WEBVTT - Saving the F*cking World with Celeste Barber

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<v Speaker 1>Hi Catherine, Hi Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 2>Should we get right into it?

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<v Speaker 1>Sure? Auden say, why not?

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<v Speaker 3>We have an amazing guest today.

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<v Speaker 1>Who is it here?

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<v Speaker 2>From Australia?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, ah, you know her.

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<v Speaker 6>She's an author, she's got her own makeup line, she's

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<v Speaker 6>a comedian, and she's the best Instagram celest Barber.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, and her UK, Europe and Dubai tour is kicking

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<v Speaker 7>off April fourth, so I'll be sure to check that

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<v Speaker 7>out and check out Blue Beauty at booie dot com.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, we're sitting here with my girlfriend, Celeste Barber. She's

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<v Speaker 6>not only my girlfriend, she's a lot of things do

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<v Speaker 6>a lot of people.

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<v Speaker 1>How did I find out about you? I found out

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<v Speaker 1>about you?

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<v Speaker 6>I think probably from your Instagram because she does these

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<v Speaker 6>If you don't follow her, which you should be following

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<v Speaker 6>her for those of you who are unfamiliar, she does

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<v Speaker 6>these great kind of how would you describe them?

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<v Speaker 1>Just ripping off idiotic modeling.

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<v Speaker 6>Poses, and then how I would have described it, recreating

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<v Speaker 6>them as a regular person a regular.

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<v Speaker 4>Parties, Yeah, parardies of them, taking inappropriate, unfluttering photos of

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<v Speaker 4>myself and putting them up against models.

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<v Speaker 6>And videos and videos are really where it's at, because

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<v Speaker 6>you know, when you.

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<v Speaker 4>See honestly dogs around me at the moment, it's a

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<v Speaker 4>whole thing.

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<v Speaker 7>Let her sit here, It's fine, okay, as long as

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<v Speaker 7>she's not snorting into the microphone.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I know.

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<v Speaker 6>He made some questionable sounds the other day, Doug, and

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<v Speaker 6>I was like, get out of here. It sounds like

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<v Speaker 6>someone's farting and it doesn't sound like you. Anyway, she

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<v Speaker 6>does Celet's recreates. You know what I like about it

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<v Speaker 6>more than the obvious, which is taking the piss and laughing.

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<v Speaker 6>It really shows you how ridiculous modeling can be, Like

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<v Speaker 6>what sexy is supposed to be. When these girls walk

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<v Speaker 6>around half naked, you know, with like their tongues out

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<v Speaker 6>of their mouths or just in some ridiculous pose that

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<v Speaker 6>you're like, is that sexy?

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<v Speaker 1>Like when did that become sexy?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>But like walking around, you know, you know, holding a

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<v Speaker 4>green smooth like you say, we're likely their tongues hang

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<v Speaker 4>out of the mouth and the caption is just dropping

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<v Speaker 4>the kids to school, right, And.

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<v Speaker 3>That's absolutely not what it looks like.

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<v Speaker 4>Drop when you fucking keeps to school, that's not And

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<v Speaker 4>that's kind of why I started doing it right, because

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<v Speaker 4>it's like magazines are pain in the ass and Mike

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<v Speaker 4>us all hide ourselves, and now there's this social media

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<v Speaker 4>that kind of seeps in without us knowing.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, no, I'm going to poke fun to that.

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<v Speaker 3>I actually started doing.

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<v Speaker 4>It before videos were available on Instagram. Oh well I've

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<v Speaker 4>been doing this shit for a long time, but it.

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<v Speaker 3>Was just photos.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, Well the videos really lend a little bit more

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<v Speaker 6>context to it because we were also just watching this

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<v Speaker 6>episode you did of Drew Barrymore Show where this is

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<v Speaker 6>an issue that happens. We get calls about this all

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<v Speaker 6>the time on this podcast about body image and how

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<v Speaker 6>do you know? Everyone always I can't get down to

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<v Speaker 6>the size I want to get down, and it's like

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<v Speaker 6>I always want to give advice that it is not

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<v Speaker 6>about dieting, you know what I mean. I want to

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<v Speaker 6>give advice about empowering yourself to accept the body that

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<v Speaker 6>you're in and be happy about it and learn like

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<v Speaker 6>how strong, healthy and vibrant you are and where your

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<v Speaker 6>value comes from, because it's not your body image that

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<v Speaker 6>is paramount to everything, you know. I spent so much

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<v Speaker 6>time in my youth and early twenties no, all of

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<v Speaker 6>my twenties just obsessing over what I looked like and

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<v Speaker 6>what a fucking waste of time that it is.

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<v Speaker 4>It's obsessing of it being thin, and I know I'm

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<v Speaker 4>forty two now, so getting into the sexy perimenopause vibes,

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<v Speaker 4>which is a real riot, and how it's like, no, no, ladies,

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<v Speaker 4>you don't need to just do cardio anymore.

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<v Speaker 3>What you need to do is lift weights. And I

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<v Speaker 3>think I wish I fucking knew.

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<v Speaker 4>That earlier, about how important it is to be strong

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<v Speaker 4>and healthy, not just scared and skinny at all times.

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<v Speaker 4>Or it's like skinny but grateful because you can fit

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<v Speaker 4>into clothes and that body image stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>It's it's all encompassing.

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<v Speaker 1>Was that quote? It was it Keith Mass's quote. Nothing.

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<v Speaker 6>It tastes as good as skinny feels. She set us

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<v Speaker 6>up for this demise that we're living out.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we'll blame her for that, absolutely, but it is important.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, I think you're a pretty grid example of

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<v Speaker 6>being a normal size and exploiting that you know, and

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<v Speaker 6>talking about where your value comes from, because you talked

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<v Speaker 6>about that and Drew barrymore So, I'd love for you

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<v Speaker 6>to say a little bit about that.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, how I look is the least interesting thing about me,

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<v Speaker 4>and I've always kind of known that, Like I've never

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<v Speaker 4>been I look fine, but I haven't really cared, do

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<v Speaker 4>you know what I mean. I remember when I was younger, though,

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<v Speaker 4>my mom said to me, who are going out? I

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<v Speaker 4>don't know if maybe it was a school thing, and

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<v Speaker 4>school was a bag addicts for me, so I probably

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<v Speaker 4>didn't want to go. And mom got me something nice

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<v Speaker 4>to wear, and I was like, oh no, I don't

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<v Speaker 4>want to do it. And she said to me, you

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<v Speaker 4>are scared to look nice. You are scared to actually

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<v Speaker 4>look good because you think you can only do one

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<v Speaker 4>and you can't do the other.

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<v Speaker 3>And when I was younger, of course, I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>fuck you, mommy, you don't know me. I look beautiful

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<v Speaker 3>all the time.

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<v Speaker 4>You know. I was always defensive. But as I got old,

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, I think that's right. I think I'm like,

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<v Speaker 4>I know, I just have to know. My currency is

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<v Speaker 4>my sense of humor, my personality, all those.

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<v Speaker 3>Sort of things. People.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, I'm very open with people and I'm not

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<v Speaker 4>allowed to kind of be But as I got older,

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, I really think my currency of being

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<v Speaker 4>funny and kind and cutting through shit is a really

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<v Speaker 4>beautiful thing and it makes me feel like kind of

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<v Speaker 4>really gorgeous.

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<v Speaker 3>In that world.

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<v Speaker 4>And you know, it's fucking tricky because we want to

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<v Speaker 4>point at someone to blame them, but it's it's everywhere.

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<v Speaker 4>Society just looks at women and goes, if you look

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<v Speaker 4>a certain way, then certain doors will open for you.

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<v Speaker 4>If you don't look a certain way, all the best.

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<v Speaker 4>Sorry about that. So, like even the body positive movements,

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<v Speaker 4>like they put Ashley Graham on one catwalk and they're like, brilliant,

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<v Speaker 4>We've ticked that box.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, we're being inclusive now. I never I never.

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<v Speaker 4>Started this to get caught up in the body positive movement.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm very happy for that movement to pick me up,

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<v Speaker 4>but I kind of always did it just to make

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<v Speaker 4>people fucking laugh and just to.

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<v Speaker 3>See how absurd it is.

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<v Speaker 4>And I did this thing in my first stand up tour,

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<v Speaker 4>had a section in my lihye.

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<v Speaker 6>I just want to say that the heavy panting is

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<v Speaker 6>celast vagina.

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<v Speaker 1>And they don't want you to think that that's me

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<v Speaker 1>or anything.

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<v Speaker 3>They've heard that before.

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<v Speaker 1>We have we have MEMSI on the cell for today.

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<v Speaker 1>Catherine's dog.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, breathing heavy about if you're hearing, that's what you're hearing.

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<v Speaker 3>No one's listening to me. That the fuck is going on.

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<v Speaker 1>In the background. It's like a doggy.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a whole other demographic for podcasts.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry to interrupt, no please.

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<v Speaker 4>In my first show, I did a section brave versus empowering.

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<v Speaker 4>So when I would post a photo, whoever the model was,

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<v Speaker 4>I'd look on that and underneath a lot of it,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, because they're not usually wearing much. It'd be like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>that's really empowering for women. Yeah, look at us when

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<v Speaker 4>we can get get our tits out and look amazing.

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<v Speaker 4>And then when I do my parody and put my

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<v Speaker 4>photo next to it, everyone said how brave. It was like,

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<v Speaker 4>she is for putting that body out into the world.

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<v Speaker 4>So a gorgeous model does it and it's empowering for women.

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<v Speaker 3>Then I do it, it's like, oh God, the children,

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<v Speaker 3>it's so brave of her. I was like, that's not

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<v Speaker 3>fucking brave.

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<v Speaker 6>We have to redefine a lot of words in society.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely.

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<v Speaker 6>I remember breaking my arm when I was a little

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<v Speaker 6>girl and them telling me at the hospital how brave

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<v Speaker 6>I was, and I'm like, I didn't try to try

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<v Speaker 6>arm I didn't didn't do it on purpose. I didn't

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<v Speaker 6>run in front of a car to save another kid.

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<v Speaker 1>I fucking fell over my dog. Like, there's nothing brave

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<v Speaker 1>about this. Even at eight, I was like, that's not

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<v Speaker 1>the right use of that word.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and why and always with women and girls, you're

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<v Speaker 4>being so brave. It's like, no, you were just fucking uncoordinated.

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<v Speaker 4>You fell over your dog.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not bright.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>You also said something on Drew's show that I loved,

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<v Speaker 6>which is you your husband is a tree true?

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<v Speaker 1>What is the word? Not an arborist?

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<v Speaker 6>He's an arborist okay, yeah, and you were talking about

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<v Speaker 6>what that means. You know that he gets up in

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<v Speaker 6>trim's trees and you know takes care of trees.

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<v Speaker 1>But you said that you've retired him.

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<v Speaker 6>And we both loved that because we were like, thank you,

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<v Speaker 6>Like that is exactly right.

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<v Speaker 3>You love that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he loves that.

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<v Speaker 3>I absolutely love that he.

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<v Speaker 6>Had Some husband is her husband, And yeah, I've met

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<v Speaker 6>him in person. We see each other in Sydney, so

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<v Speaker 6>Last and I have had a burgeoning friendship for many years.

