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Speaker 1: They set aside time to talk to me. When I

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Speaker 1: heck may He told them that I just needed a

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Speaker 1: I feel like you can have a small conversation on

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Speaker 1: Potentially I just want trying to think of like what

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Speaker 1: Are they because she's a minority?

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Speaker 1: Because she like, they don't have many minorities there too,

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Speaker 1: of me for allowing myself to have good news. Let's

437
00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:30,000
Speaker 1: go the good news you do op sounds like a

438
00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:33,160
Speaker 1: religious thing. You need the good news. This morning, though,

439
00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:36,919
Speaker 1: I came into a really chilly office. It got around

440
00:20:36,920 --> 00:20:39,280
Speaker 1: that I announced my pregnancy in Mary's office, and the

441
00:20:39,359 --> 00:20:42,480
Speaker 1: rumor is that I did it on purpose because several

442
00:20:42,520 --> 00:20:44,800
Speaker 1: of the women I know of, at least three of

443
00:20:44,840 --> 00:20:48,520
Speaker 1: the seven or eight that were there, were struggling with infertility.

444
00:20:48,720 --> 00:20:50,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's of course why she was doing it to

445
00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:52,200
Speaker 2: rub an inn y'all's nose.

446
00:20:52,240 --> 00:20:52,280
Speaker 1: This.

447
00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:54,360
Speaker 2: Actually, she's not even pregnant. She just wanted to piss

448
00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:54,880
Speaker 2: you guys off.

449
00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:57,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, screw you guys. I'm out of here. She's

450
00:20:57,840 --> 00:21:01,040
Speaker 1: literally leaving because they're like, oh, yeah, you're just training someone.

451
00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:01,639
Speaker 2: To be replaced.

452
00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:04,160
Speaker 1: Mary told me this was going around, and she knew

453
00:21:04,200 --> 00:21:06,679
Speaker 1: it wasn't true, but she wanted me to know.

454
00:21:06,880 --> 00:21:07,399
Speaker 3: W Mary.

455
00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:10,399
Speaker 1: About an hour ago, I went to get coffee and

456
00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:13,800
Speaker 1: one of my coworkers, who is struggling with infertility, started

457
00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:16,399
Speaker 1: talking to me. She was being nice at first, but

458
00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:19,840
Speaker 1: she isn't someone who has ever spoken to me before. FYI.

459
00:21:20,119 --> 00:21:23,560
Speaker 1: There were other coworkers there too, some who have infertility

460
00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:27,080
Speaker 1: issues and others who don't, but none are my friends.

461
00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:30,040
Speaker 1: So this coworker asked me in front of everyone, so,

462
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:33,320
Speaker 1: how do you plan to pay for everything without a job?

463
00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:35,520
Speaker 1: Babies are expensive?

464
00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:37,639
Speaker 2: What do you mean? What do you mean by that?

465
00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:40,640
Speaker 1: You know what isn't expensive? Joining us live on YouTube

466
00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:43,320
Speaker 1: every weekday at three pm PSD. Just have our profile.

467
00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:45,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I would go to HR and that

468
00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:46,600
Speaker 2: if they're going to fire me, I would be like,

469
00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:48,560
Speaker 2: all right, I'm done, assuming you guys, that's like the

470
00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:49,960
Speaker 2: practical thing. Why are we laughing?

471
00:21:50,240 --> 00:21:52,919
Speaker 1: I would actually confront all these women and be like,

472
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:55,240
Speaker 1: what what's your problem with me? Obviously go to HR.

473
00:21:55,359 --> 00:21:57,320
Speaker 2: It's not that, it's what do you mean, I'm not

474
00:21:57,320 --> 00:21:58,520
Speaker 2: going to have a job. I don't think at this

475
00:21:58,560 --> 00:22:01,280
Speaker 2: point they know that they're training someone to get to

476
00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:01,920
Speaker 2: hire them.

477
00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:03,720
Speaker 1: Apparently she knows, though I don't.

478
00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:05,560
Speaker 2: Think at this point. I think she was told earlier

479
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:07,320
Speaker 2: and it was like this is for context, keep it

480
00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:07,920
Speaker 2: up for later.

481
00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:10,240
Speaker 1: This is just a toxic workplace that I don't know

482
00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:12,040
Speaker 1: why she didn't go to HR at the very beginning,

483
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:14,199
Speaker 1: besides the oh the baby thing or like how are

484
00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:15,440
Speaker 1: you gonna get this if you don't have a job,

485
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:17,560
Speaker 1: I would have been like, why is everyone being so

486
00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:21,159
Speaker 1: toxic in this workplace, especially to me. Hr should have

487
00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:23,720
Speaker 1: been a thing in the very beginning. But again, she's

488
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:26,720
Speaker 1: a minority. That is a hurdle one. But I just

489
00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:29,119
Speaker 1: don't understand all the hatred towards her that she's not

490
00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,760
Speaker 1: rubbing it in now she is. It was well deserved.

491
00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:35,040
Speaker 1: No one laughed or anything, but it was clear everyone

492
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:38,879
Speaker 1: was waiting for an answer. This is my response, verbatim.

493
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:43,280
Speaker 1: When your dad's a millionaire, anything's possible, and I left

494
00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:45,760
Speaker 1: he is. By the way, that wasn't a lie. My

495
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:47,960
Speaker 1: parents are living in a very nice retirement right now

496
00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:50,680
Speaker 1: because of how they handle their finances. Four oh one

497
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:55,240
Speaker 1: K's and Roth's, Frank and Alan support me. But Mary

498
00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:57,879
Speaker 1: thinks that last comment was a little too far and

499
00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:00,879
Speaker 1: sounded Braddy, but she also understood why I said it.

500
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,879
Speaker 1: But since then, it's obvious no one is willing to

501
00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:06,399
Speaker 1: work with me or talk to me. I've asked for

502
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:08,840
Speaker 1: some things and I'm getting the cold shoulder, but I

503
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 1: want to be happy about something. I need to be

504
00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:13,800
Speaker 1: happy about something, and I only have six more weeks

505
00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 1: left here. Anyway, am I the ahole? No?

506
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:20,040
Speaker 2: I don't think you are. They were really pushing it

507
00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:21,919
Speaker 2: and they've been pushing it for a while and they

508
00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:23,440
Speaker 2: push you over the edd You just had the best

509
00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:24,879
Speaker 2: clap back, and they're pissed about it.

510
00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:28,320
Speaker 1: They're really upset. The workplace was already toxic enough, and

511
00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:31,119
Speaker 1: I guess you still need the job per se. The

512
00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:33,600
Speaker 1: last thing you want to do is make your last

513
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:36,800
Speaker 1: couple months at work even more of a living hell,

514
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:40,240
Speaker 1: which it already is. So it kind of is like

515
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:43,440
Speaker 1: you got the last like laugh, but now you're gonna

516
00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:46,840
Speaker 1: be laughing or be laughless at this workplace for the

517
00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:49,640
Speaker 1: next two months, which is going to be even worse. Like, yes,

518
00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 1: you have a couple of friends, great, but one no

519
00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:54,880
Speaker 1: one respected you at the very beginning. Now people kind

520
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:56,720
Speaker 1: of have like a target on your back or like, oh,

521
00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 1: that's the girl who's like mocking us. I don't think

522
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:01,600
Speaker 1: you're the a but it just wasn't a smart thing

523
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:04,560
Speaker 1: to do if he went to HR and like, because

524
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:06,720
Speaker 1: it just takes time for everything to get proceded.

525
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:07,879
Speaker 2: But you did shut them up.

526
00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:11,159
Speaker 1: You should be happy about you shut them the hell up. Great,

527
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:13,760
Speaker 1: but now it's used to be a very quiet two

528
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:16,119
Speaker 1: weeks or two months, I mean, so you're not the

529
00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:19,080
Speaker 1: a hole but I think you should take a little

530
00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,320
Speaker 1: bit more precaution of what was said at the workplace.

531
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:23,760
Speaker 2: I think you're good. They broke you and that's how

532
00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 2: you responded, and they're just pissed that they don't have

533
00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:26,800
Speaker 2: a better clap back.

534
00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:30,760
Speaker 1: My old coworker said my swimwear is inappropriate, so I

535
00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:31,639
Speaker 1: told her off.

536
00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:33,879
Speaker 2: Oh, it's because you don't look hot in your stuff.

537
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 1: I look in fine right now. I twenty six female,

538
00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:39,919
Speaker 1: work for an amazing small engineering company, but have always

539
00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:44,680
Speaker 1: had an issue with a woman named Cheryl Cheryl. Cheryl

540
00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 1: Cheryl is a holdover office manager from when the current

541
00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:51,640
Speaker 1: owner's dad founded the company, and the company is her

542
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:57,000
Speaker 1: queendom nepotism. We love nepo babies, by the way. This

543
00:24:57,040 --> 00:25:00,639
Speaker 1: comes from user daf dad DM on the are slash

544
00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 1: Okay storytime sub reddit. So I actually feel very sorry

545
00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:07,600
Speaker 1: for her because she's divorced, her kids don't speak with her,

546
00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:09,679
Speaker 1: and I think the company's the only thing that she

547
00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 1: has going on in her life. She's like a grandma

548
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 1: to the current owner, but he has admitted that he

549
00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:19,080
Speaker 1: can't wait until she retires because she is overbearing with

550
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:21,960
Speaker 1: him too. The company had an amazing year, and our

551
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 1: owner decided that we were essentially going to shut down

552
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:26,879
Speaker 1: for the month of June and he was going to

553
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:30,160
Speaker 1: host an optional retreat in Mexico where he would pay

554
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 1: for all food, drinks, and accommodations, but we had to

555
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:35,680
Speaker 1: pay for our own plane ticket done. When I found

556
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 1: out Cheryl was not planning on going, I could not

557
00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:41,080
Speaker 1: sign up fast enough. I flew down with a friend

558
00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 1: slash coworker, and the second we got our bags put

559
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:46,800
Speaker 1: it away, it was bikinis on and straight to the

560
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:49,040
Speaker 1: swim up bar. On the way down the hallway, we

561
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:52,280
Speaker 1: ran smack into Cheryl. We tried to be pleasant, but

562
00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:54,960
Speaker 1: she looked me up and down like I was dressed

563
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:58,919
Speaker 1: like a street walker, and she looked so disgusted. She

564
00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:01,560
Speaker 1: was just jealous. My friend and I walked along, smirking

565
00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:04,480
Speaker 1: that we weren't in the queendom and made jokes about

566
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,960
Speaker 1: finding Cheryl a nice man so she'd either get spicy

567
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:10,679
Speaker 1: sleep or By the time we got to the pool,

568
00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:13,440
Speaker 1: Cheryl has sent out a group text reminding us that

