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Speaker 1: Miami. I've been spending time in Miami, and I love Miami.

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Speaker 1: It is so on fire. It is so action. There

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Speaker 1: is so much culture there, money there, music, fashion, some entertainment, nightlife, restaurants.

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Speaker 1: Like my real estate, it's on fuego. That being said,

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Speaker 1: Miami is the land of the douche bro Like it's

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Speaker 1: the land of the shirtless guy who's semi retired, just investing,

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Speaker 1: sold something, is living in either a rental or a

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Speaker 1: two bedroom purchased department, has a flashy car, is talking

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Speaker 1: about bitcoin, has some startup. Everybody there freaks me out,

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Speaker 1: like I like a solid nerd in dating, in financial, investing,

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Speaker 1: in hedge fund in anything, and like everyone there freaks

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Speaker 1: me out, like they look good, they're shiny, and then

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Speaker 1: you get closer and it's like this sort of smoking

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Speaker 1: mirrors wants to like bang young women and look for

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Speaker 1: gold diggers. And it's a scary place in ways. I

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Speaker 1: love having a place there, but it's fast and loose

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Speaker 1: and everybody's got an angle and a deal and wow,

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Speaker 1: I just cowered because I was like, WHOA. Everyone's wearing

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Speaker 1: like men's jewelry and like cheesy almost acid washy jeans

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Speaker 1: and just the fashion is questionable. It was, It's just

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Speaker 1: very interesting. There's a lot there are a lot of

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Speaker 1: retired douche bros in Miami that like you, definitely it

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Speaker 1: looks like smoking mirrors. So there's of course a new term.

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Speaker 1: I think it came in like some Usweekly article designed

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Speaker 1: to be negative about Justin Baldoni that there was a

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Speaker 1: lot of toxic positivity lol on the set of it

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Speaker 1: ends with us and I don't care about it ends

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Speaker 1: with us right now, but toxic positivity. And I was

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Speaker 1: reading in the comments and they were saying, yeah, when

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Speaker 1: like you're not allowed to have feelings because people are

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Speaker 1: being so like positive and smiling and washing everything over

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Speaker 1: and like whistle while you work, and like, while that's

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Speaker 1: a ridiculous article, and while it's a hilarious headline, I

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Speaker 1: don't like saccherin Foe bullshit positivity. I really don't like.

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Speaker 1: I don't know about the word toxic. That's extreme. Maybe

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Speaker 1: it is in the way that they mean it. I don't.

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Speaker 1: It took me ten years to understand what gaslighting means,

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Speaker 1: and I just had to tell my friend when it means.

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Speaker 1: And I still think I know, but may not fully know.

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Speaker 1: I won't know what toxic positivity means for a long time,

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Speaker 1: but I know that it has brought me to think

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Speaker 1: about people that when you say, hey, could you do

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Speaker 1: the whatever? Good morning, like passag. Toxic positivity to me

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Speaker 1: like as a cousin of passag in my definition, like

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Speaker 1: shoving up your ass good mornings when you don't want them,

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Speaker 1: or like, hey, how are you thank god son came

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Speaker 1: up today like it's giving severance and like zombie apocalypse.

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Speaker 1: You know, I don't like faux positivity. I'd rather have

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't rather have negativity. I'd rather have nothing than

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Speaker 1: faux positivity. And the same person that worked with me

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Speaker 1: or for me that would jam a good morning up

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Speaker 1: my ass if I didn't say good morning or good

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Speaker 1: afternoon or hi, how are you? Oh hi Bethany like

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Speaker 1: fuck off? Okay, I don't like that. I don't like

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Speaker 1: someone jamming pleasantries down my throat. I really don't. The

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Speaker 1: same person was a whistle while you work and a

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Speaker 1: humble you work like like I don't like. I don't

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Speaker 1: like humming and whistling while you work. I don't like it.

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Speaker 1: Please don't impose your musical desires on me during the workday.

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Speaker 1: I really just don't. It's tedious. It's like nails on

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Speaker 1: a chalkboard and a dripping faucet, and it's repetitive. And

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Speaker 1: I don't like repetitive sounds. I don't like edm electric

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Speaker 1: douche doh do because it's like repetitive sounds that are

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Speaker 1: like an audible assault. So the same person that would

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Speaker 1: be like, well, good morning, well yeah, sonny, all shut

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Speaker 1: the fuck up. Like I literally, it makes me hostile.

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Speaker 1: So I think that I could go crazy over toxic positivity.

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Speaker 1: I think that I could. It's a distant cousin to

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Speaker 1: zooming and constant zoom like pleasantries twelve people. Hey, hi, no,

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Speaker 1: yeah it's been super rainy. Hi what no? Yeah wow

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Speaker 1: my daughter just got her teeth. But no one fucking cares.

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Speaker 1: No one cares. I don't know your daughter, I don't

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Speaker 1: know you. I hate zoom. I don't zoom. I zoom

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Speaker 1: once a year. I have to zoom this Monday with somebody,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like tortured. I told them a bunch of

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Speaker 1: times I'm not a zoomer. Well thanks for doing it,

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Speaker 1: fitting it in for us people that don't have any

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Speaker 1: like I am the busiest woman I know. I have

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Speaker 1: time like people that don't have time until except for

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Speaker 1: like two months from Thursday to do a fucking zoom

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Speaker 1: and then comes to zoom invite and the calendar invite

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Speaker 1: and all those words and scroll on my calendar page.

