Speaker 1: Miami. I've been spending time in Miami, and I love Miami.
Speaker 1: It is so on fire. It is so action. There
Speaker 1: is so much culture there, money there, music, fashion, some entertainment, nightlife, restaurants.
Speaker 1: Like my real estate, it's on fuego. That being said,
Speaker 1: Miami is the land of the douche bro Like it's
Speaker 1: the land of the shirtless guy who's semi retired, just investing,
Speaker 1: sold something, is living in either a rental or a
Speaker 1: two bedroom purchased department, has a flashy car, is talking
Speaker 1: about bitcoin, has some startup. Everybody there freaks me out,
Speaker 1: like I like a solid nerd in dating, in financial, investing,
Speaker 1: in hedge fund in anything, and like everyone there freaks
Speaker 1: me out, like they look good, they're shiny, and then
Speaker 1: you get closer and it's like this sort of smoking
Speaker 1: mirrors wants to like bang young women and look for
Speaker 1: gold diggers. And it's a scary place in ways. I
Speaker 1: love having a place there, but it's fast and loose
Speaker 1: and everybody's got an angle and a deal and wow,
Speaker 1: I just cowered because I was like, WHOA. Everyone's wearing
Speaker 1: like men's jewelry and like cheesy almost acid washy jeans
Speaker 1: and just the fashion is questionable. It was, It's just
Speaker 1: very interesting. There's a lot there are a lot of
Speaker 1: retired douche bros in Miami that like you, definitely it
Speaker 1: looks like smoking mirrors. So there's of course a new term.
Speaker 1: I think it came in like some Usweekly article designed
Speaker 1: to be negative about Justin Baldoni that there was a
Speaker 1: lot of toxic positivity lol on the set of it
Speaker 1: ends with us and I don't care about it ends
Speaker 1: with us right now, but toxic positivity. And I was
Speaker 1: reading in the comments and they were saying, yeah, when
Speaker 1: like you're not allowed to have feelings because people are
Speaker 1: being so like positive and smiling and washing everything over
Speaker 1: and like whistle while you work, and like, while that's
Speaker 1: a ridiculous article, and while it's a hilarious headline, I
Speaker 1: don't like saccherin Foe bullshit positivity. I really don't like.
Speaker 1: I don't know about the word toxic. That's extreme. Maybe
Speaker 1: it is in the way that they mean it. I don't.
Speaker 1: It took me ten years to understand what gaslighting means,
Speaker 1: and I just had to tell my friend when it means.
Speaker 1: And I still think I know, but may not fully know.
Speaker 1: I won't know what toxic positivity means for a long time,
Speaker 1: but I know that it has brought me to think
Speaker 1: about people that when you say, hey, could you do
Speaker 1: the whatever? Good morning, like passag. Toxic positivity to me
Speaker 1: like as a cousin of passag in my definition, like
Speaker 1: shoving up your ass good mornings when you don't want them,
Speaker 1: or like, hey, how are you thank god son came
Speaker 1: up today like it's giving severance and like zombie apocalypse.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't like faux positivity. I'd rather have
Speaker 1: I wouldn't rather have negativity. I'd rather have nothing than
Speaker 1: faux positivity. And the same person that worked with me
Speaker 1: or for me that would jam a good morning up
Speaker 1: my ass if I didn't say good morning or good
Speaker 1: afternoon or hi, how are you? Oh hi Bethany like
Speaker 1: fuck off? Okay, I don't like that. I don't like
Speaker 1: someone jamming pleasantries down my throat. I really don't. The
Speaker 1: same person was a whistle while you work and a
Speaker 1: humble you work like like I don't like. I don't
Speaker 1: like humming and whistling while you work. I don't like it.
Speaker 1: Please don't impose your musical desires on me during the workday.
Speaker 1: I really just don't. It's tedious. It's like nails on
Speaker 1: a chalkboard and a dripping faucet, and it's repetitive. And
Speaker 1: I don't like repetitive sounds. I don't like edm electric
Speaker 1: douche doh do because it's like repetitive sounds that are
Speaker 1: like an audible assault. So the same person that would
Speaker 1: be like, well, good morning, well yeah, sonny, all shut
Speaker 1: the fuck up. Like I literally, it makes me hostile.
Speaker 1: So I think that I could go crazy over toxic positivity.
Speaker 1: I think that I could. It's a distant cousin to
Speaker 1: zooming and constant zoom like pleasantries twelve people. Hey, hi, no,
Speaker 1: yeah it's been super rainy. Hi what no? Yeah wow
Speaker 1: my daughter just got her teeth. But no one fucking cares.
Speaker 1: No one cares. I don't know your daughter, I don't
Speaker 1: know you. I hate zoom. I don't zoom. I zoom
Speaker 1: once a year. I have to zoom this Monday with somebody,
Speaker 1: and I'm like tortured. I told them a bunch of
Speaker 1: times I'm not a zoomer. Well thanks for doing it,
Speaker 1: fitting it in for us people that don't have any
Speaker 1: like I am the busiest woman I know. I have
Speaker 1: time like people that don't have time until except for
Speaker 1: like two months from Thursday to do a fucking zoom
Speaker 1: and then comes to zoom invite and the calendar invite
Speaker 1: and all those words and scroll on my calendar page.
Speaker 1: I don't even understand it. I don't even know. Did
Speaker 1: they like go to MIT and I how to input that?
