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Speaker 1: Hi.

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Speaker 2: I am Kate Hudson and my name is Oliver Hudson.

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Speaker 1: We wanted to do something that highlighted our.

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Speaker 2: Relationship and what it's like to be siblings.

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Speaker 3: We are a sibling railvalry.

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Speaker 1: No, no, sibling. You don't do that with your mouth.

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Speaker 3: Revely.

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Speaker 2: That's good.

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Speaker 1: All are very excited.

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Speaker 2: This is a solo episode. Yeah, I think it's servers

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Speaker 2: solo episode, right.

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Speaker 1: I think so.

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Speaker 2: I don't think we've done one.

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Speaker 1: I think we're kind of.

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Speaker 2: Overdue for this. We are. There's a lot to chat about.

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Speaker 1: Well, there's you know, you you popped this thing. I

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Speaker 1: mean before we you know, we just finished with an

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Speaker 1: episode with somebody, and then before we were doing the episode,

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Speaker 1: you were like, I started reading that Alan Carr. I

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Speaker 1: thought you were going to see the smoking thing before

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Speaker 1: Alan Carr.

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Speaker 2: Did the smoking.

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Speaker 1: Yes, but I guess he did a drinking book.

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Speaker 3: Well, he's done a few how to stop books, you know,

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Speaker 3: and there were two of them in the drinking space,

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Speaker 3: which was how to quit drinking, and then there's how

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Speaker 3: to sort of moderate drinking.

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Speaker 1: And I'm assuming you want to moderate Yeah, okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: is it because when you start it's like you drink

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Speaker 1: too much.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 2: I just think.

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Speaker 3: I when I do drink, I maybe drink too much

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Speaker 3: and I don't feel good.

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Speaker 2: And then, right, well.

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Speaker 1: You've always had that, yeah, since you were young. You

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Speaker 1: know you you if you drink, you don't, you usually

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Speaker 1: don't feel right. It's almost like you might have a

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Speaker 1: little bit of an allergy.

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Speaker 2: Maybe.

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Speaker 3: But I just know that when I work out and

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Speaker 3: I wake up and I feel good and I don't drink,

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Speaker 3: I feel great.

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Speaker 2: Great.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well alcohol is not great for you.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if you know this.

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Speaker 1: I mean it's alcohol and moderation obviously you know, yes,

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Speaker 1: but like if you're drinking.

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Speaker 2: No, no daily, right, I know. Sometimes great.

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Speaker 3: I get into a habitual pattern, right you gets or six,

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Speaker 3: I sit down in my little chair and I put

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Speaker 3: my computer on my lap, and I like have a cocktail.

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Speaker 2: And then I look up the fishing reports and I'm like, like,

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Speaker 2: I love in my life right now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And then I wake up in the morning.

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Speaker 2: I just feel like I don't need to cut it

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Speaker 2: and just cut it off.

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Speaker 1: I think, actually, I think, yeah, be.

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Speaker 3: More moderate, right, not stop, because you're not really like

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Speaker 3: an alcoholic. I'm just I just don't want to drink

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Speaker 1: I have a friend who recently just decided to stop drinking.

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Speaker 1: He just was like, I've done a lot of drinking

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Speaker 1: And I was like, are you sober?

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Speaker 2: And He's like, no, I.

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Speaker 1: Just now I'm in this. Like it's almost like I'm

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Speaker 2: It starts over it right. Yeah, but he was.

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Speaker 1: Saying that he feels the best you felt in years.

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Speaker 3: That is true, Yeah, because I'll go, you know, ten

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Speaker 3: days or whatever days, it's incredible how great you feel.

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Speaker 3: But then there's the flip side of it, like I

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Speaker 3: missed that like feeling of sit down a cocktail.

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Speaker 1: I know, But why can't you do both your in

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Speaker 1: lives though I'm Alan Carr. Yeah, I think Alan Carr

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Speaker 1: is one thing, but it's also just about this is

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Speaker 1: one of the things that I always get asks all

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Speaker 1: the time. It's like, how do you balance your life?

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Speaker 1: How do you balance you know, your career and kids?

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Speaker 1: working out and food and the thing is like this

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Speaker 1: The second you start stressing over anything is is where

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Speaker 2: What is in their life.

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Speaker 1: It's caused them to have to have so much structure

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Speaker 1: I think there's a way that we that we can

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Speaker 1: overthink things. Yes, and then then when you get into

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Speaker 1: the sort of like excessive, like heatedistic approach of like

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Speaker 2: Pure assumption of all vices.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's also just it's an imbalance.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so what is that?