569
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:16,119
Speaker 1: we were on a work trip and we should choose

570
00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 1: our outfits to reflect the prestige of the company paying

571
00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:21,639
Speaker 1: for the trip. We could not stop laughing, and we

572
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 1: agreed that our best bet was to avoid Cheryl for

573
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:25,879
Speaker 1: the week. When we were on our way back to

574
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:29,360
Speaker 1: the room, Cheryl intercepted us in the hallway. She seriously

575
00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:32,440
Speaker 1: must have been staring out her people waiting on us,

576
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:34,800
Speaker 1: and she said that when she sent the group text,

577
00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:37,920
Speaker 1: she meant that I should change out of that immediately,

578
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:41,320
Speaker 1: she said, while pointing basically at my butt. Nice I said,

579
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:43,960
Speaker 1: I was sorry, Cheryl, but this isn't a work trip,

580
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 1: and mike bikini was totally appropriate for the resort. She said,

581
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:50,399
Speaker 1: we are a company founded on Christian principles and we

582
00:26:50,400 --> 00:26:54,159
Speaker 1: should dress as such. I suck so bad at confrontation,

583
00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:57,159
Speaker 1: and this was one of those things where five minutes

584
00:26:57,400 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 1: after I had a million witty things to say, but

585
00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:01,680
Speaker 1: all I could come up with was that I will

586
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:04,680
Speaker 1: wear a sarong in the hotel. But this is all

587
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:07,320
Speaker 1: I brought for the pool and beach. She said, you

588
00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:10,800
Speaker 1: get paid well enough, go buy something more appropriate. The

589
00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:15,080
Speaker 1: get paid enough comment made me see red because that

590
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:17,359
Speaker 1: is so none of her business. And I worked my

591
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:21,200
Speaker 1: butt off through a male dominant field and crap jobs,

592
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,120
Speaker 1: and took a huge risk to work for a small

593
00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:26,159
Speaker 1: company because I wanted a job that cared about me.

594
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:29,880
Speaker 1: I told her, Cheryl, I hate confrontation, but you can

595
00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 1: go after yourself. That was so out of line.

596
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:33,920
Speaker 3: WHOA all right?

597
00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 1: For the first time since I've met Cheryl, she was

598
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:40,239
Speaker 1: actually speechless and just turned around and went in her

599
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:42,680
Speaker 1: room and closed the door because probably no one ever

600
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:45,040
Speaker 1: told her off, and it's in her queendom. Yeah, whole

601
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:47,320
Speaker 1: life in her queendom. No one's gonna tell Cheryl to

602
00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:49,720
Speaker 1: shut up. My friend thought it was the funniest thing

603
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:52,040
Speaker 1: she'd ever seen and said she was so proud of

604
00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:55,040
Speaker 1: me for sticking up for myself. Initially I felt good

605
00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:57,800
Speaker 1: about it too, but ever since yesterday, I am just

606
00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:01,000
Speaker 1: wrecked with guilt and I feel like a major a hole.

607
00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:03,000
Speaker 1: I feel like there were a million other ways I

608
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:05,480
Speaker 1: could have handled it, and I should have not let

609
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 1: Cheryl see that she upset me. She's a very lonely person,

610
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:12,439
Speaker 1: and though I don't like her, I don't need to

611
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:14,679
Speaker 1: say such cool things to her. I feel like an

612
00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:18,200
Speaker 1: a hole? Am I the a hole? There is an edito?

613
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 2: I don't think you should put that she's a very

614
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 2: lonely person and stuff on you. It's understandable why you

615
00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:26,720
Speaker 2: feel guilty. Honestly, I'd say you could have handled it

616
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 2: a little bit better. She came up on you, she

617
00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:29,960
Speaker 2: did attack you.

618
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 1: Cheryl is definitely being out of line.

619
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:35,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was good of you to confront her. Better

620
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 2: word choice.

621
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:37,919
Speaker 1: Better word choice, But again, I think you're just so

622
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 1: many emotions that are going through your head. Yeah you

623
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 1: can't think I get it.

624
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 2: If we could rewind and do it over again, we could.

625
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 2: But if we can't rewind.

626
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 1: I do think a confrontation and an apology from op

627
00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 1: to Like Cheryl, listen, I didn't mean to like that

628
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 1: was out of line, but again, you were out of line.

629
00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:57,320
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, so I'm sorry. Let's let bygones be bygones.

630
00:28:57,480 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, Like, let's enjoy the strip. The last thing

631
00:28:59,880 --> 00:29:02,240
Speaker 1: you want to do is be upset in a Mexico Yeah,

632
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 1: come on. Edit for the people asking, my swimsuit was

633
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:08,200
Speaker 1: from a company called Coco Lobo. They really only make

634
00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 1: one style, and I guess it's probably best described as

635
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 1: cheeky and not really a thong, but they do have

636
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:15,840
Speaker 1: a tendency to ride up the butt since I have

637
00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:19,120
Speaker 1: wider hips. Yes, my cheeks were visible, but it was

638
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:21,720
Speaker 1: far from dental floss. So yeah, you were wearing a

639
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 1: swimsuit and maybe you just have a nice butt ANDed

640
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:27,200
Speaker 1: it too. Wow, people are really focused on the swim

641
00:29:27,240 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 1: where I do have picks up the swimsuit on me

642
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 1: when I was doubing with my family last weekend on

643
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 1: my Instagram. But not sure if that's safe to send

644
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 1: out on a link. No, never do that. This is

645
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 1: my first ever post on a sub like this, so

646
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:40,560
Speaker 1: I guess can I get some input on that?

647
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:42,800
Speaker 2: If anyone's wondering what it is, look it up on

648
00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 2: yourself like.

649
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 1: You just did it and it was pretty straightforward. Yeah, no,

650
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 1: it's cute. Again, if you got cheeks, it will make

651
00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:54,240
Speaker 1: your cheeks look nice. I probably will look so good

652
00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:57,280
Speaker 1: at that. Also, my friend actually had on a one piece,

653
00:29:57,720 --> 00:30:00,320
Speaker 1: but it's a full on thong. Very cute on her,

654
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 1: but she did get the same look from Cheryl because

655
00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 1: she had to cover up on her bottom when we

656
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:08,520
Speaker 1: were in the hotel, so she had a towel on. Okay.

657
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 1: Edit three, I had zero idea this would blow up

658
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 1: the way it did, and I had no idea this

659
00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:16,400
Speaker 1: would get so much Internet stark. Please keep in mind

660
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 1: I tried to post this. Originally on the other am,

661
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 1: I the a whole sub but they have a word limit,

662
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:24,360
Speaker 1: so I had to come up with some word economy,

663
00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:27,720
Speaker 1: and even then didn't make it. So I posted here

664
00:30:28,040 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 1: some of the things I wish I could have included

665
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 1: in the original. This is not a work trip. In fact,

666
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 1: the evite said specifically it's not a work trip. It's

667
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 1: tangible bonus for a job well done this year. There

668
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:39,760
Speaker 1: is no mention of a dress code, and I am

669
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:42,440
Speaker 1: dressed well in line with other women at the resort.

670
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:45,880
Speaker 1: In fact, some are way more scantily dressed than me.

671
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:48,120
Speaker 1: The resort is huge, and I would guess there are

672
00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:51,120
Speaker 1: probably two thousand plus guest total. I think maybe ten

673
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:54,800
Speaker 1: people from our office are coming, plus some families and kids.

674
00:30:54,840 --> 00:31:00,280
Speaker 1: There are no dinners, events, meetings, hangouts, or obligations, So

675
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 1: no way could this be considered a work.

676
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:04,400
Speaker 2: Trip because I thought it was like my other thought

677
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:07,640
Speaker 2: process small company. She's probably like some of you there.

678
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 2: It's a small resort. You guys are like, oh, we're

679
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 2: going to get dinner this day.

680
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 1: I feel like maybe on the evite it was like, oh,

681
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 1: if you guys want to do a dinner, let's do

682
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:15,320
Speaker 1: a dinner, but like, like.

683
00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:17,240
Speaker 2: You can get lost in the resort and no one

684
00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:18,320
Speaker 2: would probably see you for a week.

685
00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, great, this is for you guys doing a

686
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,440
Speaker 1: job well done. It's on the company. It's on the boss,

687
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:25,560
Speaker 1: and it's like not sponsored by the company. It's like,

688
00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:27,720
Speaker 1: if you want to go, just pay for your ticket,

689
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 1: have fun. You deserve it.

690
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 2: Yeah hmmm, interesting she specifically targeting you as well instead

691
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:33,600
Speaker 2: of the friend.

692
00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 1: Another point I wish I could have been more clear

693
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:39,000
Speaker 1: about the company closing for the month. We aren't closed,

694
00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:41,680
Speaker 1: but have no projects due until mid July, and we

695
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:44,320
Speaker 1: all have the option to work from home, take time

696
00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 1: for graduations and vacations. This hasn't happened in the three

697
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:49,480
Speaker 1: years I've been here, and I don't think it will

698
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 1: happen again. But it's been really nice. The trip to

699
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:55,200
Speaker 1: Mexico is also not a month long. It's up to

700
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 1: a week, so not around yesterday to Saturday. But you

701
00:31:57,640 --> 00:31:59,360
Speaker 1: know what you can do seven days a week. You

702
00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:03,160
Speaker 1: can join us live three pm PSC just type our profile.

703
00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 2: Just happened, Yeah, Cheryl, come on, girl, you're a little alone.

704
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 1: The fact that this is not stamped like this is

705
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 1: a work trip it's like, no, this is a trip

706
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 1: paid for by work. Yeah, that's what all it is.

707
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 1: You guys did a job, well done, Go have fun.

708
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:19,800
Speaker 1: I think Cheryl needs to again, Opie said, mind her

709
00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 1: own business. But again, the way you went about it

710
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:27,000
Speaker 1: with Cheryl, like I said, let bygones, be bygones and apologize.

711
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:29,080
Speaker 1: Even the manager or the boss or whatever of the

712
00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:31,400
Speaker 1: company was like, I can't wait for her to go.

713
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 1: Oh man, because Cheryl is just like so everbearing. Oh boy,

714
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 1: just yeah, she's an older woman and doesn't have you know,

715
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 1: and he seems like not many friends or doesn't do much.

716
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 1: So I get it. She's just a little like on

717
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:45,479
Speaker 1: the line of just like, let's do this, let's do this.

718
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:46,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

719
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:48,240
Speaker 1: So I just think you're not the a hole. Opie

720
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:51,200
Speaker 1: would just be like, hey, let's talk this out. I

721
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 1: am not a mean high schooler. I'm actually very, very

722
00:32:54,200 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 1: shy and bookish. I am probably considered pretty, but it

723
00:32:57,240 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 1: took me a long time to see myself as such.

