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Speaker 2: My husband's family falsely called CPS on me.

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Speaker 1: Well you should falsely imprison them.

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Speaker 2: Me female twenty one and my male twenty three husband

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Speaker 2: have a son seven months. Our house gets messy, not

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Speaker 2: gonna lie. Yeah, we have trash like pizza boxes on

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Speaker 2: the counter or takeout box occasionally, and our counters get

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Speaker 2: full with mail or whatever. But we always do our

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Speaker 2: best to clean the place up and make sure it's

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Speaker 2: safe for our son. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, I'm Keon, and we're here to

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Speaker 1: give good advice.

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Speaker 2: Goofy, But we don't have all the answers. We only

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Speaker 2: would do in the comments. And OHP says a few

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Speaker 2: days ago, I decided it was time to deep clean

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Speaker 2: and baby proof everything, So I absolutely destroyed the house.

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Speaker 2: I had stuff from the bathroom in the living room, trash,

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Speaker 2: unsafe items in a huge box to throw out, and

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Speaker 2: ran out of trash bag, so I asked my husband's

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Speaker 2: mom if she had spared to bring. She brought some

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Speaker 2: and ended up bringing my brother in law and his

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Speaker 2: wife to see the baby. I warned her before she

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Speaker 2: got there that it was an absolute mess because we

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Speaker 2: were deep cleaning and rearranging. Everything was fine. They played

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Speaker 2: with my son and I left. A day later, the

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Speaker 2: police showed up at my door saying they wanted a

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Speaker 2: wellness check on my son because he was crying for hours.

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Speaker 2: He didn't cry that night and cried for like three

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Speaker 2: minutes while I made him a bottle. The cop said

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Speaker 2: even gave us advice if he does start crying.

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Speaker 1: So who called you and said he was crying for hours?

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Speaker 1: Because that's a lie?

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Speaker 2: Who called you?

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Speaker 1: Who could have who done this? Who could have done this?

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Speaker 2: They left and we thought nothing of it. Probably an

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Speaker 2: annoyed neighbor or someone being petty whatever, not a huge deal,

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Speaker 2: or shall we thought? Two days later, I get woken

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Speaker 2: up to a call from CPS saying there were allegations made.

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Speaker 2: I asked if it was because of the wellness call,

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Speaker 2: the police showing up days prior. Anyways, fast forward a

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Speaker 2: few hours, CPS shows up. She takes two steps inside

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Speaker 2: and looks confused, then says, before I read this, can

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Speaker 2: I just take a look around. She does a quick look,

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Speaker 2: not even more than a few seconds, in each room,

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Speaker 2: she says, clearly what I have here is false, and

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Speaker 2: She proceeds to tell us the accusations. Crash covering the

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Speaker 2: paper covered in feces all over the place, the bathtub

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Speaker 2: baby has welts and open wounds on privates and legs,

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Speaker 2: of how outrageous and bad these accusations are. Yes, worse

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Speaker 2: the case, we'll close and ask personal questions, you know,

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Speaker 2: routine stuff. But this is how I know for a

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Speaker 2: fact it was either mother in law, sister and brother

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Speaker 2: could only be the people who were in my house

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Speaker 2: nosey neighbors looking into your house. I contacted her brother

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Speaker 2: in law and asked if they called. They said no,

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Speaker 2: my husband said, if it was mother in law, she

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so that was your mother. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: The brother said, if you keep mom from seeing him,

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Speaker 2: we're disowning you.

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Speaker 1: Oh, the old Uno reverse card of no, no, we're

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Speaker 1: gonna do it to you first. Great, I don't care

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Speaker 2: If you say that mom can't see your son, that

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Speaker 2: you're never going to see Mom's that was the plan.

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Speaker 3: I'm responding with, Well, consider us disowned.

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Speaker 2: We also figured out that the cops reported back to

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Speaker 2: they called CPS because they did not like that the

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Speaker 2: police did not step in. My husband thinks he should

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Speaker 2: go off on all of them and cut ties due

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Speaker 2: to the behavior, the accusation, and already rocky relationship prior

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Speaker 2: to this. But we already know they're going to spin

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Speaker 2: it and say we are the ales to the rest

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Speaker 2: of his relatives. So would we be the ales if

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Speaker 2: we cut ties with them? And there isn't ed it.

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Speaker 2: I mean, if you can go to your relatives first

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Speaker 2: and say hey, this is the situation. Otherwise, anyone who

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Speaker 1: How would they even spin it? It's a false accusation.

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Speaker 1: They said your they said your batsub was full of feces.

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Speaker 1: They said that there was doodoo butt toilet paper all

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Speaker 3: There was pepe and poo poo and coca all over

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Speaker 1: He said there was so much trash in your house

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Speaker 2: They said your baby was like had open wounds.

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Speaker 1: Their accusations were so insane that the CPS worker opened

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Speaker 1: your door and was like, wait, is this the right place? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Can you like sue for that?

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Speaker 1: They should be held accountable?

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Speaker 2: I would, I mean, and I'm presumably I wonder if

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Speaker 2: you I mean, it's a false police report at least

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Speaker 2: a false police report. Edit. We are definitely going no contact.

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Speaker 2: I am most likely going to share and post this

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Speaker 2: to show that clearly we are not the ales here.

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Speaker 2: And there is an update just to clarify and add

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Speaker 2: more context. Mother in law absolutely hates me because I

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Speaker 2: am a fat white witch, in her words, corrupting her

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Speaker 2: sweet baby boy. I have been with him almost ten years.