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Speaker 1: How do we create balance without having to feel the

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Speaker 2: That is that's the sweet spot.

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Speaker 3: Yes, right, I agree, and it's hard. Well, everyone's a

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Speaker 3: little bit different. Some people need more structure. I think

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Speaker 3: for me, structure is better when I can ructure out

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Speaker 3: I got a podcast, I'm going to meditate it. This time,

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Speaker 3: I'm going to ride my journal here, I'm gonna sit

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Speaker 3: that I got the kids and there's an accomplishment. You know,

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Speaker 3: idle time is no good. We're just sitting around, you know.

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Speaker 3: I need structure. That's better for me. And it's just

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Speaker 3: about it's going back to the drinking. It's having like

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Speaker 1: Oh well maybe you are.

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Speaker 1: Was thinking about this the other day and now I know,

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Speaker 1: like I posted this like stupid thing, right, and I

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Speaker 1: And I realized that things like that get the most attention,

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Speaker 1: They just they don't get like having fun. Everyone has

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Speaker 1: comparing you to other people, and you realize like, oh,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then there's but there's so many there's three

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Speaker 2: Whatever.

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Speaker 1: Wait, the fact that it matters is problematic, meaning like

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Speaker 1: if that's really what's grabbing somebody's interests, like.

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Speaker 2: Our world is really i you know, and.

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Speaker 1: And and and so it kind of highlights it kind

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Speaker 1: of highlights this sort of microscope that everyone thinks they're under.

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Speaker 1: They forget like nobody's under a microscope.

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Speaker 2: Just like with your.

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Speaker 1: Life, just have fun, say what you want to say.

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Speaker 2: If you're if you.

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Speaker 1: Know in your life that you are living a good

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Speaker 1: you're a good person. If you're living a healthy life,

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Speaker 1: if you're a good person, if your goal is to

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Speaker 1: make people feel good happy, if you're if you're raising

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Speaker 2: Period.

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Speaker 1: It is a matter what anyone chooses to see or

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Speaker 3: Because social media is interesting, sort of creating clones, Like

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Speaker 3: I think it's just it's it's just spread, you know,

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Speaker 2: I mean, Rianna knows way more music, current music than

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Speaker 3: Come on, she's singing and what is this? Yeah, it's

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Speaker 2: Or whatever the hell is nowadays, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think the biggest thing for our wellness is

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Speaker 1: but that substance at the family unit. No matter what

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Speaker 1: some antiquated concept of family unit has to be.

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Speaker 2: Hasard, wife, kids, it could be whatever it is.

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Speaker 1: That unit, that time is where you shut down and

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Speaker 2: And like, I think that that.

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Speaker 1: Is it is like like when people talk about wellness,

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Speaker 1: like family dinner, even if it's like with your friends

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Speaker 1: Like that's the thing that's missing. And I read this

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Speaker 2: And it's the flip phone.

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Speaker 1: That they're on the rise because people are putting their

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Speaker 1: Let's say you're going out with your family to dinner,

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Speaker 2: With your family. I like the dumb phone.

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Speaker 1: I think that they should only allow those in school.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's it's like booming, like the dumb phone is

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm also working. Now. I hate them so much.

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Speaker 3: You got to learn lines, You got to you know,

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Speaker 1: Promise me that you will promise? Yeah, you have promise.

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Speaker 1: Let's just let's just let's make this pact that even

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Speaker 2: So from like eight to three.

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Speaker 1: In September, we're going to have like a little get

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Speaker 2: Your iPhone is left at home when you go to

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Speaker 2: school I like it, I'll do it. Okay, I'll do it.

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Speaker 1: Then we can talk about it around around October next

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Speaker 2: But do we have to have dumb phone?

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Speaker 1: I'm getting a dumb phone because I want to go

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Speaker 2: Right, not have my smartphone. Yeah, I want to.

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Speaker 1: I want to be in Greece with you guys with

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Speaker 3: Yeah, got the The pictures might be the pictures and

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Speaker 3: it might be nice to go to sit out and look.

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Speaker 2: At the news. No it's not.

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Speaker 2: By the way, those were cool back.

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Speaker 3: Get them pagers going back and back and back.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm. You can like text them one four three, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Can't bring their phones in the class. The page the

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Speaker 2: We like you know, it's like three zero zero eight.

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Speaker 2: We're just having so much fun.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I like this conversation. I feel like I feel

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Speaker 2: That's good, it's good. You need it.

