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Speaker 1: And if you're in the wrong thing, something that feels

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Speaker 1: or maybe like you don't know yes, so it's no.

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Speaker 1: And that's how it's been with these businesses, and that's

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Speaker 1: for the good to come in. You don't realize it.

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Speaker 1: I was in a relationship that was very good, but

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Speaker 1: it because I didn't know yes, I didn't know no.

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Speaker 1: But I just I've done this many times, and maybe

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Speaker 1: It doesn't, but I'm not going to be in a

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Speaker 1: relationship that's wrong. Just as a seat filler, we do

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Speaker 1: it or we don't. So if you're in something that

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Speaker 1: you probably should walk away from it because you will jump,

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Speaker 1: and you will fly, most person to the after, most

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