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Speaker 1: High and Mighty Tour. I'm coming to Washington, d c Norfolk, Virginia, Madison, Wisconsin, Milwaukee, Wisconsin, Detroit, Michigan, Cleveland, Columbus,

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Speaker 1: and Cincinnati, Ohio, Denver, Colorado, Portland, Maine, Providence, Rhode Island, Springfield, Massachusetts, Chicago,

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Speaker 1: of Course, Indianapolis, Indiana, Louisville, Kentucky, Albuquerque, Masa, Arizona, Kansas City, Missouri,

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Speaker 1: port Chester, New York, Boston, Massachusetts, Portland, Oregon, and Seattle, Washington.

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Speaker 1: I will be touring from February through June, So go

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Speaker 1: get your tickets now. If you want to come see

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Speaker 1: me perform, I will be on the High and Mighty Tour.

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Speaker 2: Hi, Hi, Catherine, Hi. See how's it going.

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Speaker 1: It's going very well. I'm in Whistler, I have three

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Speaker 1: weeks off. I am just really feeling myself. I'm that's

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Speaker 1: great book. I'm It's called Culpability, by someone Holsinger Richard

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Speaker 1: Holsinger probably got the name wrong. Anyway, It's all about

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Speaker 1: it's good. It's good, good, I recommend it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what's it about? Is it like nonfiction? It's about AI.

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Speaker 1: It's about a family who gets in this accident with

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Speaker 1: who's that fault? And it's like all about how AI

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Speaker 1: is going to be impacting our world. But it's fiction

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Speaker 1: and it's a family story and it's like, you know, traumatic,

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Speaker 1: So it's it's good.

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Speaker 2: Ooh ooh, very interesting. It's got all the ingredients.

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Speaker 1: I've been taking a lot of baths lately because I've

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Speaker 1: been sick for about three weeks with this my annual

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Speaker 1: I always forget that my thlungs can't take smoking pot,

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Speaker 1: when I go do host the Critics' Choice Awards, and

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Speaker 2: It's like cold weather, and the pot is just like

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Speaker 2: freaking havoc.

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Speaker 1: Bu the pogold Weather, the pot, all my bad habits

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Speaker 1: coming together, just giving me a grand old time. Doug

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Speaker 1: has started smoking pot too, by the way. Great, But

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Speaker 1: there's a lot of things happening. I'm about to go

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Speaker 1: on tour starting in February. My first cities are DC

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Speaker 1: and Norfolk, Virginia. So please go to Chelsea Hendler dot

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Speaker 1: com to find your tickets for any of the shows.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna be coming to a city near you. And

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Speaker 1: this show is going to be on Netflix. Yeah, so

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Speaker 1: iHeart is teaming up with Netflix and full episodes of

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Speaker 1: Dear Chelsea will start airing on Netflix January twenty six,

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Speaker 1: and older episodes will still be on a YouTube.

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Speaker 3: Exactly, and we're still gonna put clips and stuff on YouTube,

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Speaker 3: but for full epps after January twenty six, check us

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Speaker 2: It's so exciting.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so that's exciting and I'm excited to go

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Speaker 1: on tour. I have so many funny stories about all

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Speaker 1: the drugs that I've been giving away, and i just

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Speaker 1: feel like I'm a healer.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean. You're like a modern day shaman.

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Speaker 2: And our guest today is one of my favorites.

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Speaker 1: He's been he's he's a friend of the as they say,

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Speaker 1: He's from RuPaul's Drag Race and her podcast Sibling Rivalry

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Speaker 1: and Monet Talks.

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Speaker 2: She is currently on.

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Speaker 1: Her High Heels and Bad Knees comedy tour and then

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Speaker 1: you can catch her on this season of The Traders.

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Speaker 1: So please welcome Money Exchange. Hi Chelsea, Hi girlfriend, Hi,

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Speaker 1: how are you doing?

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Speaker 2: I heard you had surgery recently. I had surgery too.

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Speaker 1: Girl? Did you do one foot or two feet? We're

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Speaker 1: talking about bunyan's. Everybody, welcome to dear Chelsea. This is

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Speaker 1: this is where we get down to business. I only

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Speaker 1: had them on one foot, but I had them, which

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Speaker 1: It, because it's not a full blown bunyan and it

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Speaker 5: So, but not only Bunyan's girl I had. I had

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Speaker 2: They just are dead. They're dead.

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Speaker 4: They're dead.

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Speaker 4: No? I don't feel anything down there.

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Speaker 5: I'm like, fucking mister Deeds, I don't feel anything on

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Speaker 1: I also don't feel my foot like I rammed it

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Speaker 2: But were you awake for your surgery? You were asleep?

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Speaker 2: You want to be yeah, but you awake?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 4: No, girl, I was awake from mine.

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Speaker 1: I was awakening to what kind of budget are you

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Speaker 4: No, he doesn't be good.

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Speaker 5: You have to be awake because he needs you to

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Speaker 4: I didn't feel them at all, but I could hear everything.

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Speaker 5: Okay, And I don't know about you if if you've

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Speaker 5: But he was hot, though, he was this hot Cuban doctor,

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Speaker 1: But first of all, you're not being cute to him.

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Speaker 1: Although doctors are good like that if that's their speciality, Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Right, doctors get turned on by you and paining you

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Speaker 5: I feel like he would come when he would be

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Speaker 5: knuckled deep in my fucking teeth just pulling something out

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Speaker 4: I'm like, you're you're hard.

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Speaker 1: You like this ship, Well, that's a private fantasy of

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Speaker 1: your own. That's not First of all, you said you

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Speaker 1: were going to send me mushrooms.

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Speaker 2: Let's get on to more fun topics.

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Speaker 1: You said you were going to say you called me

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Speaker 1: specifically like I want to send you mushrooms, and then

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Speaker 1: I gave you my hotel in New York, right yeah,

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Speaker 1: and then you drop them there. But I had gone,

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Speaker 2: So you still owe me mushrooms?

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Speaker 4: I got you, girl. Let me say I am a

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Speaker 2: I have a drug factor coming to New York. Can

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Speaker 2: there Saturday?

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Speaker 4: Did Chelsea? I think we've had this conversation forty nine times.

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Speaker 5: I live in La.

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Speaker 4: It was LA four years ago. I lived in La.

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Speaker 2: So then, why the fuck are you on a zoom, asshole?

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Speaker 5: Because I'm in fucking Rochester, New York, literally the worst place.

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Speaker 4: In the world. Now, going next thing, I'm doing a

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Speaker 2: I'm here, Chelsea.

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Speaker 5: The comedy club is lovely. Carson Comedy Club is great.

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Speaker 5: The city of Rochester needs to be under fires. Somebody

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Speaker 1: By the way, money Exchange is on her comedy tour.

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Speaker 1: She's on a stand up tour. So you can get

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Speaker 1: money exchange dot com, Monette exchange.

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Speaker 2: X for exchange.

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Speaker 1: There's no x E for exchange, it's money x change

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Speaker 1: And she'll be in Rochester night and by the time

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Speaker 5: Speaking of my feeling shit. So I was, I was.

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Speaker 5: I just had to just got off of a gay

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Speaker 5: cruise with Audra McDonald McDonald, I, yes, I feel like.

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Speaker 2: You live on gay cruises. Isn't this like your This

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Speaker 2: is not your first gay cruise.

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Speaker 4: Is it? This is my fourth one?

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Speaker 2: Right, That's what I say.

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Speaker 4: They love me all those fucking cruises. Do you like cruise?

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Speaker 2: But Monette, do you love cruises?

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Speaker 4: See?

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Speaker 5: I only like the gay ones because the field it

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Speaker 5: is literally a twenty four hour party. It is NonStop partying, drugs, drinking.

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Speaker 5: It is the greatest time in my life. I'm just

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Speaker 5: and we're just actually guys.

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Speaker 1: Do you guys hook up with other people? All gay

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Speaker 1: men that I know have an open relationship.

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Speaker 4: Well, we didn't start that.

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Speaker 1: We got there, because I don't think anyone starts there,

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Speaker 1: they're great.

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Speaker 5: It was and a girl. We were party with Autio McDonald.

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Speaker 4: Chelsea.

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Speaker 5: I need to see you more. I feel like I

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Speaker 4: You did Delta work Delta work for.

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Speaker 1: I did her podcast, so that means I went to

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Speaker 1: In real life, I would be more than happy to

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Speaker 5: Every time you're like, I'm coming to New York visits

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Speaker 5: I flew to New York to come to your birthday

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Speaker 1: That's so sweet because I also had one in LA.

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Speaker 4: Did you really yes?

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Speaker 4: Don't believe the your your love is but I want

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Speaker 1: Text me when you're in town. I do want to

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Speaker 1: hang out with you. I love you, I love your energy.

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Speaker 1: You've always got positive vibes. I'm sure your show is

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Speaker 1: And by the way, she identifies as a woman. Okay,

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Speaker 2: Get it fucking twisted, Chelsea.

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Speaker 5: Give you be honest. Have you have you ever gotten

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, no no, I don't get boners from drag.

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Speaker 2: That's not my thing. I respect drag, I appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: I totally like love that people can do that and

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Speaker 2: But it's not a turn on for me.

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Speaker 3: Well, but maybe not a boner, but like a jaw drop,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean you are you are? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Said jaw drop is a nicer way to put it,

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Speaker 1: let's go back to this cruise, because I find cruises

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Speaker 2: Boats that like house four thousand people. As soon as.

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Speaker 1: It's mass like in mass like that, I'm like, I'm

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Speaker 2: I'm going to Antarctica.

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Speaker 4: Choosing to go to freeze your tits off in Antarctica.

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Speaker 1: I want to go, first of all, I want to

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Speaker 2: So it's a bunch of people.

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Speaker 1: Well you're not invited, so I mean you're gonna have

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Speaker 1: all of these kind of researchers and like neurophysicists, euroscientists

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Speaker 2: That's that kind of under that veil of medicine.

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Speaker 1: But how medicinal plant medicine is and how medicinal LSD

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Speaker 1: I'm assuming there's just gonna be a lot of fucking

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Speaker 2: Gonna be a great way for me to see penguins.

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Speaker 5: I mean, you know what I said, I'm a big

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Speaker 5: were mushroom gummies, this set were acid gummies. I was like, great.

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Speaker 5: One night I was home, I was I was gonna

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Speaker 5: I take the I take the two gummies and they're

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Speaker 5: like half hour in. I was like, wait, what why

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Speaker 5: These are I've had these, They're great, come to find now.

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Speaker 5: I didn't fucking take the mushroom gummies. I took the acidummies.

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Speaker 5: I took two doses, two tabs basically, so I was

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Speaker 4: My balls off in my house alone.

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Speaker 1: They were medat acid. I have the best acid. It's

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Speaker 1: next time. And I have microdoses of LSD and it

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Speaker 1: a thousand.

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Speaker 5: Well, I mean, but Chelsea, I am I'm big stock.

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Speaker 5: It always takes me ten times more to get me

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Speaker 5: just as equally high as everyone else. I feel like

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Speaker 5: a micro dose won't fucking work on that.

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Speaker 1: Then you take a couple. Then you take a couple.

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Speaker 1: You can take up to like, I mean, you can

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Speaker 1: take as many as you want, but I'll take I mean,

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Speaker 1: I've taken more than one in a day. I sometimes

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Speaker 2: It levels you up.

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Speaker 1: Like if you're hungover or you're exhausted, you wake up

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Speaker 1: to the level you need to beat a function for

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Speaker 1: your day. If you're at a party or in a

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Speaker 1: party situation and you take one, then it puts you

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Speaker 1: in more of a party mood. It's like you direct

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Speaker 1: it's not overwhelming. You're not hallucinating, it's not like that.

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Speaker 1: It's just kind of a an upper, big good, healthy upper.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't make you feel sweaty or sometimes when I

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Speaker 1: I got a big bag when I was in Vegas

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Speaker 2: I wonder where those are.