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Speaker 3: I'm down to uh do the dumb phone without a doubt.

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Speaker 2: And then as.

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Speaker 3: Far as my alcoholism go, this like Alan Carr does

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Speaker 3: drinking or you have a better idea of why you should. Okay,

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Speaker 3: the thing is I can stop drinking, meaning I like it.

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Speaker 2: Right, I know, I get going.

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Speaker 1: I have like two more glasses and families of like,

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Speaker 2: But well we're together. That's kind of what happened.

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Speaker 1: No, I know, but I know what you're saying, Like

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Speaker 2: Have that's an alf of wine. You smoke a little

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, well let's do Okay, let's see what happens. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, next time you had a great idea, I want

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Speaker 2: Yeah, which is fun. So we get really be fun

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Speaker 1: Oh, I would love that. We like sake zones. It's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean he's got a whole setup, you know.

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Speaker 2: We should get totally off the.

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Speaker 1: We should do that. Okay, this is from Susie. Uh.

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Speaker 1: Susie's question is how long have you gone without talking

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Speaker 3: No, you we were together. It was it was it

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I was not having you.

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Speaker 3: And then similarly, it seems that it was just everything

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Speaker 2: You're not exactly what.

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Speaker 1: You don't like talking about stuff I don't talking you

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Speaker 1: You know we should do it should be really good.

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Speaker 1: you have to read it, read it out. You know

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Speaker 2: Alone, even if I don't.

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Speaker 1: No, no, if you don't, then you don't validate it,

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Speaker 1: you know, but you don't. You don't to tell someone

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Speaker 2: You respect that that it's that person's feelings. But what

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Speaker 3: Are both like, well, dude, I mean the respect that

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Speaker 1: after that there's a series of questions, and part of

446
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 1: that is is there anything about this that triggers anything

447
00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:52,560
Speaker 1: from your childhood or that is there a reason why

448
00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:55,639
Speaker 1: you're more you know, sensitive to these things or something

449
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:59,680
Speaker 1: I should know about? And you would go, yeah, because

450
00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:02,560
Speaker 1: like growing up when you know, I don't know this

451
00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:05,920
Speaker 1: happened with that, this person in my life. It made

452
00:25:05,920 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 1: me feel like this, and so I'm very sensitive to that.

453
00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:12,720
Speaker 1: So instead of it being like, oh, your feelings are irrational,

454
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:14,120
Speaker 1: you kind of get to know the.

455
00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 2: Person and you do this your family.

456
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 1: You can do it with your relationship. You can do

457
00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: it with your family, you can do it with even

458
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:26,840
Speaker 1: like a business partner. Right. But but it's really it's

459
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:32,359
Speaker 1: really in conflict. So it's like, Okay, I need to,

460
00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:35,440
Speaker 1: I need to I have to talk this out with you.

461
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 1: And it allows the other person to actively listen versus

462
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:44,680
Speaker 1: defend because you're sort of forced into this, right. It's

463
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 1: really honestly, it's like in a relationship, it's fucking amazing.

464
00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:53,440
Speaker 1: And you do it when you're calm and everything's good,

465
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 1: and you kind of look at it and you're like,

466
00:25:55,920 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 1: oh yeah, and it brings you. You get to know

467
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:04,120
Speaker 1: people deeper. Right, you know that's good? All right, I'll

468
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 1: try it, Susie. Thanks, great, Thanks, We're going to figure

469
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 1: out that disagreement because you just brought up that we haven't.

470
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 3: Once once this episode ends, no words, I'm just getting

471
00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:26,879
Speaker 3: in my car and getting out of here. Okay, you

472
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 3: did the nice amount of Alexis, how do I try

473
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:33,679
Speaker 3: to relate to my brother that's eight years older than me.

474
00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 3: I'm a twenty four year old girl, and we don't

475
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:37,240
Speaker 3: have a.

476
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:37,960
Speaker 2: Lot in common.

477
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:41,280
Speaker 1: Oh well, that's actually probably for me the answer, because

478
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:49,360
Speaker 1: I have a brother that's seven years younger, and there

479
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:52,239
Speaker 1: was actually a time where I felt like, not that

480
00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 1: we didn't have anything common. I actually feel like I

481
00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:58,199
Speaker 1: have a lot in common with Wyatt, but I just

482
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 1: felt like I felt I didn't close to him because

483
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:03,880
Speaker 1: we were so far apart in age and hadn't spent

484
00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:04,720
Speaker 1: a lot of time together.

