1 00:00:04,800 --> 00:00:07,760 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Stuff. 2 00:00:07,760 --> 00:00:09,640 Speaker 1: I've never told your production off I Heart Radio's how 3 00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:21,599 Speaker 1: stuff works, all right, am I doing the introduction to 4 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:24,919 Speaker 1: this episode. This is brand new for me. Let's see 5 00:00:24,960 --> 00:00:27,000 Speaker 1: what happened? What I already screwed it up, didn't I know? 6 00:00:27,960 --> 00:00:30,800 Speaker 1: So we thought we would do a quick pause with 7 00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 1: all the juicy topics. We've been filling your ear holes 8 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:37,159 Speaker 1: with your lovely ear holes, definitely because we like your 9 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:40,720 Speaker 1: ear holes. Now I'm making it weird, and actually take 10 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:43,280 Speaker 1: a glance back and do some updates and follow ups 11 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:45,920 Speaker 1: from recent or past recent past episodes. So everything that 12 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:49,199 Speaker 1: we've done, including our Trauma mini series and before we 13 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:51,519 Speaker 1: started this episode, go ahead and put the trigger warning in. 14 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:55,080 Speaker 1: We're briefly talking about sexual assault, adult topics, and suicide. 15 00:00:55,080 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 1: I want to say adult topics. Yeah, no, I don't 16 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 1: find and maybe on HBO late night, so tom late night. 17 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 1: We're not gonna go graphic, but you know, okay, just 18 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 1: throw that heads up, um, And it's been a crazy 19 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:11,760 Speaker 1: few months. It has been. Yeah, it's this world. Change 20 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:15,480 Speaker 1: is very quickly, very quickly, and updates are necessary, especially 21 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:19,119 Speaker 1: as things are heating up. Yeah. Um, and we want 22 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 1: to make sure that we are all still caught up 23 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:25,960 Speaker 1: in all in this together, yeah, and we're here with you. 24 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:30,840 Speaker 1: And sometimes these we'll probably do these episodes every couple 25 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 1: of months because sometimes something breaks in the news that 26 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:35,039 Speaker 1: we want to talk about and we've already kind of 27 00:01:35,040 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 1: talked about it, and it's not an entire episode, but 28 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 1: we do want to talk about it. And so one 29 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:45,480 Speaker 1: of those big ones is the Brett Kevanagh. You don't 30 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:47,400 Speaker 1: even want to say the name just because of all 31 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 1: of the sadness that happens when I think on it. 32 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: So a lot of you probably already know this, but 33 00:01:54,760 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 1: just to kind of level set a third allegation of 34 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:01,880 Speaker 1: sexual misconduct against Brett have and all broke recently reported 35 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 1: on by The New York Times. The essay expanded on 36 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: Debora ramirez Is allegation, which was not seriously investigated by 37 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 1: the FBI, which was also later on told that that 38 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:16,639 Speaker 1: actually was corrolborated. Yep. People, she gave a list of names, 39 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 1: twenty five people. They didn't interview any and some people 40 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 1: reached out to the FBI and they're like, no, we 41 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:24,920 Speaker 1: did um and added the essay added a third allegation 42 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:27,880 Speaker 1: but the woman in question says her friends say she 43 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:31,040 Speaker 1: does not remember the event that is described, that witnesses 44 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 1: described this sexual miss conduct um, and that she wishes 45 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:39,880 Speaker 1: not to be interviewed. And also the New York Times 46 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: original tweet quote, having a penis thust in your face 47 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:45,480 Speaker 1: at a drunken dorm party may seem like harmless fun, 48 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:48,360 Speaker 1: but when Brett Kavanaugh did to her, Debora Ramire says, 49 00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:50,359 Speaker 1: it confirmed that she didn't belong at Yell in the 50 00:02:50,400 --> 00:02:53,920 Speaker 1: first place. Yeah, that harmless fun bit. It caused a 51 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 1: huge uproar. They deleted the tweet and apologized. Um, but 52 00:02:58,639 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 1: of course people who say that all boys will be 53 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 1: boys pointed to that exactly kind of somehow put it 54 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:11,240 Speaker 1: back on Debra's things. She didn't belong like that. What Yeah, 55 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:12,920 Speaker 1: that's not how you need to phrase that. That she 56 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 1: felt like she wasn't welcomed. Yes, there you go, if 57 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:18,720 Speaker 1: we fix it, not that it needs to be fixed anymore. 58 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:20,960 Speaker 1: And once again we get to see the wonders of 59 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:25,640 Speaker 1: blind excuses. Um. Haraldo Rivera tweeted how many men and 60 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:30,520 Speaker 1: women deep in middle age are embarrassed by blank I 61 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 1: added that pay by ha ha. They did in high 62 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 1: school and college. And he's using this as an excuse 63 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:41,600 Speaker 1: of a behavior of our current Supreme Court justice. Uh. 64 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 1: Two of our female Democratic candidates that we know are 65 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:47,960 Speaker 1: calling for an impachement due to the evidence that the 66 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 1: FBI did not do in completing the investigation of the 67 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:55,080 Speaker 1: accusation president at the original confirmation. And we also know 68 00:03:55,600 --> 00:04:00,160 Speaker 1: that is trending as we still believe her. Yeah, and 69 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:04,000 Speaker 1: I was looking into this, and um, I mean he 70 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:08,600 Speaker 1: only had approval reading when he was confirmed, even before. 71 00:04:09,120 --> 00:04:12,000 Speaker 1: I mean, even if it just shows a pattern, a 72 00:04:12,040 --> 00:04:16,600 Speaker 1: disturbing pattern of behavior, and I don't I don't appreciate 73 00:04:16,640 --> 00:04:20,599 Speaker 1: the excuse like college, right, this is the And again 74 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 1: I think I've talked about this before that I've heard 75 00:04:22,880 --> 00:04:25,200 Speaker 1: that many times about they made a mistake and you 76 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:27,839 Speaker 1: want to talk about what this isn't for me? And 77 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 1: this goes for overall anybody who is in a position 78 00:04:30,640 --> 00:04:34,200 Speaker 1: of power learning to take responsibility. That is really really 79 00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:38,440 Speaker 1: something that is missing. And I don't understand how even 80 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:41,840 Speaker 1: on the Democratic side, they can't accept responsibility. They did. 81 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:44,120 Speaker 1: They may have said something, they may had um put 82 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:46,480 Speaker 1: in some type of legislation that they later came back. 83 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:50,039 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, that wasn't great, Um, just take 84 00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:53,040 Speaker 1: responsibility for it and say, yes, this may have been 85 00:04:53,120 --> 00:04:56,160 Speaker 1: something that I had voted for. However, and going back 86 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:58,839 Speaker 1: and looking at how this had created a new injustice 87 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:01,559 Speaker 1: or whatever you even says, I didn't realize that we 88 00:05:01,640 --> 00:05:05,360 Speaker 1: had this type of fallout, simple, and I think I 89 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:09,320 Speaker 1: would trust someone way more in no hearing that than 90 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:12,520 Speaker 1: just well and then bypassing it with an excuse of 91 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 1: how they're not wrong, and I think it's just a 92 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 1: bothersome thing, which is again, the Kavanaugh bit is way 93 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: beyond that. But the fact that he just can't even 94 00:05:21,960 --> 00:05:25,279 Speaker 1: take responsibility and flat out is denying lying about things, 95 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:28,920 Speaker 1: that's what's even worse, especially when we put them as 96 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:34,680 Speaker 1: a freaking standard of truth and justice. And then with 97 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:38,680 Speaker 1: that also Jeffrey Epstein, we kind of bypassed him. And 98 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:40,480 Speaker 1: I don't want to bring too much into it because 99 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 1: you know, he's dead and there's a lot of conspiracy theories. 