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Speaker 1: And but shrooms sometimes, like I like real mushrooms, but

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Speaker 3: Don't like not a fun high. It's not a giggly

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Speaker 5: It is agree that Catherine agree that, But also the

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Speaker 5: real ones don't make me yawn. Do you get do

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Speaker 5: you get the mushroom yawns? I just thought yawning every

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Speaker 5: two fucking.

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Speaker 1: Yawn when you're coming up on them. That's a thing.

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Speaker 1: It's like you yawn when you're about to get high. Yes,

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Speaker 1: that's how you know it's working. But then it should

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Speaker 4: Sleep?

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Speaker 2: Take your mouth shut when you take them?

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Speaker 4: No, how do I fit the dicks in it? My

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Speaker 4: mouth is closed just right?

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Speaker 2: Rather, that's right.

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Speaker 1: I forgot Sorry, can't you use your butt for all

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Speaker 1: the dicks?

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Speaker 2: Just have someone else it open?

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Speaker 4: Oh my god.

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Speaker 5: I opened up the cruise and I said this joke

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Speaker 5: on stage. I'm like, you know about me, Listen if

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Speaker 5: me at one of these parties. I forgot all my

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Speaker 5: if I come at you with my nose, whatever drug

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Speaker 4: I'll sniff whatever it is. Right.

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Speaker 5: You should not say that to three thousand name men.

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Speaker 2: And I know that, And you're the gay one.

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Speaker 5: I was everywhere I've heard people just pushing things at me,

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Speaker 5: with you. And this guy I was he asked me,

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Speaker 5: I said, you know, I don't know, you just give

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Speaker 5: me a medium sized bump. He gave me the biggest

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Speaker 5: bum of Kennemede I have ever taken in my life.

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Speaker 5: And I thought it was a little bumped, so like

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Speaker 5: ten minutes and I'm like, oh, oh, this is a

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Speaker 5: for thirty minutes to let it like wayed myself.

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Speaker 1: Break down ketamine for me. I did once take ketamine.

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Speaker 1: I think I snorted it. It was years ago with

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Speaker 1: I want to see you because everyone that was when

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Speaker 1: Kenemine kind of hit the scene and everyone, all gay

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Speaker 1: they're like, no, you're gonna like it, and I honestly

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Speaker 1: what maybe I didn't do? Maybe it wasn't good Kenemine

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Speaker 1: or who knows, maybe I didn't do it enough, but

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Speaker 1: what tell me about Kenemine?

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Speaker 2: Like what is so great about it?

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Speaker 5: So it's like dissociated. So if you're I finally that.

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Speaker 5: Oh I do like that though, because like especially when

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Speaker 5: one of them, whatever the lyrics are, and you're just

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Speaker 4: I don't know it.

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Speaker 5: It lets you detach a little bit, which I enjoy

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Speaker 5: at a club with music, Wow.

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Speaker 4: I want to do I wouldn't.

441
00:18:04,760 --> 00:18:05,919
Speaker 5: I would. I would not want to be in a

442
00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:08,680
Speaker 5: k hole at a club. No, but like a little

443
00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:10,560
Speaker 5: bump at a at a party, yes.

444
00:18:10,880 --> 00:18:12,399
Speaker 2: And the k holes when you do more than a

445
00:18:12,440 --> 00:18:13,200
Speaker 2: little bump.

446
00:18:13,520 --> 00:18:15,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's that's a big bump. And you are like

447
00:18:15,920 --> 00:18:18,639
Speaker 5: your fucking doctor strange into the spider verss. So you

448
00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:20,400
Speaker 5: are you are detached, girl, You are.

449
00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:24,320
Speaker 1: What you described like disassociating and letting the beat carry

450
00:18:24,359 --> 00:18:26,320
Speaker 1: your vibe is something that I could use when I'm

451
00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:30,240
Speaker 1: dancing because I don't have any rhythm. So Akedemy sounds

452
00:18:30,240 --> 00:18:32,879
Speaker 1: like I should disassociate for my body because my body's

453
00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:37,600
Speaker 1: stopping me from vibing. The only thing in the world

454
00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:39,920
Speaker 1: I'm self conscious about. Not the only thing in the world,

455
00:18:39,920 --> 00:18:42,159
Speaker 1: but it's my one major thing that I'm self conscious

456
00:18:42,160 --> 00:18:44,320
Speaker 1: about is my dancing. So I always have to take

457
00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:46,439
Speaker 1: a drug if I'm going to go dancing. So I

458
00:18:46,440 --> 00:18:47,960
Speaker 1: could just loose it up and not give a shit

459
00:18:48,040 --> 00:18:49,480
Speaker 1: that I don't have great moves.

460
00:18:49,880 --> 00:18:51,200
Speaker 5: Ketamy would be great for you.

461
00:18:51,480 --> 00:18:53,080
Speaker 1: Okay, well, let's get to know for the next dance

462
00:18:53,119 --> 00:18:54,359
Speaker 1: party I get forced to go to.

463
00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:56,280
Speaker 4: But I don't always love snorting things.

464
00:18:56,280 --> 00:18:57,640
Speaker 2: So have you ever snorted adderall?

465
00:18:57,840 --> 00:18:59,960
Speaker 4: I've only have a snorted academy. I've never storted anything else.

466
00:19:00,280 --> 00:19:04,480
Speaker 2: Okay, I want snort an adderall. And that was really alarming.

467
00:19:05,000 --> 00:19:07,560
Speaker 5: I make I couldn't.

468
00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:09,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, I had to go to a charity event.

469
00:19:10,080 --> 00:19:13,160
Speaker 1: I had flown in to San Francisco from I don't

470
00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:16,640
Speaker 1: know where, somewhere internationally. This was like fifteen years ago,

471
00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:18,520
Speaker 1: and I had a friend who was like, I was like,

472
00:19:18,600 --> 00:19:20,639
Speaker 1: I'm dead. I have to go speak at this event

473
00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:23,080
Speaker 1: about this charity I was representing, which I actually will,

474
00:19:23,119 --> 00:19:25,919
Speaker 1: of course, will remain nameless, otherwise people will connect the dots.

475
00:19:26,400 --> 00:19:28,280
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm dead. I can't I can't keep

476
00:19:28,280 --> 00:19:29,560
Speaker 1: my eyes open. And he's like, do you have any

477
00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:31,840
Speaker 1: adderoll And I said yeah. He goes snort it, like

478
00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:34,680
Speaker 1: that's the best way to like fucking get I got

479
00:19:34,720 --> 00:19:38,240
Speaker 1: on stage and was talking for two hours. I couldn't

480
00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:41,080
Speaker 1: shut the fuck up. I was so obnoxious. I was

481
00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:43,480
Speaker 1: so annoying. And then when I got and I had

482
00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:46,440
Speaker 1: the worst headache the next day for like four hours.

483
00:19:46,480 --> 00:19:48,240
Speaker 1: I woke up and I just felt like a whore

484
00:19:48,320 --> 00:19:51,680
Speaker 1: on the loose, and I was like, I will never

485
00:19:51,880 --> 00:19:54,040
Speaker 1: ever shove that shit up my nose again. I don't

486
00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:56,160
Speaker 1: think i've ever done adderall. Oh that's not true. I've

487
00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:58,560
Speaker 1: had an adderall since then, but I haven't snorted it.

488
00:19:58,560 --> 00:19:59,640
Speaker 2: I would never do that again.

489
00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:02,359
Speaker 1: No, I don't love shoving shit up my nose the

490
00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:04,280
Speaker 1: way that I used to when I was in my thirties.

491
00:20:04,760 --> 00:20:05,560
Speaker 4: I don't like it at all.

492
00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:09,200
Speaker 5: I hate it. So I hate i'vemving a cocaine or

493
00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:10,639
Speaker 5: anything like that because I just don't like how it feels.

494
00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:12,720
Speaker 5: I do ketamine. But what I do is I do

495
00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:15,800
Speaker 5: this thing where they have these like wax lozenges and

496
00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:18,080
Speaker 5: you take it and each one is about sixty milligrams

497
00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:19,760
Speaker 5: and you put it just in your in your thing

498
00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:21,720
Speaker 5: like editable, and it just like dissolves over like five

499
00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:23,440
Speaker 5: minutes and then you get the same effects as.

500
00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:25,320
Speaker 2: If you snorted, like in your cheek sort of thing.

501
00:20:25,480 --> 00:20:26,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, in your cheek. Yeah.

502
00:20:26,480 --> 00:20:29,119
Speaker 2: I like all the different systems of delivery drugs have.

503
00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:32,000
Speaker 4: Now you know thing, have you have you ever boothed?

504
00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:32,920
Speaker 2: What's a boot?

505
00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:33,040
Speaker 7: No?

506
00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:35,520
Speaker 2: What's a booth? That sounds like a fart? And then

507
00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:36,720
Speaker 2: like something to do with your.

508
00:20:37,480 --> 00:20:39,679
Speaker 5: Very very adjacent, very close to you put it in

509
00:20:39,680 --> 00:20:42,720
Speaker 5: your ba hole. Oh and it's like instant.

510
00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:45,760
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah yeah. I heard stories about you know, I

511
00:20:45,800 --> 00:20:46,840
Speaker 2: heard stories.

512
00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:48,679
Speaker 1: About like you know, rock stars in the seventies when

513
00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:50,760
Speaker 1: they couldn't when they would because people would do so

514
00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:53,320
Speaker 1: much blow that their noses would collapse the bridge of

515
00:20:53,359 --> 00:20:56,239
Speaker 1: their nose or the stuff that's inside the cartilage, they

516
00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:57,439
Speaker 1: would like burn a hole through it.

517
00:20:57,480 --> 00:20:58,320
Speaker 2: So then they started.

518
00:20:58,119 --> 00:21:00,760
Speaker 1: Putting coke up their assholes to get hot, because that's

519
00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:03,840
Speaker 1: then it goes directly into your bloodstream, But why not

520
00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:05,760
Speaker 1: just do a gummy and wipe it around in your mouth.

521
00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:08,280
Speaker 2: Doesn't that have the same effect? Or maybe not, it doesn't.

522
00:21:08,560 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 5: I think there are so many beautiful and delicious blood

523
00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:13,479
Speaker 5: vessels in your asshole. I think that when you get

524
00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:17,120
Speaker 5: the drugs right there, it just really just and takes

525
00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:17,480
Speaker 5: it right in.

526
00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:20,080
Speaker 2: How are you enjoying being on tour? Are you with

527
00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:20,560
Speaker 2: your lover?

528
00:21:20,800 --> 00:21:20,840
Speaker 5: Is?

529
00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:23,160
Speaker 2: Are they there? Or are you by yourself?

530
00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:25,520
Speaker 5: Not by myself? It's just me and my assistant.

531
00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:25,719
Speaker 3: Hi.

532
00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:27,520
Speaker 4: He doesn't really come on the road with me.

533
00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:30,160
Speaker 5: You know. That was the really big part of our relationship,

534
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:34,000
Speaker 5: like growing to discover like how because I am super independent.

535
00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:36,800
Speaker 5: I like before my boyfriend, I had one boyfriend before him,

536
00:21:36,800 --> 00:21:37,880
Speaker 5: but we were just to get the fight five minutes.

537
00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:38,920
Speaker 4: It wasn't a real relationship.

538
00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:40,480
Speaker 2: This is my first, like real really, how long have

539
00:21:40,520 --> 00:21:41,320
Speaker 2: you guys been together?

540
00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:42,639
Speaker 4: Four years?

541
00:21:42,720 --> 00:21:43,960
Speaker 2: Okay, so that's serious.

542
00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:49,280
Speaker 5: Yeah. So and then so he is very codependent. I'm

543
00:21:49,320 --> 00:21:54,120
Speaker 5: super independent. So finding that balance of like, bitch, yes,

544
00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:56,399
Speaker 5: I want you to feel valued and me being around,

545
00:21:56,400 --> 00:21:58,760
Speaker 5: but you have to value my time and my solidarity.