485
00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:07,200
Speaker 2: So I feel like, I think that you have to

486
00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 2: we'll do.

487
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:11,440
Speaker 3: Make an effort. When you're twenty four. That means he's

488
00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:16,800
Speaker 3: thirty two, right, Yeah, years older. An effort has to

489
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 3: be made. Yeahs having a lot in common, that sounds

490
00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:21,360
Speaker 3: like you've got to find out what you have in

491
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:23,199
Speaker 3: common really sort of get together.

492
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 1: I also think these are moments where you being vulnerable matters,

493
00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:30,840
Speaker 1: where you can you say yeah, where you say to

494
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:33,880
Speaker 1: your brother, like I want to feel closer to you,

495
00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:37,200
Speaker 1: you know, I want to feel more connected. I miss

496
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:40,359
Speaker 1: you and I want to get to know you better.

497
00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 2: And I like that.

498
00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:44,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's great because, like I think that's

499
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:47,400
Speaker 1: the hardest part for anyone is to just be that vulnerable.

500
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 1: It's fucking hard to be honest. Yeah, it's not easy. Yeah,

501
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:56,159
Speaker 1: I mean especially for me, maybe men, I don't know,

502
00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 1: But I think that's a good. I think that's a

503
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:02,560
Speaker 1: good you know, because you might not have a lot

504
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 1: in common. I mean just because your siblings doesn't mean

505
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:07,879
Speaker 1: but I guess if your siblings, you do have a

506
00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:12,879
Speaker 1: lot in common, Like the very foundation of your childhood

507
00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:16,200
Speaker 1: is similar, and that's a huge common awy can build

508
00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 1: things as well, if you're willing to. Yeah, I would

509
00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:22,280
Speaker 1: say that would be My advice is to actually just

510
00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:25,040
Speaker 1: be vulnerable and say, you know, I've been thinking a

511
00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:28,439
Speaker 1: lot about this, and I know you're thirty two and

512
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 1: I'm twenty four, and we're in different seasons of our life,

513
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:35,879
Speaker 1: but I really want to get to know you better

514
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:36,640
Speaker 1: and be closer.

515
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 2: What is this whole seasons thing?

516
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 1: The different seasons of your life? You know, season can

517
00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 1: change from day to day. That's right, that's the whole word. No, No,

518
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:53,560
Speaker 1: seasons aren't like a day to day. Seasons are like

519
00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:55,920
Speaker 1: where you are in your life. Like in one moment,

520
00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 1: you're single and you know in this place and then

521
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 1: the next you know, you're in the aggrieving season because

522
00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:09,360
Speaker 1: someone passes. The next year in you know, a divorce season,

523
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 1: a time in your life. Yeah, we are happening that

524
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 1: are like really.

525
00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 2: Changing a season means shame. Changing seasons.

526
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:23,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't want I can tell by your face

527
00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:24,440
Speaker 1: you hate that.

528
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:27,800
Speaker 2: I don't know all the all the mindful buzzwords. Sometimes

529
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know, but it's it's good.

530
00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 2: I like it because I just come in out of

531
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 2: every every other day. I mean, so what do you

532
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 2: call that? Well, you know, well, what season are you

533
00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 2: in right now? Oh?

534
00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 1: I'm in my I'm in my, I'm I'm in change

535
00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 1: A big changing season for me. Mine is like coming

536
00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 1: into that place where I really like am putting myself

537
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 1: out there creatively. And that's big for me because I

538
00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 1: feel very exposed. Like having my first interview about the album,

539
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 1: it's like I left, I had I had like really

540
00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 1: kind of like remember like fuck it, I'm doing this

541
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 1: for a reason.

542
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 2: I have to put myself out here.

543
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:26,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it feels exposed for people just to be like,

544
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:32,040
Speaker 1: you know, as they do anyway judge, but like yeah,

545
00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:38,680
Speaker 1: so anyway, okay, okay from Okay Kendall Kate. As a sister,

546
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:42,040
Speaker 1: how do you tell your brother to have better hygiene

547
00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:44,440
Speaker 1: without hurting his well.

548
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:52,000
Speaker 2: All of yours? There you go right there. Yeah, we're

549
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 2: not very sensitive with those things. No, no, no, I

550
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:56,960
Speaker 2: want to be told straight up.

551
00:30:57,000 --> 00:31:00,040
Speaker 3: I wouldn't want to be sensitive about it.

