven Questions with Jimmy Allen. So, y'all, I just 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:38.160 answered some questions about myself. Now I'm actually here to 0:07:38.240 --> 0:07:43.559 answer questions from you. So let's jump into that right now. Hi, Hey, 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:46.280 how you doing. I'm good. My name is a Lissa. 0:07:46.320 --> 0:07:51.000 How are you hello? Listen, my name is Jimmy. Hello. Okay, 0:07:51.360 --> 0:07:54.160 So my question is why do men always say they're 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:58.400 simple creatures but we can never figure them out? Well, 0:07:58.640 --> 0:08:04.280 honestly we are. The thing is, see, man, if you 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:08.400 ask us a question, whatever we say, that's what we mean. 0:08:09.000 --> 0:08:11.400 And what I've learned is women like to look for 0:08:11.520 --> 0:08:14.920 meanings within our answer. There's no more meanings. That's it. 0:08:15.400 --> 0:08:17.400 So if you ask us, sir, for instance, you know, 0:08:17.560 --> 0:08:21.280 one of the most famous ones is if a woman 0:08:21.320 --> 0:08:24.720 says does this dress make me look back right? And 0:08:24.760 --> 0:08:27.800 say the guy says, yes, it does. What we're saying 0:08:27.920 --> 0:08:31.560 is we're not saying you're back. We're saying that dress 0:08:32.480 --> 0:08:34.640 makes you look that way. And then you know I've 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:36.920 said that someone before. So every dress that where it 0:08:36.920 --> 0:08:39.560 makes me look at No, I didn't say that. I 0:08:39.600 --> 0:08:42.920 said that. You said does this dress make me look back? 0:08:43.000 --> 0:08:47.000 And we said, yes, that dressed us guys need three things. 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:51.840 We want to watch our sports and not we ask 0:08:51.920 --> 0:08:56.360 any questions during our sports. That's it. We want. We 0:08:56.440 --> 0:09:01.319 love to eat, We love time, y'all, and just enjoying 0:09:01.320 --> 0:09:05.520 it without it meaning anything. If a guy asks you, hey, 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:07.839 let's hang out, it's not because we're in trouble trying 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:09.640 to get out of trouble. No, we just want to 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:13.360 hang out. One thing that men don't like the most 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:17.960 is just the thing my wife does it. Hey, babe, 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:21.320 we do want to eat tonight? Um, and I'll say something. 0:09:21.360 --> 0:09:22.840 I'll say, well, what do you want to Oh, it 0:09:22.840 --> 0:09:24.920 doesn't matter. Then I mention something I don't want to 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:27.000 eat that. What do you just said? It doesn't matter. 0:09:27.559 --> 0:09:30.000 So the thing you, guys, the more straight to the 0:09:30.040 --> 0:09:34.040 point you are, we understand that when questions and things 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:36.920 start getting drawn out, that's when we're just guys. Would 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:39.480 rather just tell us what you want we'll do it. 0:09:41.000 --> 0:09:48.640 M take. Thank you. You're hopping on here. What's up? 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:51.720 How are you good? How are you? I'm doing well. 0:09:52.600 --> 0:09:54.839 Nice to meet you. Nice to meet too, too. I 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:58.120 appreciate you hopping on here. Of course I'm excited to 0:09:58.160 --> 0:10:02.040 ask you my question. Nice, she got so I need 0:10:02.040 --> 0:10:07.720 to hear a man's perspective about texting in my dating life. 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:11.120 I have never understood why men text so short and 0:10:11.280 --> 0:10:15.440 simple that they don't include emojis like obviously us females do. 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:17.880 I just can't get a read on it. Is there 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:20.120 any way to figure out a guy has interested you 0:10:20.320 --> 0:10:24.000 and you by the way he texts, Not really by 0:10:24.040 --> 0:10:27.160 the way he texts, but if he texts you first. 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:29.280 Put it this way. If you text the guy and 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:32.600 he responds, it's one thing. But if you don't text 0:10:32.640 --> 0:10:34.560 a guy for a day or two and he don't 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:38.240 text you back, he ain't interested. That's a good point. 