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<v Speaker 6>We keep running into each other in different parts of

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<v Speaker 6>the world and they were nice enough to come to

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<v Speaker 6>my show and one of his shows in Sydney.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, right, and he is very handsome and I.

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<v Speaker 3>Was really hot.

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<v Speaker 6>I was like, good for you, Like I love this

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<v Speaker 6>reverse dynamic, which is sadly to say a reverse dynamic, as.

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<v Speaker 4>We say, absolutely, and he is incredible about that as well.

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<v Speaker 4>We have, you know, groups of friends where the couple

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<v Speaker 4>the husband is you know, well he's a like a

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<v Speaker 4>surfer or a professional surfer, but his wife has been

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<v Speaker 4>looking after those children, taking them around the world on

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<v Speaker 4>these world tours and stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>But Arpy, even that's my husband's name.

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<v Speaker 4>Arpy even points out that he gets so much more

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<v Speaker 4>of an audience as being a stay at home dad

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<v Speaker 4>than our friend does with being a stay at home mom.

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<v Speaker 4>Like they'll be like, that's so amazing that so hang on,

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<v Speaker 4>you do the lunches for the boys every morning.

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<v Speaker 3>That's amazing. And he's like, yeah, a dad, so do

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<v Speaker 3>my friends.

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<v Speaker 4>Like there's sort of those ladies over there, but there's

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<v Speaker 4>just no audience for it.

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<v Speaker 3>And people always say how lucky I am, are you?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm lucky to have him.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, bitch, I'm flying business class every way and

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<v Speaker 4>you're all lucky.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, and you're also fucking flying around the world doing

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<v Speaker 6>your thing and but busting your ass. Yeah, it is

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<v Speaker 6>so funny how imbalanced the like the rewards systems are

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<v Speaker 6>for men who stay at home. But I mean, I'm

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<v Speaker 6>hoping that will change, even in the face of what

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<v Speaker 6>we're dealing with politically, because women are the reason why

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<v Speaker 6>this election happened the way it is because of men,

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<v Speaker 6>I believe is because men are so threatened anyway by

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<v Speaker 6>women's success. And it's like, you can be as threatened

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<v Speaker 6>to you as you want. We're still succeeding. There are

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<v Speaker 6>too many women that are like paying for their families

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<v Speaker 6>and that are the breadwinners. Absolutely, and there are many

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<v Speaker 6>women that are single that are doing it, that are

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<v Speaker 6>choosing not to have children, and that's a huge threat

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<v Speaker 6>to men.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and that's fine, be threatened, but just go over

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<v Speaker 4>there and be threatened, Like, get out of the fucking

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<v Speaker 4>way and be threatened so we can just keep going.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, let's talk about your Also, you came when you

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<v Speaker 6>were launching your makeup line.

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<v Speaker 3>Booie Yeah Bowie Boe beauty.

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<v Speaker 1>She has a great makeup line that she just launched

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<v Speaker 1>and just launched here in the States as well.

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<v Speaker 6>If you're listening nationally, you're listening listening domestically, if you're

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<v Speaker 6>looking ark, if you're listening to this on AM stereo.

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<v Speaker 6>That's how my father used to go, say a stereo.

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<v Speaker 6>He's like, turn on the stereo. I'm like, where are

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<v Speaker 6>you from? Philadelphia?

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway? My favorite product is that eyebrow enhanser.

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<v Speaker 3>Bring back the bush.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, eyebrow bush.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, because the nineties fucking stole them.

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<v Speaker 1>The nineties stole them.

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<v Speaker 6>And also once you're dealing, once you hit forty five

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<v Speaker 6>or forty, your eyebrows all of a sudden turn into

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know what.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, wispy little same with my fucking hair. What's that.

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<v Speaker 4>It's like all my hair has now started growing out

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<v Speaker 4>of my face and my fucking neck and not on

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<v Speaker 4>my head, like it's thinning and it's not like feathers.

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<v Speaker 1>I like the idea of neck hair.

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<v Speaker 3>It was like goiter hair. It's and that thing.

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<v Speaker 4>The other day I was standing and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>this is really nice light, and my husband went yet

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<v Speaker 4>hang on and walked over and just like went yoink

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<v Speaker 4>and pulled it one and out of my neck, and

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, and asked the fucking feedback.

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<v Speaker 3>He goes, you needed the feedback before you feel yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>Got these long, luscious locks that come out of my neck.

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<v Speaker 6>I know my sister's always goes like this. My sister

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<v Speaker 6>Shanna always goes like this. She's always feeling for her

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<v Speaker 6>whisker to come in. And I'm like, can you stop

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<v Speaker 6>rubbing your beard?

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<v Speaker 3>It's like she stop playing.

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<v Speaker 6>Come to think of it, I just spent the weekend

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<v Speaker 6>with her on the East Coast and she wasn't doing that,

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<v Speaker 6>So maybe she learned her.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, you pluck your hairs before you come out.

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<v Speaker 3>She probably got someone to shave her face before you

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<v Speaker 3>turned up.

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<v Speaker 6>But you know, no, there the thicker ones, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, the black ones, not the little like I

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<v Speaker 6>shaved my face all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I say, I raise her right result, it's a great

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<v Speaker 1>X folio.

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<v Speaker 3>It's so good.

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<v Speaker 4>But then it gets a little bit I actually did

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<v Speaker 4>it before I came over here, got a little bit

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<v Speaker 4>a little bit of stubble there. Now. I was talking

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<v Speaker 4>to a friend the other day and I thought she

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<v Speaker 4>just had like a little eyelash here, and I leant

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<v Speaker 4>over and went and pull but it was connected and

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<v Speaker 4>it's just.

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<v Speaker 3>A long one and I went, oh, that's connected.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm sorry somewhere and it was like really long, and

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<v Speaker 4>White said it wasn't there last night here this morning.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't know was connected.

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<v Speaker 1>The joys of aging as a woman.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you need good friends, but no hair on my eyebrows.

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<v Speaker 4>So that's why, Yeah, bring back the bush, got to

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<v Speaker 4>draw the bastards back in.

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<v Speaker 1>How long did it take you to develop your brand?

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<v Speaker 1>To create it?

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<v Speaker 4>And well, it's been in my head for a long time,

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<v Speaker 4>but you know, breaking news ADHD, So I kind.

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<v Speaker 3>Of I couldn't. I couldn't get it out of my head.

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<v Speaker 4>I was kind of at a point where I was like,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm happy just to go to parties now for the

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<v Speaker 4>next five years and be like I've.

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<v Speaker 3>Got a really good idea for a makeup brand and

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<v Speaker 3>do fuck all about it.

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<v Speaker 4>And then I met Claire, my business partner, and she

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<v Speaker 4>was like, you're a lot and made it happen.

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<v Speaker 3>So I reckon.

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<v Speaker 4>We've been developing for about a year and a half,

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<v Speaker 4>two years, getting it all together and then.

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<v Speaker 1>Read to get something off the ground.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, I've tried to develop things in the past

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<v Speaker 6>and I've lost interest halfway through.

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<v Speaker 1>This is too long.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm exactly the same way.

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<v Speaker 6>Too long.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care.

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<v Speaker 4>We launched when I was doing a world tour, which

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<v Speaker 4>was great because already I was like, do we really

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<v Speaker 4>want to do a makeup brand. They're like, we've sunk

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<v Speaker 4>a fur bit of money, Yes, idiot, yes we're gonna

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<v Speaker 4>do it.

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<v Speaker 3>I get really bored of stuff as well.

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<v Speaker 6>So and so what was your impetus, Like, what was

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<v Speaker 6>your ethos behind the bround?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I wanted it to be makeup that you just

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<v Speaker 4>you can't fuck up because I find, like I said,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm forty two, and the only thing kind of in

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<v Speaker 4>the makeup space in the beauty space now for women

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<v Speaker 4>over the age of six is like anti aging serum

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<v Speaker 4>or anti aging cream. Like there's nothing really directly targeted

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<v Speaker 4>at us. It's like we just my eleven year old niece.

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<v Speaker 4>It's all for her. And I wanted to make it

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<v Speaker 4>uncomplicated and nothing that you need to watch a seventy

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<v Speaker 4>five minute makeup tutorial to understand. Like, I love makeup.

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<v Speaker 4>I have a face for makeup, so I want I

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<v Speaker 4>really do which was great when I was younger, right

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<v Speaker 4>because at school you know, I look like a slapped ass.

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<v Speaker 4>But then for a year twelve formul I rocked up

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<v Speaker 4>with makeup people like them, and I was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>you're bulling me out to get that's right, I've got

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<v Speaker 4>it going on.

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<v Speaker 3>So I fucking love makeup and I wanted to.

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<v Speaker 4>We've started with just five products, and I just use

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<v Speaker 4>every single day, all the time to get you out

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<v Speaker 4>the door for busy moms. For I heard someone say

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<v Speaker 4>the other day that when you're in your forties, like

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<v Speaker 4>forty onward, you're moving into your invisible era. Oh I

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<v Speaker 4>don't want that, Like, I just feel like I'm getting

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<v Speaker 4>more excellent now.

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<v Speaker 3>I remember you.

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<v Speaker 4>Saying that one like, you've never been in better shape

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<v Speaker 4>in your life, You've never been stronger, more successful.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's exactly how I feel.

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<v Speaker 4>So and it's it's for like Wendy and Wichita who's

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<v Speaker 4>listening on the stereo. It's for those girls who come

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<v Speaker 4>to my shows all around the world. They're like placeholders

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<v Speaker 4>for everyone else in their life who are going, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>I've just used the same stuff forever because I don't understand.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, no, I got you. This is fun, easy

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<v Speaker 4>and makes you It's all about like the best version

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<v Speaker 4>of you. That's what I'm interested in, the best version

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<v Speaker 4>of you, and that's what Boobie does.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and it's also low maintenance because I'm easy.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm not into you, like I like five products because

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<v Speaker 6>if I'm not camera, even for this podcast, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>I slap on some blush and some lip balm and

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<v Speaker 6>I'm like, let's just hope for the best.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think that's what most of us do when.

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<v Speaker 6>I can't be bothered with all of the shenanigans around

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<v Speaker 6>makeup and all of this stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like taking supplements. I don't want to do that either,

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<v Speaker 1>you know.

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<v Speaker 6>I'd just rather get a shot a week with everything

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<v Speaker 6>in it and he'd done with it.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm exactly the same.

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<v Speaker 4>My kids were given all these supplements a while ago,

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<v Speaker 4>and try and get kids fucking tablets. I was like,

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<v Speaker 4>you get that at six am, you've got to have

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<v Speaker 4>that at five, you know, and all these things. And

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<v Speaker 4>I just said to my husband, let's just not give

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<v Speaker 4>them anything, and we'll pay for a fucking kidney transplant

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<v Speaker 4>or whatever when they're sixteen.

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<v Speaker 3>I'd rather that. I'm not doing this shit.

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<v Speaker 1>How old are your boys now?

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<v Speaker 3>Ten and thirteen.

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<v Speaker 1>Do they respect you?

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<v Speaker 3>You just answered your own question.

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<v Speaker 4>No, I'm I'm a lot for them say yes, sure, No,

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<v Speaker 4>they don't respect me.

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<v Speaker 3>People love their dad.

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<v Speaker 1>Do they think you're funny?

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<v Speaker 3>More and more?

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<v Speaker 4>Now?

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<v Speaker 1>Yoh more, because usually.

