1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:06,360 Speaker 1: Conversations on life, style, beauty and relationships. It's the velvet's 2 00:00:06,400 --> 00:00:10,640 Speaker 1: edge podcast with Kelly Henderson. Okay, Amanda Merritt is here today. 3 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:13,720 Speaker 1: She is an international coach and intuitive. We've had a 4 00:00:13,760 --> 00:00:16,400 Speaker 1: lot of intuitives on this month, Amanda, so I'm so 5 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:19,360 Speaker 1: happy to keep it with the theme today. I am 6 00:00:19,480 --> 00:00:23,079 Speaker 1: learning a lot about what it means to be an intuitive. 7 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:25,639 Speaker 1: And you know, it was something I said to someone 8 00:00:25,720 --> 00:00:27,000 Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago where I was like, well, 9 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 1: I've always been highly intuitive. That didn't really realize that 10 00:00:30,480 --> 00:00:34,560 Speaker 1: was something you could grow or develop within yourself. Um, 11 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:38,360 Speaker 1: and that everybody has it. So everything you and I, yeah, 12 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 1: I mean you, and I can touch on that in 13 00:00:39,760 --> 00:00:42,320 Speaker 1: a little bit, but I know that you work with 14 00:00:42,360 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 1: a lot of entrepreneurs, high level leaders and celebrities now 15 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:50,040 Speaker 1: and you kind of helped coach them in their own 16 00:00:50,040 --> 00:00:55,160 Speaker 1: business strategy. But you started in the corporate world, which, yeah, 17 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: we were talking a little bit before the podcast and 18 00:00:57,360 --> 00:00:59,120 Speaker 1: I said, you know, a theme that I've noticed that 19 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:02,600 Speaker 1: a lot of coaches is that they were actually killing 20 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 1: it in their jobs. Like you. I know we're getting 21 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:07,880 Speaker 1: a lot of promotions, but you hit the point where 22 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: you were like wait, this just isn't it. There's something 23 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 1: like so externally maybe you look like you're killing it 24 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 1: and internally something else spoke to you. So can you 25 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: kind of tell the listeners about that part of your 26 00:01:19,600 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 1: story and what the moment was that you just realized, wait, 27 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:26,760 Speaker 1: this is not it for me, there's something more. Yeah, 28 00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 1: I mean it was such a pivotal moment in my life. 29 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 1: Even looking back, and I've been reflecting a lot this 30 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:35,120 Speaker 1: week because right now we're in a place collectively where 31 00:01:35,160 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 1: people are going into a place of reflection and reassessment 32 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:41,480 Speaker 1: and seeing, okay, do I feel like I'm on my 33 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:44,840 Speaker 1: highest path right now? Do I feel like I'm happy 34 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:47,400 Speaker 1: in all the different areas of my life, or I 35 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:50,960 Speaker 1: might being guided to something Greater and forever? For anyone 36 00:01:50,960 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 1: who's listening to this, if you haven't been thinking about that, 37 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:57,400 Speaker 1: this is a nute to reflect on that because because 38 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 1: I feel like we're entering a new chapter, a news cycle. 39 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:03,200 Speaker 1: A lot of us were big exciting changes and things 40 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:06,400 Speaker 1: are meant to happen. We reached certain points on our 41 00:02:06,440 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 1: soul's journey individually where we have like these divine appointment moments, 42 00:02:10,919 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 1: and for me, I believe that. I believe our souls 43 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:15,799 Speaker 1: having a human experience. It's more than just the mundane. 44 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:18,519 Speaker 1: It's more than just black and white. It's more than 45 00:02:18,560 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 1: just what we can see with our physical eyes. And 46 00:02:21,360 --> 00:02:22,920 Speaker 1: it's funny you bring this up because I was shown 47 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:24,600 Speaker 1: we were going to talk about this today. I went 48 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 1: to the morning. I'm like, we're talking about intuition and 49 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:30,200 Speaker 1: divine appointments, and then you brought I'm like, I'll just 50 00:02:30,320 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 1: let her lead it, and then that's the first thing 51 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: years and and I'm like, Damn, I'm good, damn I'm good. 52 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:41,360 Speaker 1: But yeah, so you know, I worked in staffing and 53 00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:43,520 Speaker 1: recruiting and I didn't go to school for that. Actually, 54 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 1: we just school for fashion. Fashion designed and then I decided, 55 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:49,320 Speaker 1: you know what? I don't. I always knew I was 56 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:51,680 Speaker 1: an entrepreneur. I just didn't know where it would lead me. 57 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:55,200 Speaker 1: So I was just following will lit me up and 58 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 1: and ended up moving from Michigan all the way to 59 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 1: Tampa for a job up one of my cousins worked 60 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 1: at the staffing firm and I crushed it. I mean 61 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 1: I walked in the doors, I had my eyes set. 62 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 1: I loved it. I loved it because I got to 63 00:03:09,240 --> 00:03:11,959 Speaker 1: learn business, I got to meet a lot of people 64 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:15,400 Speaker 1: and it really helped me learn confidence and a lot 65 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:18,799 Speaker 1: of good business skills. And Yeah, I walked in the 66 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 1: door and I didn't realize that not everyone wanted to 67 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: be like running the company. This is just my mentality 68 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:27,760 Speaker 1: of I'm going to be successful no matter what. And 69 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: because of that mindset things started happening. I mean, I 70 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:32,320 Speaker 1: didn't go to school for staffing. Who would have thought 71 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:35,880 Speaker 1: I would go to or ever want to be in staffing? 72 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 1: But I felt like that job too, was a divine 73 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: appointment because looking back now, I can see how it's 74 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:43,440 Speaker 1: prepared me to run the business I have today and 75 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 1: be able to support high level people and it taught 76 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:49,760 Speaker 1: me how to be polished and again, build relationships and 77 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 1: all sorts of different things, run a team, because I 78 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:53,840 Speaker 1: have a team working for me too, you know. And 79 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 1: so I got to this point in my career a 80 00:03:56,680 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 1: few years and where I just felt like I was 81 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:03,240 Speaker 1: meant for something more, and because I did love my 82 00:04:03,360 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 1: job up until a point where it started getting frustrating. 83 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 1: But here's the thing is, when things start getting frustrating, 84 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 1: it's a nudge from your higher self. Whatever you believe 85 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:14,760 Speaker 1: in your higher yourself, your soul, that there's something more 86 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:17,600 Speaker 1: for you and that you're not doing anything wrong, you're 87 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:21,480 Speaker 1: not a bad person if because the best started, the 88 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:24,599 Speaker 1: best of me, was not being brought into that job. 89 00:04:24,640 --> 00:04:28,400 Speaker 1: At a certain point I noticed myself getting frustrated more 90 00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 1: and more impatient, like, what's going on? But that's a nudge, right, 91 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:36,360 Speaker 1: it's a nudge saying there's something more, pay attention, it's 92 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:40,280 Speaker 1: all happening perfect and and so I got to that 93 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:43,120 Speaker 1: point and and also, along with that, looking at my 94 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:46,359 Speaker 1: dating life, which was, God the best. To be honest 95 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 1: with you, I was always I just you know, I 96 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 1: need my value in my job, no problems there, but 97 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:55,839 Speaker 1: in my love life, that was a little bit of 98 00:04:55,839 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 1: a different story. And I was a onic, let's attract 99 00:05:01,800 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: emotionally unavailable men. I don't know anything about that. No, 100 00:05:06,600 --> 00:05:12,479 Speaker 1: nothing about that. Nothing, no, not at all. And and 101 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:16,000 Speaker 1: you know, I was accepting crumbs in my love life 102 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 1: and I didn't understand at that time. I didn't have 103 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:23,040 Speaker 1: the awareness I have today. And there was one specific 104 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:26,520 Speaker 1: man that I was dating on and off and, uh, 105 00:05:26,760 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 1: we were supposed to meet up and then I saw 106 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:31,200 Speaker 1: him out with another woman. And, long story short, that 107 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:35,560 Speaker 1: was the moment I took responsibility to say, well, you 108 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 1: know what, the writing was on the wall. There's so 109 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 1: many red flags, like he was kind of a walking 110 00:05:40,040 --> 00:05:42,040 Speaker 1: red flag, and we're friends now so we can laugh 111 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:44,280 Speaker 1: about this, but he was a walking red flag and 112 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:46,800 Speaker 1: I wasn't paying attention to them, which many women don't. 113 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: In men too, let's be honest, women need to take 114 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:53,719 Speaker 1: responsibility for their toxic ship too. Women are also toxic 115 00:05:53,920 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 1: people all sort of you know, that's a whole other conversation. 116 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:58,720 Speaker 1: I'm like, we're all, we're all we all need to 117 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:03,400 Speaker 1: do the work right. However, for me specifically, it was 118 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:05,719 Speaker 1: a moment where I said no more, like he showed 119 00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:08,600 Speaker 1: up in that way triggered me so much that I 120 00:06:08,640 --> 00:06:10,919 Speaker 1: finally stood up and said I need to do something 121 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: about this, and so I went on this whole journey. 122 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:18,000 Speaker 1: I was desperate in that moment to seek answers and 123 00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:19,960 Speaker 1: I would go to different into it is and all 124 00:06:19,960 --> 00:06:22,279 Speaker 1: sorts of things, and they couldn't give me the answers. 125 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 1: At the end of the day, you know, I could 126 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:26,800 Speaker 1: only find that inside myself, and so I left with 127 00:06:26,839 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 1: a stack of books, all of different topics actually, because 128 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:35,719 Speaker 1: I'm obsessed with the angelic realms. So books about angels, light, workers, self, love, 129 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:40,159 Speaker 1: you name it, power of intention, Wayne Dyer book, all 130 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 1: sorts of different things, law of attraction, and I soaked 131 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:48,479 Speaker 1: up every page of those books and I know that 132 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:51,600 Speaker 1: that was a divine appointment. Won The frustration at work 133 00:06:52,400 --> 00:06:54,679 Speaker 1: that caused me to look deeper and, at the same time, 134 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 1: those relationships that were going awry and making me feel 135 00:06:59,360 --> 00:07:04,040 Speaker 1: like I wasn't enough, and that pain was so deeply 136 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 1: felt by me at that time that again, I was 137 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 1: desperate to feel something, to be guided, and I prayed 138 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:13,200 Speaker 1: about it. No, I'm not religious, but I prayed to 139 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:16,080 Speaker 1: my higher power about it, pray to God, prayed to source, 140 00:07:16,120 --> 00:07:19,560 Speaker 1: pray to the universe, whoever is out there, to to 141 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:23,800 Speaker 1: send me what I needed, and I had such a 142 00:07:23,800 --> 00:07:28,120 Speaker 1: massive transformation that that actually led me to starting a blog, okay, 143 00:07:28,360 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 1: and that was the first step towards what I have today. 