0:10:38.320 --> 0:10:41.280 That's good to know. Okay, guys, if we want something, 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:44.400 we go get it. And a lot of times I 0:10:44.440 --> 0:10:46.560 know you might try to make excuses for him or 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:51.960 for yourself, saying well maybe he's busy, he ain't that busy. 0:10:52.080 --> 0:10:54.559 It takes two seconds to send a text and if 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:57.000 he's not even thinking about you, honestly, to send a 0:10:57.080 --> 0:11:02.760 text because he ain't thinking about you. He because I guarantee, see, 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:04.880 guys were different. A lot of times girls will give 0:11:04.880 --> 0:11:07.160 out their number and not even want to talk to 0:11:07.200 --> 0:11:09.120 a guy. They just do it to be nice. Guys, 0:11:09.160 --> 0:11:11.960 we don't ask for girls numbers really if we're not 0:11:12.000 --> 0:11:15.600 really interested. And if we text you, we're interested. So 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:17.600 if you're texting him more than he's texting you not 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:19.680 It's not about the length of the text message because 0:11:19.679 --> 0:11:22.000 a lot of times we're straight to the point. If 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:24.800 you're texting him and you hear from him that night 0:11:25.080 --> 0:11:27.920 or the next day, he ain't interested. Move on over. 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:30.920 I love that. That's a good quarter. I'm gonna keep 0:11:30.960 --> 0:11:35.000 that in mind. Yeah, thank you so well'll careff. There's 0:11:35.040 --> 0:11:44.079 no emoji or anything anymore emojis. Thank you, You're so welcome. 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:54.080 You have a good night, all right? By under pressure? Um, 0:11:54.120 --> 0:12:03.920 the pressure on the stretch. M Hi, Hey, what's going on? 0:12:05.600 --> 0:12:09.200 Are you good? How are you doing good? UM? I 0:12:09.320 --> 0:12:13.080 have a question for you. Right okay, So my boyfriend 0:12:13.080 --> 0:12:16.800 lives in Miami. I live in California. UM, I know 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:19.640 you're on the road. So how do you keep it, like, 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:23.080 how do you keep your connection or your relationship close 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:26.600 with all that distance. Well, I tell you this, most 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:31.680 guys were bad at communication, honest, Like my wife would 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:35.200 tell you, I am not the best with communication. But 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:37.840 I love my wife, you know what I mean, She's 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:40.000 the one I chose to marry, so what I want 0:12:40.000 --> 0:12:42.480 to be with. But we're not always good at showing 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:45.040 a lot of times we're better in person. Um, I 0:12:45.080 --> 0:12:47.520 would just say, be honest. You know, first of all, 0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:49.360 I ask him, hey, do you see this going anywhere? 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:52.160 Long term? Straight to the point. With guys, is better 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:54.199 to ask straight to the point. Don't try to figure 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:57.960 out what he's thinking. Just ask him. Right. If you 0:12:58.000 --> 0:13:00.640 ask a guy that right and he gives you a 0:13:00.640 --> 0:13:04.319 long drawn out answer longer than three sentence, three sentences 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:08.520 typically is full of crap. Because we're very honest, you see, 0:13:08.520 --> 0:13:12.440 it's gonna wear Yeah, I do boom, that's enough. Um, 0:13:12.520 --> 0:13:14.960 but I don't know. I would say, just talk to 0:13:15.040 --> 0:13:17.280 him and tell him what you need, right. And I 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:21.080 feel like, here's the things about relationships. It's about finding 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:23.520 someone who can give you what you need, and also 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:26.560 you give them what they need, and then find someone 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:30.640 who gives you what you want and also make sure 0:13:30.679 --> 0:13:33.160 you can give him what he wants. And I say 0:13:33.240 --> 0:13:35.760 you have that conversation right now. Just be honest, because 0:13:35.760 --> 0:13:38.280 the last thing you want to do is waste your time. Yeah, 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:41.199 always his time. You know, you could try to make 0:13:41.240 --> 0:13:43.680 something work that ain't gonna work, and all that's doing 0:13:43.800 --> 0:13:45.920 is you're wasting time, stopping you from meeting the person 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:48.200 you're supposed to be with, and you're stopping him from 0:13:48.320 --> 0:13:50.240 waste you know, meeting the person that he's supposed to 0:13:50.280 --> 0:13:51.680 be with. And just know, there's a lot of great 0:13:51.679 --> 0:13:55.839 people out there, right, but not every great person belongs together. 