724
00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:01,080
Speaker 1: I was a swimmer in high school, and it took

725
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 1: me years, well after college in fact, to even try

726
00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 1: on a bikini. I decided last year I liked the

727
00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 1: cheeky look because it's probably more common than not where

728
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:12,680
Speaker 1: we go tubing on the weekends. The part about getting

729
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:16,800
Speaker 1: Cheryl spicy sleep or kidnapped was a total joke, and

730
00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:19,360
Speaker 1: we meant no harm. It was only between the two

731
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:21,840
Speaker 1: of us. It really surprises me people are so hung

732
00:33:21,920 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 1: up on that, and I find it hard to believe

733
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:27,880
Speaker 1: that most of everyone hasn't made a similar sort of

734
00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:30,600
Speaker 1: joke about a frustrating co worker. I say this about

735
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 1: Riley all the time. If you haven't, I guess that's good.

736
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:36,920
Speaker 1: Gallo's humor is huge in the engineering field, and I

737
00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:40,840
Speaker 1: deal with jokes along those lines all day at work.

738
00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:44,440
Speaker 2: That is it nice? Yeah, hopefully your trip is funner

739
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:47,240
Speaker 2: and you don't have to worry about Cheryl and Cheryl

740
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 2: gets loose.

741
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 1: I think Cheryl needs to get loose. Cheryl definitely is.

742
00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 1: She's there.

743
00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:53,160
Speaker 2: I'm pro getting laid for Cheryl.

744
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:55,080
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, help. I think I would go up to

745
00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:57,400
Speaker 1: Cheryl'm like, hey, Cheryl, listen, we're in Mexico. Let's get

746
00:33:57,440 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 1: you la you girlfriend, Let's get you some spicy sleep.

747
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:01,840
Speaker 1: Let's have some fun. If she's not like that, like

748
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:03,760
Speaker 1: all right, then we're going to go have fun. You

749
00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 1: do your own thing. We won't bother you. You won't

750
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:06,920
Speaker 1: bother us.

751
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:07,479
Speaker 3: There we go.

752
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:11,400
Speaker 1: It's a big resort, easy money. You're in Mexico. Come on,

753
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:15,439
Speaker 1: come on, guys, let loose. But that's the end of story.

754
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:17,719
Speaker 2: Guys, so if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

755
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 1: We love you and see you tomorrow.

756
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:22,920
Speaker 2: My family is upset with me for trying to change

757
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 2: my name. It's my name, y'all, word out. I gotta

758
00:34:26,200 --> 00:34:28,799
Speaker 2: get a new one, change it to mc lovin. When

759
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 2: my son got back from a New Year's party today,

760
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 2: he asked for a talk. We sat down and he said,

761
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:37,800
Speaker 2: with a new year, he's changing his name to something

762
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 2: completely different to what his name is currently. By the way,

763
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:45,360
Speaker 2: this comes from name change throwaway on the R Size Okay, storytime,

764
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:48,800
Speaker 2: subbur so for some context. His name has been passed

765
00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:52,480
Speaker 2: down for several generations in the family. I'm the sixth,

766
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:54,920
Speaker 2: he is the seventh. It really meant a lot to

767
00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:57,960
Speaker 2: me that I was able to continue the tradition with him.

768
00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:01,040
Speaker 2: I was hoping he would continue the tradition with his

769
00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 2: own children. When I brought it up with him, he

770
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:06,759
Speaker 2: said he has always hoped that he has daughters, just

771
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:08,600
Speaker 2: did not have to pass the name on. He has

772
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:11,280
Speaker 2: a little bit of a complicated.

773
00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what, And that's what happens when you

774
00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:17,879
Speaker 3: set expectations, You're setting yourself up for disappointment.

775
00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:21,279
Speaker 2: As we talked, he said he's always hated having the

776
00:35:21,320 --> 00:35:24,359
Speaker 2: same name as someone else and wanted to pick something new.

777
00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:27,000
Speaker 2: I just don't get it. Having the family name has

778
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 2: always made me feel more connected to the family and

779
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:34,440
Speaker 2: its history. Now I'm left heartbroken and he wants this.

780
00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:38,239
Speaker 2: Is there anything I can do to say to him

781
00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:40,920
Speaker 2: or way I can approach him with this. I know

782
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:44,080
Speaker 2: I can't stop him from finally the paperwork, but the

783
00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:47,080
Speaker 2: fact that he wants to change his name is very upsetting.

784
00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 2: And by the way, he's also twenty years old.

785
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:51,799
Speaker 3: You just gotta have a heart to heart. The hearder

786
00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:53,960
Speaker 3: you try to tell him that he can't do it,

787
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:57,160
Speaker 3: the more it's gonna backfire. Oh yeah, do it.

788
00:35:57,239 --> 00:36:00,640
Speaker 2: Oh yeah. I've always hated my name. I was named

789
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:02,879
Speaker 2: after my dad and he was after his own, et cetera.

790
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:08,440
Speaker 2: For eight generations, we all have exact same name, first, middle,

791
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:11,520
Speaker 2: and last. Growing up, I hated it being called junior,

792
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:14,760
Speaker 2: and now it's a pain because all our male keeps

793
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:18,120
Speaker 2: getting mixed up, and because you'll never really know who's

794
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,839
Speaker 2: being addressed to when Dad, Granddad, and I are all

795
00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 2: in the same room.

796
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 3: I mean, that's fair, first, middle last.

797
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 2: On top of all of that, there is a part

798
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:29,360
Speaker 2: of me that feels like I have no identity in

799
00:36:29,400 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 2: a way. I feel like I was just born to

800
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:34,680
Speaker 2: fill a quota or just be a link in the chain,

801
00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:38,120
Speaker 2: and not because I actually was desired as a person.

802
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,799
Speaker 2: I hope that makes sense. I know now for sure

803
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:45,359
Speaker 2: that I'm supposed to carry on the tradition, but there's

804
00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:48,800
Speaker 2: no way I will. I actually do want kids someday,

805
00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:50,479
Speaker 2: but if I have a boy, he's sure as heck

806
00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:54,319
Speaker 2: is getting his own name. That's that's pretty fair.

807
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 3: By the time you're in your twenties, you have the

808
00:36:57,200 --> 00:37:00,680
Speaker 3: agency like you can. Yeah, you're allowed to do whatever

809
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 3: you want.

810
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 2: But honestly, I want my own name. I have looked

811
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:08,280
Speaker 2: into having my name changed legally, and when my parents

812
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:12,480
Speaker 2: found out, they were pissed. I kept getting inundated with

813
00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:15,680
Speaker 2: comments either in person or text, of how can you

814
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:18,280
Speaker 2: turn your back on our family like this. I kept

815
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 2: being told that I'm being disrespectful to all the namesakes

816
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:24,160
Speaker 2: that came before me. My only problem is no one

817
00:37:24,160 --> 00:37:26,520
Speaker 2: can tell me a single thing about them other than

818
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 2: their names being the same as mine. No one has

819
00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:32,360
Speaker 2: any information about them or their lives. So it just

820
00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:35,960
Speaker 2: strikes me as a complete hollow argument. Yeah, if it

821
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 2: was like a dope name, like I'm Michael Jordan the

822
00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:43,560
Speaker 2: third and you're also a really great basketball player.

823
00:37:44,040 --> 00:37:45,800
Speaker 3: Well I think I think they're just get it speaking

824
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 3: to the point of it's like, it's just the same name.

825
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:51,359
Speaker 3: Like nobody's like, yeah, and he built the courthouse and

826
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:53,200
Speaker 3: he did that, and it's just Nope, this is just

827
00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 3: the same name that we've always had, and that's what

828
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 3: we always do. And if you don't give your kids

829
00:37:57,239 --> 00:38:00,520
Speaker 3: this name, think of Think of all if your ancestors

830
00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:03,360
Speaker 3: who are not alive, who will be upset about.

831
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 2: The face you're gonna give them.

832
00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:07,919
Speaker 3: All these ancestors whose we don't know anything that they did,

833
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:09,120
Speaker 3: but we know what their name.

834
00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:10,960
Speaker 2: Is, their name, we know their first, middle last name.

835
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 2: And I've tried to be as rational as I can

836
00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:17,000
Speaker 2: about this. Honestly, I've been approached by my parents and

837
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:19,200
Speaker 2: said that I'm willing to work with them to pick

838
00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:22,160
Speaker 2: a new name for myself so they can still have

839
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:26,120
Speaker 2: the role of having named me, but they won't budge

840
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:28,520
Speaker 2: And am I wrong for feeling this way? I just

841
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:31,319
Speaker 2: hate being the next link in the chain. On top

842
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:34,839
Speaker 2: of that, feeling that the names are for my own

843
00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:38,640
Speaker 2: children are being predetermined rather than being left to me

844
00:38:39,239 --> 00:38:42,799
Speaker 2: and my hypothetical future wife. Can I do anything to

845
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:46,480
Speaker 2: keep the peace regardless? I am still determined to change

846
00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 2: my own name. I just don't want to cause a

847
00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:52,120
Speaker 2: huge family rift, can I do?

848
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 3: I think you you sit them down, yep, and you

849
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:58,120
Speaker 3: have the conversation of all right, tell me what some

850
00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:00,720
Speaker 3: of our ancestors have done. Yeah, do we really even

851
00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:03,080
Speaker 3: care about them? Yeah? Because it sounds like we don't.

852
00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:05,160
Speaker 3: And since we don't, I want to name my kids

853
00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:05,879
Speaker 3: something else.

854
00:39:06,160 --> 00:39:06,600
Speaker 4: Yeah.

855
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:08,719
Speaker 3: And I want a different name too, because what are

856
00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:10,600
Speaker 3: we even doing this for at this point, we don't

857
00:39:10,600 --> 00:39:13,000
Speaker 3: even remember anything about these people here?

858
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 2: We do have an update, so kind of a strange update.

859
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 2: In my original thread, uh you, dragonfly type pointed out

860
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:24,120
Speaker 2: that there was a threaft that was similar, but from

861
00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:27,080
Speaker 2: the other perspective, or a thread thread. Oh, so I

862
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:29,719
Speaker 2: think it was from their dad. They found the thread

863
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:31,480
Speaker 2: from their dad. Oh, that was the first one. This

864
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:34,880
Speaker 2: is the second one, and now we're getting into uh

865
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:38,279
Speaker 2: the sun op, not the Dad op. I checked it

866
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 2: out and it was eerily similar to my situation from

867
00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:43,840
Speaker 2: what OP said in the remaining comments. I asked my

868
00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:46,120
Speaker 2: dad about it, and it turns out that he actually

869
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 2: did post about it. Some minor things didn't match up.