144 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 1: I was going to say it wasn't because I wanted 145 00:07:35,240 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 1: to start a coaching business. It was because I went 146 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:42,040 Speaker 1: through so much pain myself. I had my own transformation 147 00:07:42,080 --> 00:07:44,840 Speaker 1: that I was embarking on and I couldn't help but 148 00:07:44,920 --> 00:07:48,800 Speaker 1: share this. It was I was so passionate about all 149 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 1: things personal development, spirituality and or growth. This is back 150 00:07:52,160 --> 00:07:54,240 Speaker 1: in like two thousand and thirteen, is when I started 151 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:56,760 Speaker 1: the blog and no one was doing this. It was 152 00:07:56,800 --> 00:07:59,840 Speaker 1: like the cheese stands alone, this awkward girl like hiding 153 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: blog post in her cubicle. Yeah, so it went down. 154 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:06,320 Speaker 1: I'm dying laughing because I also started a blog in 155 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 1: two thousand thirteen. You did. Yes, I mean it's how 156 00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:17,960 Speaker 1: velvet's edge started. Oh my gosh, we both got the pins. Yeah, 157 00:08:17,960 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 1: and it is interesting to hear you talk about too, 158 00:08:20,360 --> 00:08:22,400 Speaker 1: because it was for me, it was just a creative 159 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:26,800 Speaker 1: outlet that I never intended to become anything more. Um, 160 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:29,760 Speaker 1: but I was also needing something in a similar way 161 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 1: that I hear something and so, Um, yeah, that's interesting. 162 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:36,800 Speaker 1: What were you writing about in this blog? Everything from 163 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:40,400 Speaker 1: law of attraction to your worth. Okay, you're creating your 164 00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:45,160 Speaker 1: own reality, all of that, all spirituality, and it was 165 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:50,080 Speaker 1: it was so therapeutic. Yeah, it really is. So then 166 00:08:50,200 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 1: what that? That's so that's how you kind of maybe 167 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:56,120 Speaker 1: realized there was something more for you or something different. 168 00:08:57,040 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 1: And then did you just up and quit your job? 169 00:08:59,160 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 1: Like what happened? Definitely not. There's a whole story about that. Yeah, 170 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:06,640 Speaker 1: so I wrote because I was passionate about it. And 171 00:09:06,760 --> 00:09:08,600 Speaker 1: you know, when you step on the journey, you follow 172 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:11,600 Speaker 1: your passions, it really does lead you to what you're 173 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:14,760 Speaker 1: meant to do. You don't actually have to seek for 174 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:17,640 Speaker 1: it or to push for it, and a lot of 175 00:09:17,640 --> 00:09:20,440 Speaker 1: people do. When we're showing up as our highest selves, 176 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:23,440 Speaker 1: we get guided to where we are meant to go next. 177 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:26,120 Speaker 1: And so that's why the inner work is so important, 178 00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 1: because we live in this life where there's so much 179 00:09:29,080 --> 00:09:31,880 Speaker 1: free will, even the type of soulmate you might meet 180 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:34,560 Speaker 1: and all these things. There's so much free will and 181 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 1: how you express your gifts and what you can create 182 00:09:36,840 --> 00:09:40,840 Speaker 1: and financial abundance. We have so much freedom in these 183 00:09:41,040 --> 00:09:43,560 Speaker 1: physical bodies. It's exciting, right, but we also have to 184 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 1: choose ourselves in the process if we want to get there. 185 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:49,840 Speaker 1: And so, yeah, I started to show up as a 186 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:53,720 Speaker 1: way to really choose myself. was just to share what 187 00:09:53,840 --> 00:09:56,400 Speaker 1: was moving through me, that I felt like I needed 188 00:09:56,720 --> 00:09:59,840 Speaker 1: to get out in the world. I needed to you know, 189 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:04,320 Speaker 1: and and so I hid my identity from it for 190 00:10:04,360 --> 00:10:06,840 Speaker 1: a little bit because I wasn't sure and it was 191 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:08,800 Speaker 1: new for me. No one else was into this again. 192 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:11,360 Speaker 1: So my mom read my blog, a couple of my 193 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:15,160 Speaker 1: best friends and, Long Story Short, I think even stopped 194 00:10:15,160 --> 00:10:16,760 Speaker 1: it at one point. And then I just kept getting 195 00:10:16,760 --> 00:10:18,839 Speaker 1: this nagging feeling you must write, you must right. And 196 00:10:18,880 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 1: then one of my girlfriends was like, Yo, I loved 197 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:24,559 Speaker 1: your blogs, I actually read them. Why did you stop writing? 198 00:10:24,720 --> 00:10:27,320 Speaker 1: I'm like fine, I'm going to start again, and I did. 199 00:10:27,440 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 1: Six months later, I in true manifasting who just burned 200 00:10:31,400 --> 00:10:34,920 Speaker 1: it all the ground and started over. I'm like, let's 201 00:10:34,960 --> 00:10:37,439 Speaker 1: start fresh, and I put it out in the world 202 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:40,200 Speaker 1: and the response was great. I put on my personal facebook, 203 00:10:40,200 --> 00:10:41,600 Speaker 1: I ripped the band aid off and I said no, 204 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:44,000 Speaker 1: once you three go, you're not going to hide it anymore. 205 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 1: And about six months after I went, I started actually 206 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:52,280 Speaker 1: people started asking how they could work with me. Actually, 207 00:10:52,280 --> 00:10:56,200 Speaker 1: closer after the closer before that, like three months, and 208 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:58,800 Speaker 1: so I just started. I knew, I knew, I knew 209 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:01,800 Speaker 1: that I was meant to support people through this. I 210 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:04,840 Speaker 1: didn't know how, I didn't know what way, but I 211 00:11:04,880 --> 00:11:06,920 Speaker 1: knew that I was supposed to. And I met one 212 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 1: of my very best friends, who still one of my 213 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:11,000 Speaker 1: very best friends to this day who also lived. I 214 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:14,160 Speaker 1: was living in Tampa at that time. She just started 215 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:16,560 Speaker 1: life coaching as well. So I had a conversation with 216 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:20,360 Speaker 1: her and long story shout. I had my own certification 217 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:22,440 Speaker 1: now that I trained coaches through, but at the time 218 00:11:22,480 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 1: I did take one online and that actually inspired me 219 00:11:26,000 --> 00:11:27,320 Speaker 1: to make my own because I was like wait, I 220 00:11:27,320 --> 00:11:30,520 Speaker 1: want to do this different and and yeah, people started 221 00:11:30,520 --> 00:11:32,840 Speaker 1: asking how they could work with me pretty quick and 222 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:36,120 Speaker 1: so I started taking clients. That that all of that 223 00:11:36,160 --> 00:11:38,360 Speaker 1: time was ended up being like two thousand fifteen. I 224 00:11:38,400 --> 00:11:43,000 Speaker 1: started taking my first clients and they just came to me. Yeah, 225 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:46,360 Speaker 1: it's fast. Yeah, well, it's like the same thing you 226 00:11:46,360 --> 00:11:48,520 Speaker 1: always hear people say about when you meet the person 227 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 1: you're you're the right person. I'm doing air quotes that 228 00:11:51,559 --> 00:11:53,760 Speaker 1: it's just easy, right, like you don't have to worse 229 00:11:54,160 --> 00:11:57,079 Speaker 1: or anything like that. And there's so much of that 230 00:11:57,160 --> 00:11:59,800 Speaker 1: in all of our lives. And I know for me, 231 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:03,360 Speaker 1: you know, I'll get my eyes really set on something 232 00:12:03,480 --> 00:12:05,920 Speaker 1: or I think this is the route that it should go, 233 00:12:06,559 --> 00:12:09,839 Speaker 1: and so, and I'm a driver, I'm motivated. I can 234 00:12:09,880 --> 00:12:12,720 Speaker 1: be like I'm very driven when I get really excited 235 00:12:12,760 --> 00:12:17,080 Speaker 1: about something. So it's not like if you're like driving 236 00:12:17,080 --> 00:12:18,720 Speaker 1: and doing all the hard work, you want it to 237 00:12:18,760 --> 00:12:22,120 Speaker 1: just fall into place. But in my experience the Times 238 00:12:22,160 --> 00:12:25,800 Speaker 1: where I'm pushing or driving the bus, or whatever you 239 00:12:25,800 --> 00:12:29,200 Speaker 1: want to say, like that ends up backfiring and not 240 00:12:29,280 --> 00:12:32,160 Speaker 1: working out and I'm exhausted and I go to burnout 241 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:36,480 Speaker 1: because it's not just flowing in so easy because it's 242 00:12:36,520 --> 00:12:40,720 Speaker 1: actually not usually the right path. Right. Yeah, it's that 243 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:43,160 Speaker 1: logical part of our brains that say we just have 244 00:12:43,240 --> 00:12:45,200 Speaker 1: to hustle, we have to go, we have to rush 245 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:48,400 Speaker 1: to the finish line. And in my experience, because I 246 00:12:48,440 --> 00:12:51,160 Speaker 1: haven't built my business through hustle, force or flow, because 247 00:12:51,160 --> 00:12:52,880 Speaker 1: I did that in my corporate job and I learned 248 00:12:52,920 --> 00:12:54,880 Speaker 1: that the hard way and I said I'm not gonna 249 00:12:54,920 --> 00:12:57,080 Speaker 1: be taking emails in bed at ten PM, I'm not 250 00:12:57,080 --> 00:12:59,959 Speaker 1: gonna I have boundaries. When I step into this business. 251 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:02,800 Speaker 1: M Not going to burn out and I've committed myself 252 00:13:02,840 --> 00:13:04,559 Speaker 1: to that. I can't even think of a time I've 253 00:13:04,600 --> 00:13:06,839 Speaker 1: burned out in this business because one of the things, 254 00:13:06,920 --> 00:13:08,480 Speaker 1: one of the reasons, is I love what I do, 255 00:13:08,600 --> 00:13:12,800 Speaker 1: so even if I'm working long hours, I could keep going. 256 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:16,160 Speaker 1: You know where they get shipped, done, then on my 257 00:13:16,240 --> 00:13:19,800 Speaker 1: head and ordering door toash, just writing away and it 258 00:13:19,840 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 1: doesn't feel like hustle. But to your point, it's like 259 00:13:22,679 --> 00:13:25,920 Speaker 1: we can't force something. We have to wait for that inspiration, 260 00:13:25,960 --> 00:13:29,920 Speaker 1: almost and follow the inspiration and listen to our intuition 261 00:13:30,840 --> 00:13:34,040 Speaker 1: instead of just trying to make things happen from a 262 00:13:34,080 --> 00:13:37,920 Speaker 1: place of misalignment. Yeah, so let's talk a little bit 263 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:42,320 Speaker 1: about what you do now, because, Um, I mean I'm 264 00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:46,000 Speaker 1: like I need to hire your coaching services. Is it's 265 00:13:46,040 --> 00:13:50,199 Speaker 1: so interesting to me that you can actually develop intuition 266 00:13:50,360 --> 00:13:53,200 Speaker 1: and business and like, oh my gosh, yes, yeah, and 267 00:13:53,240 --> 00:13:55,680 Speaker 1: the thing that you're talking about where it's like you 268 00:13:55,760 --> 00:13:57,480 Speaker 1: kind of do have to sit and wait, like I've 269 00:13:57,480 --> 00:13:59,560 Speaker 1: been in such a season of that and it can 270 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:03,080 Speaker 1: be fresh straighting, you know, because you're just like I'm ready, 271 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:05,480 Speaker 1: like I really do feel like okay, I'm ready to work. 272 00:14:05,559 --> 00:14:08,880 Speaker 1: I did burn out, but like what's the next thing, 273 00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: like what direction am I supposed to go? And I 274 00:14:12,400 --> 00:14:14,960 Speaker 1: keep just coming back to I just need to be 275 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:17,640 Speaker 1: quiet and listen, and it's just like this thing that 276 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:20,520 Speaker 1: over and over and just showing up for what is 277 00:14:20,600 --> 00:14:24,040 Speaker 1: right in front of me. But also not like I 278 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:26,120 Speaker 1: think I get in this like I need to figure 279 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:31,360 Speaker 1: this out space, you know. Well, sometimes there's these periods 280 00:14:31,440 --> 00:14:36,360 Speaker 1: of inner growth that we're going through to carry us 281 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:39,640 Speaker 1: forward into what's next for us. Because I actually feel 282 00:14:39,680 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 1: like really big, beautiful things I've chosen, my legs are 283 00:14:42,760 --> 00:14:45,000 Speaker 1: that you're going to be stepping into, you