Speaker 1: I won't let my body out me outwait everything that
Speaker 1: I'm made, don't won't spend my life trying to change.
Speaker 1: I'm learning love who I am, I get, I'm strong,
Speaker 1: I feel free, I know everybody of me. It's beautiful
Speaker 1: and that will always out way if you feel it
Speaker 1: with your hands.
Speaker 2: And there fell some love to the food.
Speaker 1: Why they let's say good day and did you and
Speaker 1: die out way?
Speaker 2: Happy Saturday out wayh it's leaning in here, and as
Speaker 2: we step into this new year, I want to talk
Speaker 2: about something that might surprise you, or maybe it won't
Speaker 2: surprise you, and it's that new year's resolutions don't work,
Speaker 2: at least not the way we've all been taught to
Speaker 2: do them. And so if you're tired of starting every
Speaker 2: January feeling like you're racing against time or desperate to,
Speaker 2: you know, air quotes fix your body or your life
Speaker 2: or your habits, I'm here to offer a different way forward,
Speaker 2: one that is definitely kinder and more sustainable and actually
Speaker 2: align with what you really want. And so right now
Speaker 2: you're probably being bombarded by messages telling you what you
Speaker 2: should be doing to make twenty twenty five amazing, Like
Speaker 2: a new meal thing a new workout regimen, some thirty
Speaker 2: day challenge to you know, jumpstart your health or your career.
Speaker 2: And it's everywhere, and it's tempting to dive on in,
Speaker 2: thinking that maybe, just maybe, this time it'll be different.
Speaker 2: But let's get real, Like, how many times have you
Speaker 2: done this same dance? Like how many Januaries have begun
Speaker 2: with strict rules and grand promises and a surge of motivation,
Speaker 2: only to fizzle out by February, really leaving you feeling
Speaker 2: more defeated than when you started. And I see it
Speaker 2: year after year, especially with women, and I've lived it myself,
Speaker 2: Like we come out of the holidays exhausted, We've bent
Speaker 2: over backwards trying to make everything perfect, you know, the
Speaker 2: gatherings and the gifts and the meals and the stress
Speaker 2: piles up. I call it the holiday hangover. When you
Speaker 2: hit January already burned out, not energize. Instead of feeling renewed,
Speaker 2: you feel drained. And because it's you know, new year,
Speaker 2: new you season, we feel compelled to set new goals
Speaker 2: and sign up for another program and force ourselves into
Speaker 2: a mold that we never really fit in. But let's
Speaker 2: ask the big question, Like, since when is adding more
Speaker 2: to an already overwhelmed life a good strategy? And when
Speaker 2: does piling on more tasks fix burnout? Well it doesn't,
Speaker 2: and we know it doesn't, and yet we keep doing
Speaker 2: it year after year because we think that that's what
Speaker 2: we're supposed to do, and we think achieving more and
Speaker 2: doing more and striving more will fix something inside us.
Speaker 2: But what if it just makes it worse? And so
Speaker 2: today I'm suggesting you do something radical for at least
Speaker 2: a week, maybe more. Don't buy into anyone's new program like,
Speaker 2: step away from quick fixes and the magical promises, and
Speaker 2: instead give yourself what you truly need right now, which
Speaker 2: is rest and reflection and a chance to catch your
Speaker 2: breath and figure out what you honestly want, not what
Speaker 2: the Internet says that you should want. And so a
Speaker 2: few years ago I found myself in this exact position.