100 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 1: But we're gonna let the conspiracy wars handle that one. 101 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:49,120 Speaker 1: But I think a lot of the question that I 102 00:05:49,200 --> 00:05:51,239 Speaker 1: was really angry about is the way they were phrasing, 103 00:05:51,760 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 1: uh still using the terms child, prostitute or sex with 104 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:57,159 Speaker 1: underage girls in which you want to be like, this 105 00:05:57,240 --> 00:06:02,640 Speaker 1: is called rape, this is called traffic king. And I'm 106 00:06:02,760 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 1: getting so angry, like why why are you still phrasing 107 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:08,479 Speaker 1: it like this? A fourteen year old cannot consent and 108 00:06:08,520 --> 00:06:11,920 Speaker 1: this is obviously a traffic ring. So can we go 109 00:06:11,960 --> 00:06:14,920 Speaker 1: ahead and clarify that language. Let's go ahead and put 110 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 1: that away that doesn't exist. That's really important. It's a 111 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:21,320 Speaker 1: really important clarification, right, And as we see more and 112 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:24,440 Speaker 1: more like are we gonna know? Are we going to 113 00:06:24,560 --> 00:06:26,760 Speaker 1: know the perpetrators? We've got a few names here and there, 114 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:29,359 Speaker 1: but the level of depth, and I think, um, these 115 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:33,719 Speaker 1: victims deserve justice and just because they have money doesn't 116 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:35,919 Speaker 1: mean that they are above the law. But hey, you 117 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:40,719 Speaker 1: know that's just my thoughts and process, whatever your thoughts. 118 00:06:43,839 --> 00:06:51,040 Speaker 1: I think money does put no obviously, I agree, um um, 119 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:55,080 Speaker 1: Unfortunately our system is kind of set up. But yeah, 120 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 1: and I think that's one of the biggest things we 121 00:06:56,680 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 1: had previously talked about. And um, I know previous episodes 122 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 1: about sex workers, and hopefully you and I will revisit 123 00:07:02,480 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 1: some of those, um conversations. Um, this is kind of 124 00:07:06,240 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 1: those things like this is this is not sex work? 125 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:11,640 Speaker 1: This is abuse. So we need to clarify what this 126 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 1: is because there are adult females who are in that 127 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 1: world and I do it freely and can make money 128 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:21,400 Speaker 1: and go ahead, Yeah, be safe. It makes you no consent, 129 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:26,040 Speaker 1: go for it. Yeah, Consent is key. Consent is super key, 130 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 1: and if you are not a adult, you can't consent. 131 00:07:29,840 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 1: We should write a song I will I want to 132 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:37,520 Speaker 1: have it with accordion, though for some reason no one will. Well. 133 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 1: I was about the bad talk to the accordion, but 134 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: I like the according. I think it's more you playing 135 00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 1: the accordion, no fense. Can you play the No, I 136 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:50,200 Speaker 1: don't want to play. I want someone else. I would 137 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 1: I would never make I would never make anyone listen 138 00:07:53,520 --> 00:07:56,160 Speaker 1: to me. You probably an accordion alright, But with those 139 00:07:56,240 --> 00:08:00,040 Speaker 1: levels again, we're still talking about hashtag B two and 140 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 1: we're going to talk about Chanel Miller because it's fantastic. UM. 141 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 1: I hate that. That's the reason we know her is 142 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:11,720 Speaker 1: not necessarily because of her um accomplishments and to be accomplishments, 143 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:14,760 Speaker 1: but is because she has finally revealed her name, coming 144 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:17,040 Speaker 1: out in support of women who have been victims and 145 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:21,560 Speaker 1: our survivors and coming out in um Powerhouse with her 146 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:26,280 Speaker 1: book a memoir, No My Name, fantastic title. That title 147 00:08:26,440 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 1: is absolutely amazing, UM, And I know there's a lot 148 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:32,000 Speaker 1: of buzz and and she's putting up several quotes about 149 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:34,760 Speaker 1: being there and seeing girls and being there for them, 150 00:08:34,760 --> 00:08:38,280 Speaker 1: and I think it's fantastic, And I hate then we're 151 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:40,600 Speaker 1: having to talk about this is again not about her, 152 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:44,000 Speaker 1: but this even exists, and why what she went through 153 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:45,920 Speaker 1: and in the statements that she wrote out for the 154 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:48,720 Speaker 1: court hearing, why it's still relevant and will be relevant, 155 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:52,040 Speaker 1: will continue to be relevant until we truly believe and 156 00:08:52,080 --> 00:08:57,280 Speaker 1: put into justice system of way of holding white privileged 157 00:08:57,320 --> 00:09:01,000 Speaker 1: mills accountable. And for people who don't know this is 158 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 1: the Rock Turner case we're talking about, correct And UM, 159 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,680 Speaker 1: I think on top of that, I'm like, make your money, honey. 160 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:13,560 Speaker 1: I mean, if you can make money off something this horrendous, 161 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:18,400 Speaker 1: take power, do it, do it, own it, take it 162 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:22,320 Speaker 1: and use it. Um. Which also comes back to the 163 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:26,040 Speaker 1: whole continuing to fight to be believed, which is so absurd. 164 00:09:27,600 --> 00:09:31,360 Speaker 1: And I know we're honest. Maybe it's a pessimistic view, 165 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:32,680 Speaker 1: but I don't know if we'll ever get to that 166 00:09:32,720 --> 00:09:35,640 Speaker 1: point just trying to talk about it and trying to 167 00:09:36,080 --> 00:09:39,440 Speaker 1: look through all of these things. Um, when I'm reading articles, 168 00:09:40,120 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 1: it's so infuriating to see that small percentage we talked 169 00:09:43,160 --> 00:09:47,360 Speaker 1: about that as actual false accusations. They're using two or 170 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 1: three of those examples as see, this is what's happening. 171 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:53,080 Speaker 1: They're ruining people's lives, and you're like, dude, or actually, 172 00:09:53,120 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 1: in the case that I was reading it was a 173 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:57,959 Speaker 1: female writer, I was like, why why are you so 174 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:05,199 Speaker 1: helping and saying this doesn't exist. I've had to, uh, 175 00:10:05,520 --> 00:10:09,680 Speaker 1: sit down. I've had two male friends when I've like 176 00:10:09,840 --> 00:10:12,719 Speaker 1: said statistics, say well this person in my life was 177 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:14,440 Speaker 1: a female and she was faking, and I've had to 178 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:18,480 Speaker 1: sit them down and be like, okay, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 179 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:22,280 Speaker 1: it's not the same. And that is something that has 180 00:10:22,320 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 1: come out for me through therapy. When I finally kind 181 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:28,560 Speaker 1: of did the walkthrough of like this most traumatic event, 182 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 1: I thought our therapist wouldn't believe me. That's how like 183 00:10:34,120 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 1: ingrained it is. When I told her, I had an 184 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:38,640 Speaker 1: immediate feel like she's she's not going to believe me, 185 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:42,160 Speaker 1: and of course she she did, but to me, that 186 00:10:42,240 --> 00:10:47,920 Speaker 1: was so revelatory that I'm having this private, confidential conversation 187 00:10:48,040 --> 00:10:50,000 Speaker 1: with someone who's never going to go to my face 188 00:10:50,120 --> 00:10:53,200 Speaker 1: unless I'm like clearly a pathological wires. And I thought, 189 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:58,040 Speaker 1: you're being treated for and I thought she's not going 190 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:00,360 Speaker 1: to believe me. This was the first time I've never 191 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:03,560 Speaker 1: like told anybody the whole thing, and that was my 192 00:11:03,640 --> 00:11:07,640 Speaker 1: first like knee jerk kind of Oh God, what have 193 00:11:07,800 --> 00:11:11,000 Speaker 1: I done? Um? And we did want to touch on 194 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 1: that a little bit, right, we did, because we did 195 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:16,640 Speaker 1: an episode each of us of the therapy sessions. And 196 00:11:16,640 --> 00:11:19,480 Speaker 1: I will say I have paused because the monetary issues. 