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Speaker 2: for your message. What's going on with your husband? You're

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Speaker 2: seeing a side of him, you say that you've never

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Speaker 3: Right right, So Okay, first, I'm just going to say

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Speaker 3: to say I'm not actually considering leaving my husband right now.

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Speaker 2: have to let you go. Okay, So you're not You're

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Speaker 2: not actually going to leave him, but this is something

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Speaker 2: that is happening that obviously led.

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Speaker 1: You to think.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I needed I need a secondary opinion on this,

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Speaker 2: So I'm going to write a morning radio show which

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Speaker 3: So recently we started looking for like a babysitter Mario

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Speaker 3: or a nanny for our five year old daughter because

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Speaker 3: I recently started a new job has longer hours than

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Speaker 3: I was working before, and my husband also works full time.

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Speaker 3: So I started looking and I was sending over options

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Speaker 3: of just some different people to my husband. And okay,

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Speaker 3: I sent over a guy that I thought was like

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Speaker 3: a good fit. He's just like a young guy in

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Speaker 3: his twenties. He says, he's, you know, trying to like

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Speaker 3: babysit to make money ball, he's going to school to

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Speaker 3: get his masters. And my husband just like lost it

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Speaker 3: over this.

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Speaker 2: So of the options that you gave him, there were

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Speaker 2: some women, and then there was this dude, this twenty

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Speaker 2: something year old student master's student. But a guy babysit,

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Speaker 2: which I was thinking about this when I was reading

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Speaker 2: this earlier this morning. Why don't guys ever babysit? And

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Speaker 2: I think that this guy, I guess his objection said

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Speaker 2: it's a man. It's a man who you were proposing

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Speaker 2: would watch your daughter, and that was his issue.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I sent all women and then this one guy,

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Speaker 3: and it was the guy that sent him up he said.

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Speaker 3: He was saying, like, you know, it's crazy that I

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Speaker 3: And he was saying like, no sane straight man would

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Speaker 3: that's not his own, because anyone, I'm sorry, saying this

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Speaker 2: Lot yea that is because I can see Okay. At first,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, all right, you have five year old daughter.

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Speaker 2: A guy watching your daughter. Okay, so there's some relatability

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Speaker 2: things there. Maybe you know some I don't know, a

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Speaker 2: you know, having the same parts and the same thing whatever.

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Speaker 2: But like, but girls watch little boys, women watch little boys,

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Speaker 2: you know, when they out of context, that sounds bad.

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Speaker 2: But you know, women babysit little boys. So I don't

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Speaker 2: think it's inherent. No, I don't think you have to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I was surprised by his reaction,

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Speaker 2: Because I'm trying to be open minded here. I mean,

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Speaker 2: I don't know that a man has ever applied. I

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Speaker 2: don't know of a situation where there's a dude who

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Speaker 2: I guess why couldn't a guy? And I'm not trying

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Speaker 1: I guess why couldn't he?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I mean, I'm just kind of,

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Speaker 3: like I said, I just kind of want someone else's

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Speaker 1: The crazy way?

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Speaker 3: Is this a ridiculous idea?

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I'm I just kind of want other people to weigh in.

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Speaker 3: Let me know, like, yeah, am I considering this? Or

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Speaker 3: is my husband just you know, overreacting.

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Speaker 2: I kind of want to know what people think too.

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Speaker 2: Either way, eight five five five three five You can

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Speaker 2: call him text the same number. You guys are the

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Speaker 2: you guys are the focus group on this. Meredith, have

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Speaker 2: your radio on and let's see what people have to say,

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Speaker 2: and and thank you for calling it, for sharing good luck.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Honestly though, and people, we're getting some texts he's speaking

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Speaker 2: so much to his own insecurities. Bringing up sexuality perpetuates

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Speaker 2: the stigma that's just jumping around here. We're getting a

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Speaker 2: lot of texts about this, like faster than I can

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Speaker 2: read them all. Just someone mentioned that bringing up sexuality

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Speaker 2: adds to his stigma that gay men are somehow more

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Speaker 2: likely to be predators. Okay, Jame, my dad is protecting

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Speaker 2: his daughter, not saying anything bad would happen between mail

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Speaker 2: nanny and daughter. But in today's worldwide risk it, I

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Speaker 2: don't know. I've watched a lot of a lot of

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Speaker 1: I've watched a lot of Doctor Phil. Yeah, a lot

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Speaker 1: of Doctor If. I've watched some Doctor Phil. It's weird

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Speaker 1: shit all day every day. I mean, it's on repeating

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Speaker 2: But I don't know, it's an Honestly, it's a thing

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Speaker 2: I had never considered because I guess in my mind

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Speaker 2: it's always I've always had female babysitters and nanny's growing up.

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Speaker 2: Would you let you know you're you're the mom in

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Speaker 2: the room of Paulina and Gee Gee's two?

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Speaker 1: Would you let a guy? I guess you have your

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Speaker 1: best friend.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well her godfather slash.

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Speaker 5: My best friend has watched her many of times, and

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Speaker 5: I trust them more than I trust myself sometimes.

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Speaker 4: Like they're so good with her.

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Speaker 5: But I was actually asked this question recently if I

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Speaker 5: would hire because I do look for babysitters here and there,

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Speaker 5: and we have a couple of rotation and they're all girls.

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Speaker 5: I mean they're all high school kids too, so that

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Speaker 5: might say something too. Maybe the industry slow right now

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Speaker 5: because I'm like, oh, you know, everyone's young and they

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Speaker 5: want to, you know, do this job, which I love.

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Speaker 4: But I'm like, why are there not men applying?

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Speaker 5: And I kind of question that myself, but maybe because

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Speaker 5: of society and the way that like we're set up,

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Speaker 5: it's typically not a job that men go for.