546
00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:01,240
Speaker 5: So he comes things here and there like he came

547
00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:03,719
Speaker 5: with me on the cruise which was ten days, and

548
00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:06,159
Speaker 5: so we did did that together. So now I'm going

549
00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:09,120
Speaker 5: to do this stuff on myself and maybe a few

550
00:22:09,200 --> 00:22:10,800
Speaker 5: dates in October.

551
00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:11,479
Speaker 4: And remember came.

552
00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:13,560
Speaker 1: I think also being on the road by yourself is

553
00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:15,600
Speaker 1: just a better way. Like people always say they get

554
00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:16,960
Speaker 1: lonely on the road, I'm like, no, no, I don't

555
00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:18,920
Speaker 1: get lonely on the road. I need that time alone

556
00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:21,440
Speaker 1: where I don't have anything to do all day until

557
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:21,919
Speaker 1: the show.

558
00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:23,359
Speaker 5: I like that.

559
00:22:23,359 --> 00:22:25,760
Speaker 2: That is my time to fucking lie on my ass

560
00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:28,240
Speaker 2: and watch TV. Or if I'm in a city that's worth.

561
00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:30,359
Speaker 1: Seeing and going out, you know, like when I went

562
00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:32,680
Speaker 1: to Europe, I was out and about every day I was.

563
00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:34,960
Speaker 1: I never turned to the television on, you know. But

564
00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:38,480
Speaker 1: like if you're in a city that's not happening, then

565
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:41,239
Speaker 1: you know you don't want to expose someone else to that.

566
00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:43,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, and I want to sit down. I want to

567
00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:45,800
Speaker 5: I want to fucking read my book, order some order

568
00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:46,400
Speaker 5: some fucks.

569
00:22:46,320 --> 00:22:48,359
Speaker 2: In the gym. I love going in the gym at

570
00:22:48,359 --> 00:22:50,280
Speaker 2: a hotel. That's my favorite activity.

571
00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:52,639
Speaker 1: I love That's when I get my best workouts in,

572
00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:54,880
Speaker 1: when my trainer is nowhere to be seen and I'm

573
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:59,600
Speaker 1: on my own. So how have the crowds been? Are

574
00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:01,280
Speaker 1: there any cities that you've been to that you were

575
00:23:01,359 --> 00:23:02,359
Speaker 1: really surprised about?

576
00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:05,640
Speaker 5: Ooh, I was really surprised about Sacramento because I mean,

577
00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:07,919
Speaker 5: I've done drag shows and Sacramento, but you know, me

578
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:10,040
Speaker 5: doing stand up. I'm wanted to be the Santa for

579
00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:13,680
Speaker 5: what since twenty twenty one? So for four years now,

580
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:14,960
Speaker 5: So that's.

581
00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:17,480
Speaker 1: When I started construction on my house twenty twenty one.

582
00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 4: I've heard about this house. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, how

583
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 4: are you moving in?

584
00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:24,159
Speaker 2: Great question? Great question. I don't know.

585
00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 1: And it's handler handlers. Unreal, It is unreal. I can't

586
00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:35,399
Speaker 1: believe this is my life. I make millions of dollars

587
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:37,960
Speaker 1: a year, yet I am staying in the guest room

588
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:42,080
Speaker 1: of a fucking friend's house for four years.

589
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:44,240
Speaker 4: Which is a great friend. Let me tell you something.

590
00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:45,720
Speaker 8: This is it.

591
00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:47,520
Speaker 2: By the way, it's not the same friend.

592
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:49,679
Speaker 1: I have to keep fucking moving because otherwise I'm going

593
00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:50,879
Speaker 1: to ruin all my friendships.

594
00:23:51,240 --> 00:23:53,159
Speaker 5: Yeah, I was like, I would tolerate someone saying with

595
00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:55,960
Speaker 5: me for maybe a month until I'm like, okay, babes,

596
00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:56,679
Speaker 5: we got to figure it out.

597
00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:59,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly a month is mine. Actually, I'm moving out now.

598
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:01,840
Speaker 1: I just got another rental to move out so that

599
00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:03,680
Speaker 1: I don't overstay my welcome with a friend that I'm

600
00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:06,280
Speaker 1: staying with because she's been so hospitable and I really

601
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 1: just don't want to, like, you know, it's we're having

602
00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:10,399
Speaker 1: a really nice time together, so I want to.

603
00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:12,280
Speaker 2: Leave while it's hot, you know what I mean. Yeah,

604
00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:13,720
Speaker 2: I don't want her to be like, when.

605
00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:15,240
Speaker 1: The fuck is this woman gonna get out of my face?

606
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:16,359
Speaker 2: Because I don't just come with me.

607
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:19,399
Speaker 1: I come with my housekeeper and then my dog person,

608
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:21,760
Speaker 1: and then my dog and then it's a whole factory

609
00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 1: of people that come over every morning to make sure

610
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:25,240
Speaker 1: I'm awake and go into.

611
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 4: Me over to that.

612
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:28,880
Speaker 1: No, but they have to perform for me because they

613
00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:31,320
Speaker 1: think because I have no house, so they have to

614
00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:32,680
Speaker 1: do something in order.

615
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 2: They're like, well, you're paying me.

616
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:36,159
Speaker 1: I'm never going to like suspend their payment because I

617
00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 1: don't have the house, you know what I mean.

618
00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:38,440
Speaker 2: So I pay them.

619
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:40,359
Speaker 1: I've been paying everyone for four years to work at

620
00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:42,000
Speaker 1: my house, but I don't have a house.

621
00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:43,920
Speaker 2: So they just follow me wherever I go.

622
00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:46,920
Speaker 1: While I'm in the country at least it's a hot

623
00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:48,879
Speaker 1: mess anyway, you know what I mean? I need to

624
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:52,120
Speaker 1: call a podcast like this and get some fucking advice.

625
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:54,399
Speaker 4: What I renovate in my house?

626
00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:56,440
Speaker 5: I mean I so I bought the house and I

627
00:24:56,520 --> 00:24:59,200
Speaker 5: was like, you know what, so people renovating houses, I'm

628
00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,400
Speaker 5: I'm I'm greg gonna do it. Two months into renovating,

629
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 5: I was like this, I way over and wait in

630
00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:06,240
Speaker 5: way in over my head. I can't do this. I

631
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:08,600
Speaker 5: found a friend of mine. He used to be the

632
00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:11,600
Speaker 5: senior vice president of merchandising for MAC for like twenty

633
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:13,080
Speaker 5: five years. He had just retired and moved to LA.

634
00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 5: He's like, what you're doing? I was like, I just

635
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 5: bought this house. Renovating is ridiculous. I don't know what

636
00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:20,680
Speaker 5: fucking plugs outlets or a Venetian plaster. I don't know

637
00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:22,959
Speaker 5: any of these fucking terms. And then he came on

638
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:24,679
Speaker 5: and he project managed able thing for me. And he

639
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:29,359
Speaker 5: is like a rude, nasty, angry gay that just gathered

640
00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:32,639
Speaker 5: those fucking of those fucking contractors and he got it

641
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:33,760
Speaker 5: done for me in two and a half years.

642
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:36,119
Speaker 1: I hope you chef some ketamine straight up his ass.

643
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:38,160
Speaker 1: Alos a big thank you. I really hope you did,

644
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:40,600
Speaker 1: because he deserves He sounds like he deserves it. The

645
00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:43,479
Speaker 1: more people bring I bring onto this project, the longer

646
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 1: it takes.

647
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:45,919
Speaker 5: Are you building the taj Mahal?

648
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:48,640
Speaker 2: You would think? So, I mean, no, it's cursed because

649
00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:50,800
Speaker 2: it was RFK Junior's house. Yeah it's cursed.

650
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:54,439
Speaker 5: Oh no, fuck girl, that's what girl? Ye had they

651
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:57,080
Speaker 5: put that? You gonna you're gonna be talking like Yang,

652
00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:58,879
Speaker 5: You're gonna have a crazy voice.

653
00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:01,640
Speaker 2: I ran into that fuck an asshole RFK at some point.

654
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,159
Speaker 1: I have so much to say to him, not that

655
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 1: he would sit there and listen to it, because I

656
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 1: don't think he can even comprehend information.

657
00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 2: He's so stupid, I mean, and shovel milk in his hand.

658
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 2: He needs a ketemine up his house. We need to.

659
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:18,879
Speaker 1: Start boothing people. That's what I want to do. That'll

660
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:20,879
Speaker 1: be a good way for me to channel my anger.

661
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:25,080
Speaker 5: But oh sorry, So Sacramento. I love Sacramento. Sacramento is

662
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Speaker 5: a really good time. I performed eight years ago and

663
00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:29,240
Speaker 5: drag but never doing stand up, and they would just

664
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:33,240
Speaker 5: and what I realized to every audience, every comedy club,

665
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 5: theor whatever I go to that was like your audience

666
00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 5: tips really well. I'm like, yeah, the gays and girls

667
00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:43,000
Speaker 5: and days we tip like we appreciate service workers. We

668
00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:45,480
Speaker 5: appreciate when you make us good cocktails, and we showed

669
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:47,600
Speaker 5: that with my money. I'm like, these fucking straight people

670
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:49,360
Speaker 5: that come to your show, to your club, I can't

671
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 5: speak with them, but the gays, girls and days, we

672
00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:53,479
Speaker 5: spend money on goods, on good service.

673
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 2: Well.

674
00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:56,679
Speaker 1: But also most of us are either like with child

675
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:59,960
Speaker 1: free or you know, single, so I have the same audio.

676
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:03,159
Speaker 2: It's women and gays, right, And that's right because.

677
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 1: People once they start having children and I'm like, well

678
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 1: I have I need this money for that, and they

679
00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: become more penurious with their money, and I feel like

680
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:11,399
Speaker 1: that's another reason not to have children.

681
00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:12,640
Speaker 2: So you could be a better tipper.

682
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:15,639
Speaker 4: Yeah, hell yeah, Chelsea.

683
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:16,200
Speaker 5: Oh my god.

684
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 4: I mean I need advice really quick.

685
00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 5: So the work for four years in he wants children.

686
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:26,199
Speaker 5: I don't want children. I don't not want children, but

687
00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:29,440
Speaker 5: I think I do. I do not want children, which

688
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 5: means I should have them, you know what I mean.

689
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:34,320
Speaker 5: I'm too much on the fence right to like want

690
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:36,520
Speaker 5: to have kids, Like I feel people who want kids

691
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 5: should be like I want children more than I want

692
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 5: my next breath. I want to go to the PTA,

693
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:44,199
Speaker 5: I want to drive the car with the kid, like

694
00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 5: I am not that.

695
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 2: No, no, and you never will be. I will never

696
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:49,919
Speaker 2: be that way, right, You're never going to be like that.

697
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:51,879
Speaker 1: So I think that's very good. What you're saying is

698
00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:54,160
Speaker 1: like you don't desire it. I feel like, if you're

699
00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:55,640
Speaker 1: going to be a child, you have to desire it

700
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:56,440
Speaker 1: so badly.

701
00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:58,439
Speaker 2: Is it a deal breaker for your partner and to

702
00:27:58,520 --> 00:27:59,000
Speaker 2: have kids?

703
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:01,240
Speaker 5: I mean we you know what we did, We didn't

704
00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:03,439
Speaker 5: talk about deal breakers. Like at the beginning, we're kind

705
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:05,120
Speaker 5: of like, yeah, we'll get there, and now we're four

706
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:07,480
Speaker 5: years in and it's like I really want children. I'm like, well,

707
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:08,399
Speaker 5: I don't know if I want.

708
00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 1: Children, you know, yeah, I would try and push that

709
00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 1: as long as you can too, you know.

710
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:15,920
Speaker 2: But conversely, on the other side of the coin.

711
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:18,920
Speaker 1: I do believe that if you do have a child

712
00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:21,160
Speaker 1: that is brought into your life because your partner feels

713
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:24,520
Speaker 1: so vehemently for it, is so vehemently like passionate about

714
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 1: having a baby.

715
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:27,959
Speaker 2: You are going to fucking love that baby.

716
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:29,480
Speaker 1: It's not like you're going to find and you're going

717
00:28:29,560 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: to have a kid and be like, I don't like it.