0:13:56.600 --> 0:14:00.199 You know, life and relationships are about you living your 0:14:00.240 --> 0:14:02.439 life and they live in there. And along the way 0:14:02.480 --> 0:14:05.360 you find someone who's still heading your same trajectory, but 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:07.920 your lives and who you are don't don't have to change. 0:14:08.440 --> 0:14:11.160 And you know the thing about relationships is has to equal, 0:14:11.920 --> 0:14:13.760 not saying each person has to give a uncent, but 0:14:13.800 --> 0:14:15.920 as equal, because it might be sometimes where you're gonna 0:14:16.000 --> 0:14:18.640 give and you have to make sure he's willing to 0:14:18.679 --> 0:14:22.880 give that other eight invit. So yeah, I say, you 0:14:22.920 --> 0:14:25.560 have that conversation with him and be honest and if 0:14:25.560 --> 0:14:28.120 it don't work out, no hard feelings, it just don't 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:30.880 work out. That means that's not the person for you. 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:33.720 Because I don't really get wrapped up and soul made stuff. 0:14:33.720 --> 0:14:36.640 I don't really believe in that. I believe in you 0:14:36.760 --> 0:14:39.800 finding the person who you're willing to deal with their 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:42.760 baggage and their bad part because everybody can do well 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:44.800 with the good parts of the person. But are you 0:14:44.840 --> 0:14:47.720 willing to deal with the person's bad habits, deal with 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:51.120 their baggage. That's that's when you fain. Okay, I can 0:14:51.120 --> 0:14:53.360 deal with that. That's how you know you're on the 0:14:53.440 --> 0:14:55.440 right path to find a person you're supposed to be with. 0:14:57.000 --> 0:15:11.880 Thank you, Thank you for too into love doctor, get that? Okay? Hi, 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:18.320 what's up? Hi? My name is Zoe. How are you, Zoe? 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:20.960 How are you doing what you're calling from? I'm good. 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:27.400 I'm calling from Orange County, California. Orange County, Yeah, I know, 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:34.240 we're pretty Orange County. Yeah, I'm in l A right now. Awesome. Well, 0:15:34.280 --> 0:15:36.360 it's nice to see you. And so my question is, 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:38.560 I'm not currently in a relationship, but there's a guy 0:15:38.600 --> 0:15:41.920 at work who expresses his interest I e buys me food, 0:15:41.960 --> 0:15:44.640 talk successively to me, fixes things for me for free. 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:47.800 But the other day I offered him my number as 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:50.120 opposed to talking at work to avoid getting in trouble, 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:52.040 and he didn't respond to it. He just kind of 0:15:52.080 --> 0:15:55.240 avoided it and continued today to just his sweet behavior 0:15:55.400 --> 0:15:58.400 and like didn't really like and like didn't really like. 0:15:58.520 --> 0:16:01.080 I think he ignored the question. But I don't know. 0:16:01.200 --> 0:16:05.080 I'm confused, Like, do you guys like forwardness? So they're 0:16:05.120 --> 0:16:08.600 not I'm so confused. So here's the thing about guys. 0:16:10.520 --> 0:16:13.560 Sometimes they like forwardness. But from what you said, I 0:16:13.640 --> 0:16:19.200 have two takes on that. Okay, One he likes the 0:16:19.200 --> 0:16:22.200 floor at work because he's probably in a relationship already somewhere. 0:16:24.400 --> 0:16:27.600 Or he might not be interested in girls. He probably 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:29.840 you know, might like guys and just wants a friend. 