1 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:16,680 Speaker 1: Hey, hey, Hey, we're back. We're black, We're book Brown Ambition. Hey, 2 00:00:16,720 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 1: the dream Girls Ambition, Ambition, Ambition. Hey hey, Manada, how 3 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:22,000 Speaker 1: are you? Hey? 4 00:00:22,800 --> 00:00:26,240 Speaker 2: Good to see your pretty face on this your Tuesday morning. 5 00:00:26,239 --> 00:00:29,640 Speaker 2: It's it's different doing Brown Ambition at ten am versus 6 00:00:29,920 --> 00:00:32,960 Speaker 2: usually recorded in the afternoon. You know. So we shook 7 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:34,280 Speaker 2: it up this week, and I'm like, you. 8 00:00:34,240 --> 00:00:36,320 Speaker 1: Don't get this morning energy, which is not. First of all, 9 00:00:36,360 --> 00:00:37,680 Speaker 1: I love the way the tips of your hair match 10 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: your shirt. That looks really cute. 11 00:00:39,479 --> 00:00:41,519 Speaker 2: Thank you. I'm trying to hide the fact that I 12 00:00:41,560 --> 00:00:43,640 Speaker 2: haven't done touch ups on these highlights and over a 13 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:44,440 Speaker 2: year because I'm. 14 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:48,320 Speaker 1: Too cheap, lazy. Look, it's giving what the girls are 15 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:49,159 Speaker 1: doing now. I love the. 16 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:52,440 Speaker 2: Color, you know, a little ombray, a little fall hughes. 17 00:00:52,960 --> 00:00:53,240 Speaker 1: Yes. 18 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:57,960 Speaker 2: So both of us have been traveling a bit, starting 19 00:00:58,000 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 2: to get back in these streets doing stuff. I went 20 00:00:59,840 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 2: to for the Congressional Black Caucus for the I had 21 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:04,640 Speaker 2: never been before. 22 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:06,920 Speaker 1: Yeah me either. It was dope. 23 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:09,120 Speaker 2: It was like a real quick in and out, but 24 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:11,320 Speaker 2: it was magical. I mean, I got to moderate this 25 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 2: panel for this organization called the Black Women's Health Imperative. 26 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:18,440 Speaker 2: They're like the oldest nonprofit in the country that focuses 27 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 2: only on exclusively on Black women's health. And I thought 28 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:25,120 Speaker 2: it was such a cool opportunity because they're actually creating 29 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:28,200 Speaker 2: this whole framework called the Fair Work Initiative, which is 30 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:30,560 Speaker 2: basically like, if you work for a company and you 31 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 2: feel like they are just doing the least when it 32 00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:36,039 Speaker 2: comes to actually creating like a least a less hostile 33 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:39,200 Speaker 2: environment for Black women to work, and you want to 34 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:41,040 Speaker 2: just like give them a nudge in the right direction, 35 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 2: you can send them to the Fair Work Initiative website 36 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 2: and it's a database that like they basically partner with 37 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 2: organizations to analyze the way that they operate, what resources 38 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:56,720 Speaker 2: they have, the happiness, the engagement in Black women, and 39 00:01:56,760 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 2: can then give them tools and resources to actually fix things. 40 00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:04,680 Speaker 2: So yeah, So this panel, it had Angela Rye had 41 00:02:04,680 --> 00:02:10,240 Speaker 2: the United Way, and had Charlene Wheels, who's this executive 42 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:14,360 Speaker 2: leadership coach. I had Adua Asamoa Asamosa. She is one 43 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 2: of the co founders of the Crown Act. She was 44 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:19,000 Speaker 2: on the panel. It was cool and I had never 45 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:24,560 Speaker 2: moderated a panel before. I got great feedback. It was fun, 46 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:28,920 Speaker 2: but I you know, like you compartmentalize things. And in 47 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 2: order to like even get myself to a place where 48 00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:33,040 Speaker 2: I could show up in DC, I had that big 49 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 2: negotiating masterclass that I was doing and I just had 50 00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:38,400 Speaker 2: to focus all my energy on that, so I didn't 51 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 2: have time to stress about the the CBC. But yeah, 52 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 2: when I got there, I just went with it. The 53 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:48,080 Speaker 2: crowd was great, it was really powerful, and it's the 54 00:02:48,120 --> 00:02:52,040 Speaker 2: CBC like I never thought I would ed. I mean, 55 00:02:52,080 --> 00:02:55,360 Speaker 2: it was just like Melanin on a hundred, just beautiful. 56 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 2: And I only got one day at the conference. I said, 57 00:02:58,720 --> 00:03:00,120 Speaker 2: tod the panel, and then I got a chance to 58 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 2: walk around, okay, And I went to this huge expo 59 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:04,800 Speaker 2: hall and of course they had like double Dutchers and 60 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:09,440 Speaker 2: a fashion show, these incredible artists like and all these businesses. 61 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:12,760 Speaker 2: Meta had a huge like NASA was there, Twitter was there. 62 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:15,800 Speaker 2: I'm like, these businesses want to buy black, Okay, yes, 63 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:19,360 Speaker 2: and it was beautiful to see. But I gravitated towards 64 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 2: the middle where they had these black women authors and 65 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:25,080 Speaker 2: a lot of them were doing children's books. So I 66 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 2: got rio a bunch of cute little children's books and 67 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 2: I took the train back to New York and it 68 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:33,560 Speaker 2: was it was a fun little trip. 69 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 1: Now I love that. That sounds a'mazic. So I what 70 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 1: was I So the last couple of days I've been 71 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 1: to I had to speak in Detroit, you know, and 72 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:47,080 Speaker 1: so that was how'd that go? It went really well. Honestly, 73 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:48,560 Speaker 1: my favorite part was I got to meet up with 74 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:50,760 Speaker 1: some of my mentees. Y'all know, I have my mentortivity 75 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 1: dot com, and so about twenty of the mentees live 76 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: in Detroit. So we all had dinner and it was 77 00:03:56,160 --> 00:03:58,800 Speaker 1: such a good time. Oh my gosh, we had such 78 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 1: a good time. It was just nice. I just I 79 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:03,560 Speaker 1: don't know, maybe it's growing up with sisters. I just 80 00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:06,720 Speaker 1: love hanging out with like women, you know. And so 81 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:09,119 Speaker 1: we had like such a good time. Then I came 82 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:12,880 Speaker 1: back and then it was super Girl's birthday, her sweet sixteen. 83 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:18,159 Speaker 2: And you know you're screening what what was the what. 84 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 1: She was talking? Yes and so but yeah, so if 85 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:27,400 Speaker 1: you honestly, I mean, it's up on my ig you 86 00:04:27,520 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 1: see like her her some of her sweet sixteen pictures 87 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:32,600 Speaker 1: that Tanetta's taken. So if you see like our brown 88 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 1: Ambition pictures, my a lot of my headshots, some of them. 89 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:40,839 Speaker 1: Did you ever get headshots with Tanetda? Yeah? Okay, so 90 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 1: so like a lot of our headshots. Tanetta Bell amazing 91 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: black woman who who's a photographer, and she just so 92 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:51,320 Speaker 1: she did Alyssa's like sixteen photo shoot and it's just 93 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:53,640 Speaker 1: the pictures are just beautiful and Melyssa is so beautiful. 94 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:55,479 Speaker 1: I'm like, when did you become this beautiful young woman? 95 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:55,919 Speaker 2: Girl? 96 00:04:56,480 --> 00:05:03,040 Speaker 1: She's got red hair. It's giving black arial, I know. 97 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 1: And then the next day I had to fly out 98 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:09,200 Speaker 1: to California because my friend eyvon Orgin she was celebrating 99 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:13,360 Speaker 1: this thing called Night of Nigerian Excellence, and it was 100 00:05:13,400 --> 00:05:15,599 Speaker 1: also on Nigerian Independence Day. You know, they got their 101 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 1: independence from the British. So that was really nice. It 102 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:19,880 Speaker 1: was nice to be in a room with like some 103 00:05:19,960 --> 00:05:22,680 Speaker 1: amazing people like the former CMO of Amazon. I didn't 104 00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 1: know she was Nigerian. 105 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 2: You know, Nigeria is synonymous with excellence, right, I mean, yeah, 106 00:05:30,480 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 2: get to live in you don't get to be Nigerian 107 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:32,960 Speaker 2: America and not be. 108 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:35,520 Speaker 1: You got it. You got to raise the bar. But 109 00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:37,480 Speaker 1: I will say I didn't realize some of the things 110 00:05:37,520 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 1: I learned is that like I didn't Nigeria. There are 111 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: so many Nigerians. You know, one of four black people 112 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 1: is Nigerian. Because the population in Nigeria it's so huge. 113 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:49,360 Speaker 1: There's I want to say, it's two hundred million. That's 114 00:05:49,400 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 1: the population of Nigeria. And they haven't done that. They 115 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 1: haven't done a census since the nineties. Two hundred million people. 