know, and 284 00:14:45,040 --> 00:14:47,720 Speaker 1: it doesn't necessarily have to look completely different from what 285 00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:49,880 Speaker 1: you're doing now, but I think it's a different vibration 286 00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:52,560 Speaker 1: and a different level and a different you know. And, 287 00:14:52,960 --> 00:14:55,040 Speaker 1: by the way, I actually gonna be in Nashville. I've 288 00:14:55,080 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 1: never been there before and I'm going to an event 289 00:14:56,960 --> 00:14:59,440 Speaker 1: next month there through well, we have to be, we 290 00:14:59,480 --> 00:15:04,720 Speaker 1: have to be. Yeah, I've, I've it's interesting. I've had 291 00:15:05,160 --> 00:15:08,080 Speaker 1: dreams about Nashville, like I think I'm supposed to go 292 00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:12,200 Speaker 1: there for something, I don't know what, and now I'm 293 00:15:12,280 --> 00:15:15,480 Speaker 1: there's uh, I'm going to actually Joe to spends the 294 00:15:15,560 --> 00:15:18,320 Speaker 1: events out there. Love Him. I've been to some of 295 00:15:18,400 --> 00:15:21,760 Speaker 1: his week, week long retreats and so I'm going to 296 00:15:21,880 --> 00:15:25,800 Speaker 1: an advanced follow up one and uh, and so it's 297 00:15:25,840 --> 00:15:28,440 Speaker 1: there and I'm it lit up. When it came I 298 00:15:28,680 --> 00:15:32,600 Speaker 1: felt like I must, must, must go. So I'M gonna 299 00:15:32,600 --> 00:15:35,960 Speaker 1: be out there, so I have to say right. But 300 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 1: but yeah, we can develop intuition, and it doesn't matter 301 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:43,840 Speaker 1: if you are more masculine like men do. I blew 302 00:15:43,920 --> 00:15:46,720 Speaker 1: men's mind when I teach them this, and it's actually 303 00:15:46,760 --> 00:15:48,840 Speaker 1: it's so fun for me to get to support someone 304 00:15:48,840 --> 00:15:52,080 Speaker 1: who's very logical and linear and left end and welcome 305 00:15:52,160 --> 00:15:56,640 Speaker 1: them into this world, because magic starts happening and when 306 00:15:56,720 --> 00:15:59,440 Speaker 1: we believe in greater when we step out of our logic, 307 00:15:59,520 --> 00:16:03,240 Speaker 1: linear thinking, and you know, when we really step out 308 00:16:03,280 --> 00:16:07,600 Speaker 1: of it has to look like in this order or 309 00:16:07,640 --> 00:16:10,800 Speaker 1: take this long, when we can let go of all 310 00:16:10,840 --> 00:16:14,280 Speaker 1: of those constructs, we can experience something so much more 311 00:16:14,840 --> 00:16:19,000 Speaker 1: magical and amazing if we are open to it. But 312 00:16:19,640 --> 00:16:21,720 Speaker 1: that means we have to listen to our inner voice. 313 00:16:22,080 --> 00:16:24,120 Speaker 1: And the first way I start to teach us to 314 00:16:24,200 --> 00:16:27,240 Speaker 1: people sometimes in terms that are not super wo woo, 315 00:16:27,280 --> 00:16:29,720 Speaker 1: so they can understand what I'm saying. And this girl 316 00:16:29,800 --> 00:16:33,520 Speaker 1: is crazy, which which is part of my job, is 317 00:16:33,560 --> 00:16:36,360 Speaker 1: to also understand how to teach this to people right. 318 00:16:37,120 --> 00:16:41,760 Speaker 1: That's a hard thing. I bring it down into very 319 00:16:41,760 --> 00:16:46,200 Speaker 1: easy terms to digest, because we're all spiritual. Spirituality doesn't 320 00:16:46,240 --> 00:16:49,520 Speaker 1: have to look a certain way. I love my fancy 321 00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:52,840 Speaker 1: car and I love my lash extitches, and I'm also talking, 322 00:16:53,000 --> 00:16:57,000 Speaker 1: talking to my angels and also, you know, I hold 323 00:16:57,000 --> 00:17:01,560 Speaker 1: myself to very high standards in how I teach as 324 00:17:01,600 --> 00:17:03,440 Speaker 1: a leader and how I show up. You know, so 325 00:17:03,560 --> 00:17:05,560 Speaker 1: doesn't have to look a certain way. You can be 326 00:17:05,600 --> 00:17:08,000 Speaker 1: in corporate America, you can be singing on a stage, 327 00:17:08,520 --> 00:17:12,800 Speaker 1: you can be building this financial empire, it doesn't matter. 328 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:15,800 Speaker 1: This is available to everyone and we're not taught this. 329 00:17:15,920 --> 00:17:18,880 Speaker 1: We're not taught this, but we are sentient beings, which 330 00:17:18,880 --> 00:17:22,000 Speaker 1: means we can feel. And so the first way I 331 00:17:22,040 --> 00:17:24,359 Speaker 1: like to break it down is you know your gut. 332 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:27,440 Speaker 1: Your gut is your intuition. You know, when people say 333 00:17:27,440 --> 00:17:30,440 Speaker 1: trust your gut, if people think intuition is weird, well, 334 00:17:30,600 --> 00:17:33,080 Speaker 1: you already probably have said trust your gut. I'm going 335 00:17:33,080 --> 00:17:35,840 Speaker 1: with my gut a million times. You're already tuning into that, 336 00:17:36,480 --> 00:17:40,680 Speaker 1: and so for me, that's sometimes where I'll start with 337 00:17:40,720 --> 00:17:44,680 Speaker 1: people is, are you listening to that voice? Because sometimes 338 00:17:44,680 --> 00:17:47,320 Speaker 1: we let the doubt of our mind actually run the 339 00:17:47,359 --> 00:17:51,040 Speaker 1: show instead of listening to our gut. And that goes 340 00:17:51,080 --> 00:17:55,520 Speaker 1: in love too, in relationships. Nothing gets past my steady senses. 341 00:17:55,880 --> 00:17:58,719 Speaker 1: I'm like no, that's just not it. And you know, 342 00:17:58,960 --> 00:18:00,640 Speaker 1: looking for a home. I'm looking for my next home 343 00:18:00,720 --> 00:18:03,520 Speaker 1: right now. Actually, I'm in a temporary space right now 344 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:06,440 Speaker 1: and I walk in in my real estate agents amazingly 345 00:18:06,440 --> 00:18:09,480 Speaker 1: when I'm like, nope, not the one, it's great one. No, 346 00:18:09,600 --> 00:18:12,280 Speaker 1: I know even new before. I walked in one yesterday. 347 00:18:12,280 --> 00:18:13,719 Speaker 1: I'm like, no, the vibes are going to be kind 348 00:18:13,720 --> 00:18:16,520 Speaker 1: of weird, even though it's beautiful. Yeah, I walked in. 349 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:18,439 Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, the vibes are kind of weird, but 350 00:18:18,480 --> 00:18:22,520 Speaker 1: it was beautiful. I'm like, I'm spot Ed. So, but 351 00:18:22,800 --> 00:18:25,720 Speaker 1: you have to start to get very quiet and really 352 00:18:25,720 --> 00:18:30,280 Speaker 1: tune into how you're feeling. Okay, so get really quiet. 353 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:34,200 Speaker 1: It's actually interesting. You mentioned the tingling in your legs, 354 00:18:34,640 --> 00:18:38,639 Speaker 1: because I've been having these like full body tingles sometimes, 355 00:18:38,680 --> 00:18:42,080 Speaker 1: like in my meditations. Are Honestly a lot of times 356 00:18:42,080 --> 00:18:44,199 Speaker 1: for me with meditation, I have to move. It's like 357 00:18:44,760 --> 00:18:48,200 Speaker 1: a yoga flow type thing that I do while I'm breathing, 358 00:18:48,760 --> 00:18:51,720 Speaker 1: and the more I've been doing that and I kind 359 00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:53,960 Speaker 1: of talked to my body and it sounds weird, but 360 00:18:54,440 --> 00:18:56,880 Speaker 1: you know, thank you, I love you. I forgive you 361 00:18:56,920 --> 00:18:59,159 Speaker 1: those kind of yeah, well, you, I love that you 362 00:18:59,200 --> 00:19:00,800 Speaker 1: and I can talk this by some of the listeners 363 00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:02,720 Speaker 1: might be like, okay, she's Wacky, but they're used to 364 00:19:02,720 --> 00:19:06,240 Speaker 1: be by now. Um, but yeah, like I'll be doing that, 365 00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:08,639 Speaker 1: and it's like I must need to hear. I forgive 366 00:19:08,680 --> 00:19:11,040 Speaker 1: you a lot, because every time I say it right now, 367 00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 1: my full body just tingles and it, to me, is 368 00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:18,440 Speaker 1: just this moment every time where I'm like, Oh, hi, 369 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 1: like you're in there and you know and I know 370 00:19:23,000 --> 00:19:26,600 Speaker 1: everything I need. I know exactly what the next step 371 00:19:26,760 --> 00:19:29,560 Speaker 1: is to take, and it's all of those things that, 372 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 1: like I just get this confidence in those moments, Um, 373 00:19:33,640 --> 00:19:35,919 Speaker 1: that sometimes, I think, get lost when I start moving 374 00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:39,399 Speaker 1: really fast or just like going about life in the 375 00:19:39,440 --> 00:19:42,040 Speaker 1: way that life has been presented to me, like it 376 00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:44,680 Speaker 1: should function this way. So get up, go to work, 377 00:19:45,080 --> 00:19:48,160 Speaker 1: you know, all the like. Doing is how I think 378 00:19:48,200 --> 00:19:51,560 Speaker 1: we're taught to succeed, and for me it's like that 379 00:19:51,680 --> 00:19:54,280 Speaker 1: just isn't gonna work, like I need to work hard. 380 00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:56,679 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to say like yes, go sit on 381 00:19:56,680 --> 00:19:59,359 Speaker 1: your couch and just expect things to happen, but there 382 00:19:59,400 --> 00:20:04,760 Speaker 1: has to be this like conversation with myself for me 383 00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:07,679 Speaker 1: to know what I need to be doing or what 384 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:10,520 Speaker 1: I even need. Sometimes in general, you know, like am 385 00:20:10,520 --> 00:20:14,800 Speaker 1: I hungry? Like there's weird things. That right. We have 386 00:20:14,880 --> 00:20:17,920 Speaker 1: to take care of ourselves and that that we all 387 00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:21,760 Speaker 1: have masculine and Feminine Energy. No matter who you are, 388 00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:24,160 Speaker 1: we all do and some lean more into I happen 389 00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:26,280 Speaker 1: to lean more into my feminine and I think I'm 390 00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:28,879 Speaker 1: a very feminine woman, but I also have to have 391 00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:31,440 Speaker 1: some masculine energy. Otherwise I wouldn't be on this podcast 392 00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:33,760 Speaker 1: with you, wouldn't have built what I've built today. So 393 00:20:33,920 --> 00:20:35,720 Speaker 1: we have to turn both on and if you're a 394 00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 1: man listening to this, and even if you're a very 395 00:20:37,520 --> 00:20:42,520 Speaker 1: masculine man, uncovering and leaning even more into the intuition 396 00:20:42,520 --> 00:20:44,560 Speaker 1: and the feminine and the feeling and the softness and 397 00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:47,800 Speaker 1: following yourself and opening your heart, really following how you feel, 398 00:20:47,880 --> 00:20:50,959 Speaker 1: is also equally as important. It doesn't mean that you 399 00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:52,960 Speaker 1: have to lose your masculinity. A lot of men are 400 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:55,560 Speaker 1: afraid of that. No, no, let's turn that and amplify 401 00:20:55,640 --> 00:20:58,880 Speaker 1: that up and help you step into that even more 402 00:20:59,240 --> 00:21:02,000 Speaker 1: and you can also open your heart and follow your 403 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:06,280 Speaker 1: intuition and your gut. It's important too, because if we don't, 404 00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:07,960 Speaker 1: we can all look back in our life and say, 405 00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:09,280 Speaker 1: you know what, I had so many red flags in 406 00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:12,240 Speaker 1: that relationship. I would why didn't I walk away sooner? 407 00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:15,720 Speaker 1: I was just doubting myself, not following my intuition, thinking 408 00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:18,119 Speaker 1: there was something wrong with me, when all along my 409 00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:22,760 Speaker 1: higher self is like girl, Yeah, Oh, I feel like 410 00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:28,679 Speaker 1: you're telling that story right now. Yes, yea, so, and 411 00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:31,359 Speaker 1: I see it all the time, you know, and I 412 00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:33,840 Speaker 1: don't even try to read people, but when you meet someone, 413 00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:35,919 Speaker 1: and you're doing this a lot, I'm like and they 414 00:21:35,960 --> 00:21:37,880 Speaker 1: start telling me things, I'm like, O God, all right, 415 00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:42,399 Speaker 1: because I don't, you know, being intuitive. I don't predict 416 00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:44,760 Speaker 1: people's futures. I help them create their highest one. I 417 00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:49,200 Speaker 1: always say that you cannot predict somebody's future, and even 418 00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:52,480 Speaker 1: because life is too valuable, I wasted years going to 419 00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:56,000 Speaker 1: so many psychics and intuitives, and I still have. One 420 00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:58,359 Speaker 1: of my best friends, who's also a mentor, is very intuitive. 421 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:02,520 Speaker 1: But I'm very about helping people wake up their own because, 422 00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:05,119 Speaker 1: in truth, no one can predict your future because you 423 00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:09,119 Speaker 1: are always creating it, and give yourself the freedom of 424 00:22:09,200 --> 00:22:13,360 Speaker 1: letting go of attachment of even you know who, the what, 425 00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:15,919 Speaker 1: the way or the when. You know, we get so 426 00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:18,040 Speaker 1: caught up sometimes and Oh, I think that's my soul 427 00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:20,600 Speaker 1: made or this or that's like let it all go 428 00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:23,879 Speaker 1: and just trust your soul, because we don't want anything 429 00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:26,679 Speaker 1: that's not even for our highest whether it's a client, 430 00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:31,359 Speaker 1: a relationship, a move, we want to be guided by 431 00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:33,760 Speaker 1: this version of ourselves that can see more than us, 432 00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:37,000 Speaker 1: and so our intuition is really US tuning into that 433 00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:40,480 Speaker 1: highest version of ourselves, source, God, whatever you feel comfortable 434 00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:43,240 Speaker 1: calling it. It's all interchangeable to me. It doesn't matter 435 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:46,480 Speaker 1: the label like that always bothers me. Look, it does 436 00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:50,280 Speaker 1: not matter what the label it's all the same. It's 437 00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:53,040 Speaker 1: all love, it's all one guiding force. You know what 438 00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:56,120 Speaker 1: you want to call it, whatever you prefer, is so perfect. 