870
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:52,080
Speaker 2: We both changed a couple of minor details to preserve anatomy,

871
00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:55,440
Speaker 2: but he kind of gave away that he said my

872
00:39:55,520 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 2: name in the comments anonymity. I wonder what that name was.

873
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:02,239
Speaker 2: So the update, everyone is still pretty upset about it.

874
00:40:02,480 --> 00:40:06,160
Speaker 2: My dad has been sulking a lot about it. He's

875
00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:08,520
Speaker 2: still struggling with the idea that he's going to be

876
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:11,560
Speaker 2: the last of his names. And here is what I

877
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:14,399
Speaker 2: was thinking, that your father's name meant his last name,

878
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:16,880
Speaker 2: not the whole thing. My brother, who is more like

879
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 2: my dad than I am, is mad.

880
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:20,759
Speaker 4: He's got a brother.

881
00:40:20,880 --> 00:40:22,759
Speaker 3: He's got a brother, so can't the brother.

882
00:40:22,560 --> 00:40:23,319
Speaker 4: Continue the name?

883
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:28,520
Speaker 3: Why is this even that big? What are we talking about?

884
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:31,280
Speaker 2: I think he does like the tradition, and his pissed

885
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:34,040
Speaker 2: that I came first, so he's mad at me too.

886
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:37,000
Speaker 2: Dad called my granddad and he's on his side. Too.

887
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 2: Mom has been more quiet. She's really conflict avoiding, and

888
00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:42,640
Speaker 2: I think that this might be why she agreed to

889
00:40:42,680 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 2: the name in the first place. So it's been a

890
00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:48,360
Speaker 2: rough but more than anything, it's been strengthening my resolve.

891
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:51,319
Speaker 2: No one has talked to me about my feelings, just

892
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:54,319
Speaker 2: how I'm turning my back on the family legacy. All

893
00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:56,399
Speaker 2: I could do at this point is to point out

894
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:59,480
Speaker 2: to them is that their arguments are exactly what I

895
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:01,759
Speaker 2: was talking about. They're making me feel like I am

896
00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:04,120
Speaker 2: nothing more than a vessel to carry the name on

897
00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:07,800
Speaker 2: rather than someone who was a desired as a person.

898
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:10,759
Speaker 2: They got a little heated when my dad and grandpa

899
00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:14,880
Speaker 2: and brother had an introvervention of sorts with me about it.

900
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:17,400
Speaker 2: I was pissed and told them straight up that the

901
00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 2: tradition is dead.

902
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:23,279
Speaker 3: It's done. The tradition is God just done. I mean,

903
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 3: they are really sitting out that they're acting like this

904
00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:28,600
Speaker 3: is like a like they're like the king, and they're like,

905
00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:31,800
Speaker 3: you don't understand. You have to pass on the lineage

906
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 3: of the firstborn. You're next in line for the throne.

907
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:37,120
Speaker 2: Because it is like a respectful thing.

908
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:40,839
Speaker 3: I think still though, op needs to be like, show

909
00:41:40,880 --> 00:41:44,440
Speaker 3: me why we're keeping this name. Give me some receipts.

910
00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:48,960
Speaker 3: I'm like, what are because apparently all he's gotten is like,

911
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:52,400
Speaker 3: I mean, we know they existed. We don't know what

912
00:41:52,440 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 3: they did, but we know that they were. What if

913
00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:57,360
Speaker 3: you don't want this name? What if somewhere down the line,

914
00:41:57,480 --> 00:42:00,880
Speaker 3: someone with this name did some something really bad? Yeah,

915
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 3: and you just don't know about it. That's why they

916
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:05,520
Speaker 3: don't know. They've all been scrubbed from history.

917
00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:07,960
Speaker 2: It's all been scubbed from history, and the only way

918
00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:09,919
Speaker 2: to remember the name is to keep passing it down.

919
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:13,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, you might be actually breaking like a long curse

920
00:42:14,239 --> 00:42:17,160
Speaker 3: that the family doesn't even know about. You guys got

921
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:18,280
Speaker 3: tricked by a witch.

922
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:22,319
Speaker 2: You can either have this decision with me now and

923
00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:24,359
Speaker 2: a loan, or in a few years when I have

924
00:42:24,400 --> 00:42:28,080
Speaker 2: a pregnant partner and they can have us both on

925
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:31,880
Speaker 2: at once. I would never want to put this pressure

926
00:42:32,000 --> 00:42:35,760
Speaker 2: on GF or wife, especially while she's pregnant. That part

927
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:37,879
Speaker 2: of why I think it is important to do it now.

928
00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:41,120
Speaker 2: After their total lack of support and the offer to

929
00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:43,239
Speaker 2: work with my parents on picking out a new name

930
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 2: together is off the table.

931
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:45,399
Speaker 1: I've made a.

932
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:48,000
Speaker 2: Decision on my own and I love my new name.

933
00:42:48,280 --> 00:42:50,400
Speaker 2: My friends are cool with it, and I've given my

934
00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:54,080
Speaker 2: family one month grace. At the end of February, I

935
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:57,800
Speaker 2: will correct them every time and it will last two months.

936
00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:00,600
Speaker 2: After that, I will refuse to respond they called me

937
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:03,279
Speaker 2: by my former name. The paperwork is filed to make

938
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 2: it legal, so I think it's going well overall. Also overall,

939
00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:11,040
Speaker 2: we go live every weekday at three PMPSD just to

940
00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:11,760
Speaker 2: have a profile.

941
00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 3: I think at the end of the day, you gotta

942
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:18,440
Speaker 3: do what's best for you. And if you really don't

943
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:20,880
Speaker 3: like this name, and you feel like your own agency

944
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:22,880
Speaker 3: has been sort of removed from you, like you're just

945
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:26,080
Speaker 3: this vessel to carry on legally, you can always change

946
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 3: it back. Right If you realize that this is actually

947
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:37,360
Speaker 3: going to completely erode and tear down your whole family life,

948
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:40,160
Speaker 3: and you find that that's not worth having your new name,

949
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:41,439
Speaker 3: you can always change it back.

950
00:43:41,560 --> 00:43:44,440
Speaker 2: Picking out my new name obviously caused its own problem.

951
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 2: As I've told my dad, I got immediate response that

952
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:50,879
Speaker 2: that's too modern. Why are you giving up a name

953
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:54,719
Speaker 2: with a storecor integrity for something so new. Brother again

954
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 2: was pissed that I followed through with it the name

955
00:43:58,800 --> 00:44:02,800
Speaker 2: is dead. I actually don't think either name I've picked

956
00:44:02,800 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 2: out or myself is particularly modern, but they are probably

957
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:09,399
Speaker 2: a bit newer than William. We have the name now

958
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:12,799
Speaker 2: it's William, So that's kind of where we are now.

959
00:44:12,880 --> 00:44:15,920
Speaker 2: My family is now pissed with me, but I'm holding

960
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 2: my own. I've got a new name, which I absolutely love,

961
00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 2: and I'm in the process of a legal name change. Nah,

962
00:44:22,840 --> 00:44:26,440
Speaker 2: that's that's good. I think you know, you're twenty, This

963
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 2: is a good age to do it, and you have

964
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:31,360
Speaker 2: like some pretty good like legal reasonings to how to

965
00:44:31,440 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 2: change your name.

966
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:35,279
Speaker 3: And also your family's allowed to be mad at you

967
00:44:35,320 --> 00:44:38,320
Speaker 3: about it. Oh yeah, and you're also allowed to deal

968
00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:42,400
Speaker 3: with that however you decide. And that's the wonderful world

969
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 3: of personal choice that we all live within. I refused

970
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:50,120
Speaker 3: to confront my brother after he got cheated on. Why

971
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:53,680
Speaker 3: is that? What do you mean by that? Hmmm? About

972
00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:57,560
Speaker 3: nine years ago, my brother's wife left him for another man.

973
00:44:57,640 --> 00:45:00,120
Speaker 3: A did is she was cheating on him. All that

974
00:45:00,760 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 3: my brother was devastated. They had married very young, and

975
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:06,520
Speaker 3: I was always against that. I had my brother in

976
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:09,560
Speaker 3: my apartment for months. By the way, this comes from

977
00:45:09,640 --> 00:45:13,600
Speaker 3: user East sixteen seventy four on the a slash Okay

978
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:17,960
Speaker 3: story Time subburd it So he'd fallen to a severe depression,

979
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:20,279
Speaker 3: and I was the one who paid for his psychologist

980
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:23,759
Speaker 3: since he didn't have the money and even lost his

981
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 3: job because he didn't even want to move from the

982
00:45:26,520 --> 00:45:29,400
Speaker 3: couch to the bathtub. I even gave him a bath

983
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:32,160
Speaker 3: at some point. What I love this man?

984
00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I.

985
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:35,960
Speaker 3: Bathed this man. I loved my brother.

986
00:45:36,560 --> 00:45:38,400
Speaker 2: And he could go through a lot of hard things,

987
00:45:38,400 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 2: but he his arms are gonna have to not work

988
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:42,319
Speaker 2: for me to give him bath.

989
00:45:42,480 --> 00:45:45,000
Speaker 3: I wasn't bothered by that. I did everything for my brother.

990
00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 3: She just left and blocked him from everywhere. Oh. She

991
00:45:47,719 --> 00:45:50,360
Speaker 3: simply confessed to him that she had been cheating on

992
00:45:50,440 --> 00:45:52,880
Speaker 3: him for a year and that she was in love

993
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:53,759
Speaker 3: with that man.

994
00:45:53,880 --> 00:45:56,040
Speaker 2: Oh boy, oh boy.

995
00:45:56,440 --> 00:46:00,600
Speaker 3: That's gotta hurt. No. Four years after after that, when

996
00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:03,960
Speaker 3: my brother was finally starting to feel better, she reappeared

997
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 3: in everyone's life. Oh great time. Yeah, oh yeah. The

998
00:46:08,280 --> 00:46:11,600
Speaker 3: worst person ever's back was. He just got back from

999
00:46:11,600 --> 00:46:12,239
Speaker 3: feeling good.

1000
00:46:12,280 --> 00:46:13,920
Speaker 2: This is ah again.

1001
00:46:14,560 --> 00:46:19,279
Speaker 3: Uh, this the typical thing happened. She and her lover

1002
00:46:19,480 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 3: were no longer together and she had begun to receive

1003
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 3: psychological help and change completely. She felt regretful, she was

1004
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 3: really sorry, et cetera. I told my brother all the

1005
00:46:30,600 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 3: time to cut off contact with her for the sake

1006
00:46:33,040 --> 00:46:37,040
Speaker 3: of his mental health. He didn't. I always had a

1007
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 3: bad feeling and I could smell the crap from afar.