197 00:11:20,960 --> 00:11:22,960 Speaker 1: I don't mean to laugh at you, but monetary issues 198 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:26,840 Speaker 1: is a funny phrase. I was not expected. Um, but 199 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:29,720 Speaker 1: I am getting prepared to go back obviously. But we 200 00:11:29,760 --> 00:11:33,559 Speaker 1: didn't hit in a lot of things. Um. She recommended 201 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:36,600 Speaker 1: white fragility for me, which is fantastic and I have 202 00:11:36,640 --> 00:11:40,800 Speaker 1: started reading into that and yes, yes, yes, just yes. Um. 203 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:42,560 Speaker 1: She did give me a lot of homework and there 204 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:44,680 Speaker 1: was a lot of writing, uh, And I think it 205 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:47,880 Speaker 1: was fantastic. It was really important because you know, you 206 00:11:47,880 --> 00:11:49,319 Speaker 1: and I were talking about the fact that it was 207 00:11:49,360 --> 00:11:51,079 Speaker 1: really important to me to have a woman of color 208 00:11:51,640 --> 00:11:54,400 Speaker 1: being our therapist because for the longest time I only 209 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:57,600 Speaker 1: had white women and white women. You you guys are fantastic. 210 00:11:57,679 --> 00:12:00,640 Speaker 1: We love you. Please know there's nothing wrong here. I 211 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:04,520 Speaker 1: love you Anny, You're amazing. But as a person of color, 212 00:12:04,720 --> 00:12:06,520 Speaker 1: it felt really, really hard trying to talk about the 213 00:12:06,520 --> 00:12:10,440 Speaker 1: issues of my you know, identity, especially when I've been 214 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:14,320 Speaker 1: ingrained in southern white culture and trying to figure everything out. 215 00:12:14,360 --> 00:12:18,000 Speaker 1: So um, and she is. She was obviously fantastic and 216 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:20,680 Speaker 1: making sure that I've been met where I needed to be, 217 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:27,120 Speaker 1: and she is, She's a great parson. It sounds like you. Yes. Um. 218 00:12:27,240 --> 00:12:32,560 Speaker 1: So I've run into a few setbacks because we were 219 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:35,160 Speaker 1: like working on this trauma and I also had, you know, 220 00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:38,560 Speaker 1: homework and all these exercises to do, and then my 221 00:12:38,679 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 1: dad died, and then my brother everdosed. Um the day 222 00:12:42,520 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 1: we're recording this would have been my dad's birthday, right. 223 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:48,400 Speaker 1: So tonight Samantha is coming with me. Yes, We're going 224 00:12:48,440 --> 00:12:51,559 Speaker 1: to a local restaurant called Nicolai's Roof. I've never been. 225 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:56,000 Speaker 1: I've never been either, but um, the vodka sampler. I've 226 00:12:56,000 --> 00:12:58,000 Speaker 1: got to get it because that's the last thing my 227 00:12:58,080 --> 00:13:00,200 Speaker 1: dad and I talked about and if you're wondering why, 228 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:02,040 Speaker 1: because he was not a big drinker. He did not drink. 229 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:06,079 Speaker 1: But um, I had just run the pre road race 230 00:13:06,160 --> 00:13:07,800 Speaker 1: the last time I saw him, like not just but 231 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 1: I was wearing the shirt and he was talking about 232 00:13:09,920 --> 00:13:12,720 Speaker 1: all the times he ran it, and um, he was 233 00:13:12,760 --> 00:13:16,000 Speaker 1: talking about like one of the times he ran it. Um. 234 00:13:16,080 --> 00:13:20,440 Speaker 1: My mom's family who's a little rich with some of 235 00:13:20,480 --> 00:13:26,440 Speaker 1: them more. They took him to Nicolai's roof and he 236 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:30,080 Speaker 1: wanted to try They do like infuse vodkas. They're they 237 00:13:30,120 --> 00:13:31,600 Speaker 1: get a bunch of different ones, and he wanted to 238 00:13:31,600 --> 00:13:34,560 Speaker 1: try everyone. And as a non drinker who just ran 239 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:37,320 Speaker 1: a race, he ended up hiding under the table. Apparently, 240 00:13:37,480 --> 00:13:40,640 Speaker 1: Oh that's my thing. That was gonna happen tonight. Maybe 241 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:46,200 Speaker 1: daring the vodka thing. I am, but you don't have to. 242 00:13:46,880 --> 00:13:48,959 Speaker 1: I was gonna be all in. Oh yeah, I was 243 00:13:49,000 --> 00:13:53,719 Speaker 1: all under the table, a little bit banned from Nicolay's room. 244 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:55,880 Speaker 1: It'll be great. I'll just be asleep. That was not 245 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:58,920 Speaker 1: a thing. Um. And it's funny because I had this 246 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:02,520 Speaker 1: thought of I've done the same thing. When one of 247 00:14:02,520 --> 00:14:05,040 Speaker 1: my friends turned one. She had like all those test 248 00:14:05,080 --> 00:14:07,719 Speaker 1: tubes and different colors, and I wanted to taste the 249 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:09,600 Speaker 1: rain post so I got all of them and took 250 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:12,360 Speaker 1: them at once year old thing today. And I also 251 00:14:12,679 --> 00:14:14,480 Speaker 1: while I wasn't hiding on the table, but I was 252 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:20,840 Speaker 1: like past teple, drink responsibly everybody. UM. So it kind 253 00:14:20,840 --> 00:14:23,000 Speaker 1: of it feels like I was just getting into my 254 00:14:23,040 --> 00:14:25,760 Speaker 1: trauma therapy and then all of these things started happening 255 00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:27,320 Speaker 1: and they start piling up, and it's just kind of 256 00:14:27,360 --> 00:14:31,240 Speaker 1: pushed back. UM. And I have dealt with. Like I 257 00:14:31,240 --> 00:14:33,840 Speaker 1: said in the Dutiful Daughter episode, the main thing people 258 00:14:33,840 --> 00:14:35,360 Speaker 1: told me after my dad died was he would be 259 00:14:35,440 --> 00:14:37,960 Speaker 1: proud of you. And I keep thinking he didn't know me, 260 00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:40,800 Speaker 1: and if he did, he wouldn't And I know that's nonsense, 261 00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:46,320 Speaker 1: but that's something I've been struggling with. UM. And that's 262 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 1: the shame factor that we've talked about so much. UM. 263 00:14:48,840 --> 00:14:51,560 Speaker 1: That's how powerful it is. And I did have a 264 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:53,800 Speaker 1: flashback a couple of weeks ago, but thanks to this show, 265 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:55,720 Speaker 1: I was able to get out of it pretty quickly. 266 00:14:57,080 --> 00:15:00,880 Speaker 1: I'd likely say all the time in that series, healing 267 00:15:00,960 --> 00:15:02,720 Speaker 1: is not a streetline, right. They are good days in 268 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:07,000 Speaker 1: bed exactly, and it's it's never necessarily fixed, no, which 269 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:09,280 Speaker 1: I was gonna say. I've noticed since I was I've 270 00:15:09,280 --> 00:15:12,280 Speaker 1: been more open about my past trauma. So many people 271 00:15:12,640 --> 00:15:15,200 Speaker 1: have come up to me and shared their past trauma 272 00:15:15,240 --> 00:15:17,120 Speaker 1: with me, and I'm really glad that they do, and 273 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:18,600 Speaker 1: I'm really glad that they trust me. I don't want 274 00:15:18,600 --> 00:15:21,480 Speaker 1: it to stop, but it's so it makes me so 275 00:15:21,520 --> 00:15:26,080 Speaker 1: angry because it's so many people. I know it is 276 00:15:26,440 --> 00:15:27,840 Speaker 1: and you want to fix it, you want to help 277 00:15:27,840 --> 00:15:29,720 Speaker 1: plan when you talked about it, you can't like you 278 00:15:29,760 --> 00:15:32,880 Speaker 1: can listen. And that's just got to be there. I 279 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:34,840 Speaker 1: gotta be there. And I trying to give, like here 280 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:38,960 Speaker 1: some resources if you're interested, but which is fantastic and 281 00:15:39,040 --> 00:15:42,840 Speaker 1: just giving love, love, giving love. Yeah, that's what it's 282 00:15:42,880 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 1: all about, right, And I did I did want to 283 00:15:45,400 --> 00:15:48,360 Speaker 1: mention too, because a lot of people have mentioned this 284 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:50,040 Speaker 1: to me. I don't know if you've heard about this, 285 00:15:50,080 --> 00:15:52,560 Speaker 1: but there's a show called Unbelievable on Netflix. I saw 286 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:55,760 Speaker 1: the previews on it and it looked really intense and 287 00:15:55,800 --> 00:15:57,640 Speaker 1: I was trying to figure out what the case was 288 00:15:57,760 --> 00:16:01,040 Speaker 1: with the uh it's actually by Stan or not you 289 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:04,280 Speaker 1: story an article written in by Pro Public and the 290 00:16:04,320 --> 00:16:08,440 Speaker 1: Martiall Project called Unbelievable Story of Rape. So it was 291 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:13,200 Speaker 1: from in which a girl named Murray filled charges and 292 00:16:13,240 --> 00:16:16,680 Speaker 1: then she was charged with following a false report. So 293 00:16:16,840 --> 00:16:20,000 Speaker 1: a lot of people have recommended it to me. Um, 294 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:23,840 Speaker 1: and apparently it's obviously deals with a lot of what 295 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:28,160 Speaker 1: we talked about our Trauma mini series, and UM, a 296 00:16:28,160 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 1: lot of the reaction I've seen from it is that 297 00:16:30,200 --> 00:16:34,080 Speaker 1: female detectives should always be involved in these cases. Um. 298 00:16:34,120 --> 00:16:35,760 Speaker 1: But yeah, it's it's in my queue. It's one of 299 00:16:35,760 --> 00:16:39,760 Speaker 1: those things like everybody for a while was recommending m 300 00:16:39,840 --> 00:16:42,360 Speaker 1: May's sailed to me and I did eventually watch it, 301 00:16:42,360 --> 00:16:44,600 Speaker 1: and I did. I did like it. But it's like 302 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:46,800 Speaker 1: a thing where you, oh, I can't. You have to 303 00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:50,840 Speaker 1: that's the thing. I have to like work up to it, right. 