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Speaker 2: We have been dating since like eleven or twelve ish,

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Speaker 2: moved in together at seventeen. Dang what she tried to

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Speaker 1: What? Okay? All right?

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Speaker 2: Did you meet online? Okay?

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Speaker 1: We got a lot going on here.

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Speaker 3: They said they met at eleven.

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Speaker 1: I would assume they went to school, probably together.

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Speaker 2: School, but she moved states to be with them.

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Speaker 1: Maybe they was it a pen pop. Maybe they I'm wondering.

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Speaker 1: Maybe Roadblocks talked.

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Speaker 2: Crap about me to the entire family and has called

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Speaker 2: I moved in, saying we were on substances and all

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Speaker 2: the mental mind fs this woman has put us through

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Speaker 2: in the past. More recent events with her, when I

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Speaker 2: When I was in labor, she sat outside the hospital,

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Speaker 2: Once my son was born, he was metavacked to another

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Speaker 1: Freakish. That's crazy, freakish behavior.

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Speaker 2: I mean after that, I would have wanted to go

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Speaker 2: no contact. Yeah. She treated it like a vacation the

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Speaker 2: she quit her job and moved in with us. Why

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Speaker 1: Why she do that? Why did she do that?

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Speaker 2: She lived two hours away and add a six thousand

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Speaker 2: She stayed there rent free. All we asked for was

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Speaker 2: then feeds my newborn water after specifically telling her that

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Speaker 1: Don't believe you. By baby's made out of water, How

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Speaker 1: could water harm the babies?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we're we're mostly water.

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Speaker 2: Right after day two and this incident, and we were

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Speaker 2: our lazy, neglectful parents. She changed two diapers and took

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Speaker 2: and sister in law. Sister in law was infertile for years.

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Speaker 2: They tried and tried. Once I fell pregnant, brother in

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Speaker 2: law said completely seriously, we should let them adopt her baby.

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Speaker 1: What is wrong with these You know there's other babies

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Speaker 1: you can adopt.

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Speaker 2: I was still pregnant at the time. They called and

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Speaker 2: harassed us constantly about how mother in law needed help.

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Speaker 2: Then you help her.

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Speaker 1: She don't deserve no help from us. She fed my

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Speaker 1: baby water. Yeah. Wow.

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Speaker 2: Also, we were being sarcastic about the water. We know

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Speaker 2: you're not supposed to that that. We were being very sarcastic.

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Speaker 1: No, I think anything you are made mostly out of

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Speaker 1: That's why I drink the water fast enough. If you're underwater,

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Speaker 1: I love the idea of having no contact with these

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Speaker 2: Agreed, get them out of your life, Get them out

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Speaker 3: Who would do such a thing.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes sometimes cutting the thread is easier than maintaining the thread.

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Speaker 1: My husband says I'm too harsh while I do everything

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Speaker 4: I'm Dakota, I'm Sophia, I'm key On, and we are

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Speaker 1: Gooflee. But we don't have all the answers. We just

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Speaker 2: For me, it'd be taken out of the trash.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's good that I I hate doing it and

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Speaker 1: I said, I have to do the dishes because clearly,

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Speaker 2: I was playing Call of Duty.

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Speaker 1: It's an online game. There's no pause button.

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Speaker 2: It's my duty. I've got to answer the call.

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Speaker 1: This guy canna be named this guy to call of poopy, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Oh, you said duty and I said dirty. We were

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Speaker 1: As you can tell, this is not the first time

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Speaker 2: And if I may add and not doing the dishes.

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Speaker 1: We basically had a big, knockdown, drag out fight about

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Speaker 1: My husband told me that I needed to stop being

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Speaker 1: chore list written on our calendar in the living room

441
00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:18,560
Speaker 1: and that he needs to be doing it at least

442
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Speaker 1: once a week. My husband proceeded to pull out his

443
00:20:21,119 --> 00:20:23,680
Speaker 1: phone notes and said, tell me specifically what I need

444
00:20:23,720 --> 00:20:27,200
Speaker 1: to do. Go look at the freakin' list. You've got

445
00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:30,760
Speaker 1: the list. The list is downstairs. It's already written.

446
00:20:31,200 --> 00:20:33,120
Speaker 2: It's written, it's written.

447
00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:36,680
Speaker 1: So I listed off the four chores I mentioned earlier

448
00:20:36,920 --> 00:20:38,919
Speaker 1: and stated that he needed to be more present with

449
00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:40,959
Speaker 1: our son. I didn't feel like this was too much

450
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Speaker 1: of an ask, and he stated, I will start doing better. Well,

451
00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:46,640
Speaker 1: thank god, now that it's written in the notes app

452
00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:48,439
Speaker 1: in his phone, he's gonna understand it.

453
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Speaker 2: He's like, I wasn't going to remember this before, but

454
00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:55,040
Speaker 2: I've set a timer for every every four hours. It

455
00:20:55,119 --> 00:20:56,920
Speaker 2: tells me, I need to start doing better.

456
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Speaker 1: What a knuckle dragon, Simeon of a man ape brain.