718
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 1: That doesn't happen, you know, yes it does. Well, it

719
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:38,720
Speaker 1: doesn't happen when somebody. It doesn't happen to people like us,

720
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 1: Like I have children in my life, and I fucking

721
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 1: deal with it.

722
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 2: I don't hit them. I'm not mad at them. I mean, yeah, I'm.

723
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 1: Exhausted and I'd rather not have to deal with like

724
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:49,160
Speaker 1: stupid shit. But I'm always going to be available to

725
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 1: a child, and you're going to be the same way.

726
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 1: It's just like the kind of people and culture, like

727
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:57,360
Speaker 1: part of culture that we are, Like I don't want one,

728
00:28:57,840 --> 00:28:59,400
Speaker 1: and I hear what you're saying, but you're not going

729
00:28:59,480 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 1: to ever.

730
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:02,400
Speaker 2: I don't know that you're going to regret.

731
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 1: Having a child, you know, if it's something that's so important,

732
00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 1: like you've got a lot of love to give and

733
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:09,040
Speaker 1: so you know, like if I met a guy and

734
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 1: he had some kids, I wouldn't not date him. I

735
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 1: would but and I would be like, oh, this is

736
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 1: a nice opportunity for me to kind of be a

737
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:19,920
Speaker 1: maternal figure or like a big sister kind of vibe.

738
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 1: But it's not like I would be like, oh, I

739
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:23,400
Speaker 1: want to you know, if somebody said to me, I

740
00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:25,880
Speaker 1: have to have children, it's like, well, obviously that ship

741
00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 1: has sailed.

742
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:28,479
Speaker 4: And I think that's the best way to do it.

743
00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:31,280
Speaker 5: Meeting someone that has a kid sounds fucking great because

744
00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 5: worst case scenario, I can press the ejug button and

745
00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 5: be out, you know what I mean. But if I

746
00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 5: want to stay and be and mother this this child, great,

747
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 5: but it's not of my own loin, so I could, like,

748
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 5: you know, right, and.

749
00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 1: Most kids are really you know, most kids are lovable,

750
00:29:46,080 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 1: you know, like it's hard to find a kid that

751
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:49,160
Speaker 1: doesn't deserve love.

752
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 4: I mean, you never met my nephew.

753
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:54,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, well I have a couple of nephews too.

754
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 5: So that's the thing about, like, I am down to

755
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 5: have it. If we do have a kid, great, What

756
00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:06,719
Speaker 5: if that motherfucker has the audacity to be straight? What

757
00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 5: if I had a straight young man in my house?

758
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:12,560
Speaker 5: Some motherfucker walk around my house crashing his balls, fucking

759
00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:15,080
Speaker 5: his armpits and shit stink, Like, I now have to

760
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 5: raise a straight person And that sounds awful.

761
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:22,600
Speaker 2: You're raising an ally, then, yeah, situation, and that's fair.

762
00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 2: That's crazy, you're raising an ally.

763
00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:27,520
Speaker 1: He turns and then he turns against his father's when

764
00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 1: he grows up and he's like, I can't handle these

765
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: two holmos. He's like, it's enough already with my house.

766
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 2: It's too gay.

767
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:35,960
Speaker 1: Okay, we're gonna take a break and'll be right back

768
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:37,120
Speaker 1: with monay Exchange.

769
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 2: And we're back with money Exchange.

770
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:44,680
Speaker 1: She's on tour, so you can buy tickets to her

771
00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 1: show at money exchange dot com.

772
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:50,000
Speaker 2: Are you ready to give some advice today money?

773
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, she's always ready to give advice.

774
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:56,680
Speaker 2: Excellent. Well, I do have a money question.

775
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 3: This one's just an email, but Hillary says this is

776
00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:06,320
Speaker 3: Hillary Clinton. Yes, it absolutely is, Dear Chelsea, I have

777
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:09,440
Speaker 3: a question about how money changes relationships. I'm a thirty

778
00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 3: five year old woman who works as a child therapist

779
00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:14,160
Speaker 3: at a nonprofit, so I don't make much money for

780
00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 3: what I do. I grew up as an only child

781
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 3: to a single mother in a lower middle class family,

782
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 3: and I'm very used to living paycheck to paycheck. I

783
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 3: lost my mother as a teenager, and the only family

784
00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 3: I had left was my grandparents, who became my best

785
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:30,600
Speaker 3: friends and the only emotional support system. Two years ago, however,

786
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 3: they both passed pretty quickly one after the other. It

787
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:36,480
Speaker 3: was a devastating blow and wrecked me pretty badly emotionally.

788
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:39,000
Speaker 3: Now I just have my wife and young daughter as

789
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:41,920
Speaker 3: my only remaining family. This is where things took an

790
00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:46,080
Speaker 3: unexpected turn. Upon their deaths, I received multiple requests from

791
00:31:46,120 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 3: people I considered close friends asking for money. They needed

792
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 3: help with mortgage, medical bills, and other expenses. At first,

793
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:55,080
Speaker 3: I was happy to help, all while trying to establish

794
00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 3: a boundary that these were simply loans. To sum it up,

795
00:31:57,960 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 3: I gave out about eighteen thousand dollars before I realized

796
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:03,320
Speaker 3: what was happening. I stopped giving out money, and needless

797
00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 3: to say, I haven't seen a scent of it back.

798
00:32:05,520 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 3: It's not about that, however, I feel embarrassed taken advantage of.

799
00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 3: I'm shocked at how a few of them turned on

800
00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:14,600
Speaker 3: me like that. Even more recently, my hoa community just

801
00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:17,800
Speaker 3: outright asked me to personally foot a thirty five thousand

802
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 3: dollars bill for something in our neighborhood because they knew

803
00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 3: I could with the inheritance from her grandparents. I don't

804
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:24,920
Speaker 3: know how they knew. I don't speak to most of

805
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,600
Speaker 3: my neighbors. I considered it for a long time before

806
00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:30,200
Speaker 3: asking them to come up with another solution. How do

807
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:33,080
Speaker 3: I trust the intentions of people going forward. I've never

808
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 3: had a lot of money before, and I certainly want

809
00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 3: to share it, but I'm realizing now that certain people

810
00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 3: will use me for it and not actually value me

811
00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 3: as a friend.

812
00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 2: Thanks so much, Hillary. Wait, I'm sorry I missed this part.

813
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 2: Did the inheritance? Was the inheritance? How did everyone know

814
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:48,720
Speaker 2: about the inheritance?

815
00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:50,520
Speaker 4: Wasn't the public news?

816
00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:50,719
Speaker 8: Like?

817
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 4: How serious?

818
00:32:51,800 --> 00:32:52,960
Speaker 2: I don't know the neighbors knew.

819
00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:54,400
Speaker 3: I don't think you even think she knows how the

820
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 3: neighbors knew, but her friends as a family.

821
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:00,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, but still, like, that's not an invitation to ask

822
00:33:00,840 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 1: for money. Can I just say when I open up

823
00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:06,800
Speaker 1: my dms, how many fucking dms I get asking me

824
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 1: for money? How many dms I get saying I'm going

825
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:11,960
Speaker 1: through a really tough time. I just got fired from

826
00:33:11,960 --> 00:33:13,960
Speaker 1: my job. We just need I just need thirty thousand

827
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:14,960
Speaker 1: dollars to tide me over.

828
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:16,160
Speaker 2: It's unreal.

829
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:19,480
Speaker 5: Venmo request my vemo right now is literally like hey girl,

830
00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 5: hey girl, I need people find your Venmo and they

831
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:23,840
Speaker 5: request you all day long from it.

832
00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 1: I just can't imagine asking a stranger for money. I

833
00:33:28,360 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 1: at all, I would love to like. I mean, I

834
00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 1: you know I want money too. My money's all out

835
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 1: the window with this fucking house. I don't have any

836
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 1: more money to give. First of all, you're gonna lose

837
00:33:38,320 --> 00:33:41,160
Speaker 1: all your money. Don't ever advertise that you have money.

838
00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:44,560
Speaker 1: Don't advertise that. Just hold onto your money and save

839
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:46,800
Speaker 1: it because you're gonna need it for fucking something and

840
00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 1: use it for yourself.

841
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 2: It's your inheritance.

842
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:51,240
Speaker 1: And definitely, you know how you can tell if people

843
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:53,480
Speaker 1: are using you for money, if they're asking you.

844
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 2: For it, ask you for money, that you don't give

845
00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:56,720
Speaker 2: your money away.

846
00:33:56,760 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 1: That's not there's They're not entitled to that money. That

847
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 1: those are your grandparents period.

848
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:04,480
Speaker 5: Yea, even if they're friends of family, even in their family.

849
00:34:04,520 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 5: That that money is not yours. The inheritance went to you. However,

850
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:09,960
Speaker 5: your your grandparent decided to div out that money and

851
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 5: give it to w ever, that's who it belongs to.

852
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:14,320
Speaker 5: It does not belonged to your mom, or your cousin

853
00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:16,920
Speaker 5: or sister keisha, whoever it is. No one is in

854
00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:19,239
Speaker 5: town to that money except for you. And again, if

855
00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 5: you found it in your heart you were so generous.

856
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:24,400
Speaker 5: You've already given eighteen thousand dollars to your friends of family.

857
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:27,480
Speaker 5: That's it. You have to set a boundary. You're like, hey, guys,

858
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:29,920
Speaker 5: the bank is closed. I am not willing to give

859
00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:32,520
Speaker 5: any more of this money. And again, if there's someone

860
00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:34,400
Speaker 5: that she has a really soft space in your family,

861
00:34:34,440 --> 00:34:36,920
Speaker 5: like a nephew that you really love, you really want

862
00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 5: to help them out with whatever, then that's a different story.

863
00:34:39,040 --> 00:34:41,880
Speaker 5: But to have this open door policy and family can

864
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:44,120
Speaker 5: just come and hit your for money is dead. It's

865
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 5: done no more. And why is your community asking you

866
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:49,480
Speaker 5: to pay for the work.

867
00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:52,560
Speaker 2: That's so ridiculous.

868
00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 1: And also like, there are going to be things that

869
00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:56,160
Speaker 1: happen in your life where you are going to be

870
00:34:56,200 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 1: able to help somebody out of a really bad situation,

871
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 1: and that person should be somebody who's close to you

872
00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:03,799
Speaker 1: and a friend or a lover or whatever, or a

873
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:06,719
Speaker 1: relative that you can help your child that you know,

874
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:09,560
Speaker 1: God forbid, something happens and you need like all this money,

875
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 1: that's what you save that money for. You want to

876
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:14,360
Speaker 1: be nice and share the money. That's a very nice sentiment,

877
00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 1: But donate to charities that you care about. Then donate

878
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:20,440
Speaker 1: to homelessness, Donate to food shelters, Donate to children's charities,

879
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:24,000
Speaker 1: donate you know to like the LGBTQ community for children

880
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,160
Speaker 1: who have been kicked out of their homes. There's a

881
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 1: million places to give your money to that you can

882
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:31,800
Speaker 1: actually track its use and track how it's being spent

883
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:33,759
Speaker 1: rather than just giving it to individuals.

884
00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 2: This story is as old as time.

885
00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:39,040
Speaker 1: Like it doesn't work out well when you hand out

886
00:35:39,080 --> 00:35:39,800
Speaker 1: money to people.

887
00:35:40,080 --> 00:35:42,279
Speaker 3: One thing my parents taught me really early on through

888
00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:45,960
Speaker 3: like mistakes that they had made, was they're like, never

889
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 3: loan money to friends like these larger amounts of money

890
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:50,600
Speaker 3: because a they probably won't be in a position to

891
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:53,160
Speaker 3: pay it back, and then they feel awkward. But even

892
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:55,239
Speaker 3: if you say yes and say it's a gift, then

893
00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:57,520
Speaker 3: they still often feel awkward and you lose the friendship.

894
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:00,720
Speaker 1: And then they become resentful of you in a because

895
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 1: it's like you help them and they're embarrassed, and so

896
00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:06,279
Speaker 1: then you lose that friendship. Anyway, that's happened to me

897
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:09,880
Speaker 1: fifty times where I've given friends here's twenty grand.