304 00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:55,120 Speaker 1: So my friend he's just like, UM, I need you 305 00:16:55,320 --> 00:16:56,960 Speaker 1: to get to the point that you can actually watch 306 00:16:57,160 --> 00:16:59,280 Speaker 1: some types of sad move shows. He's like, because it's 307 00:16:59,280 --> 00:17:02,560 Speaker 1: the majority of the exist I'm like, yeah, He's like, 308 00:17:02,600 --> 00:17:04,520 Speaker 1: even if it's a remotely sad. I was like, yeah, no, 309 00:17:04,560 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 1: I just I just can't. Um. And that's fair, and 310 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:09,800 Speaker 1: it's a lot of the fact that's also my trauma 311 00:17:09,840 --> 00:17:13,000 Speaker 1: as well as a continued work trauma that I'm like, right, 312 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:15,160 Speaker 1: not ready. Yeah, I want to do a word search 313 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:18,199 Speaker 1: and keep watching Top Chef. Yeah, this will definitely be 314 00:17:18,240 --> 00:17:20,720 Speaker 1: a day I have to work up to you. And 315 00:17:20,760 --> 00:17:22,760 Speaker 1: I'll say day because I usually do bench stuff like 316 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:24,480 Speaker 1: this pretty quick. I'm like, I just want to get over. 317 00:17:24,720 --> 00:17:28,720 Speaker 1: It's Tony Collette. I know my love and I'm really 318 00:17:28,720 --> 00:17:32,760 Speaker 1: excited to see. But yeah, that's a lot of intense emotions, 319 00:17:32,840 --> 00:17:35,320 Speaker 1: up and down, up and down, up and downs. I'll 320 00:17:35,320 --> 00:17:38,280 Speaker 1: get to it. One. Maybe we should have a project, 321 00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:41,000 Speaker 1: a project I'm not project, but viewing data of that 322 00:17:41,080 --> 00:17:44,440 Speaker 1: together that brought to probably, or we could just hold 323 00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:47,800 Speaker 1: each other's hands while we watch it. We could hold 324 00:17:48,960 --> 00:17:53,119 Speaker 1: I'll hold okay, I'll hold Peaches. You hold your bumblebee, Rudy, Rudy, 325 00:17:53,119 --> 00:17:56,800 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I'll let you choose because it goes by 326 00:17:56,800 --> 00:18:03,040 Speaker 1: both names, Ruby Duby. That's fine. And on top of that, oh, Samsung, 327 00:18:03,359 --> 00:18:05,359 Speaker 1: I don't know if you actually have you heard that 328 00:18:05,840 --> 00:18:08,239 Speaker 1: I read this, I believe In the last week at 329 00:18:08,280 --> 00:18:11,560 Speaker 1: a women's tech event, Samsung requested for the company Lioness 330 00:18:11,960 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 1: to remove their product, which was a vibrator um from 331 00:18:16,080 --> 00:18:18,639 Speaker 1: their display, even after they had been approved for their 332 00:18:18,680 --> 00:18:21,240 Speaker 1: event and had already been set up their display, so 333 00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 1: they knew it was coming, or they seen they saw 334 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:25,280 Speaker 1: us coming, and they knew it was coming, and they 335 00:18:25,359 --> 00:18:27,800 Speaker 1: knew what the company was um. And after a tweet 336 00:18:27,840 --> 00:18:29,920 Speaker 1: was sent to the Twitter verse, yeah that's what I'm 337 00:18:29,920 --> 00:18:32,159 Speaker 1: calling it. And after the majority of the event day 338 00:18:32,240 --> 00:18:34,639 Speaker 1: was over, the CEO of Samsung allowed the product to 339 00:18:34,640 --> 00:18:37,440 Speaker 1: be displayed again. But obviously this would be a too little, 340 00:18:37,480 --> 00:18:41,119 Speaker 1: too late situation, and a part of the highlighted highlight 341 00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:43,840 Speaker 1: for the event was in regards to women's health, which 342 00:18:43,880 --> 00:18:47,439 Speaker 1: had plenty of things regarding fertility treatment and pregnancy and 343 00:18:47,440 --> 00:18:50,240 Speaker 1: all of that, which is fantastic and well and it's necessary, 344 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:54,120 Speaker 1: but was not about the other things. Obviously, we can't 345 00:18:54,119 --> 00:18:58,520 Speaker 1: talk about sexual health, good, good sex, UM, feeling nice, 346 00:18:59,040 --> 00:19:00,840 Speaker 1: getting the things you need he as a as a 347 00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:04,400 Speaker 1: female or whatever, um as a female in general. So 348 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:07,639 Speaker 1: Sam Sude did give a statement to the Verge and 349 00:19:08,200 --> 00:19:09,840 Speaker 1: they see all the things. Of course, as they said, 350 00:19:09,880 --> 00:19:13,240 Speaker 1: we regret an interaction that occurred with the presenting startup 351 00:19:13,240 --> 00:19:16,680 Speaker 1: and apologize to the involved and we've addressed this internally 352 00:19:16,720 --> 00:19:19,600 Speaker 1: blah blah blah. We learned from this as we continue 353 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:24,480 Speaker 1: to sponsor female connections. You would have thought at this 354 00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:27,320 Speaker 1: point in time, and especially if it's directed towards women, 355 00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:32,479 Speaker 1: it's not like it's everybody. Hey, it's just a tech thing. Yeah, 356 00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:37,200 Speaker 1: but just in the fact that, yes, women enjoy sexual pleasure, 357 00:19:37,720 --> 00:19:40,160 Speaker 1: and it's kind of one of those things like why 358 00:19:40,600 --> 00:19:43,840 Speaker 1: why are we still so ashamed for women to enjoy 359 00:19:43,920 --> 00:19:47,520 Speaker 1: sex or enjoy being pleasured? Why is this such a 360 00:19:47,560 --> 00:19:53,359 Speaker 1: taboo thing? Um? Yeah, And I know when we were 361 00:19:53,359 --> 00:19:56,359 Speaker 1: talking about Laura de Carlo, how there's so many like 362 00:19:57,880 --> 00:20:02,280 Speaker 1: items aimed towards male pleasure exactly are totally like on 363 00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:08,359 Speaker 1: the on the display for like everywhere, but female pleasure. Whoa, 364 00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:13,560 Speaker 1: what is this thing? Get out here? And would that 365 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:16,679 Speaker 1: we also wanted to come back to supporting women. And 366 00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:19,200 Speaker 1: you know, I gave the example of Serena Williams. Yeah, 367 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:23,119 Speaker 1: Serena Williams. Again. Another example in the tennis world showing 368 00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:26,919 Speaker 1: great sportsmanship was Naomi Osaka and Cocoa Golf and the 369 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:29,520 Speaker 1: commandari and the love and the support was just beautiful. 370 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:31,919 Speaker 1: And I just want to recognize that the hugging and 371 00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:33,800 Speaker 1: and the encouraging like you you're doing you did an 372 00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:38,240 Speaker 1: amazing job. You're you're doing great. It's just U the fields, 373 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:42,840 Speaker 1: the fields. We have some more feels, but first we 374 00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:58,520 Speaker 1: have a quick break for a wordsmore sponsor and we're back. 375 00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:02,040 Speaker 1: Thank you sponsored. So I wanted to touch on an 376 00:21:02,040 --> 00:21:05,439 Speaker 1: episode we did before you came on Man with Lauren 377 00:21:05,960 --> 00:21:09,919 Speaker 1: my host at savor Um, called why Didn't You Believe Her? 378 00:21:09,960 --> 00:21:13,040 Speaker 1: And that whole episode was based on It was tied 379 00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:15,719 Speaker 1: into brit Kabanaugh, but it was kind of looking at 380 00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:17,880 Speaker 1: it through a horror movie limb. Of course, you know 381 00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:21,199 Speaker 1: I love horror movies. I already started my Halloween line up. 382 00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:25,879 Speaker 1: What did you already watch? It's over ten? Wow? Yeah, 383 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:29,480 Speaker 1: last one, the last one I watched. Oh no, I 384 00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:33,200 Speaker 1: don't want to say that. That That was too embarrassing that 385 00:21:33,320 --> 00:21:36,680 Speaker 1: the one, no, no, no, I wanted the last one. 386 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:39,560 Speaker 1: It was a new movie that I gave a chance 387 00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:46,240 Speaker 1: called Hatchet, and I'll say I liked the opening in 388 00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:51,439 Speaker 1: New Orleans the rest of it, so I will not 389 00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:57,000 Speaker 1: watch that one. I mean, I assumed they just like 390 00:21:57,119 --> 00:22:00,560 Speaker 1: the female character and that well, unbelievable is the m 391 00:22:00,640 --> 00:22:05,080 Speaker 1: v P of their group. So I appreciate that. No 392 00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:09,080 Speaker 1: shame on attic if anyone likes it, it's just yeah, um. 393 00:22:10,040 --> 00:22:12,720 Speaker 1: So the yeah, the whole thing is about how frequently 394 00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:16,440 Speaker 1: in horror movies and Supernatural now that you've watched it, 395 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:20,000 Speaker 1: it's everywhere. Like the episode starts, it's a dude and 396 00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:22,000 Speaker 1: a lady and she's like, I don't like this. I 397 00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:25,400 Speaker 1: think I heard something. He's like, make God with me, 398 00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:28,920 Speaker 1: and then they both die. That's it was the best 399 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:31,560 Speaker 1: impression and I loved it, Thank you. Um. And now 400 00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:34,960 Speaker 1: I can't see it. I see it everywhere in horror 401 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:39,080 Speaker 1: and yeah, as I'm working through this, uh in my 402 00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:43,480 Speaker 1: Halloween lineup, which super producer Andrew asked me, how is 403 00:22:43,520 --> 00:22:46,320 Speaker 1: that different from any other time, which is a fair point. 