457
00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:06,240
Speaker 1: That was a stellar, stellar, Thank you, Colin. I didn't

458
00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:08,639
Speaker 1: feel like this was too much, he says. Oh, st

459
00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:12,720
Speaker 1: I rolled my eyes and told him that is what

460
00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:15,600
Speaker 1: you say every time, And granted, you do make a

461
00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:17,640
Speaker 1: change for about two weeks, but then you go back

462
00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:19,960
Speaker 1: to not even the bare minimum, leading us to the

463
00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:23,200
Speaker 1: same fight basically every two or three months. To add

464
00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:26,080
Speaker 1: to the situation, my husband has a problem with corn

465
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Speaker 1: and has been working really hard to overcome his problem.

466
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Speaker 1: Overcome his problem sounds like that is his problem. Oh,

467
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, and is around to day one hundred and

468
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Speaker 1: fifteen of being clean. I've told him how proud I

469
00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:42,160
Speaker 1: am of him, but it doesn't seem to be enough.

470
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Speaker 1: I guess what I'm trying to say is am I

471
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Speaker 1: the a hole for not being more kind when discussing

472
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Speaker 1: this with my husband? Do y'all have any advice for

473
00:21:49,560 --> 00:21:52,320
Speaker 1: ways I can approach things in a better manner? And

474
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Speaker 1: there is an update?

475
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Speaker 2: I am at a loss cause you have basically walked

476
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Speaker 2: him through ought to be a parent and an adult,

477
00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:05,240
Speaker 2: step by step, and it's still not fully sinking in

478
00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:09,280
Speaker 2: so I guess just hope that he actually starts doing better.

479
00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:11,720
Speaker 1: Maybe just try post it notes, post it notes, yeah,

480
00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:13,040
Speaker 1: post it notes.

481
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Speaker 3: Everywhere, passive passive, aggressive post it notes.

482
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Speaker 2: It looks like one of those conspiracy theorists houses. There's

483
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Speaker 2: red red.

484
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Speaker 1: Uh yeah, yeah, have a post it note on the

485
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Speaker 1: wall that says dishes, and then have a red string

486
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Speaker 1: and it goes from the post it note to the

487
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Speaker 1: dishes he needs to put away.

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Speaker 2: I think that would work.

489
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Speaker 1: And he just follows the string like, oh oh oh oh,

490
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Speaker 1: the dishes that I can see with my eyeballs, I

491
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Speaker 1: guess I'll put those away, And.

492
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Speaker 2: Right next to the dishes is a Scooby snack.

493
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Speaker 1: Honestly, the AI robot that does chores is better than

494
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Speaker 1: your husband. I think what you need to do marry

495
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Speaker 1: the AI robot. I think he needs to go to

496
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Speaker 1: him and says.

497
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Speaker 2: Can you do the dishes for a Scooby snack? And

498
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Speaker 2: he says, oh, Scooby snack.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if he's gonna act like a teenager,

500
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Speaker 3: treat him like a teenager, take away his game console. Yeah, man, yeah,

501
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:03,800
Speaker 3: until he does the chores, and then you're.

502
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Speaker 2: Like, you shouldn't have to do that though.

503
00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:06,920
Speaker 3: You shouldn't have to do that. But if he's gonna

504
00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,280
Speaker 3: act like a manchild, treat him like a manchild.

505
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Speaker 2: I don't want to be married to a child.

506
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Speaker 1: So yeah, it's true. Thank God. Update. I just wanted

507
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Speaker 1: to add what has happened since I made the post

508
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Speaker 1: A couple days ago. My husband had not unloaded the

509
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Speaker 1: dishes after three days, and we were both getting ready

510
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Speaker 1: for the day yesterday morning, so I asked him to

511
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:26,240
Speaker 1: unload the dishes. He started to say, but I was

512
00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:29,680
Speaker 1: going to possibly trying to say he was going to

513
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:32,399
Speaker 1: do them that night, which is what he always says,

514
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:35,200
Speaker 1: but actually follow through and put them away right then.

515
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Speaker 1: Granted it was only a couple cereal bowls and some

516
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Speaker 1: pots and pans at that point because he had waited

517
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Speaker 1: so long. Last night, we started sleep training with our

518
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Speaker 1: fifteen month old using the Ferber method. If you don't

519
00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:48,439
Speaker 1: know what that is. The Ferber method is when you

520
00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:50,880
Speaker 1: put your drowsy toddler down for bed and then check

521
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:53,200
Speaker 1: on them after one minute, three minutes, five minutes, et cetera,

522
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Speaker 1: until they fall asleep. You increase the time between check ins,

523
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Speaker 1: and you aren't supposed to pick up your child. I

524
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Speaker 1: told my husband that our son be crying for a

525
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,200
Speaker 1: long time, but that it was part of this sleep

526
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Speaker 1: training and hopefully wouldn't be all night. My husband nodded

527
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 1: his head and said he would stay up with me.

528
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Speaker 1: After we hit the five minute check in time, my

529
00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:13,000
Speaker 1: husband got so frustrated that our son was not calming

530
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:15,600
Speaker 1: down and said, I'm gonna go lay down and went

531
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Speaker 1: to our bedroom to go to sleep.

532
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Speaker 2: He gave up after five minutes.

533
00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:22,280
Speaker 1: Well, it was probably like nine minutes.

534
00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:25,080
Speaker 2: Oh, you're right.

535
00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:31,399
Speaker 1: Fine, that's pathetic. That is that is pathetic. Dang so

536
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:34,480
Speaker 1: much for staying up with me throughout this process. My

537
00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:36,640
Speaker 1: son would scream and cry really loud, but I knew

538
00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:38,520
Speaker 1: that I needed to be firm in this training so

539
00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:40,920
Speaker 1: he and I could get better sleep. My husband was

540
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Speaker 1: getting so frustrated that he was pounding on our bedroom

541
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Speaker 1: wall to try and get our son to stop crying.