116 00:05:56,839 --> 00:05:58,000 Speaker 1: And so what someone was like, do you know my 117 00:05:58,040 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 1: friend who's nights. I'm like, girl, that's two hundred million US. 118 00:06:00,520 --> 00:06:04,320 Speaker 1: I don't know. So that was excellent and I literally 119 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:07,480 Speaker 1: got back yesterday and then tomorrow I fly to New 120 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:11,279 Speaker 1: Orleans because my team and I so every year, well 121 00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:14,680 Speaker 1: before COVID, we would go on like a vacation. We 122 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:16,599 Speaker 1: take the team. So the way we do it, this 123 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:18,480 Speaker 1: is just great for folks who have businesses, is that 124 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:21,440 Speaker 1: one year of my business partnership, Brill's like always you 125 00:06:21,480 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 1: take the team on a trip. We had to figure 126 00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:24,680 Speaker 1: out how we fund it. And so the way we 127 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:26,640 Speaker 1: funded is that, you know, every month, we make our 128 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 1: gross you know, revenue, you know, and then we subtract 129 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: all of our operating expenses and all the things we 130 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 1: have to pay before, but before we take out the taxes, 131 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 1: we set aside, I want to say anywhere from three 132 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 1: to five percent. I can't remember the number, but it's 133 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 1: like three to five percent. I think I want to 134 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: say like three percent. We put it in our travel bucket, 135 00:06:45,839 --> 00:06:47,680 Speaker 1: and so every month we would kind of give an 136 00:06:47,720 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: update so they'd be like woo who. So we would 137 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:52,039 Speaker 1: update them on here's what we made, here's what we 138 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: spent to make it, Here's how much is in your 139 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:55,839 Speaker 1: travel bucket, and then here's how much. We also have 140 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: a bonus bucket where it's like, okay, at the end 141 00:06:58,400 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 1: of the year, this is where we're going to draw bonuses, 142 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:02,599 Speaker 1: so they could get real clear like the bonus bucket. 143 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:04,599 Speaker 1: And typically what we try to do is we try 144 00:07:04,640 --> 00:07:07,960 Speaker 1: to say March of last year, the bonus bucket was this. 145 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 1: This year, it's this. That way, if you're thinking you're 146 00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:11,480 Speaker 1: going to get the same bonus less or more, you 147 00:07:11,480 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 1: can kind of set your expectation otherwise. So anyway, you know, 148 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:17,520 Speaker 1: because then because I remember one year the bonuses weren't 149 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: as big, and they're like what happened? And I realized 150 00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: that's my fault because one's the last time I gave 151 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:23,120 Speaker 1: the bonus bucket update, and when's the last time I 152 00:07:23,120 --> 00:07:25,560 Speaker 1: did the comparison, you know, one year we had such 153 00:07:25,560 --> 00:07:28,600 Speaker 1: an amazing year. The lowest bonus was ten thousand dollars 154 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 1: and that was yes, that was people. That was someone 155 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:34,000 Speaker 1: who was making you know, maybe twenty thousand at this company. 156 00:07:34,160 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 1: So like that was how because the way the bonus 157 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 1: bucket works is that we set aside the percentage and 158 00:07:38,200 --> 00:07:42,080 Speaker 1: then whatever percentage you earn from payroll from the payroll pots, 159 00:07:42,320 --> 00:07:44,640 Speaker 1: that's the percentage you earned from the from the bonus bucket. 160 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:47,520 Speaker 1: So if your pay if your pay is ten percent 161 00:07:47,520 --> 00:07:49,400 Speaker 1: of our payroll, then you get ten percent of the 162 00:07:49,400 --> 00:07:52,000 Speaker 1: bonus bucket. So that's how we even that out, you know, 163 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:54,200 Speaker 1: so made it really like easy, and then it's so 164 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 1: super transparent so you're able to share all the numbers 165 00:07:57,960 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 1: without sharing personal numbers. So not like Tiffany, you're gonna 166 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 1: get you know, so you can got to do your 167 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: own math and be like, oh, okay, I should get 168 00:08:04,480 --> 00:08:07,480 Speaker 1: around this month. So it worked really well. But the 169 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 1: transparency part is is key. 170 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:11,360 Speaker 2: Yeah. Setting expectations. 171 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:13,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, so that way people can know like, oh, last 172 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:16,000 Speaker 1: year we did make way more money. This year is 173 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 1: way less. And so so with the trip we have 174 00:08:19,840 --> 00:08:21,360 Speaker 1: not gone on a trip in so long. So we 175 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:25,000 Speaker 1: had almost eighty thousand dollars saved up, because typically I 176 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 1: want to say we have like thirty to forty thousand, 177 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:28,440 Speaker 1: but you know, we haven't gone anywhere, and we were 178 00:08:28,440 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 1: still contributing to the trip bucket, and so I was like, 179 00:08:32,120 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 1: let's go crazy. I told them, you know, save something 180 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:37,560 Speaker 1: for next year, but let's use sixty thousand, like upwards 181 00:08:37,600 --> 00:08:39,880 Speaker 1: of sixty thousand. And so we're doing all the things 182 00:08:39,880 --> 00:08:42,560 Speaker 1: in Nola. We always do a spot, then we always 183 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 1: do some sort of like fun activity. So we're going 184 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:48,000 Speaker 1: to do like a swamp tour, and we always do 185 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: I know. And so it's really the first one that 186 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 1: you get a choice. You get like the slow boat 187 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:55,720 Speaker 1: or like the speedboat. The girls is already like, girl, 188 00:08:55,760 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 1: my wig, I want the slow boat. So I'm honestly, 189 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:03,760 Speaker 1: I'm really even though I'm tired, I'm super excited because 190 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:06,800 Speaker 1: it's it's like a family reunion of all these beautiful 191 00:09:06,800 --> 00:09:08,560 Speaker 1: black and brown women that you don't get to see 192 00:09:08,559 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 1: normally because everyone works digitally. And so you walk in 193 00:09:11,360 --> 00:09:13,120 Speaker 1: and you're like, oh, hey, Tmika. You're like, wait, I 194 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 1: never see Tamika and so you're like, oh my god, 195 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: So the first time you see someone, you're like, you're 196 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:20,880 Speaker 1: shorter than I thought, Oh you're tarlet that. I thought, yes, 197 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:23,120 Speaker 1: but it's it's going to be such an honestly, it's 198 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:26,559 Speaker 1: such a such an awesome time, and so yeah, I'm 199 00:09:26,559 --> 00:09:29,360 Speaker 1: just looking forward to that. But then I think next 200 00:09:29,360 --> 00:09:30,880 Speaker 1: week after that, I have to go to Dallas for 201 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:33,960 Speaker 1: speaking engagement and then Dubai with my sister for like 202 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:37,000 Speaker 1: Dallas to Dubai child. When I tell you, I was like, 203 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: who set this calendar? But honestly, November December, who check 204 00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 1: it for me? No one, I'm not doing it if 205 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 1: it's not on my calendar, which is next to now. 206 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:47,960 Speaker 1: Only thing on my calendar is Brown Ambition. If it's 207 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:50,680 Speaker 1: not on my calendar, it's not happening. November December. I 208 00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:54,120 Speaker 1: have shut down the calendar. Only what I love is 209 00:09:54,120 --> 00:09:57,800 Speaker 1: in my normal, non busy life. The only consistent thing 210 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:00,240 Speaker 1: that I have week after week is Brown Ambition. There's 211 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:02,720 Speaker 1: nothing on my calendar, there's no standing. I have Brandna 212 00:10:02,760 --> 00:10:05,720 Speaker 1: Bischen on Mondays and that's when we tape typically, but 213 00:10:05,760 --> 00:10:07,480 Speaker 1: and I like that, like I don't want to start 214 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:09,400 Speaker 1: to fill up my calendar. I mean, I'm grateful for 215 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:12,280 Speaker 1: the fun things I get to do, but like you know, 216 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:14,400 Speaker 1: I like the peace of like not doing too much. 217 00:10:15,280 --> 00:10:17,679 Speaker 2: Yeah, and not have not being like a slave to 218 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:20,840 Speaker 2: your to your calendar in that way. Yeah, something that 219 00:10:20,840 --> 00:10:22,720 Speaker 2: you said resonated with me. First of all, I also 220 00:10:22,760 --> 00:10:24,559 Speaker 2: got to meet up with some Mandi money makers in 221 00:10:24,600 --> 00:10:26,680 Speaker 2: the DMV and we had a little dinner and it 222 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:28,400 Speaker 2: was so it was beautiful. And you know when I 223 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:31,440 Speaker 2: realized I actually I realized it during FINCN because I 224 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:33,320 Speaker 2: went to a speaking like one of the sessions and 225 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:35,720 Speaker 2: it was led by a white guy, and as he 226 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:38,839 Speaker 2: was talking, I was like, this is different. I haven't 227 00:10:38,880 --> 00:10:41,360 Speaker 2: had to listen to a white man, and like two years, 228 00:10:43,480 --> 00:10:46,000 Speaker 2: I've literally had a moment where I was like, oh. 229 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 1: They still make the same jokes, they. 230 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:55,000 Speaker 2: Still say you dig no. But in all seriousness, I 231 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 2: just man like, and I know you had talked about 232 00:10:57,400 --> 00:10:59,959 Speaker 2: it before, you know, because obviously, budget needs to aid 233 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:03,520 Speaker 2: has always been but for black women, by black women, 234 00:11:03,559 --> 00:11:06,800 Speaker 2: all all of it. But in my business, because I 235 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 2: focus on helping women of color, and because I have 236 00:11:09,600 --> 00:11:12,800 Speaker 2: surrounded myself by other women of color entrepreneurs, and because 237 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:15,600 Speaker 2: I'm being so true to this audience, and I'm getting 238 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:18,400 Speaker 2: invited to places like the CBC. But even at the CBC, 239 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:20,760 Speaker 2: it's like, come to this moderate, this panel about black 240 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:23,920 Speaker 2: women in the workplace and how it affects our health, 241 00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:26,640 Speaker 2: and I just get the privilege. It is such a 242 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:30,640 Speaker 2: it's so like, it's so healing. I feel like for 243 00:11:30,720 --> 00:11:33,800 Speaker 2: all those years in corporate when I was like the 244 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 2: only one or one a few, and I know so 245 00:11:35,480 --> 00:11:37,839 Speaker 2: many of us out there feel the same way, and 246 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:41,000 Speaker 2: the power of like finding these spaces and getting to 247 00:11:41,040 --> 00:11:43,680 Speaker 2: be in them so much that I'm like, oh, neat, 248 00:11:43,920 --> 00:11:46,160 Speaker 2: let's see what Let's see what the cis white guys 249 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:48,720 Speaker 2: are up to these days from them real quick. But 250 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:51,840 Speaker 2: then I get to go back and yeah, it's just yeah, 251 00:11:51,920 --> 00:11:55,840 Speaker 2: it's just beautiful and it's a privilege and it really 252 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:58,280 Speaker 2: is healing. So I feel like if you're someone out 253 00:11:58,280 --> 00:12:02,680 Speaker 2: there who's craving that, find us, you know, even finding 254 00:12:02,720 --> 00:12:06,280 Speaker 2: my mentor Tiffany, finding the Mandy money Makers, just finding 255 00:12:06,679 --> 00:12:09,640 Speaker 2: sisterhood wherever you can, Like, it's so healing. We need 256 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 2: each other. 