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:36.120 That's what I was thinking, Oh my god, because I'm like, 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:38.680 if he if he's flirting with you and you offer 0:16:38.720 --> 0:16:43.520 the number and he don't take it, you have relationship 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:49.480 or just don't like girls, or maybe he does like girls, 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:52.400 but he might want to just keep it as a friend. 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:54.320 I don't know. I feel like those are the only 0:16:54.320 --> 0:16:56.800 three answers that you should if do you like him? 0:16:56.800 --> 0:17:01.480 Do you find him attractives? Yes? I do. But my 0:17:01.560 --> 0:17:03.640 other answer in my head was he's gay, because I 0:17:03.640 --> 0:17:06.160 feel like guys who are attractive and nicer they're taking 0:17:06.160 --> 0:17:10.800 are gay, and that's he's not. My thing is winning doubt. 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:14.400 Just asked the question, say, hey, I'm interested. There's nothing 0:17:14.440 --> 0:17:16.280 wrong with being honest, you know, not wrong being forward. 0:17:16.320 --> 0:17:18.800 Hey I'm interested in you. Would you like to hang out? 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:22.359 Are you interested in me? Yeah? But he said he's single. 0:17:22.640 --> 0:17:25.080 He's like, oh, I'm single. That's why I buy people's 0:17:25.080 --> 0:17:28.639 stuff and that's why I'm like, what, Yeah, Then maybe 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:31.320 he just enjoys being single and enjoys the game. There's 0:17:31.320 --> 0:17:35.000 some people that just enjoy the game, you know, they don't. 0:17:35.520 --> 0:17:38.720 They just enjoyed the hurting, the you know, the interaction 0:17:38.800 --> 0:17:40.960 at work, and that's kind of where they wanted. So 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:44.080 you should ask him, went in dout. That's my that's 0:17:44.119 --> 0:17:47.280 my answer for everyone. Just asked the question. Try to 0:17:47.280 --> 0:17:49.239 get an honest answer out of him. That way, you know, 0:17:49.320 --> 0:17:51.240 you can just figure out from the air and I'll 0:17:51.280 --> 0:17:55.400 move on. Oh you're so awesome, Thank you so much 0:17:55.440 --> 0:17:58.200 to me. I appreciate it. I appreciate you calling in 0:17:59.080 --> 0:18:06.000 a great in whatever this thing is? Yes, God black right, 0:18:07.720 --> 0:18:13.000 maybe you're my advice. My wife's another and she probably 0:18:12.960 --> 0:18:18.760 they're like, why why I ask your him? Hey Gabby, 0:18:18.760 --> 0:18:22.560 how are you doing great? How are you good? What 0:18:22.720 --> 0:18:27.080 you think and what's on your brain? Um? Well, my question, 0:18:27.280 --> 0:18:32.040 I guess would be um, boyfriend and I are in 0:18:32.119 --> 0:18:36.520 just this new relationship and um our schedules are very opposing. 0:18:37.240 --> 0:18:40.400 So I guess my question is how can we make 0:18:40.440 --> 0:18:42.600 sure to make time for each other? Because sometimes it 0:18:42.600 --> 0:18:45.239 feels like you try and plan everything. Maybe it's not 0:18:45.280 --> 0:18:51.440 as romantic. I guess I would say, see the thing 0:18:51.480 --> 0:18:55.040 about there's a difference between romance and what you see 0:18:55.119 --> 0:18:58.320 on television, right, you know what I mean? So I 0:18:58.359 --> 0:19:03.640 would say, find out what's important to you, right, and 0:19:03.680 --> 0:19:06.920 whether it's time, whether it's words of affection, whether it's 0:19:06.920 --> 0:19:10.600 physical touch whatever, and see he didn't give that to you. 0:19:11.240 --> 0:19:13.560 And also if he's busy and stuff, you have to 0:19:13.600 --> 0:19:15.800 take in mind, what are you willing to sacrifice until 0:19:15.800 --> 0:19:19.320 he's able to give you what you want? And I 0:19:19.359 --> 0:19:22.399 feel like that's the biggest thing I'm all about. You know, 0:19:22.560 --> 0:19:26.280 have the conversation you might not always agree, you know, 0:19:26.400 --> 0:19:28.160 but if you feel like that's the person you want 0:19:28.160 --> 0:19:30.480 to be with and he tells you and shows you 0:19:30.520 --> 0:19:33.359 he wants to be with you, um, you know, you 0:19:33.440 --> 0:19:35.040 try to make it work again. Like I you know, 0:19:35.040 --> 0:19:40.639 I told someone before, relationships are about sometimes he can 0:19:40.680 --> 0:19:43.920 only give twenty and you gotta give eight. Right now. 0:19:43.960 --> 0:19:46.640 With my wife and my schedule she's given, I can 0:19:46.640 --> 0:19:49.680 only give ten. You know. I'm sure it's frustrating for her, 0:19:49.760 --> 0:19:52.640 but you know she's been great. You know, she's been 0:19:52.800 --> 0:19:55.560 my rock, holding me down and um to where I'm 0:19:55.600 --> 0:19:57.520 all over the place traveling, you know, she's been there. 