1008
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:43,680
Speaker 3: He started to justify her past actions all the time

1009
00:46:44,040 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 3: by saying that she changed. They were too young, she

1010
00:46:48,640 --> 00:46:51,520
Speaker 3: was having problems, ah blah blah, blah blah blah. And

1011
00:46:51,560 --> 00:46:54,040
Speaker 3: he got angry when I told him that she's still

1012
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:55,319
Speaker 3: a b.

1013
00:46:55,880 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 2: Dude, this happened four years ago, and he's gonna take

1014
00:47:01,120 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 2: her back.

1015
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:04,719
Speaker 3: I mean, hey, four years is enough time to let go,

1016
00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:07,279
Speaker 3: right right right.

1017
00:47:07,480 --> 00:47:11,360
Speaker 2: That's a presidential cycle. We get a new president. Usually

1018
00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:13,640
Speaker 2: after four years, new president, old relationship.

1019
00:47:13,880 --> 00:47:16,400
Speaker 3: That's how that works. Every time there's a new president,

1020
00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:19,080
Speaker 3: you get back with your et. So shortly after that,

1021
00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 3: they got back together, and my brother cut off all

1022
00:47:22,239 --> 00:47:26,440
Speaker 3: contact with me because I didn't accept their relationship and

1023
00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:30,080
Speaker 3: he didn't want anyone to come between them. I told

1024
00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:33,120
Speaker 3: him to f off and that we we don't talk anymore.

1025
00:47:33,160 --> 00:47:37,880
Speaker 2: What the heck? Wow, dude, Okay, this guy's not thinking

1026
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:38,680
Speaker 2: with the right head.

1027
00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:42,480
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, you can't. Yeah, yeah, I couldn't think

1028
00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:45,520
Speaker 3: of a single thing, not at all. I couldn't. Just

1029
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 3: you gotta move on from somebody who does this stuff

1030
00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:48,279
Speaker 3: to you.

1031
00:47:48,239 --> 00:47:50,440
Speaker 2: Dude, especially to the point where your brother had to

1032
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:51,400
Speaker 2: bather with you.

1033
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:55,640
Speaker 3: Now, my brother has reappeared at my house after years

1034
00:47:55,680 --> 00:47:58,439
Speaker 3: without him wanting to talk to me, only to tell

1035
00:47:58,480 --> 00:48:01,759
Speaker 3: me that his wife cheated on him again, but this

1036
00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:06,480
Speaker 3: time they have children. Oh boy, he tried to tell you, Oh, Pete,

1037
00:48:06,480 --> 00:48:08,920
Speaker 3: tried to tell you this was gonna happen, dude, and

1038
00:48:08,960 --> 00:48:09,960
Speaker 3: you didn't listen.

1039
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:13,400
Speaker 2: You know, whenever you read a book, you're gonna get

1040
00:48:13,440 --> 00:48:15,160
Speaker 2: the same ending, even if you read it again.

1041
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:15,640
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1042
00:48:15,800 --> 00:48:20,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, the ending didn't change. The ending did not change.

1043
00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:21,520
Speaker 1: Wow.

1044
00:48:21,719 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 3: Okay. In the past, I would have let him in.

1045
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:27,640
Speaker 3: I would have hugged him into everything. But he has

1046
00:48:27,719 --> 00:48:30,799
Speaker 3: been gone for years without even inviting me to meet

1047
00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:33,560
Speaker 3: his children, and he has not even spoken to me

1048
00:48:34,160 --> 00:48:37,719
Speaker 3: or congratulate me on my marriage or on my pregnancy.

1049
00:48:38,320 --> 00:48:40,960
Speaker 3: I even invited him to my wedding and he didn't come.

1050
00:48:41,080 --> 00:48:44,880
Speaker 2: Oh dude, so he just wow, contact all contacts.

1051
00:48:44,960 --> 00:48:47,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, he didn't go to your wedding because he

1052
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 3: was too busy being a simp for his wife that

1053
00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:54,880
Speaker 3: was cheated on he is, Yeah, he was too busy

1054
00:48:55,040 --> 00:48:57,319
Speaker 3: standing up for the woman who was cheating on him.

1055
00:48:57,920 --> 00:49:01,360
Speaker 3: H yep, yep. I told him that at this moment,

1056
00:49:01,760 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 3: I can't let him be in my house, which is

1057
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:06,360
Speaker 3: actually true, because I can't have that kind of stress.

1058
00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:09,920
Speaker 3: He told me that we are siblings and he needs me,

1059
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:12,640
Speaker 3: but I told him that I needed him too, but

1060
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:14,759
Speaker 3: he was never there because he cut me off for

1061
00:49:14,800 --> 00:49:18,200
Speaker 3: that woman. We had an argument and my husband ended

1062
00:49:18,280 --> 00:49:21,279
Speaker 3: up kicking him out because I was already crying. He's

1063
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:23,920
Speaker 3: staying with our parents now, and my mother just tells

1064
00:49:23,960 --> 00:49:26,279
Speaker 3: me it's not the time to hold a grudge against him,

1065
00:49:26,280 --> 00:49:28,640
Speaker 3: and he needs me. But I can't forget how he

1066
00:49:28,680 --> 00:49:31,799
Speaker 3: didn't think twice before cutting off all contact with me

1067
00:49:32,480 --> 00:49:32,960
Speaker 3: for her.

1068
00:49:33,239 --> 00:49:36,120
Speaker 2: I stand by this. You were there for your brother

1069
00:49:36,640 --> 00:49:38,960
Speaker 2: in his worst moment, and he couldn't be there for

1070
00:49:39,080 --> 00:49:41,680
Speaker 2: you in your best moments because he was too distracted.

1071
00:49:41,719 --> 00:49:44,840
Speaker 2: I stand by it. Yeah, it sucks. I wouldn't completely

1072
00:49:44,840 --> 00:49:47,120
Speaker 2: completely cut him off. I would be like, hey, I'm

1073
00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:50,960
Speaker 2: not taking you in. I love you. Let's start rebuilding

1074
00:49:50,960 --> 00:49:51,839
Speaker 2: it a little bit more.

1075
00:49:52,000 --> 00:49:53,880
Speaker 3: That's probably the best way to approach it is not.

1076
00:49:53,960 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 3: But I'm not bathing you man, not being like a

1077
00:49:55,800 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 3: get out of here, like you're unwanted, but being like, hey,

1078
00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:01,080
Speaker 3: they would be great if you could come into my

1079
00:50:01,080 --> 00:50:03,760
Speaker 3: house right now, but you really can't because we've become

1080
00:50:03,880 --> 00:50:07,600
Speaker 3: estranged and if we want to rebuild that relationship, we

1081
00:50:07,640 --> 00:50:11,560
Speaker 3: can't start at I'm now taking care of you again. Yeah,

1082
00:50:11,680 --> 00:50:15,040
Speaker 3: we have to start somewhere else. Update. I've spoken to

1083
00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:17,360
Speaker 3: my mother because she kept trying to persuade me to

1084
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:19,680
Speaker 3: talk to my brother. She came to see me since

1085
00:50:19,719 --> 00:50:22,360
Speaker 3: I can't move too much. She basically told me that

1086
00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:25,759
Speaker 3: my brother is very sorry, and I told her that

1087
00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 3: he should tell me and not her, But my mother

1088
00:50:29,640 --> 00:50:32,760
Speaker 3: replied that my brother is too embarrassed about his actions.

1089
00:50:33,120 --> 00:50:35,399
Speaker 3: I told her that I'm not going to let her

1090
00:50:35,600 --> 00:50:38,759
Speaker 3: be any kind of mediator, and my brother is old

1091
00:50:38,840 --> 00:50:41,800
Speaker 3: enough to speak for himself. I know he was sending

1092
00:50:41,840 --> 00:50:44,880
Speaker 3: her to insist that I talk back to him, but

1093
00:50:44,960 --> 00:50:49,480
Speaker 3: my brother is an adult and can speak for himself. Yes,

1094
00:50:49,680 --> 00:50:50,840
Speaker 3: he certainly should be.

1095
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:52,839
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, for sure.

1096
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:56,440
Speaker 3: That being said, two days ago, my brother came to

1097
00:50:56,520 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 3: my house to talk about everything. He told me something

1098
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:03,040
Speaker 3: that I always knew, which is that he never got

1099
00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:07,960
Speaker 3: over his ex wife and he was always totally blind

1100
00:51:08,200 --> 00:51:13,120
Speaker 3: for her. Really, don't say.

1101
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:12,919
Speaker 2: I can tell.

1102
00:51:15,280 --> 00:51:19,360
Speaker 3: I'd be pretty embarrassed about that too. Yeah, he believed

1103
00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:22,399
Speaker 3: that all of us who were against him coming back

1104
00:51:22,440 --> 00:51:25,480
Speaker 3: to her were toxic and he should cut us out

1105
00:51:25,480 --> 00:51:28,720
Speaker 3: of his life because we were an obstacle that didn't

1106
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:32,239
Speaker 3: believe people could change. So that's what he did with me.

1107
00:51:32,880 --> 00:51:36,279
Speaker 3: He blocked me out of his life. Oh boy. He

1108
00:51:36,360 --> 00:51:38,879
Speaker 3: said that he feels ashamed of himself for having been

1109
00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:42,879
Speaker 3: so blind since she cheated on him. Again, I never

1110
00:51:42,880 --> 00:51:45,200
Speaker 3: told him I told you so, Nor am I going

1111
00:51:45,239 --> 00:51:49,160
Speaker 3: to because he already knows that. Yeah, there were many

1112
00:51:49,200 --> 00:51:51,960
Speaker 3: people worried about whether their children were his, but I

1113
00:51:51,960 --> 00:51:55,399
Speaker 3: can assure everyone that they are. They look identical to him,

1114
00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:59,840
Speaker 3: and luckily she was maybe faithful at that time. Anyway,

1115
00:52:00,200 --> 00:52:03,000
Speaker 3: after talking, he apologized to me and told me that

1116
00:52:03,040 --> 00:52:05,919
Speaker 3: he needs me. But I told him the same thing

1117
00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:09,400
Speaker 3: as that day. I needed him to and he was

1118
00:52:09,480 --> 00:52:13,800
Speaker 3: never there. I forgive him for everything, but that doesn't

1119
00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:16,600
Speaker 3: mean that I want to go back to everything being

1120
00:52:16,719 --> 00:52:19,120
Speaker 3: like it was before. Because I don't want to put

1121
00:52:19,120 --> 00:52:20,520
Speaker 3: myself in that situation again.

1122
00:52:20,560 --> 00:52:21,640
Speaker 2: I don't want to bathe you again.

1123
00:52:22,040 --> 00:52:26,759
Speaker 3: I don't want to be your your bather, no matter

1124
00:52:26,760 --> 00:52:27,680
Speaker 3: how rough it gets.

1125
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:29,919
Speaker 2: Look, I'm not doing it again.