257 00:12:10,679 --> 00:12:13,400 Speaker 1: Right child, we do. It's funny. I was talking to 258 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:15,840 Speaker 1: one on like my like my in person Mente's yesterday, 259 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: and she it kind of came up where, I don't 260 00:12:18,160 --> 00:12:19,480 Speaker 1: know if it's a question. She asked her how I 261 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:22,600 Speaker 1: came up. She said, when you're looking for a mentor, 262 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:26,439 Speaker 1: Tiffany for yourself, are you looking for someone who's making 263 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:28,679 Speaker 1: more money than you or someone who's been in business 264 00:12:28,760 --> 00:12:29,959 Speaker 1: longer than you? Like she was kind of trying to 265 00:12:29,960 --> 00:12:32,480 Speaker 1: figure out because as she gathers more mentors. And I said, 266 00:12:32,559 --> 00:12:36,520 Speaker 1: if I had to choose one, hands down, I like, 267 00:12:36,559 --> 00:12:38,040 Speaker 1: if I you know, it's like you only get one, 268 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:40,800 Speaker 1: there's one thing from this mentor, hands down. I much 269 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:43,640 Speaker 1: rather choose a mentor who's been in business longer than me. 270 00:12:44,559 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 1: I don't care if I'm making a hundred million dollars 271 00:12:46,440 --> 00:12:49,559 Speaker 1: a year, you know, and this mentor makes two million 272 00:12:49,559 --> 00:12:51,760 Speaker 1: dollars a year, but they've been in business sixty years. 273 00:12:52,240 --> 00:12:56,360 Speaker 1: I would choose that. And she was like, really, I said, girl, 274 00:12:56,400 --> 00:12:58,760 Speaker 1: anyone can hit a lick. That's what the kids say. 275 00:12:58,800 --> 00:13:02,560 Speaker 1: I'm cool now, meaning like anyone could get lucky and like, 276 00:13:03,240 --> 00:13:05,000 Speaker 1: you know, like get a bag, you know, like oh 277 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 1: my gosh, you know, at the right moment, at the 278 00:13:07,320 --> 00:13:10,120 Speaker 1: right time. So I know, I have friends who've made 279 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:12,840 Speaker 1: millions of dollars during the pandemic because it was just 280 00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:15,560 Speaker 1: the right moment in time. See them in five years, 281 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:17,720 Speaker 1: I don't know, you know, I pray that they continue 282 00:13:17,760 --> 00:13:21,320 Speaker 1: to do be successful. But there's so much nuance. Like 283 00:13:21,520 --> 00:13:24,240 Speaker 1: I always mentioned my friend Cabral because he's one of 284 00:13:24,280 --> 00:13:31,319 Speaker 1: my gutu, but really Cabrell, the real genius is Mama Denise. Okay, 285 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:33,839 Speaker 1: like elegant Eyes has been in business I think over 286 00:13:34,000 --> 00:13:38,920 Speaker 1: sixty years. His grandparents started it, then his mother took over, 287 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:41,520 Speaker 1: and then he and his sister. They have been through 288 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:46,120 Speaker 1: the Newark riots, they have lived through multiple recessions, they 289 00:13:46,200 --> 00:13:49,360 Speaker 1: have lived through the pandemic. This is a brick and 290 00:13:49,520 --> 00:13:54,040 Speaker 1: mortar with physical products, glasses, and it's black city, serving 291 00:13:54,040 --> 00:13:58,280 Speaker 1: black people, having real in person employees, you know, Like 292 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:00,360 Speaker 1: I don't know that there's a harder business to being. 293 00:14:00,679 --> 00:14:04,080 Speaker 1: So there is nothing that Miss Denise has not seen, conquered, 294 00:14:04,160 --> 00:14:06,439 Speaker 1: lived through and is still here to tell and profitable 295 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:08,840 Speaker 1: still So even though I mean I don't know, obviously 296 00:14:08,840 --> 00:14:10,520 Speaker 1: I can't count the paper. I don't know you know 297 00:14:10,559 --> 00:14:12,000 Speaker 1: how much they make. But let's just say I'm making 298 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:14,880 Speaker 1: way more, you know, because I'm Internet, and my overhead 299 00:14:14,920 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 1: is lower there I cannot compare myself to Miss Denise 300 00:14:18,320 --> 00:14:20,000 Speaker 1: in her knowledge. There's literally times I'm like, Cabro, could 301 00:14:20,000 --> 00:14:24,240 Speaker 1: you ask your mother what else to do about? You know? 302 00:14:24,400 --> 00:14:26,800 Speaker 1: And so I mean, certainly there's things to learn from 303 00:14:26,800 --> 00:14:30,520 Speaker 1: someone who's making a ton of money, obviously, but to me, like, 304 00:14:30,720 --> 00:14:33,600 Speaker 1: I'm wanting to be here for a long time, and 305 00:14:34,760 --> 00:14:36,960 Speaker 1: there are just some people who, you know, like I 306 00:14:37,040 --> 00:14:39,240 Speaker 1: just can't imagine. Literally there are scenarios that I will 307 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:40,440 Speaker 1: share at Cabrill. He be like, oh, you know what, 308 00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 1: I remember my mom dealt with that in two thousand 309 00:14:42,440 --> 00:14:44,880 Speaker 1: and one. Let me ask, And I'm like, there's no 310 00:14:44,960 --> 00:14:47,680 Speaker 1: scenario that I bring up. And when I tell you, 311 00:14:48,520 --> 00:14:50,960 Speaker 1: I am just so grateful for I'm like I told him, like, yo, 312 00:14:51,040 --> 00:14:52,680 Speaker 1: as much as I pays, I'm my business coach. You 313 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:57,320 Speaker 1: my business coach, because there literally there are some scenarios 314 00:14:57,360 --> 00:14:59,320 Speaker 1: that seem so wild and crazy. They're like, there's no 315 00:14:59,320 --> 00:15:01,440 Speaker 1: one who could guide me through this. Something will say 316 00:15:01,640 --> 00:15:03,320 Speaker 1: why not call Cobroad to see if he's lived through it, 317 00:15:03,320 --> 00:15:05,600 Speaker 1: and he's like, oh yeah, yeah yeah, and the advice 318 00:15:05,760 --> 00:15:07,560 Speaker 1: he hasn't missed yet and it's been years. We've been 319 00:15:07,600 --> 00:15:09,680 Speaker 1: friends for like eight years now. The advice that he's 320 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:12,520 Speaker 1: given me has been invaluable about how to navigate business. 321 00:15:12,600 --> 00:15:14,360 Speaker 1: So I just say all that the same. You know, 322 00:15:14,440 --> 00:15:19,240 Speaker 1: when looking for business mentorship, not even just business mentorship, 323 00:15:19,280 --> 00:15:23,560 Speaker 1: I think mentorship in general to not your turn your 324 00:15:23,600 --> 00:15:26,520 Speaker 1: back again someone who might not be making as much 325 00:15:26,640 --> 00:15:30,120 Speaker 1: as you aspire to, but has lots of experience, because 326 00:15:30,120 --> 00:15:31,560 Speaker 1: there's so much value in that. You know. 327 00:15:31,920 --> 00:15:35,480 Speaker 2: It's also the trap of thinking that people's followers equate 328 00:15:35,560 --> 00:15:40,200 Speaker 2: to business success. Speak on end listen. I have been 329 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:42,200 Speaker 2: in the rooms where I have been overlooked and I 330 00:15:42,680 --> 00:15:45,760 Speaker 2: know exactly why, and it's because, oh it's you know, 331 00:15:45,880 --> 00:15:47,840 Speaker 2: they do like the little quick cell phone. Who she 332 00:15:48,400 --> 00:15:49,280 Speaker 2: oh not that many? 333 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:49,680 Speaker 1: Okay? 334 00:15:50,000 --> 00:15:52,640 Speaker 2: And then I feel dismissed, but I know better, like 335 00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:57,360 Speaker 2: there's there are in this space. Especially since TikTok has 336 00:15:57,360 --> 00:15:59,920 Speaker 2: become so huge, I feel like people will start to 337 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:02,720 Speaker 2: quate your value with the number of followers you have. 338 00:16:03,280 --> 00:16:05,720 Speaker 2: But as the business coach I've been working with outside 339 00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:08,240 Speaker 2: of Tiffany, because you know, Tiffany has other things to 340 00:16:08,240 --> 00:16:12,160 Speaker 2: do besides just listening all day, her constantly reminding me 341 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:15,320 Speaker 2: like we don't know their business model and and a 342 00:16:15,320 --> 00:16:17,760 Speaker 2: lot of people have even asked me like, how did 343 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:20,280 Speaker 2: how did your you know, Master Classico, how's your webinar going? 344 00:16:20,280 --> 00:16:22,360 Speaker 2: Because I had this huge following, I don't know how 345 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 2: to leverage it and how to make a business out 346 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:27,160 Speaker 2: of it. So yeah, I love that you said that. 347 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:29,480 Speaker 2: It's about that substance, right, Yeah, so you got miss 348 00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:31,760 Speaker 2: you got Miss Denise on on speed dial or. 349 00:16:31,720 --> 00:16:36,120 Speaker 1: You I've been walking into elegantized like, hey, miss Denise. 350 00:16:35,680 --> 00:16:37,120 Speaker 2: She survived Willby Parker too. 351 00:16:37,520 --> 00:16:40,160 Speaker 1: I mean yes, literally, when you think about what this 352 00:16:40,200 --> 00:16:45,800 Speaker 1: woman has survived and thrived through, Like I've never gone 353 00:16:45,800 --> 00:16:48,360 Speaker 1: to eleganize in this empty that place. It's right in 354 00:16:48,360 --> 00:16:50,560 Speaker 1: the heart of downtown Newark. I mean, I don't think 355 00:16:50,600 --> 00:16:52,440 Speaker 1: people understand what happened in the sixties. You know, we 356 00:16:52,880 --> 00:16:55,680 Speaker 1: racial unrest was still here, but it was a very 357 00:16:55,920 --> 00:16:58,520 Speaker 1: volatile time and at one point Newark was kind of 358 00:16:58,560 --> 00:17:00,480 Speaker 1: like them this is where like you go if you 359 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:03,720 Speaker 1: were like upper middle class black And then they killed 360 00:17:03,800 --> 00:17:06,480 Speaker 1: I believe the police killed a young black boy and 361 00:17:06,520 --> 00:17:10,120 Speaker 1: the city wasn't you know, rightfully so angry and they 362 00:17:10,119 --> 00:17:12,679 Speaker 1: basically burned it down and you had to put in 363 00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:16,480 Speaker 1: your window, black owned business, you know, to hopefully survive, 364 00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:19,840 Speaker 1: and so do you know, and so imagine after the burndown, 365 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:21,840 Speaker 1: and what happened was a lot of because new Ork 366 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:23,639 Speaker 1: is also middle class, not just for black people, for 367 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:26,639 Speaker 1: white folks too. White flight happened and they fled the 368 00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:29,400 Speaker 1: city and then they took all these resources with them, 369 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:32,840 Speaker 1: and so Newark limped along. There was no funding, no money. 