0:19:57.520 --> 0:20:00.600 I'm sure it's frustrating, but she's still there. And when 0:20:00.640 --> 0:20:03.560 someone loves you, even though it hurts and it sucks 0:20:03.600 --> 0:20:06.080 sometimes not seeing them all the time, they're willing to 0:20:06.080 --> 0:20:08.320 put that work in. So I don't know, it's just 0:20:08.320 --> 0:20:10.600 a conversation you gotta have with them and be honest, 0:20:11.240 --> 0:20:13.359 you know, be straight to the point. Tell them what 0:20:13.400 --> 0:20:16.080 you want, tell them what you need, ask them can 0:20:16.160 --> 0:20:19.440 you fulfill this? And if you can't, what's stopping you? 0:20:20.320 --> 0:20:23.520 And how long will what stopping you continue to stop you? 0:20:23.640 --> 0:20:26.680 And then see if you're willing to do with that. Yeah, absolutely, 0:20:26.800 --> 0:20:31.120 Oh yeah, that's that's great advice. That's why I'm here. 0:20:31.600 --> 0:20:36.600 Open conversation. Definitely a way that's an open conversation. And honestly, 0:20:36.600 --> 0:20:39.040 I feel like the worst thing people do in relationships 0:20:39.880 --> 0:20:43.160 is not say what they're feeling. They're afraid of offending 0:20:43.200 --> 0:20:46.600 or hurting somebody else's feelings. It ain't about that. Yeah, 0:20:46.960 --> 0:20:49.199 it's about you being honest because the last thing you 0:20:49.240 --> 0:20:52.240 want to do is not say what you're feeling. Then 0:20:52.280 --> 0:20:54.760 two weeks, two years down the road, during this relationship 0:20:54.760 --> 0:20:57.919 with you're frustrating not getting everything you want, and the 0:20:57.960 --> 0:21:00.399 person you're with could have been willing to sacrifice and 0:21:00.880 --> 0:21:03.840 make it work. But guys, the thing about guys is 0:21:03.840 --> 0:21:06.320 if you don't know, we don't tell us. If you 0:21:06.320 --> 0:21:09.280 don't tell us, we don't know. We are not mind readers. 0:21:09.320 --> 0:21:11.760 We don't try to be mind readers. We are very 0:21:11.960 --> 0:21:17.159 simple creatures and women are the most complex individuals in 0:21:17.280 --> 0:21:21.160 the world. So the best you can simplify it for him, 0:21:21.440 --> 0:21:26.080 the better. All right, Okay, oh yeah, I appreciate you 0:21:26.119 --> 0:21:28.920 coming on here. Thank you so much. Oh you're welcome. 0:21:29.760 --> 0:21:39.680 A great night. How you taking easy? All right, we're 0:21:39.720 --> 0:21:43.000 back from break and Jimmy. A bunch of our listeners 0:21:43.080 --> 0:21:47.479 have d m us emailed us. Um, don't forget everyone 0:21:47.520 --> 0:21:49.600 that's listening right now. You can d m U s 0:21:49.760 --> 0:21:53.320 at how Many Things podcast or email us h M 0:21:53.520 --> 0:21:56.600 T at I Heart Radio dot com. Um, And if 0:21:56.640 --> 0:21:58.040 it's okay with you, I'm going to go through a 0:21:58.080 --> 0:22:03.600 couple of these questions. Sounds good when you're not working. 0:22:04.000 --> 0:22:08.880 What is your ideal date night? Huh, my ideal date 0:22:09.000 --> 0:22:12.920 night or my watch, my ideal date night is going 0:22:13.000 --> 0:22:17.919 to the house bowling maybe and my wife going to 0:22:17.960 --> 0:22:20.920 the bowling alley. But that's my ideal date night. Honestly, 0:22:21.240 --> 0:22:23.000 it would be going to the house, hanging out with 0:22:23.040 --> 0:22:27.560 my wife, you know, ordering some food, watching a TV show, 0:22:27.720 --> 0:22:30.639 or moving just laying in bad like I just I 0:22:30.800 --> 0:22:33.439 enjoy her company, like I really really do it And 0:22:33.480 --> 0:22:36.680 I don't have to be doing anything to be happy. 0:22:37.040 --> 0:22:39.840 Women are always said to do it all. How are 0:22:39.880 --> 0:22:44.000 you possibly dancing, touring and helping your wife with a 0:22:44.040 --> 0:22:48.040 new important baby. Well, I'll tell you what my wife's 0:22:48.040 --> 0:22:51.520 actually doing all that too. You know, you know, I've 0:22:52.560 --> 0:22:57.480 luckily been blessed to marry an amazing, strong woman who's 0:22:57.520 --> 0:23:03.000 doing the parenting right now, you know, while still supporting 0:23:03.000 --> 0:23:06.600 me touring and doing Dance with the Stars. So honestly, 0:23:07.440 --> 0:23:11.440 I'm doing all that because of her. What is your 0:23:11.520 --> 0:23:14.840 advice if a dad won't change diapers or help with feedings, 0:23:14.920 --> 0:23:21.040 how can that conversation be started? Man, throw it out 0:23:21.040 --> 0:23:23.119 there and say, hey, you're turning to change the diaper 0:23:24.040 --> 0:23:25.520 and the das I want to change. You don't love 0:23:25.520 --> 0:23:27.119 your kid, so you don't want to just you just 0:23:27.160 --> 0:23:28.639 want to. You could kid here in a in a 0:23:28.680 --> 0:23:30.679 dirty diaper because you don't want to get up and 0:23:30.680 --> 0:23:34.080