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<v Speaker 6>They go through a phase between those ages or around

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<v Speaker 6>those ages where they start to think, probably like thirteen

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<v Speaker 6>to sixteen more, where they are like, you're not funny,

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<v Speaker 6>You're not cool. That's the age of that. Yeah, right,

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<v Speaker 6>we'll turn on you. Yeah exactly. They're kind of getting

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<v Speaker 6>there a little bit more. My kids don't have social

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<v Speaker 6>media and hopefully they never will. They don't have a

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<v Speaker 6>game or anything like that. Really, but that's lucky your husband.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm really full on about it. I'm really fucking full

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<v Speaker 6>on you.

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<v Speaker 4>I just know I don't want to and I have

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<v Speaker 4>a really overactive brain and you know, having ADHD low dopamine.

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<v Speaker 3>So this thing just fucks me as it is. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't want that for my kids.

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<v Speaker 4>We've just always been really full on about it and

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<v Speaker 4>kind of feel like it's easier to say no from

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<v Speaker 4>the beginning than give it to them and try and

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<v Speaker 4>take it off them, because they become fucking heroinautic monsters.

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<v Speaker 4>If you take it from them. So my kids are

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<v Speaker 4>the Moor kids. When we go out for dinner with

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<v Speaker 4>friends and all the other kids are on their phone,

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<v Speaker 4>my kids sit come and sit down and go, I

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<v Speaker 4>want to play, you know, make them take cards and

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<v Speaker 4>they all the kids end up playing, but we're just quiet.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it's pronounced, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>Just so you know.

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<v Speaker 4>So that's what you guys, like, what game are you

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<v Speaker 4>peasants playing in Australia?

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<v Speaker 1>But how do they respect?

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<v Speaker 3>Like, well, their.

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<v Speaker 4>Friends are on social media. So my oldest son came

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<v Speaker 4>home a few weeks ago. I was like, mom, my

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<v Speaker 4>friends have found you on TikTok And I was like

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<v Speaker 4>are you good?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you are right?

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<v Speaker 3>And he goes, it's just weird. I was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>you don't need to get it.

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<v Speaker 4>That's okay, but it's what I do and you'll be fine.

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<v Speaker 4>And also and then he's like, oh, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 4>it just makes me feel weird. I'm like, well, I

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<v Speaker 4>kind of know Kevin Hart.

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<v Speaker 3>He's like, oh, yeah, that's better. Like if I say that,

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<v Speaker 3>if I drop a name, He's like, it's fine, it's fine.

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<v Speaker 3>You just have to play.

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<v Speaker 6>How do you how do you justify you having social

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<v Speaker 6>media as a profession and them not even being allowed

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<v Speaker 6>to be on it, like.

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<v Speaker 3>I say, it's work, yeah, which which it is for me.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm hoping that we have been so full on about

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<v Speaker 4>it that they have almost kind of missed the time

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<v Speaker 4>of being.

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<v Speaker 3>Obsessed with it.

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<v Speaker 4>It's not like a known thing to them, because that's

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<v Speaker 4>what it is, right, It's just fucking habit picking up

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<v Speaker 4>your phone. So I'm hoping that that has passed for them.

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<v Speaker 4>But look, they'll they have phones and everything, but they

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<v Speaker 4>I ask them as well to call me out. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 4>if I'm on my phone, I'll get them to say, Mom,

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<v Speaker 4>are you working or no? And I'll be like, oh shit,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not. And I'll get rid of my phone because

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<v Speaker 4>I just go into a vorte or I just line go,

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<v Speaker 4>yeah I'm working, I'm not.

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<v Speaker 6>I keep waiting, like I guess this is kind of

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<v Speaker 6>like similar analogous to the Kardashians, Like I kept waiting

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<v Speaker 6>for it to end, and it just kept going and going,

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<v Speaker 6>like I kept waiting for social media for there to

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<v Speaker 6>be like a backlash on social media, Like no more.

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<v Speaker 6>Everyone understands how damaging the impact of it is and

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<v Speaker 6>what we're going to do. I mean what we should

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<v Speaker 6>do as a society, which is like to take a break.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, it's like all this misinformation, all this conspiracy

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<v Speaker 6>theory bullshit. But that would require like an enlightenment, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>through like a global enlightenment, and we're definitely not there.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I think.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean I've been here for a week or so now,

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<v Speaker 4>but I think I saw on line that at home

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<v Speaker 4>in Australia we're bringing in our pre ministers bringing legislation

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<v Speaker 4>that kids under sixteen I'm not allowed to have social media.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, I don't know another reason they moved to Australia.

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<v Speaker 3>Another yeah, but don't tell everyone to move to Australia. No,

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<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 1>There's so many places you can go.

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<v Speaker 4>So I think they're looking to bring that in again.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know how you fucking police that.

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<v Speaker 7>But some of the younger people too are like not

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<v Speaker 7>using social media nineteen hours a day or nothing.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah yeah, And I think if you can get past

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<v Speaker 6>the window of it being so like I have three

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<v Speaker 6>nieces and they're on social media, but they're not.

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<v Speaker 1>Addicted to social media. Yeah yeah, like they don't post.

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<v Speaker 6>They post once in a while, you know what, I mean,

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<v Speaker 6>and I like that cadence more.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, they don't post much, this is the thing, and

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<v Speaker 4>they don't kind of post much.

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<v Speaker 1>The kids.

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<v Speaker 4>I've noticed the young'uns, like the teens, early early twenties

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<v Speaker 4>kind of that they're not posters. It's like the twenty

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<v Speaker 4>year olds that post. And so those young ones are

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<v Speaker 4>watching their stuff. My stepdaughters are twenty five and twenty three,

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<v Speaker 4>and the twenty three ye old doesn't post. She might

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<v Speaker 4>post once every six weeks because she went out to

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<v Speaker 4>a party or something. But they're not active on it,

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<v Speaker 4>which I don't know if I love, because just being

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<v Speaker 4>passive on it and watching it and just infiltrating everything

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<v Speaker 4>you do, I think that can be a bit more

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<v Speaker 4>dangerous and actively partaking in it.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have one of those limits on your phone

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<v Speaker 1>where you like but ignore? Yeah, ignoring.

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<v Speaker 6>My friend is like, you can put a limit, and

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<v Speaker 6>I was like, you can you tell me we could

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<v Speaker 6>fucking ignore the limit.

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<v Speaker 4>The limit comes up, it says fifteen minute limit, and

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<v Speaker 4>then the biggest, brightest blue button under it says ignore.

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<v Speaker 3>You go ignore. It's just easier.

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<v Speaker 1>How was your tour this summer? After I left you?

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<v Speaker 1>After I saw you was it.

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<v Speaker 4>The Yeah, I saw you after my tour I was

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<v Speaker 4>in I was here May June.

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<v Speaker 3>Fucking great, but you did it fucking great.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you love being on tour?

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<v Speaker 3>I love it?

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<v Speaker 1>What are you?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm getting better at it as well because I try

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<v Speaker 4>so many different ways of doing having kids right and

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<v Speaker 4>living in Australia, having touring over here.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't just do weekends.

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<v Speaker 4>I'd love to do Thursday, Friday, Saturday or like you

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<v Speaker 4>know how you do it, but I can't, and we're

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<v Speaker 4>not moving over here, so I just have to why

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<v Speaker 4>is it not an amazing reason to move here? Have

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<v Speaker 4>I missed something I can help? Terrifying? So yeah, I

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<v Speaker 4>just kind of come over and bang it out over

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<v Speaker 4>six weeks when I'm in America. But so when I

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<v Speaker 4>go home to Australia, I do try and do the Thursday, Friday,

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<v Speaker 4>Saturdays and come home and I love it.

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<v Speaker 3>I love life performance.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I know, and it's also nice.

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<v Speaker 6>And it's also nice that cadence, because you could, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>you work on the weekends, you come home, you recover

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<v Speaker 6>one day, it takes a day or two and recover

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<v Speaker 6>from the travel and whatever you got up to, and

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<v Speaker 6>then you go back out.

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<v Speaker 1>It's kind of like the perfect schedule.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I just wish I could do that over here

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<v Speaker 4>or make the same money I make over here home, right,

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<v Speaker 4>But you know no, but I love it.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, on that we're going to take a break and

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<v Speaker 6>we'll be right back with Celeste barbera And we're back.

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<v Speaker 1>With Celeste barber.

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<v Speaker 6>She's our very special guest all the way from the

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<v Speaker 6>Gold Coast.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, that's where you.

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<v Speaker 3>Live, kind of south of the Gold Coast.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm still unclear about it.

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<v Speaker 3>I like that though. I like people being unclear. That's

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<v Speaker 3>fine with me. It's fine with me. I saw someone actually.

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<v Speaker 4>When I was home. I was in a shop in

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<v Speaker 4>Sydney and she was like, what are you doing? No, actually,

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<v Speaker 4>I was in a shop near where I live.

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<v Speaker 3>She goes, what are you doing here? And I went, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>I live around the err and she went no, you.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't what She goes, no, you don't you live in

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<v Speaker 4>la And I went, all right, I'm just visiting.

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<v Speaker 3>I've just come here to visit. Like, sure, let's go

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<v Speaker 3>with that.

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<v Speaker 6>That reminds me of this book I read once, Rebecca Solnet.

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<v Speaker 6>It was called Late in the Dark or Phoning Late

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<v Speaker 6>in the dark or something. Anyway, it was very profound

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<v Speaker 6>book about being a woman. But she it starts out

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<v Speaker 6>with this chapter about and this is different because it's

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<v Speaker 6>a male and female dynamic, but she wrote she starts

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<v Speaker 6>out with this chapter talking about how she was at

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<v Speaker 6>a dinner party and this man came up to her

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<v Speaker 6>and was telling her about her own book, quoting her book,

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<v Speaker 6>saying like, you should really read this book. It just

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<v Speaker 6>came up Mauchur in conversation. She's like, I actually I

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<v Speaker 6>wrote that book. And he was like, no, you did it.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh wow.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, yes, I wrote that book that you're telling me.

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<v Speaker 6>That the one that you're man explaining to me about

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<v Speaker 6>I fucking wrote.

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<v Speaker 4>When you're telling me the plotline about yeah, I wrote that. Also,

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<v Speaker 4>do you find this one? People will probably not with you,

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<v Speaker 4>but in the street when they go, oh, hi, I

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<v Speaker 4>get this.

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<v Speaker 3>A lot of people like why do I know you?

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<v Speaker 1>I find that to be the most annoying question.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like well, and they go, did you go to

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<v Speaker 4>so and so school? And I'm like, don't do this, please,

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<v Speaker 4>it's not how you know. She goes, No, hang on

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<v Speaker 4>a minute. Now, you're a few years ahead of me.

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<v Speaker 4>And I'm like, this is going how I fucking hoped

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<v Speaker 4>it to go for you. But then someone goes, no,

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<v Speaker 4>oh no, that's right. You're working that cafe down the

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<v Speaker 4>road from me. I was like, yep, I do.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm just taking the summer off, see ya. People

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<v Speaker 3>tell you how they know you be like, no, don't

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<v Speaker 3>do this to it.