370 00:17:32,880 --> 00:17:36,680 Speaker 1: It was dangerous. And she was still here, you know, 371 00:17:36,800 --> 00:17:39,000 Speaker 1: or her parents at least. And you think yourself, and 372 00:17:39,040 --> 00:17:42,960 Speaker 1: the thing about this Denise, I'm like, I'm I'm understating 373 00:17:43,080 --> 00:17:45,720 Speaker 1: how amazing she is. It's not just elegantized. Miss Denise 374 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:48,159 Speaker 1: has owned I hops just because she's like, I just 375 00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:50,160 Speaker 1: wanted to try a little franchise and can you imagine 376 00:17:50,440 --> 00:17:54,040 Speaker 1: a black woman, you know. And then at one point 377 00:17:54,119 --> 00:17:56,000 Speaker 1: she owned another, she owned a couple of restaurants. She 378 00:17:56,000 --> 00:17:58,080 Speaker 1: owned She's not Jamaica and she owned a Jamaica restaurant. 379 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:00,199 Speaker 1: I was like, just wanted to try my hand. She's 380 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:03,400 Speaker 1: owned apartment buildings, just want to try on my hand. 381 00:18:03,480 --> 00:18:06,800 Speaker 1: I mean, can we mister? I'm telling you she is 382 00:18:06,840 --> 00:18:10,600 Speaker 1: like business idol, you know, because she has taken her 383 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:14,040 Speaker 1: knowledge and has applied it to all these different types 384 00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:17,119 Speaker 1: of businesses and been successful in all of them. And 385 00:18:17,160 --> 00:18:21,000 Speaker 1: then it's still here and still doing so well, still profitable. 386 00:18:21,359 --> 00:18:24,200 Speaker 1: You know, she's a staple on the community. Like literally, 387 00:18:24,240 --> 00:18:26,760 Speaker 1: if you see someone in new glasses, nine times out 388 00:18:26,800 --> 00:18:28,520 Speaker 1: of ten, like elegant eyes are like girl, you already 389 00:18:28,560 --> 00:18:32,119 Speaker 1: now you know? And so I just you know, I 390 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:34,359 Speaker 1: think that, like Scott's the reason why I mentioned it. 391 00:18:34,560 --> 00:18:36,760 Speaker 1: I saw a post where a woman who was a 392 00:18:36,760 --> 00:18:39,119 Speaker 1: business coach who's been business for thirty years before she 393 00:18:39,119 --> 00:18:42,000 Speaker 1: even started coaching, said that she felt really frustrated because 394 00:18:42,119 --> 00:18:44,320 Speaker 1: the coaches that were doing really well are the ones, 395 00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:47,080 Speaker 1: you know, who were flashing their Lowis bag and their 396 00:18:47,160 --> 00:18:49,960 Speaker 1: Mercedes or whatever. But they had not they had not 397 00:18:50,040 --> 00:18:52,960 Speaker 1: had the experience in business before they started coaching. And 398 00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:55,719 Speaker 1: she's just just really frustrating in this field that like 399 00:18:55,760 --> 00:18:58,080 Speaker 1: people will literally be like, yeah, but you don't look fancy, 400 00:18:58,280 --> 00:19:00,320 Speaker 1: so I don't want to work with you. And so 401 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:01,760 Speaker 1: it just had me bring up. So hopefully those of 402 00:19:01,800 --> 00:19:05,199 Speaker 1: y'all listening will understand that, like, certainly it doesn't mean 403 00:19:05,240 --> 00:19:09,119 Speaker 1: your business coach can't both book fancy and have the experience, 404 00:19:09,359 --> 00:19:12,560 Speaker 1: but to choose based upon substance, you know, if you're 405 00:19:12,600 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 1: really wanting to like, you know, be coached. But yeah, 406 00:19:15,400 --> 00:19:17,040 Speaker 1: just like she's literally like my eye on. I'm just like, 407 00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:18,440 Speaker 1: that's because that's how I want to be. I don't. 408 00:19:18,720 --> 00:19:20,560 Speaker 1: I don't want to be like a singular entrepreneur. I 409 00:19:20,600 --> 00:19:21,560 Speaker 1: want to be like, oh, you know, I want to 410 00:19:21,560 --> 00:19:24,160 Speaker 1: try my hand in this thing. Maybe I'll get apartment buildings, 411 00:19:24,240 --> 00:19:26,680 Speaker 1: maybe I also open a restaurant, you know. And I'm like, 412 00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:28,680 Speaker 1: and to see a woman who did this when black 413 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:31,159 Speaker 1: women were not did not have the access that we 414 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:33,840 Speaker 1: have now as much as we struggle now as black women, 415 00:19:34,080 --> 00:19:37,399 Speaker 1: imagine back in the sixties and Miss Denise was like yeah, okay, 416 00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:40,359 Speaker 1: and the limitations are and she still did it. So 417 00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:42,600 Speaker 1: it's like, yeah, I told her, bro, that's our mother 418 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:48,720 Speaker 1: on the show. I know she'd probably be like video. 419 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:50,480 Speaker 1: She's a tough cookie. She don't let nobody talk to 420 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:52,520 Speaker 1: her any kind of way. These men be come out 421 00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:54,679 Speaker 1: of there, and she's because you can imagine that what 422 00:19:54,720 --> 00:19:57,240 Speaker 1: you what you think that she's like tough and like yeah, 423 00:19:57,240 --> 00:19:59,040 Speaker 1: and I don't care if that's a man. Okay, bring 424 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:02,320 Speaker 1: that same energy you know, like because you have to 425 00:20:02,359 --> 00:20:05,840 Speaker 1: be a badass, yes, but just the sweetest and most 426 00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:10,639 Speaker 1: beautiful woman. So yeah, So do you want to go? 427 00:20:10,800 --> 00:20:13,280 Speaker 1: You want to switch? Turn on over to Brown Boost 428 00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:15,440 Speaker 1: Brown Break? Is it that time? Oh? 429 00:20:15,480 --> 00:20:17,440 Speaker 2: I think we need to take a little breaky break first, 430 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:19,720 Speaker 2: let's take a little pause. We'll be right back y'all 431 00:20:19,760 --> 00:20:25,280 Speaker 2: with Brown Boost and Brown Break and we're bagging me 432 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:28,200 Speaker 2: at like a oh sorry off the side. You ever 433 00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:29,280 Speaker 2: heard of chicken bone beach? 434 00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:32,200 Speaker 1: Oh? Yes, yes, in New Jersey. I've been there. 435 00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:35,120 Speaker 2: You've been there. Yeah, Okay, maybe i'll boot. 436 00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:37,240 Speaker 1: Okay, because there's a you should you should come one year. 437 00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:39,520 Speaker 1: There's this well one of my friends does this thing 438 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:43,560 Speaker 1: called black Girl Beach Day and she does you. 439 00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:44,520 Speaker 2: Guys talk about it on Brown Boots. 440 00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:50,720 Speaker 1: I think I am, and we're back and black it's 441 00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:53,639 Speaker 1: time for I can't I said b a Q to do. 442 00:20:57,320 --> 00:21:04,719 Speaker 1: Now it's time to boost. Is you going booth? Are 443 00:21:04,760 --> 00:21:08,720 Speaker 1: you going break? What you're gonna do? Which one? Will 444 00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:10,240 Speaker 1: you take? Boost? A break? 445 00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:12,920 Speaker 2: Yeah? 446 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:15,120 Speaker 1: Let me riddle me this. Do you have something positive 447 00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:16,520 Speaker 1: or are you breaking or you're boosting? 448 00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:17,639 Speaker 2: I'm boosting? 449 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:19,480 Speaker 1: Okay, then let me go first because I have something 450 00:21:19,520 --> 00:21:21,520 Speaker 1: that's positive. So I'm like, we're gonna en positive, though 451 00:21:22,160 --> 00:21:27,040 Speaker 1: I am breaking from so after Drell passed away, you know, 452 00:21:27,080 --> 00:21:29,280 Speaker 1: people really leaning and they want to help you. But 453 00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:32,760 Speaker 1: now we are getting to the We're crossing boundaries segment 454 00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:36,200 Speaker 1: of the show. We're literally I was like, I'm not 455 00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:37,520 Speaker 1: gonna say no name, but they know because this is 456 00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:39,400 Speaker 1: when I told them, don't come in my house when 457 00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:43,439 Speaker 1: I'm not here, don't close no windows, don't like I 458 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:46,080 Speaker 1: have a we have family, have family members. Not my family, 459 00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:48,479 Speaker 1: I mean my family, but like not my like not 460 00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:51,080 Speaker 1: the least chase side. I'll just say that. Folks being like, oh, 461 00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:52,680 Speaker 1: I got the key from such and such and it 462 00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:53,400 Speaker 1: just I'm like. 463 00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:55,760 Speaker 2: Oh from such and such. 464 00:21:55,800 --> 00:22:03,360 Speaker 1: Whop I mean sorry, you don't know. Oh you could 465 00:22:03,359 --> 00:22:05,639 Speaker 1: go ahead and get no. No, no, no, no no. So I 466 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:07,280 Speaker 1: have two phone calls. I already made one of them 467 00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:11,040 Speaker 1: today to say if I'm not barring, the houses on 468 00:22:11,119 --> 00:22:13,520 Speaker 1: fire and you have to run in and like, you know, 469 00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:16,080 Speaker 1: put it out. If I'm not home, I don't care 470 00:22:16,119 --> 00:22:17,720 Speaker 1: what you need in the house. The only three people 471 00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:19,920 Speaker 1: that could come in here are my sister who's staying 472 00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:22,920 Speaker 1: with me currently, Alyssa and myself. That's why I have 473 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:24,919 Speaker 1: to tell Like I'm like, oh, because I know you 474 00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:26,480 Speaker 1: had left the light on. I got money for the 475 00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:29,840 Speaker 1: light bill. It'll be all right. I noticed. No no, no, no, 476 00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:33,560 Speaker 1: no, no no, and so just like you know, yeah, because 477 00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:36,080 Speaker 1: here's the thing is just because I said, picture me 478 00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:41,120 Speaker 1: coming to your house and just like looking around. One 479 00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:44,040 Speaker 1: time I had come up with vacation. My car keys 480 00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:47,720 Speaker 1: removed and like it was like oh yeah, and I 481 00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:49,800 Speaker 1: just was like, where's the things will be moving? And 482 00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:51,280 Speaker 1: I'm just like, oh no, no, no no. So I 483 00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:52,760 Speaker 1: have to have a nights come to you. And I 484 00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:55,200 Speaker 1: understand the intention is to like, you know, I want 485 00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:57,879 Speaker 1: to be protective. I want to and I said, you 486 00:22:57,920 --> 00:23:00,440 Speaker 1: and I at the same age, I'm going to you're 487 00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:02,800 Speaker 1: in a dumb and although I love you dearly, don't 488 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:04,920 Speaker 1: come in my house unless I can leave on me 489 00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:06,919 Speaker 1: because they have a key interest in there. Imagine going 490 00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:08,880 Speaker 1: to your house boom boom boom, boom boom. Is that 491 00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:12,480 Speaker 1: tiny just walking in? What y'all doing it here? That 492 00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:14,800 Speaker 1: would be crazy? And I said that would be crazy 493 00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:17,880 Speaker 1: and it's crazy now, so what if I know Nope, 494 00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:23,040 Speaker 1: I've given the key to three folks. My neighbor those 495 