552
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 2: It's your brother or your sister or whatever some bad.

553
00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 1: Say Hey, yeah, like and if I go into or like,

554
00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 1: you need to get your ship together?

555
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 2: Right?

556
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, you smell you need both tucks?

557
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:17,640
Speaker 2: What's going on? You bet a fucking facial something. I

558
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 2: don't know. I don't know.

559
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 1: What are these shoes? Get your shoes? Yeah, I'm super

560
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 1: I'm super honest.

561
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 3: I think to answer the question, you will not hurt

562
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 3: his feelings if you're being honest.

563
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:36,000
Speaker 1: But if he's sensitive, because I mean there are we

564
00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 1: also aren't very.

565
00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 2: Sensitive about those things.

566
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 1: If he has a sensitive spirit, then I would say,

567
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 1: you know, I love you and I want you to

568
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:48,720
Speaker 1: like be in your best self, and I just have

569
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 1: to tell you that you have to get your you

570
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:57,880
Speaker 1: have to brush your teeth like it's driving me.

571
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 3: Or you have a humors way, you know, there's a

572
00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:03,280
Speaker 3: way to lighten the mood.

573
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 1: Maybe, yeah, take them to coffee and go I'm taking

574
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:10,320
Speaker 1: you to coffee right to tell you that you're discussing.

575
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 3: Right alread, you just asking a simple question to say,

576
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:14,840
Speaker 3: when you go and sit on the toilet to take

577
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 3: a poop, do you smell your butt before anything comes out?

578
00:32:18,720 --> 00:32:20,520
Speaker 2: Oh? Why would you say that?

579
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:23,040
Speaker 3: Because then you know he has bad hygiene because he

580
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 3: hasn't washed his butt.

581
00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 1: And why, oh why did you have to go to

582
00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 1: the butt of all hygiene? That's disgusting. I don't know, no,

583
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:32,480
Speaker 1: but here, Honestly, the thing about hygiene is it does

584
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:38,040
Speaker 1: reflect someone's mental state as well, like people who aren't

585
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 1: showering or aren't like brushing their hair, or you know,

586
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:43,280
Speaker 1: they're not putting you know, hair.

587
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:45,040
Speaker 2: I don't even brush my hair in my life.

588
00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 1: No, but I mean, like you know, like like right

589
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 1: for women, but for women, like you can tell when

590
00:32:51,800 --> 00:32:55,480
Speaker 1: someone is not feeling good about themselves. So like, if

591
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:58,360
Speaker 1: that's what's happening, then I think that it's a bigger

592
00:32:58,400 --> 00:33:03,440
Speaker 1: conversation than just like you know, Oliver, and you know,

593
00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:09,640
Speaker 1: I don't know, right, I like being out fishing, right,

594
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 1: like not stinking?

595
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:15,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I would just say use humor, be direct,

596
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 3: see what happens. Okay from Emma, Yeah, how would you

597
00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:22,520
Speaker 3: handle if you don't like your siblings significant.

598
00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:24,680
Speaker 2: Oh we don't have that. I know, we don't have that.

599
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:29,960
Speaker 2: That's it. That would be that would suck. That would

600
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 2: be really rough. I mean, I don't know, I don't

601
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 2: know what we have the best all.

602
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:41,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, sisters and brothers, everybody, like even the families

603
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 1: love each other.

604
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:45,440
Speaker 2: It's pretty We got lucky. You definitely got lucky. I don't.

605
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:48,840
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know what. Imagine if you

606
00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 2: were married or with someone who I just did not like.

607
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 2: When I'm like this person, how do you deal with that?

608
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:56,880
Speaker 2: I'd probably leave him?

609
00:33:57,320 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 1: You would, Yeah, my family didn't like the guy. I'd

610
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:04,880
Speaker 1: be like, this isn't Yeah, I feel like a lot.

611
00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:09,160
Speaker 2: I don't know. This is a tough one. Okay. From

612
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:12,239
Speaker 2: a different perspective, how would you handle it if you

613
00:34:12,400 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 2: don't like your You know what I mean? I would

614
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:16,720
Speaker 2: say it? What would you say? Stands your wife?

615
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:23,439
Speaker 1: I'd be like Oliver, Oliver, She's terrible, right, I really would.

616
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:24,480
Speaker 2: I'd be like, I don't know what.

617
00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:29,879
Speaker 1: You're doing, like she's so mean, or or like how

618
00:34:29,920 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 1: do you connect with her. She's like, how would you

619
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:33,880
Speaker 1: would if I would have?