898
00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:11,880
Speaker 2: You know, here you're in a bind.

899
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 1: I actually saw somebody that I loaned twenty thousand dollars

900
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:15,880
Speaker 1: to the other day.

901
00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:18,719
Speaker 2: He's never paid me back and he doesn't have to.

902
00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:19,480
Speaker 2: It's fine.

903
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 1: But I saw him. He's never brought it up. This

904
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:25,840
Speaker 1: was years ago. He's never even brought it up. He's fine,

905
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 1: and no one knows about it. It was like our secret.

906
00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:30,319
Speaker 1: He was so embarrassed when he came to me. He's like,

907
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:32,000
Speaker 1: I can't believe I have to ask you for this,

908
00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:34,879
Speaker 1: and I was like, okay, yeah, I guess who else

909
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:35,399
Speaker 1: can you ask?

910
00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 2: I guess I'm the only person to give it to you.

911
00:36:37,239 --> 00:36:40,399
Speaker 1: And he's never even even once said hey, I, oh,

912
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:42,799
Speaker 1: I don't even care about the money, just say I

913
00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 1: appreciate you doing that for me, based on the fact

914
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:48,600
Speaker 1: that we're not even yes something.

915
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 4: Like, it's just kind of crazy.

916
00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:52,520
Speaker 2: You create a dynamic that is not good.

917
00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:55,520
Speaker 5: I think, like it never happened is wild. So so

918
00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:57,279
Speaker 5: you guys go to like events, you've seen him out

919
00:36:57,280 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 5: of place and it's just like.

920
00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:00,359
Speaker 4: Hey, girls, saw the Househouse House.

921
00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 1: I've seen him in a long time. And then I

922
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 1: saw him the other day and he was just like, hey,

923
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:06,520
Speaker 1: how are you? And I'm like I'm great, how are you?

924
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:09,120
Speaker 2: And like I remember telling my friend I was like,

925
00:37:09,160 --> 00:37:10,879
Speaker 2: you know, I once gave it. She goes, you did,

926
00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 2: I go, yeah, I was in a bind.

927
00:37:12,520 --> 00:37:14,840
Speaker 1: He's really close with someone I'm really close with, and

928
00:37:14,880 --> 00:37:16,600
Speaker 1: it was kind of weird for him to come to

929
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:18,000
Speaker 1: me in the first place, quite frankly.

930
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:19,919
Speaker 2: But you know, I have a big heart. I always

931
00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 2: want to be generous when I have excess. I always do.

932
00:37:22,760 --> 00:37:24,759
Speaker 2: I really do. But and I did.

933
00:37:25,080 --> 00:37:27,880
Speaker 1: But I just like, I'm like, it's interesting that that

934
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:31,759
Speaker 1: person feels no obligation to address it ever again, like

935
00:37:32,160 --> 00:37:34,320
Speaker 1: just treak it in. Okay, I guess we'll just forget

936
00:37:34,360 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 1: that happened.

937
00:37:35,080 --> 00:37:37,800
Speaker 2: So one Noah's the answer for these friends.

938
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:39,480
Speaker 3: One way to kind of like get out of them

939
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 3: blaming you is you could say, oh, you know what,

940
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:43,359
Speaker 3: it's they left it in a trust. I don't really

941
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:45,439
Speaker 3: have access to it like that. Like that way, it's

942
00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 3: you're not saying no, you just can't unless.

943
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:48,800
Speaker 4: You you see.

944
00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 5: For me, though, I'm like, because it's really hard for

945
00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:52,920
Speaker 5: me to like keep up with a lie. Like that's

946
00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 5: why I'm a pretty sure shoot, I'll be like, girl,

947
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:57,680
Speaker 5: this the store is closed, Like I wouldn't tell the

948
00:37:57,719 --> 00:37:59,799
Speaker 5: lie because then it might it might come up again.

949
00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:01,400
Speaker 4: As that it's one like it's in a trust. No

950
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:03,800
Speaker 4: it's not. And I feel like that might make it dodge.

951
00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 1: Say is listen, I've done this before, it doesn't work out.

952
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:07,879
Speaker 2: Well.

953
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:09,960
Speaker 1: I wish I could share with you. I wish I

954
00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 1: could give you this money. But I've loaned people money before,

955
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:15,040
Speaker 1: or I've given away people money before, and it's actually

956
00:38:15,120 --> 00:38:17,719
Speaker 1: ruined our relationship. So I'm so sorry, but I'm not

957
00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 1: doing that anymore.

958
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:20,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, people need to and people need to understand that

959
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 5: boundaries a real fucking thing. I just set the boundary.

960
00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 5: But like, no, girl, it's not happening. I'll take it

961
00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:27,759
Speaker 5: out to the dinner. We can go down to the Applebee's.

962
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:31,160
Speaker 5: I'll get your last little chicken selex a trio deal.

963
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:34,960
Speaker 1: I won't be at the Applebee's, but good luck with everything.

964
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:37,680
Speaker 2: He'll take you on a cruise.

965
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 1: He'll take you to at Applebe's. That's actually on a

966
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 1: cruise ship.

967
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:45,000
Speaker 5: This is this is a virgin voyage, Chelsea. You know,

968
00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 5: I feel like you will like a virgin voice.

969
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:49,400
Speaker 2: Anyway, moving along, moving on, moving on.

970
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 3: Well, our next question, and this is a first for

971
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 3: us here on this show, but I have a question

972
00:38:57,560 --> 00:39:00,879
Speaker 3: and Mona this maybe somebody that you arequainted with, so

973
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 3: I just want to proface with that they like cruises probably,

974
00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 3: so this question starts. Dear Chelsea. I've been a full

975
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 3: time drag queen for sixteen years. Drag has been such

976
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:15,680
Speaker 3: a blessing in my life and given me opportunities beyond

977
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:18,640
Speaker 3: my wildest dreams. I became the first drag queen in

978
00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 3: history to perform on all seven continents, yes even Antarctica,

979
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:26,760
Speaker 3: performed in thirty five countries. Was Grand Marshall of NYC Pride,

980
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:29,600
Speaker 3: ran for City Council, and was first drag queen to

981
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 3: moderate a panel at the un So things have been good. However,

982
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 3: at thirty eight years old, I keep wanting to push

983
00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:37,040
Speaker 3: myself and try new things to take it to the

984
00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 3: next level.

985
00:39:38,160 --> 00:39:40,920
Speaker 2: Challenging myself as a performer is really important to me.

986
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 3: When I moved to NYC at seventeen years old, it

987
00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:46,440
Speaker 3: was to pursue a career in musical theater. I got

988
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:48,840
Speaker 3: signed to an agent last year to continue this dream,

989
00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:51,560
Speaker 3: but haven't been able to book anything. All my auditions

990
00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 3: get great feedback and lots of oh yeah, love them

991
00:39:54,200 --> 00:39:56,720
Speaker 3: and their work, but no follow through with getting the job.

992
00:39:57,120 --> 00:39:59,000
Speaker 3: I've done a lot of different reality TV, but I

993
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:01,360
Speaker 3: want to do the real deal work as an actor, comedian,

994
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 3: and performer. What can I do to better help these

995
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:06,799
Speaker 3: goals and skills and get myself seen as more than

996
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 3: a drag queen. Not that I don't love that, but

997
00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:10,799
Speaker 3: I want people to see me as a more well

998
00:40:10,840 --> 00:40:13,359
Speaker 3: rounded performer who's first attle in what I'm able to do.

999
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 2: Thank you, Marty Cummings.

1000
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:16,240
Speaker 5: I know Marty.

1001
00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:17,919
Speaker 2: Coming, Marty. Do you guys know each other?

1002
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:20,120
Speaker 4: I do know Marty for years.

1003
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:22,840
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Marty, this is our special guest. Monette

1004
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:25,400
Speaker 1: is our special guest today. And look at these two there.

1005
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 1: I already know each other.

1006
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:29,960
Speaker 2: We've ever had that happen before on this podcast.

1007
00:40:30,600 --> 00:40:32,479
Speaker 7: I know Monette caught me back.

1008
00:40:33,719 --> 00:40:36,719
Speaker 2: I will not I would be is that one of

1009
00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:37,120
Speaker 2: the people.

1010
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:38,440
Speaker 1: Is that one of the Marty, Is that one of

1011
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 1: the people you auditioned for that you didn't hear back from.

1012
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 4: Yes, she will cast me.

1013
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 2: Hello money, give Marty some.

1014
00:40:46,960 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 4: Advice, Marty.

1015
00:40:49,560 --> 00:40:53,000
Speaker 5: Marty is one of the most talented antaitanas in New

1016
00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 5: York City. Marty is hilarious. Marty is a great host.

1017
00:40:56,960 --> 00:40:59,760
Speaker 5: Marty is a good singer. So Marty, are you leading

1018
00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:02,800
Speaker 5: with so are you leading with the drag with these auditions?

1019
00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:04,840
Speaker 5: Like are you going with with like headshots and like

1020
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:08,200
Speaker 5: profiles of you and drag when you do these auditions like.

1021
00:41:08,239 --> 00:41:10,359
Speaker 7: Very so, like my agent primarily sends me out on

1022
00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:13,600
Speaker 7: drag stuff, so they'll send you know, like my drag

1023
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:17,920
Speaker 7: head shot, my non drag head shot. Auditions normally are

1024
00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:22,399
Speaker 7: self tapes like in drag whatever. And the feedback it's

1025
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 7: always the same feedback from the casting directors. Oh my god,

1026
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:27,839
Speaker 7: we love Marty, They're amazing. We love, we love, we love,

1027
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 7: we love, we love. And then like I'll get a

1028
00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:31,400
Speaker 7: callback or whatever, and then I don't get it, and

1029
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:33,880
Speaker 7: I'm like, okay, girl, you love me, but run me

1030
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:35,920
Speaker 7: my check, Like hello, do.

1031
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 2: You audition as you Marty straight? Not straight, but like

1032
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:41,840
Speaker 2: it's you know what I mean.

1033
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 5: I'm primarily straight.

1034
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:48,240
Speaker 7: I'm primarily sent out on castings for like drag roles

1035
00:41:48,280 --> 00:41:50,839
Speaker 7: and drag characters. There are some so like it's after

1036
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:53,319
Speaker 7: Catherine I talked I actually my agent emailed me that

1037
00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 7: this big director emailed them and was like, we really

1038
00:41:56,560 --> 00:41:59,279
Speaker 7: want to see Marty for these two roles for his

1039
00:41:59,320 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 7: next film. One is Drag one is not drag obviously,

1040
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:06,080
Speaker 7: if I book the Drag one, like, yes, I want it,

1041
00:42:06,120 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 7: but I want to be challenged, like I want to

1042
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:09,879
Speaker 7: be challenged. I want to try something different. I want

1043
00:42:09,880 --> 00:42:12,879
Speaker 7: to show that I could do more than drave right.

1044
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:16,000
Speaker 1: And also, drag is a very specific niche thing, like

1045
00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:18,799
Speaker 1: it's not as widespread, like you know, it's not like

1046
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:20,920
Speaker 1: there's tons of drag movies out each year, So I

1047
00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 1: would really focus in on going in as yourself without

1048
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 1: being in drag. Also in addition to auditioning for stuff

1049
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:29,879
Speaker 1: in drag, because you're probably going to find a lot

1050
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:31,080
Speaker 1: more opportunities there.

1051
00:42:31,840 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 5: Yeah. Now I was gonna say, I think that that

1052
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:36,200
Speaker 5: needs to be the directed to your agency, your manager, Like, hey, guys,

1053
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:39,439
Speaker 5: let's say for six months, do not send me any

1054
00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 5: drag castings. Do do not send my drag headshots, like,

1055
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:46,200
Speaker 5: only focus on Marty Cummings. Do not put drag into it, like,

1056
00:42:46,239 --> 00:42:48,480
Speaker 5: I only want to focus on Marty Cummings. Things for

1057
00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 5: me out of drag. Maybe some street rolls get really crazy,

1058
00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 5: like let's.