Speaker 2: And I'd spent way too many New Years writing out
Speaker 2: goals and resolutions that revolved around, you know, changing my
Speaker 2: body or expanding my business or hitting certain milestones. And
Speaker 2: so every year I told myself like this would be
Speaker 2: the year I'd finally become that perfect, more accomplished version
Speaker 2: of me. But it never led to lasting fulfillment. Instead,
Speaker 2: it brought stress and self judgment and this sinking feeling
Speaker 2: that no matter what I accomplished, it wasn't enough. And
Speaker 2: then one year I decided to try something different. I
Speaker 2: sat down with a piece of paper and I wrote
Speaker 2: at the top my best year. Yeah, okay, my best
Speaker 2: year yet. But I started staring at those words, and
Speaker 2: I realized that the word best implied more striving and measuring,
Speaker 2: because more of the old same pattern. I'd measure my
Speaker 2: best by external achievements or you know, pounds loss or
Speaker 2: money earned or projects completed. And I knew where that
Speaker 2: road led, right to just more stress and shame and
Speaker 2: never feeling good enough. And so I scratched out the
Speaker 2: word best and I wrote the word happiest, like my
Speaker 2: happiest year yet. And so just switching that one word
Speaker 2: opened up a door in my mind, and suddenly I
Speaker 2: wasn't thinking about what I needed to do to impress anyone,
Speaker 2: not even myself. I was thinking about what would make
Speaker 2: me truly happy, not what should make me happy or
Speaker 2: what others say is success, but what actually brings me
Speaker 2: joy and peace and ease. And so happiness, I realized,
Speaker 2: is deeply personal, like it is not a metric on
Speaker 2: a scale or in a bank account. It is an
Speaker 2: experience and a feeling and a state of being. And
Speaker 2: when I focus on my own happiness, I'm forced to
Speaker 2: turn inward and to ask myself what matters to me
Speaker 2: at a soul level, instead of comparing myself to others
Speaker 2: or chasing arbitrary milestones. I become my own compass, and
Speaker 2: I measure my life by how I feel rather than
Speaker 2: what I produce. And so this shift changed everything. And
Speaker 2: so suddenly the noise and the chatter of resolutions faded,
Speaker 2: and I no longer needed to force myself into another
Speaker 2: thirty day challenge that would leave me feeling deprived and
Speaker 2: rebellious at the end. You know, no more step in
Speaker 2: on the scale daily to see if I was air
Speaker 2: quotes on track, and no more starting the year already
Speaker 2: feeling behind. And so when I chose my happiest year yet,
Speaker 2: it meant asking me things like what brings me joy
Speaker 2: and what relationshifts lift me up, and what activities calm
Speaker 2: anxious mind? And how can I move my body in
Speaker 2: ways that feel nourishing and not punishing. And it meant
Speaker 2: focusing on reducing stress and not adding more tasks, and
Speaker 2: it meant consciously stepping off that hamster wheel of self
Speaker 2: improvement that really never seemed to go anywhere good. And
Speaker 2: so think about it. If every year you vow to
Speaker 2: get in shape by doing something extreme, you might lose
Speaker 2: weight for a month, but what happens after that, Like
Speaker 2: the weight usually comes back because you never addressed why
Speaker 2: you turn to food in the first place, and you
Speaker 2: never healed your relationship with your body or eased the
Speaker 2: mental anguish fueling your patterns, And so by February or March,
Speaker 2: you're overwhelmed and again feeling like you failed. And this
Speaker 2: cycle repeats year after year, eroding your confidence and your
Speaker 2: trust in yourself if you don't flip the switch and
Speaker 2: change the pattern. And so what if this year, instead
Speaker 2: of trying to become the air quote's best version of yourself,
Speaker 2: you try to be the happiest version of yourself. Like
Speaker 2: what if health and fitness becomes supportive elements of your
Speaker 2: happiness rather than tasks to earn your own worthiness. And
Speaker 2: when happiness guides you your approach to food and movement
Speaker 2: and self care, it naturally just shifts. And it's not
Speaker 2: about forcing yourself to eat salads and hate everybodye It's
Speaker 2: about discovering that certain foods make you feel light and
Speaker 2: energized and that that feels good. And it's not about
Speaker 2: punishing yourself with grueling workouts, but it's about finding movement
Speaker 2: that brings a smile to your face, like maybe dancing
Speaker 2: or a walk out in nature. And so happiness also
Speaker 2: encourages you to set boundaries, like if your calendar is
Speaker 2: jam packed and leaving you frazzled, happiness will tell you
Speaker 2: to say no to extra obligations. And if you're staying
Speaker 2: up late doom scrolling social media and comparing your body
Speaker 2: to filtered strangers on the internet, happiness will whisper that
Speaker 2: it's time to unplug and protect your peace of mind.
