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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letta. This is my account. Let's go. No,

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Speaker 1: it's not subject my mom my, Mama. My mom might

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Speaker 1: be a side piece, right, dear Stephen Shirley And oh

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Speaker 1: hey Tommy, that's what it says. Hey Tommy, Okay, let's

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Speaker 1: get to it. I don't think so though. I think you'll.

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Speaker 1: I think you'll find something different in this letter. My

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Speaker 1: mom is fifty two years old and she's been dating

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Speaker 1: this guy for ten years. He's very good to her.

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Speaker 1: He winds and dines her and spoils her with gifts

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Speaker 1: and money. He also attends our family events and holiday

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Speaker 1: celebrations with her. Whenever I need anything, He's been there

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Speaker 1: for me. So here's my issue. He lives three hours away,

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Speaker 1: and when he comes to visit my mom, he rarely

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Speaker 1: stays a full weekend with her at our at her

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Speaker 1: He has two children, but my mother has never met them.

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Speaker 1: He says he is divorced, but I don't believe him.

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Speaker 1: My mom has visited him many times, but she's only

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Speaker 1: stayed at his condo once. He's a doctor and he

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Speaker 1: worked long hours and he's often on call on the weekend.

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Speaker 1: Because of this, he insists that he stay at a

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Speaker 1: closer hotel, at a hotel closer to the hospital, just

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Speaker 1: in case he has to rush into work. She usually

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Speaker 1: talks to him when he's at his office, and he

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Speaker 1: always calls from a blocked number. He rarely calls her

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Speaker 1: from his cell phone. That just doesn't sound right to me.

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Speaker 1: How is my mom okay with that? And why does

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Speaker 1: she get upset? Why doesn't Why does she get upset

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Speaker 1: when I bring it up? My mom is a very

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Speaker 1: smart woman, and she's usually a great judge of character.

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Speaker 1: So Code Cracker, please tell me how I can get

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Speaker 1: through to my mom. I don't want her to waste

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Speaker 1: another ten years of her life on this man. Please help. Well,

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Speaker 1: I gotta tell you this utter Uh. You love your mom,

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Speaker 1: that's quite obvious. Uh. You want the best for your mom,

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Speaker 1: just like I'm sure your mom would want the best

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Speaker 1: for you as her daughter. But this is your mom's

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Speaker 1: to stay out of your mom's business. Um, you can

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Speaker 1: suggest and and let her know how you feel, but

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Speaker 1: this is your mom's issue. I mean, you know what's up.

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Speaker 1: I think you're very insightful as a daughter. Guess what

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Speaker 1: your mom knows what's up to? Uh, she really does,

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Speaker 1: she knows, but after being in it for ten years.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, she's known it for quite some time. Ten years.

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Speaker 1: She she's in it. Okay, she's used to it. She

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Speaker 1: doesn't want to stop it. She doesn't want to leave,

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Speaker 1: she doesn't want to change her life. This is a

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Speaker 1: life she's become accustomed to. She's she's become accustomed to

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Speaker 1: and grown into. She's comfortable with this life. As parents, yes,

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Speaker 1: we said examples for our kids, we do your daughter. Uh,

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Speaker 1: you as her daughter, You're you're seeing her actions loudly

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Speaker 1: wondering how and why she signed up for this situation. Uh. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it sounds clear that this man is married. She your

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Speaker 1: mom has never met his kids after ten years. Uh,

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Speaker 1: you know, the hotel situation where he stays, the excuse

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Speaker 1: that sounds like this is a married man and your

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Speaker 1: mom is a side piece. But only your mom can decide,

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Speaker 1: All you can do is her daughter, is suggested, But

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Speaker 1: you know she's a mom. You're the daughter. You gotta

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Speaker 1: stay out of her business. Steve mhm, Well my mom

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Speaker 1: may be the side piece. Wow, all right, let's just

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Speaker 1: get into the letter. Your mama fitted two years old,

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Speaker 1: she grown, she knows what's going on. She's been dating

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Speaker 1: He winds and dins in spoils and with gifts and money.