00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:25,399 Speaker 1: also a real good friend, and my two my other 496 00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:27,680 Speaker 1: two sisters. You know, those are only because you give 497 00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:29,439 Speaker 1: the key to people that you know wouldn't use it. 498 00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:31,520 Speaker 1: That's how it worked for you give keys because it's 499 00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:33,960 Speaker 1: just therefore like I got locked out or maybe like 500 00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:36,359 Speaker 1: ooh girl, I'm on VAK and I know a package 501 00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:38,160 Speaker 1: is coming and the people be out in these streets 502 00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:40,600 Speaker 1: steal in packages. Can you put it, you know, inside 503 00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:43,280 Speaker 1: the house or whatever. But yeah, that was just like 504 00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:45,480 Speaker 1: and I mean, I know people mean well, but I'm like, 505 00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:47,800 Speaker 1: when did I become an infant that you have to 506 00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:50,720 Speaker 1: like just come on in and make sure this and 507 00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:53,680 Speaker 1: moving things around, and like I didn't ask for all that, 508 00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:57,240 Speaker 1: although I appreciate like the sentiment don't do it, don't 509 00:23:57,240 --> 00:23:59,800 Speaker 1: do it, you know, like I just it was just 510 00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:02,080 Speaker 1: really frustrated because I happened twice for two different people 511 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:04,520 Speaker 1: this weekend that I was like, I said, I'm about 512 00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:07,240 Speaker 1: to hit up list and be like, List, don't let 513 00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:10,560 Speaker 1: these adults shake you down for the key, because I 514 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:11,720 Speaker 1: know probably listened probably like. 515 00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:15,520 Speaker 2: Do you know like a nester or a ring or 516 00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:16,760 Speaker 2: something like that, like an audi. 517 00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:19,399 Speaker 1: I do no, no, no, I have a ring with 518 00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:21,200 Speaker 1: the key. No, no, I have a ring. I have 519 00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:22,480 Speaker 1: a ring as far as I can see you and 520 00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:23,960 Speaker 1: speak to you. But I don't have the ring where 521 00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:27,000 Speaker 1: you can. Yeah, and I might get that, you know, Like, 522 00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:29,960 Speaker 1: here's the thing. There's no there's nobody here, like, there's 523 00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:33,000 Speaker 1: no need, there's honestly, there's really no reason why anyone. 524 00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:34,920 Speaker 1: It's just that people feel comfortable. I'm like, you weren't. 525 00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:36,199 Speaker 1: You weren't doing that when Jerell say, first of all, 526 00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:37,680 Speaker 1: Dree would to cust you out six ways from Sunday 527 00:24:37,680 --> 00:24:39,440 Speaker 1: because you know he was a cussler. You know, he 528 00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:41,600 Speaker 1: would cuss you out six ways from Sunday. Like you 529 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:44,520 Speaker 1: wouldn't do that. And the truth is a picture of 530 00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:46,399 Speaker 1: me getting a listen, hey, list give me such and 531 00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:48,040 Speaker 1: such key. I'm just gonna run up there real quick 532 00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:51,560 Speaker 1: and get your things. That would not bad, you know. 533 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:55,280 Speaker 2: And so like I just think, what's that word infantilization? 534 00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:58,760 Speaker 1: Yes, like I'm all into a child, and you're like, oh, 535 00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:01,240 Speaker 1: we got to look after Tiffany. No, And if I 536 00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:02,960 Speaker 1: need help, I certainly I'll ask for it. But you 537 00:25:02,960 --> 00:25:04,320 Speaker 1: don't just get to come in and out unless I 538 00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:07,000 Speaker 1: can come in and at your place, you know. And 539 00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:09,479 Speaker 1: I said, so that's my boundary, you know. And no, Sally, 540 00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:11,040 Speaker 1: I feel really proud of myself. And the reason why 541 00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:12,800 Speaker 1: I mentioned this is because if you would have caught 542 00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 1: me a year two years ago, I wouldn't have said anything. 543 00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:16,919 Speaker 1: I would have waited until they did it for the 544 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,520 Speaker 1: fifth time and then exploded because that was my way. 545 00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:23,960 Speaker 1: I didn't feel comfortable setting boundaries with people like Mandy 546 00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:26,080 Speaker 1: and I were just talking. I said, like it was 547 00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:28,680 Speaker 1: like yesterday and I was like, Mandy, I don't know 548 00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:30,000 Speaker 1: if I want to do I know we were supposed 549 00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:31,840 Speaker 1: to do like more YouTube lives And I said, Mandy, 550 00:25:31,880 --> 00:25:33,720 Speaker 1: I don't know if I want to do YouTube lives 551 00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:35,720 Speaker 1: in the evening. And then she was like, well, you 552 00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:38,240 Speaker 1: know you're you brought up the evening as best. I'm like, yeah, 553 00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:40,720 Speaker 1: I did, but I don't know that I want to 554 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:42,840 Speaker 1: do it. No, not even I don't know. I know 555 00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:46,240 Speaker 1: I don't because I'm overworked and overwhelmed and I want 556 00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:48,320 Speaker 1: to pull back some of my time. Because if I 557 00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:50,680 Speaker 1: don't set the boundary, how would Mandy know? I would 558 00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:53,119 Speaker 1: just be showing up like I don't want to do 559 00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:56,440 Speaker 1: evening time things. But it's up to It's not anyone 560 00:25:56,480 --> 00:26:01,280 Speaker 1: else's responsibility to read my mind. You set the boundary, 561 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:03,800 Speaker 1: and certainly sometimes people need to be reminded, and so 562 00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:05,880 Speaker 1: like I'm like if I don't say so, I'm proud 563 00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:09,520 Speaker 1: of myself because Tiffany now is like it happened yesterday, 564 00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:12,600 Speaker 1: I'm saying it today, like I'm setting the boundary. It's 565 00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:15,400 Speaker 1: definitely with kindness, you know, certainly, you know, you escalated, 566 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:17,120 Speaker 1: people don't listen, But honestly that's not gonna be the issue. 567 00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:18,960 Speaker 1: That's not you know, I'm not worried about that. It 568 00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:21,119 Speaker 1: was just more so that like the fact is that 569 00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:23,159 Speaker 1: the thing can happen, I can speak on it and 570 00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:24,959 Speaker 1: then we can move on. But yeah, it was just 571 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:28,760 Speaker 1: like I certainly was like, what the hell is going on? Like, 572 00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:30,760 Speaker 1: y'all can just be walking? Can I walk up your house? 573 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:34,800 Speaker 2: I think if you love someone, you accept their boundaries. Right, Yes, 574 00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:37,600 Speaker 2: you say no, can't do it. I'm like, okay, trust you, 575 00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:40,080 Speaker 2: respect you've done. It's a different deal. 576 00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:43,160 Speaker 1: Yes, thankfully. One thing that drove it that was really 577 00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:45,760 Speaker 1: great because he was always so so particular about our safety, 578 00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:49,520 Speaker 1: is that we have these special cut keys that cannot 579 00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:52,000 Speaker 1: be reproduced at like a home depot or even the 580 00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:53,440 Speaker 1: hood spot, Like if you try to take it theod spot, 581 00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:55,080 Speaker 1: ask me, because I know I was like, can you 582 00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:57,000 Speaker 1: I was trying to cut keys to my system? M hm, 583 00:26:57,280 --> 00:26:59,119 Speaker 1: you have to. Literally there's a company that we have 584 00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:01,840 Speaker 1: to order them to be mailed and so there's no 585 00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:04,960 Speaker 1: so literally, you know, when it was just myself, Tracy 586 00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:07,600 Speaker 1: and Alyssa, those are the only three keys. Even if 587 00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:09,920 Speaker 1: Alyssa gave the key to somebody, they couldn't just secretly 588 00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:11,800 Speaker 1: make a key and then come in. So all in 589 00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:15,679 Speaker 1: each door because Jarrell was super anal that each door 590 00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:18,400 Speaker 1: has its own separate key. So I have three doors 591 00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:20,520 Speaker 1: a side door, so if I lose the front door 592 00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:22,240 Speaker 1: key or whatever and I have to order my separate 593 00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:24,560 Speaker 1: cut key, I still have the key to the side 594 00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:26,280 Speaker 1: door if I have to change the lock. So he 595 00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:29,480 Speaker 1: was always very protective over our safety, which I love, 596 00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:31,240 Speaker 1: you know, But yeah, I like that too because I 597 00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:33,240 Speaker 1: would be nervous, like, well, lit's how many people you 598 00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:35,359 Speaker 1: get the key too? Do they have copies? Well no 599 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,240 Speaker 1: they can't because you know, hers is the only key. 600 00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:39,639 Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm gonna talk to her again. I'm like, 601 00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:41,640 Speaker 1: I remember I said, don't guess, I just that's my key. 602 00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:44,760 Speaker 1: She's sick, likes I know she doesn't know. Yeah, so 603 00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,240 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be like, just in general, if someone says, 604 00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:50,239 Speaker 1: can I have the key, say let me ask Tiffany. 