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Speaker 1: gonna read this one right here, right now. Buckle up,

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Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you here. It

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Speaker 1: is the Strawberry Letter, thanking if you subject. My best

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Speaker 1: friend's wife is too much. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am

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Speaker 1: a twenty seven year old man and I have a

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Speaker 1: best friend and we've been super tight for years. We've

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Speaker 1: been through all the good and bad girlfriends together, and

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Speaker 1: now that he's married, I want to tell him so

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Speaker 1: bad that his wife is too much. She's too much

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Speaker 1: of everything. She's tall, thick, wears big hair, big lashes,

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Speaker 1: and her nails and who nails are very long. She's

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Speaker 1: what we used to call soulful and would only fool

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Speaker 1: around with them, but would never make them our number

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Speaker 1: one girl. Okay, this woman put put that thing on

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Speaker 1: him and he's gone. He talks about her NonStop and

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Speaker 1: doesn't like to be away from her for long. He

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Speaker 1: invited me over last Sunday for steakes on a grill,

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Speaker 1: and when I got there, he was still at the store,

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Speaker 1: so I sat and talked to his wife. We had

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Speaker 1: a friendly conversation at first, and then she started tearing

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Speaker 1: up and went into a story about how my best

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Speaker 1: friend isn't pleasing her and she needs a real man

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Speaker 1: to take care of her needs. I was thrown for

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Speaker 1: a loop, but tried to comfort her. She got closer

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Speaker 1: to me and whispered that she heard I'm blessed. Then

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Speaker 1: she looked at my mid section and winked. I pushed

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Speaker 1: her away, and she sprung right back on me and

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Speaker 1: grabbed my mid section and got a nice handful guy.

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Speaker 1: Because I had on jogging pants, she asked if she

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Speaker 1: could see it, and when I said no, she tried

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Speaker 1: to take it out of my pants herself. I struggle

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Speaker 1: with her for a minute, and then we heard my

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Speaker 1: best friend pull up. I ran into the bathroom because

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Speaker 1: during the struggle I became aroused. The rest of the

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Speaker 1: day and his house was stressful. I know if I

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Speaker 1: tell my best friend any of this, it could end

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Speaker 1: our friendship. Should I tell her how foul she is

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Speaker 1: or avoid them both. WHOA. I was not expecting any

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Speaker 1: of this. This letter took a turn, didn't it. You're right,

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Speaker 1: she's too much, She's way too much, and this is

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Speaker 1: a dangerous position you're in because any wrong moves on

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Speaker 1: your part could totally end your friendship, and that's what

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Speaker 1: you don't want. So I say this to you, Say

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Speaker 1: nothing to him about his ridiculous wife, and just stay

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Speaker 1: away from them. If they invite you over again, and

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Speaker 1: I'm sure they will make excuses, don't go, ever, don't

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Speaker 1: ever go back over there. His wife is too crazy.

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Speaker 1: She's out of control. She sounds like the kind of

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Speaker 1: person who will lie on you, and you know say

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Speaker 1: that you came onto her when it was her trifling

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Speaker 1: ratchet behind all the time. So again, stay away from

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Speaker 1: them as a couple for sure, and never ever be

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Speaker 1: alone with her again. She has no morals to do

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Speaker 1: that to you, like it was nothing, and she's willing

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Speaker 1: to risk it all for some well you get the picture.

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Speaker 1: If she's that loose with you, she's bound to try

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Speaker 1: it with someone else, who she heard you know, is blessed,

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Speaker 1: and hopefully she'll get caught, you know, and then she'll

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Speaker 1: lose her husband. Which is a good man according to you.

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Speaker 1: So again, just stay away, stay quiet. Your friend won't

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Speaker 1: believe you anyway. If you tell him, he's so strong,

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Speaker 1: she'll get what's coming to her eventually, and it probably,

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Speaker 1: I'm sure it won't be a moment a moment to

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Speaker 1: some Steve, Well, we got a problem here, Homne. Sorry

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Speaker 1: you're going through this, but and this ain't good man.

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Speaker 1: This is gonna end up badly for everybody in this letter,

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Speaker 1: including you. So here's let me. Let me just walk

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Speaker 1: you through what happened to you though, So you understand,

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Speaker 1: you said, y'all real tight. You and your boy y'all

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Speaker 1: been through a lot. You had some good and bad

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Speaker 1: tell him about his wife. You can't. She tall, thick,

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Speaker 1: where big hair, got big lashes, long nails, and toenails

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Speaker 1: are very long. I don't know where when they started

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Speaker 1: doing the long toenails. Um, I don't know. Or maybe

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Speaker 1: what we used to call soulful. And you fool around

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Speaker 1: him and he gone, well, that's it. We can stop

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Speaker 1: writing this letter. See your partner whip. Ain't nothing we

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Speaker 1: your description of her, it didn't got it. He talks

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Speaker 1: about her NonStop and don't like to be away from

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Speaker 1: for stakes on the grill. You got there, he wasn't

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Speaker 1: See a lot of men say stuff about their marriage

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Speaker 1: that ain't really true. If you don't like being alone,

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Speaker 1: why is his ass at the stove. They could have

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Speaker 1: went to the stow together. Yeah, but he needed a break,

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Speaker 1: all this long hair, big hair, nails, all this hill.