1126
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:33,040
Speaker 3: Okay, man, you're talking to somebody who was at one

1127
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:38,080
Speaker 3: point your bather designated bather, and I can't go back.

1128
00:52:38,360 --> 00:52:40,919
Speaker 3: I don't want everything to go back like before, because

1129
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:43,000
Speaker 3: I don't want to put myself in that situation again.

1130
00:52:43,360 --> 00:52:45,400
Speaker 3: He didn't even tell me what he's gonna do with

1131
00:52:45,520 --> 00:52:49,040
Speaker 3: his wife, and I don't want the situation to repeat. Well,

1132
00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:51,759
Speaker 3: I hope what he's gonna do is leave her, for

1133
00:52:51,840 --> 00:52:52,840
Speaker 3: God's sake.

1134
00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:54,799
Speaker 2: Leave her a few years for her to get better,

1135
00:52:54,800 --> 00:52:55,759
Speaker 2: and then go back with Y.

1136
00:52:56,560 --> 00:53:00,680
Speaker 3: And we're gonna rinse and repeat, baby, rinse and repeat.

1137
00:53:02,000 --> 00:53:05,319
Speaker 3: I never did anything expecting something in return, but it

1138
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:07,919
Speaker 3: did hurt me a lot that he turned his back

1139
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 3: on me without thinking twice and only came back when

1140
00:53:10,960 --> 00:53:14,400
Speaker 3: things got bad for him. I'd had invited him to

1141
00:53:14,480 --> 00:53:17,880
Speaker 3: my wedding, maybe foolishly, believing that he would come, but

1142
00:53:17,960 --> 00:53:20,919
Speaker 3: he didn't even do that. I even kept a seat

1143
00:53:20,920 --> 00:53:23,759
Speaker 3: for him, thinking that he was maybe coming late. And

1144
00:53:23,800 --> 00:53:26,520
Speaker 3: I really feel dumb for doing that. I told him,

1145
00:53:26,560 --> 00:53:29,320
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, but I want things to continue as before,

1146
00:53:30,080 --> 00:53:32,080
Speaker 3: since I got used to not having him in my

1147
00:53:32,120 --> 00:53:34,600
Speaker 3: life and I don't trust that he won't use me

1148
00:53:34,680 --> 00:53:38,399
Speaker 3: as a nurse and therapist anymore. At first, he didn't

1149
00:53:38,440 --> 00:53:41,720
Speaker 3: understand and said that we're siblings and we should be united.

1150
00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:45,279
Speaker 3: But when I told him that he forgot that for years,

1151
00:53:46,120 --> 00:53:48,719
Speaker 3: he shut up. Yeah. Yeah, it's like we're supposed to

1152
00:53:48,760 --> 00:53:52,759
Speaker 3: be united. Dude, you left, you left for years. I

1153
00:53:52,920 --> 00:53:57,480
Speaker 3: was your bather bathe, I bathed you a grown man.

1154
00:53:57,520 --> 00:54:00,520
Speaker 3: I bathed you out of love and show up to

1155
00:54:00,560 --> 00:54:02,680
Speaker 3: my wedding and then you're not. You can't. You don't

1156
00:54:02,680 --> 00:54:05,000
Speaker 3: get to play the card of we're siblings. Where you

1157
00:54:05,040 --> 00:54:09,680
Speaker 3: united you left first. Yeah, it goes for your cheating

1158
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:13,439
Speaker 3: scoundrel wife that everybody told you not to take back.

1159
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:15,719
Speaker 3: You cut off your whole family for this woman who

1160
00:54:15,840 --> 00:54:19,319
Speaker 3: cheated on you again. Wild And by the way, we

1161
00:54:19,360 --> 00:54:21,200
Speaker 3: don't ever want you to cheat on us by not

1162
00:54:21,600 --> 00:54:25,360
Speaker 3: joining us live on YouTube every weekday at three pm.

1163
00:54:25,640 --> 00:54:28,960
Speaker 3: Just tap our profile and if you don't, we now

1164
00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:33,160
Speaker 3: officially consider it adul tree. Yeah, just like that, you

1165
00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:35,160
Speaker 3: have to be in the stream or you're cheating on

1166
00:54:35,239 --> 00:54:37,680
Speaker 3: us exactly. I simply told him that I prefer to

1167
00:54:37,719 --> 00:54:40,520
Speaker 3: continue without contact with him as before, and I've made

1168
00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:42,720
Speaker 3: it clear to my mother that I want to spend

1169
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:45,840
Speaker 3: these months peacefully. Maybe some will call me cool and

1170
00:54:45,840 --> 00:54:48,000
Speaker 3: say I should think about my family, but I'm not

1171
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:52,040
Speaker 3: going to let him treat me like she treated him,

1172
00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:54,160
Speaker 3: and that is the end of that.

1173
00:54:54,320 --> 00:54:59,040
Speaker 2: Good riddance. I hate to see a broken relationship between brothers.

1174
00:54:59,239 --> 00:55:03,280
Speaker 3: I am a huge and sister brother and sister. Oh,

1175
00:55:03,360 --> 00:55:04,680
Speaker 3: I think I might have made a mistake at the

1176
00:55:04,680 --> 00:55:07,680
Speaker 3: beginning of the story where I gendered the op as

1177
00:55:07,800 --> 00:55:10,160
Speaker 3: a male got it, got it your sister?

1178
00:55:10,280 --> 00:55:13,839
Speaker 2: Well, still, I hate to see a broken relationship between siblings. Yeah,

1179
00:55:14,280 --> 00:55:18,360
Speaker 2: and ah, that's good. Good for you for stand your grounds.

1180
00:55:18,560 --> 00:55:19,080
Speaker 2: That's huge.

1181
00:55:19,239 --> 00:55:19,439
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1182
00:55:19,480 --> 00:55:22,480
Speaker 3: I mean he left first, and it's definitely a situation

1183
00:55:22,520 --> 00:55:25,520
Speaker 3: where he came back because now he needs something. And

1184
00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:28,399
Speaker 3: I think maybe you could slowly let him back into

1185
00:55:28,400 --> 00:55:31,279
Speaker 3: your life, but certainly not at a level that like

1186
00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:35,719
Speaker 3: would be anywhere considered like back to normal, like it's

1187
00:55:35,840 --> 00:55:39,120
Speaker 3: It would have to be a long process of rebuilding

1188
00:55:39,760 --> 00:55:43,040
Speaker 3: the foundation of y'all's relationship. Yeah, because he broke up

1189
00:55:43,080 --> 00:55:45,640
Speaker 3: that foundation. He took a jackhammer to it when he

1190
00:55:45,680 --> 00:55:47,800
Speaker 3: took back his cheat gnassx wife.

1191
00:55:47,920 --> 00:55:52,120
Speaker 4: My wedding was perfect because none of my family showed up.

1192
00:55:52,480 --> 00:55:57,759
Speaker 4: Oh what a twist twist. I, thirty female, and my

1193
00:55:57,840 --> 00:56:00,200
Speaker 4: fiance thirty two male, have been planning our way wedding

1194
00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:03,520
Speaker 4: for over a year. We're planning a small, intimate wedding

1195
00:56:03,640 --> 00:56:07,200
Speaker 4: with only forty of the coolest people in town and

1196
00:56:07,280 --> 00:56:11,000
Speaker 4: doesn't say that but h and no plus ones. We

1197
00:56:11,080 --> 00:56:14,400
Speaker 4: are paying for everything and I'm even getting my brides

1198
00:56:14,440 --> 00:56:17,399
Speaker 4: Bay makeup done at my expense. But with all of that,

1199
00:56:17,560 --> 00:56:22,080
Speaker 4: this is where things start going south. First instance that

1200
00:56:22,239 --> 00:56:25,279
Speaker 4: happened was my wedding dress shopping. My older sister was

1201
00:56:25,360 --> 00:56:27,879
Speaker 4: my maid of honor. By the way, this comes from

1202
00:56:27,960 --> 00:56:30,680
Speaker 4: No Cookie to nine seven seven on the Okay Storytime

1203
00:56:30,680 --> 00:56:35,320
Speaker 4: subvered it. So I booked an appointment for David Bridle

1204
00:56:35,400 --> 00:56:37,200
Speaker 4: and they called a day later to let me know

1205
00:56:37,239 --> 00:56:39,440
Speaker 4: they were closing down the store, so I would need

1206
00:56:39,520 --> 00:56:42,680
Speaker 4: to come this weekend. Also, Socrates, were you the one

1207
00:56:42,719 --> 00:56:45,719
Speaker 4: who was talking about the weather, because thank you for

1208
00:56:45,760 --> 00:56:49,280
Speaker 4: saying no, hey, I appreciate it. I have always pictured

1209
00:56:49,280 --> 00:56:51,759
Speaker 4: my dress shopping experience that all my family would be

1210
00:56:51,760 --> 00:56:54,680
Speaker 4: there and be happy for this special day as most

1211
00:56:54,680 --> 00:56:55,239
Speaker 4: people do.

1212
00:56:55,440 --> 00:56:58,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it did not go like that.

1213
00:56:58,760 --> 00:57:02,160
Speaker 4: Once I received the car, I called my older sister

1214
00:57:02,239 --> 00:57:03,880
Speaker 4: and let her know. I asked her if if she

1215
00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:06,000
Speaker 4: could come on Sunday. She let me know she was

1216
00:57:06,640 --> 00:57:10,200
Speaker 4: busy that day. Bummer. I asked about Saturday and she

1217
00:57:10,239 --> 00:57:13,920
Speaker 4: said it was perfect because she had no plans. Saturday

1218
00:57:14,040 --> 00:57:17,200
Speaker 4: rolls around and I'm super excited, thinking my whole family

1219
00:57:17,280 --> 00:57:20,760
Speaker 4: is going. I called my older sister. She says, Ooh,

1220
00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:22,680
Speaker 4: I don't know if I'm gonna be able to get

1221
00:57:22,720 --> 00:57:25,520
Speaker 4: everyone because I have a bunch of things to do.

1222
00:57:26,040 --> 00:57:30,360
Speaker 4: Maybe brunches. My friend's kid's birthday party is today. I

1223
00:57:30,520 --> 00:57:33,040
Speaker 4: was pissed because she didn't say this the other day.

1224
00:57:33,560 --> 00:57:36,240
Speaker 4: I didn't say anything, it just asked if I pushed

1225
00:57:36,280 --> 00:57:38,320
Speaker 4: the time back, will you be able to bring bring

1226
00:57:38,440 --> 00:57:41,240
Speaker 4: some She basically said, I'll see what I can do.

1227
00:57:41,800 --> 00:57:44,360
Speaker 4: So the time of my appointment starts to roll around.

1228
00:57:44,840 --> 00:57:47,000
Speaker 4: Me and my cousin and dad show up at the store.