404 00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:50,200 Speaker 1: And I just watched Killer clowns from Matter his face 405 00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:52,439 Speaker 1: for the first time and they even did it in 406 00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:55,159 Speaker 1: that she was very like, for like thirty minutes, the 407 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:58,240 Speaker 1: female character was like, I think some things rock here. 408 00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:02,880 Speaker 1: Why is there a big tent in the middle of nowhere? Why? 409 00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:09,280 Speaker 1: Dead right? Maybe? And everyone's like shop, um every now. 410 00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:11,040 Speaker 1: Then you do have that girl that just like, oh, 411 00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:13,359 Speaker 1: I hear a noise, what is that? And then falls 412 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:16,720 Speaker 1: into her death. It's true typically, and I feel like 413 00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:19,680 Speaker 1: I saw a movie where it was subverted recently where 414 00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:23,720 Speaker 1: the woman didn't believe the man, and I was like, oh, interesting, 415 00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:28,480 Speaker 1: But it's that's kind of the exception to the general rule. Um. 416 00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:30,520 Speaker 1: I've long wanted to do and I have not been 417 00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,800 Speaker 1: shy about saying this, where I wanted to once a 418 00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:36,080 Speaker 1: month to talk about a horror movie and look at 419 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:37,919 Speaker 1: it through a feminist perspective. The first one is going 420 00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:40,679 Speaker 1: to be alien because I am ready to go. I 421 00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:42,320 Speaker 1: was ready, let's do this, and it's going to be 422 00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 1: back in theaters in October. It's a certain anniversary you 423 00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:50,640 Speaker 1: need to go. Then yes, all right, But I did 424 00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:53,720 Speaker 1: want to touch on Midsummer briefly, and it's a spoiler 425 00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:56,040 Speaker 1: free so if you haven't seen it, I haven't seen it. 426 00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:59,800 Speaker 1: No spoilers, um, but it is one that I cannot wait, 427 00:23:59,880 --> 00:24:03,320 Speaker 1: Like whenever the Statute of Liventations is over, I am 428 00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:06,840 Speaker 1: in um am there gonna be years. Oh yeah, it's 429 00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:09,639 Speaker 1: like ten years, I think, so a decade later, you guys, 430 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,920 Speaker 1: I oll be here. Mostly what I want to talk 431 00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 1: about is and some of you probably saw this on Twitter. 432 00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:17,800 Speaker 1: There were a lot of tweets saying this is the 433 00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:20,680 Speaker 1: breakup movie of the year, like it's the best breakup 434 00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:25,240 Speaker 1: movie you've ever seen. Okay, so there is so much 435 00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:29,439 Speaker 1: gas lighting in this movie, so much, and every woman 436 00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:31,439 Speaker 1: I saw it with, and I've seen it three times 437 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,160 Speaker 1: now with three different women after we left, we all 438 00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:38,120 Speaker 1: have the same reaction. Um. Yeah, I've been in that relationship. 439 00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:41,160 Speaker 1: I have been in that relationship. I've had that those 440 00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:44,760 Speaker 1: conversations before, I've had those fights before. And what really 441 00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:47,080 Speaker 1: blew my mind is at first I was confused as 442 00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:49,359 Speaker 1: to whether I should be on her side or his side. 443 00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:53,800 Speaker 1: And that's awful. That's awful. Um. And yes, let me 444 00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:57,200 Speaker 1: emphasize here that her boyfriend is the worst. He's horrible. 445 00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:00,119 Speaker 1: But that's how normalized gas lighting has been in my 446 00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:03,159 Speaker 1: general experience. But of course, like a little further in, 447 00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:09,000 Speaker 1: I was pretty confident, like, nah, he's a he's mad, um. 448 00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:11,360 Speaker 1: And it was weird to watch their terrible relationship play 449 00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:13,120 Speaker 1: out and see it for how terrible it is while 450 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:17,359 Speaker 1: knowing you have been and me specifically, I've been in 451 00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:19,840 Speaker 1: that terrible relationship and I didn't see it for what 452 00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:21,360 Speaker 1: I was, what it was when I was in it. 453 00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:24,880 Speaker 1: I made excuses and justifications for being treated like trash. 454 00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:27,520 Speaker 1: It's weird. So you just pretty much watched your own 455 00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:30,560 Speaker 1: relationship on giant screen three times. Yeah, and a lot 456 00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:32,399 Speaker 1: of like every woman I went with was like, yep, 457 00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:35,920 Speaker 1: been there, been there. Um. Oh God, I want to 458 00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:39,200 Speaker 1: talk about more, but I won't. Um. I haven't seen 459 00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:41,359 Speaker 1: it yet. I'm telling you we should go and I 460 00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:43,320 Speaker 1: want to see it for sure. I think it's out 461 00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:46,560 Speaker 1: of theaters now. They did the director's cut last weekend. Anyway, 462 00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,920 Speaker 1: we'll we'll make up for it somehow. But in the meantime, 463 00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:53,520 Speaker 1: I want to touch on another thing, toys and games, 464 00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:56,080 Speaker 1: because we also didn't episode it on this and the 465 00:25:56,119 --> 00:26:00,720 Speaker 1: importance of having um a variety of gender neutral game 466 00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:06,560 Speaker 1: and toy options for children. Right, So, green Army Women, 467 00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:10,400 Speaker 1: thanks to a six year old girl from Little Rock, Arkansas, 468 00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:13,440 Speaker 1: we're now getting green Army women because we we all 469 00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:16,160 Speaker 1: know those like little Green Army Men, there are no women. 470 00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:18,760 Speaker 1: And this little girl noticed it. She noticed that there 471 00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 1: weren't any women for her to choose from, and she 472 00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:24,000 Speaker 1: wrote three toy companies letters that read something like this quote, 473 00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:26,760 Speaker 1: some girls don't like pink, so please can you make 474 00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:31,280 Speaker 1: army girls that look like women. One of those companies 475 00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,720 Speaker 1: was BMC Toys, who is now planning on rolling out 476 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:37,840 Speaker 1: four types of army women, including a captain. The owner 477 00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:41,080 Speaker 1: of BMC, Jeff Emil, had been contacted about creating green 478 00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:43,840 Speaker 1: army women a year or so earlier by a retired 479 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:47,280 Speaker 1: Navy sailor um a woman, and he got his sister, 480 00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:49,520 Speaker 1: who was an artist by the name of Tina mL 481 00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:52,520 Speaker 1: to draw some prototypes. He told w N A P. 482 00:26:53,080 --> 00:26:55,640 Speaker 1: Whether it's a dinosaur or Davy Crockett or an army man, 483 00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:58,360 Speaker 1: maybe having a set of plastic army women will help 484 00:26:58,400 --> 00:27:00,600 Speaker 1: some kids somewhere be the hero of their own story 485 00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:04,560 Speaker 1: at playtime. And I think that's a good thing for everybody. Yes, 486 00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:07,600 Speaker 1: Green Army men have been around since nineteen thirties, by 487 00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:09,359 Speaker 1: the way, and made it into the National Toy Hall 488 00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:13,680 Speaker 1: of Fame. They are also my favorite characters from toy 489 00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:16,159 Speaker 1: story when you're running a Disney World race, because so 490 00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:17,960 Speaker 1: when you run a Disney World race at a mile, 491 00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:21,920 Speaker 1: there's characters like cheering you on, uh, and they're usually 492 00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:23,960 Speaker 1: right after you run up the super steep hill and 493 00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:26,240 Speaker 1: they're kind of yelling at you, which is I like it, 494 00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:29,360 Speaker 1: did they do the walk because they have that stand? Yes, 495 00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:34,679 Speaker 1: I think so. Usually at this point I'm hallucinating the finish. 