439 00:22:56,119 --> 00:23:00,560 Speaker 1: Do that. And also, that's where our intuition is coming from, 440 00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:05,160 Speaker 1: our soul, our guiding posts, and things feel like crapped 441 00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:08,359 Speaker 1: because we're saying sometimes and things that are expired or 442 00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:12,320 Speaker 1: old or even past versions of ourselves. M that's a 443 00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:18,359 Speaker 1: big one. It's hard to let go of past versions 444 00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:21,480 Speaker 1: to yourself, especially because it can feel like security. To me, 445 00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:24,639 Speaker 1: you know, it's like it is, yeah, it's like, you know, 446 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,959 Speaker 1: it's you know, maybe it doesn't feel that great anymore, 447 00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:32,320 Speaker 1: but like it's familiar. So evolving into something different or 448 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:36,000 Speaker 1: letting yourself even level up is scary, and especially if, 449 00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:37,679 Speaker 1: like I think a lot of people have felt this 450 00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,439 Speaker 1: in the past couple of years, there's just been so 451 00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:43,239 Speaker 1: much change, you know. So I know one of my 452 00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:46,639 Speaker 1: instincts has been to grip to anything that feels familiar 453 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:51,120 Speaker 1: because I'm like, I just need some security in something. Um, 454 00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:54,040 Speaker 1: I am learning. You know, all of that is just 455 00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:57,240 Speaker 1: a false sense of security anyway. But it's like, but 456 00:23:57,320 --> 00:24:01,480 Speaker 1: there is this sense of familiarity that's comforting. As a 457 00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:05,320 Speaker 1: human thing, it is, and we are trained to stay 458 00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:07,760 Speaker 1: in that comfort. Right, like they're seeing me like the 459 00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:11,040 Speaker 1: warm blanket, the warm and I still go through this 460 00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:14,960 Speaker 1: because I've never stopped I will never stop growing and 461 00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:17,800 Speaker 1: I don't want to ever stop growing. And as the leaders, 462 00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:19,960 Speaker 1: if we think we're perfect, then we need to like 463 00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:24,760 Speaker 1: we need like a reality check, because they're always growing, 464 00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:27,320 Speaker 1: we're always mastering and it does get easier as you 465 00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:31,360 Speaker 1: go and you know, but there's new when you're expanding, 466 00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:34,080 Speaker 1: you're leaving an old comfort zone. So I'll never stop 467 00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:36,600 Speaker 1: entering new comfort zones. And that kind of scary, right, 468 00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:39,040 Speaker 1: because if it was comfortable, wouldn't be your Damn Comfort Zone. 469 00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:43,240 Speaker 1: So you're stepping into the unknown. But the unknown is 470 00:24:43,280 --> 00:24:47,520 Speaker 1: also where everything is. Infinite possibility, your dreams, your desires, 471 00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:49,840 Speaker 1: everything you want is over there, and so we have 472 00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:54,320 Speaker 1: to remind ourselves to that it's safe. It's safe and 473 00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:56,640 Speaker 1: like something that's coming up to here that people can 474 00:24:56,680 --> 00:24:59,000 Speaker 1: do when they're feeling that fear around it is like 475 00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:01,679 Speaker 1: hands on your bell, because that's where we feel are safe, 476 00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:04,919 Speaker 1: like we need the safety here. It often helps. And 477 00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:10,000 Speaker 1: then it's also reminding yourself that home is inside of you, 478 00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:13,800 Speaker 1: that you're safe inside of you, and Oh that feels 479 00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:17,120 Speaker 1: so good. Actually, I might have needed that too. You're 480 00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:19,520 Speaker 1: safe inside of you, right. So, no matter where you 481 00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:23,320 Speaker 1: go in life, no matter what you step into new 482 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:26,080 Speaker 1: territory that you go to, when you know you're safe 483 00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:30,800 Speaker 1: inside of you, then you're unfunk with doble wherever you go. 484 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:33,720 Speaker 1: And that's really the core of my work too, is 485 00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:38,760 Speaker 1: teaching that, is that when we know that, even challenges 486 00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:41,840 Speaker 1: everything outside of us, it happens to help us grow everything, 487 00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:44,960 Speaker 1: every trigger, every person that says something to you that 488 00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:47,720 Speaker 1: triggers out of you old wounds and stories. Right, it's 489 00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:51,760 Speaker 1: a gift. It's literally gift saying this is where you're 490 00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:56,440 Speaker 1: still holding this inside. This is where you know if 491 00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:59,080 Speaker 1: we were reacting, we have such an emotional response to something. 492 00:25:59,119 --> 00:26:01,360 Speaker 1: It's it's guiding us to something that we need to heal. 493 00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:04,239 Speaker 1: That's how she used to live my life. Right. But 494 00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:05,760 Speaker 1: if we can know at the end of the day 495 00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:09,920 Speaker 1: that don't matter what, I've always got myself that if 496 00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:13,240 Speaker 1: someone were let's say I got a relationship tomorrow with 497 00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:18,119 Speaker 1: someone and they left, well, I would know, even if 498 00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:21,359 Speaker 1: it hurt, right, even if it hurts, I would still, 499 00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:22,840 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, know that I always 500 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:27,159 Speaker 1: have myself. MM HMM. And that's the most important relationship. 501 00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:29,720 Speaker 1: We hear it a lot. Sounds cheesy, but date yourself 502 00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:35,520 Speaker 1: first always. Yeah, because even when you're in the relationship, 503 00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:39,280 Speaker 1: that's important. You know, like I've had the tendency in 504 00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:42,280 Speaker 1: the past to just kind of turn myself over to 505 00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:45,080 Speaker 1: the relationship, to the person, and I get lost and 506 00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:48,800 Speaker 1: it's like then it doesn't really matter what's going on 507 00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:50,560 Speaker 1: in the relationship. Like it's not, I'm not going to 508 00:26:50,640 --> 00:26:53,720 Speaker 1: be able to be happy regardless because my relationship for 509 00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:58,399 Speaker 1: myself is so disconnected at that point. MM HMMM. Yeah, 510 00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:02,719 Speaker 1: you're already doing amazing. Thank you, I appreciate yeah, and 511 00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:05,560 Speaker 1: anyone listening to this, it's like you're doing amazing. This 512 00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:10,600 Speaker 1: journey has highs, lows, upstones, and don't forget how far 513 00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:13,520 Speaker 1: you've already come on the journey, because sometimes we say, Oh, 514 00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:15,719 Speaker 1: I'm not where I want to be or I'm not 515 00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:19,080 Speaker 1: there yet, but you're doing way better than probably you 516 00:27:19,119 --> 00:27:22,480 Speaker 1: think that you are. That's very true. Yeah, it's like, 517 00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:24,199 Speaker 1: oh my Gosh, look at how much I've grown in 518 00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,960 Speaker 1: the last six months, even a year. Well, I think 519 00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,320 Speaker 1: you can like get, or I can get, so focused 520 00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:32,320 Speaker 1: on how messy that's looked that I'm like, you can't 521 00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:35,160 Speaker 1: actually see the progress when you're in it sometimes because 522 00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:37,320 Speaker 1: you're like, oh my God, well, that was a bad 523 00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:39,800 Speaker 1: day and that looked really ugly, and it's like yeah, 524 00:27:39,840 --> 00:27:42,120 Speaker 1: but that was so healing. Yeah, I cried for an hour, 525 00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:44,919 Speaker 1: but like that's such a good release and tears to 526 00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:48,680 Speaker 1: me are like emotional showers, you know. Like, no, I 527 00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:53,080 Speaker 1: love that show. It's like it's so healing, it's so free. 528 00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:57,720 Speaker 1: So Um. Okay. So for people listening, if they're like well, 529 00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:01,919 Speaker 1: you said everyone's intuitive, how do I grow this intuition? Like, 530 00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:04,680 Speaker 1: I don't feel intuitive. What would be some tips that 531 00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:08,400 Speaker 1: you would give the listeners for how to grow intuitively? 532 00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:13,240 Speaker 1: MM HMM. Okay, first I would love for you to 533 00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 1: make sure you have a meditation practice. If you don't, 534 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,840 Speaker 1: how about it? I'll send you one you can give 535 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:20,640 Speaker 1: as a freebee to your people. I'll make you all 536 00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:23,280 Speaker 1: one after this, because we need some new ones with this. 537 00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:27,000 Speaker 1: And it's interesting because, of course, this is the week 538 00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:30,080 Speaker 1: I'm literally training this to my search. So I literally 539 00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:32,120 Speaker 1: record something on the beach this morning for it. That's 540 00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:33,280 Speaker 1: why I knew you were going to bring it up, 541 00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:37,240 Speaker 1: because it's always collective. I swear it's always collective and 542 00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:40,960 Speaker 1: on time. So I'll even take a moment right now. 543 00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:44,360 Speaker 1: And if you're not driving, please do not do this, 544 00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:48,520 Speaker 1: and then me for driving into it is okay. Close 545 00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:50,840 Speaker 1: Your eyes and just take a moment to take a 546 00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:53,080 Speaker 1: deep breath then, and if you are driving, you can 547 00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:57,080 Speaker 1: just do this with your eyes open, exhaling out through 548 00:28:57,120 --> 00:29:02,040 Speaker 1: the mouth, drop your shoulders, just relax for just a moment, 549 00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:04,719 Speaker 1: forget the past for just a moment, forget the future 550 00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:14,720 Speaker 1: and come fully into right now. Take a breath and, 551 00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:16,240 Speaker 1: first of we are just going to invite, we're going 552 00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:19,160 Speaker 1: to invite your higher power, the universe, your higher self, 553 00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:21,640 Speaker 1: to help you to open and awaken even more of 554 00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:27,600 Speaker 1: your intuition, intuition that will lead you towards your highest 555 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:34,200 Speaker 1: path of abundance, of love, of meaning and joy and 556 00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:43,160 Speaker 1: intimacy and connection, and we're just inviting that in this moment. 