1229
00:57:47,240 --> 00:57:50,080
Speaker 4: My older sister isn't answering, and at this point I'm

1230
00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:53,400
Speaker 4: trying to stall. I end up spending three hours in

1231
00:57:53,440 --> 00:57:55,840
Speaker 4: the store. At this point, my older sister nor my

1232
00:57:55,920 --> 00:57:58,880
Speaker 4: other family are not here. That's a double negative.

1233
00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:02,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, nor her family are no are so they're all there.

1234
00:58:04,120 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 4: I start trying on dresses and I finally find the

1235
00:58:06,640 --> 00:58:10,040
Speaker 4: perfect dress. After that, I call my sister one last time,

1236
00:58:10,760 --> 00:58:13,880
Speaker 4: one more. She is walking in the store. As she

1237
00:58:13,960 --> 00:58:16,080
Speaker 4: comes in, I let her know I found the perfect dress.

1238
00:58:16,280 --> 00:58:18,600
Speaker 4: She's like, well, this was a waste of my time.

1239
00:58:23,200 --> 00:58:24,440
Speaker 1: I shouldn't have even come there.

1240
00:58:24,760 --> 00:58:29,080
Speaker 3: Like walking, you tell me it's over, and it's like, you're.

1241
00:58:28,920 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 4: Late, you are late, you missed it all. Also, she's like,

1242
00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:35,680
Speaker 4: oh my god. She like comes the sister walks in.

1243
00:58:35,800 --> 00:58:39,800
Speaker 4: She's like, Sis, look I found the perfect dress. And

1244
00:58:39,840 --> 00:58:44,400
Speaker 4: the sister's like, wow, great, there goes my day.

1245
00:58:44,720 --> 00:58:48,520
Speaker 3: I guess maybe she's being supportive. She's agreeing. She's like,

1246
00:58:48,680 --> 00:58:50,120
Speaker 3: you did find the perfect dress.

1247
00:58:50,280 --> 00:58:53,640
Speaker 4: I'm here for At this point, she didn't have my

1248
00:58:53,760 --> 00:58:56,040
Speaker 4: mother or my other family. I've been in the store

1249
00:58:56,080 --> 00:59:00,240
Speaker 4: for nearly four hours. I was beyond annoyed, but didn't

1250
00:59:00,240 --> 00:59:02,720
Speaker 4: say anything. I was like, I'm sorry you feel that way,

1251
00:59:03,120 --> 00:59:07,400
Speaker 4: and left. Days go by. I'm starting to send out invitations.

1252
00:59:07,520 --> 00:59:09,920
Speaker 4: I stopped by my grandma's house to hand her an invite.

1253
00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:13,000
Speaker 4: She's asking where other invitations are for her side of

1254
00:59:13,000 --> 00:59:16,400
Speaker 4: the family. Small context about my grandma and I. We

1255
00:59:16,400 --> 00:59:19,360
Speaker 4: were never close. I don't know her side of the family,

1256
00:59:19,440 --> 00:59:21,480
Speaker 4: so I was a bit confused because the wedding is

1257
00:59:21,520 --> 00:59:25,200
Speaker 4: for immediate family. As I explained to her, she catches

1258
00:59:25,240 --> 00:59:28,480
Speaker 4: an attitude and says she wants one invite so her

1259
00:59:28,600 --> 00:59:31,640
Speaker 4: cousin can come. I let her know that if someone cancels,

1260
00:59:31,840 --> 00:59:35,400
Speaker 4: I'll give her an invite. She gets more upset says, well,

1261
00:59:35,400 --> 00:59:37,960
Speaker 4: if I can't get another invitation, I'm not going. At

1262
00:59:37,960 --> 00:59:40,800
Speaker 4: this point, I got upset and said don't come and

1263
00:59:40,960 --> 00:59:42,040
Speaker 4: walked out.

1264
00:59:42,240 --> 00:59:46,320
Speaker 3: Yeah that's what you do. You say, Oh, guess what,

1265
00:59:47,280 --> 00:59:49,000
Speaker 3: you don't have an invitation anymore, so.

1266
00:59:49,120 --> 00:59:51,520
Speaker 4: Someone else is getting a blessed one. You don't get

1267
00:59:51,520 --> 00:59:52,120
Speaker 4: this one anymore.

1268
00:59:52,160 --> 00:59:56,120
Speaker 3: One invitation to zero invitations, So have fun with that.

1269
00:59:56,600 --> 01:00:00,479
Speaker 4: Bye bye. A few hours go by, my their sister

1270
01:00:00,520 --> 01:00:04,040
Speaker 4: calls me screaming, saying I'm wrong, and then I need

1271
01:00:04,080 --> 01:00:06,960
Speaker 4: to invite who grandma wants. If not her kids in

1272
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:08,800
Speaker 4: her will not be a part of the wedding. I

1273
01:00:08,880 --> 01:00:11,160
Speaker 4: was a beyond mad because she knew everyone I was

1274
01:00:11,200 --> 01:00:13,640
Speaker 4: inviting now she's acting like I'm in the wrong. I

1275
01:00:13,680 --> 01:00:16,040
Speaker 4: basically say I will figure it out because I want

1276
01:00:16,120 --> 01:00:17,800
Speaker 4: all of my family to be a part of it.

1277
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:20,440
Speaker 4: So two people end up saying they're not coming. I

1278
01:00:20,480 --> 01:00:22,880
Speaker 4: give my grandma two invites, even though she only asks

1279
01:00:22,920 --> 01:00:25,600
Speaker 4: for one. But I was being generous. Oh he's being

1280
01:00:25,720 --> 01:00:30,120
Speaker 4: strong armed into all this. So with the invitations, there's

1281
01:00:30,120 --> 01:00:33,600
Speaker 4: no plus one, only one invite for one person because

1282
01:00:33,600 --> 01:00:36,760
Speaker 4: we can only have forty people. As the weeks go by,

1283
01:00:37,000 --> 01:00:41,320
Speaker 4: my grandma kept asking if anyone canceled, even my fiance,

1284
01:00:41,400 --> 01:00:44,560
Speaker 4: and I explained several times, you know, if anyone cancels,

1285
01:00:44,600 --> 01:00:46,960
Speaker 4: we'll let you know. So it was a week before

1286
01:00:47,000 --> 01:00:49,560
Speaker 4: my birthday. I'm on the phone with my older sister.

1287
01:00:50,000 --> 01:00:52,360
Speaker 4: She's at my grandma's house trying on her bridle dress.

1288
01:00:52,600 --> 01:00:55,480
Speaker 4: As I'm talking to my sister, my grandma hops on

1289
01:00:55,520 --> 01:00:57,600
Speaker 4: the phone to ask if I received the invitation from

1290
01:00:57,640 --> 01:01:00,880
Speaker 4: the people she invited. I say, I received one. She

1291
01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:04,600
Speaker 4: states she invited her cousin and a married couple. I'm

1292
01:01:04,640 --> 01:01:07,240
Speaker 4: a bit confused because I only gave her two invites.

1293
01:01:07,440 --> 01:01:11,440
Speaker 4: I say, what are you talking about? She repeats, And

1294
01:01:11,480 --> 01:01:16,080
Speaker 4: at this point I'm pissed because everyone has RSVP'd already.

1295
01:01:16,160 --> 01:01:18,320
Speaker 4: If she wanted the married couple to come, she should

1296
01:01:18,360 --> 01:01:20,520
Speaker 4: have used the two I gave her to invite them.

1297
01:01:21,120 --> 01:01:23,840
Speaker 4: I felt like she didn't care about my feelings. I

1298
01:01:23,960 --> 01:01:27,200
Speaker 4: was fed up, expressed how selfish she was being. My

1299
01:01:27,280 --> 01:01:29,160
Speaker 4: sister gets back on the call to tell me she

1300
01:01:29,280 --> 01:01:32,720
Speaker 4: is tired of my effing wedding, her and her kids

1301
01:01:32,800 --> 01:01:35,760
Speaker 4: won't be coming and hung up. I was over it,

1302
01:01:35,880 --> 01:01:39,040
Speaker 4: so I blocked everyone. The next day, my sister trying

1303
01:01:39,080 --> 01:01:41,040
Speaker 4: to call, but I'm not trying to hear it. Why

1304
01:01:41,040 --> 01:01:43,200
Speaker 4: are they so? Why is it so important that the

1305
01:01:43,240 --> 01:01:44,960
Speaker 4: grandma's friend the cousins come.

1306
01:01:45,200 --> 01:01:47,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, this this feels like we're missing some contact in

1307
01:01:47,520 --> 01:01:49,760
Speaker 3: the dynamic. And I feel like it's like this really

1308
01:01:49,800 --> 01:01:53,080
Speaker 3: intense matriarchy of like the grand.

1309
01:01:52,800 --> 01:01:54,640
Speaker 4: Grandma, you must be like grandmama.

1310
01:01:55,360 --> 01:01:58,640
Speaker 3: If you don't do what Grandma says, you're one. She's

1311
01:01:58,680 --> 01:02:02,480
Speaker 3: gonna make everybody life miserable, which is why then everyone

1312
01:02:02,520 --> 01:02:06,240
Speaker 3: immediately is conditioned to go to Grandma says, because we

1313
01:02:06,240 --> 01:02:07,720
Speaker 3: don't want to deal with it, and you don't want

1314
01:02:07,760 --> 01:02:09,440
Speaker 3: to deal with it, right, so's do it.

1315
01:02:09,720 --> 01:02:14,880
Speaker 4: And also the fact that Ope gave her two extra tickets, yeah,

1316
01:02:14,960 --> 01:02:17,320
Speaker 4: or two extra invites already, It'll be fine. And then

1317
01:02:17,320 --> 01:02:18,720
Speaker 4: the girl was like, I need another one. I knew

1318
01:02:18,720 --> 01:02:20,120
Speaker 4: another one and she was like, okay, well no one's

1319
01:02:20,160 --> 01:02:21,800
Speaker 4: dropped at the wedding. And she's like, okay, well I

1320
01:02:21,840 --> 01:02:25,360
Speaker 4: invited them anyway. So it's like, you can't do anything

1321
01:02:25,520 --> 01:02:27,320
Speaker 4: if you can only have forty people. You can only

1322
01:02:27,320 --> 01:02:27,960
Speaker 4: have forty people.

1323
01:02:28,360 --> 01:02:29,960
Speaker 3: My grandma would never do something like that.

1324
01:02:30,080 --> 01:02:33,520
Speaker 4: Toddter's grandma would never do something like shout out. The

1325
01:02:33,600 --> 01:02:35,720
Speaker 4: next week, I called my dad to get his opinion

1326
01:02:35,760 --> 01:02:39,840
Speaker 4: on the situation. I thought, maybe I'm overreacting. As I

1327
01:02:39,880 --> 01:02:42,240
Speaker 4: speak to him on the phone, he says, and I quote,

1328
01:02:42,480 --> 01:02:45,200
Speaker 4: I do not care about your feelings at this point.