496 00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:38,000 Speaker 1: It is towards the end um and then another thing 497 00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:41,399 Speaker 1: Miss Monopoly. Yea, yeah, this has been in the news 498 00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:44,200 Speaker 1: and you've probably heard it by now that Hasbro launched 499 00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:47,359 Speaker 1: a version of Monopoly called Miss Monopoly. Quote the first 500 00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:50,359 Speaker 1: game where women make more than men. Every time a 501 00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:53,760 Speaker 1: female player passes go, she receives two instead of the 502 00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:57,639 Speaker 1: standard two hundred dollars that male players receive. Women and 503 00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:00,359 Speaker 1: girls start with nineteen hundred dollars and men and boys 504 00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:03,399 Speaker 1: start with four dollars. Men are awarded for being a 505 00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:05,880 Speaker 1: good ally in the game, like watching a female let's 506 00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:09,280 Speaker 1: superhero movie, writing an article about women doing around stuff 507 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:12,400 Speaker 1: and we're going to a rally. That's not the only 508 00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:15,640 Speaker 1: thing that makes this version different. Instead of real estate players, 509 00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:20,280 Speaker 1: invest inventions and innovations of women throughout history, gone to 510 00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:25,240 Speaker 1: is the classic mascot replaced by his niece. Seems to 511 00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:28,320 Speaker 1: be a consensus a woman in either case. Uh. This, 512 00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:31,520 Speaker 1: of course has burned a lot of our arguments about 513 00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:36,359 Speaker 1: whether this is empowering or insulting. Of course, angry dudes 514 00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:40,200 Speaker 1: who don't like women are furious. M Hasbro awarded three 515 00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:43,800 Speaker 1: young women grants of twenty thousand, five eighty dollars each 516 00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:48,960 Speaker 1: in non monopoly real money for their inventions in tech. 517 00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:52,400 Speaker 1: Yeah you know, I don't want the handing out Monopoly money. 518 00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:55,320 Speaker 1: I want that the in the video. There was a 519 00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:58,280 Speaker 1: video of these teenagers discussing their inventions and it received 520 00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:03,200 Speaker 1: a thirteen thousand discs and only sixty ish likes and 521 00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:06,800 Speaker 1: the comments have been disabled, which does not surprise me, 522 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:11,080 Speaker 1: but it does make me very sad misogyny exists. But also, 523 00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:14,479 Speaker 1: did we need a gendered version of this game? Like 524 00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:17,000 Speaker 1: it kind of sucks that women make more in this 525 00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:20,400 Speaker 1: one version of Monopoly World but make less in the 526 00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:23,000 Speaker 1: real world. You would think that they would have some 527 00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:25,040 Speaker 1: kind of option instead of having one set pay. Maybe 528 00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:26,640 Speaker 1: you have a card and this is your job, didn't 529 00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:30,040 Speaker 1: life do that? Yeah? Your job? So that before you 530 00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:34,240 Speaker 1: making this amount of money, right, that's a that game. 531 00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:36,160 Speaker 1: I've got a lot of fights over that game, and 532 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:38,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, but this is a fake life. I don't 533 00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:39,800 Speaker 1: know why you're mad at me that I won the lottery. 534 00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,760 Speaker 1: I got more mad about Monopoly, Like my dad pretend 535 00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:45,160 Speaker 1: like he burned it and taken away from us because 536 00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:47,880 Speaker 1: we got to so many fights about that. I've said before, 537 00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:50,120 Speaker 1: I've cheated and lost. I've never won a game of monopoly. 538 00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:54,280 Speaker 1: And also I'm not sure how I would react if 539 00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:55,960 Speaker 1: I was a kid playing this, and that's how I 540 00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:59,040 Speaker 1: learned about the gender wage gap. Yeah, I don't know. 541 00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:02,560 Speaker 1: The message could be too that womenita head start because 542 00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:04,120 Speaker 1: we can't just hack it like man. I can see 543 00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,680 Speaker 1: how you could interpret it that way. The interesting thing 544 00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:09,040 Speaker 1: about monopoly is that it was invented by a woman 545 00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:13,080 Speaker 1: named Elizabeth Madgie to demonstrate the evils of landlords and 546 00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:16,880 Speaker 1: people hoarding real estate. She filed for a patent for 547 00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:20,520 Speaker 1: the Landlord's Game and the nineteen hundreds, and then men 548 00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:22,800 Speaker 1: realized that they could make money off of this game 549 00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 1: by the evils of like making too much money, um. 550 00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:28,160 Speaker 1: And then they took it and turned it into a 551 00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:31,120 Speaker 1: celebration of capitalism at its worst. And while her game 552 00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:34,320 Speaker 1: is accepted as the basis for Monopoly, she doesn't receive 553 00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,160 Speaker 1: any of the official credit. To this day, she made 554 00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:43,520 Speaker 1: five dollars um. This is on the Tales of Monopolies 555 00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:47,920 Speaker 1: Millennial version. Uh quote forget real estate. You can't afford 556 00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:51,240 Speaker 1: it anyway. And I know there's a lot of like 557 00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:55,680 Speaker 1: avocado toast in that game. Uh. And apparently there's a 558 00:30:55,800 --> 00:31:00,400 Speaker 1: monopoly for socialist, Monopoly for a socialist. I've got to 559 00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:02,800 Speaker 1: know more about that. How is how do you have 560 00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:06,560 Speaker 1: a monopoly if you're a socialist. I don't know. We'll 561 00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:12,960 Speaker 1: have to we'll have to play. Oh, you know a 562 00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:17,800 Speaker 1: new girl they talk about the said Thailand. He's like, 563 00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:20,320 Speaker 1: this is like a Thailand version of Monopoly, but everybody's 564 00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:27,120 Speaker 1: in jail and you've had over one property. Oh, dear girl. 565 00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:32,320 Speaker 1: Apparently there's a lot more to monopoly than well, you 566 00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:35,400 Speaker 1: can play the McDonald's version really win some money. I 567 00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:38,520 Speaker 1: used to have the computer version of the Star Wars one. 568 00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:41,400 Speaker 1: I used to have the phone like it was a 569 00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:43,280 Speaker 1: phone game kind of like Solitaire, and I could just 570 00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:45,120 Speaker 1: play Monopoly. And I cheated on that a lot too. 571 00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:49,000 Speaker 1: You can cheat, Yeah, you could just reset things. My goodness, 572 00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:52,920 Speaker 1: we're a bunch of cheaters here. It's only when it 573 00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:56,880 Speaker 1: comes to monopoly, which is kind of the point of monopoly. Yeah, 574 00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:59,840 Speaker 1: all right, um, I've wanted to throw in here. We're 575 00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:03,960 Speaker 1: first Vagina Museum opened in London. Um, can we ask 576 00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:07,920 Speaker 1: our bosses if we can go visit it? Absolutely we can. Well, 577 00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:11,440 Speaker 1: I think we'll get turned down, but why I wants 578 00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:14,400 Speaker 1: to go? Any listeners go check it out. It's new. 579 00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:17,480 Speaker 1: I've been to museums like this before and they're, in 580 00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:20,560 Speaker 1: my experience, a little weird, but this one could be 581 00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:23,640 Speaker 1: super