WEBVTT - Just B Rant: Miami: You Take the Good with the Douche Bros

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<v Speaker 1>Miami. I've been spending time in Miami, and I love Miami.

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<v Speaker 1>It is so on fire. It is so action. There

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<v Speaker 1>is so much culture there, money there, music, fashion, some entertainment, nightlife, restaurants.

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<v Speaker 1>Like my real estate, it's on fuego. That being said,

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<v Speaker 1>Miami is the land of the douche bro Like it's

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<v Speaker 1>the land of the shirtless guy who's semi retired, just investing,

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<v Speaker 1>sold something, is living in either a rental or a

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<v Speaker 1>two bedroom purchased department, has a flashy car, is talking

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<v Speaker 1>about bitcoin, has some startup. Everybody there freaks me out,

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<v Speaker 1>like I like a solid nerd in dating, in financial, investing,

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<v Speaker 1>in hedge fund in anything, and like everyone there freaks

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<v Speaker 1>me out, like they look good, they're shiny, and then

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<v Speaker 1>you get closer and it's like this sort of smoking

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<v Speaker 1>mirrors wants to like bang young women and look for

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<v Speaker 1>gold diggers. And it's a scary place in ways. I

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<v Speaker 1>love having a place there, but it's fast and loose

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<v Speaker 1>and everybody's got an angle and a deal and wow,

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<v Speaker 1>I just cowered because I was like, WHOA. Everyone's wearing

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<v Speaker 1>like men's jewelry and like cheesy almost acid washy jeans

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<v Speaker 1>and just the fashion is questionable. It was, It's just

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<v Speaker 1>very interesting. There's a lot there are a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>retired douche bros in Miami that like you, definitely it

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<v Speaker 1>looks like smoking mirrors. So there's of course a new term.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it came in like some Usweekly article designed

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<v Speaker 1>to be negative about Justin Baldoni that there was a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of toxic positivity lol on the set of it

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<v Speaker 1>ends with us and I don't care about it ends

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<v Speaker 1>with us right now, but toxic positivity. And I was

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<v Speaker 1>reading in the comments and they were saying, yeah, when

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<v Speaker 1>like you're not allowed to have feelings because people are

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<v Speaker 1>being so like positive and smiling and washing everything over

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<v Speaker 1>and like whistle while you work, and like, while that's

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<v Speaker 1>a ridiculous article, and while it's a hilarious headline, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't like saccherin Foe bullshit positivity. I really don't like.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know about the word toxic. That's extreme. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>it is in the way that they mean it. I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>It took me ten years to understand what gaslighting means,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just had to tell my friend when it means.

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<v Speaker 1>And I still think I know, but may not fully know.

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<v Speaker 1>I won't know what toxic positivity means for a long time,

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<v Speaker 1>but I know that it has brought me to think

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<v Speaker 1>about people that when you say, hey, could you do

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<v Speaker 1>the whatever? Good morning, like passag. Toxic positivity to me

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<v Speaker 1>like as a cousin of passag in my definition, like

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<v Speaker 1>shoving up your ass good mornings when you don't want them,

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<v Speaker 1>or like, hey, how are you thank god son came

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<v Speaker 1>up today like it's giving severance and like zombie apocalypse.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I don't like faux positivity. I'd rather have

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't rather have negativity. I'd rather have nothing than

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<v Speaker 1>faux positivity. And the same person that worked with me

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<v Speaker 1>or for me that would jam a good morning up

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<v Speaker 1>my ass if I didn't say good morning or good

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<v Speaker 1>afternoon or hi, how are you? Oh hi Bethany like

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<v Speaker 1>fuck off? Okay, I don't like that. I don't like

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<v Speaker 1>someone jamming pleasantries down my throat. I really don't. The

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<v Speaker 1>same person was a whistle while you work and a

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<v Speaker 1>humble you work like like I don't like. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like humming and whistling while you work. I don't like it.

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<v Speaker 1>Please don't impose your musical desires on me during the workday.

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<v Speaker 1>I really just don't. It's tedious. It's like nails on

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<v Speaker 1>a chalkboard and a dripping faucet, and it's repetitive. And

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like repetitive sounds. I don't like edm electric

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<v Speaker 1>douche doh do because it's like repetitive sounds that are

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<v Speaker 1>like an audible assault. So the same person that would

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<v Speaker 1>be like, well, good morning, well yeah, sonny, all shut

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<v Speaker 1>the fuck up. Like I literally, it makes me hostile.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think that I could go crazy over toxic positivity.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that I could. It's a distant cousin to

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<v Speaker 1>zooming and constant zoom like pleasantries twelve people. Hey, hi, no,

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<v Speaker 1>yeah it's been super rainy. Hi what no? Yeah wow

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<v Speaker 1>my daughter just got her teeth. But no one fucking cares.

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<v Speaker 1>No one cares. I don't know your daughter, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know you. I hate zoom. I don't zoom. I zoom

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<v Speaker 1>once a year. I have to zoom this Monday with somebody,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like tortured. I told them a bunch of

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<v Speaker 1>times I'm not a zoomer. Well thanks for doing it,

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<v Speaker 1>fitting it in for us people that don't have any

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<v Speaker 1>like I am the busiest woman I know. I have

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<v Speaker 1>time like people that don't have time until except for

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<v Speaker 1>like two months from Thursday to do a fucking zoom

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<v Speaker 1>and then comes to zoom invite and the calendar invite

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<v Speaker 1>and all those words and scroll on my calendar page.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even understand it. I don't even know. Did

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<v Speaker 1>they like go to MIT and I how to input that?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. It's all zoom adjacent activities too, don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like any of it. It's giving like faux corporate. Hey, Dan,

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<v Speaker 1>had it go well? I was golfing not as fun like,

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<v Speaker 1>not as funny as your weekend because like they saw

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<v Speaker 1>it and so shut the fuck up. We don't know

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<v Speaker 1>each other. So I could get down with toxic positivity

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<v Speaker 1>being fucking irritating and get up in a clock tower

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<v Speaker 1>and and go crazy maddening. Some days you don't have it.