605 00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:52,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna give her that language, like, hey, let me 606 00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:54,919 Speaker 1: ask Tiffany if that's okay, because you know, in her 607 00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,080 Speaker 1: mind she probably was like, sure, hight not. We're all family, 608 00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:59,520 Speaker 1: and it's like we are. But yeah, so that was 609 00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:02,600 Speaker 1: just my brain, my brown break boundaries. 610 00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:05,359 Speaker 2: Are people starting to ask you or do you feel 611 00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,919 Speaker 2: expectations to do something for I know, it's coming up 612 00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:09,720 Speaker 2: on a year since he passed, which is. 613 00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:14,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean actually a year, but I know Tony 614 00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:17,119 Speaker 1: actually asked me yesterday, our attorney, Tony asked me yesterday 615 00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:19,600 Speaker 1: because my birthday comes up in two weeks. And then 616 00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:21,280 Speaker 1: she asked me, like, what I'm gonna do? And honestly, 617 00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:24,560 Speaker 1: I don't. That's one reasons I'm taking November, you know, 618 00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:27,080 Speaker 1: like I'm just because I don't know my I might 619 00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:30,120 Speaker 1: just say, you know what I'm gonna, you know, go 620 00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:32,560 Speaker 1: to like how I did with our first wedding anniversary 621 00:28:32,840 --> 00:28:34,399 Speaker 1: that I just went to the you know, upstate New 622 00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:37,399 Speaker 1: York and got an airbnb, so I wouldn't want to have 623 00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:39,239 Speaker 1: the space to decide what I want to do. If 624 00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:41,480 Speaker 1: I'm being honest, I still have not gotten his headstone, 625 00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:43,680 Speaker 1: just because it felt too real. But I think I 626 00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:46,800 Speaker 1: finally am ready to do that, you know, just because 627 00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:49,320 Speaker 1: it just felt like this is really happening. I didn't, 628 00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:51,000 Speaker 1: you know, I wasn't in the space. So I think 629 00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:53,840 Speaker 1: I'm going to do that. And I don't know, like 630 00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:56,960 Speaker 1: I have the month basically off except for Brown and Miss. 631 00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:58,320 Speaker 1: The great thing is I can tape this, you know. 632 00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:00,280 Speaker 1: Wherever I'm going to be, I always check they have 633 00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:04,040 Speaker 1: Wi Fi. We can tape. But so, yeah, I don't 634 00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:07,400 Speaker 1: have anything planned. You know. We were thinking about maybe 635 00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:08,400 Speaker 1: doing a balloon release. 636 00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:11,719 Speaker 2: You know, I'm just asking in the sense that like 637 00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:13,840 Speaker 2: I don't expect you to do anything, and I would 638 00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:16,320 Speaker 2: just feel like it would put extra pressure if people 639 00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,680 Speaker 2: were expecting something from you, or like want or like 640 00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:22,680 Speaker 2: like projecting what they think you should be doing. You know. 641 00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:25,600 Speaker 1: You know, I've gotten like really the day shout out 642 00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:29,000 Speaker 1: to doctor Green, because I've gotten really so much better 643 00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:32,640 Speaker 1: at allowing people to have their expectations of me and 644 00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:37,320 Speaker 1: saying okay. And you know, because old Tiffany definitely tried 645 00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:39,800 Speaker 1: to live up to everyone's expectations. At one point, I 646 00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:41,560 Speaker 1: was like, I don't even know my personality. I just shift. 647 00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:44,040 Speaker 1: I'm a shift shaper. You know, like this is you 648 00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:48,040 Speaker 1: need haha, laughing Tiffany. You need serious Tiffany. Because it 649 00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,760 Speaker 1: was like whatever I could do to just get along, 650 00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:53,800 Speaker 1: I want to be amicable. I'm easy to get along with. 651 00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:56,720 Speaker 1: And it was just like, you know, I was like 652 00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:59,360 Speaker 1: I was a super people pleaser, but I did not 653 00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:02,960 Speaker 1: please myself. And now you know I can. I'm so 654 00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:05,160 Speaker 1: much better at being like you know, because I'm sure 655 00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:06,400 Speaker 1: there are people who are like, she ain't get a 656 00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:08,320 Speaker 1: I mean not brand a bitch of listeners. But I'm 657 00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:11,200 Speaker 1: seeing on Jarrell's family, she ain't get the um the 658 00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:16,040 Speaker 1: you know, his his tombstone or whatever. Yet honestly, no, 659 00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,160 Speaker 1: and not to say I don't care, but I don't care, 660 00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:20,080 Speaker 1: like not I vis youer a lit, I don't care, 661 00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:22,480 Speaker 1: but I just I'm like, whenever it takes me three years, 662 00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:24,240 Speaker 1: so be it unless you want to buy oh okay, 663 00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:27,640 Speaker 1: you know, and so like I get to decide. I'm 664 00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:31,320 Speaker 1: feeling very comfortable, and I get to decide whatever it's 665 00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:33,840 Speaker 1: best for me because everyone is an adult. The only 666 00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:37,120 Speaker 1: person that I make a concerted effort to go above 667 00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:40,440 Speaker 1: and beyond for is Alyssa because she's a child, you know, 668 00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:43,560 Speaker 1: and I feel responsible for her upbringing and well being. 669 00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:46,120 Speaker 1: But everyone else, I want you to be well, and 670 00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:47,840 Speaker 1: I want you to do well, and I'm here to 671 00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:50,440 Speaker 1: help if need be, But I'm not here to look 672 00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:52,680 Speaker 1: after you because you are an adult. I have to 673 00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:54,920 Speaker 1: tell them about that. I'm like, everybody here is grown. 674 00:30:55,640 --> 00:30:58,440 Speaker 1: You got your bills, you got your own like you're Alica, 675 00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:00,320 Speaker 1: the only non grown one that's my That is my 676 00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:05,720 Speaker 1: financial emotional deep concern, like do I care about everybody? Yes, 677 00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:08,440 Speaker 1: But ultimately, as adults, we have to make a way 678 00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:10,320 Speaker 1: and see our way through ourselves. And I was trying 679 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,720 Speaker 1: to put everybody on my back and do everything. But yeah, 680 00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:14,760 Speaker 1: so even if people have expectations or want me to 681 00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:16,280 Speaker 1: do this or want me to do that, people are 682 00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:19,720 Speaker 1: free to make their own plans now my house, but 683 00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:21,720 Speaker 1: they're free to make their own plans wherever they are, 684 00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,280 Speaker 1: and I am free to decide whether I'll participate or not. 685 00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:26,120 Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm going to do. Honestly, I 686 00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:27,960 Speaker 1: might not be here, you know. I might just be 687 00:31:28,080 --> 00:31:30,680 Speaker 1: like I'm gonna go to Florida, or like I'm gonna 688 00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:33,480 Speaker 1: go someplace warm or you know whatever. Or I might 689 00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:35,600 Speaker 1: just say, hey, come over to the house and you know, 690 00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:38,040 Speaker 1: and we'll have you know, we'll have to I don't know, 691 00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:40,920 Speaker 1: but I just know that it's I don't feel the 692 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:44,720 Speaker 1: pressure of the expectations as I would have before that, 693 00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:47,400 Speaker 1: Like doctor Green is an amazing therapist, So I don't 694 00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:49,160 Speaker 1: carry around that guilt with me that I used to 695 00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:51,959 Speaker 1: carry around. And I know what I love about Jerrelle 696 00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:55,840 Speaker 1: is that likes sweet as jero is. He was a badass. 697 00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:58,520 Speaker 1: He would be like the people and he wouldn't say 698 00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:02,680 Speaker 1: f you know, like if he was here right now, 699 00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,480 Speaker 1: jured be like, who was coming in my house? You 700 00:32:05,520 --> 00:32:10,680 Speaker 1: would get cussed out, you know, he would cuss you 701 00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:12,440 Speaker 1: off and they'd be like you want some dinner? You know? 702 00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,200 Speaker 1: Like that was so like I just, you know, so 703 00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:18,280 Speaker 1: I feel more than fine that whatever I decided, I'll 704 00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,720 Speaker 1: be like, baby, don't don't let them. He was like, 705 00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:22,360 Speaker 1: you always let people want roll of you. You want 706 00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:24,200 Speaker 1: me to say something. I'm like, you can't talk to 707 00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:26,120 Speaker 1: the brand on my behalf bait because you gonna cuss 708 00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:29,120 Speaker 1: them out. I'm gonna be fine, you know. And so 709 00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:32,560 Speaker 1: he was very protective exactly, and so like I just 710 00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:34,080 Speaker 1: say all that to say that whatever I do, I 711 00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:36,080 Speaker 1: know that Jarella is going to be like, whatever you 712 00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:37,840 Speaker 1: want to do, that's up to you. I know that. 713 00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:39,920 Speaker 1: Like my biggest concern is I certainly will ask Melissa, 714 00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:42,560 Speaker 1: is there anything particular that you want to do? Well, 715 00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:43,920 Speaker 1: I'll get don't do this because I know it's like 716 