542
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Speaker 2: You were making loud noise to get your baby to

543
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Speaker 2: stop crying.

544
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Speaker 1: What like like you're an old lady on the in

545
00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 1: the apartment above and you're like banging on the floor

546
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Speaker 1: with the broomstick.

547
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Speaker 2: I think your husband's stoop.

548
00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:04,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think your husband's got dumb disorder. My husband

549
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:08,639
Speaker 1: then proceeded to get his hunting or muting earbuds.

550
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 2: That made me so scary, like hunting.

551
00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:16,879
Speaker 1: What My husband then proceeded to get his hunting or

552
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:19,199
Speaker 1: muting earbuds, put them in and use my pillow to

553
00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 1: cover his head to drown out the noise while I

554
00:25:21,359 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 1: was in the living room trying to stay calm. I

555
00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:25,639
Speaker 1: put our son down for bed at eight PM and

556
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:28,159
Speaker 1: kept up with the time increments up to fifteen minutes.

557
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:31,240
Speaker 1: At ten forty five, our son finally fell asleep. I

558
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:33,280
Speaker 1: was then able to actually sleep in our bed for

559
00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:36,080
Speaker 1: a full night of uninterrupted sleep for the first time

560
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Speaker 1: in several months. When I woke up for the day,

561
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:40,680
Speaker 1: my son was still asleep, so I was actually able

562
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Speaker 1: to get ready and take a nice, long, hot shower

563
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Speaker 1: without anyone needing me. In that moment, I felt like

564
00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:47,840
Speaker 1: a brand new person. Now there's a little more story

565
00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:50,240
Speaker 1: left here. I don't know if you guys should go

566
00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:54,640
Speaker 1: back to the pastor but there's some sort of deficiency

567
00:25:54,920 --> 00:26:00,280
Speaker 1: in your husband's contribution to the household big time. I

568
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 1: think it's really not sustainable in its current state, and

569
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:09,560
Speaker 1: I think it's it's something that needs to be done.

570
00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 1: Something must be done.

571
00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:13,960
Speaker 2: I'm done with your husband. That's what I'm done with.

572
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:18,160
Speaker 1: You know, he's got a cowboy up man Like she said.

573
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:20,840
Speaker 2: That the baby was awake until ten forty five.

574
00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 1: You can't cowboy up until ten.

575
00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:23,879
Speaker 2: Forty ten forty five.

576
00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:28,440
Speaker 1: Come on, you're banging on the wall being like, just dang, baby,

577
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:29,680
Speaker 1: won't shut up.

578
00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:31,399
Speaker 2: It's like, that's what babies do.

579
00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 1: Like, I think you might have an issue, my guy. Yeah,

580
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 1: and we have a little bit more story here. When

581
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:41,439
Speaker 1: my husband woke up and saw my son and me

582
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:44,120
Speaker 1: moving around in the kitchen, he looked at me and said, well,

583
00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:45,439
Speaker 1: that was really frustrating.

584
00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:49,920
Speaker 2: I literally I think I would pounce on him. I

585
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 2: would pounce. I'd say, I'd turn into a little like

586
00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:56,320
Speaker 2: freaking spider monster.

587
00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:03,240
Speaker 1: You would trans Morgafa into a creature. Yes, if he

588
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:06,359
Speaker 1: said this to me, it took all that I had

589
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:08,920
Speaker 1: not to yell at him that he wasn't the one

590
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:12,439
Speaker 1: actually doing the soothing every five to ten minutes. I

591
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 1: told him, yeah, it was frustrating when you were pounding

592
00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:18,200
Speaker 1: on the walls. He said he wasn't pounding on the walls.

593
00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 1: And I told him that I heard him very clearly.

594
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:22,920
Speaker 1: He said it might have been him hitting his leg

595
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 1: once or twice, but I knew that sound because he

596
00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:28,000
Speaker 1: had done it so many times before all this to say,

597
00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 1: we have one good day just to turn around and

598
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 1: have a bad day again. I told my husband it

599
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:34,320
Speaker 1: maybe a full week of this type of training before

600
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:36,679
Speaker 1: our son is able to fall asleep independently. And he

601
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 1: said that was fine, almost like it didn't phaze him.

602
00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:41,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, because he's not doing it.

603
00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:42,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's not.

604
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 2: Going to be doing any of it, so why does

605
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:45,040
Speaker 2: his care.

606
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 1: I know I won't be getting help with this from

607
00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 1: him now, and I feel like I shouldn't even expect

608
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 1: the bare minimum from him anymore. And that's the end

609
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 1: of that story.

610
00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:55,199
Speaker 2: And maybe the end of the relationship. Because if you

611
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 2: can't expect the bare minimum from your partner, as like

612
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:03,119
Speaker 2: in a relationship or as a parent, not not a

613
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:06,440
Speaker 2: great you know, start to the to the child's life.