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's all zoom adjacent activities too, don't.
Speaker 1: I don't like any of it. It's giving like faux corporate. Hey, Dan,
Speaker 1: had it go well? I was golfing not as fun like,
Speaker 1: not as funny as your weekend because like they saw
Speaker 1: it and so shut the fuck up. We don't know
Speaker 1: each other. So I could get down with toxic positivity
Speaker 1: being fucking irritating and get up in a clock tower
Speaker 1: and and go crazy maddening. Some days you don't have it.
Speaker 1: Every day is not a how are you doing? How
Speaker 1: is your weekend? How was it? Wow? Your nails look pretty?
Speaker 1: Have that? Like? Every day is not fucking pleasant? Fille
Speaker 1: sunshine day? What? Who hurt her? Who hurt her? Let
Speaker 1: me fucking write the list. If you break up with
Speaker 1: someone and they didn't come into the relationship with certain places.
Speaker 1: Stay the funk away from my place is okay. Let
Speaker 1: me give you an example. I'm an Aspen person. I
Speaker 1: was with someone who was like a veil or like
Speaker 1: a Utah person for skiing. We break up, they run
Speaker 1: to Aspen. Are you out of your fucking mind? Stay
Speaker 1: me for my place. The world is big enough. You
Speaker 1: don't see me running to your places. Stay away from
Speaker 1: my places, like Miami, it's my place. Don't start being
Speaker 1: a Miami person anymore than I'm gonna start being a fort.
Speaker 1: I know a person, a West Pond person, a Jupiter person,
Speaker 1: a Pond beach like this is my place. With that,
Speaker 1: I can I can decide to be a pom Beach
Speaker 1: person for a new person, but I can't like you
Speaker 1: unilaterally on my own. Just decide I'm gonna be a
Speaker 1: West pom Beach person if the person I've just been
Speaker 1: with is a West pom Beach person, Like, that's sociopath behavior.
Speaker 1: Like uh uh, I gotta stay in my own fucking lane.
Speaker 1: I could have different reasons, but like, like I could
Speaker 1: go there if there's like a work trip. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna not go because of that. But maybe even like
Speaker 1: you don't. You should stay away from other people's places.
Speaker 1: If someone goes to the vineyard and you're you're you're
Speaker 1: together with them, you break up and you were not
Speaker 1: a vineyard person going in. Absolutely not. That should be
Speaker 1: in a prenup. It's like your assets going in. I
Speaker 1: take Aspen. You can have Martha's vineyard. It's like a
Speaker 1: custody thing. People say, like what you had before is
Speaker 1: what you're walking out of the relationship with, right, Well,
Speaker 1: that includes places, and that includes contacts you know, Like, no,
Speaker 1: you started going to that doctor because of me. No,
Speaker 1: that's not no more, that's not your doctor anymore. That
Speaker 1: there are no none of this. You leave all this
Speaker 1: shit behind. That's not that's not where you go to
Speaker 1: get your hair done, get your hair cut. No, that
Speaker 1: was my place going in. I'm not giving up that place.
Speaker 1: So these are my places, don't you fuck with me. Restaurants, No,
Speaker 1: that was my restaurant. I suggested we go there. It
Speaker 1: was a place that I go. I know the people there.
Speaker 1: You're not fucking going there find new restaurants. You had
Speaker 1: your own restaurants coming in and I'm not going there
Speaker 1: Like someone I dated asked me for my business manager
Speaker 1: after are you a sociopath? My lawyer, my financial advisor? No,
Speaker 1: I'd love you so much, but we broke up, so
Speaker 1: you're on your fucking own. Her own business manager. Gabby
Speaker 1: Wendy is on Traitor. She came on this podcast and
Speaker 1: we should play some of it back to see if
Speaker 1: anything like is relatable to now. I didn't feel I
Speaker 1: don't remember her voice being so voicy when she was
Speaker 1: on this podcast. We have to roll some of the tape.
Speaker 1: I don't remember her being so like that. I don't
Speaker 1: remember it a little, but I don't remember being that deep.
Speaker 1: But I do think she should play Jennifer Coolidge's daughter
Speaker 1: in a project. It's It's It's giving Jennifer Coolidge like.
Speaker 1: She says the wackiest, funniest things, and people do love
Speaker 1: the way that she is unapologetically and authentically her and
Speaker 1: leaning into who she is and leaning into the crazy.
Speaker 1: Julia Fox has a little of that. Julia Fox is
Speaker 1: a similar brand to Gabby Windy. They don't dress the same,
Speaker 1: they don't have the same sexual preferences that I know of,
Speaker 1: but they vibe in a very like unapology jedic, alternative, feminine,
Speaker 1: like wacky beats to their own drum program, and I
Speaker 1: like it, Like, can you imagine Jennifer Coolidge, Julia Fox,
Speaker 1: and Gabby Wendy in a conversation, Yeah, Josh Josh Saftie's
Speaker 1: muse like the way they Yeah, I did it myself.
Speaker 1: That's Julia Fox and Gabby's Like, I don't you know
Speaker 1: they all Jennifer Coolidge, we all know, Like the three
Speaker 1: of them have like very unique, feminine, wacky, like interesting
Speaker 1: voices and choices of phrases, and I just feel that
Speaker 1: three of them should be together doing something to want
Speaker 1: to back to the hosp