557 00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:49,720 Speaker 1: You even declare that even more, that's what you want, 558 00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:51,640 Speaker 1: that's what you want out of this life and that 559 00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:53,760 Speaker 1: you're choosing, that you're choosing to link arms with your 560 00:29:53,800 --> 00:30:01,080 Speaker 1: higher self or source. Take a breath and release an 561 00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:04,040 Speaker 1: next hill and know that there's multiple ways we can see, 562 00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:07,240 Speaker 1: receive in intuition and intuitive guidance. So I'm going to 563 00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:09,360 Speaker 1: talk about four different ones. Right now, you can keep 564 00:30:09,400 --> 00:30:13,520 Speaker 1: your eyes closed and just receive, receive it, just so 565 00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:16,160 Speaker 1: you can feel into this is the first is through vision, 566 00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:18,880 Speaker 1: so intuitive vision your third eye, which is in the 567 00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:24,240 Speaker 1: center of your forehead, and visions come in sometimes like memories. 568 00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:27,640 Speaker 1: So to me, when I get a vision, it all 569 00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:29,880 Speaker 1: it looks like how a memory would pop in my mind, 570 00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:33,240 Speaker 1: but over the years it's gotten very, very vivid, a 571 00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:36,880 Speaker 1: lot more vivid and more clear and more in tuned 572 00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:40,680 Speaker 1: to what I'm needing guidance for with a client and session, 573 00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:42,440 Speaker 1: because this is one of the things I do with 574 00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:45,640 Speaker 1: my clients. So, as you take a breath in, we're 575 00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:49,880 Speaker 1: just going to invite that your visions, the volume of 576 00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:52,880 Speaker 1: your visions, the vibrancy of visions, turn up for you, 577 00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:56,840 Speaker 1: and so I want you to start paying attention to 578 00:30:57,520 --> 00:31:01,480 Speaker 1: when you are moving through life, see something just randomly 579 00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:05,840 Speaker 1: flash in your like a memory, and it might be, 580 00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:09,160 Speaker 1: we're gonna keep this really simple right now. Where should 581 00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:10,720 Speaker 1: I go to dinner? And then you get a flash 582 00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:12,640 Speaker 1: of a restaurant and then you go there and you 583 00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:15,920 Speaker 1: meet someone, or you go there and you have the 584 00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:18,760 Speaker 1: most delicious meal you've ever had in your life and 585 00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:21,960 Speaker 1: that was your guidance telling you to go there. Hey, 586 00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:25,360 Speaker 1: we need to imagine a vision, like a memory or something, 587 00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:28,960 Speaker 1: and turn the vibrancy up on it. Imagine that the 588 00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:34,280 Speaker 1: colors are brighter and this could just be you visualizing something, something, 589 00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:39,160 Speaker 1: someone to place, a goal, that it's all coming to life. 590 00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:44,800 Speaker 1: Almost like you're feeling. You're feeling the experience. We're just 591 00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:47,160 Speaker 1: going to invite that it turns up. And then what 592 00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:49,600 Speaker 1: you can do is breathe into that space in your 593 00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:56,760 Speaker 1: third eye and visualize it opening. You can visualize even 594 00:31:56,880 --> 00:32:01,480 Speaker 1: like a flower blooming in your third eye, slowly opening, opening, opening, 595 00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:15,479 Speaker 1: and take a breath, exhale, release and let go. And 596 00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:19,720 Speaker 1: if you do this practice daily, for showing me five, 597 00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:22,320 Speaker 1: at least five days, you're going to start to notice 598 00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:24,320 Speaker 1: and I want you to start to play with this 599 00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:26,600 Speaker 1: in your everyday life and I'm going to share it 600 00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:28,479 Speaker 1: with your story of how I knew. This is just 601 00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:31,320 Speaker 1: one of the ways. There's four of them, I was 602 00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:33,000 Speaker 1: gonna say, but we'd probably be here an hour, so 603 00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:35,640 Speaker 1: I need to make sure I'll talk about some of 604 00:32:35,680 --> 00:32:40,960 Speaker 1: the other because mine work altogether. And so so, when 605 00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:43,680 Speaker 1: I realized I was starting to get visions, I didn't know, 606 00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:45,720 Speaker 1: and I'm sure this was happening my entire life and 607 00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:48,760 Speaker 1: most people it is. Again, this isn't we were weird. 608 00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:51,840 Speaker 1: We just weren't taught this. We were taught to shut 609 00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:55,480 Speaker 1: these gifts off right and for God knows what reason. 610 00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:58,440 Speaker 1: But but here we are. People like me that can 611 00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:01,480 Speaker 1: help you remember what you have access to already. Now. 612 00:33:01,520 --> 00:33:03,560 Speaker 1: I was so fascinated with this that I spent a 613 00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:06,000 Speaker 1: lot of time laying down in meditation and doing those 614 00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:09,080 Speaker 1: types of exercises and I would just ask my higher 615 00:33:09,120 --> 00:33:11,320 Speaker 1: self and pray. It's as simple ast just pray and 616 00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:15,160 Speaker 1: ask that it doesn't have to be that complicated. You 617 00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:19,200 Speaker 1: don't need a ten step practice, you know, you really don't. 618 00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:21,320 Speaker 1: You don't even need someone to do it for you, 619 00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:24,120 Speaker 1: but you can. I mean there's coaches and support and 620 00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:27,719 Speaker 1: intuitives and psychics that can probably help you find you know, 621 00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:30,720 Speaker 1: of course I have my own support still to this day, 622 00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:32,520 Speaker 1: but I would lay down and just do that and 623 00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:34,720 Speaker 1: ask my higherself to work on my third eye. Okay, 624 00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:38,160 Speaker 1: so here's the story. So once I was on a 625 00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:42,320 Speaker 1: live video and this woman was giving something away and 626 00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:45,360 Speaker 1: I decided in this moment, this was years ago, that 627 00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:47,640 Speaker 1: I was going to win this Dang thing, and so 628 00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:49,080 Speaker 1: I sat there I'm like, I'm gonna win this, I'm 629 00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:51,680 Speaker 1: gonna Manifest this, I'm gonna win this, and she said 630 00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:55,120 Speaker 1: the winner has to well, we had to guess an animal, 631 00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:57,560 Speaker 1: and so we all started guessing animals. No one was 632 00:33:57,600 --> 00:34:00,400 Speaker 1: guessing it and she said it's not that comment of 633 00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:02,560 Speaker 1: an animal and I had a flash of a memory 634 00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:05,000 Speaker 1: of holding my baby nephew at the zoo at the 635 00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:08,719 Speaker 1: Flamingo Exhibit. So I typed down. I'm like ship, I 636 00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:10,520 Speaker 1: don't know. So I just typed it. I didn't even 637 00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:12,560 Speaker 1: think at the time it was a vision and I 638 00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:14,600 Speaker 1: typed in pink Flamingo and she's like who's that Pink 639 00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:17,960 Speaker 1: Flamingo you want? And I really realized in that moment 640 00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:21,799 Speaker 1: that was a vision that I was being shown. Wow, 641 00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:25,279 Speaker 1: and I had no idea. And so I started to 642 00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:28,680 Speaker 1: pay attention to those more as I was moving through 643 00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:30,920 Speaker 1: my life and I started to kind of test them. 644 00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:33,320 Speaker 1: And it's not always perfect for human right so sometimes 645 00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:35,160 Speaker 1: our own fears biases can get in the way, but 646 00:34:35,160 --> 00:34:38,560 Speaker 1: I started to test them more and you can do 647 00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:40,920 Speaker 1: it for simple things even, like what time do I 648 00:34:40,920 --> 00:34:44,480 Speaker 1: think I'm gonna pull into the grocery store, or what 649 00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:46,640 Speaker 1: decision should I make, or what should I order on 650 00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:49,880 Speaker 1: the menu? I'm I'm actually I have a joke about that. 651 00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:52,000 Speaker 1: I'm like I'm intuitive and I can feel into menus. 652 00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:53,640 Speaker 1: I'm like that's not going to be good, that's going 653 00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:56,160 Speaker 1: to be good. This is people joke. I'm like no, 654 00:34:56,239 --> 00:34:57,600 Speaker 1: this is like a real thing, like I'll look at 655 00:34:57,600 --> 00:34:58,880 Speaker 1: a menu and I'm like no, this is going to 656 00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:06,680 Speaker 1: be bland and I'm like usually right. So start doing that, 657 00:35:06,840 --> 00:35:09,319 Speaker 1: start to test yourself and start to have fun with 658 00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:12,239 Speaker 1: it and and don't get too hard on yourself if 659 00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:15,080 Speaker 1: it doesn't feel right right away. It's a practice. I've 660 00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:20,360 Speaker 1: been doing this for freaking years, years, and I do 661 00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:23,000 Speaker 1: get visions for my clients which I can see things 662 00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:26,279 Speaker 1: for them. I can even see someone sometimes. I've had 663 00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:28,920 Speaker 1: people show up in my dreams and I know I'm 664 00:35:28,920 --> 00:35:31,880 Speaker 1: gonna meet and I can guidance for them. It's so crazy. 665 00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:34,680 Speaker 1: It's it's like I know sole family when I see 666 00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:37,560 Speaker 1: them too, like we have these divine appointments that are 667 00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:41,480 Speaker 1: you can't explain this stuff, you really can't, but it's real, y'all, 668 00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:48,080 Speaker 1: it's real. I totally buy in. I think the vision 669 00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:49,719 Speaker 1: thing is so interesting. I've talked about this a little 670 00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:51,759 Speaker 1: bit on the podcast that it comes to me a 671 00:35:51,800 --> 00:35:55,800 Speaker 1: lot in dreams, like I'll just see something so clearly 672 00:35:56,600 --> 00:35:59,560 Speaker 1: and it'll be to me. It'll fill out of left field, 673 00:35:59,800 --> 00:36:02,840 Speaker 1: like I'll wake up and I'll know something all of 674 00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:04,840 Speaker 1: a sudden and I'm like, oh, that was so weird, 675 00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:07,120 Speaker 1: that was weird that that was a dream, because it 676 00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:09,640 Speaker 1: felt like real life. And then most of the time 677 00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:14,360 Speaker 1: it is like somehow it either like happens or whatever 678 00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:17,759 Speaker 1: my dream was telling me was actually happening. You know, 679 00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:19,759 Speaker 1: like that's happened a lot in relationships where I was 680 00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:24,040 Speaker 1: being lied to like like I just know, I don't know. 681 00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:26,839 Speaker 1: And so, anyway, I do love the idea of really 682 00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:29,799 Speaker 1: getting in touch with that because, and I think something 683 00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:31,640 Speaker 1: you know, we had Um Laura Day on. I don't 684 00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:33,279 Speaker 1: know if you know who she has, but she came 685 00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:36,160 Speaker 1: on last week on the podcast and she was talking 686 00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:39,839 Speaker 1: a lot about the difference between anxiety and intuition and 687 00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:42,879 Speaker 1: how you just said it to like your fears can 688 00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:46,200 Speaker 1: play into it. And so are there ways that you 689 00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:50,080 Speaker 1: would say that we can kind of decipher between, like, 690 00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:52,520 Speaker 1: like I just used the example of a relationship. If 691 00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:54,920 Speaker 1: I got a vision that my partner was cheating on 692 00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:56,879 Speaker 1: me or something, is that a fear or is that? 693 00:36:56,920 --> 00:36:59,359 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, and she's something about it. 694 00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:03,200 Speaker 1: was like if there's an actionable step and it it 695 00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:06,880 Speaker 1: usually is like in line with that. That's probably your intuition. 