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Speaker 4: Typically. I know friends had episode on this too where

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Speaker 4: they hired a nanny, remember that, Yeah, And they were.

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Speaker 5: Like a big fight about it and he was a

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Speaker 5: great I think candative for the job or something, and

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Speaker 5: it was Freddie Prince junior.

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Speaker 4: Yes, the money, the manny, that's funny. If I'm not

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Speaker 4: mad at it, would it be my first preference? Maybe not?

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Speaker 5: And I think just because I'm like set up that way,

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Speaker 5: you know, because society, or maybe because like I'm conditioned

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Speaker 5: to be honest, even.

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Speaker 4: Be good at this job. And that's that's not true.

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Speaker 6: I will say, it's not always one hundred percent, So

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Speaker 6: don't come for me. But sometimes though, you do see

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Speaker 6: little girls like it's just a neat and them like

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Speaker 6: they want to play with babies, they want to care

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Speaker 6: for things. I've noticed that, So maybe it's just that

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Speaker 6: they're more drawn to it. But I don't I see

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Speaker 2: I have a friend in law enforcement who texted and

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Speaker 2: it's just just I won't say who because I have

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Speaker 2: several because I don't want to win going for him.

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Speaker 2: But this is apparently statistics, Okay, eighty eight percent to

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Speaker 2: over ninety three percent of sex predators are male. Why

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Speaker 2: take the chance? Okay again, that's this is this is

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Speaker 2: one person's statement. I haven't verified that I believed and

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Speaker 2: trust this person. Yeah, but you know, someone else texted,

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Speaker 2: no man period should be babysitting young children. Too many predators.

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Speaker 2: Maybe if the guy was a friend of the family. Well,

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Speaker 2: if those statistics are right, then I get it. But

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Speaker 2: you know, and I'm not picking on teachers, but there

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Speaker 2: are a lot of female teachers, and every day I

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Speaker 2: feel like we're seeing some story. And again, this is

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Speaker 2: not this is not on female teachers at all. But

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Speaker 2: to say that that no man should be watching a

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Speaker 2: a pretty wide net to cast, because you do hear

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Speaker 2: about female teachers taking advantage of your Again, not a

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Speaker 2: lot of them, not a dominant amount. But again, I

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Speaker 2: don't think you could say with certainty that if a

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Speaker 2: woman watches my kid that we are one hundred percent

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Speaker 2: better off than if a guy would. Now, maybe statistically

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Speaker 2: you're you're you're a lot better off, but not entirely,

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean. You can't, we can't make

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Speaker 2: a blakeant statement about that. He's Shelley, Hi, Hi, Shelley,

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Speaker 2: good morning. What do you think would you let a

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Speaker 2: guy who is qualified and background checked in the same

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Speaker 2: all the same qualities you would look for in a woman,

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Speaker 2: watch your.

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Speaker 7: Kid, absolutely. I mean he's a college students study. He's

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Speaker 7: probably looking at something where he could study. You know,

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Speaker 7: guys are qualified to watch kids. They teach, coaching, their

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Speaker 7: school counselors. There are counselors and kids who go out

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Speaker 7: to camp. Guys. Some guys just have that the tree

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Speaker 7: state about them.

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Speaker 3: I don't see.

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Speaker 7: Anything wrong with it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, thank you Shelly.

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Speaker 8: Here, Well, thank you, have.

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Speaker 1: A great day. Appreciate you, love your show.

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Speaker 9: Why well, I'm a teacher and I have baby said before,

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Speaker 9: This guy, I wouldn't hut him. I wouldn't put my

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Speaker 2: Okay, fair enough. Thank you, Emma, have a good day,

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Speaker 2: you too, glad you called? Uh, I am Aaron. You

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Speaker 2: are a male nanny. Yay, Yes that's correct.

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Speaker 1: You is what you do? Okay?

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Speaker 2: And do you get First of all, I'm curious, like

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Speaker 10: But yeah, I would say, like number one, I definitely

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Speaker 2: When I read this this morning, it's sort of wait

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Speaker 2: But and I also don't know how many men there

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Speaker 2: I think fair enough? Is I keep saying fair enough?

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Speaker 2: hey Kelly, right, Hi, So you grew up with both

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Speaker 11: My mom hired some family friends and we had a

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Speaker 4: The references and all that.

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Speaker 11: There's risks either way if you're inviting somebody who you

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Speaker 1: That's what that was about. Nicole. Hello, Hi, hey, good morning.

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Speaker 2: You will not hire a mail nanny because of statistics.

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Speaker 1: Correct, Yes, and so I.

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Speaker 2: Have even if your background checked the person. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: Something like that.

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Speaker 4: Correct, I know, I still will not take that chance.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I Nicol, thank you, thank you? Fair enough?

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Speaker 2: Someone said, ask Pauline she would allow a guy to

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Speaker 1: Well I did, yeah, right off.

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Speaker 1: It's just good, you know. He came here everywhere to

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Speaker 8: Yeah, his name was Bob.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, he was the only Bob I knew. His name

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Speaker 2: That's a very interesting fact about Bob the babysitter, because

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Speaker 1: Actually, okay, so you had like a real life mister Rogers.

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Speaker 1: You know, you go over there and you'd put us

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Speaker 1: that's what mister Rogers did, and he took he was

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Speaker 2: Was Bob text. I'm a criminal prosecutor. I would never

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Speaker 2: I've been looked for female only daycares for our son.

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Speaker 2: I've had a lot of child born in essay cases.

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Speaker 2: They're always male. Female predators usually exist with high school

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Speaker 1: Is terrifying, all right, there the scary world. It is

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