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<v Speaker 1>Every day is not a how are you doing? How

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<v Speaker 1>is your weekend? How was it? Wow? Your nails look pretty?

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<v Speaker 1>Have that? Like? Every day is not fucking pleasant? Fille

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<v Speaker 1>sunshine day? What? Who hurt her? Who hurt her? Let

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<v Speaker 1>me fucking write the list. If you break up with

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<v Speaker 1>someone and they didn't come into the relationship with certain places.

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<v Speaker 1>Stay the funk away from my place is okay. Let

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<v Speaker 1>me give you an example. I'm an Aspen person. I

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<v Speaker 1>was with someone who was like a veil or like

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<v Speaker 1>a Utah person for skiing. We break up, they run

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<v Speaker 1>to Aspen. Are you out of your fucking mind? Stay

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<v Speaker 1>me for my place. The world is big enough. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't see me running to your places. Stay away from

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<v Speaker 1>my places, like Miami, it's my place. Don't start being

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<v Speaker 1>a Miami person anymore than I'm gonna start being a fort.

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<v Speaker 1>I know a person, a West Pond person, a Jupiter person,

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<v Speaker 1>a Pond beach like this is my place. With that,

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<v Speaker 1>I can I can decide to be a pom Beach

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<v Speaker 1>person for a new person, but I can't like you

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<v Speaker 1>unilaterally on my own. Just decide I'm gonna be a

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<v Speaker 1>West pom Beach person if the person I've just been

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<v Speaker 1>with is a West pom Beach person, Like, that's sociopath behavior.

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<v Speaker 1>Like uh uh, I gotta stay in my own fucking lane.

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<v Speaker 1>I could have different reasons, but like, like I could

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<v Speaker 1>go there if there's like a work trip. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna not go because of that. But maybe even like

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<v Speaker 1>you don't. You should stay away from other people's places.

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<v Speaker 1>If someone goes to the vineyard and you're you're you're

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<v Speaker 1>together with them, you break up and you were not

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<v Speaker 1>a vineyard person going in. Absolutely not. That should be

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<v Speaker 1>in a prenup. It's like your assets going in. I

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<v Speaker 1>take Aspen. You can have Martha's vineyard. It's like a

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<v Speaker 1>custody thing. People say, like what you had before is

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<v Speaker 1>what you're walking out of the relationship with, right, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>that includes places, and that includes contacts you know, Like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you started going to that doctor because of me. No,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not no more, that's not your doctor anymore. That

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<v Speaker 1>there are no none of this. You leave all this

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<v Speaker 1>shit behind. That's not that's not where you go to

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<v Speaker 1>get your hair done, get your hair cut. No, that

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<v Speaker 1>was my place going in. I'm not giving up that place.

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<v Speaker 1>So these are my places, don't you fuck with me. Restaurants, No,

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<v Speaker 1>that was my restaurant. I suggested we go there. It

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<v Speaker 1>was a place that I go. I know the people there.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not fucking going there find new restaurants. You had

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<v Speaker 1>your own restaurants coming in and I'm not going there

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<v Speaker 1>Like someone I dated asked me for my business manager

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<v Speaker 1>after are you a sociopath? My lawyer, my financial advisor? No,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd love you so much, but we broke up, so

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<v Speaker 1>you're on your fucking own. Her own business manager. Gabby

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<v Speaker 1>Wendy is on Traitor. She came on this podcast and

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<v Speaker 1>we should play some of it back to see if

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<v Speaker 1>anything like is relatable to now. I didn't feel I

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<v Speaker 1>don't remember her voice being so voicy when she was

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<v Speaker 1>on this podcast. We have to roll some of the tape.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't remember her being so like that. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>remember it a little, but I don't remember being that deep.

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<v Speaker 1>But I do think she should play Jennifer Coolidge's daughter

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<v Speaker 1>in a project. It's It's It's giving Jennifer Coolidge like.

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<v Speaker 1>She says the wackiest, funniest things, and people do love

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<v Speaker 1>the way that she is unapologetically and authentically her and

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<v Speaker 1>leaning into who she is and leaning into the crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>Julia Fox has a little of that. Julia Fox is

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<v Speaker 1>a similar brand to Gabby Windy. They don't dress the same,

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<v Speaker 1>they don't have the same sexual preferences that I know of,

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<v Speaker 1>but they vibe in a very like unapology jedic, alternative, feminine,

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<v Speaker 1>like wacky beats to their own drum program, and I

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<v Speaker 1>like it, Like, can you imagine Jennifer Coolidge, Julia Fox,

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<v Speaker 1>and Gabby Wendy in a conversation, Yeah, Josh Josh Saftie's

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<v Speaker 1>muse like the way they Yeah, I did it myself.

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<v Speaker 1>That's Julia Fox and Gabby's Like, I don't you know

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<v Speaker 1>they all Jennifer Coolidge, we all know, Like the three

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<v Speaker 1>of them have like very unique, feminine, wacky, like interesting

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<v Speaker 1>voices and choices of phrases, and I just feel that

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<v Speaker 1>three of them should be together doing something to want

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<v Speaker 1>to back to the hosp