00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:46,560 Speaker 1: kind of sad. But on a happy note. For Alyssa's birthday, 717 00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:47,560 Speaker 1: I was trying to figure out what to do for 718 00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:49,680 Speaker 1: her sweet sixteen so we can switch gears to a 719 00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:53,200 Speaker 1: happy brown boost is that I decided. I was inspired 720 00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:55,880 Speaker 1: by my friend Bozman Saint John because she does this 721 00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:57,920 Speaker 1: for her daughter every year on her birthday. So I 722 00:32:57,960 --> 00:33:00,960 Speaker 1: sent her some flowers and the card. Although I can't 723 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:02,840 Speaker 1: give you the world, I can help you see it. 724 00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:05,640 Speaker 1: And then for your sixteenth birthday, you can pick anywhere 725 00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:06,920 Speaker 1: you want to go in the world, and we're going 726 00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:12,280 Speaker 1: to go. She was like, I know, yes, girl, because 727 00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:16,040 Speaker 1: you know listen is boo. She called me screamer. Yeah, 728 00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:19,120 Speaker 1: you already know first of all, listen. So I told her, 729 00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:21,480 Speaker 1: I said one, I said, because she said I know 730 00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:23,040 Speaker 1: where I want to go. Because I called her. I said, 731 00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:24,520 Speaker 1: did you get your flowers? She said yes. I said, 732 00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:26,360 Speaker 1: did you read your card? She said yes, and she 733 00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:27,480 Speaker 1: said I know where I want to go. I said, 734 00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:32,040 Speaker 1: before you say, don't be basic, I almost like, don't choose, 735 00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:33,720 Speaker 1: like you know, I'm not gonna say any countries because 736 00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:35,440 Speaker 1: I don't want nobody to be mad because you know. 737 00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:38,240 Speaker 1: But but I said, don't be basic like stretching girls. 738 00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:40,120 Speaker 1: So she was like, I want to do a European tour. 739 00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:40,480 Speaker 2: Me. 740 00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:42,080 Speaker 1: Well, I told this girl one place in the girl 741 00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:44,280 Speaker 1: She's like, I want to do London, Paris and someplace 742 00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:49,720 Speaker 1: in Italy. I'm like this, I said, okay, so we're 743 00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:52,160 Speaker 1: going to do that. I think probably for I don't 744 00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:53,760 Speaker 1: know when spring break is, but that's when I'm I 745 00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:55,560 Speaker 1: think that's probably the best time, like during her spring 746 00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:58,320 Speaker 1: break and yeah, like I've been to Paris, I've been 747 00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:00,840 Speaker 1: to London, I've been to Italy, but I don't know 748 00:34:00,840 --> 00:34:02,640 Speaker 1: where in Italy, Like I want someplace you know that 749 00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:05,040 Speaker 1: we can spend like three days in each place, so 750 00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:07,960 Speaker 1: like two days in each place, you know. But yeah, 751 00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:10,880 Speaker 1: I'm excited to like take care. She is old special, 752 00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:13,839 Speaker 1: I know, and so like Geral wanted this for her too. 753 00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:16,760 Speaker 1: Someone told me the other day, despite all the trauma 754 00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:18,760 Speaker 1: and the grief, Tiffany, I hope you realize how blessed 755 00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:21,080 Speaker 1: you are. And I do realize that, and not because 756 00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:23,720 Speaker 1: of material things. But I have some really amazing people, 757 00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:26,400 Speaker 1: even the ones that be open in my door. I 758 00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:28,919 Speaker 1: have some really amazing people in my life. I do, 759 00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:31,319 Speaker 1: you know, I have so many people that really like 760 00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:34,120 Speaker 1: love me for real, for real, I have amazing friends. 761 00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:36,759 Speaker 1: I've got Mandy. Y'all don't even know. Like when I 762 00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:38,360 Speaker 1: was on grief leave, how much me and Mandy and 763 00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:40,480 Speaker 1: I talked like hours of me just walking on the 764 00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:43,440 Speaker 1: beach and talking. You know. I never once felt pressure 765 00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:46,760 Speaker 1: to come back to Brown ambition. I always felt free 766 00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:48,399 Speaker 1: because you have to have a friend that you can 767 00:34:48,440 --> 00:34:51,880 Speaker 1: feel free to say when you don't want to do 768 00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:54,000 Speaker 1: something and not be afraid that they're gonna be mad 769 00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:56,520 Speaker 1: at you because it's quote unquote not what's quote unquote 770 00:34:56,600 --> 00:35:00,840 Speaker 1: best for us both And so like I'm really really fortunate, 771 00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:04,400 Speaker 1: and I don't want to forget that despite the loss, 772 00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:07,600 Speaker 1: I have so much, you know, as it relates to 773 00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:09,400 Speaker 1: like the people who care about me, and so I 774 00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:11,080 Speaker 1: can't wait to do that for her. And you know, 775 00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:13,240 Speaker 1: I'm like, Lord, So if you guys have any suggestions 776 00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:15,759 Speaker 1: about if I do London, Paris, we're in Italy or 777 00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:17,800 Speaker 1: maybe some place of maybe it's Barcelona. I don't really 778 00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:20,080 Speaker 1: I'm not good at geography, so I'm trying to figure out, 779 00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:22,600 Speaker 1: what's you know, two and a half days for three 780 00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:25,680 Speaker 1: days a piece, and he's like, where where can I go? 781 00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:29,840 Speaker 2: Feelings, Well, we did our whole honeymoon in Italy, so 782 00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:35,040 Speaker 2: I got some ideas. Ooh okay, yeah no, that's so exciting. Yeah, 783 00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:37,880 Speaker 2: I mean in terms of like, the one vision I 784 00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:42,040 Speaker 2: have of you is at Darrell's homegoing and being so 785 00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:46,640 Speaker 2: devastated but also feeling so I've always like relief. I 786 00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:49,080 Speaker 2: just knew you'd be okay because the love in the room, 787 00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:51,520 Speaker 2: the support in the room, you know, and even checking 788 00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:53,040 Speaker 2: on you now, which I don't feel like I do 789 00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:55,759 Speaker 2: that often, but you never know what someone's going through 790 00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:59,279 Speaker 2: when you know you're off, you know, in your own 791 00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:01,080 Speaker 2: time and things like that, and trying to find the 792 00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:02,680 Speaker 2: right time to ask, like how are you doing and 793 00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:04,799 Speaker 2: if you're feeling this certain way, And I was like, 794 00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:06,719 Speaker 2: you know, just wanting to check in and see, but 795 00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:08,240 Speaker 2: I'm just like, you're so strong. 796 00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:10,040 Speaker 1: And it's not just it's not. 797 00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:12,200 Speaker 2: Just like a what do you call it, like an 798 00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:15,359 Speaker 2: artificial strength, like being strong to be strong because you're 799 00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:17,480 Speaker 2: supposed to be strong. It's such it's born at this 800 00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:20,560 Speaker 2: internal strength of love that you're surrounded with and support 801 00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:23,799 Speaker 2: and all of the you know, those relationships that are 802 00:36:23,800 --> 00:36:25,960 Speaker 2: booing you, and it's just as beautiful to see. And 803 00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:29,279 Speaker 2: I feel like for anyone it's we talk a lot 804 00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:33,000 Speaker 2: about financial resilience, but it's like that it's that inner 805 00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:37,359 Speaker 2: resilience and that like relationship resilience. You know, what kind 806 00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:37,799 Speaker 2: of a person. 807 00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:40,319 Speaker 1: It's Still I would say, like more times than not, 808 00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:42,840 Speaker 1: I'm going to cry through the night still, you know, 809 00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:45,400 Speaker 1: because it's still so hard, especially at night because that's 810 00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:48,160 Speaker 1: when we like really hung out and talked and laughed 811 00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:50,680 Speaker 1: and you know, like this house is filled with so 812 00:36:51,040 --> 00:36:53,320 Speaker 1: much love and I literally can look at every spot 813 00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:55,480 Speaker 1: in the house of all that time we painted this 814 00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:57,640 Speaker 1: part or we should sit on the counch and do 815 00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:00,839 Speaker 1: our like recap. Like one thing that I really love 816 00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:03,000 Speaker 1: that I do with Terrell now his twin is that 817 00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:05,360 Speaker 1: like after an event, like he doesn't even realize that 818 00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:07,440 Speaker 1: Jowl and I would do that. He calls me and 819 00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:09,520 Speaker 1: then we recap the event and talk about our favorite parts. 820 00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:11,560 Speaker 1: Jerrell and I used to do that, like he'd be like, 821 00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:14,080 Speaker 1: oh and Themember and then and we would sit on 822 00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:15,480 Speaker 1: the couch and do that. I remember the first time 823 00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:17,600 Speaker 1: to real call me. It was after his birthday party 824 00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:20,759 Speaker 1: and he called and he said, oh, man, Diffney, thank 825 00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:23,200 Speaker 1: you so much for hosting the birthday party at your house. 