1329
01:02:45,600 --> 01:02:47,760
Speaker 4: I just want to know if you're allowing grandma to

1330
01:02:47,800 --> 01:02:51,680
Speaker 4: invite who she wants. This is crazy. This is Opie's wedding.

1331
01:02:52,080 --> 01:02:54,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, I don't care about your wedding.

1332
01:02:54,440 --> 01:02:56,960
Speaker 4: I got upset, I said no. He hung up. It's

1333
01:02:56,960 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 4: safe to say he's not coming. I cried, and I've

1334
01:02:59,720 --> 01:03:02,000
Speaker 4: been up. I want to know if I'm in the

1335
01:03:02,040 --> 01:03:05,920
Speaker 4: wrong in this situation. PS. It's been more drama with

1336
01:03:05,960 --> 01:03:08,480
Speaker 4: my sister not being there through any of the wedding planning.

1337
01:03:08,680 --> 01:03:11,560
Speaker 4: She only cares when it's about her and her kids.

1338
01:03:11,920 --> 01:03:13,840
Speaker 4: My dad was not really in my life growing up

1339
01:03:13,920 --> 01:03:17,280
Speaker 4: until I turned into an adult. I thought he would care.

1340
01:03:17,680 --> 01:03:20,520
Speaker 4: I don't know what do you guys think. I'm sorry,

1341
01:03:20,600 --> 01:03:22,560
Speaker 4: it's super long and there is an update.

1342
01:03:23,120 --> 01:03:26,000
Speaker 3: Oh boy, bull bully boy.

1343
01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:29,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, don't invite these people. The thing is that it's

1344
01:03:29,000 --> 01:03:32,400
Speaker 4: not even you, like uninviting them, it's just them uninviting themselves.

1345
01:03:32,760 --> 01:03:35,920
Speaker 3: Yeah. They've already done the thing of like, well, if

1346
01:03:35,920 --> 01:03:38,680
Speaker 3: you're not going to do this, then I'm not coming,

1347
01:03:39,000 --> 01:03:41,080
Speaker 3: and that now it's your turn to be like, hey,

1348
01:03:41,120 --> 01:03:44,280
Speaker 3: I didn't do that, So what happens next.

1349
01:03:44,120 --> 01:03:45,040
Speaker 4: Till you're end of the bargain?

1350
01:03:45,080 --> 01:03:46,360
Speaker 3: I guess I guess you're not coming.

1351
01:03:46,440 --> 01:03:51,240
Speaker 4: Huh bummer. Yeah, call everyone's bluff man. Don't let them

1352
01:03:51,280 --> 01:03:53,440
Speaker 4: push you around, and this is your wedding Hugh update.

1353
01:03:53,720 --> 01:03:56,480
Speaker 4: It's a week before the wedding. For three weeks. My

1354
01:03:56,560 --> 01:03:59,760
Speaker 4: grandmother has been calling my phone. My little brother called

1355
01:03:59,800 --> 01:04:02,360
Speaker 4: me today after talking to my sister, who is not

1356
01:04:02,440 --> 01:04:05,640
Speaker 4: coming to the wedding, saying, my grandmother and my dad

1357
01:04:05,640 --> 01:04:09,560
Speaker 4: are still coming. Oh would you look at well, well,

1358
01:04:09,880 --> 01:04:13,120
Speaker 4: the grandma who caused all of the problems is still coming.

1359
01:04:13,320 --> 01:04:16,160
Speaker 4: This is honestly, I think you know what the grandma did.

1360
01:04:16,480 --> 01:04:19,439
Speaker 4: She was like, I'm gonna start this whole uprising, get

1361
01:04:19,440 --> 01:04:21,760
Speaker 4: people to say I'm not coming to the wedding, and

1362
01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:22,800
Speaker 4: then take the spots.

1363
01:04:23,120 --> 01:04:23,400
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1364
01:04:23,480 --> 01:04:25,560
Speaker 4: Yeah. So she's like, no, I can't invite my cousin.

1365
01:04:25,680 --> 01:04:29,000
Speaker 3: She's like, I have an idea.

1366
01:04:28,840 --> 01:04:31,080
Speaker 4: My grandmother and told her that she is not coming,

1367
01:04:31,360 --> 01:04:34,600
Speaker 4: neither is my father or the people she invited. She

1368
01:04:34,720 --> 01:04:37,320
Speaker 4: calls my sister and tells her. My little brother calls

1369
01:04:37,360 --> 01:04:39,520
Speaker 4: me again, saying how pissed my sister was that I'm

1370
01:04:39,560 --> 01:04:42,120
Speaker 4: doing this to my grandma that if she sees me,

1371
01:04:42,200 --> 01:04:43,439
Speaker 4: she's gonna beat me up.

1372
01:04:45,040 --> 01:04:47,440
Speaker 3: What excuse me, it's my wedding.

1373
01:04:47,680 --> 01:04:50,160
Speaker 4: She's like, if I see you on the streets with

1374
01:04:50,360 --> 01:04:54,000
Speaker 4: throwing hands. At this point, I'm just annoyed because they've

1375
01:04:54,040 --> 01:04:58,280
Speaker 4: been harassing me for three weeks. My sister has been

1376
01:04:58,280 --> 01:05:00,080
Speaker 4: having her kids try to call me and I I

1377
01:05:00,080 --> 01:05:02,960
Speaker 4: haven't been answering. All I want to do is be

1378
01:05:03,040 --> 01:05:05,800
Speaker 4: left alone. I'm going to let the venue know there's

1379
01:05:05,840 --> 01:05:08,360
Speaker 4: going to be a cop there. I'll keep everyone posted

1380
01:05:08,400 --> 01:05:10,800
Speaker 4: on how the actual wedding is. But all I want

1381
01:05:10,920 --> 01:05:13,360
Speaker 4: is to have a peaceful wedding. I haven't talked to

1382
01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:15,760
Speaker 4: these people in months, and they are still harassing me.

1383
01:05:16,320 --> 01:05:19,040
Speaker 4: I let my brother know after today. I just don't

1384
01:05:19,040 --> 01:05:22,200
Speaker 4: want to hear about them. And you can always hear

1385
01:05:22,440 --> 01:05:25,440
Speaker 4: from us every weekday at three pm PSD if you

1386
01:05:25,520 --> 01:05:26,960
Speaker 4: join us live just to have her profile.

1387
01:05:27,080 --> 01:05:27,640
Speaker 3: That's right.

1388
01:05:27,760 --> 01:05:30,320
Speaker 4: I think I've said what I've said, don't have them.

1389
01:05:30,400 --> 01:05:34,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, they suck. Exclude them like active way to exclude

1390
01:05:34,640 --> 01:05:36,800
Speaker 3: them from the wedding. And I would also say, go

1391
01:05:37,280 --> 01:05:38,560
Speaker 3: like low contact with them.

1392
01:05:38,560 --> 01:05:41,800
Speaker 4: I think so, Yeah, they really really suck. Update my

1393
01:05:41,880 --> 01:05:45,560
Speaker 4: family didn't show. We had an amazing time and I'm

1394
01:05:45,560 --> 01:05:49,880
Speaker 4: truly happy. WHOA, there we go. Yeah, the solution is

1395
01:05:50,000 --> 01:05:51,800
Speaker 4: just to not invite any of your family.

1396
01:05:51,880 --> 01:05:55,800
Speaker 3: Oh when your family's toxic, don't vie their wedding, don't

1397
01:05:55,840 --> 01:05:56,320
Speaker 3: invite the.

1398
01:05:58,000 --> 01:06:01,520
Speaker 4: What I am taking from this experience that everything happens

1399
01:06:01,640 --> 01:06:03,920
Speaker 4: for a reason. I want to thank you guys, because

1400
01:06:03,920 --> 01:06:05,960
Speaker 4: you guys help me get through it. So thank you.

1401
01:06:05,960 --> 01:06:06,720
Speaker 4: You're welcome.

1402
01:06:06,920 --> 01:06:07,480
Speaker 3: You're welcome.

1403
01:06:07,840 --> 01:06:10,400
Speaker 4: Couldn't have done it without us. What can I say?

1404
01:06:10,760 --> 01:06:14,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, none of this stuff happened until we talked about it.

1405
01:06:14,280 --> 01:06:17,680
Speaker 4: None of this would have been possible without.

1406
01:06:19,160 --> 01:06:20,920
Speaker 3: So where do where do we put the family? Do we?

1407
01:06:21,000 --> 01:06:22,280
Speaker 3: I think we put the family on the moon.

1408
01:06:22,440 --> 01:06:23,040
Speaker 4: I think the moon.

1409
01:06:23,360 --> 01:06:26,240
Speaker 3: I think they have a chance, right, yeah, no contact.

1410
01:06:26,720 --> 01:06:29,439
Speaker 3: I think slowly they'll trickle in and be like, hey,

1411
01:06:29,480 --> 01:06:32,600
Speaker 3: I really regret how I acted during your wedding. I

1412
01:06:32,760 --> 01:06:34,560
Speaker 3: wish that we could have been there. I just had

1413
01:06:35,080 --> 01:06:41,160
Speaker 3: the grandma brainwash. Yeah, the grandma poisoned mind. Yeah, poisoned

1414
01:06:41,200 --> 01:06:42,560
Speaker 3: mind against you.

1415
01:06:42,760 --> 01:06:44,480
Speaker 4: I think they can come back if they if they

1416
01:06:45,320 --> 01:06:48,160
Speaker 4: m h if they do it the right way, enjoy

1417
01:06:48,240 --> 01:06:51,040
Speaker 4: some low gravity on the moon, take some steps on

1418
01:06:51,080 --> 01:06:54,280
Speaker 4: the moon, put a flag up there, come back.

1419
01:06:54,480 --> 01:06:57,720
Speaker 3: More importantly, take some steps to be a better family member,

1420
01:06:57,720 --> 01:07:00,640
Speaker 3: to opee, and then you can come back. And then

1421
01:07:00,680 --> 01:07:03,880
Speaker 3: you can do a little, do a little, you know,

1422
01:07:04,040 --> 01:07:06,760
Speaker 3: we'll go around the block and picky back up, which

1423
01:07:06,840 --> 01:07:09,760
Speaker 3: in moontime takes what like a week and a half

1424
01:07:09,840 --> 01:07:11,720
Speaker 3: to go back to Earth and come back. Take a

1425
01:07:11,760 --> 01:07:14,440
Speaker 3: week week and a half on the moon. We'll have

1426
01:07:14,520 --> 01:07:14,840
Speaker 3: you right