614
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:11,280
Speaker 1: You gotta you gotta show up and contribute. Man, she's

615
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:14,879
Speaker 1: working two jobs and is taking care of everything with

616
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:17,879
Speaker 1: the kid. You gotta step up, step up. Like I

617
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:19,159
Speaker 1: don't even want to say this, but I was like,

618
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:23,440
Speaker 1: be man like, step up, like do something, take take

619
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:27,119
Speaker 1: charge of anything. Yeah, you're you're telling as a full

620
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 1: grown man. You're like, tell me exactly what it is

621
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 1: I need to do and I'll write it. It's like,

622
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:36,440
Speaker 1: you know, all right, we've done this, we done it before.

623
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:38,360
Speaker 2: I need you to use your brain.

624
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 1: Crazy. That is the end of that story. We have

625
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:44,040
Speaker 1: another one, Oh.

626
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:48,520
Speaker 2: Man, we do my husband hit months of dealer payments

627
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 2: while telling me we were broke.

628
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's an immediate no go for me. Dog.

629
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:57,360
Speaker 2: And this comes directly from the r slash okay Storytime

630
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Speaker 2: suppered it and there is a trigger warning for men

631
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:03,880
Speaker 2: of the Devil's lettuce. So I twenty four female found

632
00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:06,640
Speaker 2: out last night that my husband twenty four mail has

633
00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 2: been lying to me for the past seven months. We

634
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:12,479
Speaker 2: have been married for a year now, but together for

635
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:15,920
Speaker 2: nine years. We have two kids, both undred five years old.

636
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:18,800
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from just Q And if

637
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Speaker 2: you want to spit your own stories, go to the

638
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Speaker 2: r slash okay Storytime subbured it. I'm Sofia, I'm Dakota,

639
00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 2: I'm Keon, and we're already to give good advice goofully,

640
00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 2: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

641
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 2: what we'd do, so let us know what you would

642
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:32,880
Speaker 2: do in the comments, and OP says. When our son

643
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 2: was small, I left him because he had a problem

644
00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:40,080
Speaker 2: with smoking the devil's lettuce. He would spend thousands of

645
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,720
Speaker 2: dollars on devil's lettuce and it would leave me and

646
00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 2: the kids struggling, and I ended up picking up a

647
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:49,080
Speaker 2: weekend job at an overnight gas station to try and recover.

648
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:51,959
Speaker 1: What like thousands of dollars like what like a month?

649
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:55,479
Speaker 1: Like like what is the time frame for that? That

650
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 1: is a serious use.

651
00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,760
Speaker 2: I made about four hundred dollars a week, and he

652
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 2: would literally spend it all. He spent close to sixteen

653
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 2: hundred dollars a month on it. Oh my god, and

654
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 2: I was just completely done. At this time, we only

655
00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:11,840
Speaker 2: had our oldest so I packed us up and left.

656
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 2: We went to stay with my parents and for a

657
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 2: year and a half we lived there. Over this time,

658
00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:19,680
Speaker 2: he got better. He stopped smoking, got a better job,

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Speaker 2: got a nice vehicle, did everything right. So we got

660
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Speaker 2: back together, but didn't live together. We talked, dated again

661
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Speaker 2: for another six months, and then decided to just get married.

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Speaker 1: Ah yausa, I can't see that going wrong in any way.

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Speaker 2: We found out we were pregnant again three weeks after

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Speaker 2: we got married. I thought all was well, everything seemed great,

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Speaker 2: But then I started to smell devils led us on

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Speaker 2: him from time to time. I know that most of

667
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Speaker 2: his family does smoke, so I just kind of assumed

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Speaker 2: it was them. But on these days that I smelt it,

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Speaker 2: he would immediately go take a shower and brush his teeth.

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Speaker 3: He would say, you smelt it, you delt it.

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Speaker 1: I think there if you all guys were gonna get

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Speaker 1: back together. And I think there needed to be a

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Speaker 1: very clear set of boundaries regarding his use, whether or

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Speaker 1: not it's completely zero and that is part of the deal. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: or it's like, hey, I understand, maybe this is something

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Speaker 1: you do, but you cannot do it at the A

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Speaker 1: at the expense of our children. Yeah, you cannot be

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Speaker 1: spending that much money because we have children to take

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Speaker 1: care of. And B if you are that intoxicate, if

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Speaker 1: you are in a cloud constantly, you cannot be the

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Speaker 1: best parent that you can be. Sam here og host.

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Speaker 2: First that brings us to last night. His grandpa call

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Speaker 2: that asked us to send him some money for a

686
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Speaker 2: bill we had to do that was in his grandpa's name.

687
00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:48,080
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, and got on my husband's phone

688
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:50,000
Speaker 2: and went to his cash app to send the money.

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Speaker 2: We've had the same passwords on our phones for the

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Speaker 2: past five years and have never changed them, and we

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Speaker 2: have an open phone policy. But as I was about

692
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Speaker 2: to send the money, I saw a rese transaction for

693
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Speaker 2: one hundred dollars. It was to his old dealer. This

694
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Speaker 2: is when I decided to snoop. I went to see

695
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Speaker 2: their transaction history and saw that over the past seven months,

696
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Speaker 2: he has paid this man almost eight hundred dollars.

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Speaker 1: That's I mean, it's within the context, a significant improvement

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Speaker 1: from sixteen hundred a month, so he's down. I don't

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Speaker 1: know what the percentage on that would be over seven months,

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Speaker 1: but it's still an eyebrow raising amount to be spending

701
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Speaker 1: when you have two children. And the bad part about

702
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Speaker 1: this is a secret. It cannot be a secret.