cool. Um, So I'd love any listeners who go, 582 00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:26,800 Speaker 1: wonder if there's any George O'Keefe type of I hope 583 00:32:26,840 --> 00:32:30,200 Speaker 1: so things in there, I hope. So we gotta believe 584 00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:35,600 Speaker 1: it and then D and D update. I know everybody's 585 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:38,600 Speaker 1: been waiting. I've been waiting for I am in the 586 00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:41,240 Speaker 1: midst of running my first campaign. I found it is 587 00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:43,000 Speaker 1: a lot of work, but it is a lot of fun. 588 00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:46,320 Speaker 1: I like having the power. So are you going to 589 00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:51,160 Speaker 1: have another limbless body to track around? Well, that's up 590 00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:54,040 Speaker 1: to them. Okay. Now I'm the one that just kind 591 00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:56,000 Speaker 1: of sets the rules and they try to break them 592 00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:59,280 Speaker 1: in any way that they can. No one ever does 593 00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:01,440 Speaker 1: what I think that they will do. Even when I 594 00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:03,120 Speaker 1: got in my way to think myself, well it's the 595 00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:06,040 Speaker 1: last thing I think they'll do. Nope, there's another thing 596 00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:09,080 Speaker 1: behind that thing. That they thought to do. Um Also 597 00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:11,360 Speaker 1: in this in theory, this campaign was supposed to be 598 00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:14,160 Speaker 1: a one shot, meaning it takes one session, but we're 599 00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:17,640 Speaker 1: barely getting into the main story with a whole bunch 600 00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:21,480 Speaker 1: of different storylines branching off that, and we're four sessions 601 00:33:21,560 --> 00:33:26,640 Speaker 1: and oh well, so I'll continue to keep you updated 602 00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:31,400 Speaker 1: as as things go off the rails. Yes, and another 603 00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:35,120 Speaker 1: very important update about updates is fan fiction too. Of 604 00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:37,760 Speaker 1: my favorite fan fictions updated and they hadn't updated in years, 605 00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:40,880 Speaker 1: well were they? That's a huge deal. One of them 606 00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:44,280 Speaker 1: was a Harry Potter one. Oh okay, they were both 607 00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:46,840 Speaker 1: Harry Potter fan fiction and they hadn't updated in like 608 00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:50,280 Speaker 1: five six years, five or six years, and they decide 609 00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:52,280 Speaker 1: I wonder what made them decide to do so, I 610 00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:54,920 Speaker 1: don't know. They wrote a big note like, hey, sorry 611 00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:56,720 Speaker 1: about this. I didn't abandon it, but I've been busy, 612 00:33:56,920 --> 00:34:01,360 Speaker 1: Like I mean, yes, they feel like you've all taking 613 00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:05,680 Speaker 1: this story, and I'm like, no, not me. I didn't 614 00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:08,080 Speaker 1: print it off. And in the bed with it, don't 615 00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:12,160 Speaker 1: tell everyone about my printing off of the story. And 616 00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:14,359 Speaker 1: I was just going to quickly mention Peaches, because you know, 617 00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:17,560 Speaker 1: that was what my stuff was and my update is 618 00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:22,840 Speaker 1: she's still a jerk but adorable. Um. Yeah, she just 619 00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:26,319 Speaker 1: rolls around like another and I love it. Yeah she 620 00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:30,279 Speaker 1: hugs me. She doesn't, but she I think she does. 621 00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:33,640 Speaker 1: I imagine because I make her put her paws like 622 00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:36,120 Speaker 1: around my neck a little bit. And I'm just holding 623 00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:40,040 Speaker 1: it over to day and I hear from her, so 624 00:34:40,280 --> 00:34:43,040 Speaker 1: you know, it's okay, I accept it. I accepted Social 625 00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:46,640 Speaker 1: work world. Things have been slowly changing because you know, 626 00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:55,640 Speaker 1: as governments transition or new administration happens, things change. So 627 00:34:57,239 --> 00:35:02,440 Speaker 1: it's been changes. That's all I got. Oh. I was 628 00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:05,520 Speaker 1: trying to think of something encouraging to say, but you know, 629 00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:08,399 Speaker 1: you know he's still you know, I did. I will 630 00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:11,480 Speaker 1: say that just personally. We did have I have to 631 00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:14,160 Speaker 1: review some of our kids that get treatment, actually all 632 00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:16,319 Speaker 1: of my kids that get treatment, and we had a 633 00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:18,319 Speaker 1: really great one and I have a lot of hope 634 00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:20,759 Speaker 1: for this kid. So that's always nice to see. Yeah, 635 00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:24,680 Speaker 1: so we'll give you that out there. Yeah, we have 636 00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:28,480 Speaker 1: some more things that are nice to hear. But first 637 00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:30,400 Speaker 1: we have one more quick break for word from our sponsor, 638 00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:47,319 Speaker 1: and we're back, Thank you sponsor, and we're back with 639 00:35:47,360 --> 00:35:52,120 Speaker 1: something we've been meaning to bring back for a while. Yes, 640 00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:56,200 Speaker 1: we love getting it um. Mary Anne wrote, my name 641 00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:58,160 Speaker 1: is Marianne and I'm a new listener to the podcast. 642 00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:00,920 Speaker 1: I am really enjoying all the episodes. Cue. I just 643 00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:03,080 Speaker 1: listened to your Spiny Pulls an all nighter episode and 644 00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:05,279 Speaker 1: I had a few things to say about it. I 645 00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:09,160 Speaker 1: suffer from polycystic ovary syndrome PICOS and I'm learning so 646 00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:11,640 Speaker 1: many things about it and recently discovered the role sleep 647 00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:14,160 Speaker 1: plays and the regulation of our hormones as you stay 648 00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:16,400 Speaker 1: in the episode, I wanted to share some of the 649 00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:19,600 Speaker 1: things that have helped me get such better sleep. One 650 00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:22,480 Speaker 1: of the ways that can help reset circadian rhythm is 651 00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:26,279 Speaker 1: light therapy, specifically spending time outside during the day and 652 00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:28,600 Speaker 1: night to help your body realize when it's time to 653 00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:32,000 Speaker 1: start winding down to go to sleep. Spending time outside 654 00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:34,279 Speaker 1: in the early morning, midday, and evening can greatly help 655 00:36:34,320 --> 00:36:37,120 Speaker 1: regulate your body into realizing when it's time to go 656 00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:39,800 Speaker 1: to bed. As little as thirty minutes can greatly improve 657 00:36:40,080 --> 00:36:42,680 Speaker 1: one's quality of sleep. I have switched over to using 658 00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:45,080 Speaker 1: a dawn simul. I don't know what that is. What 659 00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:48,120 Speaker 1: I'm interested, Oh, I guess I can totally explained to you. Yeah, 660 00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:51,160 Speaker 1: so it's it's just this light that literally glows open 661 00:36:51,239 --> 00:36:54,480 Speaker 1: as if it's a sunrise. They yeah, the okay, so 662 00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:58,120 Speaker 1: she switched over to that dawn simulating alarm clock. Thanks 663 00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:01,120 Speaker 1: for the explanation, which is lately helped me get up 664 00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:04,400 Speaker 1: in the mornings. Additionally, my doctor recommended melitonin to me, 665 00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:07,120 Speaker 1: but stresses that larger dosages over an extended period of 666 00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:09,520 Speaker 1: time can have a negative impact on the body's natural 667 00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:12,520 Speaker 1: protection of melitonin. As a result, she recommends point five 668 00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:14,400 Speaker 1: milligrams a couple of hours before bedtime to let your 669 00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:16,200 Speaker 1: body know, hey, you should be winding down to go 670 00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:18,239 Speaker 1: to bed, and then larger doses for the times when 671 00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:19,800 Speaker 1: you wake up in the middle of the night or 672 00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:23,200 Speaker 1: when you travel. Just these three things that helped me immensely, 673 00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:25,240 Speaker 1: and I no longer wake up fatigued, and I felt 674 00:37:25,280 --> 00:37:28,120 Speaker 1: compelled to share with you well, thank you so much, 675 00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:30,040 Speaker 1: and we we did get a lot of tips about 676 00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:32,919 Speaker 1: how to how to sleep better, very much appreciated. Keep 677 00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:35,799 Speaker 1: them coming because I did not sleep last night. I 678 00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:40,759 Speaker 1: didn't either, Lindsay wrote, I love Sminty, thank you, and 679 00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:43,440 Speaker 1: I just listened to your episode on the opioid crisis. 