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Speaker 1: I don't even understand it. I don't even know. Did

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Speaker 1: they like go to MIT and I how to input that?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. It's all zoom adjacent activities too, don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't like any of it. It's giving like faux corporate. Hey, Dan,

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Speaker 1: had it go well? I was golfing not as fun like,

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Speaker 1: not as funny as your weekend because like they saw

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Speaker 1: it and so shut the fuck up. We don't know

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Speaker 1: each other. So I could get down with toxic positivity

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Speaker 1: being fucking irritating and get up in a clock tower

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Speaker 1: and and go crazy maddening. Some days you don't have it.

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Speaker 1: Every day is not a how are you doing? How

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Speaker 1: is your weekend? How was it? Wow? Your nails look pretty?

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Speaker 1: Have that? Like? Every day is not fucking pleasant? Fille

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Speaker 1: sunshine day? What? Who hurt her? Who hurt her? Let

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Speaker 1: me fucking write the list. If you break up with

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Speaker 1: someone and they didn't come into the relationship with certain places.

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Speaker 1: Stay the funk away from my place is okay. Let

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Speaker 1: me give you an example. I'm an Aspen person. I

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Speaker 1: was with someone who was like a veil or like

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Speaker 1: a Utah person for skiing. We break up, they run

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Speaker 1: to Aspen. Are you out of your fucking mind? Stay

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Speaker 1: me for my place. The world is big enough. You

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Speaker 1: don't see me running to your places. Stay away from

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Speaker 1: my places, like Miami, it's my place. Don't start being

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Speaker 1: a Miami person anymore than I'm gonna start being a fort.

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Speaker 1: I know a person, a West Pond person, a Jupiter person,

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Speaker 1: I can I can decide to be a pom Beach

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Speaker 1: person for a new person, but I can't like you

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Speaker 1: unilaterally on my own. Just decide I'm gonna be a

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Speaker 1: West pom Beach person if the person I've just been

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Speaker 1: with is a West pom Beach person, Like, that's sociopath behavior.

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Speaker 1: Like uh uh, I gotta stay in my own fucking lane.

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Speaker 1: I could have different reasons, but like, like I could

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Speaker 1: go there if there's like a work trip. I'm not

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Speaker 1: gonna not go because of that. But maybe even like

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Speaker 1: you don't. You should stay away from other people's places.

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Speaker 1: If someone goes to the vineyard and you're you're you're

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Speaker 1: together with them, you break up and you were not

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Speaker 1: a vineyard person going in. Absolutely not. That should be

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Speaker 1: in a prenup. It's like your assets going in. I

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Speaker 1: take Aspen. You can have Martha's vineyard. It's like a

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Speaker 1: custody thing. People say, like what you had before is

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Speaker 1: what you're walking out of the relationship with, right, Well,

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Speaker 1: that includes places, and that includes contacts you know, Like, no,

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Speaker 1: you started going to that doctor because of me. No,

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Speaker 1: that's not no more, that's not your doctor anymore. That

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Speaker 1: there are no none of this. You leave all this

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Speaker 1: shit behind. That's not that's not where you go to

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Speaker 1: get your hair done, get your hair cut. No, that

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Speaker 1: was my place going in. I'm not giving up that place.

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Speaker 1: So these are my places, don't you fuck with me. Restaurants, No,

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Speaker 1: that was my restaurant. I suggested we go there. It

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Speaker 1: was a place that I go. I know the people there.

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Speaker 1: You're not fucking going there find new restaurants. You had

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Speaker 1: your own restaurants coming in and I'm not going there

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Speaker 1: Like someone I dated asked me for my business manager

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Speaker 1: after are you a sociopath? My lawyer, my financial advisor? No,

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Speaker 1: I'd love you so much, but we broke up, so

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Speaker 1: you're on your fucking own. Her own business manager. Gabby

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Speaker 1: Wendy is on Traitor. She came on this podcast and

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Speaker 1: we should play some of it back to see if

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Speaker 1: anything like is relatable to now. I didn't feel I

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Speaker 1: don't remember her voice being so voicy when she was

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Speaker 1: on this podcast. We have to roll some of the tape.

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Speaker 1: I don't remember her being so like that. I don't

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Speaker 1: remember it a little, but I don't remember being that deep.

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Speaker 1: But I do think she should play Jennifer Coolidge's daughter

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Speaker 1: in a project. It's It's It's giving Jennifer Coolidge like.

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Speaker 1: She says the wackiest, funniest things, and people do love

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Speaker 1: the way that she is unapologetically and authentically her and

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Speaker 1: leaning into who she is and leaning into the crazy.

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Speaker 1: Julia Fox has a little of that. Julia Fox is

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Speaker 1: a similar brand to Gabby Windy. They don't dress the same,

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Speaker 1: they don't have the same sexual preferences that I know of,

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Speaker 1: but they vibe in a very like unapology jedic, alternative, feminine,

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Speaker 1: like wacky beats to their own drum program, and I

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Speaker 1: like it, Like, can you imagine Jennifer Coolidge, Julia Fox,

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Speaker 1: and Gabby Wendy in a conversation, Yeah, Josh Josh Saftie's

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Speaker 1: muse like the way they Yeah, I did it myself.

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Speaker 1: That's Julia Fox and Gabby's Like, I don't you know

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Speaker 1: they all Jennifer Coolidge, we all know, Like the three

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Speaker 1: of them have like very unique, feminine, wacky, like interesting

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Speaker 1: voices and choices of phrases, and I just feel that

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Speaker 1: three of them should be together doing something to want

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