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<v Speaker 6>Last weekend, I was in New York City and I

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<v Speaker 6>got in the elevator with this couple. As I was

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<v Speaker 6>walking into my hotel, I could see that she was

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<v Speaker 6>like ogling me and you know, probably recognize me. So

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<v Speaker 6>we get in the elevator and and she and her

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<v Speaker 6>husband are both like staring at me. I'm on my phone,

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<v Speaker 6>actively pretending to be on my phone, you know, like,

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<v Speaker 6>please don't interact. I'm not in the mood for this

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<v Speaker 6>kind of interaction. I can already tell you're gonna be annoying,

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<v Speaker 6>you know. And she goes, she goes, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 6>We're from Toronto. And that was it, and I went

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<v Speaker 6>what And she goes, we're from Toronto. How do we

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<v Speaker 6>know you?

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<v Speaker 4>If?

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<v Speaker 6>Like, you have to understand when you say something like that,

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<v Speaker 6>what am I supposed to do next?

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<v Speaker 3>East My credits exactly, Well, you.

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<v Speaker 1>May know me from.

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<v Speaker 4>Me on the Drew.

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<v Speaker 6>Barrymore Show, and like, are you freaking kidding me? Like

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<v Speaker 6>it's so stupid, like and she goes, it's just killing

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<v Speaker 6>I go, it's not killing you.

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<v Speaker 3>You just walked inside from the lobby into.

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<v Speaker 1>The elevator three minutes. Nothing is killing you about the situation.

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<v Speaker 1>You could have easily ignored it and just never figured

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<v Speaker 1>out who I was.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, mate it up.

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<v Speaker 1>But now I'm just like, I'm Chelsea Hammler and that's it.

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<v Speaker 6>That's all you get, and you figure it out from

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<v Speaker 6>there if you're not familiar.

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<v Speaker 3>And was She like, no, you Chelse, you are.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like Elizabeth Banks.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, we're going to take some callers and questions and

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<v Speaker 6>we're going to give real life advice.

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<v Speaker 1>This is what we do here.

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<v Speaker 3>So I have the fucking will. Let's go.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, absolutely, let's get the party started.

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<v Speaker 7>Well, Heather writes in and she says, Dear Chelsea, I'm

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<v Speaker 7>an avid listener and a longtime fan, and I can't

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<v Speaker 7>wait to see you in Vegas. Thinking of going for

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<v Speaker 7>my future ex husband's birthday. Oh I love it, love

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<v Speaker 7>that I've been married for almost twenty years, and we

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<v Speaker 7>have two children adopted from foster care. A few months ago,

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<v Speaker 7>I was out of town with the kids and he

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<v Speaker 7>welcomed an online hooker into our home, and when he

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<v Speaker 7>passed out drunk, she stole my jewelry and makeup. He

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<v Speaker 7>proceeded to blame the kids for stealing it, lied about

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<v Speaker 7>it for days until I found the deleted text on

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<v Speaker 7>his phone. I knew, damn well a woman stole the

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<v Speaker 7>things because it was so precisely done. I should thank

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<v Speaker 7>her for the evidence. He wants to quote fix things,

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<v Speaker 7>but I am not down for that. We've had many

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<v Speaker 7>prior conversations regarding infidelity and my firm stance of not

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<v Speaker 7>tolerating it, so needless to say, I am done. Our

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<v Speaker 7>immediate family and close friends know what's going on. My

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<v Speaker 7>kids and I are in therapy. So my question is this,

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<v Speaker 7>how do I tell others, mutual friends, coworkers, my longtime patience,

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<v Speaker 7>I'm a physical therapist when they say how's the family

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<v Speaker 7>or how are you? And I'm not sure what to say.

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<v Speaker 7>The honest answer feels too raw for some people, but

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<v Speaker 7>acting like nothing is wrong feels ick. Also, what's the

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<v Speaker 7>middle ground? Thanks for your advice. Heather, Oh I have

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<v Speaker 7>I know.

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<v Speaker 6>I know well, first of all, you don't owe anyone

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<v Speaker 6>no explanation. I understand that I desire to want to

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<v Speaker 6>be truthful and transparent when you're going through something, because

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<v Speaker 6>it's like when someone says how are you and you're

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<v Speaker 6>about to break down and you're like, I'm good. You know,

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<v Speaker 6>I understand what the desire and you have, and you

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<v Speaker 6>have every rate to also be transparent to the degree

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<v Speaker 6>that you're comfortable with. So you can easily just say

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<v Speaker 6>we're actually gonna separate. You know, we're separating without giving them.

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<v Speaker 6>Your doctor's not going to be like, what happened. You

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<v Speaker 6>don't have to say I caught him with an online

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<v Speaker 6>hooker who stole my jewelry.

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<v Speaker 1>Although that's gonna be a good story later down the road.

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<v Speaker 4>See, I would I would say that that is my advice.

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<v Speaker 4>I not write into me, but she's really that would

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<v Speaker 4>be my advice. Heather has taken too much time looking

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<v Speaker 4>after other people. I think she should say to a gynecologist,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm happy you ask.

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<v Speaker 3>He's a piece of ship.

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<v Speaker 4>Where in Vegas he gets some hooker, she steals my shit.

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<v Speaker 4>She he blames the kids that now I'm here, I

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<v Speaker 4>would just say it outright.

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<v Speaker 6>That's also an option, also an option. There's really there's

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<v Speaker 6>really no losing way to deal with this situation.

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<v Speaker 3>Don'torry about how the people feel about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and I wouldn't help people, So I agree.

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<v Speaker 6>When you're going through some sort of like maelstrom of

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<v Speaker 6>emotion like that, and you're dealing with breaking the break

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<v Speaker 6>of your marriage, like the last thing you have to

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<v Speaker 6>worry about is how other people are viewing you.

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<v Speaker 1>Who gives a shit?

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<v Speaker 6>And like, yeah, take this as a new license in life,

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<v Speaker 6>like our new Lisa on life, Like you're moving forward

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<v Speaker 6>and this is your attitude.

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<v Speaker 3>Fuck off, yeah, fuck off?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, all right, Heather, there you have it.

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<v Speaker 7>Well, our next question comes from Amanda, and she's gonna

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<v Speaker 7>be joining us here, Brad, we have Amanda, right.

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<v Speaker 1>She comes out from the kitchen.

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<v Speaker 2>Amanda's welcome, Amanda, Delly, Dear Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 7>My name is Amanda, and I'm currently in my thirteenth

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<v Speaker 7>year in public education. While I'm financially stable, i am

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<v Speaker 7>unequivocally unhappy. In an effort to change up my routine

0:28:37.960 --> 0:28:41.000
<v Speaker 7>and job role, I've transitioned from classroom teacher to instructional

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<v Speaker 7>coach and back again a couple of times, but to

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<v Speaker 7>no avail. Despite the knowledge that I'm doing important work,

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<v Speaker 7>I've lost my passion. I feel as though I'm at

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<v Speaker 7>a personal crossroads and need your guidance. Since I was young,

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<v Speaker 7>I've always wanted to be a writer. I dabbled in

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<v Speaker 7>music journalism in college and have done some freelance work.

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<v Speaker 7>Though I haven't been published in quite a while and

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<v Speaker 7>my writing is basically confined to journaling, I can't shake

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<v Speaker 7>the feeling that now would be a great time to

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<v Speaker 7>reignite that passion and challenge myself to completely shift my

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<v Speaker 7>career trajectory. At almost forty one years old, with a

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<v Speaker 7>wealth of education and life experience, it seems like there's

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<v Speaker 7>no time like the present. I can't found them taking

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<v Speaker 7>a pay cut, especially being a single woman living in

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<v Speaker 7>San Diego, the alone, walking away from the only constant

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<v Speaker 7>in my life for the past thirteen years.

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<v Speaker 2>So where do I begin.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm trying to get back to structured writing time, connect

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<v Speaker 7>with friends who are already successful in the industry, and

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<v Speaker 7>even have the opportunity to reconnect with a former writing coach.

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<v Speaker 7>I guess I'm just hoping for some insight from someone

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<v Speaker 7>who I admire and respect. How do you hold yourself

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<v Speaker 7>accountable and practice the self discipline needed to be a

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<v Speaker 7>success in this field? How do I pursue this avenue

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<v Speaker 7>that lacks job security? My next steps feel murky, and

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<v Speaker 7>for the first time in my life, I'm scared to

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<v Speaker 7>take the leap Amanda.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi Abdi Hi.

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<v Speaker 6>First of all, it sounds like you're doing all of

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<v Speaker 6>the things that you need to be doing to get

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<v Speaker 6>the party started.

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<v Speaker 8>Yes, And since I've written in I've essentially given myself

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<v Speaker 8>permission to exit this profession. I started to realize how

0:30:03.840 --> 0:30:07.000
<v Speaker 8>emotionally drained I've been at the end of every workday,

0:30:07.880 --> 0:30:10.760
<v Speaker 8>left no room to try to focus on this like

0:30:10.840 --> 0:30:15.840
<v Speaker 8>creative endeavor. So I've been very aggressively looking for new

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<v Speaker 8>work that will just pay the bills, but let me

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<v Speaker 8>focus on, you know, my personal hobbies and where I'd

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<v Speaker 8>like to kind of go professionally.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, like, under the assumption that the writing isn't going

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<v Speaker 6>to pay dividends right away, right, you need something to

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<v Speaker 6>like tide you over while you're exploring.

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<v Speaker 1>The writing, right exactly, So do you know what that's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be or you is that one of your questions.

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<v Speaker 8>Well, that's just kind of still I've actually been working

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<v Speaker 8>with a job coach to like update my resume and

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<v Speaker 8>because for jobs is so different than it was thirteen

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<v Speaker 8>years ago that I've had to do a lot of

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<v Speaker 8>kind of work on that end to get the applications

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<v Speaker 8>out there. So that's what I'm just trying to be

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<v Speaker 8>really focused on doing so I can get to a

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<v Speaker 8>better place where I'm not so miserable going to work

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<v Speaker 8>every day.

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<v Speaker 6>Absolutely, that's not going to give you any energy to

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<v Speaker 6>be creative.

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<v Speaker 3>Right exactly.

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<v Speaker 8>So now it's just kind of like continuing to put

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<v Speaker 8>that out there and just starting to like build in

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<v Speaker 8>some structured writing time. I guess like my big questions

0:31:15.760 --> 0:31:18.640
<v Speaker 8>are kind of like how to hold yourself accountable for

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<v Speaker 8>something that's like seemingly done in isolation.

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<v Speaker 1>Well easily.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean it's kind of like everything you do in isolation,

0:31:26.440 --> 0:31:30.720
<v Speaker 6>like whether you meditate, whether you like do your positive affirmations,

0:31:30.720 --> 0:31:32.680
<v Speaker 6>whether you like I do all of those things. I

0:31:32.760 --> 0:31:35.040
<v Speaker 6>exercise alone mostly I have a trainer, but that kind

0:31:35.040 --> 0:31:38.080
<v Speaker 6>of feels like I'm alone anyway because of his personality.

0:31:38.520 --> 0:31:41.200
<v Speaker 1>But I I do.

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<v Speaker 6>With writing, I'm I don't really I'm not a big

0:31:45.400 --> 0:31:48.880
<v Speaker 6>person about structure, Like I kind of like let the

0:31:49.280 --> 0:31:52.560
<v Speaker 6>when I'm feeling motivated or inspired, like you know, when

0:31:52.560 --> 0:31:55.000
<v Speaker 6>I read something really great that makes me want to

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<v Speaker 6>write something, you know, so my creative, my creativity, I

0:31:59.480 --> 0:32:00.080
<v Speaker 6>should say.