Speaker 2: And so this doesn't mean that you'll never set goals again,
Speaker 2: like goals can still be a part of your life,
Speaker 2: but let them come from a place of self love
Speaker 2: and excitement, not fear or pressure. And instead of making
Speaker 2: a list of what you must accomplish this year, just
Speaker 2: ask like, what would make me happier? And maybe that
Speaker 2: means scheduling a weekly t date with a close friend
Speaker 2: or investing in therapy or coaching to address old emotional wounds,
Speaker 2: or maybe it means simplifying your meal planning so cooking
Speaker 2: feels like an act of care rather than a chore
Speaker 2: that you hate. Right, this approach allows you to break
Speaker 2: free from the tyranny of external measures, like no more
Speaker 2: letting the scale dictate your mood or letting your gene
Speaker 2: size determine your value as a human being. When you
Speaker 2: aim for happiness, you tap into that internal compass that
Speaker 2: knows what truly matters, and you start to see what
Speaker 2: truly matters, and that really what matters isn't hitting a
Speaker 2: certain number, but feeling at home in your own life
Speaker 2: and feeling at home in your body. And so as
Speaker 2: this year unfolds, you might find that by prioritizing happiness,
Speaker 2: you actually show up better in all areas, Like you
Speaker 2: become kinder to yourself when you slip up, and more
Speaker 2: resilient when challenges arise, and more confident in making choices
Speaker 2: that align with your values. This kind of lasting, genuine
Speaker 2: transformation beats any short lived resolution that falls apart once
Speaker 2: life really sets in.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 2: I know this might, you know, feel scary to some
Speaker 2: of you, but you know we're so used to setting concrete,
Speaker 2: measurable goals, and we like ticking boxes and saying that
Speaker 2: we achieve something. But happiness is intangible and you can't
Speaker 2: measure it in pounds or dollars, but you can feel
Speaker 2: it right and you and it's so much more powerful
Speaker 2: that way. When you let happiness guide you, you start
Speaker 2: building a life that feels good now, not just some
Speaker 2: distant day when you achieve you know, air quotes perfect
Speaker 2: health or ideal success. Okay, And here's another secret. When
Speaker 2: you nurture your happiness, you create an environment inside yourself
Speaker 2: that makes better choices, that just feels natural, like making
Speaker 2: better choices becomes this natural state, And that's where the
Speaker 2: real magic happens. When you're not stressing about perfection or
Speaker 2: your body, and you and your brain and your body
Speaker 2: can just relax right, and you become open to small
Speaker 2: positive changes that stick because they're rooted in self care,
Speaker 2: not in self punishment. And so if you're worried that
Speaker 2: focusing on happiness means slacken off or ignoring your health,
Speaker 2: let me reassure you nothing could be farther from the truth.
Speaker 2: True happiness includes caring for your body and mind and soul.
Speaker 2: But you do it because it feels right, not because
Speaker 2: you feel forced. And you can discover that nourishing foods
Speaker 2: can be a gift, not a prison sentence, and that
Speaker 2: moving your body can be fun and liberating, not a burden,
Speaker 2: and that taking a break isn't laziness, it's replenishing your
Speaker 2: well so that you can keep giving to yourself into others.
Speaker 2: And so as we stand looking into the start of
Speaker 2: this new year, I really just invite you to be
Speaker 2: brave enough to choose happiness over hollow resolutions like let
Speaker 2: go of the shoulds and the external pressures, and trust
Speaker 2: that by taking care of your inner world, like your
Speaker 2: emotions and your boundaries and your piece, you're going to
Speaker 2: set the stage for everything else to thrive. And this
Speaker 2: is how you create a year that's not just different
Speaker 2: by a few inches on the scale, but radically different
Speaker 2: in how you feel living it every single day. And
Speaker 2: so if you catch yourself doubting or feeling like you're
Speaker 2: missing out by not joining the latest thirty day challenge,
Speaker 2: remember you've done that before and you know how that
Speaker 2: story ends, and trying something new might feel uncomfortable, but
Speaker 2: that discomfort is a sign that your breaking old patterns
Speaker 2: that never served you well anyways. Okay, And so if
Speaker 2: as you really like just to try on this new perspective,
Speaker 2: don't be surprised if you find yourself naturally making healthier
Speaker 2: choices and enjoying your meals more and feeling genuine contentment
Speaker 2: in ways that no diet ever gave you. Because when
Speaker 2: happiness leads, everything else falls into place without force. Okay,
Speaker 2: So that is it for today, ladies. I truly hope
Speaker 2: you got something valuable out of today's episode. And even
Speaker 2: if it's just a reminder that you don't have to
Speaker 2: go down the same dead end New Year's resolution roads
Speaker 2: as the years past, well, well that in itself would
Speaker 2: make me very happy. And if you want to learn
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Speaker 2: the part of their brain that's obsessed with food or
Speaker 2: obsessed with their weight and stop having their brain work
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Speaker 2: on off roller coaster for good, but without restricting themselves
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Speaker 2: it for today, outweigh. Talk to you next week. Bye,