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Speaker 1: He lying he went to the stove. He probably sitting

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Speaker 1: breathing heavy, just trying to catch your breath because he'd

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Speaker 1: been at the house with this health all this time.

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Speaker 1: he'd have made him mistak. So y'all sitting there and

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Speaker 1: and take care of her needs. All right, Hold that thought, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Hold that thought well two. Steve's response at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hours Strawberry Letters, subject for today, my

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Speaker 1: best friend's wife is too much. We'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject my best friend's

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Speaker 1: wife is too much. All right, we're talking about this

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Speaker 1: young couple and twenty seven. They've been homeless for a

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Speaker 1: long time. Went through we used to run girls together

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Speaker 1: and everything, and then he used to have this type

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Speaker 1: of girl, soulful, big, tall, thick, big hair, big lashes,

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Speaker 1: long nails, But this one got long toe nails. This

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Speaker 1: is probably the whole difference maker right here. And so

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Speaker 1: now he didn't marry this girl. He talked about it constantly,

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Speaker 1: and don't like being away from him? Well, he do

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Speaker 1: like being away from the coach. When you got over

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Speaker 1: there sunday, he was at the stove because he was

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Speaker 1: just getting a brink. Y'all started having a friendly conversation.

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Speaker 1: She started tearing up and told you how her friend

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Speaker 1: ain't pleasing her. She need a real man. Now here

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Speaker 1: was a letter turn. I was thrown for a loop,

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Speaker 1: but I tried to comfort her. You can't pat them

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Speaker 1: types of people on the back. You can't do that.

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Speaker 1: Once you touched her back, that signals to her and

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Speaker 1: then toes trying to make a move, throwing this whole thing.

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Speaker 1: And you tried to comfort her, so you patted her

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Speaker 1: she heard I'm blessed. Now why she hid this at

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Speaker 1: she heard that from your best friend. That's probably why.

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Speaker 1: Then she looked at your mid section and winked. You

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Speaker 1: pushed her away. Now you know why you had to

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Speaker 1: push her away, because she was comforted her patting her

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Speaker 1: on the back. That's what happened. And then she grabbed

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Speaker 1: your mid section and she got a handful because you

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Speaker 1: had on jogging pants. She asked me if she could

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Speaker 1: see it. I said no. She tried to take it

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Speaker 1: out my pants herself. Y'all, y'all too close to y'all

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Speaker 1: way too close, yogi friend's house. Too close. See, when

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Speaker 1: by the grill, supposed to be on the porch somewhere.

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Speaker 1: You're supposed to be turning the meat or moving the

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Speaker 1: home the back, comfort in herb. You can't comfort a

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Speaker 1: woman that's got long ass toenail. I'm telling them this,

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Speaker 1: it's the whole thing. See a woman with real long

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Speaker 1: toenails and hang out over the shoot, pull along on

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Speaker 1: the sidewalk when she walking. Yeah, you gotta be good.

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Speaker 1: So I struggled with her for a minute. Now she big, tall, thick,

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Speaker 1: doing the struggle, you got a little arius that's caused

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Speaker 1: you twenty seven. It don't take much. She touched me.

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Speaker 1: Even if you don't want them, if they touch you,

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Speaker 1: your ass is lit. Oh yeah, the rest of the day,

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Speaker 1: if I tell my best friend any of this, it

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Speaker 1: could be in our friendship. Should I tell how foule

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Speaker 1: You have to avoid them. You have to. You cannot

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Speaker 1: tell it. He is going to find out, and she

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Speaker 1: gonna go somewhere else. You turned her down, but she

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Speaker 1: gonna make a move somewhere else. So that's really it.

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Speaker 1: You in a precarious position. Don't go over there at

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Speaker 1: normal animal grilling at his house. Yeah, you are all

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Speaker 1: them days old right there. And you know, some friendships

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Speaker 1: is for a season, and you and a friend. You know,

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Speaker 1: I got some friends that I was friends within the twenties.

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Speaker 1: But we don't make the cut. You can't say nothing

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Speaker 1: got for you. Man. You're a young dude. I know

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Speaker 1: this is new for you. Every man in here has

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Speaker 1: been in this situation where one of their friends girls

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Speaker 1: got a little crazy. I've been very fortunate in my

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Speaker 1: with people like this, But it happens often often, and

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Speaker 1: y'all young stay away from her. Run and now let

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Speaker 1: this be a lesson from you. Stop fooling with them

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Speaker 1: just like he is. Next thing, you know, you being

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Speaker 1: What do we learn today? Stay away from long ass

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Speaker 1: Tonels learn something new every day. Every day you have

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Speaker 1: got to stay away from long ass to his best

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Speaker 1: that's all I got for y'all. Really can't go no

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Speaker 1: deeper than that. It's no where gold. You know, run

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Speaker 1: un been with someone. The first time I ever saw

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Speaker 1: that was in La What long long tonails kick a

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Speaker 1: tree and chop it in hand. A person that needs

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Speaker 1: to put on all that extra stuff is lacking in

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Speaker 1: a lot of department who need long Tony. Post your

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Speaker 1: after the hour, it's Junior with Sports Talk. Right after this,

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Speaker 1: you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show