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Speaker 1: He also now here's He also attends our family event

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Speaker 1: telltale sign that a man is married. When you never

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Speaker 1: But he's at these events, and I know why. Okay,

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Speaker 1: he attends all the family events I need. Whenever I

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Speaker 1: If he's so concerned with being called in to work

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Speaker 1: But it's only a concern when you come to visit

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Speaker 1: family VOTs and holiday celebrations with hu because he's a doctor,

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Speaker 1: the holidays, so you can make it if you a doctor. Now,

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Speaker 1: somebody back at the house has had to understand this

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Speaker 1: because they are the beneficiary of a wonderful lifestyle, so

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Speaker 1: they're putting up with it. Now, your mama is also

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Speaker 1: a beneficiary of a wonderful lifestyle, so she putting up

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Speaker 1: Everybody knows what's going on except the wife certainly knows.

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Speaker 1: You'll be back just killing this man life, perfect life.

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Speaker 1: Come on to get back to this letter. Unlike my nephew,

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Speaker 1: who is not the thanking this person I've ever met,

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Speaker 1: who was insisting that I'm killing this man's wonderful life,

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Speaker 1: I totally disagree. I just hope you never any medical

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Speaker 1: it is, because the only one that has to keep

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Speaker 1: going along with this is this letter writer's mama, who

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Speaker 1: is fifty two years old, who already know what's going on,

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Speaker 1: you'll never be able to meet Mr Wright. Why are

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Speaker 1: you dating Mr? Wrong? So look, Tommy, regardless as to

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Speaker 1: save your marriage for you. Mess this, your stupid ass,

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Speaker 1: just shut up. It is because he he always want

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Speaker 1: fifty two year old woman knows what's going on with this.

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Speaker 1: Ten years of dating a divorce man and you ain't

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Speaker 1: none of the holidays and none of the family reunions,

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Speaker 1: family events have you met this get What do you want?

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Speaker 1: What do the cheering have to do with a relationship

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Speaker 1: that is cheering? The cheering it's just another issue which

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Speaker 1: solidifies what the daughter is thinking that something is wrong

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Speaker 1: that you dated a man for ten years and never

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Speaker 1: I want you all to meet this woman that I'm

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Speaker 1: in love with. I'm considering having a life with her.

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Speaker 1: But he ain't gonna make that announcement because he can't

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Speaker 1: have a life with her because he got a life

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Speaker 1: with you, Mama. Now you get it, nephew, Joe, stupid

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Speaker 1: Steve Man right now, now, whatever I need anything, he's

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Speaker 1: always been there for me. That's why you've let it

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Speaker 1: go on so long. Oh letter, right, and you got

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Speaker 1: something to do with this too, because it was good

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Speaker 1: to you. Now you haven't got a little bit older,

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Speaker 1: and you're ready to stop. But the problem is it's

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Speaker 1: with the doctor, but your mama is. Though the fact

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Speaker 1: got nothing to do with it. He said, he divorced,

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Speaker 1: But I don't believe him. Your mama don't know. Your

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Speaker 1: mama know he ain't the boy, but your mama liked

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Speaker 1: what she's He's a doctor, he worked long now, a

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Speaker 1: good doctor. Why does she get upset when I bring

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Speaker 1: it up? I told you that my mom is a

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Speaker 1: only when she's thinking with her head is. She's smart,

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Speaker 1: so cold, cracker, Please tell me how I can get

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Speaker 1: this through to this my mom? You can't your mom

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Speaker 1: in love, Your mama noticed. I got news for you.

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Speaker 1: Your mama actually smarter than you. Ain't til she until

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Speaker 1: Ain't nothing gonna change, all right, Steve, Listen, we gotta

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Speaker 1: go well enough alone, email lost our Instagram. What's your

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Speaker 1: thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter at my Girls, Shirley, Please

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