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00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't keep lying to your partner, especially when

704
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 2: you guys literally broke up and she took your kid

705
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Speaker 2: because of this. I didn't know what to do and

706
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Speaker 2: I just took pictures and put his phone down and

707
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Speaker 2: went to bed. Devil's let us is very illegal in

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Speaker 2: my state, and we know people whose kids have been

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Speaker 2: taken away from them because they say.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that changes literally everything. You can't do it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't do it at all of that. Because

712
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:05,200
Speaker 2: you can't do it, you could go to jail and

713
00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 2: then you won't be there to parents your kids. This

714
00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:09,960
Speaker 2: was the only reason I decided that we could get

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Speaker 2: back together if he was certain he would never smoke again.

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Speaker 2: Now I don't know what to do. I don't even

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Speaker 2: know for certain if he is smoking, or if he's

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Speaker 2: just buying it for his family, or if he was

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Speaker 2: in debt to him. If I ask him about it,

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Speaker 2: he'll be mad that I snooped through his phone. He

721
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:27,560
Speaker 2: was talking to me this morning, saying how we need

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Speaker 2: to budget better and not spend money, that he never

723
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Speaker 2: spends money on himself. He literally said that.

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe, yeah, this is not good. This is not good. Yeah.

725
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Speaker 2: The audacity to be blaming you for your guys's money

726
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Speaker 2: troubles or just money budgeting issues while he's doing this.

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Speaker 2: He also said that he hasn't used his cash app

728
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Speaker 2: since he got his new phone which he got last week,

729
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,920
Speaker 2: and the transaction on there was from Tuesday this week.

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Speaker 2: So he lied straight to my face twice today. I

731
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Speaker 2: saw on one of his apps that he talked to

732
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Speaker 2: the guy on Tuesdays. Well, but their messages don't save,

733
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Speaker 2: so I don't know what they said. I'm so confused

734
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Speaker 2: and don't know what to do. We have two kids,

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Speaker 2: we're married, and I don't work anymore. I'm a stay

736
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Speaker 2: ato mom. I don't have a bank account. I only

737
00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:16,399
Speaker 2: have a card to his bank, but I have no

738
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 2: way to access it and see how much is in there.

739
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Speaker 2: He refused to make me an authorized person unless we

740
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Speaker 2: got a post nuptial agreement, even though he promised to

741
00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 2: put me on there before we got married. But uh,

742
00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 2: there is a little bit left to this story. Any

743
00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 2: final fonts.

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Speaker 1: Well, it's a very you know, there's there's the moving

745
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 1: pieces of this are like, you know, what kind of

746
00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:40,480
Speaker 1: income is he bringing in? You know, you're raising two kids?

747
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:43,000
Speaker 1: Would you be able to fiscally like? Would it makes sense?

748
00:34:43,520 --> 00:34:46,399
Speaker 1: You know, there's there's a lot going on. There's more

749
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Speaker 1: infot needs to be gathered. Is he binded for his family?

750
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Speaker 1: What is like? But that's but it needs to be

751
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:55,000
Speaker 1: like any sense, like dude, like it needs to be

752
00:34:55,120 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 1: just the wake up of like, remember what we talked.

753
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Speaker 2: About, Remember when Imber left with your kid.

754
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Speaker 1: I give him maybe one chance just to be like, hey, now,

755
00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:05,799
Speaker 1: don't even outright accuse him, just be like, do you

756
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Speaker 1: remember what we talked about was the smoking and the

757
00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:09,799
Speaker 1: deal that we had. And then he's like, yeah, I

758
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:11,239
Speaker 1: agree that we don't know where to get and you

759
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Speaker 1: just go do you have anything that you need to

760
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Speaker 1: tell me right now?

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Speaker 3: In the wise words of Dua Lipa, I can't say it.

762
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Speaker 3: One chance is all it takes.

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Speaker 2: Win words.

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Speaker 1: The whole song is now speeding through my head.

765
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Speaker 2: But there is a little bit left to this story.

766
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Speaker 2: I can't go back to my parents because they moved

767
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Speaker 2: and don't have the space, and we aren't on the

768
00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:38,439
Speaker 2: best terms anymore because my dad wanted me to wait

769
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Speaker 2: longer before I married him. Unfortunately, your dad was right.

770
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Speaker 2: I don't even have a car anymore. He was using

771
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Speaker 2: mine for work and letting me use his new one,

772
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Speaker 2: and someone hit him and totaled my car. We haven't

773
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Speaker 2: got a new one yet. I don't have a support

774
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Speaker 2: system other than his other side of the family who

775
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Speaker 2: doesn't smoke. I don't have any money, I don't have

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Speaker 2: a job, and I don't have a car. I have

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Speaker 2: two kids, and I have nowhere to go. I feel

778
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Speaker 2: like I'm suffocating. I don't even know how to bring

779
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:08,360
Speaker 2: this up to him that I know he lied straight

780
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Speaker 2: to my face. What do I do? Common one says,

781
00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:14,640
Speaker 2: do not confront him. Step one, Go open a bank account.

782
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:16,719
Speaker 2: Make sure it's a different bank than the one his

783
00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 2: account is at, and tell no one. If he uses

784
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Speaker 2: Bank of America, you go chase vice versa. Step two,

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Speaker 2: You're going to play the long game. Do all the

786
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:28,320
Speaker 2: croceries every time you check out, take twenty dollars cash back,

787
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Speaker 2: and hide it in a place he'll never find it

788
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Speaker 2: until you deposit it in your new solo bank account.