0:32:00.240 --> 0:32:02.960
<v Speaker 1>And bursts. It's very unstructured.

0:32:03.040 --> 0:32:04.760
<v Speaker 6>I have a new book and that took like three

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<v Speaker 6>years because I started one place, I changed it many times.

0:32:08.000 --> 0:32:09.240
<v Speaker 1>But I think for someone.

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<v Speaker 6>Who craves structure, and Celeste obviously chime in whenever you

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<v Speaker 6>feel like because she's a creative too. I didn't even

0:32:14.400 --> 0:32:17.240
<v Speaker 6>introduce our special guest, Celest Barbera. I'm sorry, but I

0:32:17.240 --> 0:32:20.040
<v Speaker 6>would just schedule yourself, Like if you sit down for

0:32:20.120 --> 0:32:22.040
<v Speaker 6>even if it's thirty minutes a day, it sounds like

0:32:22.040 --> 0:32:23.760
<v Speaker 6>you're going to be wanting to even write more than that.

0:32:23.840 --> 0:32:25.880
<v Speaker 6>You're going to be wanting to write for an hour,

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<v Speaker 6>a couple of hours a day once you start doing

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<v Speaker 6>that daily, like you where you put your phone away,

0:32:31.480 --> 0:32:33.200
<v Speaker 6>you put your stuff away, and you just sit at

0:32:33.240 --> 0:32:35.680
<v Speaker 6>your desk or whatever place that gives you the most

0:32:35.840 --> 0:32:40.360
<v Speaker 6>inspiration in a structured way. Really put yourself in there,

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<v Speaker 6>set your alarm somewhere, you know, in the house for

0:32:43.200 --> 0:32:46.000
<v Speaker 6>two hours later and sit there and like the act

0:32:46.040 --> 0:32:49.560
<v Speaker 6>of creativity begets the act of creativity absolutely once you

0:32:49.600 --> 0:32:52.240
<v Speaker 6>start writing, like whatever, Like if I have to write

0:32:52.240 --> 0:32:54.200
<v Speaker 6>a new hour for stand up, you know, whenever I

0:32:54.240 --> 0:32:56.600
<v Speaker 6>film a special, whenever we film a special, you have

0:32:56.640 --> 0:32:59.160
<v Speaker 6>to write another new hour of material. Like whenever I

0:32:59.160 --> 0:33:01.680
<v Speaker 6>have to write new material, I'm like, ughugh, you know,

0:33:01.800 --> 0:33:02.480
<v Speaker 6>it's like a hurdle.

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<v Speaker 1>It's what am I going to write about? What am

0:33:03.680 --> 0:33:04.360
<v Speaker 1>I going to talk about?

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<v Speaker 4>Absolutely, And I'm the same with you my creativity. And

0:33:07.320 --> 0:33:10.360
<v Speaker 4>like when I wrote my book again, it came in bursts,

0:33:10.440 --> 0:33:14.200
<v Speaker 4>so you know, it'll be dinner time and I'd be like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>so I'd sit at the kitchen bench while my husband

0:33:16.360 --> 0:33:18.920
<v Speaker 4>did everything, and I'd be like, I've got it.

0:33:18.840 --> 0:33:19.800
<v Speaker 3>It just kind of came.

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<v Speaker 4>But then for my last hour for my new tour

0:33:23.400 --> 0:33:25.760
<v Speaker 4>that I'm doing, I did exactly what you're saying.

0:33:25.760 --> 0:33:28.520
<v Speaker 3>I just set a timer. I literally set a timer.

0:33:29.000 --> 0:33:30.840
<v Speaker 4>I took the kids to school, set a time for

0:33:30.880 --> 0:33:33.600
<v Speaker 4>three hours in my office and was like, I'm not

0:33:33.800 --> 0:33:36.880
<v Speaker 4>moving from here. It doesn't matter kind of what you're writing.

0:33:37.160 --> 0:33:40.120
<v Speaker 4>But then you find with that structure and being a

0:33:40.200 --> 0:33:43.000
<v Speaker 4>creative that even after it could be after ten minutes,

0:33:43.120 --> 0:33:44.600
<v Speaker 4>after an hour and a half, you're like, oh no,

0:33:44.680 --> 0:33:46.560
<v Speaker 4>there's real flow here.

0:33:46.600 --> 0:33:49.160
<v Speaker 3>You just have to make yourself do it.

0:33:49.360 --> 0:33:49.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, And allotting a certain amount of time is a

0:33:52.160 --> 0:33:54.680
<v Speaker 6>very good way. It really helps you to just kind

0:33:54.680 --> 0:33:56.320
<v Speaker 6>of you get in the habit of it, because then

0:33:56.360 --> 0:33:58.440
<v Speaker 6>before you know it, you're spending more time doing it.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm always writing in my note section two, like little

0:34:01.480 --> 0:34:03.520
<v Speaker 6>ideas for things, or this could be a good joke,

0:34:03.600 --> 0:34:06.320
<v Speaker 6>or this is a good punchline or whatever. You know,

0:34:07.120 --> 0:34:09.799
<v Speaker 6>those will happen throughout the day, you know, and the

0:34:09.880 --> 0:34:12.760
<v Speaker 6>more honed in you get on creativity, the more creative

0:34:12.800 --> 0:34:16.479
<v Speaker 6>you become. So I think everything that you've said you've done.

0:34:16.680 --> 0:34:19.920
<v Speaker 6>It's like most people haven't done all those things. So

0:34:20.000 --> 0:34:23.399
<v Speaker 6>you're already like more than halfway there, and I think

0:34:23.440 --> 0:34:25.800
<v Speaker 6>what follows is going to be just a very natural

0:34:25.840 --> 0:34:26.759
<v Speaker 6>progression for you.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay, thank you.

0:34:29.000 --> 0:34:30.080
<v Speaker 1>Are you already doing that?

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<v Speaker 8>I am No, I'm in terms of the creative writing,

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<v Speaker 8>I'm not there yet.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you want to write about right now?

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<v Speaker 8>I'm kind of looking more like on the novel side,

0:34:41.600 --> 0:34:44.799
<v Speaker 8>kind of just like leaning from some personal life experience,

0:34:44.960 --> 0:34:47.600
<v Speaker 8>but writing trying to fictionalize it a little bit more,

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<v Speaker 8>and I think part of the hesitance with that is

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<v Speaker 8>sometimes I have to go to like really painful, dark

0:34:57.360 --> 0:35:00.920
<v Speaker 8>places to get that out. And while I know the

0:35:01.160 --> 0:35:04.719
<v Speaker 8>end product is catharsis, when it comes to just like

0:35:04.760 --> 0:35:06.920
<v Speaker 8>getting it out there, I think sometimes when I'm like

0:35:07.520 --> 0:35:09.680
<v Speaker 8>I have to go there, I kind of like try

0:35:09.719 --> 0:35:14.319
<v Speaker 8>to keep it out in arm's length and almost avoid well.

0:35:14.239 --> 0:35:16.399
<v Speaker 6>I would I could speak from experience that you want

0:35:16.440 --> 0:35:18.120
<v Speaker 6>to get as close to all of that stuff as

0:35:18.160 --> 0:35:21.239
<v Speaker 6>possible because that's where all of your you know, your

0:35:21.280 --> 0:35:22.520
<v Speaker 6>your personal stories.

0:35:22.840 --> 0:35:24.840
<v Speaker 1>I mean, you can't lose with that stuff.

0:35:25.080 --> 0:35:27.200
<v Speaker 6>And while you might think it's going to be scary

0:35:27.320 --> 0:35:30.680
<v Speaker 6>or something hard to difficult emotions to face, once you

0:35:30.760 --> 0:35:35.560
<v Speaker 6>face those emotions, you realize how much you overestimated your

0:35:35.640 --> 0:35:38.920
<v Speaker 6>own security. Now, Like when you're looking back at something

0:35:39.000 --> 0:35:41.279
<v Speaker 6>you can you can be fearful of it, and then

0:35:41.320 --> 0:35:43.520
<v Speaker 6>once you face it, you realize you have nothing on me.

0:35:43.880 --> 0:35:46.759
<v Speaker 6>And it's quite cathartic to write about the pain that

0:35:46.800 --> 0:35:48.280
<v Speaker 6>we experience in our lives.

0:35:48.360 --> 0:35:51.840
<v Speaker 4>And I find as well, the thought of writing about it,

0:35:51.960 --> 0:35:55.560
<v Speaker 4>or the thought of dealing with it in a creative

0:35:55.600 --> 0:35:59.920
<v Speaker 4>sense is always much more terrifying and daunting than actually

0:36:00.520 --> 0:36:02.560
<v Speaker 4>doing it in my experience.

0:36:02.239 --> 0:36:03.680
<v Speaker 3>Because it's cathasis.

0:36:03.760 --> 0:36:06.279
<v Speaker 4>As you say, the idea of sitting down and having

0:36:06.280 --> 0:36:09.960
<v Speaker 4>to dive into something is too big, and so you

0:36:10.120 --> 0:36:13.840
<v Speaker 4>avoid it. But once you're in it, it can be

0:36:13.960 --> 0:36:16.720
<v Speaker 4>very fulfilling. I'd also say, do the easy chapters first,

0:36:16.840 --> 0:36:20.759
<v Speaker 4>Do the fun, light stuff first, do even just start

0:36:20.840 --> 0:36:23.680
<v Speaker 4>that structure idea of setting an alarm, and write the

0:36:23.800 --> 0:36:26.640
<v Speaker 4>nice fun stuff, just to get yourself into that routine

0:36:27.000 --> 0:36:29.240
<v Speaker 4>and into that discipline before you have to go deep.

0:36:30.000 --> 0:36:31.040
<v Speaker 8>Absolutely, thank you.

0:36:31.560 --> 0:36:33.359
<v Speaker 3>How would you approach.

0:36:33.000 --> 0:36:36.040
<v Speaker 8>You know, like, obviously I'm thinking much longer turn, like

0:36:36.400 --> 0:36:41.000
<v Speaker 8>long run at this point, self publishing, reaching out to publishers.

0:36:41.080 --> 0:36:44.279
<v Speaker 1>What might that process look like? I think that this

0:36:44.400 --> 0:36:46.760
<v Speaker 1>whole media world is so different.