696 00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:13,480 Speaker 1: Do you have another example or description or definition for that? Sure? Well, first, 697 00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:16,000 Speaker 1: you don't want to try to get intuitive guidance for 698 00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:20,399 Speaker 1: something when emotions are running really high, because our emotions 699 00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:23,560 Speaker 1: a lot of times some things getting triggered. So when 700 00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:26,200 Speaker 1: emotions get triggered, a lot of times fears coming up 701 00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:28,799 Speaker 1: and things are coming up and sometimes we can't get 702 00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:31,280 Speaker 1: an accurate read on things when we're an emotional space. 703 00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:33,799 Speaker 1: So it's a take space for yourself to feel what 704 00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:36,160 Speaker 1: you need to feel. And the reason why you're getting 705 00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:38,440 Speaker 1: dreams is it's a safe place for you to receive 706 00:37:38,520 --> 00:37:41,040 Speaker 1: clear guidance when you're not in that emotional space. Right. 707 00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:43,400 Speaker 1: But I just want you to know you're getting premonitions 708 00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:46,359 Speaker 1: for things too, so maybe start writing all those things down, 709 00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,920 Speaker 1: like future visions and and maybe even people showing up, 710 00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:55,520 Speaker 1: maybe even clients you're supposed to support and things like that. 711 00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:58,240 Speaker 1: Maybe you haven't. I've had this happened, like I mentioned 712 00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:02,040 Speaker 1: to you, and so you're also you're also very intuitive. 713 00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:05,719 Speaker 1: You're receiving premonitions and dreams. Sometimes we don't want to 714 00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:08,040 Speaker 1: accept the truth and our waking reality, and that's where 715 00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:10,800 Speaker 1: in her work is. You know, I had a friend, 716 00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:14,360 Speaker 1: one of my very, very best friends. I won't name it, 717 00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:17,560 Speaker 1: but she probably wouldn't care anyways. But she was dating 718 00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:23,759 Speaker 1: someone and and I I knew that this was not 719 00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:25,719 Speaker 1: her person and she, in her heart of hearts, knew. 720 00:38:26,360 --> 00:38:28,279 Speaker 1: And so when I was having a conference, I never 721 00:38:28,320 --> 00:38:33,080 Speaker 1: coach people unless they ask permission because just you know, 722 00:38:33,239 --> 00:38:35,759 Speaker 1: future ps a, if my man is listening to this, 723 00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:38,920 Speaker 1: I would never I don't coach my people unless they 724 00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:42,520 Speaker 1: ask right. Um, but sometimes my friends they're like no, 725 00:38:42,640 --> 00:38:44,440 Speaker 1: please read into this for me or please. I'm like, 726 00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:46,920 Speaker 1: are you sure this is discretion? Because Life' is malleable. 727 00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:49,480 Speaker 1: It might not, it could play out different and all 728 00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:55,200 Speaker 1: turns out it was pretty day accurate. Um. But the 729 00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:59,560 Speaker 1: thing was is I think she was wanting the love 730 00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:03,080 Speaker 1: so much, just to experience love, and it's like her 731 00:39:03,160 --> 00:39:06,399 Speaker 1: inner little girl just really wanted to be loved and 732 00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:09,120 Speaker 1: for this person to be the one, even though she 733 00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:11,879 Speaker 1: wasn't even feeling it deep down. And so I could 734 00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:15,239 Speaker 1: feel she wasn't feeling it. And right before they broke up, 735 00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:17,440 Speaker 1: right before I ended, I said, well, how does it 736 00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:21,000 Speaker 1: feel if you were to let this go? This relationship go. 737 00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:22,640 Speaker 1: How does that feel in your body? Let's feel into that. 738 00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:29,479 Speaker 1: She's like relief. Yeah, that's your intuition. That's your intuition. Girl. 739 00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:33,040 Speaker 1: I'm like, you already knew this, though, and if if 740 00:39:33,080 --> 00:39:37,080 Speaker 1: a relationship is putting you in more doubt and questioning 741 00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:40,920 Speaker 1: yourself more than anything, then it's probably I mean every 742 00:39:40,920 --> 00:39:43,919 Speaker 1: relationship is different, but for my singles, especially out there 743 00:39:44,040 --> 00:39:47,600 Speaker 1: and these, you know, even if you just start dating someone, 744 00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:51,640 Speaker 1: it's probably not it. Yeah, probably ain't it, you know, 745 00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:54,640 Speaker 1: and so you have to trust your hard hearts. When 746 00:39:54,680 --> 00:39:57,799 Speaker 1: something's meant for you, you know you feel it, even 747 00:39:57,840 --> 00:40:00,000 Speaker 1: if there's challenge, because relationships are going to have things 748 00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:03,000 Speaker 1: to work through regardless. It's not going to always be perfect, right, 749 00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:05,279 Speaker 1: but the more we do the inner work on ourselves 750 00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:08,759 Speaker 1: then and take responsibility even for our side of the street, 751 00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:10,839 Speaker 1: then we'll call forth a partner that's doing the same 752 00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:14,160 Speaker 1: thing now, and that's where the ease comes in. And 753 00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:16,480 Speaker 1: so we also just want to make sure that we're 754 00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:18,799 Speaker 1: actually truly listening to our heart, because a lot of 755 00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:21,360 Speaker 1: times we're not, because it's hard, because then we have 756 00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:24,480 Speaker 1: to get uncomfortable and then we have to have a 757 00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:29,400 Speaker 1: difficult conversation, then we have to face our emotions. Then 758 00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:32,759 Speaker 1: we might have to sever finances if we're married right like, 759 00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:37,040 Speaker 1: there might be difficult things involved. But the thing is is, 760 00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:40,920 Speaker 1: if you don't follow your intuition, eventually you will have to, 761 00:40:41,080 --> 00:40:44,440 Speaker 1: and and it gets louder and louder and more sometimes 762 00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:47,720 Speaker 1: it can even get more uncomfortable. Oh, it's so true. 763 00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:50,000 Speaker 1: I mean I know for me, like in the past, 764 00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:54,279 Speaker 1: it's like I've known, or all know in relationships so 765 00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:56,480 Speaker 1: early on. It's just a lot of times I don't 766 00:40:56,760 --> 00:40:59,560 Speaker 1: want to believe it, like you're saying. But then the 767 00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:03,720 Speaker 1: only way for me to turn down the the noise 768 00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:05,600 Speaker 1: of my intuition, or whatever you want to call it, 769 00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:08,759 Speaker 1: the volume of my intuition, is to medicate it away, 770 00:41:08,760 --> 00:41:11,640 Speaker 1: because it's like screaming at me. Like you said, it 771 00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:15,160 Speaker 1: gets more and more and more uncomfortable. And so obviously 772 00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:18,200 Speaker 1: these are patterns I'm looking at within myself. But you 773 00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:21,720 Speaker 1: do always know, I really do believe. Yes, we always 774 00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:24,320 Speaker 1: know in and that goes in jobs and all the 775 00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:27,080 Speaker 1: stuff too. It's just when are you actually ready to 776 00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:30,600 Speaker 1: accept that or to make the changes or to take 777 00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:32,440 Speaker 1: the step or to lean into the pain, all the 778 00:41:32,480 --> 00:41:35,800 Speaker 1: stuff that you just said. Yeah, and another intuitive exercise 779 00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:38,840 Speaker 1: for that and decision making is that kind of closing 780 00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:41,880 Speaker 1: your eyes, getting familiar with how you're feeling in your body, 781 00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:44,000 Speaker 1: because our feelings don't lie to US, right. And so 782 00:41:44,440 --> 00:41:46,920 Speaker 1: if you were to take a moment to just disconnect 783 00:41:47,080 --> 00:41:51,239 Speaker 1: from everything and come back to peace, and then, let's 784 00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:53,400 Speaker 1: say you're making a decision, because we're talking about the 785 00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:56,239 Speaker 1: relationship thing, even for my friend is and what I 786 00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:59,320 Speaker 1: guided her through, because I'm still like not telling answers 787 00:41:59,320 --> 00:42:01,680 Speaker 1: to people and like at them, because it's just I'm like, 788 00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:05,000 Speaker 1: I want you to make the decision, and so I 789 00:42:05,120 --> 00:42:07,839 Speaker 1: like unclose your eyes. And for her, how does it 790 00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:13,000 Speaker 1: feel if you were to leave the relationship and walk away? 791 00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:15,160 Speaker 1: How does that feel in your body? We shut your 792 00:42:15,160 --> 00:42:17,719 Speaker 1: mind off, we shut the fear off, just feel and 793 00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:21,040 Speaker 1: then relief, right. Yeah, for her, that was the guidance. 794 00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:22,880 Speaker 1: And then for her to stay. So how does it 795 00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:25,200 Speaker 1: feel if you were to stay in this longer and 796 00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:28,560 Speaker 1: she goes horrible, terrible? You know, I'm like, well, what's 797 00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:30,279 Speaker 1: the fear of leaving? Because that's what we want to 798 00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:33,799 Speaker 1: plug out. What's the fear? And if we can get 799 00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:35,719 Speaker 1: to that and shine a light on that. Then we 800 00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:38,040 Speaker 1: can also start to heal that too. When it was deeper, 801 00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:42,200 Speaker 1: deeper wounds of being alone. Yeah, I'll always be alone, 802 00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:45,719 Speaker 1: whatever messages we tell ourselves. Yeah, yeah, you know what, 803 00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:49,880 Speaker 1: I would rather be alone than be lonely in a relationship. Absolutely. 