789
00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:36,759
Speaker 2: Take cash back anytime you have the chance, to, like,

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00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 2: pay for gas inside instead of the pump. If they

791
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 2: have a cash back, there always small amounts that would

792
00:36:43,040 --> 00:36:45,719
Speaker 2: still equal an amount you would have spent wherever you

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00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 2: are five dollars to fifty. Step three, reach out to

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Speaker 2: your parents. Tell them they were right. Parents love to

795
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 2: hear their kids admitting they were right. That's what I'm thinking.

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00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:57,840
Speaker 2: I'm like your dad's gonna love to hear that he

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00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:01,400
Speaker 2: was freaking right about your dirt bad yea or husband,

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00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 2: he will if they care enough to be upset you

799
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Speaker 2: married him, they care enough to help you get out

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Speaker 2: of there. I suggest you take the kids to visit

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Speaker 2: your parents. Then, once you're safe, confront him by phone.

802
00:37:12,760 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 2: Do go spend money on a car that he is

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Speaker 2: entitled of half of in the case of adoors. And

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00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:20,759
Speaker 2: that is the end of that story. Yeah, I guess

805
00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:24,240
Speaker 2: if you're in like an unsafe situation, then yeah, follow

806
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Speaker 2: all that stuff.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think that the biggest thing was just

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Speaker 1: not having the income the fiscal means sure to do it.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I guess Squirrel, that was a pretty good

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Speaker 1: step by step.

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Speaker 2: I agree, very good step by step, and I one

812
00:37:38,360 --> 00:37:40,920
Speaker 2: agree with a go back to your parents, you know,

813
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Speaker 2: see if they can help. But that's the end of

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Speaker 2: that story. And we've got some.

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Speaker 3: Comments to read to go one more.

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Speaker 2: Oh, but we're at the art.

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Speaker 1: We got another little boy. My husband ruined my childhood keepsakes,

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Speaker 1: He ruined my dream journal for Pete's sakes. I am

819
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Speaker 1: a twenty nine female house spouse to a man of

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Speaker 1: the same age. I usually wake up after he's already

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Speaker 1: gone to work. I have previously told him that he

822
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Speaker 1: can wake me yuh with him in the morning.

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Speaker 3: I thought you, I thought you wanted a layup.

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Speaker 1: Sorry I should I should have one more time.

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Speaker 3: I too late.

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Speaker 1: I've previously told him that he can wake me yuh,

827
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Speaker 1: wake up, wake up with him in the morning, but

828
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Speaker 1: he rarely does it. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 1: user sporgot.

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Speaker 3: That's a color.

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Speaker 2: That's kind of a yellowy red sporgit for sure.

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Speaker 1: And if you want to submit your own stories, go

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Speaker 1: to the r slash Okay storytime separate where this story

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Speaker 1: was submitted.

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Speaker 3: I'm Dakota, I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we are.

836
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Speaker 1: Here to give you good advice goofily, but we don't

837
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Speaker 1: have all the answers. We only know what we do,

838
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:44,080
Speaker 1: so let us know what you would do in the comments.

839
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Speaker 1: As op says, this morning, I woke up and noticed

840
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Speaker 1: a towel tossed over a wooden chest that my grandfather

841
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Speaker 1: had made for me when I was a child. I

842
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Speaker 1: have used it to storm and he keepsakes over the

843
00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:57,799
Speaker 1: years and it is still holding up very well until now.

844
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Speaker 1: When I lifted the towel, a significant amount of laundry

845
00:39:01,239 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 1: detergent had been spilled on it. No, he had made

846
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Speaker 1: an attempt to clean it by putting a bath towel

847
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Speaker 1: on it and leaving it be.

848
00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:16,320
Speaker 2: He didn't even try. Wait, I'm sorry. What he literally

849
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Speaker 2: he said, if I just throw this towel on it,

850
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Speaker 2: it'll clean it.

851
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 3: It'll magically wipe away.

852
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:24,080
Speaker 1: This man literally hit the throw a blanket on it.

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00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:26,239
Speaker 2: He said, If I just put this dish in the

854
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Speaker 2: sink and soak it, it'll be clean by the time

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Speaker 2: I come back.

856
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Speaker 1: What a silly guy. By the time I had woken

857
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Speaker 1: up and found it, the detergent had soaked through and

858
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 1: was creating a puddle underneath the wood.

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Speaker 2: How much deterged?

860
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Speaker 1: Why? What?

861
00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 2: What's going on?

862
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 1: How did that even happen?

863
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:46,879
Speaker 2: I'm sorry? Did he pour detergent on the towel and.

864
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Speaker 3: He still thought leaving a towel over it? It was

865
00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:52,479
Speaker 3: like the towel soak it up? Right?

866
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Speaker 1: What? Sorry, babe? I thought that was one of them

867
00:39:55,080 --> 00:40:02,840
Speaker 1: fancy AI digital towels that could descrub and do everything. God, okay, babe,

868
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Speaker 1: I thought I knew what to do. I didn't have

869
00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:07,239
Speaker 1: any Internet connection I couldn't ask Chatgpt how to do this.