0:36:46.920 --> 0:36:50.440
<v Speaker 6>Everything is changing so fast, everything is online, Everything is

0:36:50.480 --> 0:36:55.080
<v Speaker 6>about striking a chord. It doesn't like these old world publishers, Like, yeah,

0:36:55.480 --> 0:36:58.120
<v Speaker 6>they can be an advantage in many respects, but also

0:36:58.160 --> 0:37:00.560
<v Speaker 6>people are self publishing all the time and the most

0:37:00.600 --> 0:37:03.120
<v Speaker 6>important thing to do is like to get a dialogue

0:37:03.120 --> 0:37:05.920
<v Speaker 6>going with people. So like to think about social media

0:37:05.960 --> 0:37:07.839
<v Speaker 6>as a useful way for you to see out your

0:37:07.880 --> 0:37:11.759
<v Speaker 6>career strategy right to use that, to use these platforms

0:37:11.800 --> 0:37:14.160
<v Speaker 6>to you know, whether you're writing little snippets every day

0:37:14.200 --> 0:37:17.279
<v Speaker 6>of like motivational things for people or funny little like

0:37:17.560 --> 0:37:19.480
<v Speaker 6>snippets of like, you know, a couple of lines of

0:37:19.560 --> 0:37:21.600
<v Speaker 6>a funny story or an experience that happened to you

0:37:21.640 --> 0:37:24.279
<v Speaker 6>at the grocery store, something that can relate to other

0:37:24.320 --> 0:37:27.080
<v Speaker 6>people and get them interested in what you're giving them,

0:37:27.200 --> 0:37:30.040
<v Speaker 6>you know. And then you're building an audience and you're

0:37:30.080 --> 0:37:33.160
<v Speaker 6>building like a fan base almost you know, of relayability,

0:37:33.239 --> 0:37:36.439
<v Speaker 6>so that that kind of gives you more of an

0:37:36.480 --> 0:37:39.040
<v Speaker 6>avenue if and when you do decide to self publish.

0:37:39.280 --> 0:37:41.719
<v Speaker 6>But in terms of reaching out for publishers, you just

0:37:41.800 --> 0:37:44.000
<v Speaker 6>kind of have to knock on doors and try to

0:37:44.040 --> 0:37:45.680
<v Speaker 6>get yourself a literary agent.

0:37:46.080 --> 0:37:48.600
<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's the only way to do that anymore.

0:37:48.760 --> 0:37:50.480
<v Speaker 3>I agree with social media absolutely.

0:37:50.480 --> 0:37:54.280
<v Speaker 4>There's an audience for everything now, an audience for everything

0:37:54.320 --> 0:37:57.759
<v Speaker 4>and anything now, and yeah, kind of tasing it out

0:37:57.840 --> 0:38:00.640
<v Speaker 4>then you get people will follow. So we're like, oh,

0:38:00.680 --> 0:38:02.759
<v Speaker 4>actually that resonates with me, and they follow along and

0:38:02.760 --> 0:38:05.360
<v Speaker 4>they want to know more. And yeah, then you build

0:38:05.400 --> 0:38:07.200
<v Speaker 4>an audience and you don't always have to do it

0:38:07.239 --> 0:38:09.160
<v Speaker 4>the traditional why anymore of going to a publisher.

0:38:09.320 --> 0:38:10.920
<v Speaker 6>And you always have to know that there is an

0:38:10.960 --> 0:38:13.880
<v Speaker 6>audience when you're talking about your point of view about something,

0:38:14.280 --> 0:38:17.800
<v Speaker 6>There's always an audience, you know, Like, don't underestimate the

0:38:17.880 --> 0:38:20.640
<v Speaker 6>value of that, because if you're sharing your personal life,

0:38:20.640 --> 0:38:22.720
<v Speaker 6>there are always going to be other women, whether they're

0:38:22.920 --> 0:38:24.919
<v Speaker 6>in the same area as you or in the same

0:38:24.960 --> 0:38:27.200
<v Speaker 6>age group as you. Like somebody I think of as

0:38:27.320 --> 0:38:30.360
<v Speaker 6>Kaitlyn Murray. Do you know Kitlyn Murray? She talks about

0:38:30.560 --> 0:38:32.720
<v Speaker 6>just what a pain in the ascid is having children

0:38:32.840 --> 0:38:35.799
<v Speaker 6>while she still loves her children, and she's developed this

0:38:35.920 --> 0:38:38.279
<v Speaker 6>huge following which led to a book, which led to

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<v Speaker 6>she has her own podcast. Now you have to figure out,

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<v Speaker 6>like what your currency is, right, Big Time Adulting is

0:38:46.320 --> 0:38:50.680
<v Speaker 6>her Instagram And this woman is really fun and has

0:38:50.680 --> 0:38:52.440
<v Speaker 6>three children and it's just like, you know what they

0:38:52.520 --> 0:38:54.520
<v Speaker 6>never told you about parenting. You know what they never

0:38:54.600 --> 0:38:56.520
<v Speaker 6>said is that when you drop your fucking kids off,

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<v Speaker 6>you just want to sit in your car and smoke

0:38:57.880 --> 0:39:01.000
<v Speaker 6>a joy for three hours, you know, like, and how

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<v Speaker 6>on camptor life is. But she's a great example of

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<v Speaker 6>finding that niche that is going to register with other

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<v Speaker 6>people and resonate with other people and then building from there.

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<v Speaker 6>And if you're talking about writing fiction, you know, maybe

0:39:13.280 --> 0:39:15.879
<v Speaker 6>there's cute little like stories you can tell about your

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<v Speaker 6>daily activities or interactions that you've had with people. Just

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<v Speaker 6>really start to think about, like what kind of messages

0:39:22.480 --> 0:39:24.400
<v Speaker 6>are you trying to send out? You know, what is

0:39:24.440 --> 0:39:27.960
<v Speaker 6>your kind of hook to get people? And it might

0:39:28.000 --> 0:39:30.680
<v Speaker 6>take a while, but you'll be surprised at how easily

0:39:30.719 --> 0:39:34.200
<v Speaker 6>you can grow something when you're sharing parts of yourself

0:39:34.400 --> 0:39:37.600
<v Speaker 6>with other people, because everyone kind of wants that, you know,

0:39:38.120 --> 0:39:40.279
<v Speaker 6>people want to hear other people's stories. They want to

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<v Speaker 6>hear other people's trials and tribulations.

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<v Speaker 4>And it takes a lot of work. Don't be disheartened

0:39:46.800 --> 0:39:48.120
<v Speaker 4>by that. Don't think, oh, this is.

0:39:48.160 --> 0:39:51.440
<v Speaker 3>Really really hard. I probably shouldn't be.

0:39:51.480 --> 0:39:55.400
<v Speaker 4>It's it's really fucking hard, I think to have self discipline,

0:39:55.480 --> 0:39:57.920
<v Speaker 4>especially you know, as a woman going you don't have

0:39:57.960 --> 0:40:00.560
<v Speaker 4>to ask permission to start an Instagram account to stop

0:40:00.600 --> 0:40:03.280
<v Speaker 4>putting these quotes up like Chelsea sang or to start

0:40:03.320 --> 0:40:06.760
<v Speaker 4>reaching out. It takes a lot of work.

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<v Speaker 6>And you can also even have an Instagram post where

0:40:09.600 --> 0:40:12.440
<v Speaker 6>you're where you post a video saying, Hey, I'm somebody

0:40:12.480 --> 0:40:16.680
<v Speaker 6>who's recent, you know, newly career free. I'm looking to

0:40:16.760 --> 0:40:19.680
<v Speaker 6>develop a career in writing. I'm looking to develop a

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<v Speaker 6>career in fiction writing. If anyone out there wants to

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<v Speaker 6>join like a group with me, you know, where you

0:40:25.160 --> 0:40:28.200
<v Speaker 6>can talk to other writers, Like, really put yourself out there,

0:40:28.600 --> 0:40:31.600
<v Speaker 6>because you'll be surprised at how responsive people will be

0:40:32.400 --> 0:40:34.520
<v Speaker 6>in your community and how many other people may be

0:40:34.760 --> 0:40:37.000
<v Speaker 6>like minded or may know somebody who's like, oh, I

0:40:37.000 --> 0:40:38.240
<v Speaker 6>can hook you up with this person.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 8>I love that too, because I feel like having like

0:40:41.160 --> 0:40:46.120
<v Speaker 8>accountability partners is super important for me. Otherwise I'm like, oh,

0:40:46.160 --> 0:40:48.200
<v Speaker 8>I got this and then you know, three years later

0:40:48.400 --> 0:40:50.000
<v Speaker 8>and draft one and still in motion.

0:40:50.800 --> 0:40:53.480
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, but definitely sit down and give yourself that a

0:40:53.480 --> 0:40:56.680
<v Speaker 6>lot of time. Whatever is doable and manageable for you.

0:40:56.840 --> 0:40:58.839
<v Speaker 6>Make sure you do that every day for at least

0:40:58.880 --> 0:41:00.600
<v Speaker 6>five days a week for the next month, and I

0:41:00.680 --> 0:41:02.239
<v Speaker 6>promise you by the end of the month you'll be

0:41:02.239 --> 0:41:04.080
<v Speaker 6>spending more than you're allotted time doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>Perfect And also good for you for quitting a job that's.

0:41:07.280 --> 0:41:08.720
<v Speaker 2>Not absolutely amazing.

0:41:08.760 --> 0:41:09.920
<v Speaker 3>Absolutely that's massive.

0:41:10.239 --> 0:41:13.319
<v Speaker 8>Yeah, it's I mean, we don't need to go there,

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<v Speaker 8>but I'm scared to see what's going to happen in

0:41:14.960 --> 0:41:16.440
<v Speaker 8>education in the next four years.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, So I don't blame you.

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<v Speaker 3>What's happened happened.

0:41:20.000 --> 0:41:22.520
<v Speaker 1>Nothing happens here. She's from Australia, so she doesn't watch

0:41:22.520 --> 0:41:23.800
<v Speaker 1>the news. She doesn't know what's happened.

0:41:23.800 --> 0:41:25.960
<v Speaker 3>It hasn't been all over the Australian news that what's.

0:41:25.840 --> 0:41:27.960
<v Speaker 1>Going on Australia is so too far away to know

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<v Speaker 1>about America.

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<v Speaker 7>Wait for you to stay there, all right, Thank you

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<v Speaker 7>so much, Amanda check in with us.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Well, thank you all so much.

0:41:36.680 --> 0:41:37.840
<v Speaker 2>I appreciate your time today.

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<v Speaker 1>Bye, Manda, good luck with everything.

0:41:39.760 --> 0:41:40.120
<v Speaker 8>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 7>I will also send this to her. But book talk

0:41:42.600 --> 0:41:44.399
<v Speaker 7>I have heard has been very helpful for a lot

0:41:44.440 --> 0:41:48.760
<v Speaker 7>of authors. Book okay on TikTok, the books area on TikTok.

0:41:49.120 --> 0:41:51.680
<v Speaker 7>I get all my recommendations from there. I know a

0:41:51.680 --> 0:41:53.520
<v Speaker 7>couple authors who are like, this is the way I've

0:41:53.560 --> 0:41:56.920
<v Speaker 7>gotten myself published novel out there.

0:41:57.000 --> 0:41:58.440
<v Speaker 2>And they post about all kinds of stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of people self published now.

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<v Speaker 7>So yeah, yeah, so well. Our next caller is Sarah.

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<v Speaker 7>She says, Dear Chelsea, my brother proposed to his longtime

0:42:07.840 --> 0:42:10.359
<v Speaker 7>girlfriend over the summer and asked our parents to help

0:42:10.440 --> 0:42:12.799
<v Speaker 7>fund the wedding. Pretty normal stuff, but I found out

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<v Speaker 7>there's some tension about money, the wedding location, other details.

0:42:16.080 --> 0:42:18.200
<v Speaker 7>Not super fun, but I guess that's typical for a

0:42:18.239 --> 0:42:21.440
<v Speaker 7>wedding where everyone's a decision maker. A while back, my

0:42:21.480 --> 0:42:23.960
<v Speaker 7>brother's fiance called to let me know that they've decided

0:42:23.960 --> 0:42:26.480
<v Speaker 7>to keep the wedding parties small, just two people on

0:42:26.520 --> 0:42:28.520
<v Speaker 7>each side, and they wanted to make sure I was

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<v Speaker 7>okay with not being part of the bridal party. Her

0:42:30.880 --> 0:42:33.960
<v Speaker 7>sister and best friends are the two bridesmaids. I was

0:42:33.960 --> 0:42:36.480
<v Speaker 7>honestly fine with it, and I wasn't expecting to be included.