1059
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:57,160
Speaker 1: Not get carried away, guys. I'm sorry, ladies, I'm so sorry.

1060
00:42:57,239 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 2: I'm lad.

1061
00:42:57,960 --> 00:43:01,480
Speaker 4: I'm not that challenged okay.

1062
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:02,400
Speaker 2: But yeah you should.

1063
00:43:02,480 --> 00:43:04,879
Speaker 1: You should cast a wider net. That's you're gonna catch

1064
00:43:04,920 --> 00:43:06,960
Speaker 1: more fish that way. That's just the way it works. Like,

1065
00:43:07,239 --> 00:43:09,520
Speaker 1: don't limit yourself to that, you know, like go where

1066
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:12,239
Speaker 1: the opportunities are too. I wouldn't say you have to

1067
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 1: excise all of your like submissions to drag, but I

1068
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 1: would say, like, definitely be open to playing yourself without

1069
00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:20,720
Speaker 1: being a drag.

1070
00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:23,280
Speaker 7: Yeah, I totally am. And I think I think money

1071
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:26,080
Speaker 7: is right. Like I have to stress to my agents like, hey,

1072
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:29,799
Speaker 7: like I love the drag stuff, but please look at

1073
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:32,319
Speaker 7: other castings for me. Also, yeah, I think that's I

1074
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:34,400
Speaker 7: think it's like easy to get like I don't want

1075
00:43:34,400 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 7: to say pigeonhole, but it's easy to see somebody as one.

1076
00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:39,000
Speaker 2: Yes, same and yeah.

1077
00:43:39,040 --> 00:43:42,800
Speaker 3: And also have your agent be saying those specific things

1078
00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:45,920
Speaker 3: to casting directors and like saying, you know, Marty has

1079
00:43:45,920 --> 00:43:47,919
Speaker 3: these other talents and loves playing these you know, quote

1080
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:50,920
Speaker 3: unquote straight roles sort of thing, you know, comedy drama,

1081
00:43:51,040 --> 00:43:53,239
Speaker 3: that sort of thing. I know Clayton Ferris, who's like

1082
00:43:53,280 --> 00:43:56,440
Speaker 3: somebody I follow on TikTok. He is an actor and

1083
00:43:56,520 --> 00:43:58,799
Speaker 3: like kind of in the same vein went to his

1084
00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:00,839
Speaker 3: agent was like, listen, really want to do a movie

1085
00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:03,120
Speaker 3: this year, and then he wound up being in weapons.

1086
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 2: He's like the boyfriend of the principal.

1087
00:44:05,120 --> 00:44:07,759
Speaker 3: And then he was like I just said it and

1088
00:44:07,840 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 3: like stuck to my guns about it and it happened,

1089
00:44:10,320 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 3: you know. So I think having your agent expressing that

1090
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 3: to other people, and because people do just want to

1091
00:44:15,640 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 3: like go with the first thing they see, which is

1092
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 3: like dragon is more exciting than just like ye yeah person.

1093
00:44:21,320 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 5: So and I am not like a big I'm not

1094
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:26,480
Speaker 5: a big intention person and I man, I fact, like

1095
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:29,280
Speaker 5: I'm not that girl. But I do think because casting

1096
00:44:29,280 --> 00:44:32,759
Speaker 5: agents are so there, they are so stupid, like they

1097
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 5: could they can only see the thing that you're giving them,

1098
00:44:35,239 --> 00:44:37,880
Speaker 5: so like you have like drag can even be a

1099
00:44:37,920 --> 00:44:39,400
Speaker 5: part of it because one thing the drag is a

1100
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:41,239
Speaker 5: thing they've already written off in their minds, like well, no,

1101
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 5: he can't play that role because.

1102
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 4: He the dragon over here.

1103
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 5: So I think it's really being intentional about like only

1104
00:44:45,680 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 5: giving them the Marty Cummings as opposed to Marty Cummings,

1105
00:44:49,200 --> 00:44:49,719
Speaker 5: you know what I mean.

1106
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:52,320
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean I think that's like I was telling Catherine,

1107
00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:54,320
Speaker 7: like so many of these casting workers, they follow me,

1108
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:56,640
Speaker 7: they come to my shows, They're like, we love, we love,

1109
00:44:56,640 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 7: we love, we love, we love. And so I think

1110
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:01,480
Speaker 7: in their mind it's like Marty drag Marty, and I

1111
00:45:01,520 --> 00:45:03,360
Speaker 7: want like yeah, So I think like if my agent's

1112
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:06,120
Speaker 7: sending tapes of me out of drag, that will start

1113
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:07,480
Speaker 7: putting in their mind.

1114
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:08,520
Speaker 4: Like, oh, Marty is.

1115
00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 7: Like layered human being.

1116
00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:16,239
Speaker 5: You know. Also, maybe one thing this might be crazy,

1117
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:19,719
Speaker 5: but maybe you need to have another like acting name,

1118
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:23,080
Speaker 5: like be like Jake Sanchez. Maybe not saying that, maybe

1119
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:27,120
Speaker 5: be a problematic be be somebody else, be Tony Tony Smith.

1120
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 5: I don't know, like have like a different pseudonym for

1121
00:45:29,960 --> 00:45:32,839
Speaker 5: your acting, for out of for stuff that is not

1122
00:45:33,000 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 5: drag at all.

1123
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:37,399
Speaker 1: Have you tried boofing any of these directors that you're

1124
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:41,160
Speaker 1: auditioning for we just covered I just learned about boofing,

1125
00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:46,879
Speaker 1: and I'm very excited. Oh my god, Hello Marty, Mary.

1126
00:45:48,080 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 4: Your day. I've seen you booth them.

1127
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:51,400
Speaker 5: What is it?

1128
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:54,759
Speaker 4: What do you do something up your butthole about them?

1129
00:45:54,760 --> 00:46:04,000
Speaker 4: Something funny? That's that's going to be my name on

1130
00:46:04,040 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 4: the resume.

1131
00:46:05,400 --> 00:46:10,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, Marty, Marty boof boof That's cute that I.

1132
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:11,240
Speaker 5: Just broke a sweat.

1133
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:12,480
Speaker 4: Oh my god, talking about booy.

1134
00:46:14,520 --> 00:46:17,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would definitely be sweating if somebody boothed something

1135
00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:19,840
Speaker 1: up in my tushiy hole without a fore warning, but

1136
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:21,920
Speaker 1: at least hopefully, hopefully I would.

1137
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:22,520
Speaker 2: Have some sort of.

1138
00:46:24,120 --> 00:46:26,880
Speaker 5: Okay where I have for sure, for sure, this is

1139
00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:29,000
Speaker 5: so great that you ended up being being questions with.

1140
00:46:29,160 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 5: This is the Marty.

1141
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:32,160
Speaker 2: I think you have your marching orders, right, Marty.

1142
00:46:32,400 --> 00:46:35,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, I have a call with my agent tomorrow morning.

1143
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:36,880
Speaker 2: So i'll great perfect get on it.

1144
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:38,640
Speaker 5: Also signbar. I went to an artica.

1145
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:40,279
Speaker 4: Catherine told me you're going You're gonna love it. And

1146
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 4: when it smells disgusting.

1147
00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:43,880
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, great smells.

1148
00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:46,400
Speaker 1: I'll just snort a lot of Academy before I go

1149
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:50,800
Speaker 1: there so I won't smell anything booth academy okay, booth okay, sorry,

1150
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:52,799
Speaker 1: so I'll just yeah, then my asshole, i'd see. I've

1151
00:46:52,800 --> 00:46:54,480
Speaker 1: got to figure out which orifice to put on in.

1152
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:57,520
Speaker 1: It's so confusing now I'm so confused. But thank you,

1153
00:46:57,640 --> 00:47:02,799
Speaker 1: thank you, Marty. I appreciate your bye bye people.

1154
00:47:02,880 --> 00:47:06,319
Speaker 5: Also, sometimes booth alcohol like if you because sometimes you're

1155
00:47:06,320 --> 00:47:09,840
Speaker 5: allergic to you're allergic to it going down in something

1156
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:11,120
Speaker 5: in here, so they.

1157
00:47:11,080 --> 00:47:12,360
Speaker 2: It was allergic to alcohol.

1158
00:47:12,719 --> 00:47:14,279
Speaker 5: I know a lot of people, a lot of people,

1159
00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 5: especially vodka. People of vodka because of thee.

1160
00:47:16,800 --> 00:47:18,319
Speaker 1: And so the next move is to put it in

1161
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:23,680
Speaker 1: your butt. But if you're allergic to something, that putting

1162
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 1: it in your body in any capacity has got to

1163
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:26,439
Speaker 1: be bad.

1164
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:29,640
Speaker 5: I know the gaze their alcohol.

1165
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 1: Well, this doesn't sound like good advice anyway, Moving on, Catherine.

1166
00:47:33,280 --> 00:47:37,120
Speaker 3: All right, Well, our next color is Megan, and Megan says,

1167
00:47:37,480 --> 00:47:40,320
Speaker 3: today I'm writing to you for advice on an estranged

1168
00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:43,719
Speaker 3: father dynamic. I had a very normal childhood until about

1169
00:47:43,800 --> 00:47:46,359
Speaker 3: high school when my father's mental health took a huge hit.

1170
00:47:46,760 --> 00:47:48,880
Speaker 3: Turns out he had been sexually abused by a nun

1171
00:47:48,960 --> 00:47:51,360
Speaker 3: as a child, and about the time I hit fifth grade,

1172
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:53,560
Speaker 3: my father went off the deep end. He and my

1173
00:47:53,600 --> 00:47:55,919
Speaker 3: mom were separated off and on while I was a teen,

1174
00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:58,759
Speaker 3: with me confronting him over cheating with sex workers and

1175
00:47:58,800 --> 00:48:01,960
Speaker 3: then him destroying my mother financially in the divorce. His

1176
00:48:01,960 --> 00:48:04,920
Speaker 3: family is full of addicts, criminals, and just all around

1177
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:07,640
Speaker 3: con men. I've not had contact with my father in

1178
00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 3: the last fifteen years, despite him showing up at my

1179
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:13,360
Speaker 3: workplaces circling around my block and just generally trying to

1180
00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 3: make contact. I've never felt emotionally safe around him. Fast

1181
00:48:17,560 --> 00:48:19,600
Speaker 3: forward to this year, when I've started to wonder if

1182
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 3: I will ever have contact and how I'll feel if

1183
00:48:21,719 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 3: he passes away. I happened to google him and found

1184
00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:27,880
Speaker 3: out he recently won an eleven million dollars settlement in

1185
00:48:27,960 --> 00:48:29,360
Speaker 3: a personal injury lawsuit.

1186
00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 2: Time to time to contact him.

1187
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:34,920
Speaker 3: He's been living on disability, running scams, and working under

1188
00:48:34,960 --> 00:48:37,680
Speaker 3: the table to avoid paying off his debts, including tens

1189
00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:40,080
Speaker 3: of thousands he owes my mom in the divorce and

1190
00:48:40,200 --> 00:48:42,759
Speaker 3: eighteen years of child support he never paid for my

1191
00:48:42,840 --> 00:48:46,440
Speaker 3: half sister. My anger was palpable him living in a

1192
00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:49,400
Speaker 3: three million dollar mansion in Milwaukee that's a dream home

1193
00:48:49,719 --> 00:48:51,800
Speaker 3: with a brand new sports car, while I'm a struggling

1194
00:48:51,880 --> 00:48:54,000
Speaker 3: teacher and my mom had to put off retirement because

1195
00:48:54,000 --> 00:48:54,919
Speaker 3: he cleared out her four.

1196
00:48:54,840 --> 00:48:55,960
Speaker 2: Oh one k in the divorce.

1197
00:48:56,640 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 3: While I'm sitting here stewing on this information, cosmically, he

1198
00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:02,439
Speaker 3: just apparently knew what I was thinking about and sent

1199
00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 3: me an email apologizing for a quote things he had

1200
00:49:04,880 --> 00:49:07,000
Speaker 3: done wrong and asking for contact again.