804 00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:54,560 Speaker 1: I mean that is like my own company, and that's 805 00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:56,680 Speaker 1: another thing. That was getting to like your own company 806 00:42:56,680 --> 00:42:59,560 Speaker 1: and being comfortable in that, and I think that can 807 00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:02,760 Speaker 1: take time to or you know time. We're not taught 808 00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:06,800 Speaker 1: that either. No, that's why there's this whole freaking world 809 00:43:07,080 --> 00:43:09,520 Speaker 1: that people enter when they come with me, because it's 810 00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:14,359 Speaker 1: not just positive affirmations and just visualizing. It's deep. It's 811 00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:17,160 Speaker 1: deep if we want to be even if, like, let's say, 812 00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:19,800 Speaker 1: one of my clients is sometimes I see them and 813 00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:22,120 Speaker 1: I'm like, you're big, but you're meant to serve a 814 00:43:22,160 --> 00:43:25,560 Speaker 1: lot more people than you already are like big. So 815 00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:28,560 Speaker 1: what's the fear holding them back from being seen more? 816 00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:31,759 Speaker 1: Because they're brilliant, because they're healers, like I can see 817 00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:34,000 Speaker 1: even people that aren't don't know their healers, and like 818 00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:36,080 Speaker 1: they have healing energy coming out of their voice when 819 00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:40,200 Speaker 1: they're singing, like they're meant to be huge and and 820 00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:43,440 Speaker 1: even bigger than they are, you know, because they're someone 821 00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:46,160 Speaker 1: specifically I'm seeing is already big, but like he's meant 822 00:43:46,160 --> 00:43:49,920 Speaker 1: to be really, really big. So there's probably, there could be, 823 00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:52,719 Speaker 1: some sort of fear right of being seen or being 824 00:43:52,800 --> 00:43:56,560 Speaker 1: heard or judging yourself for something underneath. That prevents people 825 00:43:56,600 --> 00:43:59,919 Speaker 1: from money, success, meeting their true love, all these things, 826 00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:03,600 Speaker 1: and that's what we want to get to the root of. Yeah, 827 00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:06,920 Speaker 1: so how do we become more magnetic for the things 828 00:44:06,960 --> 00:44:10,080 Speaker 1: that we love? Because I'm hearing a lot of like 829 00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:13,440 Speaker 1: US getting in our own way, and so how do 830 00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:16,239 Speaker 1: we draw in, like, get out of our own way, 831 00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:19,319 Speaker 1: draw in the things that we are actually meant to 832 00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:24,680 Speaker 1: do or be or why we're here? How I'm more magnetic? Yeah, 833 00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:29,120 Speaker 1: this is a multilayered topic, very nuanced, but the first 834 00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:31,960 Speaker 1: step in this would be to start saying no to 835 00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:36,560 Speaker 1: things that are no. Stop saying yes, stop accepting less 836 00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:40,439 Speaker 1: than what you want, stop accepting us, because you're telling 837 00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:43,680 Speaker 1: the universe I'm okay with this. Yeah, this is what 838 00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:47,640 Speaker 1: I want. Right, the universe speaks in yes. So so 839 00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:51,680 Speaker 1: whatever you say that again, the universe speaks in yes. 840 00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:54,239 Speaker 1: It always speaks in yes. So for choosing something, it 841 00:44:54,480 --> 00:44:57,959 Speaker 1: just imagine it just assumes that that's what you want. Ah, 842 00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:01,280 Speaker 1: that is so. I'm sorry, I have to like pause 843 00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:04,520 Speaker 1: on that one. That just hit me. So if you're like, 844 00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:08,240 Speaker 1: for instance, if you I mean, I'm on dating APPs 845 00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:11,040 Speaker 1: right now. So let's use this example. There are certain 846 00:45:11,080 --> 00:45:14,279 Speaker 1: things that will happen that I'm like, okay. In the 847 00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:16,480 Speaker 1: past I would have been like, oh, that's fine, it's fine, 848 00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:18,960 Speaker 1: it's fine, but now I'm like no, this is like 849 00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:22,760 Speaker 1: I'm noticing something. Everything that I know from the past 850 00:45:22,840 --> 00:45:24,319 Speaker 1: is that what you see at the beginning is what 851 00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:26,520 Speaker 1: ends up being the issue. Like he is showing me 852 00:45:26,560 --> 00:45:30,600 Speaker 1: who he is. Believe it like that, I've been saying no. 853 00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:33,799 Speaker 1: But that's so interesting because I literally had a phone 854 00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:36,640 Speaker 1: call yesterday where I said to someone in the past 855 00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:40,680 Speaker 1: this would have been an easy like Oh, yeah, but 856 00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:43,200 Speaker 1: so the universe is hearing that as this is okay 857 00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:45,399 Speaker 1: and no, no wonder I keep getting the same kind 858 00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:48,359 Speaker 1: of thing, and so we have to also learn how 859 00:45:48,400 --> 00:45:50,520 Speaker 1: to stop people pleasing and we can be kind about it. 860 00:45:50,520 --> 00:45:53,480 Speaker 1: We don't have, course, right, but we can. We can 861 00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:56,400 Speaker 1: stop saying yes to things out of fear of lack 862 00:45:56,480 --> 00:46:00,640 Speaker 1: and scarcity. You know and you're gonna when you meet 863 00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:02,839 Speaker 1: your your man, you're going to know. All of you 864 00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:05,840 Speaker 1: is going to know. Yeh, and it's going to flow 865 00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:09,560 Speaker 1: and it's probably closer than you think and it's going 866 00:46:09,600 --> 00:46:12,400 Speaker 1: to be amazing. And if you don't even want to 867 00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:14,239 Speaker 1: be on APPs, you don't have to, unless you get 868 00:46:14,239 --> 00:46:18,600 Speaker 1: guided to. Yeah, I'm not. Yeah, I felt like for 869 00:46:18,640 --> 00:46:21,680 Speaker 1: me it's been a good practice, so I'm enjoying it 870 00:46:21,719 --> 00:46:24,160 Speaker 1: for now, but I don't think I've put too much 871 00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:26,440 Speaker 1: weight in it. I would say that's perfect. That's the 872 00:46:26,440 --> 00:46:28,200 Speaker 1: perfect place to be, because you could meet him on 873 00:46:28,239 --> 00:46:30,640 Speaker 1: there or not, and you just have to follow your guidance. 874 00:46:30,680 --> 00:46:32,640 Speaker 1: But just for anyone out there, it's like, if it 875 00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:35,040 Speaker 1: doesn't feel good to you, then freaking don't know it. 876 00:46:35,239 --> 00:46:39,120 Speaker 1: You don't. How did people meet in the olden days? Right? 877 00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:41,880 Speaker 1: I think we all would love that. It's like, God, 878 00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:44,120 Speaker 1: who knew that meeting someone at a bar would sound 879 00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:48,760 Speaker 1: so great? Dude, and I also know the crazy stories 880 00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:51,160 Speaker 1: that I have to share that I probably haven't even 881 00:46:51,160 --> 00:46:53,319 Speaker 1: gotten into, of how things just find me and shot 882 00:46:53,400 --> 00:46:54,719 Speaker 1: up for me. Do you think I'm going to get 883 00:46:54,760 --> 00:46:56,560 Speaker 1: a boring story. Do you think I'm gonna get like, Oh, 884 00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:59,759 Speaker 1: it's through like an APP? No, it's probably gonna be 885 00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:03,040 Speaker 1: some crazy thing where, I don't know, I turn around 886 00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:06,680 Speaker 1: at the airport and I don't know, I bump into 887 00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:11,839 Speaker 1: the person cucumbers at the grocery store, whatever it is, right, 888 00:47:12,200 --> 00:47:15,520 Speaker 1: or some magical, weird, crazy story like sitting to his 889 00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:19,480 Speaker 1: mom on a plane or something like right, like I 890 00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:22,760 Speaker 1: just know. So it's also, yeah, you're in a great 891 00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:25,240 Speaker 1: spot with it as well, but trust, trust your guidance 892 00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:28,000 Speaker 1: and how things feel. And really it's like, okay, if 893 00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:29,680 Speaker 1: I let go of my mind, if I let go 894 00:47:29,760 --> 00:47:31,719 Speaker 1: of judgment, if I let go, let me just feel 895 00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:34,319 Speaker 1: into this person. Does it feel light and exciting to 896 00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:37,160 Speaker 1: go on a date with them, or does it feel contracting? 897 00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:41,000 Speaker 1: That's what you want to follow. That's your intuition speaking. 898 00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:43,480 Speaker 1: Play with this on menus too, when you go out 899 00:47:43,480 --> 00:47:47,799 Speaker 1: to eat. I start to develop it and then you'll 900 00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:49,799 Speaker 1: start to become obsessed and in every moment you'll be 901 00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:58,840 Speaker 1: like you're just living in my world every day. Okay, 902 00:47:58,840 --> 00:48:03,200 Speaker 1: I love that the universe operates and yes, okay, what else? Yeah, 903 00:48:03,320 --> 00:48:05,400 Speaker 1: what else is well, when you think of this energetically, 904 00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:08,799 Speaker 1: because I'm geting shown this vision. Okay, so when when 905 00:48:09,080 --> 00:48:12,759 Speaker 1: we are really magnetic, it's because we kind of don't 906 00:48:12,760 --> 00:48:15,440 Speaker 1: give a ship about what people think about us. Right. 907 00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:20,400 Speaker 1: We don't have any of these energy attachments to people, 908 00:48:20,400 --> 00:48:23,279 Speaker 1: to things, to write. We're caring so much about the 909 00:48:23,280 --> 00:48:26,680 Speaker 1: outside world. We are filling ourselves up from within, and 910 00:48:26,719 --> 00:48:30,680 Speaker 1: it took me a while, in different layers, to let 911 00:48:30,719 --> 00:48:34,399 Speaker 1: this really sink in. How it's sunk in even more 912 00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:36,520 Speaker 1: recently because I've been teaching this for a while. But 913 00:48:36,560 --> 00:48:38,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, Oh, I get it at my next level now. 914 00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:42,959 Speaker 1: So I really only have to fill myself up and 915 00:48:44,000 --> 00:48:46,560 Speaker 1: really love myself to my core, which means all parts 916 00:48:46,560 --> 00:48:48,680 Speaker 1: of me, not just the shiny ones, like, Oh, I'm 917 00:48:48,680 --> 00:48:51,120 Speaker 1: just gonna like look keep today, and that's loving myself. 918 00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:53,759 Speaker 1: Oh No, like, can you love yourself when you're ugly 919 00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:57,879 Speaker 1: crying in the bathroom? Can you love yourself when when 920 00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:00,640 Speaker 1: maybe you made a mistake or you grod something up, 921 00:49:00,719 --> 00:49:03,839 Speaker 1: or can you love yourself for all of all of you, 922 00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:07,840 Speaker 1: your body the way it is today? And what happens 923 00:49:07,880 --> 00:49:09,719 Speaker 1: is we become very magnetic because, when you think about it, 924 00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:13,239 Speaker 1: if all your energy is pulled in to you, like 925 00:49:13,280 --> 00:49:16,200 Speaker 1: when you're focusing on you and you're like, wow, I 926 00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:18,720 Speaker 1: look beautiful today. I Love Myself, I'm going to choose 927 00:49:18,760 --> 00:49:23,719 Speaker 1: myself today. I'm I'm not going to forsake myself today emotionally, 928 00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:25,400 Speaker 1: I'm going to give myself what I need. When you're 929 00:49:25,400 --> 00:49:28,600 Speaker 1: truly in that relationship with you and you work on 930 00:49:28,680 --> 00:49:31,400 Speaker 1: feeling good from the inside out, you become magnetic to everything, 931 00:49:31,880 --> 00:49:35,120 Speaker 1: because someone who's full of life and all their energy 932 00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:37,600 Speaker 1: is really pulled in right, instead of like, Oh, worried 933 00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:40,640 Speaker 1: about all these external things, then the energy kind of 934 00:49:40,640 --> 00:49:44,120 Speaker 1: gets pulled to you. Does that make sense? You're like Oh, 935 00:49:44,160 --> 00:49:49,879 Speaker 1: you're vibrating and right, and so again. This is it's 936 00:49:49,920 --> 00:49:51,520 Speaker 1: not just easy to be like I love myself and 937 00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:57,000 Speaker 1: it's perfect tomorrow. You know, it's a constant practice. Yeah, okay, 938 00:49:57,120 --> 00:50:03,160 Speaker 1: so bringing the energy from inward and not like that's interesting. 939 00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:05,120 Speaker 1: I love it. You said like accept your body as 940 00:50:05,160 --> 00:50:07,200 Speaker 1: it is instead of like, like, if I don't feel 941 00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:09,359 Speaker 1: like working out today, which I don't. This is why 942 00:50:09,360 --> 00:50:11,399 Speaker 1: I was interesting that you just said that. But I'm 943 00:50:11,400 --> 00:50:14,759 Speaker 1: like convincing myself. You haven't been working out lately. You 944 00:50:14,760 --> 00:50:17,360 Speaker 1: want to look a certain, you know whatever, beating myself 945 00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:20,799 Speaker 1: up for that instead of just listening and accepting where 946 00:50:20,800 --> 00:50:24,160 Speaker 1: I am right now. Uh Huh, Yep, and you know 947 00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:26,400 Speaker 1: that actually can put fuel on the fire for your 948 00:50:26,400 --> 00:50:29,560 Speaker 1: body to change. So I get really will woo and 949 00:50:29,840 --> 00:50:32,960 Speaker 1: I believe that our beliefs about ourselves actually can change 950 00:50:32,960 --> 00:50:36,040 Speaker 1: how we physically look to and how people see us 951 00:50:36,040 --> 00:50:37,880 Speaker 1: in the world. And it's true, because I've had people 952 00:50:38,440 --> 00:50:41,200 Speaker 1: and my clients say, wow, you look different, you look 953 00:50:41,239 --> 00:50:44,040 Speaker 1: a little beautiful since you've been working with them. What's happened? 