870
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Speaker 1: I quickly lifted it up and attempted to wipe the bottom,

871
00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:13,759
Speaker 1: and noticed that Moore had continued to seep out. I

872
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 1: opened the chest to find books, things I made in

873
00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 1: grade school yearbooks, and my old Christmas stocking soaked. The

874
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Speaker 1: tears I had barely been holding back flooded out, and

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Speaker 1: I struggled to go through the wreckage. While I was

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Speaker 1: discovering the extent of the damage, I sent him a

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Speaker 1: few pictures with sarcastic thanks and please take better care

878
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Speaker 1: of my things. However, once I had opened the chest,

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Speaker 1: I sent a message saying that I was not effing

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Speaker 1: happy and that he had ruined quite a few of

881
00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 1: my things. My partner came home and confronted me about

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00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:46,120
Speaker 1: my response, saying it was unwarranted, that he doesn't react

883
00:40:46,160 --> 00:40:48,759
Speaker 1: that way when I break his things repeatedly, and that

884
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:51,280
Speaker 1: I'm just going to be mad regardless of what he says.

885
00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:54,160
Speaker 1: I have broken a few things of his, yes, small

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00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 1: non sentimental items like a cup and glass paraphernalia for

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00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:01,480
Speaker 1: smoking when those happened, and immediately brought them to his

888
00:41:01,520 --> 00:41:03,840
Speaker 1: attention and offered to try to fix them. Usually his

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Speaker 1: responses are nothing bad, though there have been occasions where

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Speaker 1: I feel his response is unfair. Sometimes I confront the issue,

891
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 1: other times it's not as big of a deal and

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Speaker 1: I let it go. He thinks that I'm acting like

893
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Speaker 1: he spilled it maliciously and that I'm being unfair as

894
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:20,239
Speaker 1: I was the one who instructed him to set things

895
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Speaker 1: up that way, which is true for every part, but

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00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:24,640
Speaker 1: the detergent. He's trying to say, you.

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00:41:24,640 --> 00:41:27,920
Speaker 4: Were, like, this is your fault because if I spill

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Speaker 4: an entire bottle of detergent somewhere, how am I supposed

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00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:34,240
Speaker 4: to know to clean it up better than just putting

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Speaker 4: a towel over it.

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00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:38,719
Speaker 2: You told me that if I put the detergent in

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00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 2: the laundry machine, it'll clean the laundry. How was I

903
00:41:42,160 --> 00:41:45,000
Speaker 2: supposed to know that I could only put a little

904
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Speaker 2: capful and not the whole bottle.

905
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Speaker 5: I'm just I'm struggling to understand how so much detergent

906
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:56,640
Speaker 5: could be spilled that it went through Okay, no true

907
00:41:57,160 --> 00:41:57,920
Speaker 5: wooden chest.

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00:41:58,239 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 1: A wooden chest. The detergent was so thick it seeped

909
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Speaker 1: through the chest and through the bottom, probably through the cracks.

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Speaker 1: Are you using acid for your detergent. I think so

911
00:42:11,160 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 1: I am so bewildered. Hey, it's John here. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: get back to the stories. Put a quick three minute

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Speaker 1: ad break from responsors that keep the show going. I

914
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Speaker 1: express that I am mad about him making no attempt

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Speaker 1: to wake me up if he didn't have time before work,

916
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Speaker 1: not that he made an accidental mess. So was my

917
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:28,359
Speaker 1: response unwarranted? I want an outside perspective to know if

918
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Speaker 1: I was truly an a hole, or if I'm justified

919
00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 1: in feeling and acting that way the way I did.

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00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:35,560
Speaker 1: I have no problem approaching him and apologizing if I was,

921
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Speaker 1: and would hope for the same from him. And that

922
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Speaker 1: is the end of that story.

923
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Speaker 2: He's the a hole.

924
00:42:40,719 --> 00:42:41,800
Speaker 4: I think you're.

925
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:44,480
Speaker 1: Fully warranted in being upset that your husband doesn't know

926
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Speaker 1: how to use a.

927
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Speaker 3: Towel or how to apologize, or how to clean a mess.

928
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Speaker 2: He doesn't know how to clean up emotional or physical message.

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Speaker 3: I was gonna say, like, yeah, accidents happen, and I

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00:42:53,600 --> 00:42:57,479
Speaker 3: but like, do throw a towel over it? And said, yeah,

931
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Speaker 3: that'll clean it the thing?

932
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the thing. It's it's not even you dropped

933
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Speaker 2: laundry detergent all over my stuff. It's you put a

934
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Speaker 2: towel on.

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Speaker 1: It, like you didn't fix it. And then I was

936
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Speaker 1: right there. You could have woken me up and I

937
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:10,880
Speaker 1: could have taken care of it, but you did not

938
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Speaker 1: wake me up. It's like it's just it's just weird energy.

939
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Speaker 1: And then him like being like, well, you've broken my

940
00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:18,640
Speaker 1: stuff before. It's like, yeah, but I didn't break any

941
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Speaker 1: of your priceless, sentimental keepsake sect are irreplaceable. And also

942
00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:25,160
Speaker 1: every time I break something it sounds like I'm like

943
00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:28,040
Speaker 1: I want to fix this and make it right. Yeah,

944
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Speaker 1: it's apples and oranges, which I've always felt is a

945
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:33,360
Speaker 1: bad comparison because they are both.

946
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Speaker 3: Fruit, they taste different.

947
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 1: It should be like apples and tomatoes. Still, you know

948
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Speaker 1: steel beams, It's like this is there's there's no comparison chocolate.

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Speaker 2: But that is the end of this episode. So if

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Speaker 2: you love us, make sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 1: We love you and see you tomorrow.