826 00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:25,000 Speaker 1: And this is my favorite part and this and that, 827 00:37:25,280 --> 00:37:27,239 Speaker 1: and I just thought, like it's almost like Jirell sent 828 00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:28,640 Speaker 1: him to be like, you know, Tiffany and I would 829 00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:31,520 Speaker 1: normally recap, so go ahead and call her so you know. 830 00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:33,719 Speaker 1: And so he still does that, Like after Alyssa's party, 831 00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:35,959 Speaker 1: he called me, and you know, we recapped her party 832 00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:38,120 Speaker 1: about how much fun was and I just like this said, 833 00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:41,840 Speaker 1: I'm surrounded by so much love and it doesn't diminish 834 00:37:42,200 --> 00:37:47,279 Speaker 1: like the grief, but I also know that like I 835 00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:49,560 Speaker 1: don't know, it's like you live in two worlds. You know, 836 00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:51,640 Speaker 1: there's this one part that's like, damn, I'm so sad 837 00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:54,239 Speaker 1: he's not here, But this other part that's just like, ah, 838 00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:56,560 Speaker 1: there's so much life to be lived still, and I 839 00:37:56,600 --> 00:37:58,319 Speaker 1: really do believe that you meet up with your loved 840 00:37:58,320 --> 00:38:01,880 Speaker 1: ones one day and so it's not the end, you know, 841 00:38:02,320 --> 00:38:04,640 Speaker 1: and so I just am just like, there's still life 842 00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:06,640 Speaker 1: to be lived. You're here, so what are you going 843 00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:09,799 Speaker 1: to do? But like because I would hate that, you know, 844 00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:13,200 Speaker 1: be ninety years old. And then I finally passed away 845 00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:16,720 Speaker 1: at ninety five to meet Jirelle And he's like, girl, 846 00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:20,000 Speaker 1: you wasted all that time you could have been having 847 00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:22,480 Speaker 1: five because now here you are here, you know, you 848 00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:25,600 Speaker 1: don't waste the last fifty years. Boo hoo, went over 849 00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:30,439 Speaker 1: fifty years. You know, you could have been enjoyed, yes, 850 00:38:30,560 --> 00:38:32,000 Speaker 1: because because he's gonna be like you know, you could 851 00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:33,320 Speaker 1: have been enjoyed because she was gonna get here with 852 00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:38,720 Speaker 1: me anyway. You know, Like when like I was talking 853 00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:40,759 Speaker 1: to like a million enrollment, but especially a million, and 854 00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:42,719 Speaker 1: she was just saying and then a million of time 855 00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:45,000 Speaker 1: was only four or five. I think she was four 856 00:38:45,239 --> 00:38:48,560 Speaker 1: when Dreel passed away and like I kept saying, like, oh, 857 00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:50,319 Speaker 1: you know, uncle Joel's I hear any uncle truck? And 858 00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:51,960 Speaker 1: she said why do you keep saying that? Like a 859 00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:53,680 Speaker 1: million hes sassyrself, and I said, well, you know, I 860 00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:55,680 Speaker 1: just want you to know that Uncle Joel passed away 861 00:38:55,719 --> 00:38:57,680 Speaker 1: and you're not going to see him anymore. And she 862 00:38:57,880 --> 00:39:00,680 Speaker 1: was like that's not true, and I said, well that 863 00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:02,440 Speaker 1: you know it's true. She said, no, I want to 864 00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:04,680 Speaker 1: see him in heaven. And I asked, Carol, you told 865 00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:06,960 Speaker 1: Amelia that Jarrell's going to be in heaven. She's like no, 866 00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:09,920 Speaker 1: and I was just like, I swear kids have this 867 00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:12,480 Speaker 1: sixth sense, you know, because she wasn't sad about it. 868 00:39:12,480 --> 00:39:13,920 Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, uncle Joel's not here. She's like, 869 00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:15,879 Speaker 1: I know, but we'll see him. And I'm just like 870 00:39:16,360 --> 00:39:18,240 Speaker 1: it just gave me like you like, sies. 871 00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:20,520 Speaker 2: Are closer to heaven than we are. Girl, there like 872 00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:23,120 Speaker 2: I think you know. And I'm not a very religious person, 873 00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:26,440 Speaker 2: but I do believe they were just there. 874 00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:27,400 Speaker 1: Yes, And that's what I felt like that she was 875 00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:30,080 Speaker 1: basically saying, like, girl, it was cute over there, So 876 00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:32,799 Speaker 1: I don't even know why you're crying because if he's 877 00:39:32,800 --> 00:39:35,239 Speaker 1: where I just came from Sis. So I just was 878 00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:36,920 Speaker 1: like you when I tell you that, the way it 879 00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:38,719 Speaker 1: gave me such peace because she was looking at me 880 00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:41,759 Speaker 1: like Auntie, like you keep saying it, Sis, he's at 881 00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:44,160 Speaker 1: that place where I was before. It's cute. Yeah he's 882 00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:47,399 Speaker 1: not here, but we all see him. So I just like, yeah, 883 00:39:47,480 --> 00:39:50,759 Speaker 1: I just I don't know, Like, certainly, there's some days 884 00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:52,560 Speaker 1: when I'm rolling on the ground, and then there's some 885 00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:54,640 Speaker 1: days when I'm just like I'm really you know, I'm 886 00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:58,120 Speaker 1: happy or least joyful in the moment, and so but 887 00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:02,120 Speaker 1: I don't I don't take for granted just how blessed 888 00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:05,400 Speaker 1: I am, like I said, surrounded by an inundated with 889 00:40:05,560 --> 00:40:07,200 Speaker 1: love and people who care about me. And so like, 890 00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:10,040 Speaker 1: if you're going through a loss or whatever, you know, 891 00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:13,640 Speaker 1: I pray for you that you are loved as well 892 00:40:14,080 --> 00:40:16,640 Speaker 1: as I'm loved with the people who, like, you know, 893 00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:18,399 Speaker 1: check up on me, pray for me. There are people 894 00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:19,880 Speaker 1: who I don't even know who I know, pray for me. 895 00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:21,759 Speaker 1: They'll hit me on Instagram and say I was thinking 896 00:40:21,800 --> 00:40:23,560 Speaker 1: about you today, not just said a prayer for you. 897 00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:25,719 Speaker 1: I'm like, you know how powerful that is? And I just, 898 00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:29,279 Speaker 1: you know, it just it just feels really good knowing that, like, 899 00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:31,480 Speaker 1: you know, I'm on this journey, but I'm not by myself, 900 00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:33,520 Speaker 1: and grief is something that we'll all have to experience 901 00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:37,280 Speaker 1: at some point. It's just made me a more empathetic person, 902 00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:37,560 Speaker 1: you know. 903 00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:39,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you're doing it on your own time and 904 00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:43,239 Speaker 2: a healthy as best as you can. So so proud 905 00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:44,640 Speaker 2: of you. As always, this was. 906 00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:48,400 Speaker 1: Supposed to be grief episode. What's your brown Boost? Mandy? 907 00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:52,279 Speaker 2: How am I supposed to come up with anything after that? 908 00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:55,000 Speaker 2: I'm I'm booset Rihanna at that Super Bowl? Uh? 909 00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:58,040 Speaker 1: How do I know about that? Rihanna do it the 910 00:40:58,120 --> 00:40:58,560 Speaker 1: Super Bowl? 911 00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:02,200 Speaker 2: I mean, I know she has all these hits, okay, 912 00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:04,040 Speaker 2: but I'm like, are we going to get new music? 913 00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:05,920 Speaker 2: I know we're supposed to give her space to do 914 00:41:05,960 --> 00:41:08,239 Speaker 2: whatever she wants to do. She's like a black billionaire, 915 00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:10,239 Speaker 2: one of the only black female billionaires in the world. 916 00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:13,600 Speaker 2: We'd love that for her. But yeah, I'm excited. I 917 00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:15,000 Speaker 2: feel like it's been a long time coming. 918 00:41:16,320 --> 00:41:18,279 Speaker 1: But do you think like those people were mad, like, oh, 919 00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:20,280 Speaker 1: you supposed we're supposed to be anti NFL. 920 00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:25,600 Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, I believe that Rihanna wouldn't be doing it 921 00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:28,160 Speaker 2: if she didn't see the changes that she felt she 922 00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:31,440 Speaker 2: needed to see. I also feel like we have to 923 00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:35,160 Speaker 2: move there, you know, we have to be able to 924 00:41:35,440 --> 00:41:40,239 Speaker 2: hold institutions accountable and then like decide where do we 925 00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:41,480 Speaker 2: go from there? And I feel like we have to 926 00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:44,160 Speaker 2: find a way forward, Like the NFL's not going away, 927 00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:47,320 Speaker 2: super Bowl is not going away. It's a cultural institution, 928 00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:49,960 Speaker 2: So like we have to find a way to move 929 00:41:50,080 --> 00:41:52,080 Speaker 2: to move forward. And I don't think that it should 930 00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:54,560 Speaker 2: diminish the work that she's done to raise awareness for 931 00:41:54,600 --> 00:41:58,240 Speaker 2: things like Colan Kaepernick and you know, like the racism 932 00:41:58,280 --> 00:42:02,160 Speaker 2: within the NFL and all of that. That's my hot take. 933 00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:05,160 Speaker 2: And don't ask me anything else about sports, because I 934 00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:13,040 Speaker 2: ah say, you'll will say yeah, So believe it there. 935 00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:15,279 Speaker 2: And maybe I'll talk about Chicken Bone Beach next week. 936 00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:17,920 Speaker 2: But that's another like a little hidden secret that I 937 00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:20,640 Speaker 2: learned about at the CBC, the history of Chicken Bone 938 00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:23,879 Speaker 2: Beach in Jersey. So stay tuned, y'all, maybe on next 939 00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:25,400 Speaker 2: week's episode of Band Ambition. 940 00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:27,880 Speaker 1: But don't forget, we have another episode coming up this Friday. 941 00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:32,040 Speaker 1: B a q A. No, we have every Friday. If 942 00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:34,080 Speaker 1: you have questions. We have answers. 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