954 00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:46,680 Speaker 1: You've had like a glow up. You look physically different 955 00:50:46,719 --> 00:50:49,279 Speaker 1: and it's because your energy is different. But also, I'll 956 00:50:49,280 --> 00:50:51,440 Speaker 1: tell you this, I wanted to get my nose fixed 957 00:50:51,560 --> 00:50:54,040 Speaker 1: years ago and I said, well, what if I spend 958 00:50:54,080 --> 00:50:56,719 Speaker 1: three months just accepting it as it is? And and 959 00:50:56,800 --> 00:50:58,759 Speaker 1: I don't judge people for getting plastic surge at all, 960 00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:00,480 Speaker 1: like I think it's great which you want to do 961 00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:03,680 Speaker 1: your body, no judgment whatever. We're here to play in 962 00:51:03,680 --> 00:51:06,279 Speaker 1: creative expression, whatever. I really don't. But for me, I 963 00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:09,080 Speaker 1: wanted to see how I would feel because I was 964 00:51:09,120 --> 00:51:11,000 Speaker 1: doing it from a place of really like self hatred 965 00:51:11,040 --> 00:51:13,319 Speaker 1: and I wanted to just check myself first before I 966 00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:15,680 Speaker 1: did that, made a big decision like that, and so 967 00:51:15,920 --> 00:51:20,080 Speaker 1: I did. I spent about three months and instead of 968 00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:22,200 Speaker 1: saying because I gotta like bump on the side, by 969 00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:26,120 Speaker 1: dose and so instead of judging my profile and pictures 970 00:51:26,160 --> 00:51:29,280 Speaker 1: and all of that, I started to come into acceptance 971 00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:31,279 Speaker 1: with it and just practice it. And so anytime I 972 00:51:31,320 --> 00:51:33,440 Speaker 1: had a negative thought about it, I would just shift 973 00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:35,760 Speaker 1: that and say, Nope, I love you and I accept 974 00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:38,600 Speaker 1: you as you are and I'm going to find a 975 00:51:38,640 --> 00:51:41,200 Speaker 1: way to love it as it is and know that 976 00:51:41,239 --> 00:51:42,759 Speaker 1: I don't have to be perfect and then I just 977 00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:45,319 Speaker 1: get to be me and that's it. I don't have 978 00:51:45,400 --> 00:51:47,200 Speaker 1: to who am I doing this for? I I kind 979 00:51:47,200 --> 00:51:49,799 Speaker 1: of pulled it all apart and I never wanted I 980 00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:52,440 Speaker 1: ended up not wanting to do it. Yeah, and I'm like, 981 00:51:52,480 --> 00:51:54,239 Speaker 1: looking at you, I'm like, what would you even fix 982 00:51:54,280 --> 00:51:58,840 Speaker 1: about your nose? It's perfect. But Yeah, you've got to 983 00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:03,280 Speaker 1: acceptance of it. My whole life I was so, so, so, 984 00:52:03,280 --> 00:52:05,719 Speaker 1: so self conscious of it and then I'd bring it 985 00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:07,760 Speaker 1: up and people are like, what are you even talking about? Right, 986 00:52:08,160 --> 00:52:10,759 Speaker 1: but so we all have our own things like that. 987 00:52:10,800 --> 00:52:13,560 Speaker 1: But if we change our perception of it, other people's 988 00:52:13,560 --> 00:52:17,520 Speaker 1: perception of it also changes. It's so true when you're like, Damn, 989 00:52:17,600 --> 00:52:21,279 Speaker 1: I love my my my thighs, or I love my 990 00:52:21,360 --> 00:52:25,080 Speaker 1: booty or I love my curves, I love my even 991 00:52:25,160 --> 00:52:27,799 Speaker 1: like if you're like, man, I wish my boobs are bigger. Nope, 992 00:52:27,920 --> 00:52:31,040 Speaker 1: I love I love myself the way I you will 993 00:52:31,080 --> 00:52:34,440 Speaker 1: attract people that are like, Damn, she looks good. Yeah, well, 994 00:52:34,440 --> 00:52:36,200 Speaker 1: it's even like what you said to me at the beginning, 995 00:52:36,200 --> 00:52:38,399 Speaker 1: when you're like you're doing way better than you're giving 996 00:52:38,400 --> 00:52:41,200 Speaker 1: yourself credit for. Like that is true, and that's like 997 00:52:41,760 --> 00:52:44,920 Speaker 1: it is true too. Of the way that I perceived 998 00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:47,560 Speaker 1: myself a lot of times is what I project. And 999 00:52:47,560 --> 00:52:51,360 Speaker 1: so then that is also how it's like not excepted 1000 00:52:51,440 --> 00:52:54,040 Speaker 1: by other people, but it's taken in by other people 1001 00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:56,440 Speaker 1: and it's like actually, a lot of times it's just 1002 00:52:56,480 --> 00:52:59,480 Speaker 1: the critical inner voice. It's not even reality for me 1003 00:52:59,560 --> 00:53:04,840 Speaker 1: at least, but myself apart so much, and then that's 1004 00:53:04,880 --> 00:53:06,759 Speaker 1: the version of me that people are getting. So of 1005 00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:08,880 Speaker 1: course then they're going to be like, oh, okay, maybe 1006 00:53:08,920 --> 00:53:11,239 Speaker 1: she is like that or you know whatever, right, and 1007 00:53:11,280 --> 00:53:13,640 Speaker 1: it's crazy like when we shift that and turn that 1008 00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:17,719 Speaker 1: switch on from inside our reality outside changes because we 1009 00:53:17,800 --> 00:53:22,239 Speaker 1: are operating in our own universe. So start to even. 1010 00:53:22,480 --> 00:53:25,520 Speaker 1: Here's what I like to teach about. This is my work. Also, 1011 00:53:25,600 --> 00:53:28,680 Speaker 1: even though we go pretty deep emotionally, it's also very playful. 1012 00:53:28,880 --> 00:53:32,719 Speaker 1: I'm like, just fun and play lay impossibility this week. 1013 00:53:32,760 --> 00:53:35,880 Speaker 1: Don't be too stuffy, because sometimes we get too rigid 1014 00:53:35,880 --> 00:53:39,080 Speaker 1: with these practices. And what if it could be light 1015 00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:41,879 Speaker 1: and fun, like just wink at yourself in the mirror 1016 00:53:41,920 --> 00:53:44,680 Speaker 1: a few times this week and and have more fun 1017 00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:49,000 Speaker 1: getting dressed, have more fun with your makeup, just have 1018 00:53:49,239 --> 00:53:53,440 Speaker 1: fun Um with yourself rather than taking even all of 1019 00:53:53,440 --> 00:53:56,120 Speaker 1: this stuff even so serious and be like yeah, walk 1020 00:53:56,160 --> 00:53:59,400 Speaker 1: around and be like yeah, I'm freaking sexy. Yeah, just 1021 00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:01,560 Speaker 1: as I am, and I'm gonna walk like I know 1022 00:54:01,600 --> 00:54:06,799 Speaker 1: I'm sexy. Yes, yes, and it doesn't mean we think we're. 1023 00:54:06,960 --> 00:54:11,640 Speaker 1: It's not arrogance, it's everyone gets to do this. It's confident, contidence. 1024 00:54:11,800 --> 00:54:13,680 Speaker 1: That old man that I see every morning, he can 1025 00:54:13,719 --> 00:54:17,799 Speaker 1: do it too. You can be sexy too, right, and 1026 00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:21,759 Speaker 1: so so fill yourself up. So have fun with that, 1027 00:54:22,160 --> 00:54:25,480 Speaker 1: you know, put your shoulders back, put your Chin up 1028 00:54:25,560 --> 00:54:29,359 Speaker 1: in and start to start to talk to yourself. Okay, 1029 00:54:29,440 --> 00:54:33,920 Speaker 1: freaking love yourself and some days are harder and stuff 1030 00:54:33,960 --> 00:54:38,600 Speaker 1: comes up. That's okay. Yeah, and that's really okay to this. 1031 00:54:38,840 --> 00:54:41,200 Speaker 1: Human experience is a range of emotions and that's what 1032 00:54:41,280 --> 00:54:43,480 Speaker 1: makes it beautiful. If it was high and light all 1033 00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:46,080 Speaker 1: the time, it wouldn't be fun. You wouldn't even notice 1034 00:54:46,080 --> 00:54:48,480 Speaker 1: the high and light because you wouldn't even know what 1035 00:54:48,520 --> 00:54:51,760 Speaker 1: the bad feels like. No, and you know what it's like, Kelly, 1036 00:54:51,760 --> 00:54:55,080 Speaker 1: when you and I meet are are our men. We've 1037 00:54:55,080 --> 00:54:57,920 Speaker 1: been through some things in our past right, so we've 1038 00:54:58,000 --> 00:55:01,799 Speaker 1: experienced things that we don't want. So when we inevitably 1039 00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:05,920 Speaker 1: meet our soulmates, it's gonna feel so good, even better, 1040 00:55:06,200 --> 00:55:09,320 Speaker 1: even better, and you will appreciate him for the rest 1041 00:55:09,360 --> 00:55:11,239 Speaker 1: of your life and the love is going to be 1042 00:55:11,320 --> 00:55:14,160 Speaker 1: so deep and you're gonna cherish it. I have chills, 1043 00:55:14,239 --> 00:55:19,759 Speaker 1: because you've been through some whack experience. It's gonna be like, Oh, 1044 00:55:19,760 --> 00:55:23,960 Speaker 1: thank God, every day I'm so grateful for you because 1045 00:55:24,000 --> 00:55:27,440 Speaker 1: of the past. Yeah, and I know that that's true. 1046 00:55:27,520 --> 00:55:29,759 Speaker 1: I know it's true for me every day. You know, 1047 00:55:30,520 --> 00:55:32,840 Speaker 1: I grew I didn't grow up on the ocean, and 1048 00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:35,960 Speaker 1: every day I appreciate the ocean. I wanted the ocean 1049 00:55:36,080 --> 00:55:37,360 Speaker 1: when I was a little girl, and it took me 1050 00:55:37,440 --> 00:55:39,799 Speaker 1: till I was in my twenties too to move to 1051 00:55:40,400 --> 00:55:44,200 Speaker 1: first Florida and now California, and I appreciate it every day. 1052 00:55:44,200 --> 00:55:46,840 Speaker 1: It doesn't get old. Yeah, it's I think it's the 1053 00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:51,839 Speaker 1: contrast sometimes makes life really beautiful. I think that's exactly right. Well, 1054 00:55:51,880 --> 00:55:55,080 Speaker 1: you also have your own podcast. It's called illuminated. I 1055 00:55:55,239 --> 00:55:59,440 Speaker 1: do they can find on your podcast. Yeah, a variety 1056 00:55:59,480 --> 00:56:03,239 Speaker 1: of stuff. I mean, I just golf my intuition. So, Hey, 1057 00:56:03,280 --> 00:56:05,320 Speaker 1: what do we want to share about today? Sometimes I 1058 00:56:05,440 --> 00:56:08,360 Speaker 1: bring my team members on to talk about certain things 1059 00:56:08,880 --> 00:56:12,479 Speaker 1: and I share on all sorts of topics between money, business, love, 1060 00:56:12,600 --> 00:56:15,319 Speaker 1: trusting yourself, trusting your guidance. I do support a lot 1061 00:56:15,360 --> 00:56:19,440 Speaker 1: of leaders, people who either either maybe you are aspiring 1062 00:56:19,480 --> 00:56:21,720 Speaker 1: to start a business, because I do train new coaches, 1063 00:56:22,160 --> 00:56:25,400 Speaker 1: or maybe you are in the public eye, or maybe 1064 00:56:25,440 --> 00:56:29,200 Speaker 1: you have a business or a store something, and it's 1065 00:56:29,719 --> 00:56:32,399 Speaker 1: people who are really ambitious and want to live their 1066 00:56:32,400 --> 00:56:34,879 Speaker 1: best possible life. We do not settle in my world 1067 00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:39,280 Speaker 1: for anything less and nothing. We will settle for nothing 1068 00:56:40,000 --> 00:56:44,479 Speaker 1: and and Um basically, an amplification of everything we've talked 1069 00:56:44,480 --> 00:56:47,279 Speaker 1: about here amazing. Well, you guys, go check out the 1070 00:56:47,280 --> 00:56:49,759 Speaker 1: eliminated podcast. Where else can people find you? I know 1071 00:56:49,840 --> 00:56:53,080 Speaker 1: you're Amanda Merit Dot Com. For the website. If you're 1072 00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:56,120 Speaker 1: looking for coaching services, I'll link all of this obviously 1073 00:56:56,120 --> 00:56:57,960 Speaker 1: in the description. But where can I find you on 1074 00:56:58,000 --> 00:57:03,239 Speaker 1: social media? Social Media, Instagram, is the Amanda Merit. And 1075 00:57:03,280 --> 00:57:05,560 Speaker 1: then I'm starting a youtube now. So I'm going to 1076 00:57:05,640 --> 00:57:11,040 Speaker 1: be doing energy UPDATESKA, but my email list I'm emailing 1077 00:57:11,040 --> 00:57:14,320 Speaker 1: out energy updates too. And depending when this is airing, 1078 00:57:14,320 --> 00:57:16,000 Speaker 1: but we're going to have a free replay of this. 1079 00:57:16,080 --> 00:57:20,000 Speaker 1: I'm doing a five days of receiving abundance and it's 1080 00:57:20,000 --> 00:57:23,200 Speaker 1: a video series, so short videos every day and we'll 1081 00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:26,560 Speaker 1: have this going after it starts on September twenty six, 1082 00:57:26,640 --> 00:57:28,880 Speaker 1: but we'll have a replace going so people can sign 1083 00:57:28,920 --> 00:57:31,520 Speaker 1: up after the fact. But because I have very non 1084 00:57:31,560 --> 00:57:34,160 Speaker 1: traditional ways of even growing my business, like I expect 1085 00:57:34,240 --> 00:57:37,440 Speaker 1: magic and things to just show up and right like 1086 00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:39,640 Speaker 1: why couldn't you just follow your intuition to the coffee 1087 00:57:39,640 --> 00:57:43,200 Speaker 1: shop and meet a client there, right or and so 1088 00:57:43,840 --> 00:57:46,760 Speaker 1: I think outside the box because if we want to 1089 00:57:46,800 --> 00:57:49,520 Speaker 1: live a life that's extraordinary and magical, we have to 1090 00:57:49,520 --> 00:57:52,760 Speaker 1: step out of the mundane and the ordinary, and so 1091 00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:55,760 Speaker 1: I'm gonna pull you out of the ordinary and into 1092 00:57:55,800 --> 00:57:59,840 Speaker 1: the extraordinary in this series. So I'm excited. If anyone 1093 00:58:00,120 --> 00:58:02,040 Speaker 1: to join, will send you the link for that. It's 1094 00:58:02,200 --> 00:58:04,080 Speaker 1: insane for you, and I'm actually gifting a couple of 1095 00:58:04,080 --> 00:58:08,280 Speaker 1: sessions away too. I do that often, though. Okay, well, 1096 00:58:08,280 --> 00:58:10,560 Speaker 1: so you guys go follow along. Thank you so much. 1097 00:58:10,720 --> 00:58:17,840 Speaker 1: This was I'm meeting with the soul sister something. Yeah, 1098 00:58:17,920 --> 00:58:19,920 Speaker 1: it's so funny because sometimes, you know, I never know 1099 00:58:19,960 --> 00:58:22,280 Speaker 1: what to expect with guests. I can be talking to 1100 00:58:22,360 --> 00:58:25,000 Speaker 1: a rep or whoever, and so this was a very 1101 00:58:25,000 --> 00:58:28,960 Speaker 1: pleasant surprise with for me personally, with what I needed 1102 00:58:29,000 --> 00:58:31,080 Speaker 1: for my journey today. So I really appreciate all the 1103 00:58:31,080 --> 00:58:34,520 Speaker 1: insight you gave us. I'm about to go magnify everything 1104 00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:38,040 Speaker 1: and just blow it up in Nashville. Girl's gonna home, 1105 00:58:38,080 --> 00:58:40,280 Speaker 1: Girl's gonna leave and meet her soul made after you 1106 00:58:40,360 --> 00:58:43,320 Speaker 1: never know, I am going out tonight, so we shall see. 1107 00:58:43,400 --> 00:58:45,480 Speaker 1: You'RE gonna beat people are gonna be like you just 1108 00:58:45,560 --> 00:58:49,120 Speaker 1: got that glow to I'm like, that's most pray and 1109 00:58:49,280 --> 00:58:53,720 Speaker 1: but no. Alright, Amanda, thank you so much for being here. 1110 00:58:53,760 --> 00:58:55,160 Speaker 1: You guys, go check out of me in this work. 1111 00:58:55,160 --> 00:58:57,600 Speaker 1: I'll put all the links to this in the description 1112 00:58:57,720 --> 00:59:00,680 Speaker 1: of this podcast and again thank you us for listening. 1113 00:59:01,240 --> 00:59:04,280 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening to the Velvet's edge podcast with Kelly Henderson, 1114 00:59:04,440 --> 00:59:06,920 Speaker 1: where we believe everyone has a little velvet and a 1115 00:59:06,960 --> 00:59:11,120 Speaker 1: little edge. Subscribe for more conversations on life style, beauty 1116 00:59:11,160 --> 00:59:14,880 Speaker 1: and relationships. Search velvet's edge wherever you get your podcasts.