0:42:36.840 --> 0:42:38.759
<v Speaker 7>They even asked me to be the witness when they

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<v Speaker 7>signed the documents, so I felt I left the call

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<v Speaker 7>feeling totally okay. Fast forward a couple of weeks and

0:42:44.000 --> 0:42:47.680
<v Speaker 7>my brother's fiance calls me stressed out. Apparently my dad

0:42:47.680 --> 0:42:50.480
<v Speaker 7>has been sharing his opinion that it's incredibly hurtful and

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<v Speaker 7>mean that I'm not in the bridal party.

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<v Speaker 2>He's even told her.

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<v Speaker 7>That even though I've said I'm fine, I'm just being

0:42:56.480 --> 0:42:59.319
<v Speaker 7>nice and would never reveal how I really feel. My

0:42:59.440 --> 0:43:01.680
<v Speaker 7>dad claimed he only shared his thoughts with my brother,

0:43:01.840 --> 0:43:04.279
<v Speaker 7>but my brother's fiance showed me his texts and they

0:43:04.360 --> 0:43:06.799
<v Speaker 7>tell a different story. I get where both sides are

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<v Speaker 7>coming from. Weddings don't look like they did in the eighties,

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<v Speaker 7>but I don't agree with how my dad is handling it.

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<v Speaker 7>I've been staying out of it, but we're still a

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<v Speaker 7>year out from the wedding, and this bridal party drama

0:43:16.239 --> 0:43:19.160
<v Speaker 7>is creating unnecessary tension around an event that's supposed to

0:43:19.200 --> 0:43:21.959
<v Speaker 7>be joyful. Should I step in or stay out of it?

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<v Speaker 2>Sarah?

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, Sarah?

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<v Speaker 9>Hello, how's it going?

0:43:26.000 --> 0:43:26.320
<v Speaker 3>Hi?

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<v Speaker 1>This is our special guest, the last barber today.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, Sarah, how are you good?

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<v Speaker 1>You look sweet?

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<v Speaker 3>Very sweet.

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<v Speaker 4>First of all, weddings aren't fun. I'll just say that

0:43:36.840 --> 0:43:39.440
<v Speaker 4>up front someone who has had one. My wedding was

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<v Speaker 4>the best. Everyone says that about their wedding. But I

0:43:42.040 --> 0:43:44.319
<v Speaker 4>think you're right in not being a part of the

0:43:44.400 --> 0:43:47.400
<v Speaker 4>bridal party. Being a part of the bridal party is an.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolute, solute pain in the ass.

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<v Speaker 3>Pain in the ass. It's a nightmare.

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<v Speaker 4>So I think you've made an excellent decision, especially now

0:43:55.200 --> 0:43:57.920
<v Speaker 4>that you're still a year out from this wedding and

0:43:58.000 --> 0:44:00.040
<v Speaker 4>already the bridal party's being picked. This seems like a

0:44:00.040 --> 0:44:01.440
<v Speaker 4>little bit of a high mind and it's wedding. I

0:44:01.480 --> 0:44:03.120
<v Speaker 4>think you've done a very good job of staying out

0:44:03.120 --> 0:44:03.359
<v Speaker 4>of it.

0:44:03.560 --> 0:44:05.080
<v Speaker 1>Well, it's not her choice to stay out of it.

0:44:05.120 --> 0:44:07.120
<v Speaker 1>They've kind of just basically decided that she was going

0:44:07.160 --> 0:44:07.439
<v Speaker 1>to stay.

0:44:07.520 --> 0:44:09.040
<v Speaker 3>But I'm not having the shits about it not going.

0:44:09.080 --> 0:44:10.080
<v Speaker 3>But I want, but I want.

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<v Speaker 4>I think it's very good to be like, right, I

0:44:12.360 --> 0:44:14.319
<v Speaker 4>can actually wear what I want and get you know,

0:44:14.560 --> 0:44:16.480
<v Speaker 4>black out drunk and downing and what.

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<v Speaker 6>How do you actually feel about not being in the

0:44:19.480 --> 0:44:20.160
<v Speaker 6>wedding party?

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<v Speaker 9>I mean, I'm honestly pretty indifferent. I don't think I

0:44:22.360 --> 0:44:25.320
<v Speaker 9>really expected it. It's not like it's not something that

0:44:25.360 --> 0:44:27.520
<v Speaker 9>I just like I am aware of as it being

0:44:27.560 --> 0:44:30.040
<v Speaker 9>a tradition, Like I know that, like I have some

0:44:30.200 --> 0:44:31.960
<v Speaker 9>family who like will do that and like they'll have

0:44:32.000 --> 0:44:35.320
<v Speaker 9>like a much larger bridal party. But so many people

0:44:35.320 --> 0:44:36.960
<v Speaker 9>I know are just doing things so differently that my

0:44:37.000 --> 0:44:39.360
<v Speaker 9>expectations were so low, if non existent.

0:44:39.440 --> 0:44:43.040
<v Speaker 1>So well, that's very healthy attitude, Like I.

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<v Speaker 9>Mean, okay, I mean I think if it was like, yeah,

0:44:44.760 --> 0:44:46.560
<v Speaker 9>I'm going to have eight people and like, this girl

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<v Speaker 9>I just met yesterday is also part of my bridal party,

0:44:48.880 --> 0:44:50.840
<v Speaker 9>but I just can't include you. Then i'd be a

0:44:50.840 --> 0:44:55.040
<v Speaker 9>little concerned. But I'm not her sister or her friend

0:44:55.080 --> 0:44:57.279
<v Speaker 9>that's you know, known her whole life, so I don't

0:44:57.320 --> 0:44:59.759
<v Speaker 9>really kind of expect to be in that.

0:44:59.800 --> 0:45:00.800
<v Speaker 2>Right to minimum.

0:45:00.960 --> 0:45:03.080
<v Speaker 1>So no, I think you're absolutely right on the money.

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<v Speaker 1>I like, I don't.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't like any drama like regarding stuff like this.

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<v Speaker 6>It's so stupid, you know, like, let people do what

0:45:08.480 --> 0:45:10.399
<v Speaker 6>they want to do. But what did your dad write

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<v Speaker 6>in the text that you saw to her?

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<v Speaker 9>Oh my god, I don't even I don't even remember,

0:45:14.760 --> 0:45:16.520
<v Speaker 9>but oh my head, it was it was just very like,

0:45:17.000 --> 0:45:19.719
<v Speaker 9>you're just being very mean. We really don't like this,

0:45:19.760 --> 0:45:21.960
<v Speaker 9>we really don't like the way that it's setting the

0:45:22.000 --> 0:45:24.440
<v Speaker 9>tone for the future. That it was just like a

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<v Speaker 9>long kind of paragraph. And he was like, you know,

0:45:27.239 --> 0:45:29.440
<v Speaker 9>very insistent on like, no, I'm just trying to do

0:45:29.440 --> 0:45:31.279
<v Speaker 9>this with my brother. He's just I'm just trying to

0:45:31.280 --> 0:45:33.640
<v Speaker 9>communicate with my brother. I'm not trying to like involve

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<v Speaker 9>anyone else. But I'm like, but you literally said a

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<v Speaker 9>text to her as a physical why's.

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<v Speaker 3>That's got opinions.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, that's got big feelings.

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<v Speaker 9>I was just kind of like surprised at the intensity.

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<v Speaker 9>It's one thing to be like, oh, well, like for me, know,

0:45:47.520 --> 0:45:51.080
<v Speaker 9>my my you know, nephew's wedding, his wife had my

0:45:51.360 --> 0:45:53.440
<v Speaker 9>you know, cousin as part of the ronadal party. But

0:45:53.520 --> 0:45:57.040
<v Speaker 9>like that's maybe one example, maybe just a few examples,

0:45:57.520 --> 0:45:59.080
<v Speaker 9>and you can't just kind of rely on just a

0:45:59.080 --> 0:46:01.399
<v Speaker 9>few examples as the norm and so out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, But also your dad just should also chill out.

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<v Speaker 6>He's already nosy, Nelly, you should And you've talked to

0:46:06.560 --> 0:46:07.920
<v Speaker 6>your father about this, right.

0:46:08.560 --> 0:46:10.200
<v Speaker 9>I mean a little bit. I mean like he tried

0:46:10.239 --> 0:46:11.440
<v Speaker 9>to get you know, I kind of really just try

0:46:11.440 --> 0:46:12.560
<v Speaker 9>to stay out of it and really just try to

0:46:12.640 --> 0:46:15.319
<v Speaker 9>kind of like not respond for a while because I

0:46:15.400 --> 0:46:17.040
<v Speaker 9>was just like, I don't want to deal with this.

0:46:17.400 --> 0:46:19.240
<v Speaker 3>It sounds like your dad wants to be a bridesmaid.

0:46:20.040 --> 0:46:22.919
<v Speaker 3>That's what it sounds like. It sounds like your dad's

0:46:22.960 --> 0:46:25.520
<v Speaker 3>past it has on a bridesmaid. Is it is your dad?

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<v Speaker 4>Just is your dad upset just the fact that you

0:46:28.840 --> 0:46:30.440
<v Speaker 4>have it been asked to be a bride'smide or is

0:46:30.480 --> 0:46:32.080
<v Speaker 4>the other things to do with the wedding that he's

0:46:32.120 --> 0:46:33.200
<v Speaker 4>also not stoked about.

0:46:33.400 --> 0:46:36.160
<v Speaker 9>I mean, there's probably other things too, so it's probably

0:46:36.200 --> 0:46:38.399
<v Speaker 9>just layered on top of it, like part of it's

0:46:38.440 --> 0:46:41.080
<v Speaker 9>a destination wedding, you know, there's a lot of money involved,

0:46:41.120 --> 0:46:44.640
<v Speaker 9>there's who gets invited, all that stuff, and so there's

0:46:44.840 --> 0:46:47.040
<v Speaker 9>I'm sure a plethora of other things.

0:46:47.320 --> 0:46:47.480
<v Speaker 4>Well.

0:46:47.520 --> 0:46:49.520
<v Speaker 6>A good way to nip it in the bud permanently

0:46:49.680 --> 0:46:51.879
<v Speaker 6>would be to send them a text, your father and

0:46:51.920 --> 0:46:55.840
<v Speaker 6>your brother and his fiance a thread and be like, hey, guys,

0:46:55.920 --> 0:46:59.840
<v Speaker 6>I noticed there's been some dissension about my involvement in

0:46:59.840 --> 0:47:01.759
<v Speaker 6>the wedding and the wedding party, and I just want

0:47:01.760 --> 0:47:04.840
<v Speaker 6>you to hear it straight from me. I am completely indifferent,

0:47:05.040 --> 0:47:07.680
<v Speaker 6>like what you just said to being in your wedding party.