620
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:36,400
Speaker 2: Then you don't like her.

621
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:38,719
Speaker 3: I appreciate that, but I'm in love and this is

622
00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:40,400
Speaker 3: I don't know what the fuck you want me to do.

623
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 2: So you're gonna have to deal with it. And how

624
00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 2: are you going to deal with that? I'd probably tell her,

625
00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:48,560
Speaker 2: you'd just be like, you need to be nicer. I

626
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:50,840
Speaker 2: probably would just go up to the sister in Longo.

627
00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:52,800
Speaker 2: Here's the deal. I love my brother.

628
00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:56,319
Speaker 1: I have a hard time with you, and I don't

629
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 1: know what that is. I hope it changes, but I

630
00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:01,279
Speaker 1: think you're kind of mean sometimes. I don't know I'm

631
00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 1: making these happens. You are like or like you don't

632
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 1: get our sense of humor as a family really funny

633
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:09,520
Speaker 1: and like or how about I don't like how you

634
00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:12,279
Speaker 1: break my brother or I don't like how you boss

635
00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:15,600
Speaker 1: my brother around. It bugs me and it and I

636
00:35:15,640 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 1: have a problem with it. So I just want you

637
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 1: to know that and.

638
00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 2: Let's have a good ques give.

639
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:30,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, see you honesty is.

640
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:31,520
Speaker 2: You're very direct that way.

641
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:34,840
Speaker 3: I would probably could shouldered a little bit, you know

642
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:35,239
Speaker 3: what I mean?

643
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 2: I make God, it's too passive.

644
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 3: It's passive aggressive, but i'd be like, I don't want

645
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:41,319
Speaker 3: to deal with it, So I'm not going to you know,

646
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 3: I'm not going to fake it, but to kind of

647
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 3: be like, oh yeah, yeah, okay, because what am I

648
00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 3: going to accomplish by telling the significant other that I

649
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:52,839
Speaker 3: don't like them?

650
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:55,239
Speaker 1: Oh? Well, I think it's just it's like, it's not

651
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:57,040
Speaker 1: like you don't like I mean, you're not saying you

652
00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:59,400
Speaker 1: don't like them. You're saying this is I have a

653
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:03,279
Speaker 1: hard time with this, And so you know, I want

654
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:06,319
Speaker 1: you to know when I don't want to talk to you,

655
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:09,480
Speaker 1: it's because you're bothered. If you want to get to

656
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:12,880
Speaker 1: know me and understand why I don't like this. Like

657
00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:14,920
Speaker 1: I remember one time I had to say to my

658
00:36:15,200 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 1: friend of mine's husband, I didn't like the way he

659
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:20,879
Speaker 1: was talking to her. And I said, and I kept

660
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:22,520
Speaker 1: in front of them, I said, I'm going to stop you.

661
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:22,920
Speaker 2: Guys.

662
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:25,959
Speaker 1: If you're going to talk to my friend this way,

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Speaker 1: you need to get out of my house. I love you, guys,

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Speaker 1: but like I'm not doing that right because I by

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Speaker 1: the way, you might love it. You guys might love this,

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Speaker 1: but like I can't sit here and watch my friend

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Speaker 1: get spoken to like that, and he actually took it

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Speaker 1: really well. He was like, I'm so sorry, and I

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Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I just honestly like, this isn't fun

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Speaker 1: for me, and this is supposed to be a party.

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Speaker 1: I like, and and that's my girl. That's my girlfriend,

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Speaker 1: and she might not be in a place to stand

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Speaker 1: up for herself, but you're in my house, so I'm

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Speaker 1: going to do that.

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Speaker 2: And I do that to my brothers too.

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Speaker 1: Even if you were mad at me, I'd be like,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I don't I'm I don't like this, or.

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Speaker 3: You send I'd send an anonymous letter to the significant other,

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Speaker 3: just saying leave so and so or you're dead like that.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. I would also like to do that.

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Speaker 1: And then I'd be like okay, and I'd like cut on.

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Speaker 1: Like the Rolling Stones, I'd be like, let's arty, Okay,

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Speaker 1: that was we should do those more on.

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Speaker 2: I like how the quick they are like bang bang bang, yeah,

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: They're not like the long emails, which is fun too, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: but these are like the quick questions, like they're almost

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Speaker 3: rapid fire for me.

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Speaker 1: And you, yeah, which which I really enjoyed. Thank you

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Speaker 1: guys for sending you in and alli