1201
00:49:07,480 --> 00:49:08,279
Speaker 2: Do I meet with him?

1202
00:49:08,440 --> 00:49:11,200
Speaker 3: Should we have contact with parents just because there are parents,

1203
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:13,799
Speaker 3: so we don't have regrets or should I maintain my

1204
00:49:13,840 --> 00:49:16,440
Speaker 3: boundaries for my own mental health. This is the first

1205
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:19,480
Speaker 3: time he's ever owned any wrongdoing or offered an apology.

1206
00:49:19,560 --> 00:49:21,319
Speaker 3: But I also don't want it to seem like I'm

1207
00:49:21,360 --> 00:49:24,200
Speaker 3: suddenly returning because he has money. Now I have two

1208
00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:26,400
Speaker 3: small children that he has never met and who I

1209
00:49:26,440 --> 00:49:29,400
Speaker 3: haven't even considered introducing him to. I also feel like

1210
00:49:29,480 --> 00:49:31,240
Speaker 3: I might owe it to my mom and half sister

1211
00:49:31,360 --> 00:49:33,120
Speaker 3: to try and get them back the money they're owed.

1212
00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:36,400
Speaker 3: I'd appreciate your thoughts on family boundaries and estrangement.

1213
00:49:36,560 --> 00:49:40,799
Speaker 2: Thanks for all you do. Meghan. Hi, Megan, Hi, how

1214
00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:42,400
Speaker 2: are you hi?

1215
00:49:42,640 --> 00:49:45,440
Speaker 1: This is our special guest when I exchange here today

1216
00:49:45,760 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 1: me to you.

1217
00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 2: So funny, Meghan.

1218
00:49:47,840 --> 00:49:50,879
Speaker 1: We just had a conversation with somebody who had come

1219
00:49:50,920 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 1: into a lot of buddy and was starting to loan

1220
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:56,719
Speaker 1: it out to people and wondering what their boundaries should

1221
00:49:56,760 --> 00:50:00,000
Speaker 1: be about that because all of these people started, you know, approach.

1222
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:02,960
Speaker 1: But this is a different situation because your father is

1223
00:50:03,040 --> 00:50:04,799
Speaker 1: trying to reach out to you, and you got an

1224
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:06,680
Speaker 1: email that you hadn't gotten before.

1225
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:10,040
Speaker 2: My impetus I'm up two schools of thought for this.

1226
00:50:10,600 --> 00:50:13,239
Speaker 1: I would be motivated to reimburse your mother and your

1227
00:50:13,239 --> 00:50:15,879
Speaker 1: sister for the money that he never neglected to pay them.

1228
00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:18,919
Speaker 1: That would be my motivation for connecting with your father.

1229
00:50:19,360 --> 00:50:22,640
Speaker 1: But he also did apologize in this email, which you

1230
00:50:22,960 --> 00:50:26,240
Speaker 1: said to something he's never done before, right, never.

1231
00:50:26,600 --> 00:50:27,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so.

1232
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:30,879
Speaker 1: This is the first apology he's made to you. Absolutely,

1233
00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:32,320
Speaker 1: And how does that make you feel?

1234
00:50:33,239 --> 00:50:37,400
Speaker 6: Yeah, there's been years of no ownership, no talking. So

1235
00:50:37,560 --> 00:50:40,440
Speaker 6: angry but also anger for my mother When I mentioned

1236
00:50:40,440 --> 00:50:42,879
Speaker 6: it to her. Her reaction like I could just see

1237
00:50:42,920 --> 00:50:45,560
Speaker 6: the disappointment that he harmed her in so many ways

1238
00:50:46,080 --> 00:50:48,640
Speaker 6: and she didn't get any ounce of an apology. And

1239
00:50:48,760 --> 00:50:51,520
Speaker 6: he said that this stemmed from him. He perseverates in

1240
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 6: this trial of the abuse that happened to him, and

1241
00:50:54,080 --> 00:50:55,839
Speaker 6: he had been rereading the trial and found a letter

1242
00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:57,719
Speaker 6: I wrote wrote to the court, and he had like

1243
00:50:57,840 --> 00:51:01,280
Speaker 6: realized first time that I think he recognized anything outside

1244
00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:03,960
Speaker 6: his own world, Like in all of this, he's the

1245
00:51:04,040 --> 00:51:06,719
Speaker 6: victim in everything, and I think he just like for

1246
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 6: the first time, was starting to deal the end. He's

1247
00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:11,640
Speaker 6: a lonely old man who doesn't have his family in

1248
00:51:11,640 --> 00:51:14,240
Speaker 6: his life, and I think that's really hard and money

1249
00:51:14,239 --> 00:51:15,360
Speaker 6: doesn't solve your problems.

1250
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:17,520
Speaker 8: So I think that was him reaching out.

1251
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:21,080
Speaker 1: I think that you this is a great opportunity for

1252
00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:22,799
Speaker 1: you to say, hey, listen, I know that you've come

1253
00:51:22,800 --> 00:51:25,080
Speaker 1: into eleven million dollars that you want a lawsuit. If

1254
00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 1: you want to speak to me, the way that you

1255
00:51:26,680 --> 00:51:28,799
Speaker 1: could speak to me and to move forward in our

1256
00:51:28,800 --> 00:51:31,520
Speaker 1: relationship is to do right by my mom and do

1257
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:34,959
Speaker 1: right by my sister and catalog all of the money

1258
00:51:35,000 --> 00:51:38,000
Speaker 1: that he didn't pay and child support and alimony, Catalog

1259
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:40,719
Speaker 1: all of that, and reiterate what your mom had to do,

1260
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:42,640
Speaker 1: how she had to not I think you said she

1261
00:51:42,640 --> 00:51:45,239
Speaker 1: didn't retire on time because she had to work right.

1262
00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:48,880
Speaker 1: Reiterate all of those things, and say, this is the

1263
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:51,279
Speaker 1: decent thing to do, and when, if, and when you

1264
00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:53,399
Speaker 1: do this, if you decide to do the right thing,

1265
00:51:53,600 --> 00:51:55,120
Speaker 1: then I would be willing to talk to you.

1266
00:51:55,560 --> 00:51:58,080
Speaker 3: I'm also going to add an asterisk to that because

1267
00:51:58,200 --> 00:52:01,719
Speaker 3: I have recently learned that in some states like this

1268
00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:03,719
Speaker 3: is state dependent, so you'll have to figure out what's

1269
00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:06,480
Speaker 3: you know with your state. But in some states, the

1270
00:52:06,600 --> 00:52:09,759
Speaker 3: child support stuff never goes away, so if the authorities

1271
00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:12,239
Speaker 3: are let know that he has this money, the money

1272
00:52:12,280 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 3: should just get like taken out of his account and

1273
00:52:14,440 --> 00:52:17,120
Speaker 3: literally put into your mom's account. Like it depends on

1274
00:52:17,239 --> 00:52:19,319
Speaker 3: the state, like I said, but some of this money

1275
00:52:19,400 --> 00:52:22,080
Speaker 3: might be able to be just transferred right over.

1276
00:52:22,360 --> 00:52:24,839
Speaker 6: We found out Wisconsin law doesn't get my sister anything back.

1277
00:52:24,840 --> 00:52:27,080
Speaker 6: Her stepfather is a lawyer, so they looked into it.

1278
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:30,080
Speaker 6: So there's a statue imitations on it. Hers is gone,

1279
00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:32,839
Speaker 6: but my mother has consulted a lawyer and is now

1280
00:52:32,840 --> 00:52:33,879
Speaker 6: going to go forward with it.

1281
00:52:34,440 --> 00:52:37,000
Speaker 2: Great, Yeah, great, awesome, that's amazing.

1282
00:52:37,160 --> 00:52:40,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that like, yes, he is.

1283
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:41,960
Speaker 5: He seems to be in a different place where he's

1284
00:52:42,000 --> 00:52:45,440
Speaker 5: apologized making those who apologize and amend his wrongs. But

1285
00:52:45,520 --> 00:52:47,800
Speaker 5: for me, a big part of that is the atonement

1286
00:52:48,080 --> 00:52:50,600
Speaker 5: the reparations for the wrongs you have done. So until

1287
00:52:50,680 --> 00:52:52,880
Speaker 5: he's able to do that is probably going to be

1288
00:52:52,920 --> 00:52:55,680
Speaker 5: really hard for me. I'm going to get for you, Meghan,

1289
00:52:55,880 --> 00:52:58,319
Speaker 5: probably virtually impossible to move on when you are not

1290
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:01,839
Speaker 5: righting the wrongs that you do, which is giving us

1291
00:53:01,840 --> 00:53:04,239
Speaker 5: this money back, like you have you use camped out

1292
00:53:04,280 --> 00:53:06,080
Speaker 5: on all these years of caring for me and for

1293
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:07,880
Speaker 5: caring for my mother and all this stuff. So you

1294
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:11,600
Speaker 5: he asks to atone to make you want to feel

1295
00:53:11,600 --> 00:53:14,160
Speaker 5: like this relationship is repaarable, because right now it doesn't

1296
00:53:14,160 --> 00:53:16,479
Speaker 5: seem like it is. And you come into eleven million

1297
00:53:16,480 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 5: dollars in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. You can live off a million

1298
00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:22,239
Speaker 5: dollars for the next twenty centuries. Eleven million dollars. You'll

1299
00:53:22,280 --> 00:53:25,640
Speaker 5: be just fine if you give whatever he's owed to you,

1300
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:27,960
Speaker 5: your sister and your mom to move on and nd

1301
00:53:28,040 --> 00:53:31,759
Speaker 5: y'all can build you know, a family dynamic hopefull again

1302
00:53:31,840 --> 00:53:34,040
Speaker 5: or whatever that looks like now that you're grown and

1303
00:53:34,040 --> 00:53:36,480
Speaker 5: you're not a child anymore, whatever whatever that wants like

1304
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:38,440
Speaker 5: for you, and you know, and in regards to him

1305
00:53:38,440 --> 00:53:40,239
Speaker 5: being your father, yes, he's your father, but he's a

1306
00:53:40,239 --> 00:53:42,360
Speaker 5: fucking human being first, so needs to fix what you

1307
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:44,239
Speaker 5: need to do to he could you guys can all

1308
00:53:44,280 --> 00:53:47,719
Speaker 5: move on and you know, build something nice hopefully if

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Speaker 5: you want that.

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Speaker 2: Meg, what do you think about this? Meg?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, that makes a ton of sense.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, good, let us know what happens.

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Speaker 1: I will okay, cool, Well send him that email and

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Speaker 1: you know, catalog everything for him so he's not confused.

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Speaker 1: About anything, and then you know, based out and then

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Speaker 1: the ball's in his court and he can decide.

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Speaker 2: And maybe increase the amounts for inflation exactly.

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Speaker 5: Hello, Catherine, Absolutely girl.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and pain and suffering and whatever else you decide

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Speaker 1: to throw in there.

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Speaker 8: We actually looked at it.

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Speaker 6: There's a clause at their divorce that he owes interest

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Speaker 6: that was specifically written in, so it actually comes out

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00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:26,200
Speaker 6: like with interest of seventeen years, it comes out to

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Speaker 6: be a lot more for my mom.

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Speaker 8: So hopefully she'll at the very least get that back.

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Speaker 3: Great amazing, right, Well, keep us posted, Okay, keep us posted.

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Speaker 2: Thanks Meg, Thank you.

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Speaker 8: I appreciate your time, Catherine.

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Speaker 5: I had to say, I listen to y'alls pod so often.

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Speaker 5: I just love your haircut. It'scious you.

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Speaker 3: I was pink untillery recently and then I chopped it

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Speaker 3: all off about six months ago.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, thank you. I appreciate it.

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Speaker 4: Youply.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So we'll take a break and come back and

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Speaker 1: do a last yeah quickie, Okay, Okay, we'll be right

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Speaker 1: back with the Momney Exchange and.

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Speaker 2: We're back live from Rochester, New York.

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Speaker 4: I'm black, we're back.