0:47:07.680 --> 0:47:09.520
<v Speaker 6>There are no issues for me, so I wanted to

0:47:09.520 --> 0:47:13.360
<v Speaker 6>make that clear you, my future sister in law, my brother,

0:47:13.480 --> 0:47:16.080
<v Speaker 6>and my father, who are all on this chain, This

0:47:16.120 --> 0:47:18.799
<v Speaker 6>is not an issue for me, because then what does

0:47:18.800 --> 0:47:20.560
<v Speaker 6>your father have to say. Then he has to complain

0:47:20.600 --> 0:47:22.640
<v Speaker 6>about what he's really upset about, which is paying for

0:47:22.680 --> 0:47:24.080
<v Speaker 6>this destination wedding.

0:47:23.920 --> 0:47:26.680
<v Speaker 4>Exactly, and then he'll respond by just going Dad, lift

0:47:26.719 --> 0:47:31.440
<v Speaker 4>the chat.

0:47:31.120 --> 0:47:32.359
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's a good idea.

0:47:32.360 --> 0:47:34.440
<v Speaker 9>It hasn't really been brought up lately, but you know,

0:47:34.520 --> 0:47:36.680
<v Speaker 9>there's many months out. I'm sure he'll get brought up again,

0:47:36.719 --> 0:47:38.440
<v Speaker 9>and so I feel kind of confident in.

0:47:38.840 --> 0:47:41.120
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, but I think your attitude is right on the money, Like,

0:47:41.200 --> 0:47:44.200
<v Speaker 6>don't get involved in wedding drama. Wedding drama is the

0:47:44.200 --> 0:47:47.040
<v Speaker 6>most annoying drama, especially destination wedding drama.

0:47:47.160 --> 0:47:48.600
<v Speaker 1>And I offer this one day.

0:47:48.800 --> 0:47:51.040
<v Speaker 6>You know, like I understand weddings are important to people,

0:47:51.080 --> 0:47:54.600
<v Speaker 6>but it's like, just relax. It's so uncool when people

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<v Speaker 6>get like they're panties in a twist about it.

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<v Speaker 1>It should be a celebration, not yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a big party with an open bar, Like just if.

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<v Speaker 1>You're lucky it has an open bar.

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<v Speaker 6>I had a couple of people that invited me to weddings.

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<v Speaker 6>It didn't have an open a bar. And because he

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<v Speaker 6>didn't go to that wedding.

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<v Speaker 3>You didn't go to that wedding, you didn't bring party.

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<v Speaker 4>Fa.

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<v Speaker 6>No, sometimes I bring my own bar if I have to.

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<v Speaker 6>My cousin had a wedding, he's like, we're just doing

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<v Speaker 6>beer and wine. I'm like, that will be my gift

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<v Speaker 6>to you is the bar, because if you're going to

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<v Speaker 6>have a wedding like that, I won't be there unless

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<v Speaker 6>there's a bar.

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<v Speaker 1>And you don't want people having beer and wine. Where

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<v Speaker 1>does that get you?

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<v Speaker 6>Missy fucking sick of wine anyway, sick of people talking

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<v Speaker 6>about wine anyway.

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<v Speaker 7>So do you think she needs to, like specifically talk

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<v Speaker 7>to her sister in law.

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<v Speaker 6>I'll be like, no, you're not involved in this, Like

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<v Speaker 6>if you want to, but I would just send a

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<v Speaker 6>text to all three of them so that in.

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<v Speaker 1>Writing they can't keep talking about it.

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<v Speaker 2>You know this was not sent under duress.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I don't know where this conversation came from, but

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<v Speaker 6>I just want everyone to know where I'm coming from

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<v Speaker 6>so that there's no confusion. I'm totally fine with this.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm happy you guys are getting married. I can't wait

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<v Speaker 6>to go to the wedding.

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<v Speaker 1>See you there, dad.

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<v Speaker 3>I have a die off.

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<v Speaker 1>Needs to thank you, okay, take care, Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>She seemed like such an innocent.

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<v Speaker 3>She's like, I don't care. I'm so fine with it.

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<v Speaker 6>It's almost like you know some which she was giving

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<v Speaker 6>all the reasons like, well, you know, cousins sometimes put

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<v Speaker 6>there and it's like, who told you that, like.

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<v Speaker 3>Only coached a bullet.

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<v Speaker 1>Being a bridesmaid is a pain in the ass.

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<v Speaker 7>I know someone who had I think sixteen bridesmaids because

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<v Speaker 7>she didn't want to leave anybody else.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't have that many friends. I don't know sixteen people.

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<v Speaker 4>In my stupids years of being alive, I have not

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<v Speaker 4>had sixteen friends over that time.

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<v Speaker 7>That's ridiculous, ridiculous. No, it was crazy, crazy crazy. Okay, well,

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<v Speaker 7>let's take a quick break and we'll be back to

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<v Speaker 7>wrap up with a little light one.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, we're going to take a break.

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<v Speaker 7>We're back now, we are back, so Caroline writes, and

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<v Speaker 7>this specifically, I would love for a celest to weigh

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<v Speaker 7>in on. Of course you Chelsea too, but thank you

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<v Speaker 7>for this might be the last question. It is the list,

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<v Speaker 7>Dear celast I've been with my husband for seventeen years,

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<v Speaker 7>and he's always always had a strong body odor. The

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<v Speaker 7>last few years, though, it seems that it has gotten stronger.

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<v Speaker 7>He's given up using standard aluminum based deodorant and only

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<v Speaker 7>uses natural brands. I've run the gamut trying to help

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<v Speaker 7>him find a good deodorant that covers his smell, but

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<v Speaker 7>it just doesn't cut it. He has great hygiene, he

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<v Speaker 7>showers once to twice daily, but he still stinks. He's

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<v Speaker 7>also very sensitive and embarrassed about his bio, and I

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<v Speaker 7>have to try lightly when asking him nicely to change

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<v Speaker 7>his shirt, put on deodorant.

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<v Speaker 2>Et cetera.

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<v Speaker 7>I think it may be related to stress or diet,

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<v Speaker 7>or maybe it's just his genetic makeup. Regardless, it's hard

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<v Speaker 7>for me to hug him or be intimate without wanting

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<v Speaker 7>to hold my breath.

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<v Speaker 2>It's that bad.

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<v Speaker 3>WHOA please help?

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<v Speaker 7>How can I get his stinky ass smelling batter caroline?

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<v Speaker 3>Absolute red flag?

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<v Speaker 4>If hey, it's natural deodorant, I would My husband went

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<v Speaker 4>through a phase where he's like, I want to just

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<v Speaker 4>use natural deodorant. I was like, well, then you can

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<v Speaker 4>go in find a nice, pretty new wife. Is absolutely

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<v Speaker 4>not and he doesn't have any bodiod issues. Yeah, delicious,

0:51:04.800 --> 0:51:08.200
<v Speaker 4>but that is an absolute deal breaker for me. I

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<v Speaker 4>find it has he I wonder if he's been to

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<v Speaker 4>the doctor. Is this something where I can get like

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<v Speaker 4>botox shots?

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<v Speaker 6>Well not only that, but yeah, botox shots you can

0:51:17.320 --> 0:51:20.200
<v Speaker 6>get under your arm, FYI to stop sweating. But if

0:51:20.200 --> 0:51:23.200
<v Speaker 6>he has a natural like a strong odor than like that.

0:51:23.520 --> 0:51:25.760
<v Speaker 6>It usually does have something to do with your pH

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<v Speaker 6>balance or your diet. So like he should go to

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<v Speaker 6>a doctor, and he should be proactive about this because

0:51:30.880 --> 0:51:33.200
<v Speaker 6>you're his wife and you've been married to him for

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<v Speaker 6>what seventeen years, So that's like yeah, and I don't

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<v Speaker 6>care if he's sensitive about it. Like you need to

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<v Speaker 6>figure out a solution to this problem that you're having

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<v Speaker 6>to endure because your husband hasn't figured it out yet,

0:51:46.400 --> 0:51:50.279
<v Speaker 6>and going to a non aluminum based deoderan is not the.

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<v Speaker 3>He's going to a studio apartment down the street. There's

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<v Speaker 3>no way. And if he's getting to a point where.

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<v Speaker 4>You can't hug him because he's it's so gross, he

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<v Speaker 4>needs to get that out.

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<v Speaker 6>I can't believe you've endured seventeen years though, of someone

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<v Speaker 6>with bodyodor. I once stated a guy who had body odor,

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<v Speaker 6>and I had it wasn't It wasn't body odor. There

0:52:09.800 --> 0:52:12.560
<v Speaker 6>was like a smell that emanated from him, and it

0:52:12.600 --> 0:52:15.520
<v Speaker 6>was it was very strong in the morning, and it

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<v Speaker 6>was like it was almost like his he had a scent.

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<v Speaker 6>Like sometimes your pheromones don't match, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a thing absolutely.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>Well it's a little late to find out for her

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<v Speaker 6>because it's been seventeen years.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if it's a pheromones thing.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean. Also, get in the clothes, spin and close

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<v Speaker 6>your nose with it so that you do not have

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<v Speaker 6>to breathe in his malodorous scent.

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<v Speaker 2>Get one of those necklaces for essential oils.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you're gonna have to start experiing.

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<v Speaker 6>But you need to go to a doctor and talk

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<v Speaker 6>to somebody openly about him.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care if he's sensitive. He needs to get

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<v Speaker 1>over that.

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<v Speaker 3>Get it sorted out.

0:52:44.760 --> 0:52:45.480
<v Speaker 1>It's your wife.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, okay, okay, Well on that note, good luck, Okay,

0:52:49.680 --> 0:52:50.160
<v Speaker 6>good luck.

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<v Speaker 1>Problem solved. Celeste.

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<v Speaker 6>Thank you for being here. You guys, she's a very

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<v Speaker 6>successful comedian author. You've written a book. Webside of the

0:52:57.280 --> 0:52:57.879
<v Speaker 6>name of your book.

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<v Speaker 3>Challenge accepted.

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<v Speaker 6>Challenge accepted, and you can also please look into her

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<v Speaker 6>beauty brand spelled b o o i e bouie beauty.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it booe beauty dot com.

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<v Speaker 3>It's booye dot com boo booeye.

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<v Speaker 6>Dot com, not to be confused with the other kind

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<v Speaker 6>of booie booe.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, Celeste, Thanks for having me. I always love

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<v Speaker 1>to see you.

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<v Speaker 3>I love to see you. Do Do Do Do Do Do.

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<v Speaker 6>Drum roll Catherine, please, Chelsea Handler abroad.

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<v Speaker 1>Abroad is my European tour.

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<v Speaker 6>So I'm coming to obviously find a husband abroad. I

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<v Speaker 6>need to get the help out of this fucking country

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<v Speaker 6>and it's not as easy as you think. So I'm

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<v Speaker 6>coming to Rekuvic, I'm coming to Dublin. I'm coming to

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<v Speaker 6>the UK. I'm coming to Brussels, Paris, Belfast.

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<v Speaker 1>In May and June.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm coming to Oslo, Stockholm, to Copenhagen, Manchester, London, Glasgow,

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<v Speaker 6>New Zurich, Vienna.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never ever.

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<v Speaker 6>Been to Vienna, for in Barcelona and Lisbon. I'm coming

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<v Speaker 6>abroad is abroad.

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<v Speaker 3>That sounds like fun.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna go see you abroad.

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<v Speaker 9>I w out.

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<v Speaker 5>I want to go see me abroad and there all

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