680 00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:46,120 Speaker 1: I'm a youth outreach worker at a community health center 681 00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:49,680 Speaker 1: in London, Ontario, Canada. The crisis has hit our community hard, 682 00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:51,640 Speaker 1: and so of course this episode resonates with me and 683 00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:53,560 Speaker 1: the work I do as an outreach worker. I just 684 00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:55,000 Speaker 1: want to let you know about some stuff that our 685 00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:57,200 Speaker 1: community is doing that is pretty cool. Has been a 686 00:37:57,239 --> 00:37:58,799 Speaker 1: fight to get there, but we are trying to be 687 00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:02,359 Speaker 1: leaders in our country. We opened a supervised consumption site 688 00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:05,319 Speaker 1: and have really stepped up our clean equipment distribution. But 689 00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:07,200 Speaker 1: you really need to check out the work of Dr 690 00:38:07,320 --> 00:38:09,920 Speaker 1: Andrea Serrata and the work that she is doing with 691 00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:13,080 Speaker 1: prescribing opioids to her patients and her Safer Supply program. 692 00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:15,560 Speaker 1: It's one of the very few programs that is prescribing 693 00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:17,680 Speaker 1: take home pills like this, and you can find her 694 00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:21,840 Speaker 1: on Twitter. Her handle is Andrea Serrata s E R 695 00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:25,160 Speaker 1: E d A. Also awesome. Yeah, totally check that out. 696 00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:28,360 Speaker 1: And so I'm also some of the social media comments, 697 00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:31,360 Speaker 1: you know, because I'm so good at that social media. 698 00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:34,880 Speaker 1: Um listener sagal and I'm really sorry if I I 699 00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:38,359 Speaker 1: mispronounced that, and it's at I'm just gonna spell this out. 700 00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:42,240 Speaker 1: S as h A r h A R One shared 701 00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:45,080 Speaker 1: this after was in a name episode. Hi, just a 702 00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:48,800 Speaker 1: comment about Vladiman Puttin's name from the Names episode. Russians 703 00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:51,320 Speaker 1: have a patronymic name and you can notice this custom 704 00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:54,880 Speaker 1: in Russian literature. So Putin's father was in fact also Vladimir. 705 00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:59,080 Speaker 1: Vladimir Vladimir Ovik is Vladimir, son of Vladimir. I just 706 00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:00,920 Speaker 1: wanted to but that's what I can. Try not to 707 00:39:01,239 --> 00:39:03,879 Speaker 1: fumble over that, and I did ten times, so, which 708 00:39:03,920 --> 00:39:06,520 Speaker 1: was fantastic. I was like, that's super interesting and a 709 00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:09,920 Speaker 1: lot of Vladimir's in that center is so all Harry's 710 00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:12,600 Speaker 1: podcast let us know in Brazil, we're trying to fix 711 00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:15,120 Speaker 1: this gap. After we were talking about bridging the gap, 712 00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:19,279 Speaker 1: the gender gap podcasting um. When trying to fix this 713 00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:24,680 Speaker 1: gap at our Craft created the hashtag Harry's podcasters or podcasters. 714 00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:28,640 Speaker 1: They created hashtag and to involve and support the women's 715 00:39:28,680 --> 00:39:31,319 Speaker 1: those are that are producers and hosts. We created a 716 00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:33,880 Speaker 1: community share and encourage these hosts to talk about anything 717 00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:36,520 Speaker 1: they want, and so they talked about they continue to 718 00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:38,799 Speaker 1: let us know how to invite more women to talk 719 00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:41,319 Speaker 1: about the issues and to tell their stories. So I 720 00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:44,560 Speaker 1: thought that was super amazing. Um, and I loved what 721 00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:46,480 Speaker 1: they were saying about how they were trying to get 722 00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:49,920 Speaker 1: this done with the hashtag and creating more awareness for 723 00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:52,680 Speaker 1: women in podcasting of the course in Brazil, I'm like, 724 00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:54,959 Speaker 1: can I come hang out with you? Um. We also 725 00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:58,160 Speaker 1: had our listener Casey Face. Yeah, I said I liked 726 00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:01,800 Speaker 1: her handle, which is at spot pants s P O 727 00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:04,680 Speaker 1: C K P A n T. S Um asked us 728 00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:08,920 Speaker 1: about our hog worts houses. That was a question question, 729 00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:13,440 Speaker 1: a very important question. And I am even called that 730 00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:17,439 Speaker 1: as supposed to the US is are they Yes, it's 731 00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:22,000 Speaker 1: Raven called by a lot Hufflepuff, Griffin Door, Slytherin. Yeah, 732 00:40:22,040 --> 00:40:26,080 Speaker 1: and you are supposedly I am definitely Griffin Door because 733 00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:29,719 Speaker 1: I'm saying you and I had this conversation. There are 734 00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:37,759 Speaker 1: some guys a confidential conversation, but Casey Face is actually Hufflepuff, 735 00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:40,160 Speaker 1: So now we just need our Slytherin. So I just 736 00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:41,759 Speaker 1: wanted to throw that there because I thought that was fun. 737 00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:44,160 Speaker 1: We love talking about Harry Potter on here so as well, 738 00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:47,920 Speaker 1: right all the time. Yeah, I have a friend who 739 00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:52,920 Speaker 1: so the patronis test Um, I got swift on my 740 00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:54,640 Speaker 1: first time and I liked it, so I never took 741 00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:56,319 Speaker 1: it again. And plus to take it again, you have 742 00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:58,680 Speaker 1: to like register a new email address. But all my 743 00:40:58,719 --> 00:41:00,480 Speaker 1: other friends didn't like the one that at the first time, 744 00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:03,160 Speaker 1: so they registered a second email address and took it again, 745 00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:08,120 Speaker 1: and they all got like Swan and horse and wolf, 746 00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:12,120 Speaker 1: except for one. She got mole and she tried to 747 00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:14,720 Speaker 1: hide it from us that I'm telling everybody on this podcast. 748 00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:16,520 Speaker 1: I won't say your name, but I'm telling your story. 749 00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:20,120 Speaker 1: And she tried to hide it from us. But then 750 00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:22,359 Speaker 1: like she took a picture of it and we were 751 00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:26,920 Speaker 1: looking at we were taking pictures with her phone. Oh no, 752 00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:33,920 Speaker 1: they can be cute. Wait, producer, Andrew, are you in 753 00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:42,400 Speaker 1: the house of something another Griffin door whatever. Hey, they 754 00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:45,839 Speaker 1: all have their own qualities. It's a very political way. 755 00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,760 Speaker 1: You just say it. And if you want to write 756 00:41:48,760 --> 00:41:53,160 Speaker 1: in about your Hogwarts house, super happy to hear it, obviously. 757 00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:56,560 Speaker 1: Um you can write to us our email addresses Steph 758 00:41:56,640 --> 00:41:59,080 Speaker 1: Media mom Stuff at iHeart media dot com. You can 759 00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,120 Speaker 1: find us on Twitter, mom Stuff podcast, or on Instagram 760 00:42:02,160 --> 00:42:04,799 Speaker 1: at Stuff I've Never Told You. Thanks as always to 761 00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:08,200 Speaker 1: our super producer Andrew Howard. Thanks Andrew, and thanks to 762 00:42:08,239 --> 00:42:10,440 Speaker 1: you for listening stuff I've never told your protection of 763 00:42:10,480 --> 00:42:12,840 Speaker 1: iHeart Radios how stuff works. For more podcasts from My 764 00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:15,400 Speaker 1: Heart Radio, visit the iHeart Radio app, Apple podcast A, 765 00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:16,920 Speaker 1: wherever you listen to your favorite shows.