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Speaker 2: We're black, and we're all women in here. Yes, okay.

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Speaker 3: So our last question comes from Brandon and the subject

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Speaker 3: line is my boyfriend won't shut the fuck up about

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Speaker 3: his job. Dear Chelsea, my boyfriend and I have been

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Speaker 3: together for over two years, and I love him very much.

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Speaker 3: We have so much fun together when he gets out

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00:55:23,640 --> 00:55:25,560
Speaker 3: of his head about work, But most of the time

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Speaker 3: he won't shut the fuck up about his job and

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Speaker 3: how good he is at it. Oh, he loves his

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00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:32,760
Speaker 3: job and says so all the time. I'm so happy

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00:55:32,800 --> 00:55:34,719
Speaker 3: for him and proud of his hard work and success,

1352
00:55:34,760 --> 00:55:36,839
Speaker 3: but it's not the only thing I want to talk about.

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00:55:37,080 --> 00:55:40,279
Speaker 3: It can also come off as very braggadocious sometimes, and

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00:55:40,320 --> 00:55:42,520
Speaker 3: I can't help but roll my eyes on the inside.

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00:55:42,680 --> 00:55:44,600
Speaker 3: We work in the same industry, so part of me

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00:55:44,719 --> 00:55:47,560
Speaker 3: wonders if that's why I don't enjoy the conversation. I

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00:55:47,600 --> 00:55:50,920
Speaker 3: even try to casually change the conversation sometimes, but still

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00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:54,360
Speaker 3: work seems to be his favorite topic. He's so preoccupied

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00:55:54,480 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 3: that even when we go out on dates, I can

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00:55:56,239 --> 00:55:58,719
Speaker 3: see he's in his head. When I ask what he's

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00:55:58,760 --> 00:56:01,480
Speaker 3: thinking about, he replies, we're work and then goes into detail.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes he can't sleep at night because he can't stop

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Speaker 3: thinking about work. He acknowledges the fact that his brain

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00:56:06,560 --> 00:56:08,840
Speaker 3: never stops working, so that's a positive step in the

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Speaker 3: right direction. I suppose he really is very successful at

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Speaker 3: his job and constantly winning awards and acknowledgments. I'm so

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Speaker 3: proud of him and try to be supportive, but I

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00:56:17,760 --> 00:56:21,160
Speaker 3: can't take this never ending conversation about work. Any words

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00:56:21,160 --> 00:56:23,560
Speaker 3: of wisdom are greatly appreciated. I think you should just

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00:56:23,680 --> 00:56:25,319
Speaker 3: read that letter to him.

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00:56:26,040 --> 00:56:28,520
Speaker 1: I honestly think I should just read that letter to him,

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00:56:28,560 --> 00:56:30,920
Speaker 1: because you have to be direct about it, and you

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00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:33,280
Speaker 1: have to be like, nobody wants to hear about somebody's

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Speaker 1: job all day long.

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Speaker 2: Nobody wants to hear about it, especially when you work

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00:56:36,040 --> 00:56:37,920
Speaker 2: in the same no, exactly.

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Speaker 1: Like, you've got to have a sense of self and

1378
00:56:39,160 --> 00:56:42,440
Speaker 1: also you know the ingredients to be a successful human being.

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00:56:43,000 --> 00:56:44,520
Speaker 1: Mean that you have to have more than one thing

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Speaker 1: going on in your life, like not just work. It

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00:56:47,080 --> 00:56:49,640
Speaker 1: can't be one dimensional like that. You're in a relationship,

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00:56:49,680 --> 00:56:51,520
Speaker 1: There's got to be other shit to talk about.

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00:56:51,760 --> 00:56:53,359
Speaker 5: There's nothing I want to hear about all day long

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00:56:53,400 --> 00:56:55,480
Speaker 5: except for moving. Nothing else, I mean nothing.

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Speaker 1: You meet both, sister, I mean now that I know

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00:56:57,680 --> 00:56:59,680
Speaker 1: about moofing. It's all I want to talk about.

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00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:02,040
Speaker 5: And it does so annoying to hear you just talking

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00:57:02,040 --> 00:57:03,960
Speaker 5: about your job all the time, over and over and

1389
00:57:03,960 --> 00:57:06,160
Speaker 5: over again. Like at least like make me bring up

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Speaker 5: something like, let me give you promise about your job.

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00:57:08,080 --> 00:57:09,440
Speaker 5: I don't want to hear you bring it up all

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Speaker 5: the time. Let me be impressed by it. And again,

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Speaker 5: I know in this day and age where a lot

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00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:15,839
Speaker 5: of my straygo friends are dating guys that can't find

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00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:17,880
Speaker 5: the job and don't fucking work. I know if finding

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00:57:17,920 --> 00:57:20,040
Speaker 5: a dude that does have a job is very proactive,

1397
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:22,640
Speaker 5: but you're on the outer end of the spectrum now,

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00:57:22,680 --> 00:57:23,880
Speaker 5: he won't fucking shut up about it.

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Speaker 4: So yeah, that seems like a lot.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely so. Yeah.

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00:57:27,440 --> 00:57:30,000
Speaker 3: Also, this to me a little bit smacks of like

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00:57:30,880 --> 00:57:32,919
Speaker 3: maybe do some testing and seef he's got like either

1403
00:57:32,960 --> 00:57:35,720
Speaker 3: ADHD or some oc that he can't stop sort of

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00:57:35,760 --> 00:57:39,520
Speaker 3: like spiraling and like thinking about work. That's a good idea, yeah,

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00:57:39,720 --> 00:57:42,080
Speaker 3: and maybe if not, then just a little therapy.

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00:57:42,120 --> 00:57:44,200
Speaker 1: So if he does have any of those things, you

1407
00:57:44,240 --> 00:57:47,000
Speaker 1: can boof him his adderall or you can boof him

1408
00:57:47,040 --> 00:57:50,360
Speaker 1: some vibance, just shove the pills right up his asshole.

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00:57:50,360 --> 00:57:52,560
Speaker 1: If you have been listening to this episode, everyone, when

1410
00:57:52,600 --> 00:57:54,280
Speaker 1: you get off of this episode, I want to get

1411
00:57:54,280 --> 00:57:56,560
Speaker 1: your dad listening to just please try putting something in

1412
00:57:56,560 --> 00:57:58,760
Speaker 1: your butt. I'm kid kidding. I don't want everyone to

1413
00:57:58,800 --> 00:58:00,200
Speaker 1: try that, but if you want to try it, go

1414
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:02,840
Speaker 1: for it. But I'm not a doctor and I'm also

1415
00:58:02,880 --> 00:58:03,560
Speaker 1: not a therapist.

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00:58:03,600 --> 00:58:03,760
Speaker 2: You know.

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00:58:03,800 --> 00:58:06,000
Speaker 1: I was listening to mel Robinson's podcast the other day

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00:58:06,040 --> 00:58:08,000
Speaker 1: and at the end of her podcast, she goes, I

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00:58:08,040 --> 00:58:10,240
Speaker 1: am not a doctor. There's a whole spiel about her

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00:58:10,280 --> 00:58:12,040
Speaker 1: not being a doctor or a therapist. I'm like, why

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00:58:12,040 --> 00:58:13,680
Speaker 1: don't we do that at the end of mine, Like

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00:58:13,760 --> 00:58:16,919
Speaker 1: you've got it in the description, Okay, right, great, Because

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00:58:16,920 --> 00:58:19,320
Speaker 1: I was like, she's she's not even giving advice, like

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00:58:19,360 --> 00:58:21,640
Speaker 1: I'm giving advice. She kind of just like you know,

1425
00:58:22,080 --> 00:58:25,920
Speaker 1: gives advice and posts it. It's like, anyway, money, I

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00:58:25,960 --> 00:58:26,720
Speaker 1: love you.

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00:58:26,440 --> 00:58:27,160
Speaker 2: You're so funny.

1428
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:27,720
Speaker 5: I love you.

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00:58:27,720 --> 00:58:30,000
Speaker 1: You're the best, and I hope you have a great tour.

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00:58:30,280 --> 00:58:33,120
Speaker 1: Everyone buy tickets from monaics Jade dot com. You can

1431
00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:33,960
Speaker 1: get the tickets there.

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00:58:34,280 --> 00:58:36,480
Speaker 4: And also, Chelsea, I want to come open for you somewhere.

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00:58:36,560 --> 00:58:38,320
Speaker 1: I would love that I would love for us to

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00:58:38,320 --> 00:58:42,600
Speaker 1: spend a weekend, a romantic boofing weekend together in some

1435
00:58:43,560 --> 00:58:46,200
Speaker 1: in a very exotic locale like Ohio.

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00:58:46,680 --> 00:58:47,360
Speaker 2: My god, I'm glad.

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00:58:47,960 --> 00:58:49,960
Speaker 5: I can I tell you I hate the state of Ohio.

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00:58:50,000 --> 00:58:54,080
Speaker 5: What an awful blaze? Cleveland, Columbus. Uh it is?

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00:58:55,320 --> 00:58:57,880
Speaker 2: You mean all the all the places in Ohio. Well

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00:58:57,880 --> 00:58:59,520
Speaker 2: that's good to know. Hopefully you won't stop there on

1441
00:58:59,520 --> 00:58:59,880
Speaker 2: your tour.

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00:59:01,160 --> 00:59:03,280
Speaker 4: I avoid Ohio like the blake.

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00:59:03,680 --> 00:59:05,880
Speaker 1: Okay, Monday, I will please hit me up. You have

1444
00:59:05,960 --> 00:59:07,600
Speaker 1: my phone numbers, so hit me up when you're back

1445
00:59:07,760 --> 00:59:09,040
Speaker 1: in La where I.

1446
00:59:09,000 --> 00:59:09,560
Speaker 2: Know that you live.

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00:59:09,640 --> 00:59:12,880
Speaker 5: Now you don't, Chelsea, We're gonna have the same conversation

1448
00:59:12,880 --> 00:59:14,400
Speaker 5: about two months if I girl, I'm in New York

1449
00:59:14,400 --> 00:59:15,960
Speaker 5: where you're at, I'm like, I'm in a.

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00:59:16,040 --> 00:59:21,080
Speaker 2: Rolling blackout of life. So okay, so fun, love you.

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00:59:21,400 --> 00:59:22,520
Speaker 2: I have a great day.

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00:59:22,840 --> 00:59:29,960
Speaker 9: By the word of the week is perseverate, verb to

1453
00:59:30,080 --> 00:59:33,440
Speaker 9: intently focus one's attention on a thought or thoughts.

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00:59:33,880 --> 00:59:39,240
Speaker 2: Fixate, used in a sentence. Chelsea will continue to perseverate

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00:59:39,400 --> 00:59:42,640
Speaker 2: on boofing all week. Perseverate.

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00:59:44,320 --> 00:59:46,200
Speaker 1: I just announced all my tour dates. It's called the

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00:59:46,400 --> 00:59:47,640
Speaker 1: High and Mighty Tour.

1458
00:59:48,240 --> 00:59:52,120
Speaker 2: I will be touring from February through June, so go

1459
00:59:52,160 --> 00:59:52,600
Speaker 2: get your.

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00:59:52,480 --> 00:59:55,040
Speaker 1: Tickets now if you want good seats and you want

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00:59:55,040 --> 00:59:57,120
Speaker 1: to come see me perform, I will be on the

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00:59:57,240 --> 00:59:58,600
Speaker 1: High and Mighty tour.

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Speaker 8: Do you want advice from Chelsea?

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01:00:00,640 --> 01:00:04,160
Speaker 3: Right into Dear Chelsea Podcast at gmail dot com. Find

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01:00:04,160 --> 01:00:07,320
Speaker 3: full video episodes of Dear Chelsea on YouTube by searching

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Speaker 3: at Dear Chelsea Pod.

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Speaker 2: Dear Chelsea is edited

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Speaker 3: And engineered by Brad Dickert executive producer Katherine law And

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01:00:14,680 --> 01:00:16,880
Speaker 3: be sure to check out our merch at Chelseahandler dot

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